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October 2014 - thread 5. Bigger bumps!

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Kirstipops Sun 13-Apr-14 17:56:57

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct

Me23 Sun 13-Apr-14 18:17:09

Thanks for new thread! Please add yourself to list if not on it already or post mn name edd and whether it's dc1/2 etc and one of us can add you.

mrsb87 Sun 13-Apr-14 18:17:52

Plonking my butt down!

ExcitedCJ Sun 13-Apr-14 18:25:14

I am going to need medicated if this continues.. I am stressed beyond reason about the health of the baby. I read that if you get too hot it can cause issues with development & I am constantly frozen so am always huddling under duvets etc. All I keep hearing from F&F are negative stories about people's newborns. I am getting myself in such a state!
I was a little irrational last time but another 3 yrs on the clock has sent me over the edge. Please someone talk some sense in to me!

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct

binkybunny Sun 13-Apr-14 18:40:51

Thanks for the new thread kirstipops

excited the hot thing, I think, is just not to hug a red hot hotwater bottle or get into a boiling hot bath and even then I've read other people using hot water bottles and elec blankets and being fine. I'm sure cuddling under a blanket is fine. I hope so as I spend most evenings hiding under one!

Have you tried the hypnobirthing link that was on the last thread? I've not had chance to yet but it seemed to be helping relax others.

CJ what other things are you worrying about? I totally feel for you as I suffer with anxiety
I would say number one piece of advice is dont read too much on the Internet. A lot of it is scaremongering or ill-informed or plain wrong.
If you are cold, of course put a blanket on. Your body is excellent at regulating its temperature. Think of all the pregnant women who live in hot countries, or even here in Blighty when we have a heatwave, and deliver perfectly healthy babies.

binkybunny Sun 13-Apr-14 18:59:46

Also did you get 'the manual' from your midwife? At my 8 week appointment they gave me a book with pregnancy week by week and loads of advice. I tried to stop reading anything but that for advice as I figured it would be correct if its from the midwife and agree with tak1ng that the internet is s bad place to be if you're anxious.

Loulou888 Sun 13-Apr-14 19:04:55

CJ steer clear of the internet! It's science gone mad all these things we can't do. Don't worry about cuddling up under the duvet. I would also say once in a while a "too" hot bath is probably not going to hurt you. All this rubbish is ridiculous. I also read somewhere to be careful with how much sun cream you are putting on..... I mean really so burn or be protected! It annoys me.

ExcitedCJ Sun 13-Apr-14 19:15:51

Oh boy.. Taking where do I start with what is making me anxious, just about everything. I'm worried about the heat thing, used electric blanket a couple of times before I realised it wasn't good, although I was particularly freezing. I used face cream with Vit A until I realised, wrote to the company and they reassured me it would be OK but to stop using. Worried about my age & increased risk of Downs. Worried I'm not eating well enough. I've just got myself into a right state!
I sat with my back planted on radiators with DD & went on a sunny holiday & baked in the heat til I sweated but didn't know to worry last time.
Thanks binky I must start the Hypnobirthing again, it helped me to keep a grip last time.
Oh I'm a crazy, crazy lady.. Poor DH!

FlipFantasia Sun 13-Apr-14 19:25:05

Thanks for the new thread Kirstiepops! Marking my place!

NotInYourNature Sun 13-Apr-14 19:32:54

excited i have baths that are far to hot (always have) i have an electric blanket which goes on every night. I even used a hot tub and i have a perfectly healthy 13 month old. i also had the odd glass of wine, drank unpasteurized milk and did lots of other things they say not to do. not anything that would really truly harm my baby but i just lived my life normally.

The only thing i stopped for this pregnancy is the unpasteurized milk but that because i got sick from it and ended up in hospital with campylobacter. Didn't affect the baby at all i was just super dehydrated.

worrying so much will do you more harm in the long run than any of these things as you won't enjoy this wonderful experience. xxx

ExcitedCJ Sun 13-Apr-14 19:44:44

NotInYourNature thanks, that is just what I needed! Reassurance mixed with a little bit of a reality check. You guys are very kind for all your words, it really does help. I'm officially off the edge again.

Kirstipops Sun 13-Apr-14 20:17:24

Well said Excited, I've had a few friends, family and colleagues now say they are envious of my pregnancy and to make the most of this time as they really enjoyed their own.
I've ditched Google and just remind myself that women all over the world manage their pregnancies in far less hospitable climates and environments than we have to put up with, just need to have more faith in our bodies' strengths and abilities smile

Kirstipops Sun 13-Apr-14 20:18:25

Sorry I meant to say well said Notinyournature, glad you feel better about things though excited smile

CareBearWithFangs Sun 13-Apr-14 20:27:31

Marking my place.

Hope your feeling ok excited. I really wouldn't worry about the heat thing. I saw on here the other day that it isn't mentioned on the nhs website so not to worry about it. I'm still having my baths as hot as I fancy.

Have my scan tomorrow, am feeling that strange mix of nervous/excited!

fedupofrainydays Sun 13-Apr-14 20:51:35

I'm the same excited and this is my second. I find I just know so much more this time round and last time I was ignorant! I get myself so worked up about stuff and it's just bonkers.

Sparkle9 Sun 13-Apr-14 21:01:26

Marking my spot. I will add myself to the list after my 12 week scan this week.

ExcitedCJ Sun 13-Apr-14 21:12:23

smile fedup it's crazy isn't it, I'll keep you straight if you keep me straight! We have a little while to go!
CareBear good to know nothing on NHS info, must only read my pregnancy manual from hospital from now on. Good luck with your scan tomorrow.
Kirsti thanks

Grannyapple Sun 13-Apr-14 21:21:57

Marking my place...thanks for the new thread!

Re: baby in same room. DS was in his own room at 10 wks-he was just too noisy & was outgrowing the Moses basket so seemed a good time to move him...we all slept so much better as a result!

DD is still in lwith us at 8.5 months...is driving me mad as she still wakes cos she can hear us turning over at night etc & we only have 2 bedrooms currently. But we have just received approval to create a 3 rd bedroom & change 2nd ensuite to a family bathroom. Hoping for work to start at the end of the month, so I'm hoping that by 10 months, she'll finally be in get own room & I can get some decent sleep under my belt before bubba no 3 arrives!

Thanks for the new thread!

mrsb87 Sun 13-Apr-14 21:53:41

Weird thing happened yesterday, went to a lovely wedding where I spent a lot of the afternoon looking after their 7month old son which was lovely! When I came home and got ready for bead my boobs were rock hard and the right one had what looked like dried up milk on my nipple....sorry if tmi.

has anyone else experienced this? Freaked me out a little!

mum2kiss Sun 13-Apr-14 22:17:12

I have had it with this nasty sour taste in my mouth all. Frickin. Day. Long!!!! Even brushing teeth hasnt got rid of it today! Tell.me it will be gone for good soon please!! I cannot deal with this until october!

Thanks for the new thread kirsti smile

Excited I agree with others, people in far less fortunate surroundings manage to give birth to healthy babies. I think all the research that goes on in the western world is so.conflicting and just.leaves us all confused! I cant believe you have or will do anything that might cause harm to.your baby. There was no google when our.mums were having us and we're ok (if a little bit nutty!)

pebble82 Sun 13-Apr-14 22:52:24

I think what happens with research is a bit like side effects on medicine bottles. If it has affected one person in a thousand it's noted as a possible side effect. It's super rare but then we all start thinking we can see symptoms of said side effect. It's mostly psychological. I'm a worrier too but trying to think that until something bad actually happens there is no point in stressing about it as it doesn't exist.

porcito Mon 14-Apr-14 03:45:12

Thanks for new thread! Definitely agree on side effects...here in Mexico, no one seems to be concerned about anything when pregnant! My MIL gave me some cheese yesterday and was genuinely confused about why I 'couldn't' eat it. Also confusing to people I've met here is : asking for steak well done, not drinking coffee, avoiding cold cut meat, undercooked eggs, hot dogs (and hot tubs for that matter, not that I've wanted to go in one as it's about 3 million degrees outside) . And yet, in my town, there are healthy babies everywhere... still doesn't stop me being paranoid but does put everything into perspective. I've also had an X-Ray, three lots of dental surgery and today burned a hole in my leg getting off a motorbike I was sitting on. I've stressed out every time, but 30 seconds in the company of my MIL makes me feel ridiculous. If anyone wants to borrow her, please feel free...

fedupofrainydays Mon 14-Apr-14 06:42:29

Ha ha - I will borrow the MIL please. Hopefully she can help me see sense when I'm having a wobble!

CareBearWithFangs Mon 14-Apr-14 06:51:23

Mrsb I'm sure I've read somewhere that you might start producing milk when broody or hearing a baby cry while pregnant (and breast feeding). I was leaking milk way before DD was born last time, it used to leak whenever I was in the bath, very annoying but my milk supply was really good with DD.

I annoyingly woke at 6. DD still dead to the world so I should be getting more sleep but I'm too nervous about the scan. And I had horrible dreams about DP dying and leaving me with 2 children to care for alone.

mrsb87 Mon 14-Apr-14 09:01:16

Thanks carebear, that's reassuring to hear! I didn't think that sort of thing happened to early on!

puppythedog Mon 14-Apr-14 09:07:12

Marking my space on the thread. For all those with anxiety here is a website with some mindfulness activity mp3s on. I can highly recommend taking a few minutes to do one. It's difficult to reassure an anxiety but you can choose to focus on something else for a few minutes respite.

www.livingwell.org.au/mindfulness-exercises/

I think the site is for Men theoretically but the exercises are not.

ohthegoats Mon 14-Apr-14 09:55:12

I don't have a bump to speak of. I was/am a size 14, and just have a podgier tummy. I can feel harder areas beneath the podge, but if I wasn't a bit fat I'd not be showing anything different in the stomach area at all. What I've eaten affects things too, so I'm assuming some bloat element - I definitely feel fatter. My boobs are the same size other than some nipple changes. Part of me is worried, but My mum didn't show until gone 5 months though, so maybe I might take after her in some tiny way afterall.

STIGZ Mon 14-Apr-14 10:33:39

I think i am worrier by nature, but during my first pregnancy i think my worrying esculated gradually and a year after dd was born i ended up on anti-depressants as my anxiety levels went through the roof!! I also done cognitive behaviour therapy

I didnt enjoy my first pregnancy at all, it was when swine flu was doing the rounds and was so worried about getting the vaccine but also worried that if i didnt i would contract it and me and unborn would die!!

My advice would be to get advice from health professionals during your pregnancy and after regarding your mental health, dont be ashamed about discussing how you are feeling, you will feel a hundred times better getting it off your chest and knowing the doctor will advise on best course of treatment

I let mine get so bad because i thought what i was feeling was part of being a parent - but rushing round to my mums when i heard an ambulance and convinced myself it must be for DD was not normal parental anxiety!!

CareBearWithFangs Mon 14-Apr-14 12:18:30

So had my scan this morning. Nuchal test came back as slightly thicker than normal. 3.8 mm. There doing extra blood tests and sending me for another scan at a bigger hospital and then doing the amnio test thing. Very tearful morning sad don't really know what to think/feel at the moment.

Loulou888 Mon 14-Apr-14 12:26:57

Oh carebear I know its hard but try not to worry and be positive. Before this combined blood test thing they used to look for markers. At 20 weeks I went for my scan and they found 4 markers including increased nuchal fold all showed increased risk of abnormalities. I had a cvs. Had to wait 3 days for the results but all was okay and I had a healthy dd. it's a dreadful wait but I'm sure you will get a positive result lots fx for you x

splendide Mon 14-Apr-14 12:43:16

Hi All, this is akachan - I couldn't seem to reset my password so I've just renamed!

I had my scan this morning all fine, nice wriggly baby! I've added myself to the list:

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Splendide DC1 EDD 20th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct

queenasanti3 Mon 14-Apr-14 13:11:43

Hi everyone, I was on the other threads but my name seems to missing from the new list so if anyone could add me on to it that woukd be great, thanks.

Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct.

Have people had much movement yet, anyone clearly looking pregnant, and whos planning on finding out what they are having ??? xx

I think I can feel that flutter feeling but not too sure, some days I actually forget iam pregnant as all symptoms seemed to have calmed down although my boobs do seem to be getting bigger and tender to touch.
I not sure if I want to find out, I have plenty of girl stuff as my dc 1 is only 8 months, so I keep looking at all the cute boy outfits in the shops just incase.

magichandles Mon 14-Apr-14 13:21:03

Oh carebear, I hope that you get the extra tests and scans done as quickly as possible so you can know for certain, it's useless to say not to worry but I know lots of people who have had the extra tests for what reason and the overwhelming majority have had a good outcome.

Scan this afternoon, I'm excited but a bit nervous as well.

anotherRoo Mon 14-Apr-14 13:31:48

Hi all;

anotherRoo, DC1, EDD 27th Oct

No idea what I'm doing, hormones all over the place, scared but very excited. Dating scan next week...

Roo x

Tweetinat Mon 14-Apr-14 13:39:36

Mum2kiss - I've only just popped on here for first time in a while (last read thread 2) so I don't know the back story to your sour taste in the mouth but I was having this too. Really really bad and it would make me retch and be sick. After lots of fiddling with my diet it turns out it was milk making me feel like this - I cut out milk from cereal, tea, butter and cheese and started to feel loads better. It only comes back now if I eat something that I don't realise has milk in (some crisps are an offender as they have milk powder in!!!!) I've gradually been able to reintroduce butter and milk in tea plus bread but large quantities still affect me. I wonder if you might feel better if you experiment with cutting it out?! Hope that helps!

mum2kiss Mon 14-Apr-14 14:18:08

tweetinat you might be on to something! I was dairy intolerant as a child (as was dc1 whilst I was breast feeding which is making me think I'll need to cut it out whilst bf-ing this baby) and the sour taste is worse when I eat my breakfast cereal in the mornings...cutting out milk is soooo hard though!

Cherie037 Mon 14-Apr-14 14:45:18

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct

Cherie037 Mon 14-Apr-14 14:50:59

I think my nausea has come back with a vengeance. Yesterday when I was was out with DH and DD2 I had to make a pit stop and some bushes so I could throw up my lunch!!! I am 12+5 days and I want this to stop!! I never had this with my other 2 pregnancies. I keep hoping the next week I will feel better!

Plus side we have our 20 weeks scan appointment on 5 June. Very excited as we want to find out the sex!

funtimesahead Mon 14-Apr-14 14:52:38

Hello! New to mn and no idea how this works, could someone add me to the list please? First baby due 1st October, hasn't really sunk in yet!

Kirstipops Mon 14-Apr-14 17:23:56

Had my 16 week check today, all my bloods came back fine, BP is down which I'm very chuffed about, and I got to hear the good strong heartbeat pounding away at 150bpm, it was amazing! Midwife brought the Doppler out again at the end of the appointment so I could record it on my phone. Sounds like a little dog barking, happy days smile

Me23 Mon 14-Apr-14 17:51:35

care I'm sorry to hear you have had a raised nt, did you get to speak to a consultant today? Do you know when your next scan is? Hopefully soon. Try to stay positive the majority of the time the baby is fine.

Me23 Mon 14-Apr-14 17:55:35

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct

LondonJen Mon 14-Apr-14 18:50:18

Hi all

Back from telling dp's parents. They were delighted. I misjudged his mum though -no tears, but a fist pump! I was travel sick the whole journey -I don't usually get this on motorways- which was no fun. Dp's mum said "now all I need is a ring on your finger" to which I replied "oh no, none of that". The clue is in the way she phrases it though "now all I need.." Yes exactly. But it's not about you. Grrrr. She dropped it after this though so I didn't want to bring it back up just to spell out it's definately not an option. I just wish she would accept it, I can't be dealing with another 13 years of her going on!

Sorry you've that worry carebear I think loulou makes a good point though I know it won't be easy to relax until you have more information <hugs>

Kirsti that sounds so lovely I can't wait for my next appt!

Hope everyone else is feeling a little better after airing anxieties.

Hia Fedup <waves>

Going to add myself to the stats now smile

CareBearWithFangs Mon 14-Apr-14 18:52:36

I spoke to a consultant today but I was in tears and a lot of it went over my head. Thankfully my next scan is on weds so at least I don't have to wait to long. We have to be in Leeds for 9 though so dreading setting off from here at 7 and the busy train journey there. I'm a bit confused about what's going to happen on weds. Will they do they cvs thing on weds or is it just a scan?

Just trying to keep myself distracted until then.

CareBearWithFangs Mon 14-Apr-14 18:53:41

London the image of you mil fist pumping has made me giggle grin

LondonJen Mon 14-Apr-14 18:55:30

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct

magichandles Mon 14-Apr-14 19:02:55

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct

magichandles Mon 14-Apr-14 19:05:09

Scan went well - EDD moved back one day to 24th October. I was in there ages though, this baby was being ridiculously active! BP still on the high side of normal though, so I need to watch that.

I already have a ludicrous number of appointments booked though, I'm seeing the consultant's team next week, then I need to see the cervical people because I've had a prem. baby before (even though I didn't have to see them last time) plus the GTT.

gunwalloe Mon 14-Apr-14 19:11:16

Sorry your going through this stress carebear I have my fingers crossed for you

Magic I to have a stupid amount of hospital appointments and I know there's more to come as the consultant appointment hasn't come yet it would be ok if we were nearer the hospital and didn't have 4 kids to organise

noimagination80 Mon 14-Apr-14 19:17:12

Hey all,

Marking my space.
Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct

ExcitedCJ Mon 14-Apr-14 19:53:02

CareBear I'm sorry things are not going smoothly & I will have my fingers crossed for you on Wednesday.
Sending you lots of virtual hugs & cake & brew

ExcitedCJ Mon 14-Apr-14 19:59:36

Hi & welcome FunTimes, your name is very appropriate with a 3 yr old DD already I can definitely confirm there will be lots of fun ahead!
You can't go too far wrong on Mumsnet, just post away & try to keep up, this thread moves fast! smile

STIGZ Mon 14-Apr-14 20:02:25

Thinking lots of positive for you carebear

Kirstipops Mon 14-Apr-14 20:11:47

Sorry you've had such a tough time today Carebear Hope your mind is set at rest soon sad
My BP has gone from mild hyptertension at my booking in to the low side of normal today, which was a shock but good! The consultant has given me a repeat prescription for 75mg of aspirin daily since my mum had high bp when preggo with me, anyone else had this too?

ExcitedCJ Mon 14-Apr-14 20:17:25

Hi Kirsti I'm on 75mg Aspirin too, I had pre-eclampsia in last PG so it is a precaution this time.

I will be chief poster tonight until OBEM as I'm trying to keep myself occupied as Harmony results come back tomorrow! Eeek.

STIGZ Mon 14-Apr-14 20:32:21

Has anyone seen a consultant regarding having c/section with a previous pregnancy?

I have mine at 20 weeks, just wondering what they discuss with you ? As My pregnancy notes say im a "high risk requiring maternity team care (amber pathway).., i take it this is because of c/sec? as my pregnancy was perfect! .,, sounds a bit scary... "High risk"!!

weebairn Mon 14-Apr-14 20:53:21

Hello,
I wonder if I could join this group? Baby is due 30 September but my first was 5 days late so I expect this one will be too!

My daughter is 18 months old and lovely, sometimes I feel guilty for being pregnant like I'm missing the good times with her. But I'm sure she'll love having a sibling, and I'm not as sick and tired as I was a few weeks ago thank god.

I feel uncomfortably bigger but I don't really look it - I don't have a bump and I'm wearing my normal clothes fine. I was expecting something earlier second time round but we'll see! How are people finding work? I haven't told mine yet, I am sort of putting it off. I work shifts and don't really want to do any night shifts after about 28 weeks. But I feel a bit anxious about sorting this out and just want to keep everything to myself for now. It was horrendous around 8 weeks the sickness was so bad, but I managed not to have any sick days.

Well that's me, just saying hi smile 16 weeks tomorrow.

gunwalloe Mon 14-Apr-14 20:59:12

Kirstipops what was your bp? myns usually /90 so they keep saying they will keep an eye on it no pills though.

Stigz im high risk to im having my first planned cs this time as ive had two emergency cs`s . How many cs have you had? After having my first all my consultant appointments were short and sweet I walked in the door he said do you want vbac I said yes and that was the meeting over. Are you happy to try vbac or do you want another cs?

Kirstipops Mon 14-Apr-14 21:02:19

Hi to the newbies smile
Queenasanti I thought I felt a slight "undulating" feeling on Thursday night, then a bubbles popping kind of sensation on Friday. Now unsure whether that was bump or just indigestion though haha!

Kirstipops Mon 14-Apr-14 21:09:24

Gunwalloe it was 110/80 today, it was 155/96 five weeks ago! The consultant said the aspirin was being prescribed due to my family history (my mum's high blood pressure with me required a few hospital stays), plus the fact that it's my first baby, more a preventative measure rather than any reflection of what my BP is now.

fedupofrainydays Mon 14-Apr-14 21:17:11

What does the harmony test tell you that the combined one doesn't? Just interested as lots of people seem to do it.

I've also got to see a consultant in May as I had a tricky birth last time and they want to discuss how I've healed since and whether c section or vag is the way to go. I think it will also depend on baby size.

wee I've just had a melt down about what to wear to work tomorrow. Nothing fits and I don't want to start wearing maternity stuff as I don't want to tell work yet. But realistically I know I can't hide this til 21 weeks. I'm scared about telling them in case subsequently something goes wrong.

Hey london!

binkybunny Mon 14-Apr-14 21:20:38

Hiweebairn nice to see you on here. mrsb is here too smile. There's quite a few Sept due dates so join along! Glad to hear you're feeling better, its nice to almost feel normal. I've been in mat trousers for 2 weeks now. Have quite a bump developing but not putting weight on elsewhere.

fedupofrainydays Mon 14-Apr-14 21:21:15

Oh and carebear my lovely, sorry to hear about the higher nt measurement. My friend had 3.6 and she's just had a healthy little girl! Fx for you and can imagine how anxious you are xx

CellyD Mon 14-Apr-14 22:05:06

Warm welcome to all the new faces!

Carebear I'll be thinking positive thoughts for you. Excited fingers crossed for your results tomorrow.

I'm pretty tired of the nausea now at 15 weeks, I can't wait for the glow to kick in.

fedupofrainydays Mon 14-Apr-14 22:10:48

Ps. You know that card on the front of Emma's diary, is it worth sending it off? Do you get anything half useful or just loads of guff you don't want?

binkybunny Mon 14-Apr-14 22:15:18

Fedup the packs are cute with little mini sized johnsons stuff but use an email address you can bin as I have nothing but spam from their related companies that I never agreed to! Also you get vouchers for Argos which will prob come in quite handy.

Binglesplodge Mon 14-Apr-14 22:45:16

carebear - I know it's impossible but try not to panic and if you can, stay away from threads about NT measurements etc while you wait for your next appointment. We had a measurement of 3.3 at our 12 week scan and the more I read, the more worried I got! In the end, after a week of total panic and tears, the combined result came back low risk at 1:400. I hope you get similarly good news once they've looked at all the factors - one of the things you have to bear in mind is that the measurement doesn't mean anything on its own. People with a measurement of 1 can be classed as high risk once the blood results are back, and people with measurements like mine can be low risk once everything has been taken into account. In the meantime, sending hugs: I was where you are only a couple of weeks ago and I have never been more scared. Sit tight, and good luck xxx

Fingers crossed for you carebear!
Welcome newbies!
I had my consultant appointment today and discusses my baby's 'premature birth' she asked me questions about bleeding, abdominal pain, cervical operations etc again and again 'trying to work out why it happened'. I got a bit fed up and said that I had read that dating scans can be 3-5 days out and he was 1 day premature. And 8lb5oz. She agreed he was probably just ready has signed me back over to midwife led! smile

BingoBango85 Tue 15-Apr-14 07:20:25

Has everyone read mumsnet had a data break in and we all need to change our passwords?

mrsb87 Tue 15-Apr-14 07:50:29

Bingo I've just checked my email and I had a message about changing my password.

mrsb87 Tue 15-Apr-14 07:51:52

carebear sorry to hear you've had a bit of a fright, will be keeping my fingers crossed for you x

CareBearWithFangs Tue 15-Apr-14 07:56:14

Thank you bingle. That really helps. I'm going to say that to DP, on it's on the measurement doesn't mean much.

Didn't sleep very well last night, but hoping for a more positive day. The plumber is here ripping out the bathroom so I can't mope around all day anyway.

What's the Emma's diary thing? I like the sound of Argos vouchers. smile

Kirstipops Tue 15-Apr-14 08:09:56

You can download the Emma's Diary app, and the vouchers from there. I downloaded the app but I'm on here more for info than I use Emma's Diary!

FrauEnglischLehrerin Tue 15-Apr-14 08:30:03

Look after yourself, carebear and good luck with the blood test.

My dr also told me that the bloods make all the difference - in my case she meant I shouldn't get too complacent with the low NT measurement. Fortunately my results came in yesterday and I'm very low risk for a 35 yo at 1:6000.

fedup the Harmony test finds DNA from the foetus in your blood and examines it for chromosomal abnormalities. You then get either a 1:2 risk or a 1:10000 risk, those represent the false positive and false negative rates. If you get a 1:2 then they recommend an amnio/cvs to diagnose as there's still a high chance that the foetus doesn't have t21/18. You can also find out the baby's sex.

Sparkle9 Tue 15-Apr-14 10:21:07

I have my 12 week scan today. My anxiety levels are through the roof. I've had some spotting all through and a bit more of it over the past week. My boobs haven't been sore for about a week now and my nausea has gone. I've only had very slight symptoms throughout. I don't feel particularly pregnant at the moment. Did anyone else feel like this before the 12 week scan? I saw a heartbeat at 9.5 weeks but I am still worried. :-(

mum2kiss Tue 15-Apr-14 11:01:35

I think most of us felt symptoms dropping off a bit towards the 12 week scan sparkle so try not to worry. I'm sure everything will be fine. For me I seem to have a day or two each week where I start worrying that something has gone wrong! Im 14+3 now ...

I'm 14+5, have a little bump, and am still convinced that I'm making it all up in my head. Feel like such a fraud every time some congratulates me, or even when I put some maternity clothes on!
Best of luck Sparkle we'll be thinking of you x

LondonJen Tue 15-Apr-14 11:40:03

Thinking of you sparkle, the worry is awful. My symptoms tailed off too, my boobs were still big, but not sore and nausea eased dramatically. Although both things have been back since in the last week (I am 14+6).

I took my bounty card to boots to get the mum-to-be pack and they gave me an Emma's diary pack! I didn't notice till I got home. Have I missed out, were the bounty contents any good? There was no little magazine in the Emma pack, which I quite liked in the first bounty pack.

Dp is in the good books today, he ordered some shirts from the US and bought me some denim maternity shorts in his order! So sweet and they fit just lovely (even if current 'under bump' bands still sit above what bump I do have!)

STIGZ Tue 15-Apr-14 12:03:46

gun i have had 1 cs due to my dd being breach but went into labour 1 week before the date of my cs, so it ended up being an emergency cs.

I was 9 cm when i got to the hospital and by the the time epidural was starting to work baby's heartbeat dropped and wouldnt recover so they proceeded to cut and said they would knock me out if i felt any pain

Im just wondering if she wasnt breach would i have needed cs anyway due to heartbeat dipping?

Im really undecided about trying for vbac, think the thought of my scar rupturing for the next 6 months would send my anxiety through the roof again.. I felt fine after cs .. Im thinking better the devil you know due to previous anxiety problems ??

I honestly dont know what to do for the best??

FrauEnglischLehrerin Tue 15-Apr-14 12:23:22

STIGZ how long ago was your cs?

I'm in the same boat, dd was born by planned cs as breech, but as I'll have a 5.5 year age gap I'm really not worried about trying for a vbac. I'm more concerned about this one ending up breech as well and have been trying to untuck my pelvis and do lots of squatting!

ExcitedCJ Tue 15-Apr-14 13:00:47

Quick update - just got Harmony results, lowest risk for all factors & I know the sex! smile First time I have felt relaxed and able to smile in weeks. Phew.

Captainmcgraw Tue 15-Apr-14 13:10:29

Thinking of you sparkle. I'm still bleeding every few days and although it isn't leading to anything serious then I still panic every time I see it. Knowing how it feels and hoping today brings reassuring. carebear you're also in my thoughts.

Sparkle9 Tue 15-Apr-14 14:24:30

I am waiting for the scan now. I'm really worried that I'm going to have to do it alone. We arrived at the hospital with loads of time to spare but there was a massive queue for the carpark so I've had to leave DP trying to get parked. Very worried.

Kirstipops Tue 15-Apr-14 15:04:57

If your hospital is anything like mine carebear they will be running behind, I'm sure DP will be sprinting to catch up with you, good luck smile x

daphnehoneybutt Tue 15-Apr-14 15:20:38

Hello you chatty lot - I've missed loads.

Had a scan today and all looking well so sticking myself back in the stats

Marking my space.
Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
daphnehoneybutt DC1 EDD 19th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct

Sparkle hope it goes well - my hospital were running 20 mins behind today so hopefully your DP will be able to be there.

sazzlehopes Tue 15-Apr-14 15:59:29

Thanks for the new thread.
Carebear - hope all goes ok next week, thinking of you. thanks

Stigz and Frau - i'm in the same boat as you guys. Emcs the first time even though we wanted home birth! So this time I'm thinking I'm going to try vbac, no appointment yet, think that'll happen near 20 weeks according to the midwife. My ds is just over 3 years so i'm not worried about my scar.

Sparkle9 Tue 15-Apr-14 16:22:46

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
daphnehoneybutt DC1 EDD 19th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct
Sparkle9 DC1 EDD 29th Oct

Sparkle9 Tue 15-Apr-14 16:26:47

I hope I copied and pasted that correctly.

DP made it to the scan just in time. The little baby was in there with a heartbeat. The sonographer couldn't see any reason for the bleeding and concluded it must be my cervix. I'm now wondering about getting this checked.

The scan report has the nuchal at 1.3. It says that the abdomen, limbs and brain/skull appear normal but that the bladder, kidneys, heart were not examined. I'm assuming this is all standard for the 12 week scan?

LondonJen Tue 15-Apr-14 16:47:09

Great news Excited, Daphne and Sparkle!

Have been checking in for your news Sparkle I do hope you are feeling happier now smile I think my paperwork just said 'liver visible' and same re another organ (can't remember which) but I don't remember any mention of the heart on there (although it was pointed out to us on the screen.)

CareBearWithFangs Tue 15-Apr-14 16:54:20

Congrats on your scan daphne. And I hope yours went well sparkle.

The consultant called me today and she said they'll give me the option of the cvs test tomorrow (which we've decided to take) and should have some results by thurs. So will know if the baby has downs/turner or another syndrome that I can't ever remember the name of because I haven't heard it before by thurs. The other chromosomal disorders will take a bit longer to get the results. I'm impressed with how quick it's all being looked into and everyone has been really lovely.

CareBearWithFangs Tue 15-Apr-14 16:55:44

Ooh cross posts. Congrats sparkle.

Kirstipops Tue 15-Apr-14 17:00:29

Sorry sparkle I meant to type your name in my last message, I really should stop sneaking looks at Mumsnet on my phone when I'm supposed to be working, I just type nonsense! I think the 20 week scan will go into more depth with regards checking organs, there was certainly no mention of checking them at mine either.

Sparkle9 Tue 15-Apr-14 17:04:27

Thanks everyone.

Carebearfangs - I really hope everything works out for you. I will look out for your posts.

Loulou888 Tue 15-Apr-14 17:05:10

Good luck carebear and fingers crossed. That's great sparkle we didn't get much of a report apart from ok!

mum2kiss Tue 15-Apr-14 18:09:22

Ive been dithering about whether to add my due date to the list because my sonographer was so rubbish and didnt date me...I dont know if I'll get re-dated at the 20 week or if I'll just have to stick with my lmp date...

STIGZ Tue 15-Apr-14 18:30:11

frau & sazzle my cs was 4 years ago, didnt realise that length of time in between cs was considered.

I have just been reading bits & pieces online, really want to be informed of pros and cons for both before attending the meeting at 20 weeks.

I think the thing thats mostly putting me off vbac at the momment is that you have to labour within a certain time .. If your labour is taking too long then you will end up with a cs anyway ?

Think i will start writing down everything that im unsure about and take it with me to the meeting.

Loulou888 Tue 15-Apr-14 19:11:12

Mum2kiss perhaps it is your lmp which is why they didn't tell you. My due date is same as lmp.

Matildasmam22 Tue 15-Apr-14 19:26:49

Sparkle I'm really chuffed for you saw your earlier post need to catch up properly on the thread but good luck to everyone who is anxious. I had my scan this morning I'm 12 weeks exactly which might put my due date into November but with youngest DD arriving at 30 weeks we are pretty much preparing for an August baby with any further along a bonus. Scan showed a very active baby with a huge looking head obviously taking after DP already smile

mum2kiss Tue 15-Apr-14 20:03:09

lou when I asked her if my dates were accurate she said "um...just go by your last period". She was very flustered throughout the scan so I didnt have much confidence in what she said...

Loulou888 Tue 15-Apr-14 20:30:26

She doesn't sound very experienced Mum2kiss what a shame for you sad.

So DH has gone out he does often go to hooters as around corner from work. Today he had to have tickets apparently a friends birthday tonight! Just seen on FB that is only flipping miss bikini night. I'll just sit at home feeling like a fat frump whilst he watches skinny bums parading about. angry

Me23 Tue 15-Apr-14 20:42:02

Just adding weebairn to the list from earlier, going to cath up now.

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Weebairn Dc2 Edd 30th sept
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
daphnehoneybutt DC1 EDD 19th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct
Sparkle9 DC1 EDD 29th Oct

mum2kiss Tue 15-Apr-14 20:43:33

Definitely time to pull out a big tub of ice cream and a soup spoon lou!!!

The saddest thing about my sonographer is that she was training someone! Dp and I agreed that there was no way that trainee learned anything of use during my appointment!

Loulou888 Tue 15-Apr-14 20:53:27

A treat is needed mum2kiss

Poor trainee what an experience tho saying that the person who did my scan was as miserable as they come when we were excited to be seeing our baby

Me23 Tue 15-Apr-14 20:55:26

care I'm glad things are being done quickly for you I will be keeping my fingers crossed for you.

spsrkle at 12 weeks the organs aren't all visible that's why the 20 week scan is the anomaly scan as most structural defects could be seen by then. My report only comments on the nt and size if baby nothing else.

trouble sorry I couldn't help feeling how silly it was to refer you to consultant over "premature" birth at 36+6 that's just prem on a technicality! What a waste if your (and the consultants) time. We only refer 34 weeks and under where I work.

Had a busy day at work today, back again tomorrow!
Did some sweeps on women today hoping it did the trick and sent them into labour have a good feeling about one of them!

fedupofrainydays Tue 15-Apr-14 21:14:35

Congrats on all the good news!

And carebear I hope it all goes well for you and they find nothing wrong

I'm now wondering if I should do the harmony test. I got a low risk, but not that low - was 1:760. With DS is was 1:10,000. But part of me doesn't want to know as well. I find all this such a head fuck!

CareBearWithFangs Tue 15-Apr-14 21:42:22

Mum2kiss, that's really rubbish. It's supposed to be a dating scan, what if you hadn't known the date of your lmp? I don't really know mine. Could you call your midwife and mention it and say it's concerning you, see if you can get another scan. My sonographer didn't tell me my due date because I was a bit tearful by that point but it is on the report I was given.

ExcitedCJ Tue 15-Apr-14 21:45:47

Hi Fedup 1:760 is a very good score I got 1:400 with my DD & she is a great wee woman!
I am sure all is fine & you will just be spending money you don't need to. The only reason I did the Harmony test was that over here I would not have had any NT scan or combined blood test on NHS, would have had to pay for private Nuchal & there was only £100 difference.
All will be fine.

Captainmcgraw Tue 15-Apr-14 21:55:16

sparkle so pleased to hear all is ok. I've been delivering training this evening and just got home - first thing I checked was how your scan had gone. I'm getting nervous about my 16week appointment on Thursday. Had my heaviest bout of bleeding today, it started just as I got to work and I ended up crying on my colleagues which was a bit embarrassing. I know with the hematoma I should be expecting bleeding but it still makes me so anxious and I keep getting so worried something has gone wrong since the last scan. I know lots of you have these same anxieties though so it does help and make me feel like what I'm experiencing is normal. Beginning to feel pleased this is probably the last time I'll be pregnant (although before I got my BFP I was of course dying to experience it again!)

pebble82 Wed 16-Apr-14 00:11:38

So pleased to read about the good scans. Hugs to everyone who's stressed out, the worrying is terrible.

I'm waiting for my downs results too. Measured 2mm at scan on Friday when I was 13+3 (so baby was only just in range for the test) so not too anxious but you just never know.

In other news my natal hypnotherapy book and cds have turned up :-) I've read the first chapter and already feeling way more positive about the birth (I have been a bit of a panicking wreck about it in the past if I'm honest).

fedupofrainydays Wed 16-Apr-14 06:00:48

captain hope you are ok even though you should 'expect' bleeding with the haemotoma it's still horrible. I would cry too. And I'm also with you on last pregnacy. I wanted 3 kids and DH just 2. I'm not sure mentally I could cope with being preg again - I've been a totAl nut job.

Thanks CJ perhaps I am worrying about nothing but that huge change in risk from my ds has knocked me. I will hold on to my money for now

Emma diary I will get the vouchers but they aren't having my email address!

Loulou888 Wed 16-Apr-14 07:31:12

Morning ladies I have a 20% off online code for Topshop. It needs using today. They've got a few maternity bits. Just ordered a tankini some vests for holiday. TSTREAT20

Kirstipops Wed 16-Apr-14 07:57:21

pebble82 I haven't bought the natal hypnotherapy book yet but listened to the CD yesterday, it's early days but I really think it'll be good for me too! Just one listen even made me feel more empowered about it, so there must be something in it!
Hugs to worried mums to be, hope today is a better day x

mrsb87 Wed 16-Apr-14 08:01:41

Hi guys, I have my 16wk checkup today with the midwife. First time meeting her so I will have the fun of explaining the hyperemesis all over again and that I'm still vomiting on a daily basis even at 16+2!

loulou I hope your dh makes you feel special when he comes home from places like that? It seems a little inconsiderate of him to be honest!

ExcitedCJ Wed 16-Apr-14 08:14:49

CareBear thinking about you this morning. I hope your trip isn't too exhausting and that everything runs smoothly today. Fingers crossed for positive results.

Cherie037 Wed 16-Apr-14 08:56:19

Good luck carebear with the testing. Thinking positive thoughts for you.

Good to hear your scan went alright sparkle.

Captainmcgraw Wed 16-Apr-14 09:04:10

Good luck carebear

sazzlehopes Wed 16-Apr-14 09:35:14

Good luck today carebear x

Best of luck carebear xx

Kirstipops Wed 16-Apr-14 10:14:01

Thinking about you carebear, good luck smile x

STIGZ Wed 16-Apr-14 10:57:44

Positive thoughts to you carebear xxx

STIGZ Wed 16-Apr-14 12:22:31

adrielbooker.com/combating-pregnancy-fatigue/

This made me laugh - pregnancy fatigue & 4 year old on easter holidays is not a good combination for me today!

I cant honestly be bothered to actually form words today, feel so guilty about DD as i am no use to her today!!

CareBearWithFangs Wed 16-Apr-14 13:45:04

So cvs all done now. It wasn't painful just very weird feeling. I'm feeling a bit exhausted from it all though. Really emotional seeing the baby on the scan again, such a strange mixture of the usual joy at seeing your baby but also horrible horrible sadness/fear that something is wrong. I need to go home and curl up in bed. But the plumber is currently tearing out our old bathroom so I can't, boo. Thank you so much for all the support, it means a lot.

I hope everyone is managing to enjoy a bit of the sunshine.

daphnehoneybutt Wed 16-Apr-14 13:47:42

Thinking of you today carebear Glad its done and didn't (physically)hurt.

LondonJen Wed 16-Apr-14 14:40:56

Good to know pebble I'd like to get that soon.

Thanks Loulou I might get some jeans!

Take care of yourself the rest of the day carebear

Is anyone else having very chesty breathing? I don't know how else to describe it. Am 15 weeks today. Have had breathlessness for ages but that's after a flight of stairs or other exertion. This is when I am just sitting or laying down, it's a bit like my windpipe, possibly my lungs are a bit..not smooth, like my breath is catching. I had a couple of instances at the weekend but yesterday it was more frequent. However, today I have a cough too so maybe it's just how a cold feels when it starts when pg?! I feel fine in myself otherwise and no other symptoms apart from growing pains as usual. Certainly not going blue or anything serious. Imposs to see gp before Easter now, tho can leave mw an answerphone message. Does it sound like just a pregnancy thing? My bump seems to have popped up a bit this morning so maybe body is just working very hard? Surely baby not big enough to be squashing things just yet tho? Any thoughts appreciated!

magichandles Wed 16-Apr-14 14:51:50

carebear I've been thinking of you as well.

Not sure LondonJen - I've definitely got a dry mouth at the moment, especially at night as my nose has felt a little blocked for a few weeks now, which I'm sure I've read is a pregnancy thing.

I'm 12+5 now and I feel a million times better - sickness has completely disappeared. I have had mild indigestion the last two nights though, so that would be typical that that replaces the nausea.

I should find out school allocations for DD in the next couple of hours, I'm feeling pretty nervous.

Grannyapple Wed 16-Apr-14 17:38:08

carebear glad the procedure wasn't too painful...try & rest up xxx

Grannyapple Wed 16-Apr-14 17:40:24

Ooh me23 hope you got your schools choice. That'll be me next year...dreading it to be honest..

Me23 Wed 16-Apr-14 19:38:25

Hello everyone,

grany I was so confused reading your post then I realised you meant to reply to magic good luck hope you get what you want!

Ds has just been accepted for a full time nursery place at the nursery attached to dds school, which is great as it means I won't have to pay for childcare whilst on mat leave. Though will be sad to move him from his current nursery as it's great and I trust all the people there but it is so expensive.

london I would get myself checked out if I were you. Though some breathlessness is common in pregnancy it sounds like your struggling with it. maybe you are coming down with something. ?chest infection. Any pain when you breathe? Can u go to a walk in centre?

Kirstipops Wed 16-Apr-14 19:43:40

Could it maybe post-nasal drip LondonJen? I had it a couple of years ago (not pregnant at the time), and it started with that sort of feeling with me, sort of tight like I couldn't get a proper breath, then a rubbish cough as the phlegm was irritating my chest ugh, as preggos we are apparently more mucus-y anyway so could be a possibility? I was given a steroid nasal spray, not sure if that's the same treatment in pregnancy though.

Me23 Wed 16-Apr-14 19:43:45

Whoops posted too soon,
care I'm glad the cvs procedure went well, I hope you are managing to rest and have lots of support. Will you have the results Friday?

I hope you've got some peace and quiet now carebear and that you can fill the next few days with treats and lovely people. thanks

mrsb87 Wed 16-Apr-14 19:51:04

Hi guys, glad to hear the procedure went well carebear.

I had my 16wk appointment today. It was nothijg spectacular, just blood results. Everything was ok but I'm a negative blood group. She didn't go too much into it other that there can be some complications. Little worried but I've done well so far. Anyone else have this issue?

CareBearWithFangs Wed 16-Apr-14 19:52:43

London I would maybe speak with your midwife/gp just in case?

I should get the results from cvs tomorrow afternoon. I managed to stay really positive yesterday but I'm having a bit of a slump now. I know it's childish but I just keep thinking how unfair it all is, I take really good care of myself, never smoked, never done drugs, barely drink and now we're having all these problems. I know there not at all related to chromosome problems but I think I'm just cursing the universe a little bit.

Grannyapple Wed 16-Apr-14 20:32:17

Oops sorry me23, of course I meant magic grin. Did tog get your preferred choice magic?

I'm having thoughts of changing nursery for DD when I'm next in mat leave (tho she's only just started settling in sessions at current nursery, in properly when I'm back at work next week). Is really expensive in that nursery too but DS loves it & I'm loathe to move him...means more chance, as well as dealing with another new sibling..

mrsb I'm rhesus negative blood group too...for me it has only meant receiving anti D at 28 wk appts & then again once they've checked baby's blood from the cord after birth...needed it again after DS's birth as he was Rhesus positive, but not for DD as she has same blood group as me. The risk is if baby's blood comes into contact with yours & your body tries to fight it as it thinks it's a foreign body type thing. So long as you don't have any bleeding in pregnancy, you should hopefully be fine x

Grannyapple Wed 16-Apr-14 20:33:18

Tog=you, chance=change in that last post!!

magichandles Wed 16-Apr-14 20:35:25

mrsb87 - I'm Rhesus Negative as well and all it means (if I can remember) is that if your baby is positive and any of your blood gets mixed it means that your body produces anti-bodies that could cause problems in future pregnancies. All it means for now is that you'll get an Anti-D injection around 28 weeks and another shortly after the birth if the baby is a positive bloody group. Also if there is a chance that your blood could mix with the babies during pregnancy (heavy bleeding or a blow to the stomach) you'll need an injection then. I haven't ever really worried about it.

DD got her first choice school, which is a massive relief.

LondonJen Wed 16-Apr-14 20:38:03

Thanks for all your thoughts. I will call the gp tomorrow and try to at least get an over the phone assessment. me23 No it doesn't hurt at all. Actually the walk in centre (2 miles away) could be a good back up plan if open over the holidays, thanks didn't of that. Kirsti I was just loosing a cold when I got pg and every morning I have mucus yuk in my mouth which is the same yuk as when I have sinusitus. Apparently am snoring and sleeping with my mouth open so could be something like that. Will get checked out.

Glad your appointment went well MrsB I can't help with your q I'm afraid.

Carebear I would feel just the same. Life can be crap that way sometimes.

mrsb87 Wed 16-Apr-14 20:42:48

Thanks granny and magic! I just sat there like a wet lettuce and nodded, left and wondered why I didn't ask?!? Probably need dh there in future to help with questions.
I feel a little less concerned now so thanks again!

ExcitedCJ Wed 16-Apr-14 20:48:04

Hi mrsb I'm O neg and I was all concerned when pregnant with DD but no issues, dog jumped on my stomach at some point prior to WK28 and they told me not to panic. They were most unconcerned about giving me Anti D until I was scheduled to have it. I think its just after a serious trauma or sharp blow.

Kirstipops Wed 16-Apr-14 20:52:34

Yep mrsb my sis is rhesus negative too and just had to have the injections because her babies were different blood type from her.
LondonJen it does sound quite like post nasal drip that you have then, I'm not a snorer but when I had PND I had to sleep with my mouth open like a snoring snorey thing as I couldn't breath through my nose, I'm also prone to sinusitis ever since, pants! Off to the docs with you ;)

vicky123uk Wed 16-Apr-14 21:20:23

Hi all havent been around in a while as busy with work. We have our 16 week appointment next week when we will actually be 17. Relieved that our ds has got into his first choice school today.

Anyone suffer migraines in this pregnancy? I had one start yesterday that is just about easing off now - tried to deal with it without drugs but have had to result to paracetamol today to get rid of it. 3 lots of 2 tablets to be exact - hoping that will do as didnt really want to tale any.

Next question did any of you with dc1 already have premature babies? Our ds was born at 33 weeks, emcs they have said will see a consultant at 20 weeks but wondering what I should be asking or what other cbecks are offered around the country. Ds born due to unexplained waters breaking no infection or anything to give explanation.

ldt87 Wed 16-Apr-14 22:05:14

Ah I lost your all! Didn't see the new thread, I'm due October 9th, can someone add me please? I'm in the Facebook group already.

How is everyone? Xx

ldt87 Wed 16-Apr-14 22:07:27

Also this is number 3 for me, and I had my 16 week appointment today and heard the heartbeat even though I'm actually 15 weeks tomorrow xx

magichandles Wed 16-Apr-14 22:08:23

vicky dc1 was 33+ 5 and that was just dealt with at routine consultant's appointments when I was pregnant with Dc2 - prematurity was most likely result of an infection. No problems with dc2 But (same hospital) are sending me for an extra scan around 20 weeks with this pregnancy at the cervical clinic because I've had one premature delivery - no idea why this one and not with dc2.

Kirstipops Thu 17-Apr-14 08:02:02

It's great to hear isn't it ldt? The midwives was walking over to me with the Doppler saying "Now it can take a wee while to find the heartbeat at first so don't worry if you don't hear it right away..." then as soon as she put the thingumy on my tum there it was, going like a drum haha!
People were asking if it sounded like a train or a horse galloping, another old wives' tale that's new to me! Mine sounded like a dog barking!

Kirstipops Thu 17-Apr-14 08:02:59

The midwife was, even.

Thinking of you whilst you wait for your results this afternoon carebear, don't beat yourself up about how you're feeling; it normal to want something to blame and difficult because there is nothing to blame.
Those if you who had 33 week babies when did your subsequent ones arrive? I'm wondering if it makes you any more/less likely to deliver early/late next time? I feel like I'll be waiting to deliver from early September because of last time and it might not be relevant at all!

ldt87 Thu 17-Apr-14 08:37:43

The same happened to me kirsti, was warned not to worry if they couldn't find it straight away but it was there instantly. It did move though so then she had to go looking for it! I got myself in a tizz because no my notes it looks like she's put fhs and then sonicaid, I though it was fhh when they hear the heartbeat? I'm so paranoid something is wrong and they wouldn't tell me! I know how ridiculous that is too xx

CareBearWithFangs Thu 17-Apr-14 08:47:14

They'd tell you idt, don't worry.

I need some tips on how to keep myself as distracted as possible today. DD and I are currently watching disney clips on you tube. I'm really trying to stay positive but to be honest I'm really frightened. In for a crappy day I think.

magichandles Thu 17-Apr-14 08:48:06

Trouble DC2 arrived at 37+5 but he was induced because of GD. I wasn't too concerned about delivering as early as there was a clear reason for DC1 coming so early but it was definitely a milestone when we passed her delivery date. Do they know why you were early?

Cherie037 Thu 17-Apr-14 08:55:44

My thoughts are with you carebear. I am thinking positive thoughts for you and I can't imagine how anxious you must be. Its suppose to be a nice sunny day today maybe get outside with your DD and soak up some sunshine?

mum2kiss Thu 17-Apr-14 09:06:04

trouble my sis has 5 dcs and their arrival dates were all over the place...some a few weeks early and some late by a few days.

I had a dream last night that I gave birth to a 9lb baby boy lol! If he could just shave a couple of pounds of that birth weight I'd be happy!

I have spoken to my gp about the lack of due date at the scan and she said not to worry about...easy for her to say!

STIGZ Thu 17-Apr-14 09:11:53

carebear i cant imagine how worried you must be, how will u find out? Will they call you?

When im worrying about something that is out of my control i always believe that the outcome will be something i am strong enough to deal with, and know that everything happens for a reason, no matter how hard it is to deal with at the time.

I always think thank god for children at worrying times because they get you through so much, so your dd will be a wee guardian angel & take ur mind off things... Even if only for a few minutes xx

my dd has got me through so much grief with a close family member dying 6 months ago! I honestly dont think i would have got out of bed again if it wasnt for her.

Thinking of you hunni xx

CareBearWithFangs Thu 17-Apr-14 09:36:58

smile Yes DD is being wonderful. She's also behaved so well the past few days, almost as if she knows. I think if DD wasn't here I might be curled up and crying all day.

Mum2kiss I'd be really annoyed if I was you, surely you need some sort of due date? What are you going to say to all the old ladies who will start asking "ooh when are you due?".

Loulou888 Thu 17-Apr-14 10:11:14

Fingers crossed for you carebear. Can't be long now before you hear. Will look out for your post.

I got my blood test results back today really really low risk so relief.

ldt87 Thu 17-Apr-14 10:31:46

Thinking of you carebear and waiting for your news, hope only good news comes your way xx

Captainmcgraw Thu 17-Apr-14 10:36:40

Thinking of you carebear.

I had my 16 week check up this morning and heard the heartbeat and baby seems fine - what a relief. Midwife and student midwife were so kind and listened to all my silly anxieties and made me feel normal instead of stupid which was lovely. They said that from 28 weeks I would have regular growth scans as DD was a low birth weight. Seems a little strange as she wasn't tiny - 6lb 2oz - and I am very small myself and was about 4lbs something at birth. However won't turn down the opportunity to see baby more often. I'm just a bit worried that if baby is on the small side they won't let me have my ELCS at 39 weeks as DD was that weight at nearly 42. Had very traumatic delivery last time and severe tearing which still effects me now so really really want the CS! I guess if they were worried it would just be booked in for later and I'd possibly go into labour first and end up with emcs.

Captainmcgraw Thu 17-Apr-14 10:38:14

P.s anyone else had third or fourth degree tears with first baby? What did you do the second time/are planning to do this time? Sorry hope this isn't too off putting for first timers - tears this bad really aren't that common.

LondonJen Thu 17-Apr-14 10:55:31

Glad to hear you've had some lovely reassurance Captain

Carebear can you make something easter-ish with DD? In early pg I learnt to knit and all sorts just to distract me from worrying this would end in mc like the last time. Thinking of you and wishing you strength x

Me23 Thu 17-Apr-14 11:35:15

mum2 if baby is measuring same as lmp then you wouldn't be redacted. Doesn't it say on your scan report or screening results the gestation of baby on that day?

care I have my fingers crossed for you and I'm hoping you get some good news very soon.

Me23 Thu 17-Apr-14 11:37:24

captain have you got an appt with a consultant to discuss your options? It's a very individual decision based on how you have healed and if there are any ongoing incontinence issues.

pinds Thu 17-Apr-14 12:34:42

Pinds edd 5 October 2014 dc1

Captainmcgraw Thu 17-Apr-14 12:57:44

Thanks Me23 I have a meeting with the consultant at 20 weeks. I'm very much decided that I want a CS - quite possibly wouldn't have got pregnant again if I thought I wouldn't be allowed one. I'm more being nosey than anything and just wondering if anyone else is in a similar situation!

ohthegoats Thu 17-Apr-14 12:59:43

Last few days of my holiday, feel like I've lost weight from eating so much fruit and salad (still obviously got a fat gut though), so now panicking that I've forgotten I'm pregnant, don't feel pregnant, therefore can't actually still be pregnant.

I've got a consultant appointment on Thursday, but no 16 week midwife appointment because of being away. Because I did private 12 week scan, I've not seen any nhs people in over 2 months. Feeling really weird about the whole thing. Maybe just realising that this is actually happening, rather than something that was happening in some future time after holidays.

Urgh. Am turning into a nutjob.

mum2kiss Thu 17-Apr-14 14:50:58

Yes me23 the scan report shows a edd of 12th october. Im just concerned that its not accurate because when I asked her she seemed so vague with the answer and didnt even tell me the date she'd recorded in the report. My midwife had estimated 13th october and if you go by my lmp its 11th, so not much in it...I guess the sonographers lack of confidence in what she was doing has made me unsure that she did much of it correctly! She didnt record anything about my placenta or amniotic fluid, not even to say it all looked ok and she just seemed so flustered throughout. Mayve she wasnt comfortable with having to train someone...I dont know.

Me23 Thu 17-Apr-14 15:06:30

mum2 I'm sorry she didn't make you feel comfortable, if scan say 12th then she did give you edd though. Also my scan doesn't comment on placenta or amniotic fluid at 1st scans only Nt and crl measurement.
At 20 week scan you get a lot more detail.

Hoping care is ok.

Me23 Thu 17-Apr-14 15:10:10

Just adding people to the list from earlier,

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Weebairn Dc2 Edd 30th sept
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
Pinds Dc1 Edd 5th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances Dc1 EDD 9th Oct
Idt87 Dc3 Edd 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
daphnehoneybutt DC1 EDD 19th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct
Sparkle9 DC1 EDD 29th Oct

mum2kiss Thu 17-Apr-14 15:12:49

I feel like if I hadnt read the report I wouldn't know anything based on the answers she gave. Why would she not say the 12th if thats what she was writing in the report? I know its just me.picking holes in the experience but i never had this sort of vague repsonse with any of dc1s scans! Also after waiting soooo long for the scan date to arrive they know how anxious you are so why not be as reassuring as possible?

gunwalloe Thu 17-Apr-14 15:17:41

Captain I've already had my appointment through to see the anaesthetist and I haven't had a chance to tell them what I want yet

It's amazing that all our sonographers do things differently on my 12 week scan report I've got heart rate, Crl,Nt,and she's mentioned that skull brain spine heart abdomen are all normal bladders visible cord has 3 vessels stomach visable and left sided, upper and lower extremities both seen. Nasal bone present normal tricuspid flow,ductus venous ( a-wave) positive.

Binglesplodge Thu 17-Apr-14 17:08:19

Thinking about you, carebear, hope today's news is good xx

CareBearWithFangs Thu 17-Apr-14 18:10:15

Heard from the hospital, it's not good news and we won't be continuing with the pregnancy so I shall be leaving this thread now.

I really do wish all of you, all the best for your pregnancies.

Binglesplodge Thu 17-Apr-14 18:18:03

So, so sorry, carebear. Sending hugs.

porcito Thu 17-Apr-14 18:26:10

carebear so so sorry it wasn't good news. Thinking of you and your family

Loulou888 Thu 17-Apr-14 18:30:56

Oh carebear I'm so so sorry. You have been so unlucky. Look after yourself lots of love xxx

Really sorry to hear that care Wishing you luck for the future x

magichandles Thu 17-Apr-14 18:39:55

Oh carebear, I'm so very sorry.

FlipFantasia Thu 17-Apr-14 19:11:26

Carebear I'm so sorry that it's bad news hmmhmm. Massive hugs for you xx

gunwalloe Thu 17-Apr-14 19:16:02

So sorry Carebear

So sorry carebear. Take good care of yourself.

LondonJen Thu 17-Apr-14 20:01:17

Carebear I am so sorry to hear that. I hope you have lots of RL support. Please take care of yourself xxx

Me23 Thu 17-Apr-14 20:23:56

care im so sorry for your devasting result if there is anything I can do for you please don't hesitate to message me. You probably have aleady been given this link but if not you may find it useful, also dont be scared to ask for second opinions if it's not a condition you know much about.
www.arc-uk.org/

puppythedog Thu 17-Apr-14 20:39:40

We are both incredibly sorry for your experience. Good luck for the future and I hope you are well supported.

Kirstipops Thu 17-Apr-14 20:57:49

I'm so sorry carebear, if you are still reading these messages I hope they give you some comfort xx

ExcitedCJ Thu 17-Apr-14 21:01:47

oh CareBear I'm so sorry.

Sparkle9 Thu 17-Apr-14 21:03:52

Sorry to hear about your bad news, CareBear. X

Matildasmam22 Thu 17-Apr-14 21:50:29

So sorry carebear can't imagine what your going through thinking of you x

STIGZ Thu 17-Apr-14 21:55:10

carebear my thoughts with you and your family at this devastating time xxxx

Bumpforme2014 Thu 17-Apr-14 22:39:13

So sad for carebear she doesn't deserve that, how awful xxxxx

Grannyapple Thu 17-Apr-14 22:42:16

Sorry to see your news carebear...look after yourself xxx

CellyD Thu 17-Apr-14 22:42:57

Carebear I'm so sorry to hear your news. My thoughts are with you and your family.

mum2kiss Thu 17-Apr-14 22:59:11

carebear I am so sorry to hear this sad

Captainmcgraw Thu 17-Apr-14 23:16:47

carebear how devastating for you - please know there are so many people here thinking of you and hope your real life friends and family can offer you some support at this very difficult time.

ExcitedCJ Fri 18-Apr-14 04:29:34

Can't sleep!

fedupofrainydays Fri 18-Apr-14 06:18:22

Me neither. Been awake most of the night!

carebear if you are still lurking sad I'm so sorry and my thoughts are with you and your family. Devastating and heartbreaking probably no where near describe your situation sad take care xxx

Not feeling very preg yesterday and today which has got me in a tiz. Worked from 5.30 am to 10 pm as had a client deadline with 1 hour off. And i coped. A couple of weeks ago I would be asleep by 8.30. I feel a bit sick this morn but my only preg symptom and think it's more fr

fedupofrainydays Fri 18-Apr-14 06:19:06

Whoops
More from tiredness than anything else

Anyone else feeling less preg now?? Normal??

ExcitedCJ Fri 18-Apr-14 07:15:20

Fedup apart from the big belly I don't feel pregnant any more. Was googling private ultrasound last night when I couldn't sleep!
I'm wrecked today, totally dog tired!

I am 15+1 today and feeling decidedly less pregnant. But considering feeling pregnant meant throwing up, this is probably a good thing!
Seeing the consultant today as I am very itchy all over and also have bad pains in my entire vulva, like someone kicked me there. Not really worried about either thing but he said best to come in.

ohthegoats Fri 18-Apr-14 07:40:48

Oh crikey, sorry to hear that carebear x

fedup - 16+5 for me today and aside from fat belly (fat, not bump), I don't feel at all pregnant.

I'm grumpy, but I'd be grumpy anyway today after a night of bf snoring and last day of holiday.

I don't feel pregnant most of the time, I have a bump and can feel the baby moving sometimes when I'm sitting still but this is the magical second trimester; we're not supposed to feel pregnant! Don't worry; you'll feel pregnant again by the third! grin
Magic he was only 1 day early (36+6) so I don't think there was a reason for it, just that for the normal range to be 37-42 weeks some have got to be at the 37 week mark. He was 8lb5oz so ready! I was wondering if that meant my babies might just cook quick or if I have just as much chance of going overdue as the next person. From mum2kiss's post it seems it is probably just random! I'll get everything ready a little early and do a test fill of the pool at 37 weeks then try to not expect him/her to come until October! smile

Kirstipops Fri 18-Apr-14 08:54:36

Anyone getting leg cramps in the night? I've had them in my right leg the last 2-3 nights, a hard dull ache from my hip to my toes, thankfully they don't last long but hope they won't be too frequent!

MissFruits Fri 18-Apr-14 11:38:02

Hello everyone, Can I join you all? I have only just discovered mumsnet, wish i had found it years ago!
I am expecting Dc2 Edd 13th October

Bumpforme2014 Fri 18-Apr-14 12:23:26

Hi all, kirstiepops I had the worst cramp ever in my foot last night, never felt anything like it!

Thank god for bank holidays I feel ten times better when I'm not at work, getting up early, travelling on tube and being busy at work really is a nightmare for pregnancy. At weekends I don't even feel pregnant, at work I feel like death.

15 weeks now, energy is back to normal but had runs all week, my bowel condition flared up big time had few sleepless nights. One symptom leaves just for another to follow.

mum2kiss Fri 18-Apr-14 12:47:39

I hate to be the bearer of bad tidings but you may as well get used to night cramps ladies! I think staying well hydrated can help to keep them at bay but from what I remember they were a pretty regular occurrence until dc1 was born! Just think of it as preparation for sleepness nights!

Kirstipops Fri 18-Apr-14 14:06:58

My mum said drink a little glass of tonic water as the small amount of quinine helps, so I'll be trying that. God a gin in it would be lovely too though ;)

LondonJen Fri 18-Apr-14 14:18:58

I hope you get some answers tak1ng. I have had the odd mild pain down there but not like being kicked, you poor thing.

Fedup other than the growing pains I've been getting in the general bump/hip/nether regions, I am sometimes a bit tired. I don't need to eat all the time even snacks can be smaller and I no longer feel exhausted. I have been able to do things without having a rest in between. It is quite freaky I must admit.

Welcome Missfruits!

Kirstipops Fri 18-Apr-14 15:55:58

Hi Missfruits smile

puppythedog Fri 18-Apr-14 16:46:55

Just wanted to share our nesting smile we've lifted the naff bark in our (rented house's) garden, replaced it with turf so our little baby/child has somewhere to roll around that is natural. We've started growing some food so that he/she can learn about where food really comes from and can play with the lovely smell herb things. I realise we've a while to wait for him/her to benefit but we made need the practice on not killing green things smile
I and we feel so different already and there's six months to go until the wee noise machine arrives hopefully.

ldt87 Fri 18-Apr-14 18:01:54

For cramps try milk. I had them terribly with my first, they started again with my second and my midwife said calcium deficiency can cause them. I drank a pint of milk before bed every night and never had any more through my entire pregnancy xx

Kirstipops Fri 18-Apr-14 19:53:24

Ooh good tip ldt thanks - tho for me it'd need to be hot chocolate as "straight" milk gives me the heave ho!

mum2kiss Fri 18-Apr-14 22:05:31

Oooh ive never heard of that ldt. A pint is a lot before bed though! I'll be up peeing all night lol!

binkybunny Fri 18-Apr-14 22:20:01

puppy sounds like you really have the nesting bug and it all sounds lovely! Can't wait to move next month so we can get baby ready smile

Kirstipops Fri 18-Apr-14 22:27:28

Aww puppy that all sounds lovely smile

ldt87 Fri 18-Apr-14 22:40:54

I only drank a pint because I like it lol. I'm sure some smaller glasses in the day would do the trick! If I want to do something every day it has to be before bed or I forget xx

Grannyapple Sat 19-Apr-14 06:33:21

For cramping, it's usually calcium & magnesium that help, so a mashed banana in a bowl with some milk before bed helps too.

Was feeling kinda not pregnant til I received my maternity clothes package from debenhams on Friday. DH & I had a rare child free night out so went to a posh restaurant for dinner. Wore one of my maternity dresses...oh my! Defo no hiding it now..here's a quick pic.

Kirstipops Sat 19-Apr-14 08:26:39

You look great grannyapple! No cramps last night but have woke up with murderous ache on my lower left side, bah! I gave DH a massage yesterday, hoping he'll repay the favour the today haha!

STIGZ Sat 19-Apr-14 13:49:20

Weather very fine ..., but missing my white wine !'!'

mrsb87 Sat 19-Apr-14 13:55:32

stigz a bottle of cornish rattler cider would.gp down lovely right now!

STIGZ Sat 19-Apr-14 14:19:43

I knowmrsb im really starting to miss my poison., its going to be a long alcohol free summer!!' .,, but the reward at the end of summer will be worth it !!!

ExcitedCJ Sat 19-Apr-14 15:59:41

Grannyapple you are a bad influence! I saw your picture this morning & went onto gap maternity & ordered some clothes! I'm in a right shopping mood now! Might order some other bits tonight.
STIGZ & mrsb you guys are also not good for me today, clearly I'm feeling impressionable, I am gagging for a nice glass of beer or a juicy red wine now! wine

Captainmcgraw Sat 19-Apr-14 16:25:36

Bank holiday and DD has caught the pox. Boo. Possibility of four restful and fun days out the window. Oh well at least that's fewer days we have to take off work.

fedupofrainydays Sat 19-Apr-14 16:53:47

Well after a busy day yesterday and a horrible and very long day at work on Thursday I can safely say the extreme tiredness and also nausea is back today. Feel like I've got the worst hang over in the world. Off to bed at 8.30 tonight.

Friend have me some mat clothes yesterday. Some ace jeans from Asos included that are so comfy!! Bought a couple of tops from h&m and some leggings. Easy to get carried away but and trying to keep my credit cards away from the Internet!! I have stuff from my first preg that is on loan to various people and need to collect it back once their babies have arrived. Can't really remember what I had apart from one very nice French connection dress - worried that one won't come back!!!

hmm Bad luck captain hope she's better really soon and doesn't suffer too much!
The summer is going to be tough without booze. I was all please being pregnant this time of year and not having to do a booze free Christmas/new year but actually, summer will be worse!winewinewine

Me23 Sat 19-Apr-14 19:13:04

Welcome missfruits

Feelin so tired again, I'm not sleeping well at all keep waking around 4:30 and can't back back to sleep properly.

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Weebairn Dc2 Edd 30th sept
Funtimesahead Dc1 Edd 1st Oct
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
Pinds Dc1 Edd 5th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
Queenasanti3 DC2 EDD 6th Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Londonjen DC1 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances Dc1 EDD 9th Oct
Idt87 Dc3 Edd 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
noimagination80 DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Missfruits Dc2 Edd 14th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
daphnehoneybutt DC1 EDD 19th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Cherie037 DC3 EDD 22Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
magichandles DC3 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct
anotherRoo DC1, EDD 27th Oct
Sparkle9 DC1 EDD 29th Oct

Kirstipops Sat 19-Apr-14 20:24:42

Yeah I'm not missing hangovers that's for sure, but some nice red wine with dinner, or white wine, cold cider or beer on warm summery days will be hard missing out on! My friend was drinking prosecco last night in our garden and I swear I could smell it's melony appleyness from a few feet away haha!

Grannyapple Sat 19-Apr-14 21:02:48

Ah thank you for the lovely comments but is still a bit of a shock to feel/look this big at this stage, despite it being no 3 so I really shouldn't be surprised!

We've been car hunting today...test drove an s max. Was worried about size & it feeling like a bus but it was soo easy to drive. Just waiting in a decent deal to come up....one if the big things to do off the list then!

Hope everyone is having a lovely Easter w/e...sorry to hear about the pox (can't remember who). DS got it on my due date last summer with DD...thankfully his was a mild dose but not much fun.

I had a quarter glass of champagne as we were having smoked salmon canapés today. It went down lovely!

Me23 Sat 19-Apr-14 21:10:51

granny I'm expecting dc3 aswell and have a similar sized bump to you! I look about 26 weeks not my 15!

Grannyapple Sat 19-Apr-14 22:13:44

Ha ha yeah my SIL who's a mw joked that there must be more than one in there...had to disappoint her!

Yeah there's no way this'll be hidden next week when back at work so I may as well just embrace it!

cottonwool4brains Sat 19-Apr-14 22:14:21

I can't seem to copy myself onto this list (I am on a mobile).
I will try and add myself later

Dc2 edd 15/10

Is anyone else still feeling rough? I feel worse than ever!

magichandles Sat 19-Apr-14 22:18:01

I'm on DC3 and I'm measuring the same as I did at 21 weeks with DC2 already - I'm only 13 weeks!

I'm not worrying about booze much this time, much of the time I don't actually fancy it, but if I do I have a small glass of wine or half a lager but no more than 2 or 3 times a week, and most of the time less than that.

Loulou888 Sun 20-Apr-14 07:42:38

I had to go shopping yesterday. Have seriously popped out and look more like 20 weeks! Dc3 too! Feel huge

Same here magic but have had a few times when I do feel like it when I really want several - it's the sunshine! I didn't drink anything until the third trimester with DS but feel a bit differently this time.

ExcitedCJ Sun 20-Apr-14 08:35:27

Aah, I'm not happy with my H (no D, as I'm mad with him)! angry He told me my bump had really popped out & was I sure there wasn't another one in there, "you look like you could be carrying twins!" I feel like crying, only 14 weeks & freaked out about how big I might get & how insensitive he is! I tried to explain that his insensitive comment could take the shine off my expanding bump over the next months & he then started trying to explain that he didn't mean it like that! Men - fume. sad

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 09:01:24

CJ men just dont think sometimes. DH is trying to think twice before making any bump related comments!

Yesterday I realised just how hard growing a baby is when I tried climb a local mountain that we have done tons of time. I only made it half way before stopping to throw up and had to turn around. Today I fel like I have run a marathon I'm so sore. Think its time to readjust my summer hillwalking plans!

ohthegoats Sun 20-Apr-14 09:13:52

Oh binky - I normally go on walking holidays up mountains in hot countries, for the last two weeks I was in Thailand and essentially lying down the whole time. I couldn't even do an hour up to a waterfall. Feel a bit pathetic really. Still, it was a great rest!

I can't believe you guys are looking so pregnant! I really don't look anything other than a bit of a fatty. Makes me a bit worried really. Having said that, I've been wearing beachy clothes for a fortnight, so should probably see what normal clothes feel like.

mum2kiss Sun 20-Apr-14 09:14:12

excited that sounds like a compliment compared to some of the things my partner has said to me! Lol!

I'm worrying again about bump. Usually when I lay on my back in bed I can sort of feel my womb and a weighty sensation but today I can't...so I'm convinced something must be wrong...

my bump is also quite sizeable...baby number 2 for me. The upper part of my tummy never fully went back down so I think thats why it popped straight back out this time.

ohthegoats Sun 20-Apr-14 09:14:37

binky - also, I've done some walking here, it's about sloooooooooowness. Really 'rubbish' slowness, but it gets you up hills.

ExcitedCJ Sun 20-Apr-14 09:20:41

This is my 14 week bump that my husband thinks looks like twins. I didn't think it was that big with DC2?

binky your stamina comes back a bit later on in pg, I hill walk too & managed a big beast near home at 38+5 that I couldn't do at 16.

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 09:46:16

Thanks CJ that makes me feel better. I was having a bit of a tantrum yesterday blush I wish my bump was as well formed as your. Mine is def more food than baby!

Ohthegoats we were going slow. I was overtaken by 6 and 60 year olds. I kept talking loudly about being pregnant I was so embarrased about looking so fat and unfit! Your beach holiday sounds amazing! I would give up trying to climb hills for 2 weeks on a beach. Think its just what I need but no chance this year.

mum2kiss Sun 20-Apr-14 09:49:56

All this talk of mountain and hill climbing is making me sleepy! I can barely manage a flight of stairs!

excited give your hubby a slap. You do not look like you are carrying twins. You have a very near little bump smile

My DH seems to also be pregnant and has developed quite a lovely "bump" as well! Also gets up in the night for wees and had headaches with me. Bless him.

Me23 Sun 20-Apr-14 11:28:14

ohthegoats no need to worry, most women expecting their 1st don't get a bump until after 20 weeks. I see bumps every day at work and 1st time mums always worry about lack of bump at this stage.
Better start peeling some veg for roast.
Anyone else veggie on here? I'm starting to crave meat have been veggie since I was 12! Also I'm considering taking omega 3 fish oils this time as they hae such good benefits for baby and help with mood hopefully help with baby blues have had PND before don't want to go there again. I'm just feeling guilty about consuming fish though, have looked into veggie omega 3 and it isn't the same or as effective.

Captainmcgraw Sun 20-Apr-14 12:06:54

me23 I'm veggie and have also been craving meat. I thought my iron levels might be low but they're not according to blood results. I haven't eaten meat since I was 5 so I can't bear the idea in reality but I have been eating a bit of fish to prevent the cravings. Somehow doesn't seem quite as bad....

Yep, long term veggie here too, since I was 7. I took fish oil for a few weeks in my last pregnancy me23 but found it hard to remember to take it and it sort of petered out. I'm not going to this time. I think it sounds like a great idea for the PND and I think you can justify it, it's a tiny thing with lots of benefits and as you say the veggie one is not the same.

ohthegoats Sun 20-Apr-14 13:12:37

I'm not a veggie, but my boyfriend is virtually vegan (also since childhood), and he does most of the cooking. I end up not really eating meat in his company most of the time, but since I got pregnant I'm all over the stuff. He's even buying me chicken.

Out of interest, if one of you is veggie and your partner is not, how do you feed your children? Veggie or not? I've asked this on the pregnancy board before, so you might have seen it before.

Me23 Sun 20-Apr-14 14:16:30

When I had my 1st I started out giving her veggie food but by the time she was 14 months I started to allow her to eat mets as she was at childminders and she home cooked healthy food and it was easier that way, with my 2nd he had mets from weaning a I will let them make their own decision.

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 16:59:01

I'm the opposite. Always eaten meat but since about 9 weeks have not been able to! Still enjoying fish, although smoked salmon made me gag yesterday so no more of that. Trying to have lamb this evening but I have a feeling I'll just be having yorkshire puds potatoes and veg.

Apart from nut roasts do the veggies here have any suggestions for Sunday lunch?

me you said first timers dont normally show until 20 weeks. I'm 15+3 and have rather a large bump. Am I going to give birth to a huge baby or do you think its prob more of a food bump? A friend has just commented on it then said she had to be induced a week early as her baby was so large!

Me23 Sun 20-Apr-14 17:08:35

Tbh binky mine is probably more food bump than baby bump right now haven't been watching what I eat as in the 1st trimester was only craving carbs and sweets!
I really wouldn't worry if I were you, I'm sure things will even out it's too early to say if baby will be a big birth weight yet. Nature (usually) ensures we grow the right size baby for us.

Can anyone recommend family friendly areas in outer London Surrey or anywhere else? We have decided we are fed up of Central London and with 3 kids really could do with a nice size garden and quieter surroundings.

Kirstipops Sun 20-Apr-14 18:41:30

Excited what is your OH talking about, you're teeny! I overheard DH on the phone to my MIL, her asking "How's Kirstin, is she putting on weight?" My moodiness took this to mean that she sees me turning into a proper fat gannet, regardless of any of it being a bump, DH however laughed and carefully said "She's getting a wee bump aye"...so he's currently safe! In proper nesting mode, he's spent the weekend fixing our shed, painting the garden fence and wants to start freshening up the decking tomorrow. I want to start on our bedroom but guess the Scottish good weather only lasts a few days at a time so i suppose he's right to grab the chance while he can.

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 19:06:15

Hasnt the Scottish weather been amazing kirsti. We are supposed to be packing. Moving in one month and away next weekend but spent all weekend out and about instead. We too have decided to make the most of it while it lasts... This could be summer wink

ExcitedCJ Sun 20-Apr-14 19:07:22

binky I'm feeling the same about meat. Was a dedicated meat-a-holic & now it is making me feel a little queasy. Lamb lunch today too & could not stomach at all, ate 3 roasties & heaps of peas & carrots. The thought of a nut roast has me salivating! smile

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 19:10:32

me my sister lives in Henley on Thames and communted by train into London until recently. It's a lovely place and they are planning on starting a family soon. Lots of their friends have kids and there seems to be tons to do for familes. Dont know if its in the right area you are looking for though my London geography isnt great!

ExcitedCJ Sun 20-Apr-14 19:11:33

Thanks Kirstin that improved my mood, had a slight hump all day! Just ate a 99 in the sunshine after a gorgeous walk on the beach, so that helped too. Weather in N.I fab too! smile

binkybunny Sun 20-Apr-14 19:14:51

CJ I managed to eat the first lot of meat in ages. Slow roast lamb with balsamic glaze and I actually enjoyed it so not totally veggie yet!

STIGZ Sun 20-Apr-14 19:46:38

cj i think your wee bump is lovely - its looks better than my stomach before i got pregnant, lol!

I am too off meat & veggies.. Had a salad for the first time today!! Not had had one since i found out i was pregnant!

I am craving weird combinations like pickles, sweets(chewits,skittles etc) poppadoms & spiced onions and chips & curry sauce lol but not at the same time!

Still taking my pre nat vits as i dont think im getting enough nutrients from the foods im eating which is basically carbs sad

However my nails are growing really fast and they are alot stronger ... Hope that pregnancy glow follows as im getting spots which i dont normally get!! .,, thats probz my chips n curry to blame!

Enjoy scottish weather while it lasts - i am trying to get my years worth of vitamin D while i can !!

Loulou888 Sun 20-Apr-14 20:05:34

Is anyone suffering with painful wind? Didn't really have this with my previous pregnancies. I was awake most of last night with a painful stomach. Finally managed to go thismorning then felt stomach achy again. Tmi I know but seem to be getting over sickness to feel poorly with something else.

Grannyapple Sun 20-Apr-14 20:23:24

me23 we live in Bromley so on the London/Kent border, so not surrey
But defo outer London area. Has good schools, lots of green spaces, we've found it really family friendly & loads of parks & green spaces. Plus we're only 17 mins from Victoria stn/Central London & still easy to escape to the Kent countryside or anywhere else around the m25 really. We really like it.

Grannyapple Sun 20-Apr-14 20:30:51

kirsti been jealous of your weather this w/e grin. Tho sis was visiting this w/e & said Thursdays weather up the road was a bit hairy when we had 20 degrees down here so I think it's even Stevens grin

robindeer Sun 20-Apr-14 21:06:27

I've just had a bit of a wobbler when I realised that I currently neither feel sick nor do I have heartburn. I'm just about 13 weeks- somebody please reassure me!

Also, should I buy a doppler or is that just going to feed the anxiety?

fedupofrainydays Sun 20-Apr-14 22:12:22

me we live in Walton on Thames and it's very family friendly - all round here is. We moved out when preg with my son. Farnham is also popular at mo for people moving out of London. Everyone who lives in WOT seems to have moved from balham, clapham, earlsfield etc etc! Only prob is that it's baby boom zone and school places get competitive! We love it here tho.

fedupofrainydays Sun 20-Apr-14 22:15:28

Also Essex way at the mo you can get a lot of house and garden for your £.

fedupofrainydays Sun 20-Apr-14 22:19:20

robin I wouldn't get a Doppler. If stressing you should phone up mw and ask for a quick check (obviously need to be after 16 weeks tho as they won't listen before then)

I also feel much less preg now. Just tiredness and some sore boobs and a growing belly keepinge thinking I am still preg. I'm 15 weeks. Also really went off meat but managed some lamb today for Easter!! Beef definately still a no no and don't get me started with fish <gag>

Hope everyone is doing ok and not too many wobbles.

puppythedog Sun 20-Apr-14 22:21:10

We're in Colchester, plenty of people commute from here, I have for training. I couldn't be arsed with an hour on the train but it seems a nice town. I have noticed that the south east seems geared up for people to live a while away and train it in.

Tantrictantrum Sun 20-Apr-14 22:23:17

Kirstipops dc1 Edd 27th Sept
sazzlehopes dc2 27th sept
MundayCakes85 EDD 28th Sept
MrsBadCrumble74 DC2 EDD 28th September
Mrsb87 Dc1 Edd 29th Sept
hefner DC2 EDD 29th Sept
Gunwalloe DC5 Edd 30th Sept
CaptainMcgraw DC2 EDD 30th September
Bumpbangbump DC2 EDD 2nd Oct
Porcito DC1 EDD 3rd October
TroubleAndFyfe DC2 EDD 4th Oct
Georgebythesea DC1 EDD 4th Oct
CellyD DC2 EDD 6 Oct
FlipFantasia DC3 Edd 7 Oct
Cabster DC2 EDD 8 Oct
Tak1ngchances DD1 EDD 9th Oct
Binkybunny Dc1 Edd 10th Oct
Claptomania DC1 EDD 10th Oct
Fedupofrainydays, DC2, EDD 10th Oct
Me23 Dc3 Edd 11th Oct
MrsDinoRawr DC1 Edd 11th October
Bumpforme2014 DC1 EDD 11th Oct
TantricTantrum DC4 EDD 11th Oct
PunkyBubba DC2 EDD 12th Oct
Kittylou1 Dc1 Edd 12th Oct
Binglesplodge DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Happytimes31 Dc1 Edd 15th Oct
Pebble82 DC1 EDD 14th Oct
Mrsthedog DC1 EDD 16th Oct (puppythedog also lurking about the thread)
Grannyapple DC3 EDD 16th Oct
ExcitedCJ DC2 EDD 18th Oct
Loulou888 DC3 Edd 20th Oct
FrauEnglischLehrerin DC2 edd 22nd Oct
Stigz DC2 EDD 23rd Oct
NotInyourNature DC2 EDD 24th Oct
Robindeer, DC1 EDD 26th Oct
Matildasmam22 DC3 EDD 27th Oct

ExcitedCJ Sun 20-Apr-14 22:41:07

STIGZ xx

LondonJen Sun 20-Apr-14 23:11:45

Stigz I am totally mad for fruity sweets too, loving the rowntrees pack with fruit gums, pastilles and tooty fruities in particular. Also wine gums. Going to rot my teeth!

Am starting to get back into meat slowly and actually enjoyed some beef today. Still struggling with veggies, they are too bitter (brocolli) or too sweet (parsnips) -usually I love my veg. Instead I have wanted salad.

I think both sweets and salad cravings are supposed to be old wives tales for having a girl?!

Ah, love seeing all the bumps! Mine is teeny (assuming you don't count the massive food belly above it, which is vast!) I can feel it's grown a lot though in the last few days but only when I am laid on my back in bed, can feel hard round bump. Love it!

Sounds like you might be over the worst Robin tbusmile

Sorry Loulou no experience of trapped wind (I have become something of a belch monster myself, it's gross) is there something you can take? I think I read rennies are ok in pg?

Loulou888 Mon 21-Apr-14 07:35:40

Thanks londonjen that made me smile. Pain has subsided. I didn't realise trapped wind could be so painful. Wouldn't wish that on anyone. I'm going to pop into boots and ask a pharmacist what I can take so I've got it in standby incase it happens again.

FrauEnglischLehrerin Mon 21-Apr-14 08:19:03

puppy growing your own food is addictive smile. I started off last year with a couple of blueberry bushes and four squash plants (which took over the garden) and this year I've added two more blueberries and am planning to have strawberries, raspberries, tomatoes, chillies, kohl rabi, beetroot, potatoes and cucamelons... DH is putting up with the forest of seedlings in the living room quite well! It really is great for kids as well - I lost dd for a few minutes yesterday and after running around the house for a while spotted her trotting down the garden path nibbling a chive!

ohthegoats I'm pescetarian and DH eats meat. DD also eats meat, as it would be very difficult to organise meals at kindergarten otherwise. I think she may well choose to be vegetarian in the end, as she sometimes says that she doesn't eat meat, or that her play food sausages are vege sausages.

binky as a long term non-meat eater I don't really do Sunday roasts. If I'm invited to PIL's for the German equivalent then MIL usually makes mushrooms with a creamy sauce and I eat that and fried sliced dumplings. DH and I sometimes make homemade tuna pasties and serve those with roast pots and veg, otherwise baked camembert (with cranberry sauce) would go well, or you could do spicy beanburgers (without the bread bun).

I'm also feeling decidedly un-pregnant atm. Trying to suppress the urge to ask DH to scan the foetus and check it's still ok want to hold out until next weekend.

ohthegoats Mon 21-Apr-14 08:35:47

I put on a normal dress over leggings today, and definitely look (slightly) pregnant. Things have changed quite a lot while I was wearing bikinis and sarongs for two weeks!

Loulou I had trapped wind for the first 11 weeks. It was agony, I'd spend a lot of time massaging my tummy trying to get it to move, lying on my right hand side burping etc. Then I started eating all bran, which is horrible, but it's stopped all gut issues. Things move pretty well. I now avoid all stodge type things too - bread, pasta, potatoes etc, and it's even better. I'm glad it's getting warmer weather, I'm going to be all about the salad and fruit.

fedupofrainydays Mon 21-Apr-14 08:39:57

loulou you can take 'windeeze' when preg. And it does what it says on the packet!! I too have experience the pain of trapped wind and it's bad. I had it after a flight once and now always take windeeze so it doesn't happen again!! Tmi probably but pregnancy is not glamourous!!

Loulou888 Mon 21-Apr-14 09:05:18

Thanks for the info Ohthegoats we had a takeaway pizza I'm blaming it on that! I will get some of that thanks fedup. Being pregnant certainly isn't glamorous!

Sparkle9 Mon 21-Apr-14 09:10:11

My bump looks huge. I was a size 14 prior to pregnancy but with a lot of my fat held around my middle. I could easily pass as pregnant after a big meal before so I think I'm going to be massive. I've had 2 weeks off work and I'm dreading trying to put my work clothes on tomorrow! I think I look far further along than 13 weeks!

mrsb87 Mon 21-Apr-14 09:19:08

I have forgotten who asked but dh is pescatarian and I eat meat. We have decided our baby will grow up eating some meat to make life a little easier but when they are old enough they can make their own decision. I generally don't cook a lot of meat at home but will sometimes make myself a sausage sandwich or something.
Dh was brought up vegetarian and his whole family are too. I'm sure I will get some stick for it when the time comes but its a decision we have made together and isn't anything to do with her!

mum2kiss Mon 21-Apr-14 09:24:29

I keep getting trapped wind in my chest! Very uncomfortable but peppermint tea seems to help all things digestive...

we visited the pils yesterday. Mil announced that she wants to buy the pram and has already seen a couple she likes!! Dp says I'm ungrateful because I told him I dont want his mother to choose the pram when I have already chosen one! He's now said he's not budgeting for a pram as his mother has offered so she and I will have to sort it out between us! No we bloody well wont! I will be getting the pram I've researched and want!

She also announced that even though I am catholic the baby will be christened anglican like the rest of their family (even though they say they think religion is ridiculous and dont practice!). I pointed out that dc1 goes to catholic school and I want this baby to go to the same school (it would be a problem if this baby is not catholic) and she said well schools dont really matter then do they? !!

Arrrrrgh!! Its fast starting to look like this is her baby not mine! Dp says he doesn't mind what church the baby is christened in and isnt bothered what buggy we end up with! It took me most of the journey home to get him to see that this is his mother taking over and that he'll have to sort her out!

Ok rant over!

Hope everyone had a lovely easter smile

Kirstipops Mon 21-Apr-14 11:43:51

Oof mum2kiss your OH will have a sore bum sitting on that fence! It's a lovely gesture that MIL wants to buy you one obv but that doesnt entitle her to choose the thing!
My MIL is a devoted Catholic (indeed, very nearly became a nun a few years ago) but I and my DH are atheists,luckily she's the laid back type!
I had a lovely Easter weekend, spring cleaning day today!

puppythedog Mon 21-Apr-14 12:00:53

mum2kiss. I think I would throw a proper wobbly at that, not so much Mil's behaviour (it's to be expected to a degree with some people) but with DP's lack of kicking Mil's arse if necessary.
If any of our parents started issuing edicts about schooling, christening, ceremonies etc I would be opening a can of whoop-ass, no way anyone outside of our family (me and mrsthedog and schrodenberg) are making such decisions.
I got quite angry on your behalf then!

I'm vegetarian and DH is devout carnivore. We intended to bring DS up pescatarian then let him make his own choice when he was old enough to understand but he's a very fussy eater and only really wanted to eat Quorn so I saw it as a losing battle. He now mainly eats meat and fish!

mum2kiss Mon 21-Apr-14 12:29:21

Lol I appreciate it puppy

I told dp this morning that I'm not going to stress about it and I will christen the baby where I like. He agreed that it should be our decision and if I want to christen the baby in a catholic church then that's what we will do!

Captainmcgraw Mon 21-Apr-14 12:35:39

Bump at 16 weeks. Definitely no hiding it!

DH and I are are both veggie. DD has been brought up at home eating what we eat but don't stop her having meat at parties or other people's houses. At nursery she theoretically ate meat apart from the fact that she never actually ate any of it so we have now put her on veggie meals hoping she might get a bit of protein that way and not just eat the vegetables.

Kirstipops Mon 21-Apr-14 13:59:51

Quite surprising (in a good way) to see how many veggies there are here! DH and I are mostly veggie/pescitarian but have meat maybe once or twice a fortnight. I took a bit of an aversion to chicken for a while, my friend's sister took an aversion to her own husband when she was pregnant because she thought he smelled like meat haha!!

binkybunny Mon 21-Apr-14 14:32:21

Kirstipops that made me smile, will have to remember that one if I want the bed to myself one night grin

Is anyone else having to work today? Our company doesn't give us bank holidays, we have to take them out of our leave and I'm trying to keep some of mine so I can finish a few weeks before my contract ends and extend my maternity leave- if I'm allowed to do that!

Just finding it difficult to work today (and last Friday) when I know half of the country is off and enjoying a long weekend tbusad

ohthegoats Mon 21-Apr-14 14:39:06

My boyfriend has a smell that sort of makes me go blurgh sometimes. He knows it though, and mostly finds it funny.

I've just been in Tesco with the most painful nipples EVER. I cried. It felt like someone was swinging off them with the hardest pinch in the world. Agony.

Bumpforme2014 Mon 21-Apr-14 15:58:48

Helloooooo everyone, so after a week of diahorrea I was enjoying the long weekend, attended a birthday party but caught a tummy bug and spent 24 hours throwing up :-( only starting to feel better now and soooo hungry. Seeing all your baby bumps has made me very jealous, I seem to be getting symptom after symptom with no let up and not even a tiny bump to show for it booooooo

MrsDinoRawr Mon 21-Apr-14 17:09:42

love reading everones's posts. I am 15 weeks and also had really sore nipples the other day every time i got cold.

Got home from the in laws after a lovely Easter lunch yesterday to bring it all back up. Have been sick 10 times today and can't keep anything down. Have been sick every day until last week when I was only sick twice. How can I tell if ms is back with a vengeance or if I have got a bug? No one else has been ill after dinner so don't think it was the mil's cooking! Haven't even been able to have an Easter egg yet sad

MrsDinoRawr Mon 21-Apr-14 17:11:47

bumpforme... i feel bad for moaning just noticed you have been ill all week. glad to hear you are feeling bit better.

ohthegoats i can't sleep facing my husband anymore... his breath offends me!

ohthegoats Mon 21-Apr-14 17:50:27

i can't sleep facing my husband anymore... his breath offends me

Exactly the same here. I've suggested that we swap sides of the bed so that I can sleep on my left hand side without facing him. I haven't said that it's about breath, I've said it's about being nearer the toilet for me - getting up 20 times a night might be less likely to wake him up if I'm not tripping over stuff on the long way around.

Bumpforme2014 Mon 21-Apr-14 18:03:08

Mrsdino it sounds like you have what I had, I know it's a bug because it lasted 24 hours and I felt very hot and cold and generally awful with headache etc

With you on the hubby breath thing!

Loulou888 Mon 21-Apr-14 19:31:46

Haha! Same here ladies have to sleep facing away from DH too with regards to breath etc. also find he really annoys me if he falls asleep before me ..... Grr seems to breath heavy generally noisy!

ExcitedCJ Mon 21-Apr-14 20:11:40

Captain what a sweet little bump. Thanks for sharing, made me smile! smile
Mum2 MIL's are great craic aren't they, they are little treasures sent to help us be better people!
I'm having a lovely time to myself, my DH is at MIL's with DD so I have house to myself as I had to work today. So I treated myself this evening, I took myself out on a date to Wagamama! I dressed in my lovely new Isabella Oliver dress & had a delicious meal for one! Now in bed drinking tea & eating choc orange. Happy, happy preggers woman!

pebble82 Mon 21-Apr-14 20:11:52

I just feel sorry for my poor DP with me next to him. I toss and turn all night and make a right mess of the covers by tangling them up and crushing the pillows. Also I woke up in a right mood with him because I dreamt he got out of his mind drunk at a party and I had to try and look after him.

ExcitedCJ Mon 21-Apr-14 20:13:16

Ps. My DH had 2 bulbs of garlic & several glasses of wine yesterday & I couldn't let him near me. He had to sleep in another room & walk down wind as he was making me gag!

Loulou888 Mon 21-Apr-14 20:31:51

Sounds bliss cj I really could use a peaceful evening and early night followed by a full nights sleep (without the toilet trips and ds constantly getting out of bed)

ohthegoats Mon 21-Apr-14 20:58:01

Well, after my advice about how to avoid wind, I've just spent the last 3 hours almost crippled with trapped wind pain. Couldn't stand up straight, and at one point asked boyfriend to stop half way through a beer just in case he had to drive me to hospital. Genuinely thought at one point it was appendicitis, I couldn't touch my belly at all without wincing. Now seems to have gone...

Bumpforme2014 Mon 21-Apr-14 21:02:15

Oh trapped wind, I know this pain well with my bowel condition I've sat there in agony at restaurants before from it. On all fours, bum in air is best way to get it gone.

ohthegoats Mon 21-Apr-14 21:10:28

I had it loads in the first 11 weeks, it's disappeared since, but I think partly now a problem due to time difference and airplane food!

fedupofrainydays Mon 21-Apr-14 22:00:41

I found lying on back with legs over head best for getting rid of trapped wind - a position not that easily performed when preg tho!!! grin

The comments about OH breath made me laugh - as same thing hear this morning. Such a turn off too. And he was feeling frisky. nooooooooo!

fedupofrainydays Mon 21-Apr-14 22:09:54

Ps. As we are on bump watch. Here's me. 15 weeks. Not that much really but am usually flat tummed so it's big for me if you know what i mean!

mrsb87 Mon 21-Apr-14 22:14:29

Wowee what a busy day. I've just got back from my brother and sister in law's place and have emptied them of all baby related equipment!
Pram/car seat (really chuffed as it does everything I wanted it to do and its a sturdy model for lots of dog walking)
Neutral baby grows from tiny baby and new born,
Moses basket and sheets,
breast pumps and bottles,
Soooo many blankets etc,
Play mats,
Changing table.....
I think they have saved us a small fortune! !

gunwalloe Mon 21-Apr-14 22:44:33

I'm glad having a sensitive nose is common place I'm usually really good at picking up smells but since being pregnant it's like I've got spidey senses and hubby is also bugging me when he's not fragrant

ExcitedCJ Mon 21-Apr-14 22:58:05

Yay Fedup I'm loving bump watch! smile
I can't remember a tiny bump last time , it felt like I went from nothing to feeling frumpy in every item I owned to giant size bump.
I have a pic of me at 38+4 which I love to look at, can't believe it's happening again....

pebble82 Mon 21-Apr-14 23:53:29

Fedup you look great.

I currently think I just look fat. As a size 16/18 I'm sizable enough that people won't think "she's pregnant" but rather "she's eaten one too many Easter eggs". There's a definite bump there but can't wait for it to be really obvious it's a baby and not just food.

porcito Tue 22-Apr-14 01:07:09

Great bumps!! Mine is a beast at almost 17 weeks. I was planning on waiting til next pay day to brave the trip for maternity clothes (in my town, apparently women either don't grow when pregnant, or just walk around naked, not sure which). My giant headed baby had other ideas, and my stomach just popped out yesterday. I almost had a breakdown, had to borrow my 65 year old boss's skirt to make a mad dash to the city today for clothes.

It's my first as well binky, I'm terrified that it's growing too fast - it keeps getting dates two weeks ahead of the original one. I hope it evens itself out!

Has anyone felt their baby move yet? I keep waiting for it, but no, still just gas. Vile.

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 06:41:08

Thanks ladies grin

porcito that made me laugh about the 65 year olds skirt!! Amazed you are still in normal clothes at 17 weeks! No movement here, just wind as well.

pebble even though to me it's obvious mine is a bump I think most men think it's food! I work with mostly men at the mo and they see me stuffing my face to keep MS at bay and now I'm fat so serves me right!!!

What is bothering me is that I can still lie on my front without it being uncomfy, is that the same for you ladies?

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 06:43:00

I remember bump last time cj as was trying to hide it from work til 16 weeks as wanted it put of any pay rise / promotion considerations!! It was hard but i succeeded!

ExcitedCJ Tue 22-Apr-14 06:53:19

Fedup now I'm curious nosey about where you work!
I can still lie flat too but I'm trying to stay on left side and keep waking freaking out in case I'm on my tummy or back.

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 07:02:29

Not very exciting - I work in consulting! And my team has been mostly men of late. Plus our top leaderhsip is all male except one lady who has a full time nanny - says something about how hard consulting is to do as a mum when you actually want to be there!!

ohthegoats Tue 22-Apr-14 07:06:17

I'm still lying on my stomach to read etc. I have always slept on my side though, so I don't sleep on my front. I've put work clothes on today, and reckon I could hide this gut for another week or so under empire line dresses, but my boss wants to advertise for my maternity cover in the next week, so he's asked that I tell my colleagues.

How do you do that? Announce it at break time while everyone is in the staff room? Go round and tell them individually (there are only 6 of them to tell)? Feel weird about it - we told parents a few weeks ago, but I haven't even told one of my friends yet, and my boyfriend has only told one of his friends.

ExcitedCJ Tue 22-Apr-14 07:35:03

Ohthegoats I had 300 to tell, so I announced to approx 50 and the word spread! Nerve wrecking, I'm OK at work stuff in big groups but personal is different!
Fedup I hope you are looked after in that high pressure environment.

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 07:57:44

You could just ask boss to do it for you? Get him / her to say goats is having a baby so we are looking for maternity cover... Blah de blah. Easy that way! I'm going to tell my line mgr and HR and they can tell the rest as they see fit. I will tell colleagues I consider as friends which are a few. Just different this time after two mcs I'm much more nervous about it / less woooooo I'm having a baby.

weebairn Tue 22-Apr-14 08:02:04

Hello ladies! Hope everyone had a lovely Easter weekend. What a rainy day to go back to work.

I am still putting off telling work, and I'm on night shifts next week anyway (so no one will notice or care)… so I'm thinking after the 20 week scan now?? We'll see… I feel really anxious about it.

Pregnancy at 17 weeks is much nicer than pregnancy at 11 weeks that's for sure! I feel a bit tired sometimes but that's it.

Loving the bump photos. I just feel a bit bigger but no bump really and in normal clothes. I might take a quick photo… also, I know lots of first timers who showed early and they didn't necessarily have big babies, people just have different bodies, carry differently, lots of it is fluid I think.

I'm getting lots of kicks now! Seeing the midwife tomorrow and fingers crossed to hear the heartbeat.

17 weeks, 2nd baby

weebairn Tue 22-Apr-14 08:05:45

Still in work clothes… just!!

pebble82 Tue 22-Apr-14 09:25:48

I try and avoid sleeping on my front or back but find myself waking up like that. Also when I toss and turn all night it's often the only position I can keep still. Annoying!

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 09:41:43

Feeling a little low this morning. Kids have gone back to school, ds was upset and didn't want to go, weather miserable and can't bring myself to start the huge clean up job I have today. House feels empty.

Cherie037 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:49:13

Hello Ladies, Hope you all had a lovely Easter weekend. My DH and I took DD to the peak district for the weekend and had a little bit of a nightmare with sleeping. DD is quite tall for 20 months and she basically took up the whole travel cot so when she went to flip around she woke herself up, so we decided it maybe easier if she slept with us, she has NEVER sleep with us before, as I never wanted to get her into the habit. Luckily we had a Super King bed as she decided the most comfortable way to sleep was horizontal. I had her feet kicking me all night and DH had her nails scratching him all night. Needless to say we both woke up more tired than when we went to bed!!!

I also think I have to give into the pull of my maternity clothing as I thought at some point this weekend my jeans were going to pop off me!! I'm only 14 weeks, I thought I could maybe get away with my normal clothes for another few weeks...

ohthegoats Tue 22-Apr-14 11:04:19

Well, in the end i went round and told them individually. Was scary, made it all more real. I now have massive butterflies and am convinced I've jinxed it all... I much preferred it a secret. What if things go wrong now? I'll have loads of odd sympathy, urgh.

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 11:40:47

I know how you feel ohthegoats I really didnt want to tell anyone either. But I must say its more due to the "I can't believe you are starting again...." Mil actually thought DH had had the snip! Shows how well she knows us! Anyhow I'm not putting an announcement on FB lots of nosy people on there who aren't real friends. I've told some mums at school so expecting they will do the gossiping for me.

I am also not putting an announcement on facebook. At some point there is bound to be a pic of me at a wedding or something with a bump and then everyone will know. But for now it's just friends & family that we've told, and colleagues at work (who have all been lovely).

My biggest issue now is the constant need to pee. Went for a walk with the dog on Saturday and had to go in the bushes twice and again as soon as I got home. I am so afraid of getting caught short when I'm somewhere toilet-less like the train, or in the supermarket or something. Is anyone else like this?

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 12:12:41

I'm the same taking it does seem to be worse whilst out on foot. 3 times a night on average. And loads during the day....don't know where it keeps coming from!

But does it make you nervous Loulou? I hate feeling I need to go but not having access to a loo

ohthegoats Tue 22-Apr-14 12:21:08

On a 6 hour flight on Saturday, I went to the loo 11 times. Had drunk 1 whole glass of water. Of course it was a teaspoon of wee each time, despite feeling desperate.

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 12:22:56

Yes it does it's always in the back of my mind if there is going to be a Toilet where I am going. I don't have to really use public transport as work from home so that is a blessing

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 12:24:20

ohthegoats at least it kept you actively moving on your long flight grin we are off to cyprus in June. Hate foreign airport toilets!

Lucky you Loulou! What kind of thing do you do, if you don't mind me asking? I work in Central London but do have the opportunity to work from home one or two days a week (it is tolerated but not actively encouraged)

ohthegoats Tue 22-Apr-14 12:50:34

I've now convinced myself that I have tummy pains and have just done knicker checking. Am a total idiot.

binkybunny Tue 22-Apr-14 13:07:38

Mrsb wow how lucky to get all of that baby stuff! You will have saved a small fortune! We have been given bits and pieces. Had been offered a Silvercross pram, but have since been told by other friends it's really huge, doesn't fold much smaller and very old fashioned, so will have to go do dreaded buggy/pram shopping. I haven't a clue what to get and do not want to spend £1000 which lots of systems seem to be!

On the wee front, I wish I could go more, but even drinking nearly 2 litres of water a day I'm still dehydrated and have burning nearly every time I go. I have had tests at the doctors and there's no infection or anything wrong, I just need to drink more apparently. Unfortunately I am finding lots things hard to stomach and can't drink anything too acidic or it hurts. I am so sick of Cranberry juice!

Fissawissa Tue 22-Apr-14 14:28:55

Can I join in please smile
Due baby #2 October 13th.

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 14:48:29

Nothing glamourous taking I chose not to return to work after dc2 only 13 months between them and nursery fees stress of my job weren't worth it. I do a bit of typing for a company I used to work for. (I don't do a lot and it's getting less thanks to new technology) but it means I'm lucky enough to be at home for the kids and it helps pay for the extra things in life

mrsb87 Tue 22-Apr-14 15:04:27

Yes binks I am a very lucky girl indeed! A friend of mine got a silver cross which she said was lovely but for the same reasons as you mentioned, got rid of it. She also found it really heavy! I think its of if you're a celeb and have a range rover! I was going to go to try a few out in the shops then get one second hand.
I've had the same issues as you with the dehydration, I wish I could pee more!

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 15:11:16

So my day of jobs hadn't gone well. I'm so tired still I'm off to bed. Where is this 2nd trimester 'energy surge'??????

Kirstipops Tue 22-Apr-14 17:49:51

Hi fissawissa - great name! Drop me a message if you want to join the FB group too (that goes out to other newbies too that I may have missed!)
I had quite a productive and energetic day at work (appetite has definitely kicked back in as well but apparently that's normal around the 18 week mark?), only to be semi-floored with round ligament pains (I think) as I walked the half mile for my bus home. Gone now but it was so uncomfortable as I walked, plus I was cursing myself for not having gone to the loo at work before I left as I'm sure that exacerbated it!!
I haven't felt any definite movement yet either, a couple of weeks ago I felt a sensation of bubbles popping and a weird undulating feeling at one point but that was prob just gas as I haven't felt it since!

Kirstipops Tue 22-Apr-14 17:49:51

Hi fissawissa - great name! Drop me a message if you want to join the FB group too (that goes out to other newbies too that I may have missed!)
I had quite a productive and energetic day at work (appetite has definitely kicked back in as well but apparently that's normal around the 18 week mark?), only to be semi-floored with round ligament pains (I think) as I walked the half mile for my bus home. Gone now but it was so uncomfortable as I walked, plus I was cursing myself for not having gone to the loo at work before I left as I'm sure that exacerbated it!!
I haven't felt any definite movement yet either, a couple of weeks ago I felt a sensation of bubbles popping and a weird undulating feeling at one point but that was prob just gas as I haven't felt it since!

gunwalloe Tue 22-Apr-14 17:55:03

I had my 16 week appointment today ( a week late) all good and we heard the baby it's such a long gap until the next appointment I'm glad now I've got these extra consultant appointments

gunwalloe Tue 22-Apr-14 17:56:38

Kirsti I'm the same with movements I think I have felt her but it's not happening regularly enough for me to be sure

I haven't felt anything. Would love to so I am on high alert! I have a very busy bowel so have always had popping and bubbles. Not sure how I'll tell the difference confused

magichandles Tue 22-Apr-14 18:19:27

I've felt something a few times now and I'm pretty sure it's movement - it's like a fluttering feeling. I didn't feel any movement until gone 22 weeks with my first and probably around 16/17 weeks with my second, so it's nice this time to feel something so early.

I'm feeling pretty much normal now which is a relief, time to start watching what I eat again though - I haven't put on loads of weight (3-4 lbs) but I was hoping not to have put on anything yet.

I've put on half a stone...3 or 4 lbs is nothing!

Binky I've just bought the Silver Cross wayfarer. It's super light, folds down in half and seems really easy to use. Do you know what type of silver cross it is?

Loulou888 Tue 22-Apr-14 18:36:59

I wish there weren't so many yummy Easter eggs in the house.......... I need to start eating as normally as possible again too. I've put on 8lbs

binkybunny Tue 22-Apr-14 18:39:43

Munday, they've not said but we're going to have a look at some point after we move house and know for sire how much storage space we'll have!

mum2kiss Tue 22-Apr-14 19:27:03

I love the look of the revamped silver cross but unfortunately could never deal with the bulk. Hey I have a mil that's in the business of pram buying...I can get her to throw one your way if you like?! Lol!

I cannot stomach chocolate at the moment so im gutted that im missing out on all the easter treats! I looooove Cadburys and dd has got 6 eggs!!! No fair sad

goats you made me cry with laughter last night at your pinched nipples!

Ive also found that my pelvic pain is exacerbated by a full bladder! I had been pretty much pain free for a few weeks and then walked around windsor for 5 hours on saturday...oh my the pgp is definitely still here! It does not like it when I walk more than about 100 metres!

binkybunny Tue 22-Apr-14 19:55:21

Ha ha mum I'm not looking forward to pram buying but I def dont want my MIL (or yours!) making the decision. If my mil was a bit closer its the kind of thing she'd do. She's already driving me mad from 6000 miles away!

Fissawissa Tue 22-Apr-14 20:27:10

Hi kirstipops, thank you - I can't click on your name to be added to the FB page, not sure if I'm doing something wrong?

Kirstipops Tue 22-Apr-14 20:35:42

Sent you a message fissawissa!

queenasanti3 Tue 22-Apr-14 20:47:07

Been for my 16 week appointment today so happy to hear the babies heartbeat again, 4 more weeks and we will be able to see him/her again so exciting cant wait to feel strong movements, doesn't seem real till that happens.
Weeks are flying by though, back to work from maternity leave in a few weeks, but not before iam back off smile

queenasanti3 Tue 22-Apr-14 20:48:35

* not 'long' before iam back off*.

ohthegoats Tue 22-Apr-14 20:58:20

Annoyingly I think I'm just back to permanent period type pain - I had a whole 4 weeks without it to enjoy, now the uterus stretching pain thing is back. How irritating. Thing is, I definitely feel bigger over the last 3 days, so it would make sense that things have stretched a bit.

I haven't even thought about prams and stuff - I'm leaving that as a treat over the summer holidays.

Definitely no movement here yet - but like I say, it all hurts again so I wouldn't be able to feel something fluttery over the combination of cramps and digestion issues!

fedupofrainydays Tue 22-Apr-14 22:08:32

I always (well twice) put on lots of weight in the first trimester (except my mmc at 12 weeks was only 4lbs so should have smelled a rat) I'm at 9lbs now and it def coming from eating to stop feeling sick! I don't mind though as I know I can lose it again. Put on 3.5 stone with ds and lost it in 4 or 5 months. Hoping for less this time but I'm not going to worry about it.

We have the worlds most awful heavy pram. I've got some work to do to persuade DH to let me have another one. Or will ask my friends if anyone wants to get rid of one! Can't believe some are like a grand!! Wtf!!

pebble82 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:11:13

Does anyone know what happens if you decide not to go back to work? Do you have to pay back all the pay you get when off?

binkybunny Tue 22-Apr-14 22:15:59

Pebble you wont pay back your smp but will prob have yo pay back all or some of any additional pay you get. It should be in your employee handbook or contract.

Sparkle9 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:16:44

You don't have to pay back any statutory pay but you may have to pay back any occupational pay. It depends on your terms and conditions.

Kirstipops Tue 22-Apr-14 22:46:58

I didn't weigh myself beforehand but I reckon I've gained about 10lbs as well, all in the first trimester as I was eating like a horse to stop feelng sick! Thankfully tailed off now though.
We're thinking about me not going back to work after the baby comes as well, not deciding anything for definite yet though, I'll see how I feel nearer the time.

Binglesplodge Tue 22-Apr-14 23:22:42

I didn't have any sickness at all and my weight really hasn't changed at all: not more than a pound or so at 15 weeks today. Should I be concerned? The weekly email I got today was saying that I should expect to have put on about 5 pounds by now but I just don't have much appetite so I'm not eating any more than I normally would. Should I deliberately eat more, or stick to eating when I feel like it? (I bet I'll regret worrying about this in another couple of months once I'm the size of a house...)

ldt87 Tue 22-Apr-14 23:27:04

Hi all, checking in, still regularly reading Facebook. Here's my 14 week bloat/bump if my pic adds okay please excuse the handprints all over the mirror, it's used by my 2 girls for dancing and make up! Hope everyone is doing well xx

Bumpforme2014 Wed 23-Apr-14 07:00:22

Yes I am thinking about not going back to work, maternity pay is good so have tried to look into whether or not I need to pay it back but it doesn't say it anywhere which makes me think you probably don't. Guess I will just have to ask HR near the time but it's not the kind of thing you want to ask until you've made the decision!

Loulou888 Wed 23-Apr-14 07:17:47

You employer would be pretty mean if they ask for it back. I'm worried about weight gain. I was a stone heavier upon getting pregnant with this one as opposed to my first two. Although I did naturally lose it previously by breast feeding and generally being busy looking after a baby!

Here's my bump!

mum2kiss Wed 23-Apr-14 07:25:52

My employer makes you pay back any maternity pay they give you in addition to smp if you dont return for a minimum of 3 months after baby. I know of women who came back and did the 3 months then left...

Bumpforme2014 Wed 23-Apr-14 07:33:02

That's the thing, it doesn't make sense for them to get me to come back and work my notice which is three months then leave as will cost them money to recruit another person to replace me when they could just keep my maternity cover person on? Oh well, we shall see I don't mind going back for three months will be easiest three months ever knowing I won't be there long !

binkybunny Wed 23-Apr-14 07:33:42

Our contract also says we have to return for 3 months or pay back the additional pay. However I'm only contracted until end of August so I dont have a job to go back to and don't get the additional. I've found it nice to have had the decision taken away as I really want to be a sahm for atleast a few years, but I think the additional pay would have swayed me! I now need to learn how to stick to a budget!!!

ohthegoats Wed 23-Apr-14 07:55:53

I'm going to go back part time. Having the conversation about that with my boss almost physically hurt. I love my job, my career is really important to me, but I also strongly believe that there is no point in having kids if you put them in nursery from 8 til 6, which is what we'd have to do. It's hard marrying up those two feelings though - I guess that's why it's handy to have 9 months to get used to these things. After 2 years, boyfriend may take the career hit and do 2 years of part time too before child starts school.

In my company we get 9 months on full pay then 3 months SMP. Sounds amazing but you repay the full 9 months in a lump sum if you leave within 6 months of returning to work.
Also, there are no part-time jobs in my function so it's back full time or nothing...talk about golden handcuffs!

gunwalloe Wed 23-Apr-14 08:18:55

Binglesplodge don't worry about not gaining weight I've lost 1.5 stone so far and the baby's doing fine I had my 16 week appointment ( a week late ) yesterday and the baby's heartbeat was thumping away.
I've got a gender scan today I really feel its a girl so will be in shock if we see any dangly bits at the scan

Oooh, so excited gun!
I knew I didn't want to go back to work so didn't take the enhanced pay, just the SMP, that way I didn't have to worry about paying anything back.

I mean excited for you gun!