Help!! Rowen or Freya?

(56 Posts)
scubastevie Sun 03-Feb-13 16:32:10

I'm an awful mind changer. I change my mind about everything!! We had decided on Rowen for our baby girl but a friend recently mentioned it in a sort of I-don't-like-that-name sort of way. This is precisely why we didn't want to tell anyone as I don't want anyone poo-pooing it. So we also like Freya but it is so popular (no.25). So, do you like Rowen? Do you like Freya? Am I being silly about popularity (how many Freya's do you know?) any alternative suggestions please?? Thank you!!

echidnakid Tue 12-Feb-13 01:56:24

I had Rowan on my boys name list and like it a lot. It would definitely work on a girl though I think you'll get people saying "isn't that a boys name?" a fair bit which may or may not bother you. I think the poster above is right re people thinking the en ending is feminine because of the Welsh naming wyn/wen thing but that doesn't apply here so I'd go with the traditional Rowan.

I really like Freya and disagree that it will date as its "of an era" I think of it as more of a classic, timeless name. I don't know any but I don't live in the UK. That said, none of my UK friends are called Freya or have children called Freya either.

As a former "must be outside the top 100!" name Nazi, I have recently decided that is a ridiculous position and that loving the name tops all else. So as a born-again I now say just choose what you love and to hell with popularity and/or friends' opinions.

Both are lovely. For me Freya's only downside is it's popularity, and Rowan's is the ow/oe pronunciation (I prefer ow).

I know RowAn both as a boys and girls name.

I wondered if OP and maybe others had the -en ending in mind because of welsh names that have -wyn endings for the male version and -wen for the female (e.g. Gwyn/Gwen)

So in that case no-one would have a -an ending, all the boys would be Rowyn, and the girls Rowen!

lifesobeautiful Sun 10-Feb-13 20:51:01

I knew a stunning girl called Rowen - who ended up a model - so I've always liked it! Go for it.

Freja is top of our list so I would probably say that I prefer Freya best. smile

Love Rowan though, it's a great name and also quite close to the top of our list. grin

pinkgirlythoughts Sun 10-Feb-13 20:41:47

SIL is named Rowen (this spelling). MIL and FIL believe her to be the only person in the world with this spelling, and were really genuinely surprised when she said she'd recently met someone with a daughter named Rowhen (and no, that's not a typo either!). They kept saying "don't you mean Rowena? Or RowAn?"

FWIW, I like both Rowen and Freya smile

aufaniae Sun 10-Feb-13 00:51:58

Rowan

tabulahrasa Sun 10-Feb-13 00:42:25

I've always known Rowan as a girl's name (other than Rowan Atkinson) and the row rhymes with cow not toe. <is Scottish>

I like it.

GW297 Thu 07-Feb-13 19:57:05

I love Freya!

FranglaisMaman Thu 07-Feb-13 14:56:16

I vote for Freya just because it sounds more feminine to me than Rowan/Rowen and I like the girly albeit popular names (so shoot me).

However, don't let your friend's reaction put you off the name that YOU love. And if you love Rowan/Rowen then you should call her that and sod the nay-sayers smile. If that's always been your first choice, go with it.

jaggythistle Chile Thu 07-Feb-13 12:29:01

Rowan with an a. I knew a nice Freya, but she'd be my age - mid 30s. I know one baby girl Rowan.

burcham12 Thu 07-Feb-13 12:24:25

Rowan looks feminine. Rowen looks masculine. Please go with Rowan!

LarkinSky Wed 06-Feb-13 08:58:59

I know two preschool Rowans (girls) and one adult Rowan (male). All spelt with an 'a' - Rowan. It was on our baby names lists for both genders.

To me Rowen with an e looks misspelt. I really don't like Rowena, however.

Its quite interesting to put 'Rowan' in Facebook's search engine as you'll see an even mix of male and female Rowans come up. I like doing this to see what people with a certain name, around the world, look like.
Not many results for the Rowen spelling though - they all seem to be Rowenas.

Lostonthemoors Wed 06-Feb-13 08:16:41

I love Rowan smile and would spell it this way. I know one female Rowan (40) and two male Rowans (toddlers).

Funnily enough, all the parents are slightly boho/arty/musical.

Those were our top two names for dd1. We went for Rowan as I was put off by how common Freya is these days.

TenthMuse Tue 05-Feb-13 16:04:02

I think one problem with slightly more unusual names is that there will tend to be one or two well-known carriers of the name (in this case, Rowan Atkinson and Rowan Williams) who most people will automatically associate it with. So you'll therefore get comments like 'Rowan is a boy's name because of Rowan Atkinson'. That's why so many people favour more familiar, established names - if you say 'Kate', or 'Emily', for instance, people have many more associations to choose from, and won't form opinions of it based on a single person. I have the same problem when I say I like the name Elsa - people immediately say "You can't use that for a child because of that lion in 'Born Free'!"

AyeOopMoose Tue 05-Feb-13 15:23:29

Please don't listen to what anyone says and go for what you really like!

In your case Rowan see personally I prefer Freya as it's more feminine but then I'm not naming your baby!

shoobidoo Tue 05-Feb-13 11:09:06

Rowen or Rowena definately!

monica77798 Tue 05-Feb-13 11:02:37

I like Freya more than Rowen. I thought Rowen (Rowan?) was a boy's name. It will always just remind me of Rowan Atkinson.

scubastevie Tue 05-Feb-13 07:34:26

Lol not bothered if you know of other Rowans from non artsy families smile I thought Morgan was a girls name? Not keen though. It has def traditionally been unisex, and i like the link with the Rowan tree which is pretty. I never really wanted a unisex name but love Rowan; it's unusual enough but not very common whilst still pretty and can suit young and old. I think it could grow on people if they're not keen at first.
If you like Rowan, what's your vote on spelling?

BuntyPenfold Mon 04-Feb-13 14:19:24

Where do they come from gounglone?

goinglone Mon 04-Feb-13 14:03:32

I'm afraid the female Rowans that I know of (both big and small), most definitely do not come from 'artsy' 'alternative' families; quite the opposite!

GrumpyOldHorsewoman Mon 04-Feb-13 13:09:02

Please - anything but Freya (my most hated girl's name). I think of a really annoying woman on holiday once, whose DD (aged about 3) was crawling under everyone's tables and being badly behaved while her mother just whined "Freeeeyaaaaa" while doing nothing to distract her.
Now my cousin has named her baby Freya, much to my disappointment.

TenthMuse Mon 04-Feb-13 12:56:52

I'd disagree that Rowan's downmarket for a girl - all the female Rowans I've come across have been thoroughly middle-class, albeit often with somewhat artsy or 'alternative' parents (e.g. one had parents who followed Wicca). And historically I think it's been pretty much unisex (one of the few names that genuinely are), although possibly more so in Scotland than England.

badtime Mon 04-Feb-13 12:42:49

I think Rowan as a girls name is more traditional in Scotland.

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