Swapping first & middle name

(38 Posts)
Newmummy15 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:14:44

Hi ladies, I've posted before but seem to be back in the same dilemma, would you find it strange swapping a 10 week olds middle name and first name round? It's not like completely giving Different name although probably is too outsiders as they take no notice of middle names. I don't know if I have the courage to do it but keep going back to the idea as its bothering me. Please be honest and say if you thought you would think it's a bit odd. I know I shouldn't care about others bla bla bla

allegretto Sun 14-Feb-16 09:16:49

I would think it strange for about 5 minutes and then not give it another thought.

NuggetofPurestGreen Sun 14-Feb-16 09:21:02

No I know several people who have done this and just use the names the other way round - i.e just started calling the kids the middle name and now the kids (as adults) use them like that.

Newmummy15 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:22:02

I would be re registering it though?!

NuggetofPurestGreen Sun 14-Feb-16 09:24:17

Yeah that might make it easier.

originalmavis Sun 14-Feb-16 09:25:42

In our family there are a few people who use their middle name.

I didn't even know that my granddad used his middle name until about 20 years after he died and my granny had dementia. I did think that she was getting daft when she started calling him by another name. I only realised when mum died and I found a stack of birth, death and wedding certificates.

MyBigFatGreekYoghurt Sun 14-Feb-16 09:25:56

I wouldn't think it strange not at this age.

Newmummy15 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:26:21

Is that Yeah that it would be strange NuggetofPurestGreen

gBean Sun 14-Feb-16 09:26:54

Do it. Your baby. Your choice.

Newmummy15 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:28:41

I know it's my choice it's just to get a general idea if people would think weird... Poor kid...?!?!

originalmavis Sun 14-Feb-16 09:30:08

Not in Scotland!

gBean Sun 14-Feb-16 09:36:06

I wouldn't think it weird. I'd just assume after living with the name for a 10 weeks you'd decided you prefer the other name. It'll be fine. Don't worry about this

Sallyhasleftthebuilding Sun 14-Feb-16 09:45:58

You and your baby have to live with this choice - I know a few people who sign their name

A.Daisy Smith no different to Angela.D.Smith - change it

NuggetofPurestGreen Sun 14-Feb-16 09:46:34

No it wouldn't be strange either way but might be easier for them as an adult if it's officia!

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:48:55

I would just use the middle name without officially switching. I do know quite a few people who are known by their middle name.

originalmavis Sun 14-Feb-16 09:50:41

My brother never uses his first name. In fact I was about 14 when i first fpubd put. The head teacher yelled to me 'you! Fred's sister!'. I didn't know, so said 'I don't have a brother called Fred'. He thought I was being arsey... (thanks Fred).

ThroughThickAndThin01 Sun 14-Feb-16 09:51:24

One of my ds is known by an abbreviation which gives his name a different word almost. I just put bracket on school forms etc (know as ....). It hasn't been an issue.

VocationalGoat Sun 14-Feb-16 09:53:02

My auntie chose her middle name over her first name when she came of age.

handonhip Sun 14-Feb-16 16:42:43

Making it official does make life easier later on. And no, I wouldn't think it was weird at all!

sugarplumfairy28 Sun 14-Feb-16 17:27:19

Doesn't seem odd to me at all. My Nan, Dad, Uncle, Step Nan all use their middle name, and have done since childhood. So to change it officially, to me doesn't seem like a big deal. In fact with my Nan in particular, in hindsight it would have been a good idea.

With DC only at 10 weeks old, I see no issue or weirdness.

GloriaHotcakes Sun 14-Feb-16 17:29:44

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mrsschu Sun 14-Feb-16 17:42:18

I'd think it was a bit odd initially but then I'd forget about it so I think it's fine.

Newmummy15 Sun 14-Feb-16 18:34:35

I just don't know if I have the courage to do it, I've cried today and yesterday when talking about it so not sure if it's because I'm scared to do it or regretting doing it down the line and my husband saying told you! And hurting him by changing it as I know he loves the name but wants me happy

GloriaHotcakes Sun 14-Feb-16 18:51:01

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

sugarplumfairy28 Sun 14-Feb-16 19:13:32

Newmummy why do you want to change his name? Do you call him by his middle name, do you dislike his first name?

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