Advice please feeling v down(3 Posts)
Hi I'd like some advice please feeling very down. This might be a bit long as I try to explain the situation. I have an 8 month old baby and have had depression x3 in the past. I took AD medication each time & had counselling and cbt. I find being a mum very tiring (lack of sleep) but get out and about even if just for a walk as I think it keeps me sane and happy so in turn is good for my baby too. I had been meeting up with a little group of mums regularly and apart from my tiredness thought all was generally okay. All of a sudden one of the other mums seems to have taken a massive dislike to me. She has somehow turned the group against me. I don't know what it is I'm supposed to have done but it has really upset me and now I'm starting to feel paranoid and excluded. I'm confused about the situation and trying to decide what best to do. Should I just leave it and move on, should I try to speak to this other mum?
Do you feel confident approaching her? It could be bullying but please believe that if her behaviour if is bullying always a reflection of her not you ie if she is is nasty to u it's because she is nasty there is not anything wrong with you.
Has it been going on long. She is not worth ur trouble if she is being nasty. You could confront but maybe go by your instincts as to whether it is the best thing to do. It sounds like a horrible situation to be in, my thoughts are with a person like that around do u really want to be in that group but that's just my opinion and I know it's not always that easy to walk away. I actually found myself in a similar situation whilst pregnant at work. I felt so powerless to stop what I saw as unfair treatment by management etc that I ended up going on maternity leave early. Now I know that means spending less time with my baby but I just could not cope anymore and just had to accept the culture of the company (which seemed pretty distructive with massive turnover) just wasn't going to change to suit me bad on my pocket money wise but there is sometimes only so much a person can take
Thanks so much susie sorry to hear about your work situation. Well it all feels a bit school playgroundish somehow where I'm standing so yes it could be described as bullying. I think there's a bit more to it though. I've had a bit of time to think about it today and this woman's behaviour has suddenly got really a bit strange. I think she needs to back off. I have known her well over a year. I've noticed she keeps turning up wherever I am recently. Other people keep asking me about it in a kind of bemused way. At first people laughed but now it's getting odd and embarrassing. She suddenly has the same pram, pram cover etc and same clothes on as me. She's even changed her hair to look like mine. I'm a bit freaked out by it all but I keep thinking why? It is just weird really weird behaviour. Sometimes she will say things like 'oh, you're here' (no hello or anything) and other times she just stares and won't speak to me. I feel like I'm being stalked in some very odd way.
I'm going to have to decide if speaking to her is a good idea. I somehow doubt it.
Join the discussion
Registering is free, easy, and means you can join in the discussion, get discounts, win prizes and lots more.Register now
Already registered with Mumsnet? Log in to leave your comment or alternatively, sign in with Facebook or Google.
Please login first.