Just had nuchal fold. Baby has 5mm of fluid and an abdominal abruption, which could be associated with chromosonal abnormalities. We're waiting for blood test results and rescanning in a week to see what is going on with the tummy. I'm devastated.
We have a gorgeous DD (16mo) and lost a baby before her to hypoplastic left heart syndrome- she was born and died at 23 weeks gest. I was prepared for bad news with my last DD, but this time I just thought we must have had all the bad luck we were due and that everything would be fine. My heart is breaking again. How can this be happening to us again?
We don't have all the information yet, but I am so scared. I'm scared that we will decide to go for the CVS and it will hurt me. Or the baby will be ok but I will lose it because of the procedure. And DH is wonderful and honest and knows himself well and has already said that he would not want to go ahead with a pregnancy when he knew that the baby had downs, but I can't imagine terminating another pregnancy. I feel so frightened for us- if the baby does have Downs is our wonderful, precious relationship doomed because if we don't terminate he'll not be able to forgive me, and if we do I'll never be able to forgive him? It's so unfair. I'm not sure I can cope with it again. I thought that last time had showed me how strong I was and that now I could deal with anything, but I never imagined that I would be here again. Waiting, crying, feeling sick. I just want to curl up in a corner and weep until I sleep. My baby, my precious little baby.
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Please come and talk to me, I think I'm actually going to fall apart this time
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jeffily · 18/08/2010 09:15
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