I'd already picked the name Violet for my baby girl due in 11 weeks time. However my sister died a few weeks ago and her name was Eleanor (known as Ellie). I decided to use her name as a middle name some time ago, so Violet Eleanor and had a post on here a while ago with lots of positive comments on it.
However, now I'm not sure whether to swap it to Eleanor Violet, in memory of my sister. I do like it and would quite like to use Ellie in day to day life as that was the name my sister was known by and it would feel special etc...however..
- Is it too soon? My sister died on the 31st of March quite suddenly of severe aplastic anaemia after only 3 months diagnosed with the condition. Would it feel to raw for the rest of the family/her children/close friends?
- I have a 12 year old daughter called Lily (and my 16 month old is called Eve and known as Evie) would Ellie be a tongue twister with those two?
- Would the baby be associated with sadness or is it a lovely thing to do?
I think Violet sounds better with my other girls names eg Lily, Eve and Violet rather than Lily, Eve and Eleanor/Ellie but for meaning I think it would be so significant to use Eleanor.
Me and my sister were 16 months apart and close all our lives. She joked while in hospital about using her name if she died she was joking but it's stuck in my head! Neither of us thought she would die!
Help!