Whatever name we decide on, someone close to us and the baby doesn't like it....

(27 Posts)
mummabug Fri 01-Feb-13 09:34:20

So, first we decided on Juno...several people's response was, "you can't call a girl/human Juno". And yes, it's sad but it matters to me because these people are very close to me and will be to the bubba.

Then I was convinced on Tabitha, it's cute, I like the nicknames even if they are cat like (what's wrong with cats anyway?), but Grandma made a massive scene..."it's a cats name!!!! it's horrendous, oh no no no!" DH also not keen so I abandoned that one.

Then I thought, maybe Lara - success, everyone likes it.........except DH! Oh crap. Moving on....

Matilda, a name everyone reacted well to, including DH. But then I discovered my Aunt (who again I am very close to) doesn't like it. She doesn't like the nicknames for it either, and now I am thinking, 'hmm, I'm not keen on the nicknames - Tilly/Tilda/Mattie'.

Maybe Juliet? Love it, but DH doesn't.

Yes, I'm a pleb. It shouldn't matter what others think. Tell me what a knob I am.

Don't tell anyone until baby arrives, then they can't say anything.

amazingmumof6 Fri 01-Feb-13 09:53:34

Acts 9:36 (KJV)
"Now there was at Joppa a certain disciple named Tabitha, which by interpretation is called Dorcas: this woman was full of good works and almsdeeds which she did"

We have a niece called Tabitha and she is gorgeous!!definitely go for it!!!!

I can't say I like Juno - there was that film about pregnant teenage girl, just don't like the association

also Matilda is lovely too!

whose baby is it, though?
call her what you like and sod the rest!grin

amck5700 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:25:00

Tell them you have definitely decided on Esmerelda and wont be swayed and then whatever you call her will be a pleasant surprise :O

Seriously though, stop telling people!! The only people who should be deciding what your baby is called is you and your husband - everyone else had the chance to name their own babies/pets etc.

All the names suggested are lovely, pick one you both like and announce it when the baby is born. They will love your daughter and grow to love the name, because it is hers. My mum disliked my younger son's name - she got over it pretty quickly and whilst it wouldn't have been her choice - she had 7 kids and her choices would not have been mine either!

FriggFRIGGisPoorlySick Fri 01-Feb-13 10:26:39

Oh for goodness sake you never ask opinions or even tell people the name in RL until after the baby is born.

Is not your aunts baby,or your mothers,they have had their turn at naming baby's,now it's your turn.
It only matters that you and your DH can agree on a name,not everyone else in your social circle.
You will never find a name to please everyone!

Once the baby is born,and she has been given the name you have choosen,no one will ever mention it again,it will be her name,and they will love it,because they will love Her.

peachypips Fri 01-Feb-13 10:28:01

Have your original choice, Juno. It's beautiful. Announce after the birth with a look that will challenge anyone to make a comment. No one should dare cross a new mum with hormones!

HeyHoHereWeGo Fri 01-Feb-13 10:28:30

STOP TELLING PEOPLE
This is your first act as a parent - so start as you mean to go on.
Confidently and quietly make your decision, which will turn out for the best.

I echo what they say. Do not tell anyone. It's your choice and also, all the associations currently held re that name will disappear as your "Juno" becomrs the predominant association with that name.

Good luck with it all.

smile

I was going to say what Heyho said. I think the process of choosing your baby's name is nature's way of preparing you for the resolve you need in parenting to do what you think is best for your DC and not give a flying f*8€ what anyone else thinks.

willyoulistentome Fri 01-Feb-13 10:36:11

You choose what YOU like. Half your elderly relatives will be dead within ten years so what does it matter what they think?

Sorry that was a bit blunt, I know,but.....

oddslippers Fri 01-Feb-13 10:36:29

For what it's worth I didn't like the names my sis choose for all three of her children, but they are her children and I love her and them so I smiled and got on with it. Over time I've grown to like the names too, your family need to grow up, it's entirely your and your dh choice.

amazingmumof6 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:39:29

what's wrong with Esmeralda? it means emerald in Spanish and both that and the name are beautiful!smile

but the idea is good, I used to say a boy will "Button" or a girl will be "Ribbon" - coz I love sewing! <cue shock faces>

they left it at that....

BigGums Fri 01-Feb-13 10:44:54

I think they are great names!! You'll never please everyone so you may as well go for your favourite.

amck5700 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:49:32

sorry amazingmumof6 I was struggling to come up with a name that people wouldn't like but clearly failed grin It's a bit of a struggle since all the "awful" old fashioned names are now popular - almost put Mavis......

HillBillySillyBilly Fri 01-Feb-13 10:49:33

There is no name out there that will be universally liked by everyone......that is why there are so many names out there! Pick a name that you and your dh love. BTW I love Juno, Tabitha and Matilda.

mummabug Fri 01-Feb-13 10:50:43

Thanks guys smile I will keep my mouth shut from now on. It's true, there's aalways someone that doesn't like a name, and once she's born they will HAVE to grow to like it, or not say anything!

I am one of those awful people that has to talk through everything with everyone I'm close to, and then I can't make up my mind! Must learn to just make my own decisions.....but that's a whole other story. Thanks everyone xx

amazingmumof6 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:52:53

our newest nephew is a week old, so saying "baby Matthew" is so weird, but not because of the name, but because he is a whole new person we haven't got used to yet! (gorgeous boy!)

and his parents are really struggling to get used to saying he/him/his after 3 girls!!!!grin

They are just as shocked that they have a boy as we were having when we had a girl after 5 boys! she's 9 months old, but I still find the whole "pink chaos" just unreal!

so yes, any name will be "strange" at first, but just call her what you want - and refer her to with that name from the moment she's born. you and the world will get used to it!

(just don't call her Feline, please)

NigelMolesworth Fri 01-Feb-13 10:54:43

YOUR baby, YOUR choice.

Don't tell anyone.

(I like your choices BTW grin)

amazingmumof6 Fri 01-Feb-13 10:55:35

amck I know, I know you meant something really unusual -and that's just it, nothing is that unusual anymore!grin

apart from "4real" or "Sick"

amck5700 Fri 01-Feb-13 11:16:53

amazingmumof6 Ha Ha - I am still waiting for L8on to kick off in the popularity stakes.

nicelyneurotic Fri 01-Feb-13 21:21:58

Tabitha is a fab name.

neolara Fri 01-Feb-13 21:26:56

Can I just say you have lovely choices in names. (I have a Lara Juliet.)

And yes, don't tell anyone until you've decided and your baby is born.

TimothyClaypoleLover Fri 01-Feb-13 23:32:07

You and your DH are naming your baby so stuff what anyone else thinks. Inlaws and my parents didn't like the name I called my DS but now love it because they love him. People can be very fickle about names.

farmersdaugther Sun 03-Feb-13 16:55:18

Stuff anyone else and pick the name you and DH like.

Love love Juno btw

smile

exoticfruits Sun 03-Feb-13 17:06:02

I never know why people discuss it with others first-announce it afterwards. I don't like Juno-but it is up to you entirely!

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