To name baby same as friends?

[ElleyBear13]

Hello all! We're having a dilemma but have plenty of time to sort it :) So we're expecting our baby,this will be our 'first' after losing our daughter Isla-Grace to mc last year. We've had a name list from when we first met, boys will either be Arthur or Eugene. Girls....well we're stuck! We always agreed on either Jemima or Evelyn. However six years has passed since we made that list! Evelyn now means quite a lot to us as the meaning is 'a child wished for'. However a old friend who i hardly speak to now has a little girl called Evelyn (4)and I associate the name with her daughter. I dont know how she'd feel if i 'pinched' the name would you be upset?....I also know a few Evelyns/ Evies in my brothers nursery it seems popular now....hmm im also now liking Eliza as its something different, and I don't know any Elizas. Can anyone help? Would you be upset if you found your friend had choosen the same name? Or do you think Eliza is a nice alternative? Why is names so hard?

[BlueMoonRoses]

Hi there. So sorry for your mc. I did a quick search. Seems derivatives of Mary also can mean wished for.... So, Mary, Maryam, Maria....

[FringeDivision]

I think you shoukd pick the nsme thst you love. Why worry about a friend you barely even see? You associate the name Evelyn with her dd because yours hasn't been given that name yet, but if you did choose it then you would very quickly associate it with your own dd.

People don't own exclusive rights to the use of a name, so if Evelyn is the one you love then feel no wrongdoing in choosing it.

As for popularity, if you didn't abbreviate it to eve or evie then I don't think you'd come across many evelyns. Beautiful name btw

[juneau]

If you hardly speak to this person, then I think its absolutely fine to use the name for your DD. If it was a close friend, my advice would be different.

As for Evie being popular - yes it is - very. I know several girls named Evie (although it is usually Evie and not Evelyn AFAIK). Would you shorten it or would you use the full name?

[juneau]

Oh and I really like Eliza! Elizabeth is quite popular at the moment, but I don't know any girls called Eliza.

[ElleyBear13]

Thank you everyone! I do love Mary (my greatgrandma was mary unfortunately DH dislikes the name!) i don't like Evie so wouldn't shorten it.....thank you all! Really wasnt sure if it was acceptable to use someone else's ' name'. :)

[snice]

You need to be prepared for other people to shorten it though- she is highly likely to become Evie at school

[ashtrayheart]

Do you like Vivienne? Sounds similar to Evelyn.
Eliza is also nice. Otherwise just go with Evelyn if it's your favourite

[jazzyjenbo]

If shes not a close friend i wouldnt worry... Its a lovely name and has a fab meaning behind it.

Another to consider. - Iris means Rainbow

[badtime]

How about Aveline?

It is the original name Evelyn was derived from, and can be pronounced 'Av-eh-leen' or 'Av-eh-line'. Ava for short?

[ProfessorPickles]

Personally I think it helps that her daughter is 4 and not a new born. I could be wrong but I do think that makes it less of an issue!

It is a beautiful meaning behind the name which is special to you for strong reasons so I'd say go for it!

[Lazaretto]

Go with your gut. Don't worry if others are called the same.

[KERALA1]

Just be aware eve names are crazily popular. Most of dds friends are called eve it's this generations sarah. Don't use if this bothers you...

[Fuckmath]

Congratulations op!

I think it's fine to use Evelyn in these circumstances if you want do, for sure. Your friends haven't got dibs on the name

I also like Eliza as an alternative, very pretty.

What about Elise or Eloise as further suggestions

[flowerbum]

I wouldn't mind if a friend picked the same name as me I would be flattered. You should go with your heart x

[EllenJanesthickerknickers]

My friend called her DS1 Matthew only 2 weeks after her best friend and bridesmaid called her DS1 Matthew. They just both loved the name and it's never been a problem. The boys see each other occasionally but go to different schools and live in different counties.