Am I apporoaching choosing a boys name all wrong?

(31 Posts)
ThinkIveBeenHacked Fri 13-Jun-14 13:42:32

Ive had many suggestions thrown at me. I like a few, and love none.

Im of the opinion that when I hear THE name, I will know.

Am I doing it wrong? Do I just need to learn to love a name I currently just like?

I feel like ive seen and heard all the names that ever exist.

cece Fri 13-Jun-14 13:45:59

I didn't love any names. We went with a name we liked and we felt he could live with. So we considered adulthood as well as cute toddler stage and how a name would work down the pub with his mates iyswim.

I am more than happy with my son's names. Never once regretted either of their names. On the other hand we went for a name we loved for DD and I wish we had taken the same approach to her name.

Guin1 Fri 13-Jun-14 14:39:22

I think choosing a name is a very personal process - everyone has their own way of doing it. I don't think there is a 'right' way. We took a month after his birth to name our DS. Obviously it was important to have a name that we both liked, but we felt it was equally important to think about how DS would 'live with it', e.g. did it work for child and man? did it have an easy nn? was it easy to pronounce and spell? was there any obvious potential for teasing? was it unusual enough that he would probably be the only one with that name in his class? We are both really happy with the name we chose, and can't imagine him being called anything else, although it's too early to know if he likes it or not!

For a mn, we went with a family name - that was the 'special name' for me, although I would never have used it as a first name.

maggiethemagpie Fri 13-Jun-14 20:44:21

For both my children, I knew when I found the one. Never regretted either of them. (the names, that is - not the kids!)

squoosh Fri 13-Jun-14 21:02:32

The name you seek is Bruno.

You're welcome.

Alita7 Fri 13-Jun-14 21:06:20

I think part of it is finding one that feels special to you both, not necessarily one you automatically love.

Our girl choice (Liliana) is one that I now love but initially it was a like that we both knew was the one straight away.

Like you with boys names I can't find one I love that dp likes, but we have a couple we both like and 1 we both like the most (max/ maximus) so I think we'll go with that one smile

But we will see, if baby plays ball we'll find out next Thursday :D

spleenyone Fri 13-Jun-14 21:10:55

Totally agree with Maggie, neither of my two could possibly be called anything else. Love their names.

ThinkIveBeenHacked Fri 13-Jun-14 21:17:56

Haha sorry not a fan of Bruno!

nasara Fri 13-Jun-14 22:19:28

Op, I'm so with you. I'm waiting to find a name that gives me that special feeling of just feeling 'right'.

I'm pretty sure I've read every boys' name out there, so I guess something has to give for me to look at that name differently. This is what happened with dd2's name - it was a name I had previously discounted for being too popular, but when I reconsidered, I realised it wasn't as popular as initially thought, and then I knew it was "The One".

I really don't want to settle for a name I just like, however, I do think it might be a bit of a slow-burner and I need to 'try on' a few names I might not have short listed as yet, for whatever reason.

ThinkIveBeenHacked Fri 13-Jun-14 22:20:45

DH found his "The One" name tonught which would be marvellous, if it wasnt Tucker.

hmm

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone Fri 13-Jun-14 22:45:29

OP, I feel rejected grin

BrunoBrookesDinedAlone Fri 13-Jun-14 22:45:56

TUCKER?!

Is your surname Jenkins?

ThinkIveBeenHacked Fri 13-Jun-14 22:54:34

Sorry Brunes sad
Hahah no.

My DH has awful taste.

HaroldLloyd Fri 13-Jun-14 22:56:27

I found "the one" with DS1

DS2 was wellard. We ended up calling him a name that we hadn't considered and I love it now.

HaroldLloyd Fri 13-Jun-14 22:56:50

Tucker? Shit. That's bonkers.

squoosh Fri 13-Jun-14 22:57:30

He likes Tucker.

You don't like Bruno.

There is no hope.

HaroldLloyd Fri 13-Jun-14 22:58:19

Brucker?

3boys3dogshelp Fri 13-Jun-14 23:01:59

When my oh suggested Frank I laughed and then saw his hurt face. At that point I realised he has no taste and decided to choose a name that I love and he likes, works for us grin.
In all seriousness I think as boy's names are much less pretty and cutesy than girl's I found it much harder to find an instant love. Two of my three were slow burners but now that name 'is' my son I love it and he couldn't be anything else iyswim.

3boys3dogshelp Fri 13-Jun-14 23:03:17

When my oh suggested Frank I laughed and then saw his hurt face. At that point I realised he has no taste and decided to choose a name that I love and he likes, works for us grin.
In all seriousness I think as boy's names are much less pretty and cutesy than girl's I found it much harder to find an instant love. Two of my three were slow burners but now that name 'is' my son I love it and he couldn't be anything else iyswim.

squoosh Fri 13-Jun-14 23:04:04

I think Frank has a certain rakish charm.

EyelinerQueen Fri 13-Jun-14 23:05:15

Oi! There is absolutely nothing wrong with Frank.

<<pats bump>>

3boys3dogshelp Fri 13-Jun-14 23:06:30

Oops sorry!

squoosh Fri 13-Jun-14 23:07:16

I bet he's smoking a fag and thinking up some smooth lines for the ladies in there EyelinerQueen.

EyelinerQueen Fri 13-Jun-14 23:09:56

Too right squoosh. Like a mini Tom Hardy in Kray mode grin .

It was my granda's name which is the main reason for us choosing it but it's also retro, unpretentious, a proper name and different without being yooneek which is pretty much perfect for me smile .

It's all subjective though innit.

Bicciemoosh Fri 13-Jun-14 23:25:42

I know a little 3/4 year old Frank, he is wonderful!

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