Should i just not use this name?

[PoppyIsApain]

Hi i have chosen not to consider the name Caiden due to MN, and have now fallen in love with the name Charlie, when i told DH he said it is the name of my MIL's brother who i have never met and MIL and her brother dont speak very much after a family argument.
Am i being selfish to still think of using the name as my dc and i will never meet her brother anyway.
My ds name is Archie, are the names nice together or too similar?
TIA

[belgo]

Charlie is a lovely name. If your dh is in agreement, then go for it.

[PixieOnaChristmasTree]

Charlie sounds a bit like Archie the other way round, but not too obvious.

I'd go for it!

[MrsMattie]

Charlie goes nicely with Archie and is far nicer than Caiden. Go for it.

[inveteratenamechanger]

Sorry, I don't think you should use it. It would be quite upsetting and odd for your MIL.

[birdofthenorth]

Sorry, I don't think you should use it either. You probably wnat your MIL to feel nothing but joy at her new grandchild, not for it to bring up awkward feelings.

[BooHooo]

I don't think you should either name

[MadameMoe]

I love the name Charlie, much nicer than Caiden IMHO. But, if it's likely to cause upset in the family it's probably best to avoid it .

How about Stan (Stanley)?

[PoppyIsApain]

That is what i was worried about, i want her to be happy too, i get on ok with her and Archie is her world. as im sure dc#2 would be.
My other serious choices are;
Jacob
Joshua
Christian
Jake
Jack
Jasper
Harry
Connor

any opinions on these would be appreciated

[Hulababy]

Why not ask MIL how she feels about it, and tell her you are happy to not use the name if she feels awkward about it at all.

I do like the name Charles/Charlie - my godson has this name - and do prefer it to Caiden. It s rather imilar to Archie though.

Rest of list:
Jacob - I like Jacob a lot, although less keen on nn Jake
Joshua - again like Joshua, Josh is OK but not a fave
Christian - not so keen
Jake - much prefer Jacob
Jack - I like this
Jasper - not keen
Harry - like this, also like Henry
Connor - not keen

[CantSleepWontSleep]

Jacob and Christian are nice, as is Joshua, although I think that's a very popular one, which may or may not bother you.

[MadameMoe]

Oh yes do ask MIL about using Charlie, you never know! I'm generally against telling anyone name you're considering using but in this case I'd definitely check.

From your list I like Harry and Jack, although IIRC Jack is very popular in the UK ATM. Is that right?

I know a lot of people feel you should always use a full name rather than a 'nickname', but I really don't agree. DS has a 'nickname' name and we use the full version as a nickname IYSWIM. I'm assuming Archie is just Archie rather than Archibald. How about:

George
Stan (Stanley)
Wilf
Ben (Benjamin)
Gerry
Bill or Billy (William)
Ted (Edward)

[Ondine]

If you are a close I wouldn't use it. There are names in my family's past that I wouldn't like to be reminded of, so I can understand why she wouldn't feel good about it.

Christian is lovely, the nick name Kit is fab.
Jake and Jack are so sweet.
Connor is a strong, masculine name.

[sunshinejanuary]

If it was me i would ask MIL how she felt about it - it sounds like you get on well

[letsblowthistacostand]

If you like Caiden don't let mumsnet stop you using it.

[diddl]

I love Jasper.

[jellybeans]

I really like Caiden. Not so keen on Charlie, far far too popular (top 5 by now surely?) Also may be awkward for MIL.

Jacob..like it
Joshua...like Josh
Christian....not keen
Jake...love it
Jack...too popular
Jasper...don't like
Harry....like but so popular
Connor....love it

[ilovesprouts]

why dont mn like caiden, for my friends dd has a son called kaiden i once posterd my ds2 nane on here !! and ppl got nasty !

[MamaLazarou]

OP, I honestly can't believe you are seriously going to drop the name you love just because us bitches on here don't approve of it.

[jellybeans]

Yeah stick with it, it's a nice name.

[Thissideofchannel]

Archie and Caiden sound good together.

Archie and Charlie don't - they are much too similar imo.

If you like Caiden, you should use it. You've got to love the name, not us.

[Thissideofchannel]

And as others have said, please don't give up a name you love because of some random mumsnetters - you might not like their name choices either, thats ok!

[FimbotheCHEVVYHUN]

If you like Caiden and your dh does, then go for it, you are hardly likely to run into any of us in the near future

[GhoulsAreLoud]

Jacob/Jake is great.

[HerbalHolly]

I'd be careful with Connor. It's fine for this country but in France it sounds a bit too close to a swear word. Might not sound very relavant but it might be when he gets older and goes on holiday.

[ilovesprouts]

ah now i see lol