Has anyone been 100% set on a name for years

(30 Posts)
PaperdollCartoon Sun 16-Oct-16 20:24:13

And partner like it too, and ended up not using it? If so, why?

We've had our future baby names set for years (and the boy name long before I met DP) but now we're getting closer to making actual babies I'm starting to doubt our choices. I still love the names but I just don't feel so sure.

Highly theoretical conversation I know but interested to hear from others.

PaperdollCartoon Sun 16-Oct-16 20:24:52

Partner liked it too*

bluechameleon Sun 16-Oct-16 23:07:48

My long-term favourite names were ruled out by being given to the children of very close friends. But I think that when you are naming an actual child it changes how you feel about names anyway - our shortlist wasn't what I would have predicted it to be. It is exciting discussing names when you are pregnant - I don't think I would have wanted to go into it having already decided.

MistresssIggi Sun 16-Oct-16 23:24:45

I was absolutely set on one girl's name, can't say for sure I would have used it but certainly intended to - two lovely boys though so it didn't happen! Might use it for a pet one day smile

MistresssIggi Sun 16-Oct-16 23:25:18

Sorry meant to say, set from childhood.

elQuintoConyo Sun 16-Oct-16 23:28:07

No. I was vaguely 'meh' about having dc most of my life. Then we decided to try at aged 34. Love the bones of our dc but neither of us were big dreamers about names.

I wasn't a child to dream about my perfect wedding from the age of 8 either! Not like Hollywood tells us we all do...

MumOfTwoMasterOfNone Sun 16-Oct-16 23:40:55

Yes I did from being 11 when I walked into my German teachers classroom.
I didn't end up using it as my colleague died who had the name when I was pregnant and it was an extremely sad situation where she had two young children.
It just didn't feel right to use it anymore.

Readytomakechanges Sun 16-Oct-16 23:41:25

When I was a child, I loved the book and film 'Heidi' about the little girl who goes to live in the mountains with her Grandpa. There is a little girl called Clara in the story.
Loved the name since then. Tried to convince DH to name DD1 Clara to no avail as it was "too weird".
DH changed his mind by DD2, so now I have a 2 year old Clara.

CointreauVersial Sun 16-Oct-16 23:46:42

I was always dead set on the names for my children. Even managed to find an Irishman to marry me so I could use them (they are all Celtic names). wink

There's one name I didn't get to use, though, as I only had one boy.

lilydaisyrose Sun 16-Oct-16 23:53:17

Yes! Always wanted to name 2 x daughters Lily and Daisy (hence username!). However my Granny died when I was pg with DD1 so she was named after her and then I had a DS. I'm pg again now and 50% chance it could be a girl but I won't use my favourites as in the past few years my children have become best friends with siblings called Lily and Daisy! Now too close to home to use. I now might use Rose or Rosa instead (if DH agrees!)

PotatoBread Mon 17-Oct-16 12:01:54

I loved the name Finley for years and always thought I would name my son it. It didn't even make the shortlist when I was pregnant due to its increasing rise in popularity. Turned out I had a DD anyway

londonpia Mon 17-Oct-16 12:04:53

Yup. We loved a particular name, then DH's sisters husbands sister used that name and PIL said we shouldn't use it. We listened to them. hmm We don't even see them (nor do we see DH's bitch of a sister).

We also had a girls name but ended up with two boys.

katiegg Mon 17-Oct-16 12:06:19

We had ds's name picked out (first and middle) long before we were even engaged. I'm not even sure how it came up in conversation, but I mentioned the name that I liked and had family significance and he said he liked it to, then added a family name from his side as the middle name. And honestly, that was that. When I found out I was pregnant the first time, about five years later,there was no discussion of boys names because we had one picked out.

WanderingTrolley1 Mon 17-Oct-16 12:09:15

My DS was going to have my grandfather's name about 15 years before he was born.

Murphysgirl Mon 17-Oct-16 12:10:18

Yes I have. Told DH not long after we got together that that's what my future daughter would be called. He said he loved it. Ten years later I was eight months pregnant for the first time and discussing boys' names when DH turned round and said that he really didn't like the name anymore! confusedhmm

Baby was born, was a girl and we compromised on another name which has since become incredibly common and I regret calling her it! To make matters worse DH now says we should have stuck with the original name! No more babies for me so it will never get used!

sonlypuppyfat Mon 17-Oct-16 12:13:28

For years I wanted kyle and Sophie my DCs names are nothing like them

milkshakeandmonstermunch Mon 17-Oct-16 12:15:25

I chose my favourite girl's name when I was 8! Always loved it. DH was on board and, after our 20 week scan, said "So is it X then?" and I said "No". All of a sudden she was very real and my favourite name just wasn't her name so we chose something completely different that suits her perfectly.

rallytog1 Tue 18-Oct-16 15:27:58

Yes but it was a boys name and i only had girls! I gave the second one a female version of the boy's name as a middle name.

ReggaeShark Tue 18-Oct-16 15:31:43

Planned for years to call any DS James. Took so long for him to come we got bored of it and chose another name.

PaperdollCartoon Thu 20-Oct-16 15:54:40

MilkShake that's it! I'm not pregnant but I've known since a teenager what my boy would be called, DP likes the name too so we were all set. Now we're getting closer to making babies it's starting to feel not right, and everyone knows the name so I kind of feel like it's set.

worldsworstchildren Thu 20-Oct-16 15:58:28

Yes I had a name that I loved and wished I'd used on one of my older DDs.... when I had my third DD, the oldest one said she didn't like it so I didn't use it.
10 years later she gave her own DD that name - but she's adamant she didn't like it at that time.

tappitytaptap Thu 20-Oct-16 16:00:08

I've known since I was a teenager, my maternal grandfather's name who I'd never met. Our DS is called the name, he's now 6 months old. Luckily DH agreed. Unlike girls names, any poor daughter would have been nameless

AWhistlingWoman Thu 20-Oct-16 16:01:14

DH and I agree the DCs name one drunken night in the pub when we were still teenagers.

DD1 and DS1 do actually have the two names we picked. We didn't settle on anything for DD2 and DD3 that far in advance though grin

MoonlightMojitos Thu 20-Oct-16 22:23:29

I've had names picked for about 4 years and havnt changed yet! Luckily dp likes them or could be difficult!

vghifcqueen Thu 20-Oct-16 22:32:06

I fell in love with the name Ella when I was 16 and met a lovely Ella. To this day it's my favourite name, I think it's so beautiful even though it is popular and quite ubiquitous. DH never liked it though so DD has a totally different name. I'm still gutted about it.

We always knew that our youngest would have a certain name. It's a name we regretted not using for our eldest who is 8 years older than him. But, by the time he was born DH was still set on it and I had gone off it so we compromised and it's his middle name.

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