DH set on Leo but it's DxP's name!

[helloelo]

DH is set on Leo for DS2 and doesn't want to discuss any other names (we like short names and nothing unusual, Milo is too "new" for him sadly)

I went out with a Leo(nard) for 1,5 years when I was 18. I loved him very much and dumped him like an 18yo might (overnight, never thought about it again really).

So 2 questions:

• is Leo ok as a name? We don't live in the uk so I need to check it's not the new Adèle (much more popular here as a name than as a singer)
  
• is it ok to use it considering it's been (caugh, caugh) almost 20 years since DxP?
  

What do you think?

[Joopy]

It's fine, especially as your dp likes the name. It would be different if he was a more recent ex or if your partner didn't like the name because of your ex.

[timelytess]

Does your husband know about the exLeo?
Its ok as a name, by the way.

[Bakeoffcake]

Does your H know you had an Ex called Leo?

If not I'd tell him.

I'm also a bit confused by the "Dh is set on Leo and doesn't want to discuss any other names". Don't you get a say?

[helloelo]

Oh yes he know about my life, he's just not bothered at all.
Of course I don't get a say in the name choice, I'm just a woman :) no really, he doesn't like anything else.

Thank you all, glad it's an ok name, I don't want to realise afterwards it's the name of a new controversial law or character in a kids show.

[IGotAPea]

If he's not bothered and you like it, it's fine.
But if you don't like it, or feel uncomfortable with it being the same as an ex's name (which I'd totally understand) you should both get a say and come up with something you both like. Not something only one of you like.

I love Leo, have to say I'm biased though, my dd shortened her own name to Leo

[N0More314]

I like the name Leo, it's a great name, but if you went out with a Leo for 15 years then a lot of people who know you will have known him too. It's odd that your DH would want that name of all names to be honest.

And if I were an acquaintance of yours, and knew you had a Leo, I'd think it was an odd decision, wonder if it was after the Leo you'd gone out with, wonder if you'd pushed for it, wonder if your DH was talked in to it.......... that's a lot of idle speculation I know but it's something that I would notice as unusual.

[N0More314]

Oh, sorry, only 1.5 years. Well that's not so bad.

But still. I think if you associate it with an xbf, then it's still not going to be the perfect choice for you.

[SirBoobAlot]

He might really like that name, but if it's forever going to have other associations for you then you need to find another name, whether he likes it or not. As for not even wanting to discuss other names, give him a .

[fastdaytears]

I prefer Milo personally but I went out with a Leo too when I was 14 so I might be biased against it. That aside it's a lovely name and I can't see any negative associations, unless it was also his star sign which I would find a bit

[DesertOrDessert]

I'd say no to that, what ever DH thinks. There are some names which are out, and I think an ex's name is one of them.
Theo?
Leon?

[WiIdfire]

I had similar - my husband wanted my ex's name as a middle name. Difference is, I'm still friends with my ex and see him now and then. I know I'd feel weird if ex gave his daughter my name so I said no and we went with something else.