Hello all, sorry for the long post in advance. I had my first baby DS 9 days ago after a traumatic 3 day induced labour which ended up with forceps and episiotomy after my baby's heartbeat was dropping as te cord was around his neck. I also had a longer stay in hospital as my heartbeat was too high after he was born.
My issue is my husbands parents. I never had a positive relationship with his mum - she's very controlling and a passive aggressive person. I've never argued with her but husband knows how insecure and belittled she makes me feel through constant put downs and trying to take over.
Since I've been home his parents have come by unannounced every night (they live 5 mins drive away). She wants to be called mum, wtf?! Ive had to bite my tongue all week in how she makes me feel. When my family came to visit she answered every question about my boy and acts as if he's hers, it's as though she knows more about my son than I do. She's trying to control him by picking him up when I just put him down after a feed to sleep, she even asked us to change his name last night because she doesn't like it. I'm having trouble bonding with my son as I feel like all I've done is provide them with a grandson so I can bugger off now. It's all about my baby in their family, no one has asked how I'm feeling...pretty crap and now very insecure.
I'm now at the point where I dread the door bell ringing, it fills me with fear and anxiety.
I've tried talking to my husband telling him how I feel and that I need space, but he doesn't see his mum as doing anything wrong and can't understand why I'm feeling so low and been crying non stop the last 2 days.
As a result we've had a big argument and he now wants a divorce. I'm so upset, I feel so lonely and claustrophobic and don't know what to do. My family live 2 hours away so it's not as though they can come and help me recover or support me
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2014MrsH · 15/12/2014 14:49
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