Myself and sister in law are both pregnant - I am 4 weeks ahead. I would quite like to use my DHs grandmothers name as a middle name. It is quite a different unusual middle name and my DH is keen to use it as well. (don't wannt to say the name itself so lets pretend its Vita)
SIL knows she is having a girl and I know the name she has picked for the baby (it is not her grandmothers). FIL has told me they were considering the name (Vita) but that SILs husband veto'd as he was worried about the girl being picked on at school etc.
Anyway I don't know if she wants to use Vita as a middle name, but I do. I imagine SIL DHs has veto'd it outright but I'm not sure. We don't know the sex of our baby so this might not matter anyway but if it is a girl I really think I would like to use the name. I also think I am likely to give birth first (although not definite as I could be late and she could be early).
Anyway what do you think is the etiquette in this situation, do i need to ask SIL if she is planning on using it?
ps SIL and myself are not particularly close, wouldn't phone her up for a chat and I suppose part of me is a bit worried that if I ask her she will just say she wants to use it anyway - although that sounds really petty now I've written it down!
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roweeena · 23/08/2013 11:55
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