12 weeks scan- neck 5.7 thick, CVS done

[IzAbE1A]

Hi, I am 39y/o, we have one healty 4 y/o and then we've had 2 miscarriages, now I am pregnant again and yesterday I had my 12 weeks scan, we found out that baby neck is 5.7 thick. I thought that I understood what this may mean, we were devastated.... They have done my CVS and results going to come on Wednesday. We've been keep thinking about what results can change now, if something can make us feel better on day of results, but then I came on mumsnet and I've read many positive posts, about how this all can actually go, and that there is a still hope! Results can come back clear and even if there will be high risk - I can have a hope that baby will be born completely healthy!! Problem is that everyone in hospital; nurses and doctors etc keep saying: I am sorry, I am really sorry... it made me feel that is allready decided, like they know for sure - but NO - they dont and also they said that majority of couple decide about termination of pregnancy. Well, we don't belong to majority, but still everything is do scary and shocking. Feel like going crazy, feeling down and few moments after going extremely happy, my husband turned of, there is no much emotional support and much explanation from staff in hospital, they leave you with huge news, feeling sorry for you, uneducated .... left .... thank you all for reading and please share your experiences in comments, positive ones would be highly welcome... please

[bikeandrun]

My friend went through this, very bad nuchal fold score, cvs fine. No personal experience but fingers crossed for you.

[Devilishpyjamas]

Good luck. I know a few with bad nuchal but fine on further testing or birth (if they didn't do further testing). It's by no means a foregone conclusion judging by others experiences.

Don't be afraid to stand your ground if you are offered a termination & don't want it. Judging by your post above you may well not.

[SaggyAndLucy]

Holding your hand OP. Did you get your results?

[IzAbE1A]

I've had results today. News is not good att all. Diagnosed trisomy 18. We are devastated.

[MumOfTheMoment]

I'm so sorry.

[Newlywed56]

Hope you are ok

[SaggyAndLucy]

I'm so sorry. x

[Devilishpyjamas]

I'm sorry Iz

[TheDisillusionedAnarchist]

I am so sorry. I am currently 35 weeks pregnant with dd who has trisomy 18. I know this is devastating news and don't know what your plans are but really happy to talk if you would like.

[TheDisillusionedAnarchist]

I would also say take your time to make the decision about what you want to do. Trisomy 18 is a severely life limiting condition but it is not universally 'incompatible with life' as is often said.

While many babies are miscarried or stillborn, of survivors a third live a month, 8% a year, 1% to 10 years and I know of people with trisomy 18 in their 20s and beyond. Yes they have profound disabilities but their quality of life is almost universally good. The survival stats are also on the background of no treatment, survival is much improved for babies offered active treatment as a baby without t18 would be. there is around 25% improbable in survival to a year.

Equally termination is a choice many parents make and is equally valid. I have heard ARC are great for talking through options. We didn't contact them but did contact SOFT UK and also joined the Facebook trisomy groups but be warned they are very religious and often anti abortion so may not be what you want right now.

Take care. I hope you have supportive people around you and the medic team are also looking after you well.

[KittyandTeal]

I'm so sorry. Our dd2 had T18 we decided on a tfmr. Have a good think about what you want to do next. It is devastating news but you will get through it (not get over it, that won't happen)

I am more than happy to answer any questions you have. I would second disillusioned, arc are amazing.

I would also warn against soft UK until you've made a decision. I found them after I'd had my tfmr and was looking for support for parents who had lost a baby to T18, some of the posts were upsetting if you have decided on a termination.

Whatever decision you make it will be the right one for you and you will not be judged here. for you

[KittyandTeal]

Just to add, I have been following your post but didn't want to add my story as it wasn't the positive story I think you needed at the time. Now you have had your results, like I say, I'm more than happy to chat.