Struggling between 3 middle names

(22 Posts)
YellowPirate Sat 14-May-16 21:29:14

Our son has two middle names, one from each side of the family and we plan to do the same with no. 2, due soon.

However, I can't decide on 'mine'. One Grandma died 15 years ago and I have always said I would use her name. My other Grandma just died though and I was very close to her so I'd love to use hers too.

I can't choose between my two Grandmas, but equally it feels a bit over the top to have 3 middle names. Dh would (reluctantly) agree to 3, but wouldn't drop the name from his side.

What would you do???

X

FuzzyOwl Sat 14-May-16 21:33:59

I would have all three.

manicinsomniac Sat 14-May-16 21:46:19

What are the names? Is there a way of combining them? (eg Jessica and Amy = Jessamy or Alice and Leah = Alicia)

If not, I would go for 3 middle names. You don't have to use them!

Veryflummoxed Sat 14-May-16 21:47:50

Have both. Any chance you could hyphenate them, then it would still be technically two middle names.

YellowPirate Sat 14-May-16 22:05:04

Alice, Peggy and Olwen, so all reasonably short. I'm not sure we could merge them though. I did suggest hyphenating to him earlier ;) I guess an alternative is to use one as a first name, but we're very attached to our chosen first name! X

notagiraffe Sat 14-May-16 22:06:22

You could use Polly which is a mix of Peggy and Olwen?

FuzzyOwl Sat 14-May-16 22:15:18

Honestly, just use all three. It will only ever be on official forms that she will need to put them all down and she'll probably get away with just the initial for the last one.

Mottled Sun 15-May-16 08:36:05

All nice names. If you don't think that there will be a DC3 you should us the 3 middle names.

1horatio Sun 15-May-16 09:24:05

I would have all three.
Unless you could find/create one name that honours both of your Grandmas in some way.... Or maybe a name with a meaning that describes both your Grandmas?

Veryflummoxed Sun 15-May-16 11:16:38

Pretty short names, they flow well. Have all three.

Veryflummoxed Sun 15-May-16 11:20:06

If one of the Grandma's names was Olwen then either of the other names would go well in front of it with a hyphen then you'd have one middle name from each side.

YellowPirate Sun 15-May-16 16:54:47

Thanks, I was hoping that the consensus would be to use 3 ;)

However, dh has just thrown a spanner in the works. 'His' name (Alice) is his mum's maiden name. He's now decided that seen as we used grandfathers' names for our son, he ought to use his grandmothers' names for a daughter. And he thinks he can't leave one out. Well I think 4 middle names is completely ridiculous so it's back to square one! X

IoraRua Sun 15-May-16 17:14:24

Well, if you can't leave one out I don't see how he can. So it's either 4 or back to square one...

nectarini1983 Sun 15-May-16 17:16:09

Use all three or scrap your grandmas and use your mum's name.

nectarini1983 Sun 15-May-16 17:21:37

4 middle names is ridiculous imo and if I'm really honest I couldn't inflict any of the three potential names mentioned on either of my daughters. I dearly loved both of my nans but no way was I going to pass on their names that even they didn't like! I really think a brand new life deserves a name all of their own - no emotional baggage of people that sadly they'll never meet.

lamusic Sun 15-May-16 17:40:26

Could you use Peggy-Alice Olwen?

Mishaps Sun 15-May-16 17:45:04

Never use a name that begins with a vowel as a middle name - it can create words that you do not expect!

Dogolphin Sun 15-May-16 17:53:21

Back to choosing one each? I would go with Olwen, its lovely!

Something Olwen Alice Surname

GoldPlatedBacon Sun 15-May-16 18:07:46

Just use a name you both like and forget family names

nooka Sun 15-May-16 20:19:24

I have two middle names and wish I only had one because often you can only give a single middle initial (eg many credit cards, booking plane tickets etc) and I hate seeing my name 'wrong'. Having three middle names would I think be excessive, and more than that verging on silly.

YellowPirate Sun 15-May-16 20:45:57

I love all 3 of them, wouldn't think of it as 'inflicting' them at all - in fact I'd happily use any of them as a first name! Think we're back to Olwen and whichever dh chooses from his side. For me, middle names are a way to honour family members, I don't see the point in choosing a middle name that doesn't mean anything, for us anyway. Just feel a bit sad that I can't have my other grannie's name in there somewhere. Maybe if we have a surprise no. 3.... X

YellowPirate Sun 15-May-16 20:49:51

Funny Nooka, I have 1 and always wished I had 2!

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