Can't find a single name we like - it's normal, isn't it?

(21 Posts)
CwtchyQ Fri 16-Sep-16 16:50:25

I'm not sure if it's some sort of weird defense mechanism as this is a high risk pregnancy that took ages to conceive, but I just don't like any names at all. Not a single one. I've been through all the baby name books I have, lived on this section of MN and have thoroughly been through the ONS lists for two years now and nada, nothing.

I don't think it helps that we adore DD's name and can't find anything that comes close. We at least had some suggestions last time at this point. We don't know what we're having.

I've still got a good way to go (hopefully) until Feb, so plenty of time but just wanted to see if anyone else has/had the same issue?

MumOfTwoMasterOfNone Fri 16-Sep-16 16:56:37

Yes we had the same issue. I gave in with DS with a name I just thought was 'OK'. I got first choice with DD though grin and DP doesn't particularly like it but it was a family name and I LOVED it. I did like his name choice more for a girl but it just wasn't what I wanted.

Heatherbell1978 Fri 16-Sep-16 17:00:51

I'm due in February and have had the same issue with a girls name. With DS1 we knew we would call him Charlie before I even conceived. We don't know the sex of this one yet but both struggle hugely with girls names. I think we've agreed on Heidi which we both like but there's not one girls name we love! Boys names are so much easier for us.

CwtchyQ Fri 16-Sep-16 17:12:19

I do feel like I'm going to just use something I think is 'OK' because everything just seems so meh!

ImperialBlether Fri 16-Sep-16 17:22:38

Can you tell us what your daughter's name is, or would that be too identifying? It would mean we could make some suggestions.

Heatherbell1978 Fri 16-Sep-16 17:23:37

My advice would be to start a list on your phone of names of both sexes (or do you know the sex?) even if it's just 'meh' names and just add to it if you hear or think of any names which you remotely like and you'll find a few will grow on you. We've decided on Finn for a boy which I was a bit 'meh' about when DH suggested it but added it to the list and now I love it! Heidi was on the list from the start and we did like it but what's made us think we'll choose it is it is short for Adelaide which I don't actually like but my friend who passed away this year had that as her 'girls name' but sadly didn't have children. I found out this while researching the name so it feels very fitting now (baby is also due a year to the day she passed) so in that way it would be nice to have a girl.

My point is that a name will click into place even if it doesn't feel like it to start.

NameChange30 Fri 16-Sep-16 17:29:57

Instead of trying to find the name, which is a lot of pressure if there's nothing that jumps out at you, why not write a long list of names you quite like? They don't have to be names you love or even like a lot. Just names you prefer to the others. Then when you have a list of about 10-15 names, you might find that some grow on you or stick in your mind over time.

I'm in a similar boat, my baby is due in February. DH have a shortlist but nothing that we both love... I'm hoping we will get there over the next few months!

babyblabber Fri 16-Sep-16 17:36:25

Yes same here. Due in Feb and have a boy's name sorted as the last two were girls so still love the boy name we had picked for them. I have used the two girl names I adore.

I've a list on my phone with names I like but I don't love any of them. There was one name I saw as my "back up". I do love it but not the shortened version but it was the Bly other name we agreed on for DD2 so top of the list this time but my sister has just called her DD it so I'm really panicked now.

I come on here 4-5 times a day, go on lists and baby name websites every day, am sick of how obsessed I am!

Yep. We struggled a bit with DS2 we had a list but nothing we both loved. In the end he's called a name DH suggested literally on the day I went in for induction and it's perfect for him

chinlo Fri 16-Sep-16 17:39:23

Our son is due in December and it's just impossible. It's been even harder for us because we are from different countries, so we've each vetoed some really good names because they're hard to pronounce or just sound stupid in the other person's country.

I feel like I read about a hundred "top 100 __ boys names" lists every day and we still can't find one we love. So frustrating. I hate the idea of giving him a name we just like but don't love.

CinderellaFant Fri 16-Sep-16 17:42:17

I'm glad I'm not alone. Im due in February too, and there's plenty of names I like but none that I love or even like enough to call my child. I really worry this child will be nameless

NameChange30 Fri 16-Sep-16 18:07:56

chinlo DH and I are from different countries too, it really doesn't help!

CwtchyQ Fri 16-Sep-16 18:10:44

This makes me feel so much better. DD is Lara. It's simple but I love it so much.

I do have a list on my phone, but instead of growing to love a name, I just start resenting them all!

heather - flowers for your friend - what a lovely connection if you do have a DD.

EssentialHummus Fri 16-Sep-16 18:17:44

We have this. There was one - one! - name we liked, DP's brother and SIL just had a daughter, and that's the name they chose. You have to laugh, really.

MrsJoeyMaynard Fri 16-Sep-16 18:27:17

I'm a bit like this with boys names.

I have 2 boys already.

DS1 got my all time favourite boys name. DS2 got a boys name that was also one I liked a lot. Happily both names DH liked a lot too.

But now.... we're working on a shortlist, but both DH and I are a bit meh about all the boys names. They're okay, but nothing's really standing out.

Girls names not a problem, we haven't had a chance to use up our favourite girls names.

CwtchyQ Fri 16-Sep-16 18:55:32

essential how frustrating but utterly typical. I just know something similar will happen to me!

MotherDuckSaid Sat 17-Sep-16 13:35:58

I feel your pain !
i feel like i've actually seen all the names in the world ! Obv Lots of perfectly nice names, but none that feels like The One

Grapefruit8 Sat 17-Sep-16 13:51:06

I literally feel like I could have written this post! Almost 27 weeks pregnant with our first baby and we just cannot agree on a name. I think we are close with a boys name but if the baby is a girl we literally have nothing? Every name I hear I think "heard it 100 times before" or else I have a friend with a little one called it. It's really starting to stress me out, ive gone through book after book of baby names, we've got baby name apps on our phones... I'm really panicking that baby will arrive and be nameless for a little while!

Ladybunnyfluff Sat 17-Sep-16 14:06:38

I had this problem, I absolutely love my daughter's name and nothing else seemed to compare, we have now pretty much settled on a lovely name so hopefully it will stick.

CwtchyQ Sun 18-Sep-16 16:24:34

So glad I'm not the only one!

SprogletsMum Sun 18-Sep-16 20:10:10

I'm the same, I'm pregnant with our 4th and there's a couple of girls names that I love but dp hates and a couple we both sort of like. I'm convinced though that we are having a boy and I just don't like ANY.
It's not helped by the fact that all of the other 3 have 5 letter names so a long name would feel odd, and that we have an awkward surname that starts and ends with s so most names with an s anywhere in them don't sound right.

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