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Antenatal tests

amnio results back

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mrsbigz · 23/03/2011 19:44

hi ladies,

well i'm afraid that it was not the news i was hoping for :(
the hospital rang with our results this afternoon and confirmed that the baby tested positive for down syndrome. right now i can't think clearly about anything - i am still going to go to the heart scan on friday to see what that can tell us about the baby, and the hospital are still clearly worried about the raised nuchal measurement (now being referred to as a cystic hygroma) - and what that could also mean for the babys health longterm.
right now we have no idea how to handle this news. i know it isn't the worst news in the world, however with 2 young boys to also consider it makes everything we are thinking about that much harder. thank you so much for the support and prayers you've given me over the past few weeks. i may not be on here much in the near future as we come to terms with the diagnosis and what that means for the baby and also our family.

kate xxx

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RememberToPlaywiththeKids · 23/03/2011 20:30

I really have no idea about CHs and Down syndrome at all but i wanted to give you a big hug and say that whatever you decide is the right thing. You must be tearing yourselves inside and out over this. Do call the Down Association and ARC as they may be able to shed some realistic light on the CH part in terms of how that affects the person - if that would be helpful to you.

Take good care of yourself x

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WipsGlitter · 23/03/2011 21:07

I have a DS who has Downs. Pleas pm me if you have any questions. I'm sure you are in total shock. We had no prenatal testing done so only found out at birth.

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Trickysue · 23/03/2011 21:16

I am so so sorry that you are having to go through this and cant imagine how you must be feeling. Be strong and you will make the right choice for you and your family - we are all here for you and sending you the biggest hugs. xxxxx

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Sparklies · 23/03/2011 21:27

Oh no, I am so sorry you did not get the news you were hoping for and you're now in an upsetting position with such a hard decision to make. I can't imagine how you must be feeling - big unmumsnetty hugs to you.

Give yourself the time you need and be gentle with yourselves too, whatever you decide. You'll find a lot of support here no matter what your decision ends up being. If you're genuinely on the fence then it's definitely worthwhile asking around in various forums with any questions you may have about either choice. From my own lurkings all over the Internet, I've seen there is never a bad question to ask and everyone is always very kind.

I second ARC as well - wonderful charity :)

Sending you strength for the hard choices ahead.

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RememberToPlaywiththeKids · 23/03/2011 22:25

oh yes, I forgot to add that DS has DS and a cardiac defect. He is 6 weeks old. I only have 6 weeks experience but I can try and answer any questions re the cardiac business if that's of any use... for what it's worth, so far, apart from being super sleepy at the beginning, he's just like any other baby and is a total poppet!

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hellymelly · 23/03/2011 22:34

I'm so sorry that its not the news you were hoping for.My dds don't have Downs so I can't offer practical help or advice,all I can suggest as gently as possible,is that although the pressure is there to make a choice as quickly as possible,try and give yourself time and don't be rushed into anything. Personally I wouldn't have terminated for Downs ,and siblings do just accept each other and love and protect each other whatever the label,but I am not you of course and I realise you are in the worst place now,having to make that choice.I'm just wishing you all the best with whatever you decide. ((hugs))

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Cherrybug · 24/03/2011 08:42

I'm so very sorry to hear your news. Just wanted to say that no-one can ever truly say what they would or wouldn't do until they are in this position. And it's a terrible position to be in. Once you have the diagnosis and medical facts you suddenly have this huge responsibility to make a decision and it has to be what's best for you, your baby, your family and taking in all your circumstances at this point in time. In that respect there is no wrong decision and whatever you decide will be right for your family. Take your time and see what the heart scan shows on Friday and as others have said ask for information and advice from ARC and the Downs Association. I hope you have lots of RL support. Be gentle with yourself. Cherry x

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ghansell · 24/03/2011 13:25

Sorry to hear you got not such great news. Wait and see what they say at the heart scan. Are they going to scan you again at the hospital to see if the hygroma shrinks or enlarges? Whatever you decide will be a hard one as you have to think long term and about how it will affect your family.

Take care.
x