Would you use a name your DH didn't like?

(41 Posts)
curiousgeorgie Fri 15-Feb-13 09:01:15

I thought we were 100% set on a name for our DD... Have been since before I was pregnant.

Then last night DH tells me that actually he doesn't like it at all if he's being honest but knows I love it so I can still use it if I want.

What would you do? Not using it feels really sad, but how can I give DD a name her daddy dislikes??!

TheTiger Fri 15-Feb-13 17:33:26

Oh, I think it's a beautiful name. What a shame he's changed his mind. Could it be her middle name?

thunksheadontable Fri 15-Feb-13 17:40:47

I did.. but not purposefully. We hadn't fully decided and a few names were in contention, no vociferous objection but no names loved by him.. but when ds came out I just blurted out "Oh hello my little Rory" and there was no going back.. there was no malice or aforethought, I can tell you, and dh did get used to it!

WhichIsBest Fri 15-Feb-13 17:47:43

I wouldn't use a name my partner hated.

SanityClause Fri 15-Feb-13 19:14:14

When naming a child, decide on a name both of you agree on.

Don't tell anyone until your DC is born, the announce it as a fait accompli.

(Some people may still be rude about it, but you will know what to think of them.)

Harrysmummysarah1 Fri 15-Feb-13 19:43:36

No both must parents must like.
Any name me or dh vetoed or didn't like was out the question

Startail Fri 15-Feb-13 19:47:52

No, And personally I think Serafina, is a bit faddy.

Yamyoid Fri 15-Feb-13 19:51:58

Not quite the same but Dh was always quite 'meh' about dd's name before she was born. I always liked it and we couldn't agree on anything else. When she was born he was insistent that her name should be this one I liked but I felt uncomfortable. 24 hours later I agreed but either way one of us would end up with a name we didn't love. Dh chose her middle name, which was his grandmother's.

HecateWhoopass Fri 15-Feb-13 19:57:20

I like it.

but no, I wouldn't insist on a name my husband didn't like. Just as i wouldn't accept him trying to insist on a name I didn't like.

You're going to be calling your child this for the rest of your lives. you both have to love it. Either of you insisting on a name that the other doesn't like is unfair.

MidnightMasquerader Fri 15-Feb-13 19:57:41

What on earth are either of you doing telling people her name before she's born?!?

Honestly - it's the worst mistake you can make.

Seraphina is a lovely name. You will always get people ready to voice an opinion before the baby arrives, but if you announce the name as a fait accompli once she has arrived, you just won't get the same opinions at all, except from the worst sort of socially inept idiot.

Stop telling people her name!! There isn't a name out there that everyone likes, so of course some people won't like your choice. You can't reasonably expect everyone to. It's fine though, because it's not their baby. wink Keep it to yourself from here on in. smile

Harrysmummysarah1 Fri 15-Feb-13 21:38:19

Love the name seraphina my self smile

galwaygirl Fri 15-Feb-13 21:44:53

I would, especially if it was Seraphina

Thumbwitch Sat 16-Feb-13 00:15:12

I'll say it again - he needs to man up and ignore people who laugh at his potential choices. Why on earth does he give their opinion the weight he does? This is going to be your DD, yours and his together - YOU are the only ones whose opinion actually matters, IMO.

IF he still likes it but is being overborne by these rude people, then still use it; as others have said, anyone who still laughs at the name after being told that it is your DD's name is someone you don't need to know any longer.
If however, he has genuinely gone off it to the point where he'll cringe every time he says it, then find another one.

echidnakid Sat 16-Feb-13 05:25:58

I wouldn't insist on a name my DH didn't like but in this case I wouldn't be happy just giving it up because he's letting outside opinions give him the jitters. I'd be talking to him about how much weight he gives others' opinions versus how much he trusts his own judgement and yours.

If he really can't get past it then you have to find something else IMO but hopefully he'll see sense!

PurpleStorm Sat 16-Feb-13 15:27:39

I wouldn't insist on a name that DH didn't like.

But from what you say it sounds more as if he's decided that he doesn't want to use it because his family and friends don't like it.

JenaiMorris Sat 16-Feb-13 15:33:32

It's a lovely name.

You get bad reactions whatever you say you're going to call your baby; some rude fucker will say it's pretentious, boring or common and do this ===> hmm

JenaiMorris Sat 16-Feb-13 15:34:42

I backed down from Skywalker as a middle name on dp's suggestion though - he had a very valid point and I was a bit mad with pregnancy hormones grin

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