Feel so negative

[kmummy]

Reading stories on here it's shows the nuchal can mean nothing at times - I'm feeling so negative and that will get bad news after our amino in two weeks - this has to be the hardest things in the world , I have a baby growing inside of me and it could all be over in a couple weeks :(

[jeffily]

Oh kmummy I felt exactly the same. It's such a hard time, but the horrible truth is that the NT is a soft marker for problems and the odds that they have given you are the reality- for you it is the 1 in 20 of women of your age, with your blood results and the NF measurement you had, will be carrying a baby with Down's or some other problem. I know it seems easy for me to say from the other side of it, but it really does mean that 19 in 20 of them will NOT be. It is far more likely that your baby is fine, than that it is not.

I totally believed that we would have a bad outcome, even minutes before the phone call I was imagining my reaction when I got the news. I know our odds were not as high as yours, but try to keep faith that there is still a very good chance your baby will not have Down's.

Really, really thinking of you honey. You've got through a week already. You can do it. xx

[kmummy]

Thank you for the reply hun - I've had two days of feeling so positive for it to all come crashing down around me today :(

I'm already imagining that call, and I can only ever see it being bad news, I'm not sure if I can even take it, dh may have to do it as I cannot trust myself to not break down :(

I think today is a bad day, I feel angry were in this situation, angry I have to make a choice over a little life, angry that this miracle feels tainted constantly - I really hope I can dust myself off, your nothing but an inspiration so thank you x

[ClareZee]

Hi,

Sorry to hear you're having a bad day. I think it's only natural to feel very up and down at a time like this - and angry at times - I know we both did. We're through the first hurdle but I'm still worried about the full chromosome report and extra scans we have in a few weeks time.

This is our first baby and it has taken some of the magic away if we're completely honest but all we can do is try to stay as positive as possible. It has certainly made us reassess our priorities and what is really important.

I know we'll have our wobbles still. Be kind to yourself. When we were waiting for our first results I used a good book to stop my mind racing - reading kept my brain busier than anything else.

Hope you feel better tomorrow. I'm back at work after a week off and feel a bit aprehensive about that at the moment but hoping it will make the days go quicker.

Take care.

XXX

[kmummy]

Thank you Claire - this is mumto4 from BE - I guess its not helping knowing we were going to have the CVS, my wait wouldnalmost be over now :(

Everything crossed your full results are fine too xx

[Iloveadsxx]

Please don't feel negative, There are many success story's on here that got me and my partner through the same situation.

We had a 1:21 chance of the baby having downs, And only a 1:31 of the much rarer chromosome problems. I think the hardest thing was waiting for the results, It took 12 days for ours. But they came back fine. I wouldn't have got through it without my partner, and without reading success stories on here.

If you ever need to talk to someone i would be happy to talk, just keep strong, :)