Am I setting my daughter up for a lifetime of teasing?!

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unsurealways Wed 03-Oct-12 11:19:54

Hello. Long time lurker, first time poster.
My first child is due imminently. I have a list of names that i'm taking to the hospital with me, and I love them all equally. I'm hoping that once she arrives she just 'IS' one of the names as that would make my life so much easier lol.

I'm a bit worried that my taste is a bit ... out there. I love all my names, and think they all suit what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be. But I wouldn't want her to be bullied for being to weird or poncy sounding.

So here's the list. I'm after honest opinions on whether these names sound weird, poncy etc. Which is nicest/most accessible and which you prefer.

Indigo Iris Bloom - Indie.
Lilith Emmanuella - Lily, but only Lilith at home.
Raphaela Marina - Raffie.
Sabine Allegra June - I love both sa-BEAN and sa-been-eh pronounciations, and am still unsure which I love the most.
Salome Willow - May.
Calliope Saoirse - Callie. (kal-eye-oh-pee / seer-sha)
Persephone Joy - Effie.

shoppingtrolley Thu 04-Oct-12 11:01:26

Yes, you are. Just give her one long name, a sensible middle name and your surname. Raphaele is lovely -- I met a woman called this and she wore it well.

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Thu 04-Oct-12 11:03:16

i know you're aware of the background, but really? the rape of the sabine women? salome? a child given by her mother to be fucked in exchange for continued power? yuck. if you passed either of those two along would think you were a bit weird tbh, not your child.

TittyWhistles Thu 04-Oct-12 11:04:05

Love Salome. Love Lilith.

I'm not helping but my favourite poncey names for girls are Callista (with emphasis on 'Cal') and Phaedre.

shoppingtrolley Thu 04-Oct-12 11:08:16

But Lilith Emanuella is a disaster! After she's coped with the cultural baggage of biblical Lilith she has to cope with all the suggestions of French softcore porn!

AitchTwoOhOneTwo Thu 04-Oct-12 11:09:15

(not to mention Dr Frasier Crane's ex... wink)

JustFabulous Thu 04-Oct-12 11:10:02

"what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be."

I think you need to wipe that from your mind as children are their own personalities and you might be in for a shock.

Having spent all my single life having to spell my first name, and now my married life spelling my surname, I would say please think about giving your child a name that the majority of the world can pronounce and spell.

nickeldaisical Thu 04-Oct-12 12:05:50

Indigo is a colour in the rainbow.

there is nothing negative about it!

It's like Violet

nickeldaisical Thu 04-Oct-12 12:07:37

of the list I like best :

Indigo
Raphaela
Allegra Willow
Calliope Saoirse
Persephone Joy

Persephone i think is the best, though.

telsa Thu 04-Oct-12 13:40:28

Love Sabine - both pronunciations. Salome is neat too, as is Perspehone. What about Antigone, in that vein.

sparkle12mar08 Thu 04-Oct-12 14:20:49

Honestly? I think they're all bloody awful with the sole exception of Sabine. They are wierd, they are poncy sounding, and yes, they are ripe for teasing especially given the details of your location in later posts. But it's not us that have to decide, it's you, and if there's one thing I've learnt over the years, it's to trust my own judgement smile And despite the response here, few people are so breathtakingly rude as to say to your face in real life, any of what we've said here, especially if you just announce her name after she's born. You might get a few "That's... interesting"s but if you love it, that won't matter.

mintymellons Thu 04-Oct-12 14:24:02

Love Persephone (nn Percy) and Indigo. Like all others except Lilith. Go for it. I love unusual names!

HappyJoyful Thu 04-Oct-12 14:28:04

Saorise... meaning freedom, also Sinn Fein monthly publication which put friend of mine off.

OwlBabies Thu 04-Oct-12 14:38:51

Just on the abbreviation/nickname thing: I don't understand why some people are saying that you can't choose what your child's name is shortened to. My DD1 (now 9) is almost always called by the shortened version of her first name - we chose what we wanted to shorten it to, and how we wanted to spell it, and that's what we introduced her to everyone as when she was born. No-one's ever tried to call her anything else (even though there are other possibilities). So I think you'd be absolutely fine to say her name is Persephone (say), "but we call her Effie". And when she gets older she can choose whether she wants to introduce herself with the full name or the abbreviation. (My DD always goes with the abbreviation.)

ditzydrawers Thu 04-Oct-12 15:32:56

I know a baby Indigo. Gorgeous. Wouldn't associate it with anything negative.

TittyWhistles Thu 04-Oct-12 15:44:11

I actually think poncey names sound better in small communities, deepest darkest northern locations.

Where I grew up in yorkshire there was an Emerald, a Cordelia, a Zinnia a Hermione and a few Annabells, plus loads more (and that was just the boys grin)

They sound a bit desperate in Home Counties and Fancy London.

About Salome - my DD1, who was named after Queen Salome Alexandra, has never had any problems of teasing or real issues with her name (though you should be aware there are multiple ways to pronounce it. The English way is typically Sah-loh-may, but as it originates from the Hebrew word Shalom so some pronounce it like Shalom without the h).

The only real issue we've had tend to come from adults wanting to short it (which she will have nothing to do with, she loves her name). I've only had one person mention the other more notorious Salome (my DM), and I simply told her about DD1's her real namesake and the fact that that character is never given any name to her in the Christian texts but by Josephus (who was paid by the Romans to discredit the former monarchy and an often disreputable source) and has been used happily by many for centuries regardless with it's lovely meaning.

LizLemon007 Thu 04-Oct-12 16:45:52

I picked up on the 'what a daughter of mine would probably grow up to be like' comment as well.

My ten year old is fearless, and I am cautious. We're both sociable but she's a little bit friendly with loads of people, I have always had a few close friends. She doesn't like the things I like. She's argumentitive, always challenging me, always negotiating. I never thought she would grow up to be like this!
Also, as she is mixed race (1/4) I never thought she would have fair hair and blue eyes. You just can NOT tell what your daughter will grow up to be like. And your comment reminds me that I was going to give my dd a name that meant dark. I thought about spanish names or greek names as I thought those would suit her, and I dismissed names like Greta and Kirsten.

DidYouSmashHerShireHorses Thu 04-Oct-12 19:47:26

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DidYouSmashHerShireHorses Thu 04-Oct-12 19:54:49

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