Is Reeva ok to use?

(115 Posts)
fairyteepee Fri 12-Sep-14 10:53:20

Me and my husband love this name if we are having a girl BUT im worried everyone will immediately think of Reeva Steenkamp? I know she seemed like a lovely person and theres nothing negative surrounding her as a person. But the circumstances surrounding the name are very sad.
Would you still use it?

Hakluyt Fri 12-Sep-14 10:56:52

No of course you can"t use it! What are you thinking? If you're pregnant now it will still be in the news when the baby's born.

MajesticWhine Fri 12-Sep-14 10:57:19

I wouldn't. Although, by the time your little one is at school, I guess everyone will have forgotten about RS. But I still wouldn't.

ItsNotEasyBeingGreen Fri 12-Sep-14 10:59:39

I think it's fine to use. If you like the name. When is your DD due? It's very sad to say but her name won't be so recognisable when your DD is older. But if she googles Reeva then I expect her death will be the majority of the hits.

Hakluyt Fri 12-Sep-14 11:01:43

Imagine having a new baby, and every single time you tell people her name the first image that leaps into their minds is this awful case. Why would you want that!

Bowlersarm Fri 12-Sep-14 11:03:13

I think it's fine.

whatsagoodusername Fri 12-Sep-14 11:03:14

It took me a minute or two to figure out who she is and why you shouldn't.

Sad as the situation is, people will forget once the trial is finished. So I probably would use it if I really loved it.

VivaLeBeaver Fri 12-Sep-14 11:03:32

I think its fine to use. People won't remember (sadly) the name of the girlfriend in a few years. Can you remember OJ Simpsons wife's name without googling? I can't. It'll be Pistorius who's name is remembered.

Nusalembongan Fri 12-Sep-14 11:03:34

Could it be her middle name? It is just too prominent at the moment and for many years the associates will be there. I wouldn't it just isn't fair.

LEMmingaround Fri 12-Sep-14 11:03:50

I wouldn't for two reasons. Firstly it sounds like one of those non names that are quite popular these days. But more importantly i don't know anyone else with that name. Sothe association would be there. I am not keen on "individual" names. Id rather my child stand out for who she is

MrsBungle Fri 12-Sep-14 11:04:47

I think it's fine too.

Chachah Fri 12-Sep-14 11:06:29

I'd think it was in poor taste tbh, anyone who googles her name will not only come across RS, but also see that your baby was given her name right at the exact time of the whole media circus.

TrixieLunamoon Fri 12-Sep-14 11:06:47

If you really love it I would use it. People still name their children Madeleine, Holly and Jessica.

whatsagoodusername Fri 12-Sep-14 11:07:41

How about Resa?

isitsnowingyet Fri 12-Sep-14 11:07:53

No - it is in poor taste.

PandaWatch Fri 12-Sep-14 11:09:56

It's absolutely fine to use. Ridiculous to suggest otherwise. Agree with Viva that people forget very quickly.

I know that OJ's wife was called Nicole but it never crosses my mind when I meet/hear of a Nicole.

Good luck with your pregnancy!

NormHonal Fri 12-Sep-14 11:10:42

I've used the name of a high-profile murder victim for one of my DCs and don't have a problem with that per se.

I think the issue with Reeva is that it's quite an unusual name/spelling. Why not amend it to "Riva" and start cultivating references to lovely Italian towns when people ask you why you chose it?

I wouldn't go with the Reeva spelling.

furcoatbigknickers Fri 12-Sep-14 11:11:15

For the live of cheese. Of course you can use it.

furcoatbigknickers Fri 12-Sep-14 11:11:36

Nice name op

Wonc Fri 12-Sep-14 11:12:23

No I wouldn't. It's too soon and too morbid.

Hakluyt Fri 12-Sep-14 11:12:57

So you really, really wouldn't mind introducing your baby to people, and everyone immediately getting an involuntary image of Oscar Pistorious braking down on the witness stand, and that poor woman being shot in her own bathroom....

And yes, in 6 months it might be all forgotten- but that's what 's going to happen when this baby is tiny.......

fromparistoberlin73 Fri 12-Sep-14 11:14:22

its unfortunately a bit too raw, I also think when she eventually googles her name she will see a girl with the same name was murdered at the same time. A bit weird?

curiousgeorgie Fri 12-Sep-14 11:14:42

I think it would be fine to use in a few months, but it's so newsworthy right now that everyone would think that's where you got it from.

When are you due?

financialwizard Fri 12-Sep-14 11:17:30

Of course you can use it. It is a lovely name. Just because one person has been killed with that name doesn't mean you shouldn't. Lots of boys called James after Jamie Bulger was killed ffs. Doesn't make me think of him when I hear the name.

BigfootFiles Fri 12-Sep-14 11:18:26

When the baby is tiny she won't care or remember what's going through people's heads. My first association is it sounds very like the Arriva bus company. It's also a homophone for reaver - which is basically someone who violently plunders, viking or pirate stylee.

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