Did you/would you go for a 'safe' name so as not to upset ...

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wonderingifiam2013 Fri 06-Sep-13 13:40:16

Parents and in-laws?

I know people have strong views on revealing/not revealing names before baby arrives but both DH and I do not want to share our names before baby arrives. We don't know the sex and want to introduce baby to everyone by his/her name.

With baby #1 we were bombarded EVERY time we saw family members with name suggestions and questions even though they knew we wouldn't reveal the names we had chosen.

This time it's only just started (well past half way rather than just conceived last time! grin) and isn't half as bad as last time ... yet!

But ... my inlaws were introduced to a baby the other week who had a name we secretly loved, although not top of our list, and totally slagged it off and asked why on earth you'd call a baby that?

Now the name we like for a girl is quite 'safe' although not overly popular ... whereas the boys name we both like will be greeted with shock/horror ... which both of us giggle at as it makes us want to use it even more so!

Therefore - are we being stubborn in wanting to use a name we know the family won't like and should we go for a safer more traditional name?

WowOoo Fri 06-Sep-13 13:43:29

No, we chose our own and didn't announce until I knew the gender after birth

I told some people 'I like...****' Not lying. I truly did like a lot of names. Anything to shut them up and change the subject. wink

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 13:44:31

I'd love to say go for something you and DH love and stuff everyone else.

But I'd be a big hypocrite because my family and friends have totally put me off the name I wanted for a girl since I was 5. I think its beautiul but after all the sneering and teasing I've been put off as I don't want any future DD to get bullied!

I do hope you're stronger than me though!

your bubba your rulz hun grin

Choose the name you love, and who gives a shiney shite whether they approve or not? I choose names solely on what we both liked. DH chose DS' s name purely because I had no boys names.
but anyone else's opinion didn't come into it.

PoppyAmex Fri 06-Sep-13 13:49:53

I know everyone on MN says this, but I think it's really true - it would take seriously bad manners to make a disparaging comment about a baby's name when the baby is already there, in front of them. wink

Follow your plan, don't tell anyone and just choose the name you like.

squoosh Fri 06-Sep-13 13:50:24

No it's not stubborn, why should you be swayed by people who've already had their baby naming opportunities.

Choose a name you love, parents and in-laws will cope.

My mother hates my DS's name. I knew she would, that's why I introduced him with that name and gave her no opportunity to dissuade me.

squoosh Fri 06-Sep-13 13:52:00

Koala what's the name you've been put off?

magichamster Fri 06-Sep-13 13:55:50

If it's a name you love then use it. And whatever your choice is, know that some people won't like it.

I never understand people who announce the name before the baby is born. If you turn up with a baby and announce 'we'd like you to meet our new baby x, whether you've called it John or Tinky Winky it's more difficult for people to give any other opinion than 'That's Nice"

Enjoy you new baby, whatever you decide smile

TripleRock Fri 06-Sep-13 13:56:19

I know there will be raised eyebrows in oir families (particularly DHs) when we announce our DSs birth and his name.

There will also be a few sighs at our choice to give 2 middle names.

I honestly couldn't give a monkeys!

TripleRock Fri 06-Sep-13 13:57:26

*our

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 14:06:26

Squoosh it's Aurora. I had a Spanish penpal at primary school and her sister was called Aurora. I always thought it was beautiful.

squoosh Fri 06-Sep-13 14:13:03

Aurora is beautiful and not at all tease or sneer worthy. Honestly.

Have you been put off the name for good or do you still secretly love it?

wonderingifiam2013 Fri 06-Sep-13 14:14:47

I LOVE Aurora too!

It's romantic, original and has a ballet link - which makes it beautiful in my eyes too smile

I promise not to 'steal' it well I might grin

Please reconsider using it smile

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 14:17:35

I still secretly love it grin

Oh I feel all excited now! I thought everyone must have thought it was a stupid name but now I've heard from 2 other people that its beautiful I'm reconsidering. 17 weeks PG don't know if its a girl but if it is she might be Aurora!

squoosh Fri 06-Sep-13 14:21:11

Aurora is a really lovely name. It sounds so feminine and elegant and so pleasingly different from all the girlie girl names that are in fashion at the moment.

DO IT! smile

wonderingifiam2013 Fri 06-Sep-13 14:22:20

Koala - I'd say the excited feeling means it's 'right' smile

And I'll put a bet on that your baby is a girl ... they seem to have this power to control their destiny before they're even born!

I look forward to your update in roughly 23 weeks! grin

PoppyAmex Fri 06-Sep-13 14:22:51

Aurora is classic and elegant, I think you'd struggle to find a "chav" with that name in Southern Europe/Latin countries.

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 14:23:31

Thanks Squoosh and Wondering I'm glad I've come across you two today!

thanks

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 14:24:45

Thanks Poppy smile

Sorry I've hijacked your thread Wondering!

wonderingifiam2013 Fri 06-Sep-13 14:26:12

grin - I don't mind one bit Koala - just pleased you're reconsidering the name YOU love smile

Aurora is gorgeous, lovely and feminine without being totally fluffy.

Aurora is beautiful grin

OP - give your baby the names you love, your parents/ILs have had their chance to name babies smile

KoalaFace Fri 06-Sep-13 14:32:46

Okay I might have to dump my rl family and friends in favour of you guys.

OP I can now be confident and say "Pick the name you love!"

pinkr Fri 06-Sep-13 14:34:40

Def don't tell before...everyone has an opinion. we went a bit unusual, for our very traditional parents anyway, and just told them when she arrived and you know what..they coped! If I had told my parents before there would have been pressure for sure! I did mention the name we picked to a friend ages ago amongst other names and she said it was horrid...strangely enough she said it was a lovely name when she visited the other week grin

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