Giving DS the same name as ex?

(32 Posts)
ByTheWishingWell Sat 20-Jul-13 11:19:28

My DP and I are expecting a baby next month. We have kept the sex a surprise, and agreed upon a girls name months ago. We've really struggled to come up with a boys name that we both like- we have completely different tastes.

The only name we can come up with that we both really like happens to be the name of my first boyfriend, who I was with for a couple of years when we were teenagers. It was a very big deal to me at the time (first love, we lost our virginity to each other, etc), but was obviously a very long time ago, and we are not in contact anymore. My DP knows about the history, and is still quite keen to use the name if we have a boy.

I know that if we used the name, it would just become my DS's name, and I wouldn't make the connection to my ex. I'm a bit concerned though that people who knew me back then would find it very strange, as though I've pined after my ex all these years and am naming my pfb after him! I know this shouldn't be based on worrying about other people's opinions, particularly as I don't even live in the same area anymore and am not in touch with that any people from back then, but still very confused!

I do really like the name, but would love some opinions on whether it would be odd to use it?

SirChenjin Sat 20-Jul-13 20:33:27

I know! Granted, it is a lovely name, but DH really didn't get why I just about exploded at his suggestion. He didn't suggest it ever again grin

ByTheWishingWell Sat 20-Jul-13 20:49:12

wiggles- so you see my conundrum! I do love it...

Cru- that had worried me, I don't think I would have given it a second thought if it was a top ten name or something sad

SirChenjin- how far into the pregnancy was that? I think if DP suggested that at this stage it would probably cause a hormonal meltdown blush

Andanotherthing123 Sun 21-Jul-13 22:07:48

A friend of mine gave her son the same name as a friend of ours which we've always rather suspected she was secretly in love with. Did feel a bit weird, but her and her DH obviously didn't think so, so if you want to go for it.

MrsMongoose Thu 25-Jul-13 15:01:38

I couldn't do it. I'm a very sentimental person and the names of people I used to love or who broke my heart are too far. I also have a huge issue - will you not have said that name in bed at some point?

NoComet Thu 25-Jul-13 15:04:35

If I'd ever had a third DD she would have been DHs first girlfriends name.

BrianTheMole Thu 25-Jul-13 15:12:05

I gave ds the same name as one of my teenage boyfriends. I did think about whether it would be odd, but I liked the name. Since naming ds with said name, I have never associated it with teen boyfriends name or thought about him(until now) , its ds's name and thats that.

Selba Thu 25-Jul-13 15:13:56

absolutely fine. My ex husband has the coolest ever name. if I ever have another son, once I have picked myself up off the floor I will use that name

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