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Swapping first & middle name

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Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 09:14

Hi ladies, I've posted before but seem to be back in the same dilemma, would you find it strange swapping a 10 week olds middle name and first name round? It's not like completely giving Different name although probably is too outsiders as they take no notice of middle names. I don't know if I have the courage to do it but keep going back to the idea as its bothering me. Please be honest and say if you thought you would think it's a bit odd. I know I shouldn't care about others bla bla bla

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allegretto · 14/02/2016 09:16

I would think it strange for about 5 minutes and then not give it another thought.

NuggetofPurestGreen · 14/02/2016 09:21

No I know several people who have done this and just use the names the other way round - i.e just started calling the kids the middle name and now the kids (as adults) use them like that.

Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 09:22

I would be re registering it though?!

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NuggetofPurestGreen · 14/02/2016 09:24

Yeah that might make it easier.

originalmavis · 14/02/2016 09:25

In our family there are a few people who use their middle name.

I didn't even know that my granddad used his middle name until about 20 years after he died and my granny had dementia. I did think that she was getting daft when she started calling him by another name. I only realised when mum died and I found a stack of birth, death and wedding certificates.

MyBigFatGreekYoghurt · 14/02/2016 09:25

I wouldn't think it strange not at this age.

Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 09:26

Is that Yeah that it would be strange NuggetofPurestGreen

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gBean · 14/02/2016 09:26

Do it. Your baby. Your choice.

Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 09:28

I know it's my choice it's just to get a general idea if people would think weird... Poor kid...?!?!

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originalmavis · 14/02/2016 09:30

Not in Scotland!

gBean · 14/02/2016 09:36

I wouldn't think it weird. I'd just assume after living with the name for a 10 weeks you'd decided you prefer the other name. It'll be fine. Don't worry about this

Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 14/02/2016 09:45

You and your baby have to live with this choice - I know a few people who sign their name

A.Daisy Smith no different to Angela.D.Smith - change it

NuggetofPurestGreen · 14/02/2016 09:46

No it wouldn't be strange either way but might be easier for them as an adult if it's officia!

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/02/2016 09:48

I would just use the middle name without officially switching. I do know quite a few people who are known by their middle name.

originalmavis · 14/02/2016 09:50

My brother never uses his first name. In fact I was about 14 when i first fpubd put. The head teacher yelled to me 'you! Fred's sister!'. I didn't know, so said 'I don't have a brother called Fred'. He thought I was being arsey... (thanks Fred).

ThroughThickAndThin01 · 14/02/2016 09:51

One of my ds is known by an abbreviation which gives his name a different word almost. I just put bracket on school forms etc (know as ....). It hasn't been an issue.

VocationalGoat · 14/02/2016 09:53

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handonhip · 14/02/2016 16:42

Making it official does make life easier later on. And no, I wouldn't think it was weird at all!

sugarplumfairy28 · 14/02/2016 17:27

Doesn't seem odd to me at all. My Nan, Dad, Uncle, Step Nan all use their middle name, and have done since childhood. So to change it officially, to me doesn't seem like a big deal. In fact with my Nan in particular, in hindsight it would have been a good idea.

With DC only at 10 weeks old, I see no issue or weirdness.

GloriaHotcakes · 14/02/2016 17:29

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mrsschu · 14/02/2016 17:42

I'd think it was a bit odd initially but then I'd forget about it so I think it's fine.

Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 18:34

I just don't know if I have the courage to do it, I've cried today and yesterday when talking about it so not sure if it's because I'm scared to do it or regretting doing it down the line and my husband saying told you! And hurting him by changing it as I know he loves the name but wants me happy

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GloriaHotcakes · 14/02/2016 18:51

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sugarplumfairy28 · 14/02/2016 19:13

Newmummy why do you want to change his name? Do you call him by his middle name, do you dislike his first name?

Newmummy15 · 14/02/2016 19:26

I stupidly read some
Mumsnet threads on the name after we announced it, and I see lots of horrible comments on the name like its common, overdone, low class, lots of pets called this name... Etc! And it's really knocked my confidence and it's put me off the name. But then I can't all of a sudden just call her a random name she isn't a pet, so the only thing would be to use middle name
Which was on our list originally anyway. I feel all over the place so and upset, I'm
Constantly down when I think about it, I feel like I've let my baby down massively, I want to be proud of her name and shout it out instead of thinking don't ask me her name please.

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