In desperate need of reassurance.

(7 Posts)
NurseSapphire Sun 05-Jan-14 22:50:31

Hi everyone,

I know what I'm about to say and the worries I have are so miniscule compared to most, but it's ruining my pregnancy.

I am newlywed, ten weeks pregnant and very happily so. Since the age of thirteen, I've had androgenetic alopecia with my hair slowly thinning over the years. It was the bane of my life. Before I got married, I got special extensions for people with alopecia and my confidence soared. I am still self conscious, but feel I can live a more normal life.

However, since becoming pregnant, I'm worried about having a daughter and giving her the same awful worries. Also, I'm so worried that my children will be embarrassed of me. I'm crying as I write this. It's the one thing I would change if I could. I'm so happy with every other aspect of my life.

I don't know what I want to hear. Just maybe that 'everything will be ok'. sad

TreacleMoon123 Sun 05-Jan-14 23:04:00

Ah honey..everything will be just perfect. Don't you worry ��

GaryTheTankEngine Sun 05-Jan-14 23:06:39

Actually, this is something I can relate to - from the perspective of your children.

They will love you for who you are regardless of what you look like - to you they'll just be mum and they won't be able to imagine you any other way. thanks

GaryTheTankEngine Sun 05-Jan-14 23:08:54

Ahh I explained that badly - one of my parents has a condition that causes thinning hair, and it had never occurred to me until I read your thread to feel embarrassed or worried about what they looked like. smile

louiselove123 Tue 07-Jan-14 21:59:33

Your child will love you and be proud of her/his mummy. She/he will be lucky to have a mummy like you and everything will be ok! Best of luck with the pregnancy x

AtrociousCircumstance Thu 09-Jan-14 21:17:12

Your child will think you're beautiful smile

And if you have a daughter who has a similar experience then you will be very clued up on how to deal with it and how to make her feel good about herself.

Everything is going to be ok smile

NurseSapphire Fri 10-Jan-14 17:56:13

Thank you from the bottom of my heart to all the people who replied thanks your kind words are honestly so comforting. My family obviously know about my hair but it's so much easier to talk to strangers about it, because you have no reason to tell me things just to make me feel better if you see what I mean?

I suspect I'm going through a patch of antenatal depression and I'm fixating on my hair. The depression puzzles me as a baby is all I've ever really wanted.

Thanks again everyone xx

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