I had my 3rd daughter just over a month ago, i had her via elective c section which went awfully wrong. My eldest daughter is 3, I was induced with her (pre e) and had a terrible forceps delivery which damaged my pelvis and left me with 3rd/4th degree tearing. With my 2 year old I had an elective c section which was a perfect experience so I just expected that my c section would be fabulous this time too. I was wrong.
I had awful adhesions which meant my organs were stuck so badly to my uterus they couldn't get baby out. Once they finally managed it, they'd managed to cut open both my bowel and bladder. They then managed to hit a blood vessel and told me I needed to be put to sleep. I remember lying there, waiting to be put to sleep, hearing the surgeons talking about how bad the situation was and thinking I'd never see my new baby or see my babies and husband again. The last thing I saw as my eyes closed was the lead surgeon (whom they'd beeped) with his hand on his forehead, shaking his head.
When I woke I was having a blood transfusion and was told by the lead surgeon that I'd need a catheter for 3 weeks and that my recovery time would be doubled, from the usual 6weeks to 12 weeks. He told me it was the worst section he'd ever done and that I'd almost died twice. worst of all, he said if I get pregnant again it will be life threatening.
I wake every single night crying and shaking as I've dreamed about it, I get flashbacks constantly and just want to talk about it all the time. On top of that I have this horrible fear of my new baby growing, I stay awake as long as I can as I don't want her to be another day older. I hate that she's a month old. I hate it. I want her to stay newborn. Its such a desperate want and need, I can barely handle it.
What's wrong with me? Please help.
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Mrskgee · 11/05/2013 19:06
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