Does this sound like ante natal depression?

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Gingerbreadlatte Thu 26-Jul-12 07:35:30

Hello
Im preg with DC#2 and now about 26wks. All is ok except SPD which I've had since 8wks and is pretty hard going, heartburn and this weird feeling of weirdness..

Work are causing me issue with presssure to deliver stuff right up to my due date and basically holding me to ransom for stuff. I am finding this very hard to deal with as my boss is a bully and the more I say its a bit much the more she pressurises me. The threat of a bad performance review hangs over constantly...

Anyway- those HR type issues have other support at work and its being dealth with but the result of this (maybe its this?? maybe not?) is that I feel odd.

Im overwhelmingly tired (work long full time hours) feel massively negative about everything and everyone, tiny things irritate me, I keep doing odd things at home (putting kettle in fridge! grin ) , forgetting to do stuff. The olympics and the 'noise' around it (traffic, busy-ness etc) is driving me mad I am seeing issue in the nice things we do at the weekend, such as visiting friends etc. Seeing downside in everything. I am irrational and unreasonable

I want to curl up and cry a lot. I do feel very excited about being pregnant and baby so that isnt an issue, I just feel overwhelmed and like I cannot cope with the volume of stuff in life.

Not sure what to do for the best here. I cant let this get worse or I will have no job and I will really jeopardise family life.

Maybe I am just pregnant...? Any thoughts ladies?

thank you x

ICompletelyKnowAboutGuineaPigs Thu 26-Jul-12 14:37:31

I don't know much about ante-natal depression, but it does sound like you have a lot going on at the moment. Do you get any 'me-time'?

Pregnancy can certainly make you feel weird (I was overwhelmingly tired with both DCs and really scatty.

You mentioned in your post that you're 'seeing issue in the nice things...at weekends'. Do you ever have any weekends 'off'. I know that this might sound strange because seeing friends is not the same as going to work etc, but being sociable is often hardwork and sometimes I know that I just need a break from doing 'stuff' all the time, especially if you have a DC and a FT job.

IMO it would be beneficial for you to listen to your body and take a break from doing things for a while. If you feel that you can't cope with the volume of stuff in life then maybe try and reduce the volume of stuff. I know that this is often easier said than done but giving yourself some space with benefit everyone around and most of all you. Growing a person is hard work and you shouldn't take this for granted. I really wish you luck in resolving your work-issues and hope you feel better soon.

Gingerbreadlatte Thu 26-Jul-12 22:13:07

THanks for taking the time to reply GuineaPigs.

I really appreciate your perspective and suspect you are very right with the points of just down scaling things.

Ive been trying hard to be positive today... really hard.

tazmo Mon 13-Aug-12 14:23:28

I had same issue with work pre delivery of 2 nd child except hr were no help though did validate what I said. Boss hated this and then had it in for me, was totally unhelpful and made my life difficult (plus gave me loads of crappy jobs and picked me up on every little thing). I went on mat leave early but gp gave me a line for stress which I never used. But your work may back off I'd u send a sick note with work related stress. I got a new job but could have done them for unfair dismissal - but did not have the energy. Looking back, all I kow is that udon't have to put up with it and take care.u do ot sound like u are coping well and to put it into perspective, my colleague delivered her baby at 28 weeks due to the stress of being made to go into work rather than being allowed to work from home despite her telling them she was experiencing bad swelling. Needless to say, since being back, they are letting her wfh full time. Take care of u and baby first!

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