anhydramnios at 20 weeks

(14 Posts)
Jemma2907 Wed 23-Apr-14 13:45:33

Hello,
I was just wondering if anyone had been in a similar position to me and can give me any advice or support.
I had my 20 week scan yesterday when I was 20+3 and they were unable to do pretty much any measurements because there was no amniotic fluid surrounding the baby. I've been referred to Kings college hospital in London and have an appointment for tomorrow. I've googled what having no amniotic fluid means for my baby, I know it's unlikely I will have a positive outcome and my Husband and I are trying to prepare for that. I wondered if anyone has any experience if what I will go through from this point on though with regards to scanning, tests. My baby's heart is still beating, I can't imagine having to terminate when my baby is currently surviving regardless of circumstance.
Any help would be appreciated.

Hope26 Wed 23-Apr-14 20:08:59

Hi Jemma I have no idea what your diagnosis is. Just be brave and your baby is still alive and heart is beating! Speak to your doctor and ask lots of questions. I am having my own issues with a serious diagnosis, I hope yours is nothing serious, stay positive and pray

Jemma2907 Thu 24-Apr-14 09:22:08

Hope, thank-you so much for your reply and so sorry that you are going through something similar. I hope you have lots of support in RL. I've shut myself away a bit to be honest. None of my friends know what's going on yet and work only know minimal. My manager realises I won't be back for a while though.
It's likely I'll give birth in the next week or so to an Angel and I'm so scared. This is my first pregnancy and we'd been trying for 3 years. I can't help but feel like a failure.

HappySmileyFace Thu 24-Apr-14 12:31:15

So sorry you are going through this Jemma. I have no real useful advice but just wanted to say be kind to yourself. Please don't feel like a failure -sometimes life doesn't go according to plan does it.

Jemma2907 Thu 24-Apr-14 19:51:14

Thanks Happy. I'm on my way home from the specialists now. I've been told our baby has no functioning kidneys and due to the lack of amniotic fluid, the lungs and bones will not develop, therefore will not survive outside the womb. I'll be induced at my local hospital in the next few days. I was given the option of having an injection to stop the baby's heart immediately but couldn't bare the thought if it. For now I'm with my baby and I'll treasure my time.

Hope26 Thu 24-Apr-14 20:40:22

I'm so sorry to hear this Jemma. What a painful time for you. Thinking of you. You are a strong lady and this will make you stronger in the end. If you want to talk feel free to message me.

clareyfarey Thu 24-Apr-14 20:44:07

Oh Jemma how heartbreaking. I have no experience of what you're going through, but wanted you to know you're in my thoughts x thanks

HappySmileyFace Fri 25-Apr-14 03:45:01

So sorry to hear this Jemma. What a tough situation you are in. You will get through this - in a similar situation a quote that kept me going was "the darkest hour is just before the dawn". I knew I just had to put one foot in front of the other and take it a moment at a time. Please make sure you have some support. I am so sorry this has happened to you and I can imagine just how loved this baby must be.

zen1980 Fri 25-Apr-14 22:01:12

Jemma just wanted to say thinking of you. We have experienced the exact same situation as you for the exact same reasons, and our gorgeous boy was born dreaming on 24.04.13. Stay strong for each other, pm me if you want to ask anything xxxx

Jemma2907 Mon 28-Apr-14 10:54:52

Thank-you ladies for your kind words. Zen, I probably will get in contact later on in the week if that's okay, I'm so sorry that you've been through this already. I'm currently at the hospital and have had my first internal tablets to get induction moving. They're being very lovely here but I'm so scared. Can't wait for the pain bit to be over and just wish it didn't have to start in the first place.

zen1980 Mon 28-Apr-14 20:06:20

Take each day as it comes, be kind to yourself. I remember how scared I was and would have done anything to go home my poor dh nearly had to lock me in the room at one point! A lovely saying that sits with me is 'You never know how strong you are until being strong is the only choice you have'. There are no words to take away your pain, I am thinking of you xxx

HappySmileyFace Tue 29-Apr-14 12:42:41

Hope you are doing ok Jemma

Jemma2907 Tue 29-Apr-14 14:04:17

I'm okay thank-you. We had our angel at 4.45am this morning and she's beautiful. The hospital have been really good and very caring. They organised a lady who came and took photos of us holding her and the chaplain came and blessed her. Both our parents came to meet her too. It's very surreal though, like it's not really happening. I'm sure it will hit me soon x

zen1980 Tue 29-Apr-14 20:53:14

Hi Jemma glad you have managed to share your experience and had some time with your princess. I found the whole birth part the bit I was most proud of an our gorgeous boy and is the part I look back on and smile about.
Hope your taking some time for yourself xxxx

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