Me and DP want a baby, however he does not agree that the baby should have both of our surnames.
I see it as both of us passing on our names to be carried on. DP sees it as neither of us passing on our names and the baby having a different surname to us. He says he could understand more if I was arguing for the baby to have just my surname, but I don't want that either!!
Everyone we know IRL thinks I'm weird for wanting the baby to have both of our surnames. They don't understand why I don't want it to have just DP's surname. But then they think you're not properly married if you don't want to change to your DH's surname.
DP doesn't really want me to have both surnames if we get married either. He hates the idea of me not just taking his surname. He says it offends him that I don't want to have his surname but if that's what I want to do then as a compromise he'll agree to that as long as the children can have just his surname.
Fed up of arguing over it, it gets brushed under the carpet for so long and then out it comes again. Really getting me down :( Should I just go with his compromise?
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nappyaddict · 11/01/2013 01:23
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