Help! My Dad has poisoned our name......

(84 Posts)
ineedanewmiddlename Sun 13-Jan-13 21:55:45

I need a new middle name. We had the first name Ava, middle name Florence. We both loved the name Ava Florence. I committed the cardinal sin, and told my parents our girls name. My Dad said Ava Flo, followed by Over-Flow. Dad has spoilt the name for me. My husband would still use the name, as he does not think middle names are ever used, and nobody else would come up with Over-Flow. I’m not taking the risk, the name has been tarnished.

It’s 35 weeks and we’re back to the drawing board. I should mention it took us 30 weeks to finally decide on Ava Florence, and I’m particularly difficult when it comes to names.

I have a few rules when it comes to the middle name:
- It must not end in an - a (Ava ends in an a)
- It must not end in an –ie or –y. I don’t like ie or y names.
- It must not start with a vowel, a G, or a T.
- It must be more than two syllables. Ideally I’d like a longer middle name, as we have chosen a short first name.

My husband is an inverted snob, and his rules are:
- It must not be posh or pretentious (it took me ages to convince him that Florence is a common name)
- It must not be more than three syllables

So far, we have ruled out the following names:

Ava Juliet
Ava Primrose
Ava Delphine
Ava Seraphine
Ava Constance
Ava Clarice

Your help would be hugely appreciated.

cosykins Sun 13-Jan-13 22:27:00

Ava Felicity?

Ava Elizabeth sounds lovely.

MmeLindor Sun 13-Jan-13 22:28:57

I have been so confused by your list of rules, that I can't think of a decent suggestion.

Why don't you just try out some names, and see if you like them, rather than sticking to the rules? Doesn't that make it awfully complicated.

<snort> at Ava Banana

mumsywoo78 Sun 13-Jan-13 23:15:34

Ava june
Ava rose
or maybe even give her your name as her middle name u never know it may even start a new trend! smile

BlueBowTie Sun 13-Jan-13 23:37:08

Ava Frances,
Ava Lily,
Ava May,
Ava Calypso,
Ava Cleo,
Ava Kate,
Ava Rosalind?

RedLentil Sun 13-Jan-13 23:51:45

Ava Florence is a lovely name. smile

The first time my mum met my dh he mentioned he had been called 'timburke-too' at school, and she said. 'God! And all those people shouting 'timber!' at you like you we're a lumberjack.'

After a long pause dh confessed that she was the first and only person to think of that version of his name. grin

I suspect your dad may be similarly on his own with his theory ...

amck5700 Mon 14-Jan-13 00:16:06

I know it doesn't fit any of your criteria, but Ava Jane sounds lovely

chroniclackofimagination Mon 14-Jan-13 01:00:04

I love Ava Elizabeth. That would have been DS2's name had he been a girl..

Ava Margot?
Ava Francine?
Ava Petra?
Ava Georgina?

Yamyoid Mon 14-Jan-13 01:13:47

My mum made a comment about the name I was thinking about for dd which really put me off; it was a rhyme. But it was the only name Dh and I agreed on and I think I'd already named her in my head. So we went with it any way and now I'm glad we did. Try and put it out of your mind, perhaps? Ava Florence is lovely.

PuffPants Mon 14-Jan-13 01:15:42

It really doesn't matter. Hardly anyone outside of her family will ever know or care what her middle name is. Use it to honour a female relative instead. A grandmother or great-aunt. I think it's nice for children to carry family names.

lollydollydrop Mon 14-Jan-13 01:29:54

I agree with OP in that I dont think I could get it out my head.. my dad is a massive joker and I think he would actually resort to calling the child 'Over-Flow' at times just to be 'funny'!!! Could you talk to your dad about how you feel? I would urge you not to act in haste/emotion and do something now that you regret later.. Is there any special connection to the name Florence? Did you check the initials dont refer to anything awful?

I love Ava Elizabeth- classic.

mum2day Mon 14-Jan-13 08:02:43

Ignore your DF for goodness sake! Go with the name you liked. If not...

Ava Biscuit (very mumsnet)

Ava Cuppatea.

Ava Barney (named after the row with your dad)

fuckadoodlepoopoo Mon 14-Jan-13 08:06:00

I think you are being a bit silly about not using the name you like, it will soon enough fade from your mind what your dad said.

ILikeSquirrels Mon 14-Jan-13 08:22:05

Ava Constance
Ava Jennifer
Ava Nicole (Nicolette)
Ava Kathleen

JimbosJetSet Mon 14-Jan-13 08:26:32

Ava Violet?

emblosion Mon 14-Jan-13 14:07:49

Ava Rose
Ava Louise
Ava Jane

But if you love Ava Florence, use it!

emblosion Mon 14-Jan-13 14:09:04

Ava Gardner was Ava Lavinia btw...

delilah88 Mon 14-Jan-13 14:10:02

Ava Jane is gorgeous!

delilah88 Mon 14-Jan-13 14:11:26

And Ava Louise. Could be called Ava - Lou (but that leads back to your dreaded plumbing/toilets theme!)

What about a weirder middle name, like Ava Star or Ava Spring? Ava May, Ava June?

DontmindifIdo Mon 14-Jan-13 14:16:25

How about 2 middle names, so something between Ava and Florence?

How about:
Ava Ruth Florence
Ava Jane Florence
Ava Grace Florence
Ava Joy Florence

I know what you mean about ruining it, this is why nothing will be said to my parents about name choices until it's a done deal.

ineedanewmiddlename Mon 14-Jan-13 18:46:20

I can’t get Over Flow out of my head. So Florence is a no no.

I did think about Ava Rose Florence, but DH thinks two middle names pretentious, and a pain in filling forms.

We’d discussed honouring a family member, but couldn’t agree on a family member, and one who’s name we liked. We decided to just choose a pretty name.

The list of rules, was just an idea I had last night. I agree the list is very anal. I loved Florence, and I loved the –ence ending, and how it sounded with Ava and our surname. I do dislike –ie and –y endings, I’m not sure why. G and T avoided due to our surname. As I was going through name lists, I found myself disliking –a ending names with Ava, and vowel names with Ava. It sounds worse, when I try to explain myself!

I have had another think about names, and I do like Ava Rosanna. Yes it breaks the –a ending name rule. I’m nothing if not contrary. blush

I’ve not broached Ava Rosanna with my husband yet. He’s not back from work, and after speaking to him on the phone, he’s had a rubbish day, so I might leave it till he’s in a better mood. I suspect he’ll consider it posh, but I might try persisting, like I did with Florence.

I don’t like his choice of boys middle names, but happy for him to have this name (DH’s father figure was his maternal Grandad, who he loved and adored. Losing his Grandad was like loosing a parent, and he’s always wanted to honour his Grandad. Although his Grandad had a name on the lines of Ernest, I couldn’t possibly say no. We even changed one of the first names we liked, as the initials spelt MEG).

wiltingfast Mon 14-Jan-13 19:02:37

Ava Diane?

Anonymumous Mon 14-Jan-13 20:06:47

If you're prepared to break the 'a-ending' rule, how about Ava Miranda? That flows beautifully to my mind.

ineedanewmiddlename Mon 14-Jan-13 22:04:16

Well DH does not like Ava Rosanna.

I'm going to try out Ava Coraline, see what response that gets.

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