No one wants to help!

(8 Posts)
lala2605 Mon 02-Jun-14 20:57:55

Just wanted some advice. My son is 10 months old and I have been suffering from pnd since his birth. We have never really bonded. I spoke to my health visitor in the beginning and she told me to speak to gp which I did. I have been on antidepressants for 7 months they don't help I'm at the docs every 2weeks and she isn't listening to me. I made the mistake of telling her that I make myself sick at times and that's all she focuses on! I have been on waiting list to speak to someone for 5 months! Last week I was so agitated I took an overdose of ad and ended up in hospital. My gp still isn't helping she has now given me diazepam which makes me sleepy which is no good with a baby. Any ideas where else I can get help. Thanks

Smartiepants79 Mon 02-Jun-14 21:03:19

Have you tried a different GP?
Please don't give up trying to get the right help.
Is there anyway you could afford some private counselling/therapy?
Sounds like you need to speak to someone different.
What did the hospital say?

onestepbeyond Mon 02-Jun-14 21:03:45

Sorry you are feeling like this - can you go back to your hv and ask them to refer you to your local camhs team? Ours run pnd groups and counselling sessions. I am very lucky to have a brilliant hv - she sees me fortnightly for talking therapy and referred me to cahms as above.

annjjcook Thu 05-Jun-14 15:29:24

A horrible way to feel. Big hug to you. Hard work being a Mum but it will get better, just not a quick fix which is sometimes what we want. Some days it just feels that it will always be the same but it won't. Sometimes you have to be persistent with the GP and health visitor, not easy when you are feeling low and sleepy. I am surprised there was no follow up from mental health support services following your overdose. Please go back to your GP surgery and ask to see someone else. There is help available in most communities, the GP and health visitor should be more helpful than they appear to have been.

Hi I would contact PANDAS they are very good and should be able to offer you some good advice and support. I had very bad antenatal depression and I went into a mother and baby unit, which honestly would be ideal for you and for me was far more helpful than meds (although I did take them whilst there). The cut off point for these units is 1 year old so you need to get referred quickly, but it would be great for you. I'm shocked your GP is not taking this more seriously, you overdosed for pete's sake! not only is it having a negative impact on you, but your little one will end up with issues from this if it's not tackled now later on in life. Did the hospital not even send you home with a crisis advice line number??

lala2605 Sat 07-Jun-14 19:45:15

Thank you people for taking the time to comment. The doctor at hospital wanted me to wait and see mental health nurse but he was obviously busy as after an hour they told me to go home and they would be in touch which they haven't. I have worked for the nhs for 12 years and I'm so disappointed in them. My gp has now got me an appointment with a psychiatrist which in seeing on Tuesday so scared to go as not sure what they will say but also hopeful that something can now get done. Thanks again for caring enough to comment x

ithoughtofitfirst Mon 16-Jun-14 18:28:47

There's nothing more terrifying (in my experience) than suffering from debilitating anxiety and depression and having the professionals palm you off.

IME you just have to keep trying different people until one listens. I had one mental health nurse actually bark at me 'what do you want from us exactly?'

Can you ask to be referred to a better alternative person?

ithoughtofitfirst Mon 16-Jun-14 18:33:05

Sorry didn't see your last post.

Sigh. Such a waiting game. If my community mental health team get me an appointment in a fortnight they see it as like they've done me a massive favour.

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