Does anyone else wish their DH would just eff the eff off when it comes to naming the DC's!!!!!!!

(28 Posts)
Mumblyboo Thu 01-Aug-13 15:31:08

i love my husband, he is fab BUT soooo many vetoed names....so many GOOD vetoed names...... it is really starting to get my goat. When our DD was born i went with his choice as he loved it and as i didn't have a strong feeling for a name i felt it proper that we have one that one of us adored. I have grown to LOVE the name too

BUT this makes him think that actually he is the best 'namer' and anything I choose is horrible. I have a girls name that i adore and have done forever but had forgotten i liked so much. I am determined that DD should have this name as he has no def thoughts either way.

A friend of mine has just had a baby and very nearly used the name i love and when the relief set in that she hadn't used it after all i realised that it IS the one i want. Everybody else likes the name, its not unique or terribly unusual and won't cause teasing or anything but last night when i expressed my relief that the name was up for grabs still he said there is no way he will call a baby that and he will call her something different.....

i am thinking divorce........ wink

LemonDrizzleCake11 Sun 04-Aug-13 07:49:15

At the point DS1 was a week overdue DH had still not found a single boys name he didn't dislike intensely. The only one he came close to agreeing to he put into google with our surname "just to check, as that's what our son will do when he's bigger" and lo and behold, the one possibility when combined with our surname turned out to be a hardcore porn star! So that got struck off too...

In the end he made an excel spreadsheet of every single name registered in the uk the previous year and delete those he didn't like... and ended up with 3.

So when DS finally arrived, I just started calling him by my favourite of the 3, and obviously the midwives followed suit so then he felt obliged to agree...

TheDoctrineOfAllan Sat 03-Aug-13 23:05:24

Write a list including vetoed ones and get him to do the same. It's easy to veto in isolation but seeing names against each other is different. Maybe each of you choose your favourite and least favourite 3 of each others. And maybe you'll have an overlap!

PinkGlove Sat 03-Aug-13 22:52:15

Ha! My DH vetoed ALL my names. He pushed for one particular name all the way through only to suddenly realise it wasn't right at the end, so we had to go for a compromise ...

newbie6 Fri 02-Aug-13 17:02:00

That's a pretty name smile

Mumblyboo Fri 02-Aug-13 14:14:18

The name is Savannah. Nothing freaky or outlandish there?

Mumblyboo Fri 02-Aug-13 14:02:39

Wow. That post makes NO sense.....oops!!!

Mumblyboo Fri 02-Aug-13 14:01:34

On one hand I feel that his input on boys names is invaluable because I can see that whilst my love of literary names may not transpose well onto the terraces at Palace which is where a boy will end up as per our other son BUT I've got a fairl uncommon yet known name and loved being only one in school, work, church etc..., I want to do same for this LO should she be a girl..... Loving the suggestion of waiting til baby born..... V clever. He did say to me after Alice Elizabeth was born and in our arms that I could change it to whatever I wanted....

KnittedWaffle Fri 02-Aug-13 11:30:43

For DD I spent my pregnancy brainwashing talking about the names I liked to her dad and lo and behold, when she popped out he said 'let's call her . . .' And it was the name I wanted. He still thinks he came up with it to this day! wink

With DS1 he wanted to call him a horrible name that I really objected to so I found a name I liked which the name could be a nickname for and spent the next few months correcting everyone who abbreviated it so now he's only referred to by the 'proper' name

With DS2 I made a list of names and sent it to him by email (!) and he sent back the ones he liked (as he'd been really pissing me off coming up with stupid names and I'd have likely lamped him if we'd discussed it in person one more time!)
As it happens, he grew to love one of the names he had vetoed and I was very happy to use it.

So, after that long winded post, the moral of the story is brainwash him!!! grin

KristinaM Fri 02-Aug-13 11:22:21

LOL at a poster called Miss strawberry accusing us of being princessy

mimitwo Fri 02-Aug-13 10:48:45

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

MissStrawberry Fri 02-Aug-13 09:59:41

This is all very princessey don't you think?

I am sure you all expect the father to look after the child and provide for him/her yet not important enough to have an input in their names.

KristinaM Thu 01-Aug-13 23:44:56

No uterus, no opinion grin

pining Thu 01-Aug-13 23:42:45

I just bide my time till the birth, and lay there tired, drained, in pain, looking really sorry for myself cradling our little unnamed bundle of joy, kiss his/her little nose and gently say.....hello my beautiful Jack/Rosie/Moses. They can't argue at a time like that. I've named all 3 of mine that way.....and thats the RIGHT way! Perhaps i should mention that i am now a single parent......which makes the fact that they have the names i chose even more satisfying ;)

hawkmcqueen Thu 01-Aug-13 21:17:41

My DH is driving me up the wall because he has ZERO input to ideas but as all these other very useful men just keeps saying no to EVERYTHING!!! With NO alternatives, aaaaggghhh!!! I feel your pain. And as your DH named first by goodness it is your turn to name no 2! Ggggr, I'm in fightin form the nite hi!!!

MortifiedAdams Thu 01-Aug-13 19:53:56

Also want to know the name.

DH is similar - vetoes all my suggestions without even thinking on them and fails to suggest anything except Jesse James for a boy hmm

I am expecting dc2 and it feels like a "name" even though I dont know the gender. Im hoping once ive given birth he is so in awe he realises it is the right name.

Wishfulmakeupping Thu 01-Aug-13 19:47:50

Do what upthefrigg says grin

Btw what is the name? <nosey>

Duesoon0202 Thu 01-Aug-13 19:45:17

My husband is the same hardly suggests anything but then I find names I like and he's just like no don't like it then expects me to like his names very frustrating

Littleen Thu 01-Aug-13 18:59:04

What I have done is write down the names I like, got about 10-15 on each gender now, and then he can look through my list and say which ones he like :P (he is far more picky than me) However we luckily seem to agree quite well on this. If he isn't offering, he can't expect to have much input in the case!

Well if he isn't offering any,and is just vetoing and he got his choice last time....I reckon you just don't mention names to him again...

...Until seconds after you've given birth and at that point you say,

"Oh hello <insert favourite name>"

If he refuses then, LTB.

JollyHolidayGiant Thu 01-Aug-13 17:57:16

http://www.gro-scotland.gov.uk/statistics/theme/vital-events/births/popular-names/babies-first-names-2012/detailed-tables.html

That's the Scottish list of names for 2012. For DC1 I went through the top 300 picking ones I liked and made DH do the same. Then we compared and discussed the ones we agreed on.

Dunno if there's an English list and where to find it if there is.

FoFeeFiMum Thu 01-Aug-13 17:39:45

Sounds like it is def your turn grin. DH went with my choice for DS as he didn't dislike it (and all his suggests sounded a bit knobby with our surname).

With DD I really wanted a name he vetoed (I think basically because he hasn't heard it before - it is a classical but not faffy name just unusual nowadays - and he was under the impression it was a 'new' name). We ended up with a compromise choice (again as he made no other suggestions) and whilst I can't imagine DD being anything else, I don't LOVE her name and it is very fairly popular.

Then friends of ours chose to name their DD 'my' name (hadn't discussed with them so a complete fluke) a year or so later, and part of me couldn't help thinking "if only ..."

Mumblyboo Thu 01-Aug-13 15:56:20

the other difficult thing is he doesn't suggest any names. he just vetoes. He is now refusing to discuss.... now for me naming is a great way to distract from the hideousness of this pregnancy... i am having terrible MS in this heat and headaches from hell.... i think he is just being selfish.....

cartoad Thu 01-Aug-13 15:50:10

Just say that he has had his go, now it 's your turn. And if he doesn't listen, then JUST TELL HIM THAT IT IS YOUR TURN NOW. Very very loudly. grin

JollyHolidayGiant Thu 01-Aug-13 15:47:03

Can you not keep discussing it until you get one you both agree on? DH and I found it pretty easy last time but thus time round we've spent hours and hours trying to find something we agree on. With 3 weeks to go we've finally hit on two names we like (one boy name and one girl name).

Mumblyboo Thu 01-Aug-13 15:38:31

because its MY TURN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! smile

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