People's (not good) opinions on my baby name

(58 Posts)
KarenLF Fri 16-Sep-16 11:44:13

I'm currently 19 weeks pregnant and finding out today what we're having!! Sooooo excited!!! My whole pregnancy I've thought it could be a girl - also I'm also massivley expecting them to say Boy just because I think girl! Anyway, I've loved the name Ada for a girl from about week 10 and, although I know I may change my mind, I just absolutely LOVE it!
However, I'm just so angry at people's reactions - where do people get off slagging off baby names when they've asked what you like and you give them an answer. My auntie for example said "oh god, you can't call it that!" when I told her I liked Ada for a girl!
I actually don't care if people don't like it - I think it's beautiful and my husband loves it too but if it is a girl and she comes along and we call her Ada I'm just going to remember all the people that slagged it off!!
Just think it's so rude and you should just respect whatever people want to call their children - within reason! Sorry, this was more just a rant than anything! Anyone experienced this who can give me any good come backs to shut people up?!!

2014newme Fri 16-Sep-16 11:45:40

Don't tell people the names until baby is born and named.

sleepachu Fri 16-Sep-16 11:46:40

Ada is so nice!!

Heatherbell1978 Fri 16-Sep-16 11:47:02

Don't share your names with anyone! I'm also pregnant and have names sorted but won't be telling anyone. Same with DS1.
People will always pass comments on names but you'll find they wouldn't say anything if you announced the name after your baby arrived.

Believeitornot Fri 16-Sep-16 11:48:21

Don't share the name!

SleepDeprivedAndCranky Fri 16-Sep-16 12:00:54

Ada is fine, I was expecting something awful. I have learnt the hard way, when asked while pregnant, don't give too many details because everyone has an opinion and are determined to give it, whether you want to hear it or not.

We didn't tell anyone our chosen names when I was pregnant. When I had dc2, the Consultant asked me while giving me a million stitches if we had a name picked. I said "yes, it's ....", then she said "oh... and have you got a second name" so I said "yes, it's ....., our baby is going to be called First name Second name Surname". She just looked like confused hmm and said "Oh! Well, I suppose it will grow on people....eventually"
As it turned out, everyone loves dc2's name as much as we do and if they didn't they managed to hide their dislike in front of us, so we don't really care! smile

Oysterbabe Fri 16-Sep-16 12:03:26

We didn't tell anyone our name choices. People won't slag it off once it's actually been given to a baby.

TisConfusion Fri 16-Sep-16 12:17:12

Ada was my great-nans name so I'm thinking it's good!
Whenever people asked if we'd thought of any names we just acted clueless both times! Not sure they believed us nearer the end but we didn't want to share with them only for them to try to put us off!
Anyway, the main thing is that you love the name it's not about others.
Congratulations smile

WaitrosePigeon Fri 16-Sep-16 12:18:05

Ada is delightful.

user1471734618 Fri 16-Sep-16 12:19:07

Ada is such a cool name, do not let anyone tell you otherwise.

Tiggeryoubastard Fri 16-Sep-16 12:21:40

It's not to my taste but there's absolutely nothing wrong with it. I thought it was going to be one of the ridiculous ones you only really hear on here.

CitizenBloom Fri 16-Sep-16 12:25:58

Ada is lovely, but why on earth are you telling people? They clearly implicitly think you are asking opinions or seeking approval by telling them the name, The first anyone other than DH knew of our son's name was when we sent around a text saying that little X had been born at 10.30 am weighing eight pounds!

Good name, though. But just stop talking about it. In your circles, it clearly invites rude behaviour.

DixieWishbone Fri 16-Sep-16 12:27:29

I like the name Ada. I think a lot of the names that were popular around a century ago are making a come back.

As previous posters recommended, don't tell people what your name choice is and then you won't have to deal with comments. I think sometimes parents, aunts, and uncles think that just being an older relative gives them a right to comment nastily on their younger relatives' choices without giving them the common civility they would give to other people. If the name was something truly odd I think it would be OK to politely point out what difficulties could come with it e.g. having to spell out the name three or four times every single time. Ada is nothing along those lines though.

MyBreadIsEggy Fri 16-Sep-16 12:28:41

As others have said, don't tell anybody any names you like.
My mum asked what names we had come up with when we found out DC2 is a boy. I showed her the list we had made, and she turned her nose up at all of them. She was most disappointed that they were all English names and only one was Polish.
Turns out we've chosen his name, it wasn't on the list I showed her, and when she asks if we've decided on a name, I say "not yet, we are still thinking." I know she will hate the name we've chosen, but I will not tell her until he is born. Once he is named, that's that. She had her chance to name her babies 20-odd years ago!!

P.S. I think Ada is a lovely name for a little girl! smile

Purplebluebird Fri 16-Sep-16 12:28:48

You never tell people names until after baby is born! Then they won't share their opinions so much. Mind I really like the name Ada, it's very very close to my own name (outing myself haha).

KarenLF Fri 16-Sep-16 12:30:35

Thanks all! I'll definitley be fobbing people off from now on and saying we haven't decided yet. Finding out the sex after work tonight so we'll see if it's an Ada or not! smile

MrsJoeyMaynard Fri 16-Sep-16 12:36:43

Definitely agree, don't tell people the name until after the baby's born.

oklumberjack Fri 16-Sep-16 12:50:59

I agree. Keep very quiet if people ask. People will have the decency to just wince behind your back once the baby's here!grin

I told no-one our names. For my dd the only comment I got was that it was 'boring' and they were surprised because I'm quite 'arty'. Er....ok.

When I was pg with ds (didn't know the sex) my BIL commented on all the "awful names people were giving their sons these days". Little did he know he'd mentioned our chosen boys name amoungst others (a fairly traditional and common name so have no idea why he mentioned it). I kept completely quiet. I think he must have forgotten his comments when we announced the name - or at least he kept quiet!

Ada is lovely by the way.

butterfly990 Fri 16-Sep-16 14:00:20

I worked with someone who told everyone that the baby was going to be called "Horatio" or "Moby Dick". I can't remember the exact names he used. Everyone was horrified.

When the baby arrived it was called Jack or Ben (again can't remember what exactly). But is took the pressure off and to be honest he enjoyed the drama.

Hs2Issue Fri 16-Sep-16 14:06:51

My great gran names was Ada Agnes. It's a lovely name.

helenatroy Fri 16-Sep-16 14:07:16

Unless I really admire and respect someone their opinion on what I do does not matter a jot to me. As for people's taste in names, clothes, decor etc etc it's so personal that we should learn to trust our own instincts. One woman's Jack Daniels (an actual boys name) is another woman's Hector (surely the best boys name ever, if you ask me).

FenellaMaxwell Fri 16-Sep-16 14:18:08

It's a lot easier for people to say "I hate the name Ada" when it's presented as a concept than if you say "this is my baby, her name is Ada." as a fait accompli. Just stop telling people, and those you've already told, if they say 'you can't call her that' you just smile sweetly and say 'yes, actually I can.'

KarenLF Fri 16-Sep-16 15:27:37

butterfly1990 - I'm so going to think up the most awful name I can think of and tell people that to see their reaction!! It'll be great fun!

sidonie1 Fri 16-Sep-16 15:38:35

It's a beautiful name! People are so rude. And everyone seems to ask which makes it so tricky - you either have to lie or be mysterious. We had the same and it's made me question our choices, but names are always going to divide opinion, so like everyone says, presenting the baby fully named sounds like a good plan smile

broodykg Fri 16-Sep-16 16:21:55

Ada is one of my top girls names! Love it! But again kept names from everyone, especially our boys name as we know grandmas in particular will hate it.

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