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June 2014: Thread 4: Making our way through the first trimester one day at a time!!!

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GillyBillyWilly Sat 09-Nov-13 10:42:45

Jump in this new thread to carry on the daily chit chat!!!!grin

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CleverOl10 Sat 09-Nov-13 11:02:26

ooh new thread! We are chatterboxes!grin

GillyBillyWilly Sat 09-Nov-13 11:03:37

Yes we are!

11 days til my scan... Woop woop grin

Emmazers Sat 09-Nov-13 11:05:36

Ooh isn't it roomy in here. Thanks Gilly smile

Yesterday was my worst day yet so far at 7+2. Stayed in bed with bucket nearby and headache all freaking day! Cheered up by pizza for dinner though. Terrible night's sleep again thanks to toddler nightmares but woke up feeling a lot better though.

We must have some folk coming up to their 12 week scans soon. How exciting! Who's first?

MarlenaGru Sat 09-Nov-13 11:09:22

Wow 12 week scans already!! Desperate for mine to hurry up.

I am starting to think I should do the harmony test. £400 is a lot of money but the added peace of mind is so appealing. I really want to be able to get excited about a baby!

MTMD Sat 09-Nov-13 11:11:37

Morning all!

Not feeling my very best this morning.. Sickness is back and funny tummy. Might end up in bed for most of the day..

GillyBillyWilly Sat 09-Nov-13 11:15:21

Has anyone got their 12 week scan this week coming??

LadyGoneGaga Sat 09-Nov-13 11:21:58

Nope, I've got my 7 week scan on Monday though!

Mitchell2 Sat 09-Nov-13 11:42:17

Morning all, feeling super crap today and have a 7 hour flight in store as I'm going away for work for a week. Never used a sick bag in my life but have the fear am going to need one today.

marlena I booked the panorama test which is similar to harmony, but can be done after 9 weeks not 10. I do it shortly after I get back from my trip. My scan is in a month - there was no way on earth I was gluing to wait that long!

wispaxmas Sat 09-Nov-13 12:00:02

Gilly, I have mine on Friday grin grin grin

In the car on the way to Essex for a wedding this afternoon, what crummy weather! Feeling stuffy and congested, but no nausea or anything, and I had a lovely lie in this morning, so hopefully I'll last the night!

GillyBillyWilly Sat 09-Nov-13 12:02:47

Oooooh wispa! I wonder if you're first smile

wispaxmas Sat 09-Nov-13 12:06:39

I might be, i'm only going to be 11+3 at the scan, though!

GillyBillyWilly Sat 09-Nov-13 12:19:52

Mine is on wed 20th and by my calculations I will only be 11+2!
So I'm very interested to see how yours goes on friday! I'm sure everything will be perfect smile
Not long to wait!

jaykay987 Sat 09-Nov-13 12:24:10

Ooh...twelve week scans. Super exciting.

I've booked harmony so will get a quick scan at 10w+3 and the nuchal at 12w+3. FX the results are ok, as we are getting them...........Christmas eve!

Anyone who's gone private.....did you cancel your nhs scan? I don't have a scan yet as think it will follow booking in on 22nd. I don't want to waste resources...nor have to make even more excuses to get out of work....but not sure how this goes down with the hospital. I want to have the baby there...so need to be on their register etc.

superlambanana Sat 09-Nov-13 12:34:55

X-posted with Gilly on last thread so I'll summarise:

Still feel sick.
DH out all day and eve.
House a tip and dog needs a bath.
Have a bump which is probably 0.01% baby and 99.99% food / bloat.

What's the Harmony test?

SicknSpan Sat 09-Nov-13 12:45:53

Hi all, hope things well. Just marking my place.

LadyGoneGaga Sat 09-Nov-13 12:54:02

Jaykay the NHS ask you to cancel if you have a private scan - they only do it for the due date and will take the report from your private one. Although they offer a nuchal it isn't compulsory.

I still don't have a date for my 12 week scan - I can't remember whether I have had a date through before booking in before or not?

hackneybird Sat 09-Nov-13 12:58:23

I'm 9 weeks today and I am feeling utterly shocking. Supposed to to be taking DS to a birthday party for one of his nursery pals but I don't think I can physically do it........

MTMD Sat 09-Nov-13 13:00:31

My scan is not until December and I'll be 12+5 then. Ughhh bring it on!!!!

Snowlet Sat 09-Nov-13 13:02:45

I'm craving a breakfast wrap that is only served in one cafe in Manhattan.... and it's driving me bonkers. I might try to recreate it, but it won't be the same.

Pregnancy is ridiculous.

thegruffalow Sat 09-Nov-13 13:03:59

Hi! I was directed here by the lovely Emmazers when i shared my news that i am pregnant.

i think i am 8 weeks and 5 days (but the pregnancy calculator thing re: first day of last period says i am 10 weeks and 2 days).

edd is either 2nd or 16th of June. my scan is on the 21st of November.

x

superlambanana Sat 09-Nov-13 13:16:44

Welcome gruffalow!

Hope everyone is enjoying the sunshine. My breakfast just decided it missed me and wanted to say hi again sad I think DH thinks I am overreacting / being pathetic...

I have decided to book a cleaner as I can no longer stand the mess!! My aim for today is to make a list of what needs to be cleaned and strike at least two things off it.

Hope all the other MS-suffering ladies are feeling okay!

Carks31 Sat 09-Nov-13 13:29:09

Hello all,

Can I tag along?

My due date is currently 18 June, so I'm 8+3. Dare I say it. . . I'm not suffering too much with nausea, but I've had a horrific cold for almost two weeks now that's showing no signs of shifting any time soon and has completely knocked me.

Got my booking appointment on 19 Nov which is when I'll be given my scan date. Bit of a worrier and this is my first, so I'm just wishing the days away until the scan so we can (hopefully) breathe a sigh of relief and start sharing our news. Only parents and 2 close friends know as of yet, and my line manager for some understanding that I'm not being soft by having 4 of the last 10 working days off sick with a cold and two mornings out this past month with cryptic doctors appointments about vague subjects! Luckily, I'm close with her and she's very understanding.

Oh, and anyone else crying at every fecking thing they watch/ hear/ read about?! I'm a wreck.

Emmazers Sat 09-Nov-13 14:09:39

Welcome Carks and Gruffalo! smile

Just so you know Gruffalo is yet another person who Gin and I know from the forum we met on 10 years ago. Must be something in the water wink

Bezzabelle Sat 09-Nov-13 14:14:30

Gilly, my scan is on 20th too! Ill be 12+1 I think.

CleverOl10 Sat 09-Nov-13 14:18:06

Still no scan date sad Had my booking appt on Wed and she said it would be in the post this week. I'm so impatient! 9+3 today so 12 weeks isn't that far off and I wanna know!

MarlenaGru Sat 09-Nov-13 14:18:22

Welcome newbies!

carks you are not alone. I sobbed my way through an insurance seminar recently. hmm

Penguin13 Sat 09-Nov-13 14:27:24

My 12 week scan is actually a just over 13 week scan on 22 Nov so 13 days to go but who's counting? Would rather have been closer to 12 weeks or earlier! but oh well. Quite looking forward to at least knowing there really is a baby in there and that I haven't just been imagining everything. I do have this irrational fear that they're going to tell me I've just been eating too many doughnuts or something smile

hackneybird Sat 09-Nov-13 14:32:31

Welcome Carks and Gruffalo.

Welcome Carks and Gruffalo.
I'm 8 weeks today, due date 19th June and been feeling awful. Yesterday was having terrible cramps and realised that had I not been pregnant I would be due my period so not sure if a coincidence with cramps.
Took ds to football this morning and got talking to another mum who turned out is also due her 3rd, feeling awful and has same due date!

Stacks Sat 09-Nov-13 14:46:00

Afternoon. Checking into the new thread. I'm still suffering with nausea, but it's not too bad really. I've put on 2kg already though!

For those thinking about maternity jeans, have you tried the hairband trick? Put a hairband through the button home of your jeans and button up into that - instant stretchy pants smile

My scan is on 10th dec. Ages to wait, it'll be early too at 11+3, that's not too early is it?

cheesysmile Sat 09-Nov-13 14:50:39

Welcome to the new ladies! smile

My scan is two weeks Monday and I can't wait. By my reckoning I'll be 12+2. I do have a similar silly fear to penguin that they'll say err no you're not pregnant you crazy lady! Although rationally I've had 4 positive tests and no periods but hey who's rationale?!

carrie105 Sat 09-Nov-13 14:52:51

Hi carks and Gruffalow!

12 weeks scan on the 18th for me at 11+6.

It will be my first scan and I am very surprised at how quickly it has actually come around.

MTMD Sat 09-Nov-13 15:52:41

Is anyone else sleeping for 2/3? smile I slep for 13 hours tonight (8pm - 9am) and then just over 3 more hours now O_o Whats going on??? blush

MyNameIsWinkly Sat 09-Nov-13 16:07:43

Hi, just marking my place. My 12 week scan won't be for ages yet.

seatfor5 Sat 09-Nov-13 16:30:57

Welcome to the new ladies smile

MTMD I know its stupid all I seem to do is want to sleep! i got up at 10.30 and have so wanted to go back to bed for the last hour blush

Cherryjellybean Sat 09-Nov-13 17:06:12

Welcome new ladies!!
I am another who is loving sleep! I fell asleep at 9 last night and woke at 7.30 when my dd woke - a good two hours longer than normal! Then when dd naps i try have a small hour nap smile

CleverOl10 Sat 09-Nov-13 17:14:01

Got up at 10, spent a few hours with DS, then collapsed on sofa and just woke up from three hour nap. So much work to do but just no energy to move. Hoping energy kicks in later today or tomorrow as I have hours of marking to do. sad

MTMD Sat 09-Nov-13 17:26:25

Gosh I'm so glad I'm not alone like this!!

Feeling so grateful to my DH who's doing everything at the moment while I'm lying in a sofa feeling sorry for myself brew

Liquidambar Sat 09-Nov-13 17:38:07

Marking my place.

Had some friends over for lunch and ate loads! ! Feeling pretty rubbish now: nauseous and exhausted (after a sleepless night)

Thank God is still Saturday and I have one more day before work.

Mitchell hope you'll have a nice flight

12 week scan will be in 4 weeks. .. seems such a long time.

Emmazers Sat 09-Nov-13 17:39:44

Sleeping at least 10 hours every night and often making it no further than the sofa (if that!) for the rest of the day. I don't want to wish my life away but I really can't wait for this nausea-fatigue BS to be over with! sad

Stacks I am already using the hairband trick blush, it does work though!

Anyone else getting really weird dreams? I remember this with DD too, every night I just have the weirdest, most vivid dreams. Some are pretty scary! Thank goodness I keep waking up to pee!

Emmazers Sat 09-Nov-13 17:58:24

Crazy vivid dreams here too Nessie

So envious of you ladies having amazing amazing nights sleep.
I have no problem getting to sleep, can barely keep my eyes open past 7pm then awake half the night. Ds has always been an early riser and doesn't have a nap anymore so it's one full on day.
Just feel wrecked.
Due back to work on Monday after a week off sick and dreading it. I only work 3 days so think I just need to suck it up and get on with it, maybe a full day at work will help with better nights sleep?

Liquidambar Sat 09-Nov-13 18:18:02

crazy dreams here too. The worst thing is that I wake up, go to the loo but once I return to bed I continue the same dream because it was so vivid shock

CleverOl10 Sat 09-Nov-13 18:35:04

ohclutter I actually find that work days go faster and I have less time to feel poorly because I'm so busy. Hope things turn out similar for you.

Notfastmainlyfurious Sat 09-Nov-13 19:22:37

Clutter I'm actually finding it easier at work than home atm, it's a desk job though so I get to sit on my butt and eat biscuits which is a lot easier than toddler taming.

Still haven't phoned the mw so no booking in or scan dates yet. Keep putting it off but will definitely get onto it Monday probably

Thanks notfast and clever. You may be right as being off sick has been making me feel really stressed.
The only thing is my job is very physical and I'm in and out the office carrying equipment. I've not told my manager but going to when I return and tell her how I'm struggling at the moment.

cheesysmile Sat 09-Nov-13 20:02:49

A big yes me too on the vivid dreams front ... they are so real and kinda odd at the moment! Didn't realise that was a pregnancy thing.

Hope Monday goes ok for you ohclutter.

Penguin13 Sat 09-Nov-13 20:18:33

Vivid dreams here too. And sooooooooo weepy. I cried at Strictly today blush

Liquidambar Sat 09-Nov-13 20:22:43

Penguin I'm crying at "New York, New York" on Xfactor blush

Magpie78 Sat 09-Nov-13 20:28:11

Hello ladies! 11 weeks tomorrow, will have a lime?? Have my second appt with midwife Tuesday then 12 week scan the week after. Have just demolished a dominos.....nom

I watched The Lion King with my little boy this afternoon. I've decided I don't like that film anymore, it's too sad! hmm

CleverOl10 Sat 09-Nov-13 20:43:21

Totally sobbed at the John Lewis advert. DH laughing at me!

littlepickly Sat 09-Nov-13 21:07:06

Penguin I think I cry at Strictly every week - maybe even when not pg blushgrin

I'm doing the hair band trick already on my jeans - didn't help that DH told me my jeans looked really uncomfortable when I squeezed them on the other day - the cheek!!

No scan date here yet but have booking in on weds, so hopefully will have a date soon.

Have felt quite rough today - achey sooo tired and just generally rubbish despite 9 hours sleep last night - am 9+2 so hoping that this passes soon but tiredness feels like it's getting worse!

hackneybird Sat 09-Nov-13 21:08:01

Another one here that has spent the day either on the sofa or in bed. Poor DH, he is doing EVERYTHING. I gave DS his bath and made a meatloaf for tea tomorrow night, and that is the sum total of my contribution to the household chores today. The place is an utter tip.

Also having vivid dreams, some of them are very fruity as well. blush

seatfor5 Sat 09-Nov-13 22:05:34

Dh took DS1 & DS3 to his Mums for the day so i only had to look after DS2 who kind of looks after himself bless him!

after watching loads of videos on youtube with the intelligender test I have gone and bought one grin here should be a bit of fun for me and the DCs lol!

MarlenaGru Sat 09-Nov-13 22:08:24

hackney I have done absolutely nothing today except put on and hang 3 loads of washing. Another waiting to be hung but can't be arsed. Oh and I did walk to get a friend a birthday present as she is coming for lunch tomorrow...
Dh has cooked us food all day and put DD to bed. Although to be fair I do it all week so it is nice to be able to do nothing for a few hours. I am so looking forward to WFH on Tuesday for my Booking in appointment which means no commute - woohoo!

I really hate the system of just allocating appointments. 11:30 means I can't really go to work. I do enjoy not having to go in but it isn't as easy to work at home and it does mean that I get the guilt for not pulling my weight, especially as nobody knows at the moment.

superlambanana Sat 09-Nov-13 22:12:43

I feel bad - I've done absolutely nothing today! To be fair when I got up to go in the shower I was so ill I had to collapse back into bed again...

SicknSpan Sat 09-Nov-13 22:15:23

Hello Carks and Gruffalow. Welcome to the June bugs.

My 12 week scan is on 20th as well Bezza and Gilly. Can't wait.

John Lewis ad made me cry too - proper tears running down my face sob fest! Dh thinking I was quite mad but cute at the same time, ran and got me tissues whilst pulling the "aww" face. [Hmm]

SicknSpan Sat 09-Nov-13 22:23:50

Marlena that sounds like a busy day! I feel rather smug as today, for the first time in a month, I PUT MY MAKE UP ON. DH nearly fell off his chair, he didnt recognise me. It felt really good, I don't wear masses but I felt a bit more like me than the grey vomity blob I have been recently.

Super are you taking any meds? Can't remember if you were prescribed anything for sickness.

superlambanana Sat 09-Nov-13 22:29:22

Yes, cylizine, but it's not doing anything so far sad

Cherryjellybean Sat 09-Nov-13 22:37:54

Super Those tablets didnt work for me in my last pregnancy and i ended up dehydrated in hospital sad Its worth asking for something else to try.

Bezzabelle Sat 09-Nov-13 22:53:14

Evening all, I woke up this morning not feeling as sick as normal and thought the acupuncture must have worked miracles. However, still did not manage to get dressed although did have a bath and finally shaved my legs....thought I may need to get the lawn mower out the shed!! I also sorted through some maternity clothes to see what I had from ds which did me in and then had a three hour nap. Only been sick once today but nausea still crippling at times.

For those suffering with nausea and fatigue, have you tried B6?

rainbowweaver Sun 10-Nov-13 02:59:49

hackney snap on the fruity dreams. In fact had them my first pregnancy as well. grin

GillyBillyWilly Sun 10-Nov-13 07:58:08

Im a bit worried cos by my calculations I will be 11+2 at my scan which people seem to think is too early for the nuchal fold test.
Some people saying I might have to go back a week or so later for them to scan again and do the test.

Obviously I'm happy to have a slightly earlier scan as I'm desperate to see the baby but it would be annoying to have to go back a week later!

Well I suppose maybe id get 2 scans so that's kinda good grin

jaykay987 Sun 10-Nov-13 08:05:32

Gilly - that's a difficult one.

At my early scan they put me three days behind even my most pessimistic (i.e late) dates.
The woman said I could easily implant three days after ov. I didnt realise this affected dating. I was noting from estimated ov date, not estimated implantation date.

Or I guess my minuscule measurements might be out a little.

So all Im saying is, if you are counting from ov dates....you also might be a day or two behind where you think you are, which could mean you're 10+6 for example which would be really early or nuchal scan.

Perhaps call your mw or hospital and see what they say? Although I understand you not wanting to out it off so you can see your little bubs ASAP!

jaykay987 Sun 10-Nov-13 08:07:33

Excuse the spellings or for. out put

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 08:29:12

I am dating a week earlier than I thought which is also from late implantation apparently. I have very regular 30 day cycles so didn't think I could be a week out but it is possible.

Did you test positive on the day AF was due? That might be a good indicator of whether or not your implantation was late. I only tested positive two or three days later.

I will be 11+3 at my scan based on the early dating scan so I hope things will be visible. I do kind of think it is their own fault for not asking when an appointment suits you (or is more sensible) I hate the random allocation of appointments!

GillyBillyWilly Sun 10-Nov-13 08:39:48

Jaykay I've already told the midwife... And my doctor... And the lady at the hospital when she called me and gave me my scan date! They don't seem to think it matters... They are going off my LMP which would make me 12+3 at my scan but I know I always had 35 day cycles (not 28) and I know when I ovulated.
Ah well... I will go to the scan and if I have to go back, I have to go back!

GillyBillyWilly Sun 10-Nov-13 08:43:40

I had a very strong positive (on a FRER) at 13dpo... So actually 1-2 days before AF was due.

I also did a clearblue digi at 14dpo and it said 2-3 weeks. So I think I implanted pretty quickly!

DH and I actually only dtd twice that cycle (within 48 hours!) as he was working away and I was on nightshifts for a lot of the month so it's not like I could've ovulated earlier and have my dates mixed up!

I got a positive OPK and we dtd twice... And that was that!!! grin

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 09:01:12

Then sounds like you should be ok gilly
When I had my DD I knew exactly when she was conceived but no idea with this one, not that it matters.
Crazy mil likes to tell everyone she was conceived in Italy (she wasn't) and given my Dsis shared a room with us she gets very annoyed with mil!

Bumblebeesmum Sun 10-Nov-13 09:08:32

Oops was ranting away on wrong thread! smile

Just posted this....
Was in London for work & feeling a bit sick on train. A heavily pregnant lady with a baby on board badge got on the tube & I hoped someone would give her a seat (I remember what it was like being heavily pregnant & even 2 mins standing was horrible when it was me) - I looked around - people had definitely noticed her but no one was going to move - so as noone else was going to - I gave her my seat. People really are quite selfish some times!!
Rant over

Been away for a little while and didn't expect to have 38 pages of comments to skim through & a new thread haha my goodness there are a lot of us!!!

jaykay987 Sun 10-Nov-13 09:11:31

Hehe....If my midwife/hospital etc insist on going my lmp they'll have a shock! Using lmp....Im 8w tomorrow. According to my early scan I'll be 6+2 tomorrow! Quite a difference!

Gilly - I think you'll be fine then given you've told everyone just make sure if they do date you quite early you insist on coming back to have your measurements done (if you plan on having a nuchal). Id be very annoyed if they did all the measurements too early as they might come to the wrong conclusion. Definitely stand your ground.

LadyGoneGaga Sun 10-Nov-13 09:30:42

Gilly they can do nuchal test between 11+2 and 14+1. But they will do your dating scan at same time and will just bring you back later if it turns out you're actually a few days earlier on than thought. They won't just do it!

Dating scans are only really accurate to +/- 3 days either way (in first tri) anyway. In my first pregnancy I had a private scan and NHS scan a few days apart. One gave due date as 19/5 and one as 22/5. So whilst we get massively hung up on it it's only ever an estimate and your baby is statistically very unlikely to come when it's "due" anyway.

Will be interesting to see what my scan saysd tomorrow - by LMP would be 8 weeks, by ovulation from charting 7+1, by when we had sex, 7+4. But I think I implant early as in all my pregnancies, even when charting my due date has been moved forwards a few days. And I got a decent BFP on FRER at 10dpo this time round.

superlambanana Sun 10-Nov-13 10:36:42

I have no idea how to even begin to work it out! I know the date we dtd +/- 2 days (I was ill that month and we were both knackered!!) but that's about it. No idea when I ovulated etc. Presumably this means I can't work out a more accurate date..?

LadyGoneGaga Sun 10-Nov-13 10:44:00

Super, I'd say the actual date can only be, at most, 3 or 4 days post DTD, or you wouldn't be pregnant. Some people say 5 days but that would be really, really unusual. I thought we would have missed this month as was 3 days pre-ov but we did catch it! 1-2 days is most common.

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 10:47:37

To be honest the earlier they date me the happier I will be. I was 9 days late by their calculations last time but only 4 by mine. They wanted to induce me two days later but I desperately want a home birth this time so anything that might help that would be good!

CleverOl10 Sun 10-Nov-13 11:03:33

I'll be honest, when I finally get my scan, if they tell me I'm not as far on as I think I am I'll probably cry! Counting down every day of this first trimester, desperate for my energy to come back.

MyNameIsWinkly Sun 10-Nov-13 11:31:12

Morning everyone. Sorry to hijack, posted this in pregnancy but asking here for opinions:

sorry for the TMI, but I was up most of the night with diarrhoea. My stomach was, and still is, painful and tender to the touch. I can't face the idea of food, which isn't like me! Is this normal, or should I be concerned?

CleverOl10 Sun 10-Nov-13 12:10:14

Not really sure Wink but what did you eat for dinner? I've been like that a couple of times after eating takeaway or fast food especially Chinese food since I've been pregnant.

MyNameIsWinkly Sun 10-Nov-13 12:14:27

I had pasta and tomato sauce, same as DH, and he's absolutely fine, though he does have a stomach of steel, the lucky sod.

cheesysmile Sun 10-Nov-13 13:14:25

Can't imagine much could go wrong with pasta and tomato sauce winkly. I know others have had a bit of a dodgy tummy on here or you could just be unlucky and have picked up a bug. Have you had cramps at all? If you're worried give your midwife a call in the morning maybe, im sure they'll be able to reassure you.

LadyGoneGaga Sun 10-Nov-13 13:40:45

Sounds like a bug to me, Winkly. Might be more viral rather than what you ate? Poor you. Being ill when pregnant makes it all even worse :-(

lgwilk Sun 10-Nov-13 13:49:41

Hi ladies. Can I join you as we'll please? I'm 10+1 today due June 7th. Morning sickness is kicking my butt, can't wait for it to go away. Hope you're all doing ok x

wispaxmas Sun 10-Nov-13 14:36:14

Hello to the newbies! I'll update the list when I'm not on the iPad, unless anyone else wants to...? (Feel free to add yourselves, too newbies!)

winkly, I don't know, but if it continues I would call your GP. If you get severely dehydrated it can be very bad for baby. They might be able to give you something to help if it becomes an ongoing problem. I had a bit of diarrhea earlier but it's gone completely the other way now, right about when I switched my pregnancy vitamins to pregnacare actually.

H and I had a lovely time at the wedding last night, though we left at half nine, which is completely unlike us. I was just SO knackered.

We stopped in at bluewater on the way home to see a movie and popped into mother are to test out prams grin obviously too early to be buying anything, but I wanted to actually test out a few. I came away with the confirmed desire for a bugaboo buffalo. The other all terrain ones they had all felt like they were flimsy in comparison. Am very very excited about it, now smile

MTMD Sun 10-Nov-13 15:30:45

I got up determined to do something useful around the house but started feeling sick and dizzy after 5 min of vacuuming. So back to bed which is the only place I don't feel like I'm suffering from terrible motion sickness... Hope I can make it to work tomorrow..

CleverOl10 Sun 10-Nov-13 15:44:54

Know how you feel MTMD. Still in pjs on sofa. DH done everything today, including taking DS to the supermarket to give me a break. I hung the washing out and had to sit down. So fed up of no energy plus nausea. I feel like I'm spending every minute I'm not at work, I'm horizontal trying to get back my energy. sad

LadyGoneGaga Sun 10-Nov-13 15:59:24

From experience, Wispa, John Lewis do by far the best pushchair demo's. If anyone is short of an afternoons entertainment!

First run for a week today. And was very short but I am so proud as is the first time my 5 year old has run with me. We just did a couple of very muddy miles around the woods with some walk breaks but he was sooo proud of himself, bless him. grin

Wish me luck as got an early scan tomorrow morning.

superlambanana Sun 10-Nov-13 16:15:36

I made it out the house! Considering I've been in bed since Wednesday this is a big achievement. Only problem is now I'm stressed about going back to work (assuming I can make it in, because walking to the end of the road and back isn't quite the same as an hour's commute) because every time I'm off ill my anxiety kicks in and I stress about being behind on stuff. I know when I go back, whenever that is, I'll be so stressed with everything I've got to catch up on sad

Mtmd and Clever I hope you're feeling better! Well done on your run Lady, and good luck with the scan.

Poetshild Sun 10-Nov-13 16:18:36

Hi! It's my first time on Mumsnet. I'm 10+ just now. The midwife calculated me as due on 28th of May but online calculators are suggesting the 5th of June as my cycle is normally 32 days. I suppose I'll know more when I go for my scan on the 21st. Can I hang out here until then?

jaykay987 Sun 10-Nov-13 16:33:31

poet - welcome! Many of us have the same problem. My early scan actually put me 12 days behind my lll (which isn't a surprise as I have long cycles too)

super - what an achievement! my tiredness is getting worse. I need a nap every 30nins In awake. Tomorrow is going to be hard work!

lady - good luck for your scan!

jaykay987 Sun 10-Nov-13 16:33:50

lll=lmp

Poetshild Sun 10-Nov-13 16:48:16

Thanks for calrifying, jaykay! And thank you for the welcome. It's nice to be part of a positive thread where I can try to stop worrying about mc!

wispaxmas Sun 10-Nov-13 16:50:35

Poet, of course you can hang out here! When you're right at the beginning or end of a month, there's no real telling which one the baby will come in. If mine is early by 5 days I could be May, too, though chances aren't good of that happening smile

I might have to check out John Lewis later this week.. I'm planning another outing to bluewater sometime this week anyway, as I need to find a secret Santa present for someone so I can post it before I go back to Paris. And it's an excuse to have a Starbucks Christmas drink and buy a bottle if gingerbread syrup grin

Sounds like lots of positive days even if it is just tiny steps.
Myself and dh did a 120 mile road trip to drop our munchkins off at dsil. Bit of a journey but oh so worth it.
Dh watching footie and catching up with Downton, no children to disturb the peace.
My dsil is 7 months pregnant so only hope my lively boy not too much for her.
I'm due back to work tomorrow after a week and a half off. I still feel awful but really stressing about being off and not sure what is worse. Feeling awful in work or stressed that I'm not there?
Wishing everyone well with scans and dating, all very exciting.
As a treat we're going to get an Indian tonight but part of me doesn't know if my digestive system is as up for this as my greedy tummy!!

BEEwitched Sun 10-Nov-13 17:20:58

Hiya! Yay, found you!!!!

We've been moving house all day, and to be honest the last three days I have just spent alternatively napping and heaving. Only got about 1/3 of the stuff moved that I'd hoped to move, but DH and I had to do it by ourselves and I can't really lift stuff, only helped with the mattress.

Didn't need to cancel my NHS scan since it was in w8 and I wasn't getting a 12 week scan, so the private one has no bearing really on what NHS appointments I get.

Jessiebaba Sun 10-Nov-13 17:43:18

Hi!

Just found out I'm pregnant on Friday (7w+2) grin EDD is 27th June.

Not got my scan date yet but can't wait for it! Been feeling pretty awful for the past few days although I haven't actually been sick but feel like I'm going to be all the time & at the same time want to eat everything in sight!

So exciting that some of you have your 12w scans soon! smile x

Poetshild Sun 10-Nov-13 18:01:22

Thanks, wispa! I was thinking that even if my due date does end up being at the end of May, I'm likely to be late.

Hi Bee, good on you for getting 1/3rd moved. We moved when I was 6 weeks. I wasn't much use but fortunately FIL and BIL came up to help DH so we got most of it moved in a day. I was very good at directing, ha ha and I did a lot of unpacking. Is your new home bigger? Ours is but we had to move regardless as the landlord wanted the flat back.

Congratulations, Jessie! 27th June is my Mum's birthday.

cheesysmile Sun 10-Nov-13 18:28:47

Welcome to the newbies smile lgwilk I'm 10+1 today too!

Well done on the move bee, its difficult when you know you shouldn't be lifting anything too heavy isn't it. My parents helped us move and like Poet I did a lot of directing and unpacking! I kept wanting to do more but my mum was having none of it, bless her.

WifeofGru Sun 10-Nov-13 18:36:51

Checking in. Don't want to speak too soon but this is the first day in a long time I don't look deathly pale. Even had a sip of a cappuccino. clutter I had a lovely lamb rogan josh during the week with rice and naan. It was amazing. hope your Indian is good!

Sounds like a good day WifeofGru, maybe your going into next phase and less horrible symptoms.
Indian was amazing, got a chicken korma, pilau rice and garlic Nan, was really lovely and all the more so with child free house!
Hope everyone has restful nights sleep tonight.
Welcome to the new JuneBugs on the thread, it just keeps growing! smile

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 19:05:23

clutter does your Dsil want another? Enjoy child free curry!
I must confess to having a massive roast lunch and DH is making lasagna for dinner blush 200kg before June here I come!

MyNameIsWinkly Sun 10-Nov-13 19:41:46

You lot are a bad influence on me, I took today off work because I felt so ill but feel much better now, I'm on my own and have just ordered from the Indian! Only tandoori chicken and saag aloo, could be worse, but still.

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 19:42:20

grin

MTMD Sun 10-Nov-13 19:55:29

Oh no I can't think of Indian! Can't think of any food to be honest.. sad Wanted to watch Homeland tonight but thinking I should perhaps just go to bed, sleep in the only cure..
I'm training at work tomorrow, same as last Monday when I failed to show up! In fact, the same person, I really really cannot bail second Monday in a row sad

Welcome to new ladies!

Zaxter Sun 10-Nov-13 20:00:14

Hi Ladies,

Ok if I join in? I'm only 7+3 (26th June) but feeling rubbish so nice to read that I am not alone. I remember this time as being hugely exciting last time (my dd was 1 last week) but this time around I am spending heaps of time worrying about being rubbish with dd as just so sick/tired and how on earth I am going to manage with two! Was completely planned but am now bricking it.

Oh, am also delighted too - moods changeable!

Marlena I'm sure after today that my dsil will be terrified for her little one coming and I dread to think how she'll react in the morning when she realises my ds gets up very very early! I too am going to be massive. I saw my other dsil today who is getting married next May and said I'll probably need to get a tent to wear by next may!!
MTMD, good luck for tomorrow, it's such a horrible feeling of knowing your not 100% but knowing your work will be piling up and your letting people down hmm.

Welcome Zaxter. Sure those feelings are really normal.
We planned this baby (3rd) and I'm now panicking at lack of space in our house and how I'm going to cope with relatively new job. I then feel guilty as a good friend has been trying for 2 years and has just went through 1st round of private IVF which failed and I feel guilty thinking I shouldn't worry about how I'll cope, lack of space, impact on other children. It's hard though, sure your dd will be so happy to have a younger sibling when they come along.

SicknSpan Sun 10-Nov-13 20:52:39

MTMD I lurve Homeland too, really hope we catch up with Brody tonight, such a good storyline. Love it. (Also going to sky + it tho, too tired!)

Welcome to lgwilk, Poet and zaxter. Can't believe we are still adding more June bugs smile

Sickness controlled here, but feel utterly shattered. Loaded the dishwasher and tumble drier earlier and it wiped me out! Had a 2 hr nap to recuperate.

Thant believe Hannah and Abi are in xfactor sing off- thought they were both good last night... (Guilty pleasure!)

SicknSpan Sun 10-Nov-13 20:53:15

Sorry that should have been Can't believe. Don't know what Thant believe even means!

ThreeFromDesire Sun 10-Nov-13 21:29:50

Marking. Cake for everyone grin

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 21:35:32

Lol clutter I didn't realise this is their first grin
I had lovely 3 month old cuddles today. Really can't dare to get excited that we will have one soon!
I am very worried about DD's reaction. She will be 6 by June and gets so much attention from us all. It is going to be a huge shock, but to be honest I can reason and talk to her so hoping I can help her understand. I get the feeling guilty as I am so snappy when tired at the moment.

wispaxmas Sun 10-Nov-13 21:41:15

Marlena, this is my first, but I'm also feeling guilty about how snappy I've been recently with H! Sure, he's not 5 years old, but he can sure sulk like it!

bellygazing Sun 10-Nov-13 21:44:16

Hi all, been reading but not posting as sooi drained. Have just got back from a lovely weekend away in the Cotswolds with a friend, leaving DD with DH. Was so nice lying in. Friend ended up being the first person I told other than DH and dr as on Friday I started having huge dizzy spells - earth going round in circles - and I didn't want her to worry if I fell over inexplicably! She was lovely about it. Sickness has subsided a bit to make way for swirling room. .. not sure which is worse... not sure how I'll manage at work if it continues.Got my scan date, 7 December. Was really pleased it was a Saturday so no need for time off work until I realised it's the one Saturday I may need to work before Xmas at my new job... hope everyone feeling not toi bad, enjoy the curries!

MarlenaGru Sun 10-Nov-13 22:06:45

wispa my DH is a sulker and has been attempting to be annoyed at my snappiness but I can't be arsed to deal with a sulky DH, on top of feeling sick and knackered!

Tronbear Mon 11-Nov-13 00:05:35

Hello, can I join too? I have been lurking since the beginning, but joining felt a bit too much like committing to something I was worried would be taken away. 9 weeks today though, so it is beginning to feel almost real! The sickness is very real!

I have found all your posts super helpful, especially as I have been feeling so awful (horrible nausea (although I am very happy not to have actually thrown up...yet), tiredness beyond belief and rather a case of the blues). Reading all your experiences has made me feel much less pathetic and realise it is pregnancy (my first) in all its joys.

Did find a quite large lump in my breast on Friday though. My breast are so heavy and painful I felt sure GP was going to say it was just a pregnancy thing, but she referred me straight to a breast surgeon, which was not the comforting experience I was hoping for (although she did think it could be pregnancy-related, she just didn't know). I can see this roller-coaster is just not going to stop!

I am going to get Harmony test too, but going to wait until 12 weeks as I only want one scan. Anyone know why you would have the Nuchal fold scan as well as Harmony? Isn't Harmony more accurate? I can't seem to figure of the benefit of both (which is what the FMC do).

Now, there must be something else I can eat round here somewhere, although working out what I want is getting harder and harder.

WifeofGru Mon 11-Nov-13 02:26:26

Welcome tronbear
Sorry to hear about your breast lump. It is highly likely to be benign - either normal glandular breast tissue made more prominent by pregnancy, a cyst or fibroadenoma. GP is right to refer you for assessment. I have some professional experience in this area. You will probably also have an ultrasound. Good luck and I hope you get an appointment quickly and that everything turns out fine.

jaykay987 Mon 11-Nov-13 05:49:36

Tronbear - sorry to hear about your lump. I know how stressful that can be. Happened to me last year just before my wedding. FX everything is ok for you.
I answered your harmony question on the other thread. You can ask to refuse the nuchal scan. Fmc require it so they can build their stats for their research.

Hope everyone has a good day. I've been up half the night, and feel really sick. Haven't been able to be properly sick or to try food yet. It'll probably sort me out if I can manage to keep anything down. In the meantime Im battling with my conscious. DH thinks I should call in sick. Im battling guilt and the fear this is only the beginning and so I might need a sick day if it gets worse. Uuuurrrrrggggghhhhh.....

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 06:48:47

Morning all! It's Monday morning and my baby has been upgraded to a lime!! grin

Exited because my scan is now NEXT WEEK and hoping+praying that everything will be fine.

Gotta get through this week!!!!

I've got a stinking cold though and feel pretty crappy at the moment!

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 06:49:08

Excited not exited! grin

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 06:53:47

Oooh Gilly - how exciting, a lime - I believe mine is a prune but will be calling it an extra big Olive!

I got all excited yesterday as I was feeling pretty good but when my alarm went off at 5.30am this morning I realised I only felt good yesterday because I got a decent lie in. Feeling bleurgh.

BUT loving that I am now 10 weeks - that sounds proper! And hopefully I will hear from the midwife this week to finally get dates for scans.

Jaykay I with your DH, call in sick - if you have been up half the night you'll be no good to them anyway. You need rest. x

Hope you feel ok Jaykay. I'm trying to get ready for work but in tears watching the footage of the Philippines on the news.
Wishing everyone a good day today smile

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 06:55:15

Oh and a big hello to all the new additions smile

MTMD Mon 11-Nov-13 08:19:57

Gilly, how exciting!!!

I'm at work. Feeling TERRIBLY SICK. To make things worse we're also having a power cut, my computer's offline and there are no lights in the loos which is horrid since I might need to feed the fishes any minute now...

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 08:40:42

Exciting Gilly! I've got mine in 4 days, and I hope hope hope they're going to be able to do the test alright.

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 08:42:14

Wispa!! Yes! I was thinking of you this morning when I was feeling excited that mine is next week! I thought OOHHH WISPAS IS THIIISSSS WEEK! grin

Carks31 Mon 11-Nov-13 09:07:43

Another sick day for me thanks to this bloody cold! Got an appointment with nurse at my GPs later this morning, just have no idea what I can take for sore throats and coughs and how to better protect myself from getting another one. This one has been on/off for over two weeks now

Liquidambar Mon 11-Nov-13 09:23:02

Welcome newbies smile

tronbear I'm sorry to hear about the lump. It is always a worry but most cases in nothing to worry about. I have been referred to the breast clinic twice. in one of the times the biopsy was inconclusive so I had to return. but it was a just a cyst.

Didn't sleep much last night and have a funny tummy today. started working at 8 and to visits to the loo (sorry tmi)

Can't check the name on my mobile but good luck for today's scans.

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 09:37:57

carks my GP advised paracetamol for sore throats, I know you shouldn't take ibuprofen. So I suppose any cough medicines that contain paracetamol only are okay but don't quote me on that :/

Apart from that it's the usual, rest, fluids, vitamin c.

Hope you feel better soon. X

cheesysmile Mon 11-Nov-13 09:40:38

Morning all smile

Wispa, Gilly how exciting ... Can't wait for mine, its two weeks today now!

So I've taken the day off poorly today, this cold is really taking its toll more than normal and i just couldn't face work, all i want to do is sleep. Do you think pregnancy makes it harder to get over things like colds?

Carks if you find out any useful tips from the nurse let me know. Hope you feel better soon.

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 10:24:23

carks and cheesy is it not the pregnacold? Technically pregnancy rhinitis but essentially the snots caused by your body creating excess mucus. I have had it for about 4 weeks and don't expect it to clear off too soon!

gilly good luck! Do you know where to go at the hospital? I am quite scared I will get horribly lost as it is such a big building! 4 more weeks for me but booking in tomorrow which is exciting.

Nearly fainted on the train this morning as it was taking hours to go anyway. Some kind man gave me a seat. I must email about a badge ASAP!

Snowlet Mon 11-Nov-13 10:43:42

oh wow, loads to catch up on

Welcome to new BFPs smile and good luck with scans and so sorry for those with continued sickness, I'm defo in that club too

cheesy I felt like my cold would never go, took days and days when normally I fight that stuff off with ease.... another joy of pregnancy?

Was reading some 10 week description or the other, and it said the baby was the size of a kumquat, hehe

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 10:58:11

ooh Snowlet I much prefer Kumquat to Prune. smile

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 11:03:32

oh dear - I just had a proper big weep to the two minutes silence. sad

LadyGoneGaga Mon 11-Nov-13 11:39:20

Had my scan, one healthy little bean with a strong heartbeat grin. Measuring a little ahead of where I thought (7+4) so now due 26th June. But the measurements are so tiny at this point could easily be a couple of days either way.

Very, very relieved. Had a cry as soon as we saw the heartbeat. Makes all the ill feelings totally worth it.

Welcome to all the newbies!

superlambanana Mon 11-Nov-13 11:46:51

Hooray for Lady! smile

Bezzabelle Mon 11-Nov-13 11:54:32

Morning all, I am considering going back to GP this week and asking for a 'fit note' to allow me to do back to work just in the afternoons. Have been signed off for five weeks so far with hg and got another 3 weeks on the sick note. However, I feel with the meds, b6 and acupuncture, I have it more under control now. Mornings are still horrendous but have been feeling better by lunchtime and am climbing the walls at home so thinking I could just do a couple hours in the afternoon to try and get my caseload back in order before I go back properly. Bit worried I will go backwards though....

Gilly and sick...9 days to go!!!

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 12:01:37

Congratulations lady

Cherryjellybean Mon 11-Nov-13 12:14:56

Fantastic news ladyYou have the same due date as me smile

Marlena its great that there are some good ones on the trains and tubes that do offer seats. Hope your feeling a bit less faint now.

I had hg in my last pregnancy, and I think it might be showing its ugly face in this pregnancy sad I have a funeral on the weekend and I have no idea how I am going to cope with the 2 hour drive, with the sickness and without being an emotional wreck the whole day. No one knows I'm pregnant yet, and it would not be the best time for everyone to find out.

Welcome to all the new people!

jaykay987 Mon 11-Nov-13 12:18:00

Congrats on the scan lady!

I called in sick. Feel so guilty. But I can't function. I've only just woken up! I was so tired as last night I kept waking up cause I thought I was going to be sick (but never managed it).

Had an argument with DH last night (not a regular occurrence in this house) - wonder if the sickness is ms or stress related? I got myself worked up even though we fell out about something completely pointless!
He has been lovely today though...and he doesn't normally do well at looking after me when normally illgrin. He clearly feels some responsibility when it comes to BFP relates illness!

It's exciting the 12 week scans are starting soon! grin

Angelina77 Mon 11-Nov-13 12:25:06

Hi, I suppose it's about time I joined up.

I'm due on June 26th (7 + 4 today). I had a 7 week scan last week (for reassurance - 2 MCs) and I've seen a my blob with a heartbeat smile Still bricking it for the 12 week nuchal scan (12/12). I'd have a scan every week if I could afford it.

Suffering quite badly with nausea, headaches and tiredness. Feels like I'm in the worst condition of my life!

SicknSpan Mon 11-Nov-13 12:48:58

Welcome angelina and tronbear and any other new folk I've missed. Please do cut and paste the roll call further up thread and add yourself on!

Had some fantastic news over the weekend, a dear friend who has suffered a number of recurrent miscarriages bus currently 14 weeks pregnant. They've never made it this far before so I'm absolutely thrilled for her cautiously so at her request of course.I had to share the fact that I'm expecting first, as had to duck out of a gig we'd arranged to go to - she then said it was fine as they weren't sure they could make it as she was pg too! Such happy news.

SicknSpan Mon 11-Nov-13 12:49:21

Welcome angelina and tronbear and any other new folk I've missed. Please do cut and paste the roll call further up thread and add yourself on!

Had some fantastic news over the weekend, a dear friend who has suffered a number of recurrent miscarriages bus currently 14 weeks pregnant. They've never made it this far before so I'm absolutely thrilled for her cautiously so at her request of course.I had to share the fact that I'm expecting first, as had to duck out of a gig we'd arranged to go to - she then said it was fine as they weren't sure they could make it as she was pg too! Such happy news.

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 13:00:07

That is lovely sick

I have given up for today. Felt fuzzy and cold and achy so am on the train home. Hate being pathetic but it isn't just me this time!

Carks31 Mon 11-Nov-13 13:01:14

Lots of sickly ladies out there, fingers crossed for us all it passes soon.

Nurse wasn't much use. Advice essentially plenty of rest, clear fluids and paracetamol. When I asked how I can help avoid this cycle of colds and bugs other than making sure I'm getting fruit and veg down me, her useful reply was "avoid going near people who are ill". Bless. I suffered rhinitis pre-pregnancy but my usual medications of anti-histamines and anti-inflammatories are out of the window, so it's potentially that.

Good to see some good news - congratualtions ladygonegaga and such lovely news sicknspan

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 13:38:08

carks, yeah, I'm suffering from my second cold of this pregnancy already, but luckily it's not as bad as the first one I had, which I probably took about 2-3 weeks to get over. So far, this has been a couple days and it's already starting to ease. I did cave and have a benadryl the last couple nights, as it's safe during the 1st trimester. Of course, the added benefit of it is that it makes me ridiculously drowsy, so I've been getting really good nights' sleep, which can only help. I know it's just an antihistamine and not a decongestant, but it does help dry up my running-like-a-faucet nose!

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 13:39:04

Oh, and on a completely unrelated note, I've discovered that I absolutely love beans on toast. And apparently beans are one of the top 10 foods to eat when pregnant; result!

Stacks Mon 11-Nov-13 13:44:27

I know I should be glad I'm only feeling nauseous, but I'm sick fed up of it now sad I also don't have a commute and can nap during the day, as long as my DS does. Still, being pg and a SAHM to a 10m DS is harder than I ever imagined. How will I manage with a newborn and 18m DS?

Glad to hear about some positive scans, 12w scans approaching, and newbies joining.

clairesmiles Mon 11-Nov-13 14:01:32

Hi,

Just getting in on the new thread.

I'm due on 14th of June but i need to call up to make my booking appt, which should be next week as i should be 10 weeks then.

Can't wait for 12 week scan, it will feel REAL then i think!

xxx

Lmf679 Mon 11-Nov-13 14:49:46

I just had a viability scan, am 8+1 today. Saw a strong heartbeat and everything seems to be as it should be. Due date not changed, still due on the 22nd. Very pleased! It's a relief to know it's all going as it should.

Bezzabelle Mon 11-Nov-13 14:55:04

Good news on all the scans. Sorry to hear about colds and suffering.

I'm sobbing at 60 minute makeover!

MTMD Mon 11-Nov-13 15:05:39

Congratulations on the scans!! V exciting!

Am I the only one with no scans to date...?

Utterly exhausted, one more hour till journey home and BED which is all I want at the moment.

cheesysmile Mon 11-Nov-13 15:41:42

Congrats on the positive scans, great news smile

I've not had a scan yet MTMD. Was quite tempted a few weeks ago to book an early one but now I've got my dating scan in 2 weeks so figure i can wait now. Bet these 2 weeks will drag now though!

I was worried the other day that my symptoms were gone but i think they're back! My boobs are so so sensitive at the moment and I'm feeling sick again. I'm not sure if sickness is due to cold as i do get that with the phlem (nice!) but boobs defo pregnancy related. Best go back to work tomorrow so hope feeling a bit better by then.

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 15:58:00

I think we've had way more early scans than is statistically the norm. If it wasn't for mumsnet, it would never have occurred to me to have one, though! It did set my mind at ease.. at least for the short term. I've now realised that the entire pregnancy is going to be anxiety after anxiety. If it's not losing symptoms in first tri, it'll be decreased movements down the line. No matter what, there will be constant worry, and it's not going to let up when the baby comes, is it?

LadyGoneGaga Mon 11-Nov-13 16:13:06

You are very right, Wispa. Welcome to Motherhood. grin

KatAndKit Mon 11-Nov-13 16:15:36

Hello, i have been lurking on and off since my bfp but i had a good scan this morning so ready to jump on board now!
scan said 8+2 so edd 21 June. Will be baby number 2, have 19 month old DS. Before him two miscarriages, have to take clexane and aspirin every day in pregnancy now, so my belly is covered in bruises. Not too many symptoms except for extreme tiredness.

waves to ladygonegaga

superlambanana Mon 11-Nov-13 16:20:35

MTMD I haven't had one either - think I'll just wait for my twelve week one, though five weeks seems a long time to wait!

Feeling much less sicky today (although I have been I'll once today) which of course I'm now worrying is a bad sign... I can't win!!

superlambanana Mon 11-Nov-13 16:22:07

I also really want to bake something but I can't stand the sight of butter at the moment, and I hate my kitchen. <grumpy>

Wispa does Benadryl help you get a good nights sleep and safe to take in pregnancy? Need to go out and get some.
Welcome to the JuneBugs and congrats to those with successful sans.
Made it into work today, well a training day. Felt so sick all day but glad to have been out of the house all day.
Now just need to face my own work tomorrow

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 16:39:10

superlamb I feel your pain. Constantly hungry but the thought of food makes my stomach turn. I need a food magic wand!

Liquidambar Mon 11-Nov-13 16:45:35

congratulations on the scan lady and Angelina

welcome to the newbies.

Had a tuna and mozzarella melt for lunch and my stomach is completely bloated. I look like 20 weeks! ! but it's all air and food.

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 17:25:38

ohclutter, I wouldn't use it just based on info gotten on mumsnet (from me), but I did ask my GP and they said it was fine to take a normal dose or 1/2 dose, just so long as it wasn't everyday and to only take it as long as necessary. Apparently there can be minor risks involved, though mostly they're just in the last weeks of pregnancy.

Also, it might effect different people differently. It's an antihistamine tha tmay cause drowsiness. It just happens to knock me out completely!

GinandStripes Mon 11-Nov-13 17:47:22

Oh goodness me, I want me a Tuna & Mozzarella melt now.

Zaxter Mon 11-Nov-13 17:49:15

Wow - there are masses of us on here, my frazzled brain will prevent me name checking but just wanted to say whoop whoop to all those who've had scans and had that amazing feeling of seeing that little heartbeat.

12 weeks feels a long wait but I think I'll just wait as money is super tight at the mo.

Someone had a sore throat? I used dissolvable paracetomal and gargled with it and found that that helped. Or what about gargling with whiskey but not swallowing, that should still numb no - and could taste nicer!? Blimey - listen to me - I've been either pregnant or breastfeeding for nearly two years and have random fantasies about alcohol it seems.

CleverOl10 Mon 11-Nov-13 18:09:34

No scans here yet either MTMD and (stamping foot!) no scan date either. Was told last week it would be sent out but not here yet. I'm 9+5 and very impatient as I need to work out how much to tell work and book day off. angry

Vickyvix Mon 11-Nov-13 18:15:55

I have only been away a few days and it has taken me ages to catch up!!

Great news on the scans lady and lmf I think there was another couple but I can't remember names, but congrats!!

And welcome to all the new ladies, so many June babies!

I have reached 8 weeks this week and have booking in apt on Friday, counting down the days. I wish I could have another peak inside to check bean is ok, has been 2 weeks since my early scan and still 3.5 to go to proper scan, tempted to book another for 9 weeks to break it up and to reassure all is ok. I haven't had much sickness which is worrying me, a few days of feeling a bit nauseas but have such sore (and massive) boobs and am so tired (and getting + HPTs) and craving weird foods and having odd dreams I am hoping all is ok. I do not do well with not knowing stuff so just longing to check bean is still in there and growing

Liquidambar Mon 11-Nov-13 18:31:04

Lmf sorry. I missed your post. Congratulations smile

MTMD Mon 11-Nov-13 18:37:34

Pregnancy is pushing me back to my own childhood. I crave foods I haven't had since primary school! For example, was too sick to eat anything for dinner. But then remembered I used to eat pizzas smeared (drowned??) with ketchup AND mayo when I was little. And there you have it - I covered a pizza in mayo&ketcup mix and managed to eat half of it! And it was so yum!!

Oh and I had porridge for lunch... :D Bizzariness!! smile

Its 6.30 and I'm already in my pjs in bed. What did I say - back to 1980s! smile)

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 19:07:28

I was in pjs at 2 today. Blissful!
I also seem to be back to the 80s. Desperate to have a caramel pudding from my childhood. They definitely don't make it anymore so need to get over it!

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 19:24:19

Arghhh I was late to work this morning as I was feeling rough and couldn't get my bum in gear!
My boss said I didn't have to make up the time but I decided that I would make it up at the end of the day... And now I regret it because I'm still not home! Sat on a train at cannon street station... JUST started moving hmm

Blahhhhhhh.

Lmf679 Mon 11-Nov-13 19:32:08

gilly good for you for making it in and making up the time! Hope you get home soon

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 19:36:24

Haha thanks grin
DH just asked me if I want dinner and I just said "nutella" .... grin

That's all I want right now! Haha nutritious

GillyBillyWilly Mon 11-Nov-13 19:38:38

Ahhh DH just text me to say he's parked up by the station waiting for me smile

Very sweet although we only live 2 mins walk from the station grin

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 19:44:41

As soon as I got home from the store I jumped into a onesie! I might live in this thing for the next few months grin

Penguin13 Mon 11-Nov-13 19:46:28

Aw poor you Gilly. Willing your train swiftly on its way.

I am once again an eating machine. So far this evening I have eaten a slice of cake, a yoghurt and two ryvitas with houmous and marmite (not together that would be weird) this is all a mere appetizer to the pasta bolognese currently on the stove blush My lovely DH got me some of my fave mini babybel which I have taken to snacking on but am determined to hold off eating one! probably

superlambanana Mon 11-Nov-13 20:10:46

Ugh I just had an Indian takeaway and reeeally wish I hadn't... I'm getting no pleasure at all from food at the moment sad

MarlenaGru Mon 11-Nov-13 20:25:11

sad super
My DH is being a saint. My DD is still awake nearly 2 hours after I put her to bed. angry and I just don't have the energy to run up and down the stairs tonight. Praying this one so a sleeper!

hackneybird Mon 11-Nov-13 20:26:43

Penguin I'm also waiting for pasta bolognese for tea.....mmm.

All I want to eat at the mo is eggs and carbs. And chocolate. Oh, and crips. And digestives spread with Philadelphia. I could go on......

I think that this early pregnancy lark is the hardest thing I have ever done. Last time I didn't have a child to look after as well. I'm never, ever doing it again if this one makes it out safely.

All you SAHM looking after small ones are legends, at least I get to go to work and sit at a desk in relative peace all day.

hackneybird Mon 11-Nov-13 20:27:18

Btw welcome to all the new members!

S1mmy Mon 11-Nov-13 20:32:55

Awww can i be added onto the babies list??? Mine is due june 10th.

Ditto some of you here, my symptoms are going and sometimes i forget i am pregnant.... Then i look down and see my belly. Am convinced its just food. Had my checking in last week, it all went fine (apart from my wierd disagreement with nurse about my nationality! Grr!) I didnt get a scan date though, will wait for them to call me.

How are you all coping at work? Tired? Sick?

I thought i would feel tired but its all ok so far. Tired at the end of the day and disappointed that men generally are too stupid or shy to be bocal about giving a pregnant lady a seat on the tube. Like its embarassing to be chivaralous or something. Shame on them.

HackneyBird, I feel the opposite as you. I feel if only I was a SAHM then I could just about cope with feeling so horrendous.
I think it's thinking of work that makes my horrible symptoms worse.
This is my 3rd and I've never felt so bad in my life.
Off to try and et a good nights sleep, know if I wasn't working in the morning wouldn't feel so uptight about it.
Googled a lot of stuff about Benadryl and Antihistamine when pregnant Wispa and undecided whether or not to give it a try. Will try a few more nights with warm milk, banana, paracetamol. Dh has downloaded me some relaxing music so may resort to that if insomnia hits at silly o'clock.
Fx for restful sleep for everyone. smile

seatfor5 Mon 11-Nov-13 21:43:34

I would really advise against taking Benadryl as its main ingredient is diphenhydramine which can might increase your risk of the baby having a cleft palate (which develops early in pregnancy) and then a type of blindness later on!

it is rated as a type B drug in the US which means not tested fully

I dont want to scare anyone but also dont want anyone to think that the affects can be minor

seatfor5 Mon 11-Nov-13 21:44:25
wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 22:09:23

It's interesting that different doctors will suggest different things. My GP said it was fine to take benadryl, either for allergies or to help with sleep. She said that there was no evidence to suggest that it's dangerous and that it's fairly widely used in pregnancy. The NHS page for benadryl just says that you should ask your doctor before taking it. Googling the cleft palate stuff, it would seem that the stats weren't conclusive and the evidence is from studies that are 40 years old, and a study in 1997 of 200,000 pregnancies showed no increased incidence of any abnormalities (i.e. cleft palate), and there's a good abstract on motherisk.org from Sick Kids Hospital in Toronto.

Motherrisk is actually a pretty great resource if you're interested in knowing what kinds of studies have been done on drugs during pregnancy and breastfeeding, and there's loads of other info on there, too.

seatfor5 Mon 11-Nov-13 22:25:53

thats so good to know as my Doctor who had said the same so i had taken it twice last week, then of course i continued to researched it and then scared the Sh*t out of myself blush Not sure I will take it again though

wispaxmas Mon 11-Nov-13 22:31:56

Googling these things can be the worst thing ever. It can be nearly impossible to sift out the good info from the bad. I'm inclined to trust my doctor and motherisk on this one, though, as motherisk is a resource specifically about pregnancy and breastfeeding, with thousands of published studies done in a world class children's hospital (butt hen, I'm biased as they saved my life as a toddler!).

I would definitely suggest seeking advice from your midwife or GP before taking any over the counter medication, though, which is why I earlier said not to necessarily trust info from a stranger on a forum as gospel (I.e. From me).

seatfor5 Mon 11-Nov-13 22:54:43

You know this is my 4th go on the merry-go-around and it doesn't get any easier to deal with the what if's and maybe's! For me its a count down to the 12 week scan, then the 16 weeks scan (gender), 20 weeks then the golden 23 weeks - every time its such a relief to make it there, as I always think right that's it they will try their best to save you! should say all of my 3 were born at 38 weeks all perfect smile doesn't make the worry any less.

GillyBillyWilly Tue 12-Nov-13 07:56:02

MORNING ALLsmile

cheesysmile Tue 12-Nov-13 08:00:54

Morning!

I'm off to work again today, have had a shower, now just need to actually get dressed. I feel a lot better than yesterday but could so just go back to sleep now.

superlambanana Tue 12-Nov-13 08:01:32

Morning! I am going to try to get to work today. Wish me luck...

Liquidambar Tue 12-Nov-13 08:22:59

Good morning all.
Good luck for those trying to get yo work.
Since I'm not doing any exercise I decided to walk into work this morning. It's half an hour walk and it is a beautiful morning. Made me realise how unfit I'm! starting yoga in a couple of weeks but definitely should walk more regularly.
9 weeks today smile

GinandStripes Tue 12-Nov-13 08:32:55

9+1 today, 8:30am and I've already eaten TWO Danish pastries. Apparently one was for me and the other was for the baby.

I've got the morning off, so planning on having a lovely big stroll (once the rain clears)

Emmazers Tue 12-Nov-13 09:00:13

I've had so much dodgy advice from GPs that I wouldn't trust much of what they say to be honest! I always do my own research as I am confident in being able to judge the quality (and quantity) of the data.

Whoever recommend vit B6, I might just love you! I started taking it a couple of days ago and haven't felt nauseated since. Apparently it doesn't work on everyone but it seems I am one if the fortunate and VERY grateful grin grin grin

Me and DD just spent the night with a friend from our NCT classes last time who has a 3 week old, a husband working nights and just started having (hormone-caused) panic attacks! She didn't want to be on her own so sleepover time for us. Very much enjoyed cuddles with the squish smile

superlambanana Tue 12-Nov-13 09:03:47

Ooh Emmazers I might try the B6!

Not left the house yet. Almost managed to get dressed before my breakfast reappeared... Don't get me wrong, I'm extremely happy about the prospect of SuperBaby, but this pregnancy lark is blooming hard work!!

GinandStripes Tue 12-Nov-13 09:41:48

I'm really like this Tuesday malarky! Call from my Docs, apparently with the Royal London I see the midwife with them first. So have an appointment Thursday morning - the wheels are in motion. smile

hackneybird Tue 12-Nov-13 09:46:52

Morning!

I've been taking floradix which has helped. I still feel drained and tired, but marginally better than I did before. I ran out at the weekend and definitely noticed the difference before I managed to replace it.

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 10:11:20

Morning all.

S1mmy think you might have to cut and paste the list then add yourself on - think many of us are using phones which means we can't select the text in previous posts. Sorry.

Had more good news last night- another close friend is expecting. This is their third too like us, we've been gossiping loads and so been getting regular updates on her cycle- no tmi between besties! i knew she was due on roundabout now so text to ask if she had tested yet - reply came back that the pee was drying on a positive test that very minute. so excited, her first and second child are only a few weeks apart and this will be the same, as well as our other mutual friend who has been trying for ages and finally past the 12 week stage for the first time - I am stupidly excited! We will all be on maternity leave together, yay!

Other pregnancy ramblings- is anyone else getting achey hips in the night? know it's just of stretching etc going on but it doesn't half hurt. sleeping with a big pillow between my knees really helped last night. But ouch.

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 10:18:15

Of course that's their first and our second. Too confusing otherwise! Soz.

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 10:23:44

I am WFH today (amazing how much of a difference it makes to my productivity not having to get a bloody train!) and have my booking in appointment at 11:30! Very excited!

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 10:24:49

That is lovely sick
All of my friends have had their second years ago so think maternity leave will be lonely next year in comparison although a few work part time so hopefully can add a bit of newborn chaos to their lives next year!

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 10:49:51

Good luck Marlena. You'll get your maternity notes, yippee!

CleverOl10 Tue 12-Nov-13 11:09:08

Urgh. First actual morning sickness on a work day. Still haven't told anyone at work so just have to get on with it. So not in the mood for teenage boys though! Roll on 12 weeks so I can tell everyone and have an excuse for looking grumpy at my desk!

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 11:29:14

clever you are my hero. I can barely cope with adults when I feel like this. Snappy, grumpy and short with everyone! My poor colleagues don't know who I am and what I have done with the happy Marlena!

In the waiting room. Clearly a newborn clinic on too as so many teeny babies crying!

livingzuid Tue 12-Nov-13 11:29:24

Hi all smile not sure how I haven't found this thread before! I am 11 weeks today. It reckons I am due 4th June but I have long cycles so am sure I am a bit later than that.

I have a 3rd scan in two weeks. First was fine and the second bizarre so I am just hanging on in there smile I'm high risk pregnancy so fortunately my care got transferred to a specialist hospital. I have the worst morning sickness. It has turned into a rampaging beast and since Friday I have been vomiting all day long. Late evenings tend to be a bit better. And I crave cold oranges! Nicely chopped up!

Off work again today, I had to tell them what the deal was but they have been great. Heading to my gp this afternoon to beg for a magic pill to make this sickness go away. I have been able to do nothing round the house apart from lie tragically on the sofa. It was so good to read this thread and see that it is not just me.

Will this sickness be over soon? I can deal with the tired and the ridiculous boobs and the strange sensations in my lower abdomen but this is hard. Today feels like the worst hangover ever I am lying in bed with work clothes on because I can't get up to change. I did make an attempt at going in! Sorry for moan hope you are all doing well!

jaykay987 Tue 12-Nov-13 11:57:04

Sick that's all exciting. I wish I knew someone locally....hoping my mat leave isn't too lonely! smile
I also get those hips pains. Very sore.

Liquidambar Tue 12-Nov-13 11:57:11

I have been drinking a cup of tea every hour but this means I need to go to the loo every 40 minutes max! ! shock Can't hold it more than that. My colleague must think there's something seriously wrong with me or that I'm just avoiding doing my work.

jaykay987 Tue 12-Nov-13 11:57:39

Sick that's all exciting. I wish I knew someone locally....hoping my mat leave isn't too lonely! smile
I also get those hips pains. Very sore.

LadyGoneGaga Tue 12-Nov-13 12:33:18

Jaykay will you do NCT classes? Great way of meeting people so you have some mates to hang out with on maternity leave. Or last time I didn't do NCT as was my second but stayed in contcat with loads of people I met at pregnancy yoga classes. It really is a godsend having a group of people who understand what you are going through. Baby classes are great too to get you out of the house and talking to people.

Welcome Livingzuid, what was the issue with your scan?

I think I might have to admit defeat and get the non-wired bras back out soon. Current ones are being overwhelmed. Still in my skinny jeans although they are becoming increasingly snug!

Anyone got some advice please? I have had DD's stomach flu for 6 days now - pretty bad diarrhoea (sorry TMI). I phoned my doctor today and she said that I should take Imodium. Having googled this I can see lots of 'no way' and only a few 'I did and it was fine'.......anyone got any direct experience? I am desperate to get back to work and get over this but would hate to cause any problems sad.

jaykay987 Tue 12-Nov-13 12:57:48

lady yep I plan to do nct. We only moved here a few months ago - so I literally only know my DH within a 50mile radius!
I could do my trousers up today for the first time in three weeks. So clearly Ive lost some bloat. I guess I'll only get bigger from here in!
So perhaps your jeans will get more comfy before you have to swop out?!

nessy sorry I haven't got a clue. FX someone will be along shortly.

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 12:58:13

I wouldn't. Not because of pregnancy but because Imodium can make the runs last longer... Always feels better to let it all out!

Booking in was lovely. So many questions but the loveliest midwife.

livingzuid Tue 12-Nov-13 13:12:21

Hi lady I had a scan at 6 weeks where thought they saw the heartbeat but couldn't confirm. Then went back a week later to see someone I can only politely refer to as a dumb bint who after declaring she couldn't see anything and waving the wand around which was really uncomfortable told me there was a pregnancy but she couldn't be sure it was a good one and to prepare for a miscarriage. I asked if there had been growth and she said no. So we went back the next day shocked and sad only to speak to a different gynae who looked at the report and scan which said there had been a bit of growth from the previous week and it was just too early to see anything. No mention of a bad pregnancy. They were confident there was a good chance of seeing something at 8 weeks. I remain totally confused as I have 100% pregnancy symptoms and no bleeds, no cramps, nothing! The symptoms have steadily gotten more intense. Just an awful lot of being sick and wishing I could sleep 24/7 smile dreaming of eating a decent meal again ooh. So we are taking it as a good sign till I get my scan at a specialist unit. Needless to say I am not going back to that other place. Hoping to get my midwife this week as well fingers crossed. I live in the Netherlands and the care is excellent on the whole but they can be a bit medieval in not giving out anything and leaving the body to do what it will. Which makes sense but it's nerve wracking particularly after a mc sigh.

Anyway off to the gp now to bg for some anti sickness medicine. Then a nap!

Liquidambar Tue 12-Nov-13 13:15:20

nessie I used to take imodium before. But after getting pregnant my gp precribed codeine insted of imodium. could you give them a call a ask for it instead of imodium?

LadyGoneGaga Tue 12-Nov-13 13:21:44

That sounds very stressful, Livingzuid. I hope you get some reassurance soon.

Jaykay I'm expecting to "pop" out quite soon as it's number 3. Had a definite bump by 10 weeks last time as collegaue at work guessed. But I am seem bit less bloated this time round. We will see.

Glad you're booking went well, Marlena. Is she the midwife you're going to be seeing throughout?

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 13:26:28

I don't know lady she seemed to imply she would be, but last time I never saw the same one twice, but am at a different hospital this time. Would be nice to have continuity. It would be so nice to know the midwife who attends you at birth. Last time I had an agency midwife (who was lovely) and then the midwife from hell after her.

CleverOl10 Tue 12-Nov-13 13:43:19

Glad to hear booking in was good Marlena.

Struggling to get my 5 a day at the moment. Fruit and veg just isn't stodgy enough. So far today my efforts include applet juice and tomato ketchup (!) confused

BEEwitched Tue 12-Nov-13 15:36:49

Oh god, I feel so sick today. Woke up with a fierce headache that had refused to go away and every little thing makes me heavy, I'm like Lily from How I met your mother, making velociraptor noises.

Surely this must end soon?

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 15:59:43

Thanks clever

Midwife told me to eat when I feel ill and pretty much all the time and worry about turning into an elephant after 12 weeks so I am taking the advice. It really does help if I don't get hungry. Although fruit gives me the worst heartburn so it is all unhealthy stuff here hmm

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 16:57:13

Livingzuid welcome. Sorry you are suffering. There is a thread here in the pregnancy section for anyone struggling with bad nausea and sickness in pregnancy - there are a few of us June bugs on it (waves to Bezza, RaRa, Handbags and still knows she's missed a couple, sorry ladies- Hope all is well)

We even have another Netherlands based MNer on the thread so you'll be in good company- do come and say hello, we might be able to hold your hand thought the worst of it. If you have been diagnosed as having Hyperemesis Gravidarum it's so much worse than "just" morning sickness (and I say "just" because the nausea alone is so debilitating so I feel empathy with anyone who's had even a fleeting moments sicky feeling, it's horrible) and we understand what it's like.

wispaxmas Tue 12-Nov-13 17:05:49

Oh my god, guys. The maternity jeans I ordered arrived today. They're only demi-panel, as I figured full panel could wait until I have a massive bump, but oh my god they are the most comfortable thing ever. I'm never wearing normal jeans again!

livingzuid Tue 12-Nov-13 17:17:29

Thanks sick and Lady, I blubbed all over my lovely gp (I cry at everything at the moment!) who was baffled as to why this hospital felt the need to perpetually scan me so early and reassured me that seeing not an awful lot at 7 weeks is incredibly common! Also that I should not have been told what I was told. Coupled with my symptoms and lack of any bad signs he told me to not worry and relax until my next scan. And the blessed man gave me anti sick drugs which is the best thing of all yay smile

Waving at the other nederlander - I'm British but my husband is Dutch. I moved for love, the things we ladies do smile

Ooh maternity wear! Those jeans sound fab where did you get them? There is another lady at work who is six months preggo and struggling to find anything decent here. I sent her links to mamas and papas, next, Debenhams and HoF and I think top shop. Where else is good for online delivery? She loved mamas and papas!

livingzuid Tue 12-Nov-13 17:23:07

And I will check out the thread thank you. So far so good with chocolate digestives (??? I normally hate them) and a lemon and ginger tea but if it keeps up I have to go into hospital day after tomorrow they said. I need to try the drugs first. It is horrendous and I hate not being able to work or have a life but in a way good because I am so busy feeling shit I haven't got time to worry about the pregnancy!

Magpie78 Tue 12-Nov-13 17:28:24

Hello everyone back from the midwife and have 12 week scan next Wednesday! Eeek!

wispaxmas Tue 12-Nov-13 17:34:45

I got them from the gap. They had a one day 25% off everything sale, so I bought 2 pairs of jeans and a few t-shirts.

cheesysmile Tue 12-Nov-13 17:57:03

Welcome livingzuid! Hope your next scan goes much better for you.

Wispa those jeans sound fab, my tummy is soooo bloated and I've put on about half a stone already shock From what I've read that seems alot and I know its coz im eating too much but so hungry all the time and like Marlena said I feel much better when nor hungry. How are others doing weight wise? This is my first and im worried im going to get too big if have put on so much already and only 10+3 today.

wispaxmas Tue 12-Nov-13 18:10:25

I've put on 2kg, but I started off 10kg overweight, so I really shouldn't be gaining anything until 2nd tri!

CleverOl10 Tue 12-Nov-13 18:11:10

Yay after a rubbish day I got my scan date in the post! 3rd Dec - I'll be 12+6 so an extra week to wait but just glad that I got a date to count down towards at last!

Back on the sofa now after a long day, almost sobbing at the big pile of work still to do. Can't see how to cut down the load to make life easier unfortunately so will have to keep plodding on....

livingzuid Tue 12-Nov-13 18:25:14

Wow why did I not think of gap! Going to have a look now.

Bezzabelle Tue 12-Nov-13 18:25:52

Welcome living- come on over to the sick thread....it's been so helpful for me to moan on!

Cheesy, I lost 7 pounds in week 8 due to the sickness but now it's under better control, that's all gone back on again. I put on 3 stone with ds even though I lost 10 pounds in first tri due to hg then. I think everyone is different and I'm not going to worry to much this time as it all came off last time within a few months- bf helps!

I bought maternity wear at the weekend as nothing fitted and was making me feel down. Was so comfy in work today. Told my manager today, was a real relief and she was so lovely. Well done on all positive scans and booking in appointments.
Sorry for those who still feel awful.
I still feel nauseous all day long but not as intense as last week, hopefully this is not just an illusion smile

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 18:59:43

Lost 18lbs here. Sickness rampant. But then I am four a couple of stone overweight anyway. Was 1/2 stone lighter when I had ds1 than when I got pg with him- had lost 2.5 stone at 1 point- being pg does my bmi good hmm. Put 1 stone on with ds2 as I had a break from the hyperemesis in the middle which allowed me to eat like fury to make up for lost time!

Magpie78 Tue 12-Nov-13 19:25:44

Do hope you feel better soon.

GinandStripes Tue 12-Nov-13 19:29:08

I've put on about 6lbs, but I know that's from lack of exercise which I'm hoping will improve in the 2nd.

I have grand plans for swimming and yoga and fingers crossed running.

So I'm not worried. Yet.

GillyBillyWilly Tue 12-Nov-13 19:51:57

OMG I feel so rough sad
Been feeling bunged up for a few days but now I think I have some kind of throat infection too!!!!!!!!!!!!
Going to call my dr first thing.

Re:weight gain... I've definitely gained but too scared of the scales as I had already gained a bit of weight this year anyway and was about to embark on a diet when I got my bfp... So... I don't want to know how much I've gained cos I will just feel annoyed with myself!

GillyBillyWilly Tue 12-Nov-13 19:52:36

Gin you still haven't said who it is that you know in real life..... grin

SicknSpan Tue 12-Nov-13 20:16:14

Ooh yes gin give us some clues!

thegruffalow Tue 12-Nov-13 20:34:24

hi all- still getting used to posting here (the format is ...interesting :] )

im on week 9, day 1 and i've been nauseated every night since week 7, day time seems ok- im just forever tired. im sometimes hoping i can sleep it all off and wake up on my 2nd trimester.

i also got my 2nd scan already for the 17th of January. x

Vickyvix Tue 12-Nov-13 20:35:35

Glad the midwife appointments went well marlena and magpie, I have my booking in appointment on Friday, can't wait.

wispa i'm totally with you on the maternity jeans, my skinnies were getting too snug around the waist but I got some topshop skinnies with the soft band at the front, they are so so comfy and best of all do not cut me in half when I sit down!!

Also struggling with the five a day, if it's not crisps or biscuits or skittles :/ I'm struggling to eat it!

jaykay987 Tue 12-Nov-13 20:41:23

Five a day? Im currently struggling to hit two a day. If its not yellow/beige, vegetarian or beer.....I don't want it! (Very odd)

Vickyvix Tue 12-Nov-13 20:51:38

Ha ha yep, when I said fi was struggling with 5 a day, I mean really struggling to get past about one or two!

Today I have had a bagel for brekkie, a sandwich and crisps for lunch and pasta and pesto for dinner - all mostly beige! Maybe pesto counts as one of my five a day?? Oh dear!

MarlenaGru Tue 12-Nov-13 21:00:32

I had onions on my pizza this evening...
Good luck for Friday vicky. It feels loads more real after booking in.

Tronbear Tue 12-Nov-13 21:09:21

Evening.

Thanks for the welcomes. My breast lumps (they found several!) turned out to be harmless cysts. Such a relief.

I know what you are saying about getting your 5-a-day. I am usually on about 7-10 a day as a vegetable loving vegetarian. I can barely make it to two at the moment. And I had plans for such a healthy pregnancy! The nausea means I can only seem to stomach certain things, but these things change EVERY DAY! Madness.

The tiredness doesn't seem quite so bad now though, thank god, it was nearly killing me.

Stacks Tue 12-Nov-13 21:16:35

I had this for dinner tonight, good and stodgy and 4 of your 5 a day! cheesy pasta bake. I put half in the freezer for another day too, just before putting the cheese on top and sticking it on the oven.

Vickyvix Tue 12-Nov-13 21:32:50

Great news tron smile

marlena I really hope you're right and Friday makes it all feel more real - I still feel like a bit of a fraud And need some more evidence that there is something in there! Has been a while since my early scan and am generally feeling ok so I need some reassurance from midwife that it's all real and happening!

Cheesy pasta bake sounds right up my street, thanks stacks I'm definitely going to need to conceal veg in tasty meals the thought of greens turns my stomach at the mo. fruit seems ok, I'm liking bananas!

superlambanana Tue 12-Nov-13 21:36:36

I thought it was Emmazers who knows Gin? Or did I get hold of the wrong end of the stick?

Pizza... Another food I used to like! What I can eat changes daily too. Poor DH gave me pasta with a tomatoey sauce today because it was the only thing I could face the other day, but I was desperate for cheese sauce! Poor bloke.

jaykay987 Tue 12-Nov-13 21:42:24

Thought so too super

Vicky A banana a day is obstacle for me at the moment. I both a large pot of crunchy peanut butter to spread on one (no idea where that thought came from) but Tesco forgot to deliver my bananas this week and I've been off sick from work (my usual banana source) so am desperate to try it! smile. also found an amazing frozen banana sand receipe which looks like ice cream. can't wait to try that too!

GinandStripes Tue 12-Nov-13 22:13:37

Gilly I did but you must've missed it. smile I know Emmazers but now I also know thegruffalow but I'm yet to reveal myself to her in real life yet!

Bezzabelle Tue 12-Nov-13 22:18:02

Does strawberry jelly count as one of my five a day??

GinandStripes Tue 12-Nov-13 22:18:28

Bezza - 100 times yes!

Bezzabelle Tue 12-Nov-13 22:23:06

Phew! That's been my lifesaver!

cheesysmile Tue 12-Nov-13 22:52:19

Hmmm I think I'm just eating everything, well the only thing I really don't fancy is fatty meat. I'm doing ok with fruit and veg although gone off salad unless in a sandwich. Loving the carbs at the moment though, which probably accounts for the weight gain. Going to try to be a bit better. Been loving fruit recently so going to try and snack on that more than crisps and bread, but sometimes only toast will do!

CleverOl10 Tue 12-Nov-13 23:22:01

Argh heartburn just as I'm trying to sleep. Bah. This baby had better be good wink

Vickyvix Tue 12-Nov-13 23:28:06

Did someone say frozen banana sand?! That actually sounds delicious! And jaykay banana with peanut butter also sounds v good, I'm going to have to try that. Hope your banana delivery comes soon!

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 00:04:58

There's always money in the banana stand!

rainbowweaver Wed 13-Nov-13 06:09:09

Just got the Demi panel jeans from gap! Can't wait! Thanks wispa

MTMD Wed 13-Nov-13 07:30:58

Morning all

I'm calling in sick. Woke up feeling awful: exhausted (despite clocking 10 hours tonight), sick and with a headache... Even if I manage to take my sorry ass all the way to my desk, I know I'd have a hellish day without doing anything productive... so I'm staying in bed hoping to get some energy back.. They won't be happy but what can I do sad

Re: bananas. Never liked them but having loads now. Including one at about 3 am - I wake up ravenous and cannot get back to sleep unless I eat something. And that's every night now.

cheesysmile Wed 13-Nov-13 07:40:08

Morning all, that sounds horrid MTMD, try not to worry abt work, if your sick you can't do much about it. Hope you fee better soon.

I'm still coughing / have sore throat / cold this morning but not bad enough to stay home & it is better than it was. Plus I know I'll feel a bit better once I put myself in the shower. Really looking forward to this week being over though.

I know its silly but don't feel I can buy any mat clothes until I've had my scan and know all is well. The jeans sound good though, mine are getting tight!

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 07:41:02

I want to call in sick... Along with still having sickness and nausea on/off, I have diarrhoea and a stinking cold sad

I had 5 days off sick a few weeks ago though so don't feel like I should take more days off.

sad Dunno sad

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 07:42:47

Cheesy I feel the same. I don't want to buy anything or even think about baby stuff too much til after my scan!
Luckily my sister gave me some maternity jeans so I'm wearing them every now and then... Which is allowed cos they were given to me!! grin

Penguin13 Wed 13-Nov-13 07:52:14

I'm another one avoiding the scales. I can't even blame nausea for me not making healthy choices, I've just been grabbing whatever I fancy and is close at hand. . I have found that when hunger hits it's that proper almost slightly panicked I need to eat NOW feeling but maybe if I was eating fewer sugary snacks my hunger wouldn't be quite so urgent when it hits!

Resolving to eat healthy healthier snacks today and see how that goes.

Still 9 days till scan. Ugh. And still got a horrible nagging gut feeling something is wrong but hoping it's just pregnancy paranoia.

All of you dealing with MS have my utmost sympathy. The tiredness alone has me struggling so I can only imagine trying to deal with the nausea as well. Massive anti-sickness hugs to all and hoping your second trimester is nearly here and brings some relief.

CleverOl10 Wed 13-Nov-13 07:54:44

Ha ha nice quoting wispa wink

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 08:04:48

Who has got their scan next Wednesday? I know there's a few of us!
One week to go!!!smile

MTMD Wed 13-Nov-13 08:09:20

Gilly do call in. Sounds like you have enough reasons.

My thinking is that 1st trimester won't last forever. We've got months and months of work ahead, despite growing bumps and tiredness. A few days won't make a massive difference on the grand scheme of things.

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 09:04:07

Gilly, it might be time to tell them you're pregnant and that it's the reason you've had so much time off sick. They should be understanding, and then it would also let them know that it's not going to be an ongoing thing (hopefully) once the first tri is over.

And I just have to ask - did no one in here ever watch Arrested Development? I'm just wondering how anyone can hear about frozen banana stands and not think of it!

The gap jeans are ridiculously comfortable. I'm wearing them today already, even though I don't need them.

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 09:06:36

Oh wait, nm, Clever got it blush

GinandStripes Wed 13-Nov-13 09:12:56

wispa I googled you, well not you - the quote. I ashamed to say that I have not watched Arrested Development. Yet. It's on the long list of TV series we are going to get through during night feeds!

CleverOl10 Wed 13-Nov-13 09:18:44

Big fan, wispawink

LadyGoneGaga Wed 13-Nov-13 09:59:12

I think you lot have completely destocked Gap of maternity jeans (in my size anyway!). Going to have to dig all my maternity clothes out of the attic and have a sort through. But the jeans normally get pretty knackered as I tend to live in them (don't have to be smart for work if not seeing clients so skinny jeans and stripey tee's are my uniform). H&M good for maternity too but do not let the sizing depress you. It's different to most where you get your old size. This will depress you when you are huge.

Day off today (I work 3 days). Just debating whether to take DD to playgroup or tackle the pit that is the house. DH appears not to know what the hoover is for so nobody has hoovered since I started feeling rough.

AuntPittypat Wed 13-Nov-13 10:56:42

Wispa, we got the Arrested Development boxset as a wedding present... Took a couple of episodes to get into it but now love it! Have never eaten frozen banana though, wasn't sure it was a real thing! Do you literally just stick a banana in the freezer or is it more than that?!

2 weeks today to my scan. Am so excited but also really nervous. Good luck to everyone with scans this week.

BEEwitched Wed 13-Nov-13 11:17:32

I'm still in regular trousers but my jeans are always a bit loose in the waist because I need them bigger in the thigh area. Not much longer n I e, though.

I have my scan next Thursday, hopefully it'll confirm that all is still going well.

tannyLoo72 Wed 13-Nov-13 11:29:56

Hi everyone, thought I'd pop in.

I was in this thread until a month ago when I mc'd at 6 weeks, and had to pull out. Was 3rd mc in a row and was very low about my options as I instantly became a statistic.

Anyhoo... Am now pg again, approx 4 weeks if you take 1st day of mc as day 1, and as nervous as hell. Superstition is stopping me from joining the July thread, and July seems like some distant and promised land atm!

So, just wanted to tell you my news, as I had loads of support from you lovely lot, and really pleased to see you're all still here!

Lmf679 Wed 13-Nov-13 11:41:09

tanny that is such good news! So happy for you. Everything crossed! Let us know how you get on.

Great news tanny!

Well....still off sick, haven't kept any food in for a week now and spent last night having panic attacks after googling and convincing myself that every minor twinge was something wrong with the baby. Can't stay away from the bathroom long enough to go to docs - although she doesn't seem too concerned. Am desperate to go for a scan though.....and am so fed up. Bloody google, bloody stomach flu.

Fingers crossed Tanny! I had multiple miscarriages and a still-born baby boy before finally getting lucky with Dd. This my first pregnancy since having her and I am not totally convinced yet. It has been too easy so far...grin
However, I am having to wear my "really fat" jeans! I have a definite tummy.

LadyGoneGaga Wed 13-Nov-13 12:11:29

Lovely news, Tanny. Crossing everything that this one is sticky.

SicknSpan Wed 13-Nov-13 12:20:58

Lovely news Tanny. Do hang out with us!

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 12:38:15

Tanny, that's amazing news! We did lose quite a few people in that tumultuous first month, thank you for letting us now your happy news, I'm thrilled for you grin. Do stick around with us for a while if you feel like it, have you joined the antenatal thread for your new edd yet?

superlambanana Wed 13-Nov-13 12:47:54

Congrats Tanny!

Am at work feeling HORRENDOUS. Keep trying not to throw up. One step forward

tannyLoo72 Wed 13-Nov-13 13:35:49

Thanks! Finding it hard to feel positive, so you doing it for me is a great feeling.

Gilly, Wispa, Penguin and Sick, nice to see you're all doing well!

I've jumped in to the July thread, but might hang with you guys (a bit like hanging out with the sixth formers) for a bit.

My most positive things so far are that the lines are getting darker and I am close to chundering - something I haven't felt since I was pg with DS2.

superlambanana Wed 13-Nov-13 13:36:12

Congrats Tanny!

Am at work feeling HORRENDOUS. Keep trying not to throw up. One step forward, three back...

CleverOl10 Wed 13-Nov-13 13:54:11

Lovely news Tanny.

Day off today. So many plans yet back on the sofa sad I seem to need my day off to recuperate for the rest of the working week. So much for the housework!

On the upside DH brought me home a cheese and tuna toastie for lunch and I've managed to eat it all!

MTMD Wed 13-Nov-13 14:07:45

I managed to load the dishwasher but now need to lie down to recuperate, ridiculously dizzy and tired. I wonder if this what it's feels like to be old??

carrie105 Wed 13-Nov-13 15:12:39

Congratulations Tanny great to have you back!

Strange everyone saying they are loving bananas. I was a massive banana eater, usually 2 a day, but since pg I just cant face them. Weird!

Just returned from my booking in appointment. Midwife was fantastic. I don't know whether I am just extremely lucky, but where I am there is a team of 5 midwives who get to know you before birth (based out of our GP surgery) and then one will come to the hospital to be with you at the birth. I was absolutely thrilled at that. We were considering a Doula, but may not bother now as we will know at least one of the midwives on the day.

Sadly she couldn't get any bloods out of me, but I have previous with that.. A few traumatizing incidents of blood taking as a small child when I had a nasty illness seems to make my muscles seize up when someone comes towards me with a needle to take blood!! Strangely I have no issues whatsoever with injections. They are going to try again at my 12 week scan on Monday, so hopefully I won't embarrass myself a second time.

Also, have been classified as low risk (so far), so have been put down for the birthing centre within the hospital, which is great as I would really like a waterbirth. Quite excited now.

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 15:39:36

Wispa my work have known im pregnant since I found out! I was doing 12 hour nights and days and my doctor wrote a certificate to get me off shifts immediately so work had to know from day one!
But I still feel bad about having days off sick sad

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 15:40:06

And congrats tanny that's AMAZING news!!!

Lmf679 Wed 13-Nov-13 15:58:16

gilly is there something to say you shouldn't do such long hours? My manager knows but she's not being so helpful and in a couple of weeks we have an event which will consist of two 16 hour days back to back, one of those I'm pretty much on my feet all day! I'm dreading it but she seems to think I'll be fine?!! She's not the most considerate of people and has no children so am not sure what to do?

Liquidambar Wed 13-Nov-13 17:21:51

A long day at work. I'll come back later but just wanted to say congratulations to Tanny smile
Hope everyone is well.

superlambanana Wed 13-Nov-13 17:40:46

Lmf that sounds an awful lot. Is there an hr person you can talk to?

Made it to end of work. Not quite sure how! And DH is out AGAIN this evening!

MarlenaGru Wed 13-Nov-13 17:49:32

Congrats tanny lots of sticky thoughts coming your way!
That sounds amazing carrie I would love to know my midwife! Will see what happens at 34 weeks as maybe home births you have more chance of seeing a known midwife.

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 18:13:41

Ahh, Gilly, that makes sense. LMF, your workplace should do a risk assessment for you now that you're pregnant. Read the health and safety section on this site: https://www.gov.uk/working-when-pregnant-your-rights, long hours and standing for long periods without adequate breaks are both risks.

If you're coping well for now, I wouldn't necessarily bother going so far as to contact your union or health executive (don't really know what those are), but you definitely should raise the hours and standing with your employer. Pregnant women are more prone to fainting if standing for long periods of time, not to mention the sheer fatigue resulting from long hours on your feet. Apparently if your employer cannot remove the risks in your job you should be suspended with full pay!!

cheesysmile Wed 13-Nov-13 18:13:48

Ah congrats Tanny, thats amazing news, FX for you.

11 more days til my scan now, I can't wait. Who's is first? Wispa yours is soon isn't it? Will be so nice to start telling people.

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 18:23:32

It's Friday!!! grin grin

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 18:24:59

I bought plain white tshirt and babygro today, and some fabric pens to write 'father Christmas' and 'baby Christmas' on them for our reveal on Facebook. Because we are completely lame like that!

Emmazers Wed 13-Nov-13 18:27:49

Welcome back tanny! What happy news grin

Lmf that sounds really inappropriate to me. Definitely check with HR on it and don't do anything your body says is not ok! So sorry your manager isn't supportive.

Well I think I spoke too soon about the b6 as I've been feeling nauseated again today. Then again maybe I'd feel much worse if I hadn't? I remember it peaking for me about week 10 (urgh!) last time, so I wouldn't be surprised.

Smells are the worst for me, especially anything synthetic. Perfume (I'm not a fan at the best of times) and washing detergent on clothes are making me gag. I've bought some second hand maternity clothes and stuff for my daughter online but as soon as I start opening the package the waft of the detergent makes me so sick. I have to wash them in my BioD (hippy detergent) before I can stand to even be near them! Bleugh!

Penguin13 Wed 13-Nov-13 18:29:24

Hooray Tanny! Amazing news smile sending the stickiest of sticky thoughts your way.

So much for a healthy day today. Was going really well right up till the er second breakfast at 9am after my weetabix at 6.45 blush

So exciting wispa! 2 more sleeps!

Emmazers Wed 13-Nov-13 18:29:26

Wispa a) I think it's Wednesday (or are you quoting again?) and b) that is awesome! smile

Emmazers Wed 13-Nov-13 18:30:16

Hahahahahaha stupid pregna-brain! Sorry Wispa I just realised what you meant blush

MTMD Wed 13-Nov-13 18:47:06

Still more than 3 weeks till my scan, aaaarg! smile

Sick sick sick sad DH late from work but no energy to cook the soup even if it takes 5 minutes to do! I just want to fall asleep and sleep till the end of this trimester...which is almost a month away!

Great news tiny

littlepickly Wed 13-Nov-13 19:02:27

Congrats Tanny - that's brilliant news!!

I had my booking in appt today with midwife and it was great - same one I had with DD and she is so great, I think I love her! She's so organised and efficient and the right amount of laid back if you know what I mean smile

All booked in for a home birth too all being well - my midwife is a big advocate of home births so another positive and she is one of the trained midwives running the new hypnobirthing course at my local hospital - it's £200 though so v.expensive but I'm thinking it could be worth it especially if having home birth - will think on it.

Sickness seems to have lessened a bit now so hopefully the tiredness will go soon too - sending hugs to all those suffering with MS it truly is so horrible!!

Have ordered my first pair of maternity jeans today as I don't think the hair bobble trick will last much longer! grin

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 19:06:10

Lmf your employer should do a risk assessment as soon as they find out.
My doctor had already said prior to my assessment that I should come off shift work and wrote a doctors note/certificate for me to give my work... Which I gave them when I had the assesment with occupational health.
Occupational health lady in work also agreed with the doctor and said I should be doing shorter days and no nightshifts smile

cheesysmile Wed 13-Nov-13 19:17:45

Ooo Wispa not long now! grin Loving your reveal plans, great time of year for your name as well!

Lmf that does seem pretty harsh. Do you get on with your manager? It can be difficult sometimes to say anything even if you know legally you can as you don't want to seem difficult etc, but if you're going to struggle could you maybe have a quiet word with your manager. It might be she just doesn't realise how you're feeling, especially if she doesn't have children?

Lmf679 Wed 13-Nov-13 19:20:21

Thank you for all the advice everyone! I'll definitely speak to hr and raise it in the risk assessment, my manager did mention risk assessment to me but she's so disorganised I received a letter from her last week dated June saying I'd just passed my probation period, if it was left to her I would be on maternity leave before she got round to it. I'll make sure it's done before this event, the event is huge and I'm in charge of it which makes it difficult, it happens twice a year and even when I'm fit and healthy i am like a broken person for a week after. They are just going to have to pull together and take on more without me for this one.

seatfor5 Wed 13-Nov-13 19:21:28

Tanny thats fab needs, good luck & sticky bean smile

Wispa how very sweet

jaykay987 Wed 13-Nov-13 19:24:57

Banana sand (in case anyone is interested):

Chop bananas up into discs
Freeze until they get solid (but not ice like) prob a couple of hours
Put in a blender. Pulse until banana starts to break up. Keep pulsing until the texture becomes smoother.

Banana sand is served!

Eat plain, or add a spoonful of Nutella to make it chocolatey or a spoonful of peanut butter.

Yummy!

(I haven't tried it yet.....Im way too cold. My ice cold hands couldn't cope with it!).

GillyBillyWilly Wed 13-Nov-13 19:43:53

Wispa I'm so excited for you! It's almost Thursday which means your scan is ALMOST tomorrow (Friday!!) grin
What time is it?

MarlenaGru Wed 13-Nov-13 19:50:11

So exciting for our first 12 week scan! Mine is 3.5 weeks away <sobs>

jaykay987 Wed 13-Nov-13 20:06:49

Has anyone had any problems taking pregnacare?

I've only just finished the pregnacare conception tablets and am only about 3/4 days into the pregnancy ones.

Sorry if tmi - but Ive become really constipated and when I do get anything out it is almost black! Anyone else had this problem?

I know some people struggled with the conception tablets but as I was ok with these I thought I would be ok with the pregnancy ones too.

Could it be related? Or do you think it's something else? I can't say my diet has been very balanced recently.

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 20:08:16

Jaykay, I was having on again off again diarrhoea before switching to pregnacare, and it's sorted it out for me, but not made me constipated.. Maybe I just eat more fiber?

wispaxmas Wed 13-Nov-13 20:11:40

Gilly, my scan is at 10:10am, I'll do my best to show you lot a photo for you lot ASAP! I guess I'm the first?

superlambanana Wed 13-Nov-13 20:15:41

My scan isn't for another five weeks!!! That's aaaaaages!!! Very jealous of all the twelve weekers! not least because you're nearly out of the sodding first trimester

Lmf679 Wed 13-Nov-13 20:29:21

I take pregnacare and have been quite constipated, I thought it was just being pregnant and eating a beige diet but maybe not? I've tried to eat a bit more fruit or at least drink orange juice. I also find that beans on toast or a lentil soup helps.

CleverOl10 Wed 13-Nov-13 20:33:09

I've been taking the seven seas pregnancy ones and not had a problem. Only got them cos they were on offer lol. Was thinking about getting pregnacare ones next but not so sure now.

jaykay987 Wed 13-Nov-13 20:36:55

I bought them on special too clever. I had 120... Enough to last me through until Im 22w!!!grin FX they aren't the reason for this!

Wispa....I can't even pretend not to be jealous of your scan! grin

I have the on/off diarrhoea too. Not fun. Especially when trying to teach a class of 7yo's. confused
On days where I'm not sick, it comes out the other end. How glamorous!
I think it is the folic acid. I have to take a stronger dose than over the counter because of a problem in a previous pregnancy.
It will get worse if I end up on iron tablets. That was horrific last time.

MyNameIsWinkly Wed 13-Nov-13 20:59:26

gilly what is it you do again? I'm still doing nights for the time being, it means I'm in sync with DH, and I don't lose shift allowance. I'm bloody shattered though, my MIL is in hospital so with looking after her and FIL and then a night shift I'm fit to drop.

Anyone else finding drinking water makes them feel sick?

jaykay987 Wed 13-Nov-13 21:06:12

Drama - that's interesting. I have the higher folic acid too but haven't had that side effect.

My name - if your schedule suits you, the. I wouldn't be in a hurry to try and change it. Try and take it easy in the day though - otherwise you'll be asking on far too much. It sounds like you have a lot going on.
I've been ok with water. I normally hate it but Im so thirsty all the time!

CleverOl10 Wed 13-Nov-13 21:23:05

Also just started taking extra folic acid due to high bmi but no side effects yet.

Weird appetite today. All I could face for dinner was prawn crackers and grapes!

MarlenaGru Wed 13-Nov-13 21:31:21

I am drinking litres of water. It is the only thing that agrees with the constant nausea and heart burn! This one is going to be born with waist length hair if the old wives' tales are to be believed (DD was bald til 1 so I know it isn't true!)

MarlenaGru Wed 13-Nov-13 21:32:19

I remember finding pregnacare awful last time. I am on their conception ones still. Will try 7 seas next week when these runs out.

littlepickly Wed 13-Nov-13 21:36:34

I'm taking pregnacare and am a little constipated but put it down to beige diet at the mo and sluggish digestion - one thing I have had with pregnacare is that it made me sick when I took it 3 hours after my dinner - thought it would be ok but no!!

Liquidambar Wed 13-Nov-13 21:48:23

Wispax how exciting! Our first 12 week scan smile Mine will be in 3 weeks, 11 hours and 1 minute

Jaykay I am taking the Sanatogen Mum to Be + Omega 3 and I’m getting the opposite effect. But I have IBS, so in my case it might not be related to the vitamins.

Nessie how are you feeling? Did you manage to ask your doctor about codeine?

Tron fantastic news

I gave all my maternity clothes to friends. One of them is currently pregnant and expecting the baby in January. Perhaps I will retrieve some of the clothes then. But I have been looking on-line and tempted to buy a couple of things. Since Isabella Olive's dresses are a bit expensive I think I might buy this one. It will be nice for work meetings.

I still need to do some work, but I am so tired! (and dreaming about frozen banana with nutella!!)

Bezzabelle Wed 13-Nov-13 22:06:44

Liquid!!!! I was trying really hard not to look maternity clothes as already have enough from ds and sil but I LOVE la redoute and forgot they did maternity. If I cave and order anything, I will hold you responsible!!

Congrats Tanny!

I am another one suffering with constipation but think its the anti sickness meds and lack of decent food.

Gilly, this time next week, we will have had our scans!! What time is yours??

AuntPittypat Wed 13-Nov-13 22:41:14

Nutella banana sand sounds delicious!

Oh, and I'm on Pregnacare and haven't had any problems.

ElizaB3 Wed 13-Nov-13 22:50:53

Hi everyone, checking back in after holiday & it's taken a week to catch up!
Had early scan, he was squirming around a lot already - goes without saying its the best thing our eyes have seen! Dated us three days on (so currently 9+5) but won't change EDD until confirmed at 12 wk scan.

Had booking in apt, MW came to our house but unfortunately I was not a fan! Found her very patronising, know-it-all and she answered some of my questions with straight sarcasm.
I asked if there were choices where I could give birth but she said if it wasn't at 'her hospital' she may as well leave now. Felt quite railroaded.

Haven't researched hospitals properly (thought I had more time!), I have a choice of two but now feel I've been selected one without realising.
Does it matter if you don't like your MW as she only does the PG appts, not the birthing?
Can you change hospitals after your booking in? Not saying I definitely want to but would be nice to feel there is a choice.
I saw a locum doctor to confirm the PG & she gave me no info on how this works!

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 06:38:44

Winkly I work on a technical help desk.
We are 24/7 because the people that use our services are mostly military and government and if they can't use our services they could potentially be in serious danger so we have to be there all the time blush

We are a small team and usually when we do a shift it's just one of us by ourselves.

My boss was happy to take me off shift because if there's days when I'm late to work for whatever reason (morning sickness for example), the night shift worker would need to stay in work until the 9-5 management team and other support team come in which means doing a 14 hour night shift! (We work 7am-7pm or 7pm-7am days and nights)

Also if I was working a day shift then had to leave for whatever reason or had an appointment and could only do a half day, they would need to get someone else to come into work on their day off to cover me.

It's basically a lot easier for management, the team, and me(!) this way because they aren't DEPENDING on me to be there at certain times to take over from people.

Plus my doctor just wasn't happy with me waking up at 5am to get to work for 7am and not getting home til gone 8pm! And she also said she doesn't think nights are good either.

So I'm pleased... I'm doing Monday to Friday 10-6 and it works well for the team in work as well as they now always have at least 2 people in during the day - me and a shift worker smile

I've lost my shift allowance but I'm not fussed. I'm much happier and getting the sleep I need... Waking up at a normal time and getting home at a normal time!

Just realised how long this post is grin

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 06:40:16

Bezza my scan is next Wednesday at 9:20am! smile

6 days to go!!

GinandStripes Thu 14-Nov-13 07:58:28

Hey lovely Ladies,

First midwife appointment today, hopefully this means a scan date is just around the corner.

MarlenaGru Thu 14-Nov-13 08:14:19

Enjoy gin
Why isn't it Friday yet? envy <<< ms smiley!

MTMD Thu 14-Nov-13 08:17:59

winkly Water makes me sick too. I squeeze some lemon in to make it more palatable.

Just checking in to say morning. Good luck with those with appointments today.
Hope those feeling unwell feeling a little better today.
I've been working all week and exhausted doesn't cut it. Stupidly said I would do extra 4 hours at work as so short, 2 hours today and tomorrow when ds is at nursery. So instead of being finished up til Monday now ready to go into work.
My ds (4) was with his Granny yesterday who gave him Argos catalogue and now is asking for everything single thing in it!!
Going to throw him and Argos catalogue out!
Wishing everyone well today smile

Bezzabelle Thu 14-Nov-13 08:24:12

Gilly, I have to wait till 14.45 for mine! But probably a good thing as I'm terrible in the morning so would probably vomit on the sonographer if early scan! Have appt with consultant at 8.50 tomorrow morning and dreading being up and dressed and...gulp...in the car for that time. Sick bucket at the ready.....

bee024 Thu 14-Nov-13 08:28:35

Put on my maternity jeans today and looked huge! Can't believe how quickly I have got a bump this time round. Going to see Mum & Dad today and will finally be able to tell them, but I may as well just walk in with a big sign around my neck!

KatAndKit Thu 14-Nov-13 08:28:46

winks try PLJ in your water. You find it in the squash area, but it is sharp,not sweet and saves you having to faff about slicing lemons. It is amazing as a hot drink. How long do you expect to carry on doing nights? Must be exhausting.

i have caved in and put on a pair of maternity trousers today. It is so nice not to have a belt on my belly rubbing my clexane bruises.

Liquidambar Thu 14-Nov-13 08:54:45

Good morning everyone.
I'm at work since 8am but having some abdominal cramps and not feeling 100%. I might go home soon... and try to work from home.

Good luck for today's appointments.

Vickyvix Thu 14-Nov-13 09:01:50

Good luck to those with appointments today, looking forward to updates later.

I'm also taking pregnacare (the max one because I figured it must be the best hmm ) and apart from being a little less regular than normal it seems fine. I think that could be down to the beige diet as others have said though.

Booking in appt tomorrow smile

superlambanana Thu 14-Nov-13 10:30:52

Just had booking appt. Midwife was absolutely lovely but sadly she won't be the one delivering as it's a different team in the hospital and also she's going on maternity leave herself in April! Did get me thinking about a home birth though which was something I hadn't considered.

Feeling awful still though and my blood pressure is so low she couldn't get any so I've now got to schlepp to the hospital and get them to do it. But concerned about throwing up on myself on the way there....

LadyGoneGaga Thu 14-Nov-13 10:33:55

Managed a run today before work (first in over a week barring a short run-walk with DS). My goodness but it was hard work. Had to walk the hills to keep breathing under control. But I feel like maybe there are some green shoots of recovery coming in energy levels? I mean still not good but I actually managed to hoover and tidy a bit yesterday and a little run today? And I stayed up until 9:45 last night!!!! DH nearly fell off the sofa in shock as he's hardly seen me for three weeks.

Of course now I am wondering if there is something wrong. Please to slap with wet fish. I have started taking a Vit B complex, wondering if there is a connection? Nausea remaining omnipresent though.

Good luck for appointments and for Wispas scan. I am sooo jealous of those hitting 12 weeks.

MTMD Thu 14-Nov-13 10:36:32

It's 10.30 and I already had pancakes with jam, then porridge and pain au chocolat. With this rate, I'll be the size of the elephant by the time baby is here smile But at least it stopped the dizziness.. for now!

KatAndKit Thu 14-Nov-13 10:53:49

Its the iron in pregnacare that can cause constipation,alongside the fact that pregnancy causes constipation anyway. If you can eat more fruit and drink more water that may help. If not just take folic acid on its own. I get on better with Tesco own brand than pregnacare. No idea why they are probably the same, but i find pregnacare have a strange smell

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 11:17:43

Wispa this time tomorrow you would've had your scan!!!!!! smile

superlambanana Thu 14-Nov-13 11:42:47

Well done Lady! I wouldn't worry, mine seems to go up and down so I'm sure there's nothing wrong.

MTMD I am sitting at the train station eating giant chocolate buttons if that makes you feel better blush

jaykay987 Thu 14-Nov-13 12:19:20

so my constipation problem went completely the other way this morning. so bad I was late for work!

First day in a week I've managed to wake with crawling to the bathroom with nausea. On the flip side - ny face has ballooned! Looks like a chipmunk. Not a good look!

kittygirl33 Thu 14-Nov-13 12:25:53

Well done on the run Lady! I've also been feeling a bit better this week and made it out for a decent run on Tuesday and also to spin class yesterday.... today though... I'm sitting at my desk eating. I'm also a bit worried about constipation (oh the joys of pregnancy) especially as I have IBS. I already have bad wind (sorry if tmi) and bloating so I think I might take some probiotics as they seem fairly safe in pregnancy?
I've also got my scan date through, it's on November 25 so not too long to wait.... just hoping that everything is ok. I will be so relieved to get to 12 weeks!

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 12:34:55

I know, gilly grin

I just got so angry/sad at a save the children advert. Sad, obviously because of the starving children, but angry because it's like the ad was preying on my hormones.

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 12:35:59

How are you feeling wispa? Excited?

Id like to say I feel excited about my scan next week but I'm just feeling scared!

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 12:51:51

Excited, a bit anxious though. I've been fairly symptom free for 2 weeks, but I think I can feel the beginning of a bump under my belly fat...

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 12:56:36

Have they asked you to go with a full bladder? There was nothing on my letter about it but my sister said you have to have a full bladder...
However I just called my hospital and they said that's not necessary "nowadays"... Even though my sister is currently pregnant and they always ask her in advance to drink lots of water!

LadyGoneGaga Thu 14-Nov-13 13:06:05

I would go with a full bladder just in case, Gilly, you can always empty it if not. Just drink a pint of water about an hour before.

Well done on run and spinning, Kitty. I've got a trail 10k race on Sunday (entered pre-preg). Haha, I won't be racing it but will be quite nice to take part in a non-pressured event for once. Just need to swallow my pride and rein in my competitive spirit and start at the back!

BEEwitched Thu 14-Nov-13 13:12:57

Good luck to all of you with scans!

I'm a bit jealous of those of you who had only one person to deal with for the booking in - I barely had time to breathe at mine and I'm nervous meting new people so was really uncomfortable at mine.

GinandStripes Thu 14-Nov-13 13:15:01

Midwife appointment was basically just to tell me they're in the process of changing the way they do things - so my booking-in appointment will be done with the scan. She talked through what I can expect at the booking-in and at further appointments.

She's going to call me tomorrow with my appointment but said hopefully they'll be able to do the week I've got booked off - which is week after next.

smile

superlambanana Thu 14-Nov-13 13:18:33

Utter fail here...

Went to station after hospital. Got train to city centre. Felt awful. Got off train, had mcdonalds as it's the only thing that doesn't turn my stomach (go figure) and am now about to get train home as I am just feeling too ill I go to work. Fail!!!

jaykay987 Thu 14-Nov-13 13:21:14

oh dear super. that's not good. I could eat a McDonald's too!

gin - that's exciting!

Bezzabelle Thu 14-Nov-13 13:53:02

Gilly, my letter said to empty bladder an hour before scan and then to drink half a pint of liquid and not to go toilet again till after scan.

Chicken McNuggets always go down a treat!

BEEwitched Thu 14-Nov-13 13:53:06

Ack, super, get some rest and feel better! McDonalds is one of my food groups as well right now.

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 14:38:31

Oh my gosh, I just got the letter in the post with the date for my 20-wk scan, too! 14 January!

kittygirl33 Thu 14-Nov-13 15:28:31

Lady it is surprisingly nice just plodding along, also means the chance of injury is pretty low! I wasn't sure about running while pregnant to start with, but I feel more confident now I'm a bit further along and feeling slightly better, and I'm actually enjoying it.
Gilly I've been asked to go to my scan with a full bladder. But we're probably quite behind the times here up in Aberdeen with our outdated maternity hospital....

seatfor5 Thu 14-Nov-13 15:31:57

Goodness Wispa thats half way!! smile

Liquid that dress is lovely smile

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 15:39:03

Oh, and as for the bladder thing, the letter I just got does say that I should have a 'moderately full bladder.'

My letter for 12 week scan said to come with full bladder and if travelling and will be too uncomfortable allow enough time to arrive and fill bladder up at hospital!

GillyBillyWilly Thu 14-Nov-13 15:54:54

OMG wispa! That's very good of your hospital to have you booked in for 20 week scan already! Also.. A bit weird! What if your dates are totally wrong? They'd only know for sure at the 12 week scan which you haven't even had yet! grin How strange.. But exciting!!!!

BEEwitched Thu 14-Nov-13 16:05:45

My letter didn't give any bladder instructions!

I have my 20 week and my 30-something date in March already. I still need to find out who b to call about my 16-18 week appointment, though. That's with a different person yet again. ..

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 16:07:59
Liquidambar Thu 14-Nov-13 16:23:03

Aw wispasx that really put a smile on my face after a long day at work. love it! !

GinandStripes Thu 14-Nov-13 16:54:41

Oh Wispa Too super cute. smile

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 17:18:42

Thanks smile. I hope H likes it, he's back on any minute now!

MarlenaGru Thu 14-Nov-13 18:03:45

Awesome wispa

MTMD Thu 14-Nov-13 18:17:26

Oh ladies I'm so upset. Haven't used the kitchen for ages but today i opened bottom drawer where we keep dry ingredients (pasta, oats, etc) and realised we have mice! Who knows how long they've been here, the whole draw is a mess sad I'm really upset because we renovated the house last year and I bought loads of mesh wire and told builders to use it all around pipes, ect but they clearly ignored me! I really don't know what to do.. is pest control the only way out..? sad sad We got built in cupboards, the whole wall is full of cupboards with no way of even looking behind sad

cheesysmile Thu 14-Nov-13 18:17:36

Ah so cool Wispa.

Gilly my letter says you do not need to attend with a full bladder, so different to others. Maybe it depends on the equipment???

Kitty was it you that said you had your scan on 25th? Mines that day too! smile Not too long to wait now.

Lmf679 Thu 14-Nov-13 18:31:51

Mtmd we had them in our old flat and got one of those plug in things that sends vibrations and sounds through all the electrical cables, it was about £40 but it really worked, we never had any again after plugging that in

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 19:12:37

Hi ladies need some advice. My other half was away last night and as I have had a rubbish day I spike to him at lunch and he promised he would be home when I got back. He is not, he is at the pub and seems to think that it is no big deal breaking a promise to me. Can't be doing with this when I feel so shire and emotional. Just feel he should be putting me first, am I being completely unreasonable?

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 20:06:17

I would be upset, too, but not overly so. Does he really understand how rubbish your day was? Has he been apologetic?

Bumblebeesmum Thu 14-Nov-13 20:09:38

Magpie sorry about that - is he usually 1 to break promises? I have to say in my 1st pregnancy my husband was really quite rubbish at this stage v intolerant of my tiredness / feeling crap etc. Once I had a proper bump & especially with kicking he completely changed & was so attentive. I told a friend & she said same had happened to her - I think some men can find it hard to emphasise until they can see the pregnancy physically - obviously I've no idea what's relevant in your situation but hopefully it'll be something like that which resolves itself.

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 20:12:25

Nope, still not home and he isn't particularly interested in my day, to be fair he isn't generally. Just really fed up and don't feel like I have any support from him, don't even know whether he wants this with me. Maybe the hormones though confused

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 20:13:27

Thanks bumble yeah he does this a lot, it is just harder to take though now.

BEEwitched Thu 14-Nov-13 20:18:00

Mtmd - get a cat grin! Sorry, I second the idea of using technology to get rid of them, we had them in the attic of the house we just moved out of because all the attics of the terrace were connected.

Magpie, I wouldn't be happy but my DH doesn't go out and helps me a lot. Esp. if he does it alot I'd probably have a good sit down and a chat about it.

MarlenaGru Thu 14-Nov-13 20:29:27

I had to google pregnancy symptoms the first time to prove to my DH that I wasn't faking the tiredness. He is very good mostly but really doesn't get how miserable it feels being knackered and feeling ill 24 hours a day.

I hope he comes home soon. Was he like this before you were pregnant?

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 20:40:03

Yeah he was but it was easier to deal with then, am just a misog now! But at least have the cats for company!

MarlenaGru Thu 14-Nov-13 20:59:19

Unfortunately pregnancy rarely changes men in the way we hope. Give the cat a big hug!

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 21:09:11

Will do, thank you all for listening to me. thanks

CleverOl10 Thu 14-Nov-13 21:17:08

Phew long day. Parents evening at school meant a 12 hour day. Back to my friend the sofa now grin

Hope everyone has felt ok today.

Clever that sounds horrendous! So you've had to teach all day then sit through talking to a class load of parents. I couldn't of done that at this stage. You definitely deserve some rest now smile

MTMD Thu 14-Nov-13 21:37:44

Our garden is full of neibourhood cat, maybe I should kidnap one for a couple of weeks smile

This got me so upset I'm still awake despite my usual sleep time being 1.5 hours ago. Cant sleep. Despite a killer migraine. Will be such a zombie tomorrow. I really should learn to control my emotions a bit better.

Magpie I think you have a right to be cross [ thanks]

SicknSpan Thu 14-Nov-13 21:38:38

Magpie they can be such turds can't they. DH has really struggled to absorb things in early part of all 3 pregnancies. I second what Bumble has said - it's harder for someone who isn't physically experiencing pregnancy to understand what it's like. It doesn't excuse it though.

DH said to me on Saturday night that he is starting to get his pregnant thirst on - meaning that whenever I've been up the spout he wants to go out on the lash with his friends more often! again, doesn't make it right but think he's making the most of it as we know that there will be precious little opportunity when there is a new baby in the house.

Have you told him how much you need him and how you feel? Have some thanks, cake and a brew either way. People closest to us can be the most dense sometimes.

Mitchell2 Thu 14-Nov-13 21:41:21

Hello ladies, just catching up on the last few days... Still overseas and have had three days of hell with work colleagues. Worst thing was that I couldn't just bloody drink through it.

Sorry to hear those who are still poorly, my symptoms have slightly got better but I am much more adverse to smells at the moment which when sitting next your boss who is eating a fish pie and all you want to do is hurl ain't a good look!

Liquidambar Thu 14-Nov-13 21:43:48

Clever My sympathies. I still have at least another 2hours of work before going to bed. My at least I can work from my sofa wink

mag perhaps a chat with your DH will help. Just be honest and tell him how you feel and how difficult it can be sometimes to deal with the hormones.

Mtdm we had the same problem in our old flat. We tried to cover all the possible little holes with steel wool.

Bezza I hope you have been able to resist my link smile Sorry

Seat the dress with go nicely with one of those bags you showed us before!

Okay, back to work! Still need to review another 4 pages. Wish me good luck.
Hope everyone will have a good evening.

Evening ladies...

Still sick here - now pushing 9 days of stomach flu. Was marched down to the clinic today as doctor was getting worried about the baby....haven't eaten for a week so kept thinking I was going to pass out. Baby is fine.....although I have been bumped down a week and new due date of 17th. Stomach flu will just have to pass (soooooooooon please) and now got kidney stones too!

DD (bless her) has taken to sitting on my bed and rubbing my hair saying "s'ok Mumma".....

Magpie - I am with you on this one!
Clever - I feel your pain - I have that next week (hoping I am back at work by then!) - but it is always fun matching the parents to the kids! Primary or Secondary?

jaykay987 Thu 14-Nov-13 21:55:18

magpie - that is annoying. but like others have said I think it's harder for men to appreciate the change when it's not happening to them.

my usually sensitive dh simply turned to me when I was crazy tired and said "imagine how much you're going to be moaning when you're properly pregnant!" PROPERLY PREGNANT???!!! I was so annoyed! grin

Magpie78 Thu 14-Nov-13 22:06:37

Update had a huge row over the phone, he won't come back and now he has switched his phone off. I think it is likely I will be doing this on my own. He says he is never going to change and I just have to accept it is in his nature to let me down and deal with it. So upset and worried that will hurt LO. I never thought he could be this cruel but I can't bear the thought that he will end up letting little one down as well. I feel so completely on my own.

CleverOl10 Thu 14-Nov-13 22:08:21

Nessie - secondary. Got another one next week too. It's that time of year. Roll on Christmas! grin

wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 22:11:03
wispaxmas Thu 14-Nov-13 22:14:41

Oh my god. This is going to sound like a horrible question, but does he love you? Do you love him? Does he always say things like that? Is he ever loving and supportive? I'm so angry right now, and I barely know you! Was this a planned pregnancy? If it was a shock to him I suppose I could maybe see it taking a while for him to come around, but he is acting like an immature brat.

MyNameIsWinkly Thu 14-Nov-13 22:16:14

Oh magpie sad I'm sorry. Tbh I think you need to call his bluff. Change the locks and show him you won't be pissed about like this. I know it's easy for me to say that though.

Liquidambar Thu 14-Nov-13 22:35:28

Mag thanks We are here for you. If he goes back home at least he has to sleep on the sofa or on the floor!

Mitchell2 Thu 14-Nov-13 22:37:49

magpie how terrible. Maybe you both just need some space tonight and then tomorrow have a proper chat about it to see where you both are at. I'm not condoning his behaviour but it does sound like he needs to actually have sometime to think about what you are saying - men are thick like that. It's easy for me to say but just try to forget what's happened and try to get into the right mindset to deal with it all tomorrow.

superlambanana Thu 14-Nov-13 22:38:20

Magpie sad I'm so sorry. Don't know what to say but do please keep posting if it's helpful. Is there anyone in rl you can call? thanks

Mitchell2 Thu 14-Nov-13 22:38:52

Oh and agree on the sofa/floor suggestion!

MyNameIsWinkly Thu 14-Nov-13 22:40:19

I do think saying "men are thick like that" downplays his behaviour and does a disservice to most men. I hope he grows up rapidly magpie, you really don't need this, you poor thing.

Emmazers Thu 14-Nov-13 22:41:00

Oh Magpie that is utter BS. No-one deserves to be treated like that. He seems to have drawn his line in the sand, so I suppose it's up to you to either accept it (doesn't sound tempting to me) or move on. If someone says they aren't going to change (i.e. they don't want to) I don't hold much hope for talking. I'm so sorry you're going through this. It's the last thing you need right now. Do you have some good friends or family around you that can support you? X

hackneybird Thu 14-Nov-13 22:53:24

Hi everyone

Hi magpie. I'm shocked at your partner's selfish and unacceptable behaviour. Like emmazers says he's clearly making his statement. I initially thought it sounded like he was reacting badly to the pregnancy news and how it will impact on his life in the future, but if he is always like this and not prepared to be more considerate, then it does sound like you will really need to think about whether you can rely on him as a father.

Do you have an alternative support network around you? Any local family, or close friends?

Thinking of you.

GinandStripes Fri 15-Nov-13 06:33:34

Heartburn, followed by insomnia, followed by a returning drunken boyfriend at 2am, followed by a 5.25am alarm, followed by an 11 & half hour day...

Thank heavens I get to work from the comfort of my sofa, it's gonna be a long old day.

Will be 9 weeks tomorrow and tentatively feel my nausea is easing slightly! Starting to sleep a little better too smile
Magpie, so sorry your having to deal with your partners selfish behaviour.
I agree in calling his bluff and letting him know you won't accept this behaviour.
Gin, very jealous of you getting to work from the sofa, although if that was me think if struggle to stay awake all day!
Hope everyone has a good day today.

livingzuid Fri 15-Nov-13 07:01:22

magpie gosh I am sorry what a horrible thing to do to you. Don't stand for it. You need support not neglect. I hope you manage to resolve things.

My DH has been distant the last couple of weeks. I think he's struggling to cope with it all and we have a lot going on at the moment. But he always says he loves me and it's nothing to do with the pregnancy which he is very positive about. You can really tell that I haven't been up to housework the last couple of months there is laundry everywhere and his standards of cleaning are not up to mine smile but I know he's doing his best.

It's hard when they are a bit detached but what you are experiencing goes way beyond that.

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 07:12:51

Magpie im sorry you're going through this.
Today is a new day... What's he saying today? Any apologies?!

Bumblebeesmum Fri 15-Nov-13 07:17:16

I'm so sorry Magpie what an awful situation to be in & being pregnant at the same time must make you all over the place. I'd really recommend you go to couples counselling - I know people who've gone & it isn't necessarily about staying together but working out what you both want and how that will work & - pregnancy can be a tough time for men aswell as women. Whatever you choose to do I hope you have people around to support you - we're certainly all thinking of you

Penguin13 Fri 15-Nov-13 07:28:56

Magpie, what a horrible situation. I really hope things are looking better after a nights sleep. He's being so selfish and you and the baby don't deserve that. Hugs.

Get well hugs to you Nessie. Really hope you start to feel better soon, you've really been through the mill.

Happy Friday. ....now renamed SCANday!

Penguin13 Fri 15-Nov-13 07:29:40

Magpie, what a horrible situation. I really hope things are looking better after a nights sleep. He's being so selfish and you and the baby don't deserve that. Hugs.

Get well hugs to you Nessie. Really hope you start to feel better soon, you've really been through the mill.

Happy Friday. ....now renamed SCANday!

Penguin13 Fri 15-Nov-13 07:31:09

Ha whoops. Stupid phone blush.

MTMD Fri 15-Nov-13 08:09:05

Really sorry Magpie I wonder if this might be delayed meltdown/freaking out on his behalf? Things will hopefully look brighter in the morning.. Good luck.

So I went from sleeping 10 hours to 4 tonight. Feeling terrible. Called work to say I'll be 2 hours late as hoping to catch up on some sleep but totally hopeless. And I have my performance review today and still need to prepare... It's going to be "fun".

As for mice I think we're going to try and block possible entry point with steel/copper wool (so upset builders didnt do as told!! i dont think we can reach all holes..,) and hide all food. Temped by plug in repellents but mixed reviews and.. are they really safe for tummy babies..?

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 08:10:48

WISPA! Today's the day! Good luck at your scan! Please let us know how it goes as soon as possible!!! smile

GinandStripes Fri 15-Nov-13 08:32:27

OooOoOoOoOoooh yay it's Wispa day.

Vickyvix Fri 15-Nov-13 08:37:10

Good luck wispa - can you post us a pic later??? grin

MarlenaGru Fri 15-Nov-13 08:41:05

Good luck today wispa
Hope all is ok today magpie lots of sound advice above.

I feel less sick today which is now freaking me out. 3 weeks and 3 days til scan. 8 weeks today by early scan date. And I was another who couldn't sleep last night. Awake for a wee at stupid o'clock and so I stayed until the alarm at 6:30.

superlambanana Fri 15-Nov-13 08:54:09

Good luck wispa smile
Hope things are better today magpie.
Sorry for all the ladies with sleep issues sad I'm not having them as such but I am waking up in the middle of the night which never usually happens.

Still in bed... Seems the hiatus from sickness was fairly brief as I'm already retching. Feel SO bad about work sad

MarlenaGru Fri 15-Nov-13 08:55:49

Oh rubbish super
Hope it passes with some rest!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 08:57:27

And ladies who have their scan next Wednesday... Only 5 days to go! And it's the weekend.. Almost! smile
We're nearly there! grin

wispaxmas Fri 15-Nov-13 09:01:06

Thanks, everyone! I'm still lying in bed as H is out walking Wispa, but I know I need to get up and drink a pint of squash shortly!

I will definitely come on ASAP and try to post a photo. Will do my best to crop out my name this time!

wendle70 Fri 15-Nov-13 09:13:11

Hi ladies I am in the April thread but I thought I'd pop by to let you know that the morning sickness DOES ease up! I know I needed the positive stories in my first trimester! I really thought I'd be one of those unlucky ladies who have it all the way through pregnancy! I had it so badly and was just so sick and nauseous all the time...it completely took over and I felt like utter rubbish and not at all myself. I barely cracked a joke for 2 months as I felt so sick! But at 15 weeks and after a holiday it got better and at magic 16 week Mark almost gone. Now 17 weeks and feeling normal again! I remember at 13 weeks thinking I cannot do this for another 3 weeks but day by day you do and then it goes! Ps no magic remedies I don't think other than getting hungry or tired made it worse.. good luck!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 09:14:59

Wispa have you and your husband both got the day off work or are you going to work after?

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 09:16:01

Thanks wendle smile that's good to know!!!

superlambanana Fri 15-Nov-13 09:52:29

Thank you wendle - very kind of you to drop by specially to reassure us sicky people!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 10:10:03

Wispa's scan is NOW!
I'm waiting for an update! grin

Vickyvix Fri 15-Nov-13 10:47:04

Me too gilly smile

Off to my booking apt in 1 hour and 14 mins, will be good to talk to a real life person about being preggers!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 10:49:45

Yes the booking appt is nice is it makes it all seem real! Have fun! smile

superlambanana Fri 15-Nov-13 10:52:45

Ugh. Got up, thinking I'd feel better after eating something. Made it as far as the bathroom. I really wish this ms would DO ONE!!!! (Without there being anything wrong with the baby of course)

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 11:34:13

Wissssspppaaaaaaaaaa

Any news from wispa yet? So exciting!

GinandStripes Fri 15-Nov-13 11:47:37

It's like Christmas Day round here!

GillyBillyWilly Fri 15-Nov-13 11:52:16

Aggghhhhhhh WISPA!
I've already decided after my scan next week I will post on here straight away! grin

BEEwitched Fri 15-Nov-13 11:58:37

Hello, Wispa, update pleeeeease!

(It's like were preparing her for the toddler phase with our whinging)

wispaxmas Fri 15-Nov-13 12:31:32

I was kept waiting AGES to give blood after the scan, and was ravenous when we got home, so getting online was delayed by a quick lunch grin

hope this works!

I was set back in dates one day, new edd is 4 June. This fits in with my 29 day cycles, though, so all is perfect! We saw it bouncing around a bit, too grin

wispaxmas Fri 15-Nov-13 12:34:45

Oh, and gilly, to answer your question, H Booked the day off as leave and I've been a lady if leisure since mid October, so no work to book off for me. I do have a job, but it's a zero hour casual job at a London museum, and with living in Paris I've basically just not been working, though I'm back this weekend and over the new year holiday period! We are back to Paris on Monday for another 4 weeks, so no work then either.

wispaxmas Fri 15-Nov-13 12:35:48

I don't think the photo link worked... try again...

wispaxmas Fri 15-Nov-13 12:37:33
superlambanana Fri 15-Nov-13 12:40:26

Wow!!! Wispa that's amazing grin

Bumblebeesmum Fri 15-Nov-13 12:41:52

Wow not sure how but seeing your scan picture makes my pregnancy feel more real! smile

LadyGoneGaga Fri 15-Nov-13 12:45:28

Lovely news, Wispa grin.

Magpie really sounds like you are going through it. I had a horrible time with my first's Dad, it wasn't a planned pregnancy and he always blamed me. We tried to make a go of things but unless both parties are truly on board it is just an absolute nightmare. I was so much happier once we (inevitably) split and it was just me and my little baby boy. Please don't s