Should I (dad) join the brave new world?

(51 Posts)
Dadmaq Sat 30-Mar-13 19:02:29

Hi Mums, sorry to crash mums net but Dad here.
I need some guidance.
Already dad to a 3 year old with a name constantly in the top 10.
Next one is due in 2 weeks for the blue team and wifey and I can't agree on a name. I am mr safe. Safe names bring now expectation, judgment, or ridicule.

Mrs unsafe wants something that isn't 'boring' and says I need to get with the times. Something that is different but not so zaney

Anyway, long short, she wants Hugo. A name I haven't been able to fully commit to . I constantly hear myself in the situation of the supermarket or (hopefully) on the football sidelines shouting his name and everyone turning to look at me with "you called your kid Hugo? Phaah!"

Being welsh I wanted Huw, my son has a welsh middle name so I wanted to continue with the theme. Huw James. Mrs would like Hugo James. So I suppose a nn would be Huw. So both winners right? But to me what's the point in calling him Hugo if we are going to constantly call him Huw?

Should I step into the light and into the brave new world? Is Hugo a bit of a whacky name or am I just mr boring?

TreeLuLa Sat 30-Mar-13 19:04:25

Hugo is lovely, so is Huw.

Congratulations on another DS
smile

flowerygirl Sat 30-Mar-13 19:04:48

Not wacky at all! Thought you were going to say the name you picked was Banana Hammock or something!

Meringue33 Sat 30-Mar-13 19:07:37

Both names are great. Hugo is not wacky at all.

Floweryhat Sat 30-Mar-13 19:08:18

Hugo is adorable and fairly mainstream to be honest.

AnAirOfHope Sat 30-Mar-13 19:09:37

Both names are good but i personally dont have a preferance as they are so close.

Yama Sat 30-Mar-13 19:12:40

Hugo is a great name. Honestly.

Huw a terrific nn. You both get what you want. Win win.

TheFallenNinja Sat 30-Mar-13 19:14:01

Did you not agree a veto system?

I prefer Huw but Hugo is a good solid real name too. Congratulations smile

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 19:15:24

Fellow Welshie here!

Well, I remember when I first heard the name Hugo used in real life - it was in Hyde Park one summer and this braying arse of a woman was screaming it across a rose garden at some poor toddler with bushy hair. I made a mental note that Hugo was a name for posh folk.

HOWEVER. There has now been a mainstream film called 'Hugo', I've met other, more normal Hugos and it's fine.

But being Welsh I LOVE Huw. Outside of Wales, Huw will look a pretty brave choice though and Hugo will be far more common. So, your 'safe' option might actually end up being the interesting one.

Weird, huh?

DessieLou Sat 30-Mar-13 19:33:42

I agree with MoelFammau. To me Hugo is boring & Huw is the different cool name. So Huw gets my vote! grin

They're both fine.

Round here it's Hugh, and that's the old fashioned boring one. Hugo is the cool version.

ChasedByBees Sat 30-Mar-13 19:45:24

I love Huw but DD has a very welsh name. Hugo is a good name too. Not helpful. smile

Artichook Sat 30-Mar-13 19:48:35

Neither name would raise an eyebrow round here (London), both totally normal. There are probably more little Hugos than Huws but I know quite a few adult Huws.

delilah88 Sat 30-Mar-13 19:55:46

Hugo is a bit posh to me, like Hector. Huw is amazing though! Stand your ground. She is probably dazzled by all the naming websites / pregnant gossip into choosing a poncey name. Huw is way, way, way nicer.

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 20:05:28

Aw, I know a lovely Glasgow toddler called Hector. As grounded as they come. It suits him so much.

Toptack Sat 30-Mar-13 20:10:11

I love the name Huw - would use it myself if my first boyfriend hadn't been called it! Hugo has always sounded a bit pseudo-posh to me, even though it is trendy.

ScrambledSmegs Sat 30-Mar-13 20:10:14

Hugo Weaving was the baddie in the Matrix, and some big elf thing in LOTR <helpful>

I prefer Huw personally. In fact, as you're welsh... I wanted Hywel as middle name for potential DS. That's not safe, and sounds pretty awesome wink

delilah88 Sat 30-Mar-13 20:16:00

Moel Ok, I rescind my comment and instead say Hector is posh only with a southern accent wink

survivingwinter Sat 30-Mar-13 20:20:20

Love Hugo and also really like Huey. Not so keen on the spelling of Huw but like the name itself.

I don't think of Hugo as a 'posh' name although my DH vetoed it from my list on those grounds!!

MoelFammau Sat 30-Mar-13 20:35:57

Southern accents are the problem, I agree. Because Hugo in Cumbria would be pronounced Yoo-gor, which is a million miles away from 'Hewwwgeaux'.

wink

CheshireDing Sat 30-Mar-13 20:41:00

I love Hugo, it would have been pfb middle name had she been a boy.

Huw is nice but just makes me think of a news reader.

Do they both go with your Welsh surname equally?

sandberry Sat 30-Mar-13 20:45:23

Hugo is trendy, I've met seven newborns called it in the past few months (N London), it is one of those names where I now want to say "oh another one" when people announce it. I don't think it is poncy anymore, so need to worry about stares

Huw is far more unusual without being wacky, I'd go for Huw.

DontmindifIdo Sat 30-Mar-13 20:57:39

OK, how about this way of looking at it: Hugo - I only know that spelling, but outside of Wales, if someone said Huw to me, i'd assumed it was spelt Hugh. As someone who has an Irish spelling of a name that is far more commonly known with a different spelling, I'm very anti picking a name where it's highly likely they will spend a large percentage of their life either on the phone to a call centre correcting the spelling, or explaining they didn't get that important e-mail because it's been sent to the wrong address (with the other spelling), or arguing with an airline because someone in his office has booked the flights for him with the wrong spelling etc (drives me insane, I do know why my mum picked the spelling she did because I'm named after her Irish cousin, but really annoying)

If it's Hugo to be known as Huw, then at least for all formal things, he's going to be Hugo. Plus he'll have a lifetime of saying "no, it's not short for Hugo, it's just Huw".

So sorry, I'd let your DW win this one. It's not that different name that you would be calling your DS a name you don't like. Oh, and both aren't "out there" names, they are rather mainstream.

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