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June 2014 thread 5: 12-wk scans and leaving the 1st tri behind!

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wispaxmas Mon 25-Nov-13 20:13:35

Thought I'd get us started smile

wispaxmas Mon 25-Nov-13 20:17:55

junebaby, if you're going to be 14, won't they not be able to do the nuchal fold measurement?

Liquidambar Mon 25-Nov-13 20:22:20

Thanks Wispa. Marking my place. 10 days until my scan... grrrr
I'll have my flu jab tomorrow morning.

I need to get a good travel insurance that covers pregnancy. They all seem so expensive. Any advice?

littlepickly Mon 25-Nov-13 20:25:57

Marking my place smile

BEEwitched Mon 25-Nov-13 20:30:02

Liquid, I read somewhere on here that pregnancy isn't considered a 'condition' and that most travel insurances covert it without any special mention of it.

wispaxmas Mon 25-Nov-13 20:30:59

Where are you traveling? If you're staying in Europe get the European health insurance card - it covers all things maternity. Elsewhere and I would double check what's covered by your normal insurance. I haven't really looked into it to be honest. The only place other than France we are going to is Canada, and I still technically have my OHIP (Ontario health insurance plan) card, despite not having lived in Canada for several years...

Mitchell2 Mon 25-Nov-13 20:31:08

5th thread Already?!

Travel insurance - not sure, I get mine through work but I was under the impression as long as you were ok to travel then you didn't need special cover.

MarlenaGru Mon 25-Nov-13 20:32:51

Yay new thread!

MyNameIsWinkly Mon 25-Nov-13 20:55:46


Had a scan this evening, everything going great at 9+1 and little tadpole waved at us! smile Hospital scan on 18/12, looking forward to seeing baby again.

wispaxmas Mon 25-Nov-13 20:56:20

Completely random, but I bought a bib at a Christmas market last week, and Wispa decided to model it tonight: i44.tinypic.com/2r2ajxk.jpg (hope the link works!)

Liquidambar Mon 25-Nov-13 20:59:09

My usual travel insurance states that I need to inform about pregnancy (this is linked to my bank account). I did not inform them when I was pregnant with DS because I only traveled once outside Europe and got an insurance through work.

I am going to Dubai, so I thought it would be nice to have a good cover.

Liquidambar Mon 25-Nov-13 21:00:47

Super cute wispa smile love both the bib and the dog!

Mitchell2 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:06:49

Ooh so am I liquid although sadly for work. I shall double check my coverage now as I know Dubai can be expensive if things go wrong.

Mitchell2 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:07:42

Yay winkly and very cute wispa

CarrotCakeMuffins Mon 25-Nov-13 21:08:07

New thread already!
No ideas about travel insurance.
I was sick for the first time at work this morning (normally an evening occurrence and fortunately not often). Luckily no one realised.
I am 12 weeks today and was hoping things would start improving by now hmm
Still, scan on Wednesday....

MarlenaGru Mon 25-Nov-13 21:11:39

Congratulations winkly lovely news!
wispa how cute is wispa! And the bib.

superlambanana Mon 25-Nov-13 21:13:58

Wispa your dog is gorgeous smile

jaykay987 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:26:11

Popping into new thread!

CleverOl10 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:33:23

Lovely to hear Winkly. All these scans are making me excited for mine.....8 days to go!

How nice to see the real Wispa!

Got my scan date through. I have to see the consultant at the same time.
This is going to be a lovely early Christmas present.
Work are annoyed about the date as they are really busy and I am supposed to organising the Christmas concert for that afternoon. They weren't happy that I couldn't get it changed. I did try.
We changed dd's cot into a bed. This is another attempt to entice her to her own bed. This bump must have been conceived in the few nights she did stay in her own bed. blush
How are we going to manage when she always screams to come in with us? Especially when I'm massive and probable heartburn. I'm not thinking about when the baby arrives. We probably have to buy a bigger bed. grin

LadyGoneGaga Mon 25-Nov-13 21:41:28

Just marking my place.

Just jumping on new thread!
So glad to be saying bye to first trimester, it's been hard!

SicknSpan Mon 25-Nov-13 21:54:59

clutter when is tri 2? 12 weeks or 13?

jaykay987 Mon 25-Nov-13 21:59:40

14w+0 is day one of second trimester I think.

wispaxmas Mon 25-Nov-13 22:03:46

There's lots of disagreement as to when the 2nd tri starts. If you go by day it's 13+5, if you go by development it tends to be 13 weeks apparently, but some people put it at 12 weeks because that's when risk of miscarriage drops to a ridiculously low level.

I'm hoping the oncoming second trimester will spell relief for so many of you girls suffering with sickness!

Vickyvix Mon 25-Nov-13 22:11:22

Great news winkly you must be so pleased smile

wispa your dog is so cute! And live the bib too.

jaykay yes, so unbelievably tempting, I even called earlier to book an appointment for Friday but the phone lines were busy and I didn't leave a message! You and I are scan buddies, my 12 week scan is same day as your 10+3. Two whole weeks seems like such an age!

A quick question for you all - I've been having this pain in my lower back for the last few days and it's getting more painful by the day. It's not my actual back, It's lower down and more like my tail bone area and a bit in the top of my bum on the right (sorry TMI) i can constantly feel it and it hurts when I bend over or sit. Just wondering if anyone has experienced this or if it's just a non preg thing and just coincidence?

puppy123 Mon 25-Nov-13 22:15:36

I have my scan on Thursday, massively nervous!

Ginny4indy Mon 25-Nov-13 23:10:33

Hi everyone! Just joined site. My scan is on 29th! Fingers crossed all goes well. Been a rough 12 week's.

Emmazers Mon 25-Nov-13 23:43:41

Ooh shiny new thread! Thanks Wispa smile

Feeling rough today (as usual) and a bit worried about travelling on Thursday. I'm going to Paris for a few days to see my cousin's art exhibition and my cousin of course. We were planning a wild, child-free weekend together but now we're both pregnant! She's also due in June (also with her second, having now conceived naturally twice after being told she was so infertile that she would be refused IVF!) Oh well there's still cake! Any first trimester travel tips?

We're nearly there everyone! Soon the grossness of the first trimester will be a distant memory and we will be floating about with lovely bumps, gorgeous hair and dreamy smiles on our faces grin

panicmechanic Mon 25-Nov-13 23:57:14

Hello all, congrats on scans and good luck to upcoming scans! I have been lurking a bit as I have felt so bad involving being sick on the tube and lift in work - not pretty. But i am feeling marginally better. Couple of questions to float by you... When do you start using a baby on board badge? I am suffering on the tube but some if my colleagues also live where I do so was planning on waiting until Jan when I tell work and I know this sounds odd ... but I have been experiencing a fluttering under my ribs... I know it's too early for the baby but if feels really odd. I have my harmony scan and consultation on thurs so will ask then but thought I would ask if anyone had similar feelings - it's happened at least 5 times this evening. Another question - has anyone started only sleeping on sides? I can't remember when we should...

WifeofGru Tue 26-Nov-13 04:11:48

Marking place. Here's to the thread where we all start to feel better!

jaykay987 Tue 26-Nov-13 05:47:23

Panic - I think some people are using their badges already, but I, like you, am worried about seeing anyone from work, so I haven't used it yet!

I've started to try to sleep on my side already. I don't think you need to until you have a much bigger bump that can then affect your breathing if lying flat. But my preferred options are front, then back. It'll take me 6months to train myself onto my side, so I've started early!

Magpie78 Tue 26-Nov-13 05:58:01

Morning ladies, Vix have had issues with my back from week 9, same place, midwife says it's the ligaments and may need to get a maternity belt.

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 06:51:27

panic it sounds like wind unfortunately. Baby will be down below your belly button still but your other bits will be starting to get squashed upwards so wind will be in a strange place to normal!

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 06:53:09

Oh and I haven't got a baby on board badge yet. I have been travelling later which usually means I get a seat. Quite pleased as yesterday two of the parents from school were on my train and if one of them knows it will soon be common knowledge. I don't want DD finding out in the playground hmm

GillyBillyWilly Tue 26-Nov-13 07:37:05

Marking place smile

lgwilk Tue 26-Nov-13 07:37:22

Hi ladies. Had my 12 week scan yesterday afternoon. Sadly no heartbeat. Having a removal today. Unfortunately it looks like it may be a molar pregnancy so lots of follow ups to look forward to.

Sorry to post such a downer.

Wishing you all a very happy and healthy pregnancy. Looking forward to reading about safe arrivals of gorgeous bubbas xxx

littlepickly Tue 26-Nov-13 07:38:08

This is weird - I can fit into my normal jeans again and do them up! Has anyone else found this?

Maybe I'm eating less now and I do feel less bloated too - it all seems to have gone to my boobs - really need to get fitted for new bras!! The joys of a changing shape smile

GillyBillyWilly Tue 26-Nov-13 07:40:03

All my apps now tell me I'm in the second trimester....
I'm 13+1 (so entering week 14) smile

GillyBillyWilly Tue 26-Nov-13 07:41:32

Igwilk I'm so so sorry sad
How terrible and just heartbreaking. I hope today goes as well as it can do thanksthanksthanksthanksthanks

sisterofcaleb Tue 26-Nov-13 07:50:38

Igwilk I am so sorry for your loss too. Incase it is helpful and you are still reading, if you go to the "talk" section, then "body and soul" then "prenancy loss" there is a special thread for ladies who have sadly experienced a molar pregnancy.

jaykay987 Tue 26-Nov-13 07:57:11

So sorry igwilk. I hope you have a lot of support.

Gilly - that's earlier than I thought. That's good.

Little - I had this. I was really bloated for a couple of weeks. Then overnight, my trousers did up easily for two weeks. Now I'm back to being super uncomfortable again. You're probably further ahead than me (I'm only 8w+3) so maybe I'll get smaller again yet.
Ive ordered a mega next maternity order to store, so tomorrow I can go and try it all on, then return most of it. grin it seems way too early to be needing maternity clothes!

Emmazers Tue 26-Nov-13 08:44:57

So sorry to hear that Igwilk. Will be thinking of you today x

littlepickly Tue 26-Nov-13 08:57:14

So sorry Igwilk only just saw your post - really sad to hear your news, sending all best wishes thanks

Vickyvix Tue 26-Nov-13 08:58:59

Igwilk I'm so sorry to hear that. Take care of yourself and I hope that today goes as best as it can for you thanks

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 09:02:45

So sorry igwilk thanks

Vickyvix Tue 26-Nov-13 09:04:10

Welcome ginny

Thanks for the advice magpie I will ask the midwife about lower back pain when I next see her.

Re the Baby on Board badge, I am waiting until after 12 week scan, then I shall be proudly wearing it (hoping I don't bump into any work colleagues!)

Re sleeping on sides - I'm already having to sleep on sides or back, I haven't been able to even lay on my front for weeks because my boobs are so painful! I always sleep on my front so it's taken some getting used to. I even get woken up by the pain if I roll over on to my front in my sleep.

I am so bloated I look about 5 months pregnant already. No way it can be a bump yet, just horrible bloated tummy - not a good look

Liquidambar Tue 26-Nov-13 09:12:06

I'm so sorry ig please take care of yourself flowers

hackneybird Tue 26-Nov-13 09:13:08

igwilk my commiserations. Sending hugs.

littlepickly Tue 26-Nov-13 09:14:14

Jaykay - I'm 11+3 now but was definitely very bloated at 8-9 weeks, feels nice to have a break in the bloatedness!

It's never to early for maternity clothes if it makes you more comfy - I've got to buy a new maternity wardrobe at the weekend as I start my new job on Monday so need smart clothes!! Next order sounds a good idea! smile

superlambanana Tue 26-Nov-13 09:55:38

So sorry igwilk sad Life is rubbish sometimes. Wishing you a speedy physical recovery and emotionally, though don't rush it thanks

panicmechanic Tue 26-Nov-13 09:59:23

Thanks I think I will keep my baby on board under wraps until I have y

Angelina77 Tue 26-Nov-13 10:00:15

Sorry for your loss igwilk thanks

panicmechanic Tue 26-Nov-13 10:00:46

Oops until I have told work. I guessed the fluttering was wind and not baby but its in a very odd position - oh well

panicmechanic Tue 26-Nov-13 10:02:04

So sorry igwilk, hope you are ok

Angelina77 Tue 26-Nov-13 10:03:52

My 12 wk scan is not until 12/12 and I'm so tempted to have a private dating scan (they do dating scans from 10 wks so I could have it this Thursday).

I paid for an early scan at 7 wks (2 MCs) so it would be even more of an extravagance. Anyone else in the same boat?

SicknSpan Tue 26-Nov-13 10:10:28

lgwilk so sorry to hear that. Thoughts with you thanks

Cherryjellybean Tue 26-Nov-13 10:26:20

igwilk so sorry for your loss thanks

jaykay987 Tue 26-Nov-13 10:29:33

Angelina - we had an early scan and are getting a ten week scan. I am desperate to see whether bean is ok still, so I understand how difficult it is to wait.

Not sure if we would have done it, as like you say it is an extravagance, but we get the scan as part of the Harmony package (which is another extravagance) so I guess if you can afford it, and want it - I say do whatever makes you happy!

wispaxmas Tue 26-Nov-13 10:42:46

Igwilk, lots of love and happy thoughts for future pregnancy thanks

Angelina, I had an early scan at 8 weeks, then my NHS scan was booked in for 11+2, so wasn't much point to have one in the middle. If you've had MCs before, though, I can understand wanting to double check it's all ok in there.

AFM, today is the first day in about 10 days that I've worn my non-mat trousers.. I've been wearing the 2 pairs I bought online when back in the UK or tight and dresses every day... and it's official, they're uncomfortable. I'm a bit worried that I'm actually gaining fat I don't need (bmi is already 28.5!), though I suppose I can take small comfort in knowing that at 12+6 the uterus is no longer hidden below the pelvic bone.. sigh

Liquidambar Tue 26-Nov-13 10:44:53

Angelina I will have my scan next week. but I'm so impatient and wondering if everything is okay as I don't have many symptoms. I checked how much it would cost to have a scan this week but I can't really justify £100.

just had my flu jab. did anyone get side effects?

LadyGoneGaga Tue 26-Nov-13 10:47:43

Igwilk I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. Take good care, I hope sorting the molar out is as straightforward as it could possibly be. thanks

LadyGoneGaga Tue 26-Nov-13 10:56:30

Angelina I still don't have a scan date! I'm now 9+5. My booking appointment is down at the hospital on Saturday though so hoping that they will give it to me then. We also had a private scan at 7 weeks due to mc but I can't really justify another one at this point. Worst case they have to have it done by Christmas to get the nuchal measurements in so I will wait <sigh>

Anyone else stuck on certain foods. I can't stop eating bacon sandwiches. I know they are nice normally but they literally taste like manna from heaven right now. If past form is anything to go on for me this means I'm carrying a boy. I was obsessed with scotch eggs, sausage rolls and pork pies when I was having DS! I'm doing pulled pork for tea also!

I managed to do my normal jeans up this morning but it was a bit of a squeeze and not sure how much longer they'll last but I want to hold off on the mat clothes just yet. Three pregnancies in and they have definitely lost their novelty for me! I dug out my old mat bras and none of them fit just yet so the girls have got a way to go. Some of those nursing bras fit on my head which is hilarious as normally I'm only a handful type girl.

wispaxmas Tue 26-Nov-13 11:03:18

Liquid, the flu shot won't cause anything other than a sore arm normally, though some people are allergic to it - but then the reaction is usually quite severe, like epi pen severe. Any cold or flu like symptoms would be because you've caught a bug and not from the jab..

LadyGoneGaga Tue 26-Nov-13 11:13:19

Liquid the advice on the Govt site about flu jabs says this "Will I get any side effects?
There are some fairly common but mild side effects.
Some people get a slight temperature and aching
muscles for a couple of days afterwards, and your arm
may feel a bit sore where you were injected. Any other
reactions are very rare. Children having the nasal vaccine
may get a headache, a runny or blocked nose, and may
experience general tiredness and some loss of appetite.

I'm having mine next week and taking DD for hers as well but hers is just a nasal spray - would prefer that!

MinaLeeds Tue 26-Nov-13 11:14:28

igwilk so sorry to hear about your loss. sad

I just had a complete mummy mush brain moment. Teaching a seminar at uni with a group of third years, managed to tell them the exact opposite of how to answer the question set to them. Then showed them the powerpoint slide of the solution and one of them pointed out that it was the exact opposite of what I'd told them to do. I feel like such an idiot. I kind of lost control of the group a bit at that point and the seminar went downhill from there. So upset. I looked like a complete incompetent the first time I'm left to do solo teaching in a new job. This has never happened before! sad

MinaLeeds Tue 26-Nov-13 11:15:10

Worst thing is I have to do the same seminar again this afternoon with a new group of students and now my confidence is so shaken that I just know I'm going to screw it up too! sad

LadyGoneGaga Tue 26-Nov-13 11:18:15

Oh Mina sad. Happens to everyone some time or other. Best way is to laugh it off and make a joke but please don't let it shake you. You won't make the same mistake again I bet.

Igwilk - so sorry for your loss.

Well....it took me a while to find the new thread! I have been MIA for a wee while - I hope I haven't missed too much? I hope all is going well?

Finally got over the awful bug - had to do a visa trip in and out of the country.....parents evenings, report cards etc etc - it all got a bit too much! But settled down now. Feeling a little more relaxed. Tomorrow is my birthday so I am off out with the girls tonight to celebrate - no doubt there will be questions about no alcohol.

I am meeting my boss tomorrow to tell him too - and to beg for a part time contract next year. I only get 12 weeks maternity here - it is going to be hard!

Love your dog wispa!

Vickyvix Tue 26-Nov-13 12:24:34

Oh mina at least you are prepared for this afternoons session now, look at the funny side and focus on doing well this afternoon.

angelina I know how you feel. My 12 week scan isn't for another 2 weeks. I had a private 6 week reassurance scan and then had to have a 9 week emergency NHS scan because of bleeding and all was ok. That was a week ago so a 3 week gap until the 12 week scan. I too have very few symptoms i.e. no sickness so am pretty anxious to check baby is ok. I am very close to booking a private scan this Friday or Monday which is 10+3 or 10+6 which will break up the wait for the 12 week scan.

It's a bit extravagant but I hate not knowing and really worry if baby is ok.

I agree with jaykay if you can afford it and it will put you at ease then do it.

My justification is that I have saved well over £100 on alcohol and cheese over the last 8 weeks or so!

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 12:31:20

Where did you end up nessie?

I am another who had a scan at 7 weeks which turned out to be six weeks and have 2 more weeks til my scan at 11+3
Dh tried to book another scan for this week as I am quite worried at being a week behind at the last one despite a reassuring doctor! I feel pregnant but still donmt believe it. Really is such an emotional investment that I can't bare the thought of anything being wrong.

Turkey - so it could have been worse!

Marlena I am exactly the same as you - I was put back a week....I am still worried about it but the doctor isn't.....still it is hard to not think about it.

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 12:39:00

Igwilk, so sorry to hear about your loss - I hope the further check-ups and treatments go well for you.

Mina, I was just coming on here to ask whether anyone had experienced serious pregnancy brain yet - I just spent ten minutes wandering the ikea car park trying to find my car. I had myself halfway convinced it had been stolen when I finally spotted it.

superlambanana Tue 26-Nov-13 13:16:54

Don't worry, Mina - I often found that students don't mind the odd mistake like that as it makes you seem more human! Everyone does it at some point so try not to stress too much. Good luck for this afternoon - I'm sure you'll be fine.

Lying on sofa feeling sorry for myself again as can't keep anything down. It was a really bad idea to go to work yesterday as now I feel worse than I have done in a while!!

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 15:27:03

Sitting outside GP practice waiting for midwife appointment. Kinda nervous, I hope my bp behaves.

Just seen it says in my notes that EDD is calculated between 19-22 weeks as that is considered most accurate. Is that just my NHS trust?

Stacks Tue 26-Nov-13 15:30:11

I'm doing so badly keeping up on the thread. 9+2 today and still feeling exhausted. Doesn't help that DS has decided morning is any time after 5am. I'm going to bed by 9/10 most nights, but it's just not enough!

I've missed everything on this thread so far, and a fit bit on the last thread. Will go back and read now, but hope everyone is ok and scans have been going well.

LadyGoneGaga Tue 26-Nov-13 15:39:15

Beewitched the NICE guidelines state that EDD should be calculated in a dating scan between 10 and 13 weeks I think? From what I've read babies grow in a fairly uniform fashion until about 14 weeks and after that genetic factors such as tallness or gender or mothers diet kick in and you start to get a lot of variation. In other words, the later on you are in pregnancy the less size and EDD correlate. So it's really weird that your trust are using the 20 week scan to date. Are you confident in your dates?

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 15:46:30

I was quite confident but the little bugger now dates almost a week ahead! Last Thursday I should've been 12+3 according to my positive opk/conception and 13 wks according to my booking appt. when baby measured 9 weeks, yet we got 13+3!

maternity notes definitely state 'current evidence suggests the most accurate date is best calculated between 19-22 weeks'.

typhoonsmum Tue 26-Nov-13 17:13:17

Getting hard to keep track of all this different threads

carrie105 Tue 26-Nov-13 17:23:41

The top of my back and shoulder area is 'clicking' dreadfully every time I move, and has been for about a week now. It is so bad that other people can hear it quite loudly when it happens!
Is it pregnancy related? Its possible Im sitting with worse posture than usual at my desk because of tiredness, maybe that is what is causing it.

GinandStripes Tue 26-Nov-13 17:45:23

I have completely wasted today.

Oh 13 weeks why are you so far away?

11 +1 today!

CleverOl10 Tue 26-Nov-13 17:46:50

Another sicky day sad Have lost 3 pounds in the last two weeks. Not sure this is good!

Sorry to hear about ig's loss. Making me super nervous for my scan next Tues as I haven't had any yet.

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 17:47:14

Argh. There is a fire at London bridge station so no trains home. Have had to walk an extra 15 minutes to hopefully get a blackfriars train which will no doubt be packed <sobs>

Vickyvix Tue 26-Nov-13 17:47:33

Bee my notes say exactly the same and the midwife discussed it with me at booking in appointment. My NHS trust basically say they date it at 12 week scan but then date it again between 19-22 weeks And the midwife said it is the final date that they rely on for EDD.

I queried it at the time but she was adamant that's how they do things.

Do far I'm dating as per my calculations based on when I ov'd/DTD/ had implantation bleed etc do I'll wait and see what 12 week scan says and then wait and see what 20 week scan says. I figure there's only a problem if they are vastly different

wispaxmas Tue 26-Nov-13 17:48:12

carrie, I get that if I've put too much strain on my shoulders. Then when I try to roll them it goes snap snap click click pop. Sounds horrible. My thought would be posture related, really.

MyNameIsWinkly Tue 26-Nov-13 17:51:10

carrie mine is doing the same thing. I don't know why.

I keep forgetting how easily I tire at the moment. Getting out of bed to an alarm is tricky, then I had to go to bed for a nap after Christmas shopping for 2 hours. Pathetic, and that was with stopping for a drink. 3 early shifts coming up, with a 5.45 alarm, are going to be the death of me. Roll on the 2nd trimester surge of energy.

cheesysmile Tue 26-Nov-13 18:03:47

Oh igwilk so so sorry flowers I hope you have lots of love and support at home to help you through.

I started telling lots more people today and it really makes it feel real, especially when I think after Xmas I'll have less than 5 months at work. Times just going to start going really fast. I'm 12+5 today with new EDD, does that mean 2nd trimester starts Thursday for me then?

I'm still feeling uber tired with cold like symptoms, looking forward to this energy boost people talk of!

Sussex31 Tue 26-Nov-13 18:18:59

11 weeks tomorrow and still no scan date. How long should I leave it before phoning to follow up? I need to give work fair notice!

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 18:21:25

I've been on my feet since this morning, not used to it anymore and so ooo knackered.

BP was better and we listened to baby's heartbeat, always gives me a giggle (and then I get told of four jiggling the sound/picture away).

HannahC1989 Tue 26-Nov-13 18:24:15

Sorry to hear igwilk. Sending my love and thinking of you xx

HannahC1989 Tue 26-Nov-13 18:26:57

Talking about counting down till time off cheesy... when will people be starting maternity leave? (Early days i know) my boss has already quizzed me? Xx

superlambanana Tue 26-Nov-13 18:33:44

End of May probably for ml.

Sussex I'd definitely follow this up! Keep ringing them!

Clever me too. I don't know how you're doing it - there's no way I could teach while feeling like this! I have respect for you!!

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 18:52:41

I'm planning on being off from the beginning of April - our leave year ticks over then so I'll take a few weeks leave going straight on to maternity leave.

SicknSpan Tue 26-Nov-13 19:03:21

Start of May for me- due 30/5 and will have lots of leave to use up or I'll lose it, so mat leave will officially start at the end of the month ish.

MyNameIsWinkly Tue 26-Nov-13 19:06:38

I'm not due until 29/6, so I'm hoping to stick it out at work until 15/6 or thereabouts.

BEEwitched Tue 26-Nov-13 19:09:09

I tend to go a bit after what is usual back home and 6 weeks before EDD is normal there so that's my rough guide.

Miranda79 Tue 26-Nov-13 19:14:06

Hi everyone! Just joining in - had an early dating scan today and apparently I'm 9+1! A little further along than I thought, but very exciting. Lots of people seem much more organised than I am - we're just getting to grips with the idea of a baby!

Bezzabelle Tue 26-Nov-13 19:26:28

Due 31/05, will have c section week before that and ml start of may to spend some time with ds before baby comes

CleverOl10 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:08:22

I made it to 37 weeks at work last time - was planning on staying til 38 weeks but had high bp so caved - luckily as I actually gave birth at 38 weeks! Worked out that my waters would have broken while teaching Year 11 - dodged a bullet there!!

This time I'm hoping for similar timings, will start mat leave at summer half term which is usually the last week of May so I guess will stand down at 37 weeks again all going well as am currently due 11/6.

HannahC1989 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:09:13

Yeh i wanted to leave it aslong as i could but i also have a 4 year old (who was 8 days late) and quite an active job so i dont know whats best. Im due 14th (find out for sure on thurs) do you think end of may will be pushing it too much? Xx

jaykay987 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:11:35

I plan on starting ml the day I give birth (if before EDD) or my EDD. Before that I'll have almost 5weeks of holiday to use or lose.
It seems like such a waste. But they won't pay it out.
I might see if they'll let me go down to a three day week for final stretch (using two days of holiday each week) though not sure if they'll go for it.

Liquidambar Tue 26-Nov-13 20:36:19

I haven't decided yet, and I will discuss it with my midwife. In theory, I think I should start in April, to have a relaxed couple of weeks. Perhaps I will use my annual leave in April and then start maternity leave in May. But I know how anxious I get about work and this will not help with another preterm. With DS I was on sick leave at 30 weeks. I'll just need to see how it goes.

CarrotCakeMuffins Tue 26-Nov-13 20:40:18

Oh Igwilk I'm so sorry to hear that.
I had a suspected partial molar last year when I miscarried, so I know it's a scary thing to be told.
This is what I know:

Firstly - it might not be. They will send the mc material off to a specialist hospital to be properly checked. I think there are 3 in the uk. Mine was Charing cross in London. This was the point when I got the all clear although I had already started the testing program by then.

They will test your blood & urine every few weeks, looking for HCG levels to drop. If they do drop then all is looking good. This may take some time though, and they will want you to be clear for a while before TTC, and will do further monitoring when you do get PG / after you give birth.

If levels don't drop, you may have to go in for further treatment. This is VERY rare though so don't worry about this at the moment.

I know molar is a bit different to partial molar but I think the gist is the same.

The most likely outcome is you will be absolutely fine, but be prepared for a bit of a bumpy ride first.

Wishing you the very best, and sending lots of thanks and cake

MarlenaGru Tue 26-Nov-13 20:40:20

I can't get my head around maternity leave yet (I think I am still scared for my scan!) but in theory will take 5 weeks leave before and start on my edd. Last time I worked til 37 weeks but still had 5 weeks before dd turned up. Was very pleased to end the commute though. My work is great and not physically demanding but the train and walk take some effort even now.

seatfor5 Tue 26-Nov-13 20:58:32

Igwilk so sorry to hear about your loss x

Sussex i would be on them as really you should be scanned in the next 2 weeks!

I worked the morning I was induced with DS3 (had to do the payroll) but thats what happens when you work for DH lol!

MTMD Tue 26-Nov-13 21:28:42

I would like to leave it as late as possible.. Mostly because I'd live to spend the summer of 2015 at h

MTMD Tue 26-Nov-13 21:33:17

.. at home. DH is a teacher and I've worked out we should be aiming for July baby so I could have 13 months off (inc a/l) and the whole of August at home together. But it turns out we're having June baby and I stupidly failed to take into account late pregnancy.. So.. Not sure. I wonder if they could allow a slightly longer leave and if we could afford it :/

But then again.. Feels to early to talk about these things..! smile

superlambanana Tue 26-Nov-13 21:35:13

Oh good point - I'll probably only take ml from 38 weeks and use 3 weeks of leave before it.

cheesysmile Tue 26-Nov-13 21:56:43

I'm thinking mat leave 2 weeks before and take any holiday I've accrued before that. I'm due 5/6 so I guess could be finishing mid May.

I do actually like my job but so excited to have time off to spend with baby. Its my first so ignorance is bliss, im only thinking about the nice stuff and not how hard it might be!

MinaLeeds Tue 26-Nov-13 22:12:27

Due to my shitty contract, I have to take my ML from 14th May even though not due till 14th June. If I don't, then my contract will end and I won't get any benefits at all. Stupid academic short term posts. angry

On an aside...after the disaster that was this morning's seminar, I completely rejigged all the slides to make them less wordy and substituted text for pics etc (not to mention the fact that I will NEVER forget how to draw do the excercises again) and the afternoon seminar went really well. Yay!

hackneybird Tue 26-Nov-13 22:48:01

Welcome miranda!

I'm not going to think seriously about mat leave until I have had my 12 week scan (next Monday). But it will prob be mid May (I am due 14th but plan to have an ELCS so it will probably happen the week before).

GinandStripes Wed 27-Nov-13 08:43:49

Morning All smile

It's booking-in day! MTMD what time is yours?

MTMD Wed 27-Nov-13 09:28:42

In 2 min! smile)

MTMD Wed 27-Nov-13 09:29:25

And yours?? smile

CleverOl10 Wed 27-Nov-13 09:30:08

Morning all! Good luck for any scans or booking in today.

I'm 12 weeks today yay!

It's my day off and I'm attempting my annual full day of Xmas shopping. No ms yet but not convinced. Happy thoughts though!

MyNameIsWinkly Wed 27-Nov-13 09:37:13

Good luck clever, Christmas shopping destroyed me yesterday!

AuntPittypat Wed 27-Nov-13 10:06:00

Eek, scan day for me today! Not til 4pm so a while to wait yet.

We've got a poorly DD today too so I'm not sure if she'll be able to go to nursery this afternoon as planned. If not then I guess DH will have to stay at home with her while I go to the scan on my own. sad

Good luck to everyone else with scans today.

CarrotCakeMuffins Wed 27-Nov-13 10:26:41

Just back from my scan. All is well. Dated me 12+5 so now EDD 6th June.
Have to go to work now...

LadyGoneGaga Wed 27-Nov-13 11:21:13

First timers, do not under-estimate how knackered you will be at the end. You could be ok but I was shattered and so ready to leave. I think having a summer baby as well you are likely to swell in the heat and it's much nicer lolling about with your feet up at home! On the other hand you can always be flexible and start ML a week or two earlier if you feel you need to.

Vickyvix Wed 27-Nov-13 12:30:22

Great news carrot smile

Good luck with the booking in gin and MTMD

clever good luck with the Christmas shopping, hope it's not too exhausting. I've been doing bits of mine online trying to avoid having to go to actual shops, but might go on Saturday, if I can face it!

I have such a short temper at the moment I'm not sure I'll cope with busy shopping craziness though.

Anyone else finding the hormones are giving them rage already?!

GinandStripes Wed 27-Nov-13 12:41:28

MTMD at 3pm

Currently have no idea how I'll make it there. Lots of coughing in the toilet! I thought it was slowly meant to improve not be getting worse!

wispaxmas Wed 27-Nov-13 12:45:40

Congrats, carrot!

I've just had an email from my best friend and she's probably about 34-35 weeks now and she hates work. She loves her job, but she says she feels massive and uncomfortable and wishes she didn't have to go to work, but she's set her last day as the 23rd December..

I think if I were still working full time I would leave at 37 weeks, but seeing as my only work is casual and zero-hour at the minute I'll probably still work a shift in late May. It's not hard work or stressful, the most I'd worry about would be the journey up into town.

MTMD Wed 27-Nov-13 12:57:14

My booking-in did indeed take 2 hours!! The midwife is great, really liked her, but she had a student with her who was utterly useless.. Basically mw had to re-phrase most of her questions and kept on asking - can you explain why? Student had no clue 99% of the time, whereas I knew answers to almost every question smile

They failed to take my blood though... Apparently I have tiny veins which is news to me, never had an issue. I'll have to get them done on a scan day next week.

Bring on next Friday!!!

Lmf679 Wed 27-Nov-13 13:20:19

mtmd very exciting! Did you already have your scan date before the appointment or did they book it for you today? I've only had the booking appointment letter and called them as I was worried I hadn't heard about the scan, they said they would make the appointment for me at the booking. I was just wondering how far that appointment would be as I'll be 11+5 at the booking and am getting impatient, I just want to know everything is ok, also I've dodged so many pre Xmas catch ups with friends it would be nice to be able to arrange something and tell them before Xmas.

MTMD Wed 27-Nov-13 13:27:06

Lmf, I already had the scan date. I will be 12+4 during it.. I'm sure they know what they're doing though! But im sure it's annoying if you / your DH need to book time off work...

Oh by the way, I'm getting a referral to anaesthesiologist due to back scoliosis.. They need to check they'll be able to give me epidural/spinal anaesthesia if required.

Mitchell2 Wed 27-Nov-13 13:53:13

So got my panorama results today (like the Harmony test), they verbally left me a message to say that I am low risk for all trisomy's which is great smile but I now have the report emailed to me which tells me the sex and I am really really desperate to open it. Stupid DP is in a meeting at the moment for work and we agreed that I would email it to him and open it at the same time (we are both hopeless!)..... I am so excited and seriously its so hard not to take a sneak peek!

S1mmy Wed 27-Nov-13 14:08:15

Not sure if this will be read as i didnt really feel intergrated with the group but my scan is tomorrow am. Have been looking forward to it for the past few weeks, just checking my baby is all happy and good.
Panicked a bit on friday because i started brown discharge then called gp on Monday for advice because there was small clotting too. Waiting for scan from the epu but i have to say they are sh!t. Terse shirty women on recpetion and not helpful. Had to chase for referal from drs, epu saying they hadnt recieved it and that i should jusy wait for call, oh, and sometimes it takes a week for an apointment for an emergency scan.
By the by, while waiting for this mystry phonecall, last night i started bleeding heavily and was at a & e for 4 hrs. Very optomistic amd lovely drs there, but a scan this morning showed o am in the process of miscarrying.
Am now at home resting with my husband and feel pretty devastated to experience my second miscarriage this year. Tomorrow should have been a great day to announce my pregnancy at 12 weeks but sadly it isnt so.

Thank you all, youve been so entertaining, full of useful information and also very supportive, in a virtual sense. Ive loved reading all your posts. Have a safe pregnancy all and enjoy your time. Hopefully one day i will be as lucky and happy as you all are. S1mmy xxx

Mitchell2 Wed 27-Nov-13 14:10:29

I am really really sorry to hear that S1mmy thanks I really hope that you get a sticky bean soon.

MyNameIsWinkly Wed 27-Nov-13 14:11:30

Oh s1mmy, I'm so sorry for your loss. One mc is heartbreaking enough, but twice in a year - I can't imagine hiw you feel. Do take care of yourself xx

HannahC1989 Wed 27-Nov-13 14:15:55

Glad your scan went well carrot!
Vickyvix iv been such a hot head, not at my daughter or husband but work and friends have really taken the brunt of it! At least they know why im crazy! I hate having a temper! X

HannahC1989 Wed 27-Nov-13 14:18:29

So sorry to hear ur loss s1mmy. Wishing you all the best. Life can be so cruel at times x

superlambanana Wed 27-Nov-13 14:54:39

I'm sorry s1mmy sad Take care of yourself.

Vickyvix Wed 27-Nov-13 15:02:48

Oh s1mmy I am so very sorry to hear that. Big hugs to you, I can only imagine how you must feel right now. Very best wishes to you and your DH for a healthy pregnancy in the near future. Look after yourself thanks

Lmf679 Wed 27-Nov-13 15:04:38

So sorry to hear your loss S1ammy xxx

Vickyvix Wed 27-Nov-13 15:05:35

hannah glad it's not just me being angry! I have such a short fuse at the moment, work colleagues get the brunt of it but poor DH has had his fair share too! blush

mitchell fab news on your test results! You have quite some will power not to sneak a peak! I am so excited you are going to find out so soon! I am so keen to find out what our bean is. I am willing your other half to finish his meeting pronto!!!!! grin

Lmf679 Wed 27-Nov-13 15:12:40

I am fuming!!!! angry I did a really long event at work yesterday (was supposed to be 8am - 1am, a lot of that on my feet), I had to tell my boss and two team members about the pregnancy as I'd been really sick and also had to agree with my boss not to do such long hours at the event. I find out today that somebody has been gossiping and told practically the whole company!!!!!! I have my suspicions on who it is but can't prove anything. I'm so mad at them because they know I'm only 10 weeks and only told them because of this event and being so ill. I've not even told family members yet, i'm so angry that about 30 people at work know before them and are all happily gossiping about it like it's just some office gossip to share.

Rant over, I had to share! Sorry!!

wispaxmas Wed 27-Nov-13 15:14:01

So sorry to hear, s1mmy thanks

Mitchell, will you tell us the sex as well? I'm excited on your behalf!!

Mitchell2 Wed 27-Nov-13 15:19:47

So he finally got out of the meeting.....

it's a GIRL smile - to be honest I didn't give to hoots as to what sex it was, but DP wanted it really badly to be a girl so I am so happy for him.

The more relieving thing is that I am super low risk in all the trisomy's which pushed down to 1/10,000 which given I'm nearly 35 is such a relief.

I can't believe that I know the sex so early! Still going for my NHS scan in two weeks time as it was recommended as my scan was 9+5 and the NHS one will be able to check development better. So a bit nervous for that but and super relieved to tick the other boxes off my list.

LMF I would fuming as well. That is just so rude and I cannot understand why people are such gossips about pregnancy.

MTMD Wed 27-Nov-13 15:44:44

Lmf, i would be upset as well! When I told my manager I stressed that no one else knows and if there's a leak I'll know who leaked it smile Having said that, I think she must have told other managers because she is quite gossipy and I cannot imagine her not saying anything to them because they're best buddies etc etc But I decided I don't care too much.. I mean, I put my favourite work outfit this morning and there's an obvious bump and giant boobs, one needs to be blind not to suspect anything! I imagine when I finally tell work people, it won't come as a surprise...

S1mmy, I'm lost for words, so so sorry sad

hackneybird Wed 27-Nov-13 16:01:50

S1mmy I am thinking of you. Twice in one year is just awful, awful luck. x

BEEwitched Wed 27-Nov-13 16:04:01

S1mmy, I'm really sorry to hear your news, sending hugs your way.

Mitchell, yay! Excellent results, and I'm a bit envy that you know the gender, we'd love a girl and my bloods are currently in London for a hormone test - I wish I'd known that they can tell, maybe I could've wangled something! Our trust doesn't tell you so after January 6th I'll have to post my scan picture and let you guess!

wispaxmas Wed 27-Nov-13 16:13:14

Bee, if you're desperate to know the sex you could always opt for a private scan, they can usually tell from 16 weeks!

LadyGoneGaga Wed 27-Nov-13 16:23:41

Really sorry to hear that, Simmy. Take care of yourself thanks

SicknSpan Wed 27-Nov-13 16:27:02

S1mmy I'm so, so sorry to hear of your loss. Your pain leaps off the page, I hope you and dh get the support you need. Massive squishy hugs thanks

BEEwitched Wed 27-Nov-13 16:39:22

Wispa, the sonographer at my private Nuchal was quick to offer but given that the Nuchal was £250 I'm not sure I can justify it. (I really want to, though)

CarrotCakeMuffins Wed 27-Nov-13 16:55:20

S1mmy, I'm so very sorry to hear your sad news. I know how heartbreaking it is. Take care of yourself. Sending thanks and cake your way.

Liquidambar Wed 27-Nov-13 17:15:57

S1mmy I'm so sorry. Please look after yourself and good luck for the future flowers

MinaLeeds Wed 27-Nov-13 17:47:25

s1mmy I'm so sorry to hear about your mc. sad You must be going through hell at the moment but remember to take care of yourself and each other. Hugs!

giraffelegs Wed 27-Nov-13 18:21:45

s1mmy I'm so sorry for loss. sad And ig from earlier in the week. thanks for you both.

giraffelegs Wed 27-Nov-13 18:28:10

Congratulations on all the scans with good news, exciting times! I will be 12 weeks tomorrow and scan is on Friday.

It's getting very hard to hide my tummy at work, it suddenly popped out at 10 weeks. The bosses know anyway due to a redundancy situation that arose so at least I don't have to try and hold it in around them! My nausea has had a bit of a surge the last couple of evenings, bleurgh.

I haven't made up my mind when to start ml yet. Fairly early I think so I can spend some time with DD and get some rest before the chaos begins. smile

GillyBillyWilly Wed 27-Nov-13 18:37:11

S1mmy I am so so sorry sad

S1mmy, so sorry for your loss. Sending hugs and flowers

And flowers x

Stacks Wed 27-Nov-13 18:54:59

So sorry to hear your news s1mummy, take care of yourself. ((Hugs))

littlepickly Wed 27-Nov-13 18:57:09

Really sorry to hear your sad news S1mmy - thinking of you thanks

CleverOl10 Wed 27-Nov-13 18:59:04

So sorry to hear s1mmy's news.
Had a good day today. Long day shopping with DH to carry the bags and buy me lunch! And best of all no sickness! So clearly shopping = good and work = bad. Hmmm....grin

HannahC1989 Wed 27-Nov-13 19:15:00

Congrats mitchell !! Do you have any other children? Only about 7 weeks till i know ! Seems ages!
Scan tomorrow! Yay!! X

Magpie78 Wed 27-Nov-13 19:22:07

So sorry S1mmy I hope you have lots of support and love at home at this horrible time. Will be thinking of you thanks

Magpie78 Wed 27-Nov-13 19:23:13

Sorry read thanks......idiot woman I am.....

bellygazing Wed 27-Nov-13 19:24:20

Hi all, so sorry to hear of some more losses. Thinking of you s1mmy and ig. Today was my booking in. It took about an hour, and midwife was lovely. Due to previous cs I am considered medium risk and will need to see a consultant at some point but was pleased to hear it doesn't rule out a home birth which I'm keen on. Hv been on anti-depressants since August and told mwI wanted to come off them after 1st tri and she was susupportive. All in all it was good, got scan on 7th then next mw appt 8th Jan. All starting to get a bit real..

HannahC1989 Wed 27-Nov-13 19:29:41

Yeh bellygazing my last was a cs and i had an appointment in feb come through the post to see a consultant. Do you know why this is? I was assured i could go natural this time as it was my little girls heartbeat n position x

cheesysmile Wed 27-Nov-13 19:40:42

So very sorry s1mmy, i hope you and ur dh have a successful pregnancy very soon flowers

cheesysmile Wed 27-Nov-13 19:44:23

Congrats on successful scans and booking in appts smile Wow Mitchell a girl, congrats!

All the talk of Xmas shopping is making me think I maybe should actually start thinking about it soon. I don't normally start til Dec though so on track to be as disorganised as normal! grin

Clever I like your thinking, work also makes me feel sick yet when I was having a wander round the shops on Sunday I felt fine!
Cheesy I'm with you, don't normally start til December but for some reason this year it doesn't seem like giving myself enough time.

S1mmy Wed 27-Nov-13 19:58:08

Thank you all for your kind support, it means a lot rght now when i know we all share the same hopes, dreams and experiences. My dear husband is gutted and it hurts me to see his heart break again. Time will help heal.

I really hope i come back to join another group here sometime soon. Love to you all and best healthy wishes to your bumps xx

GinandStripes Wed 27-Nov-13 20:20:09

I'm so sorry S1mmy - my thoughts are with you & your DH. x

seatfor5 Wed 27-Nov-13 20:21:12

S1mmy So so sorry to hear of your news x

Bumblebeesmum Wed 27-Nov-13 20:33:42

Bellygazing I was told highest risk for baby of anti depressants was the 1st trimester as baby is developing there is an increased (but still tiny) risk of heart defects & respiratory problems - then a risk at the v end of pregnancy that the baby will be born with withdrawal symptoms. It might be worth you meeting with a doctor because if you're entering the phase with no risks you could wait or reduce dose more slowly whatever you're comfortable with. Clearly I'm not a Doctor & each type vary so I could be wrong but might be worth checking so you can do what suits you best

Bumblebeesmum Wed 27-Nov-13 20:35:20

Skim reading lots of pages of posts sorry I missed your post S1mmy - so sorry you're going through this

Sussex31 Wed 27-Nov-13 21:42:42

S1mmy Sorry to hear your news. That must be devastating.

Finally got a scan date here after some phone calls. 11th December so I'll be 13 weeks exactly (based on current timings).

jaykay987 Wed 27-Nov-13 22:21:01

Sorry s1mmy. Look after yourself.

MarlenaGru Wed 27-Nov-13 22:41:23

So sorry s1mmy Life seems very unfair sometimes.

panicmechanic Wed 27-Nov-13 22:46:19

So sorry s1mmy, thinking of you and your DH

Sorry s1mmy. I know how hard it is. I had 3 mcs in 18months before dd came along. Give yourself time to recover. Good luck in the future.

GinandStripes Wed 27-Nov-13 23:30:55

Dear Chronic Trapped Wind that's caused me to throw up. DO ONE! Ta x

superlambanana Wed 27-Nov-13 23:37:44

Ohhh I sympathise Gin! It's horrible!

Does anyone else now have freezing feet? Mine are almost painful! They're usually cold but this is ridiculous!

WifeofGru Thu 28-Nov-13 04:23:12

S1mmy I am so sorry for what you are going through. I am sure everyone on the thread whether frequent/infrequent poster/lurker is moved by your post. These babies are all precious no matter how long they are around for.

Ig so, so sorry. I hope that things turn out less complicated than you fear.

bunglesmum12 Thu 28-Nov-13 04:28:13

Can anybody else not sleep? It's driving me nuts sad

Me too, been awake since 4:45 hmm

Just wondering if you can still test at 11 weeks and get a positive?
From 4 weeks onwards I've felt awful and now don't feel as awful.
Instead of being happy I'm so worried something's not right.
Still got to wait til 5th for my scan hmm

jaykay987 Thu 28-Nov-13 06:12:56

FX it's your placenta raking over.

I think HPT might work, though I think Gilly mentioned awhile ago only if you dilute your wee a bit as it's too strong to get a reading? Not sure - Im sure someone more sensible will be along!

MrsCharlieD Thu 28-Nov-13 07:08:48

Hi ladies can i join? Im 11+5 and due 13th June. i had a scan at 10+4 and all ok but too early for the nuchal testing so have another scan on Wednesday. hope everyone is ok and Yey to the end of the first trimester being in sight! X

littlepickly Thu 28-Nov-13 07:12:23

Have just been googling first trimester average weight gain - oops!! blush

cheesysmile Thu 28-Nov-13 07:42:37

littlepicky I know, I did that a while ago. Ive been so hungry though I was obviously going to gain more weight. I'm just hoping that im less hungry during 2nd trimester and can maybe even out the weight gain. Not going to worry too much though.

HannahC1989 Thu 28-Nov-13 07:43:08

Scan today!!! Yay days finally here... struggling to sleep and eat at the moment. Anybody else having a completely different pregnancy to the last? Xx

cheesysmile Thu 28-Nov-13 07:43:50

Welcome MrsC!

BEEwitched Thu 28-Nov-13 08:11:47

Hannah, good luck with your scan!

I woke up about 3-4 times last night and in between had interesting dreams.

Moving men coming with the rest of our stuff today and not much space to put it. Ah well, chaos continues. ..

LadyGoneGaga Thu 28-Nov-13 08:12:04

Oh don't, littlepickly. Our scales are broken and I know we have some spare ones in the garage...somewhere. But I'm really not motivated to go and find them. I'm a big gainer on pregnancy and my current pork/bacon obsession is not helping. The back fat is a give away though! grin Apparently though, people who were athletic/under weight to start with will tend to gain quite a lot in the first trimester. Don't know whether that applies to you? Hopefully soon I will get some energy back and start exercising regularly again.

Clutter please don't worry, as Jaykay says it will be the placenta taking over and you should expect to be feeling better. All a pregnancy test will tell you is that you are pregnant. Even if you had mc'ed it would still show a positive as tehre would be a lot of pregnancy tissue still there and a lot of HCG still in your system so save your money. It's really hard not to worry though I know. At least it's only a week til your scan.

I've fallen out with my Mum. I told her, said it was early days and we were keeping quiet. Now she's toldf my sister. I'm pissed off as it's MY news and if had wanted to tell her yet I would have. Rang her to talk about it and she eneded up hanging up on me. And now my sis has had a go at me for "upsetting Mum". I haven't even told MY children yet FFS. And now tehre will be a cold war until I crack and apologise even though I haven't done anything wrong. Frigging families.

MarlenaGru Thu 28-Nov-13 08:29:35

Sorry lady but that did made me smile as sounds so similar to my mum. She did that last time so this time I told her I was only telling her so if anyone else knew I would not be impressed. Seems to have worked as she only told my aunt after I agreed she could!

Goo luck for today's scans!

Well I've dug out maternity clothes as none of my usual clothes are comfortable. If things are tight across my stomach, I feel sick.
Some of my leggings are so massive from last time that it is a bit horrifying.
Dd keeps saying there is a brother and a sister in mummy's tummy. blush We have never said anything about babies at all. I'm hoping she has just been watching the episode of Peppa pig when mrs rabbit has twins. Although, dh's gran claimed to be psychic. blush

chestnutmare Thu 28-Nov-13 08:44:57

Hey there everyone! I found out I was pregnant about 3 weeks ago (approx 8 weeks gone by that point blush so going by the date of my last period am due 20th June, although I have my dating scan a week tomorrow to find out for definite smile

I had my booking in appointment on Monday which I was a bit nervous about (never been pregnant before!) but the midwife was so nice, it was all fine. Excited about my scan now! DH and I have been trying for a baby for almost 3 years, so it's all still a bit surreal!

Bumblebeesmum Thu 28-Nov-13 09:41:19

Hannah - my 1st pregnancy was a smooth 1st trimester didn't feel pregnant but I knew I was off to a bad start as I put on 6lbs. The middle & end of my pregnancy was very very hard with all sorts of symptoms & my back was unbearable & I went on to put on almost 6 stone by the end of pregnancy!!

This time I've thrown up (not one feeling of nausea last time) I feel extremely rough, I'm exhausted, miserable & have lost half a stone.

So - for me, so far - my pregnancies are extremely different! I am just clinging on to the hope that if trimester 1 is so different maybe 2 & 3 will be different...in a positive way! I'm also extremely aware of how little it takes for weight to escalate when not active so am trying so hard to keep exercising.

I assume by your question your pregnancy is v different also?

Bumblebeesmum Thu 28-Nov-13 09:42:28

That's lovely chestnut you must be so happy

cjbk1 Thu 28-Nov-13 09:45:37

sorry s1mmy ...been there hmm

cjbk1 Thu 28-Nov-13 09:50:28

oops-so, I find it easy to get to sleep coz I'm exhausted but if I get woken up thanks dd2 it's hard it get back to sleep my mind is racing, I try to cut down on screen time after dinner now in case it helps...hopefully I won't get restless legs this time shock

superlambanana Thu 28-Nov-13 09:55:28

Oh Lady that's so disappointing sad I can see why you're angry. Could you do a very calm 'I'm sorry if I upset you but I was very upset and disappointed that you had let my secret out' kind of thing? Apologising without accepting blame?!

Dog has just woken me up by barking her head off at some poor bloke delivering a leaflet. She's a soft thing (and can't get to the front door as we have a porch) but it's quite comforting to know that she can scare people off when I'm in on my own!

superlambanana Thu 28-Nov-13 10:41:14

The Sainsbury's order has come and I now have salt and vinegar square crisps. Oh yes grin am eating them in bed in the hope I will be able to get up without throwing up again!

panicmechanic Thu 28-Nov-13 11:18:10

So nervous, I am sitting in the reception of fmc waiting to have the harmony test. I get very wound up at scans and my DH Eurostar is delayed so on my own. Fx

Mitchell2 Thu 28-Nov-13 11:26:46

Don't stress panic! From what I hear the FMC people are lovely, and it's a simple scan and then they draw some bloods.

Good luck

jaykay987 Thu 28-Nov-13 11:50:06

good luck panic! Hope it goes well.

RaRa1988 Thu 28-Nov-13 12:01:14

Hi everyone, I've just popped back after a while. Haven't read the whole thread - you're a talkative lot! - but it's nice to see everyone's exciting news smile. Really sorry to S1mmy though: it's a terrible thing to go through. I hope you and your partner can pull together and help each other through it. Sending you love and good wishes.

Got my 12-week scan next week at about 12+4. No reason to suspect anything might be wrong, and everything was fine at my early scans of 6+1 and 7+5, but I'm still nervous.... Thankfully I'm away from tomorrow till Tuesday afternoon seeing my best friend and some family who all live miles away, so that should keep my mind off things! (I hope...)

chestnutmare Thu 28-Nov-13 13:00:09

Thanks Bumblebeesmum, I am, just hope everything goes OK! Hopefully the scan next week will go well smile

HannahC1989 Thu 28-Nov-13 15:05:24

Back from my scan!!! It was lovely... wiggly little monkey!! And had hiccups...! im now due on 9th of june. Cant wait to tell people now! Xx

HannahC1989 Thu 28-Nov-13 15:12:36

Yes bumblebee my 1st pregnancy was a dream and this is so much harder. I know its never easy but gosh !

panicmechanic Thu 28-Nov-13 15:21:26

Thank you the fmc people were really nice. Baby is measuring a little big and they are a little concerned that the placenta / cord iis not kicking in properly so will need another scan next week as baby is still using sac. Heartbeat was good and blood flow in stomach. Had all the tests now have to wait two weeks!

CleverOl10 Thu 28-Nov-13 15:22:08

Drama - my ds also watched that episode of peppa pig and is hoping I have a pig in my tummy (!)

Vickyvix Thu 28-Nov-13 15:29:18

Yey, congrats Hannah smile

panic I hope your harmony test went ok and your DH made it in the end.

lady I sympathise with you. I would be annoyed as well. There is one person in my whole family that knows our news (not even on my side of the family) and all they keep saying is when can I tell everyone. I'm like, after we have told them - because it's our newS not yours!!!! Maybe that's just my rage again smile

I was just beginning to relax again (was looking at pushchairs last night) and then this morning I had a bit of spotting again. It's taken me right back to being an anxious mess again. It's not bleeding as such, just a very very small amount of spotting (sort of like what I had for a day or two following the bleed I had at 8+5) and it is a very pale orangey brown but I'm so worried something is up. I am 10+2 today and last scan because of bleeding was at 9+0 (when everything was fine). My nuchal scan isn't until 10th when I'll be 12+0

I have managed to get a same day appointment for a private scan this afternoon so am really hoping this helps. I just hope beany is ok.

jaykay987 Thu 28-Nov-13 16:17:57

good luck at your scan Vicky.

MinaLeeds Thu 28-Nov-13 17:04:56

Argh! how annnoying for you Lady. I went in to the office today and met a lady who's started her PhD on a very similar topic to mine for lunch. Half way through our discussion, she congratulates me and says that the one and only person in the office who I've told that I'm pregnant went and told her! I was a little bit peeved and had to reswear the friend to secrecy. I'm just so so grateful that there weren't more people in the office at the time as it sounds like she just blabbed it out loud as soon as she left me!

I'm getting a little bit worried about bump sad Firstly, there isn't really a bump. I've lost weight since I got pregnant because all the unhealthy foods I used to gorge on before don't interest me in the least and I've become obsessed with fruit. So yesterday I weighed myself and appear to have only put on about 250g in 10 days. My boobs are still massive and I feel kinda tired but other than that, there aren't really any symptoms of pregnancy other than the test I took all those weeks ago that said 'positive'. I am currently 11+5 and my scan isn't until next Thursday. Told a second person in the office today about bump after she just finished telling me about her miscarriage earlier this year and I looked like I was about to burst into tears. Feeling kinda crappy now. sad

MarlenaGru Thu 28-Nov-13 17:36:03

mina I lost 5kg in the first trimester last time and put on 15kg in the second two so I really wouldn't worry. I had no sign of a bump until 20 weeks. This time I can't stop eating and am too scared to weigh myself. I definitely have a teeny bump though.

panic I hope you aren't too worried. What can they do if placenta isn't doing what it should be?

Congrats hannah

MTMD Thu 28-Nov-13 17:49:09

We're going to tell DH's twin the day after scan (if we have s goid scan, fx) because DH cannot wait any longer smile My worry is that we won't bd able to tell dh's parents until at least a couple of weeks later because they're abroad and we'd rather do it live than via Skype, etc. my worry is dh's twin's wife. She can never ever keep a secret... She is also known for saying inappropriate things.. To make it worse, I think that sometimes she actually does it on purpose to get back at people or if she feels ignored or neglected.. So basically I can really picture her ringing in laws and saying 'really? They haven't told you yet??!' or something stupid like that. And she has a grudge against me because dh's family welcomed me with open arms from day one while she had very difficult tim at in the beginning of their relationship. So she just loves putting me down and the fact that I'm pregnant puts me in line with her status (it's so ridiculous but she used to hint that she's a WIFE and I'm just a girlfriend in early days) and this would be one way of getting at me.

I don't know what to say to prevent it. I think we'll say that she is not allowed to mentioned it to ANYONE unless we personally give her the all clear.. Not sure it would work though.. Probably not to be honest!!

Sorry for a rant. Maybe I shouldn't overthink it, still zero scans and all...

AuntPittypat Thu 28-Nov-13 18:25:17

Hi everyone, just popping back on to say my scan yesterday all went well. Phew! Little thing was wriggling around all over the place and waving his/her arms at us. It was lovely.

We've only told my sister and two of my friends so far and they've all been very good at keeping the secret. I'd be so cross if I were you Lady!

Will see my dad next week so will tell him then... I'm going to try to get DD to show him the scan photo and say that she's going to be a big sister...! Not sure it'll work tthough as she's easily distracted! Will probably tell work next week too.

Feels so much more real now. grin

bellygazing Thu 28-Nov-13 18:29:36

Hannah I was told if you have any interventions 1st pregnancy you need to see a consultant - should still absolutelyable to have natural next time barring complications but I think it's so they can explain extra risks. Also, my understanding is if you go overdue rather than inducing they book in a section as induction drugs can make contractions fiercer and increa se the v tiny risk of uterine rupture.
bumble you are right, it's more that my depression is linked to speak if if issues which have mostly been resolved and I'm in a much better place so want to get off the drugs as soon as is safe. I'm on a v low dose anyway.
Fell off my bike on the way home today -not hurt but shaken...

panicmechanic Thu 28-Nov-13 18:48:57

Hi Marlena, thx I am ok I think. The purpose of the scan next week is to see if the baby grows and ascertain if all if working ok. They didn't want to say anymore.

Vickyvix Thu 28-Nov-13 18:59:13

panic I hope all turns out ok for you. The wait is always the hard bit, so I hope the week zooms by for you and baby and placenta are doing exactly what they should by next week.

I can't find the list, how far along are you?

I asked the sonography today about when placenta fully takes over and she said 12 weeks, but it starts to take over at 9 weeks. I don't know much about all of this but maybe it's just a case that it is in transition at the moment?

Vickyvix Thu 28-Nov-13 19:08:52

Thanks jay scan was all good smile

They spent ages looking for reason for bleeding/spotting and can find nothing out of the ordinary so I'm relieved for now. Saw the little heart beat again which measured 176bpm and saw beany wriggle about and the sonographer pointed out arms, legs, head, facial profile, brain, bones etc.

Counting down days to nuchal scan now!!

CleverOl10 Thu 28-Nov-13 19:13:52

5 days til my scan.....can't wait as haven't had an early one and I just really want to know all is well.

Had a rather nauseous day but second day actual ms free. Am 12+1 so hoping this is a sign of it easing up but might just be wishful thinking if it's anything like last time!

PurpleCustard100 Thu 28-Nov-13 20:12:47

I'm a bit late but can I join in please? smile

12 weeks on Sunday and scan on Monday. Bit anxious because I haven't had many symptoms except for sore boobs and feeling a bit sick when brushing teeth. Apparently I should count myself lucky - but I thought the sickness was horrible but ultimately a good sign... But excited too. smile

CleverOl10 Thu 28-Nov-13 20:25:12

Welcome purple - and good luck for the scan!

I've clearly done too much today as I've been really sick all evening. I'm impressed I've got to 9wk+5 before feeling like this.
My ms is not bad until I move about. However once I'm moving then it is usually just to the loo to be sick. confused
I've got those anti sickness bands but they aren't doing much tonight. sad
A friend has just announced her pregnancy so is a couple of weeks ahead of me. I'm so excited and just want to tell her! Waiting for my scan which is still a few weeks away.

Vickyvix Thu 28-Nov-13 22:30:09

Hi purple welcome smile

I'm similar to you. No real sickness, just a few queasy mornings when I felt a bit peaky a few weeks ago. I do have the sore boobs though. The midwives say I have been lucky but it makes me worry all the more!

Hope the weekend whizzes by for you, best of luck with Monday's scan.

Vickyvix Thu 28-Nov-13 22:31:02

Hope you feel better in the morning drama

wispaxmas Thu 28-Nov-13 22:41:41

Waaah, I need a bit of a moan. I'm pretty sure I've definitely got bronchitis, and I stupidly went out all day (but saw the hunger games, yay), and now I'm feeling wretched and cough-y and hurt-y and H is away in the UK so I'm suffering alone sad

I want my immune system back, goddamn parasite growing inside me.

Liquidambar Thu 28-Nov-13 22:52:03

Hi everyone.

Busy day, but tried to keep an eye. Great news on the scans.
My mum, granny and aunt arrived this afternoon and will stay for a week. They will be babysitting DS while we are away. My granny kept referring to the baby as a "she" and said that I already have a big bump biscuit but she had 7 children so she knows what she's saying smile

I know this is TMI but is anyone suffering from piles? I had them with DS and they are coming back and this is only the first trimester shock

I'm not sure if there are any scans tomorrow, but if so good luck!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 29-Nov-13 06:35:08

Just wanted to pop in and say hello to everyone! I've got a friend staying with us til Monday so probably won't be on here much!!!!!
Hope everyone's well smile x

giraffelegs Fri 29-Nov-13 08:14:15

Good morning ladies, welcome to the new faces.

It's scan day!!!!!!!! I'm a bundle of excitement and nerves.

littlepickly Fri 29-Nov-13 08:23:24

Good luck giraffe and any other ladies with scans today!!

I'm 12 weeks today and scan on Tuesday...start new job on Monday too! Will be so happy once Wednesday is here just hope all goes ok!

Cheesy & ladyg - I'm hoping this pg goes the same as my last with weight gain as I did gain quite quickly at the start with the last one but then ended up ok in the end - I put on 2.5 stone but have a feeling it could be more this time especially with Christmas in the mix!! smile

littlepickly Fri 29-Nov-13 08:23:52

Glad all ok with you Vicky and hope you get good news soon panic.

MarlenaGru Fri 29-Nov-13 08:26:30

Good luck for the scan giraffe and anyone else!

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 09:29:22

Good luck today giraffe hope t all goes well for you

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 11:39:25

Good luck today's scans! I'm sooo jealous... smile

I've sinned today.. Got a prociutto and parnesan sandwich from pret.. Trying to avoid cured meats but could not resist today. Also, managed to eat all my lunch at 11 today despite having two toasts and a bowl porridge for breakfast. Anyone else can't stop eating?!

SarahAnderson Fri 29-Nov-13 11:43:10

Honestly? I'm ignoring the cured meats prohibition. I think the risk is very low.

Mitchell2 Fri 29-Nov-13 11:49:27

Same re cured meats - I don't think that the NHS prohibit this at the moment anyway? I wouldn't for instance have some that has been sitting out in a buffet but Pret will have very good standards so I think the risk is very very low.

Mitchell2 Fri 29-Nov-13 11:49:44

BTW good luck everyone for your scans!

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 11:58:40

Ooh have you all been eating cured meats! I have been avoiding them but I absolutely love them, the most I have allowed myself in the last 8 weeks is a pizza with cooked Milano salami on it. If they're ok to have I think I know what I'm having for dinner today!!!!

MTMD that pret sandwich is my favourite smile

I'm an eating machine at the moment, have already had breakfast and a mid morning snack and I am hungry again.

Lililly Fri 29-Nov-13 12:00:46

Morning!, I am 12 weeks, and 5th baby, I can feel Braxton Hicks, it is a lovely feeling. does anyone else have that?

superlambanana Fri 29-Nov-13 12:02:50

I got two different bits of advice in my maternity notes - nhs said Stilton and Parmesan okay, and cured meats, and soft cheeses if they're piping hot, while my hospital says no. Very confusing!!

I have mild pain on my right side, probably around where my ovary is. Should I be worried about this? Has been there for a day or two.

Mitchell2 Fri 29-Nov-13 12:03:21

I had absolutely no idea that you could get Braxton's so early (this is my first so am a bit clueless!)

SarahAnderson Fri 29-Nov-13 12:28:41

The way I’m thinking about those things like salad, cured meats etc. is that it’s mainly a risk of contamination (as opposed to what’s actually in it, like liver or wine). So you can take a call on your source. If I think my source has good enough hygiene standards then I’m going for it. The idea of me buying ready-made salad which was made inhouse in the Japanese sushi place around the corner and then RE-WASHING it in my dirty, disgusting work sink seems entirely backwards.

cjbk1 Fri 29-Nov-13 12:29:22

I've had bh even before 12wk but this is my 4th and can feel my uterus esp over the right, the mw will say how massive I am at 16wk I'm sure but I'll be prepared the time and say "yes I know I'm a right heifer aren't i?" wink I tried to call for my apt now but no answer

BEEwitched Fri 29-Nov-13 12:30:19

Super, Irebelliously had a really hot gooey baked camembert, even though M&S put a big warning on it to keep us preggo eating machines away!

Lmf679 Fri 29-Nov-13 12:34:03

Am so glad it's not just me eating like a machine! I've already had, toast, some vegetable crisps a whole pot of edamame and am so hungry for lunch! I usually have to get two lunches, have one at 1pm and the other about 4pm, as well as some kind of popcorn snack or biscuits. So hungry all the time.

GinandStripes Fri 29-Nov-13 12:49:36

One week until the scan but I have given in and just ordered a load of maternity clothes. Boyfriend is bored of me complaining constantly that all my clothes are too small!

I tried on a jumper dress at fat face yesterday and I looked like a sack of spuds! Made me sad because I'm sure not long ago I would've looked completely HOT in it. Stupid oversized boobs. Stupid carb loading lumps.

WifeofGru Fri 29-Nov-13 12:59:17

Mtmd and vicky is it the artisan bread one with basil. I love it too and have had one a few weeks ago. Have never adhered to he cured meat thing although I am being a bit more cautious with deli meat here in USA this time.

misshoohaa Fri 29-Nov-13 13:04:50

Has anyone else not had their scan date through yet? I'm 10+5 and still no letter? Booking appointment on Monday and I did chase the midwife the other date but she said to wait a bit longer. I'm not having a nuchal scan so perhaps it's slipped through the net! So frustrating!!

kittygirl33 Fri 29-Nov-13 13:36:30

I went through the can't stop eating phase about three weeks ago (12 weeks now, had successful scan, woo hoo!) Appetite seems to be relatively normal again now, though I need chocolate every day. Also developed a taste for ice cream, damn it!

I've also been rebellious and been having runny boiled eggs a lot. I think some of the food advice is just ludicrous.

Lmf679 Fri 29-Nov-13 13:45:48

I haven't had my scan date yet and when I called the hospital they were not very helpful, I called the health centre I'm going to for my booking app and the midwife assured me she would make the scan appointment at the booking, am still a bit concerned as will be 11+4 at the booking so am hoping I won't have to wait too long for the scan. Am sure they know what they are doing though, hope so!

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 13:50:30

Wife, yes that's the one! smile

Alas after super hungry morning comes sickly afternoon...

WifeofGru Fri 29-Nov-13 13:54:20

Gin I totally get where you are coming from...... I hate dressing my figure in early pregnancy and when breast feeding as I normally have quite small breasts and just don't know how to dress with big ones!! oh well, will be an issue for at least the next year. I end up wearing a lot of shirts when breast feeding with skinny jeans and pumps.

Wispa I am very envy at you being in Paris with all the beautiful baby clothes there.

superlambanana Fri 29-Nov-13 14:52:58

I'd love to be in Paris... Actually I'd love to be anywhere that isn't bed or sofa. I'm feeling so rubbish, having only kept a banana down today sad I'm hungry and yet I can't eat anything!!

Getting so fed up...surely this ms can't last much longer? Am 9+5. I don't know what I'll do if it carries on past next week sad

Was sent home from school today, after fainting in class. I gave myself and the kids a bit of a scaresad. I'm fine bar a big bruise on my leg where I fell. I probably shouldn't have gone in but there you go.
I've spent the day sleeping or throwing up. The only thing I can keep down is mash with gravy. So weird, with dd it was sweet stuff all the way. This time round I can't face it.

CleverOl10 Fri 29-Nov-13 15:58:01

Hope you feel better soon Drama.

I'd love to be eating more but struggling to eat anything right now sad This morning the management out of the blue provided us with the most amazing array of cakes at break and I couldn't face a single one. I think this has genuinely never happened before! I love cake! shock

Cherryjellybean Fri 29-Nov-13 16:04:39

drama, that is a scare! I fainted on Sunday but luckily no one was in the room to witness it. Take care of your self.

Super the sickness lasted till 17 weeks with my last pregnancy, but lots of people find it goes before 12 weeks... Fx is disappears for you soon! Remember it will end eventually!

I got my scan date through today! Its on the 16th, so happy i have something to look forward to, even if it is forever away!

superlambanana Fri 29-Nov-13 16:14:30

Cherry we are scan buddies!! I was thinking mine would be the last on the thread so it's nice to have someone else on the same day smile

Cherryjellybean Fri 29-Nov-13 16:18:37

Scan buddies! I think we are going to be one of the last ones.
2weeks 3days seems a very long time away!

Bezzabelle Fri 29-Nov-13 17:19:54

Just got 20 week scan letter through- 16th January.... Least Christmas in the middle will make it go quicker!

Bezzabelle Fri 29-Nov-13 17:27:27

On the eating front, after 7 weeks of puking numerous tones a day which has now reduced to just two or three times in the morning, I now eat all day long as keeps the nausea away so today.....
First breakfast- cornflakes(which I threw up)
Second breakfast -scrambled eggs on toast
At work banana, tuna sandwich,packet of hula hoops, two Jammie dodgers and a muller yogurt spread out over day.
Tea will be spaghetti Bol!! No wonder I have put on all the weight I lost back on!

I'm after you guys. Scan on 18th. Seems so far away.

jaykay987 Fri 29-Nov-13 18:05:50

Drama - that sounds awful. Hope you're feeling better.

I haven't got my nhs scan date through (though I will probably not need it). Mw thought it would be booked in for between Christmas and new year.

My stomach has literally popped overnight! I'm only 8w+6, so my clearly bloated belly has been going up and down. BUT - today my stomach is higher, it literally starts protruding from the bottom of my bra. And the top bit, between my bra and belly button is solid. Very odd. I assume my uterus is still below my pelvic bone - so no idea what it is that's hard. Any ideas?

I literally look 6months. I'm seeing a very good friend for the first time since my BFP tomorrow - who is due with her second early May - no idea how I'm going to hide this from her if it's still there tomorrow!

Jessiebaba Fri 29-Nov-13 18:09:31

Cherryjellybean & superlambanana - I'm the 16th too! So glad to finally have a date but it feels like AGES away!!

Bumblebeesmum Fri 29-Nov-13 18:40:09

MTMD I'd probably wait to tell your partners twin or just tell the in laws by Skype. If she's as bad as you say then might be better to just remove the risk?

Bellygazing that's great you're feeling better & if you're on a low dose hopefully you'll hardly notice

My 1st was also a June baby which is weird as weather all the same for stage etc. Although it's horrible to feel sickest while the weather is crap & miserable, for those who haven't already had summer babies - it's brilliant. I loved being able to sit in the garden reading a book with my baby sleeping on a mat in the fresh air & not having to wrap him 100x to leave the house. It's crap now but we'll get the best later!

Aww bumblebees your message about having a summer baby really made me smile! I have an April child and October. April was lovely and we have manage to have bbq's for her birthday but ds born in October was hard and worst snow for years hit too.
So looking forward to a wee June baby and having garden birthdays in years to come smile

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 19:23:36

Ah Yey just thinking about chilling in the garden next summer with a little one out there with me makes me smile so much. Has got me thinking about picnics and trips to the park smile

.....although, I am a June baby myself and my family routinely take the mick out of me because it always rains on my birthday!

Hope you're feeling better drama

jay I'm struggling with being bloated too, i don't think it can be a bump yet but for last 10 days or so I literally look about 5 months pregnant!! I think it's bloatedness but who knows, I've never done this before!

Sussex31 Fri 29-Nov-13 19:30:59

misshoohaa I was 11 weeks exactly when my scan date came through the post. It is worth chasing them though.

I had some light bleeding (dark brown) on Weds night so rang the midwife first thing and she had booked me a scan within the hour! So surreal, quick dash from work to pick up husband and got to hospital just in time for the appointment. I didn't even have time to get nervous!

Happy to say all was well with the little bouncing bean - so amazing to see. I wasn't expecting photos from an emergency scan but he gave us 2, yay smile

Aw Vicky, don't burst the bubble of imagining long beautiful summer days with baby!
Although I am Scottish so maybe need a wee reality check here! smile

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 20:42:51

Sorry! I think it's going to be lovely, and how nice that we will be more able to be outdoors with our little ones and enjoy walks etc.

sussex glad all ok with you and your scan went well smile

giraffelegs Fri 29-Nov-13 20:58:39

Scan was successful and showed a wiggly baby dated 12 + 5 which changes my due date to 8 June. I was charting so was fairly confident on dates but looking back at it I can see that the new date fits as well. It explains the early BFP too!

bumblebees I'm glad to hear good things about June babies as I really struggled with October DD, particularly the short daylight hours.

Hope you're feeling better now drama.

giraffelegs Fri 29-Nov-13 21:00:13

And glad that your scan showed good news too Sussex. smile

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 21:13:06

Great news giraffe smile

MrsCharlieD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:15:36

Hello ladies hope everyone has a nice weekend planned? Can't believe I've just bought a pram and car seat. Argh! Not having it delivered until we need it was but i couldn't wait any longer to start buying things. Has anyone else started shopping yet? X

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:16:46

Girls I'm bleeding.. And cramping... 11+4.. I'm a wreck, don't know what I'm supposed to be doing.. Midwife answer phone says in emergency prior to 18 weeks, go to casualty department. But it's Friday night! What can they do???
Not had any scans yet sad

Bezzabelle Fri 29-Nov-13 22:21:50

MTMD maybe ring nhs direct and see what they say??? Fingers crossed that all is ok.

Would ring NHS24 MTMD otherwise you may just worry all night.
Hope everything is ok x

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:24:35

Rang 111 and some gp will ring me back.. But what can they do..?

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 22:30:21

Oh MTMD sorry you're experiencing this. my green book says the same, any bleeding before 20 weeks go to A&E. I had to go myself just over a week ago so know it's really scarey.

Is it a lot? Or a little? Red or brown? Clotting? Just when you wipe?

The midwife said to me that brown is ok (old blood) and if it's light not to worry too much. If it's red it may still be fine but best to check it out. Even heavy with clotting can be ok.

Friday night will be busy and am sure you'll have to wait but if I were you I'd go anyway and get checked out.

At the A&E I went to they couldn't do a scan there and then but they were lovely and checked everything out etc.

I can't remember where you're based? Are you London?

I have my fingers crossed for you that it's just a bleed and nothing else. Sending virtual hug your way.

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:36:35

It's light red.. My local would be wittington.. It's just that it's the worst night of the week.. Friday... sad

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:38:23

It's not heavy bleeding but cramps feel too much like the start of the period which is why I'm not raising much hope..

superlambanana Fri 29-Nov-13 22:41:40

It could be nothing - it's really common. I'd go and get checked out just in case though, if only to put your mind at rest.

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 22:46:56

Well, If it helps King's, Guys & St Thomas's and St George's all have walk in early pregnancy assessment units. St George's and Guys & St Thomas's are both definitely open on Saturdays. It's first come first served but you can get a referral from A&E or your GP and they all say on their websites that they are for those experiencing bleeding in pregnancy before 16/18 weeks. If you drive, you could head to one of those A&Es tonight and get a referal for the EPU tomorrow?

It's probably absolutely fine and just one of those early pregnany things do I don't want you to worry.

Perhaps ask the 111 GP when they call you back?

Is your other half there with you?

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 22:49:06

Sorry for long post, but forgot to add, possibility of break through bleeding? If it's times around when your AF would have been.

Good news it is light.

MTMD Fri 29-Nov-13 22:54:32

No, not a break through.. This was one of the first things I checked.. Giving this Gp 10 more minutes (supposed to call back within 10 min), dh getting ready to go to hospital..

Thank you ladies for your support. I have to say I feel very pessimistic because of cramps and general sensation down there.. But yes id rather know now than wait another 7 days for bad news..

giraffelegs Fri 29-Nov-13 23:03:07

Fingers crossed for you here MTMD.

Vickyvix Fri 29-Nov-13 23:04:22

Glad DH is with you. Definitely best to get checked out. Try and stay positive.

I really hope everything is ok for you and you get reassurance from the docs

jaykay987 Fri 29-Nov-13 23:11:21

FX mtmd

panicmechanic Fri 29-Nov-13 23:29:34

Sending you hugs MTMD

AuntPittypat Fri 29-Nov-13 23:51:40

Sending lots of positive thoughts MTMD. I've heard so many stories of all different sorts of bleeding throughout pregnancy without there being any problem, so... <annoying, easier said than done statement coming up>... do try not to panic. Fingers crossed for you.

ElizaB3 Fri 29-Nov-13 23:52:35

Hello, back after another trip away and catching up.
MTMD the risks of MC are so low by the end of your 12th week - which is what you are - remember the odds are hugely on your side. Used to live near Whittington & found the A&E very good there (on the one time I went). Not an ideal Friday night for you but anything is worth peace of mind, good luck.

MTMD Sat 30-Nov-13 00:21:11

I spoke to 111 Gp who just said 'you're having a miscarriage, just lie down and try to relax and go to a e if bleeding gets worse.. ' Couldn't even book a scan!

I'm in a&e waiting to be seen. I don't think they do night scans but might refer me to one sooner than Friday.. Like I said, not super hopeful...

Thank you girls, you're being very sweet and kind. I'm tired of crying...

GinandStripes Sat 30-Nov-13 00:31:55

Oh MTMD - I'm keeping everything crossed for you. X

Vickyvix Sat 30-Nov-13 00:34:09

That GP sounds awful. I hope the docs at A&E look after you and that it's nothing to worry about. I am sure you will get a referral for a scan sooner than Friday (my A&E trip was on a Sunday and I had the scan on following Tuesday).

There's always the option to try private scan if it looks like NHS can't offer one soon enough, London Ultrasound Centre or Fetal Medicine Centre both on Harley street can often do same day appointments.

Good luck

WifeofGru Sat 30-Nov-13 01:15:48

Thinking of you MTMD. The GPs response was terrible. hope you get a scan ASAP.

MTMD Sat 30-Nov-13 03:05:10

Baby is fine and kicking!!!! They wanted to book a scan for tomorrow but my heart rate was going through the roof so they put me on a drip and got a scanner down to AE. Baby is fine!! DH was crying.. They don't know why I was bleeding so further tests if it comes back...

Still on the drip, waiting for my vitals to come back to normal.

What a relief!!!

Thank you all. I think I'm in love with you guys smile

giraffelegs Sat 30-Nov-13 06:53:24

Oh MTMD such fab news to wake up to. smile Glad everything is ok and you got to see your baby. Can't believe the GP said that though, not very helpful. shock

I've been wide awake since 5am. Typical as DD slept through the night and is still asleep now....

jaykay987 Sat 30-Nov-13 07:19:50

Great news mtmd! (That gp sounds awful)

P.s. My iPad autocorrects your name to "mums". Must be a sign grin

littlepickly Sat 30-Nov-13 07:21:44

So glad to hear all ok MTMD - what a horrible GP that you spoke to as well!! Glad you got to see your baby! smile

I'm excited by all the talk of a lovely summer baby - DD was late September and that was not fun heading into the winter months with a newborn! Fingers crossed for a rain free summer - hmmm smile

BEEwitched Sat 30-Nov-13 08:05:23

MTMD I only saw this now, I am so glad everything is ok and your baby is wiggling the little legs about!

The response of that GP was horrible. angry

MrsCharlieD Sat 30-Nov-13 08:09:48

So pleased to hear your baby is safe and well mtmd. what a shocker of a gp though! Take it easy and relax this weekend x

GinandStripes Sat 30-Nov-13 08:18:08

Oh MTMD - I'm so relieved - big hugs to you and your DH xxx

Vickyvix Sat 30-Nov-13 08:28:04

Ah MTMD I'm so pleased to wake up to this good news, must have been such a worry but it's great that your baby is ok and that you and DH got see them on screen. Sounds like A&E treated you very well.

Have a lovely relaxing weekend smile

Glad to hear everything is ok, MTMD.
That GP sounds awful. I would be tempted to put in a complaint.

bee024 Sat 30-Nov-13 08:56:59

Just read what an awful night you had MTMD, glad everything's ok now though, look after yourself. Xxx

MyNameIsWinkly Sat 30-Nov-13 08:58:12

MTMD that GP was an utter arse and I'm furious on your behalf angry but delighted all seems well. A few of us have had scares with happy endings, hopefully we'll have an uneventful ride from here!

CleverOl10 Sat 30-Nov-13 09:00:26

So glad to hear that news MTMD. What a scary experience. Relax and smile lots today. grin

superlambanana Sat 30-Nov-13 09:10:47

So relieved for you MTMD!! Sorry if my post sounded dismissive before - was trying to be reassuring but it came out wrong... I am so angry for you about that GP - how dare he!!! (She?) I'd also be tempted to report that - adding to your stress was never going to help.

We saw our friends' newborn yesterday smile She came nearly five weeks early! She is absolutely beautiful. I nearly cried when I saw her blush and DH just went all gooey and couldn't stop looking at her! We both got to hold her which was lovely. Made me desperate for next June though!!

ElizaB3 Sat 30-Nov-13 09:15:09

Phew MTMD! You were the first thing I thought about this morning, having told my DH as we are due the same day - so glad your bean is fine!

wispaxmas Sat 30-Nov-13 09:26:27

Oh, what a stressful night, MTMD, but I'm so glad it's over with a happy ending!

AuntPittypat Sat 30-Nov-13 09:32:56

MTMD, smile. Hope you're catching up on sleep today.

Mitchell2 Sat 30-Nov-13 09:57:59

So glad to hear your news MTMD

Lmf679 Sat 30-Nov-13 10:10:41

Just caught up on the thread, so glad all is well mtmd. Such a relief! That gp is awful, worrying you like that!

MinaLeeds Sat 30-Nov-13 10:15:40

Oh MTMD I'm so SO glad baby is ok! Just read your message now and my heart dropped. I wish I had read it last night to be able to give you some e-hugs. What an ARSE of a GP? WTF? To not even refer you to A&E? angry

MarlenaGru Sat 30-Nov-13 10:16:33

mtmd am blubbing reading this. So pleased it is all fine. What a dick of a GP. Do they go to a special school to lose their empathy?

One of my friends had her baby on Wednesday. He was only due in January and is apparently 1.5kg. How terrifying for her and she has no family (not even her dh) in the country. Terrifying!

HannahC1989 Sat 30-Nov-13 11:05:49

Glad all is ok mtmd.. look after yourself hunni xx

panicmechanic Sat 30-Nov-13 11:32:39

So relieved MTMD, thought of you first thing this morning

LadyGoneGaga Sat 30-Nov-13 11:44:25

I'm so pleased everything is ok, MTMD but furious about the GP on your behalf. I think sometimes they have GP's doing out of hours who are semi-retried/not regular practiotioners and maybe not up on current advice etc which is terrible but happens. What an unhelful arse though.

I finally got booked in this morning. All seems fine. And my scan date arrived in the post. Friday 13th confused. Brilliant.

MTMD Sat 30-Nov-13 12:31:03

Thank you all. I start crying just from reading your messages.. You are so lovely and your support was vital last night.

Very relieved the baby seems fine. I can't say that about myself though.. Got a killer migraine and have been throwing up since they gave me the all clear at AE. Can't keep anything down, not even a tiny sip of water. But I don't care however crappy I feel so long as the baby is fine. It's amazing, isn't it, tiny blob of 57mm but I love him so much my heart bursts.

Im still worried though.. Mostly because I'm still experiencing light cramping and have light brown colour discharge. I really just want it to stop.

WifeofGru Sat 30-Nov-13 12:50:05

Wooohooo MTMD. So happy your baby is well. Hope that all the cramping and discharge settles today with some time on the sofa. When is your booking scan?

Bumblebeesmum Sat 30-Nov-13 13:35:47

Only just caught up on all the posts - quite an emotional roller coaster reading them all at once - so pleased all was ok in the end MTMD

I had a bleed in 1st pregnancy, was in triage at 20 something weeks where they thought I was going in to labour then triage several times in last few weeks for a variety of reasons. The midwife said to me: "you think they make you worry now? Wait till they're on the outside!" smile

So pleased all is ok for you - you'll need lots of sleep today!!

BEEwitched Sat 30-Nov-13 14:40:11

I just got the letter back from my Nuchal and blood test. Trisomy 21 is down to 1:8735 after the bloods but my risk if Edward's Syndrome had risen to 1:332. I'm really scared now.

MyNameIsWinkly Sat 30-Nov-13 15:03:31

BEE don't worry too much. That is still less than a third of a percent of a chance. The chances of you having miscarried by now were almost 10,000% higher! It is very VERY likely that it will be fine.

BEEwitched Sat 30-Nov-13 15:08:42

Thanks, Winkly - that's what DH said when I called him and he's a mathematician so he should know. I'm not coping that we'll with the world in general at the moment so probably didn't react as rationally as I would've liked.

Mitchell2 Sat 30-Nov-13 15:11:02

Hi Bee - I am not 100% certain but I think 1:332 is still classed as a low risk result, but understand your concerns. Hopefully someone else has more info, otherwise pop over to the antenatal tests board as someone maybe able to explain more?

I know it's not much help but 1/332 means 99.7% chance that everything is fine! if my crap maths is correct

I'd def speak to your midwife Monday to discuss otherwise my sister contacted ARC during her pregnancy and said they were really helpful

BEEwitched Sat 30-Nov-13 15:44:01

Mitchell, the ARC sounds useful - I think the problem is that all I have is a letter with a few graphs, some statistics and some chemical results but no idea how they all connect.

Esp. as foetal size is indicated as on the small side as the lmp is given as 12th August but if following my opk dates (which were ignored) the little bugger measures large!

Mitchell2 Sat 30-Nov-13 16:08:04

It's a bit shit how the nhs just expects us to know stuff based on their docs. And I think the NHS do call if it's a high risk result but not certain I'd give the ARC a call Monday who I am sure will be able to decode everything for you and you'll have a clearer idea on everything ( unless someone here can explain it to you?)

I wouldn't worry too much about the size, esp if you have a fair idea re OPK.

superlambanana Sat 30-Nov-13 16:17:14

I think high risk is officially 1:150, or is that just for Down's?

Picked up my free Mum to be Emma's Diary pack from Argos today. So disappointed!! Why give me nappies, nappy cream and baby shampoo at this early stage?! I thought it was going to have nice mini moisturisers and useful things like plain crackers and mints in it!! How is the Bump to Baby pack going to be any different?!

Got very stressed going shopping - took me two hours to get ready as I felt so ill, so we got there in Christmas shopping chaos. I got increasingly depressed as I realised I couldn't buy any clothes as there was no point, and the only non-wired bra I could find was a horrible full cup granny one from M&S, which I had to buy anyway as I'm so desperate to be comfortable. Why don't they make pretty non-wired bras?! At least I managed to get some maternity jeans. I may now live in them.

CarrotCakeMuffins Sat 30-Nov-13 16:18:00

Just caught up. MTMD, I'm so glad that all was well in the end, and agree with everyone else about the GP!

In other news, I got my nuchal results yesterday and the risk is 1 in nearly 4000, which is great.

BEEwitched Sat 30-Nov-13 16:25:40

I'm not sure what the 'official' threshold is but at the private clinic I went to for my Nuchal they say they don't recommend any further tests as long as the result is better than 1:250.

Super, cuddle up for the evening!

Mitchell2 Sat 30-Nov-13 16:33:35

Ah bee I didn't realise it was private. They should have called you.

super I second the idea of cuddling up for the evening! and also interested in bra options. I think I'm up to an f cup and they freaking hurt!!

GinandStripes Sat 30-Nov-13 17:01:29

Feeling shit... AGAIN! 11+5 today, I'm hoping my morning (hahahaha) sickness is getting worse as one final send off!

MinaLeeds Sat 30-Nov-13 17:29:47

I ended up getting maternity bras from M&S. Yes they aren't particularly attractive. But I think the fact that my boobs are 3 cup sizes larger makes up for the lack of sexy bras as far as DH is concerned. wink I got two plain all-in-one type cotton ones for sleeping (SO comfy!) and 2 T-Shirt bras for wearing out (they have a little bow on them and are utilitarian but not unattractive). Went to loads of shops in Leeds City Centra to try and find maternity clothes and none of them stock them in store! Debenhams came to the rescue in the end. I have been pretty much living in them. There's still waaaay more jeans than there is belly so I have to wear them with a belt though. I take it eventually the bump will stop them from falling down? lol!

Lmf679 Sat 30-Nov-13 17:49:45

Asos have some nice maternity bras, I got three different ones and they are all good. I really wanted the Elle macpherson ones but they didn't have my size, probably best as they were the most expensive!

WifeofGru Sat 30-Nov-13 18:09:41

Maternity wear is grim. And so much of it is polyester/viscose. Apart from maternity jeans, I am going to try and use tops I have for a while and then just size up in normal clothes. I have a few pieces from Gap from last pregnancy (black jersey skirt and black cotton 7/8 trousers for work in the summer) which are reasonably good quality.

wispaxmas Sat 30-Nov-13 18:49:06

Bee, I'm in complete agreement with you - the stuff they sent out after the nuchal scan was rubbish. I had my mother in law open it to read me the results over skype since we're not in the uk and I wanted to now ASAP, and she almost went cross-eyed, and she was a nurse! Luckily we had good results, though (1:13000), so I wasn't too bothered about puzzling our what contributed to that, but if they had been higher I'd have definitely been concerned and confused by it all.

Redcliff Sat 30-Nov-13 21:19:27

Hi have been lurking on this thread for weeks as having 2 MCs and being "cough" 42 has made me very nervous but having a very positive scan this week has given me the confidence that this pregnancy is on the right path hence finally joining in and am so delighted to be able to do so.

I am 12+2 so due on June 12th. I also went maternity shopping today - after 3 hours I managed one dress and 3 bras all from mothercare. I feel some on line shopping coming on. Was very interested to read that some of you are loving Gap jeans - will check them out.

Vickyvix Sat 30-Nov-13 23:41:16

Welcome redcliff great news on your scan smile

I had a look for maternity clothes today and was so disappointed, most shops didn't have any and what I did find was grim. I have my top shop maternity jeans which are v comfy, think I'm going to have to check out Gap.

Was looking for a dress for an upcoming work do but everything I tried on looked frumpy, not fun!

typhoonsmum Sat 30-Nov-13 23:49:05

12 week scan yesterday shows one healthy and active baby. I am officially 12+1 today. EDD 13 June

Redcliff Sat 30-Nov-13 23:53:53

Thanks for the welcome and I feel your pain. Just looking online and there is some nice stuff on e bay - new as well as pre loved but I do like to try things on. The gap USA site had a much wider range than the uk site but need to work out if shipping costs are worth it.

Redcliff Sat 30-Nov-13 23:54:52

Typhoo - well done on your scan - it's such a wonderful feeling isn't it!

littlepickly Sat 30-Nov-13 23:59:56

Welcome redcliff and great news on scan typhoon.

I too have been maternity clothes shopping today which was hopeless I didn't realise that virtually nobody stocks in store!! H&M was my fave in last pg but their stuff today was a bad small selection! I had a mini meltdown tonight (hormones blush) as we had a party and I had nothing to wear - waaaa! I don't have a glam wardrobe at the best of times but nothing fits properly now and anything remotely fitted just makes me look fat - this stage is frustrating!!

I'm off to mothercare tomorrow as I really need a new work wardrobe for my new job on Monday!! All my maternity clothes from before are mainly summer ones so I think that's a good excuse to get online too and order some more!! grin

Morning all.
Welcome redcliff and amazing news on your scan.
Good luck today littlepickly. Know exactly how you feel, all my clothes make me look fat and frumpy hmm

MTMD Sun 01-Dec-13 08:39:06

Good morning ladies

I'm feeling slightly better today. It would be hard not to since the only thing I could swallow yesterday were Ice Popsicles smile

But I'm planning on spending another day in bed because cramps come back whenever I'm up... So I'm still worried.. However, Im about to have a super busy week at work with a deadline that cannot be missed (already been expended). To meet it, not only do I have to work everyday but also be 100% efficient with my time and probably work a few extra hours.. Such a bad timing!!!

As for maternity wear.. I have a suitcase full of clothes that are about a size too big. I've gained some weight years ago, bought an entire new work wardrobe and then came back to previous size smile Decided to keep it just in case.. Hope they will come handy smile

Have a wonderful Sunday everyone. December already?! smile

MTMD Sun 01-Dec-13 08:40:20

ExTended smile

AuntPittypat Sun 01-Dec-13 10:25:30

Morning all. For anyone thinking of checking out Gap for maternity clothes, they have 30% off everything online today. I can't read the code properly on my phone, but I think it says to just enter SHOPGAP at the checkout (details are on the Gap home page).

Vickyvix Sun 01-Dec-13 10:27:28

Great news on your scan typhoon

MTMD sounds like rest is definitely what you need today. Hope this week isn't too stressful for you.

Might have to check out mothercare for some clothes, not tried there yet.

Today is christmas tree day! smile

Vickyvix Sun 01-Dec-13 10:28:32

Ooh thanks auntpitty think I'll be checking out gap online too!

Bumblebeesmum Sun 01-Dec-13 11:27:42

Super - and anyone else struggling with clothes. The only maternity clothes I bought with my 1st pregnancy were leggings (& not because I wasn't huge, because I was!!)
I discovered White Company clothing. Generous proportions as I think core customers are slightly older and lots of loose fitting but pretty wraps & long cardis etc. My entire wardrobe was white company by the end and it'll prob be the same this time! smile

littlepickly Sun 01-Dec-13 12:00:05

Just back from mothercare and managed to find some suitable smart work bits - they have 20% off everything too so got some bargains! Will now stick to online ordering - need to find something pretty to wear for Christmas parties and my birthday! smile

BEEwitched Sun 01-Dec-13 13:06:29

I have a few nice dresses that will work for Christmas dos and skater dresses with leggings are working out well for me. Will move on to Simply Be maternity stuff once I get bigger, my jeans were always too big in the waste so are still just about bearable.

Had the first incident today where I mentioned to a soon-to-be ex-neighbour that I was pregnant and he stopped talking to my face and just talked to my bump while continuing the conversation. I can already tell that this will bug me. Cheeky aid asked whether it was twins, he was lucky I hear somewhat recovered from my crying jag this morning because he got a pleasant answer and didn't get thumped round the head.

BEEwitched Sun 01-Dec-13 13:08:27

Sorry for the autocorrect madness.

Just got all my maternity clothes unpacked. Was my arse really that size?!?blush I honestly had no idea. Note to self: don't chain eat mars bars this time.grin
Not that chain eating anything is likely any time soon. I've unpacked those clothes and had to go and lie down. I feel like death. It is not fun. the motion sickness when I move about is awful. Just walking past the kitchen is making me heave.
I'm worried I'm going to be like this at Christmas when I'm catering for 10 adults and 4 kids.
What a grump I am today. hmm

GinandStripes Sun 01-Dec-13 16:03:30

BEE When we told my family, everyone from then on talked to my belly. Was really unsettling. Was not a fan.

cjbk1 Sun 01-Dec-13 17:30:23

it's my birthday today; this time last year I was cuddling & BF'ing my 3mo as I opened my presents with my other two (and dh) didn't expect to be expecting on my next birthday, my Chamila bracelet is full now had to start a new one with the make a wish charm they bought me & tbh I'm still full from the lovely cooked breakfast we had out, funny when im usually chain eating great term by the way
hope everyone else is ok wink

HannahC1989 Sun 01-Dec-13 17:34:14

Anybody else purchased a fetal doppler machine? Im completely addicted to mine! X

superlambanana Sun 01-Dec-13 17:39:46

Happy birthday cjbk!

Have had reasonably good day today. Iffy start, but got out this morning, then walked dog (which wiped me out!) and bought some presents and new Christmas lights this afternoon. I actually feel human!!

Worries about tomorrow - it's so much easier when DH does things for me because I don't have to get breakfast or lunch, and he does things like getting my clothes out so I don't have to bend down and things. He also drives wherever we go and I have someone to lean on when we walk. I think that's why I'm feeling so much better and I'm really worried that I'm just not quite at the stage of doing it all myself and not feeling sick at the moment.

Lmf679 Sun 01-Dec-13 18:27:25

Cjbk1 happy birthday!

Redcliff Sun 01-Dec-13 18:29:35

Happy birthday C - cooked breakfast out sounds yummy ! I didn't leave the house today as wiped out after my shopping trip yesterday. Got up at 9 fell asleep on the sofa at 12!

Just had another look at gap online - anyone know if the full panel or Demi panel is the way to go?

MarlenaGru Sun 01-Dec-13 19:46:05

Happy birthday cjbk!
Iwe went out for breakfast with my sister etc this morning while DD was at a party. It was blissful having breakfast without any rush to leave once she got bored! I then fetched her and was hoping to do a bit of shopping but the shops were rammed and I ended up exhausted after 15 minutes. Been asleep on the beanbag since 4 hmm

* super* I am nowhere near as sick as you this time but I also dread Mondays as I can't have a sneaky nap rather than ploughing on. Nativity, Christmas fair and parents night out at DD's school so I can see this being a busy week too. Roll on 13 weeks!

GillyBillyWilly Sun 01-Dec-13 19:52:19

Hi all smile
Just checking in as I've been absent for a few days!

Question! Does anyone here dye their hair?
If so, have you been dying it through pregnancy so far?

My hair is a mess and I really need the roots and colour sorted (and a decent cut as it's out of control right now) !

I have never had roots like this before.. I hadn't dyed it since a few weeks before finding out I was pregnant. I thought I would just not bother and didn't want to dye it in the first trimester (even though my midwife said its fine!)

Don't want to use henna really. It's all or nothing for me! Just want to go to the salon and have it sorted and be made beautiful again!

Mitchell2 Sun 01-Dec-13 20:10:31

Happy birthday c

gilly I have died my hair (it was highlights rather than an all over color). Knew there was word out there that this is verboten but read up a bit, and really didn't think that it was an issue at all. Actually need to get it done again in the next week or so.

Mitchell2 Sun 01-Dec-13 20:11:17

Dyed... ! Not killed it (although with the split ends I have at the moment...)

wispaxmas Sun 01-Dec-13 20:18:08

I don't dye my hair, but surely if your midwife said it was ok you can do it, gilly!

2nd trimester tomorrow!!! Im so excited about such an arbitrary thing, but to my mind it means a bit more relaxation regarding medicine the next time I get sick. Feeling mostly better save a lingering cough now, thank god.

12 more days in France, then 3 days at home and then CANADA!! It's December, woohoo!

wispaxmas Sun 01-Dec-13 20:21:40

redcliff, I bought Demi panel for now as I knew I wouldn't be filling a full panel for ages yet. They're super comfortable, but I find that their sizes ran pretty big. Im normally on the cusp of 14/16 and I got 16s, but definitely could have fit into 14s. I think I might get some full panel ones in the after Christmas sales, though.

Redcliff Sun 01-Dec-13 20:59:37

Thanks wisps that sounds like a good plan. Last time when I got really big I ended up living in dungarees at the end so think will get some Demi for now and see how I go.

Gilly I dyed my hair last time round after doing a fair bit of research am sure you will be fine.

(Loving being a member here already)

Dipsey00 Sun 01-Dec-13 21:06:21

Hi, I dye my hair every three weeks and have not worried. I am 13 weeks. I believe the issue with dying your hair is if you are confined in a closed space with chemicals which you could inhale it may be harmful but I am going with it, my grey roots need covering so I am not stressing about it.

adaloveslace Sun 01-Dec-13 21:11:26

Hi everyone, I haven't posted in weeks but I've been popping in and reading your updates. Glad to hear all the scans are going well and that so many of the beans are bouncing. Not sure if you're still reading S1mmy, but so very sorry for your loss thanks

I've got my 12 week scan and nuchal test in about 2 hours (in Australia so it's Monday morning here). I did the bloods a week ago so I will hopefully get the full combined result. I'm slightly terrified, I think just because I'm 38 and will be a month off 39 when the baby comes, so I'm much higher risk for abnormalities than I was for my first two, when I was 30 and 31. I have had three mini scans already with my obstetrician (one last week after spotting) and everything seemed perfect. I just want to get this over with now! Deep breaths and lots of brew I think.

Good luck to anyone else having Monday scans.

ElizaB3 Sun 01-Dec-13 22:19:07

Ada I'm sure if all three were perfect before you don't need to worry now, but understand how scans make you nervous; I have my mine tomorrow (under the guise of a dentist appointment)
From all the talk of maternity clothes does everyone have a bump now? Mine seems to have appeared overnight; didn't want to tell work until January so going to have lots of baggy outfits on parade!

adaloveslace Sun 01-Dec-13 22:36:59

Thanks Eliza - just waiting to go in now confused

ElizaB3 Sun 01-Dec-13 22:48:00

Good luck Ada! Let us know how you get on. (We are going to bed in this hemisphere!)

hackneybird Sun 01-Dec-13 22:58:47

Hi everyone. Lovely to hear about all the good scan results and happy endings!

I was at a wedding this weekend. It was nice except of course everyone around me was getting happily tipsy while I sat there yawning all day and night! Spookily, a woman asked me if I was pg as I was having a quick sit down on a sofa. I sort of fudged my response but she said. 'I'm a midwife and I knew you were as soon as I saw you - it's in the eyes! All pregnant women have the same look'. Very strange.

Still feeling shocking. Have Harmony result and 12 wk scan tomorrow morning - v nervous and just want to get it over with.

I find ASOS good for maternity - loads of choice.

superlambanana Sun 01-Dec-13 23:37:59

Spooky hackneybird! I saw some friends this morning - had to fudge responses about why I've barely been out the house for three weeks (they live next door so had noticed!). I'm sure they saw straight through me but didn't ask which I appreciated!

Eliza if I let my tummy expand to its full capacity I look about 7 months blush At normal position (!) it swells slightly but I think this must just be bloat. Surely I can't have a bump at 10wks with my first..?!

adaloveslace Mon 02-Dec-13 02:54:47

Just wanted to update after my post earlier. Unfortunately, the screening didn't go well. My bloods and nuchal measurement were all fine, but the baby's nasal bone is underdeveloped, so I have come back as very high risk for Downs, and less high risk (but still at risk) of Edwards.

For various reasons, we opted to have the cvs then and there, so I will know in a couple of days. I don't want to alarm anyone waiting for their scan, so I won't post any more here for now. Thanks Eliza for the well wishes.

jaykay987 Mon 02-Dec-13 05:48:05

Ada - FX for you

Super - I feel the same. DH keeps laughing my my unexpected early belly growth. I'm not yet finding it that funny! grin

Hackney - good luck at fmc today. Let us know how you get on!

Vickyvix Mon 02-Dec-13 06:59:56

Ada'fingers crossed it's just slightly slower growth and the results of CVS give you the all clear.

hackney good luck. fx for you.

I'm the same at the moment re bump. If I let everything expand I really do look about 5 months pregnant but if I suck it all in in have a bit low down that just doesn't budge anymore so maybe very beginning of a bump but not sure. Jeans are definitely tighter.

I looked online at some pics of bumps at 11/12 weeks and some were really obvious, some weren't. I don't really know when it's supposed to show.

jaykay987 Mon 02-Dec-13 07:15:39

I don't know either. I think every body handles it differently.

I'm hoping to get through most of January at work just by hoping people think ate too much over Christmas! grin

HannahC1989 Mon 02-Dec-13 07:45:08

Fingers crossed for you ada.
My little girl has woken up with a sickness bug this morning so im playing nurse whilst battling my own sickness. Thank heavens for dvds n cbeebies.
Have a good day everyone xxxx

cjbk1 Mon 02-Dec-13 07:46:04

thanks for the birthday wishes. I've got a flat tummy when lying down and a bloat when standing too, I don't see the funny side either and I'll have to but my own maternity scrub tops different from the last time I bought them again the alternative is to wear smelly old men's tops from the back of the cupboard which don't match anyone else's-no thanks shock

cjbk1 Mon 02-Dec-13 07:47:03

*fingers crossed for those in need wink

MarlenaGru Mon 02-Dec-13 08:26:23

Fingers crossed ada
Anyone not yet been to GAP, they have 40% off everything including sale today. I may have spent a small fortune on a load of trousers!

Redcliff Mon 02-Dec-13 08:41:56

Hi Ada - just wanting to send you the best of luck and I hope you get some positive news soon.

My clothes are getting much tighter. I have one of my bigger skirts on today which fitted perfectly last week and its digging into me. I have my official NHS scan on Wednesday so was planning on telling every one on Thursday but may buckle as really want to get into maternity clothes .

Am very impressed that someone is waiting till jan - no way my body would let me get away with that smile

littlepickly Mon 02-Dec-13 08:42:45

Fingers crossed for you Ada.

Ooh thanks Marlena I'm going to go in the GAP site now!! smile

I start my new job today - eek! Very strange feeling having been at my last job for 5 years.

Also have my 12 weeks scan tomorrow morning first thing - yippee!!

What an exciting week!

MTMD Mon 02-Dec-13 09:22:38

Morning all!

Anyone else 12wks and still feeling rotten?

I'm ever so sick this morning.. It's dh's bday but I so poorly he brought breakfast to me! And no home made cake for the first time in years... Argh when do we get better?!
All this talk about shopping made me realise I've not been to any shops for over two months! Where do you find the energy?

I'm at work, feeling awful. Had an ice lolly in order to get some fluid as water/juice/tea make me gag..

Sorry for a grumpy post!

Ada, I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you xx

hackneybird Mon 02-Dec-13 09:23:17

Ada very hoping everything is ok for you.

Am sitting waiting at FMC. Feeling VERY nervous.

Another one here that looks 5 months gone! It's my second but still.....it all feels like flab too. Never felt so porky in all my puff. smile.

Bumblebeesmum Mon 02-Dec-13 09:41:13

Ada really hope you get good news

Gilly - advice on hair dying is mixed some say avoid 1st trimester some say it's not a problem. It's more a problem if you're bleaching ie highlighting / going lighter than natural colour as there are more chemicals. My salon told me most packets are fine but there are some untested chemicals in some so they always say avoid T1. Who knows what is true! You must be close to T2 anyway?!

My hairs a mess & I know the (if any) risk is minimal, but as I'm 11 weeks I might aswell wait a week!

GinandStripes Mon 02-Dec-13 09:44:45

You are not alone MTMD 12 weeks today... feeling shocking! Have just been sick (sorry too much info, put your breakfasts down) but it came before I could unwrap myself from my blanket - so had to hold it in my mouth for a bit. fenvy

It was my boyfriends birthday last Monday, he also got no homemade cake, bought me breakfast in bed and even did some cleaning! But I did buy him a crate of Ale, so that kept him sweet!

PurpleCustard100 Mon 02-Dec-13 10:01:58

Scan this morning - theres's definitely a baby in there! Measured 13 weeks 3 days - so further than I though - EDD 6th June. Still results of bloods to come but so far so good. Phew! smile

MTMD Mon 02-Dec-13 10:06:09

Gin, you're my friend in misery! I'm either at work or in bed.. Nothing else exists!

Congrats Purple!! Scans are amazing, I've never seen anything more beautiful.. smile

adaloveslace Mon 02-Dec-13 10:10:08

Thanks everyone. The good wishes and support here and on the Antenatal tests and choices board are getting me through. thanks

MinaLeeds Mon 02-Dec-13 10:15:51

Good morning ladies! Had my most nauseous day yet yesterday. Even moving made me feel like throwing up! Poor DH had to clean the chicken coop, refill all the feeders and drinkers, hang up three loads of laundry, clean the kitchen and do some tidying in the living room while all I could do was reorganise movies and tv episodes on the house computer as it was the only job that we could think of that didn't involve bending or moving! I'm feeling quite a bit better today though which is great as I have a crap day of work ahead of me. Need to make my way through a list of 300 or so manufacturing companies to ask beg them to fill out a survey about the state of manufacturing in the UK. They hear the word 'survey' and automatically switch off even before I've had the chance to explain it's a worldwide survey conducted by universities as part of this massive research project etc etc. So frustrating! :sad:

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 10:29:42

Having a very strange day so far... I barely feel sick at all. Tiny bit if nausea but after four solid weeks of throwing up this is a massive improvement!

Of course this means that I'm stressing hugely that something is wrong with the baby, and also about going back to work...

Super I feel completely the same. Been feeling awful with nausea from 4 - 11 weeks and now feel better. Instead of feeling happy, I'm so worried something is wrong.
Got my scan on Thursday, wish it was sooner! smile

Thinking of you Ada.
Fab news purple smile

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 11:01:40

Oh hang on... I may have spoken too soon... sad

BEEwitched Mon 02-Dec-13 11:16:37

I'm keeping my fingers crossed for you, Ada!

Re: hair dyeing, I've heard the opposite, highlights are fine but dye can be dicey. My German preggo books say hair dye is fine and they are really against being near any chemicals so I reckon it's bound too be ok. I stopped dyeing my hair in February but miss being ginger.

I can't complain about my tum, but unlike you svelte ladies I was a size 22/24 to start with. Normally have an hourglass figure though and that's definitely on the way out.

BEEwitched Mon 02-Dec-13 11:22:03

Oh, and my nausea and dizziness has gotten better but anything can still set me off - I just spent 5 minutes heaving because something in the kitchen smelled funny.

According to my Nuchal scan my EDD is the 26th of May now so this is week 15 but it doesn't really tally with my positive opk.

GinandStripes Mon 02-Dec-13 11:32:36

WELL! I order a coat from ASOS in a size 14. I could hold a party in there!

hackneybird Mon 02-Dec-13 11:37:27

All went well this morning - low risk for everything 1:10,000. Baby bouncing around and totally fine, according to my dates I'm supposed to be 12+2 but they now say I am exactly 13 weeks today and moved my EDD forward to 9th June.

jaykay987 Mon 02-Dec-13 11:58:25

Yay Hackney - that's great.

twinsmonplusone Mon 02-Dec-13 12:02:06

Hi ladies, can I join you?

My EDD is June 10th, and this is my third pregnancy.

I had identical twins the first time, than terminated the second pregnancy as embryo had chromosomal problems, so this time I'm more nervous than before!

I did the 12 week scan last week and everything looks fine, but as I had a bad experience the last time, we decided to do the Panorama test too (only one available in Johannesburg, South Africa). Still waiting for the results.

CleverOl10 Mon 02-Dec-13 12:17:22

Hi all. Feeling quite down today. Am 12+5 but getting worse not better. Today I had to take my first sick day off work since getting pregnant. I have the worst headache. Still in bed at midday and struggling to open my eyes. Definitely can't sit up or even consider eating. Hardly ate yesterday as felt so nauseous. I'm well aware that the headache is probably the result of hardly eating but it feels like a vicious circle. I have my scan tomorrow so am hoping to talk to someone about how rough I feel though not sure what can be done to change it. I feel like staying in bed for the next 6 months sad

Sorry for the moan!

HannahC1989 Mon 02-Dec-13 12:33:30

Excellent news hackneybird. Were due the same day xxxx

hackneybird Mon 02-Dec-13 12:51:20

Hey Hannah

Moan away clever, it's what this thread is for! Do you think you could force something down? It would help with your nausea (mine gets worse when I haven't eaten properly) AND headache I think.

Liquidambar Mon 02-Dec-13 13:10:45

Hi ladies.

I'm away with Dh and didn't have the chance to catch up properly. glad to hear about all the positive scans.

My bump is definitely bigger this time (I was hoping the airline would upgrade me for business but they didn't notice my bump at all)

Flying back home tomorrow and my scan is on Thursday morning.

I've been feeling some "pressure"/titnings on my uterus. I'm not s ure whether it's because it's expanding or it's the first Bh caused by a lot of walking. But it seems to early for the BH.

ada thinking of you.

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 13:14:07

Welcome twins smile

MTMD Mon 02-Dec-13 14:49:30

I'm still spotting... :/ I looked through the blood test results from A&E and there's an increase in white blood cells.. My understanding is that this indicates infection, right? So how come no one looked for the source..? I just worry that there might something wrong with my cervix, infection, perhaps? They asked me about smear tests and sti screening but no one thought of taking a peek..? I was seen by gyneo registrar after all..

Any other girls with bleeding, did they check your cervix..?

BEEwitched Mon 02-Dec-13 16:35:58

MTMD, they never did and I really don't understand why. It's all very hands off, isn't it?

I hope things settle down, did they tell you to rest?

CleverOl10 Mon 02-Dec-13 17:01:06

Thanks Hackney.

Slept til 4 and managed to get out of bed without being sick. Gave in and took paracetamol and headache easing. Have even managed chocolate milk and grapes. Unorthodox but food nonetheless! Starting to get a little excited about scan tomorrow.

I bled with my last pregnancy and they never examined me at all. hope it clears up for you.
I'm having terrible insomnia but am so tired. I managed a whole day at school and only threw up once, remarkable as I couldn't move for the last couple of days.
Dh is working late this week so I have the added fun of trying to put to bed a grumpy, teething toddler. confused

MTMD Mon 02-Dec-13 17:53:26

BEE, strange, isn't it? Lots of websites are pointing finger at cervix inflammation which is caused by a number of infections. they also say this shouldn't be left untreated due to potential risks.. I'm so baffled, nhs doctors seem to have an aversion to female bits!!

Welcome Twins.
Liquid I have my scan on Thursday too! Wish it was tomorrow as so worried something not right

Vickyvix Mon 02-Dec-13 18:51:09

MTMD They did check my cervix when I went to A&E the other week with bleeding. They did a full on check like a smear with the speculum(?) thing and then went right in there 'manually' with fingers too!!! (sorry TMI but it has implanted on my memory!)

I'm afraid I don't know what increased white blood cells means, but if you are worried maybe call your midwife or GP and ask them to book you in for a check?

Be reassured though that I had spotting for a good few days after the bleed, I think it takes a while for everything to come out if that makes sense.

Great news hackney

Welcome twins

WifeofGru Mon 02-Dec-13 18:52:24

Had scan today which all looked as it should. Nasal bone seen. Nuchal thickness around 1mm so when combined with bloods, risk of trisomy 21 1:5000 and risk of trisomies 13/18 1:7000. Have the option of the fetal DNA test, but I am happy to accept the odds from the combined NT and bloods, and don't want a week of low level anxiety waiting for the results. Very, very happy and relieved. EDD now 18/6/14. Sooooo exciting. finally feel I can exercise a bit and relax knowing that all looks well.

Ada good luck with your CVS results.

Good luck everyone with scans, blood results this week.

hackneybird Mon 02-Dec-13 19:22:45

Lovely news gru.

Anyone else here not feeling fussed about telling everyone? I don't know why but I really don't want to make any big announcements. I've been quite enjoying no one knowing.

I feel a bit self conscious about being 40. Maybe that's it.

Vickyvix Mon 02-Dec-13 19:27:15

Yey, great news wife you must be very relieved.

This might be a daft question, but do you get results there and then at nuchal scan on NHS? I had bloods taken at booking and have my scan next week, but midwife mentioned taking bloods on the day too. Just wondering if you get the news there and then, some posts suggest you do and some suggest a wait.

Magpie78 Mon 02-Dec-13 19:47:42

Hi Vix they do it all the same day and then if all ok you get a letter in a couple of weeks and if they need to look at things you get a call in a couple of days. Hope that helps. smile

WifeofGru Mon 02-Dec-13 19:54:15

Vicky not sure about NHS. I had finger prick bloods done 10 days beforehand to look at free beta hcg and PAPP A and these were used to give me the result today.

hackney we haven't told anyone yet and are going to wait til after Christmas as we are overseas and will wait to tell everyone in person. I know what you mean about it being our little news for now. We are going to tell DDs the week before Christmas. With my second we didn't tell DD1 till I was 20 weeks although she was only 3. She turned 6 last week so we will tell her at the end of school term so that she is around us every day to ask any questions that pop into her little mind. DD2 is only 2.3 so I don't think she'll really get it.

seatfor5 Mon 02-Dec-13 19:56:43

Vicky My MW said that as i have had the bloods taken 2 weeks before I should get it on the day fsmile I think it does depend on when you had the bloods done.

ADA Good luck with your results please dont feel you shouldn't post here - I am sure there will be a few of us that come across troubles along the way and we are all here to get each other through xx

Lovely news about the other results fsmile

CleverOl10 Mon 02-Dec-13 20:11:41

Advice needed. Just had a small bleed. Was really badly constipated and (sorry tmi) pushing for ages. After I'd been I wiped and thought it was from the back but it wasn't. It was really watery red. Stopped now but will check again in a minute. I have my scan at 11am tomorrow. Do I wait til then and tell them or panic now? sad

superlambanana Mon 02-Dec-13 20:25:56

Are you sure it wasn't from the back Clever? Sorry if that's a stupid question but I've been mistaken before! If it's only a small amount and has stopped then I'd try not to worry (I know that's probably not helpful, sorry!). I'm sure it will be fine but have a hand hold thanks You will more than likely see your wiggly baby tomorrow morning smile

CleverOl10 Mon 02-Dec-13 20:32:05

Thanks super. Yes sure not from back. Checked a lot! My gut says to just wait and see what tomorrow brings. Will keep checking and if it starts again or gets heavy might act sooner but not sure what difference 12 hours will make. sad

Vickyvix Mon 02-Dec-13 20:40:13

Thanks for the help re nuchal results ladies.

clever if it's just a small amount and has stoppe I would wait until tomorrow (I know that is easier said than done). If it starts again or get heavy then you could always go and get checked out. It's so worrying when it happens but please do be reassured that it sounds quite common in first trimester, especially when everything is so sensitive down there. They say 1/3 of women experience bleeds in first trimester so try not to worry too much. But, if it gets worse there's no harm in getting checked in my view.

Very best of luck for your scan tomorrow I really hope you get to see your happy healthy baby bouncing around.

MarlenaGru Mon 02-Dec-13 20:41:39

Congrats wifeof
Hopefully it is nothing clever they probably won't do much before tomorrow anyway. Definitely easier said than done!

Magpie78 Mon 02-Dec-13 20:46:51

Hi Clever have read somewhere that this can happen when you strain as all the blood vessels in your nethers are really engorged. If it doesn't happen again I wouldn't worry too much but mention it tomorrow for sure. thanks

MTMD i had a lot of bleeding with 2nd pregnancy and got lots of internal examinations and very similar to smear test. They wanted to check my cervix. They never did find out what all the bleeding was for.
I thought I was getting over the complete exhaustion but been wiped out tonight.
Night ladies, wishing everyone with scans tomorrow well.

jaykay987 Mon 02-Dec-13 21:00:54

I can't remember who asked.....(or if it was on this thread).

But I handed my maternity prescription exemption form into the gp 22nd Nov. I got my card today. So just a little over a week.

It's official...I might topple over. Gone up a back size and two cup sizes. I was big before....Ive just crossed the line into 'cartoon'!!smile I hope that's it now - no more growth spurts FX!

Magpie78 Mon 02-Dec-13 21:08:13

I feel your pain jayKay started off as a 36e and now am a 42f! I officially have comedy knockers......

MTMD Mon 02-Dec-13 21:23:58

Then do a separate blood test on a scan day as part of screening for dawns.

I think I'll see if my spotting settles over the next few of days. If not, my scan is on Friday, I might speak to somebody at hospital about getting my cervix checked out..

Clever, I did so much reading about bleeding in pregnancy, looks like it happens to lots of women and if you feel ok otherwise (no cramps, etc), I think you're probably fine! Good luck with your scan tomorrow!!

SicknSpan Mon 02-Dec-13 21:56:05

Lol at comedy knockers! I am a bit worried about mine as although my chest is expanding its only one of them- happened last time too and I was very uneven throughout pregnancy and bfing (until ds2 was 2) = bloody ages.

Glad to hear of positive scans and screening results. Positive vibes to ada and all having a testing time.

14+2 today. Sickness might be easing a bit and have actually managed to eat a proper meal today. Jacket spud and prawn mayo. Lush!

ElizaB3 Mon 02-Dec-13 22:06:09

Ada would like to second what Seat said earlier; don't feel like you can't post here; it's for sharing all the ups & downs not just the sugar-coated bits. Hope you get the results you need.

My scan was today; it was very wriggly & now dating 13 weeks exactly.
Like others (reassuringly) I have a huge bloated bump, but when I breathe in it won't fully disappear now, something's growing!

Hackney I know what u mean about telling people; once its out, it's out! But guess it can't stay secret for ever...

Mitchell2 Mon 02-Dec-13 22:12:46

grin comedy knockers. I no longer feel like I'm abnormal. I've gone up to 34f now and had to find some crop tops to wear to bed, a) so they don't lag behind when I turn over and b) to ensure my DP does get his mitts on them. This is my first and I fear how large they will get. The crop tops I have a nice soft M&S ones which I recommend.

clever I second what magpie said re what the bleed could be as I know someone who this happened to (who freaked out!) keep an eye and as others said wait until tomorrow if doesn't happen again.

hackney I've started to tell people and it just feels weird and still not real.

ada good luck.

jaykay987 Mon 02-Dec-13 22:46:36

The Asda £6 bra tops are really good for sleeping I find. (Great price too).

hackneybird Mon 02-Dec-13 22:58:22

eliza I was dated exactly 13 weeks today too!

mitchell totally giggling at your crop top tales 'so they don't lag behind '. Brilliant.

I think I'm reluctant to tell anyone because my mum doesn't know yet. I'm dreading telling her because she WILL say something tactless about my being pregnant at age 40. Oh well - going to have to grow up and do it soon!

Night night all.

CleverOl10 Mon 02-Dec-13 23:13:42

Thanks to you all for the reassurance. I've had no more blood, not even spotting since the first bit so am guessing that it was just over straining that caused an issue blush

So nervous for scan tomorrow but also can't wait as if no when all is well it will seem more real and I will be able to relax more.

Night all xx

Redcliff Mon 02-Dec-13 23:34:44

Hey hackney - I am 42 so know what you mean. Told one on the women I work with and she asked my age and then went on to tell her horrific birth story - thanks for that . But she was also very lovely and pleased for me and it does make it more real.

Hi everyone, wondered if I might join you? Have hardly ventured on to mumsnet of late but am now 14 weeks with dc3 grin Had my first scan couple of weeks ago and would be great to talk to others going through the same stuff. None of my other friends in rl are pregnant just now and im feeling a bit out on a limb! look forward to chatting to you all, xxx

blush just realised you are all on thread number 5!!!! sorry to have just barged in when you are all familiar with each other! apologies. (goes to the back of the class to read quietly and catch up!) x

panicmechanic Mon 02-Dec-13 23:54:07

Welcome pussycatmomma!

Red cliff and hackney - I am 42 also know what you mean!

CleverOl10 Tue 03-Dec-13 00:02:48

Welcome pussycat! Feel free to barge.....we're all friendly in here. grin

GinandStripes Tue 03-Dec-13 00:16:15

As clever just said, feel free to barge in pussycat and welcome.

Tell me people... Maternity jeans... How the chuff do I keep them up? Do I need to invest in braces? Not sure the comedy breasts would accommodate a set of those!

WifeofGru Tue 03-Dec-13 01:39:58

Welcome pussycat

gin they take a bit of growing into. Then you go through a stage where they fit perfectly, then by the end of pregnancy everything is uncomfortable!!

Magpie78 Tue 03-Dec-13 06:03:03

Morning all & Hello pussycat! gina get down that patent office......maternity braces with built in breast harnesses...lol

MarlenaGru Tue 03-Dec-13 06:18:49

I'd buy some of those magpie

Morning ladies. Welcome pussycatdoll.
Good luck today Clever, so jealous, I've still got til Thursday!! So impatient smile

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 06:49:19

Hackney, I know what you mean about telling people.. I wouldn't mind holding on to it a little longer, after all last weekend proved my deepest fears that pregnancy is such a fragile state... and I'm guessing it doesn't feel absolutely real until you start feeling the kicks perhaps?

Anyway DH is desperate to tell his family (I'm really impressed he managed this far, his brother told everyone the day his wife tested positive). And I sort of want to rectify myself as I've been a really rubbish daughter/sister/friend recently by ignoring everyone's messages, suggestions to meet up, etc I know my mum will be pleased, she's been saying 'i want to be a grandma!' for ages, but I'm still worried about telling her.. No idea why?!!

littlepickly Tue 03-Dec-13 06:56:11

Morning! Scan day today! Hope all goes well scan buddy Clever - what time is yours?

Welcome pussycat smile

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 07:07:18

I think once people know you're pregnant, your body becomes a little less yours.. Does it make sense?

Good luck with today's scans you lucky souls! smile

Redcliff Tue 03-Dec-13 08:48:42

Hi pussycat and welcome! I only joined in this weekend and feel one of the gang already. Happy scan day for those going in today. So glad I am not the only 40 something on here.

Have a stressful day ahead at work just when I should be avoiding stress.
Do however have tomorrow off so will focus on that instead.

Vickyvix Tue 03-Dec-13 08:57:15

Good luck pickly and clever

Welcome pussycat good to have you on board

And congrats on your scan eliza

Am off to an event today where I need to avoid drinking, wish me luck!

CleverOl10 Tue 03-Dec-13 09:09:13

Hi Pickly, mine is at 11.10 so having a little lie in and trying to decide whether or not to pee now then drink lots or try to hold it! Oh the strange joys of pregnancy.

On the plus side still no more blood so really doubting it was serious.

When is your scan Pickly?

littlepickly Tue 03-Dec-13 09:30:35

Hi all,

Sorry to bring sadness but I'm afraid there was no heartbeat at our 12 week scan today hmm It seems like baby stopped growing at around 9 weeks.

We are very sad but also matter of fact in that it was just not meant to be and also very grateful for our lovely DD - I can't imagine how people cope with this first time around.

It's a very surreal feeling and quite a shock but we will be ok.

Thanks for all the wonderful chat on here and wishing you all the very very best for super fabulous pregnancies smile

CleverOl10 Tue 03-Dec-13 09:31:39

So so sorry to hear that Pickly. Sending you thoughts and best wishes. sad

Mitchell2 Tue 03-Dec-13 09:42:47

so sorry to hear that prickly thanks

Mitchell2 Tue 03-Dec-13 09:44:38

pickly not prickly blush

wispaxmas Tue 03-Dec-13 09:48:21

Magpie, how can you go from a 36 to 42 band size?! Surely your rib cage can't possibly expand that much. I've heard most women go up a single band size, are you sure you're not more like a 38GG? I've stayed my normal bra size so far, but my sister assures me this won't be the case when the milk comes in. But then, I'm already a 34HH, so I'm with you on the comedy knockers front.

pussycat welcome!

prickly, I'm so so so sorry, but very impressed with your outlook. Good luck in future, and I hope you get another sticky one soon.

wispaxmas Tue 03-Dec-13 09:48:45

Pickly! autocorrect, sorry.

SicknSpan Tue 03-Dec-13 09:51:27

Oh Pickly I'm so sorry to hear that. You sound very brave. Hope you recover in all respects thanks

Welcome to pussycat- I'm on no. 3 too, there are a few of us with a couple of dc already. There is a list somewhere- most up-to-date maybe towards the end on the last thread- ad yourself on to our merry throng!

Am unerringly emotional at the moment- just blabbed over the anchor spread advert. Silly moo.

Good luck all with scans x

SicknSpan Tue 03-Dec-13 09:53:24

Unerringly emotional? Not sure what that was supposed to say but it wasn't unerringly.

superlambanana Tue 03-Dec-13 09:56:04

I'm so sorry pickly thanks

cheesysmile Tue 03-Dec-13 10:14:07

Oh pickly im so so sorry flowers

Not been posting much recently mainly coz I've just been feeling so poorly. Finally gave in and have taken a couple of days off work to rest which I think is what I need. Feeling better than I was and got a full nights sleep last night for first time in what seems like weeks.

Was wondering those who have gone up bra sizes did you get measured somewhere or just try a few on?

We've told most people now but there is still something surreal about it all. I think I need a proper bump for it to really sink in!

LadyGoneGaga Tue 03-Dec-13 10:34:46

I'm so, so sorry Pickly. I think missed mc's are particularly cruel. I hope that everything is as straightforward as it can be and give your little girl lots of extra cuddles for the next few weeks. Take care thanks

I have both kids home today with cough/colds and one with toothache as well. I will be fearing for my sanity by the end of the day!

BEEwitched Tue 03-Dec-13 10:35:37

Pickly, I'm so sorry to hear that - take care of yourself.

Welcome to the fold pussycat!

Sick, I spent most of the weekend crying, it's better now but I'm still overly emotional.

I have both my work Christmas dos this week which will be weird because I've been off sick since the end of October. I just hope I don't fall asleep halfway through.

Oh, and I need new bras, desperately, I was a 42G to start with and I can't stand wired bras anymore!

GinandStripes Tue 03-Dec-13 10:56:34

Oh Pickly I'm so sorry - thanks

hackneybird Tue 03-Dec-13 11:15:01

Pickly my deepest commiserations. I have had 2 mmcs. One before DS and one after and they were both very sad experiences. Wishing you a speedy recovery.

Welcome pussycat.

noseymcposey Tue 03-Dec-13 13:02:02

So, so sorry to hear that Pickly. You do sound very brave, I hope you have some time to take care of yourself xx

I haven't posted for a couple of threads as just been feeling tooo ill. Have had a coughing virus and now bronchitis but it's been going on for weeks and weeks and I've pulled all the muscles in my back from coughing and have just generally been proper miserable!

However, it's nice catching up with all your news. We were talking about maternity leave (about 10 pages ago now!) and I went off 3 weeks before due date with DS BUT as is relatively normal for a first went 2 weeks over so ended up being at home for 5 weeks and was bored. Not sure what I'd do this time...

Had my 12 week scan, and my EDD is now 7th June. I have an exam on the 6th June and my birthday is the 8th.... Going to be a busy week! I thought I'd timed trying to miss my exam date but totally forgot that you are already 4 weeks pg when you get your BFP so cocked that one right up! Also did not expect to get pg on the first go after it took 9 months with DS blush In reality I think I'll need to withdraw from my course which is such a shame.

CleverOl10 Tue 03-Dec-13 13:14:54

Hi all. My scan went really well. A very wriggly baby! Had EDD changed by one day to 10 June.

Unfortunately on the way home got the call to say DS is being sick so now got two days of poorly child. Not great when I'm so sickly too. We'll be sharing the sick bowl!

Riblet Tue 03-Dec-13 14:29:32

Hello all, can I join you? Been lurking for a couple of days but didn't want to post until I'd had my 12 week scan yesterday. Was a little worried because most of my symptoms had practically disappeared and I had started to think the worst or maybe that I'd dreamt it all, but the scan confirmed that there is a healthy baby 2 healthy babies in there shock One thing I was NOT expecting was twins! Over the moon but still not taken it all in yet. Due date has been changed from 15th to 11th June but as the sonographer said, with twins things like dates go out of the window!

Sorry to hear of those with bad news, take care all.

superlambanana Tue 03-Dec-13 14:34:49

Wow Riblet, I bet that was a surprise! Congratulations smile

Great news Clever smile

noseymcposey Tue 03-Dec-13 14:39:07

Double congratulations Riblet! Will they be your first/second? Are they identical/non identical? Twins is very exciting news, although a little daunting I expect!

Riblet Tue 03-Dec-13 14:49:56

Thank you both! Yep, this is my first pregnancy. Apparently they have separate sacs so although more likely to be non-identical but there's a possibility they could be identical. Very exciting but I keep having minor panics when I realise what we'll need, like a buggy the size of a 747. Nah, will be fine I'm sure, just need to do a lot of research and preparation!

Any other multiples on here? Haven't spotted anyone mention it but have only skimmed some pages.

Nosey - sorry to hear you've been ill, and about your exam. Will you be able to retake it or redo the course? I'm thinking about mat leave too as I told my boss today (he was almost more excited than me!) - don't want to go too early and 'waste' it but also likely to be huge and knackered earlier plus as I said, they could arrive at any time so not sure when to go. Think we'll just have to see how it goes.

GinandStripes Tue 03-Dec-13 14:52:10

oooh Riblet Welcome and What news! Do twins run in your family?

Clever yay for good scan but boo for sick DS. x

WifeofGru Tue 03-Dec-13 14:56:59

So so sorry pickly

nosey wait and see about your course. I had an exam 12 days after my DD1 was born and somehow managed to sit and pass it. I made up my mind that it would be easier revising before she was born and would be so much harder resitting and studying with a four month old. I did as much prep as I could before she was born and hoped that she wasn't born the day before or day of the exam. Thankfully she arrived 12 days before and I did a very minimal amount of work in those last days before the exam. exam was 90 minutes so was able to get up early feed and let DH walk with her til after the exam was over.

WifeofGru Tue 03-Dec-13 14:59:01

Welcome riblet I think you are the first on the thread with twins. How exciting/daunting!!

SarahAnderson Tue 03-Dec-13 15:15:06

Wow. WifeofGru that is really impressive stuff.

Riblet Tue 03-Dec-13 15:16:58

Thanks Gin and Gru! Nope, no twins at all on either side, which is partly why it came as such as shock! Always loved the idea of twins but never thought I'd have them, nor properly considered of the reality of it, agghhhrrr! wink

Riblet Tue 03-Dec-13 15:18:19

I agree with Sarah - wow! That takes some dedication Gru!

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 15:22:53

Riblet, double c

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 15:25:35


Double congratulations! We have twins running in both sides of family so DH was very hopeful (he's a twin himself and they have a wonderful relationship) but its one baby and a huge relief for me. Having said that, MIL always says twin were much easier than a single baby!!

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 15:26:41

Twinsssss smile

Riblet Tue 03-Dec-13 16:11:59

Haha, thanks MTMD - maybe next time for you then eh?! wink I'd love it if twins were easier than one, although never having had one I doubt I'll really know the difference!

BEEwitched Tue 03-Dec-13 16:34:26

Riblet, welcome and double congratulations!!!

hackneybird Tue 03-Dec-13 17:07:16

riblet welcome, and that is just lovely.

I have heard from mums of twins I know that it is hard in the very early years, but once they get to toddlerhood and beyond it is suddenly much easier than a singleton, as they are ready made playmates for each other, instead of YOU having to be the playmate all the time.

And I suppose it takes the pressure off of having to decide whether you are going to have another.....it took me three years to be brave enough to take the plunge a second time!

wispaxmas Tue 03-Dec-13 17:14:57

nosey, completely pointless, but we have the same birthday grin

wispaxmas Tue 03-Dec-13 17:17:56

Aww, riblet, congratulations! I secretly hoped for twins, but just a singleton here. I don't think we have any other confirmed multiples, but there are plenty of 12 wk scans yet to come! Anything could happen!

BEEwitched Tue 03-Dec-13 17:24:41

Wispa, you have probably made several of the ladies still waiting for their scans really nervous! grin

superlambanana Tue 03-Dec-13 17:39:27

I've actually said to DH that I'd love twins (partly because I we only want two children and then I'd only have to go through pregnancy once!). I am secretly hoping..!!!

MarlenaGru Tue 03-Dec-13 17:42:35

thanks pickly

Congratulations to cheesy and double to riblet
Had an awful dream last night so was awake from 3 and have no idea how I survived work. I canmt wait to feel less tired and therefore more productive!

SarahAnderson Tue 03-Dec-13 18:32:57

Anyone else crazy for citrus fruit? I cannot get enough. Apples, pears, mandarins...

Bumblebeesmum Tue 03-Dec-13 18:43:17

Riblet a lot of things are genetics & a lot are luck. A friend of mine had dream babies (slept loads cried rarely etc) & when they had no 3 that turned out to be number 3 & 4...they got another 2 dream babies that slept through.

Some will get babies that have colic or problems etc & some will be up every half hour & feel dead after a few weeks.

It's all luck of the draw but don't let people scare you in to thinking it will necessarily be twice as hard....

That said - going out is hard as carrying baby seats in are bloomin heavy & it's not like you can go in & leave one etc. lady at my baby group has twins & texts for assistance when she arrives - where there's a will there's a way!

I'm still feeling absolutely horrendous & am pretty much living in bed at the moment - hoping it has to pass soon!!

MarlenaGru Tue 03-Dec-13 19:12:00

My DD was a non sleeper and it was hell but I have friends with twins who got loads more sleep than us. It is total luck. Also never make the mistake of thinking your second will be the same as the first! A few friends who gloated with dream first babies had a stiff dose of reality with their seconds!

Mitchell2 Tue 03-Dec-13 19:17:01

Hello to the newcomers, and very jealous of twins! Sorry to hear those who are feeling crap still.

Preggo rage today big time. If one more person tells me that 'I'm going to change' and become some earth mother I am going to scream. I am having a child not a bloody lobotomy. Yes my priorities are going to change, as would anyone who had a major life changing event but I'm still the same person. At least i don't have people talking to me and just looking at the bump... I feel for the poor soul who does that first.... angry.

Redcliff Tue 03-Dec-13 19:19:04

I am loving fruit at the moment - apples are a clear favourite at the mo which is most unlike me.

noseymcposey Tue 03-Dec-13 19:24:15

Am very impressed WifeOfGuru with you doing an exam 10 days after baby's arrival ! I was ok when I thought I might have a week between exam and due date but with revised EDD it's bit to close for comfort. If I defer, I restart the course October 2014 so that is an option as we're not that far into it. It's a 3 hour exam as well.. not sure I could stay awake for 3 hours with a very newborn!!

I do hope that second babies aren't like first! DS (2.7) is easy peasy now but was very 'high needs' as a baby. I.e. permanently attached and wanted to feed for what felt like 23 out of every 24 hours and was still waking every 3 hours at 1 yo when I was back at work. It's been worth it though as since turning 1 he's been very low maintenance. But a better sleeper would be very welcome! Judging by pregnancy though, this one is giving me far more trouble than DS did!

Feel your pain Mitchell! I remember getting very very bored of talking about pregnancy/babies as especially once I started to show it was all anyone wanted to talk to me about and I remember thinking I AM NOT JUST AN INCUBATOR!

MTMD Tue 03-Dec-13 19:32:27

Sarah, I'm eating raw cranberries... O_o

CleverOl10 Tue 03-Dec-13 19:50:40

Lots of grapes here!

Eugh tell you what a pregnant woman doesn't need. Toddler vomit down the cleavage. sad

AuntPittypat Tue 03-Dec-13 20:10:08

Ew, Clever! And a bigger cleavage means more places for it to get stuck!

Welcome Riblet, and wow, what a way to make an entrance! Lovely news! I'm another one who secretly would have been thrilled with twins too.

And now that I've told work and some friends/family my news, could someone please add me to the Facebook group? I was too paranoid to join until I'd started to tell people in case there's someone I know on there! I can't remember who I need to pm...

WifeofGru Tue 03-Dec-13 20:30:06

mitchell totally agree. I find other female work colleagues the worst for this... I think it often stems from a bit of competitiveness mixed with some well meaning advice.
Speaking of which, is it bad that I secretly can't wait for someone to ask if this is my first so they can dole out baby advice and then I can smile sweetly and say, 'no, my third'
That's bad isn't it?!?

Vickyvix Tue 03-Dec-13 20:38:41

Oh pickly I'm so sorry to hear your news. Look after Each other and very best of luck for the future thanks

Vickyvix Tue 03-Dec-13 20:40:52

clever congrats on your scan

Welcome riblet twins is fab news!!!

I'm totally on to the fruit thing, can't stop eating bananas, pineapple and oranges - in fact I've gone off quite a lot of food (all the stoggy beige food no longer appeals) but the fruit is so tasty!

Pickly so so sorry for your loss, it sounds heartbreaking.

Welcome riblet and what fab news. I have twin nieces who are now 20 and I always remember they amused each other when they were little and would sit and play for ages without the need for anyone else. Think the very early days will be intense but then hopefully you will get the rewards of 2.

Liquidambar Tue 03-Dec-13 20:47:06

So sorry Pickly flowers

Glad to hear about the other scans and the twins smile

My scan is Thursday morning and starting to feel anxious about it... But just one more day at work (and what a day!).

Back from my lovely weekend in Dubai, but glad to be home. DS stayed home with my mum, granny and aunty and apparently was a little star! grin shock (he's very demanding with us)

CarrotCakeMuffins Tue 03-Dec-13 21:18:24

So sorry to hear your news Pickly, look after yourself & allow yourself time to recover. Sending you thanks.

I have an Appointment in the obstetrics clinic tomorrow with 'a consultant or senior midwife'. I think it's because I has a c section last time, but I have no idea what to expect.

Best wishes for any scans tomorrow.

MinaLeeds Tue 03-Dec-13 22:13:19

My scan is now 36 hours away. So nervous! Excited...but nervous.

Mitchell2 Tue 03-Dec-13 22:27:44

Just saw that your scan was ok clever (we are a talkative bunch!) congrats

BEEwitched Tue 03-Dec-13 23:01:39

Our grocery order tonight consisted to 80% out of fruits and fruit juice. Can't wait to make a ginormous bowl of fruit salad tomorrow.

We're both really thirsty all the time but we've from a really damp and clammy house to a really dry and modern one with great energy rating so I think it's the change in humidity. But I just don't like anything but fruit juice (maybe diluted with some sparkling water) at the moment.

superlambanana Tue 03-Dec-13 23:27:58

There are worse things to crave BEEwitched!

My scan is a week and a half away. I am utterly terrified. I think I'm expecting the worst and I don't know why, and it's really starting to stress me out. sad

Vickyvix Tue 03-Dec-13 23:32:17

super I'm getting anxious too, I think it's normal to feel like this. I can't remember if it's your first or not? It is for me and everything is so unknown and I struggle with not knowing it will be ok etc.

I'm Just trying to keep busy and wish the days away.

I'm so scared I will get bad news as have not really had morning sickness which seems really unusual based on this thread. Midwife says it is ok but it's freaking me out!

Statistically the odds are in your favour so try and stay positive and keep busy to make time go quicker - easier Sao than done I know!

Vickyvix Tue 03-Dec-13 23:33:39

Err Sao = said

jaykay987 Wed 04-Dec-13 05:49:50

Twins? Congratulations!!

I'm still in the beige food stage.....can't wait to be able to manage some fruit! My bean must be getting very unhealthy!

FX for today's scans.

MTMD Wed 04-Dec-13 07:08:22


MTMD Wed 04-Dec-13 07:14:59

Morning all

Still in bed although I should be leaving in a minute.. Woke up with the headache so taking it easy this morning. But will do my best to make it in.

Brown/black spotting gave way to darkish blood yesterday night... Not much but... I really want someone to give me a proper gynaecological check, I'm so paranoid it's some kind of inflammation/infection that might travel all the way to the uterus or that my cervix is failing.. Annoyingly, I'm in between GPs so might ring mw and ask to see someone..? Not sure she'll understand, though, they're so hands-off-fannys here smile

Sorry to be repeating myself over and over!!

Good luck with scans today!! Lots of wriggly babies I hope! Xx

ElizaB3 Wed 04-Dec-13 07:50:48

MTMD - I wouldn't give up until you have the reassurance or answers you need, so I would call your MW, or if it were me would consider seeing someone privately. I know you shouldn't have to but I would see it as a good investment for peace of mind. (Look at how many of us pay for early scans!).

VickyVix - I haven't been sick once (sorry to those who have!), we are just very lucky to be in the 'don't have Morning sickness' minority!

Pickly - very sorry to hear your news, wish u luck for the future

GinandStripes Wed 04-Dec-13 07:51:28

I know I shouldn't laugh BUT "hands-off-fannys" is hilariously good.

ElizaB3 Wed 04-Dec-13 07:52:17

Hackney - So (just to confirm) you are due 9.6.14 too? smile

BEEwitched Wed 04-Dec-13 07:58:21

MTMD couldn't you give your old gp practice a call? When I told our community Midwife that I had moved she told me not to rush into changing GP and just come to her clinic still.

Definitely try and give your midwife a ring.

hackneybird Wed 04-Dec-13 08:09:50

Eliza yes I am! According to private scan place, anyway. Hope the hospital don't change it when I have my anomaly scan which will on or around 27th Jan.

hackneybird Wed 04-Dec-13 08:10:37

Anyone else have a scan today? I've lost track.

BEEwitched Wed 04-Dec-13 08:12:01

Super, does this mean I can forgot about the incident in Monday when I couldn't face eating dinner and then got up at 11pm because I was starving and baked some cookies?

CleverOl10 Wed 04-Dec-13 09:06:42

Argh just weighed myself and I've lost half a stone since getting pregnant. Normally I'd be dancing with happiness as am overweight and struggle to lose any but surely I should be putting it on right now?! Hmmmm. hmm

Good luck to anyone with scans today. grin

jaykay987 Wed 04-Dec-13 09:24:32

I wouldn't worry too much Clever. As long as you are not actively trying to reduce your eating in order to lose weight - I think it is fairly common for early weight loss in the first trimester especially given how faddy we all are with food and how sick people can be.

(In the meantime I am just jealous as the carb heavy beige diet I am currently sticking to is not being loved by my already overweight body!

Riblet Wed 04-Dec-13 09:43:16

Thanks all - slowly sinking in a bit more!

Good luck for your scans/appointments Liquid and Carrot. Super and Vicky - think it's natural to fear the worst, I know I did, but in all likelihood all will be fine. I wonder if 'thinking the worst' is a defence mechanism to protect us from being absolutely crushed if there is bad news? Vicky- I've read MS is often much worse with twins but I only had about 5 weeks of nausea and headaches and although that wasn't nice at all, I was only sick a couple of times and it had pretty much gone by week 11, so as Eliza says, it varies and some people are just lucky.

Saying that, the beige stodge is still featuring heavily in my diet, although fruit juice and fizzy water has definitely made an appearance and I can face normal meals and veg again. Can even be in the same room as a cup of coffee now, although still can't bring myself to drink it again yet. I did read something last night that made my day - apparently if you're BFing twins you should eat up to 4000 calories a day grin I suspect that's an exaggeration but would be nice to have a bit of help to lose what will no doubt be a fair amount of weight! Speaking of which, Clever - have you been sick in the early weeks? Anything else that could explain it? I don't think they expect you to gain until a bit later on but if you're losing for no reason might be worth seeing someone. A friend of mine lost about the same in her first 12 weeks purely because she'd stopped drinking wine, but then she did drink a fair bit!

MTMD, hope you manage to see you MW and all is well.

Sorry for the enormous post- things move fast on here!

CleverOl10 Wed 04-Dec-13 10:11:45

Weight loss definitely due to bad ms and no appetite. Hoping now I'm heading into second trimester things will improve but if weight loss continues will bring it up with mw. Thanks Rib.

superlambanana Wed 04-Dec-13 10:13:28

Vicky yes it's my first. If it makes you feel better none of my friends who have children had any ms at all lucky sods

I have mw appt today and now going to have to take dd with me. Not ideal as I'll be getting blood tests but my mil is ill and no-one else can help at such short notice. Just hope my 2yo whirlwind behaves.

Vickyvix Wed 04-Dec-13 11:02:56

Hope dd behaves drama

Thanks eliza and super it's good to know others have not had MS too. I feel like a bit of a fraud! But assuming all is ok in there I will also feel very lucky, it's just unnerving.

MTMD I would definitely speak with your midwife first to request a cervical check and if that fails book one with GP - don't give up until you have had one. It is understandable that you are concerned and especially since you have experienced bleeding they should be checking you out properly. It was pretty much the first thing they did at A&E for me. I'm also london bit guess different trusts do different things. Good luck.

So a colleague has come into work today coughing and spluttering everywhere, she sounds awful and says it is suspected bronchitis - I am trying to keep as far away as possible, I really want to go home to my nice germ free house!!!

ZingSweetPea Wed 04-Dec-13 11:05:59

morning all - just want to say I'm on the July bus and really jealous of you all!
I can't wait for scan and would love to see the back of the 1st trimester!

good luck with your scans!

CleverOl10 Wed 04-Dec-13 11:11:30

hey all. If anyone has the mothercare app (its free) there is a one day 50% off sale on change bags. I've ordered two as I couldn't decide blush

LadyGoneGaga Wed 04-Dec-13 11:23:01

AuntPittypat if you PM me your email address I can add you to the FB group. Also anyone else dithering about it, it is a completely secret group and won't show in any of your friends newsfeeds etc. It quite quiet at the mo but a good place to share photos/scans/bumps and babies of course later on.

Clever you are lucky, don't worry, you'll probs make up for it in the second trim when you are feeling better. Unfortunately the only thing that helps the all day nausea for me is all day grazing and so I have gained 10lbs already in 10 weeks. I really want to avoid the 5 stone gain that I managed last time if possible! Need to get out running again when tiredness/nausea eases.

Still 9 days until my scan. Boo. I need clearance to tell soon as bump is hard to disguise.

Emmazers Wed 04-Dec-13 11:25:11

So sorry pickly. Hope you're as ok as you can be right now x

Had an amazing weekend in Paris with my cousin, though I do wish I could have made the trip before getting pregnant because I did get very tired. I enjoyed it but spent a lot of time looking forward to seeing a sofa again!

It's all about the fruit around here too. My biggest craving at the moment is watermelon, which is really not easy to get at this time of year!

Definitely feeling less sick now - hooray! My scan is on 12th December. Can't wait! smile

Liquidambar Wed 04-Dec-13 11:33:30

less than 24 hours to my scan. I'm so anxious!
Having a hard day at work but hopefully everything will get better tomorrow after the scan.

for those who have told work about your pregnancy, how did you do it? emailed your line manager? Asked for a meeting? my line manager is so busy that I'm afraid she won't have time to see me anytime soon. telling work is not helping my anxiety either. I want to have a year maternity leave but I work in such a competitive environment where most people don't have children that it just seems wrong to ask for it.

adaloveslace Wed 04-Dec-13 12:09:33

Pickly, so sorry to hear your really sad news. I hope you're as okay as you can be after your loss. Be kind to yourself and when it gets rough, just put one foot in front of the other and remember to breathe.

Thanks everyone for the really kind good wishes (Seat and Eliza - thanks for being so lovely.)

I got my cvs results today after the longest, loneliest 48 hours in my life and I'm absolutely thrilled to say that the baby is perfectly healthy. No abnormalities at all were detected - and that's despite a 1 in 25 result for Downs from the NT, based on an underdeveloped nasal bone. I had my myself so totally convinced that there was a chromosomal issue, I sobbed and sobbed on the phone to the lady from the lab and made her repeat 'no abnormalities were found' back to me.

So if you have a bad feeling about your scan, please don't read too much into your 'intuition', because it's really just perfectly normal fear you're feeling. And a bad result on the NT scan is NOT a diagnosis. The older you are, the worse those figures are going to look - my 1 in 25 was purely based on my age (38) and the nasal bone. Everything else was fine but the computer is very intransigent.

Oh, and we also found out we're having a girl! grin

Have a great day everyone

Mitchell2 Wed 04-Dec-13 12:24:21

Great news ada - and hurrah for another little girl smile

Emmazers Wed 04-Dec-13 12:39:38

Ada that's so lovely and it made me cry! Really happy for you smile

superlambanana Wed 04-Dec-13 12:43:05

Lovely news Ada! Very happy for you smile

I'm having really strange dreams at the moment... A lot of horrible ones (eg someone trying to stab me and DH - nice) and then last night I dreamt that sonographer told us at the 12 week scan we were having a girl, even though we don't want to know!

Jessiebaba Wed 04-Dec-13 12:51:26

Vicky I've not had much MS either. I've not been sick at all and only had about 1 week of queasiness. I was never a big eater before (I weighed 7 stone when I got pg) so have learned to eat A LOT more and this seems to be keeping any sick feeling at bay. I totally understand why you're worried though - I'm the same. I just don't think I'll be able to relax until the first scan and (hopefully) can see that everything is OK. My scan isn't until 16th December though so it feels like ages to wait!! fsad

Cherryjellybean Wed 04-Dec-13 12:52:03

Ada that is brilliant!! So happy for you!

wispaxmas Wed 04-Dec-13 12:56:07

vicky, I'm in the