I don't love my baby's name

(41 Posts)
Scraggyspanner Thu 05-May-16 20:46:25

I spent my pregnancy expecting I was having a boy for no real reason, we didn't find out. We had an amazing boy's name ready and waiting but had really struggled to strongly consider a girl's name.
Then, my baby girl arrived.
In the adrenalin filled hours post birth I said to my husband 'what shall we call her' and he said 'Hattie' (a name that had been briefly thrown around in our very minimal girls names discussion. And I agreed.
But I don't love it. I think I struggle that it's not a 'proper' name, that people will always assume she is Harriet, which she isn't.
I'm not sure I could deal with the embarrassment (and confusion of my 2 year old) of changing it and nor do I really know what I would change it to.

I'm not sure what I'm asking really, has anyone realised they don't love their chosen name? Did you come to terms with it/change it?

123rd Thu 05-May-16 20:49:33

How old is she? I would change it... A few days of confusion or a life time of you thinking how it doesn't suit her. Congrats by the way!!!

CutYourHairAndGetAJob Thu 05-May-16 20:51:08

I've not been in your situation but why not just change her birth certificate to Harriet? You don't need to tell anyone now but when she gets older it would give her the option to use the full version or to stick with Hattie as a nickname.

At two she will know her name so I agree you can't change it to something completely different.

julfin Thu 05-May-16 20:52:23

How old is she now?
Do you have another name in mind?

I don't think you should feel bad about changing her name. (And, not that it's anyone else's business other than yours and DH's, but if anyone does ask why, I'm sure they'll understand if you tell them that you simply changed your minds / it didn't suit her.)

I do think it's best to change it sooner rather than later though, not least for the sake of your other DC.

CutYourHairAndGetAJob Thu 05-May-16 20:53:12

Oh wait... Is Hattie the two year old or are you talking about a brand new baby and the two year old is her sibling?

FutureGadgetsLab Thu 05-May-16 20:53:15

Hattie is a lovely name. As someone else said why not just change her full name to Harriet?

ClubTropicanaDrinks Thu 05-May-16 20:53:22

I don't think it's worth changing it unless you have a name you DO love.

FWIW I think Hattie is a lovely name.

ThroughThickAndThin01 Thu 05-May-16 20:54:21

Change it to Harriet.

Then she can be Hattie, Harri, Ettie, Etta

Or whoever she wants to be.

123rd Thu 05-May-16 20:54:29

I think Hattie is a newborn and they have a 2 yo....

julfin Thu 05-May-16 20:54:32

Just to clarify: when you refer to your 2 year old, do you mean an older sibling of the baby? (ie two years haven't passed before you've decided to reconsider the baby's name?)

Scraggyspanner Thu 05-May-16 20:55:20

Ah sorry I realise it wasn't very clear. She's 4 months and my son is the 2 year old.

I guess my issue with Harriet is that I wouldn't choose it as a name, I don't love the nickname Harry and by just changing it on her birth certificate she would then be registered in official capacities, passport, school, driving license etc in a name that potentially she might never use...

Argh, so confused!

FutureGadgetsLab Thu 05-May-16 20:55:35

I thought Hattie was the toddler?!

123rd Thu 05-May-16 20:55:41

Oh, I have re read I'm not sure now confused

spad Thu 05-May-16 20:55:46

Yes, Hattie is a lovely name. But if you are worried you could change her birth certificate? Why not ask her when she's older?

FutureGadgetsLab Thu 05-May-16 20:56:37

Ah okay OP. If you don't have another name in mind, I'd leave it. Hattie is perfectly fine on its own.

ClubTropicanaDrinks Thu 05-May-16 20:57:35

What would you change it to, though? Do you have another name in mind?

wispaxmas Thu 05-May-16 20:57:42

I love the name Hattie, but if you don't then you should change it now. What does your husband think? I do know someone from my postnatal club that changed her DD's name when she was about 6 months old and she had a 2 year old as well. I think I remember her saying they added a new first name and kept the original name as a middle name and I think family were a bit surprised, but all got on board.

bingisthebest Thu 05-May-16 20:58:39

I don't 'love' my ds' name. He is now 5 and I wouldn't change it.
It's a nice name but I wish we had chosen different. It's a shame.
What I think is I'm not fussed by my own name, neither love or hate it and rarely ever think about it.
By the way I love hattie.

wobblywonderwoman Thu 05-May-16 20:58:52

What name do you love op. I kind od get where you are coming from in that it might feel nicknamey (but it's gorgeous so I don't mean to offend)

I would change it if you want to. she's to your baby and you have to be happy.

anotherbusymum14 Thu 05-May-16 20:58:56

We changed from using our baby's first name to its middle name of our baby at six months old. It's very doable. So I say be in agreement with your husband and go for it. Everyone around you eventually gets it/understands.

wobblywonderwoman Thu 05-May-16 20:59:54

has she got a middle name you like ?

whatdoIget Thu 05-May-16 21:00:09

You can change the name on the birth certificate up to the baby being 12 months can't you? Just change it to something you do love smile

SpidersFromMars Thu 05-May-16 21:08:59

Harriet or Henrietta are lovely birth certificate names.

Hattie is a great everyday name while she's young. I'd give her the option of a longer formal name as an adult. If you introduce her as Hattie noone will rename her Harry.

Iliveinalighthousewiththeghost Thu 05-May-16 21:17:05

If she was the 2 year old. I'd say. No leave it as it is. She's 2 years old and will know her name, and won't be old enough to understand that she is now going by a different name, but at 4 months. She's just learning her name, so. I'd say. There's still time to change it. You can explain to your DS that. His little will have a new name to get him used to it, but do expect him to call her Hattie nos and then for a while. He is only 4.
Could you get used to calling her by a new name, though.

woopywoo Thu 05-May-16 21:56:58

We have a Hattie Hope aged 18 now.Hattie on the Birth Certificate, people have never thought her name was Harriet. Gorgeous name!

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