Wrong name

(52 Posts)
Butterfly82 Mon 13-Jan-14 21:45:48

I need some advise I wrongly was influenced on my babys name when she was born and called he Molly but 3 months on and I absolutely hate it it's the worse decision I have made I wanted Ella or Bella right from the start but my niece is called Ellie so felt Ella was to similar and our last name begins with a B should I change it or will I come to love the name Molly I can't even say the name so all I call her is princess or little lady.

Winterwobbles Mon 13-Jan-14 21:53:25

I think if you have come to dislike the name Molly you should change it. I would probably avoid Ella as your neice is Ellie and they sound a bit too similar to me but I think Bella would be ok even with a surname starting with B. Or have you thought about using Isabella, Annabelle, Arabella or another name that you could use Bella as a nickname for but would give you different initials?

Theonlyoneiknow Mon 13-Jan-14 22:48:47

Maybe try calling her something else for a while and see if you really dislike Molly before you go ahead and officially change it. You have up until 12 months

DessieLou Mon 13-Jan-14 22:49:48

I agree, change it to Bella. I'm sorry you're feeling like this.

Littlepinkseal Mon 13-Jan-14 22:57:33

We changed DD's name at 8 weeks so I know how you feel. I also couldn't bear to say her name and felt embarrassed every time I had to tell people her name even though it was a perfectly normal name. I don't think DD's original name would ever have grown on me and 6 years later I'm still glad we changed it. If you do decide to change it, the original name still stays on the birth certificate but there's a section towards the end which says something like "name changed within first year" and the new name goes there. Was a bit worried about getting passport in the right name seeing as the old one still shows on certificate but it was fine. I did get two letters about starting school too, one with original name, one with her new name but that was easily sorted out too. I don't understand why it matters if your first and last name start with the same letter, if you like Bella, go for it!

We do not need any more Ellie's grin DD2 knows three and never clarifies which one she's waffling on about.

Butterfly82 Mon 13-Jan-14 23:00:09

I do like Isabella but it's a bit of a mouthful with our surname don't want her to be a target for bully's when she is older. I don't want to leave it to long as I have two older children that would get confused

Theonlyoneiknow Mon 13-Jan-14 23:04:45

Gabriella? Am sure just Bella would be fine too.

CarlaVeloso Tue 14-Jan-14 13:48:39

Do you have the support of your DH/DP to change it? You'd have to be very sure of how you feel to do it without his backup.

One thing I would say is don't give any thought to what other people will think. It'll be briefly noteworthy for about a day then everyone will just accept it and move on.

Take your time. Practice calling her by a different name when is just you and her and see how you feel.

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 13:50:06

I think you should change it. Would something like Isabella be good so you can call her Bella for short?

Bella is also good nickname in the meantime as it just means beautiful, which I'm sure she is.

SavoyCabbage Tue 14-Jan-14 13:55:35

I think you should change it too. I was pushed into dd2s name and she is seven and I'm still not used to it.

LittleBearPad Tue 14-Jan-14 13:56:38

Is Molly the full name or is it short for something you can pick another nickname from?

SoftSheen Tue 14-Jan-14 14:02:15

If your surname begins with 'B' and your niece is called Ellie, I agree that it might be better to use Bella or Ella as a nickname and have a longer full name. How about:

Anabel/ Anabella
Isabel
Ishbel
Cristabel
Arabella

Eleanor
Eleanora
Helena

everlong Tue 14-Jan-14 14:08:40

Bella with a surname B is fine!

Change is today.

Bugabooed Tue 14-Jan-14 14:12:51

We changed one of our dc's name completely at 4 months, and although it felt like a very big deal at the time to me, it was actually a very straight forward process and nobody batted an eyelid. I definitely think that you should do it if you have started to hate your dd's current name. Fwiw, I think that Isabella is a great choice as it gives you the flexibility of a variety of shortenings and I certainly don't think it's a name she's likely to be bullied about.

curlew Tue 14-Jan-14 14:12:52

Who pushed you? Your Dp? If so, does he still love the name Molly? How does he feel about changing?

Inertia Tue 14-Jan-14 14:22:52

If you are going to change it, change it to a name you love.

Doesn't really matter what your niece is called tbh, it's not the same name.

Not sure why you think the name Isabella would make her a target for bullies, it's a beautiful name and you could choose either Bella or Ella as a nickname.

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 14:56:17

I've just seen suggestion of name Gabriella and wanted to say I called my dd Gabriella having been keen on Ella during pregnancy. No real reason just change of heart and I really love it. She calls herself "Gabriella-bella" quite alot!

If you do go for Isabella she won't get bullied - it's quite a popular name so it's unlikely she would be the only one with it!

Butterfly82 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:39:33

My Dh is happy to change it he just wants me to be happy with whatever I choose he has been very supportive. It's not the name Isabella that is a target for bully's but does sound a bit funny with our surname but I am overthinking it really. I really wanted the name Ella but like I said is very similar to Ellie. Pressure was from other family members who really liked Molly and would turn there noses up to other suggestions and after a week said she should have a name should have listened to myself

Mim78 Tue 14-Jan-14 15:47:34

I don't think Bella by itself is that close to Ellie. Ella is obviously quite similar, but not a problem if you love it. Have had trouble persuading dh that we can't give expected ds exactly the same name (and it would be same surname) as his cousin who he would see quite often!

Molly is such a different name to Bella/Ella that I can see why it has not worked for you.

My dh's surname (and name of our children) begins with B btw, and have no issues with Bella B (actually am thinking it would have been quite nice to name dd that!)

MrsRV Tue 14-Jan-14 20:17:13

I really feared this would happen to me and still do with currently cooking bab. it's duch a huge responsibility naming another person. DD is Ella and my dad calls her Bella. we call her Ella Bella and don't regret our choice now. I really don't like Ellie as a name and think it's entirely different to Ella.

Change it.... go for it!

p.s. I also like Belle or Elle x

Inertia Tue 14-Jan-14 23:43:00

Other family members get to name their own babies- ignore the upturned noses and choose a name that you and DH like!

You could start from the beginning of the naming process, get some books of names, make lists of ones you like etc. Whatever you do, don't discuss her name with family until it is finalised and reregistered.

DessieLou Wed 15-Jan-14 08:24:44

How are you getting on OP?

i agree with others, change it if you dont like it. also agree that its a great suggestion to start afresh completely.

fwiw i think mollys a very sweet name for a little girl or a pet (we had a cat called molly!) but a bit weak for a grown up. kind of sounds like the shortened version of something.

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