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May 2014(1001 Posts)
Ok, I can't see a May thread in here so I guess I will start one! According to the NHS due date calculator my EDD is actually 30th April but I think that makes me more likely to be having a May baby anyway!
Am feeling very tentative about starting this thread as I had a mc in June and it's very early days for this one but...anyone want to come and chat through these nerve-wracking first few days?
Hi jelly I was on the august ttc bus with you and got my bfp yesterday. I also have a due date from NHS site of end April so thought I'd come and join you here! I'm quite overwhelmed at the moment and so nervous that something will go wrong. Symptom wise I've been having headaches, tiredness but disturbed sleep and stitch like feelings, how are you feeling?
Hi EmJay - your username makes me imagine you to be Kirsten Dunst in Spiderman btw! It is such a nervewracking time and I was starting to wonder if I was going to let myself be happy and excited - every time dh and I talk about it we qualify everything with 'if it really happens'.
Symptom-wise, I don't have many - slightly sore boobs (which I realised today are not fitting in my bras anymore or anything that buttons up at the front!), flashes of intense irritation and a lot of sleepiness in the afternoon. Unfortunately this usually kicks in just as my toddler wakes up from his nap; I need to get us in sync!
Hello jelly and EmJay
My due date is also 30th April on both the NHS and mumsnet due date calcuator! I said hello on the April thread, but then wondered if I should really be on a May one instead?!
That's what I thought, especially as last time my EDD got adjusted to a day later after I had my dating scan so if that happens this time I'll officially be due in May - and my son was born at 40+3 anyway.
Hello, can I join as well please I am due 26th April I think but aren't first babies always late? Kinda on the cusp! I am 4 + 5 today I believe
Ha ha jelly I'll take that as a compliment but I'm no Kirsten dunst from Spiderman lol it is in deed v nerve wrecking! I keep thinking what if and trying to not let myself get to carried away with the whole baby stuff yet anyway! I am so tired but for some reason I've been having v disturbed nights sleep. My boobs are quite tender and my partner is convinced they're bigger! Also been getting headaches. I went to doctors today and I'm now waiting for midwife to ring me next week to arrange appointment. Out of interest who have you all told at mo?
Disturbed sleep and headaches here too! I wake up to pee two or three times and sometimes struggle to get back to sleep. I didn't get the constant peeing thing in my first pregnancy and it is not fun!
I'm keeping it quiet as I told family at this stage last time and then miscarried a few days later so I don't want to get their hopes up again! However I have told my sister and a close friend and then another friend guessed when I turned down a glass of wine..!
Also not making a midwife appt til I'm further along as had to cancel last time. I'm waiting to see if I get to six weeks (a day further on than last time) and then I will start telling more family I think.
Yep I'm like that with the sleep, catching up with me now. At mo I'm keeping quiet as I don't want to get their hopes up too early plus earlier in the year my sister had a mc. Hard though as part of me wants to tell everyone and part of me is too scared to yet. Thought I'd get found out today as was having a girly day at the races but went under the pretence that I was driving as I didn't feel well so that I wasn't questioned for not drinking! Sorry to hear about your mc here's hoping that we both get past the 6 week point then. Think I'm gonna worry about it till I have a scan.
I'm exactly the same with the sleep thing, that's good to know its not just me. Otherwise not many symptoms at all, except slightly tender boobs...I'm not telling anyone yet but we may tell In-laws next week as FIL is terminally ill :-(
Yeah helps to know there's others feeling same laceylee sorry to hear about your fil I'm gonna try and hold off telling people yet too.
I hope you don't mind me joining this club. I just had my bfp 4 days ago and NHS website dated me for 29 April but i think it's more like 1 may onwards(?). It's my first pregnancy and fingers crossed it will be good. Still have pink discharge and cramps which is not very nice but lets hope the bean is making a cosy lil home. I've submitted a self referral to whittington hosp near me but not sure when MW will come back but hopefully not too late. Hope all is well with everyone and have a happy n healthy 9 months ;) x
Oh just on sleep..since bfp I have been up at 3.30am for the last 4 days to pee but not been able to go back to bed. I'm hoping this wont last as I can barely open my eyes at work!! Also I had a slip in my tub last night n landed on my bum, fingers crossed its not going to harm the bean do you think i should get a scan done perhaps? TIA
Welcome Ally! Falling over can't hurt it at this stage, it's too well protected! Hope you didn't hurt yourself though
I had pregnancy insomnia most of the way though with my son - it was the worst in the third trimester. Handy preparation for a newborn I guess...
Thanks jelly. Fingers crossed it was ok. Yes insomnia is not great as it's been too busy at work to nap lol! I hope all is well with you too x
I'm finding it hard to decide whether to tell anyone I'm pregnant yet, a big part of me wants to tell my parents and my best friend and my DP wants to tell his parents and sister, but I am also worried that it is too soon and maybe we should enjoy our own wee secret a little bit longer!
Have any of you told anyone you are pregnant yet?
Hi isean I know just what you mean! Part of me is desperate to tell my parents and best friend but also worried its too early yet! Also I worry because I don't feel pregnant yet!! Without sounding silly lol but other than the disturbed sleep and sore boobs don't feel any different.
I agree emjay and isean, we haven't told many people mainly just my mom but I think this weekend we might cave in and tell his parents as they are quite old so may be a nice news for them. As for work I am keeping quiet until at least the 10-12wk scan. I'm so surprised I got a call from the midwife as I've only just submitted the self referral on Wednesday! And she's scheduled me in for Tuesday for a two hr appmt which she said includes blood test etc. u guys made appmt yet? I'm still having brown discharge and cramps at 17dpo which is a little worrying so I may ask the Mw on Tuesday.
Think I'll prob end up given in and telling my mum and closet friend but won't be telling work until after the scan. I've been to see my gp and the midwife is ringing me when she is in the surgery next week to arrange an appointment with me so hopefully I'll get to see her soon. That will prob make it seem more real! Prob a good idea to check it out with your midwife allypallyjelly they're there to advise, I'll prob have loads of questions for mine!
Can I join? Tentatively popping my head in to say hi. Only got my BFP on Thursday and I'm only 4 weeks today. Apps tell me that my due date is 3rd May.
I say tentatively as I had an early miscarriage last month. I was only 5 weeks at the time, so I think I will start to feel a bit more confident once I have got passed that point with this pregnancy.
Thanks emjay. I'm finding it really hard not to tell my parents, so hopefully we will tell both sets of parents next weekend. I slept much better last night yay! Anyone else? Boobs are definitely getting bigger also!
Really sorry to hear about your mc impatiently, I'm trying not to worry about that happening but it's a big worry, fingers crossed all will be well for everyone this time around.
Hi impatiently! We're in the same boat - the pg after mc thread is also a good place to go for some positive thinking
Morning all! I had my BFP today, but not sure which
bus thread I should be on... My last cycle was 31 days, which the MN calculator gives me 4th May EDD, the previous three (after stopping Nexplanon) were 26 days, but before DS I was generally 31 days.
Anyway, here I am! DS was 4 weeks early, so DC2 could be March/April anyway!
Welcome newcomers! Think I'm gonna tell my parents as if anything did happen I'd want my mum to know. And laceylee my boobs are definitely getting bigger already and are quite sore. Sorry to hear about those have you who have suffered previous mcs. It is a worry which I have a lot so must be worse for those of you who have been through one before but hopefully we will all have a healthy 9 months. I'm trying my best to try and not think too much bout things that could go wrong.
Hey all, got Bfp on weds with FR, due 2 may according to fertility friend app :-)
Already have 2 DC and just started a 12wk contract so hopefully good timing!!
Congrats everyone! I'm feeling so sick and refluxy bleugh!!
Got bfp on Thursday... Ten days after conception! Wow the symptoms are so much earlier and obvious second time round... Anyone else find that? Felt implantation pain too so it seems much more personal at this stage compared to ds1 also tender and bigger boobs (thank god they were like eggs in socks after bfing!) cramps, dizziness when standing up and gagging when brushing teeth. The joys!
I think we are due 3 may... Couldn't get an accurate result from the calculator based on cycles as only had one period back since ds1 and crazy cycles of 40 days so did it on conception date which means 2 weeks today but I think the docs class that then as 4 weeks along?
emjay hope you enjoy telling your parents. I'm hoping to keep it a secret til 12 weeks this time. Last time had to give it up at 8 because I was so sick I had to get my mum to look after me. Dear god I hope that doesn't happen again! So far so good.
Argh so exciting!
Hi citygal and hamandcheese congrats on your bfp. I keep getting the odd stitch like feeling, tiredness, and achy boobs which have def got bigger already! I did plan on not telling anyone till I'd got to 12 weeks but think I need to tell my parents before. Fingers crossed you don't get so sick this time hamandcheese it is so exciting but also a little scary! Or it is for me anyway!
Hi all, BFP today and still feeling slightly shell shocked so thought I'd see if there was a May thread to chat! EDD May 4th and after a long ttc 'journey' to win DC1 (21 months old now) this was our first month of trying. Yes, I really am totally shocked as we had our minds set for the long haul again.
Also wanted to say that DS was born at the Whittington and I had a great experience there, can't speak highly enough of the place
Sorry should have said, no symptoms at all (apart from lack of ERTD symptoms) but I 'knew' as I was taking the test. Feels freaky.
I'm due 23rd April, so been on the April thread for a lil' while, but most seem to be about 2 weeks ahead of me, so I thought I might hang out with you guys too, hope that's ok?
I've been having very few symptoms, mainly bigger & more sensitive boobs, have gone up two cup sizes! No sickness yet. It's my first, so I don't know what to expect!
Have told my three best girl pals because they've been holding my hand through TTC, and just told my mum & dad today because we're staying with them this weekend but we don't see them often. I think they're a bit shell shocked
Truffkin - same here, our first cycle, BFP today, and same EDD too!
DS is 27mo and currently baby obsessed, tho has no idea what we're on about! He's more interested in baby bunnies.
Sooo bloated and windy, feel like a zeppelin already!
I had two old friends over today so told them both (too excited and can't keep my own secrets), will tell my sis next week, then wait a few more weeks before telling our parents and DHs siblings.
On the April thread they try to put their week+day at the end on posts, helps to keep track of where we all are - shall we try to as well?
Congratulations to the new bfps!
I am not totally sure how to work how many weeks+days I am. Are you counting forwards from the first day of your last period or backwards from EDD? I think I'm really frightened of over estimating how far along I am!
Anyone else's emotions completely haywire? I am going nuts!
Morning all and welcome to the newbies! Another rubbish nights sleep, v sore boobs and had sort of cramps in tummy during night so that kept me awake worrying. Such a nerve wracking time really. Wish you just knew everything was going to be ok! I'm 4+5 today.
Yes jelly I'm going from delirious to weepy to v v v angry in half an hour. Poor DS got told off for not going to sleep last night
truffkin and longtail same... First cycle. All that first year back fertility must be right! My DS was one on 2 August
Also got the waking up a lot and odd dreams. Feel like I'm constantly really close to waking up...
Pancakes for breakfast! Trying to shovel it all in incase I get sick again!
Congratulations to new BFPs!!
Jelly - I think if u put it on the nhs calculator it asks for your First day of last MP and then from EDD you can try use this link for example: http://www.miniwebtool.com/how-many-weeks-pregnant-am-i/
Morning emjay - high 5 I'm still on insomnia and it's driving me crazy. And have cramps n brown discharge now so also worrying but I'm not doing a lot. Just lying down and resting when I can because work is really stressful so I think for next couple of weeks I will take it easy as it's vital time next 3 weeks. Now I'm starting to feel a little nauseous with metallic-y taste and also bigger bbs but not sore. I'm still testing just to be sure i see the bfp at least until my blood test is done. Ok sorry I'm a big worrier!!
Today is 4+5 same as jelly and emjay
Reading your posts has reminded me how worrying the first trimester can be! Hope everyone is having a chilled out Sunday to compensate :-)
My sickness started at 7 weeks last time so am going to enjoy food for the next few weeks just in case! I did a digital test this morning 'just to check' and am hoping I can restrain myself more than last time when I used up every test in my arsenal (and after many months of ttc I had a fair stock!)
Second (or more) timers, when do you plan on notifying your GP? I know now that they don't really do anything, but want to make sure I don't leave it too late to get in the system for a scan.
I have literally no symptoms yet at all. Occasionally have some stretchy crampy feelings but not too often. Still very early days.
4+1 for me.
Hello all and welcome to the newcomers!
I am confused with working out the weeks and days. I've tried a few different due date calculators and some say 28th April and some say 30th April
My cycles were 32, 31, 27 and 37 days since I came off the pill so I'm unsure what my average cycle length should be!
Anyone able to make sense of it for me?
Oh and my LMP started on 22nd July.
Truffkin - I'm going to call the Docs next week and see what the receptionists advise, but if they don't tell me anything useful I'll make an appt around 6-8 weeks.
Isean - my cycles have been 28?, 26, 26, then 31, but 31 is my normal pre DS cycle length, so I'm going with that.
Besides which, EDDs are fairly meaningless anyway, it's better to think of a 'due month', only 5% of babies turn up on their EDD.
Ideas - I meant to add, I'd probably average yours out at 32.
Blardy autocorrect! Isean - my iPad reckons you're either Ideas or Siena?!
Truffkin - you're Truffling!
ISean I would imagine that a calculator using the standard 28 day cycle is giving you the 28th April due date but going on your average cycle of 32 days EDD would be 2nd May. Depending on your HCP they may just go with 28th April (my experience has been that they often don't trust you know your cycle well enough so use default info) but you can insist on a different date and it will be 'confirmed' when they scan you.
There are pros and cons of an earlier or later date and if you go over then a later EDD might buy you more time to avoid the 'have you had that baby yet' brigade!
XP Longtail, I'm happy to be Truffling if that is what the iphone decrees :-)
Thanks Long I think I will go with 32 days as that's what just came up when I put it into an average cycle length calculator. So that would give me a EDD of 2nd May and make me 4+2 (which seems soooooooo early!!!)
Time seems to be going backwards for me haha!
The insomnia is driving me crazy! Just home from Sunday lunch so now gonna try and have an afternoon nap. I'm feeling quite uncomfortable today and crampy. Also while out for dinner thought I was gonna throw up when they filled up the mash in front of me lol can't stand mash anyway! Thought of it was even worse today. Confusing how so a happy time in your life is also the most worrying. Pleased I can chat on here and know I'm not the only one.
I guess your EDD now will give a fair idea but they will give you a diff one prob at your scan. Funnily enough with DS we worked out 2 aug as EDD on my cycle then they put us back to 11 aug EDD at the scan. Guess what DS birthday is? ;)
I can't believe I feel so good at the moment. Waiting for the other shoe to drop... And for me to want to vomit into it.
Feeling distinctly unpregnant here, the swollen boobs and gas are the only clues.
I remember last time this stage feeling interminably long - I couldn't wait for a bump and movement so I knew I really was pregnant!
Please tell me if this is an insane idea, but I really fancy getting a foetal Doppler monitor this time.... I loved listening to DSs heartbeat when I was pg last time, but only heard it a few times at check ups. They're only a tenner second hand on eBay...
Hi longtailedtit I know what you mean about feeling unpregnant, I'm desperate to know all is ok and wish there was movement already but a while to wait yet! Doesn't sound like an insane idea to me, being new to this I didn't realise you could get such a thing but think its def something worth investing in!
Can I join. No idea quite how pregnant I am as I have a 12month old who still breastfeeds and have not yet had a period. Waiting for a dating scan to confirm my due date in next week or so. But I think it will be end of April start of may.
I had an angelsound heart monitor last time I loved it and could year heart beat from 9 weeks. I found it handy as I has anterior placenta and could go long periods without movement.
5 ish weeks probably
Hey all, so lovely to see so many familiar names :-) I have jumped off the August bus as received my BFP this morning!!! So please can I join your May thread as I believe (via goggle) I am due May 5th,
hope you are all having happy and healthy weeks so far xx
Hey has anyone else put on weight? Looks like I've put on over a stone in 2wks?? But scales might be broken. So bloated. This is 3rd DC. Husband said is it twins but doubt it?! Lol
Welcome McBaby & Beautiful!
Glad to hear you've tried one of the monitors - I'm getting very tempted to buy one.
It can all feel so unreal in the first few months, no bump, no kicks, plus I had a small bump last time so just looked like I had a pot belly til 5 months!
Beaut - DS was born on 5th of May, tis an excellent day to be born, and this one's due on the 4th - timing eh!
Congratulations and hello all - Just found out I'm pregnant with number 2! I'm due May 6th. So excited! I had been charting and suspected i might be, but I took a test this morning because I slept for 3 hours in the middle of the day yesterday and had to cancel our babysitters and planned night out I was so knackered!
Have had a lovely day with my parents who are over the shell-shocked stage & are getting quite excited by possibility of grandchild.
They've pretty much already decided to rent a holiday cottage for the whole family in St Ives for next September, lol! It's cute. Feel very excited today, but keep getting pangs of panic when my brain tells me 'this could all be temporary' and not to get carried away. At what point do I get to stop worrying and just be pregnant?!
5+4 1st DC
Hello and congratulations to the new BFPs. Our little group is getting a lot fuller over the past few days.
Morning newbies and congrats on your bfp. Well apart from being wide awake so early I did sleep better last night! Woke once and had slight cramps in abdomen. nessalina I know just what you mean, about the excitement and panic we can we just enjoy being pregnant! I have moments of excitement and then panic all the time wish I just knew everything was gonna be ok!
Congrats to all BFPs! So pleased to see many ppl joining this thread!
Nessalina - same here. I still test every morning and will probably stop tomorrow once I've seen the midwife. The only good thing is that the clearblue digital had changed from 2-3 wks (17dpo) to 3+ wks today (19dpo) which hopefully means that hcg has increased fingers x. I had a v emotional and crying session last night when I had lots of darkish pink discharge thinking..OMG that's it.. Now that I've told the in laws I really hope this bean will stick. Haven't had much symptoms other than in the same boat as emjay with insomnia which i never had before this! Waking up at 3 am in the last week is not v cool but I guess it's a practice and a taste of what's to come!!
Hello everyone. Please can I join you; I got my BFP this morning
Feeling very 'tentative' at this stage (3+6) but still hopeful so have name-changed back from 'somedaysoon'. Have had 2 false-starts since we started ttc in jan 2012 but it's third time lucky, right? I always wanted a Taurus baby, so I've got my fingers tightly crossed. Good luck to all the rest of the May gang
Hi, can I join? Expecting surprise/shock third baby at end of April/beginning of May and just trying to get used to the idea! Both my children were late arriving so anticipate this one might be too. I am currently 5+5 and feeling as if i am permanently hungover, which is a bit depressing - with my previous 2 pregnancies I had all day nausea till about 12 weeks, so feels similar. Congratulations to everyone and good luck.
Hi everyone! I got my bfp yesterday. According to the NHS calculator mini pixie is due on 4th May. I'm ridiculously excited. just feeling very tired and headachey at the moment!
More people! Hurrah! Congratulations
I have just had proper rage at my DH coz he couldn't find a DVD that I really wanted to watch Am blaming the hormones!! Have gone to bed in a huff
Lots of may babies yay!
Waves to mcbaby ;)
I'm sure everyone will feel more secure after their scans... I didn't feel very worried last time due to the sickness reminding me all was as should be... Will be worried if it doesn't appear soon I suppose!
Anyone else v v angry? Totally, in a fit of rage at our new dishwasher which always leave a sandy residue on everything, I threw all the tupperwares out the cupboard across the room
Does anyone have a feeling about the sex? I felt DS was a boy and think this one is a girl but may just be wishful thinking and I will look like a spoon in nine months time!
Hi all, welcome newbies and congrats! Quick question for anyone who can put my mind at ease. Today I have been out for the day, did quite a lot of walking around. When walking back to the car I had a really bad stitch like pain in my right side, lasted until I got to the car and then for some of the journey home? I consider myself fairly fit and active and wouldn't usually get a stitch just from walking. Really worried me at the time, is it anything for concern?
Hi to all the newbies! Congratulations!
EmJay I don't know about the stitch thing but it could be a consequence of things stretchingand making room?
Someone upthread said about weight gain - I don't dare go near the scales but I am so bloated and can't stop eating!
According to the internet I am 4+5 today and like everyone else really nervous. Roll on the scans!
Oh and lots of rage! I am really unreasonable at the moment and keep feeling upset and guilty later.
No idea about the sex, my gut feeling was completely wrong last time so not guessing this time!
hamandcheese I think this time it's a boy rather than a girl as I feel less sick .... Or maybe that is still to come.
I need to try and arrange my dating scan tomorrow my doc submitted an urgent request at the start of last week but have heard nothing but presumably the hospital are as disorganised as last time.
beautifulboy I am guessing you have not outed yourself on August thread or have I missed something.
Would love to join you. I had bfp yesterday morning but it was so feint my DH had to provide a second opinion! The instructions say even if feint it's still positive though so fx!
MiniCrackles will (fx still) be DC3. I haven't had many symptoms yet except v v sore breasts & a queasy feeling some afternoons and a few migraines, oh and v v tired & a bit irritable!!
Think I'm only 3+3 which seems ridiculously early. Lmp was Aug 3rd and I have average cycles of 24 days so can that be right? Gives me EDD of between 7-11 May depending on whether cycle taken into account. If approx conception date put into calculator it's the earlier date. Might have to double check with another hpt! I may not be around long ladies
begins to doubt self yet both of us saw +ve.
Welcome and congratulations.
3+3 is so early, I found out 3+5 and it feels like the days go sooooo slowly.
I was off to Germany visiting friends the day I found out which I was pleased about as it meant I wasn't thinking about pregnancy all of the time.
Going to pop down to the doctors today and pick up a pot to pee into so I can register pregnancy. Had an early miscarriage in July so want to make sure this one is officially recognised in case the worst was to happen again, at least I would be a step closer to getting doctors to look into it.
I was briefly on the due in March thread and they had a stats thread as well as a general chat one. Whenever people joined the thread then the stats page was updated so it was easy to see when people were due, whether it was first DC or what number it was, and I think they out info like age in there too.
Would people be interested in doing something like that for us May-bies?
4 weeks + 3
Hi Impatiently and everyone!
Glad to hear I'm not the only early early one!! It seemed wrong when I looked at the calendar! I hope your trip to Germany was lovely? I found out early with my others but ended up being outside the 14 week window for nucual (?) scan as they didn't take my dates into account! Dating scan obv settled that and my dates moved forward 5 days!
I like the idea of a stats page and love May-bies!
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emjay I remember that stitch thing first time round. Not had nearly as much in the way of that this time so far... Maybe because the muscles are all stretched out already haha!
reallyred sorry about your last pg my widwife would do heartbeat at each check up following the booking in appointment (which was just the scan) so every few weeks. I know its sometimes advised against getting a Doppler incase you can't get a heartbeat and it scares you... Like if you just can't get it on the right bit of your bump not that there is anything wrong...
So angry still. DS in cot not sleeping... Trying not to get irritated! Poor baby!
So sorry for your loss Reallyred. How far along are you with this pregnancy?
Is anyone experiencing any nausea or morning sickness yet? I've started to feel really light headed when I stand up, but no nausea just yet. I'm also exhausted. We had a great weekend in Germany, but it was so funny as out of the four days DH and our friends were really hungover and we just stayed in our friends house watching DVDs and eating. I hadn't been drinking but felt as hungover as everyone else. They kept apologising for not being up for anything as they were so rough, but I was loving the chance to catch up on some sleep.
It's reallyred I posted in wrong name.
I'm not 100% sure because I ovulate late but I think I'm 4+2.
That's the reason why we didnt get a Doppler last time but I feel of us the benefits out weight the negative now. My son died due to my waters completely going so its not like suddenly died in utro. But I agree for some it might cause more more stress so best avoid for most.
I'm not sure how much of midwives I will see as I'm under consultant care and frankly the community midwives hear are dreadful and I will be giving them a wide bearth.
impatiently I have no sickness yet it started at 6/7 weeks last time I had hypermisser so enjoying my food for now. Last time I lost a stone and a half! Who knew pregancy could be good for your waist line.
Anyway I will repost my first post because I've asked it to be deleted:
Hello everyone, can't believe I'm on another May thread.
This is my 2nd pregnacy I lost my son at 16 weeks gestation last year so definitely going to be a very long pregnacy for me but I'm trying to keep it positive.
We will be buying a fetal heartbeat monitor because we never got to hear DS. while some NHS sonographers will allow you to hear the heartbeat not all do.
Been having a read through and might jump on here if it's ok... my edd is end april but everyone on that thread seems way ahead of me!
Very bloated with swollen boobs and the tiredness seems to be kicking in. I look like I've picked up two stone!
Sorry for your loss really red/littlebairne. Fingers are all crossed for you. I can understand why you'd feel comforted by using a Dopler.
Glad Germany was fun Impatiently! The chance for lie-ins always to be warmly welcomed IME!
Feeling v tired today. 3+3
impatiently yep, I'm getting lightheaded already, every time I get up quickly I go a bit dizzy and get black spots in my eyes! It passes quickly tho.
I had a bit of nausea last week but not this week so far, just wind, wind and more wind.
YY to stats thread and Maybies! Could call the thread Maybies Stats?
So you may recall I was concerned about a feint line on hpt yesterday (Clear Blue Plus). I now feel as if AF is on her way. Grrrrr. DH not keen to go to supermarket to pick up a test, I don't appear to be either as I'm still here
typing ironing. Did any of you feel like this?
In other news, another website shows me 4+0, (rather than 3+3) so who knows!!
MacCrackles the day before I got my BFP I was convinced AF was on its way. I felt like my cramps were getting gradually worse, and even took myself off for a bath in the huff. Next day I got my BFP and since then cramps have been on the whole really mild, maybe 3/4 times a day for about a minute at a time.
I'm sure that your feeling that AF is on its way will just be stretching pains. Although I'm impressed at your restraint - today is the first day since Thursday that I haven't tested (if I include BFNs then today is the first day in about a week and a half that I haven't tested) even though I've seen the line get darker I just like to reassure myself.
I'm saving myself for my second clearblue at the weekend, hoping to see that my conception weeks will have changed from 1-2 weeks on Saturday to 2-3/3+ weeks. When I was pregnant in July I did a CB test 10 days after i'd got my BFP and it still showed 1-2 weeks which as it turned out was the start of my miscarriage, so I'm really looking forward to seeing it change this time around.
First draft of the stats thread can be found here
Tried to get info people had already listed in this thread. Apologies if there are any mistakes. Feel free to add to them.
Thanks impatiently, good stats list! Hoping you are right with AF, or lack of! I will stop off at Sainsbury on my way home from work tomorrow if AF stays away.
Also realised that my spelling is awful <would have written atrocious if I could spell correctly!>.
mccrakles a line is a line no matter how feint esp when its very early. Last time I got a feint line at 3 w 3d and you could barely see it digital ones still showed as negative. By 4w the digital test came up positive.
Hi all! Got my bfp today- clearblue reckons 1-2 weeks but I totally forgot when af was! I'm rubbish at remembering things what shall I say to go when asked?! And how accurate is clearblue date wise ??? Tia!
Impatiently - O M Geeeee, have you seen the graph that the March stat lady has done? [http://postimg.org/image/matgxs3up/ pie charts 'n everything]
Gah - pie charts 'n everything
Longtailed I did see it. I was briefly on that thread. She was amazing, did graphs, there was an interactive map flying around at one point. It sent my geeky side into overdrive.
Congrats and welcome Nannyplum. I would guess to get a postive HPT you must be fairly close to 4 weeks so would maybe just say you are that until they can tell you a bit more clearly at a dating scan?
Hi and congrats to all the newbies. No stitch feelings today so feeling bit better bout that. I have had a nausea like feeling which comes and goes, still v tired with disturbed sleep though and v sore boond! Had phone call from midwife today and she's squeezed me in for a quick app on 9th Sept but she really didn't seem v friendly or easy to talk to
hi, will join you if I may. DC2 or 3 depending how you see it as my last pregnancy ended in TFMR. This is pregnancy no.7 due to several previous mc. So I shall be mostly lurking until 12 weeks
if I even get that far
Depending on the calculation EDD would be anything from 1st-6th May, got my BFP on Sunday. So bloated already!
hopefully she'll be better in person EmJay
Hi everyone! Can I join as well? I just got my BFP, here are my stats:
LoveWine EDD 5/5/2014 DC1
I am not entirely sure what to do next I.e, call GP, etc. so any advice is much appreciated!
Welcome Roses and LoveWine
LW - I rang my docs this morning, I'm 5 weeks today and thought it was too early but rang anyway, they said that was fine and that they don't want to see me anyway, as they pass my details straight on to the community midwife who will come see me at home! V civilised.
Hello all - nice to see lots of ladies from the August bus!
My sleep is getting a bit better but I am feeling very nauseous first thing- and so hungry later on! Already having trouble zipping my skirts up! I remember feeling I looked fat rather than pregnant for ages last time, can't wait for a bump!
I'm the same, jelly on the bloated front. Can't believe I'm looking so fat already at only 4 weeks
Welcome to the new ladies - exciting!!!!!
roses - my last pg ended in TFMR too (14 weeks) and I had 1 mc before that, so I'm certainly taking each day as they come this time round and trying not to get too carried away. Can't wait to be 'out of the woods' though not quite sure when that will be. Will defo feel better after 12 week scan - if I get that far. Hope you're finding it ok this time round?
I have to admit I'm feeling bloody awful today. Really terrible headache, feeling queasy and absolutely exhausted. I'm at work at the moment (yes I know, Mumsnetting at work ...sshh don't tell anyone...) but I'd much rather be snuggled up at home .
I'm so so tired. I don't remember being like this last time around. Maybe i'm getting old (or it could be a combination of pregnancy and a toddler!). Queasiness starting to kick in too...I'm going to bed straight after dd at the moment and still struggling at work! Anyone else completely zonked?
Both times I've had bfp I've been convinced af was coming imminently!
Hi all - do you mind if I join you? Got my BFP last Thursday and I think I'm due 1st May. My only symptoms have been sore boobs and spots. I rarely suffer with breakouts and the whole right side of my face is covered with them. Hormones!
This is my first by the way. I've been to see my doctor who just made a note of the pregnancy and told me to phone the midwife. I've got my booking in app with her for the 25th of September but then I've got a group midwife session tonight - has anyone ever been to one of these?
Also, is anyone considering going for a private scan before the 12 week one?
The exhaustion is terrible! I'm on summer holidays atm but struggling to manage especially with toddler ds and I honestly don't know how I'll cope when I'm back to work next week! All day long I am desperate for a nap!
cupcake welcome we are due on the same date.
I've never heard of a group midwife session not sure I would be too into something like that.
One thing to consider about early scans is that early scans ( I think up until 8 weeks but maybe later for some) usually involve internal scanning rather than tummy.
It's possible I will be offered an early scan but I might turn it down soey because I just don't fancy lying there with a stick up my fan will the Sonographer,Dr, DH and I all have a convo. it's just to weird for me.
I'm feeling a it worried today since all my symptoms seem to have disappeared over the last 24 hours. Trying to keep calm.
I've just booked my first appointment with the GP today. I thought they might tell me it's too early at 5 weeks but they said I should go as soon as possible.
By the way, I only found out I was pregnant yesterday and I'm 11 DPO today but I already feel nauseated for most of the day. I was quite sick this morning....is this normal at such an early stage?
Hi Littlebairn, no, I don't fancy an internal scan either - I was thinking of getting one done around the eight week mark just for some reassurance.
What kind of symptoms have you had that have gone? So sorry to hear about what you went through before - I can't imagine what that must have been like.
Wow I really need to check my messages before I post that 2nd para is supposed to read:
It's possible I will be offered an early scan but I might turn it down solely because I just don't fancy lying there with a stick up my fanny while the Sonographer,Dr, DH and I all have a convo.
It was mostly crampy stretching which I remember lasting much longer last time. But maybe that's because I was pregant only 8 months ago I don't need to stretch as much?
Very senstive boobs, they seem fine now and my body temp that was pretty high for the last week suddenly being back to normal.
Ahhh I hate the 12 week wait its awful, it's like time slows down.
I'm almost looking forward to MS at least then I know the pregancy will be developing as it should be.
Maybe it's just your body settling down and getting used to the hormones? Some days my boobs are lot more sensitive than others and it worries me every time too. I'm sure they'll be back though!
If I was you I'd find out when you can have an external scan and have one to put your mind at rest. No point worrying for longer than you have to. I know it doesn't guarantee a healthy pregnancy but it does up your chances. Funny how you think TTC is the most stressful bit until you get a whole other set of worries when you get your BFP!
Haven't heard of a group midwife session. I made a booking i appt with midwife for next Thursday when I'll be six weeks but haven't seen my GP - I remembered it being pointless last time as she just told me to make a midwife appt so I hope it's ok to bypass the doctor altogether...not sure really!
I won't get a private scan and would bring reluctant to have one before eight weeks for the reasons above! I do feel anxious but I know that will just continue regardless - I could have a successful scan at eight weeks but it would only reassure me for a day or two...then I'd worry about the twelve week scan and the twenty week scan...then it would be baby's movement, the birth...then you're hanging over the crib watching them breathe...and on and on forever!
I think someone mentioned the angel sound doppler thing for monitoring the heartbeat. My midwife never listened to the heartbeat at my appts in my first pregnancy, just asked if I had felt movement. It made me really nervous and at 33 weeks I went into hospital in a panic as I thought he'd stopped moving (just asleep as it turned out!) and the midwife there immediately asked if I had a doppler - she said they got loads of women in because they couldn't find the heartbeat and were distraught. Her stance on it was that they aren't reliable and cause a lot of worry. So I probably wouldn't get one myself as I would drive myself demented I think!
LittleBairn I think symptoms can ebb and flow as your body gets used to the hormones and ten gets another surge etc. I worry every time I feel ok and then feel crappy all over again and wish I had enjoyed feeling ok! I wish we had little windows in our belly buttons and could see what was going on! Hope everything is fine for you .
Also I had lots of crampy stretching pre-mc and virtually none this time. I think symptoms can vary a lot between pregnancies.
I'm going to see my GP tomorrow. I know that really all he'd normally do is say make sure you take folic acid and make an appointment with the midwife, but I'm on regular medication at the moment and I want to discuss that with the GP at the earliest opportunity, just to be safe.
Yes I know what you mean, it can easily get out of control. I've read a lot about those dopplers causing worry so I think I'll be giving them a miss.
There's a number of reasons why I think I'll probably have scan at eight weeks although I realise it's not for everyone. It's my first and I'm an anxious person anyway but I think more than that 12 weeks seems like forever away and I'm excited to see my baby before that. Plus I'm going on holiday around eight weeks and would quite like to know everything was going to plan before I go.
I do realise that things can go wrong after that though, as they can at any point. Best to be positive though!
Wow you guys have good health care. I will be lucky to have anyone care I am pg and the very best to expect is a 12 week scan and booking in together.... At 14 weeks. Nhs sucks up here. So wish I could afford to go private. In fact I hated all the hospital and doctor stuff last time I'm going for a home birth this time... Anyone else?
I don't fancy a home birth... DD1 was out in an hour and a half (from first crampy contraction) so I maybe won't have much choice!
I'm going to ring the Dr when I come back from hols. Will be about 6/7 by then I think?
Ham, that sounds awful - I'm sorry you had such a bad experience last time.
This is my first so I don't really know what to expect. I have this group thing tonight which sounds strange to me but I'll report back with how it went. Then I've got my booking in app when I'll be roughly 9 weeks - I guess I'll be given my scan app after that?
When you say 'go private' Ham, what do you mean? Pay for private scans or for a private midwife?
Definitely considering a home birth - I had a 5.5hr labour with ds and didn't need any pain relief so hoping that things go as smoothly this time! I used the birthing pool so considering hiring one but our house is tiny so I don't know if we'd have room for one. I live very close to a lovely birthing centre so would very happy t go there but have the fear of them being full and having to go to hospital so planning a home birth would avoid that issue.
The midwife advised me to have a home birth next time after my first birth as she thought I was unlikely to make it to the hospital in time. About 5 mins active labour then 50 mins pushing.
Holding out for an NHS dating scan as I don't have a EDD as I have no LMP. I will start to make a fuss tomorrow as they had my GP referral 10 days ago and have heard nothing.
Otherwise I will be getting a early scan I had one at 6.5 weeks and saw the heartbeat and felt very reassured especially as the ultrasound man said that seeing a heartbeat at that stage meant 98% chance of carrying the baby successfully.
at these short labour times!
yikes sounds similar, mine was for acrania. I will feel a bit better once I'm past 6 weeks or so, as all my mc have been about then (or it has stopped growing then). I have been taking my high dose FA, so there's not much more I can do but hope. Fingers crossed for us both (and everyone else of course)
jelly take it you're a teacher as well then?
Hi everyone. Purchased a digital hpt tonight and yay!! The word pregnant shone right up at me!! 2-3 weeks it tells me, which is 4-5 weeks so I'm going to book my booking appointment sooner rather than later.
I've not heard of a group midwife session cupcake I hope it goes well. A good way to meet people early on.
Fingers crossed Roses and everyone. <shudders>
Quick labours indeed. Are you close to the hospitals? I had a home birth with DC2, I loved it.
I've had more spotting so have booked in for a scan at a private u/s place in North London called myultrababy this sunday (at 5+5). Fingers crossed everything is ok.
Hope you guys are doing well!!
Had a most disappointing booking int tonight - doc didn't even bother weighing me or asking family history and even ticked the wrong boxes for things I told him and I had to get receptionist to correct the forms.
When is midwife is it 8wks! Hope
Hi everyone, hope everyone is ok.
AllyPally fingers crossed for you. Hopefully your scan will be a really good and reassuring experience.
Have you had any pain? Or just spotting?
MacCrackles woohoo to the 2-3weeks on the digi.
Hi impatiently, spotting and cramping too but it isn't that bad or isn't as bad as nasty period cramps. I guess because it's our first so I'm just a little paranoid and had a gp friend whom I showed the pic and was told to go to a&e if possible. Hoping for the best !!
AllyPally just flicked back through this thread and saw your clear blue digi was showing your HCG is going up. That's really reassuring and I think most of us in this thread are experiencing crampy feelings.
I've heard spotting is really common. Have you considered going to your GP in the hope they'll refer you to EPAU for a scan? They scanned me last time at 5+2 and the consultants were all lovely. I thought they wouldn't be interested as I was so early, but they were really nice. It's an idea in case you wanted to save a bit and not have the private scan?
Hi impatiently , thanks! Yeah the last time I did it turned from 2-3 weeks to 3+ in 3 days. Other than waking up super early like emjay, and the spotting plus cramps, i've not had much symptoms so far.
Yes I called the EPAU near me and explained the situation. She told me that I could go in through emergency unit and get assessed by a dr but it's only advisable to come in between 9-12pm as that's when the imaging units are open but there is a long wait. I haven't told work and because my midwife appmt was on Tuesday , the "I need to go to hospital for an appointment" excuse may be overused if I do it twice a week! But ill see. If the bleeding gets worse i may just go after all it concerns my health.
Thanks for advice xx
Morning all, this insomnia is driving me crazy! Had a long day at work yesterday so hoped it would help me sleep better but not at all, now I've got an even longer day today and I'm so tired on a better note last night I ended up telling my parents and sister only because my sister is visiting this week and we were all at the parents house when my sister told me if everything goes ok this time (she had a mc in May) I'm going to be an aunty so seemed perfect opportunity to say well hopefully you will be too! so now just hoping everything goes ok for the both of us, and of course for all of you! Any tips to help me sleep greatly appreciated! Not being able to have my usual coffee fixes isn't helping with the tiredness at work either.
That will be reassuring ally pally hard to know how to manage stress wise ou poor thing.
Emjay I'm getting insomnia too around 530am I wake up and can't get back to sleep .. Argh!
Btw you weren't on Babycentre years ago were you with a son born early 2009 (random!!)
Just thought I would report back on the group midwife session in case anyone else has one. There was about ten ladies and we all sat in a circle while the midwife went through foods to avoid, what our following appointments and scans will entail, reminded us to let our holiday insurance know and general things like that. She also said that if we have bleeding or pain before 18 weeks we should go to gp or a&e rather than contact the midwife.
We were also given a huge pack of info, booklets, freebies and forms to fill out before our booking in appointments - these will be our notes to bring every time we come.
It was quite helpful actually and I can see why they do it but not so great for confidentiality - there was a girl I went to primary school there!
That's good that your EPAU have been helpful AllyPally we aren't too far off Sunday now so not long to wait.
Cupcake my sister went to a group midwife appointment for her last baby. Sounds very similar to yours. You're right about confidentiality though. Imagine if you saw your boss there or something?
EmJay how lovely that you and your sister will be pregnant at the same time. Apart from our friends in Germany we haven't told anyone yet. I went to a poorly timed cocktail tasting session last night which we arranged months ago with my friends. Thankfully I didn't like 1 and just had sips out of the other 3. We're off to a wedding tomorrow and when DH told his friends I'd be driving one asked straights away if I was pregnant. I didn't realise how much of my life revolved around alcohol until I was pregnant. I think we might tell a few more people at around 7-8 weeks, but still feels so early now. I may just have to become a hermit to avoid being found out.
In other really good news a caved a bit early and did my second clearblue today. Did the last on Sat, after getting the faintest of faint lines on Thur so today was a week on from my first BFP. It came up as 2-3 weeks which was really reassuring as last time my CB never got past 1-2 weeks, even when I tested on 5 weeks exactly (which turned out to be the day MC started. So lovely and reassuring to see 2-3 this time around.
Hi all I've been getting terrible insomnia again also, did try camomile tea last night and slightly better but if anyone has any other tips I would also love to know them! We told my parents the other day, they were in shock for a few mins but now really happy and telling ILs tomorrow.
I haven't got my booking appt til 9th October!! I'm 6 weeks exactly today so ill be almost 12 weeks at that point, do you think that's ok?
Emjay great that you have your sis to compare notes with, I don't think I know anyone else but guess somebody may announce it soon.
That's great news impatiently! That must put your mind at ease no end.
I know what you mean about your life revolving around alcohol too, there was a thread on pregnancy where someone said saying you're on antibiotics is the same as announcing you're pregnant.
I've told my mum and my sister so far an will probably tell my best friend tomorrow night when I see her. I hate not telling people but I don't want to have to untell people if the worst happens. Might have to tell a few more close friends and family after our early scan if everything's as it should be
Can I join??? Tested positive yesterday and think in due around the 9th of may. This is baby number 3 but had a mc two years ago do a little nervous.
Emjay - how lovely to have preg buddy with sis! Re insomnia I've also tried camomile but hasn't helped too much. But you could try that and see. I've started some relaxing candles n stuff and it's not that bad like last week (3.30am) and this week is about 5am.
Citygirl - yes I'm hoping this Sunday will be just like a reassurance scan even if just to see the sac etc
Impatiently - that's great!! 2-3 weeks = 201mIU to 2000mIU so that's great!
Cupcake - I was going to use the I'm on antibiotic excuse for not drinking! But you're right it's quite a lame excuse and may even suggest more that u are preg. But I did have kidney infection two weeks ago so I think if I use that it might work!! I agree with impatiently regarding the group appmt cos I will not want to see anyone from work or friend of a friend at the group.
Great news to hear you girls are also announcing the good news. We are keeping to immediate family and friend whom we are very close to.
Have a great day girls xx
Congrats twocrazy ! Sorry to hear of your loss. Fingers crossed all good this time! Sending positive thoughts x
It's nice to see more people joining the thread! How're you all getting on?
I am 5 weeks (not sure how many days) and feeling fat and bloated, my work clothes especially feel tight and uncomfortable, will I just keep getting bigger?!
Other than the bloat, I'm still getting a bit of cramping and backache, and pretty tired, no sickness or much nausea yet.
How're the symptoms for you?
I phoned the medical practice when I found out and wasn't quite sure what to do, but they aren't interested in seeing me until I'm 8 weeks, so I've made my first midwife appointment for 16th Sept, hoping everything will go ok until then!
Hi Isean - yay 5 wks 2 or 3 days so similar to you. Yes today I put on a dress I bought a couple of months ago for work and could not fit in! Well I could put it on but looks like I'm really preg but I think that's just cos I haven't been exercising in the last month or so! In fact because of lack of sleep and losing appetite I've lost 1kg since July.
Yeah u can also self refer depending if your hosp does that. I did mine on 21/8 , got a call on 23/8 and saw the midwife on 27/8! All very quick!
I've just had sore boobs and a little crampy. When does the tiredness kick in? I can't remember when it kicked in last time, I just remember the pure exhaustion!!
I'm so nervous I'm going to have another mc although last time was completely different, I'd no symptoms and spotted the whole time. I just did another test to be extra sure and still positive thank god!!
Stats update - add/change any new info on the May-bies Stats thread!
Stats thread HERE
Nessalina, EDD 23/4/14, DC1
Evalluna, EDD?? DC3
LaceyLee, age 29, EDD 26/4/14, DC1
McBaby, EDD?? DC2
Supercalafraga, EDD? DC??
Allypallyjelly, age 30, EDD 29/4/14, DC1
EmJay9, age 35, EDD 29/4/14, DC1
Jellyandcake, age 30, EDD 30/4/14, DC2
Impatientlywaiting, EDD 1/5/14, DC1
Cupcake11, EDD 1/5/2014, DC1
LittleBairn, EDD 1/5/2014, DC??
Isean, age 33, EDD 2/5/14, DC1
CityGal29, EDD 2/5/14, DC3
Hamncheese, EDD 3/5/14, DC2
LongTailedTit, age 35, EDD 4/5/14, DC2
Truffkin, EDD 4/5/14, DC2
PixieBumbles, age 30, EDD 4/5/14, DC1
Beautifulboy1, EDD 5/5/14, DC1
LoveWine, EDD 5/5/2014, DC1
Bouncysmiley, EDD 6/5/14, DC??
YikesHereWeGo, age 38, EDD 6/5/14, DC1
RosesInTheRain, EDD?? 1-6/5/14, DC3
MacCrackles, EDD 7/5/14, DC3
NannyPlumForPM, EDD?? DC??
TwoCrazyKids, EDD 9/5/2014, DC3
Thanks for the add longtail!
Isean - I've been really bloated but it does seem to go down every now and then thank god! I literally looked about 5 months pregnant the other day
Thanks for adding me longtail!
Hello everyone, any room for another one? I got my BFP today (on three different pregnancy tests so it must be right...) and I've made a drs appointment for Monday. I think I'm due 4th May. It's my first pregnancy so it's all quite scary at the moment!
Welcome Cat, and congratulations! It's my first too so I can appreciate how scary it is
Hi all so pleased today is done and I can relax, feel exhausted and not sure how I got through my long day at work.
citygal no that wasn't me, this is my first.
It is lovely that me and my sister can share our pregnancy experience and the little ones will be close in age just hope all goes ok for us both.
impatiently I wasn't planning on telling my sister quite yet but when she told me her news I couldn't not tell her mine!
Thanks to those who have suggested camomile tea I will certainly try it, willing to try anything at mo! Feeling exhausted now and could happily go to bed already but then worried I'll just be up more in the night and even earlier in the morning here's hoping I get a half decent nights sleep tonight.
crazykids tiredness is kicking in for me about now, I'm all yawn yawn yawn! How old are your children?
cupcake the group MW session sounds useful but perhaps not great if you know anyone, although you'd both be in the same boat!
Have you all had/made your booking in (booking? It's been less than 3 years since I last did this but I've forgotten so much it seems!) appointments? I made mine today for 1st October. No idea how I'm going to wangle the time off work for the hour long appointment then 90 minute commute, still, a while to think about that yet. I know I'm allowed the time I just don't want them to know too early. Although like you cupcake I think I looked about 3 months already!!!
Hope you manage to sleep EmJay, do share your tips if you find anything that works!
We've not told anyone yet but have a family get together next weekend so are considering telling family for that, they will question why I'm not drinking I suspect! I would prefer not to mention so early but don't think we'll have much choice as it's a weekend thing.
Argh, the not drinking thing is a massive pain - I don't drink generally anyway, but my goodness the amount of people that instantly ask "Are you pregnant then?" drove me maaaaad last time! This whole country seems boozed obsessed at times.
We had a work wine tasting evening when I was about 10 weeks so I trotted out the old antibiotics line, and to be fair I did look a bit pg
but always did due to IBS anyway and almost everyone asked if I was pregnant. It made me cross, as I had to lie and say no.
Our finance director (who was a prat) was the only person with the sense to not put me on the spot - he told me later that he had guessed "as your figure has changed" while staring at my chest but didn't ask as his wife had had a couple of losses and would never ask someone if they were pg.
Hi all - I am tentatively sticking my head around, I took a test this morning and I am indeed pregnant and hope to stay that way!
This is my first baby so I am looking forward to getting to know you. I have a due date of May 11th according to when my last period was. X
Woo boo, welcome flapjack! Shall add you to the stats, then it's official
Oh FFS, woo hoo, not woo boo!
Yes, please! Terrible insomnia - does anybody else get this?!
Um, yes! This is my gazillionth night if being up at stupid o'clock, but sadly it doesn't have anything to do with pregnancy, just really really tedious insomnia.
I've been having stitch-like twangs this evening, can't remember this stuff from being pg with DS, early pregnancy makes paranoid over-thinkers of us all!
Off to bed now...
Insomnia over here. Always been a rubbish sleeper but since DD was borna year ago its really improved until 3 weeks ago now I can miss a while nights sleep.
But I am so exhausted last few days and have been going to bed at 8.30 and its a bit better only awake for an hour in the night.
Really feeling bad for you gals with insomnia. M just unable to have a lie in which I'm finding hard enough! (I know, I'm going to have a shock)
Yesterday at work my index finger was twitching uncontrollably on and off all day - has anyone else has this? At first I was really worried thinking I had the beginnings of some neurological disorder (I watch too much House) but after a quick look on Dr Google I found that it can be a symptom of lack of calcium in pregnancy. Anyone ever heard of this?
Congrats and welcome to flapjack too!
Not sleeping is not made any easier by having a baby that thinks 5.50 is a suitable time to wake up.
Managed to speak to someone sensible at the hospital yesterday and get a booking appointment and scan sorted for 7th and 9th sep. I finally will find out his many weeks I am
Spoke too soon, the tiredness/crying for no reason has hit me with a bang! Pure exhausted this morning
Maccrackles, my dc are 3 & 4.
So far I'm having no problems dropping off but my sleep is very restless with lots of anxiety related dreams. I jumped out of bed in a panic in the early hours of yesterday morning as I had an incredibly vivid dream that I was bleeding heavily. Fortunately all was well . Still exhausted though.
I went to the doctor's yesterday and saw a different GP as my usual one is on maternity leave. He was absolutely lovely and very excitable! He gave me a pack of
marketing shite incredibly useful pregnancy information and advised me to keep taking my (relatively low dosage) anti-depressants as while there is a low risk of harming the baby he'd rather see a happy and healthy mum-to-be than see someone struggling to cope and barely functioning, which would also put the baby at risk. The surgery have passed my details onto the community midwifery team so they will contact me at some point in the next few weeks to arrange my booking appointment.
I have terrible insomnia too. I just can't get comfy. Pleased it isn't just me! I have ordered a pregnancy pillow from amazon, which is a bit presumptuous but I ordered it last night at 1 in the morning after thrashing around for ages.
Insomnia is rubbish!
Is anyone else getting comments on their increasing boob size yet??
Mine seem to have shot up and are straining to get out of workwear , also incredible tiredness . Good to hear others are experiencing the symptoms too - DH thinks I'm being a drama queen
I have updated the stats with my bits and pieces (edd 5th May give or take, and DC #2)
Off on hols on Tuesday - cracking timing
Oh god - went a bit smileyface mad on that post!
For those of you that have had your first GP appointment - do they actually do anything when you go in or do they just give you leaflets. Just wanted to know if they actually do any tests - pregnanyc test, rune, blood, etc?
Lovewine, when I went to the gp all she did was make a note of it on my records and gave me a number for the midwife
LoveWine, other than discussing my current meds (my main reason for actually visiting the GP as opposed to just phoning them for the midwife's contact details) he just told me to make sure I took folic acid and gave me the leaflets and a form to be handed in at the surgery reception for referral to the midwife.
I didn't bother going to the GP I emailed him and told him so he could do a referral.
Thanks cupcake and Pixie, I suspected as much. It's strange that in the UK they don't even do a test to confirm the pregnancy. My appointment is on Tuesday so will see how it goes, but I'm guessing it won't much different to yours.
Oh goodness. symptoms are upping their game here
I need to see my GP to check some minor meds, I've stopped taking them but would like to carry on the treatment if they're ok.
No idea when the midwives will get in touch, I guess I just wait to hear back?!
I'm getting impatient already, so daft!
Reeeeally need to sort my insomnia out, I'm shattered every morning and just stay on the sofa as long as DS will let me. No fun for either of us, last night was a 4am bedtime, with DS up at 8.
DH is away tonight, so I intend to make the bed up with lovely fresh bedclothes and starfish all night! I sleep so much better on my own, I long for a spare room...
What symptoms are you having Super? I'm worrying about my lack of them
How is it possible that my clothes are already tight? I need to get hold of some of those waist expanders. Just dug all my old maternity clothes out of storage. They are big but OMG SO comfy! My Jeans wont button at the top and I just feel like an elephant. I know it's not the baby but just feel rubbish!
Hi All, can I join? Got my bfp last night, thought I'd better test after vomiting twice at work - can't believe its started so early this time. Felt fine today thankfully. I'm due 5th May with dc2.
Hello Maybies. Can I join please?
I got my bfp Tuesday 27/8 and LMP was 19/7. I have longer cycles like Isean so am taking my EDD to be 2/5/14 and this adds up with my hcg level and CBD "pregnant 2-3". Hoping it'll say 3+ soon and am happy to spend £5 a day being reassured ( 2 for £10 in Asda atm)
Like Ally I have also had some brown discharge and am trying to stay positive and am waiting for a result on Monday which I am hoping will show my hcg levels increasing. Fingers crossed for us both.
After 20 months of TTC and this is much wanted CD1 although I have a weird feeling it's twins and that would tally with the implantation bleeding pattern I've had. In reality boy/girl/twins whatever I just want to be a mum.
Like Cupcake I am booked in for an early scan at 8 weeks. I have waited and worries so long I am allowing myself this bit of impatience, if only for the sanity of my loving and amazingly supportive OH.
Symptoms so far are huuuuge boobs - I noticed I had grown out of my bra and was rocking the "4 boobs" look only to discover it was the biggest one I own!! This was my first clue! Also a very interesting white skin pigmentation, sun burnt face despite applying sun cream, nausea if I let myself get hungry and aversion to sweetcorn which used to be my favourite thing!!
This is so exciting and I hope to get to know you all over the next 9 months =)
Hi there! I got my bfp two days ago! Ive had no af since 30th June but my clear blue says 2-3 very confused
I am SO TIRED, but know I won't be able to sleep! And my boobs HURT! And today I had a headache - ow.
I'm very happy to be pregnant, honestly!
Congrats to new BFPers !!
Bugoven - fingers crossed will be ok. I think most pages say brown spotting is sign of old blood so it isn't as worrying but I guess I'm a worrier so I worry about anything no matter how small!
Yeah agree boobs getting bigger but not overly big yet! Defo look like I have put on quite a bit of weight tho!!!
Have any of you had period cramps?? I'm quite crampy tonight. Nothing extreme but just feels like I'm about to get my af..
two I have also had mild cramps for the latest week. Apparently it's normal...
bug also got the weird skin pigment! Didn't realise that was a symptom!
cake I seem to have had it all on and off but today has been the worst so far. nauseous, tired, so bloated and painful boobs. If that wasn't enough I feel like I'm going to burst into tears every 5 mins
two I had the exact same! Had to buy another hpt to double check!!!
Super, I think the symptoms are supposed to be at their worst from around 5/6 weeks.
By the way, how do I put names in bold?
I only found out I was pregnant after going to a n e with severe pains In abdomen!!! Nothing since but now having horrid sickly feeling! Belly feels funny!
TwoCrazy put a * either side of the name to bold it.
I'm sleeping better but feel like I have a tummy bug all the time - so far my glamorous symptoms are nausea and diarrhea (sorry for tmi). Ready salted hula hoops are my on source of relief which is unlikely to be helping with the startling weight gain - I look enormous!
cupcake try not to worry about lack of symptoms - I didn't find out I was pregnant til 7 weeks with my first so I can't have had symptoms like I do now before then.
Also happy to be pregnant so sorry for complaining!
And bugoven yy to the '4 boob' look! I can't contain them!
Did another CB digital this morning and got "pregnant 2-3". I think as long as it changes in the next few days I'll be following the normal ranges. thistle this is telling you your level of hcg is between 200 and 2000 or 2-3 weeks since conception. Everyone's levels vary from person to person and in different pregnancies so this is only a guide. Maybe get a dating scan if you think you're further along.
Ally thank you so much for the reassurance. It is frightening and had me in tears again last night. I feel guilty for being negative though and I have so much anecdotal evidence to say this is normal and will most likely be all healthy and wonderful. Mum, OH and best friend have all said the same so from today I am going to make a real effort. Every time I see some spotting I am just going to say "this is normal"
then secretly cry so I don't get told off
super it is an amazing white blotchy rash across my chest that appeared a few weeks ago. May be unrelated but too much of a coincidence to me. Also have light brown pigmentation on my forehead, under my nose (looks a bit like a tash - nice) and across my cheeks.
I just find it facinating how different everything is this time around. I'm getting the cramps too I'm pleaded they're normal I was getting worried! Super sore boobs ate todays symptom. Old nursing bras are out! Has everyone else decided where they are having their babies? I was suprised last time around when I was expected to have made this decision at my first midwives appointment.
jelly now wearing one of my mum's bras that no longer fits since she lost 3 stone..... thanks mum. It's an F!!!!!
I guess I have got some symptoms. I I have sore boobs, which come and go and scare me every time I also have tiredness, diarreah and spots.
I guess the thing that worries me is no real nausea and I'm not going to the toilet anymore which seems to be a really common symptom.
Need to chill out!
cupcake I sat with a nurse as she talked to me and took my blood for testing yesterday and I rambled like a mad woman. She smiled sweetly and said "this is how everyone feels in early pregnancy, especially with their first". I felt less mad after that
Thanks Bug, I am making a real effort to relax and enjoy it rather than stress but then ill read a statistic that freaks me out. I'm not very good with anxiety at the best of times
Still, I'm going to try not to worry unless I have a genuine reason to. Wish me luck!
I've woken up to find that I had some brown spotting overnight, only a bit but but not nice to see... Hopefully all fine... Definitely starting to look quite fat, I have put on about 4 pounds (only short so this is a fair bit) but some if that is probably bloating and bigger boobs. Not wearing f's yet though!
Uh...I'm starting out as a 32G - I went up to a J cup last time!
Lacey, that must have been scary. Brown blood is better than red though at least. Hopefully it'll just be a bit of old blood.
I started as a 32a and have gone up to a c - don't think I'm ever going to make an f!
Yeah agree that brown is old blood Lacey hopefully all fine.
Boobs a little swollen but not gone up so many sizes as yet! Similar to cupcake but I'm more 30B so will be interesting to see how much that changes.
Anyone else still having this insomnia ?! Maybe it's just me!!!
Hope everyone is well.
I went to a wedding yesterday and managed to avoid too much attention by bit drinking. Had a glass in my hand most of the time and DH would just drink it.
Today is a good day for me I'm officially the most pregnant I've been. Today I'm 5 weeks pregnant, it was this day in my last pregnancy that I started to bleed. Took a pregnancy test and it was really really dark, as dark as the control line. I think I haven't really believed it until today. I'm just praying this one is a sticky one.
AllyPally how has your spotting been? Is it tomorrow that you have your scan?
Congrats impatiently! Sorry meant to say I'm usually 32b, not a if anyone cares about the size of my boobs!
I'm starting as a 34H. I dread to think what I'm going to go up to!
I'm do paranoid this time after mc...I just did yet another test( must be coming up to 10 now!) and thank god it's even darker than the last one I did!
Is everyone this nervous???!!!
Two I was so excited when I got my bfp Tuesday but have been absolutely impossible for the last two days. I am so scared and find it hard to accept that the odds are in my favour and I should have a healthy little one in just 8 months (ish). Had a serious word with myself and trying to relax but. yes, I think everyone feels nervous and once we are past this first scary bit we will be happy, healthy mummies-to-be =)
I know it's awful isn't it bug..but sure every stage brings its worries, I still worry non stop about my boys
Hi all, I've had loads to catch up on as I've not been on this thread for a few days, lovely to see more people joining!
I'm 5 weeks tomorrow I believe and not a solitary symptom so far. I've been trying to think back to last time but I really can't remember, poor DS I have had a little insomnia, which is most unlike me but no boob growth, twinges / cramps or tiredness. My skin is bloody awful though, which I do recall from the first trimester with DS. I have eczema and it flares up with stress, tiredness, bad weather (i.e. bloody everything!) so is quite reactive at the moment. On e the hormones settle down I hope it will be calmer.
I'm having a lovely few hours at the hairdresser this morning, so a great opportunity to catch up. Jumping on the bra size bandwagon () I'm starting at a 36 HH, 2 cup sizes bigger than pre pregnancy last time so am dreading them growing any more!!
We've decided to go for an early scan and have chosen a place in our town so just need to decide on a date. Last time we were lucky enough to see a heartbeat at 6+1 but I know that's unusually early so might wait until 7 weeks this time. We are still hoping to keep it to ourselves until 12 weeks though, I like having the secret We told our parents and DH's bro & SiL at 6 weeks last time.
I'm seeing the GP on 11th September and am not sure what the deal is re: midwife referral as we lived somewhere else when DS was born. I've started looking at birth options and am thinking home birth maybe. DS was a quick ( 5 hours) and easy labour and birth so I should be a good candidate for home birth if everything goes smoothly this time.
Right, I've waffled on for long enough! Hope everyone is enjoying the weekend :-)
I've been today and had my hcg levels checked and they have doubled since blood test 2 days ago! I have a scan booked for Fridays still no idea of gestation tho!
Brilliant news Thicklelicker! Very reassuring.
Great news thicklelicker!!!!!!
I feel level still low though!! Long long time until Fridays:-(
Congratulations impatiently and everyone else on their sticky beans
I had brown spotting last time too, so hopefully won't get freaked out by it when it happens again. I've been having more twangs/twitches, which tbh feels like DSs kicks did, like a popping bubble! Must just be stuff moving and making room etc, but it's weird to feel. I felt DSs kicks around 18/20wks last time, but of course I didn't know what they were for a while - hopefully will pick up on them a bit sooner this time.
impatiently congrats on the darker bfp and it is very reassuring to see the lines get darker and pray for a sticky bean too! thanks - that was the worse spotting last week on saturday 4+4 and still bit here and there on 5+2 but ok now..maybe it's just me but have twinges and sharp stitch pain right next to my belly button today, been all morning. Scan is tmrw, will update when i come back.
truffkin - hmm a few hours at the hair salon sounds bliss to me too!
have a good weekend guys - sending positive thoughts to everyone too xxx
Slightly concerned about boob size. Started at 32f before first pregnancy went up to 40f while pregnant then to 32hh while feeding and have stayed that for last year while feeding but they have just started to get bigger again!
Also slightly concerned about weight gain. I put on 4.( stone while pregnant, lost 2 day I have birth, 1.5 more in month after giving birth and a further 2 up till she was six months breastfeeding and cake is a winning diet combination. As now a stone less than pre pregnancy. But really don't want to put on that much again but food is the only thing that stops feeling sick.
Hello, I'm joining tentatively after my last pregnancy ended in the baby dying when it was 12 weeks 2 days old. I think I am about 4+4 today, so another 8 weeks or so to go until I can relax a bit.
I have 2 dc, have had 2 miscarriages, hoping this one will be lucky...
Luckily my boobs haven't changed much, although they feel a little bit sore. I am starting at 32g so I hope they won't get too massive.
Welcome Thunder - sending you lots of best wishes for a healthy pregnancy and baby.
Oh my god I feel so sick this morning
Hello Thunder =)
Good luck for your scan today Ally, I've been told I can go for one at EPAU Friday if I explain my concerns to my doc.
Well this morning I have really wound myself up. I did so well felling positive yesterday and thoroughly enjoyed pretending to not be pregnant for a group of close friends which was a lot harder than I thought it would be. I got a little spotting still, which I dismissed telling myself as I have been assured by all my friends and so many online sources that this is perfectly normal during early pregnancy. Then I had a restless night's sleep waiting for FMU so I could do another CBD and it says Pregnant 1-2. So the one
seven that I have already done said 2-3. Should I presume all is going wrong or that I have fallen into the 8% that do not get an accurate reading on this one occasion. I don't know if it's relevant but I weed directly on it this morning where as previously I have dipped. Suppose I was feeling lucky.
Honest replies very welcome!! I know really all I have done is contributed to Clear Blue's probably massive profit margins -Hope all you ladies are doing well and not nearly a mad as me!
Bug, when did you do the ones that said 2-3 weeks? If it was only a couple of days ago could you have been more hydrated this morning so diluting the hormones? I'm assuming that's why you have to test in the morning.
Thinking of you, try and get some rest today just incase something isn't quite right.
Thanks bugoven. Good luck with yours if you decide to go to the EPAU.
Well re your concerns about CBD. Not sure I'm qualified enough to comment as it's my first pregnancy. But just from my own experience the lines are always darker in the evening for me than those taken in FMU. Have you done this test using same method ie pee midstream or collect in a cup similar as before?
Hi Bugoven, hope you are doing ok. Last month my clearblue said I was 1-2 weeks when I should have been further along. I was distraught and spent the day googling. Unfortunately for me I miscarried, but my spotting only lasted about 12 hours, after that it was bleeding as opposed to spotting. During the course if me googling though there are hundreds of results where people have been in our situation and turned out absolutely fine. I found a whole host of women who were vowing never to use clearblue again due to the heartache and anxiety it had caused them and then their babies were perfectly healthy.
There are many reasons why your HCG might have been lower today, like AllyPally said it might just be today that you are more hydrated.
I would try and go to your EPAU tomorrow, that's what I did in your situation and it was able to give me answers so I could stop incessantly googling and flipping between thinking the worst and hoping for the best.
Fingers crossed your scan will show a healthy looking sac and you can forget all about it.
Thinking about you today Bugoven. You too AllyPally, I hope your scan goes well today.
Thank you so much for your replies - you lot are keeping me sane!
After I left my post this morning I went straight back to sleep and cuddled in with OH. I told him about the 1-2 result but I didn't get upset and am pretty pleased with myself for accepting that it would have been far more sensible to be excited about Tuesday's bfp then be patient rather than repeatedly testing.
There are lots of reasons all could be ok - I did feel very hydrated this morning, it was a long wee and I did it on the stick for the first time since testing rather than dipping. I have not had any heavy bleeding and as impatiently says there are lots of stories about how everything was ok and I have only had brown spotting rather than any significant bleeding for a whole week now. I can only imagine the worry I am experiencing now is minimal compared to how it is going to feel being a mum and it's probably best to get this in order before I become a neurotic parent =)
If the worst happens I have learned a lot and will be all the more prepared for when it happens again. After nearly 2 years of TTC I can only see a conception as a good thing, whatever the outcome.
I get a second HCG result tomorrow and will ask my GP to contact EPAU for a second opinion.
Thanks again guys!
Hi bugoven. I tested on Friday after drinking 1.5l of water that morning and the test said 1-2 weeks. I tested again yesterday after drinking very little and the test said 2-3 weeks. I had drunk a fair bit that first day ad it definitely made a difference to the result.
Hope all is ok.
Sorry you are going through this bug. I hope you get a reassuring result tomorrow .
I have had two incidents of spotting this morning - tiny traces of blood but bright red which by all accounts is not a good sign. Had a dark bfp yesterday and still have symptoms. I'm 5+4 today. Was 5+6 when I miscarried last time. Kind of frozen in horror to think it might be happening again.
Oh Jelly, sorry you're going through this too. Fingers crossed tightly for everyone who's experiencing bleeding. I know it doesn't mean a lot but I'll be thinking of you and hoping everything's fine.
I've woken up to some spotting this morning which seriously freaked me out, but MN has calmed me down a bit as it's brown, so less worrying, though lots of people saying things have gone fine even with red spotting, so hopefully all will be ok. Feeling your pain bug & jelly
Nevertheless, have rung my EPU and they booked me in for a scan tomorrow, no questions asked, so that's good, I was worried they'd wait til it got worse. I'm 6+4 today, so good chance of seeing a HB if all is as it should be tomorrow. It's all a bit flippin' scary...
Thunder thank you so much, my eyes are prickling with tears of relief having read your comment. I am not going to test again
but really want to but if I did I'm sure I'd see the same. I was just so desperate to see 3+ and collect the set!
jelly and Nessa, we need to be calm and not stress ourselves out.... so many sources say this can be perfectly normal. Keep us posted and don't fee silly for sharing every detail Xx
Just popping to offer a hand to hold for Bug and Jelly such a worrying time but am keeping my fingers tightly crossed that all is ok with you both xx
Oh dear ladies there's lots of spotting going on, it's really scary but I think if its not accompanied with pain it should be fine. I've had brown spotting and even a bit of red and got really worried. NHS direct said to keep an eye and if gets worse go to a&e, and inform GP on Monday. Luckily it hasn't got worse, so I'm trying to stay calm, Dh got shouted at last night though poor thing
LaceyLee you sound so calm. I really envy you and you are right, it should be fine.
Just felt very reassured by some nausea as I was scrolling through some posts =)
Hi all been a few days since I checked in so been reading through and catching up. Really sorry to hear so many of you are experiencing spotting, it must be nerve wracking for you all. I'm constantly worrying something is going to go wrong for me and I haven't had any spotting! I know its usually nothing to worry about so fingers crossed for you all that all is fine. I'm still really suffering with insomnia and have resigned myself to the fact that's how its going to be! Slept a lot better on Thursday night but think I'd reached the point of exhaustion as Friday and Saturday back to v disturbed sleep. Going back to the boob question mine have def got bigger, contemplating when to get a new bra but don't want to get one too soon! When have you girls got bigger bras with previous pregnancies? My current worry is that there's something wrong or I'm not pregnant anymore as not having many symptoms! Not seeing midwife until a week tomorrow and then its just for a quick "fit me in" app not a real first app! Why is this happy time soooo worrying for us all. Hope we can all stop worrying soon. 5+5
Hi impatiently fingers crossed it is all ok as should be the uterus stretching for the lil one. If you're still worried call the EPAU. Sorry , must be really unsettling.
I had a 5wk ish scan at my Ultrababy this morning. No fetal pole can be seen but we saw a gestational sac with mean size of 10.2mm and he said all look ok but asked if we wanted another scan to confirm for £30 as by next week should be able to see heartbea hopefullyt. He also wasn't able to tell me the exact gestational age even after transV scan and didn't give me a print out. But he said by next week if I come back then they will be able to.
Fingers crossed all ok by next week and positive thoughts to everyone xxx
Ally are you glad you went? Sounds like good news and if all looks ok that must be reassuring. I am hoping to go to EPAU Friday when I will be 7 weeks by my LMP and 6 based on average cycle. I don't want to go if I will only worry more and not have any answers Xx
Hi bugoven I think DH is glad to have gone but I guess this scan isn't telling us much and for extra 30quid he said defo go for a second scan to see heartbeat as that will be more reassuring. I guess if u can get it scanned at EPAU at 6wks*+ chances are you will see much better than we are and will be seen by qualified gp instead of just by sonographers. I don't know but personally I felt it was worth the while to put my mind at ease that these insomnia is indeed caused by the little bean. Hope that helps feel free to ask any questions if u have ill try to answer them if I can!! X
Last time I had a private scan at 6.5 weeks and saw a heartbeat. I think you are advised not go go much earlier as its so small and hard to locate there is not a lot to see so it can make you more anxious. But if your paying them they will take your money and scan even if they know you won't see anything and will pay to come back again.
Well I haven't had any more spotting today. Have a bit more energy but that might be because I've had a very relaxing weekend. Back at work tomorrow (teacher) and just been trying on work clothes but so bloated I look like an elephant in everything! Am seriously worried the scanner won't be able to detect anything through the thick layer of podge on my belly, assuming I get as far as a scan. Have a serious case of the Sunday night blues tonight...
Hope everyone else is well and congrats on a successful scan Ally!
Tell me about the bloat Jelly! I look about 4 months pregnant! I'm going to have to pick my clothes very carefully to avoid any questions. Do you think it will go down or is this us now?
I hope the spotting has stayed at bay for those of you suffering from it, fingers crossed for you. Glad to hear it has so far this weekend Jelly.
Good luck with sleeping for our insomniacs. Have you managed to rest over the weekend and catch up at all? I had some very vivid dreams last night, worryingly featuring Tom Cruise. I have to put this down to the film I watched before bed!
AllyPally the scan sounds encouraging to me however you didn't sound sure in your post? Are you glad you went?
I'm very pleased to report that MacBoobs are looking a little perkier <if you squint sideways in a full moon>. Other than than I am not experiencing many other symptoms and keep forgetting that I'm upduffed!
The 'return to work blues' have got you Jelly. Bad enough on a normal Sunday, grrrr to going back to work after a break!
cupcake I think it's here to stay! Doesn't help that I feel nauseous whenever I am not eating - so I just keep eating!
Ahh, thought of something, anyone else experiencing the annoying symptom of "forgetting words"?
MacCrackles I get that enough anyway - I can be very absent minded - but it's definitely got worse!
We told our families this weekend, they were over the moon! Now I have to work out how to tell my best friend. She's been ttc for four years, has been through several rounds of IUI with no joy and is currently preparing for her first IVF cycle, so I want to tell her before that starts as we'll be making the pregnancy public knowledge right when she's in the middle of it. I've heard e-mail is often a good method of sharing the news as it gives her a chance to take it in without having to put on a brave face for me, but as we rarely e-mail each other I think a phone call may be more appropriate, plus I would worry about her picking up the e-mail when she's out and about or on her break at work. I know she'll be really happy for me but at the same time it's going to be very hard for her. Any advice anyone has on this subject is much appreciated!
Tricky one Pixie. Email can seem impersonal however it does give the other person a chance to gather their thoughts and have a private weep/gulp/sigh as required. Text is perhaps similar if you don't email each other and you might be able to time it more specifically, however, feels a little not quite right. So maybe phone is best, especially if you speak on the phone often.
Pixie - I think a phone call would be best too. Perhaps try not to stay on for ages after you've told her, that way if she's upset but too polite/controlled to show it she can take some time to deal with it before you speak again.
Does she know that you've been TTC?
Mac I've had the forgetting words thing too. It's really annoying as I've been working all weekend which has involved running a few training sessions in front of a roomful of people.
Luckily though I managed to avoid anyone noticing I wasn't drinking at the work night out on Saturday. I think it helps that I'm normally a spirits drinker anyway so I could cunningly disguise a coke as a JD and coke. Well, nobody said anything and someone accused me of being hungover this morning (just suffering pregnancy insomnia tiredness...) so I think it worked!
Pixie I probably agree about phoning her, especially if you don't stay on the phone long once you've told her. Especially if there's a risk she'll get the email while at work.
Tonight has been so emotional! It started with me crying at the new Ariel advert(!?!?) and ended with me crying after having crossed words with my brother. I have warned everyone to prepare themselves for a hormonal mess for at least the next 9 months. Will reply properly tomorrow when my eyes are less sore. Spotting is minimal =)
5+2ish based on cycles etc. 6+2 Based on LMP
I figure if I phone my friend then I can make sure her husband is there as well for comfort and support. I think that's going to be the way to go. I'll give her a bell tomorrow evening I think.
She doesn't know we've been ttc. We didn't tell anyone at all and I was particularly wary about telling her in case it happened really quickly, which it has! Of course I'll tell her we were trying but I won't tell her how long it took. If she asks I'll be honest with her but it's going to be tough enough hearing that I'm pregnant without me telling her that it only took two months
Good plan. Yup, probably wise to avoid telling her how quickly it happened for you.
I feel weirdly guilty at getting pg with our one-hit-wonder (literally one cycle TTC, DTD once ) knowing how hard it can be for so many, and haven't shared that with friends who struggled in the past even. I feel like they'd prob want to slap me!
Been up since 4.30 with churning nausea. Great for my first day back at work! Can't help getting really worked up - I hate and fear vomiting so much I get into a real state about it which only makes it worse. I would have thought the amount of puking I did last pregnancy would mean I got used to it a bit but I'm still dreading starting to actually throw up. Just telling myself it's a good sign that things are going well and I'd rather this than spotting [wibble].
Pixie I really feel for you and your friend. It is so unfair that some people struggle so much and it's sad to feel that your joyful wonderful news may cause pain to someone else. I guess just be honest and let her have space if she needs it. Hopefully IVF will work out for her and you'll have babies close together!
Cat is glaring balefully at me as I'm up but cannot bring myself to open the catfood for him, even holding my breath. Poor kitty!
Poor you Jelly ! Have some ginger 'tea' hopefully that helps.
Pixie I completely understand you as I'm also struggling to tell my best friend who had a stillborn at 35wks. But if suggest communicate the usual way and if that's phone then do it but don't linger on the subject for too long i guess. Good luck!
Mac - thank you - I'm happy I went for the scan , I guess I was sounding unsure as the Sonographer asked to return for clearer idea of gestational age etc but I'm pleased it went well
Have a happy and positive start of the week girls xxx
I went for the far less healthy remedy of a glass of coke . Not very good for me (or baby) but I have now managed to feed the cat at least...
Well whatever works I guess! Hope you feel better soon!
Still not much symptoms other than a lil swollen bb and insomnia!
Can't believe it's Monday morning again! I spent most of my weekend sleeping.
I'm starting to get so hungry. I find that 3 hours between meals my stomach is rumbling, which is so unlike me. I've also started to feel a bit of mild nausea on a night time too.
Have most people on this thread told their parents! So far we've only told our 2 friends who we stayed with for 4 days. Was talking with DH about telling parents and sisters last night and he said we should wait for 12 weeks which seems like such a long time away! When did you all tell/plan to tell your parents/siblings?
I've found that I can't go long without food either but then I'm always a bit like that! This morning I'm starving but everything I put in my mouth makes me gag.
We've told my mum, my sister, my best friend and DH's best friend.
I think our plan is that after we've been for our private scan we'll tell my dad and DH dad and siblings, maybe grandparents too. Then everyone else after the 12 week scan. I find it so hard not to tell people though!
I am sorry to not have better news this morning but unfortunately my blood test results from Friday show that I am not carrying a viable pregnancy and I have started to miscarry.
I have had a bit of a cry, told everyone I need to and am now looking forward to the next part of my journey as I have been told so many times how quickly a healthy pregnancy can happen afterwards. I am so lucky to have had those few days of excitement and there are some lovely ladies on here that have been a wonderful source of support. Wishing you all healthy, happy pregnancies.
Oh Bug! What awful, awful news. I can't tell you how much I admire your positive attitude though. You're absolutely right, there's amazing chance you'll fall quickly and go on to have a healthy pregnancy.
Make sure you take time to grieve and look after yourself. Please check in and let us know how you're getting on
Bugoven I'm so so sorry. It's I'd such awful news and like cupcake says please allow yourself time to grieve and look after yourself.
Thinking of you xxxxx
Oh bugoven I'm so very sorry to hear about your news. As cupcake said , I do admire your positivity. Everything happens for a reason. And I pray for tonnes of baby dust and healthy sticky bean to come very soon for you. Big bear hugs to you bug and in the mean time pls look after yourself xxx
Bugoven I'm so sorry you are in this situation and my thoughts and love are with you Please take care of yourself. Positive thoughts for your future. xxx
I'm sorry to hear your news Bug, but you have the Positive Mental Attitude thing down to a tee so I'm sure you'll have a sticky bean very soon! Take care xxxx
So sorry to hear that Bug and I hope you are back on a new thread very soon xxx
Pixie I had a (scarily!) similar scenario with my first pregnancy when I told a friend in the same situation. We were due to meet for lunch so I called her the week before and told her over the phone. She really struggled to hear it and we didn't stay on for long. She emailed me a couple of days later to say she had found the call difficult but was glad to know in advance and when we were not face to face and that she was happy for me and would deal with her own feelings as we went along. Hope all goes well for you and don't forget it is hard for you too, to play down your own happiness and balance both situations.
We are planning to keep the news to ourselves until 12 weeks. We told my Mom, PiLs and BiL & SiL at 6 weeks last time but feel the need for a bit more privacy this time round. I also want our DS to be able to understand before we tell anyone else and am not risking saying anything to him until I'm comfortable with the possibility of him blurting it out to a random stranger
Hey guys, I got my bfp yesterday. This is my second pregnancy and I have almost no symptoms compared to last time, is that normal??
So sorry to hear your news bug
Congrats on the bfp biscuitnoodle
This is my second pregnancy too, the only symptoms I have so far are nausea and vomiting. I feel your pain Jelly, hope today went ok after the coke remedy!
I have told one friend so far, not ready to tell anyone else yet as need to get my head around the news first. But will probably tell our parents soon and wait until the 12 week scan is ok before telling others.
Bug, MASSIVE hugs. If it isn't too painful, please pop in - and let us know when you do get a bfp
Can I ask some advice on doctors? I recently moved house, and haven't signed up with a doctor yet. Do I "announce" my pregnancy immediately, at my first appointment, or let them do their usual height and weight and make a subsequent appointment? Not really sure of the equitette!
Gutted to hear your news bug, sending you lots of positive baby-vibes for a sticky bean very very soon!
I went for my scan today after spotting yesterday and today, and I'm pleased to say that all looked good! Teeny tiny blob with a heartbeat. A bit shell-shocked really, but so so happy
Welcome Biscuit and much sympathy, this is my second too and I'm feeling decidedly unpregnant even though I am!
Nessa great news! Such an exciting and emotional moment
ness that's amazing news! Good to hear and makes me so hopeful for if I spot again in my future, iminent pregnancy. I will pop by and let you all know how I'm getting on X
Brilliant news Nessa, heartwarming after Bugs awful news today. This pregnancy stuff is an emotional roller-coaster isn't it!
bugoven so sorry to hear your news Sending lots of good vibes your way.
Just called my best friend. I think I'm more of an emotional wreck about it than she was! I timed it well as her husband had just got home and she was about to open a bottle of wine. She took it very well and was very grateful that I called her, which apparently is more than her own brother did when his partner got pregnant! Although she did say how pleased she was a few too many times for me to think she was totally fine with the idea...
Great to hear Nessa.
Flapjack do you have to have an introductory appointment when going to a new Drs? I would register and then ask to see the midwife for a booking in (?) appointment, bypass the Dr as they don't (IME) get involved so early. This is what I've done anyway and relatively new to Dr practice, however I could be wrong (it does happen ).
bug sorry to hear your news. I think you are being really brave.
Please can I join? I got my bfp a couple of days ago. App thing is saying May 14 as a due date. This is #2 for me and so far I feel v similar to first pregnancy. I am v tired but that is nothing new as I chase about after a toddler! I have also got a bit of bloating, permanently need to pee and today I have had mild nausea!
First day back at work after the summer tomorrow. I hope I too busy to notice how rough I feel!
Glad to hear it went ok Pixie, I'm sure she is genuinely happy for you, she'll just be gutted that she isn't on the baby train with you, fx for her treatment going well!
Pixie glad to hear that your friend wasn't too upset. I think in these situations you can definitely feel two ways at the same time - genuinely pleased that her best mate is pregnant but still hearing the why isn't it me voice in the back of her head. The hard but is over now, sure her excitement will take over now she knows about it.
Welcome Rushy, have you added your info to our stats thread? We keep due dates etc in there. Think there is a link to it somewhere in this thread or you should see it in the antenatal threads.
Really sorry bug I really feel for you. Stay strong and positive. My first pregnancy was eptopic and it was awful but i had some great friends and family and we were lucky enough to get pregnant again remarkably quickly. Sending positive vibes that it happens super fast for you too.
Is it normal to be itchy down below! Sorry for tmi!!?
Oh and for it to sting when passing urine? Sorry :-/
Hi thistle - sounds like thrush? Do you have yellowy or unusual discharge ?
No no discharge! Just itch :-(
Sounds like thrush or uti both v common during pregnancy. Go to the GP as some usual treatments like peassarys are not reccomended.
Thistle I'm also very itchy. Not a pleasant thing. I think I've read somewhere its a symptom of early pregnancy? But maybe that's just me saying that so I don't need to go to docs. Have to call in soon with my pot of pee for them to check I'm not making it up that I'm preggo so will ask then.
Did a sneaky 3rd CB digital test today, which I shouldn't have because DH is away so would have been awful if it didn't show what I was expecting, but it changed to 3+ weeks which is where I should be, so I'm going to step away from the tests now, I promise.
I did a test yesterday (not a CB digital, just a Tesco cheapy) because I had this sudden paranoid feeling that my mind and body have just been playing tricks on me and I'm not really pregnant at all. Fortunately there was a very strong pink line which showed up almost immediately. Phew!
Got my booking appointment on Sunday. Surprised it's so early as I'll only be 6 weeks by then, but I'm not complaining!
Isn't it funny how different the care is depending on where you are in the country - you would think the NHS would have a standard practice. Maybe that's just naive of me!
Can I ask why you've tested again Pixie and Impatiently? I see a lot of people do that and I wonder if it's something you should do? I tested the day after AF was due (a First Response and a CB digital) and haven't done one since - should I do one again?
Thanks for the sympathy, I don't want to have nausea and stuff but I think it would reassure me about the pregnancy!!
How is everyone??
Cupcake I suppose I use it as a reassurance method. I think it's because I don't really feel any different to the way I did before I was pregnant so I have just done a few of my Internet cheap tests to see the line getting darker, and then I've done 3 CB about a week apart each time so I could see my number of weeks since conception go up so I know that my HCG is rising.
I don't think it's something you should be doing though. I think it probably just causes more anxiety even though all of mine have been good news so far. I'm going to try and keep away from them now on though.
Yes, I can see how that would be reassuring. I find lack of some symptoms worrying too, particularly not needing to pee more which seems to be the one that almost everyone gets but I haven't at all.
I don't need to pee more either. Maybe I feel a bit nauseous on a night but its really mild and I'm not convinced its really pregnancy related as opposed to just being tired.
The time seems to be going so slowly! Can't wait until we've reached 12 weeks.
Oh, I'm pleased it's not just me. I've seen so many, 'I've got no symptoms except peeing more..' posts it was beginning to freak me out!
I'll second the time going slowly too - it feels like the run up to Christmas
Plus, even if your nausea was caused be tiredness, tiredness in itself is a symptom
Yes I do think I'm more tired, but apart from achey boobs I don't think I have anything else.
I think that I honestly go to the toilet maybe 3 or 4 times a day max. Sometimes I can be awake for a few hours before I need to go for my first wee. I probably don't drink enough water though.
Cupcake, it is really the run up to Christmas isn't it because 12 weeks will come at the beginning of Nov won't it? Which is almost Christmas!!
Hi everyone... I just found out I am due the 12th of May!! This will be my second child, my first is 5. A few years ago I was ill and I suffered a few mc's but now I am hoping this is the one!! All is well so far and my 2 positive tests are sat on the kitchen table staring up at me Can't wait to have a Christmas bump and to have everyone ELSE cook the dinner LOL.... Love to you all xxxxxxxxx
Congratulations ThePFJ on your BFP. I've added you along with Rushyswife, biscuitnoodle, and Thunderbumsmum to the stats thread. Hope I haven't missed anyone else out?
May is going to be a busy month. Our latest due date is 14/5/14 so far and we already have 31 Maybies.
Teehee.. We are already calling this one a Maybee!! Thanks soo much for adding me I am soo excited
bugs I was s sorry to see your post. I hope you are feeling ok.
impatientlywaiting thanks for adding me to the stats. I have updated with my EDD.
cupcake I've had various symptoms but I couldn't shake the horrible paranoid feeling that it was all just some awful mistake, which is why I did the further test. I just wanted reassuring even though I knew I had textbook pregnancy symptoms.
Thanks Pixie, I guess we're all looking for reassurance, no matter what our symptoms are. I've booked a private scan for two weeks time - I'm hoping if I can hear a nice healthy heartbeat it will put my mind at ease.
On another topic, can anyone help clear this up for me? The first day of my last period was 22nd July but my cycle is 31 days. Do I count my pregnancy from the 22nd which would make me 6+2?
When I put my details, including cycle length, into NHS due date calculator it says I'm due 1st May and I'm 5 weeks something pregnant.
Not that it really matters I suppose but it would be nice to know how far along I am.
Last time they dated from first day if my period even though I have cycles of 34 days. Apparently they know better than you! So I would count yourself as 6w2d
Congrats new BFPers!
Hey impatiently, congrats I saw your post re CBD. That's good! Just stop testing now though before u go crazy thinking about it. Also same with me I did tonnes of test but have since stopped. Same here re diminishing symptoms. I still have insomnia and wake up to pee. Last night had some v mild curry and had the worst heartburn and then threw up when I got home. Other than that, I still have similar but maybe just slightly swollen boobs n that's it!!
Got a call from my midwife today to say blood test done last Tuesday at 5wks came back good but my urine sample has some cultures and will need to be re-done! I asked her re my hcg level but she isn't able to answer me?!?! I have another private scan this Sunday. Fingers crossed we can see the bean and also if we are really lucky some heartbeats! praying
Thanks Mcbaby - sorry worked that out wrong, I'm 6+1 in that case.
Welcome to all the new Maybies! I'm having trouble working out exactly how far gone I am too Cupcake, my last period was 25th July so I think that makes me 5+5?
Has anyone else got an irrational fear of doing something to the baby? I cycle to work and every time I go over a bump in the road I panic about it causing something to happen. Doctor and NHS direct site both say it's fine for my to cycle, but that doesn't seem to have stopped me worrying...
Hi everyone, please can I join? I just got my bfp this morning! Think I'm about 4 weeks pregnant but not exactly sure as I wasn't tracking ovulation & my periods were quite irregular! According to the nhs calculator I'm due 11th may!!!
Congratulations mrsmummytobe how exciting that you got your BFP.
Welcome to the Maybies where we are all nervous, excited and wishing away time until we reach the magical 12th week.
Thanks impatientlywaiting it definitely hasn't sunk in yet! So excited though. I can't wait to have a scan and hear the heartbeat & see the baby for myself!!
Hello mrsmummytobe, congratulations! X
Hello everyone, I'm enjoying reading all your updates! So sorry to hear about bug though, I hope you're ok?
Symptom-wise, I fluctuate between thinking I'm imagining being preggo and then having definite symptoms - main ones being insomnia (I usually sleep like a log), peeing a bit more frequently (although I could put that down to nipping to the loo a lot just to check everything's ok down there!) but no sore boobs (despite regular poking of them just to check).
Have managed to wangle a free early scan at 6+2 next week coz of previous troubles, but it may be a wasted journey if it's too early for a heartbeat.
I'm not doing too badly on keeping calm but like others I'm wishing the next 7 weeks away. Am planning on having the Harmony test again to check for Downs (assuming I get that far) but want to find a place other than FMC to get it done. Any suggestions for London-based clinics most welcome!
Yikes (5weeks today and counting)
Yikes - same here, I have VERY sore boobs and did from quite early on, before I knew I was pregnant. Yesterday they really, really hurt, to the point of being beyond the pleased "ooh yay I am pregnant; my boobs hurt" and more like "OW!"
Today they haven't hurt at all I am scared to test again but will tomorrow - I need FMU!
Thanks biscuitnoodle When did you get your bfp?
Ok my boobs are very tender today's. can't wait for Friday
Congrats and welcome to the newcomers. My boobs also feel like they're being poked with hot needles
I posted this on pregnancy but haven't had any replies - last night DH sprayed a considerable amount of fly spray to kill a spider and it only occurred to me afterwards that it might have been a bad idea. I stupidly googled it and found all sorts of scary things about nervous systems and birth defects, now I'm panicking. Of course also found other stuff about there being no evidence of harm too. I'm really worried and came home from work in tears earlier - do you think I'm being silly?
Try not to worry cupcake. I'm sure no flyspray got into your system and if it did it's prob more toxic to flys than humans.if you are worried there should be a phone number on the flyspray of the company that made it. Call that and ask to speak to the chemist.
Boobs super sore here and that underlying nausea is kicking in....
Welcome newbie Maybies!
I'm not feeling so hot today, lots of twingey cramps this afternoon, but more like stomach trouble than periody cramps. I don't feel particularly worried, just a bit "Oh what's that", probably because I remember lots of random pains with DS. We shall see eh!
Mrsmummytobe I only got my bfp on Sunday so its still sinking in that im pregnant. I don't really have many symptoms though
Aww congratulations biscuitnoodle
My boobs are really painful & I have been feeling a bit sick. At work today I felt like everyone could tell but of course they couldn't. We're not telling anyone apart from close family about the pregnancy until after the 12 week scan but I think it's going to be so hard to keep it quiet for that long!
Hello Maybies and welcome and congrats all newbies!
I am experiencing no symptoms now except slightly perkier boobs, oh yes and the annoying mid-sentence forgetting of words! I suddenly remember that I'm pregnant and have a little secret smile to myself! Feel reluctant to share our news with anyone as it just doesn't seem real!
I also seem to be going backwards re dates!! So over a week since my bfp and yet only 4+3!
Night all, must sleep (not counting requirement for sleep as a symptom nor the fact that I fell asleep on the train and probably drooled attractively because these are standard for me!).
Is it normal to get back pain on the side just above the hips?
Thistle - sounds like maybe you're dehydrated? I have had similar kidney pain when I haven't kept my water levels up. Try drinking a pint of water before bed, hopefully it'll help.
I need to drink a lot more when pg, half the reason I'm already peeing twice as much as usual!
Blooming sore! Missing all my
Regular pain relief !
Back pain is pretty normal... your uterus is going nuts right now and it affects everything around it! I remember it from my 1st pregnancy as an early symptom. For all those with previous troubles - I hear you!! Since baby number 1 I have had 8 mc's all in a row. In the last 2 years I haven't fallen pregnant at all! So this one... I know it's the one! Paranoid? Yes!
Still wearing a big grin on my face... my uterus is having weird ... how can I describe it... not really cramps... but mini stabs and tingly sort of sensations... I am assuming its the hormones kicking it all off and everything getting ready to stretch.... its really annoying though.... I just want to lay down and sleep.... I seem to be very restless at the moment too... and headachy!
Missing my painrelief too thistlelicker....
So to all you girls who have mc'd in the past on this thread... you can unload on my shoulder if you want my darlings!
I know its only 5 weeks.... but is it too early to be looking at baby clothes and going 'Awwwwwww'?? ;)
P.S. Before I try to get to sleep....
Just an insider's warning.... pop your Fabreze back in the cupboard.... it's being investigated! I love my fabreze!
And re: boob ache - mine comes and goes... so I am forcing myself to stop poking them as a way to check I am still pg!
Gosh ThePFJ 8 miscarriages is heartbreaking. I can't imagine how you must have felt. You sound very positive about this one, you must be able to sense a sticky bean.
Have you checked out the posifrickinivity thread in the pregnancy section? It's for people pregnant after miscarriages. Good place to vent any irrational fears.
Sorry one last thing.... Anyone else being really sneezy?? o.O
Night night xxx hugs xxx
Ooooo thank you impatientlywaiting I'll check that one out! Yes I am determined to be positive and enjoy this one.... come what may I am PG now and you can't take that away from me!
Morning all! I have been up most of the night with nausea. Lay on the bathroom floor for a while as the cool tiles against my face feel soothing. Now wondering what to do with my toddler today as I'd like to take him to the park but feeling so ill. Dreading work tomorrow. Also feel worried as I didn't feel this bad this early on with my first pregnancy so I keep panicking that this could be twins! Though I had aboy last time and I think girls often make you sicker so it could be a girl.
Sorry for all the complaining and welcome to the new bfps!
It may just be my imagination but I swear my boobs are looking perkier!
Hi all I got my bfp on Sunday! Did a due date calculator and I'm estimated May 12th :D it's our first baby so we're very excited but not sure what to expect! I just feel exhausted at the moment, keep waking up in the middle of the night to wee and then can't get back to sleep! Does anyone else get this early on?
AliOh those were my first symptoms, really early. Congrats and welcome.
Pixie mine too and I'm pleased as it's detracting from my bloated tummy!
And PFJ, eight miscarriages is unimaginable. Glad to hear things are going well so far with this one.
Thanks jellyandcake not usually good with no sleep (guess i better get used to it!) but feeling fab at the moment!
Aghhhhh lots of may-bies :-)
Congratulations AliOh! I've had those exact symptoms for the past few days. I keep waking up around 4 or 5 then lie away until the alarm goes off, then feel exhausted in the day!! Just got my bfp yesterday so I'm still getting used to being pg!
Congrats new BFPers ali and mrsmummy and anyone I've missed off! Short term memory prob!!
jelly on same boat but not as bad as u. I felt soooo nauseous at 6am. And I slept at 10pm woke up at 2.30am!! Insomnia is still plaguing me! Yup defo perkier bbs!
Thanks everyone! First day back at work today since bfp, keep getting waves of nausea and running to the bathroom, not sure how long I will be able to keep this a secret for I'm so bloated I feel like I've got a bump already (wishful thinking!) which of you are working and how are you coping?!
I work full time I. A hospital. Very physical job have to be
Congratulations everyone. Can i join?
Got my BFP last week, not sure if I'm excited or absolutely petrified. I've been eating loads of baked beans which I normally hate. And I'm completely shattered, I can't remember feeling like this with my first. AliOh our EDD are the same!
Congratulations jammybean nice to have someone with the same EDD thistlelicker, I'm the same have a very physical job so I have to be careful, I'm thinking I will have to tell them in a few weeks or I'll run out of excuses!
jelly I am much sicker with boys, I have no symptoms with girls. That's probably not helpful... I hope you're feeling better now, sickness is awful with a little one to look after.
Do you mind if I quietly sneak in and join you?! bfp this morning and calculator says EDD14th May, this will be DC1...
Being reminded by DH not to get too excited at this early stage... but hard to stop grinning!!
Hi mrsmummy so good to see a familiar 'face' here <waves>
Didn't think I had any symptoms but now realising that the insommnia that's plagued me for the last 4 nights is probably the biggy! Damn! hugs to everyone else in here suffering - it's rubbish!
Interested to hear peoples experience of their first GP appointment... I'm abroad at the moment (zimbabwe) so will be going private here, but am actually flying to the UK on thursday for a month.... was thinking about getting a first appointment while I was there but reading most of your experiences it seems that it might be a waste of time...hmmm... any thoughts on what I should do?
I suppose at least if I wait until I'm back here to see someone I'll be 8wks so maybe a slightly higher chance of it holding on in here!
Going to be so tough to keep tight lipped about it - lots of celebration times in this visit home so will have to think up some ingenious non-drinking excuses!
I thought the 2ww was hard, but seems like it's nothing compared to the 12ww!!!
Ooh interesting Thunder. Have felt a bit better today. It definitely seems to be worse evening and overnight which is the opposite to last time.
Bush I didn't see anyone first time around until I was eight weeks gone, I don't think they can do much before then anyway.
I was sent home today with back ache!! Spoke to go can only half paracetamol :-((
I am having real trouble sleeping. Sooo restless. I hope tonight I collapse early with exhaustion!!!
I am so excited to be surrounded by so many Maybies
My uterus is still pinging away madly... but I am glad to have the reassurance that things are happening down there
Got to go.... Love and hugs xxxxx
Bushprincess I saw my gp today and she referred me to the midwife. Maybe it will be better to see the local midwife?
Hi bush, so happy you've come to join us!
I can't even get an appointment with my GP until 16th Sept then I'll have to be referred after that. I really can't wait to have the scan - wish I could have it earlier! It would just be so reassuring to know that everything is progressing as normal & the baby is healthy! Is anyone having a scan or being seen earlier than 12 weeks? This is my dc1 so it's all new to me!
Hey great to hear more BFPs!!
Sigh I'm spotting light pink again and a little crampy so I'm getting a bit worried. Anyway at 6+2 also spotting?
Hi all, my MW is getting me an early scan on the 24th... which will be week 7, as reassurance because of my previous losses. She isnt seeing me until the 30th though, for a one hour 1st time appointment, although I have her number and the MW team number for before then if I have any concerns..... She told me to google 'The pregnancy guide' from the gov/nhs which she says has got everything we need to know in it.... if that's any help to you bush ...
Other than that I have to sit tight and think good thoughts!!
My uterus feels like I have been doing sit-ups all day... slight nausea and I am SOOO tired!!
My goal is to get to the week 20 scan.. so I can find out what flavour baby we are getting!!!
xx Love to all xxx
Due end of April but may as well get myself in here too; heard first babies tend to go over very much a surprise baby as I'm 19 and about to start second year of a performing arts degree, but hey ho - I'm going to be a mommy hope it's ok if I post here?
Hi moominleigh Congrats!!!! Hope you like cats! - only kidding. My first baby was a week late, so I would agree with you on that one! I am jealous of your degree - I really wanted to do preforming arts... but my parents literally threatened to kill me.. so I did science..... So enjoy it!!
Thanks ThePFJ ... more of a dog person, but future SIL has just had two kittens and it may be hormones but I turned into a complete cooing mess when I saw them
I'm loving it... got to meet with tutors when I go back to see what's going to happen. Going to ask that I continue the course and resit any modules I miss or fail over the summer rather than taking a year out, I'd go out of my mind with boredom. I'll just have to perform with a bump
I think performing with a bump will be really cool!!! Go for it!
And I love kittens.... they are soooo... soooo... awwwwwwwwwwwwwww!
allypallyjelly I bled most of the way through my last pregnancy, sometimes fresh blood and sometimes brown. The baby died at 12 weeks but they looked at the scans and did tests on the baby and the bleeding was completely unrelated - the docs said that was definitely not a cause of the miscarriage. I think sometimes it can just happen like that but so long as there are no clots it is often ok. Hth
Helloooo! Just got my BFP on Sunday gone - baby no. 2. Due date is May 11th. Really pleased about the news... and feeling surprisingly calm and relaxed about it all this time around. I guess it helps to know what to expect (famous last words). So far feeling great, lots of energy, no symptoms apart from slightly tender breasts and a stiff tummy feeling.
Anyway congrats to all! Yay! x
It's going to be interesting, that's for sure!
I wish I was chill and relaxed... I have no energy, feeling so sick and cravings are driving me bonkers.
Congrats TransatlanticCityGirl and welcome!
What are you craving mooninleigh ?
White bread with salted butter... but the thought of butter is making my stomach do somersaults.
Used to love the smell of paint too; but we're decorating the in-laws house at the moment and the smell of paint is making me feel nauseous...
I am loving continental salted butter and crusty bread right now... red grapes and rice crispies. Night before I got my BFP I was compelled to eat 2 omelettes. I usually don't do the omelette thing..... and I scoffed all the eggs in the fridge! Last time I went off NobblyBobbly lollies. And they are my favourites... hubbie thought I had been brainwashed!
Butter with salt crystals in is nice...
Annoying insomnia, I forgot how bad it was. How is everyone else? Anyone up at this stupid time of the morning?
Yes! Second time woken up tonight ... meh! Not usually good with lack of sleep but felt ok yesterday until around 8pm then I was just exhausted!
I put on those motion sickness wristbands last night and slept through with no nausea in the night! Might just be coincidence but I'm not taking them off now!
Congrats and welcome transatlanticCityGirl! We've got the same due date I'm so excited!
I've been craving marmite on toast! Yum!
I'm having a bit of a wobble feel completely lost, don't know what any of these terms like SPD means, these pregnancy care vitamins are too big but I haven't taken any folic acid yet, I feel so sick and I just want to be able to go and have a hug from my mum about it but I can't because she doesn't know
Ah, moomin it sounds like you're feeling a bit overwhelmed. Why don't you tell your mum? There are no rules about when you have to tell people and it sounds like you could do with the support. It's is a big thing to go through when none of your friends can be there to answer questions etc.
I think you can get free folic acid pills from a midwife if you don't want to take the pre-natals. You really should take something though; not enough folic acid can cause cleft palate and/or spina biffida.
Ps I am old enough to be your mum at that realisation. You can have a virtual hug if it will help..?
You will be fine. Take it easy on yourself.
Thanks Thunder . OH doesn't want us to tell parents until we're all together and we can tell them as a group, and OH's sister recommended waiting until we're past 12 weeks. Thing is, OH is in his twenties and dealing with this well, and so is his sister who's ecstatic about being an aunt. I'm nervous about telling parents, nervous about telling uni lecturers, I was nervous about telling the doctor yesterday!
Thanks, I'm not sure when my midwife appointment will be but I'll try and get some.
Moomin I would tell your mum. It really makes it easier when you have support especially when feeling so sick.
You can pick up folic acid pills very cheaply and in very small tablets from boots.
I actually managed a few hours sleep last night..... and in a minute I am going to have to make a huge bacon sandwich with ketchup.....
I have told EVERYONE I am pg. I know its early days, and some people do say to me 'but what if the grandparents are disappointed if you lose it?' etc.... but 1. I can't keep secrets - they drive me mad
2. I need to share my excitement with my family.... and
3. When telling my dad on the phone the same day as my BFP he said he was really really happy I had told him, he said if for any reason I lose it or whatever happens he'd only be disappointed for me and my feelings..... It was so sweet I was teary eyed....
My mum is ringing me everyday now to see how I am getting on and I am loving it.... having hugs from her over the phone is just what I need....
(I am getting emotional now... just typing this.... argh I am hormonal!!)
Ok... I am going before I cry... I'll leave out extra bacon sarnies for you girls.... xxxxxxx
I really want to McBaby, but I know OH would be gutted if my parents found out before his. He really wants them to find out together, but I don't think my parents will react as well as his will but I don't want to go behind his back, he's been so lovely and supportive and I feel like I owe it to him to announce it the way he wants to.
Oh and btw www.pregnology.com/faralong.php?month=5&day=12&year=2014 - found it this morning.... gives you a day by day calendar count down!
Welcome Moomin and the other new Maybies I will update the stats thread soon.
Moomin I think you should definitely tell your mum. People often wait until the 12 week mark to tell people as that's when people generally have their first scan and after seeing the heartbeat at that point the chance of miscarriage really reduces. A lot of people tell their mum earlier than that though, and as you have a lot to take it I think it would be really helpful to talk to her. You can always save telling everyone else until the 12 week mark, but you definitely need some support.
Moomin I agree with McBaby. It sounds as if you need the support that only she can give, plus you mention that your OH's DSis knows which suggests that you are not waiting for everyone to be together to share your news.
I'm telling my Mum tonight before we have a small close family gathering tomorrow as I want her to know first and before we're in a group. I've told her first each time .
Welcome all new Maybies and yay to you all .
Oh I forgot to ask. Has anyone else out on loads of weight? I've put on about 5lbs although I'm well aware none of it is baby.
I've found I'm so hungry at the moment so eating all of the time and its already had an impact on my weight. Nevermind, it's no big deal, just don't want to look like I'm 5 months pregnant before I start officially telling people.
Also Moomin, if your Mum reacts as you might expect her to, would it be kinder/fairer/easier/better to tell her in private? Just a thought.
Thanks everyone. I might suggest to him that we tell them on Sunday which is when they'll have a chance to get together, I'm really scared for telling them so the thought of waiting until november is putting so much stress on me which can't be good
Plus, if anything was to happen to the jellybean, I'd want my mum there to be able to help. My biggest fear is that she'll want nothing to do with me.
MacCrackles I think so... wish OH agreed
Moomin I agree with MacCrackles. You know your parents the best and as you are younger than OH and it sounds like in a different position as you are still at university then your parents reactions may be different.
Your parents might need more time to get their heads around it and might want to talk to you about the impact it'll have before they can get excited. They may not feel that they can do that if OH's parents are there.
I hope it doesn't seem like we are pressuring you. Ultimately you know everyone in the situation the best and will make the right choice.
I want to tell them but OH is so concerned with how other people feel about it; doesn't want one set of parents to be told before the other, wants us to be together when we tell them but wants to do it on neutral territory so my parents can't kill him
I'm sitting here freaking out at every twinge of pain because I'm convinced it won't be healthy, I'm scared about telling people, I know I'll be judged for my age - the doctor was proof enough of that - but I just feel lost, I want to have this baby but I just hope everyone will accept that and although it'll be a shock for my parents, they tend to become all-consumed in their own thoughts when things like this happened, I just hope they kind of spare a thought for me and don't say something hurtful, because I haven't done this to hurt them. This was never planned or intended.
Hi ladies, do you mind if I join you? 5 weeks today, got my bfp last Friday and apparently due 8 May 2014. I phoned the doctor on Monday just to see what the next step was and ended up seeing the midwife on Tuesday and have my booking scan on 5 October - she was really nice and said she would come at the weekend since it was easier for me to fit in with work. It really freaks me out that they didn't do a test or anything, just rely on the fact that I have already done two. I have been feeling a bit sick, eating all the time (though maybe it's just a good excuse) and yesterday got sore boobs. I have also had a lot of cramping, though no blood (fingers crossed) and am having insomnia too, which I didn't realise was a symptom so glad to hear I'm not alone! I hope everyone has a good day, I'm finding it very difficult to concentrate on work at the moment
Just spoken to OH; we're telling his parents Sunday and then mine on Monday probably I'm relieved now. Thanks for the advice guys.
Sorry, should say booking appointment on 5 October, when I will get a date for my scan! Wish I did have my scan on 5 October though...
OH has a point about the fairness of knowing first etc etc.... but I told my mum first... my dad and OH's relatives got told later that day.. and they even complined about which one I called first etc etc.... You can't please everyone.... A pg gal's bond with her mum is special.... You should do what's best for you.... tell your OH you need your mum. Full stop. If his parents love him they will understand, surely... if you explain emotionally... cry a bit.... ask for a hug.... (on the day you tell them....)
Whatever happens us girls are here for you babes..... xxx super hug xxxx
P.S. I have put on weight too... last few weeks I have been so hungry....
Oh moomin, hug from me. Regardless of when you tell your mum, please take folic acid, it's the best thing you can do at this stage to try to ensure it is healthy.
impatiently I have lost 3-4lb this week- some of you may have seen my thread about diarrhoea. Can't say I recommend it though!
still so convinced things will go wrong I don't want to make my booking in appt which is silly!
Thanks everyone we're not going to mention who's been told first when we tell parents... my parents would be more annoyed if they found out they'd been told second, but it's more convenient to tell his first, so a little white lie might come into play there.
I really appreciate the advice and support... this is crazy, it's still not quite sinking in. Even though I've got all the symptoms, I don't feel pregnant... I thought I'd feel different (thought I'd have some kind of glow but all I have is lots of spots and a permanently green hue!)
hugs moomin I home that everyone reacts in a supportive way for you and you feel happier once you've told your mum especially. Good luck - an get yourself some folic acid!!!!
ps.. I'm also getting spots so you're not alone!
Nice to see so many new maybies here!
Looks like these early days are being quite hard on us all. I really don't feel myself at the moment. I'm so grumpy and emotional and anxious about everything. DH has asked me to step away from the Googling things as I've got myself in a right state by looking up things.
I've also got a massive bump already. It's obviously just bloating but its huge and hard to cover with my clothes. Topped off with breakouts covering the right side of my face only and I'm sure I look a picture.
Despite all that I wouldn't have it any other way
This time in 8 weeks I'm sure we'll all be radiant, happy mummys-to-be.
I can't wait to glow live near a power station so it might even be a real, bright yellow, radioactive glow
Going to try and get myself some folic acid today; just spent ten minutes glaring at a pregnancy vitamin tablet before sniffing it, nearly throwing up and deciding against it
Moomin, I've had to start taking my vitamins in the evening - I find them a lot easier to stomach then
Thanks thunderbumsmums ! Fingers crossed it is just the uterus stretching to make way for bigger bean! Congrats again many BFPs so happy to see them! Hope everyone is having an ok day! I think morning sickness is dawning on me now.. Not complaining yet!
moomin re the folic acid pills, Holland & Barrett do teeny tiny ones, same size as The Pill, and Seven Seas do a 'Trying for a Baby' folic acid/multivitamin the same size, plus they're labelled with the days if the week so good for forgetful types like me!
It sounds like you're really nervous about telling your parents, best thing to do if you can is keep very positive about it, Show No Fear! If they think you're nervous and unhappy about it they'll be so much more concerned.
I'm telling my mum tomorrow, she's coming to stay for the weekend, and I'm a little apprehensive - she said when DS was 1yo "I don't think you should have another, you haven't coped very well with this one". Thanks for the vote of confidence mum!
She has the tact of a brick.
Meant to add - Boots sell the Seven Seas one, little pale purple box in the multi Vit section.
Thanks! I'll have a look out, going to pop to the chemist in an hour or so (living rurally has it's downsides) and I'm going to see what they have, but my uni town has Boots and Holland and Barrets, and I'm moving back up there on the 14th so I can pick some up then :D thanks!
Best of luck with telling your mum, hope it goes well!
Long - that's an awful thing for your mum to say!
Moomin - I have a spare and unopened big bottle of the Holland &Barrett tiny ones, not entirely sure why I have two but I certainly don't need it, I'm swimming in the things!
If you PM me your address I'll pop it in the post this afternoon.
You really do need to start taking it right away, it's no bother at all for me to pop by the Post Office on my way thru town later.
moomin tell your parents!!!! You should also have a say in when your family finds out and after all it is your body not your dp's that is coping with all the changes of pregnancy!! Good luck!
Cupcake - she has also said that disabled babies should euthanised at birth, so frankly I take most things she says with a massive bucket of salt.
I'm sure she says this stuff without thinking at all about what it really means, she's actually quite a lovely gentle person, but she can't see outside her own experience, and is v self centred.
DSis and I tend to roll our eyes and just tell her she's being ridiculous.
Hello Maybies! Welcome newbies!
I sympathise regarding who to tell and when. This is our first and we didn't know what we were going to do.
The first people we told (2 days after BFP) were my best friends, who are a couple with a toddler and baby, as I'm a worrier and a talker and needed to tell someone who had recently been in my position and could give it to me straight! Then we told DP's parents and sisters, they live close and we were going there for dinner, so it seemed natural to tell them. I told my boss early as the thing I work towards all year is coming up in the next few weeks and my job becomes increasingly stressful and difficult, I felt he should know in case hormones get the better of me or (heaven forbid) I need to take time off unexpectedly. DP has told 2 very close friends, and he has also told his line manager and his boss so he can arrange time off for appointments, which I was fine with, but then his idiot line manager blurted it out the next day to the rest of the staff by accident!
We are of the opinion that if something were to happen we would rather have the support from people close to us, than having to explain afterwards.
The thing I've found hardest is that we haven't told my parents yet as they live over 100 miles away and with our jobs we haven't had a day off together since we found out and we want to tell people face to face where we can. We're going to visit them this weekend and I can't wait! I'm finding it really difficult as I'm incredibly close to them and talk to them every day on the phone and tell them everything.
Going by LMP I'm 6+3 and I think the sickness is kicking in with me now. Caught a whiff of someone's lunch yesterday and had to dash to the toilet! Was sick brushing my teeth this morning and the nausea is still there despite managing to keep down some toast and a ginger tea! I also feel very bloated and podgy and I either feel hungry with a rumbling tummy or full up! I'm a very over-emotional kind of person anyway, cry at everything, but the hormones have been going crazy and I'm irrational, teary, insecure, and downright nuts at times!
I have developed a pimple the size of a small moon on my chin. Makeup won't cover it. I was talking to my boss earlier and caught his gaze drifting to it .
I think I need to find a mask of some kind.
On the cravings front, I seem to have developed an obsession with barbecue pulled pork. Can't stop thinking about the stuff!
Pixie! Perhaps a small decorative fan held at a strategic angle??!
I didn't have any cravings with DS, rather hoping I do get some with this one! Plus pulled pork is YUM.
We decided not to tell parents or anyone until after the scan, and the same day I got my BFP DH went and told one of his friends. Not even his best mate or anyone he works with, just the guy he was meeting for a drink that evening. He even asked if he could tell him specifically and I said I'd prefer if he didn't, but apparently he took that to mean I wouldn't mind! FFs. I'm actually dreading telling both sets of my parents, but his'll be fine. I really want to tell my best friend, but he'd immediately tell his girlfriend (fair enough) and she can't keep a secret to save her life. So everyone we know would know immediately which isn't ideal.
6 weeks today, and nearly puked this morning at a banana skin. Not the banana, just the sight of the skin. The smell of the cat litter also makes me retch. Crumpets are about all I can eat right now, but I'm desperate for a chana masala and a french fancy cake!
And I think I need a mask too Pixie. Or a carefully placed scarf?
Isean I do like the idea of telling people so you have support around if anything goes wrong, DH is pretty against it though - it's in his pessimistic nature!
I'm flying back to the UK tonight and will be staying with his parents for a week and them my parents... I'm happy to not say anything to his family but keeping it from my mum is going to be HARD I bet she guesses anyway and then it won't be an issue!!
wonder if I'll sleep any better on the plane than I have in my bed these last few nights! fingers crosseed!
Probably won't be online much while I'm traveling so hope eveyrone stays healthy and well till I check in next!
We were going to my parents' last weekend for my dad's birthday and decided that we would just tell them as it would be pretty obvious something was up if we went to that sort of celebration meal in a nice restaurant and I didn't have any wine. Sure enough, eyebrows were raised at my refusal of a pre-dinner drink so I just told them, and my brother and his gf as they were there too. I gave strict instructions that they were to keep the news to themselves for now, which led to some muttering from my mum about it being a state secret but I think she understood really. I am trying to keep people who know to a bare minimum and if we hadn't seen them I wouldn't have mentioned yet. I think if anything went wrong I couldn't keep it from my parents anyway. We are joking about not telling my ils until we see them at Christmas (they live abroad) and I can just appear with a big bump. Maybe slightly cruel but a lovely surprise for them!
We have told both families, close friends and also both of our line managers now (I have a very physical job and was worried, and my partner wanted to make sure he can get time off for appointments) And one of my colleagues guessed! I do feel better telling people I think I would need the support should (god forbid) anything happen.
This bloating needs to go away or there'll be no keeping it a secret; had to undo my trousers and I look like I've already got a bump
Having a little bit of pain - nothing major, just kind of very slight cramping and kind of weird discomfort feelings. No blood at all. Is this ok/normal?
Moomin - exactly the same here, massively bloated and weird sharp twinges. They were quite bad a few days ago, but all seems ok and they're intermittent now.
To be fair my stomach has never looked the same since DS, so I've looked a bit pregnant ever since anyway, but wow I look like I did at 5 months now! Plus the norks are vast already. I was a 32C before DS, 32E/FF now.
I had a small bump last time and only made it to 36wks anyway - rather looking forward to a big bump this time!
I'm the same just really really bloated and not quite cramps but can definitely tell there something going on down there!
I need to get a bigger bra fairly soon... didn't expect them to change so quickly. Had to wear a seatbelt differently today because they were so tender on my boobs D:
AliOh I love the pinging and weird feelings down there... so reassuring.... makes me grin with excitement!!!
I'm really bloated too and I have definitely been getting tummy twinges. My boobs are still really painful & already feel like they've gone up a cup size - going to have to get some new bras soon I think!
I'm so glad others are getting twinges - not glad you guys are uncomfortable, just glad I'm not alone these aren't too painful (I'm really clogged up iyswim, so it's hard to tell what's what!) but annoying.
I have no symptoms at all except insomnia, which I get sometimes anyway. I suppose it's good not to be sick but after a couple of mc already a bit more reassurance would also be nice. I've put no weight on either and have no appetite, it's all a bit strange.
How far along are you Thunder ? My appetite disappeared until the start of last week, when suddenly I wanted to eat everything... and now I just want bread and butter and potato smileys (and lollipops to stop the nausea).
At first I thought I was ill, now I'm wondering if the lack of appetite was a symptom in itself? x
thunder same here re insomnia and I've lost weight but feel v bloated! Not overly nauseous but some mornings are worse than others
I am 5+1 today. My last pregnancy was a boy and I was so sick from about 4 weeks. The one before that was a boy too and I was also sick. The one before that ended too early to know the sex but I had no symptoms and the one before that was a girl and my only symptom was very sore boobs. So I am hoping all is fine and it's a girl
Chinese birth predictor also said it's a girl
Wanted to say 'hello'
Got my BFP yesterday at 12dpo and due around 17th May. So excited for a summer baby as all of my family have winter birthdays
I have a 4 year old son already and had no pg symptoms all with him except for a bit of spotting in the first 2 weeks after BFP. But with this one I feel ROUGH!! Two stomachs...one is sicky and the other is ravenous!! I already look about 4 months pg... so bloated! I'm sure that constant eating doesn't help either.
I had a mc with my first pregnancy (before my son) but am feeling confident as I can with this one.
Good luck all and I look forward to chatting over the coming months
Ooooo birth predictor.... lets see.....(googles chinese birth predictor) oooooooo apparently I am having a girl too!! We'll have to remember this when we are due and put it to the test!!!
Welcome Choppa and congratulations!!!
nonsense thingy says I'm having a girl, which would be lovely!
We will def be finding out, I don't take well to surprises.
Oh, I'm the same - how could you not want to know as early as possible??
Will definitely be finding out whether I'm having a girl or boy too.
Chinese predictor says boy for me.
Welcome choppa and congrats! According to Chinese birth predictor I'm also having a girl. We have decided to ask if we can have the sex written down and seal it in an envelope then open it on my partners birthday (end of march) because he wants to find out and I don't so this is my compromise lol!
Chinese predictor says girl for me... bit confused as to the lunar age thing :P although I'd love a girl. Got a bet on with OH, 50p and the first nappy change says it's a girl
Arghh.... anyone want to share this sudden nausea and throbbing headache with me???! ..... I may need to curl up and hide myself in a dark room for a while.....
Yet another change of plan... telling his parents tomorrow think they'll take it well
I'm doing a three mile run on Saturday for SANDS... well, it'll now be a three mile walk/crawl
Yay!! Not long to wait now then moomin!! xxxxxx hugs xxxxxx
I know I'm quite excited really, his parents are ready to be grandparents - they were expecting it from his sister first as she's 30 and married, but I think they'll be chuffed when they realise that we know what we're doing... ish
ThePFG the throbbing is horrendous! I feel your pain.
moomin you'll be fine... I can remember how
excited nervous I was with my first.
Just curious as to how accurate this Chinese gender prediction thingy is? Predicted I'd have a girl first time round which was correct. Alas it looks like I'll be having another girl this time round too! Would love a boy just to even things out a bit.
Glad to hear you are feeling more happy Moomin.
I feel for you all feeling nauseous and/or bloated. Symptoms yet to kick in here. I
wanted had to do another pt today just to reassure myself that I hadn't imagined the whole thing . I'm not even feeling hungry .
Chinese predictor thingy got my first DCs correct so must therefore be accurate with this one being a girl!
Just noticed ever so slight bleeding. Brown tinge on a tissue. Trying not to freak out. We lost our first to eptopic. I'm sure it's fine but early to bed for me...
Hope everything's ok bouncysmiley , biiiig big hugs and lots of good luck xxx
I hope the predictor is right, means I win the bet
I have my scan in the morning!! Very nervous! Lots of back pain from hip to hip and I feel my boobis have been punched
Edging closer and closer to full-blown morning sickness. Been retching constantly, hurting so much it's a good sign though I guess!
Lollipops have failed... bringing out the big guns. It's ginger snap time.
Bounceysmiley try not to worry. I know it's scary, but everything we read says some form of spotting is ok. Get in touch with your GP tomorrow if its still there and they might refer you to EPAU for an early scan.
Good luck Thistlelicker is this a private or EPAU scan? Sure everything will be fine. Let is know how it goes
Thistlelicker just realised I've missed you off the stats. Doh! What's your due date and have you already got kids?
9am is a good time. Not too much time to get nervous beforehand.
Thinking around 10may! No kids x
Just been catching up on all the chat. Welcome & congrats choppa. I just tried the Chinese birth predictor too & apparently I'm having a girl!
bouncysmiley hope you're ok. Fx for you!
Good luck at the scan thistlelicker - I'm jealous you're about to see and hear your baby for the first time!!
Before I found out I ad bad abdo pain. I think they keen to check location!! May not hear anything as I don think I'm even 6 weeks
Hope it all goes well thistle. Have you still got bad pain? I read somewhere that the baby at 5 weeks is about the size of a poppy seed!!
No no pain for a week. I keep thinking eptopic!!! I shouldn't have
Plus my hcg isn't that high either... Well it wasn't on Saturday
Hi all, glad to hear things are going well! Good luck at your scan Thistle, great that they're checking you out super quick, and fx for all being fine!
Have told everyone at work now, there's only 4 of us in my branch, so decided after the Monday scan panic to just tell them - everyone was so with me for being off sick, I had to tell them I had a good excuse!!
Can someone please reassure me?
On my cd15 this month I went to a party and ended up having a pretty heavy night out. I don't know if this was before or after I ovulated or fell pg as I wasn't tracking it. I just didn't really think I would be pregnant as my cycles had been really irregular since coming off the pill. Silly I know. Anyway, now I actually am pg I can't help worrying that I could have harmed the foetus on that night out! Do you think this is possible or am I worrying about nothing? Just scared that I could have done something to the baby!
Hi Mrs, please don't worry about it. Your baby would be nothing more than a cell by that stage. Lots of women get drunk a lot later than that before they know they're pregnant and have perfectly healthy babies.
Thanks cupcake. I'll try & stop worrying about it!
Mrsmummytobe, don't worry, I really didn't think we would get pg this month as its been so busy so many visitors etc, I wasn't tracking. I had a really heavy night out with some friends and got my bfp the next day, needless to say it was a complete and utter shock! There something to be said for not actually trying to get pg!
Thanks AliOh. I've just been working myself up into a real state worrying about it, which I know can't be very good for the baby! Agh need to stop stressing!
MrsMummy I really wouldn't worry. At that point even if you had ovulated you weren't pregnant.
Lots of people drink before they find out they are pregnant and they are fine. The placenta isn't formed until about 6 weeks. I'd read something somewhere that all the cases of fetal alcohol syndrome have occurred when mothers have drank excessively after the first trimester.
Thanks impatiently. So if it happened before the placenta is formed does that mean it won't harm the baby/cell?!
Definitely don't worry MrsMummy, as others have said, even if your egg was fertilised by CD15 it would just have been a little bundle of cells floating in your uterus, with no actual contact to your blood stream, and so no possible ill effects from booze at that point.
I wish I'd known this myself as when we first started TTC, we were on honeymoon, and I stopped drinking all the inclusive cocktails because I thought it could hurt, but in retrospect I could've got drunk as a skunk
Big hugs to everyone with worries or appointments today.... ah what the heck, big hugs and to everyone
I didn't drink at all throughout the summer... I was planning on saving myself for freshers week. Well that's gone down the drain now not that I mind
I'm waiting to be seen in ante natal clinic - very surreal! Feel very sick and drinking plenty!!!
So bean is measuring 5mm and is only max of 5 weeks old!!! Long lon way to go! Thanks for all the support :-)
Jammybean please feel free to share my non-headache today....... ...
Feeling sick today but well.... some odd twinges down there but that's it...and my boobs are more tender... (pokes them experimentally)
Today I am 4 weeks & 4 days pg and I have only 248 days to go. Doesn't sound long does it?
Fanta helped last night with the sicky feelings.... anyone else got something that helps cure the nausea?
xxxx Love to you all and your mini bumps xxxxx
Hurrah on your scan Thistlelicker. Is that about how far along you guessed yourself? Or more/less.
ThePFJ Lollipops for nausea! I've not been able to eat today, usually when it comes to breakfast I'm on it like a car bonnet but right now, eating is the last thing I want to do. All I can do is suck lollipops (chupa chups ones are great, I've got apple ones and cola ones).
Aww good news thistle we have our first docs appointment today, very keen to get things moving but I don't think they will say much apart from refer us to the midwife! I'm finding anything salty is helping with nausea so been nibbling rice crackers, popcorn or tortilla chips (only bits at a time) interestingly I've taken a liking to tinned tuna (iHATE fish!!) but discovered I can only have a max of 2 tins a week! Boooo!
Jacobs cream crackers for me!
Great news on the first scan of the group thistle.
I have just cried watching Beauty and the Beast...it's going to be a long wait till May...
I've been eating Ritz biscuits, they seem to help (or maybe just take my mind off it as I'm too busy eating)!
Congrats Thistle, that must make it all seem much more real!
Thanks nessalina & everyone for the support, feeling lots better now
Good luck to everyone with scans or appointments today!
Btw has anyone else found their sense of smell has got much stronger recently? It seemed to happen to me almost overnight, but I just walked past the canteen kitchens at my school (I'm a teacher) and the smell actually made me nearly throw up! Yuck!
Yes mrsmummytobe , so much stronger! Smells seem to stay in my nose for longer too... particularly horrible ones; absolutely awful smell outside local Iceland shop yesterday stayed in my nose until just before bed, made the sickness worse.
Got a three hour car journey this evening, to get to Birmingham for the run tomorrow... going to be uncomfortable. Back ache, sickness and needing the loo every 10 minutes But I get a maccys at the end of it
Oooh, I fancy a maccys now moomin haha, I keep panicking because my symptoms are tending to disappear in the morning but coming back slowly by lunchtime and then full force in the evening - is it normal for them to come and go? Find it weird that boobs are sore one minute and not the next! Feels like I'm imagining the whole thing!
Yup, totally normal, last time my nausea turned up mid afternoon and stayed til the evening.
This time however it's all over the place - felt ok for a while, then have felt sick since I woke up today, ugh! Haven't managed to eat breakfast for three days now, which is not helping as hunger deaf makes the nausea worse.
I have my fingers very tightly crossed that I don't get vomitty this time, was only actually sick three times last pg, thank goodness. Nausea is bad enough, but I find being sick quite upsetting.
good luck with the run/walk/jog tomorrow moomin
mrsmummy i wouldn't worry too much about that - they always say you conceive at the point when u are most relaxed. i was laying low at home with a terrible kidney infection plus kickass antibiotics from 1dpo so if anything that would be worse than a cocktail or two!
thistle congrats on the scan! hope you can relax a little now with a good outcome of the scan
re announcing the news, have just called my nan who is 90 yrs old and she is over the moon, the told me that was the best news she had for a long while now awww xxx
OH's parents are back in half an hour... feeling sick and I'm not sure if it's pregnancy or nerves
I hope it goes well moomin. Remember that it will be a shock for them but your parents love you and want you to be happy. They will come round and support you, even if their first reaction may not be exactly what you hoped for.
After spending my pregnancy so far worrying I didn't have enough symptoms, I'm now not very appreciative of the ones I do have. Started to get really dizzy and light headed, even sitting down. Find that it's worse coming to the end of my working day. I spend half of my week in front of a computer and sometimes when I've got an hour left of work I need to finish just so I can have a lie down. My flexi time is plummeting. Also feeling fairly nauseous.
Trying not to complain too much though, it's nice to know that I have something going on inside of me and I'm not just making it up.
Hi can I join?
Due 4th May with DC2, I have a 3 year old DD. feeling a little nervous as I had a mc in May, but feel much more positive this time.
Got my booking appt on 18th, a little annoying as I work p/t as a teacher and its on one of the days I work, but they only have booking appts on one day. I really don't want to tell work yet.
I'm feeling queasy and exhausted, I am relying on cbeebies to get through the afternoon, justified by the fact DD has been at preschool this morning so will have been running about like a lunatic there!
Welcome half baked, a few of us on this thread have gone through previous miscarriages too unfortunately. I think irrelevant of our histories we are all a bit nervous and looking forward to the 12 week mark.
Welcome Halfbaked..... I have had previous mc's so you are not alone there.... but I am sure we'll all be patting our christmas bumps soon
Telling my parents didn't go well at all. Knew it wouldn't. Feel a bit rubbish right now. Disappointed them and they want me to have an abortion.
Bloody eck....... moomin.... that sucks..... just remember this is up to you... and they will come round once they realise what you are going to do and that its your decision.... You won't be alone, just give them some time.... Arghhhhh poor you sweetheart!! (SUPERHUG)
WE are ALL here for you honey.
I'm sorry to hear that, moomin. You know, however much you try not to, it's really difficult to avoid imagining your child as an adult, including a little bit what their life will be like then. I think most parents do it without even realising. When something happens that doesn't fit with the parents' image (especially if the image of the child's life is subconscious) it's very difficult to deal with. I think that is why a lot of parents who are not homophobic have a problem with their child being gay, for example. They had subconsciously pictured a husband/wife, children, basically a heterosexual life,and they have to deal with the loss of this dream for their child. Your parents probably imagined you with a degree and not having children till you were older and more established and your news has threatened that. It doesn't mean they won't come round and it doesn't mean they won't love the baby.
BUT you are not a child anymore and you don't have to feel like you're being naughty or that you are in trouble. Your body belongs only to you, you have a complete right to do whatever you want with it, whatever your parents want is irrelevant. Of course, it's nice if they can be supportive from the beginning but it sounds like they are ambitious for you and you need to give them time to come round. Suggesting you have an abortion is absolutely inappropriate but it sounds like they are panicking a bit.
Moomin try not to be too upset. It's a lot for them to take in and they might just need some time to get their heads around what's going to happen.
I'm sure they'll come around once they have a bit of time. Just take support from your OH in the meantime.
How did it go telling his parents?
Thanks allypally. Poor you, a kidney infection does not sound fun
Hugs moomin. I agree with others that it's probably just a shock for your parents & I'm sure they will come round eventually.
How's everyone feeling? I feel totally exhausted! Don't know how I'm going to get through the next 7 weeks til we can tell people!
thanks everyone. I'm absolutely devastated, just feel a bit hopeless. Made me realise maybe im not ready to raise a baby. Talking with OH about looking into adoption.
Aww sending big hugs moomin but agree with everyone else it's your decision. My best friend went through exactly the same when she was 20, by the time she was 7 months her parents were thoroughly excited to be grandparents and she couldn't believe they had been so negative in the first place!
I'm sorry your parents reacted badly Moomin, they've put you in a really hard position. I understand why, but still, they're not being fair to you.
For what it's worth, I've always thought people who have their families young are very sensible (IYSWIM) as they get their adult lives and careers back while they're still young. The baby years throw a massive spanner in the works of most women's lives, whatever age they are!
I'm 35, left work at 33 with DS. As it happened I didn't really have a 'career' in the first place (receptionist), but my friends of the same age who do/did, have left when they were really doing well - it is v hard.
I honestly don't think there is a 'right' time to have a baby, there are usually obstacles of one kind or another.
There are lots of women on here who have been in your position, maybe start a thread and see if you can talk it through with them and help get your head clear about what you really want.
I want things to go back to normal. Want to turn back the clock. I just don't know what to do, everyone has an opinion and knows their feelings about this but me. Sorry guys
Is this the right thread for those expecting in May 2014? Actually calculated my due date to be 26 Apr but my babies have always turned up 5 days late in the past so this seems like the natural place to be. If all continues to go well this will be my third baby (bloody hell, writing that down makes me realise how terrifying that actually is)
Not too familiar with how threads work on here but can't manage another 9 months of babycentre birth boards - it's doing my head in!
Moomin - might be wise to take a few days out this weekend.
Have you got a mate you can go stay with for the weekend? There's a lot of pressure on you right now, it could help you feel clearer about what you want if you can just get away.
At the end of the day, it is your choice, and doing what someone else wants may end in regrets.
We will still be here if you fancy a chat. xx
chezney - welcome to the Maybies and well done for escaping BC!
My boobs r throbbing this morning!!!!
Sod it, I'm joining the thread!
Copper coil has gone MIA and I'm pregnant. Gynaecologist thinks it might be ectopic but we won't know until Monday (HCG levels weren't doubling quite as fast as "normal").
DH doesn't want any more DCs but will support me if the pregnancy is viable (I'd love more DCs).
Due date calculator gives _9th of May_ , fingers crossed!
moomin , I dread telling my DM. Despite being 33, married, having a stable job, reasonable mortgage on a 4 bedroom house and 2 lovely DCs, I already know her first question will be along the lines of "you aren't going to keep it are you?".
I fell pregnant at 21, still living at home, no job, middle of university course, useless boyfriend etc etc. She told me I had to have a abortion, when I refused she kicked me out. DS now 11 is the apple of her eye and she is actually a brilliant Granny.
When I fell pregnant with DD, I was married, had a stable job and we were looking for a house to buy. She still recommended I get an abortion as I already had DS and that was enough. She obviously loves DD to death now.
I have no idea why she thinks having children is such a burden (kind of makes me feel bad about how I must have been as a child) but it would be nice is she could be supportive. At the end of the day it's my life, not hers, and I'm pretty sure she'll always find something to disapprove of in my life.
Gosh Moomin, that's rotten. Give them and yourself a little time, it's early days yet, it will be a hard decision, but it's yours to make and don't let yourself be rushed.
Welcome viking. Your mum sounds like a piece of work.
Moomin please don't let your parents reaction impact your decision. You have 9 months to work out how you feel. Please don't make a rushed decision. You could end up regretting it for the rest of your life and deeply resenting your parents. What does your OH think?
Morning all. Hope you're all doing ok?
"Are we nearly there yet?"
I'm managing to stay pretty focused at work to make the days go quicker. Quite pleased to have nearly got to 6 weeks. Next milestone is my scan next Thursday, then hopefully make it to 8 weeks, then 10, then 12!! It's all quite nerve-wracking thinking about what can go wrong; I'm trying so hard not to be doom and gloom but also need to brace myself in case it all ends in tears like the last couple of times. I've spent so much of the last couple of years pregnant and would really like to have something (I.e. a baby!) to show for it!!!!
Moomin - you've still got time to really think about what you want to do and don't have to decide immediately. It's so hard not to succumb to peer pressure (mumsnet or your family!) but try to trust your instinct and do whatever feels right for you. There is no 'right' answer and I'm sure whatever you chose will work out for you.
Right, off to Twickers today for the rugby. Happy weekend all.
I've read on here about quite a few babies being born with the coil in the hand
Happy weekend everyone, lets hope the sun stays out!
Viking Welcome honey, the ectopic word makes me shudder tbh.... I've had one, so make sure you listen to your doctors, and any increasing pain or shoulder tip pain get your ass into hospital ok? I am crossing my fingers and toes that all goes well for you!!
moomin Just listen to your heart.... I was 30 when I had my first baby and I wasn't even ready then.... whatever your heart tells you is the answer.. but take your time.... (hugs)
I have had boob pain twinges in the last 24 hours... and not sure how to explain, but the muscles in my lower tummy feel tight?? It's the feels-like-I-have-been-doing-sit-ups-effect again o.O
My pregnacare tablets arrived today, amazon have them half price, so I got two boxes of pregnacare plus omega fishy oils for 13 quid with free delivery. Should last me a few months
Watching F1 practice with DS and thinking about what I want for breakfast...... enjoy the rugby Yikes
Thank you for the warm welcome
DH is on high alert, jumping up every time I have any kind of twinge
it's just gas ffs , but yes, I will be careful and won't hesitate to get to hospital if I do get any real pain, the gynaecologist was very clear on that!
My boobs have been hurting so much I've just switched to non underwired bras - they are soo much more comfy!
Me & dh just went on a little shopping trip to mothercare this morning & couldn't resist getting a little toy especially for our baby when it's born, even though it's very early days! We were looking into the cost of prams etc - a Bugaboo is £800 eek!!
I just can't do non underwired bras...... my boobs fall out the bottom... Even nursing DS 5 years ago I couldn't wear them......Can anyone suggest a SUPER bra made from mithril or something??
I've taken to wearing those tank top vests with support inside, very comfy and seems to be holding up my
bloody enormous boobs. I got it from H&M for a couple of .
Have you tried the M&S ones PFJ? They are pretty good. Also I didn't know this before but apparently all mothercare bras are non-wired & they recommend you don't wear underwiring in pregnancy.
Thanks for the replies everyone. I really appreciate the support. My head's a complete mess at the moment, I want to be happy about it but I just feel like I shouldn't be. They've insisted they've not put pressure on me but it feels like they have.
I feel like I'm stuck in the middle to be honest, although having today to run the race (48 minutes ) has helped. I want to have the baby but look into adoption, whereas OH wants everything to be perfect and for us to be ready for it, and my parents want me to get rid... it felt a little bit like they were more concerned about what people would think than anything else.
I really appreciate the support, we're not going to make any decisions until a) we've spoken to the midwife to figure out how having a baby could affect my health, with regards to termination, and b) talking to my uni lecturers, the council, the jobcentre and the local adoption service, to get an idea of how it works and if it's the right thing for us.
My favourite bra for sleeping in and when not going out as then feel I bed a bit more support as still BF so I am a 32hh. It is amazingly comfortable no seams no hard bits. I wore it for the two weeks after birth when v engorged as I changed size so much and it is so stretchy and flexible.
I hated mothercare bras so uncomfortable and even firm support offered me little support. I went through new bras every month or so last pregnancy and then changed through different sizes for a couple of months after giving birth. But as these come in s,m,l they were a more economical option in the end.
Big hugs for you Moomin. Although it's a very emotional time for you it sounds as if you are fully considering all the options open to you. Please feel free to use us as a sounding board.
I find it so difficult to find bras at the best of times, let alone now when they are changing almost daily!
Just posted on the adoption board, I know it's mainly potential adoptive parents but hopefully I can get some information there
Hi all, I got the BFP an hour ago and the initial shock is just wearing off.
I have a DS, he was two in May, this one appears to be due on the exact same day......DS1 was two weeks late so gawd knows what will happen this time! DS1 took us four years to get, we NEVER expected to just happen upon another not even trying, I'm dazed. Thrilled, but dazed.
erm what else? I'm 37, still carrying all the baby weight
andthensome from last time, its not going to be pretty!
So hi, again, will have a proper read now!
Congrats & welcome sarahjinx!
Thanks mcbaby, that bra does look amazing. I might have to invest in one when I'm a bit further along. I've bought new bras in a bigger size already so god knows what I'll be like by May!!!
Glad you're thinking through options moomin. It's a huge decision isn't it & there's no rush to decide.
My boobies feel so sore and ready to drop to knees
Hi everyone. I got my BFP on Thursday so thought I'd best make myself known over here. I recognise a couple of names from the July and August TTC buses and hopefully some of the others will be over soon too.
I'm 36 and this will be DC3 - we have a 4.5 year old and a nearly 3 year old so a 3.5 year plus gap is going to be a bit of a change! The due date calculator over there ( ---> ) has given me a due date of 16th May, though #1 was 7 days late and #2 was 5 days early, so who knows! They go by scan date, rather than LMP up here so it'll probably change when I get that far.
Symptoms so far - odd bit of feeling bleurgh (cured with a quick bite of something) and a heightened sense of smell (stilton in the fridge..). Also tired, but not sure if that's due to pregnancy, children, work, running or some combination of it all.
Hugs moomin. Hope you get lots of useful advice and information.
Thanks hendricks . Congrats!
Welcome SarahJinx and Hendricks!
Sarah - DS was 2 in May too (5th), and this one is due on the 4th! DS was a month early tho, so perhaps they won't end up sharing birthday parties after all.
I've been feeling very very sick, really unimpressed at this! Yesterday was a total wipeout.
On the upside, my mum arrived today and is v v v happy with the news! She actually shrieked.
That's lovely LTT. Am also feeling nauseous, and my boobs are like rocks. Headaches and weeing too. Telling the fam tomorrow, will defo get some shrieks of the shocked variety!!
Also have hugs for you Moomin i think Mrsmummy is right, lots of time for you to think this out and to be aware of options. I know it isn't allowed but fuck it .... X
Will try the lollipop idea thanks girls!!!
I'll check out the bras... I know you shouldn't wear underwire bras, especially when nursing, but last time I bought loads of different nursing/pregnancy bras.. all different prices, and in the end none of them worked... and I went back to my trusty panache bra... It made no difference and and at least I was comfortable!!
I am sooooooo hungry but NOTHING seems to tempt me o.O
hugs all xxxxxxx
Well, I've had a good run but today I hit 7 weeks and have officially unleashed the carb monster. Had been quietly (smugly) thinking this could be my healthiest pregnancy yet as I merrily passed up pudding in favour of a few grapes due to lack of appetite. Then, at 11am today, I suddenly had that feeling and just knew that would expire unless I ate my body weight in toast. Immediately.
Took my 2 boys to the park at 6pm tonight, ostensibly to allow them to let off steam, but I came home with a packet of Fox's Amber biscuits (try them, you will regret it). There's no stopping me now.
Anyone else got the appetite of a beast all of a sudden?
Hendricks - I too am expecting my third. My boys are 20 months and just 3. Now pregnancy symptoms have begun to kick in I am starting to wonder how I'll cope with looking after them. I'd forgotten the exhaustion!