Feeling un excited & low :(

[justhayley]

Hiya I'm 16 + 4 weeks and for the last few weeks have been feeling really low, lonely, not excited and un attached to my pregnancy. I'm not sure if it's hormones or the fact that I'm really missing my DP - he joined Sandhurst to train as an army officer 2 weeks after we found out I was pregnant. Iv been spending loads of time staying at my mums and feel ok when I'm there, but as soon as I go home I just start thinking about how my life's going to change, how I'm on my own & just generally feeling sorry for myself.

I also don't feel excited about being pregnant or the baby coming, and I really want to. I feel better when my DP comes home (every 3 weeks for 2 days) but the rest of the time I'm just not feeling how I feel I should be. I think my mum and best friend is more excited and I want to feel how they feel.
I keep going into shops & looking at baby stuff to feel something and it helps a bit cos I do find everything cute but I can't spend my life in baby shops!

I don't know really, just want to feel soppy and gooey and excited and all I feel is heavy, slow, Ill and like my life is pretty much finished.
Does anyone else feel like this? Everyone I see who's pregnant or has been is bouncing around super excited, I feel like it's not something I should talk about and I find myself faking smiles etc when people start talking about it & how I feel etc.

Hopefully it's just a phase and I'll feel more like myself and excited soon.

Hayley xxx

[Emily25]

Hi Hayley,

Don't worry if your not feeling excited or happy, its probably just those crazy pregnancy hormones...you will probably go through lots of highs and lows throughout your pregnancy. It must be hard for you with your partner being away for 3 weeks at a time...that must feel like forever.

Have you spoken to you partner about how you feel about your pregnancy?

xx

[justhayley]

Thanks Emily.
I'm feeling a lot better today I had a dream about getting the babies room ready last night & for the first time I woke up feeling quite excited.
I havnt spoken to my partner yet - but he's home this weekend so will def have a chat with him.
I think a lot of it is the amount of big changes that happened at the same time. My partner left we moved house and out of London and I found out I was pregnant all in the same week. It was all a bit much. It broke my heart when my DP left and because I'm still not used to him being away I'm upset about that most of the time - & it's hard being upset and happy at the same time. The moment he's back I feel totally different even towards the pregnancy and can't wait to be a family, but the rest of the time I just feel on my own - I honestly don't no how single mums do it!

Thank you for your response xxxx