What the heck do i do with the surname Bate

(32 Posts)
Aoifebelle Thu 04-Apr-13 21:45:46

I have a lovely surname, one i have no intention of parting with even when I get the ring on my finger. I am minded for our off spring to have my OH's surname, but unfortunately this is Bate.What names can I come up with to soften the Bate?

OkayHazel Thu 04-Apr-13 21:48:04

Bate is fine!

ShatnersBassoon Thu 04-Apr-13 21:50:11

It's a decent-sounding name. I don't understand why you think it's unpleasant.

corblimeymadam Thu 04-Apr-13 21:51:30

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MissMud Thu 04-Apr-13 21:51:44

My Grandma's surname was Bate. She was Floretta - in case you needed ideas wink

Thisisanoutrage Thu 04-Apr-13 21:53:48

Alexander or Josephine

corblimeymadam Thu 04-Apr-13 21:53:53

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spottyparrot Thu 04-Apr-13 21:54:27

Hyphenate?

corblimeymadam Thu 04-Apr-13 21:55:40

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Give them your surname or double barrell.

your surname isn't master is it?

dontblameme Thu 04-Apr-13 22:25:56

I am a Bates and I hate it. Can't bear to hear it spoken. Hope to marry out of it (don't want to offend my family by changing it myself). I got the Master Bates jokes at school and I am female - boys get it worse! I know kids will pick on anything at the end of the day but I personally would never pass this surname onto my future kids.

Unami Thu 04-Apr-13 22:29:58

As long as no letters are addressed to your DS as Master.
Which they probably will be.

I would give the DCs your name TBH.

If you really want to go with your partner's then I would tend to avoid a first name with ends with an unstressed syllable or very soft sound as this will run the two names together and put emphasis on Bate. ie. Lucy Bate, Sophie Bate, Calum Bate.

Twentytotwo Fri 05-Apr-13 00:17:42

Give them your name.

joiemecconue Fri 05-Apr-13 00:21:49

if your name is nicer use that, I am imagining A. Bate, D. Bate at best and I'm sure you've already considered the worst

DIddled Fri 05-Apr-13 00:23:05

Not too bad! Christopher Bate/ Isabella Bate/ etc etc or double barrel- depending on your name? Look at me naming your unborn babies smile

Aoifebelle Sun 07-Apr-13 20:19:10

Thanks for the suggestions. I am toying with trying to get OH to change his name to Bale. One one consonant, but it makes the world of difference.

I love Floretta BTW.

Rookiebfcounsellor Sun 07-Apr-13 20:21:43

Edward James Bate

Alexandra Elizabeth Bate

lljkk Sun 07-Apr-13 20:22:14

Agree put 2-3 syllables together for first name. But really most the standard English names (like William or Thomas, Mary or Clara) will work, even their NNs work.

I'd avoid Kate as nn, is all.

Sanctimumious Sun 07-Apr-13 20:23:04

Bate is bad. Was at school with one and he was called MaSTEr Bate constantly. It only bothered him for the first three years.

so I would double barrel it with your name first so that it is sur name=bate not bate-sur name.

Aoifebelle Sun 07-Apr-13 22:11:32

My friends already call us Rebate. My surname begins with Re. Not really down with the double barrelling.

ZolaBuddleia Mon 08-Apr-13 10:47:33

I think you have to marry someone else. grin

Bue Mon 08-Apr-13 11:11:32

I can't work out what's wrong with Bate confused Sounds like a perfectly nice surname to me!

Sanctimumious Mon 08-Apr-13 11:16:18

At least op will be Mrs Bate and her dh mister. a dd Miss.
bue do you see yet!?

Sanctimumious Mon 08-Apr-13 11:17:30

ps @ AoifeBelle you will have to call your kids lovelysurname-bate
i don't think your husband would fight youtoo hard on that one in the circs.

Sanctimumious Mon 08-Apr-13 11:18:47

i like rebate! the words rebate and refund cheer me up enormously.

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