Help me convince DH of my name choice please!

(57 Posts)
TerrysNo3 Thu 10-Sep-15 10:43:27

DS2 was born on Tuesday evening, we already have DS1 and DD who have short (4 letter) names which are quite unusual.

The name I like is Xavier (pronounced with a Z) as my dad's family are Portuguese so I'd like a link to that. I think it sounds nice in its full form but also shortened to Zave when he's older.

DH thinks it's too out there and that no one will pronounce it right. Oh and he thinks everyone will think he's an X Man hmm

What do you think?

fairyfeatures Thu 10-Sep-15 10:45:23

I would love to help you but I couldn't get this or Xander past DH either. I hope you get to use it!

TiredAssShowgirl Thu 10-Sep-15 11:06:58

Congratulations. Love love love it. Once you tell people how you want to pronounce it that's how they will - most people pronounce it 'Z' anyway ime. It's not particularly out there at all (i know the same number of Xavier/Xavs as i do Jacks). The Xman thing is a bit reaching imo.

Also, there does not exist a name that some eejit won't spell or pronounce wrong.

TerrysNo3 Thu 10-Sep-15 11:11:12

Thanks both

showgirl I've never met one before so i assumed it was still unusual, do you think its not then?

SerenaVanDerWoodsen Thu 10-Sep-15 13:38:23

You will get told on here that it's terribly popular. That may be so in certain areas (possibly London or SE) but I have never met one.

It's not to my taste but if you like it and it has family connections and you can twist your DH's arm then go for it.

Pipilangstrumpf Thu 10-Sep-15 13:40:10

I like it but don't understand the pronunciation. I would pronounce Xavier as Xa-vee-er and Zavier as Za-vee-er, so why don't you spell it with the Z if that is how you want to pronounce it?

Laquila Thu 10-Sep-15 13:43:52

I like it, and would pronounce it as Za-vee-er - some people might still use the Z sound but say Zay-vee-er.

JasperDamerel Thu 10-Sep-15 13:50:21

But xa and za sound identical - x at the start of a word in English is usually a z sound, often from words nicked from Greek, like in xylophone, xylitol, xenophobia, Xanthe etc.

Laquila Thu 10-Sep-15 13:56:14

Not in X-Men they don't! And I presume that what the OP is worried about - for some reason they pronounce it as Ex-zay-vee-we in the films.

Pipilangstrumpf Thu 10-Sep-15 14:10:40

I know a Xavier whose name is pronounced with the X sound, maybe it's the French version?

Not EX-avier but just X-avier.

Scobberlotcher Thu 10-Sep-15 14:15:10

It's a nice enough name. I don't know anyone called it, but I am told (on here) that it's used quite a bit.

But the thing is, your child really has to have a name loved by both his parents. I know I would hate to feel like I had to have my child named something I didn't love. If he doesn't like it - how can he be persuaded to like it?

I know I'm going to get it in the neck for saying that. grin in your shoes, I'd sadly forget about that name and try to find one we both loved.

if, otoh he actually does like the name but he's worried what other people will think - tell him that the truth is nobody in real life really gives a shit what you're called.

mrsschu Thu 10-Sep-15 14:58:11

Nice name. I don't think it's "out there" at all, go for it.

ThumbWitchesAbroad Thu 10-Sep-15 14:59:48

What name choices has your DH come up with then?

squoosh Thu 10-Sep-15 15:01:37

It's a shame he doesn't like it, Xavier is a lovely name.

What are his suggestions?

squoosh Thu 10-Sep-15 15:02:45

But the thing is, your child really has to have a name loved by both his parents. I know I would hate to feel like I had to have my child named something I didn't love. If he doesn't like it - how can he be persuaded to like it?

I know I'm going to get it in the neck for saying that.

Not at all, I think everyone will agree. I certainly wouldn't agree to a name I disliked.

SmugairleRoin Thu 10-Sep-15 16:34:58

Nope, won't help you. If he doesn't like it he doesn't like it and has every right not to - find another name you both like.

Personally Xavier isn't to my taste, but I'd say the same if it was any of my favourite names up here!

TerrysNo3 Thu 10-Sep-15 17:21:32

I figure once we choose it he will learn to love it because once a child has a name that name becomes them! His choices are all American ones which I don't like and have no link.. Jaxon, Coben, Harley and the like and I just don't like that style of name.

If I sulk enough and play the childbirth card I'm hoping to win him round wink

Scobberlotcher Thu 10-Sep-15 18:22:36

Call the baby Jason. Once he's born the name will become him and you'll learn to love it. grin

Scobberlotcher Thu 10-Sep-15 18:23:47

Damn. Ruined by bloody autocorrect.
Jaxon.
Or Jason I suppose. grin

TerrysNo3 Thu 10-Sep-15 18:28:19

scobberlotcher thanks for making me laugh, I actually think Jason made a better point too! grin.

I think I might be wearing him down, the kids are on board and he just asked the magic 8 ball if it was a good name, which said "absolutely". Now it's all about maintaining the momentum wink

BlahBlahUsername Thu 10-Sep-15 18:34:28

People may struggle to pronounce Xavier at first, but everyone will definitely misspell Jaxon!

SmugairleRoin Thu 10-Sep-15 18:50:05

Honestly I prefer his choices...but if you don't then don't pick them obviously! Though surely "he will grow to love it" applies equally to you grin

Go back to the beginning with the name hunt is my advice.

AlmaMartyr Thu 10-Sep-15 19:13:37

I know 2 Xaviers in rural Devon. I like it though. Hope your DH comes round. I would never have made my DH agree to a name he didn't like but did discover that he was terribly fickle with baby names. Both our DCs have names that he wrote off the first time before really loving them when I mentioned them a few weeks later hmm Occasionally now he'll say 'oh, that's a lovely name' about something that he vetoed when I was pregnant. We both loved the names we chose when DCs were born though.

squoosh Fri 11-Sep-15 10:50:43

I think using persuasion is all above board. If he comes round he comes round. If he doesn't it's back to the drawing board.

But bloody hell, Xavier is eleventy million times nicer than Jaxon, Coben or Harley!

Duckdeamon Fri 11-Sep-15 10:53:30

I think you should keep looking for a name you both quite like. I think your DH's concerns are valid.

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