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pregnant 20-somethings?!

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toasterstrudel Sun 14-Jul-13 10:25:56

couldn't find one in the age group threads so thought it might be nice to have a 20-something's group - obviously anyone is welcome though!

my basic info is:
age 22
edd 7th march
no dcs!

anyone else?

Madratlady Sun 14-Jul-13 10:33:57

Edd 17th jan
No other dcs

cherrycherry41 Sun 14-Jul-13 10:54:35

hello hello smile
EDD 6th October (but possibly having an elcs around end of Sept)
Blue bump!
Already have a DD who is 9 months!


cherrycherry41 Sun 14-Jul-13 10:55:35

Hit 28 weeks today btw so a bit further along than you two!

toasterstrudel Sun 14-Jul-13 11:01:25

hi madrat and cherry!

yes much further than me definitely, good to have people at all stages!

were you ttc? are you a sahm cherry? are your partners excited?

so many questions!

cherrycherry41 Sun 14-Jul-13 11:20:58

Yes, this baby was planned although we couldnt call it ttc as that to me sounds like having sex at the right time each month! However when I went for my 12 week post partum check up we asked if it would be safe to conceieve again and the doctor said he couldnt see any reason why not. We discussed contraception and came to the conclusion we wanted a close age gap anyway so what happens happens- if we conceive great, if we dont within 6 months or so we'll try harder! wink
Just so happens it took 2 weeks...

Work situation is this- Was working as a bar associate before DD, went on maternity leave for 9 months, went back to work in May this year and I am now on maternity leave again! So starting to feel like a sahm! Hoping to go back to uni in 2014 instead of working but thats all a suggestion atm.

My DP is over excited- it was his suggestion we have another.

How about yourselves?
Do you work?
How have your pregnancies been?

toasterstrudel Sun 14-Jul-13 11:44:10

i'm the same, i think i must be super fertile! i got pregnant in august, then we decided to try in january, was pregnant within 2 weeks as well - both didn't work out as hoped but third time lucky hopefully! we actually weren't trying this time as i was on the pill (didn't want to have to handle any more disappointment really) but we're both very happy about it!

oh amazing, (if it doesnt out you/you don't mind) - what did you do at uni / where did ya go?

i also left uni a couple of years ago to start a company with dp so we can work from home / do what we want basically haha so that'll be really good when baby comes - we're quite lucky in that respect! i agree on the small age gaps too!

mine has been much easier this time in terms of energy/sickness - just cramping, a bit of insomnia and giant boobs for me so far (aware i still have all the fun stuff to come probably though!) - how about you?!

heartlocket Sun 14-Jul-13 21:43:10

23, 7+3, no other children either

we'd only been ttc though not strictly for around 2 months so there must be something in the water at the moment!

not too many symptoms here just more tired than usual but am preparing myself for the worst, so excited though

does anyone know if it's normal to be so bloated this early? i know it's not the baby but i honestly feel like i look about 4 months pregnant - help?!

Gerty1002 Mon 15-Jul-13 08:18:34

Ooh just spotted this thread! I'm -- ancient -- a little older than you all - 25, 26 in September.

Also further along - currently 33 + 3 with Dc1.

Feeling the weight of my not so little one now, pleased to be finishing work on Friday! And I only have three shifts this week, which is manageable smile.

Great to talk to people around the same age group smile.

Gerty1002 Mon 15-Jul-13 08:21:19

Also heartlocket yes the bloating is normal, I remember being proud of having a little bump early on then all of a sudden, after readjusting my diet to cope with constipation (sorry tmi), it disappeared!

Try eating more fibre - fruit and veg and choose whilegrain bread and pasta instead of white.

toasterstrudel Mon 15-Jul-13 09:52:51

haha not ancient at all! i imagine he's a little bit heavier than what we're carrying around at the moment haha! i bet you're so excited! when's your due date then gerty? how accurate do you think it'll be?!

my bloating seemed to go down the day after i started drinking loads of water also!

it's definitely nice to speak to others around the same age group, looks like there's only a couple of us though!

Gerty1002 Mon 15-Jul-13 10:35:28

EDD is 30 August, but for some reason I'm convinced he'll be here before then. I know statistically I'm most likely to be overdue with first baby, but I seem to be feeling things really early - like I felt flutterings at 14 weeks and first proper little kick just after 16 weeks. Although I'm measuring right on the middle line my bump seems to be all arms and legs and not much fluid, but I'm not a midwife so that's just my guess!

I've always had irregular periods when not on contraception, so it's possibke dates are wrong as theyve already changed my EDD twice this pg.

However that's prob all a load of crap and I'm just being impatient to meet my baby! I'll prob be back on here in 8 weeks saying "STILL no baby" haha smile.

toasterstrudel Tue 16-Jul-13 08:16:55

Hahaa well hopefully your baba won't leave you waiting too long! I imagine you can't wait to not be lugging a small human around inside your body in this heat too haha!

Have you enjoyed the pregnancy?

Gerty1002 Tue 16-Jul-13 09:23:58

Yes he's quite a heavy little baba, look forward to being able to put him down haha - though I know I won't want to when he's here smile.

I have enjoyed the 2nd and 3rd trimesters - the first 14-16 weeks were hell. I had just started a new job at a higher level in my career and they were really awful and unsupportive. I had awful sickness/all day nausea and exhaustion, to the point where i lost over half a stone, but they were completely unsympathetic - so I made a decision that mine and my family's health and wellbeing were much more important than my career, and I quit.

Funnily enough, once the stress of that was removed my nausea improved dramatically. Then I got my old job back in a pub that I'd worked at in uni and it was the best decision I've ever made - it has kept me fit, I enjoy the interaction with custoners and am working with old friends.

Anyway I'm rambling now but since nausea left and I started feeling baby move I've loved being pregnant! Obviously there have been tough days with aches and pains and insomnia etc, but baby just has to do a wriggle and I smile my head off.

Work is getting difficult now being on my feet all day, but I only have two shifts left and will be finished on Friday smile.

Having said all that, I haven't had a good sleep in over a week now and I'm feeling a bit rough today haha. But it's all worth it!

Sorry for the essay! How are you all getting on with symptoms etc?

lyndsey90 Wed 17-Jul-13 16:46:59

TTC for 11 months
Had 1 chemical miscarriage

9+3 now smile

scoutfinch1 Wed 17-Jul-13 16:55:15


39+2 so due on Tuesday grin

Gerty1002 Wed 17-Jul-13 16:57:52

Huge congratulations lyndsey! I bet you are over the moon smile.

Sorry to hear about your previous mc.

Welcome to the twenties club haha smile

Gerty1002 Wed 17-Jul-13 16:58:49

How exciting scoutfinch, any twinges yet?

scoutfinch1 Wed 17-Jul-13 17:12:13

Thanks gerty I've been having BH contractions for a few weeks now, but they are more frequent now. Had a bit of a show last night so keeping my fingers crossed that it shouldn't be too long now but who knows. Bet your pleased to be finishing work soon. Have you started getting ready for baby or are you waiting until you finish work?

laura0007 Wed 17-Jul-13 17:15:41

I feel old looking at this thread! I'm 27 but I think the oldest here!

It's my first baby, unplanned and daddy has left us to it! So I'm going to be a lone parent too.

I'm due 3rd feb and I'm 11+3 today smile

Gerty1002 Wed 17-Jul-13 17:27:40

scoutfinch Ooh do keep us informed of any progress! We are totally finished preparing - everything was bought after 20 week scan due to our over-enthusiastic parents (which we definitely can't complain about) and my hospital bag is pretty much ready due to my irrational feeling that this baby is coming early! So maternity leave will be all about the cleaning - though in this heat I'll be lucky if I can manage one room a day!

Laura congratulations - if it makes you feel better I am almost 26 haha, so you're not old at all! Sorry to hear about unsupportive idiot father, but I'm sure you'll do a fab job on your own smile

Bluecarrot Wed 17-Jul-13 17:29:22

Ha! Can top you all- I turned 29 a few weeks ago and 15w + 2d pregnant with my second.

I was childminding but gave it up due to health issues and all the little ones heading to school ft the same year so I was really made redundant!

Laura, I was in same situation as you with dd ( though I was 17 at the time) and the dad did come back into her life eventually, pays maintenance no problem etc.

Get in touch with CSA over maintenance early on so you can get the ball rolling once baby is born. He might come round to idea of baby eventually but make sure you do as much as you can to be financially secure.

This baby was planned(with new DP!) in a lets-see-what-happens-when-we-stop-contraception kinda way ( answer- bfp in first cycle!). Had a few scary moments with bleeding but seems settled now ( touch wood) and I'm busy sewing, knitting and crocheting for baby smile

Madratlady Wed 17-Jul-13 17:52:38

Mine was planned and my husband is very excited too.

I'm doing lots of sewing and knitting too Blue do you use Ravelry for patterns?

I lost my job a few weeks ago and even though I was lucky and found a new one I've been waiting a month for my CRB check and just got told today it's likely to be a few more weeks. So I'm skint and in debt and have no idea when I'll be able to buy baby stuff.

Still, I'm sure we'll manage somehow!

laura0007 Wed 17-Jul-13 17:57:52

Thanks Gerty, and yay blue I'm not the oldest! grin

greymoose Wed 17-Jul-13 18:21:04

hi everyone, can i join?

23 / 6-8 weeks apparently? having a scan tomorrow as i am off with dates i think! / no other children

madrat things have a way of working themselves out in the weirdest ways, I'm sure everything will be fine! very annoying that it's happening now while you've got lots of stress anyway though!

mine also wasn't planned, but we're engaged and secure so ended up going with 'welllll go on then why not' (which is the romantic story i won't be telling my unborn child)...

i've been having really weird dreams, has anyone had that? may just be me... haha

PoopPoooDeDooo Wed 17-Jul-13 18:48:59


I only just fit in this group as I'll turn 30 a few months before baby arrives!

I am 13+5 with a (happy surprise) DC3!


Smilehappy Wed 17-Jul-13 19:02:29

Already have DS whom is 4!!grinshock

Wouldn't have it any other way and can't wait to start maternity leave!! grin

Congrats ladies x

Madratlady Wed 17-Jul-13 19:20:08

Ooh I'm glad it's not just me with the dreams. Sometimes weird but always really vivid. Last night I dreamed I had loads of rescue rabbits as pets which was great!

Gerty1002 Wed 17-Jul-13 19:25:57

Oh yes I've had plenty of weird dreams and some truly horrifying ones! Lots involving DP leaving or cheating - which I know would never happen and is not something I'm even remotely concerned about, but apparently it's very common to dream about in pg.

enormouse Wed 17-Jul-13 19:26:06

Hi everyone I think I'm a latecomer but here goes

Age 24
13 weeks
Due 22nd January
Already have a 21 month old DS.

ldt87 Wed 17-Jul-13 19:29:45

Ooh can I join please? Older than most of you as I'm 26

I am 11+1 with number 3. Big age gap as my girls are 7 and 8. I had a mc in April at 9 weeks after ttc for over 18 months. I have my 12 weeks scan on Monday xx

ldt87 Wed 17-Jul-13 19:30:47

Forgot to add, my due date is the 4th of February xx

scoutfinch1 Wed 17-Jul-13 19:39:56

gerty wow very impressive organisation. We got quite a lot of things early too because of over excited grandparents but no can't complain that everyone is so excited and generous.

Madrat sorry that you are having job troubles. You can get loads of amazing baby stuff second hand that has barely been used. Also, might be worth seeing what you get given by others before rushing out and buying stuff, I was so surprised at how generous everyone is.

Grey weird dreams are really common in pregnancy, I've had a few but some people do get them quite frequently.

greymoose Wed 17-Jul-13 19:53:05

that's reassuring!! love hearing about them!

mine today was about moving to australia (which was just a crumbly hotel) and instead of sheep in fields there were zebras, while i was pregnant as a big fuck you to my boyfriend(?!) and i was trying to take a really good picture for ages but couldn't for instagram to make him annoyed (he doesnt even use instagram), and someone i barely even know (met once) was there and we were best friends, much more happened but that was the gist - so weird.

loads of us joining today !

itsliz Wed 17-Jul-13 19:53:26

Oooh, am I too late to join in?!

I'm 22 and I'm 16 weeks pg with my first DC, with an EDD of 30th December (eeek!)

Unplanned but it's something DP and I have always talked about doing 'one day' so we were surprised but still very happy about it!

I'll be 23 by the time the baby is born, but it still feels like people think I'm too young etc, so it's reassuring to know that I'm not the only pregnant 20-something lady in the world right now smile

enormouse Wed 17-Jul-13 20:36:11

itsliz I was 22 when I found out I was pregnant with DS. smile I love being a younger mum, it's great.

itsliz Wed 17-Jul-13 20:44:31

enormouse That's brilliant, probably the most reassuring thing anyone's said to me so far smile

When I was little, I remember saying that I'd have kids when I was in my early 20s so that I'd be a 'cool mum' ...Never thought there would be any truth in that!

How have you all been feeling so far? Are the things that people say about pregnancy being easier when you're younger true?!

scoutfinch1 Wed 17-Jul-13 21:08:26

itsliz I was 22 when I fell pregnancy, 23 now and I really worried about people thinking I was too young etc but it hasn't been as much of an issue through my pregnancy as I thought it would be.

I don't know if it is true but I can say that I have sailed through pregnancy with no (touch wood) complications or problems and do seem to have had an easier pregnancy that some older mums that I know have.

greymoose Wed 17-Jul-13 21:22:51

liz i'm a bit worried about that too, but i think it's more us being paranoid than people actually thinking it if that makes sense!

also my mum had me early 20s and we have a really good relationship as friends too. i find some of my friends with older parents don't really have that at all and i love my grandparents being relatively young too, i would have hated to miss out on them!

scoutfinch1 Wed 17-Jul-13 21:36:38

Greymoose I completely agree.

enormouse Wed 17-Jul-13 22:11:12

I'm in a similar boat to scoutfinch. I had a fairly uncomplicated pg (barring some anaemia) and a fairly quick, intervention free labour. Hopefully, it will be similar this time around too (fingers crossed).

I did worry that I'd be too young to be a good mum though, but DS is very happy and laid back and I think I've done ok, despite motherhood not being 'in my plans' for a few years.

I've also been able to resume my plans re work and going back to university, which people told me would be impossible with a young child. So don't let people tell you, your life is ruined. smile

Newmum0113 Wed 17-Jul-13 22:15:37

Hi all

I'm 25 yo expecting dc1 -27 weeks tomorrow do due 27/10/13.

Currently work in a prison but also run a guesthouse at the seaside with my DH and his parents. Will effectively be a wfhm rather than a sahm.

Nice to meet you all. smile

Gerty1002 Wed 17-Jul-13 22:21:34

I'm almost 26 and still feel like people think I'm too young... though mostly relative strangers and mainly because I look younger than I am. It's still not their place to judge though - people look at me in disbelief when I say this baby was planned (don't know why they bother asking, plus it's rather rude) - someone actually once said, "Well you have to say that, don't you..." - the cheek!

However, close family and friends know how much this baby was wanted and that DP, who I got engaged to in October, and I are perfect for each other and can't wait to be parents smile everyone else can piss off!

Newmum0113 Wed 17-Jul-13 22:29:03

Gerty I get the same - even though I've been married for 2 years on October 1st! Someone even asked if I knew who the father was -WTF!?!??!

People seem to think they have a right to say outrageous things to pregnant women!

Also - typo in my previous message, I'm due 17/10/13 smile

Newmum0113 Wed 17-Jul-13 22:33:58

Itsliz my friend from school had her ds1 at 16 so I think early 20s is fine!

Also I never got to know my grandparents very well due to the age difference - 3 of them died before I was a teenager.

I'm glad my parents and in-laws are all still around to meet our little girl in a couple of months - shock !

Gerty1002 Thu 18-Jul-13 10:23:24

My baby will have six grandparents and three great grandparents, as my mum had me at 16 and her mum had her at 20! I think it's lovely smile.

Although my mum was so young she did an amazing job, brought us up very well despite being a single mother for most of our lives. Yet I have a friend whose mother was older, was the 'perfect housewife' initially, and she had an absolutely awful upbringing. It's all about the individual/couple, not their age(s) smile

itsliz Thu 18-Jul-13 10:35:04

greymoose You're absolutely right! No-one has actually said "you're too young" but whenever I'm out in public I'm always paranoid that that's what people are thinking (not that it's any of their business!)

Gerty I like your thinking, haha! At the end of the day all that matters is that you and your DP are happy smile
Can't believe the cheek of some people though, I've lost count of how many times I've been asked if this baby was planned... Unless they're very close friends or family, I don't know how people even think it's acceptable to ask such a personal question! It's nice to know I'm not the only one having to deal with awkward questions though...!

Newmum I suppose it's all about perspective - I know a lot of people from school that have already got two or three kids, so I feel like a bit of a late bloomer in comparison!
Hadn't thought about the whole grandparent thing either, but it's nice to think that our little ones will have such big families to spend time with and be spoilt by smile

It's good to know that so many of you have had relatively straightforward pregnancies so far. Fingers crossed I'll be the same!
The only thing that I've really struggled with so far is this heat - how have you all been coping with the warm weather?!

NomDeClavier Thu 18-Jul-13 10:50:32

I'll jump on board. 27, DC2 (had my first at 24), EDD 24/12/13

The heat isn't too bad compared to when I was pregnant with DS but that was a tropical summer and I was teaching with no air-con!

As for the planned/unplanned thing people assume this one, being DC2 as planned, but DS was totally unplanned despite the fact we were married etc and were on a posting where EVERYONE has babies. I swear out of DH's colleagues everyone has at least one baby conceived or born on that posting or a very similar one.

Gerty1002 Thu 18-Jul-13 11:30:19

I'm off to a busy shift in a gastropub with no air con - armed with cooling spray and water. This is going to be torture! Thankfully my last shift is tomorrow then I can hang out in air conditioned areas all day smile. At 33+6 baby is like my own little bundle of central heating!

Rosenip Thu 18-Jul-13 12:39:17

Hi! Can I join too?

I'm 27 and due on 30 November with my first baby, and she's a girl! We found out at our 20 week scan on Monday. I'm now 20+5.

Nice to meet you all xx

scoutfinch1 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:41:23

Wow I really seem to have escaped lots of the nasty comments compared to some of you. Newmum and Gerty I can't believe how rude some people are! What on earth do you say to people like that? Wonder whether I'll get them when baby is actually here.

The heat is not fun for me (i'm 39+2) so too huge to go out and do much to cool down. Not looking forward to laboring in this heat and quite worried about bringing baby home and keeping her cool. Our flat is really well insulated with huge windows which makes it like an oven! Gerty cooling spray is a good idea, I might go and get some. Getting a bit nervous about leaving the house though incase labour starts. I can't imagine early pregnancy and coping with morning sickness is very pleasant in this heat. Hope you're all taking good care of yourselves.

x0gawjus0x Thu 18-Jul-13 12:44:02

I am 20 and doing nursing :-
) ttc with same partner for 3 years! First bfp and im currently 8 weeks :-) x

scoutfinch1 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:48:26

Hi rosenip. Congratulations! We are having a girl too! So exciting. I was so surprised, I was convinced we were having a boy.

Haylebop12 Thu 18-Jul-13 12:58:43

<waves to cherrycherry>

I'm 25 (26 aug) and I'm 27+4 with dc2 who is a boy.

Dd is 4.5 (pg at 20, had her at 21)

I too managed to escape the comments. I have a very supportive family and although dd was a surprise we were ttc number 2 for 13 months with an mc.

newmum my dh works in a prison :-)

I'm a shift manager for a well known supermarket, in their convenience stores. Mat leave starts 28th aug, cannot wait!!!

greymoose Thu 18-Jul-13 19:03:15

haylebop what i would give to work in a nice cool supermarket right now, scout my apartment is the same i work from here and i am sure i am melting. it's relentless!

i had my scan today which put me at 5 weeks not 7, saw the little heartbeat grin! seems a bit weird though as that would mean my bfp i got 4 days after i conceived... i'm sure there's some logical explanation that'll come up soon enough!

i hadn't had it before but i noticed today when we went for the scan the dr was looking down her nose a bit at us - we both dress very casually and are quite young, so i think she had quite a shock when she asked our occupations etc. made me so angry!

scoutfinch1 Thu 18-Jul-13 20:32:49

greymoose that does sound odd. I had a scan at 8 weeks and the edd i was given was a few days off the one I was given at 12 weeks which I'm nearly 100% is correct. I think the earlier it is the more likelyhood of error so it may change again at your 12 week scan. Congratulations on seeing the heartbeat, it's the most wonderful feeling.

That is horrible, I can't believe the attitude of some people but don't let yourself get cross about it.

Still melting

Haylebop12 Thu 18-Jul-13 20:53:31

Yep it's lovely and cool in work grin but I only work 3 days a week and off tomorrow so joining in the melting.

Scout is right, early scans (before 8 weeks) can be inaccurate so you may find your 12 week scan makes more sense on dates. So pleased you saw a hb, lovely isn't it.

Newmum0113 Thu 18-Jul-13 23:19:50

Had a sneaky mocha cooler from costa on the way into work which boosted my energy and cooled me down - for like 5 mins anyway!

Now lying on my mum's sofa watching knocked up on itv2 smile

Gerty1002 Fri 19-Jul-13 06:57:07

grey I had a scan at what I thought was about 8-9 weeks (irregular periods) but I was dated at 6 weeks. At my 12 week scan they put it forward again so I wouldn't take that one as gospel smile

greymoose Fri 19-Jul-13 08:54:59

scout hayle and gerty thank you! gerty did they put you forward to where you thought you were?

i phoned the booking appointment line yesterday and asked what i should do because I'm meant to call at 7 weeks (which by my dates and bfp etc is today) but the scan puts me at 5 weeks - they said wait two weeks and my dates of lmp and bfp etc are obviously wrong (i have written them down so they are most definitely correct). getting a bit fed up with being treated like an idiot!

hope everyones feeling ok today - i think my hormones are kicking in because i am usually quite calm. not today haha.

Gerty1002 Fri 19-Jul-13 09:46:46

grey Not quite, they put me back three weeks then forward one week. Though my periods are so irregular (we're talking cycle length of 26 days to 65!) that mine was complete guess work.

The way I see it nothing is 100% with dates - the normal gestation period is 37-42 weeks, which is a fairly big time frame, and surely not all babies develop/grow at exactly the same rate and to the same size.

I'd say the only worry with having a late booking in appointment is having a late 12 week scan - if you want to do the test for downs syndrome it has to be done within a certain tine frame, though I can't remember what that is exactly cos I chose not to test.

scoutfinch1 Fri 19-Jul-13 12:06:05

Grey I wouldn't worry too much about the booking in. It won't matter if your booking in appointment etc is a couple of weeks off. Like gerty says the only thing it could affect is scans and screening. Just raise the issue with your midwife when you eventually see her and explain why you want your scan sooner rather than later.

In the notes I have it says the scan should be done between 11-13 so .With the downs screening it will depend on where in the country you are but for me it was between 15-18 weeks so you shouldn't have any problems with that. I'm pretty sure there is at least a two week time frame on all of the screenings/ scans/ tests etc so don't worry.

Don't let them get to you, just be prepared and informed about what you want and be prepared to stand your ground.

itsliz Fri 19-Jul-13 12:25:37

Couldn't agree more, scout!

I didn't have a booking appointment until 14 weeks as my GP forgot about me and didn't get it sorted as they'd promised...!
It didn't seem to matter too much, but obviously it's nice to be seen sooner rather than later purely for some peace of mind. If you are worried then don't be afraid to bug people until you get an appointment and make sure you chase things up if you need to. At the end of the day it's your pregnancy, so it's important that you're happy with what decisions are being made!

Haylebop12 Fri 19-Jul-13 12:34:53

Although downs screening is 11-13 weeks with nuchal fold scan for some reasons they can't do
This. My baby was lying in the wrong position to get any fluid measurements so I had a set of bloods call the "quad test" that they do at 14 weeks. Not as accurate but as we're all in our twenties, unless there is history of downs in your family your very likely to come back as low risk.

Haylebop12 Fri 19-Jul-13 12:50:49

Must say that the quad yest can be done between 14+4 and 20+4.

NomDeClavier Fri 19-Jul-13 14:52:01

Nuchal fold scan can be done up to 13+5 - I had accompanying bloods to do as well but I don't know whether that's standard on the NHS or not. If you only have the quad screening that's done around the 16week appointment. Saves you making several trips!

I'm feeling so much more knackered this pregnancy! Can't imagine being 10 or even 20 years older and pregnant! Mind you I'm much less fit this time round too so that probably has something to do with it.

Newmum0113 Sat 20-Jul-13 09:07:26

I had the nuchal fold scan done twice - as baby wouldn't sit still for the donographer the first time and then they checked my bloods at the 16 week appointment too.

Hth flowers

Gerty1002 Sun 21-Jul-13 04:40:52

Up with an aching back and wriggly baby, anyone been suffering restless nights?

Yesterday my wonderful friends threw me a surprise baby shower, so much time and effort was put into it and I came away with some lovely gifts! I was so shocked, they'd all cancelled on me for dinner the night before so I was a bit cross, but little did I know they were planning to see me the day after!

SarahJayne321 Sun 21-Jul-13 23:35:17

Ooh can I join smile

21 and due 6th Jan 2013 grin

greymoose Mon 22-Jul-13 08:21:04

ooh sorry didn't realise there'd been replies! thanks everyone for the reassurance / knowledge - i'm so clueless so appreciate it loads!

gerty i have - i just keep waking up really early and notice I'm fidgety in the night! that's lovely about the baby shower!

hi sarah!

it's a bit early for me to be thinking about yet haha but would be interested in the reasons you've chosen what you have - has anyone decided what type of birth they're going to have?

Gerty1002 Mon 22-Jul-13 08:45:45

Mine is getting pretty close so I have been thinking about it a lot (though haven't got round to writing birth plan).

I'm going to be as open mineed as possible as I know it doesn't always go to plan, especially with this being my first and not knowing what to expect.

Ideally I'd love a water birth, as I find baths very relaxing and have always used them as pain relief for bad period pains. I hopefully would like to only have gas and air for pain relief, but if it gets too much I would choose diamorphine/pethidine. I'd prefer not to though, as it can make baby drowsy, which can make initiating the first feed more tricky.

I really don't want to have an epidural if at all avoidable, as I don't like the thought of losing mobility and also I'd like to be able to experience labour fully and feel when to push.

Obviously I pray that I don't need an EMCS, and hoping baby turns to correct position in so I don't have to consider ELCS.

As I plan to breastfeed I hope to have skin to skin with baby ASAP after birth and for as long as I can, initiating first feed within an hour as recommended.

Fingers crossed I get something close to that but as long as I get a healthy baby I don't mind too much smile

SarahJayne321 Mon 22-Jul-13 09:02:49

All I've decided so far is that ill be in a hospital, not a birthing centre.

And absolutely no pethedine/diamorphine, anything that makes me feel drowsy, confused etc I really can't deal with!!

Haylebop12 Mon 22-Jul-13 15:02:53

I too am hoping for a water birth gerty bit I'm yet so see the hospital in going to. I had dd in a completely different part of the country.

Definitely go into it open minded and although everyone will have ideas and hopes for their birth the main thing, I believe, is listen to your midwife. They will have done this hundreds of times and 9/10 will know what's best for you.

MummaPanda Mon 22-Jul-13 17:32:45

Ooohh just seen this thread!
I am 22
Been married to my amazing dh for 2 and a half yrs
We have a gorgeous dd who is 8 months old
And I am 25+1 weeks pg, so due 3rd November, with a little boy! We are very excited!

MummaPanda Mon 22-Jul-13 18:27:07

Just reading back in the thread and cherrycherry sounds like you are me just one month ahead! My daughter is 8 months and due beginning of November with a boy too! Weird! I thought surely there wasn't anyone out there as crazy as me!

Gerty1002 Mon 22-Jul-13 23:51:42

Congratulations and welcome MummaPanda smile

Currently sitting awake in bed due to nightmare heartburn and a very achy leg - I think baby is sitting on my sciatic nerve! Had a warm bath earlier, now cuddling a hot wheat pack and have taken some paracetamol... nothing seems to be shifting it sad.

MissHC Wed 24-Jul-13 12:11:22

Can I join too? I'm 26 and 23 weeks pregnant. Due 15/11. My birthday is 25/11 when I turn 27 so I hope baby isn't 10 days late!

Have been with DP for 4.5 years now. Unlike some of you we've been lucky - everyone we told the news asked us how long we'd been trying rather than if it was an accident. We would love to get married but we can't afford it. Buying a house is first on the list when we win the lottery

How's everyone doing? I've been suffering with the weather - can't sleep at night and my feet are twice their normal size. Baby is doing well though; had a midwife appointment yesterday and he/she is very active. We don't know the sex as they couldn't see it during the scan. So it'll be a surprise.

MissHC Wed 24-Jul-13 12:11:59

Oh yes and this is our first! DP and I are super excited!

Gerty1002 Wed 24-Jul-13 12:21:24

Hi MissHC and congratulations smile.

In the same boat as you with not being able to afford to get married - though we hope to have a low key wedding a year or two after baby is born. A big fairytale wedding is no longer my dream, I just want to be married to DP and to have a little celebration with close friends and family smile.

I'm 34+5 today - am I the furthest along out of all of you? Eek!

Midwife appointment tomorrow, baby is lying diagonally so hope to find out what will happen if he doesn't straighten himself up - really want to avoid an ELCS if possible.

MummaPanda Wed 24-Jul-13 13:02:41

Those of you who can't afford to get married, weddings don't have to cost a lot, me and hubby got married for about £200 all together, including my dress and everything. Family and friends pitched in, I made invites and programmes and cakes etc at home, and we had a friend on a photography course who did our photos. And it was absolutely perfect! So if your smart about it doesn't have to cost a lot at all! smile

Gerty1002 Wed 24-Jul-13 13:12:21

Crikey £200?! I'm not even sure we could even get our local town hall (which is the plan) for that!

scoutfinch1 Thu 25-Jul-13 11:30:39

Gerty I think at 40+2 I'm the furthest along. Hope baby shifts positions for you. There is a website called spinning babies that is always recommended on MN for encouraging babies to get into a better position. Might be worth a look.

Two days overdue and very uncomfortable and impatient. I was convinced baby was going to be two weeks early too, shows how wrong I was. Keeping my fingers crossed this baby makes an appearance soon.

I'm another one who is also planning a wedding, not got round to booking yet but looking at getting married next winter. MummyPanda £200? If you don't mind me asking where did you get married to manage to do it for that. Like Gerty says I don't think £200 would cover most registry offices.

For those asking about birth plans etc I'm hoping to give birth (soon) in the low risk ward of the hospital (basically the midwifery led unit), possibly a water birth although not setting my hope on it as there is always the chance someone else is in it. I've been using a hypnotherapy CD which has been great in keeping me calm about the birth. Hoping to use some of the techniques from there during labour. Also have a tens machine ready to use. Ideally I'm hoping for no pain relief or just gas and air. Really don't want pethidine as it interferes with bf and don't want to become immobile or more likely to tear due to epidural so not left with many other options. Really want good skin to skin after birth. Keeping my fingers crossed that this all goes to plan but like others have said the most important thing is to stay open minded because things don't always go to plan. If baby doesn't make an appearance soon and I have to be induced alot of this will have to change unfortunately.

Wow, sorry for the long post.

Gerty1002 Thu 25-Jul-13 12:15:42

oh good luck scoutfinch! I really hope something happens soon for you. It sounds like we have very similar birth plans, fingers crossed we both get our way smile.

Got a presenting scan next week to see if he's turned and if not they will offer to try turning him the week after. I'll take a look at that site - thing is he's turning constantly he just refuses to stay the right way haha. little tinker.

itsliz Thu 25-Jul-13 15:31:57

Oooh, best of luck scoutfinch!

How early/ late into a pregnancy did you start listening to hypnobirthing CDs? And are there any particular ones that you'd recommend?
Just wondered as I keep telling myself to look into it every time I see a post about it on MN!

scoutfinch1 Thu 25-Jul-13 17:29:11

Thanks itsliz I think I got mine around 28/30 weeks but can't remember exactly, would have been 3rd trimester though. I have the Natal Hypnotherapy one, it's about £10 on amazon although you can get sets with more CDs in for more. Can't say yet how it will work for the birth but would definitely recommend it for keeping me calm and not anxious about the birth.

Gerty Thank you. Haha sounds like you have a cheeky one one your hands. If he is moving round lots might be a good sign that he will get in the right position eventually. Fingers crossed for you

MummaPanda Fri 26-Jul-13 09:32:06

Ceremony was free as it was at the church we go to, had a small reception just family n close friends at my nans lovely house, found a pretty local park to have our photos in, and I didn't really want a big reception but my MIL and SIL's did so I said if they want that they can sort it out. So they did that as their present to us as they like planning parties and things. Got my dress on ebay, did hair and make up etc. ourselves, ummm, yea! It can be done ladies!

MissHC Fri 26-Jul-13 12:12:20

£200?? That's amazing!
I think we might end up going on holiday somewhere and get married there. Honeymoon/wedding combined kind of thing.
I'm from abroad (West EU) and if we have a wedding either here or in my home country it would not be accepted to not pay for everyone's food, drinks, etc. I've got a big family. I'd also need to find somewhere where people can stay over for a reasonable price. Also we're on the outskirts of London so prices are already at a premium.

But for now I just want to focus on the baby. Am super excited (and very scared). I think I'll have to look into hypnotherapy. Surely you can find some on Youtube?

Really can't afford to buy CD's now - all tyres on our car need replacing (after a tyre blowout on the M1 on Sunday night! very scary!), we need to buy the pram and car seat, just bought cot bed too. Timing of car tyres is not great. After what happened on Sunday I don't want to buy cheap tyres, but half decent ones amount to almost £500. Ouch.

I'll get some money from my parents for the baby but only once it's actually here and we'll need to order the pram and essentials before then smile

Was anyone else completely baffled by the hundreds of options available in prams, car seats, cots/cot beds/moses baskets?

Am going to give my GP a call now - I'm supposed to pick up my Mat B1 certificate today but I want to check that they actually have it before I walk all the way there. I need to let my company know by next Wednesday when I want to go on mat leave but I've got no idea! How am I supposed to know what I'll feel like in 2/3 months from now? How long before the due date are you all staying home from? I can only afford to take 6 months mat leave so would like to work as long as possible so I can make the most of my time with the baby.

Gerty1002 Fri 26-Jul-13 14:17:10

MissHC I'll be officially on maternity leave on Sunday, though I took a week of annual leave before that. That leaves me with 6 weeks before my due date - and tbh I couldn't have struggled on any longer. My job involves being on my feet and rushing around, which in this heat became very difficult from about week 32.

However, I'm lucky to be able to take 9 months off - I'm not sure I would have left so early if I could only take 6.

I think it depends on your job, your health and wellbeing in pregnancy and how long you can afford to take. everyone is different. You can always request to change it if you feel you need to leave earlier than you first thought.

MummaPanda Fri 26-Jul-13 14:57:28

I'm still on maternity leave from last pregnancy and it ends the day before my due date! But when I was at work I saved all my holiday, and maternity leave started 2weeks before due date, so in total I had 5 weeks off to put my feet up!

Tinkerbellefairy Fri 26-Jul-13 16:13:52

Hi can I join?

I'm 26 will just be 27 when baby arrives. I'm 12+2 with scan on Monday eek! Have been married a year next week and sympathise with those feeling worried about being looked down upon. I know I am actually at higher end of my 20's but look very young for my age and often get mistaken for a teen. I know it is silly of me to let others opinions bother me as actually have nothing to worry about but the judgemental looks do get to me. Hopefully when babies arrive and they all see what great mums we are we will all get positive responses!

Littleen Fri 26-Jul-13 22:06:37

Hello guys! smile
My name's Ida, and I'm 25. 9+3 today, so I'm pretty early still.

Been with my boyfriend (DP?) for nearly 4 years now, and it was a planned pregnancy, although it happened much quicker than anticipated :P We're not engaged or anything, but it's pretty common to have babies without a ring here, so nobody minds luckily!

I have just moved to Norway where I am from, but feeling really "homesick" back to England, so I thought I'd feel more home in this forum smile

Gerty1002 Fri 26-Jul-13 22:50:53

Welcome new folks smile hope your pregnancies are going well.

I'm an emotional wreck today, poor DP has had to deal with a lot of uncontrollable sobbing! pissing hormones

sarahleanne Sat 27-Jul-13 20:37:55

Hi !
can I join please? grin
so nice to see a 20 somethings thread!

ok so i'm 24 yrs
16 weeks (on Monday) with DC3
DS who is 5
DD is 20 months
due date 13th January

JodiLeighLeigh Sun 28-Jul-13 16:59:44

Hi Everyone - I'm 25 in August coming up. This is my first pregnancy.

Had a job interview Wednesday just gone and that evening ended up doing a HPT due to majorly sore boobs. Turns out I'm expecting. We'd been trying so it's not a huge shock per se, but I'd been expecting to have to wait ages after having an implant for 6 years and not having had a proper period since we had it removed.

Luckily, the interview was with my current employer, so if I do get it, it's not like there'll be any implications on my mat leave, but still feel like I may be taking the micky a little if I get an offer and accept the role, knowing I'll be going on quite a chunk of leave within 8 months and they'll have to recruit again for my cover!

Anyway, I don't have an EDD yet as my docs couldn't fit me in until Thursday, but by my workings, I think I'm about 5 or 6 weeks.

2 questions for anyone who's done this before or is further along than me - are my womb-twinges anything to worry about? They're not painful, but I'm very aware it's there. Also, when will the horrendous backne go away?!?!?

sarahleanne Sun 28-Jul-13 18:47:58

Jodi the stretching in your uterus is all normal grin
as long as you don't bleed and start cramping then im sure its all fine. I get it when I stand up too quickly.

RNJ3007 Sun 28-Jul-13 18:53:22

Hi all! Spotted the thread and thought it was a nice idea.

my basic info is:
age 27
edd 30th August
DD was 4 last month.

Gerty1002 Sun 28-Jul-13 19:01:06

Ooh RNJ we have the same due date smile

I'm 26 in September, first pregnancy.

There's more of us twenty-somethings than we initially thought!

RNJ3007 Sun 28-Jul-13 19:21:56

Hi Gerty I'm 28 on Tuesday, got a couple of years on you!

Cooling spray ands tower fan are my best friends just now. My DD has chicken pox. I have HG and SPD. Roll on August. Given I'm already 3cm and contracting sporadically, I can't imagine making it to our sharedEDD!

JodiLeighLeigh Sun 28-Jul-13 20:03:25

sarahleanne...thank you! I do get it when I stand up very quickly so that's so reassuring! Just need to pray all these spots get lost soon now wink x

Gerty1002 Mon 29-Jul-13 14:19:52

How exciting, RNJ, have they said baby is at a safe stage to come out now? I think now they are mainly just gaining weight in there aren't they? Dealing with a DD with chicken pox must be exhausting for you! Hope she gets better soon!

Gerty1002 Mon 29-Jul-13 14:22:21

Oh and Jodi I had terrible skin until around 20 weeks! However I often get hormone related acne regardless of pregnancy, so I was doomed from the start. I had truly lovely skin from about week 20-30 and now they are creeping back sad.

RNJ3007 Mon 29-Jul-13 14:55:33

Gerty Sadly not, due to the HG, he is very small still. Need him to stay put as long as possible! We'll see!

It's no fun, poor kid has them everywhere - from her feet to her scalp!

Gerty1002 Mon 29-Jul-13 15:15:52

Ah, in that case (and I mean this in the nicest way possible) I hope you suffer a little longer!

JodiLeighLeigh Mon 29-Jul-13 18:51:04

shock really hope these spots don't last until week 20! I already have vitiligo so really am not rocking the pizza faced look.

AmbaRoyle Mon 29-Jul-13 19:45:20

Can I join?

I'm 24, 35+3 with EDD 30/08 and this is my first.

Pregnancy been relatively easy, nothing too out the ordinary, no weight gain (Bonus!) no morning sickness etc (except I am sat here wanting to cry as I've been sick and felt sick constantly for the last few days, was starving and thought that may be why I felt so sick, started to eat and just felt sicker with each bite sad already had this problem before and dr won't do jack!)

Been in hosp recently with abdo pain and no movement but everything was hunky dory. Apparently on target for a 10lb baby - argh! Not sure what measurement and centre stuff means but that's what the midwife explained.

Oh and I'm nervous and scared as hell!

RNJ3007 Mon 29-Jul-13 21:30:41

Amba Another due date buddy! Hi!

Gerty1002 Thu 01-Aug-13 19:13:19

How are you getting on RNJ, has baby stayed put?!

RNJ3007 Thu 01-Aug-13 19:18:43

Hi Gerty - He's still in there! 8 days until in the 'safe' zone. Keeping everything crossed.

How are you doing?

Gerty1002 Thu 01-Aug-13 19:44:03

Yeay, what a good little bubba smile. Hope you're managing to eat well now?

I'm ok, been pretty uncomfortable the past few days with a lot of pressure low down and period type cramps. I think baby is trying to make a move southwards but is still lying transverse so can't get any further!

Positioning scan tomorrow so will hopefully see how the land lies - hoping he does a mighty flip during the night, as unlikely as that is.

Still have a feeling he can't possibly stay in here for another four weeks, at least not in this position! But we shall see!

RNJ3007 Thu 01-Aug-13 21:20:05

Hahaha... What is this 'eating well' of which you speak? I threw up on a midwife today...

Poor you. Little man is head down, I'm still contracting on and off. Not fun. And my SPD is deteriorating. What fun!!

Hope he does flip for you; have you tried any of the spinningbabies techniques - I flipped DD using them after her being footling breech for months!!! Good luck for the scan!

Gerty1002 Thu 01-Aug-13 23:57:30

I tried one but didn't like the feeling that my head was going to explode with all the blood rushing to it! Not sure if I was doing it right tbh.

Sorry to hear you're having such a rough time of it, sounds rather uncomfortable!

Gerty1002 Fri 02-Aug-13 12:08:58

Update from my presentation scan today - it seems my useless midwife had it all wrong and baby has been head down all along! All that worry for nothing! Absolutely over the moon I still have a chance at my water birth smile.

Also he's currently measuring 6lb2oz (50th percentile) and is DEFINITELY a boy! DP and I are on cloud 9 smile

ThedementedPenguin Fri 02-Aug-13 12:33:59

Hey I want to join in.

I'm 23
Think I'm currently 4+6
Have 1 ds who is nearly 11 months.

Congrats to everyone so far and gerty I'm glad baby is head down. Shame first Mw got it wrong.

littleABI Sat 03-Aug-13 22:33:21

Hello everyone! What a great thread. I am 23 and this is my first preg. Been married for just over 3 years.

Currently 7+3weeks with due date of March 21st. Going to see the MW on Thurs, hopefully feel confident enough to tell my parents, and DH's too smile

I just really want everything to go well for everyone on here smile and well done gerty seems like everything is as it should be xx

Gerty1002 Sun 04-Aug-13 09:18:16

Thanks and welcome ladies smile.

Woke a few times with fairly mild backacke/period cramps, think the warm up has begun... hope it doesn't last another 6 weeks! 36+2 and getting impatient smile

ThedementedPenguin Sun 04-Aug-13 09:46:17

Oh how exciting gerty I really do hope this is it for you and you don't have long left.

itsliz Sun 04-Aug-13 16:47:07

Oooh, best of luck Gerty! Really hope this is it! You'll have to try and keep us updated smile

Gerty1002 Sun 04-Aug-13 18:06:27

Don't get too excited ladies (myself included), it's nothing major and have heard this stage can go on for quite a few weeks!

Don't worry, though, I will let you all know if anything progresses!

RNJ3007 Sun 04-Aug-13 21:25:54

It's a race Gerty - which one of us will pop first?

I had WEEKS of prodromal labour with DD... Hoping this little one will be rather quicker.

Contractions galore. Plug gone. Body in clear out mode... Can but hope it'll be soon. But not til at least Friday, to be 37w and have dealt with Grandma's funeral and wake.

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 00:00:25

Oh I think we can safely assume you'll be winning this race! Sounds like things are really moving for you!

Sorry to hear about your grandma, hope LO waits a little longer so you can say your goodbyes.

RNJ3007 Mon 05-Aug-13 08:47:37

Haha, you say that... I had labour stopped at 30&32w with my DD.

Had her at 40+3.

Dreading this being another epic.

And thanks. Just need to try and stay sort of together about it all. It's tough, but don't want to upset DD or risk a stress-eviction of the Mexican-wave baby.

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 10:56:59

Did you have pains etc through the whole 10 weeks?!

rachelmum16 Mon 05-Aug-13 11:40:32

29+2 weeks
First DC1

Really excited and cant wait to be over and done with the birth!!!

itsliz Mon 05-Aug-13 12:46:18

Oooh you're all making me so jealous - I've only just hit 19 weeks (and still have to wait another 2 weeks until I get to find out whether we're having a blue or a pink bean at the 20 week scan!)
Already counting down the days to when it all starts to happen and we finally get to meet our little one!

Is anyone else wishing the days away, or am I just being impatient?! grin

Gerty1002 Mon 05-Aug-13 13:01:06

I have wished the days away all the way through, and still am to some degree, but really trying to enjoy the last of my pregnancy as I have a feeling I'll miss it! Ofc having LO here will make up for it x1000 but these are my last child free days and I'm determined to make the most of them no matter how sleepless and uncomfortable I am smile. (and not at all using reverse psychology to coax this baby out...)

RNJ3007 Mon 05-Aug-13 19:42:05

Gerty No, they stopped between runs of preterm labour, but I had contractions more on than off from 33 weeks til delivery! Every 6-10 minutes for the last month. Grim times!

Currently contracting enough to feel uncomfortable every 7-9 mins... BP is getting more and more dodgy. Just got to make it through this week...

RNJ3007 Mon 05-Aug-13 19:43:15

itsliz Yeah...very much wishing the days away. No plans to be pregnant again either. Ready to be DONE. But then again, two HG and SPD pregnancies haven't exactly been fun.

Gerty1002 Tue 06-Aug-13 06:55:54

Poor you RNJ, how stressful.

I behaved like a paranoid pregnant lady last night and rang delivery suite to ask if too much movement could be a sign of distress... I have a very active baby generally but last night was ridiculous, I was crying out in pain from kicks to my cervix and pelvis, and I could see every movement of every limb! I was actually worried my waters might have gone without me realising. Midwife just told me movement is usually good but to keep an eye on it, which I expected.

Once crazy alien movements subsided I actually managed to get some sleep! I had forgotten how wonderful it is smile

x0gawjus0x Tue 06-Aug-13 07:01:28

Im 20
9+5 with first
Edd 6th march

littleABI Tue 06-Aug-13 16:34:53

hello gawjus good to see you on here too smile

Nellysgirl Wed 07-Aug-13 13:41:11

Hello smile

I'm 25 and 32 weeks.

Gerty1002 Wed 07-Aug-13 14:16:17

Hi newcomers smile

RNJ how you getting on in this race of ours? Found out yesterday baby id 2/5 engaged, but he feels lower yet again today!

Hope you're doing ok.

How's everyone else getting on?

RNJ3007 Wed 07-Aug-13 17:56:59

Hi Gerty - head is non palpable above brim of pelvis! And I've had bloody show today... He needs to wait at least 26 more hours before he does anything; must get through funeral and wake tomorrow.

How are you feeling?

Gerty1002 Wed 07-Aug-13 22:06:05

Oh yikes sounds like LO is making way for the exit! Keep your legs crossed! I hope all goes as well as it can tomorrow.

I'm feeling ok, seem to be having phases of strong and uncomfortable BH between 3pm-6pm each day, which is odd, then just at random intervals throughout the day. Got a midwife appointment tomorrow, so hoping to chat through birth plan as we haven't done this yet.

Gerty1002 Mon 12-Aug-13 10:18:32

Had a false alarm last night, contractions every 6 minutes from 10pm-4:30am but not excruciating enough to ring delivery suite. This morning... nada. No plug or waters loss. VERY FRUSTRATED!

How is everyone else getting on?

sarahleanne Sun 18-Aug-13 22:21:53

im so jealous reading this thread, im only 19 weeks...shouldn't wish it away though grin
good luck girlies!

Gerty1002 Mon 19-Aug-13 15:20:12

Hi Sarahleanne, congratulations on your pregnancy. This thread has gone very quiet lately!

I'm 38+3 now and so ready to have this baby!

sarahleanne Mon 19-Aug-13 21:28:54

yeah it has gerty where is everyone?
saying that, I introduced myself ages ago and then lost the thread and just found it again.
hows everyone getting on? I have my scan on Wednesday. I bet that seems like a distant memory for some of you ...I cant wait to meet baby smile

Gerty1002 Tue 20-Aug-13 10:59:12

Hopefully a few are off having newborn cuddles smile. Scan is defo a distant memory at 38+4 - even the one I had at 36 weeks to check his position seems like ages ago!

Mummabear12 Wed 21-Aug-13 22:03:38

Hello can I join even though most of you are very near giving birth?!
I'm 21 so think I'm the youngest smile
Baby number 2 (got pg at 19 she's 18m now)
Im 5 weeks exactly
EDD 22/4/14

ThedementedPenguin Wed 21-Aug-13 22:10:53

mumma we are on two of the same threads. I'm due in April as well. Roughly 05/04.

I have a ds who is 11months.

Mummabear12 Wed 21-Aug-13 22:18:50

Aww we are pretty much in the same boat then smile is your first boy or girl? I'm a bit worried about caring for her whilst being heavily pregnant! Obviously loads of women do it and maybe I'm just a stress head but she is very demanding now so imagine when she can speak more and is having terrible twos lol glad we can support each other to the end/ beginning smile

ThedementedPenguin Wed 21-Aug-13 22:28:13

I have a boy.

I know I'm finding it quite hard at times at the minute with the tiredness.

He is also in the very clingy/jealous stage so hoping it passes soon.

Mummabear12 Wed 21-Aug-13 22:32:22

Ahhh I think mine must of had that phase late then as she is still very clingy doesn't even want daddy!! How far along are you now? I know tiredness is proving quite difficult sad

ThedementedPenguin Wed 21-Aug-13 22:35:16

I'm 7 weeks 4 days. Can't wait to hit the 12 week mark and hopefully get a bit more energy.

Mummabear12 Wed 21-Aug-13 22:39:59

Yes me too and the 12 week scan too smile is your partner excited? Have you told many people?
Mine isn't being as interested/ excited as I'd hope and he said he doesn't want to tell anyone for aslong as possible so I feel a bit alone! Glad I have everyone on here!

Gerty1002 Thu 22-Aug-13 08:25:51

Hi mumma, actually I think there's only a few of us close to the end. There's a good range here smile.

Got 38 week appointment today, although I'm 39 weeks tomorrow - midwife coming to my house, which I found a bit odd!

ThedementedPenguin Thu 22-Aug-13 12:07:17

Gerty I've read that a lot on here about Mw coming to your house. Saves you time travelling to them.

mumma he's not as excited but to be honest is still very early days and you are pregnant for what feel likes ages. Although I couldn't ever say last time he was excited but was fantastic during labour and afterwards.

We both agreed not to tell anyone. I found out when I was 4 weeks, however when I was with my family I hated them not knowing.

So my mum, her partner, both my aunties, all my brothers and sisters (2bros+3sis) know. My Dps mum and dad, his granny, his brother and two sisters know. I don't think he has told his friends yet.

Are you planning on waiting until 12 weeks?

Mummabear12 Thu 22-Aug-13 14:37:05

Ahhh see I really want to tell my mum but he said he wants to wait sad I've told about 4 of my friends but no family. Ideally if like to wait till 12 weeks purely so we will have a picture to show them as I think that makes it extra special however I don't think ill be able to keep it in that long! 1 because I'm too excited and 2 apparetly you show a lot earlier second time round! So will have to see smile

DaleyBump Thu 22-Aug-13 14:43:39

Hi, can I join? I'm 18, but there's no groups for anyone younger than 20. I'm currently 25+5 with my first (a boy!) and due on the 30th of November smile

ThedementedPenguin Thu 22-Aug-13 15:02:29

Hi Daley the more the merrier smile congrats. How are you finding everything?

Mumma tell me about it. Although I'm heavier now than before I had ds so I'm not sure when ill be showing.

sarahleanne Thu 22-Aug-13 21:31:24

hi daley and welcome!

anyone else keep getting asked if baby was planned? literally everyone is asking me, including people that barely no me.Really annoying. I don't care if my mates ask, but total bloody strangers that only know you through someone else or through work etc. sorry for the rant haha. grin

DaleyBump Thu 22-Aug-13 21:42:45

Thanks for the welcome smile feel really awkward joining a 20+ group being 18! Not actually sure how I'm finding to to be honest penguin, never been so stressed in my life! Yourself? smile

I've been asked constantly if it was planned. It's really irritating! What business is it of theirs? And what difference does it make? I'm with you sarahleanne smile

sarahleanne Thu 22-Aug-13 21:54:44

I'm glad I'm not the only one!!
Don't feel awkward for joining. I had my first at 19 , second at 22 and now I'm pregnant with my third at 24.
I've been in both your shoes smile

ThedementedPenguin Thu 22-Aug-13 22:00:47

Daley I know what you mean however this time I'm not as bad. Think you are more chilled with your second.

Only thing is so far it's so different from the last time. I don't have the same symptoms. I find that wierd I thought I knew what to expect but not really.

That is an awful thing to be asked. Maybe when someone asks you that is not family or friends just tell them to mind their own. I wouldn't answer it.

sarahleanne Thu 22-Aug-13 22:07:18

Yeah they are all far too opinionated these strangers .. And nosey!!

Daley what have you been stressing about, just general pregnancy stuff? Hope you are ok smile

unimum93 Thu 22-Aug-13 22:46:19

Hey can I join?? Just turned 20, 16 weeks preg with DC2.
DD 12/2/14

DaleyBump Fri 23-Aug-13 20:38:40

Och, just started a 3 year degree and trying to find a mortgage and everything too. The wee one was unplanned and we didn't expect to have to get a mortgage so quickly (our flat is rented) but we need a house, or even a bigger flat, because we're in a single bed right now. Thanks for asking smile

We had a 4D scan today, if anyone fancies a look here's the link to my Photobucket smile it's just amazing smile

Hi unimum smile

terilou87 Sat 24-Aug-13 22:40:11

Hi all, can I join.
I'm 26 and currently 20+1 this will be dc5.
I have ds6 dd5 dd4 and ds9 months and been with dp for just over 9 years.
so is / has every one found out what sex the baby/s is. Iv got my scan next Wednesday and I don't want to find out but im soo nosey I know I won't be able to resist finding out! grin

ThedementedPenguin Sat 24-Aug-13 22:56:20

Hi terilou

I'm only 8 weeks today. So I'm a good bit away from that but I'm really hoping to find out.

I found out with my first.

I'm having such a crap day! I feel so so sick. sad

MummaPanda Sat 24-Aug-13 23:27:29

Daley have you posted on the November thread? I'm due 3rd of Nov and we have a really great facebook group if your interested.
We found out that we are having a boy, couldn't find out with dd as she was awkward so was glad we could this time!

DaleyBump Sat 24-Aug-13 23:36:13

I did (under a different name) a wee while ago. I'm due at the very end of November and felt a bit left out, especially when I asked to be added into the FB group and nobody would add me so I just jumped onto the December thread smile

Congratulations on your little boy!!

Hi terilou

MummaPanda Sun 25-Aug-13 09:44:12

Oh its not that nobody would add you! But its because its a secret group and only a couple know how to add people! (I don't, but probably because I'm on a blackberry) there are a few more people who have figured it out now if you did want to pop on and ask to join! There are a mixture of beginning middle and end of november people smile

Mummabear12 Sun 25-Aug-13 20:00:47

Hello ladies sorry I've not posted for a while! I've recently found out that my partner has cheated on me! I can't speak to anyone as I feel like an absolute mug! So I'm guna vent on here! I just don't understand why he said he wanted to try for another baby while he has been cheating on me! So I'm now 6 weeks pregnant and very confused as to what to do! Anyone got any advice for me sad feel like an idiot! blush

terilou87 Sun 25-Aug-13 20:53:56

mummabear12 aww hun, what an absolute pig he is! my best advice is walk away and don't look back! you deserve better. and i know, easier said than done, but if he done it once he will do it again.
thedementedpenguin i felt like that till about 3 weeks ago, r u feeling any better yet?

MummaPanda Sun 25-Aug-13 21:43:31

Awww mummabear that's really horrible!! Can't imagine what your going through sad

ThedementedPenguin Sun 25-Aug-13 22:50:22

terilou yes feeling a lot better today. It comes and goes. I should really be used to it but I just felt so rotten.

mummabear you must be due around same time as me. I was going to comment on your other post however I haven't introduced myself yet. Take this time to access what you want. Then when he gets back you will be able to talk to him.

Stom91 Tue 27-Aug-13 19:27:35

Hey im a little late coming in. But..
I'm 21.. 23+2 weeks... First dd!! :D
Due 21st December

itsliz Wed 28-Aug-13 12:49:00

Oh Mummabear, you poor poor thing sad I really don't know what to suggest other than to walk away before it's too late and before you get even further into your pregnancy and end up letting the hormones take over!

Or if you feel that you want to, maybe sit him down and explain nice and bluntly that either he bucks up his ideas, cuts all ties with this woman and focuses solely on you and bump or you'll be leaving for good. I know it's easier said than done, but if he's acting like this now then I really can't imagine him being a good dad...

And welcome to the thread Stom! Seems we're fairly close in age as well as due dates!

Stom91 Wed 28-Aug-13 12:51:31

Thanks itsliz I think I've seen you in the December thread? smile

Stom91 Wed 28-Aug-13 12:51:55

Thanks itsliz I think I've seen you in the December thread? smile

ElleCloughie Thu 29-Aug-13 04:50:45

Ooh, only just seen this thread!

I'm 26, and 34+6 with DD1. Me and DH have been together for 8 years, and decided to start trying after last Christmas, and from the results of our dating scan got lucky pretty much straight away!

Just started maternity leave, so it's all starting to feel very "real" now!

terilou87 Sun 01-Sep-13 16:52:27

Welcome elle and congratulations on your first dd, I start my maternity leave on 28th of September found out last week im having another ds grin

Any chance I can join? Not 20 until next July but could do with talking to some other young parents-to-be. Found out the other day that I'm 6 weeks, complete shock tbh shock

Stom91 Fri 06-Sep-13 00:03:24

Of course congratulations moomin x

Tea1Sugar Sun 08-Sep-13 12:57:59

Can I join? I'm 25 and 7+3 with dc2. Dd is 3. Due 24/4/14.

Jammybean Mon 09-Sep-13 12:47:03

Can I join? Not sure if I'll be the oldest here.

I've just turned 28, Dd1 is 2. Currently 5+0.

I was just looking at the earlier posts. Its funny how people make assumptions about the correct age to be having children. When I was pregnant with my first I was the youngest mum by far at baby groups. Most other mums were late thirties to early forties. The way i look at is that DC will have flown the nest by the time i'm in my late forties leaving me plenty of time to drink gin. smile

Stom91 Mon 09-Sep-13 12:59:34

Haha yea jammy that's exactly how I see it!
We won't be old! Lol

karamcleod Sat 21-Sep-13 10:19:56

20 years old
16 + 2 DC#1
EDD 6th March
18 months ttc!
Still throwing up and very moody & emoitonal and just feeling bluergghhhh in general although very excited to be a mummy!

moobaloo Thu 26-Sep-13 18:27:14


I'm 21, 5wks, EDD 25th May smile unplanned but excited!

I'm getting worried about morning sickness - don't know how I'll hide that at work/from family! Already fobbing them off re. not drinking. We want to wait until I've had a scan to tell our parents but don't know if we're going to make it that long without them guessing or someone blurting it out!

Oh, I have a confession... I bought a newborn baby top and leggings today. Oops.

kirsty4609 Tue 08-Oct-13 13:24:25


Im 26, 5weeks!!! smile EDD 11th June 2014!!!!

We decided in April that we would try for a baby after our holiday in August. Didnt get caught September but found out last week Ive got caught this month and we are over the moon!!!

Just struggling to keep it a secret until the 12 week scan!!! Haha!!

Not had many symptoms yet, just tiredness and a little moody! Thats about it.

Got my first appointment with my GP on Friday! This will be Baby Number 1 smile

ladybird0704 Tue 08-Oct-13 19:34:19

Hi im 22 and partner is 24 about 5+4 i think and pregnancy was unplanned but a lovely surprise. Starting to struggle already and ended up being sent home from work today! Had to tell my boss already which im pretty gutted about but everyone in work has guessed already anyway so having to keep saying im not which is really hard. What did everyone do to cover symptoms?

greymoose Tue 15-Oct-13 18:21:45

im 23, first baby, currently 19/20 weeks and due around 9th march

just started feeling little kicks and starting to feel real now - anyone else?! xx

greymoose Tue 15-Oct-13 18:23:24

lady I didnt have too many symptoms so cant help with that, have you joined your due month antenatal club on here? if not you should - they usually have really helpful stuff!!

floatyflo Sat 19-Oct-13 12:16:50

Hi all! I'm 23, although I have a birthday before bump is born. Am 20 weeks with dc2. Due 7thMarch. Ds is three.

How are we all? I've got the 20week scan on the 28th, very exciting! Really hoping sonographer will be able to tell what we are expecting! Fingers crossed :D

Hi Greymoose your on the Martians thread too I believe?

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