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Santa's bringing us a baby! Due December 2014! First time mummies!

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EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 04-Apr-14 20:37:08

Hi ladies here's our special December thread for our special Xmas bundles of joy for us first time mummy's!
This is where we can worry about symptoms, how our first child is going to change our lives, what are we going to do about work, how has our partners reacted to our pregnancy, how long have you been trying to concieve, is your car big enough and all other dilemmas!!
Look forward to sharing this special journey with you!
Emily Ttc no 1 cycle 2 edd 4th dec!!

nickyjlees Fri 04-Apr-14 20:51:47

Hi Emily! I'm so excited to be a mum but super nervous too, esp over the next few weeks. Good to have others in the same boat to chat to smile

ffallada Sat 05-Apr-14 10:16:06

Hi you guys,
Great to join you in a first time thread - We're all super early on this journey. Are you guys able to keep a lid on it? I'm swinging between PMFL and being scared shiteless!

nickyjlees Sat 05-Apr-14 22:08:18

We haven't told anyone yet, still getting our own heads around it! Finding it very hard to concentrate at work, still very nervous that something will go wrong, I'm a born worrier! Great to have all you guys on here to chat to and this is stopping me from go

nickyjlees Sat 05-Apr-14 22:08:54

Going totally bonkers! How are you getting on?

ffallada Sun 06-Apr-14 22:31:10

I read that the ideal time to tell people Is at 12 weeks - what are you guys planning?
I haven't even told dh yet. I think I'm too nervous about starting this bus - once people know there is an absolute end to my life as I know it. Now it's over I realise I quite like being completely selfish. I go to the gym, the pub, out for meals, walk the dog. Lots of things that are about to fly out the window due to lack of time and money.
Also, I was out for a meal yesterday lunchtime near a child that just kept screaming. Mother looked exhausted, grandparents looked exhausted, meal ruined. I don't like children.
Part from that I'm super excited :-)

Bubba84 Mon 07-Apr-14 12:28:16

Hi ladies, I'm joining from the December thread and I'm a first time mummy (eek sounds funny me typing that!).

I'm 7+5 EDD 25/11/14 although I think my date will change when I get a scan.

I can't tell you how SLOOOOOOOOOW the weeks are going! Everyone keeps saying how quick the months are going but for me, it's a snail pace! Main symptom so far is nausea. It ranges between always being there, to being full on almost gag. My poor house is neglected as I can't even think of cleaning or hoovering. I also feel like I'm putting on a million stone as I can only tolerate foods that I fancy and it tends to be carb-related food which I'm not used to over indulging in confused.

The only people that know so far about my pregnancy is DH, me and my line manager. I had to tell my manager last week as thought it was better to give her a warning about how I felt incase it effected work. I'm glad I did as she's been really supportive and changing my workload already. I'm so desperate to tell our parents but my DH and I agreed not to until 12 week scan. I'm waiting on my midwife appointment, all going well it should be this week from what the hospital said. I'm soooo inpatient it's ridiculous!!

nickyjlees Mon 07-Apr-14 17:26:32

bubba84 hi! Am in the same boat, the only people that know are my other half and my 2 line managers. Felt so weird telling them before our parents :s. I'm still waiting for a call from a midwife, am not convinced that my gp has d

nickyjlees Mon 07-Apr-14 17:27:46

bubba84 hi! Am in the same boat, the only people that know are my other half and my 2 line managers. Felt so weird telling them before our parents :s. I'm still waiting for a call from a midwife, am not convinced that my gp has done anything re referral! I'm only 6 weeks tho so will give them a shout next week. Glad there are lots of other first time mums here too!

Buddy14 Mon 07-Apr-14 17:39:01

So this is my first time, but am also nervous as I am only 2 weeks from conception (am a bit shocked, I got three positives today), but officially is this 4 weeks pregnant ie how the doctor would count it? I am a bit terrified about pregnancy and being 35 also a bit over screaming children in restaurants , so am a little freaked out, but excited! Also I live a bit remotely in Surrey so am a little worried about that!

Bubba84 Tue 08-Apr-14 10:15:51

nicky hello back! I felt it weird telling my line manager too, although was a relief to talk to someone about pregnancy and morning sickness lol! Well I finally got my midwife appointment in on 24/04/14 and got my 12 week scan booked for 07/05/14. So relieved I've got them now I've got that to aim for. I'm surprised my first midwife booking in appointment is at 10 weeks though as the leaflet they enclosed talked about blood tests done before 10 weeks. So I've booked in with my GP again as don't want to miss the window of opportunity if tests need done.
buddy congratulations and welcome! Usually your GP would go by the date of your last period so it's usually that you're 2 weeks further along in pregnancy than you think. It's all a bit confusing as if I go by my GP my due date would be 19/11/14 but going by online calculators (based on a 34 day period) I'm due 26/11/14. All a bit confusing really but I'll wait until I see my midwife before I get a better idea hopefully I suppose at the end of the day - a due date is only a guide!

Missjasper Tue 08-Apr-14 13:01:37

Hi everyone! Really new to this posting thing but just joined the December due date thread and hoping I can join here too if that's ok??
I found out on Saturday that we are expecting our first, and obviously I'm terrified!! We had spoken about it and definitely planned but thought it would take us ages to conceive, little did we know it would be the first attempt! The other half thinks he's got super sperm with Capes on!! Estimated due date is 13th of December, I think! Just booked first midwives appointment on Friday 25th, so all very real today!!

SassehMonsta Tue 08-Apr-14 13:15:59

Me me me! :D FTM due 13/14th Dec, a couple of weeks after my best friend smile Booked in at midwifes for 12th May, struggling to not tell people.

Planning on telling my boss in the next couple of hours... Eeks!

Missjasper Tue 08-Apr-14 14:24:34

Hi sassehmonsta!! How exciting we are due at the same time!! Crazy isn't it!! Good luck with telling you boss, fingers and toes crossed :-) I told my mum and sister in law who is due in august yesterday and to say they are super excited is a massive understatement! Didn't want to tell anyone really at this stage, just in case, but my other half works away and didn't want to go through worries and stresses alone, so I just know they will be a massive support :-)

Bubba84 Tue 08-Apr-14 15:19:14

Hi ladies and welcome to our little thread! sass good luck telling your boss! They can only be supportive at the end of the day and I think it's good to let them know. In my case, I had to tell her as I've been struggling with morning sickness and other symptoms so thought I'd give her the heads up incase I can't come in. So far I'm powering through.
miss I don't blame you for telling your mum and sis in law, you definitely need someone to talk to especially in the early stages when you don't want to tell everyone. I know for me, it helps just saying to my hubby that I'm feeling crap and I get a bit of sympathy and support.

SassehMonsta Tue 08-Apr-14 15:56:13

All went well telling boss, hes OK with it! Said congrats etc, hes a grandfather himself so knows whats to come! Really struggling with food and MS so had to tell him as it'd been odd otherwise!

Somersetgirl1990 Tue 08-Apr-14 18:01:12

Hi hope you ladies don't mind me joining! I'm due on the 6th dec, completely unplanned but me and DP are chuffed! Told mil the other day as she's a midwife and one of the first things she said is to make sure we don't tell anyone because anything can happen before 12 weeks hmm obviously I knew that but hearing it from a midwife makes me really nervous and I'm so worried now! Had a few days of feeling knackered and have been sick a few times but have felt fine the past few days, not sure whether to feel happy or worried about that! Maybe I'm just overthinking things, feel like I should be expecting the worst somehow...
Anyone having any crazy hormonal changes? I'm normally the most laid back person - the other day I broke down in tesco's because they didn't stock one of those ready to roast pork joints and "I couldn't be dealing with the hassle of cooking a normal joint" literally sobbed in the middle of the isle blush DP drove to a different tesco for me in the end to get one, after I'd promised not to break down if they didn't have one there either!

Missjasper Tue 08-Apr-14 21:02:18

Oh somersetgirl1990 you just made me laugh so much! Well at least it sounds like you've got a good one there! What a sweetie :-)

Bettycakes80 Tue 08-Apr-14 22:08:22

Hi there. 1st timer here too EDD 1st December. I cried the other week for about half an hour because I accidentally locked the cat outside for 5 minutes and he got wet in the rain!

Somersetgirl1990 Tue 08-Apr-14 23:01:36

I did manage to see the funny side after about 5 mins, was very embarrassing walking out of the store with big fat tears still rolling down my face confused
Is anyone getting any symptoms yet? Sort of in two minds as to whether I want them or not!

SassehMonsta Wed 09-Apr-14 05:44:32

I've got morning sickness/constant nausea and smell sensitivity, and this morning I've woken up with slight cramping, but it cold be constipation. I'm only 4 +4/5 at the moment.

Honestly, this has been the longest week of my life so far.... is this how time is going to go now??!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 09-Apr-14 10:18:08

I'm about 5 now I think but completely agree, time is going so slowly and I feel like I'm gonna be insane by the time the 12 week scan comes around! How are we supposed to cope?!

ffallada Wed 09-Apr-14 17:32:33

I know its insanely early to even think about such things but has anyone thought about antenatal classes? The NTC run some near my house but at £175 I'm not sure. As DH and I have NO baby experience so seems like a good idea. Anyone else feel like their walking blind here? confused

nickyjlees Thu 10-Apr-14 19:12:51

I've had a look at classes and well but there's so many different kinds I don't know where to start! We haven't got a clue what we are doing! I'm definitely going to start a long list of questions for my first midwife appointment.... If they ever call me!
I'm still feeling very anxious most days and half expecting something to go wrong, such a worrier!
Am 6 + 4, only real symptoms this week are total knackeredness, dizziness and super sore boobs which have been like that since day 1.

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 11-Apr-14 09:34:14

Is anyone thinking of having a reassurance scan? I'm 6 weeks today and have just poas just to make sure it went up to 3+ weeks, think I'm going to send myself crazy by the time I'm 12 weeks with thinking something's gone wrong!
I haven't really got any symptoms, had nausea and sore boobs for a few days last week but feel fine now... My appetites gone down a little, which I'm grateful for grin

ffallada Fri 11-Apr-14 11:21:13

nicky sorry to be a complete ass but could you explain the 6+4 - everyone seems to use it and I cant figure it out blush

somersetgirl I'm not going for an early scan, although I've had one mc before I am happy to wait (although I'm terribly excited) for the NHS one. I know a lot of people on the other December thread are going for scans. I cant really afford it and I think from reading the other thread a scan at 8 weeks is more conclusive than one done earlier.

SassehMonsta Fri 11-Apr-14 17:26:49

Weeks + days - so 6+4 is 6 weeks & 4 days

nickyjlees Fri 11-Apr-14 18:45:53

ffallada so many acronyms and stuff eh! Took me ages to figure it out. It's like learning a new language :s

cooperbug Sun 13-Apr-14 16:54:43

Hi, ladies can I join please

Got my bfp at 10dpo on Thursday which makes me about 3+6. Still can't get my head around it, this is our first baby and first month that we tried too. Edd from my last period would be 22.12.14.

Was a bit worried as I had no symptoms but think I might have spoken too soon as have a very watery mouth today and boobs starting to hurt a bit.

Doctors surgery have booked me in with the midwife in three weeks time for booking appointment, will she test again or should I see the to in the meantime to have it confirmed?


nickyjlees Sun 13-Apr-14 17:13:53

Hi cooperbug GPs don't usually do any kind of confirmation, they just take your word for it as home tests are generally very reliable. Great that you have your appointment booked, I'm 6+6, told the doc as soon as I found out and still haven't heard anything from the midwife. Have chased up but still no joy :s. Hope you are feeling well today!

cooperbug Sun 13-Apr-14 18:10:15

Nickyjlees thanks for your reply, think I will just leave the gp then and go for my midwife appt in a few week.

The receptionist said it was a meet and greet appt just to give me some information and then I would be seen again at a later date for bloods etc.

Maybe the midwife at your surgery does it all together and that's why you are waiting a bit longer to be seen. Hope you hear soon.

Somersetgirl1990 Sun 13-Apr-14 18:25:36

Congratulations Copper!! grin
I'm 6+3 and am not even registered with a gp, think I need to get on and do that tomorrow! Feel like I might be waiting a while for an appointment!
I felt like that about not having any symptoms, I've felt absolutely fine up until today; I've been sick a grand total of 6 times so far hmm and all I've eaten is toast so not sure how that works!

Franklin14 Sun 13-Apr-14 19:44:55

Evening ladies! I confess - I've been lurking on here for a few days (and the other December thread) because I haven't quite got my head around this whole 'baby in 7 months' thing, but felt I should step up and own this lovely little chick pea that's making me feel queasy pretty much 24/7.

It still doesn't seem real - this is our first (wanted but quicker than we anticipated) pregnancy so DH and I are completely new to this. We talk about what's going on but to be honest it seems like we're talking about someone else's experience, rather than ours. I'm sure once we have our scan (waiting for the date) it will hit us emotionally (if not before) but for now I just feel... I don't know... slightly shell shocked I suppose? I'm hoping that this isn't just me and I'm not a terrible mother to be!

ffallada Sun 13-Apr-14 20:02:54

Hi to the new peps franklin and cooper, lovely to have you join us smile Whats you due date franklin?

Thanks shessah for explaining - now you say it its so obvious (facepalm). I can now say I am 5 + 1 wink

I had to register with a GP last week and had my first appointment on Friday lunchtime. All the GP did was take my blood pressure and say that the hospital would be in touch before the 12 week scan. No midwife appointment until there is an ok from the hospital. Keep up with the exercise, drink lots of water and take folic acid. I take comfort in the lack of 'special' treatment really. everything is as it should be so far (touch wood)
I have also spent today buying baby books off amazon - anyone else got this habit? The way its going I will have the theory down by December but have no money for baby stuff and a very large library!

Franklin14 Sun 13-Apr-14 20:58:33

Thanks for the welcome ffallada! Currently due 28th Nov but fairly confident this will change to early Dec when I have my dating scan due to longer cycles. Think I'm just feeling a little dramatic this evening (hormones plus Sunday-itis isn't a good combination), but it is reassuring to know there are other newbies out there experiencing similar delightful bloating, gassy, nauseousness... Bring on the second trimester! :-)

SassehMonsta Sun 13-Apr-14 23:34:03

Hurrah & welcome! Im now 5+1 and my nausea has dropped off a bit in the afternoons. Still yet to be sick, but do get the runs around 5-6am. Daft body!

Husbands super happy, and we.keep having "moments" where we just grin like idiots either at each other or to ourselves. We're desparately trying not to get our hopes up too much, but keep discussing baby names, dog training with a baby, pushchairs, slings, allsorts. Managed to keep a lid on it when MIL came over today, and I saw both my dad and my brother

SassehMonsta Sun 13-Apr-14 23:37:00

(stupid phone doesnt like long comments!). We have an early reassurance scan booked for just under 2 weeks away, in the hope that if everything is going well then we can tell the inlaws & my parents the next day. Got a booking in appointment on the 12th May, which is ages away!!

Managing tp keep it mostly under wraps, just getting to the stage where Im enjoying having a secret. Though did purposefully avoid a few.friends this week, one of whom it was her birthday, so shes not impressed. Oops.

LisaC2611 Mon 14-Apr-14 12:09:48

Hi all, can I join you?

DH and I have been ttc our first for 2 years. I'm 38 and DH is 40. I've been quite anxious over the fact that nothing was happening and we have been under the hospital for the last year and waiting for an ivf referal next month. We had been prescribed clomid and this month was the first cycle of our second round

I am overweight and needed to loose 5kg to get my Bmi under 30 for the referral. I was about to start a chemical diet today to get that last bit of weight off but my period was late so I took a test Saturday morning and it's only bloomin positive!!

I'm so excited but obviously nervous at the same time. It was my birthday last week so I got the best birthday present and will have the best Christmas present as well!

EDD is 15 December, although I suspect that they will date me nearer Christmas when I have my first scan. I've booked my first appointment with the midwife for 2 May so will find out all I need to know then.

I have told our parents and my sister, only because my parents and sister knew that we were trying for so long that I knew they would be over the moon, but they have been sworn to secrecy and I didn't think it was fair not to tell DH's parents if mine knew.

Am looking forward to getting to know you all over the next 8 months ;o)


SecretGeek Mon 14-Apr-14 16:55:37

Hi, marking my place as a December new mum.

Posted a few times on the other Dec thread but been absent for a while after my symptoms disappeared and I totally freaked out fearing an MMC. This is an IVF pregnancy after 2 yrs TTC and I'm on progesterone support. All my clinic said when I rang (in tears) was they couldn't do anything until my 7 week scan unless I started to bleed but that progesterone can 'hide' a miscarriage. Very reassuring. Not!

So we had a private scan on Saturday (6+1) and saw a heartbeat. Cue more tears! Best money I've ever spent. Think I would've gone crazy just waiting given the circumstances. Although the worry has already started to creep back in. Anyone else feel this is the hardest, most emotional thing they've ever done? Not to mention slowest. The time is dragging by!

I have an early scan at my clinic on Thursday and hoping they confirm the good news. Symptoms still frustratingly absence apart from feeling dizzy a lot, but decided to be positive and join you all, otherwise I will go insane.

Congrats to everyone, especially lisa - what a lovely birthday present after all that time trying smile

LisaC2611 Mon 14-Apr-14 17:00:24

Thanks Secret. Good luck for Thursday I hope it will be good news.

Somersetgirl1990 Mon 14-Apr-14 19:19:23

Welcome secret grin and congratulations! I feel exactly the same, but for no reason at all. I'm 6+4 and am so anxious that I'm finding it hard to be excited at all! I've only just started getting symptoms, has ms ALL day yesterday! And have been sick a few times today (one was due to the vanilla air freshener in dp's car shock)
I have my first appointment with a midwife on thurs, does anyone know if she'll take bloods? Hoping I can avoid that for another few weeks as I hate needles with a passion!

MrsW27 Mon 14-Apr-14 19:53:47

Hi everyone, this is my first post on MN grin. We're 5+5 with baby no1. Had some mild nausea so far but no full on MS yet - I'm hoping it won't kick in for a while as we are getting married in 3 weeks and I'm desperately praying I won't be spending the day throwing up! Me and DH are thrilled with the news, only told close family so far and will tell friends etc after the first scan. We've had a brief chat with the midwife who gave us a date of 10th December but think this will be put back a bit after the dating scan.

LisaC2611 Mon 14-Apr-14 22:00:09

Congratulations MrsW on the bfp and the wedding. You'll be so excited on your wedding day that the ms will fade into the background grin

Helsim Tue 15-Apr-14 06:05:45

Hi ladies! I found out yesterday I'm 5weeks pregnant eek nhs calculator advises due date is 14th December!

Not seen a midwife yet n dates may change at my scan I guess but we r looking at a December baby I think?!

So excited! Am 36 and we've been trying for nearly a year, 17th April 2013 we started so found out I'm pregnant almost a year to the day! Exciting times! :-)

Good luck ladies

H x x

SecretGeek Tue 15-Apr-14 10:50:32

Congratulations helsim and mrsw!

Can anyone advise what I should be doing about GP and MW? Being under a fertility clinic it hasn't really occurred to me to even tell my GP. Guess I should just wait until my next appointment at the clinic and ask them confused

Still practically symptom free here apart from dizziness and occassionally a bitter taste when I eat/ drink. Would love sore boobs or some MS to make it feel more real!

PresidentSpreadable Tue 15-Apr-14 10:54:55

I've got an appointment to see my GP on Thursday when I'll be 6+3 SecretGeek. I'm not really expecting them to do much, but I thought I'd better check in as I'm probably high risk due to age and weight, and I'm hoping they may be able to refer me for an early scan due to my mmc last year. Should get my bp checked as well, it's normally pretty good, so not too worried.

Last time I didn't bother with the GP at all and just self referred to the mw at my choice of hospital, not sure if all hospitals let you do that though.

LisaC2611 Tue 15-Apr-14 12:32:03

Can anyone advise what I should be doing about GP and MW? Being under a fertility clinic it hasn't really occurred to me to even tell my GP. Guess I should just wait until my next appointment at the clinic and ask them

Still practically symptom free here apart from dizziness and occassionally a bitter taste when I eat/ drink. Would love sore boobs or some MS to make it feel more real!

Hi Secret

Congratulations on your BFP!

I am also under the hospital for fertility - we was a month away from being referred for IVF when I found out that we are expecting. I called my consultant first thing the next working day and got told "congratulations, you don't need an early scan (which a gynae had told my mum I would need) and to just book in with the midwife and gp in the normal way". I have also been told that I don't need to attend my next appointment with the consultant so will be cancelling that shortly as well.

Have got my first appointment with the MW on 2 May, Consultant appt is on 19th so will cancel that after I have spoken to the mw. Can't wait to see the mw to confirm everything and make it all real.

Trust me you don't want to wish sore boobs on yourself. I have had them for the past couple of weeks and they are excrutiatingly painful. I went out running the other day (before I knew I was pregnant) and I had to stop running as they were hurting me so much.

Enjoy the symptom free early days while you can, I'm sure they'll come with a vengance soon. grin

MrsW27 Tue 15-Apr-14 20:30:22

Thanks Lisa, fingers crossed you're right smile

Honeymum1 Wed 16-Apr-14 14:13:27

Hi there lovely ladies,

This is my first post on MN and I am soooo happy to be here, may I join you?

I had a mc last September and I am now pregnant with my first (7 weeks tomorrow). My EDD is 4th December, just like you EmilyPinkOrBlue smile

I went to see my GP right after the BFP, she seemed very pleased and did my hospital referral that day (I had spent months reading about different experiences here and I already knew which one I wanted)

I am going on saturday to have a private scan to central London as I really need to feel that this is for real before I go away with my DH to USA for few weeks.

A bit concerned about flying with morning sickness...Any experiences?

Congratulations to all of you! wink

Littlebear81 Wed 16-Apr-14 22:05:37

Jumping on too! I'm officially 8 weeks but due to long cycles think I'm more like 6. Very few symptoms so far. Feel bloated on and off and apparently I'm like a radiator (although I don't feel particularly hot) but luckily no nausea yet.

Doesn't feel real yet and I agree time is going so slowly. I've been to GP today. They've referred me to a midwife and the next steps are for midwife to call me to arrange first appt followed by a scan which dr has recommended they do early to date me. My GP has said I'll then deal with the midwife until 23/4 weeks when they want to see me again. Not sure how typical that is but he seemed pretty relaxed about it.

SassehMonsta Thu 17-Apr-14 08:03:54

Bumping so that rejjie can find us!

Rejjie Thu 17-Apr-14 09:19:25

Hi guys,

I've found you at last. Congratulations to everyone. So lovely to share these experiences and know we're not all going crazy.

I found out on Saturday and went to the doctors as soon as possible this week. It all felt like a bit of an anticlimax as she didn't want to do a test to confirm. I now know that this is normal but I must have looked so disappointed she gave me another test to take home! She said that I should hear from the midwife in a few weeks. Is this normal? It seems that many of you have made your appointments directly. Im 4+6 today and think morning sickness may be creeping up. I've hardly slept all night with weird feelings in my tummy. Haven't thrown up but feeling nauseous.

Honeymum I don't have experience of flying with morning sickness but I do fly for a living although not at the moment, of course. I'm sure you know all of the following but here's my advice. Obviously on a long haul flight you are going to dehydrate so this is the main thing you want to be concerned about. Buy a good few bottles of water (post security) as, with the best will in the world, you're highly unlikely to get as much as you need from the crew. If you can get any coconut water, this is great for hydration. I'd also take some ginger or mint tea bags. Wear something very loose as obviously everything expands when you fly and you really could end up very uncomfortable. If you are throwing up a lot, your main concern is loss of electrolytes so you may want to buy some natural electrolyte tablets that you pop in water to keep your salts up. Finally, take some food with you or buy something in the terminal. That stuff is nausea-inducing when you don't have morning sickness! Maybe try some travel bands too in case you get a bit of travel sickness or dizziness.
I hope you have none of the above, a great flight and a lovely break. Where in the US are you going?

MrsMac1397 Thu 17-Apr-14 09:54:18

Hi everyone,

Do you mind if I join in? I found out at the weekend that we are having our first baby. We've been trying for 9 months. From my last period, I am now 4 weeks and 2 days. My EDD is 23/12/14.

I think it's probably a bit early to be having symptoms but my boobs are loads bigger and are alittle tender, the last few days I've been a bit nauseous around mid morning (although I've now got a cold so wondering if it's related to that rather than the baby?!)

Is anyone else having cramps on and off during the day? As the days have been getting on they have been happening less and less and aren't very sore at all anymore. I'm hoping they were implantation cramps and now it's all snug in there. But can't help worrying its a bad sign? Saying that, today I haven't had any but now I'm worrying that's a bad sign so maybe I'm just worrying for the sake of it. confused

We haven't told anyone yet, although we are desperate to spill the beans. We've agreed to tell our parents at 8 weeks and then everyone else once we've had a scan and know everything is progressing as it should. As lots have said already, time seems to be passing so slowly.

Somersetgirl1990 Thu 17-Apr-14 10:21:47

Hi rejjie and mrsmac!!
I've had cramps on and off for the past few weeks which I think is a normal sign smile
I've got my midwife appointment today, I'm 7 weeks and it's dragging soooooooo much, think I'm going to have a reassurance scan because I don't think I can wait another 5 weeks of not knowing how everything's doing in there.
The last few days have been horrendous for me, been feeling so so nauseous, only actually been sick a few times, one episode was at 2 in the morning coupled with diarrhoea so that was pleasant! I also have no energy whatsoever and feel like sleeping for the next week but when I'm in bed I'm really uncomfortable and feel really hungry. So I eat and then I feel sick confused just want the sickness to go away already!

ffallada Thu 17-Apr-14 16:11:05

Hello new ladies. Take 24 hours away from the computer and it looks like the list of us newbies has doubled. tbusmile
Time is a funny bugger isn't it - when it comes to counting down the days till the 12 week scan (which I haven't even received an appointment for yet) time is dragging by. When it comes to doing the work for my meeting with my supervisor next week time appears to by flying and I haven't gotton much done at all.

There must be some cure to the nausea that we are all missing? surely? I've tried ginger biscuits, rich tea biscuits etc...eating lying down, eating standing up. not eating. Roll on week 13 tbuwink

Somersetgirl1990 Thu 17-Apr-14 18:16:23

I find it really hard to drink anything which I think is much worse than being unable to eat. Everytime I take a sip I urge before swallowing, not nice at all

ffallada Fri 18-Apr-14 13:57:40

Hi somersetgirl - if I was you I might consider a wee visit to the gp - it sounds like you might have severe ms.

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 18-Apr-14 16:58:16

I've been much better today, can eat and drink smile ive got an appointment to see the midwife again next week so may mention it then if it hasn't gotten any better

Nat2Dec Sat 19-Apr-14 23:20:15

Congratulations everyone! Please could I join this group?

I'm 5 weeks! My EDD is 21.12.14 I found out on Thursday I am pregnant with my first, 5 positive pregnancy tests later there is no denying it. Some what a little surprised as it wasn't really planned just yet, but excited now I have got over the shock. Telling my mum on Monday and got to ring GP for first appointment....nervous, excited a little anxious of what to expect.

My boobs are feeling heavy and sensitive, have waves of nauseous now and again but it could be done to the cold I have at the moment as I don't have much of an appetite. Have cramping several times a day which can be uncomfortable at times.

Hope everyone experiencing symptoms are not being hit to hard! =]

SassehMonsta Sun 20-Apr-14 07:05:11

Hi Nat, welcome & congratulations!

Yes, sore boobs & nausea central here, but actually being sick not so much, though a couple of times when out with the dog I've found myself retching. Had acid reflux for the first time yesterday but very mild, and did a proper burp for the first time in years!! (so many.people have tried to teach me how and failed but yesterday I laughed and burped at the same time, bizzare!!)

I had mashed.potato last night for dinner which I usually love, but last night it smelt & tasted foul (husband disagreed). Was so gutted as I was really looking forward to it! I also.have lost my supersweet tooth & dont want even the tiniest bit if chocolate. Damn you easter!

Telling the inlaws went really well on Friday, my parents next weekend. Today we see a few close friends that dont know yet and are meant to be picnicing... Could be interesting.

Husband is superexcited & doesnt want to let me out of his sight. Said he didnt think it was posdible but he loves me a million times more now! Told him it was biological & instinct, he jyst smiled. Awwww.

Cant wait till Friday & to have an early scan. Period dating puts me due 14th Dec, but using accurate ovulation puts me due 8th Dec - we will see!!

Peaceloveandbiscuits Sun 20-Apr-14 18:39:13

Santa truly is bringing me a baby! I'm due 25th December!!!

Nati2 Mon 21-Apr-14 09:37:14

Congratulations to you to SassehMonsta. (Couldn't remember my password etc from my last accountant so had to resign up, use to be Nat2Dec haha).

I have also lot my super sweet tooth, the lindt bunnies will just have wait to be eaten until I get a craving.

My partner has been so excited and proud, he has shed a few tears over the past few days...talk about emotional I thought I was the one who was pregnant. =] Like your partner he is even more in love with me.

Glad everything is going well with telling people. Have fun on Friday I am yet to do that, as Thursday I spent all day in shock and on Good Friday the medical centre was closed so ringing up tomorrow finally.

Enjoy your bank holiday =]

Somersetgirl1990 Mon 21-Apr-14 16:42:30

Is anybody planning on having a reassurance scan? I'm in two minds about it, whilst (providing everything's going well) I would feel more at ease, I'm sure I'll work myself up into feeling anxious again before the twelve week scan. Having said that, I'd rather know if something has gone wrong. Buuuut I think it would be 10x worse if everything's fine and then something happens between the reassurance scan and 12 weeks.

Am I sounding like a crazy person? confused I feel like it!

SassehMonsta Mon 21-Apr-14 16:47:42

not at all Somerset - my scan on Friday is an early reassurance one! I decided I would much rather know sooner rather than later, and that an early scan with heartbeat at 7-8 weeks gives a 95%+ chance of a viable pregnancy! Then I only have to wait another 2 weeks until midwife appointment, and then probably another few until the first NHS scan. If I don't break time into manageable chunks, I'm going to bonkers tbugrin

Somersetgirl1990 Mon 21-Apr-14 18:05:58

Good luck for Friday smile are you going to a hospital to have it done? The nearest place to me isn't in a hospital and I think that's put my DP off as his mums a midwife so he thinks I shouldn't just go to anyone as he thinks they won't know what they're doing smile
I think I'm going to book one! I'm 7+4 now so might try for the end of the week grin

SassehMonsta Mon 21-Apr-14 20:40:00

Its a private one, not at the hospital, but the lady who runs it works at the hospital in the daytime, and the building they use is across the road from it. HB thought my booking in appointment was in April not May and that we would have a scan there and then - but no, so I've convinced him that we could have this private one ;) But yes,super paranoid!

Treaclepie19 Mon 21-Apr-14 22:40:05

Hi everyone smile can I join please?
A bit of a nervous first timer!
EDD 24th Dec smile

Experiencing an array of symptoms. Not sure if it's normal this early lol 4w 5d.

Smudge1606 Tue 22-Apr-14 09:28:42

Morning Everyone

Please can I also join?

My EDD is 19th December but I think that will change. It's so reassuring to hear all of your comments and know we are all feeling the same.
This is our first and it is somewhat of a big surprise, we both work long hours in London and have busy social lives. The only thing that is going in our favour is we have moved closer to the Kent boarder to get a city/country balance. I start my new job tomorrow after being on gardening leave for the past month, not sure things could get any crazier but exciting no doubt.

We haven't told anyone yet but I'm experiencing a range of symptoms. We're off to the South of France with my family in 3 weeks, how I am going to fib my way out of drinking wine and eating soft cheese I don't know!!

Rejjie Tue 22-Apr-14 09:44:24

Welcome Treaclepie19.

What symptoms are you having? I had loads very early, even before my period was due and I realised I was pregnant so I think it's pretty normal.

Welcome Smudge1606.

My estimated date is also the 19th. Good luck with France. I just about managed to get through a weekend with my boozy in-laws (although we did come home 1 night early). I used the antibiotics excuse for the drinking and luckily no one noticed that I hadn't eaten any blue cheese; usually I have to be dragged away from the cheese plate!

On the subject of cheese, I'm a little confused about whether you can or can't eat goat's cheese. I've been avoiding it because I read not to but saw another site saying it was a good thing to eat. Does anyone know?

Does anyone feel that life was probably a lot simpler pre-internet when we could make ourselves completely paranoid with information overload. Somehow I doubt our mothers and grandmothers were worrying like this.

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 09:47:41

Thanks rejjie
I'm having sore boobs, cramps, nausea, extreme tiredness. I had spotting for one day and cramps so also been to the walk in centre. Feel like I'm constantly worried haha.

Smudge1606 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:01:48

Treaclepie19 I have had quite uncomfortable cramping too, I read it is fairy normal but still so worrying.

rejjie so glad I am not the only cheese lover! I'm sure I read goats cheese is ok but it's hard to know. We have also been at the in laws this weekend, every meal anyone seemed to serve had prawns in it and there was a 60th birthday so lots of champers, has been a nightmare.

I am a worrier in most aspects of life so not expecting pregnancy to be any different but must keep it under control confused

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:04:41

I'm the same smudge, off to have my first Dr's appointment today. I have so many questions she will probably kick me out haha.

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:10:17

Hello ladies!

Very early days for me but done a couple of tests which are positive & work out that my due date would be 27 Dec, though will be visiting docs soon to confirm. Am slightly anxious about it though as while one test - first response - was really clear, the clearblue test result was really faint and not reassuring. Anyone else have experience of this?

Anyway, hopefully the doc will confirm soon and I can properly celebrate! Smudge, like you we have a busy London social life and so this will be a big change, but a really exciting one!

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:13:36

By the way, I should have introduced myself and said hello! Hope it's ok for me to join. Just booked my dr's appt for next week :-)

On the goats cheese thing I read you could eat pasteurised and cooked goats cheese, but not unpasteurised - seems to make sense?!

BTW, I'm with everybody on the sore heavy boobs!

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:33:29

Hi! And welcome smile
Yes! I've had faint first response early tests until recently. Also my digi is still on 1-2 weeks. I think we all get hcg levels slightly different so trying not to worry smile

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:47:09

Thanks Treaclepie! You just want that really solid line so there's no question either way!! The first response test was pretty conclusive though so I think it should be fine - eek!

No doubt I'll buy another test or two before I visit the dr next week though.... In the meantime I have a nasty throat infection (slightly dampening the excitement), so just trying to keep warm, drinking hot drinks and taking paracetamol as can't take any stronger drugs! Bleugh...

Great to have this group to share it all with anyway, so I don't drive my DH mad with pregnancy chat! It's going to be hard not telling people in the coming weeks!


Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 10:59:52

Definitely. My first response line is dark now at 16dpo. Just kicking myself for doing that digi as I'm now worried it's only 1-2 still!

I've had a cold, I think it's our bodies using our energy to look after our little beans smile

We've told our parents and BIL but that's it.

SassehMonsta Tue 22-Apr-14 12:07:45

Welcome to all the new ladies! Yes, sore boobs and ms are running rampant, I've had to buy a couple of news bras already as man were they painful - and I'm only 6+4 (possibly 7+2, but need dating scan!).

Went to a job interview today and managed to get though it without being sick, but the car journey home I almost threw up on myself sad Booo.

We've told PIL and my sister, and telling my parents after scan on Friday/on Saturday. a few friends know as they are pregnant as well, and both my boss and DH's boss know.

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 12:33:39

Good luck with the job interview SassehMonsta - sounds like a big thing to take on moving jobs at the moment, go you! smile

Do you have your dating scan booked in already?

I'm going to wait until I've been to the docs next week and then I think I will tell my mum and brother...


SassehMonsta Tue 22-Apr-14 13:13:10

Thanks - I probablt won't be able to take the job, as even if I do I'll be eligible for maternity leave but not maternity pay sad Went well though, nice people, but I think they want someone with more managerial experience.

I have an early reassurance scan booked in on Friday. Doctors didn't want to see me, just booked me in for midwife booking in appointment on 12th May!

Somersetgirl1990 Tue 22-Apr-14 14:29:05

I went to see a midwife last week, not sure if I went too early as I'm only 7+5 now, have another one in a few weeks but she just took my blood pressure, talked me through some things, weighed me and gave me lots of forms to fill in for next time!
On the cheese front - I'm also very confused. Deep fried Brie/Camembert is my favourite meal and I've read it's ok to eat it as Lon as it's cooked, but is there a limit on how much you can eat it? It seems to be one of the only things that doesn't make me feel sick atm and I had it 3 times last week hmm does anyone know if it's something that is ok to eat a lot of or should it be avoided even when cooked? I eat it with salad though so at least I'm getting some goodness! grin

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 17:52:12

I say eat away the cooked cheese!! This is what is says on the NHS website:

"Thorough cooking should kill any bacteria, so it should be safe to eat cooked soft cheeses or dishes that contain them, such as baked brie or deep-fried camembert. Hard blue cheeses such as stilton are safe to eat without cooking."


Somersetgirl1990 Tue 22-Apr-14 18:24:07

Brilliant - I know what I'm having for dinner! grin

Peaceloveandbiscuits Tue 22-Apr-14 19:09:10

I made broccoli soup today and melted a bit of blue cheese into it - felt very naughty but if the consensus is that if it's cooked it's fair game, then hurray!

Nati2 Tue 22-Apr-14 20:21:46

Welcome new ladies.

Had my GP appointment today, got referred to the midwife all very exciting, got told I am 6 weeks not 5 so even better.

The nauseous has been trouble today...felt like throwing up today although I didn't, have become very tired in the afternoons. hmm

God to hear about the brie I love Brie and have been avoiding it all weekend. smile

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 21:00:41

That's exciting Nati2! How come you're further on than you thought?! I've come up with a date based on my last period but am seeing my GP next week so will see what she says!

Nati2 Tue 22-Apr-14 21:21:29

Apparently I calculated my period wrong and I rechecked my calendar with the doctor and she says 6 weeks. This is her estimation though so we shall see when I have a scan.

How far gone are you KateJ28? When is your EDD?

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 21:52:50

Sooo exciting! My my calculation EDD is 27/28 Dec but we'll see if the GP says next week. Looking forward to having the appt - think it might start to feel real then!

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:09:15

Hope it goes better than mine did lol. Mine was upsetting today :/

Good luck everyone with your appointments smile

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:16:30

Oh no, what happened?!

Somersetgirl1990 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:27:38

Hope you're ok treacle xxx

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:28:44

Doctor was shit. I came out and burst into tears. She did an internal examination which was so painful I nearly cried then and there. She said basically at this point we don't know what the spotting or pain means. If it gets really sharp go to hospital. She hasn't booked my midwife or anything yet which pissed me off. She wants me to go back next week. If anythings carried on then they'll do a scan.
Basically made me feel like there's no chance. DH says it's not like that but I'm a bit sensitive at the moment.
I've calmed down now but I just felt she wasn't interested on booking things down the line just in case. I don't know sad

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:29:09

Thanks smile I feel better now but it really wasn't what I needed.

Somersetgirl1990 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:36:52

Oh no how scary for you, hopefully it's nothing and all is well in your belly smile not the same situation AT ALL but my cat was recently attacked by either a dog or a fox, and it was really touch and go whether he'd pull through - everytime we spoke to the vet I got the impression that the vet was being very pessimistic whereas my dp would be under the impression that everything was going well and I think I was projecting my anxiety into how I was interpreting what he was saying.

KateJ28 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:40:06

Sounds like she was far from sensitive treacle sad - surely docs should realise what an important and emotional time this is and be careful how they handle things, grrr... You think you'll get more understanding from a female GP too. Glad you are feeling a bit better now though & hope you're not in too much pain - is it cramps you're having? I've had a few of those and was worried, but have read it's not unusual in early pg while the womb is stretching. Let us know how it goes. xxxxxxxx

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:41:11

Thanks smile Yeah I think you're right. It's hard to not let your worries take over. Fingers crossed all us well and at least they are willing to do an early scan if anythings not right.

Treaclepie19 Tue 22-Apr-14 22:42:32

Thanks kate, yeah it's cramps and I did have spotting. I also have this constant pressure on the left side of my stomach.
I'll keep you updated smile

railgun Tue 22-Apr-14 23:24:49

Hi I'm due 19 December and it's my first

Rejjie Wed 23-Apr-14 06:58:19

Welcome railgun. My EDD is 19th too.

vc7g08 Wed 23-Apr-14 08:26:16

Hi everyone. Hoping I can join? I'm 7 + 3 with my first baby. So far I've only told my bf and sister (who had her first baby earlier this year). I feel like I'm getting every symptom going, especially the sore boobs and nausea.

Sorry to hear about your first appointment Treacle. Some doctors have no communication skills!

Looking forward to my first midwife appointment, but so nervous about the scan. So good to read about people going through the same things as me smile

Cineraria Wed 23-Apr-14 09:48:26

Hi, I found out last Thursday that I'm pregnant and the baby is due on Christmas day! I know it's unlikely to arrive on exactly the predicted day but even if not it'll still be the best present ever.

Congratulations to everyone and hope you're feeling better today Treacle. It sounds like you had a rotten day yesterday.

Smudge1606 Wed 23-Apr-14 10:00:44

treaclepie so sorry to hear about your experience yesterday, unfortunately there are some doctors out there who have no people skills. Don't be afraid to ask for a different gp next time if there is another one available.
My mum swapped hers because he wouldn't refer her to the hospital and she knew something was wrong. Eventually the next doctor did straight away and couldn't believe the treatment she'd had.

Hope you are feeling better today.

KateJ28 Wed 23-Apr-14 10:23:05

Hi!! What's your EDD vc7? Sounds like you're a bit ahead of some of us - hope the midwife appt goes well!

Is everybody on here having their first baby?! I am smile

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 10:56:21

Thanks everyone, I feel better now thanks.
I think as it's not sharp pain and no red blood hopefully it's ok but I'm going back next week and if im still not happy hopefully I'll get an early scan. She said we could scan from 6 weeks.
Don't feel pregnant today apart from a little nausea bit my tests are still dark. Must stop worrying!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 23-Apr-14 11:08:22

Welcome new ladies grin hope everyone's not feeling too sicky today, I had a horrible night last night, I think it was because I had work and didn't get an afternoon nap in wink
Just booked a reassurance scan for Friday morning - really worried there's gonna be nothing there but I've always thought even if the worst happens if rather know sooner than later so fingers crossed! My DP keeps telling me I'm really gloomy but I think realistic is a better word haha!

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 11:10:02

I feel the same! If we don't get an early nhs scan, we're booking a private one.
Hope all goes well for you smile

KateJ28 Wed 23-Apr-14 11:16:50

How did you guys go booking your reassurance scans?! Did you just look it up on the internet?

Hope you feel better soon Somersetgirl smile - I've not had any sickness yet, but perhaps still too early...I'm not 5 weeks yet. Hopefully that's the case anyway, and it's not something to worry about. Guess I should just enjoy feeling sick free for now! xx

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 11:19:04

I've just looked online. Don't worry kate, I don't feel much different to normal today.
I think sickness is from about 6 weeks? I'm 5w today smile

Peaceloveandbiscuits Wed 23-Apr-14 12:23:07

Treacle love that you and I are on exactly the same dates! I'm five weeks today too smile
In other news, isn't Fybogel vile??

EmilyPinkOrBlue Wed 23-Apr-14 13:48:52

Hi ladies I feel awful that I abandoned my own thread for a while but now I'm back!! How is everyone??

Treacle do I recognise you from the bfp due end match/early April conception thread? Your name looks familiar!

over Easter ive been busy renovating our house! A bit more quickly now we are having a baby!

I had my first midwife appt on Tuesday I was so nervous it was silly! But mostly because I HATE needles and blood tests. I managed to get out of it as I was petrified and said I would prefer to go to the hospital and do it. They are experts. Plus I always faint an I HATE that feeling! But it's going to have to be done I know!! So it's been put off till my next day off in 2 weeks time! And then The midwife is coming to see me at home when I'm about 11+2. She said I would get a letter for the first scan and that it would be between when I'm 11.5 and 13.5 weeks. I hope it's not the latter!!!

EmilyPinkOrBlue Wed 23-Apr-14 13:54:43

Oh and midwife said my edd is 3rd dec not 4th but dating scan will tell all!!

Do I remember reading a bit earlier that people have gone off chocolate? I have big time I am normally such a chocoholic but I think where I am SO hungry I want real food that's filling rather than snacky foods if that makes sense?

I commute to london full time I'm in a real dilemma about what I want to do at end of maternity leave. I'd love to be a sahm but I earn more than my partner so just living on my oh's wage will be SO tight - anyone else in same situation??

Peaceloveandbiscuits Wed 23-Apr-14 14:04:30

Emily we don't rely on my wage but it certainly helps top us up, and we've recently agreed to rent a more expensive house, so I am gutted I might not be able to afford to stay at home like I want to. I do only work three days though, so it might be doable. Feels like I'm getting ahead of myself!

KateJ28 Wed 23-Apr-14 14:18:19

I earn about the same, or a little more than my DH too, and we couldn't afford our mortgage on his wage alone, so I'll be going back, though may be able to see if I could cut down to p/t. We'll see. Just don't know how I'll feel - I love my job and not sure I could manage being at home every day, but my work is high pressure, so not sure how I'll manage to juggle both.... As you say Peace, it feels a bit early to think about these things - focus is on making sure baby is well & all looks gd first..

(although saying that, I'm off work today, and keep getting sidetracked by pg website and sites like this... www.tiffanyrose.com/maternity/clothes/new.html - lush!)

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 23-Apr-14 14:19:16

Kate - I just looked online too and then filled in the online form and she rang me this morning to book an appointment smile looking forward to it but so nervous!!
Emily - when I went to see my midwife she said they would do bloods when I went for my 12 week scan so I've got that to look forward to, I've only ever had my blood taken once and I hate it! I think it's the thought of it that makes it much worse, I'm terrified of needles. I went off chocolate - very briefly though smile it tasted really weird for a bit and i was quite excited at the thought of not wanting it for 9 months. It's all fine now, so I can pig out as much as I like. I've found that I'm loving mash potato even more now than before, it's one of the only foods that doesn't make me feel ill after eating grin

KateJ28 Wed 23-Apr-14 15:08:23

That's exciting Somersetgirl! When is the appt and how many weeks will you be?! I'm thinking of booking one for 2-3 wks time, but it feels like tempting fate, I feel like I should wait a few more weeks!

natashaarr Wed 23-Apr-14 15:20:50

Hi all smile, I found out yesterday I'm pregnant!! Due around the 25th December (ahhhhh!!) that would be a year after my miscarriage. I'm so happy I'm pregnant but I'm so scared! This will be my first baby and this time we aren't telling anyone until 12 weeks! I'm not seeing my GP until Tuesday (ill be 6 weeks) and then I suppose she will refer me to the midwife. I have no idea how long that takes? I'm just worrying and wants scan already to make sure everything's ok! Congratulations on all of your pregnancies!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 23-Apr-14 15:46:29

It's on Friday at 9.30 - I'll be 8+1, time feels like it's going so slowly! But I thought that about 8 weeks would be the best time, I've got another midwife appt in 2 weeks and then hopefully my 12 week scan another 2 weeks after that so breaks it up into chunks smile

LisaC2611 Wed 23-Apr-14 16:03:05

Hi everyone

I dropped off the page for a little while but I've tried to have a catch up on all the goings on.

Congratulations to all the newly pg's.

Has anyone else been desperate to tell people that they are pg? We'd been trying for 2 years for this baby and a lot of people knew that we were having issues conceiving, but now that I've got my bean in my belly I'm dying to tell everyone, even though I've sworn dh, dm and ds to secrecy.

My sore boobs are starting to ease now thankfully, although I am starting to feel icky, but thankfully haven't yet been sick!

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 16:41:48

I know Peaceandlove it's awesome having a date buddy smile

emily yeah I've been on the buses since December smile

I am hoping to be a SAHM. We have sorta worked out money. I'm the bigger wage earner but DH's wage is increasing. I'm desperate to stay home though.

Just hope Little Seed is ok. My sore boobs have gone off. Only been a bit bloated today. Did have a nap bit had been out for a big meal. Still had some cramps though. It's so worrying!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 23-Apr-14 16:55:24

I've had quite a few days where I've felt really crampy, not massively painful, just sort of like weak period pains but apparently it's normal!

EmilyPinkOrBlue Wed 23-Apr-14 16:58:34

Congratulations treacle!! So lovely to see a familiar face!!! How exciting!

Ditto with the sahm opinion! I would love to stay at home. I wouldn't even mind having less money but I really don't think we could cope on just oh's wages unless his work is kind and give him a bit of a pay rise for having a child? Here's hoping!!

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 17:24:41

Thanks emily smile
It will be a struggle for us but I am determined to try and make it work.

Fingers crossed for you haha smile

chillychicken Wed 23-Apr-14 17:39:09

emily I'm a familiar face too, just with a name change wink Happy to PM you though if you want to know lol

I'm off food. Well, actually, I can just about stomach salt and vinegar crisps and some chocolate. Oh and baked beans. I am finding it all a bit of a struggle though. Still getting cramps as well. I just keep reminding myself that it'll all be worth it. No vomitting yet but all day sickness instead. Lovely.

7 weeks tomorrow and I'm probably imagining it but I appear to have a tiny bump. I'm slim but half a stone heavier than normal but quite low down I can feel a tiny, hard bump starting to form grin I'm going to be checking it out in the mirror the moment I get home!

Midwife on Monday and still haven't decided about an early scan but I did tell my mum, nan and grandad and the DPIL at the weekend. Grandad is poorly and DFIL is likely to be abroad when 12 week scan takes place so thought it wouldn't hurt to tell them. All over the moon. My Grandad said it's given him something to live for smile

Peaceloveandbiscuits Wed 23-Apr-14 18:26:09

I was on the buses from about August-October but then had to take a step back, and have since name changed smile

KateJ28 Wed 23-Apr-14 18:55:19

sorry, i'm a newbie - what does "on the buses" mean?!

Bettycakes80 Wed 23-Apr-14 19:17:42

Today I had to go and buy pants one dress size up! Has anyone else put on a ton of weight? I'm 8+2 and a combination of not going to the gym because I'm so tired and constant grazing to stop the nausea plus the bloated feeling means everything feels crazy tight!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 23-Apr-14 19:29:59

Betty I'm waiting for that to happen to me! I've actually lost weight, I've gone from constantly eating to being able to manage 2 meals a day, one of those being marmite on toast! I'm sure I'll start piling on the pounds soon enough! I'm just planning on wearing floaty dresses all the time to hide the flab! Hoping I don't put on too much weight on my arms and legs hmm

MrsW27 Wed 23-Apr-14 20:27:16

Betty you are not alone, I have ballooned in weight already (I'm 7 weeks today), I'm getting married a week on Sunday and have had to have my dress taken out loads - oops! blush

Treacle, just wanted to give you some comfort, I had cramping and spotting last week so I rang the hospital directly and they said to go on down to see them. They got me back the next day for an internal scan and little bean was still there with a tiny little heartbeat. I had completely panicked and immediately thought the worst (don't know what I would have done without DP) but it turns out it was just an implantation bleed and little bean has been making him/herself at home and making me even sicker ever since smile

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 20:40:57

Thank you*MrsW*, that's so comforting to read smile
I'm going to the doctors again Tuesday hopefully. Going to request an early scan and if not we will pay for one.

Weight - I am already a size 16 so haven't noticed I've put weight on but I am bloating a lot. Feels very tight in there. I am also trying my hardest to eat lots of small meals (within calories to maintain my weight) to reduce nausea and late night bloating.

Peaceloveandbiscuits Wed 23-Apr-14 21:03:03

Kate in the conception boards they call each thread a "bus", as in "hop on this bus if you're TTC in April" etc. Not literally been on a bus for three months :P

vc7g08 Wed 23-Apr-14 21:45:53

Hi Katie, I'm due around December 7th, but my stomach is already looking huge, wondering if I've somehow got all my dates wrong... I'm already looking at getting maternity clothes as only a couple of pairs of trousers fit me now.

Is anyone else worried about having to hide it from their colleagues? I was thinking of telling my supervisor, as bit worried about the sort of chemicals I work with, but so scared to jinx things before the scan.

Treaclepie19 Wed 23-Apr-14 21:50:06

Yeah vc, I'm worried my co-workers will guess. I'm going to tell my headteacher as I need the support and her to know for risk assessing and absences.

KateJ28 Thu 24-Apr-14 00:01:35

Ahh gotya - thanks Peace!! Sleep well ladies smile xx

vc7g08 Thu 24-Apr-14 08:20:29

Yeah I've already had to leave early from work three times to try and get doctors appointments, as I've recently moved and had to register again. My supervisor is probably getting a bit suspicious. So annoying that surgeries don't stay open longer.

Does anyone know if there are any blood tests you have to have before 9 weeks? As it doesn't look like I'll be getting my first midwife app before then.

Treaclepie19 Thu 24-Apr-14 08:23:07

It is annoying and you can never get an appointment for a later time when you want one.

I'm not sure about the blood tests, I don't think so. Think its just the ones the midwife does.

Somersetgirl1990 Thu 24-Apr-14 11:03:14

I was told I won't have bloods done until my 12 week scan but not sure if that's just the area that I live in smile

littlebeansunshine Thu 24-Apr-14 15:46:43

Hi everyone and congrats smile I'm another first time mum to be - hoping for a Christmas miracle! still early days and getting my head round when baby is due which is start of Dec. How is everyone getting on? I am sick as a dog! Feeling like I have seasickness/ terrible hangover (without the party) 24-7 and can only stomach plain dry crackers and potatoes! I am starting a new job on Monday eeek not sure how that will go as pregnancy didn't come up in the interview(!) so a little scared how this will play out especially as I need to lie down frequently/throw up. Hope everyone is doing ok with their pregnancies xx

LisaC2611 Thu 24-Apr-14 16:09:41

Congrats Littlebean!

Sorry to hear you are feeling sick. I'm nauseous but have not yet been sick and thankfully its not affecting my day to day life.

I'm so excited about my Christmas present that I am wishing away the months already - I've never thought about Christmas so much in my life (well probably except when I was 5 years old, and the novelty of Father Christmas was still with me). My BFP was a late Birthday present so all in all a good year for me so far (fingers well and truly crossed that my bean is a sticky one).


Somersetgirl1990 Thu 24-Apr-14 16:26:35

Welcome little bean smile I'm feeling rough as well, it's nice knowing you're not the only one isn't it, as my dp and his mum (who's a midwife) are the only people that know, I feel like I'm constantly whinging and they'll get fed up with it soon enough hmm I'm feeling absolutely shattered all the time. Went to bed at 8.30 last night, couldn't get out of bed until 11 today and am at work now feeling so tired. Actually looking forward to having blood tests done to see if I'm anaemic, at least then I'd have a reason to feel this crappy all the time

KateJ28 Thu 24-Apr-14 19:13:05

Welcome littlebeansunshine! Love the nickname smile When are you due?!
Sounds like a lot of ladies are feeling a bit queasy the the moment!! I'm just exhausted and feeling a bit crampy, but hoping that's all ok. I'm only 5 weeks so suspect some sickness may come along sooner or later... when did you ladies start to feel sick?! I think I'll feel happier when I can tell people at work, I feel like I'm just not 100% there right now! In body but not in mind!! Still end of yr review tomorrow, then I can relax a little!!

Somersetgirl how are you feeling about your scan tomorrow?! xx

Somersetgirl1990 Thu 24-Apr-14 20:10:28

I was willing sickness to come as I felt fine until about week 6 then it suddenly hit me. I haven't actually been sick for about a week now but I feel nauseous pretty much all the time hmm
Ummmmmmm I'm in two minds about it - I'm really excited but really scared at the same time, just hoping for good news I suppose and then I'll be able to relax a little for maybe a week before I start to worry again smile

SassehMonsta Thu 24-Apr-14 20:11:12

Welcome new ladies! I stated feeling nausea from 4+2 weeks, and was actually properly sick for the first time this morning (6+5!). Apparently breakfast immediately before driving was not the greatest of plans for me... glad I'm not alone with the nausea though. Every now and then I just get a horrible retching feeling :-/

Pretty paranoid about tomorrows scan. Worried about not seeing a heartbeat etc but so excited about the prospect of telling my family on Saturday if all is ok!

Stomach isn't all that bloated but seemed more bloated last week, but think that was water retention or something. Slowly regaining my appetite but just had to postpone dinner because was overcome with sickness & smells.

Somersetgirl1990 Thu 24-Apr-14 21:49:39

Sasseh what time is your scan? Good luck, hope it all goes well grin

KateJ28 Thu 24-Apr-14 21:52:31

I hope it goes well for both of you and I look forward to seeing happy posts tomorrow! Will be lovely to be able to tell people feeling reassured that it's all okay smile xxxx

Treaclepie19 Thu 24-Apr-14 22:57:05

Good luck withave your scan smile

I'm feeling anxious tonight. Barely noticed any symptoms today. Had a nap half way through but I reckon I'm just in the routine now. Felt a little sick but could just be in my head and sore boobs but not to touch and only occasionally.
I hope all is ok :/ I've also told myself I'm going to stop testing now. Ugh.

SassehMonsta Fri 25-Apr-14 06:35:28

Scan is at 5.45 this evening, after whats looking like a stressful day at qork (a deadline crept up on us!)

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 09:59:12

Good luck with the scan sessah! Let us know how it goes!

Omg does anyone else just feel PANTS and not really know if they can cope for another 7 months!!???
Feeling very sick, wrenching while brushing my teeth in the mornings, having 4 rich tea or ginger biscuits in the morning before I leave work to help with sick feeling, I carry water on me as that seems to help on the train commute, strong smells are driving me insane and are unavoidable!! Eat as soon as I get to work etc etc I suffer from dust mite allergy and pre 5 weeks was still taking daily antihistamines and steroid nasal spray have gone cold turkey and stopped so have a permanent cold, runny nose, sneezing etc on top of everything else. Body hurts I'm so tired! No one tells you pregnancy is so horrible lol I think I could cope if I didn't commute 2.5 hours a day and work full time in a job I hate!!!
Sorry this is a bit of a rant but hoping it makes me feel better! People who I've told keep asking am I excited etc and my reply is no! I feel like sh*t and have all the other worries of having your first child! Boo....


Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 10:33:38

Me completely Emily! My dp is really excited and I'm like, yep I just feel sick hmm
Butttt... We had the scan and there's a little heartbeat grin yayyy I'm so happy. But I'm a little behind my date, thought I was 8 weeks but she says I'm 7+4.. For some reason those 3 days seem to have made me feel a bit upset

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 10:35:24

Congrats on your scan smile

I'd give anything to be having some symptoms again. It's worrying me.

chillychicken Fri 25-Apr-14 10:45:56

treacle how many weeks are you?

Congrats on the scan somerset!

My symptoms are up and down at the moment. Nausea arrives mid afternoon. I'm not sleeping, I'm constipated, I'm freezing, I need a wee constantly, my boobs are so sore and I'm exhausted. However, my skin is clearing up and my nails have stopped flaking. Hurrah!

I'm still undecided on getting an early scan.

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 11:30:56

Treacle I started being sick in week 6 and then started feeling better, but have been sick twice today already so I think it's normal to come and go smile

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 12:10:17

Thank you Somerset for helping me feel normal. I keep feeling like a spoiled brat but I can't help it if I feel rubbish sad how exciting that you saw the heartbeat! Can I ask why u has an early scan? I should feel lucky that I actually haven't been sick so far and I'm 8+1. Will look on the bright side smile

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 12:12:24

Try not to worry about those 3 days. Is it possible that you got your last af date wrong? I'm sure everything's still fine. Did you have quite long af cycles that might be another reason

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 12:17:07

Treacle seriously no symtoms at all?

Sore boobs?
Hard nipples?
Sick feeling?
Being sick?
Super hungry?
Weeing more?
Getting up 3 times in night for a wee?
Clothes getting tighter?
Gone off or gained like for certain foods?
Extreme sense of smell?
Diarrhoea in the morning constipation in eve?
Cramps/feels like insides stretching?
Increased cm?
Lower back pain?

Can anyone add anything?!

If you have escaped all these you are really lucky!!

LisaC2611 Fri 25-Apr-14 12:19:29

Chillychicken, with the exception of the constipation, I have exactly the same symptons, up until earlier this week and now the nausea seems to be constantly with me, I'm 6+4. Ginger biscuits are not helping in the slightest, the only thing that does seem to help slightly is mints but I can't keep eating those!

I'm going to ask about an early scan when I see the midwife next Friday for 2 reasons, one I was told that you should have one when you have conceived with Clomid and two there is a higher chance of twins both at my age and with Clomid, plus my sister told me that I was looking pregnant last night and had a round tummy and that she bet me I had twins. If they don't offer to send me to the EPU then I am going to talk to DH to get a private scan done, for my peace of mind.

If it is twins, happy days, means I only have to go through the pregnancy and labour thing once and our family will be complete in one go grin

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 13:59:08

Oh I feel the same Emily - I spend most of my time complaining about something nowadays wink I wonder how long it will take before I start annoying myself haha. I wanted an early scan just for some reassurance - someone told me that the risk of miscarriage goes down to 5% if there's a heartbeat at 8 weeks, not sure if it's true but it's made me feel a bit better! The woman doing the scan said that ovulation could have been later than I thought or it could have just implanted later, so she said don't worry smile it was one of those things though, she asked me after measuring the bubba how far along I thought I was and it reminded me of Marley and me, where she says "it's not what you'd expect to see at 8 weeks" and it made me really scared, I thought she was going to tell me that it had stopped growing weeks ago or something!

kittykatzxoxo Fri 25-Apr-14 15:12:28

im 5 weeks pregnant according to my dates and the clear blue predicter testis is my second pregnancy after the miscarriage i had in feburary ill be due on the 24th of december smile im really excited but nervous at the same time sad ive had some sickness sore breasts and my nipples look like jcb starter buttons lol im also having some mild cramps

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 16:23:53

I've had quite a bit at the start emily but it's hard to tell ways symptoms and whats nit. My digestion is always off cus of IBS But I gave had nausea on and off, cramps, I had spotting. I get sore boobs at night. Headaches, thirsty and weeing yes but not sure how much of a change there is.

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 16:42:57

Congratulations kitty!! You made me giggle re jcb buttons lol!!!!

I'm sure everything is fine treacle smile

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 16:44:28

I hope so! smile

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 25-Apr-14 16:44:32

Somerset pregnant moany women who had nothing else to talk about used to REALLY annoy me lol and bang I've turned into one!!! Lol

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 16:51:04

I know me too! I REFUSE to become one of those people who constantly post whiney Facebook status' about it, and then once the baby is born constantly post pictures and updates. Even though I do that with my dog haha confused but she's cute so I'm sure everyone loves it!

KateJ28 Fri 25-Apr-14 18:53:59

Treacle - are you going to have a reassurance scan?! I'm sure it's all fine, but might be worth it to reassure you?!

I know what people mean about being a grumpy force to reckon with. I did another test this morning just because I hadn't done a digi one and wanted to see what it said (granted I have done about 8 tests in total, but still can't quite believe it) and went to show DH in bed and he told me I was being ridiculous and to stop wasting the earth's resources. Honestly I nearly ate him for breakfast I was so pissed off with him!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 18:54:45

I am going to one way or another. Going to the doctors Tuesday and gp may refer me, if not then we are booking one.

KateJ28 Fri 25-Apr-14 18:56:42

That sounds good - I hope they refer you and I hope the gp is nicer this time...are you seeing the same one?

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 19:01:14

Thanks kate smile me too.
I'm not sure sad it'll be whoever I can get on the day.

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 19:08:45

So it's it's our anniversary today and were going out for a meal, to a place that do amazing steaks. I normally eat mine medium-rare but when I'm cooking them myself will literally chip bits off and eat it raw. If I have steak, how well done does it have to be? Don't think I could bear the thought of it being any more cooked than medium, but don't know if that's still not good enough?

Peaceloveandbiscuits Fri 25-Apr-14 19:58:26

Somerset your steak talk reminded me... Last night we went out for dinner and DH had a steak, and something inside me wanted a bite, so he gave me a piece of edge bit so it was well-cooked. It was bloody delicious. Oh, did I mention that I've been a vegetarian for twenty years..? What's all that about, then?? :P

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 20:43:54

somerset, I'm not sure about steak to be honest! Sorry sad

On another note... I have never been so pleased that my boobs are hurting!!! smile

SassehMonsta Fri 25-Apr-14 20:54:49

(going to cheat and copy & paste from other Dec thread!)

Went for scan today - not twins! Hurrah! ;) Husband was going to berate his father if it was (he has twin half siblings already!). yes we know it doesn't run in the male side of the family but his dad wouldn't & neither of us get on with him!

Dated as 6+4, so 2 days behind what I'd thought originally, but I can live with that. Strong heartbeat, but baby kept wanting to hide (I blame the father, such an introvert!), so measured in at 7mm. This brings my due date to the 16th Dec - eeeek! :D

Told my parents, their reaction was brilliant. Mum got a massie smile and waited for dad to open his (he was being sloooowww) and his reaction was "oh, what?!" followed by a re-reading and a "seriously?!" Both super happy, and mum gave me a pregnancy book from pre-my-birth (over 26 years old!). Will be interesting to see what differences the reccomendations are ;)

Picture attached is scan of heartbeat, the line with the arrow shows it as it throbs - could see it flicering stongly on the screen __

KateJ28 Fri 25-Apr-14 21:08:20

That's AMAZING Sasseh - much have been so exciting for you both!! Imagine what it'll be like at 12 weeks when you can actually see a baby smile

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 21:13:44

Eek congrats!!! So glad your parents were excited and all is well smile

SassehMonsta Fri 25-Apr-14 21:14:19

Ahhh! I know! Friend went in directly after me and was dated at 9 weeks, her scan is amazing, especially the difference in just over 2 weeks!

It put all my fears to rest, and hopefully things will stay positive. I am actually really starting to feel like I can be hopeful for the future and plan more. My parents have loads of stuff from when me and my siblings were small in the attic, so don't need to worry about things like cot, moses basket, bouncers, pushchair, and selection of clothes (2 girls & 2 boys, a nice choice!). Not to mention toys & books! And possibly a backpack for carrying baby in when 6+ months smile

Super excited!

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 21:26:56

Sounds brilliant smile so happy that you can relax a bit and get excited smile can't wait til I can haha.

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 23:02:50

Yay Sasseh that's great!! grin

KateJ28 Fri 25-Apr-14 23:04:21

Hope you had a good anniversary meal out Somersetgirl - did you go for the steak...?! Hope you enjoyed if so!! xx

Somersetgirl1990 Fri 25-Apr-14 23:09:26

I did! I spoke to my mil before and she said it will be fine, I had it medium rare - I'm sure one won't hurt smile I haven't been eating properly so was full after my starter and then during the middle of my main meal had to stop for a while to stop myself from urging during each mouthful! Very classy wink

KateJ28 Fri 25-Apr-14 23:27:57

Good for you - I'm sure you'll be fine too. My sis-in-law certainly enjoyed the rare steaks while she was preggers and she's now got the most perfect baby girl smile ....iron is good for the baby I'm sure!!

Treaclepie19 Fri 25-Apr-14 23:45:02

Glad you enjoyed your night somerset smile

I think it's all just hitting me now. I'm telling my headteacher at work monday... getting quite nervous!

Rejjie Sat 26-Apr-14 08:45:57

Peace Your desire for steak is basically your body craving iron and B12. I've no doubt that you can be a healthy pregnant vegetarian but it will take a lot of planning. You need to make sure that you get enough iron from leafy and root vegetables every day but B12 is your main issue as it's only found in animal products, yeast extract and fortified cereals. I only eat fish and chicken and have a history of anaemia so it's a battle at the mo to make sure I get all I need every day and I find my desire for chicken has increased alarmingly in response to the need for iron. If you don't have a big issue eating the steak then you might want to go for red meat during your pregnancy. I haven't eaten red meat for nearly 30 years and the idea makes me sick but I'm not sure if the craving will kick in for me later on.

Somersetgirl1990 Sat 26-Apr-14 09:28:30

Good luck telling your thread teacher treacle! I haven't told my mum yet... Need to get on and do that really

Treaclepie19 Sat 26-Apr-14 09:30:06

Thanks somerset smile
Haha, we told our parents last weekend. I needed to be able to talk to them.

SassehMonsta Sat 26-Apr-14 11:43:22

I'm vegan, and taking a pregnancy multivitamin, and also supplementing with Engevita with added B12 - manly because it's something I've eaten for years though! I'm not too worried about iron levels etc as veggies pre pregnancy are almost always aware of their iron intake and tend to not have to worry as much as non veggies (who usually have to increase their iron intake!).

Annette76 Sun 27-Apr-14 10:02:10

Definitely having a reassurance scan - mainly because I can't get any kind of appointment at my GP in the next two weeks and they're not booking yet for week 3!

It's booked in for 17 may when I'll be 7 1/2 weeks.... Can't wait. The baby is due NYE which will be some party! Hoping it might be a little later than that although I suspect I won't be saying that nearer the time!

So back to waiting... Need to try and put it out of my head which is difficult when my boobs are killing me and unhappily nausea is already hitting ...I should have another 2 weeks being nausea free surely?!

MrsMac1397 Sun 27-Apr-14 11:18:35

Hi, sorry I haven't really been posting. I'm more of a reader than a poster.

We told my mum on Friday. I started to notice a little brown blood and I was in a right panic so phoned my mum to tell her and speak to her. I phoned nhs24 and they said it's quite common and doesn't mean anything bad. So far there's still little there but a lot less than Friday and it's really only when I pee/wipe to check so I've calmed down a lot. But now seriously considering paying for an early scan to ease our minds/see what the situation is.

I had no idea I'd be worrying while I was so early in my pregnancy. Thought the worrying wouldn't start until the baby was born. blush

Somersetgirl1990 Sun 27-Apr-14 11:26:57

It's constant isn't it mrsmac! I never thought it would be this stressful, and times going so slowly! Just want to know everything will be ok smile I check for blood everytime I wipe, and i haven't had any spotting or anything so can't imagine how paranoid id be if I had! I wore some new red Jammie's then other day though and the fluff had all come off (sorry tmi) but everytime I wiped I had a complete panic thinking I was bleeding bright red blood shock wont be wearing those until they've been through the wash a few times!!

cooperbug Sun 27-Apr-14 13:56:56

Had such a fright yesterday! Fresh red bleeding on wiping at 6pm so we went straight to A&E at hospital where there was a four hour wait! Anyway was sent to the gynae ward to be seen there sooner.

At first the nurse told me they wouldn't scan me as out of hours but when I seen the doctor she said she would do it as next appt not until Wednesday. Firstly though I had a speculum exam and although my cervix was closed they noticed a ectropion on it which bleeding could have come from.

Had to have a transvaginal scan and after a bit of looking about they were able to locate the sac with teeny tiny embryo inside and a small heartbeat. She didn't date me as could not get good measurements but thought I was nearer 5 weeks than the almost 6 Weeks I previously thought.

Got to go back in 10 days time for follow up scan so hopefully all will still be ok then and we will see a bit more. Keeping fingers crossed

KateJ28 Sun 27-Apr-14 19:23:30

Really sorry to hear you had such a scare cooperbug and glad that the scan showed all was okay. Must have been lovely to hear the heartbeat even if it was a real scare. Hope the follow up goes well for you.

Welcome mrsmac, when' your EDD?!

I'm going to book a reassurance scan later in the week after I've been to the GP I think... will see what she says, hopefully that'll go ok. Just exhausted today, and feel like my boobs weigh ton! Seem to be avoiding the nausea for the time being though, fingers crossed it lasts! I think it'll be really hard to hide from people if I can't eat and am feeling pukey!

MrsMac1397 Sun 27-Apr-14 20:16:45

I thought the 23rd but the GP said 25th December. Don't mind either date to be honest. X

chillychicken Mon 28-Apr-14 15:20:43

Had midwife appointment today. She’s adjusted my date from 11th to the 10th so I am 7+5 today but has said the date I receive at the scan is the date they will then work from. Apparently if these dates are correct the latest I’ll have the baby is 22nd grin

She’s made me feel completely at ease with regards to the cramps and the symptoms which disappear one day and appear the next. Haven’t had nausea for a few days now so naturally worried a bit!

I asked her about early scans and she said there were pros and cons so I’m still undecided on this.

Loads of info to read so that’ll keep me busy tonight! Had a blood test and have the form to fill in for my free prescriptions. Scan should be booked in for 4-5 weeks time and then it’s back to the midwife at 16 weeks with a urine sample and we'll listen to the heartbeat then as well. She’s given me details of the antenatal classes and told me to book on to the September/October one as early as poss as it books up quickly.

She was absolutely fantastic and had a fantastic sense of humour. I have her mobile number, the local birthing centre number and the number for the maternity unit at the hospital.

I didn’t ask loads of questions as I’d mainly forgotten them but I came away feeling pretty positive and it definitely feels more real. I can’t wait to go home, curl up on the sofa with a hot chocolate and read through the info grin

MrsW27 Mon 28-Apr-14 15:29:33

Chilli chicken my due date is the 10th as well :-) I don't have my appointment until the 13th of May but I've just got all excited reading you saying the latest date you'll have your baby is the 22nd as it'll be the same for me! gringringrin

chillychicken Mon 28-Apr-14 15:49:09

MrsW I think that what made it feel all so real for me grin I was a bit concerned she'd say the 24th or something but I get the feeling they avoid inductions over Christmas! I can't wait to get my scan date through now!

MrsW27 Mon 28-Apr-14 15:58:51

Ha ha, yes I would prefer not to be going through an induction on Christmas Day wink me too, it is my birthday at the beginning of June and would love to have had the scan by then so that I can tell everyone!

Treaclepie19 Mon 28-Apr-14 17:28:35

I am tired!!!
First day back at work and the kids have run me ragged.

Hey Ho! Glad you had a good day chilly smile

KateJ28 Mon 28-Apr-14 18:18:29

Glad it all went well for you today chilly, makes me feel excited!!

I've been having horrid stomach cramps today, which really concerned me, but the research I've done online all seems to indicate it's only normal - stretching womb adapting etc.. I've had no bleeding, so hope it's alright, but I don't know when I should worry. Also really bloated and think I blooming look pregnant already, when it's only just over 5 weeks. Anyone else the same....?! Oh the joys of pregnancy!

Off to see the GP on Weds anyway, so hopefully she'll reassure me about what's normal and I can ask all my questions - think I need to start writing them down smile xx

Treaclepie19 Mon 28-Apr-14 20:09:14

I'm the same kate so try not to worry smile

Yeah definitely make a list for the gp smile
Im off to the doctors tomorrow hopefully to be reffered and discuss next steps. Eek!

LisaC2611 Mon 28-Apr-14 20:22:20

I'm feeling extremely bloated katej28. My sister keeps telling me I'm having twins as I'm only 7 weeks and got a growing belly. Am going to the midwife on Friday and hopefully will get a early scan. Am also feeling extremely tired. Hope everyone else is well

SassehMonsta Mon 28-Apr-14 20:36:48

Warning, rant ahead.....

Honestly, what makes men think that women still have to do everything?! I've been feeling crap (as we almost all have) for the last few weeks, and yet dh still expects me to do everything I did before with no help! Of course I'm not up for cooking when smells are driving me insane and I don't want to eat! No, I don't want to wash up for the same reason! I'm not going to do a billion loads of washing because that's up and down the stairs repeatedly and I'm shattered just trying to stay awake as it is!! No, I won't iron but that's just because I hate ironing. Tried explaining to him, but he thinks because he works full time he should be excused from these jobs. I take him to and from work every day and go to work myself in between, but because of travel time I only work part time. He can't be bothered to fix his bike so I have to keep taking him and therefore I can't increase my hours (even if I wanted to!). I supported both of us for 3 and a half years while I was at university and working 12 hours a week at a supermarket, while still doing all the bloody housework. I love him to pieces but he drives me insane! Most times he defaults to the argument that it's my fault because I made him get a job, or that he wants to follow his dream of making money live streaming games and that work is getting in the way so any other times he has to be streaming.

Just frustrated and needed somewhere to vent, sorry ladies. Going bonkers!!

KateJ28 Tue 29-Apr-14 09:55:59

Oh dear Sasseh sounds like a your dh needs to pull his socks up! Rant totally justified smile

I sent this to my dh the other day:


Highlighting the section...

"Remember, it's the hormones talking — and yelling, and crying, and attacking you for no apparent reason (so when you say blue and she says pink — go with pink). If you respond in kind to her anger and frustration, you'll only provoke more of the same. Instead, indulge her mood swings with some tenderness (yes, it will be hard) and understanding (sometimes close to impossible). The rewards — a relatively calmer and more grateful spouse (who, incidentally, won't always let you know that she's grateful…so don't expect that pat on the back for your efforts) will be well worth all the teeth gritting you'll have to do to get through the next few months."

Might be useful to highlight to him. Not that I think you don't have any reason to be annoyed, but the general principle that men should agree with you whether you're right or wrong is probably a useful one during pregnancy!!

HolgerDanske Tue 29-Apr-14 10:19:48

Wow Sasseh (and I'm super sorry everyone if I'm intruding as I'm not pregnant but just read the threads here from time to time because the hope and joy and loveliness makes me all warm inside. I do have two children, though, so I've been there and done it).

I felt compelled to write to first of all say sorry that you're having to rant about this. It shouldn't be necessary for you to do so. I hope you start to feel better soon.

But also to say, please, for your own sake and that of your coming family, make sure you nip this attitude in the bud right now. He needs to step up. If it doesn't get sorted now you won't be able to rely on him as a father later on and it will get worse and worse. No more selfish and unreasonable expectations of being served on hand and foot by you -Taking care of the home and children is both parents' responsibility regardless of who does more paid work and he's got some growing up to do if he hasn't already worked that out.

All the very best to you and your little one. And to the rest of the mums and babies on this thread. Please excuse me if i have spoken out of turn.

KateJ28 Tue 29-Apr-14 11:24:16

Sounds like sage advice to be Holger. Best to get issues sorted as soon as possible to try and prevent them growing when you'll no doubt both be tired and stressed with a newborn...

Treacle I hope you appt goes well today - fingers crossed you get referred and your GP is better this time around smile

SassehMonsta Tue 29-Apr-14 12:02:37

Thanks all. I think I was just being hormonal yesterday!

He's lovely and helpful most of the time, it's just a balancing act with the both of us. He suffers from depression and the current weather isn't helping, plus a colleague who he relys on at work is in Australia at the moment, so he's under a lot of stress.

Treaclepie19 Tue 29-Apr-14 14:45:09

Thanks kate, I'll let you know how I get on smile

Treaclepie19 Tue 29-Apr-14 16:10:15

Been to the doctors. She was much better. She has reffered me for an early scan. Tomorrow! I am so excited, nervous and overwhelmed.
Had to ring my headteacher to arrange cover as it's at 3 pm. She was fine about it. Just need to decide what to tell the other staff.

KateJ28 Tue 29-Apr-14 17:49:17

So pleased it all went well!! And I hope the scan goes well tomorrow smile Will be great to have some reassurance everything is ok..

I know what you mean about running out of excuses too! One of my friends is back next week (she lives abroad) and wants to go for a girly dinner. I really want to go and see people, and there are a couple who are my closer friends I would probably tell, but I know if I don't drink wine or feel like eating a big meal everyone will start speculating, which I really don't want as it just starts putting too much pressure on everything! I feel like I have to miss it or it's just going to be too tricky...

Don't know how I'm going to manage for several weeks yet other than just avoiding everybody! xx

Treaclepie19 Tue 29-Apr-14 18:25:30

Thanks kate smile I'll let you know.

Hmm yeah, I know what you mean. I'm getting a bit fed up of the "I'm on antibiotics" or "I've got a water infection".

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 30-Apr-14 01:28:20

Good luck at the scan treacle grin

Treaclepie19 Wed 30-Apr-14 07:01:02

Thanks somerset smile

Rejjie Wed 30-Apr-14 09:28:28

I agree it is hard to think of excuses. Sometimes I feel so bloated and puffy that I think; what am I going to look like in a few weeks time and will it be obvious? I don't live too near to family and it's always hard to get together with friends due to shift work so the avoiding option is a little easier for me.

I hope everyone is doing well. I still seem to be getting odd days of nausea, stomach upsets and dizziness but thankfully not every day.

chillychicken Wed 30-Apr-14 09:45:34

I feel blue today. Ridiculously so, actually.

I’ve managed to convince myself that something is wrong and I’m going to end up having a missed m/c blush

Made the decision last night not to have an early scan as we both agreed the worst thing would be to see a heartbeat now, but not at the 12 week scan. I’m wondering if that’s why I’m now feeling blue?

No reason to think there is anything wrong, except I’m still getting cramps although they’re not as bad as they were at 4 weeks. I haven’t had any bleeding at all. No full on m/s yet but almost constant nausea. Constipation, bloating, sore boobs, exhaustion all still present and correct.

I think part of it is the fact I have to tell a friend on Saturday and I’m scared. I don’t want to tell her but I’d completely forgotten we’re all going to another friends house for drinks and I can’t miss it (the other friend has just been diagnosed with an inoperable heart condition). I need to tell her because she’s going to guess if I don’t drink. If she knows, she can at least play along with me not drinking. I need to ask her not to tell her partner though because he’s a bigmouth and I can just see 100s of people knowing within days. Also, I run the risk of ruining our friendship if I don’t tell her (she won’t understand why I’m not telling her)

It’s just all very scary. I got really stressed out this morning and now the cramps are sharper.

LadesC Wed 30-Apr-14 10:43:16

Hello ladies....can i join....due dec 30th or thereabouts.

Sorry to hear youre havin an off day chiliichicken. Im finding the whole telling people issue a tricky one. Due to my job I am having to tell various work colleagues as there are certain hazards im not allowed to be exposed to in pregnancy. Ive also been invited out on friday by two close work colleagues but if I dont drink theyll guess so I feel I have to tell them too. Then it feels wrong that all these folks are finding out and yet my best friends and inlaws are still in the dark. Feels like its gettin out of control!!

In other news.....my mum said to be last night "i cant see you with a baby but im sure oh will be very good". Shes a weird fish at the best of times but wtaf??!!

MrsSmart83 Wed 30-Apr-14 13:02:54

Im due 5th dec....first child agghhhhh

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 30-Apr-14 20:26:01

Hope your scan went well today treacle, thinking of you! smile

KateJ28 Wed 30-Apr-14 20:38:10

Yes, me too treacle, hope it was ok.

I went to the docs today and they've booked me in for an early scan on tues, just to be sure because of cramping and tender abdomen. She said she's sure it's fine, but just wants to rule out any problems... So we'll see... Glad they are taking precautions, but a little scary, though will hopefully be exciting all being well... Eek.

chilly - are you having a better day today? Sorry it was tough yesterday. Hope your happier today smile

KateJ28 Wed 30-Apr-14 20:40:28

Ps welcome LadesC and congrats! Mums can sometimes say such the wrong thing can't they..?!

I'm planning on telling mine tomorrow :-/

Think she'll be really excited, but want her to stay calm as too much expectation to provide the 1st grandchild is stressful!

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 30-Apr-14 20:42:12

Are you just having normal period pain type cramps Kate? I keep getting jabbing pain where my left ovary is, I had the same pain about 3 months ago but far more intense and constant for a few days rather than the occasional jab now and then. Not sure whether to mention at midwife appointment on Friday? I know it's not ectopic as I've had an early scan but might try and wangle another free one grin or is that really cheeky??

Treaclepie19 Wed 30-Apr-14 22:49:36

Thanks everyone smile
They did an abdominal scan. It couldn't show much. The sac is in the right place but they said its too early to see anything else. They've taken my blood and I have to go back Friday to have it done again to compare the hcg.
Not feeling positive as there was nothing else to be seen and I'm meant to be 6 weeks (I know I'm less than that from ovulating late).

Somersetgirl1990 Wed 30-Apr-14 23:05:14

Sorry to hear that you didn't see what you were hoping for but if you ovulated late then you probably wouldn't see anything this early anyway would you? Finger crossed for you!

KateJ28 Thu 01-May-14 00:01:10

Are you going back just to have your blood done treacle, or for another scan? I hope they're scanning you again to reassure you smile

I don't think you need to worry about there not being much to see if you think you might be less than 6 wks anyway. And it's gd the sac is in the right place. The docs said to me it wasn't worth doing a scan before 6 wks as you wouldn't see anything, so they're leaving it until next week - on Tuesday I should be 6+2. However, I sometimes have long cycles so my timings could be out, so I may well have the same situation as you treacle, and see v little. Who knows. Feels like a long way off, but I'm going abroad for the bank hol weekend so I hope I'll feel distracted....and I hope I feel well.

Somerset, the cramps I've had are stronger than normal period pains, but aren't constant - they come in waves, mainly in the afternoon. And when the doc felt my abdomen it was sore and made me wince. I've had no bleeding though, and the cramp is all over my lower abdomen though, not in one place, which she said it would most likely be if it was eptopic. Anyway, I'm glad they're checking it out - so hard to know what's normal, esp never having been through this before!!!

I 'd def mention any symptoms to your midwife - if she just tells you it's fine & not to worry there's no harm done & you might feel reassured!

Treaclepie19 Thu 01-May-14 07:46:20

They're just doing a blood test. Then I don't know where we go from there. Already wishing I wasn't at work today.

Smudge1606 Thu 01-May-14 14:13:06

Hi ladies,

Have been very quiet as started my new job and it's been manic.

Had my first gp appiontment earlier this week which went fine. I am however finding it extremely difficult to stay awake during the day and have had some quite bad stomach pains this morning, hoping they don't persist.

Glad to read we all seem to be going through the same and I'm not going crazy.

KateJ28 Thu 01-May-14 14:34:01

Hope today at work isn't proving too painful treacle.... It's good they are keeping an eye on you anyway... if you're still worried after the blood test I'd ask for another scan to put your mind at rest. Im sure they'll do one anyway if they're worried for any reason. At least the appt is only tomorrow anyway, not long to wait.

Smudge hope the new job is going well, even if you are half asleep smile

Treaclepie19 Thu 01-May-14 17:47:02

Thanks kate, work wasn't too bad. I'm guessing ill have to wait til Tuesday for blood results. Just hope my hcg is rising well.

BobbiF Fri 02-May-14 10:02:47

Hi Ladies, I am 6w+1 today, due December 25th; Merry Christmas indeed ! New to forums, but I don't know many ladies in London and looking forward to sharing the fun/scary/crazy ride. :-) I work with lots of neonatologists and OBGYNs in my job (medical research) and it helps with my nerves having people the ask, but they don't have the same excitement. Hope to get to know you all :-))

EmilyPinkOrBlue Fri 02-May-14 10:10:40

Congratulations Bobbi! smile

birdy1978 Fri 02-May-14 11:00:52

Hello ladies, I hope you don't mind me joining. I'm new to MN, and feeling quite terrified about all this (and a little bit excited!). I'm due 9 Dec and saw the midwife for the first time yesterday. I was really looking forward to it, but it was all a little underwhelming. No symptoms at all so far, so this doesn't feel very real. It still seems like an age until I can actually tell anybody!

Cineraria Fri 02-May-14 13:51:37

Congratulations, Bobbi & Birdy!

Bobbi, your date is the same as mine. Should make for an exciting Christmas!

linzi1980 Sun 04-May-14 20:14:28

Hi All, just hoping to join in.....I'm due 2/12 initially thought I was due in November so have already had a scan at Kingston Hosp thought I'd make anyone else who's going there aware that their preference is transvaginal scans (not sure if this is the same everywhere??). Because I thought I was 12 weeks she did a tummy scan & it turned out I was only 8 + 3 and I asked why use a TV scan would you see more & she told me no nothing else that we haven't seen here so did think it was weird to try & do a more invasive procedure if the same can be seen?? When I go for my next scan will defo just ask for the tummy one, feel like I'm gonna be prodded & poked down below enough during PG so no need for unecessary ones!

Good luck to all the first timers, it's v nice to hear others experiences to make you feel 'normal' as others are going through the same as you grin)

Rejjie Mon 05-May-14 23:30:40

I hope everyone who is feeling sick is starting to feel a bit better. Mine's still a bit on and off and definitely worse in the afternoons. I'm forcing myself into brisk walks to try to snap out of it.

I read the booklet sent to me about all the scans and tests you can have when you're pregnant. Felt utterly depressed by the end of it at the thought of all the things that can be wrong with the baby. Not really helped by seeing the statistics, yet again, of the possibility of Downs with mothers over 40. I know they have to make you aware of everything but it didn't make for much of a cheerful read!

On a completely different subject, what are people doing about clothes? If you are still managing to squeeze yourself into your skinny jeans then congratulations but if, like me, you're finding it too much of a squeeze are you just buying trousers a size up? Ideally I'd get some adjustable maternity trousers but I can't see them anywhere. Everything seems to have these big stretchy bits attached, which obviously I'm not quite ready for. I really need something practical as I do a lot of gardening and everything is starting to dig in a bit now. I also can't spend a lot so yummy mummy websites are out of the question. Any suggestions would be really welcome.

LadesC Tue 06-May-14 06:40:40

We took ourselves off to the beach yesterday... After a frantic breakfast and shower etc, I swung myself into OH's passenger seat and heard a huge rip as my combats had ripped from waistband to crotch! He found it hilarious...i comforted myself with the fact that they were old and getting thin in the arse (the opposite to me clearly!!). Im going down the legging route I think until such time that I (hopefully) need to buy a bigger size. Started spotting last night so darent be too optimistic at mo.

Rejjie Tue 06-May-14 08:58:31

LadesC I'm sorry you're worried about the spotting. Everything I've read says that it's pretty normal but I know that it is still a big worry.

I haven't split my trousers yet but that's only because I keep undoing the zip! I'm terrified that it's going to happen when I'm at college (practical horticulture) in front of all my fellow students, none of whom know I'm pregnant. They'll definitely just think that I've been eating too many pies.

nickyjlees Tue 06-May-14 13:05:06

Hi all, lots of new people here!
I haven't logged on in a while as been driving myself bananas with what if this, that or the other goes wrong scenarios so have tried to just focus on other things and relax.

Symptoms very on off at the moment, mainly just totally knackered and falling asleep every 5 mins which is making me feel incredibly demotivated at work and in turn making me feel very guilty for not getting much done :S

Quick question, I have my booking appointment next week at which point i will be 11 weeks, is the midwife likely to listen for the heartbeat or is this not a usual thing done at the first appointment?

Hope everyone is well today!

Josheffield Sat 17-May-14 07:00:12

Hi ladies, I'm new to MN and was happy to find this thread. My EDD is Christmas Day... I was born on Christmas Eve myself so I know what a Christmas bday is like!
I'm trying to be patient as I await the 12 week scan but it's not easy! I've been feeling really sick 24/7 for the last 3 weeks and have a wedding and friend's big birthday celebrations to deal with (ie not have anyone guess although the fact I won't be drinking will make it obvious!) between now and then!
Anyway, happy to join in with you all smile

Rejjie Tue 20-May-14 20:01:36

Welcome Josheffield. This thread seems to have gone a bit quiet lately. I think most people are on the other December thread.


Is this your first? I'm due my first on 19th December, the day after my husband's birthday. I have my scan three weeks today and I'm finding it really tough being patient. I'm just completely paranoid and what to know that everything is ok. When is your scan?

VintageDiva82 Fri 30-May-14 13:58:51

Hi Everyone, So nice to see so many other new mums who are due in December. My EDD is 23rd December 2014. The same birthday as my Dad!

Theo131214 Mon 09-Jun-14 22:56:30

Hi all! First time post on MN and so lovely reading through everyone's stories regarding Xmas babies smile been for our 12 week scan today and found out we're due Christmas Eve!! Argh!! Also been told that due to a past blood clot on my lung (last year) I've got to inject with Clexine throughout sad anyone else had to do this? Not looking forward to that part
Thanks ladies xx

Lucy90 Tue 10-Jun-14 18:32:58

Hello ladies!!
Im going to be a first time mummy in december, due the 22nd!!
Still havent got my head round it yet, got my first scan this thursday maybe itll sink in then!!

liesal79 Tue 24-Jun-14 14:59:53

Hi Everyone - Had a dating scan yesterday and my EDD is 23/12/14!! smile eeeekkkk

Josheffield Mon 08-Sep-14 06:27:41

Hi everyone, I'm due in Christmas Day! Was born on Christmas Eve myself! I am so so excited to be a mum for the first time and it all feels more real now I am feeling little kicks! X

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