Want to help friend suffering with PND

(8 Posts)
SearchingforSleep Wed 20-Nov-13 18:48:54

A friend has just told me she is suffering with PND. hmm She has a newborn (few weeks old) and a nearly 3 year old and has been through a catalogue of really stressful stuff over the last year that would knock anyone for six.

I would like to give her as much support as I can but don't want to make things worse for her. I am fortunate never to have experienced PND although I have had periods where I have struggled and felt low - at the time the last thing I wanted was to socialise although in retrospect it would probably have helped. I know everyone is different and I have asked her what I can do to help and will absolutely follow her lead but I just wondered if there was anything a friend did for you that made a big difference or something you wished someone had done?

Thanks very much smile

taffleee Wed 20-Nov-13 19:04:37

Searching Just be her friend, and it sounds to me she has a very caring one in you - all you can be is be there for her.

What I will say, is (as I know you are posting here regarding your friend) as someone who has been through PND, it would have killed me if I knew a friend of mine was to speak about me to others.

This is an anonymous site, and I know your just asking for advice, which is a great thing, but please don't betray her confidence by speaking to other people on her behalf, if you know what I mean xx

The best thing you can do for her right now is do what your doing, be caring, supportive and a friend xx And you sound like a great one x

MaryShelley Wed 20-Nov-13 19:09:18

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taffleee Wed 20-Nov-13 19:36:31

Mary totally, but unfortunately not everyone has help at home at those challenging times of the day with the kids -

MaryShelley Wed 20-Nov-13 22:28:01

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halfwayupthehill Wed 20-Nov-13 22:52:26

I would have liked help around the house, the kids taken off me and a good old cuppa.

SearchingforSleep Thu 21-Nov-13 15:53:50

So sorry - I did reply earlier but it seems to have vanished.

Just wanted to say thank you for your messages and suggestions - really helpful and much appreciated. I absolutely do respect my friend's privacy and won't be discussing this in real life - despite asking for advice on here.

Many thanks again. Hoping for brighter days ahead for everyone. thanks

NorthernShores Thu 21-Nov-13 15:57:13

Wow Mary that was fantastic! And just the sort of thing that would have helped in my case. A lot of people don't have anything like that leuk of support.

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