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February 2014

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vix206 Mon 20-May-13 07:11:52

Very early days but I'm due 26 January - really expecting early February after being 15 days late with DC1. Thought I'd get the ball rolling grin

Anyone else?

vix206 Tue 21-May-13 18:43:08

Just me at the moment then smile

Yonionekanobe Tue 21-May-13 21:18:36

Vix - come and join us in January for the time being!

vix206 Wed 22-May-13 05:45:09

Thank you Yoni! smile

It might sound funny but I'm really looking forward to not being far behind everyone on an antenatal thread! Both my pregnancies have been due at the end of the month and so I'm always one of the last to have scans etc. I've no doubt this baby will be early Feb rather than late Jan so I'm lurking on your thread wink but sticking with this one. There's no way i could keep up with 2! Hopefully I will have company soon gringringrin

Yonionekanobe Wed 22-May-13 21:13:45

I know that feeling - DD was 27th and I ended up giving up on thread for the same reasons you give! This one is 02/01 so I'm ahead of the crowd grin

vix206 Fri 24-May-13 06:48:05

Thought I'd have some company by now grin

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 10:46:48

Still by myself?! shockgrin

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 11:50:49

Hi vix not sure if I'm too early to join you? I got my bfp today, 1 - 2 weeks apparently! grin

Due 5 Feb possibly?

Still v v early days. This is dc #1 for me, conceived cycle 1, so I'm in a bit of shock!

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 14:33:31

Yay tinypolkadot! Congratulations and thank you for easing the loneliness!! smile

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 14:55:49

Thanks very much vix smile and congratulations to you too!

So much to start thinking about, not really sure where to begin!

I can keep you company until Friday and then I'll be away for a holiday (undecided if that's good timing or not!)

Surely someone else will join us by then?!

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 15:05:48

I hope so!

Any symptoms yet? I mainly just have a very sore chest and feel more tired than usual.

I have an almost 3 year old to run rings round me, so not much chance for resting this time round for me grin

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 15:44:58

I have, the main one is tender, swollen boobs. That's what alerted me yesterday as I was sure we hadn't conceived this month. Shows what I know!

I've also noticed my sense of smell has been sharper the past week or two and I've been having some very vivid dreams. I can sniff out soup in the office as soon as it's been opened smile

All my old aches and pains seemed to rear their head last week which made me wonder if I could be pg.

Aw, is your 3 year old a boy or girl? Do they know they might be getting a brother or sister yet?

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 16:01:06

Oh yes I forgot I also have vivid dreams, insomnia and I'm very thirsty all the time. The odd touch of nausea but nothing too bad yet.

I have a little boy. He doesn't know yet, after having a miscarriage in march I'm keeping it quiet around him until I have the 12 week scan smile

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 16:29:01

I've not had any nausea yet either, hope it holds off for a couple more weeks!

So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've only told my mum, and will probably tell everyone else after 12 week scan too. Maybe tell the inlaws after the holiday...

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 18:17:51

Where are you going on your holiday?

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 18:32:07

We are going to Italy to stay with some friends, so probably going to have to let them know why I'm not drinking lots of Italian wine! I'm really looking forward to getting away for a bit. Our last childless holiday for 18 years at least shock

Where in the world are you vix? UK or further afield?

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 19:12:00

Yes enjoy it!! I'm in Northamptonshire. How about you?

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 19:40:03

Ha! We're practically neighbours! I'm in Bedfordshire smile

MrsSpencerReid Mon 27-May-13 20:14:33

Hello, due 1st feb here grinhowever am fully expecting a jan baby as DS was born at 35 weeks!! Am also keeping it quietish after a mmc earlier this year and am in Yorkshire! Think that covers most things you've already mentioned!! This will be the only time ever I am up to date smile

vix206 Mon 27-May-13 20:22:28

Hello MrsSpencerReid! Welcome smile sorry to see you had a MMC. Mine was not missed, I just started bleeding at 6 weeks hmm

Here's hoping for healthy pregnancies all round this time!

tinypolkadot Mon 27-May-13 20:46:26

Hello MrsSpencerReid congratulations and welcome to the thread! smile

I'll second that vix!

MrsSpencerReid Mon 27-May-13 21:29:18

Thanks smile I'm all for well behaved babies from the start!

vix206 Tue 28-May-13 06:55:53

Ha! Yes well I'm hoping for a well behaved baby who will sleep well!! By well I mean not wake up every hour at night for the first 6 months. My DS was a disaster when it came to sleep! I'm hoping I've learned a few lessons through him that may help though confused

vix206 Tue 28-May-13 07:23:08

MrsSpencerReid how old is your DS?

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 28-May-13 08:50:01

May I join you please? Found out on 26/5, due about 4/2/13 so v early days. It will be my first. I'm 30 and I'm from hertfordshire.
I have had that top of head tingling, rush of blood feeling every time I think about it so far.
Good luck all!

People who are on their second time around: what next? Docs?

vix206 Tue 28-May-13 09:07:11

Yay congrats thisisfreakingmeout!!

It varies by area but generally speaking you need to see your midwife between 6 and 10 weeks. I'm waiting until 7 weeks to call them as round here they prefer you to be at least 8 weeks. Are you taking your pregnancy vits?

tinypolkadot Tue 28-May-13 11:46:44

Hi Thisisfreakingmeout Congratulations! smile

I'm also 30 and this is my first too! Like you I would love to know what happens next. I've just rang the surgery and they have said I just need to fill in a form and wait for an appointment.

I guess they don't think it's such big news as I do!

I thought maybe I'd need to speak to a doctor before going on holiday, but she didn't seem that bothered.

I'm back at work today, and no one else knows but me! It's going to kill me keeping this quiet until 12 weeks.

vix206 Tue 28-May-13 12:06:37

I'm 35 smile

The doctors are never very excited about these things, but then they see it every day. They don't need to know about it though so don't worry about that. It is only towards the end they advise you not to go on aeroplanes, apart from that you are free to leave the country smile

tinypolkadot Tue 28-May-13 12:35:13

Hi vix thanks for the guidance, I really have no clue what to expect!

DawnOfTheDee Tue 28-May-13 12:47:40

Hi Vix - I'm in a similar situation to you. Due on 23rd Jan but DD was 15 days late so i'm pretty sure this one will be a feb baby. I know what you mean about being on the arse end of an antenatal thread..!

With DD she was due on 7th Jan but not born till 22nd....by that time everyone was busy with their newborns! I'm on the jan thread too at the moment so i'll see how i feel in the coming months.

I'm in yorkshire btw (Leeds). Not really got any symptoms besides eating jars of pickles but my first was like that too so not too worried.

I have my first mw appointment a week today...time seems to be going sooooo slowly.

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 28-May-13 13:28:21

Just got pregnacare with omega 3. Didn't realise it would be 2! Dappy! How about you?

vix206 Tue 28-May-13 14:26:56

I've just got the basic pregnacare, it was on special offer smile

Hi DawnoftheDee, its awful going so overdue isn't it? I'm really hoping to avoid being induced this time!!

DawnOfTheDee Tue 28-May-13 17:04:30

Me too! Don't fancy another induction really. Hope our new community mw is good and i can discuss everything with her properly. DD ended up EMCS and i really don't know what to do for the best this time.

purplypink Tue 28-May-13 18:06:44

Hi, I just got my positive test result yesterday, think due date will (hopefully) be 4/5th Feb.

I'm 30, and have 2 dd, (7+5), even though this is #3 I'm very nervous, and have done 3 tests so far, as don't believe it!

We have been trying since sept.

tinypolkadot Tue 28-May-13 18:13:40

Hi purplypink congrats! grin

I found out yesterday too, and think I'm due the same time. I dare not do another test, I just keep prodding my breasts to make sure they're still sore!

DawnOfTheDee Tue 28-May-13 18:56:23

Congrats purplypink!

I've done 3 tests too and have one left. I'll probably end up doing that one too then I Must Stop It.

My trouble is I don't have morning sickness (which i am thankful for, promise!) and my boobs aren't really sore either. Same as with DD so i'm pretty sure all is fine but a symptom or two would be reassuring!

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 28-May-13 19:24:19

Hey DofD I feel the same! No symptoms whatsoever but the missing AF. Boobs normal, no sickness. I have peed on two so far. Don't fancy peeing on another fiver but I don't really believe it!
I'll call the docs at the end of next week when I'm nearer to 6 weeks and see if they will have me!

purplypink Tue 28-May-13 19:25:36

I've no symptoms either apart from extreme tiredness. I had really bad morning sickness with both dd's. (Thankfully on holiday this week)
I have a cheapy test and a digital one left, I might save them till further on in case I get paranoid.
Is that silly?

DawnOfTheDee Tue 28-May-13 19:43:00

If you've got them already it'd be silly not to use them...wink

Tbh I think it's perfectly normal from what i've read on mn. It's the wait until the 12 week scan that's the trouble. I know I start thinking that maybe i've imagined it all and the mw will look at me like i'm a crazy person.

MrsSpencerReid Tue 28-May-13 20:05:44

Hi to the new members grin vix, my ds is 13 months. Here you just self refer to the mw, will ring them thurs. I'll be under consultant care so contacting mw's is a formality really! I took some vits today and realised they were out of date blush went to chemist to get calpol for grumpy ds, noticed preg vits were on bogof but I was chatting to someone who commented that ds must be a great contraceptive and isn't one enough etc and I chickened out of buying them!! I have some somewhere from when I mc but I think they must be unlucky so I'm gonna buy some more crazy glad to hear not everyone is feeling as vomity as me smile

Bunnygotwhacked Tue 28-May-13 20:09:26

Signing in I got my bfp today so i'm due sometime in feb am thinking might try to pick up one of those dating tests thursday see what it says my lmp was on 30th april incase anyone here knows how they work them out. This will be dc4 and am just as excited as i was for dc1

MrsSpencerReid Tue 28-May-13 20:19:43

Hi bunny, my lmp was 27 April, I'm due 1/2 so I guess you must be due the 4th? It's a good date, my oh's birthday smile

Isabeller Tue 28-May-13 21:21:39

Hi I hope it's ok to join, I had a positive test on 25th after DE IVF but it's such early days I can't quite believe it. I'm also feeling much more tired and thirsty than usual. I am very ancient with an adult DD so no idea about how the system works now but the obessive search for information is very familiar (only last time it was books....).

vix206 Wed 29-May-13 06:54:37

Hi Bunny and Isabeller and congrats on your BFPs!! grin

Bunnygotwhacked Wed 29-May-13 08:49:46

hey all I'm feeling decidedly green this morning It finally hit me last night when I suddenly thought aww shit going to have to go through labour again why do these things never occur to you when you are ttc grin

Thisisfreakingmeout Wed 29-May-13 08:59:34

isabeller yes SO thirsty!
bunny yes, it is so alarming!
Congrats to you both!

Plentyofcats Wed 29-May-13 09:13:41

Found out I was 2-3 weeks pregnant last Friday - first time and 3rd month of trying after being on Cerazette for a decade shock Terrified and excited but no clue what I'm doing!

ChocoFrog Wed 29-May-13 10:48:19

Just got my bfp today, due on the 4th Feb. Bricking it slightly as had ectopic last Sept and mc at 6 weeks in March so very early days for me. I'm marking my place but will probably lurk until I'm more sure I'm here for good. Feels better this time but I may be making it all up in my head! Fingers crossed...

vix206 Wed 29-May-13 11:51:23

Right then, I've created a stats thread for us while I'm at my computer (rare)

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1767134-February-2013-Stats-Thread

vix206 Wed 29-May-13 11:51:54

Welcome to ChocoFrog and PlentyofCats!

ChocoFrog Wed 29-May-13 12:07:05

Shouldn't that be February 2014?!
I know it seems a long way off... wink

btw I didn't mention that if this bean sticks it will be DC2 as have a 3 yr old son

vix206 Wed 29-May-13 13:05:15

oh derrr. Baby brain strikes again! I will see if it can be changed!!!

Thisisfreakingmeout Wed 29-May-13 21:07:11

Well done for being organised! I am trying to hold off calling docs until next week to avoid disappointment at their lack of interest. Taking my stupid two tablets each day (one is sort of sticky and won't go down. I am going to have to get used to it! About 256 more to take!)
How is everyone feeling? No sickness yet! (I am enjoying it while I can)

vix206 Thu 30-May-13 06:49:36

I started feeling queasy yesterday and this morning I've woken up feeling decidedly sick! hmm

amicusapple Thu 30-May-13 09:17:10

Hi! Can I join please grin. I'm due 29 Jan but the January thread is in full flow already. I got my bfp on Saturday and am 5+2. This is my first and really just hoping we go the distance.

vix206 Thu 30-May-13 12:19:50

Welcome amicusapple! I will add you to the stats thread later too smile

shopart123 Thu 30-May-13 16:00:45

Hey can I join pls, just confirmed my bfp today, due 5th Feb! Hasnt quite sunk in yet! Ok all im taking is folic, what else should I be taking??

amicusapple Thu 30-May-13 16:54:12

Thanks vix. Cant believe I've made it on to a thread grin

Hi shopart. Welcome!

Any symptoms to report?
I've got sore boobs on and off some weird cramps. Oh and spots confused

Dizzyness has passed thankfully.

amicusapple Thu 30-May-13 16:56:15

Shopart I think folic is fine but I went on to a prenatal vitamin. I choose the sanatogen one as they don't smell as bad as others.

tinypolkadot Thu 30-May-13 17:01:17

Hi amicusapple hi shopart

Does anyone get mild cramping when they move or get up too fast? I've read it's normal but it doesn't half worry me when it happens! I guess I need to stop all the weird twisting and lunging about I never realised I did! grin

New symptom alert: spotty chest. Not very impressed with that one!

I went to PIL's house today without DH and it was killing me that I couldn't shout about it as DH wasn't there. We are going to tell them tomorrow though, so not too much longer to wait smile

Has anyone else told other people/immediate family yet?

DawnOfTheDee Thu 30-May-13 18:25:19

I've just told my best friend and my mum. We're going to wait to tell DH's parents as DH's brother & his wife are pg and due in about a week or so. They're a bit concerned though due to various issues but they now think the baby has stopped growing so might induce/elcs earlier than planned. We thought it best to keep quiet about our news for now as things are a bit stressy.

Still no symptoms apart from growing appetite. I hadn't lost all the weight from being pg with DD....at this rate i'll be the size of a house...I must try and control it but i feel a bit urgh if i don't eat something macdonalds

Thisisfreakingmeout Thu 30-May-13 18:36:51

Told parents and parents in law. Both mums were teary, both dads were a bit quiet and freaked out. Will need to tell best friend as she is organising my hen party which happens in 3 weeks!
Called my surgery and receptionist was miserable as ever but did not play Guardian of the Gates and said I should see a doctor to confirm and discuss so I am pleasantly surprised! Of course the first appointment isn't for 2 weeks so I'll have to chill out in the interim.

vix206 Thu 30-May-13 19:02:22

Yes I am getting some take-my-breath-away cramps occasionally when I move suddenly or get up too quickly. I had these with my DS but not with the last pregnancy that ended at 6 weeks, so I'm almost taking it as a good sign.

I've told my 3 best friends and my parents but, after last time, waiting for 12 week scan before telling anyone else. It's going to be hard seeing MIL tomorrow and not blurting it out!

tinypolkadot Thu 30-May-13 19:26:52

Really nice to hear other people's stories. We've only told my mum and brother so far. My mum can't wait to get her knitting needles out! Have told her to wait until the 12 week scan at least smile

Looking forward to telling the inlaws and then that'll be it until 12 weeks, not long when you think about it really.

I'm signing out now for a couple of weeks while we go away. Be back soon, hope everyone has a great couple of weeks!

vix206 Thu 30-May-13 20:01:25

Have a great holiday tiny!

amicusapple Thu 30-May-13 20:52:35

Have a fab holiday tiny (4 weeks til mine and can't wait!)

I've told my best mate and my boss (reduced workload please!).

I've got a birthday night out on Saturday with my really good friends so not sure if i'll be able to hide it?

Does anyone have any good excuses for not drinking?

Also, have you all called your GP already? I'm not sure when I should?

purplypink Thu 30-May-13 22:24:58

I've told my mum and dad and in laws.

Tomorrow I'm going to tell my sister, and next week meeting best friends so will tell them.

Not saying a word to anyone else till after scan.

Hardest thing is not telling dd's, they always mention baby's and wanting a sister/brother.

I started with cramps today, thought it was because we've done lots of walking, but I feel really good (at the moment). Back to work Monday and just know i will be sick!

Thingymajigs Fri 31-May-13 14:37:55

Hi everyone, I've just got my BFP today after a year of Ttc and I can't quite believe it. This is my third dc but the first for my partner. My son's are 13 and 9 (nearly 10) so there's going to be a huge age gap.
I think I'm 4 weeks exactly and due 7th Feb. smile

FizzlingFireboxes Fri 31-May-13 15:31:03

Can I join in please?
I'm due 2nd Feb 14 and this will be no.4 but first with new partner.
I've had sore boobs, cramps tiredness and very thirsty, off on holiday abroad next week and the temps are high...eek not looking forward to that!
Been trying for 9 months, I'm 36 so I was wondering if it would ever happen!
Over the moon although not sure where I'm going to put it(tiny house) and I'll need a bigger car!

Dreamstoreality Fri 31-May-13 16:13:58

Can I join too?

Got my BFP yesterday which I really wasn't expecting. Have so far had 3 miscarriages, the most recent just after Easter. This will, fingers crossed, be our first child and is due Feb 4th.

Like Choco I will prob just hide in the background until everything is a little more certain.

shopart123 Fri 31-May-13 17:17:21

We have told both sets of parents and they are over the moon! smile ive not been feeling too great today, alot of cramps happening - not painful tho but had a couple stabbing pains. Sore back? And felt sick eating my cereal this morning. Anyone else feel like they are analyzing every twing? X

DawnOfTheDee Fri 31-May-13 19:02:15

Welcome newbies and congrats!

Fx for sticky beans too smile

I've just got the weekend to get through and then it's my mw appointment on monday! At last....
I popped into the docs last week to pick up my maternity notes folder so I could start filling it in ahead of time and noticed that it looks like i will be sent for a meeting with a consultant cos of how big DD was (10lb 10oz)!

vix206 Fri 31-May-13 19:39:08

Welcome newbies! I will update the stats thread when I am next at an actual computer and not a phone/iPad!

I will also be seeing a consultant thanks to a post partum haemhorrhage I had after DS was born.

And yes I am analysing every twinge and worrying i don't have enough symptoms. After MC in March I am feeling very wary but trying to enjoy being pregnant at the same time smile

tiegysmum Fri 31-May-13 20:39:48

Hi all, can I join you guys? This will be my third child and I'm due around the 4th of Feb....my other two are girls aged 13 & 6 so a bit of a gap! I haven't used any of these forums before so not too sure on the abbreviations...bare with me lol :-) x

amicusapple Fri 31-May-13 21:12:59

Yay! Lots of new BFPs! Congrats and welcome smile

I have booked MW for Thursday and will be 6 weeks by then. Wanted to go and buy more tests today just to be sure! Have so far resisted.

I've been feeling every twinge too. Started feeling sick tonight!

How did you all tell you're parents / in laws? Did you do anything special?

Fi2013 Fri 31-May-13 21:49:04

Hello ladies been lurking and decided to add my note!

Congrats to all of yousmile

I am well not sure....Appr 6 weeks. It's my second as have a 3 year old boy keeping us very busy! Had a mmc before him.... But I know this one is a sticky one just a feeling.
Not feeling sick just super tired, weird taste and boobs are painful. Oh and have gone off chocolate!!!!! Which is a shock!! Just hungry.
Was so sick with the first hope to have a lucky escape this time as sickness and commuting doesn't go together! Told our parents as they live abroad and we all here for the little man's birthday. and my best friend here as she is also newly pg

A big wave from North London moving to Hertfordshire soon.

Fi2013 Fri 31-May-13 22:00:25

Forgot to add I'm a self confessed serial "poas".... I might as well buy shares in the CB digital... But I made a decision today to stop buying them. Let's hope I resist. It's also quite an expensive addiction!!!

barebranches Sat 01-Jun-13 18:16:45

hey can i join!
i got my bfp yest and still in shock!! grin
baby number one due appox 8th feb! hi everyone!!!

barebranches Sat 01-Jun-13 18:17:16

forgot im 4 weeks today.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 01-Jun-13 18:35:21

Congrats barebranches! You're very welcome to join us. I assume you've brought some cake with you.....? wink

barebranches Sat 01-Jun-13 18:38:08

yup cake topped with folic acid!! hehe!! grin
i keep getting cramp on and off like peroid cramps... is this normal?? keep think af will come even though ive had 5 positve tests...

DawnOfTheDee Sat 01-Jun-13 18:42:00

Aces. You're in grin

I've heard quite few people have crampy type pains on and off so yes, totally normal.

Btw I've done 4 tests I think and have one left. I'm going to do that then i'm done. Promise...

barebranches Sat 01-Jun-13 18:46:06

i have 5 cheapies one digital test left... i fully intend to test daily then use the digital on thursday to see if the conception indicator has changed!! grin

vix206 Sat 01-Jun-13 19:14:21

Welcome to even more new people, how exciting!

Sorry if this is depressing but after my miscarriage I am no longer a POAS addict. During the week I was bleeding I took loads of tests, digi and line. All of them came back strong and the digital one I took 1 hour before I actually lost the baby still told me I was 3+. I took so much hope from that as I thought my hormones would fade if I was miscarrying, but it seems that isn't always the case. So for me it is not worth doing tests after that experience.

Mind you my huge, sore boobs remind me enough that I am pregnant at the moment smile 6 weeks today!

Thingymajigs Sat 01-Jun-13 19:24:44

I've become worried sick about miscarrying. I think because it took us a while to conceive I'm a bit more on edge. I've ran to the toilet 4 times today to check I wasn't bleeding.
I'm back at work tomorrow though so that will take my mind off things.

DawnOfTheDee Sat 01-Jun-13 19:28:04

Oh, so sorry vix...I can totally understand your point of view on that.

For me I tend to do it because I'm almost symptomless in the early weeks so it's to reassure myself i haven't imagined the whole thing.

Yay for sore boobs! wink

Can I join? Got my positive a few days ago and have initial DD of 4th Feb. Will be Dc #3.
A bit terrified, Dd2 is only 10 months old so no idea at all how I'm going to cope!

littlestgirlguide Sat 01-Jun-13 20:18:46

Hello, can I join in?
Got my BFP today after 10 months of trying. According to my diary that makes me 4+2, due date of 6th February.
Like a couple of others I am also getting slight period-like cramps, which I hope don't mean anything other than the bean is getting comfy. I'm a bit paranoid, since I had my DD 4 years ago, my SiL has miscarried twice and I think I had an early MC myself a few months ago (which is another story) but it add up to general worry that this one won't stick.
Otherwise, I have had sore, achey boobs since ovulation, which is why I tested - normally the sore boobs only last a few days and are totally normal again by the time AF is due. I have done 2 tests, a faint positive on a SuperDrug test with FMU this morning and a much clearer ClearBlue this afternoon. I'm going to try a digital test towards the end of the week, and then, if it still says 'pregnant' I will call my doctor.

DawnOfTheDee Sun 02-Jun-13 08:37:23

Congrats undertheboardwalk and littlestgirlguide! Welcome to the feb 2014 bus :

Vix206 has kindly started a stats thread for us if you'd like to add yourself. link

vix206 Sun 02-Jun-13 14:21:51

Yes I will do another stats update tomorrow when I'm at the office but if someone else wants to do it in the meantime please do smile

jellyandcake Sun 02-Jun-13 17:33:12

Hi, I got my bfp today - it's faint but a positive. Still can't quite believe it... Not got many symptoms but like others on here I am thirsty and having trouble sleeping with some very vivid dreams. Bit crampy and tired with some nausea. I have a 2.5 year old little boy and am so excited at the thought of him being a big brother!

NHS due date calculator says 9th Feb. I'm not so worried about the birth as apprehensive about the 'morning' sickness which was round-the-clock vomiting until 21 weeks last time around...

barebranches Sun 02-Jun-13 18:21:48

hey jelly im the same... im so worried about sickness! i really dont want sickness at work!!

Thisisfreakingmeout Sun 02-Jun-13 18:40:37

When does/did sickness kick in?

So far mother and MIL seem to not believe me due to lack of nausea!

barebranches Sun 02-Jun-13 18:46:07

im hoping it won't kick in!!grin

vix206 Sun 02-Jun-13 19:46:22

I wasn't ever sick with my last pregnancy, a few episodes of nausea. Mainly staved it off by eating, a lot. Feeling similar this time. I find the sickness bands (they are called sea bands and you get them at chemists) really helpful.

I think sickness normally kicks in around 6 weeks, that'll be why I feel so queasy tonight smile

littlestgirlguide Sun 02-Jun-13 20:10:40

I had no sickness at all the first time round, just felt nauseous towards the end when in the car, but not until at least 7 months.
No symptoms at all at the moment, which is exactly like last time, other than my boobs are still a bit sore (they are normally sore for a few days after ovulating but back to normal well before AF is due)
I wouldn't actually mind a few more symptoms TBH as I'm having trouble believing its actually real. I've done a third test today, a Tesco cheapy, another faint positive. Three positives (albeit faint ones) can't be wrong, can they? Shouldn't it be showing more strongly by now?

jellyandcake Sun 02-Jun-13 22:01:34

Last time I started feeling seriously sick by six weeks and vomiting by nine. Now am torn between dreading it and also hoping for the reassurance - at least it means things are going ok!

OMGherewegoagain Sun 02-Jun-13 22:21:48

Hi ladies....may I join you please? Congratulations to you all!
Found out last Thursday, due 31st Jan but as I was almost two weeks late with DS am pretty sure this one will be a Feb baby! So pleased that I'm pregnant again grin, but doesn't feel very real yet except for my very painful boobs!

laura0007 Mon 03-Jun-13 07:43:17

May I join too please? This is my first DC. Due 3rd Feb. DP has walked and left me to it so I'm going it alone with luckily a lot of support from friends and family! I'm excited but feeling very sick, especially in the middle of the night! Got some of those sea bands ordered from amazon.

DawnOfTheDee Mon 03-Jun-13 08:19:50

Congrats newbies!

OMG there are a few of us who have jan due dates but are expecting late babies so you're in good company.

laura007 glad to hear you've got good support in your family and friends...and you have us now too! Sorry to hear you're feeling sick...fx the bands work for you.

DawnOfTheDee Mon 03-Jun-13 08:28:55

Oh, I meant to say I have my mw appointment today! I know not much actually happens at it but i'm just so excited because it's the first official thing iyswim.

Unfortunately i can't get anyone to mind DD so i'll have to take her with me. Not ideal but it can't be helped.

littlestgirlguide Mon 03-Jun-13 08:42:25

Another positive test this morning. Four positives can't be wrong, can they, I may cruelly be starting to believe its happening :-) only 4+4 as far as I can tell, do I phone the doctors now or wait a bit?

vix206 Mon 03-Jun-13 08:46:03

Believe it littlest!!

Personally I'd wait another couple of weeks but its up to you smile

barebranches Mon 03-Jun-13 08:52:14

little im waiting a few weeks im 4 weeks also. i thought i technically havent missed a period yet....

littlestgirlguide Mon 03-Jun-13 11:45:52

*actually

vix206 Mon 03-Jun-13 12:00:49

Thank you for updating the stats girls smile I have been feeling so sick this morning. Opening the fridge made me heave, walking into the supermarket - same.

Anyway, am at work now and starving so having an early lunch. Hope everyone is feeling well.

vix206 Mon 03-Jun-13 14:25:32

Is anyone else having cravings yet? I really am! I can't get enough tomato soup, even in this warm weather it is all I want to eat. And lots of fruit.

ChocoFrog Mon 03-Jun-13 16:14:17

Ok I have my first scan booked in for next Thursday. I'll only be 6+2 but because of my previous ectopic they want to check it's all where it should be. There won't be much to see but I'm just hoping it all looks ok after the last couple of times. Excited but scared too. Will keep you posted on the outcome. grin and confused

vix no cravings really but I am munching through plenty of ginger biscuits to stave off the sick feeling. I could claim they were a craving!

DawnOfTheDee Mon 03-Jun-13 16:57:18

Well I've had quite an eventful day.

Went for first appointment with mw this morning. All fine.

Decided to take DD for a walk in the park then lunch at local pub (they do a nice kiddies menu). As I stood up to leave a felt a bit weird and then all this blood started running down my legs. Ran to the disabled loo with DD and tried to clean myself up. Rang the docs and they said go to a&e which I did. Bleeding stopped in a&e and they did a pg test and did an exam. They said all looked ok - cervix was closed and uterus or uterine wall (can't remember which) felt ok and as it should for 7wk pg. Anyway feeling a bit better now but still a bit worried.
They've booked me in for a scan tomorrow morning so fx everything ok and the bean is a sticky one.

vix206 Mon 03-Jun-13 17:09:55

Poor you dawnofthedee! Take it really easy tonight won't you. Signs are good, maybe there was a collection of blood in your cervix or something that became dislodged. Hopefully the scan will answer it.

shopart123 Mon 03-Jun-13 18:30:46

Sorry for tmi but is anyone else having real bad gas issues?!? Im experiencing really bad cramps then passing wind is reliving it. Really uncomfortable and embarrassing and very sore sad

Hope u r ok dawn, sure everything will be ok x

barebranches Mon 03-Jun-13 18:39:49

dawn oh no! hope you are resting now.

shop no gas for me... in fact not much poo related action at all...

My womb cramps seem to be better today and no further symptoms. Tested again to day and it was the first time the internet cheapie was quite dark.

littlestgirlguide Mon 03-Jun-13 20:31:25

Oh no Dawn, fx for you! Take it easy and try to stay positive.

No cravings, no sickness, just a strange sensation that feels a bit like a mild UTI. Hope it's nothing! I'm so paranoid. WithDD, who's 4 this week, I didn't even imagine that something might go wrong. Since my SiL had 2 mc's since then, I can't stop worrying.

ClearBlue says I'm preqnant 2-3 though, so pregnant I am :-)

OMGherewegoagain Mon 03-Jun-13 20:54:28

Dawn really sorry to hear you've had a scary day, it's good news that the bleeding has stopped - will be thinking of you tomorrow - hope it all goes well with the scan
Shop No gas here either.....do remember lots of burps first time around, but not the other end - its very glamorous this pregnancy malarky isn't it smile
littlest - that's def a positive - congratulations!!
Not much to update on from me - had a very late lunch which made me feel v.light headed and a bit sick, but other than the ridiculous boobs and tiredness I have very few symptoms at the mo....don't want to wish them on, but IME symptoms are v.good things - means lots of preggo hormones kicking around. Remind of this when I'm feeling as sick as a dog in a couple of weeks grin

amicusapple Tue 04-Jun-13 07:30:01

Hope all goes okay today Dawn. Fx for you.

Nothing new to report here. Not feeling very pregnant at the minute with minimal symptoms. It's a bit dull reallywink.

laura0007 Tue 04-Jun-13 07:42:39

Good luck today Dawn. thanks

vix206 Tue 04-Jun-13 08:34:24

Yes best of luck Dawn, let us know how you get on. ��

DawnOfTheDee Tue 04-Jun-13 08:41:08

Thank you all - my scan is late morning so i'll update you with some hopefully good news this afternoon. I'm torn between being positive and not getting my hopes up too much. Not that long to wait now though.

ChocoFrog Tue 04-Jun-13 09:59:37

fx for you Dawn and sending sticky bean thoughts your way.

vix206 Tue 04-Jun-13 13:59:08

Keep checking back for news!! Hoping everything is ok Dawn.

I've been out in the park with a picnic with DS. Glorious weather smile now feeling a bit queasy so having a lie down while DS tries to nap!

DawnOfTheDee Tue 04-Jun-13 14:36:59

Unfortunately I have no news sad

They could see the gestational sac but nothing else (they ended up having to do a vaginal ultrasound). They said this could be because my dates are a bit out so it's too early or it's a failed pg or possibly ectopic.

So i'm none the wiser and have another scan booked in for a week next friday which seems forever away. It sounds horrible but i almost wish i'd found out i was having a mc now than wait another week and a half and then maybe be told that. I just want to hide away until the scan but in the meantime i've to go to work, then next week i'm meant to be going to italy with a friend for a few days. Flight gets back 2 hours before my scan appointment. I don't know whether to go anyway or cancel.

Then to top it off dh is meant to be flying out to a stag do on the day of my scan. He doesn't know what to do either.

vix206 Tue 04-Jun-13 15:55:27

Oh no that's awful hmmconfusedconfused I know what it's like to have to wait, not knowing what's going on so I totally understand what you mean about rather knowing.

All you can do is wait and stay hopeful. I'm so sorry it didn't clear things up for you.

barebranches Tue 04-Jun-13 18:46:13

oh no dawn sad sad sad
lets all hope the week goes quickly. sad

Apparentlychilled Tue 04-Jun-13 19:16:23

Hi. I had my bfp last week and had an early scan today (due to a previous ectopic). Due on 1 Feb. They couldn't see the heartbeat, but they're not worried at the mo (as they think I might be less than 6 weeks pg).

I'm sorry to hear you had a bad experience at the EPU, Dawn, and I hope that next week goes better.

Does anyone else feel a bit distracted? I feel like I can't settle on any tasks at the moment. And given that this will be my 3rd DC (so 4th pregnancy), you'd think I'd be a bit more chilled with this one. Not told anyone in RL yet, other than DH, and I want to chat through the practicalities of 3DC with someone (yes, I realise I'm getting massively ahead of myself), even though I know I'm being daft (like trying to decide whether I put DS (who will be 26 months by then) into nursery when the baby arrives, how I'll cope as DH is likely to be away almost immed after DC is born... Stuff that I cannot do anything about right now, but is preying on my mind....

Hey ho.

Hi to everyone though.

ShowMeTheCoffee Tue 04-Jun-13 19:30:52

Hi there. Big congrats to each of you!

Please may I join? I have an estimated due date of 2 Feb. This will be DC#3 for us (no, I can't believe it either). I have a DS (3) and a DD (16 months). Like others, I am super excited though very nervous.
Anything I need to do? I haven't joined one of these threads before.

Best wishes to those of you not off to the smoothest of starts. Hope all is well from here on.

Thingymajigs Tue 04-Jun-13 20:14:46

I hope everything is ok dawn. The waiting must be terrible.sad
As for symptoms, I'm only 4+4 but my breasts are very sore. Luckily I have no morning sickness which I'm hoping to avoid like I did with my first 2. I'm enjoying the secret atm but I imagine I will be desperate to tell someone by 8 weeks.
The only thing we can be sure of is that the next couple of months will drag on forever.

Fingers crossed for you Dawn, the wait is awful I had similar with DD2 now almost 11months. After bleeding they could only see sac at scan. Had the horrible week wait but all was well when I went back. Was just a bit early, hopefully you have the same experience x.
I'm having plenty of symptoms at the moment. toast has sudden become disgusting and just the smell is making me feel ill, plenty of on and off nausea. Still got some cramping too. I spoke to my new midwife today, I found an amazing service in my area here So excited that I don't have to use the local community midwife team, I didn't get on with any of them when I was having DD2. Got my first appointment next week, the luxury of having it at home is fab too, not having to traipse DD out with me!

Hope everyone else is doing well x

littlestgirlguide Tue 04-Jun-13 22:13:12

Hope the week goes quickly and it's a happy answer Dawn

I am still paranoid. Up till today, my boobs have been sore; but now, they are totally not sore and apparantly disappearing symptoms is a bad sign? I've got no other symptoms, no nausea, just feeling a but tired and headachey but that could just be the hot weather. I rang and booked a doctors appt for a week tomorrow, which will make me 5+6, but I wish there was a way of convincing myself that everything's ok.

vix206 Wed 05-Jun-13 12:58:43

Hope everyone is ok today. I am queasy but just snacking my way through it. I just updated the stats thread with Apparentlychilled and ShowMeTheCoffee. Welcome both smile

littlestgirlguide Wed 05-Jun-13 14:15:25

Sore boobs are back! Actually more tingly.
Is this normal, symptoms that come and go as they please?

littlestgirlguide Wed 05-Jun-13 14:28:11

Sore boobs are back! Actually more tingly.
Is this normal, symptoms that come and go as they please?

vix206 Wed 05-Jun-13 15:48:44

Yes very normal smile

jellyandcake Wed 05-Jun-13 16:53:39

Really sorry to hear what you'regoing through Dawn and I hope it's good news.

littlest I don't have sore boobs at all and keep worrying about this (don't think I did last time either) but I only have sporadic nausea.

Feel like I've hit a bit of a wall today. Not sleeping well at all and am so tired. Day off today and all I did with ds was a very brief trip to the swings, watched tv, both had a long afternoon nap and now more tv - I'm only 4 weeks pregnant so don't feel I have an excuse for being so crap! Am so tired that I could cry at the thought of going to work tomorrow and - I repeat - I'm not even five weeks yet! Don't remember when my energy came back last time around but I hope it's soon!

lucidlady Wed 05-Jun-13 18:02:18

Hi ladies, may I join you? Got my BFP yesterday and reckon I'm 3-4 weeks. This is my second, I have a 19 month old DD. Think my EDD is 17 Feb but seeing doctor on Friday so will have it confirmed then.

vix206 Wed 05-Jun-13 18:37:38

Welcome and congrats lucidlady grin

Thisisfreakingmeout Wed 05-Jun-13 19:07:30

Dawn so sorry to hear you are having a difficult week. I hope you know soon and you get the result we all want for you. X

Still no symptoms really, bit of phantom boob tingle. Also think I have a pot belly developing (water retention?)

I am mildly freaking as a Pyrex dishi was using just exploded and flew shards and long sharp spears at me. It was on the work top so they all flew right at my midrif. All seems totally ffine, nothing even got through my tee shirtthat I can see! i dont want to be melodramatic but it was just a horrible moment where I truly thought I was impaled with spears of razor sharp Pyrex. My legs are all wobbly. Be careful putting cold food into hot Pyrex everyone!

barebranches Wed 05-Jun-13 19:13:41

welcome luci

i have no symptoms today... i am very tired but that might be because work is busy rather than the bean grin
still got loads of work to do.. just want to lay on the sofa!

OMGherewegoagain Wed 05-Jun-13 20:00:56

Dawn so sorry to hear you didn't get the answers you wanted yesterday....the waiting must be so annoying, but it's really early days so whether they see everything on the scan is really hit and miss. Know it must be difficult and I'd like to give you a hug, try to focus on the positive and we're here if you need us.

Welcome and congratulations to the newbies - Feb is looking like a busy month already

littlest I definitely feel more then less pregnant even over the course of the day....my symptoms are much worse by the afternoon, end of the day, they were first time around too - not sure why its called morning sickness, the evening was always much worse for me

bare I'm with you on just wanting to lie down on the sofa and stop - yes please! Work is really busy at the moment and my DS is like zebadee, have started putting In the night garden on before bedtime because I really need 15mins sitting down he really enjoys it smile

Right must dash DH has been slaving over a hot stove to make tea and its ready and I'm starving - yum!

Picklelilliy Thu 06-Jun-13 08:05:41

Hi Everyone, Can I hop on the bus? I had my BFP on Monday, i'm 4 +3 with DC2 and we've been ttc for 12 months. No symptoms other than a bit of tiredness (although DD who is 2 has been waking at 5am all week so that may have something to do with it). EDD 10th Feb.

Feeling slightly apprehensive as a couple of my close friends have miscarried recently so praying for a sticky one but staying positive. Have already POAS twice and am fighting the urge to go and buy a CB digital, is this just me?

Here's to the next 8 months ladies smile

amicusapple Thu 06-Jun-13 08:21:05

Hi to all the joiners.

I've been spotting since last night hmm
Slowly getting more red. Not feeling any significant cramping or anything but have got some back pain. Due to have my first midwife appointment today at 2pm so will see what she says. Trying to stay optimistic.

vix206 Thu 06-Jun-13 08:32:03

Amicus I'm sorry you're spotting, take it easy today.

vix206 Thu 06-Jun-13 08:32:15

Welcome Pickle grin

Bunnygotwhacked Thu 06-Jun-13 08:59:42

Ive been away from thread for a bit as I was feeling a bit of a fraud not getting many symptoms however morning sickness has whacked me over the head this morning and i feel so so grim. Hope you are doing ok Dawn and amicus fingers crossed for you both

Apparentlychilled Thu 06-Jun-13 10:46:22

MrsSpencerReid- I'm also in Yorkshire and expecting an early one- DD arrived at 37 weeks and DS at 36 weeks (and while in labour, I kept arguing w midwife that I couldn't possibly be in labour as he wasn't due for a month yet...!).

Anyone else got morning sickness yet? Feeling really queasy today and really want sympathy, but no-one knows yet!

Apparentlychilled Thu 06-Jun-13 10:48:22

Sorry Bunny- I see that you're having the lovely nausea too. Here - have some dry toast.

And keeping fingers crossed for Dawn and Amicus.

littlestgirlguide Thu 06-Jun-13 11:42:40

5 weeks today, and finally a symptom! Proper morning sickness this morning, I actually felt sick still lying down and heaving when I stood up, wasn't actually sick though but I guess theres time!

pickle you are not the only one! Clear Blue digital did stop my craving though when it said 'pregnant' no is it a line/isn't it a line there.

amicus and dawn, keeping my fx for both of you.

vix206 Thu 06-Jun-13 11:44:20

All day nausea here confused

jellyandcake Thu 06-Jun-13 13:30:05

I've picked up a dose of gastroenteritis - according to the NHS Direct lady. I phoned in a panic after a night of non stop vomiting, terrified I was going to develop hyperemesis, however she said as it's accompanied by fever and (sorry!) diarrhea she diagnosed a nasty tummy bug. Starting to feel vaguely human again but am now unpleasantly reminded of how grim nausea and vomiting really is and am apprehensive about if/when 'morning' sickness arrives!

Apparentlychilled Thu 06-Jun-13 13:32:31

poor you jelly!

I feel so grots I just want to tell everyone so I can get lots of sympathy but DH has veteod this! (he doesn't know I told a friend yesterday because I was in a bit of a flap - had PND twice before so was getting all agitated about the idea of getting it again, and he's away w work and I needed to talk about it).

purplypink Thu 06-Jun-13 14:14:14

Hi everyone,
I'm still mostly symptom free, just tired and grumpy in the evening.
I am still feeling Nervous and still buying tests, I never did this with the other 2 but its keeping me believing.
I don't have my mW app till 20th, and that will be week 7+3.
Thoughts are with all of you during worrying times x

meg2106 Thu 06-Jun-13 14:32:41

hello all.. found out a few days back that I am 4 weeks preg....due date 8th of Feb 2014.... i dont have any pregnancy symptoms yet ... GP said its still too soon.....

SamL88 Thu 06-Jun-13 15:36:39

Hi everyone,
VERY new to all of this stuff but my head is swimming a little bit and thought this would be the best place to get some kind of sanity!!
Found out that I'm due 8th Feb so 4 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first.
Putting this down to the fact that I'm beyond exhausted and feel rather rough.

meg2106 Thu 06-Jun-13 16:36:38

Congratualtion SamL88... its my first one too.. and same due date... same pinch smile

shopart123 Thu 06-Jun-13 17:04:12

Well had my first midwife appointment today and can't say im not disappointed with it. Thought with it being my first pregnancy they'd ask how I was feeling and even confirm I was preg but nope.. nothing apart from folder with stuff for me to fill in and a book to read. Still dont feel pregnant, know its early days but just wana know everything is ok sad ALSO she told me you might not get first scan til 14 weeks!!! This waiting is hard enough

meg2106 Thu 06-Jun-13 17:27:48

@shopart123 my first appointment was a couple of days ago and same experience... I even asked the GP if home preg test are accurate and she said they were.... I am not from the UK and my parents back home are not getting it, according to them the doc confirms if you're pregnant grin ...generation gap or strange trust the docs have on pregnancy test....

littlestgirlguide Thu 06-Jun-13 20:31:27

I remember being so disappointed with my first doctors appt when I found out I was pregnant with my first 4.5 years ago. Just the same, asked of I had done a home test and said he wouldn't bother, smiled and told me he would see me in 9 months and that was it :-/ didn't get a whole lot more when I saw my mw for the first time at about 8 weeks, she just asked some really basic questions like was it my first, had I ever miscarried, did I smoke, but they insisted in visiting me at home to check the house was clean!

Not expecting as much this time. I'm seeing my GP next Wednesday, I will be 5+6, and My SiL says I should lie and say I don't know my dates in order to get offered an early dating scan (although I do know my dates, exactly!) but I'm not sure!

littlestgirlguide Thu 06-Jun-13 20:33:41

shopart first scan at 14 weeks doesn't sound great - I'm sure my first one was 11 weeks last time...

vix206 Thu 06-Jun-13 20:37:38

Round here it is between 11 and 14 weeks. Just depends how busy they are.

MakeGlutenFreeHay Thu 06-Jun-13 21:13:38

Hi all - can I quietly sneak in here? I'm just over 5 weeks, but having had an ectopic last summer (with tube removed), an early miscarriage last month and having endometriosis I am trying to keep it quiet and not get my hopes up too much..... This will (hopefully) be my third.

I have a scan next week, and have been testing obsessively over the last few days because I am so worried about losing this one again, although I think I am calming down a bit now! Slight queasiness, and immense tiredness but otherwise ok so far.

shopart123 Thu 06-Jun-13 21:35:21

Just feel so disappointed sad she didn't even address me by name I just felt like a number which I suppose os what I am! On the plus side the ready steady baby book is pretty good and has answered quite alot of questions. Just hope my appointment is for the 11 week date rather than 14 smile have so many weddings and events coming up and antibiotics is the only excuse I have for no alcohol - anyone the same?

MakeGlutenFreeHay Thu 06-Jun-13 21:44:33

I got an early scan with my first because i said i was having pains. I was, but might have exaggerated to get a scan.... blush. Ironic that i ended up with a true ectopic a few years later... but if you are really worriedand want to check i recommend going back to your dr.

amicusapple Thu 06-Jun-13 23:05:39

So midwife went okay. She didn't seem overly concerned about the spotting other than if it gets worse to get back in touch and she'll book me for a check up (early scan?). It has got a little bit worse but no cramps so quietly hopeful it'll stop soon.

It's all a bit overwhelming when your just trying to get used to the idea of being pregnant!

Hope everyone else is well smile

Thingymajigs Fri 07-Jun-13 07:24:14

I got a 3+ on a clearblue. I feel so much better now. I took one yesterday at 4+6 and it said 2-3 which was right but made me start to worry because I was cramping quite a bit. At exactly 5 weeks its now 3+. Those tests are amazingly accurate.
We are going for a private reassurance scan in 2 weeks because we appear to have turned into neurotic nutjobs and can't wait any longer. grin
How is everyone doing?

Thingymajigs Fri 07-Jun-13 07:27:14

Hope everything is ok amicus. I know someone who had full periods during her pregnancy which caused a lot of stress but everything was fine and that "baby" is now sitting her GSCE's.

vix206 Fri 07-Jun-13 07:44:29

Morning all. Just forced my toast down, so nauseous at the moment confused

littlestgirlguide Fri 07-Jun-13 08:45:21

Urgh, DH has made coffee and and the whole house smells of it. Barf. Washed my coffee mug up at work yesterday having forgotten to the night before, and nearly threw up in the tearoom sink :-/ I take it this is the dreaded morning sickness kicking in then!

vix206 Fri 07-Jun-13 10:14:17

I just feel like I am constantly disgusted by everything. I'm having to watch my facial expressions as everything makes me want to heave.

Have just discovered digestive biscuits really help though.

I'm sat in office with DH and he's drinking coffee, making me want to throw up too. I gave up coffee as soon as I found out (just paranoid about everything after MC) and haven't wanted one since. The smell is disgusting to me now!

MakeGlutenFreeHay Fri 07-Jun-13 10:49:24

I'm slightly worried about MS this time, as previously toast and bovril has really helped. However, just before this BFP I was in discussion with the dr about being tested for celiac/gluten intolerance, and he has told to me to cut out all gluten while pg just in case i actually am.....so toast/digestives etc are out! Really hoping it won't be an issue this time and I will magically escape the dreaded vomits!

MakeGlutenFreeHay Fri 07-Jun-13 10:50:09

Big sympathies to all those already hit by it. And good morning to all.

SamL88 Fri 07-Jun-13 11:29:17

I'm so glad the morning sickness hasn't hit me yet. It's just the exhaustion that is getting to me. Luckily I have a job that requires minimal exercise (sat at a desk) but I'm finding I can't stay focused on a task for longer than 10 minutes. I'm also a singer and had a gig last night and I found myself napping in the interval - SO unlike me!!
I have the busiest diary and never stop doing things or running around, my BF is always telling me to slow down.
Please tell me this is just a phase of early pregnancy?!!

vix206 Fri 07-Jun-13 11:53:37

Sam, I think it is just a phase. For me the first 10 weeks were really tough, then I was fine until around 28 weeks when I developed sciatica which kept me from sleeping more than an hour at a time...

Without that I probably would have been fine until I hit around 34 weeks and felt really huge and uncomfortable. DS was born in August 2010 so I was at my heaviest in the hot summer, I'm hoping a winter baby will be easier to carry!!

SamL88 Fri 07-Jun-13 12:10:10

Thanks Vix, I'm sure all the endless 'thinking' doesn't help! I almost feel as though I want to take a test everyday just to make sure I'm not going crazy.
Hopefully we'll all look lovely during the "summer" months/days just in time to get massive for winter. Couldn't have timed it better really!

vix206 Fri 07-Jun-13 12:34:24

Going to attempt an update on the stats thread in a bit..

Bunnygotwhacked Fri 07-Jun-13 14:11:30

no morning sickness today for me perhaps yesterday was a bit psychosomatic. I am having would say tmi but this is a preg thread and lets face it it's going to get graphic at times a slight pink tinge when I wipe any and am getting a bit crampy now any chance you reckon it could just be a case of better late than never implantation bleeding?

MakeGlutenFreeHay Fri 07-Jun-13 15:46:43

Quite possibly - especially if only a tiny bit. I believe slight bleeding in first trimester is quite common. All fingers crossed for you, take care.

barebranches Fri 07-Jun-13 16:19:49

home early from work and im getting straight in to bed and sleeping!! sooo tired!!!

vix206 Fri 07-Jun-13 17:26:50

Bunny. It could be breakthrough bleeding as its around the time of your period. Fingers crossed its nothing to worry about x

amicusapple Fri 07-Jun-13 17:35:55

Hey bunny. The midwife I spoke with said its really common to have some slight bleeding. She said i should call if it gets wavy or if cramps get painful. Fingers crossed its nothing serious.

Apparentlychilled Fri 07-Jun-13 19:31:59

Hey all.
Anyone else massively grumpy? DH went out for a "quick drink" after work (after working away all week) and now will be home about 9. And he doesn't get why I'm annoyed. He says it's not late, I said it's not considerate of his nauseous and pregnant wife when he said he'd pick up a pizza if I wanted.
His dinner (well, his share of our dinner) would be in the dog, if we had one.

littlestgirlguide Fri 07-Jun-13 23:43:12

It seems it's just the coffee making me feel sick. Managed to scoff quite a lot of cake today, at this rate I'll have gained an unhealthy amount of weight by the time baby arrives!

In other news, me and DH are getting on better than we have in months. It's like the BFP has lifted a fog of tension I hadn't even realised was there. I hadn't realised he was stressing about it as much as I was!

barebranches Sat 08-Jun-13 00:36:52

apparently im massively grumpy. just picked a fight woth dh and now laying in bed feeling angry for no reason....

Thingymajigs Sat 08-Jun-13 07:41:21

We are the same littlest. TTC for a year definitely began to take its toll and now it feels like we can relax a bit. Well, once the scan is over anyway.
I've lost 2lbs which definitely wasn't part of the pregnancy plan so I need to up my calories a bit.biscuit I'm sure by the end of the second tri I'll resemble a baby whale though so I'm not going to worry at this stage.

MakeGlutenFreeHay Sat 08-Jun-13 08:41:37

aparently yes, I am grumpy. Much more mood-swingy than I was with either of the ther two. Go to bed in the evening vowing to be a more patient and better mother - this morning I broke that vow by 7am after having had both of them climbing all over me for the past hour.... It's a weird feeling, I'm never usually one to suffer from mood swings!

Perhaps it's the current stress as well, being pg after two losses is bound to make me more twitchy. Roll on the scan!

Congratulations to littlest and thingy on your long-awaited BFP. Have a few biscuits!

lucidlady Sat 08-Jun-13 11:02:06

Ha DH has told me I am a right stroppy mare at the moment too - must be something in the air!

amicusapple Sat 08-Jun-13 11:18:35

added myself to the stats thread, hope that's okay smile

vix206 Sat 08-Jun-13 12:17:54

Yes of course amicus, sorry if I missed you off!! winkgrin

MakeGlutenFreeHay Sat 08-Jun-13 12:30:09

Stats thread?

MakeGlutenFreeHay Sat 08-Jun-13 12:30:38

(I'm new around this thread....)

vix206 Sat 08-Jun-13 13:09:20

There's a link to it near the start of this one, I can't link on my phone.

MakeGlutenFreeHay Sat 08-Jun-13 13:41:03

Ooh, you already added me! Thank you! <irrationally pleased>

randdom Sat 08-Jun-13 14:13:16

I got a positive test last night and again this morning. By my LMP I would be due on the 13th of Feb. I can't quite believe it and with all the things that can go wrong I am just not getting my hopes up. This is our first pregnancy and second month of trying.

Symptom wise my boobs are sore and I am shattered but no nausea as yet

Apparentlychilled Sat 08-Jun-13 16:52:21

I had a 2 hr nap late morning while Dh took the DC out hut am still pooped! DS hasn't slept yet today and is beside himself (but refusing to go off )- if he does I'm hoping to get another 30 mins.

I can't remember wen the tiredness passed before- 12 weeks-ish, I guess. Only 5.5 to go then...

homebyninethirty Sat 08-Jun-13 19:15:53

Congratulations everyone! Can I join please? Still in a state of shock because I was doing a naughty early test and didn't expect to see anything...This is our second cycle and first baby, EDD is 20th February.

lucidlady Sat 08-Jun-13 19:43:37

Congratulations randdom and homebyninethirty!

littlestgirlguide Sat 08-Jun-13 19:45:56

Wow, homeby, that is a very early BFP! That would make you 3 weeks?
Interesting to see everyone getting BFPs after only a few cycles TTC. Anyone else like me where it's taken 10 months? Glad I didn't hit the 12 months, I was feeling nutty enough about it as it was.
Been out with my Guides (yep, the pseudonym actually means something) today practicing pitching tents and cooking on camp fires and I'm absolutely bushwhacked. Came home at 4 and promptly fell asleep on the sofa for 2 hours, despite DD bouncing on me. Going to have an early night tonight as its DD's birthday party tomorrow and am entertaining 19 3 and 4 year olds for 2 hours!

Apparentlychilled Sat 08-Jun-13 19:52:44

I know what you mean littlest- when I nap at the moment I seem to literally pass out- my 2nd nap of the day (!) was 90 mins of not even moving. And I think I'll still be ready for an early night! Good luck w your Dd's party tomorrow!

barebranches Sat 08-Jun-13 20:27:39

im the opposite. not been sleeping well at all. angry and im exhausted...sad

spent the afternoon at a party with loads of preg women... wanted to join in the chats.sad hurry up 12 weeks!!!

bugsyburge Sat 08-Jun-13 20:31:22

hello. I had bfp this afternoon....think I'm due around end of Feb.

this will be my first baby & its all a bit of a very happy shock even though we have been trying for 6 months

hopefully I can get a doc appt early next week & they can tell me what to expect because I have no idea!!!! grin

Thingymajigs Sat 08-Jun-13 20:36:39

I'm not sleeping well either barebranches. I tend to be an early riser but 3 this morning was a bit ridiculous. I've been averging 5 hours a night. Glad I don't have sickness or extra tiredness to cope with on top of that. Hope your sleep pattern settles soon.

Thingymajigs Sat 08-Jun-13 20:39:45

Congrats bugsy. smile

OMGherewegoagain Sat 08-Jun-13 20:47:04

welcome and congratulations newbies!
I too am ridiculously tired and very emotional - don't remember the hormones being so strong last time, but I'm swinging a rollercoaster of tired to cross to weepy. Lots going on at work, which prob isn't helping, but feel rubbish because poor DS is not getting the best of me at the moment....

Like others am also not sleeping brilliantly at night - waking up at 4 and struggling to drop back off, DS up at 6ish. DH was a star and took him out for a couple of hours today, so managed to get a nap and a bath in this morning - luxury. Can't wait for this phase to finish....just read this back and I sound v.moany - sorry....

bugsyburge Sat 08-Jun-13 21:19:47

how did you all tell people? we want to tell our parents but don't know how, did you just blurt it out? also I can't count, u think I'm due around mid Feb but my periods used to all over the place so purely guess work with a bit of clear blue conception indicator thrown in!!!!

laura0007 Sat 08-Jun-13 21:33:22

I'm constantly tired too but don't get much chance to nap in the day due to working all hours godsends! I wake up in the night feeling ridiculously sick so hardly sleep at night either! Well it'll get worse I'm sure. There's no sleep for 18 years when baby gets here. Plus ill be a single parent so no chance of having a few hours off unless I can convince my parents!

meg2106 Sat 08-Jun-13 22:26:40

@bugsyburge... I sort of blurted it out..."you're gonna be grandparents"grin...we have just told our immediate families... will wait 12 weeks before telling friends...

Apparentlychilled Sat 08-Jun-13 22:32:14

Well, I've told my dad. Seeing rest of my family in 2 weeks at funeral, so will prob tell them then (which is after my next scan, as they couldn't see heart beat this week). DH will probably see his folks that day too and may tell them then. I'll be about 8.5 weeks then. I'll tell one or two close friends around the same time and everyone else from 12 weeks.

Ladybee Sun 09-Jun-13 03:33:25

Hi ladies! I'm about 6 weeks today I think so due around the 1st with a bit (a lot) of luck. I'm posting from the antipodes so will be around to keep you insomniacs company. This will hopefully be DC3, I have a fabulous DS who is 5, and lovely little DD 13 months. The gap in between DS and DD was bigger than we hoped for - I had three MCs in that time and DD's pregnancy I was under the care of a specialist clinic, injecting clexane, on aspirin, progesterone and then I got gestational diabetes and had to inject insulin too! She's worth it of course grin
I'm on the same treatment this time, had a couple of blood tests to see that hcg levels are rising properly, and will have a scan this week to check its not ectopic. Then scans every week from then. It's a roller coaster and the odds aren't great but I'm pleased I've got the chance at another miracle and hope ill be sticking with you all for the whole nine months!

homebyninethirty Sun 09-Jun-13 03:57:07

Hi Ladybee! I'm also posting from that part of the world, so will be able to keep you company...Am in New Zealand. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I only found out yesterday and was mightily surprised...fighting the urge to tell everyone at the moment but still early days for me so will hang on a little longer. Think my EDD is between 16-20th February...not 100% sure when!

jellyandcake Sun 09-Jun-13 08:07:49

We've told/are telling immediate family this weekend. My sister will think it's odd as she told no one til 13 week scan but I can't keep a secret! Have family birthdays coming up where everyone would guess the moment I turned down a drink anyway! Last time around my colleagues all guessed early as I was puking so much. I've got a hen do and a wedding coming up in July and I might just be open about it. I am useless at keeping secrets and honestly in the early weeks of feeling rough, I need the support!

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 12:20:15

Hello ladies....is anyone experiencing really bad cramping (like AF)? Found out yesterday and totally shell-shocked, happy, ecstatic but still a bit 'ohmy' if that makes sense! We haven't told anyone yet!

barebranches Sun 09-Jun-13 12:42:52

champagne yes i have. on and off all week. feels like my period but no bleeding and is on abd off rather than all the time.
im going to ask the doc about it... but ive been told its the womb stetching to accomidate pregnacy. it isnt nice though.

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 13:07:22

Thanks barebranches. I genuinely thought they were AF pains before! They are on and off not consistent too but they are worse in the evening (or maybe I notice them more!). I think I might book in a GP appointment but I'd be keen to know what your doc says!

Purple37 Sun 09-Jun-13 15:08:37

Hi can I join? Just got my bfp this morning in sainsburys loos! and am in shock!! This will be my third but the others are 10 and 11 so a big gap!! I am 38 so am frantically trying to get my head round it even tho I know it's very early days!!!

barebranches Sun 09-Jun-13 15:23:34

ill let you know champagne mine are evening too... but have also been day time. think the might be dying down though now... im 5 weeks.

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 15:32:10

barebranches I think I am experiencing exactly the same as you then. According to my dates I'm coming into 5 weeks now too.

Purple Congrats!! I was in shock yesterday when I found out so I know how you feel!! You have built in babysitters there to help you! wink.

Purple37 Sun 09-Jun-13 15:37:48

Thanks champagne, I came staggering out of sainsburys loos and said to some poor unsuspecting woman " is that a cross?!" She will probably never recover!!!!!!

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 15:54:22

Hahahaha, that's really funny!! That's like something out of a sketch show grin!

Thingymajigs Sun 09-Jun-13 16:18:20

Haha, that's brilliant purple. grin My sons are 13 and 10 so I'll have a big age gap too but for is its perfect. I wouldn't have it any other way.
It was a shock for us too but that was mainly due to TTC for a year with no luck.
Hello to everyone joining the thread. smile

TeaAddict235 Sun 09-Jun-13 18:40:01

Hey ladies, can I join in too? My EDD is 14th Feb, and this will be our first child. Been cramping all week as was expecting AF, and not been sleeping at all well.

Bit stressed, but don't want the stress to affect the baby manager is a nightmare is all I will say

But congratulations to you all. So good to have others that you can turn to in exactly the same position. We were TTC about 2 months but only DTD about once a week. So am very shocked still.

homebyninethirty Sun 09-Jun-13 19:19:02

Hi and congratulations TeaAddict smile

You sound just like me - this is also our first and was totally convinced I was out this month because I had cramps just like AF. We'd also been trying for 2 months and are still in shock tbh! I'm not totally sure about my ED as I get a few days of spotting before my period but think it's somewhere between the 16th-20th Feb...How long are you going to wait before you tell people? I am practically bursting to tell someone but a little scared to...

homebyninethirty Sun 09-Jun-13 19:34:00

Hello champagne and barebranches - I was on the magical flying June bus with you both...albeit, a very infrequent poster smile. Am so glad I'm not the only one getting cramps...will you let me know what the doctor says?

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 19:41:26

Hello homebyninethirty - there is a lot of us magical June flying bus ladies getting BFP's - It's great, and I hope it continues!!

I've still been having AF type cramps again today and it is concerning me I have to admit! No bleeding or spotting just these annoying crampy feelings. Oh and I'm bloated! I heard it is normal.....but I can't help feeling a tad concerned! I am tempted to book in an appointment at the GP's to ask....

TeaAddict I am dreading going to work tomorrow as I have a really stressful week ahead (stressful job rather than a nightmare manager but I get how you feel). II'm not getting many pg symptoms at the moment but I have come to the conclusion that I can only do what I can do!

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 19:43:06

Oooh and I wanna tell our parents, but I kinda want the cramping to stop first....! confused

laura0007 Sun 09-Jun-13 19:51:02

Well I've just had an email from my bfp's daddy. He has said he wants nothing to do with the baby. He doesn't want to know when it's been born, the sex or anything. He hasn't got any money to give and he wants no part of family life. And the best part....I got pregnant on purpose apparently. I was on the pill and took it everyday without fail so I think he's just trying to blame me. So I'm feeling a bit sad for my unborn child who will grow up not knowing its daddy. Men are shits. Life sucks sometimes

littlestgirlguide Sun 09-Jun-13 20:02:03

Oh, Laura :-(
That sucks. The person who is really going to miss out though is him. Plenty of children whose dads don't want to know grow up happy as anything, my mum is one of them. You have more than enough love for both of you I'm sure. Stay strong x

TeaAddict235 Sun 09-Jun-13 20:06:03

Thanks ChampagneBubble, congratulations to you too. I'm going to avoid my manager as much as possible, until I have to. I know that I'll have to have an update meeting soon, but I'll just have to stomach it and soldier on. The project I'm working on officially ends in October-November, and I've basically done it. But he wants every pennies worth of the contract. Tight bastard.

Umm, about the telling other people thing, I'm not sure. My FIL is really ill at the moment and so I don't think that we should say anything until he is in the all clear. I really want to tell my mum, but man is she a chatterbox: the whole church congregation would know by next sunday, I kid you not.

So sorry to hear about this Laura0007, that stinks. Hold on, and let us know how you are doing. It's not fair that men can "opt-out".

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 20:11:53

Oh no Laura, so sorry to hear that. He might come round? Maybe give him some time. The one certainty is that the baby will have a loving mum though. ((hugs)).

TeaAddict oh dear....sounds like avoiding is the best strategy then!

bugsyburge Sun 09-Jun-13 20:16:24

evening all smile

I'm also having the cramping & it comes and goes it waves. I'm going to make an appt with the doctor this week anyway so I'll mention it then but I'm sure its nothing.

eeek this is all very exciting grin

feekerry Sun 09-Jun-13 21:02:38

hello ladies!!!
didn't expect to find a club already for next Feb!!! wow
i got a bfp thurs just gone and by my rubbish estimations i must be around 4 weeks. i am still bf dd1 so haven't had many periods and they have been v irregular so not much to go on but i am sure i had one mid ish may so can't be much more than 4 weeks. digi test said 1-2 weeks since conception but heard they are not v reliable lol.
so, sorry if covered earlier but what's the protocol for 2nd and onward babies?
basically not doing the whole pfb thing i did with dd of making an urgent gp appt at 3 weeks pg lol. so do i just book an appt with midwife when i estimate i will be about 8 ish weeks????
xx

Champagnebubble Sun 09-Jun-13 21:18:52

I'm not sure really......looking at my local PCT you can self refer online at 6 weeks. But it also says to call your GP who may want to see you.......I have no idea though (but it's my 1st!)

laura0007 Sun 09-Jun-13 21:30:09

Thanks ladies. Knew I cold rely on you for a bit of support. I'm ok, just feel sorry for my baby. Ill be mummy and daddy though and my parents are wanting to be involved so it will have male influences. Still sucks though. I always thought I'd be settled down and married before I had children but life doesn't always work out how you plan it does it!

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 00:55:25

Oh Laura, sorry to hear he's being a shit, but great to hear that you still have RL support from your folks. Stay strong.

Hello to all the new joiners! Feekerry- I'm preg with my 3rd. I rang the midwife after I got my bfp and arranged my booking in appointment. I think if in doubt, ring your surgery- they'll tell you if you need to see your GP too or not (absent any concerns, around here, there's no GP involvement). I'm seeing my GP on 26 June, when I'll be about 8 weeks or so.

Ladybee Mon 10-Jun-13 02:06:39

Hi homeby where in NZ are you? NZ has a great maternity system with the independent midwives. I was a bit gutted that I didn’t get to experience it with DD, so I’m hoping to do some kind of combination with a normal midwife and just using the High Risk team physicians. I’m going to head to a midwifery centre today to have a chat to see whether that’s possible at all.

I’m not having much cramping like AF, but I do remember that from first time round. That and slightly increased discharge (TMI, but oh, it’s going to get so much worse…) makes you keep jumping up convinced that it’s all over and bleeding is starting. I think it’s just the bean irritating the uterus a bit while it beds down nice and comfy. Those twangs when you get up suddenly are normal too – I think it’s round ligament pain. My big tip for this time is to always make sure you have both feet on the ground and your body is all facing the same direction if you’re going to sneeze or cough – owwww if you do that twisted.

Purple37 that’s very funny, you probably made her day!
TeeAddict try not to worry about stress affecting baby – they survive earthquakes and war zones, so even a bastard boss shouldn’t do too much harm.
Laura - so sorry to hear your bub’s father is being a complete arse. Must make it a difficult prospect face, and it is really sad for your baby. Do you think you’ll send updates anyway? He may come around to the idea once he’s had some time to process it all and sees you just trying to keep him in the loop. BTW, I don’t know whether it’s the case everywhere but even if he doesn’t WANT to be financially liable, I would bet he IS financially liable for child support. You should find out either way.

homebyninethirty Mon 10-Jun-13 02:24:05

Thanks so much for the reassurance ladybee - it's exactly like you described it...am constantly pant-checking smile. Am in Auckland and have heard excellent things about the maternity system here...am looking forward to using an independent midwife. Where abouts are you?

Purple37 Mon 10-Jun-13 06:11:18

Well had forgotten about the pregnancy paranoia!! Decided test must have been wrong so did the second one at 10pm, still bfp, not slept at all, convinced myself BOTH tests were wrong so in desperation have used an opk stick which has a really dark line on it!! Phew! Resigned myself to no sleep now as I need to get up for work in less than an hour, how is everyone else doing??

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 07:22:19

not much sleep here either- went to bed at 10.30, woke when dh came to bed at 11, then awake from 12 till 1.30, then dh got up at 5.45 ( so woke briefly) and then dh kissed me goodbye at 6.15. i feel like death!

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 07:58:52

I am sleeping for England at the moment!! Was asleep before 8 last night and up at 7 this morning with DS. Was awake a few times in the night but must've got 10 hours. Been like this all week! 7+2 today and happy to be further on than I was when I miscarried in March.

I'm struggling with nausea and it gets worse as the day goes on which is why I'm crawling into bed as early as I can every night.

Welcome to all the newcomers, we are growing in numbers!grin

Camwombat Mon 10-Jun-13 08:59:44

wow, there's a Feb group already!
I'm expecting no2 and boy so far is it different to dc1. my bathroom and I are good friends! wink

FoxMulder Mon 10-Jun-13 09:34:05

Hi fellow June bus-ers! And everyone else I've not met yet!

Got a BFP last week, first month of trying for first baby so really surprised but over the moon. Still cant believe it. Am 5+5 with a due date of 10th Feb. Just called GPs for booking in appointment with midwife, I've gotta wait over 2 weeks! Boo!

No symptoms as yet except for an intermittent tummy ache. But it could just be nerves.

Not told anybody yet. Kinda want to tell the parents but want to wait too. It's quite likely I will give it away with my face: every time anyone mentions anything to do with babies I blush wildly. It's not a very helpful trait.

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 09:41:41

Vix- I'm usually the same- I had 3.5 hours of naps on Saturday and felt dreadful yesterday so God knows what's going on w my sleep. And congrats on getting past your MC date. I'm starting to feel like this is real. Until the scan last week I wasn't letting myself thing about it, but this one is def in the right place- though I felt so diff than I did last Oct, I was still v nervous about anor ectopic.

The queasiness seems to be here to stay. I don't really seem to get hungry, just nauseous. Anyone else the same?

Fox- congrats on your bfp! And I know what you mean about feeling self conscious- I feel like i keep talking about babies and really want to tell people. We were at a friend's house yesterday and she kept talking about how our DC (4.5 and nearly 2) are so much easier all of a sudden and how glad she is to be past the baby stage. Erm.....!

FoxMulder Mon 10-Jun-13 09:46:09

Oh shit, after just posting that I went to the loo and I've got some brown bleeding. Do I need to tell someone?

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 09:56:29

Fox a little bit of brown spotting isn't necessarily a problem, but I think the thing to do is keep a close eye on it and if it becomes heavier or you start to have pain to call your mw or EPU. I'm sure someone will be along shortly who has more experience of this. Good luck.

Glowbuggy Mon 10-Jun-13 10:07:14

Hi, can I join? Congratulations Everyone.

Looks like I'm due Valentines Day with DC2. I'm so nervous as I don't feel pregnant at all, last time I had sore boobs, upset tummy, sick, tired. This time the only reason I decided to take a test was because I got a blood nose. The only other time I've ever had a blood nose was when I found out I was pregnant with DC1.

Sorry I can be a bit of a worry wart x

Glowbuggy Mon 10-Jun-13 10:08:48

Hi Fox - just wanted to add that I had brown spotting on and off with my last pregnancy, all was fine but still tell your midwife.

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 10:18:17

ps Fox I had some pink spotting in my first pregnancy (often the day after having had sex) and she's now 4.5, and it was a problem free pregnancy.

FoxMulder Mon 10-Jun-13 10:24:20

Thanks guys, am freaking out a bit. I called the midwives, which was a first, and she said it might just be implanting (can that still be happening this late?) but that I can go for a scan on Thursday if I like. Think I will.

And now my boss has seen me having lots of phone calls with my office door shut and has asked me if I'm OK about a hundred times, because I'm obviously not. I don't know what to tell him, he's really nice I don't really want to lie.

FoxMulder Mon 10-Jun-13 10:27:02

And I'm a really shit lier...

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 10:35:07

It depends on what your relationship is like w your boss. When I was pg w DD, I had an early scan and ended up telling my boss, who was a good guy and who I trusted. Hang onto hope- it the mw was really worried, they'd get you a scan in a flash.

FoxMulder Mon 10-Jun-13 11:37:45

He's stopped looking at me quizzically. I think I'm off the hook, for now.

Brown spotting is continuing though.

TeaAddict235 Mon 10-Jun-13 11:51:14

Thanks Ladybee, that comment nearly made me laugh out loud in my office. But it is so true. God Bless you all.

Congratulations Glowbuggy and Fox Mulder, the more the merrier me thinks.

Vix don't feel guilty for going to bed at a normal /sane hour, its all for the growing one's good. Plus, others say that you'll lose loads of sleep in the first year after the birth. So enjoy it, your skin will look amazing I bet.

bugsyburge Mon 10-Jun-13 12:35:16

I rang the docs this morning & have an appt for next Wednesday. this is my first so I don't know what to expect, could anyone enlighten me?

so far at work today I have spent as disproportionate amount of time thinking about baby names, ingenious ways to avoid alcohol but without giving the game away & generally daydreaming grin

good luck with the spotting, as others have said I'm sure it's normal but try not to get too worked up, hopefully all will be ok smile

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 12:43:29

TeaAddict, if this one is anything like DS I will be hardly sleeping at all for the first year!! shock

Fox, welcome but I'm sorry to hear about the spotting. Just try and take it easy, hopefully it is nothing to worry about.

feekerry Mon 10-Jun-13 12:52:31

bugsy with my first i had a doc apt first who just quickly ran thru the do and don't' and they booked me an apt with midwife at about 9 weeks.

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 13:39:51

I've attempted a mass update of the stats list again, any missing details or people - sorry! Its a long list now!!

Thingymajigs Mon 10-Jun-13 14:28:04

I'm having hot flashes. confused I had to tell work I was pregnant because my boss wanted to know why my chest, arms and face had gone bright red. This seems to coincide with dizzy spells. I'm glad I told them though because they looked after me and were lovely.
I hope hot flashes aren't going to a permanent fixture this pregnancy.
<goes to stand near an open freezer>

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 14:28:52

Does anyone else just feel really kind of blocked up in their tummy?- I don't seem to get hungry but just queasy if I don't eat carbs every few hours. So far today, I've had porridge for breakfast, toast mid morning and then cheerios for lunch (as the thought of proper food makes me want to throw up).

FloJo151 Mon 10-Jun-13 14:34:55

hi ladies can I join. just got my BFP this morning smile . Got 2 ds's already so this will be dc3. Am trying to be very calm about it all but inwardly am worrying lots as had a chemical preg/early mc last aug, Never felt overly worried with either ds's even though I had a little bleeding/cramps with both of them, but the mc in aug has really thrown me. we started ttc last july so this bfp has been a while coming (well for us anyway as both ds's were conceived first month of trying!)
sending lots of hugs to everyone else who's worrying too!

FloJo151 Mon 10-Jun-13 14:35:47

whoops ment to say according to the due date calculator im due 16th feb

feekerry Mon 10-Jun-13 14:43:46

bfp are coming thick and fast now. congrats everyone!! i am off to look at due dat calc now but was 16 days over last time so won't hold out much hope!
x

shopart123 Mon 10-Jun-13 14:55:52

Got my scan date through - 24th july ahhh cant wait!!!! Anyone else got 12 week scan through?

feekerry Mon 10-Jun-13 15:09:34

whoop whoop!
i just rung the docs and apparently i have to see a doc before i can see a midwife before they can book my scan... so i am seeing doc tomorrow who will book my scan and my booking in apt is 23rd July when i should be around 10 weeks so scan will be shortly after.
seems like a long old time doesn't it??!!

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 15:22:51

How exciting feekerry! It does sound like ages, but it'll fly by, I'm sure.

My early scan indicated that I was earlier than my dates suggest, which means my 12 week scan will be quite late- I guess end of July or beginning of August even. Anor early scan next week, and midwife at the end of June (which feels like ages away).

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 15:51:42

YY with the queasiness. I have to eat every hour or I feel terrible. Just want carbs. And I can't face proper meals. I was just the same with DS, it isn't fun but I feel lucky not to be actually throwing up.

No scan date yet, booking in appt isn't until next Monday but I will be 12 weeks mid July so hopefully it'll be some time then!

Apparentlychilled Mon 10-Jun-13 15:56:06

yep, just carbs and fat with both DC. Chips, bread and Greggs' sausage rolls kept me going for 9 months. If anything, it's amazing I didn't end up the size of a house. That said, I only weighed myself once per pregnancy, and then refused to do so again from sheer shock!

jellyandcake Mon 10-Jun-13 16:25:54

Well I'm over my stomach bug - slept for about two days straight! I'm now freaked out that I don't feel tired or sick at all so am scared my symptoms have vanished. I hate all this worrying! I'm miserable if I feel ill and panicked if I don't!

barebranches Mon 10-Jun-13 16:53:54

whohooo got my first appointment next week. receptionist said there wasnt a rush (i was hoping for this week!) its all starting to feel real now!!!! grin

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 17:31:46

I put on 2 stone last time shockshockshock

All came off very quickly though, DS was a milk monster which really helped!!

feekerry Mon 10-Jun-13 17:53:52

i had the hideous hg last time round. hospitalized twice and off work for 12 weeks. i pray to whoever that i don't get it this time. pls pls pls noooo!!!
so far am fine and think it kicked in last time about 5 weeks so its like waiting for a time bomb .....

lucidlady Mon 10-Jun-13 18:38:11

feekerry my booking in appointment is also 23 July!

Is anyone else finding they're getting really bloated? I don't think I'm even 5 weeks yet but I swear I look like I did when I was 12 weeks gone with DD. argh. How am I goin to hide this????

vix206 Mon 10-Jun-13 18:40:41

I'm really bloated too. Start the day slim and end it looking 4 months pregnant!!

mrscookie78 Mon 10-Jun-13 19:10:54

can u join in too? im due number 2 between 8-20th February smile

tata82 Mon 10-Jun-13 19:33:01

Hi everyone! I hope I can join you? I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby and it is all very exciting but still very abstract! I have been feeling very tired and I get sick a few times a day, but it doesnt seem to last very long... I have been reading your posts and there seems to be lots of short versions of words... and I do not really know what they stand for! smile are they listed somewhere?

rueyrichardson Mon 10-Jun-13 21:42:05

Please may I join you too? Expecting DC2 around 10 Feb. Can't remember being so bloated or so queasy this early last time round, although I do seem to remember munching my way through 42 weeks. This time I will definitely not consume so many pies smile

Ladybee Mon 10-Jun-13 22:33:17

tata there's an acronyms link in the Talk menu ^ up there ^
Oh I definitely remember the nausea and bloating. DH made a curry last night for dinner, which was nice, but the smell in the kitchen this morning is unbearable. I keep walking in and walking out again.
I've got to go to the supermarket and I have a feeling my trolley is going to be full of salty snacks - I existed on peanut butter last time. Feekerry I hope you don't get HG this time - did you take any meds for it?

SamL88 Mon 10-Jun-13 23:18:59

I can't believe how bloated I am! It's rather painful by about 9pm and I look like there's a full on baby inside rather than a sesame seed (I'm obsessed with my app about the size I the baby!).
Does anyone else feel like they have period pains/cramps throughout the day? I'm not sure if I should be worried but I've got no sickness, just have cramps that sometimes can take my breath away.
It's so nice to see so many people join!!!

barebranches Tue 11-Jun-13 06:34:58

hi sam
look up thread. A few of us have this. mine seems to have stopped now but the cramping was worrying. really felt like AF.
ive not really had any new symptoms yet... except being so so tired!

SamL88 Tue 11-Jun-13 07:45:47

Sorry, I did after I had posted! Hopefully the cramps will die down. I must admit, this week I feel a hell of a lot more 'with it' than I did last week. I had to leave a wedding in order to go back to the hotel and nap on Saturday - I just couldn't keep my eyes open. I have a gig tonight so hoping this new found energy will last until midnight tonight!

FoxMulder Tue 11-Jun-13 08:29:13

Morning all. I had to leave work yesterday afternoon because I was freaking out about the spotting that I thought was getting worse. It's not really though actually still brown spotting but I've taken the day off work anyway because I'm too frightened to pretend to be OK at work.

I did a cleablur digi this morning and it is still saying 1-2 weeks! How's that I'm 5+5 now?! (I know the first is since conception and the second is since LMP but nonetheless it doesn't work) Haven't even DTD in the last 2 weeks. I guess it it wrong but my hCG must be low. What does that mean?

Got an early scan on Thursday. They said they couldn't do it before 6 weeks as they wouldn't see anything, but at this rate I don't think they'll see anything anyway.

OK, sorry for freaking out. Am chilling out now smile Is everyone else ok?

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 11-Jun-13 08:32:24

I have a doc appointment on Thursday and I am finding it hard to concentrate on much else!

I get twinges low in my pelvis when I stand, stretch or cough to quickly. I have come down with a regular bout of sinusitis so I am sneezing and coughing then getting worried about all the squeezing this is causing on the bean. Hope it's holding tight.

wplum Tue 11-Jun-13 08:50:34

Hello, i hope its ok to join? I got bfp on Friday, it still hasnt really sunk in! This will be dc2, first with my new Husband.
The cramps some of you are describing are spot on, just like a period is about to arrive. Thats the only similar feeling to my last pregnancy, this time my nipples are on fire and i feel a bit sick in the evening.
foxmulder im glad you are chilling!

bugsyburge Tue 11-Jun-13 11:50:06

morning all, try not to worry too much Fox. think positive, hopefully it will all be spot on for all of us. I'm not seeing the doc til next wednesday, seems forever away!!!!!

wplum Tue 11-Jun-13 13:10:19

Same here, bugsyburge i have the docs next Wed too.
I cant get enough ginger ale, im addicted, was never fussed for it before!

Thingymajigs Tue 11-Jun-13 14:19:26

I hope the scan goes ok fox. I can imagine you must be worried but the tests aren't always very accurate.
Hello to all the newbies.
Can't believe some of you have 12 week scans booked already! Don't think mine will happen until the beginning of August but I can't make a booking appointment for another 3-4 weeks. I'm having a private scan in less than 2 weeks though then I'll get on with the midwife appointment.

littlestgirlguide Tue 11-Jun-13 14:44:50

Hi all! I've come down with a horrible dry tickly cough, can anyone recommend a decent cough medicine that I'm allowed to take?
Got the doctors tomorrow afternoon, I will be 5+6. What's the earliest they can detect a heartbeat?
Paranoid about missed miscarriage. My SiL lost a baby 18 months ago at 6 weeks but didn't find out till her 12 week scan, and I'm scared that will happen to me even though I've got no cause to be worried. Still getting some symptoms, knackered, queasy but not actually sick. Someone tell me to stop stressing!

EeyoreIsh Tue 11-Jun-13 15:35:58

Can I join?

Due 5 February. Second pregnancy, but last one mc between 7/8 weeks so I'm very nervous!

I've had spotting since bfp, off to see gp this evening. And hopefully get a referral to the epau.

<offers ginger tea and chocolate around>

Namechangingnorma Tue 11-Jun-13 15:38:41

Hi Ladies, I'm joining, BFP on Sunday, I'm 34 and fingers crossed this will be my first. I have had 2xmmc in the past but a long time ago with previous partners. DH and I got married last August and I already have a DSD who is a teenager (perfect babysitting age :-)). Terrified about mmc again, booked a docs apt next wed to let them know and get the ball rolling and hoping for an early scan due to my history. We have agreed not to tell anyone so lovely to be able to talk to people on here

TeaAddict235 Tue 11-Jun-13 16:45:56

Hello Wplum , Eyoreish and Namechanging, welcome aboard.

Wow, some of you ladies are really ploughing ahead with scans and stuff. I don't even think that my local GP knows that I'm registered with them. Never heard a peep after registering with them. I think that I'll leave it until about mid July before going up there. IKWYM littlestgirlguide, I am concerned about early mc too from familial experience.

Who said that they wanted all things salty? Meee tooo. I gobbled off some bags of Mccoys, before DH got in yesterday. And today after just one packet, I'm still contemplating munching on another one to tide me over.

DH mentioned something yesterday about us going swimming! what?! I've spent the past 5 years trying to get you motivated to do sport, come running with me, swimming, anything, and now that you see that I'm having an extra big bolognaise portion, you mention swimming? the joker! <<exhales>>

Ruggle Tue 11-Jun-13 18:08:53

Very early days for me...found out yesterday...and if all goes well, due around 14th Feb! Yay!

sunflowered Tue 11-Jun-13 20:45:30

Can I very tentatively join the club? I've had a succession of very faint lines today not that I've poas 4 times in a row or anything .

All being well this is number 1 for me and DH and should be due about 20th Feb smile We're settling into a village in Kent after moving from sarf london last year.

sunflowered Tue 11-Jun-13 20:47:03

I also bring cake - have been stocking up today while I can still manage it but there's plenty to go round

wplum Tue 11-Jun-13 21:16:12

sunfloweredif its carrot cake count me in. Congratulations on the lines, 4 tests can't be wrong!
Still feeling very crampy, taken paracetamol and now in bed with a cuppa.

EeyoreIsh Tue 11-Jun-13 21:55:32

Hi teaaddict I had my gp appointment and referral to epau because I lost my last baby three months after spotting. So I'm super cautious this time around, especially since I'm spotting again.

I've got my first scan on Friday morning. DH and I are nervous and excited.

Hope everyone else is well. These early times are tough! I had a two hour lunch time snooze today I was so shattered, and so I'm still catching up on work now sad

Cherryoats Tue 11-Jun-13 22:05:19

Hey all! Can I join too?
I am due 17th with number two smile
feekerry are you me? I also had hg starting at 5 weeks and had to be hospitolised, so I am counting down till next week, hoping hg doesn't show its face and eating yummy healthy (ish) things incase I can't again for a while.
sunflowered congratulations smile

sunflowered Tue 11-Jun-13 22:58:40

wplum carrot cake it is grin - hope the paracetamol did the trick.

cherryoats congratulations back. Fingers crossed that hg stays away. Retrospective congratulations to everyone else on the thread too - here's to a healthy 30-something weeks!

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 11-Jun-13 23:15:04

There is a lady who is looking enormous at 26 weeks at work. My boss (just back from mat leave) keeps making comments about how this woman doesn't know what a tough time is coming etc etc. Boss doesn't yet know that she is freaking me out with every comment ! Some other people have been dropping clangers regularly too!
Anyone else had any? Or any guesses?

SamL88 Wed 12-Jun-13 07:48:21

TeaAddict My doctor said that I was right to see her so early as the hospitals are rather booked up in advance for scan dates so the earlier you book, the closer to 12 weeks you'll get a scan. Went last Thursday and had a letter through yesterday saying my scan is 31st July.
All starting to seem real now!
Thisisfreakingmeout I've had one woman guess but it was a particularly bad day of symptoms for me so anyone watching closely could've guessed really! I too have a close colleague who is pregnant. I'm trying to not give the game away by asking her too many seemingly inappropriate questions.
And....congrats to all the new comers. It's getting full!!

Apparentlychilled Wed 12-Jun-13 08:11:53

Is anyone else eating their own body weight in carbs? I was feeling really sick this morning so made porridge. After a decent bowl, I still felt sick, so made another. Now in sitting here wondering if I need another...! Carbs/fat/sugar appear to be the only way to deal w my morning sickness.

FoxMulder Wed 12-Jun-13 09:00:55

I've not no symptoms whatsoever, which is worrying in and of itself.

jellyandcake Wed 12-Jun-13 09:37:31

Fox, I have no symptoms and tested with internet cheapie just now. It's come up negative. I have no spotting or bleeding or orbut it looks like this is it for me. I should be 5+5. Not sure what to do now, but am wishing we hadn't told our families. I feel stupid, like I just made he whole thing up in my head. I certainly did have several positive tests last week so I know I didn't imagine it but I guess it was just too early. I hope that you get good news - it seems like lots of people experience spotting and have healthy pregnancies.

rueyrichardson Wed 12-Jun-13 09:39:13

Mmm, yes, carbs fat and sugar help me too. I am resisting the urge to ladle peanut butter onto white toast and butter too much though. My jeans don't fit me already, muffin top galore.

tinypolkadot Wed 12-Jun-13 09:42:36

Hi everyone, I'm back after a couple of weeks away on holiday - and congratulations to you all!

Well, holiday was lovely apart from the constant worry about food, and I also had a couple of red blood on wiping instances, which I've put down to cervical bleeding and constipation, but really worried me. T Mobile have made a nice little profit from me buying data top ups abroad so I could Google every little thing!

I poas this morning and line showed up instantly which is a relief smile

We were on holiday with friends too, so they were all guzzling back the booze envy still, it was nice not to have a hangover.

I'm secretly glad to be home!

No more symptoms really, still got sore boobs and cramps. I've also burst into tears a couple of times, hope that doesn't happen at work!

I've got a form from my gp to fill in and then they will get in touch to make an appointment. Hope it happens soon!

ChocoFrog Wed 12-Jun-13 09:45:37

Hello to all the new bfp and congrats to you all. The bus is filling up nicely.

Feeling decidedly icky today. I'm at the point I had my mc last time round so I'm constantly expecting the worst. Even poas this morning just to check it was still positive! Going mad. grin Got my early scan tomorrow morning so really hoping I can feel more positive after that.

To everyone out there who is worrying I know how you feel and send you lots of cake and chocolate to help. It's what gets me through the day!

tinypolkadot Wed 12-Jun-13 09:49:03

Hi jelly so sorry about your news, and please don't feel stupid, your family will understand. Is there a chance it was a dud test?

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 10:47:01

Hi ladies, I went to see my GP about intense cramping and yellow cream cm. she said not to worry and can be normal. She said that bad cramping and blood then I should come back but on its own she is OK. hmm she also gave me a maternity black, gulp, it feels more real! Due date now revised to 12th Feb.....a kind of Valentines baby maybe! officially scared now! My only symptoms are cramping, sore boobs and intense hormone ups and downs - much worse than PMT - hope they calm down!

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 10:50:00

jelly get yourself to your doc I read somewhere that they can produce bfns inaccurately later on sometimes. It may or may not be that but the worth checking. So sorry to hear that.

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 10:51:07

I meant maternity pack not black. doh!

FoxMulder Wed 12-Jun-13 10:55:15

Oh no jelly I'm so sorry to hear that! Are you ok? Don't feel stupid about having told your families, I'm sure they'll want to support you with this.

vix206 Wed 12-Jun-13 11:00:14

Jelly go and buy one from a shop. After using Internet cheapies I wouldn't trust them. Good luck and whatever happens, don't feel stupid please xx

ChocoFrog Wed 12-Jun-13 11:15:05

Jelly please don't feel stupid. I'm sure your family will understand. But do get yourself checked. Tests can be wrong so put your mind at ease. fx for you.

jellyandcake Wed 12-Jun-13 12:04:58

Thanks - the doc did a test and it was negative as well. So was a clearblue I had. The doctor couldn't say for definite what happened but suspects that I conceived but it didn't implant and that I'll either get a normal period or re-ovulate and conceive again. I haven't really got my head around it and obviously very upset but I suppose it's so early that I could easily not even have known. And I have for comfort that dh and I have conceived easily so I am sure it will happen for us. Thanks for all the good wishes.

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 12:13:51

Hi Jelly I just want to say that I'm so sorry, I hope you are doing OK the best you can ((hugs))

ChocoFrog Wed 12-Jun-13 12:16:46

So sorry Jelly. Thinking of you and keeping my fx that you'll be back on one of these buses very soon xx

vix206 Wed 12-Jun-13 12:20:48

I'm so sorry Jelly, I know how disappointing it is. Here's hoping you conceive quickly again, I'm sure you will. Take care flowers

Apparentlychilled Wed 12-Jun-13 12:24:10

So sorry to hear that jelly

laura0007 Wed 12-Jun-13 12:40:03

Thinking of you jelly.

Has anyone else been getting hot flushes?

bugsyburge Wed 12-Jun-13 13:07:47

ah jelly, I'm sorry.....please don't feel silly-you're family will understand

hugs x

mrscookie78 Wed 12-Jun-13 13:13:57

Sorry to hear that jelly x

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 13:40:51

Hi Laura, can't say that I have.....although I work in an air conditioned office so I've been cold!grin

ChocoFrog Wed 12-Jun-13 13:49:15

Hi Laura I'm having a hot flush right now! blush

Thingymajigs Wed 12-Jun-13 13:53:15

I'm so sorry jelly. I hope you are getting a lot of support from your family right now.

Yes laura I got them yesterday. My boss commented on my red face, chest and arms and I kept on feeling sudden rushes of heat and dizziness yet my core body temperature was normal. I've googled and it does seem to be a pregnancy issue for some so nothing to worry about.

Cherryoats Wed 12-Jun-13 14:00:58

Thinking of you jelly flowers

Im having no hot flushes yet, but is anyone else feeling really run down? I didnt feel this run down with my first, I have already had an infection and anti b's in the last 2 weeks

Champagnebubble Wed 12-Jun-13 14:09:49

Cherry - yes for want of a better word I feel crap! Drained, tired etc!!

rueyrichardson Wed 12-Jun-13 17:03:39

So sorry Jelly x

Apparentlychilled Wed 12-Jun-13 18:49:03

Yep, also feeling run down and just had a monster cold sore.

amicusapple Wed 12-Jun-13 19:39:54

Hiya all and welcome to all the new passengers. We're gonna need a bigger bus at this rate grin

Been lying low for a while after some spotting but all seems okay and made it to 7 weeks today.

I'm a bit confused about what happens next?met the midwife last week who said she'd visit me at home for my booking in appointment. Do I just wait for her to send me an appointment?

Symptoms seem to be avoiding me other than dizziness when I get up too quick. I almost want a wee bit morning sickness!
ducks the fists of those suffering

212VIP Wed 12-Jun-13 19:55:31

Holy crap. Long thread already.
I'm still in shock.
Got some huge health conflicting problems which are stopping me from settling in or starting to enjoy my pregnancy.
Need to have a conversation with my surgeon first...
Congrats to everyone x

laura0007 Wed 12-Jun-13 20:03:48

Glad it's not just me then! I answered the door to the postman this morning with a red face and neck whilst fanning myself with a magazine. He looked a bit shocked as it was cold and raining outside!

EeyoreIsh Wed 12-Jun-13 20:26:28

gosh, I would love to have a hot flush! I'm freezing at the moment, I almost wore thick tights today.

I'm shattered too, I felt really run down this afternoon and thought I must be coming down with something. When I remembered I'm pregnant and just shattered! grin

OMGherewegoagain Wed 12-Jun-13 20:30:25

Hot flushes, carbs a plenty and super queasy here too....feeling alright and full of energy in the mornings (which is very unusual - I'm definitely more of a night owl normally). Sickness kicks in mid morning (cue filling my face with anything I can get my hands on blush) then really slump and could do with a nap post lunch....hmmm I wonder if they'd mind if I curled up under my desk grin - wouldn't that be nice....

Anyone else waking up at silly times in the morning? I'm seeing 3-4am far too regularly at the moment for my liking

laura0007 Wed 12-Jun-13 21:25:52

Well I'm still waking in the night about 1am feeling sick! The sickness holds off all day while I'm at work, then when I finally get into my lovely, comfy bed do I lie awake all night feeling sick! Typical, when I'm knackered too sad

Namechangingnorma Wed 12-Jun-13 21:44:15

Hi all, just checking in, sorry to hear your news Jelly, I have had two mmc in the past and had told everyone, this was quite some time ago and in previous relationship's so hoping it's going to be different this time. who has told people already and who have you told? I am dying to tell my parents as they will be over the moon but we have decided to wait (particularly due to my history)

212VIP Wed 12-Jun-13 21:51:29

Not told anyone yet. Not even DH.
Don't know what my spinal surgeon is going to say...

sunflowered Wed 12-Jun-13 22:29:19

Really sorry to hear your news jelly. How are you doing?

We're going to try not to tell anyone until (all being well) 12 weeks, but we're staying with my parents at the moment so that might be hard.

littlestgirlguide Wed 12-Jun-13 22:51:50

Sorry for your news Jelly

Doctors today - she has recommended an early scan due to my cycles being really messed up since having the implant removed last year. However doesn't think it will be for another month!

SamL88 Wed 12-Jun-13 23:08:53

So sorry to hear the news. It really is a very real reality and does make me feel a bit silly for wanting to tell everyone. But I'm just bursting to spill the beans every time I have a conversation with someone. So to get over the urge, I've started telling shop assistants, bus drivers, random crazy people on the street....anyone who I don't actually know but can congratulate me!!

Namechangingnorma Wed 12-Jun-13 23:26:40

Ha ha Sam, i can totally relate to that, I am in the middle of a course of exercise which is quite hard work (Tabata) so had to tell the instructor so he could make sure everything is suitable without letting the rest of the class know. i loved telling him, he was honoured to be the only one aside from my husband and best friend (she guessed, couldnt lie)

Thisisfreakingmeout Thu 13-Jun-13 06:53:31

Jelly, sorry to hear your having a horrible time. The last thing you should feel is embarrassed. I hope things look up for you soon.

Docs today, I feel quite nervous even though it will hopefully be brief and routine.

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 11:15:17

God, this nausea is rough. less than 3 hours after a huge carby, sugary snack and I feel really queasy again. I can't surely eat again!

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 11:17:40

3 hours?! I'm having to eat hourly shockshockshock

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 11:20:28

Oh, that makes me feel better! Though, to be fair, it was a massive bowl of porridge and sugar, then 3 slices of bread w nutella and a cup of tea. shock! So it's not even that I'm eating good stuff!

I'm trying to comfort myself that with the first two I went through a phase of just wanting crap and it turned out OK (and I lost the 2.5 stone or so that I'd put on pretty easily). I just can't believe
a) how massive I am already (I promise- I think it'll only be a few weeks till I'm in mat gear); and
b) how much crap I'm eating.

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 11:47:52

I am with you ALL the way!! I just can't bear the nausea if I don't eat. DS kept me up all night (for no good reason either) and, because I was awake, I was so hungry/nauseous!!

ChocoFrog Thu 13-Jun-13 11:51:54

Been for my scan this morning. Not brilliant news but I'm holding out hope. Pregnancy in the right place, which after my ectopic is a massive relief, but it's not as far on as my dates would suggest. Just shows a sac and yolk. No fetal pole. My dates put me at 6+2 so would expect to see something. Got to go back next Friday and I'm just hoping my dates are slightly out. The waiting is the worst and feeling quite down about it all after last mc. Still got all my symptoms though so fx.

Sorry for the 'feeling sorry for myself' post sad

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 11:54:50

Choco I'm sorry the scan wasn't more positive but it is still very early so hopefully everything is ok. When are you going back for another check?

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 11:55:10

Oops sorry just saw, next Friday.

ChocoFrog Thu 13-Jun-13 12:01:11

In my head I'm being very sensible and saying early scans are notorious for not showing much but I think my hormones have got the better of me!

Ladybee Thu 13-Jun-13 12:07:58

Ah chocofrog, sorry to hear that, it's hard when they can't give you a definitive answer and you have to repeat scan. It IS possible that your dates are out - or rather that it took a while to implant so growth was delayed, or even that it was just in an awkward angle and not visible - hope they see something next time around. Keep busy.

212 - have you told your DH yet? It took me a couple of days to tell mine. I had a blood test and was referred to the RPL clinic before I clued him in.

I'm having the opposite of hot flushes -am permanently freezing. Thankfully nausea isn't increasing yet, just sticking at the feeling hungover 10 hours of the day, desperate to nap between 2 and 4 level so far.

Speaking of sleep, the pregnancy 4am waking, I thoroughly recommend a podcast on low to help you ack to sleep. Either a relaxing hypnotherapy one or something like Melvyn Bragg's In Our Time podcasts. I must have heard the first 10 minutes of hundreds of them in my last pg, before drifting back to sleep.

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 12:22:06

Chocofrog- I'm so sorry you didn't get to see everything. If it helps at all, my experience is v similar. I had an ectopic last October so had an early scan last week. I thought I was bang on 6 weeks pg, but they said it looked more like 4 weeks, so I'm going back again next week to try to see a heartbeat. My cycle was usually about 32 days, so being less pg than I thought kind of makes sense. They said that if the yolk sack and egg sack were in the right place and a good regular shape, that's all good and not indicative of any probs at this stage (which they were), so I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you too.

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 12:23:03

Ladybee- I'm with you on feeling like an iceberg. And my house is really cold at the best of times, so I feel like a total loon when I leave the house, with 3 jumpers on, only to realise it's not actually that cold (not that I'm removing any layers though!).

ChocoFrog Thu 13-Jun-13 12:34:09

Thanks LadyBee and chilled. Good to know I'm not the only one! Fingers crossed for you too and roll on next week.

mrscookie78 Thu 13-Jun-13 12:46:26

Hopefully your next scan will show more development Chocofrog. The dates we work out compared to scans rarely match up, not everyone ovulates and implants when we think.

Im nearly 5 weeks I think? im sooo cold all the time, glad its not just me
smile

bugsyburge Thu 13-Jun-13 13:29:42

I took another test yday, still positive thankfully!!!

I've had no symptoms apart from very tender boobs but that has started to ease now so I've been panicking that the pg has disappeared.

you're all having much more concrete symptoms than me, it's making me nervous!!!!

feekerry Thu 13-Jun-13 14:00:50

hello all. just checking in after a few days if horrid nights from dd.... not much fun.
sorry to see some have or are having worrying times. best of luck...x
i did another test today too just because the hypermesis hasn't kicked in yet so it worries me slightly but all was fine and it said 3 weeks since conception and last week said 2 so pretty sure i will be around 5 weeks now.
have had terrible up and down emotions....never had that with dd. i literally had to pull over in the car the other day as i was stuck in traffic and late and i had a total melt down. people driving past were like hmm

Picklelilliy Thu 13-Jun-13 16:08:34

Hi Ladies, sorry some of you are hung worrying times, everything crossed for all of us.

I'm 5+3 and the only symptoms so far are tiredness and bloating. Not feeling sick yet like I did with DD. Hoping it will kick in soon for reassurance (and then I'll be on here complaining that I feel sick hmm).

Anyone else ridiculously bloated already?

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 16:10:43

Seriously struggling today with hormones, nausea, sleep deprivation and an overtired almost 3 year old. I thought it was bad enough the first time round but its blinking tough with a toddler to entertain!!!

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 16:19:38

yy vix- cbeebie to get you through till bedtime? When I was pg w DS, DD watched so much tv that she could pretty much recite the whole of the Snow White DVD by the time he arrived...!

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 16:35:12

I've relied on cbeebies heavily all day, I called DH home from work at 4 (we run our own business, and it's just the 2 of us) so I'm relaxing now for an hour!

feekerry Thu 13-Jun-13 17:03:46

pickle i already look 8m preggers due to bloating

Tinkerbellefairy Thu 13-Jun-13 17:44:41

Hello ladies can I join? I'm 6weeks and got to say feeling rubbish! Been suffering so much from nausea including actual wretching and afraid to say cant stomach food to get rid of it either. Feel sick throughout day but even worse in evenings/early hours of the morning. Keep waking during night so also extremely tired. Am very happy to be having a baby but have to admit didn't quite realise I would be feeling constantly rubbish. Really hope it passes soon not sure could cope keeping this up didn't think it would kick in so early. Sorry for selfish post x

feekerry Thu 13-Jun-13 17:47:48

welcome tinker
yep it ain't pleasant really is it? with any luck as soon as you hit 12 weeks you will be feeling much better...[i didn't]

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 18:13:54

Welcome Tinkerbelle. Sorry you're feeling poorly too!

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 20:07:52

Hi everyone and esp the new faces.

Bit of a WWYD: I'm 7 weeks pg (maybe- according to my dates 7 weeks, but acc to early scan last week, prob less. Having anor scan on Wed). This is my 4th pregnancy (last one was ectopic though), and I'm massive. I'm not just being paranoid- only one person knows other than my DH and today I asked her if I looked a bit tubby (which is fine, in the circs) or pg. Even though I thought I'd dressed really well to hide my bump, she said I def looked pg.

Our plan had been to tell our families in 10 days, after scan and when I see my family for a funeral (he'll probably spend the day w his folks w our DC). I'll then be nearly 9 weeks (on my dates). But his folks are coming over for father's day and it's looking increasingly obvious we'll have to tell them, because it's obvious it's not just cake in there. I feel a bit weird about that as it seems so early to tell people, but can't see what else to do. I can't believe I'm so big- I swear I'm about the size I was w DC2 at 14-16 weeks. And I know I showed more quickly with him than w DC1, but this seems crazy!

vix206 Thu 13-Jun-13 20:12:45

Stupid question but you don't have any particularly floaty tops you could wear to hide it? That's what I did last weekend when I was really bloated.

My bloating has gone for now despite having to eat my own weight in bread every hour!!

Apparentlychilled Thu 13-Jun-13 20:18:59

I wore a floaty/silky top the other day and apparently it really clung to my bump!- and I thought I was hiding it well. Today I wore a loose (dark) shirt and a chunky, loose card, buttoned over bump (kind of kimono style, if that makes sense) and apparently all you cd see was bump. I'm not very busty, so I can't even eg wear something low or something that hangs from the bust. I have a long, cable knit cardi which might hide the bump a bit, if I can keep it pulled over a bit (maybe belt it or something).

Is anyone else having similar bump hiding problems? Vix, I'm v jealous it worked for you last weekend!

tinypolkadot Thu 13-Jun-13 21:11:49

I had a huge bump last week, there's a photo of me and I look very pregnant, pure bloating though. I'm hoping it's not so noticeable now! I usually have a bit of a tum which I try to cover up with a long vest and square jumper / tshirt.

I have just burst into huge tears at the end of how I met your mother, dh didn't know if I was crying or crying with laughter! Are you a bit hormonal he asks hmm

sunflowered Thu 13-Jun-13 22:32:53

Sorry to hear so many of you are feeling rubbish. I was a little queasy this evening when I saw my tea but that soon passed... vix I see what you mean about being towards the end of the month - I'm (hopefully) a week or so away from that particular joy and miles away from any kind of scan sad

tinypolkadot my dh looked at me really sadly last night when I warned him about impending mood swings, he finds regular pmt rage and tears quite hard to deal with. I've promised to be on my best behaviour until at least saturday

ch1134 Thu 13-Jun-13 22:53:30

Hi,
I'm 7weeks with my first. Very happy but I'm just after some reassurance about a very common dilemma.
Drinking! I actually gave up for Lent, then extended this to train for a half marathon, all with TTC in mind. My family and friends are big drinkers and I've run out of excuses not to drink! I don't want to tell them my news yet, and thought it was ok to have the odd very small glass of wine.
So in order to cover up my happy news I've actually been drinking more the past few weeks than I have all year.
I've had a few sips when visiting parents (husband necked the rest when they weren't looking!), a tiny glass of red with friends over for dinner (they brought the bottle and it would've felt rude to refuse), half a shandy at the pub. So not much.
However, last wkd I went to friend's 30th and had a whole glass of champagne. Now I feel so stupid to have done it... I just wanted a cover! I ended up telling my friend anyway, as we were both TTC, then felt even worse as she told me she'd miscarried and I was sat there with a glass of bubbly. I felt so bad.
My parents are here this wkd and I really don't want to tell them... How can I avoid drinking? I am never ill and don't drive! And they are staying over so I can't say I'm running in the morning! Unless I do run...
So, let me know what you think of my drinking so far, and how to avoid it for the next 5 weeks! Thanks!

littlestgirlguide Thu 13-Jun-13 23:43:17

ch1134 a straight tonic water with ice and a slice looks just the same as a g&t smile

SamL88 Fri 14-Jun-13 00:09:56

Attack of the sore boobs. Ouch. But I'm kind of getting a kick out of every symptom as its a little sign of what's happening to my body. Still bloody amazed by it all.

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 06:14:06

Apparentlychilled, I think it worked for me because my boobs are huge now so the empire-line top I wore sort of hung down from them and totally covered the bump if that makes sense?

Am in bed munching belvita biscuits before I get up to DS. Really hoping the nausea is more bearable today!!

barebranches Fri 14-Jun-13 06:48:59

i still havent really got much in the way of symptoms. my boobs are firmer and hurt when squeezed (thank you DH)
no sickness... in fact in the morning i wake up earlier and have more energy.... suppose i shouldnt complain. grin

EeyoreIsh Fri 14-Jun-13 07:37:57

Morning all

I've woken in a bit of a stress this morning. I've got my scan at epu as I've been bleeding. It's bringing back lots of sad memories for DH and me as we spent lots of time at epu when I my baby in February.

The bleeding has been a lot less this time, but my brain is worrying!

lucidlady Fri 14-Jun-13 07:40:51

Eeyore thinking of you, hope you get the reassurance you need.

Apparentlychilled Fri 14-Jun-13 07:47:27

Good luck today eeyore

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 07:51:12

Good luck eeyore. And Dawnofthedee, if you're checking this thread at all, thinking of you too and hoping your scan goes well.

bugsyburge Fri 14-Jun-13 09:08:48

good luck today, hope all goes ok.....

I am literally counting down the days until my doc appt (next Wednesday) because it's all so surreal at the moment!!!!

Dh & I are telling our parents this weekend... didn't really want to share this early but a culmination of different things means this is the only weekend until end of July when we will see all our separated parents in the same weekend so this weekend it is!!!

I'm rather nervous about it for some unknown reason, feel a bit like a naughty schoolgirl which is ridiculous as I'm in my late twenties & married!!!

how's everone feeling today?

FoxMulder Fri 14-Jun-13 09:26:32

It didn't go so well for me at the scan yesterday. They couldn't see anything, so they took some blood and hCG levels were low. Taking some more tomorrow...looks like a mc though sad Have started bleeding today. Very sad. DH had convinced himself everything was OK and a bit of spotting was normal, so he's really cut up. Better to happen now though than a few weeks down the line I guess.

Wishing everyone else more luck.

bugsyburge Fri 14-Jun-13 09:55:17

ah fox I'm sorry to hear that.

fingers crossed for you thanks

littlestgirlguide Fri 14-Jun-13 10:07:03

Sad news Fox. I'm sorry.

EeyoreIsh Fri 14-Jun-13 10:30:18

Oh Fox I'm really sorry to hear that sad a miscarriage is awful, give yourself plenty of time to recover.

my scan went well. I saw a heartbeat and baby where it should be, between 6-7 weeks. We're both still nervous, as we saw a heartbeat and then lost our last baby. But we're hoping and praying this one sticks.

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 11:43:07

Fox, I'm so sorry. Having gone through this in March I have recent experience of how heartbreaking it is. Take good care of yourself, lots of rest. xx

amicusapple Fri 14-Jun-13 13:58:14

So sorry Fox. Take good care of yourself thanks

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 14:42:23

I've updated the stats list again, quite a few missing bits of info if any of you can update it please do smile

www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1767134-February-2014-Stats-Thread?msgid=39684087#39684087

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 14:54:06

Today's food so far...

0530: 2 Belvita breakfast biscuits in bed
0700: 2 Weetabix
0915: Large Apple
0945: Granola Bar
1015: Cinnamon Bagel with Banana
1130: Ready Salted Hula Hoops
1150: Minestrone Cuppasoup
1240: Houmous and couscous wrap
1330: Harvester Chewee Bar

Its now 1450 and I am starting to feel sick again. Honestly, apart from anything else I'm not sure I can afford this level of eating! I miss feeling hungry, I don't ever feel hungry just really nauseous, and can't face proper meals I just have to snack all the time. Hoping it doesn't last too much longer, or get any worse. Sorry to moan, I am grateful to be pregnant and in a lot of ways the symptoms are very comforting but still unpleasant!!

Mixology Fri 14-Jun-13 14:58:31

Hello all, can I join?

I just found out that I am pregnant with my 1st on Wednesday. We are so excited, but I think DH doesn't properly believe it yet.

Already the not eating/not drinking certain foods is a nightmare. I had a work event that seemed to revolve around wine and eating dangerous soft cheeses last night! There's just so long I'll be able to hide/make excuses. Any tips?

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 15:16:39

Hello, welcome and congrats!! Only thing I can think of is to say you're on an elimination diet because you think you've got a food intolerance? That could cover things like dairy, alcohol etc.

Bearfrills Fri 14-Jun-13 16:42:20

Hello everyone!

Just got my BFP, literally 30 minutes ago (eek!). Due February 23rd by my reckoning and will be DC3. I haven't even told DH yet, I'm trying to keep quiet until Sunday as DC3 is going to be our last so need to make it all that bit more special than it already is.

We've had a bit of a chequered history with pregnancy, it took us three years to conceive then had a mc, then had DS then a mc, then had DD. We were expecting the trying part to take around six months as it did with DS and DD - I got pregnant on our first 'try' hmm panicking a little though as I've just started a new job in April and can't see them being too pleased about it.

Aside from all that though, I'm so excited!

Bearfrills Fri 14-Jun-13 16:45:00

I'll be four weeks on Sunday - how does that work when I know for a fact conception would have been 2nd June?

DawnOfTheDee Fri 14-Jun-13 16:55:01

Hi all, just thought I'd check in. Haven't read back through all the posts yet - I'll get onto that later this evening.

Anyhoo, I moved my rescan from this afternoon to monday at 9am. Don't know why but I'm feeling a bit more positive. Haven't had any more bleeding and no pain so i'm hoping it's just my dates that were out (it is possible) and i will get good news at this scan.

Namechangingnorma Fri 14-Jun-13 16:56:46

hi Bearfrills, congratulations! I also started a new job in April, just one of those things though eh

Bearfrills Fri 14-Jun-13 17:11:16

Exactly Norma, can't be helped and I've been working my socks off so hopefully they'll see that I'm still valuable.

Dawn, I had bleeding in my pregnancies with DS and DD. It's not normal and should always be investigated but it's very common, if that makes sense? With DS I bled all over Christmas and was devastated as I thought I was 10wks and that I was miscarrying. I went to my 12wks scan after New Year (which I also bled over) and found I was only measuring 6wks. I had an awful 6wks waiting for a rescan, they said either my dates were wrong or it wasn't viable and all we could do was wait. 6wks later I was 13+4 and he's now almost 4yo. I continued to bleed on and off during the pregnancy, I was even admitted to hospital for it. With DD I had a bleed at 7wks and was convinced of the worst (I'd had a late mc before getting pregnant again). She was fine. Fingers crossed for you, I hope all is well.

Novascotia33 Fri 14-Jun-13 18:06:55

Joining in please, tentatively, (first response) due date Feb 26th :-)

Congratulations everyone, feel the magic :-)

DawnOfTheDee Fri 14-Jun-13 18:09:08

Thanks Bearfrills smile

Mixology Fri 14-Jun-13 18:33:24

Vix - I hadn't considered the elimination diet. My friends may think I'm properly ill as I normally eat and drink pretty much anything! It's been a testing first week with a co-worker opening a bottle of champagne at 5 today :-(. Strangely it seems very easy to resist knowing I'm doing it for the bean (I suppose more of an apple pip at this point!).

Dawn, from what I read minimal bleeding does seem normal. I have had cramps for days (much like pms!) but am trying to be calm about it.

feekerry Fri 14-Jun-13 19:19:34

ye i got a promotion few months ago too. oops!
hey ho.
haven't told work yet and not planning to for a good few weeks. don't think i can hide it till 12 weeks but maybe will leave it till 8 weeks. anyone else told work yet???

littlestgirlguide Fri 14-Jun-13 19:36:42

I had to tell my boss this week. I had a long-scheduled meeting with him to sign the paperwork to reduce my hours and go term-time from September when DD starts school. I had to tell him because I don't want to reduce my hours considerably just before goin off on mat leave! And then, once I had opened my mouth I couldn't shut it again and told three of my closer colleagues, which is lovely as a. I now have someone to cover for me as I dash to the loo every 20 minutes, and b. one of them also announced she and her husband are adopting a little girl in the new year too! Lots of baby talk in my office this week :-) still haven't told my dad, brother and SiL or my grown up stepdaughters though.

tinypolkadot Fri 14-Jun-13 20:00:22

I haven't told work yet, we are expecting a restructure inthe next couple of months so I'm hoping to last until that's finished! I have told a couple of girls in the office who I'm close to, feels good to have someone to talk to, especially with all the imminent changes at work.

Does anyone else have diarrhea? I've just been struck with it since I got home tonight. I don't know if it's pregnancy, getting back off holiday, the new water filter or something I ate confused

Dh offered to put the toilet roll in the fridge for me, so thoughtful! grin

Bearfrills Fri 14-Jun-13 20:09:57

I get it in early pregnancy too tinypolkadot, it's the change in hormones I think.

I'm not looking forward to telling work confused I workIn the NHS but it's a very small team and I've only been there a few months so I'm worried they'll think I'm taking the piss getting pregnant so soon. And it means H&S will immediately bar me from one part of my job (once I tell them anyway), it's the part everyone dislikes so it's done on a rota basis to make sure everyone does their share, I'll be popular when I'm off that rota and everyone else has to do it more often to cover my share.

I'm going to try hold off for another few weeks if I can but on the other hand I have a history of miscarriage so feel like I should at least tell my senior manager so I can get the relevant support if I need it.

I'm overthinking it. I haven't even told DH yet never mind work.

EeyoreIsh Fri 14-Jun-13 20:14:40

tinypolkadot I'm the same with diarrhoea, I've just started a thread about it as I was so surprised. It's rubbish!

vix206 Fri 14-Jun-13 20:31:49

I work in my own company, just me and DH so no worries for me on that front. I even have a futon at the office so I can nap winkgrin

tinypolkadot Fri 14-Jun-13 20:42:12

So reassuring to know I'm not on my own! Hope it calms down a bit soon, I'd like to leave the house tomorrow!

Still, I'm thankful for every symptom and change. Think I'm going to get measured for a maternity bra tomorrow- if I can make it to the shops that is!

vix do you need to take on any staff? Naps at work sound heavenly

lyndsey90 Fri 14-Jun-13 21:45:51

Hey!
I'm 23, pregnant with baby numero uno. Got my BFP on Wednesday when af was 4 days late. This little seedling took 11 cycles to conceive.
(i had a chem preg in Feb but I don't consider that a pregnancy).

Baby estimated due date is15th February which makes me 4 weeks and 6 days.

Current symptoms are just tiredness and awful smelly farts lol!!! It's horrible!!!

laura0007 Fri 14-Jun-13 23:51:24

I've told work but I'm a nanny so my boss needs to arrange things for while I'm off so the more notice the better. And the children I look after were very excited and asked if the baby would be their cousin! Not quite...

KalevalaForMePlease Sat 15-Jun-13 05:30:26

Hello! (Psst, can I join?)
Very early days, due 22nd Feb, with no. 2.
Excited, but nervous, hated being pg first time round but trying not to think about it and enjoy it while I can, before the sickness and SPD start!

sunflowered Sat 15-Jun-13 06:58:28

Just catching up... It's been busy on here!

Really sorry to read your news fox. I hope you and dp are both doing ok.

Hi to all the newbies. I think there might be a bit of carrot cake left if you get peckish.

Had my first non-drinking test yesterday. Met friends for dinner and driving into central London was terrifying a useful excuse! Was ready for my bed by about 9 though and got really sleepy driving back. Can't win!

Booked my gp appt yesterday. My practice is just catching up with the 21st century so hopefully it will be more useful than just a 'don't drink wine, take folic acid, see the midwife in a few weeks'...

KittyIsHungry Sat 15-Jun-13 07:56:35

Hello!
I am due on Feb 4th, this will be my first smile , exciting so far!

moominlike Sat 15-Jun-13 08:57:35

Hi everyone, got my BFP nearly 4 weeks ago but it's taken a while to sink in! Happened 3 weeks after coming off the pill so came as a bit of a shock! Will be our first and so excited grin

I think I'm 6-7 weeks and due somewhere around the end of Jan or beginning of Feb but it's a bit tricky without an LMP to go by! Have an early dating scan next week so hopefully that will help.

We've told our mums and siblings so far (as the mums wouldn't have been able to keep quiet!), one work colleague knows as I nearly fainted in the loos and I'm going to tell one of my close friends when I next see her (she has two DDs so good for advice!). Other than that just trying to throw others off the scent as I'm sure people are suspicious...or I'm just paranoid!!

lucidlady Sat 15-Jun-13 09:40:18

Hi everyone, been a bit snowed at work so haven't managed to get on MN much. Hope everyone's doing well. Way TMI but after DH and I had sex last night, I've had some light brown spotting. I'm 4+5 - should I be worried? Do I need to impose a sex ban?

Fox very sorry to hear what's happened. Big hugs x

sunflowered Sat 15-Jun-13 10:15:04

Hi lucid this also might be tmi but I used to have a mirena coil which meant v light af - I'd get spotting for about 10 days afterwards after sex because my sluggish body didnt do the job in the normal way. I think I've read that similarly implantation bleeding can hang around and make its way out slowly, so guess that sex just gives it a bit of a helping hand iykwim. That's just an assumption though - if you're worried there's no harm calling nhs direct/111 or its local equivalent if you want to speak to a professional (though have heard 111 can be a frustrating experience...)

Champagnebubble Sat 15-Jun-13 15:18:19

Hi Lucid I've googled about every page on the web thanks to my yellow/beige cm and brown signifies old blood so shouldn't be cause for concern. Please don't Google it, I've scared myself all week!

Champagnebubble Sat 15-Jun-13 15:20:09

Oh and advice is if you have cramps too then don't panic but some people called their gp.

Bearfrills Sat 15-Jun-13 16:51:03

Spotting after sex is common, it's to do with the cervix being really sensitive and engorged, if it gets bumped during sex it can bleed a little which comes out as brown-tinged discharge. If it stops then it's fine but if it doesn't or you're at all worried then see a doctor or midwife smile

Yeah, cramps here too. Also normal, it's everything settling in smile

Purple37 Sat 15-Jun-13 18:47:13

Hiya how do I add my due date to the stats? It's the 15th Feb! Have horrendous sore boobs and have had to buy maternity leggings today which is ridiculous. Midwife says its normal as I have big babies and its my third but keeping it a secret is not going to be easy!! Anyone else showing? Also when do people tell their other children??

lucidlady Sat 15-Jun-13 22:09:31

Thanks everyone, very reassuring! champagne I promise to stay away from google!

Didactylos Sat 15-Jun-13 22:30:13

Sneaks into the back of the bus...
Ive never joined a antenatal thread before but we decided to try for our second about the end of april - and here I am bloated and cramping and after a test today - bfp and though early days looking at a due date of 14th if all goes well
Gulp shock

Bearfrills Sat 15-Jun-13 22:32:33

Purple, I'm 4wks and I'm struggling to get the button fastened on my jeans blush I think it's more bloating than bump for me! I found I was showing earlier either DD than I did with DS but it sort of balanced out so by around 20wks I was roughly the same although by the end I was smaller - DD was much smaller than DS was (a relatively small 7lb10 compared to a hefty 9lb3), something I hope is true for this pregnancy too!

Didactylos Sat 15-Jun-13 22:32:46

and craving Tallagio cheese
sure I dont remember cheese cravings from last time

barebranches Sat 15-Jun-13 22:34:26

hi to all the newbies!!!

ahhh telling the inlaws tomorrow!! DH is excited but im feeling nervous!
still not much in the way of symptoms. just tiredness... but im quite a sleepy (lazy) person anyway... grin

ldt87 Sat 15-Jun-13 22:43:03

Hi can I join please? Due around the 4th of Feb known since the 26th of May. I had a miscarriage at easter so apprehensive but feeling positive. Quite a few people already know in my close circle. I haven't read through as the threads so long so can anyone let me know where everyone else is at? Xx

Thisisfreakingmeout Sun 16-Jun-13 00:30:54

Hi new joiners, there is a stats thread somewhere you can jump in to with dates and ages etc.

ldt - I think we are in synch, found out 26/5 due 4/2. No symptoms yet except solid boobs. You?

moominlike Sun 16-Jun-13 07:54:55

Have also experienced the dreaded bloat! Due to the hormones apparently messing with your digestion (without going into too much detail!)...I have found those probiotic drink things help a bit. Plus I take my folic acid with them so it helps me remember.

Sorted through my clothes this weekend and put everything that didn't fit away. Wardrobe was pretty sparse afterwards and I'm only 7 weeks sad

Bearfrills Sun 16-Jun-13 08:44:43

DH took the news surprisingly well grin He says he had an inkling so it wasn't much of a shock but he's pleased.

Did another test this morning (I know, I know ... ) and the line is still fairly faint. Definitely there just faint, but a line is a line.

Debating whether to tell work tomorrow or not. I'm only 4wks but some parts of my job involve heavy lifting and cIimbing stepstools and things which I know they have to do a risk assessment for. Very worried they're going to think I'm taking the piss when I won't have even been in the job a year when I go on maternity leave. One of the other ladies gets so much grief and snide comments because she's excused from certain duties for health reasons, what are they going to think of me? And then how do I tell my manager? Part of my wants to apologise hmm

moominlike Sun 16-Jun-13 09:08:20

It seems sensible to tell your boss given the heavy lifting etc. I know what you mean about feeling like apologising, I am starting a new job next month and am dreading telling them. I found out I was pregnant after I had already accepted the offer, and there was no going back as I am at risk of redundancy where I work now. I don't feel I had much choice really but I do feel really guilty sad

Ladybee Sun 16-Jun-13 09:27:34

Oh heavens I've just been scaring myself silly reading the Mary Poppins thread in parenting, about having a toddler and newborn - if this works DD will be about 21 months when DC3 arrives, eek! Oh well there's an awful lot to get through before any of that happens so no point worrying about it.

I had a load of appointment letters come through yesterday, another scan this Thursday, then a referral to specialist high risk team the following Wednesday. It seems strange but partly it feels reassuring to feel like people are taking this seriously and believe it will happen. On the other hand it feels bit like I want to say, hang on I'm not sure this is going to last two more days lets not plan two weeks in advance. Well, day by day I'll just keep thinking positively.

Thankfully the nausea is remaking steady so far, fingers crossed it doesn't escalate too much in the next two weeks.

Bearfrills Sun 16-Jun-13 09:34:41

You'll be fine LadyBee smile it's an adjustment but all the training is on the job so to speak so after the initial settling in you find your own routine and your own way of doing of juggling two. DS was 24mo when DD arrived, there are only three weeks between their birthdays, and it was all a bit frantic at first but we're grand now. He'll be 4.6yo and DD will be 2.5yo this time!

ldt87 Sun 16-Jun-13 09:46:55

Thisisfreakingmeout- I have rock hard sore bombs and such bad sickness I have barely moved from the sofa or eaten some days. Some days are not so bad. Sounds like our dates are the same, I have slightly longer cycles so it may change but I've tried to adjust accordingly.

Champagnebubble Sun 16-Jun-13 11:11:54

Glad you didn't Google Lucid!

Congrats to the newbies!!!!!!! Can't say I've had cravings yet....tbh I don't feel very hungry, not due to sickness but appetite not as it was. Odd! The bloated tummy is starting to ease a bit my end thank goodness, it was uncomfortable!

sunflowered Sun 16-Jun-13 15:54:49

Hope everyone's having a lovely weekend. I've just woken up from a quick catnap on the sofa which has made me worry about how I'm going to manage at work this week - I couldn't keep my eyes open! I work 8-10 hr days in a big open plan office and apart from going to sit in the car there's nowhere really to get any space during the day if I start to flag. Do any of you who are a few weeks further ahead (or who've done this before) have any suggestions about how to cope with the tiredness when stopping just isn't an option?

Champagnebubble Sun 16-Jun-13 16:19:01

Hi sunflowered - I'm only coming up to 6 weeks so I can't give you the benefit of my wisdom but last week I was flagging big time....at only 4/5 weeks! I had no car to go and sit in either and same as you open plan office, manic week as some of team on holiday, no one knows etc etc. I found that snacking helped me, sugary biscuit, an orange juice, decaff coffee (placebo effect!)....and early nights! I'm dreading this week.....getting up at 6am, leaving at 6:30pm.....!

EeyoreIsh Sun 16-Jun-13 16:31:31

I'm the same. I managed to have long afternoon snoozes on Monday and Friday because I was working from home. I've also napped yesterday and today, I find my sickness is much worse if I'm tired.

I'm due to be working in London four days this week, which will mean 6am starts and not getting back until 7 at the earliest. I've no idea how I'll cope. DH wants me to work from home some extra days but I have meetings I need to attend.

I'm trying not to complain about the exhaustion and sickness, as I feel so blessed to finally have a healthy pregnancy!

littlestgirlguide Sun 16-Jun-13 18:29:28

Re the tiredness, I am the same - but no chance for catnaps with a 4 year old in the house. I work 9 hour days with only 2 short breaks (no lunch hour) in a public facing office, so even snacking isn't an option really as no food or drink other than water is allowed in the public areas. Last time was so much easier, I could sleep all weekend, and had lunch breaks!
I can't complain though as other than being shattered I have got virtually no sickness as long as I eat regularly

Apparentlychilled Sun 16-Jun-13 18:48:47

Hi all and welcome to newbies. PIL came over for lunch today and I feel so awful that I made DH tell them. They were pretty low key till I started to get a bit upset about last pg (which was ectopic), when they were nice to me. So didn't go badly, though I had kind of feared it might.

Feel exhausted today (not slept all day and slept badly last night) and feel really sick. YY to what eeyore said- sickness seems to be worse when tired but sugary drinks and snacking seem to help.

Trinpy Sun 16-Jun-13 19:04:32

Hi everyone, another newbie.

Got my bfp yesterday. Complete shock but we're both really happy and really excited. From lmp I'm exactly 5 weeks but I think I'm really more like 4 weeks.

I already know some of you from my bfp thread in chat yesterday smile.

DD is 16th Feb, but very open to change!

UniMama Sun 16-Jun-13 19:17:36

Hi all,
I just tested today and had a positive result. Hubby and I decided to try for number 3 last month, had coil removed and we are pregnant already. Due feb 24th or so it says on the calculator thingy. But I will more than likely be at least 3 weeks early. So early days but very excited :-)

Crazyspills Sun 16-Jun-13 19:26:31

Hi everyone, got my bfp after having HSG last cycle :-)

barebranches Sun 16-Jun-13 19:49:17

hi trinpy i was following your thread with excitment!

told inlaws today and they cried!! my parents at then end of the month.

Bearfrills Sun 16-Jun-13 19:52:56

Told PILs today and got asked "are you mad!?", told my mum who asked "are you kidding!?" sad

Champagnebubble Sun 16-Jun-13 19:56:43

Congrats to the new BFP's!!!!!!

EeyoreIsh Sun 16-Jun-13 20:48:37

congrats to the new bfp joiners smile

we haven't told anyone other than my mum yet. It's quite awkward as people are expecting us to start ivf, and we see the in laws a lot. we've said we're delaying ivf, and I hope they don't guess from my grey face grin

Trinpy Sun 16-Jun-13 20:54:12

Hello and congratulations to the other new people!

Sorry to hear about your mum and PIL's reaction Bearfrills. Those are really horrible things to say.

We went to my parents house today. My mum guessed without me having to say anything. She is already knitting bootees. Didn't have the guts to tell my dad because he's such a worrier, I know his reaction won't be great. We recently cut contact with PIL so the plan is to send them a card letting them know the good news if all is well at the 12 week scan.

Bearfrills Sun 16-Jun-13 21:02:02

I think they're just concerned that DD is only 21mo and I've just started work and DS (3yo) is very full-on. DH and I are pleased though so that's all that matters and this baby was just as planned as all of our others (fifth pregnancy) although it only took us one go which was a bit shock after our history grin

I feel really sick tonight, I'm actually glad, it sort of reassures me it's real smile

Namechangingnorma Sun 16-Jun-13 21:04:29

Hi ladies, just checking in. Sunflowered, am in exactly the same situation workwise, hadn't even thought about nipping out to the car. i think I just decided for the next few weeks I will manage work and not much else and if that means going to bed at half seven every night so be it. i was so distracted last week though, it was definitely not my most productive week! it seems to be quite a day for telling the parents, we told mine today and they are thrilled but I keep heavily caveating it with the fact it's so early due to 2 mmc's in the distant past. Hope you've all had a lovely relaxing weekend. anyone else have the urge to keep on doing pregnancy tests?L

Namechangingnorma Sun 16-Jun-13 21:06:25

Bear, at least by having them so close, they will be close, really nice age gaps too. You are in the same boat as me though workwise, are you still in your trial period? When are you going to tell them?

Didactylos Sun 16-Jun-13 21:12:25

So damn tired. Told DP last night, think hes as surprised as me as to how quickly its happened, but very much not going to tell anyone else yet (prev losses) But have to work out a way of avoiding certain situations and exposures at work eg xray etc without too much gossip, might have to take a colleague or two into my confidence this week

Bearfrills Sun 16-Jun-13 21:18:16

Yeah, still in my trial period Norma. Going to have to tell them sooner rather than later I think but it's NHS so hopefully they have good policies in place and I won't get P45'd confused

CubanoHabana Sun 16-Jun-13 21:36:22

Can I join, just found out today, not sunk in yet!

barebranches Sun 16-Jun-13 21:52:27

yes dida i wanted to check on last time before telling dhs parents. very strong positive luckily!!grin

UniMama Sun 16-Jun-13 22:04:13

Hi Cubano,
Congratulations! how far along are you?

sunflowered Sun 16-Jun-13 22:48:38

I'll be packing plenty of sugary snacks in my lunchbox tomorrow then - thanks for the advice smile. Work's been quite full on recently and we're having building work done at home so evenigs have been spent wrangling with builders/architect/neighbours... Will have to delegate a bit more to DH and get some early nights I think.

We don't want to tell either set of DPs until 12 weeks - MIL has had lots of stresses with elderly unwell relatives recently and don't want to get her hopes up for some good news only to find out things haven't gone to plan. Plus, bless her, she can't keep a secret to save her life so once she knows, the world will know.

Hi to all the new posters too

Glowbuggy Mon 17-Jun-13 07:09:58

Is anyone else suffering from bloated period type pains? My boobs are KILLING me, but the cramps are making me so worried.....

sunflowered Mon 17-Jun-13 07:40:20

I'm so bloated I feel like I've put on about a stone in the last week!

Have had super sore boobs too until this morning - really hoping that the soreness easing off isn't a sign that things aren't going to plan sad

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 08:23:48

Symptoms come and go, in my experience. I don't have sore boobs but then I didn't with DD either (with DS though they felt like they were going to fall off they were so sore!). I have bloating so badly, I can't even fasten my jeans properly, and wind - I've spent the whole night trumping away blush I'm also really tired, sort of a run down feeling rather than sleepiness, and I keep getting pinching sensations along my caesarean scar.

feekerry Mon 17-Jun-13 08:48:09

another here who had a luke warm reception from relatives. dd is 15m at present .....

jazzcat28 Mon 17-Jun-13 08:55:40

Hi all! I'm due 19th Feb (I think).

Feeling fine other than sore boobs and tiredness. Think I'm 5 weeks on Wednesday going by my last AF which seems crazy when I know that I only conceived 2 weeks ago!

Not sure when to tell family etc. It's our first so no history to go by, but my gut it telling me that we need to wait until at least 8-10 weeks. We are visitng PIL this weekend who are desperate for us to have a child so it'll be really tough saying "no, not just yet"! Thinking of telling the family at my birthday get together in mid-July by which point I should be just over 9 weeks.

Trying to phone doctors today to get my first appointment but it's constantly engaged! Argh!

I've recently lost 2st in weight so I'm pretty sure that in a few weeks people will wonder why I'm filling out again... ho hum.

Anyone else started planning when to stop work? I'm hoping I can stop end of Jan using annual leave. (I know it's FAR too early for this but it's keeping me going as I hate my job so much at the moment!)

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 09:32:52

feekerry, congratulations. I'm sure they'll come around. DS was also 15m when I got pregnant with DD so I have a similar gap to the one you'll have.

Hi jazz smile I lost a load of weight too, nearly 3st, and with the bloating I feel like I've gained 5 grin

Is anyone else having awful hot flushes? I feel like a sweaty, farty mess <attractive>

ChocoFrog Mon 17-Jun-13 09:43:32

Welcome to all the newbies. Been a busy weekend for the bus!

Last time round we didn't tell a soul until after the 12 week scan. In fact I told my mum on Mothers day by giving her a card which said 'Happy Grandmother's Day' and she didn't twig and just thought we were being rude about her age! Shows how likely she thought it was that she'd get grandchildren.grin

This time though we've told my parents and my boss at work. With my past history we figure it is easier to deal with stuff if people around you know. And my boss went through similar stuff with his wife so he's great. We'll tell everyone else around the 10-12 week mark.

On another note, been feeling sooo sick the last two days. Far worse than my last pregnancy. Feel lucky that I work from home cos I think work would be hmm if I laid on the floor in the middle of the office!

Didactylos Mon 17-Jun-13 09:53:45

Just need somewhere to moan - like so may of us feel crampy, bloated and awful, and then had an episode of bright red bleeding last night. Must be between 5-6 weeks -is this too late for implantation bleed?

went to bed feeling glum and fatalistic, that there was nothing I could do about it and Id probably have full on bleeding/loss by am but nothing, bleeding settled down and not repeated. I think I might need to retest in a few days

DawnOfTheDee Mon 17-Jun-13 10:10:40

I've just come back from my scan and it's good news!

They saw my little bean, said it had a good strong heartbeat! yay! grin

Such a relief....they think my dates were just out and i'm actually 7+4 which by my rough calculations makes my due date 31st Jan. Definitely made the right decision to come into this group rather than the January group! If this one's 2 weeks late like DD I could have a Valentine's Day baby...

sunflowered Mon 17-Jun-13 10:26:57

That's excellent news dawn, a great way to start the week.

Thinking of you didactylos, hope everything is ok flowers

Bear - thanks for the reassurance. I think part of the reason they were so sore yesterday might have been that i poked them every 5 mins to check they were still sore...

EeyoreIsh Mon 17-Jun-13 10:27:14

Yay, great news dawn.

Oh the sickness is awful. I'm so glad I worked from home today. I felt so ill making breakfast DH had to take over!

Luckily I've not been sick yet, i just have to run to the loo for a number two. I don't know how I'll cope with my two hour commute tmw. I have to be in work tmw.

I'm trying to think of it all as positive. Every time I feel sick that's my baby settling further in grin

ChocoFrog Mon 17-Jun-13 10:28:19

yay Dawn so glad it's good news. Nice to start the week on a brilliant positive. smile

EeyoreIsh Mon 17-Jun-13 10:29:57

didladocus sorry you had some bleeding. I have had the same this pregnancy and I freaked out after losing my last baby, but it's doing ok so far. so bleeding can be normal.

If you're worried, get a referral to your early pregnancy unit. I hope everything is ok.

Didactylos Mon 17-Jun-13 10:39:10

Thanks all, its nice to have somewhere to talk about this. DP worries but I dont want to burden him by showing fully how it upset me. I think Ill just leave it for a bit now that bleeding has stopped and retest in a few days.
Ive never had bleeding in the only sucessful pregnancy we managed: i know how it feels eyoreish in that even though intellecually I know one on 4 women have early pregnancy bleeding and 60-70% of them will carry to term, I just keep thinking back to previous losses

Glad to hear the news of your scan dawn

Apparentlychilled Mon 17-Jun-13 11:04:39

Congratulations Dawn!

bugsyburge Mon 17-Jun-13 11:08:43

well done dawn, that's great news

we told our parents this weekend which was lovely, they are all very happy & excited

I have my appt at the docs on wed morning & it can't come soon enough, I like having something to focus on & getting to little milestones smile

hope everyone isn't suffering too badly today.... I'm not too bad apart from still having sore boobs & feeling hungry but bloated

DawnOfTheDee Mon 17-Jun-13 11:23:58

Didladocus I'd recommend getting a referral to EPU. Your situation sounds exactly like mine almost 2 weeks ago. It was a very long wait till the early scan but worth it.

Also when i first went in with bleeding they did a vaginal examination which showed my cervix was closed/as it should be and all looked ok. Provided some hope for me to latch on to until my scan this morning.

Really hope everything turns out ok. Fx for sticky beans.

vix206 Mon 17-Jun-13 11:35:48

Dawn I am so, so happy for you. Did they have any suggestions as to what could have caused the bleed?

Just back from first midwife appointment, my nausea has turned to feeling faint when I don't eat regularly. I actually prefer that to feeling sick!

DawnOfTheDee Mon 17-Jun-13 12:01:37

They said that they could still see a small amount of haemorraging (sp) in the womb so potentially I could experience some spotting but it shouldn't be anything to worry about/no harm to bean. If that doesn't happen the haemorrage will just get reabsorbed as things progress, again causing no harm to the bean.

No specific reason as to what causes this....in general it will be because the whole uterus is become much more vascularised (is that a word..?) so small bleeds can be quite common. I think the leaflet i got said 1 in 3 pg experiences some bleeding.

Very scary stuff...with DD I had no bleeding whatsoever...no implantation bleeding...nothing. I think that was partly why i was so scared when i had the bleed this time.

I'm especially impatient to get to the 12 week mark now....I know there are no guarantees but i think i'll feel a lot safer and of course be reassured by another scan.

Sorry to hear your feeling a bit faint vix....there's only one solution - keep eating! grin

feekerry Mon 17-Jun-13 12:06:20

i have had awful cramps this time round. never had any last pregnancy but woke last night with really bad pains. they were awful.
but no blood or anything so presume all is okay.

DawnOfTheDee Mon 17-Jun-13 12:09:32

Ffs...not your...I mean you're

Namechangingnorma Mon 17-Jun-13 12:46:08

Brill news Dawn! I am freaking out a bit by lack of symptoms, I felt a bit nauseous yesterday but fine today, tired, but then I haven't been sleeping well and only occasionally tender boobs. Am only 5+3 though, has anyone else had symptoms really kick in a but later on?

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 12:51:07

My symptoms don't reply fully kick in until around the 6wk mark, in all my previous pregnancies that's when the sickness, etc started. Up until 6wks my symptoms can be lumped together under the heading 'feeling a bit off'.

Apparentlychilled Mon 17-Jun-13 13:03:44

my symptoms also kicked in around 6 weeks too. So don't worry norma - there's plenty of time for you to feel rubbish!

jazzcat28 Mon 17-Jun-13 13:13:56

Got my doctors appt on Monday morning, by which point I think I'll be 5w+5... I am a planner/organiser by nature and for work AKA control freak and need milestones too bugsy, I really don't know if I can wait another 6.5 weeks for that scan!

Not sure whether to tell line manager at work or not. Other than a 3hr total daily commute (driving) my job is desk based so not really too much to hurt my little pea. On the other hand it might be useful for someone senior to me to understand where I'm at to make sense of all the sudden doctors appts, tiredness and requests to work from home...

I might wait until after Monday.

FizzlingFireboxes Mon 17-Jun-13 14:17:06

Got back from my holiday on friday, just a week in Portugal but it wiped me out, the smells in the supermarket over there made me heave, fish and smelly cheeses..bleurk

I'm still battling my way through the un-packing, keep getting a weird dizzy/vertigo sensation, I also had it with my last pg but had forgotten about it, loads of nausea but so far have only thrown up once.

I'm 7 + 1 and off to the docs later as have horrendous heartburn already, I suspect a haitus hernia but will see what he says.

Thingymajigs Mon 17-Jun-13 14:29:59

Great news dawn. smile
I told my mum yesterday and she was delighted for us. Quite a difference to the reaction I received from her with my first two but I was only 18 and 21 at the time. I was a little apprehensive telling her but she knew we had been trying for a year so when I told her she jumped up and brought down a hoard of baby items she had been putting away for me. grin
Symptoms are still the same, growing boobs (yay!), bloating and I'm so, very, very tired. Only 6+3 so plenty of time to pick up some more delightful symptoms. Can't wait for my reassurance scan next Monday.

jazzcat28 Mon 17-Jun-13 15:01:35

thingy that's fab news about your mum's reaction... it must be nice to have another woman to talk to. DH and I are trying to hold off a few weeks but I'm wondering whether to let slip sooner. You mention you're having a scan next week - is that a private scan or via NHS? I'd quite like a scan before the 12wk one, but no idea how to get one other than privately?

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 15:27:14

That's such good news dawn and thingy. Also wondering about the early scans.

Just came back from a job interview, I have another one for a different but similar job next week. I really loved the place and I was chatting to someone who worked there who was telling me how much she loves her job and how nice everyone is there envy. I'm actually hoping they don't offer me the job so I don't have to make the decision as to whether I take it and lose SMP or stay where I am.

littlestgirlguide Mon 17-Jun-13 15:39:09

How much is an early scan, and how do I go about getting one?
Though to be honest, I'm on holiday for two weeks from Saturday, and by the time I get home I will be nearly 9 weeks and due for the normal 12 week scan I guess.

Sprite21 Mon 17-Jun-13 15:59:54

Can I join? I think I'm nearly 8 weeks. PDD is Feb.6th. I've been lurking for a bit and am relieved to see others are also getting cramps and bloating (I'll take it that's normal then).
This is my 2nd and I only remember nausea symptoms last time, but this time no nausea yet.
I still haven't recovered my pre-baby stomach so there goes that plan out the window, alas.
Anyone have any good excuses for backing out of things? I had to back out of waterskiing hen do in August (luckily there was a spa option so I said I'd prefer that), but I also (stupidly) signed up to do a 10 mile race in 3 weeks time.
What was I thinking?! I might have to just feign an injury.
So far I have been a bit overenthusiastic and told my mum, mil, sister, sil and office mate. Really hope it sticks.

Thingymajigs Mon 17-Jun-13 16:15:10

We have booked a private scan because we couldn't wait for another 5 weeks and there is a place locally which only charges £50. I have heard that some places charge £100 or so which we wouldn't have paid tbh.
It's best to wait if you can though because we won't be able to see much at all. Just a heartbeat (hopefully).

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 16:21:17

Hi Sprite, congratulations on the pregnancy. I'm using the excuse of back pain and saying my doctor has advised me to take it easy over the next few weeks. Not sure how convincing this will be. I've got some old prescription strength painkillers I can use as a prop which also works as an excuse for not drinking.

littlest the places I looked at which do early scans charge between £75-100, which I think is pretty standard.

jazzcat28 Mon 17-Jun-13 16:31:59

A quick google suggests that around me private scans are around £100. Did find one for £50 but it's a good 40 mile trip away.

Might see what DH thinks. He's going from excited to 'lets not get carried away' as often as the wind changes! Last night didn't want to discuss anything. Today rings me up twice at work to check that me and 'the baby' are ok! I had to remind him it's a mere poppy seed at the moment but he didn't get it..

Thisisfreakingmeout Mon 17-Jun-13 17:01:27

I'm also considering a private scan as my booking appointment is when I'm 11+4 then I go away until I am 13 + 3, which seems very late for a first scan!

i am trying to call to rearrange but don't want to appear pushy/dramatic!

Does anyone know how much they are?

Thisisfreakingmeout Mon 17-Jun-13 17:06:44

Also just had my first real queasiness! Woop. Biscuit cured it : sorry to those of you with proper sickness who aren't magically cured by hobnobs. I appreciate this may be a bit annoying!

feekerry Mon 17-Jun-13 17:18:08

got my 12 week scan date thru.... 3rd of Aug. our hospital like to do it bang on 12 weeks so that makes me just gone 5. booo. only another 35 to go.
for those who are thinking about early scans.... i had one last pregnancy as hospital wanted to rule out multiple pregnancy. i was about 7 weeks. easy v reassuring as 12 weeks is a long time to wait.so if you can afford it go for it!

Thisisfreakingmeout Mon 17-Jun-13 17:19:31

And now the page refreshes and I can see all the prices above my post! Thanks. That's handy to know.x

ldt87 Mon 17-Jun-13 17:30:13

I'm so jealous of those with scan dates and booking in appointments! My docs won't book you in with the midwife until 9-10 weeks. My booking in is the 4th of July. No appointment for the scan until after I've seen the midwife. So much waiting around when you know early on. I'm 7 weeks today by my dates so far and it's the first day in 2 weeks I've felt human! Hope everyone is okay xx

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 18:25:55

I know I shouldn't have but I took another first response this afternoon and compared with the one from Saturday afternoon. Today's is much much lighter; to the point where you have to squint and turn it in the light a bit to see it sad. Is this a bad sign? I'm so worried.

EeyoreIsh Mon 17-Jun-13 18:31:08

Did you use the same type of test before?

EeyoreIsh Mon 17-Jun-13 18:33:48

trinpy it could be that a different type of test is less sensitive. iirc, first response isn't v sensitive.

It could also be that you've drunk more so the hcg is more diluted.

If you're worried, make an appointment to see your gp. They can test your blood 48 hours apart to see if your hcg levels are going up as they should.

I hope it is all ok.

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 18:35:21

Yes. Frer both times.

I used some internet cheapies with fmu this morning and yesterday morning and they were both fainter than the cheapies from Saturday late morning/afternoon.

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 18:37:30

I'm seeing my gp tomorrow afternoon so I will ask about a blood test. Really hope its nothing bad.

misskatamari Mon 17-Jun-13 18:50:30

Hello ladies! First time post for me! I'm due 8th Feb and found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago now. I'm 6+3 and have been feeling absolutely rotten with tiredness and all day nausea so it will be great to talk to people who are in the same boat!

Anyway, nice to meet you all!

Kat x

Namechangingnorma Mon 17-Jun-13 19:22:59

Ah Trinpy, sorry you are worrying, I am trying to resist doing more tests for the same reason. problem is you just can't tell, it could be the batch, could be the time of day, could be how much you have had to drink. The thing is, I have had two missed miscarriages and then my body still thought I was preggers so hormones still up, symptoms still present, but nothing there, so I guess what I am saying is, you just don't knw unti
They do a proper check on your hrmones or a scan,fingers crossed for you. Kat, congrats and welcome

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 19:29:18

Thank you norma. I've been having quite strong cramps and lower backache too so that just adds to the worry sad.

Namechangingnorma Mon 17-Jun-13 19:37:39

And that can be a good thing or a bad thing, that's the problem, all symptoms can go both ways, it's just a really awful waiting game, every day seems to go on for a million years!

Sprite21 Mon 17-Jun-13 19:38:42

Thanks Trinpy and hello to everyone else.
I'm sure cramps and backache are just healthy pregnancy symptoms. Don't fret unnecessarily.
I can totally understand why you took another test though. I'm starting to feel like I just imagined it.
IDT my first appointment isn't until July 3rd either. Seems ages away but I'm sure it will come quickly.

ThirdTimesABrokenFanjo Mon 17-Jun-13 19:50:27

Hi Everyone!

Awaiting the arrival of dc3 Feb 22nd but was 11 and 16 days over dues with first dc so should probably catch the March bus

amicusapple Mon 17-Jun-13 19:58:24

Dawn - delighted to hear your wee bean is doing well smile

Trinpy, try not to stress too much. Fx for you.

Still not heard about my booking appointment. Not sure if I am meant to phone her or her to phone me? Confused!

We're nearly half way through our first thread already! Wonder how many by the time all these beans are babies?? grin

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 20:03:58

Hi third, DC3 for me too!

My mam came around today and said she was really pleased after all, she's looking forward to either a lovely girl like DD or a fab boy like DS. She's told my dad too and he texted me saying congratulations and he doesn't care what it is so long as we're both healthy at the end of it. Gave me the boost to tell my brothers who were also pleased smile

I didn't tell work, for all I'd built myself up to doing it I didn't. For one I felt incredibly sick when I got to work so had to concentrate on not vomming. Then it turned out my senior manager wasn't in anyway but she'd emailed me on Friday asking if I'd be interested in transferring to a different department and changing my hours. The hours are the ones I really wanted when I first started but weren't available. Now they are. Crap timing but I said I'd be very interested in the move/hours and that I need to speak to her asap.

Trinpy, my GP told me that all the darkness of the line shows is how much dye is in the test. I know it's hard not to worry - I've had two miscarriages in the past, one at 6wks and one at 15wks, so I know the fear of things going wrong. I'm a total knicker-checker, back and forth to the loo to make sure everything is okay. It's easier said than done but try not to worry. Everything is completely out of your hands right now, take it one day at a time. FX'd all is well x

ThirdTimesABrokenFanjo Mon 17-Jun-13 20:08:49

Hi Bear! smile

Apparentlychilled Mon 17-Jun-13 20:14:50

Hi Third and Bear- I'm expecting No3 too- DD is 4.5 and DS is 20 months (so will be 29 months when this one arrives). EDD is 1 Feb, I think but both mine arrived early (DD at 37 weeks and DS at 36 weeks, so I'm just keeping my fingers crossed I don't end up with a Christmas baby!

rueyrichardson Mon 17-Jun-13 20:22:22

Nervous times for everyone until those scans are done. All I can really focus on is getting through real life without anyone guessing at work, the nausea and exhaustion are so horrible combined. Can relate to everything people are saying on here in one way or another!

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 20:23:33

Hi apparently smile

EDD is 23rd Feb, DS was on his due date and DD was an EMCS three days late but I'd started going into labour so I'm hoping this one is close to due date too! DD was lighter than DS, another trend I'm hoping will carry on too as I'm wanting to try for a VBAC

Trinpy Mon 17-Jun-13 20:26:24

Thanks bear, ami and sprite. I'm such a worrier, but you're right: no use stressing, nothing I can do.

Hi to Third!

littlestgirlguide Mon 17-Jun-13 20:55:12

I'm glad I told my boss now! He told me today that he's decided I need an hours lunch break so I don't get too tired - brilliant!

littlestgirlguide Mon 17-Jun-13 20:59:53

How soon after going to the doctors did you get the letter about your scans? I went last Wednesday, I suppose I'm too hopeful to get a letter before I go on holiday on Saturday!

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 21:01:07

Last time I saw my midwife at 10wks and got the letter a week later giving a scan appointment a week after that.

Champagnebubble Mon 17-Jun-13 21:02:09

Trinpy just thought I'd say a quick hi and say I've suffered from bad cramps too (I.e bad AF cramps) upwards and back aches. My GP said it can be normal. I'm still panicked but I've googled it for hours and lots of women get them during the early weeks. Keep positive smile

feekerry Mon 17-Jun-13 21:04:29

i got my scan letter 2 days after phone apt with doc.... but my docs are pretty good. they also book a 10week midwife apt at the same call so within 2 days i know my booking in apt date and scan date....

bear has anyone said anything to you re vbac or elec cs yet???? i had crash emcs with dd 15 months ago and really want a elec cs this time around. doc said i would have to go to a vbac clinic to discuss vbac.... i don't want to tho . i just want a cs again. what have they said to you??

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 21:17:14

I got a letter from the surgeon a few days after DD was born saying that she saw no obvious problems (DD was breech with the cord around her legs and abnormally low amniotic fluid levels) and that it was a one-off, her recommendation was that I be classed as high risk this time around so they can monitor fluid levels and baby position but so long as they were fine she would recommend a VBAC and consultant led care.

Not sure when I'll have my first appointment with the consultant, I'm guessing the MW will sort that out at my booking in appointment and that a final decision re: VBAC/ELCS will be made nearer the time.

Clinical guidelines have changed now though and you can insist on an ELCS regardless of the consultant's recommendations IYSWIM?

feekerry Mon 17-Jun-13 21:24:29

interesting that you got a letter right after your dd birth. i never had anything like that. i was in labour for 2 days before i had the emcs and dd was 16 days over due when i had her. i never dilated past 7cm even after full induction and they said it was because there was a thick edge to the cervix and dd was b2b so not dilating it fully. i was told shortly after birth that i would always get the option of another cs but the doctor this time was a bit more cautious and said a vbac would be better.....

Bearfrills Mon 17-Jun-13 21:26:19

I think they have to offer it as an option but they can't force it on you, you have the right to an ELCS of that's what you want (I think in your circumstances I would want one too!).

sunflowered Mon 17-Jun-13 21:42:21

Hi feekerry, if you're in the uk (or maybe just england) I think your gp should have received a letter afterwards, but some hosps are better at copying in patients than others. Might be worth asking the gp to see a copy if it's in your gp records? From working in other parts of the nhs it's likely to be technical dr to dr stuff but hopefully it'll give an idea about anything you really should/shouldn't do this time round.

sunflowered Mon 17-Jun-13 21:46:44

just to add - gp would get a letter if you're a standard medical/surgical patient so I assume they'd do a post-discharge letter for maternity too esp in a scary situation like you described

vix206 Tue 18-Jun-13 12:40:13

Wow we are quiet today! smile

sunflowered Tue 18-Jun-13 12:54:47

Was it something I said? sad

Namechangingnorma Tue 18-Jun-13 13:01:35

I was just thinking, I am looking forward to the March thread starting and then we won't be the newest of newbies.

Hello I got a BFP this morning and came straight from the TTC #2 Nutjob thread to here grin DH doesn't even know yet as he is away until tomorrow night!

This will be DC2 and yet again I will be at the back of the class, last to have scans etc... as I think I will be due around 21st Feb. BUT most of my family are born in March so I think I will be late and have another March Baby (DS arrived bang on his due date, JUST making him a March Baby). DS will be just shy of 3 when this one comes

I have just moved house but would like to stay with my old surgery so I can have the same midwife as before - does anyone know the protocol on this? Can they make me change surgery? I'm in the same city, just a different part.

I'm going to have nosy on the thread now and see what you have all been up to (and remind me what I need to do next other than tell DH!)

DawnOfTheDee Tue 18-Jun-13 13:03:20

It must be the nice weather...wink

Nothing's been said to me so far re vbac or elcs. Am hoping it'll be discussed at my next mw appointment (second week in July).

I know I'm down for 'consultant led' care but that's because DD was such a heffer grin.

Haven't got any letters yet re scan, appointment with consultant or anything. Am hoping they come soon so I've got something to look forward to!

I've told my line manager at work simply because of the bleeding....thought it best warn them if i need to leave suddenly or anything like that. I'm not telling anyone else at work until i've had my 12 week scan though.

DawnOfTheDee Tue 18-Jun-13 13:04:46

x-post. Welcome prettyprudence and congrats!

Not sure what the deal is with moving surgeries. Might you get the same mw anyway? I know the one at my surgery covers several surgeries in the area.

I think I will give them a call tomorrow and ask where else my mw is based - she is a community only mw and she ended up delivering my ds. I know I won't necessarily get her for delivery again (hoping for another HB) but I got all my ante and post natal care with her and would like to try and keep the continuity. She was very practical and matter of fact but also very pro using movement and gravity and labour and leaving me be etc... I cried when she signed me off blush although it could of been my raging mass of hormones rather than a real love grin

No symptoms here yet but they didn't kick in until week 6-ish last time and actually wouldn't mind not having any at all...... I am about to hit our busiest time in work and could do with not being sick/exhausted!

sunflowered Tue 18-Jun-13 13:25:39

Hi prudence congratulations.

norma I'm due on the 20th (I think...) but am a first timer so sticking firmly to the Feb thread to see what others are doing a couple of weeks ahead smile

dawn I haven't told work and DH is quite keen not to tell work before our parents (and not to tell parents before 12 week scan) but I think I might reach a point where it's necessary sooner... I feel a bit guilty as work in the nhs in one of the bits that's been shaken up by the government's changes - money's tight and I've been around long enough to qualify for great maternity pay on top of smp but it's going to make a bit of a dent in our team budget. Plus I know my line manager had to self-fund IVF so it's a bit of a sensitive subject.

In other news, am working at home today which is awesome, particularly as someone stole my office chair and left me with a crappy old one yesterday. I'm blaming the extreme angry angry angry angry angry about it on hormones. That's the only excuse for getting so het up over a wheelie chair. But now the cat keeps settling down on my keyboard and won't be moved. She needs to watch out, I'm due another mood swing soon wink

sunflowered Tue 18-Jun-13 13:29:19

norma I think that line might have been aimed at prudence, sorry. Have just downloaded the talk app which is handy but doesnt let me see previous posts.

I meant to add to you norma that it's a little scary seeing the january thread start talking about 12 wk scans already shock but I guess that'll be us in 4 weeks too grin

heidihole Tue 18-Jun-13 14:22:29

Hello, I'm totally crap at threads like this, they move so fast and it's all I can do to keep up with the reading let alone posting, but I am here and watching! Due about Feb 12th I think with number 2 and have a 13 month old at the moment.

So currently 5 + 6 and no symptoms yet except bloating. I've actually lost two pounds since conceiving (BMI at the upper end of overweight) but trousers are tighter. Sucks!!

Looking at my pregnancy journal from last time it wasn't until 6/7 weeks that the sickness kicked in (and was hardcore!) so expecting it any day now. Funny how you want the sickness as reassurance it's all OK but when it happens i'm sure i'll be cursing it!

EeyoreIsh Tue 18-Jun-13 15:15:35

Hi everyone, I can't wait either for the March thread to start so we can feel like old hands grin

I hit 7+0 today. If I make it until Friday I pass the milestone of losing my last baby. I'm counting down the days. I know it's a token date and things still could go wrong, but it's significant in my head!

I'm so contrary about the sickness. I've hardly had any all day, and in the last ten minutes it's come on really bad and I'm hiding in the loos at work blush.

I'm tempted to tell my boss so I can go home early. But I don't want to give way this early in the pregnancy. Oh dear.

shopart123 Tue 18-Jun-13 15:44:59

This is sooo not how I thought being preggie would feel like. Like so many others im wanting an early scan but OH Is not up for it at all. Im constantly worried about every pain im getting and going to toilet all the time to check everything is ok. To make it worse someone at work announced a few weeks ago they were 7 weeks preggie with first and yesterday they had bleeding and have practically been told they have high risk of miscarriage. Its just awful. I dont mind the tiredness/nausea but this waiting is such a killer. Dont feel excited now sad

Middy75 Tue 18-Jun-13 16:16:58

Hi all, got my BFP last Sat after ttc #4 for 4 months ( I know I'm greedy!) finally resorted to smep and that did the trick! Not really got many symptoms yet but I just kinda feel pregnant. I am very worried about miscarriage too as I work in maternity I worry this time I 'know too much' confused debating about a private scan

Trinpy Tue 18-Jun-13 16:21:11

I spoke to my gp today who said to stop testing!!! as its a waste of money.

She said if you miscarry then you shouldn't blame myself because, as long as you're not drinking/smoking/eating foods you shouldn't and you're taking folic acid, then that's all you can do. The important thing is you got pregnant.

Also told my doctor about my fear of going to the scan and being told I've lost the baby, but she said she's only known this to happen a couple of times and there were known problems with the woman.

Just wanted to repeat all that on here in case anyone else is as panicky as me.

I've got my first midwife appointment booked in for mid-July and first scan should be the week after that smile.

Thisisfreakingmeout Tue 18-Jun-13 17:46:12

My first appointment I reckon I'll be 10+2. I then go away for two and a half weeks returning when I am 13+1.

I called the booking line and the woman didn't really listen. She just said, the MW will look at your timelines and book you in for your firs scan between 9 and 14 weeks. I said a couple of times, that only leaves the time before my appointment or 3 days after I get back.

Very dismissive as if I was angling for an extra early scan. Not the case I just don't want to miss the window to check all is ok.

Grumps!

Purple37 Tue 18-Jun-13 18:05:39

Hi all, just got my scan date for August 2nd which is cool but seems ages away! On the plus side I saw my midwife last week and am booked in to see her again in 3 weeks! Sore boobs here, headache and feel sick but no actual vomming yet..there's still time tho! Am struggling keeping it quiet at work as I work with teenagers with behaviour issues and when it kicks off I feel like people think I am being lazy for backing off!!! Considering the bloat/ bump situation they will probably guess soon enough!!

tinypolkadot Tue 18-Jun-13 18:15:13

I just handed in my form to the gp so I hope to get an appointment soon! Like everyone else I'm worrying too. This is my first, so nothing to compare against and like everyone else I am on keen knicker check!

I'm really worried about the restructure at work in a couple of months now, and we're in the middle of buying a house. I just don't think I'll be able to hide the pregnancy until everything gets sorted at work, it's hard to know what to do for the best. I'm just imagining I lose my job with a baby on the way, new mortgage and we will just have dh's wage.

How's everyone's sickness? I have serious food aversion, the thought of meat flips my stomach! I can just about manage chicken. In fact I bought a cooked one from asda tonight and am going to go for some aunt bessies potatoes smothered in gravy! Almost makes me feel hungry smile Dh is lucky he gets something that resembles a proper meal tonight!

I'm getting through my days with plain wensleydale sandwiches, boiled sweets, full sugar squash and chocolate milk. And chips, can't forget the chips! My dream diet as an 11 year old probably grin

Can't stand to think about food at all really, completely alien to me!

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 18:33:34

Work have offered me new hours and I've accepted, definitely need to tell them now!

Can I run my email by you all? Very nervous about telling my boss.

Hi xxxxxx

Thank you for the change of hours, I'm looking forward to starting them once it all goes through.

I was hoping to get some time with you today to discuss a personal matter. I've recently found out that I'm pregnant. It's early days yet but I wanted to let you know as I have a history of miscarriage and need the appropriate risk assessments done.

Yours,

Bear

I was going to add in I did not intend for this to happen so early in my employment and I hope you don't think I'm taking advantage but I thought that was going too far, best keep it business like?

tinypolkadot Tue 18-Jun-13 18:38:22

Hi bear that sounds good. Is it more or less hours or the same?

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 18:50:21

It's more hours but less days, which is what I originally wanted to do when I took the job

jazzcat28 Tue 18-Jun-13 18:54:30

Bear email sounds good to me but would it soften the blow a little bit if you chatted about it first then followed up in writing? Not sure how close you are to your manager but I work next to mine every day so I know he wouldn't take kindly to an email when we could go for a discussion?

I also read somewhere (possibly NCT website) that when telling your employer that you're pregnant the first thought in their mind will be "how will I cover X's work?" closely followed by "so now they will be doing the bare minimum".

Perhaps add a sentence along the lines of I just want to reassure you that I'm 100% committed to my role and duties over the coming months, and will make sure I do everything within my power to make a handover as easy as possible when it comes to my final weeks at work

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 19:09:57

I like that jazz, I'm stealing it!

I don't sit anywhere near her, she manages us remotely so the majority of communication is by email and the only phone in the office is shared so I can't make a private call.

tinypolkadot Tue 18-Jun-13 19:17:37

That does sound very good, I might keep a note of it for when I need to tell work too!

EeyoreIsh Tue 18-Jun-13 19:19:22

bear, I think your email with jazz's addition is perfect.

I've just got home, it's lovely to collapse on the sofa grin

jazzcat28 Tue 18-Jun-13 19:56:54

smile glad to be of help

I'm dreading telling my boss. He's just given me heaps more responsibility after a senior manager left in May, now I am potentially going off on ML end Jan/early Feb. I think he'll be really pleased for me but equally will be worried about how to fill my role.

Boobs are deffo getting bigger... can't wear 2 of my bras already!

littlestgirlguide Tue 18-Jun-13 19:56:58

I am absolutely bloody fuming!!!! my bloody boss has only gone and told everyone in the sodding office! Apparantly someone wondered why my diary has changed (as I mentioned previously) and he just told them. Just like that! In front of about 20 other staff, who have since told everyone else! He could have just said 'medical reasons' and been vague, but no! I'm so cross. I'm 6+5, and although I had told a couple of closer friends at work I was hoping to wait a few more weeks before the whole world knew. Plus, selfishly, I wanted to share the news myself :-(

boredoftrying Tue 18-Jun-13 19:59:17

Hi! Just jumping in here but I got my long awaited BFP yesterday after trying for 4.5 years!! I have an almost 5 year old boy and because he took 2 years to conceive we started trying when he turned 3 months, didn't expect it to take this long!

So excited and so worried that something is going to go wrong (perfectly natural I suppose). Going to book an early scan for next week.

Look forward to getting to know you all xxx

mrscookie78 Tue 18-Jun-13 19:59:28

I told work as im a nanny and only work part time with my lo. I've been there over 5 year's and thought they should know as some days I feel rubbish and don't get a lot done smile

mrscookie78 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:01:12

that's rubbish littlestgirlguide.

congratulations boredoftrying! smile

jazzcat28 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:01:19

girlguide that is awful! How rude of him!

DawnOfTheDee Tue 18-Jun-13 20:04:13

Wow, congrats boredoftrying! So happy for you x

littlestgirlguide Oh my god...I'm fuming on your behalf. How dare he! Can he even do that? Aren't there rules about keeping private/medical stuff um...private?

With DD my FIL had an idea of how we should tell DH's sis. We said no but he jumped in and tried to tell her 'his way' first. Then he told another family member before we'd even said hello to them. I could have happily punched him until my EDD!

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 20:05:44

That is shocking littlestgirlguide sad and angry - are you going to pull him on it? I'd say at the very least he owes you a proper apology!

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 20:06:28

Congratulations boredoftrying and welcome to the bus smile

tinypolkadot Tue 18-Jun-13 20:10:13

Congrats boredoftrying you must be ecstatic after 4.5 years!

littlestgirlguide words fail me! Sounds like a total David Brent type boss. Maybe tomorrow you can ask him why he decided to tell the whole of the office?

boredoftrying Tue 18-Jun-13 20:11:09

Thanks everyone! x

jazzcat28 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:13:20

Oh goodness me, a friend of mine had a 12 wk scan this week and found out she lost the baby. That's now 3 girls out of my friendship circle who've miscarried.

Now REALLY worried about mine. Wonder whether a private reassurance scan might be worth £99.

<wibble>

moominlike Tue 18-Jun-13 20:20:31

Well it seems I wasn't paranoid after all - my colleagues are getting suspicious! And I thought I was doing so well at hiding it...of all the things that could have given it away it was my reduction in tea drinking that did it blush Still not going to tell anyone for the timebeing though as I am in the midst of changing jobs and don't want my current or new bosses finding out through the grapevine. It is difficult though, I wish I could at least tell my manager but hey ho.

Sprite21 I was also due to run an event shortly (not 10 miles mind!) so have feigned an injury. Do feel bad for fibbing but what can you do?!

Have managed to avoid questions about not drinking so far by driving everywhere. Bit gutted that I have a spa day booked soon and now can't enjoy the jacuzzi/sauna and might also have to change treatments! Generally I think though that even if people suspect they tend to keep it to themselves as they understand that most wait till 12 weeks before making it public (I hope!)

Got my early dating scan tomorrow which I'm very excited about grin - has anyone else had one yet? How did you find it?

Hi and congrats to all the new joiners xx

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 20:26:09

Your poor friend sad

Personally I wouldn't pay for a reassurance scan but that's just me. All it shows you is that everything is okay on that day which I know is quite blunt sounding, sorry. I can see the appeal of them though, worry is such a heavy weight and it can be such a load off to see everything is as it should be.

Sprite21 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:29:10

Hi moomin yes, I think I will have to fake an injury. Same for me with the booked spa treatment, and the work issues.
I just had a 'mentoring' talk with my line manager today, all about my career progression and they are going to try and hand over some projects to me...
I feel really guilty that I'm just going to turn around and tell them I'm pregnant. But I'm still on probation and the last job I had they didn't renew my contract when I got pregnant. It's so tricky.
Anyone else already looking pregnant but mainly due to bloating and excessive food intake?
So embarrassing.

PipsWife Tue 18-Jun-13 20:31:02

Can I join you all?

I am 5+3. BFP last thurs. DD (2) TTC for 1 year x1 ectopic(sep12) x2 MC (jun12 and mar13).

Due 16 Feb.

I am still in shock but feeling positive.

I have read the first few pages so going to make a decaf coffee and sit down to read it all.

Congrats to everyone.

moominlike Tue 18-Jun-13 20:31:36

littlestgirlguide I would be furious too, that's completely out of order!! It's your news and therefore your choice who to tell and when. That's outrageous.

feekerry Tue 18-Jun-13 20:34:54

finding out at 12 weeks scan must be awful. i think a missed mc must be horrific.
i am having a mild panic as i had really bad pains the other night life period pains and since then have felt okay... no tiredness or sicky feeling.... but no bleeding or anything
half tempted to ask for blood tests but as most know symptoms don't really take hold till 7ish weeks.....
hmmm not sure.

moominlike Tue 18-Jun-13 20:38:36

Congratulations boredoftrying and pipswife smile

It is difficult, I'll be starting a new job just as I hit 12 weeks (hopefully) and also feel really guilty, but you can't predict when things will happen...I don't know if being on probation affects your rights but I wouldn't have thought so?

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 20:42:55

It is horrific. I don't want to talk about it too much because I don't want to upset anyone. We lost a baby at 15wks and I was completely broken sad

BUT (and it's a big but)

but

Missed miscarriage isn't all that usual. Really, it isn't. You get lots of missed miscarriages somewhere like these forums purely because you have large groups of pregnant women concentrated into one place and the law of averages says you'll have several people with the same experiences.

Missed miscarriage only accounts for 1-3% of all miscarriages. That's such a small percentage in comparison.

I wish there was something I could say to make everyone not be afraid or worried. All I can say is, like many of you, I've been that lady getting the awful news. And like many of you I'm worried and tense and hate that waiting feeling of knicker checking and thinking over and over about what could go wrong.

My only advice is to take it one day at a time. You were pregnant yesterday. You are pregnant today. You hope to be pregnant tomorrow. Baby steps and before you know it we'll be in the second trimester and can concentrate instead on getting really, really round grin

Sprite21 Tue 18-Jun-13 20:45:27

Welcome pips wife and a massive congratulations after going through all that, wow.
Thanks bear frills I needed that kind of reassurance. You're right, we can't change anything and in some ways constant checking would only make it worse.
I am still really looking forward to the 12 week scan though. You can see their whole body. Most amazing experience of my life and I burst into tears (okay maybe 2nd most after actual birth but it really brought it home to me)

boredoftrying Tue 18-Jun-13 20:48:37

Tiny PD - Ecstatic is probably a good way of describing it! Still in shock and not quite believing it, it's been a long hard slog to get here so I'm just hoping all is well. Currently SS like mad but I didn't have many symptoms with my DS so not expecting much this time around. x

Trinpy Tue 18-Jun-13 21:11:54

hello to bored and pipswife.

Sorry if this is tmi, but have any of the other knicker-checkers on here noticed any brown blood? Have some atm mixed in with cm. normal? 12 week scan can not come quick enough.

vix206 Tue 18-Jun-13 21:18:01

Trinpy how far along are you? I had this at 4 weeks, was classic implantation bleeding.

Bearfrills Tue 18-Jun-13 21:19:10

Brown blood is usually old blood Trinpy, could be from a bump to your cervix, a little blood coming loose or old bleeding from implantation. Why don't you see your GP? Explain that you're worried and ask to be referred to the Early Pregnancy Assessment Unit, insist if you have to. They'll be able to check you out and at the very least you'd have reassurance smile

feekerry Tue 18-Jun-13 21:23:56

you could ask for an early scan depending on how far gone you are and how concerned you are
i had some light brown discharge with dc1 at around 7 weeks. i was already in hospital for another pregnancy related issue, i told the consultant about the discharge and he said it wasn't even an issue as totally normal.
i know it can be worrying as any type of.bleeding in pregnancy is but there can be alot of causes.
i think black knickers are a good idea!!

Trinpy Tue 18-Jun-13 23:08:27

heavy bleeding now sad

Namechangingnorma Tue 18-Jun-13 23:12:59

oh Trinpy, really sorry to hear that, try and get as much rest as possible, and take really good care of yourself. it doesn't soung good but I do knw f ne person who bled pretty heavily and then the scan a week later was fine. Thinking of you xx

Trinpy Tue 18-Jun-13 23:30:39

thank you. I'm treating it as a mc because it's easier that way.

sunflowered Tue 18-Jun-13 23:34:23

Thinking of you tonight trinpy - I hope you're able to find out what's going on tomorrow and that you've got people around you to look after you

rueyrichardson Wed 19-Jun-13 07:30:34

Hope you are OK this morning trinpy. Big hugs.

tinypolkadot Wed 19-Jun-13 07:35:38

So sorry trinpy take good care of yourself x

vix206 Wed 19-Jun-13 07:45:44

So sorry Trinpy, I know what you're going through and it's awful. Take good care.

Bearfrills Wed 19-Jun-13 07:46:18

Trinpy sad thinking of you today and hoping you're okay and can get a referral to EPAU.

Take it easy and take care of yourself flowers

jazzcat28 Wed 19-Jun-13 08:21:28

trinpy sending hugs

moominlike Wed 19-Jun-13 09:08:48

Thinking of you trinpy x

laura0007 Wed 19-Jun-13 09:53:08

Good luck trinpy. Hope it's good news

Trinpy Wed 19-Jun-13 10:40:18

Just got back from doctors. Probably too early to see anything on a scan but she's going to call the hospital to see if they will try. Otherwise I will be having blood tests over 2 days to see if the hcg levels are falling. She thinks from the sounds of it though that I have lost the pregnancy.

Called the fertility clinic to see whether I could still have the appointment I cancelled next week, but they have already given it to someone else sad. And they shredded my referral because they thought I wouldn't need them anymore since I was pregnant, so I now have to go through my gp again. Earliest appointment they can give me at the clinic is in 2 months time. So its the waiting game again. Its so fucking unfair, I really don't know how much more of this I can deal with.

I called in sick to work today and DH is staying home with me. Tomorrow's my day off anyway so I'm not in again until Friday.

vix206 Wed 19-Jun-13 11:35:31

I'm so sorry Trinpy, it is really unfair. Nature is so, so cruel sometimes.

Bearfrills Wed 19-Jun-13 12:19:50

I'm so sorry Trinpy, it's such a shitty situation and I wish things could be different.

I just want to say though that your story is so similar to my own. DH and I tried for 3yrs to conceive and had all the tests at the fertility clinic. I was on the waiting list for an appointment to get a Clomid prescription when I fell pregnant totally out of the blue. I miscarried four days later, it was like a cruel joke and the emotional side hurt far worse than the physical. We too were bumped back to the bottom of the list and had to be re-referred. Six months later I fell pregnant with DS.

I wish nothing but a happy ending for you, whatever that might be. Huge hugs x

Trinpy Wed 19-Jun-13 12:35:55

Thank you.

Just got to wait for the results of the blood tests to confirm, so I'll know for sure by the end of the week.

Just wanted to say thanks to everyone on here who's given me support and advice, especially those that have been there since the bfp thread smile.

Good luck with all youir pregnancies xxx

P.S. hiding this thread now so won't be able to see any replies!

moominlike Wed 19-Jun-13 14:26:15

I don't think anything can prepare you for what an emotional rollercoaster this is, I really feel for anyone who has been through something like that.

Scan today didn't really go as I hoped, they saw a gestational sack but nothing else. I wasn't too worried as the lady who did the scan said it was probably just too early (she thinks I'm 5 weeks rather than 7) and that I'd probably just have another in a couple of weeks time. But then we met with someone in the early pregnancy unit who was saying they couldn't confirm the pregnancy was there, or in the right place, or rule out miscarriage sad

Now waiting for blood test results and trying to stay positive, but I do feel a bit daft for telling family now.

Champagnebubble Wed 19-Jun-13 14:46:02

Moomin please don't feel daft. You may just need a few more days. Every woman and pregnancy is different. I've been at the EPU this morning so I know how you feel, please keep positive.

SugarMiceInTheRain Wed 19-Jun-13 14:54:53

Can I join you please? Got a BFP yesterday grin I am keeping everything crossed that this one sticks as my last 3 pregnancies ended in MC. In fact, I had pretty much given up hope that we'd have another child as I was taking increasingly large doses of Clomid to make me ovulate and the last cycle I did, even the 150mg dose didn't work. So this BFP was a happy surprise! smile

I reckon I'm due 15/2/14. Arranged my booking in appointment with the midwife today - they said I could only book from 9 weeks onwards but I persuaded them to put me in as the MWs are usually so busy that if you wait til 9 weeks to make the appointment, you aren't seen til 12/13 weeks so no chance of having a 12 week scan on time! Am sitting here filling out my antenatal notes. <wistfully remembering the days when the MW did that for you at the first appointment - lol>

I too am hoping for a good sleeper - I have 2 DS - 7 and 5 and the 5 year old was still waking up 6 times a night aged 1 hmm Sleep deprivation truly is torture...

Champagnebubble Wed 19-Jun-13 15:05:23

Congrats Sugar!!!!!! I've not had to fill out any paperwork! hmm I have my 8 WK MW appt through though....maybe I will get it then! confused

Apparentlychilled Wed 19-Jun-13 15:08:02

Hi all, and welcome to the newbies. And I'm so sorry to hear about Tripny and moomin's worries. Thinking of you both.

I've had my 2nd early scan today and have to bow out of this thread for a lovely reason- my EDD has been moved to 24 Jan, so i'm further along than I thought- yay! I'll kid myself that's why I have a visable bump (and nothing to do with all the rubbish I'm eating, oh no!)!

I'm going to a funeral on my side on Saturday, so I'm going to tell my folks and siblings then (if they don't guess as soon as they see me!).

Champagnebubble Wed 19-Jun-13 15:38:07

Congrats Apparently! Excellent news, let's hope you don't get bumped back to February at the end due to a comfy baby grin

Apparentlychilled Wed 19-Jun-13 15:44:53

Well, the last two arrived at 37+1 and 36+1, so I'll end up being the grumpiest pregnant woman ever if I even hit my due date, I imagine!

Good luck to everyone.

moominlike Wed 19-Jun-13 15:45:00

Thanks Champagnebubble and Apparentlychilled - and congratulations on your scansmile

Blood test has come back with hcg levels at around 2000 which she said is consistent with my scan (4-5 weeks) so I guess that's good news although I think I read that hcg can still be present after mc/mmc so probably shouldn't get my hopes up, and just wait and see what Friday brings.

Apparently I am 'in the system' very early as my lmp was February and they wanted to make sure I wasn't 4 months along already (even though I was on the pill till end of April)...I'm trying to take comfort that if I had a dating scan at the usual time we would have probably been able to see what we needed to and all this wouldn't be happening!

Congratulations SugarMiceInTheRain smile

Champagnebubble Wed 19-Jun-13 16:00:47

Moomin that is a positive at least so just keep thinking nice thoughts unless you get proved otherwise. I know it is hard but try. To give you a positive I was convinced something wrong, but at EPU they told me all looks normal and they found a heartbeat. I went from thinking black thoughts to thinking wow. It is just a waiting game. I know just how you feel (hugs)

SugarMiceInTheRain Wed 19-Jun-13 16:22:45

Champagne maybe the MWs here are just lazy so to save time in the first appointment they make you do your own paperwork! ;-)

Apparently great news! Time seems to move so slowly at the beginning of pregnancy - I'm always wishing away the early weeks, so having an earlier EDD than you initially thought is a bonus!

DawnOfTheDee Wed 19-Jun-13 19:17:22

Moomin - that's really positive. Fx Friday goes well too.

Congrats & welcome SugarMouse!

I'm a bit worried that this LO will be a nightmare...I sort of feel like i've used up my luck with DD - she naps well, she sleeps well, she eats anything and I mean anything, the low point was a dead spider , etc, etc. I'm a second child and my mum said if I'd been the first born she wouldn't have bothered having another!

Sprite21 Wed 19-Jun-13 19:22:44

Oh no, feeling slightly anxious with Trinpy's sad news.
Moomin it sounds like your visit went well. Apparently I'm jealous. I forgot how long 9 months is at the beginning.
I haven't had to fill in any paperwork. Midwife visit scheduled for July 3rd but no scan booked in yet.
Do others have their 12 week scans booked in?

DawnOfTheDee Wed 19-Jun-13 19:36:07

I've saw my mw almost 2 weeks ago and still haven't got the letter about my 12 week scan. I know it comes direct from the hospital though....i think last time it took a while to come but the actual scan date was around my 12 week mark.

SamL88 Wed 19-Jun-13 19:43:54

I have a mw appointment on Sunday 31st June and my scan is on 31st July. It was all booked within 3 days of seein my dr so I'm very impressed!
I'm starting to think I've got my dates wrong as I'm convinced I'm showing a bump!! My partner said he saw a bump as I walked towards him earlier. I'm not a skinny mini but I'm not huge so I can't blame it on the extra pounds!
Does anyone else think they're showing?

vix206 Wed 19-Jun-13 20:56:58

It's all bloat! I look 4 months pregnant and there's no hiding it from anyone now. But it's all bloat.

Bearfrills Wed 19-Jun-13 21:16:40

I look bumpy too, definitely all bloat and cake

I told work today. My hands were shaking as I typed the email and I had a wobble to the senior along the lines of "please don't sack me!". They were really cool about it. I'm now on restricted duties and I'm booked for a risk assessment but need to self-manage it for the time being with a warning to be cautious - no more pushing the big trolleys or carrying more than a couple of sets of notes at a time. All that worry was for nothing. In the worse of my manager: "we'll manage and we'll make it work". Then she said she was dead pleased for me and gave me a hug smile

I'm going to tell the rest of my team tomorrow with the help of posh biscuits. They'll wonder why I'm on restricted duties and as they'll potentially be picking up the slack I feel I at least owe them a proper explanation why.

Filling out my yellow MW notes too grin

I nipped in today and made my booking appointment for 10th July when I'll be 8wks purely because I'm away on holiday at 10wks. The only thing though is that our community midwives are a team of 4 or so midwives and I think I've got the MW I had when I was pregnant with DD. I remember she was very standoff-ish and a bit distant. She was also dismissive of my concerns about movement, particularly that I was feeling no kicks at all for the entire pregnancy but was instead getting bulging at the top of my bump. She totally missed all the signs that DD was breech and that I had abnormally low amniotic fluid which is why I ended up with an EmCS. If I do have her, I have no trust in her at all and no trust that I'll get the correct care at the correct time. Not sure how to broach it with them and ask for a different MW though as she does all the ante-natal appointments.

moominlike Wed 19-Jun-13 23:11:37

Mine is definitely bloat too but isn't as bad as it was a couple of weeks ago. I've relented and got some work trousers in the next size up, they're a bit big but at least I'm comfy! Nurse weighed me at the hospital today and my bmi is 30.6 sad I'm not huge (I don't think so anyway!), normally a size 14 but have always been heavy if that makes sense? Am keen not to gain too much and have managed to lose a few pounds since getting my bfp.

moominlike Wed 19-Jun-13 23:14:45

Thanks for the reassurance btw, I still don't get how I can only be 4/5 weeks pg when I got my bfp over 4 weeks ago but hey they're the experts...

Glad your scan went well Champagne smile

barebranches Thu 20-Jun-13 07:07:57

hi everyone and newbies
i think im getting bloaty too... also scales keep going up and im eating so much better than pre preg... that scares me because im already over weight. sad im going to be massive!

got my docs appointment tomorrow that i booked 2 weeks ago... then the ball should start moving towards scans and stuff! grin
still not much symptoms. which is good is suppose because work has been crazy!
have a nice day everyone!

Bearfrills Thu 20-Jun-13 07:08:31

Mine is 29.9 moomin blush but I've lost almost three stone in the last year and I feel I'm at a far healthier weight than I once was. A BMI of 30-ish isn't that bad in the grand scheme of things, if I remember rightly my hospital doesn't class it as a problem (e.g., high risk) until it's 35 or 40.

Just do what I do and refuse to be weighed grin

Bearfrills Thu 20-Jun-13 07:12:45

My sickness has arrived envy (that's a green sick face BTW) but it's limited to mid-morning and bedtime and that's it so far. The all day sickness will come, I know it. Usually though my sickness doesn't come until 6wks so it's a bit odd to have it early but reassuring.

EeyoreIsh Thu 20-Jun-13 07:18:20

oh bear sorry the sickness has arrived. It's pants sad mine gets worse as the day goes on.

I've got an interview for a promotion this afternoon. I'm quite nervous! I'm also nervous about having to run out of the room because I feel sick. I don't feel too bad for applying because it's within the same organisation, and I lost my last pregnancy at this stage so there's no guarantee this one will last.

feekerry Thu 20-Jun-13 07:45:32

Well if i go from my bfp date when i tested i am 6 weeks today. Felt pretty sick this am too but managed to control with food.
Dd got up at 5.15am today. envy at all those who get to stay in bed past 5.30am

moominlike Thu 20-Jun-13 07:54:13

Bearfrills well done that's a huge achievement.
Unfortunately I was already a stone up from my usual weight when I fell pg (combination of contentment at home and comfort eating at work I think!). I did point out to the nurse that my shoes made me seem heavier...she in turn pointed out they also made me a bit taller. Good point.

Good luck with your interview Eeyorelsh

Felt quite positive yesterday but really down today. Hopefully work will be a distraction.

Have a good day all xxx

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 20-Jun-13 08:37:11

feekerry - I feel for you - hate being woken up too early. Now I can't get my boys out of bed in the morning! I am sooo tired as I'm in a play at the moment so out every night til late then have to come home, unwind for an hour or so before I can sleep. I have a 2 hour window free around 10.30 this morning and am sorely tempted to go back to bed for a nap!

littlestgirlguide Thu 20-Jun-13 08:56:38

Is anyone else getting nosebleeds? I've had one the last three mornings, as soon as I've woken up. This morning went on for ages, resulting in my being late for work, and a very upset DD who saw me with blood all over me! Is it pregnancy related, or just nosebleeds?

vix206 Thu 20-Jun-13 09:07:16

Littlestgirlguide I've read that nosebleeds are common in pregnancy.

bugsyburge Thu 20-Jun-13 09:11:01

morning all, I'm dabbling between this thread & the January thread because I'm due somewhere in between.

i think nosebleeds are a common part of pregnancy although I get nosebleeds all the time!!!

my sickness has begun today.....envy

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 20-Jun-13 09:30:05

Littlest I think they are quite common in pregnancy.

Eeyoreish Good luck with your interview!

This will sound ridiculous, as I remember how horrible morning sickness is, but I kind of wish I was feeling nauseated as at least it would be a sign to me that I really am pregnant. I have no symptoms whatsoever, apart from tiredness but tbh I've been tired for most of the last 7 years! I want to constantly snack at the moment and have been trying to justify it due to pregnancy, but again, I have a tendency to comfort eat anyway! blush

Thingymajigs Thu 20-Jun-13 09:40:42

littlest I'm not sure about how pregnancy affects it but my son who suffers with nose bleeds has started having them again this week. The weather seems to have a strong affect on his, especially a sudden change to higher temperatures.
I'm pretty symptomless. My boobs are bigger and I occasionally feel heaviness in my uterus but apart from that (and missing periods,) I wouldn't know I was pregnant. It was the same with my other two pregnancies so I'm not worried. All my discomforts come in later pregnancy like SPD, piles, restless leg syndrome and insomnia. confused So I'm enjoying the lack of symptoms right now.
Just booked a weekend away in August for DP and I. Our last childfree weekend for a long while I imagine.

jazzcat28 Thu 20-Jun-13 09:47:03

sugar I know what you mean. DH actually said to me last night 'I am worried you've mc'd already because you haven't had any morning sickness yet'. He meant it in the nicest way, I think I'm 5+1 so presume I've got a few weeks before the sickness starts.

thingy sounds like we have all the glamorous side effects to come!

Anyone seen their GP before their booking in appt with midwife? I'm seeing mine on Monday morning. Should I prepare for anything? e.g. will they want a urine sample? Do I need to ahem, prepare, down below??

Thingymajigs Thu 20-Jun-13 09:54:57

I saw my GP when I was only about 5+1. I went in about something else but mentioned my pregnancy whilst I was there. All they do is fill out a form for NHS exemption and tell you to take folic acid and not to smoke or drink. Oh, I got a pack too which contains all the information and urine sample bottles you need for the later midwife appointments.

EeyoreIsh Thu 20-Jun-13 10:03:47

Thanks for the good luck. Am currently sick in the loo rather than preparing envy grin

I know what people mean about the lack of symptoms being worrying. I felt really good most of yesterday and it was freaking me out!

I keep looking in the mirror to check I don't look pregnant in my dress! Which is silly as I'm only seven weeks! my boobs look great though, I for a change grin

sunflowered Thu 20-Jun-13 10:10:57

Good luck from me too eeyorish smile

thingy I was told I have to see the gp first. I'm expecting it to be a bit of a non-event but exciting to get the ball rolling, and also to be able to leave work early on Friday afternoon grin

sunflowered Thu 20-Jun-13 10:12:30

Sorry, that was to jazzcat, not thingy. Think I'm going to give up posting from this talk app and go back to the old fashioned website...

bugsyburge Thu 20-Jun-13 10:39:01

jazz it's pretty much a non event at the Gp.... ask you a couple of questions, tell you some dos & donts, give yoyo an exemption form & send you on your merry way smile

jazzcat28 Thu 20-Jun-13 11:48:48

Ah well, it'll be first appointment of many I'm sure so I won't get too excited!

Has anyone bought any pregnancy books? I've been looking at this one but not sure if it's worth the money?

Won't buy it until after GP appt as DH doesn't want me to go baby-zilla on him (we married last year so he knows how carried away I can get!)

vix206 Thu 20-Jun-13 11:55:07

I won't buy one this time round but my favourite is what to expect when you're expecting. I loved all the detail, I don't think she left anything out!

littlestgirlguide Thu 20-Jun-13 12:04:32

Got a call from midwife - scan tomorrow! I think She wants to do it early because i got a very high Downs risk last time? I will be 7+1, are they going to be able to see anything?

SugarMiceInTheRain Thu 20-Jun-13 12:33:01

From previous early scans I've had I'd say at 7 weeks they might be able to detect a heartbeat - baby is still so small. I had one at 6 weeks which showed a HB, and another at 8 weeks which also did. I also had one at what I thought was 7.5 weeks but she dated it as about 5.5 weeks. HB was there albeit feint. I'm quite envy at those of you getting early scans. I may fork out for a private one unless I can convince MW to refer me for one due to my fertility issues and MC history. On all 5 pregnancies I have had early scans for one reason or another (fertility treatment/ private scan/ threatened MC...)

bugsyburge Thu 20-Jun-13 12:37:41

jazzcat.ive bought that book after my doc meeting, it's arriving Monday so ill let you know what it's like

mrscookie78 Thu 20-Jun-13 13:06:09

Think thats the book I have, I quite like it grin

Thisisfreakingmeout Thu 20-Jun-13 14:03:26

My docs was a non event. Don't smoke or drink. Eat fibre and take folic acid. No exemption form, no pack. I have take pee to the MW and don't have a pot. Rubbish.

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 16:53:09

Hello, please may I join? Due DC4 on Feb 17th all being well. smile

DC3 also DS3 is only 8 months.

Eeeeep.

DawnOfTheDee Thu 20-Jun-13 18:16:17

Congrats and welcome gofourthand

littlestgirlguide Nosebleeds are a common symptom of pg - it's because you have much more blood rushing round your body during pg so the capillaries in your nose sometimes can't cope and bleed. It's one symptom i've had with DD and with this one.

vix206 Thu 20-Jun-13 18:36:03

Yes, bleeding gums here for the same reason!

laura0007 Thu 20-Jun-13 19:07:08

I'm surprised I've not had any nosebleeds yet as I'm normally prone to them! Not that I'm wanting them either thanks very much if anyone up there is reading this....

SamL88 Thu 20-Jun-13 20:06:20

Sickness has hit today - not actually been sick but my goodness do I feel rough! I have a pretty good set up at work to deal with it but I have an hour and a half commute each way to work on a bus with no toilet - PANIC! I suppose I'm going to have to arm myself with plain crackers....oh and carrier bags!
Any tips to keep the sickness at bay?

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 20:25:30

For sickness: seabands, vitamin b6, ginger, mint gaviscon tablets, the bean diet (Google has loads on this), salty carbs.

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 20:28:32

I'm trying the bean thing early before i get the nausea this time, it's supposed to have a cumulative effect. Approx 240g cooked weight beans daily. I'll let you know how it goes if you like? smile

Thisisfreakingmeout Thu 20-Jun-13 20:30:21

If I eat this much bean something else will happen!

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 20:34:15

Lol! Apparently not, though i see what you are saying.

The theory is that we reproduce bile. Which means the beans don't convert so readily to rafinose, the natural sugar which is gas-forming.

Well that's the theory. Day 5, no particular massive fartiness to report.

vix206 Thu 20-Jun-13 20:42:19

Thanks for sharing the bean cure, interesting stuff! I'm vegetarian so eat quite a lot of beans and lentils, but I might eat more now!

tinypolkadot Thu 20-Jun-13 20:56:12

I've got some b6 and haven't taken it as concerned about too much as it's included in the pregnancy vits. Is it still ok to take? I've been feeling rotten all week long

Just about holding it together as dh eats his pizza next to me

Going to Google the bean diet now

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 21:15:51

Polkadot have you come across pregnancysicknesssupport.org? It should have up to date information on safe amounts of B6.

Good site. I'dalso (unrelated) recommend homebirth.org later on if anyone is debating one.

SamL88 Thu 20-Jun-13 21:24:59

Thanks guys - will definitely try these. It's such a worry when you know you can't be sick!
Going to check out the bean diet now. Sounds interesting.
I do remember reading that its ok to take above the RDA of B6.

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 21:29:00

25mg every 8 hrs showed significant reduction in nausea for women with severe nausea. According to 1 study.

tinypolkadot Thu 20-Jun-13 21:29:41

Thanks goforthand I'll add that to my favourites I think.

Will report back about the b6!

tinypolkadot Thu 20-Jun-13 21:41:53

Well my pregnancy vits only have 2.6mg in them! Have just taken a 50mg b6, will maybe try two a day, see what happens...

gofourthand Thu 20-Jun-13 21:47:32

Hope it helps!

Anyone with older DCs: how old are they and when do you plan to tell them?

Bearfrills Thu 20-Jun-13 21:54:27

My DCs are 3.10yo and 22mo. We're not telling them until after the 12wks scan.

charliedrinks26 Fri 21-Jun-13 02:50:29

Can I join you? Not entirely sure when I'm due but going from date of last period will be roughly 27th feb, got my shocking bfp yesterday 3rd month on clomid!
Been try properly since august 2011, Ff dates say I'm 4+1 not sure when I should go to drs! As I know it's sooo early! But I just can wait any more!!

Think sickness may have kicked in and I also keep having to check af hasn't arrived -all seems unreal! I can't sleep either! Hence posting at 2:50 am!!! grin grin xxxx

Thingymajigs Fri 21-Jun-13 07:35:01

goforth my boys are nearly 10 and 13 and we are waiting until 12-14 weeks before we tell them. They are going to be so excited!
Congrats charlie. smile

littlestgirlguide Fri 21-Jun-13 07:38:01

My DD has just turned 4, and we aren't planning on telling her until at least 12 weeks, as late as possible really.

Scan at 11.20. Wish me luck!

Thingymajigs Fri 21-Jun-13 07:44:06

Good luck littlest. smile I have my scan on Monday too.

vix206 Fri 21-Jun-13 07:45:27

My DS (2.11) has picked up on me being pregnant from conversations I've had in front of him. It happened in march too, when I miscarried.

Because he's so young though he doesn't know how long a baby takes to make so, if I was to lose this one, we just wouldn't tell him again. I don't think it will really seem real to him until I have a proper bump.

If he was a bit older I would've been more careful about talking about it in front of him!

feekerry Fri 21-Jun-13 08:55:00

Ughhh. Feel like utter shite this morning. Constant battle. Me vs toilet this morning.
I hate early pregnancy

Bearfrills Fri 21-Jun-13 09:19:44

I had no sickness yesterday then fe