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February 2014(1000 Posts)
Very early days but I'm due 26 January - really expecting early February after being 15 days late with DC1. Thought I'd get the ball rolling
Vix - come and join us in January for the time being!
Thank you Yoni!
It might sound funny but I'm really looking forward to not being far behind everyone on an antenatal thread! Both my pregnancies have been due at the end of the month and so I'm always one of the last to have scans etc. I've no doubt this baby will be early Feb rather than late Jan so I'm lurking on your thread but sticking with this one. There's no way i could keep up with 2! Hopefully I will have company soon
I know that feeling - DD was 27th and I ended up giving up on thread for the same reasons you give! This one is 02/01 so I'm ahead of the crowd
Thought I'd have some company by now
Hi vix not sure if I'm too early to join you? I got my bfp today, 1 - 2 weeks apparently!
Due 5 Feb possibly?
Still v v early days. This is dc #1 for me, conceived cycle 1, so I'm in a bit of shock!
Yay tinypolkadot! Congratulations and thank you for easing the loneliness!!
Thanks very much vix and congratulations to you too!
So much to start thinking about, not really sure where to begin!
I can keep you company until Friday and then I'll be away for a holiday (undecided if that's good timing or not!)
Surely someone else will join us by then?!
I hope so!
Any symptoms yet? I mainly just have a very sore chest and feel more tired than usual.
I have an almost 3 year old to run rings round me, so not much chance for resting this time round for me
I have, the main one is tender, swollen boobs. That's what alerted me yesterday as I was sure we hadn't conceived this month. Shows what I know!
I've also noticed my sense of smell has been sharper the past week or two and I've been having some very vivid dreams. I can sniff out soup in the office as soon as it's been opened
All my old aches and pains seemed to rear their head last week which made me wonder if I could be pg.
Aw, is your 3 year old a boy or girl? Do they know they might be getting a brother or sister yet?
Oh yes I forgot I also have vivid dreams, insomnia and I'm very thirsty all the time. The odd touch of nausea but nothing too bad yet.
I have a little boy. He doesn't know yet, after having a miscarriage in march I'm keeping it quiet around him until I have the 12 week scan
I've not had any nausea yet either, hope it holds off for a couple more weeks!
So sorry to hear about your miscarriage. I've only told my mum, and will probably tell everyone else after 12 week scan too. Maybe tell the inlaws after the holiday...
Where are you going on your holiday?
We are going to Italy to stay with some friends, so probably going to have to let them know why I'm not drinking lots of Italian wine! I'm really looking forward to getting away for a bit. Our last childless holiday for 18 years at least
Where in the world are you vix? UK or further afield?
Yes enjoy it!! I'm in Northamptonshire. How about you?
Ha! We're practically neighbours! I'm in Bedfordshire
Hello, due 1st feb here however am fully expecting a jan baby as DS was born at 35 weeks!! Am also keeping it quietish after a mmc earlier this year and am in Yorkshire! Think that covers most things you've already mentioned!! This will be the only time ever I am up to date
Hello MrsSpencerReid! Welcome sorry to see you had a MMC. Mine was not missed, I just started bleeding at 6 weeks
Here's hoping for healthy pregnancies all round this time!
Hello MrsSpencerReid congratulations and welcome to the thread!
I'll second that vix!
Thanks I'm all for well behaved babies from the start!
Ha! Yes well I'm hoping for a well behaved baby who will sleep well!! By well I mean not wake up every hour at night for the first 6 months. My DS was a disaster when it came to sleep! I'm hoping I've learned a few lessons through him that may help though
MrsSpencerReid how old is your DS?
May I join you please? Found out on 26/5, due about 4/2/13 so v early days. It will be my first. I'm 30 and I'm from hertfordshire.
I have had that top of head tingling, rush of blood feeling every time I think about it so far.
Good luck all!
People who are on their second time around: what next? Docs?
Yay congrats thisisfreakingmeout!!
It varies by area but generally speaking you need to see your midwife between 6 and 10 weeks. I'm waiting until 7 weeks to call them as round here they prefer you to be at least 8 weeks. Are you taking your pregnancy vits?
Hi Thisisfreakingmeout Congratulations!
I'm also 30 and this is my first too! Like you I would love to know what happens next. I've just rang the surgery and they have said I just need to fill in a form and wait for an appointment.
I guess they don't think it's such big news as I do!
I thought maybe I'd need to speak to a doctor before going on holiday, but she didn't seem that bothered.
I'm back at work today, and no one else knows but me! It's going to kill me keeping this quiet until 12 weeks.
The doctors are never very excited about these things, but then they see it every day. They don't need to know about it though so don't worry about that. It is only towards the end they advise you not to go on aeroplanes, apart from that you are free to leave the country
Hi vix thanks for the guidance, I really have no clue what to expect!
Hi Vix - I'm in a similar situation to you. Due on 23rd Jan but DD was 15 days late so i'm pretty sure this one will be a feb baby. I know what you mean about being on the arse end of an antenatal thread..!
With DD she was due on 7th Jan but not born till 22nd....by that time everyone was busy with their newborns! I'm on the jan thread too at the moment so i'll see how i feel in the coming months.
I'm in yorkshire btw (Leeds). Not really got any symptoms besides eating jars of pickles but my first was like that too so not too worried.
I have my first mw appointment a week today...time seems to be going sooooo slowly.
Just got pregnacare with omega 3. Didn't realise it would be 2! Dappy! How about you?
I've just got the basic pregnacare, it was on special offer
Hi DawnoftheDee, its awful going so overdue isn't it? I'm really hoping to avoid being induced this time!!
Me too! Don't fancy another induction really. Hope our new community mw is good and i can discuss everything with her properly. DD ended up EMCS and i really don't know what to do for the best this time.
Hi, I just got my positive test result yesterday, think due date will (hopefully) be 4/5th Feb.
I'm 30, and have 2 dd, (7+5), even though this is #3 I'm very nervous, and have done 3 tests so far, as don't believe it!
We have been trying since sept.
Hi purplypink congrats!
I found out yesterday too, and think I'm due the same time. I dare not do another test, I just keep prodding my breasts to make sure they're still sore!
I've done 3 tests too and have one left. I'll probably end up doing that one too then I Must Stop It.
My trouble is I don't have morning sickness (which i am thankful for, promise!) and my boobs aren't really sore either. Same as with DD so i'm pretty sure all is fine but a symptom or two would be reassuring!
Hey DofD I feel the same! No symptoms whatsoever but the missing AF. Boobs normal, no sickness. I have peed on two so far. Don't fancy peeing on another fiver but I don't really believe it!
I'll call the docs at the end of next week when I'm nearer to 6 weeks and see if they will have me!
I've no symptoms either apart from extreme tiredness. I had really bad morning sickness with both dd's. (Thankfully on holiday this week)
I have a cheapy test and a digital one left, I might save them till further on in case I get paranoid.
Is that silly?
If you've got them already it'd be silly not to use them...
Tbh I think it's perfectly normal from what i've read on mn. It's the wait until the 12 week scan that's the trouble. I know I start thinking that maybe i've imagined it all and the mw will look at me like i'm a crazy person.
Hi to the new members vix, my ds is 13 months. Here you just self refer to the mw, will ring them thurs. I'll be under consultant care so contacting mw's is a formality really! I took some vits today and realised they were out of date went to chemist to get calpol for grumpy ds, noticed preg vits were on bogof but I was chatting to someone who commented that ds must be a great contraceptive and isn't one enough etc and I chickened out of buying them!! I have some somewhere from when I mc but I think they must be unlucky so I'm gonna buy some more
crazy glad to hear not everyone is feeling as vomity as me
Signing in I got my bfp today so i'm due sometime in feb am thinking might try to pick up one of those dating tests thursday see what it says my lmp was on 30th april incase anyone here knows how they work them out. This will be dc4 and am just as excited as i was for dc1
Hi bunny, my lmp was 27 April, I'm due 1/2 so I guess you must be due the 4th? It's a good date, my oh's birthday
Hi I hope it's ok to join, I had a positive test on 25th after DE IVF but it's such early days I can't quite believe it. I'm also feeling much more tired and thirsty than usual. I am very ancient with an adult DD so no idea about how the system works now but the obessive search for information is very familiar (only last time it was books....).
Hi Bunny and Isabeller and congrats on your BFPs!!
hey all I'm feeling decidedly green this morning It finally hit me last night when I suddenly thought aww shit going to have to go through labour again why do these things never occur to you when you are ttc
isabeller yes SO thirsty!
bunny yes, it is so alarming!
Congrats to you both!
Found out I was 2-3 weeks pregnant last Friday - first time and 3rd month of trying after being on Cerazette for a decade Terrified and excited but no clue what I'm doing!
Just got my bfp today, due on the 4th Feb. Bricking it slightly as had ectopic last Sept and mc at 6 weeks in March so very early days for me. I'm marking my place but will probably lurk until I'm more sure I'm here for good. Feels better this time but I may be making it all up in my head! Fingers crossed...
Right then, I've created a stats thread for us while I'm at my computer (rare)
Welcome to ChocoFrog and PlentyofCats!
Shouldn't that be February 2014?!
I know it seems a long way off...
btw I didn't mention that if this bean sticks it will be DC2 as have a 3 yr old son
oh derrr. Baby brain strikes again! I will see if it can be changed!!!
Well done for being organised! I am trying to hold off calling docs until next week to avoid disappointment at their lack of interest. Taking my stupid two tablets each day (one is sort of sticky and won't go down. I am going to have to get used to it! About 256 more to take!)
How is everyone feeling? No sickness yet! (I am enjoying it while I can)
I started feeling queasy yesterday and this morning I've woken up feeling decidedly sick!
Hi! Can I join please . I'm due 29 Jan but the January thread is in full flow already. I got my bfp on Saturday and am 5+2. This is my first and really just hoping we go the distance.
Welcome amicusapple! I will add you to the stats thread later too
Hey can I join pls, just confirmed my bfp today, due 5th Feb! Hasnt quite sunk in yet! Ok all im taking is folic, what else should I be taking??
Thanks vix. Cant believe I've made it on to a thread
Hi shopart. Welcome!
Any symptoms to report?
I've got sore boobs on and off some weird cramps. Oh and spots
Dizzyness has passed thankfully.
Shopart I think folic is fine but I went on to a prenatal vitamin. I choose the sanatogen one as they don't smell as bad as others.
Hi amicusapple hi shopart
Does anyone get mild cramping when they move or get up too fast? I've read it's normal but it doesn't half worry me when it happens! I guess I need to stop all the weird twisting and lunging about I never realised I did!
New symptom alert: spotty chest. Not very impressed with that one!
I went to PIL's house today without DH and it was killing me that I couldn't shout about it as DH wasn't there. We are going to tell them tomorrow though, so not too much longer to wait
Has anyone else told other people/immediate family yet?
I've just told my best friend and my mum. We're going to wait to tell DH's parents as DH's brother & his wife are pg and due in about a week or so. They're a bit concerned though due to various issues but they now think the baby has stopped growing so might induce/elcs earlier than planned. We thought it best to keep quiet about our news for now as things are a bit stressy.
Still no symptoms apart from growing appetite. I hadn't lost all the weight from being pg with DD....at this rate i'll be the size of a house...I must try and control it but i feel a bit urgh if i don't eat something
Told parents and parents in law. Both mums were teary, both dads were a bit quiet and freaked out. Will need to tell best friend as she is organising my hen party which happens in 3 weeks!
Called my surgery and receptionist was miserable as ever but did not play Guardian of the Gates and said I should see a doctor to confirm and discuss so I am pleasantly surprised! Of course the first appointment isn't for 2 weeks so I'll have to chill out in the interim.
Yes I am getting some take-my-breath-away cramps occasionally when I move suddenly or get up too quickly. I had these with my DS but not with the last pregnancy that ended at 6 weeks, so I'm almost taking it as a good sign.
I've told my 3 best friends and my parents but, after last time, waiting for 12 week scan before telling anyone else. It's going to be hard seeing MIL tomorrow and not blurting it out!
Really nice to hear other people's stories. We've only told my mum and brother so far. My mum can't wait to get her knitting needles out! Have told her to wait until the 12 week scan at least
Looking forward to telling the inlaws and then that'll be it until 12 weeks, not long when you think about it really.
I'm signing out now for a couple of weeks while we go away. Be back soon, hope everyone has a great couple of weeks!
Have a fab holiday tiny (4 weeks til mine and can't wait!)
I've told my best mate and my boss (reduced workload please!).
I've got a birthday night out on Saturday with my really good friends so not sure if i'll be able to hide it?
Does anyone have any good excuses for not drinking?
Also, have you all called your GP already? I'm not sure when I should?
I've told my mum and dad and in laws.
Tomorrow I'm going to tell my sister, and next week meeting best friends so will tell them.
Not saying a word to anyone else till after scan.
Hardest thing is not telling dd's, they always mention baby's and wanting a sister/brother.
I started with cramps today, thought it was because we've done lots of walking, but I feel really good (at the moment). Back to work Monday and just know i will be sick!
Hi everyone, I've just got my BFP today after a year of Ttc and I can't quite believe it. This is my third dc but the first for my partner. My son's are 13 and 9 (nearly 10) so there's going to be a huge age gap.
I think I'm 4 weeks exactly and due 7th Feb.
Can I join in please?
I'm due 2nd Feb 14 and this will be no.4 but first with new partner.
I've had sore boobs, cramps tiredness and very thirsty, off on holiday abroad next week and the temps are high...eek not looking forward to that!
Been trying for 9 months, I'm 36 so I was wondering if it would ever happen!
Over the moon although not sure where I'm going to put it(tiny house) and I'll need a bigger car!
Can I join too?
Got my BFP yesterday which I really wasn't expecting. Have so far had 3 miscarriages, the most recent just after Easter. This will, fingers crossed, be our first child and is due Feb 4th.
Like Choco I will prob just hide in the background until everything is a little more certain.
We have told both sets of parents and they are over the moon! ive not been feeling too great today, alot of cramps happening - not painful tho but had a couple stabbing pains. Sore back? And felt sick eating my cereal this morning. Anyone else feel like they are analyzing every twing? X
Welcome newbies and congrats!
Fx for sticky beans too
I've just got the weekend to get through and then it's my mw appointment on monday! At last....
I popped into the docs last week to pick up my maternity notes folder so I could start filling it in ahead of time and noticed that it looks like i will be sent for a meeting with a consultant cos of how big DD was (10lb 10oz)!
Welcome newbies! I will update the stats thread when I am next at an actual computer and not a phone/iPad!
I will also be seeing a consultant thanks to a post partum haemhorrhage I had after DS was born.
And yes I am analysing every twinge and worrying i don't have enough symptoms. After MC in March I am feeling very wary but trying to enjoy being pregnant at the same time
Hi all, can I join you guys? This will be my third child and I'm due around the 4th of Feb....my other two are girls aged 13 & 6 so a bit of a gap! I haven't used any of these forums before so not too sure on the abbreviations...bare with me lol :-) x
Yay! Lots of new BFPs! Congrats and welcome
I have booked MW for Thursday and will be 6 weeks by then. Wanted to go and buy more tests today just to be sure! Have so far resisted.
I've been feeling every twinge too. Started feeling sick tonight!
How did you all tell you're parents / in laws? Did you do anything special?
Hello ladies been lurking and decided to add my note!
Congrats to all of you
I am well not sure....Appr 6 weeks. It's my second as have a 3 year old boy keeping us very busy! Had a mmc before him.... But I know this one is a sticky one just a feeling.
Not feeling sick just super tired, weird taste and boobs are painful. Oh and have gone off chocolate!!!!! Which is a shock!! Just hungry.
Was so sick with the first hope to have a lucky escape this time as sickness and commuting doesn't go together! Told our parents as they live abroad and we all here for the little man's birthday. and my best friend here as she is also newly pg
A big wave from North London moving to Hertfordshire soon.
Forgot to add I'm a self confessed serial "poas".... I might as well buy shares in the CB digital... But I made a decision today to stop buying them. Let's hope I resist. It's also quite an expensive addiction!!!
hey can i join!
i got my bfp yest and still in shock!!
baby number one due appox 8th feb! hi everyone!!!
Congrats barebranches! You're very welcome to join us. I assume you've brought some cake with you.....?
yup cake topped with folic acid!! hehe!!
i keep getting cramp on and off like peroid cramps... is this normal?? keep think af will come even though ive had 5 positve tests...
Aces. You're in
I've heard quite few people have crampy type pains on and off so yes, totally normal.
Btw I've done 4 tests I think and have one left. I'm going to do that then i'm done. Promise...
i have 5 cheapies one digital test left... i fully intend to test daily then use the digital on thursday to see if the conception indicator has changed!!
Welcome to even more new people, how exciting!
Sorry if this is depressing but after my miscarriage I am no longer a POAS addict. During the week I was bleeding I took loads of tests, digi and line. All of them came back strong and the digital one I took 1 hour before I actually lost the baby still told me I was 3+. I took so much hope from that as I thought my hormones would fade if I was miscarrying, but it seems that isn't always the case. So for me it is not worth doing tests after that experience.
Mind you my huge, sore boobs remind me enough that I am pregnant at the moment 6 weeks today!
I've become worried sick about miscarrying. I think because it took us a while to conceive I'm a bit more on edge. I've ran to the toilet 4 times today to check I wasn't bleeding.
I'm back at work tomorrow though so that will take my mind off things.
Oh, so sorry vix...I can totally understand your point of view on that.
For me I tend to do it because I'm almost symptomless in the early weeks so it's to reassure myself i haven't imagined the whole thing.
Yay for sore boobs!
Can I join? Got my positive a few days ago and have initial DD of 4th Feb. Will be Dc #3.
A bit terrified, Dd2 is only 10 months old so no idea at all how I'm going to cope!
Hello, can I join in?
Got my BFP today after 10 months of trying. According to my diary that makes me 4+2, due date of 6th February.
Like a couple of others I am also getting slight period-like cramps, which I hope don't mean anything other than the bean is getting comfy. I'm a bit paranoid, since I had my DD 4 years ago, my SiL has miscarried twice and I think I had an early MC myself a few months ago (which is another story) but it add up to general worry that this one won't stick.
Otherwise, I have had sore, achey boobs since ovulation, which is why I tested - normally the sore boobs only last a few days and are totally normal again by the time AF is due. I have done 2 tests, a faint positive on a SuperDrug test with FMU this morning and a much clearer ClearBlue this afternoon. I'm going to try a digital test towards the end of the week, and then, if it still says 'pregnant' I will call my doctor.
Congrats undertheboardwalk and littlestgirlguide! Welcome to the feb 2014 bus :
Vix206 has kindly started a stats thread for us if you'd like to add yourself. link
Yes I will do another stats update tomorrow when I'm at the office but if someone else wants to do it in the meantime please do
Hi, I got my bfp today - it's faint but a positive. Still can't quite believe it... Not got many symptoms but like others on here I am thirsty and having trouble sleeping with some very vivid dreams. Bit crampy and tired with some nausea. I have a 2.5 year old little boy and am so excited at the thought of him being a big brother!
NHS due date calculator says 9th Feb. I'm not so worried about the birth as apprehensive about the 'morning' sickness which was round-the-clock vomiting until 21 weeks last time around...
hey jelly im the same... im so worried about sickness! i really dont want sickness at work!!
When does/did sickness kick in?
So far mother and MIL seem to not believe me due to lack of nausea!
im hoping it won't kick in!!
I wasn't ever sick with my last pregnancy, a few episodes of nausea. Mainly staved it off by eating, a lot. Feeling similar this time. I find the sickness bands (they are called sea bands and you get them at chemists) really helpful.
I think sickness normally kicks in around 6 weeks, that'll be why I feel so queasy tonight
I had no sickness at all the first time round, just felt nauseous towards the end when in the car, but not until at least 7 months.
No symptoms at all at the moment, which is exactly like last time, other than my boobs are still a bit sore (they are normally sore for a few days after ovulating but back to normal well before AF is due)
I wouldn't actually mind a few more symptoms TBH as I'm having trouble believing its actually real. I've done a third test today, a Tesco cheapy, another faint positive. Three positives (albeit faint ones) can't be wrong, can they? Shouldn't it be showing more strongly by now?
Last time I started feeling seriously sick by six weeks and vomiting by nine. Now am torn between dreading it and also hoping for the reassurance - at least it means things are going ok!
Hi ladies....may I join you please? Congratulations to you all!
Found out last Thursday, due 31st Jan but as I was almost two weeks late with DS am pretty sure this one will be a Feb baby! So pleased that I'm pregnant again , but doesn't feel very real yet except for my very painful boobs!
May I join too please? This is my first DC. Due 3rd Feb. DP has walked and left me to it so I'm going it alone with luckily a lot of support from friends and family! I'm excited but feeling very sick, especially in the middle of the night! Got some of those sea bands ordered from amazon.
OMG there are a few of us who have jan due dates but are expecting late babies so you're in good company.
laura007 glad to hear you've got good support in your family and friends...and you have us now too! Sorry to hear you're feeling sick...fx the bands work for you.
Oh, I meant to say I have my mw appointment today! I know not much actually happens at it but i'm just so excited because it's the first official thing iyswim.
Unfortunately i can't get anyone to mind DD so i'll have to take her with me. Not ideal but it can't be helped.
Another positive test this morning. Four positives can't be wrong, can they, I may cruelly be starting to believe its happening :-) only 4+4 as far as I can tell, do I phone the doctors now or wait a bit?
Believe it littlest!!
Personally I'd wait another couple of weeks but its up to you
little im waiting a few weeks im 4 weeks also. i thought i technically havent missed a period yet....
Thank you for updating the stats girls I have been feeling so sick this morning. Opening the fridge made me heave, walking into the supermarket - same.
Anyway, am at work now and starving so having an early lunch. Hope everyone is feeling well.
Is anyone else having cravings yet? I really am! I can't get enough tomato soup, even in this warm weather it is all I want to eat. And lots of fruit.
Ok I have my first scan booked in for next Thursday. I'll only be 6+2 but because of my previous ectopic they want to check it's all where it should be. There won't be much to see but I'm just hoping it all looks ok after the last couple of times. Excited but scared too. Will keep you posted on the outcome. and
vix no cravings really but I am munching through plenty of ginger biscuits to stave off the sick feeling. I could claim they were a craving!
Well I've had quite an eventful day.
Went for first appointment with mw this morning. All fine.
Decided to take DD for a walk in the park then lunch at local pub (they do a nice kiddies menu). As I stood up to leave a felt a bit weird and then all this blood started running down my legs. Ran to the disabled loo with DD and tried to clean myself up. Rang the docs and they said go to a&e which I did. Bleeding stopped in a&e and they did a pg test and did an exam. They said all looked ok - cervix was closed and uterus or uterine wall (can't remember which) felt ok and as it should for 7wk pg. Anyway feeling a bit better now but still a bit worried.
They've booked me in for a scan tomorrow morning so fx everything ok and the bean is a sticky one.
Poor you dawnofthedee! Take it really easy tonight won't you. Signs are good, maybe there was a collection of blood in your cervix or something that became dislodged. Hopefully the scan will answer it.
Sorry for tmi but is anyone else having real bad gas issues?!? Im experiencing really bad cramps then passing wind is reliving it. Really uncomfortable and embarrassing and very sore
Hope u r ok dawn, sure everything will be ok x
dawn oh no! hope you are resting now.
shop no gas for me... in fact not much poo related action at all...
My womb cramps seem to be better today and no further symptoms. Tested again to day and it was the first time the internet cheapie was quite dark.
Oh no Dawn, fx for you! Take it easy and try to stay positive.
No cravings, no sickness, just a strange sensation that feels a bit like a mild UTI. Hope it's nothing! I'm so paranoid. WithDD, who's 4 this week, I didn't even imagine that something might go wrong. Since my SiL had 2 mc's since then, I can't stop worrying.
ClearBlue says I'm preqnant 2-3 though, so pregnant I am :-)
Dawn really sorry to hear you've had a scary day, it's good news that the bleeding has stopped - will be thinking of you tomorrow - hope it all goes well with the scan
Shop No gas here either.....do remember lots of burps first time around, but not the other end - its very glamorous this pregnancy malarky isn't it
littlest - that's def a positive - congratulations!!
Not much to update on from me - had a very late lunch which made me feel v.light headed and a bit sick, but other than the ridiculous boobs and tiredness I have very few symptoms at the mo....don't want to wish them on, but IME symptoms are v.good things - means lots of preggo hormones kicking around. Remind of this when I'm feeling as sick as a dog in a couple of weeks
Hope all goes okay today Dawn. Fx for you.
Nothing new to report here. Not feeling very pregnant at the minute with minimal symptoms. It's a bit dull really.
Yes best of luck Dawn, let us know how you get on.
Thank you all - my scan is late morning so i'll update you with some hopefully good news this afternoon. I'm torn between being positive and not getting my hopes up too much. Not that long to wait now though.
fx for you Dawn and sending sticky bean thoughts your way.
Keep checking back for news!! Hoping everything is ok Dawn.
I've been out in the park with a picnic with DS. Glorious weather now feeling a bit queasy so having a lie down while DS tries to nap!
Unfortunately I have no news
They could see the gestational sac but nothing else (they ended up having to do a vaginal ultrasound). They said this could be because my dates are a bit out so it's too early or it's a failed pg or possibly ectopic.
So i'm none the wiser and have another scan booked in for a week next friday which seems forever away. It sounds horrible but i almost wish i'd found out i was having a mc now than wait another week and a half and then maybe be told that. I just want to hide away until the scan but in the meantime i've to go to work, then next week i'm meant to be going to italy with a friend for a few days. Flight gets back 2 hours before my scan appointment. I don't know whether to go anyway or cancel.
Then to top it off dh is meant to be flying out to a stag do on the day of my scan. He doesn't know what to do either.
Oh no that's awful I know what it's like to have to wait, not knowing what's going on so I totally understand what you mean about rather knowing.
All you can do is wait and stay hopeful. I'm so sorry it didn't clear things up for you.
oh no dawn
lets all hope the week goes quickly.
Hi. I had my bfp last week and had an early scan today (due to a previous ectopic). Due on 1 Feb. They couldn't see the heartbeat, but they're not worried at the mo (as they think I might be less than 6 weeks pg).
I'm sorry to hear you had a bad experience at the EPU, Dawn, and I hope that next week goes better.
Does anyone else feel a bit distracted? I feel like I can't settle on any tasks at the moment. And given that this will be my 3rd DC (so 4th pregnancy), you'd think I'd be a bit more chilled with this one. Not told anyone in RL yet, other than DH, and I want to chat through the practicalities of 3DC with someone (yes, I realise I'm getting massively ahead of myself), even though I know I'm being daft (like trying to decide whether I put DS (who will be 26 months by then) into nursery when the baby arrives, how I'll cope as DH is likely to be away almost immed after DC is born... Stuff that I cannot do anything about right now, but is preying on my mind....
Hi to everyone though.
Hi there. Big congrats to each of you!
Please may I join? I have an estimated due date of 2 Feb. This will be DC#3 for us (no, I can't believe it either). I have a DS (3) and a DD (16 months). Like others, I am super excited though very nervous.
Anything I need to do? I haven't joined one of these threads before.
Best wishes to those of you not off to the smoothest of starts. Hope all is well from here on.
I hope everything is ok dawn. The waiting must be terrible.
As for symptoms, I'm only 4+4 but my breasts are very sore. Luckily I have no morning sickness which I'm hoping to avoid like I did with my first 2. I'm enjoying the secret atm but I imagine I will be desperate to tell someone by 8 weeks.
The only thing we can be sure of is that the next couple of months will drag on forever.
Fingers crossed for you Dawn, the wait is awful I had similar with DD2 now almost 11months. After bleeding they could only see sac at scan. Had the horrible week wait but all was well when I went back. Was just a bit early, hopefully you have the same experience x.
I'm having plenty of symptoms at the moment. toast has sudden become disgusting and just the smell is making me feel ill, plenty of on and off nausea. Still got some cramping too. I spoke to my new midwife today, I found an amazing service in my area here So excited that I don't have to use the local community midwife team, I didn't get on with any of them when I was having DD2. Got my first appointment next week, the luxury of having it at home is fab too, not having to traipse DD out with me!
Hope everyone else is doing well x
Hope the week goes quickly and it's a happy answer Dawn
I am still paranoid. Up till today, my boobs have been sore; but now, they are totally not sore and apparantly disappearing symptoms is a bad sign? I've got no other symptoms, no nausea, just feeling a but tired and headachey but that could just be the hot weather. I rang and booked a doctors appt for a week tomorrow, which will make me 5+6, but I wish there was a way of convincing myself that everything's ok.
Hope everyone is ok today. I am queasy but just snacking my way through it. I just updated the stats thread with Apparentlychilled and ShowMeTheCoffee. Welcome both
Sore boobs are back! Actually more tingly.
Is this normal, symptoms that come and go as they please?
Sore boobs are back! Actually more tingly.
Is this normal, symptoms that come and go as they please?
Really sorry to hear what you'regoing through Dawn and I hope it's good news.
littlest I don't have sore boobs at all and keep worrying about this (don't think I did last time either) but I only have sporadic nausea.
Feel like I've hit a bit of a wall today. Not sleeping well at all and am so tired. Day off today and all I did with ds was a very brief trip to the swings, watched tv, both had a long afternoon nap and now more tv - I'm only 4 weeks pregnant so don't feel I have an excuse for being so crap! Am so tired that I could cry at the thought of going to work tomorrow and - I repeat - I'm not even five weeks yet! Don't remember when my energy came back last time around but I hope it's soon!
Hi ladies, may I join you? Got my BFP yesterday and reckon I'm 3-4 weeks. This is my second, I have a 19 month old DD. Think my EDD is 17 Feb but seeing doctor on Friday so will have it confirmed then.
Dawn so sorry to hear you are having a difficult week. I hope you know soon and you get the result we all want for you. X
Still no symptoms really, bit of phantom boob tingle. Also think I have a pot belly developing (water retention?)
I am mildly freaking as a Pyrex dishi was using just exploded and flew shards and long sharp spears at me. It was on the work top so they all flew right at my midrif. All seems totally ffine, nothing even got through my tee shirtthat I can see! i dont want to be melodramatic but it was just a horrible moment where I truly thought I was impaled with spears of razor sharp Pyrex. My legs are all wobbly. Be careful putting cold food into hot Pyrex everyone!
i have no symptoms today... i am very tired but that might be because work is busy rather than the bean
still got loads of work to do.. just want to lay on the sofa!
Dawn so sorry to hear you didn't get the answers you wanted yesterday....the waiting must be so annoying, but it's really early days so whether they see everything on the scan is really hit and miss. Know it must be difficult and I'd like to give you a hug, try to focus on the positive and we're here if you need us.
Welcome and congratulations to the newbies - Feb is looking like a busy month already
littlest I definitely feel more then less pregnant even over the course of the day....my symptoms are much worse by the afternoon, end of the day, they were first time around too - not sure why its called morning sickness, the evening was always much worse for me
bare I'm with you on just wanting to lie down on the sofa and stop - yes please! Work is really busy at the moment and my DS is like zebadee, have started putting In the night garden on before bedtime because
I really need 15mins sitting down he really enjoys it
Right must dash DH has been slaving over a hot stove to make tea and its ready and I'm starving - yum!
Hi Everyone, Can I hop on the bus? I had my BFP on Monday, i'm 4 +3 with DC2 and we've been ttc for 12 months. No symptoms other than a bit of tiredness (although DD who is 2 has been waking at 5am all week so that may have something to do with it). EDD 10th Feb.
Feeling slightly apprehensive as a couple of my close friends have miscarried recently so praying for a sticky one but staying positive. Have already POAS twice and am fighting the urge to go and buy a CB digital, is this just me?
Here's to the next 8 months ladies
Hi to all the joiners.
I've been spotting since last night
Slowly getting more red. Not feeling any significant cramping or anything but have got some back pain. Due to have my first midwife appointment today at 2pm so will see what she says. Trying to stay optimistic.
Amicus I'm sorry you're spotting, take it easy today.
Ive been away from thread for a bit as I was feeling a bit of a fraud not getting many symptoms however morning sickness has whacked me over the head this morning and i feel so so grim. Hope you are doing ok Dawn and amicus fingers crossed for you both
MrsSpencerReid- I'm also in Yorkshire and expecting an early one- DD arrived at 37 weeks and DS at 36 weeks (and while in labour, I kept arguing w midwife that I couldn't possibly be in labour as he wasn't due for a month yet...!).
Anyone else got morning sickness yet? Feeling really queasy today and really want sympathy, but no-one knows yet!
Sorry Bunny- I see that you're having the lovely nausea too. Here - have some dry toast.
And keeping fingers crossed for Dawn and Amicus.
5 weeks today, and finally a symptom! Proper morning sickness this morning, I actually felt sick still lying down and heaving when I stood up, wasn't actually sick though but I guess theres time!
pickle you are not the only one! Clear Blue digital did stop my craving though when it said 'pregnant' no is it a line/isn't it a line there.
amicus and dawn, keeping my fx for both of you.
I've picked up a dose of gastroenteritis - according to the NHS Direct lady. I phoned in a panic after a night of non stop vomiting, terrified I was going to develop hyperemesis, however she said as it's accompanied by fever and (sorry!) diarrhea she diagnosed a nasty tummy bug. Starting to feel vaguely human again but am now unpleasantly reminded of how grim nausea and vomiting really is and am apprehensive about if/when 'morning' sickness arrives!
poor you jelly!
I feel so grots I just want to tell everyone so I can get lots of sympathy but DH has veteod this! (he doesn't know I told a friend yesterday because I was in a bit of a flap - had PND twice before so was getting all agitated about the idea of getting it again, and he's away w work and I needed to talk about it).
I'm still mostly symptom free, just tired and grumpy in the evening.
I am still feeling Nervous and still buying tests, I never did this with the other 2 but its keeping me believing.
I don't have my mW app till 20th, and that will be week 7+3.
Thoughts are with all of you during worrying times x
hello all.. found out a few days back that I am 4 weeks preg....due date 8th of Feb 2014.... i dont have any pregnancy symptoms yet ... GP said its still too soon.....
VERY new to all of this stuff but my head is swimming a little bit and thought this would be the best place to get some kind of sanity!!
Found out that I'm due 8th Feb so 4 1/2 weeks pregnant with my first.
Putting this down to the fact that I'm beyond exhausted and feel rather rough.
Congratualtion SamL88... its my first one too.. and same due date... same pinch
Well had my first midwife appointment today and can't say im not disappointed with it. Thought with it being my first pregnancy they'd ask how I was feeling and even confirm I was preg but nope.. nothing apart from folder with stuff for me to fill in and a book to read. Still dont feel pregnant, know its early days but just wana know everything is ok ALSO she told me you might not get first scan til 14 weeks!!! This waiting is hard enough
@shopart123 my first appointment was a couple of days ago and same experience... I even asked the GP if home preg test are accurate and she said they were.... I am not from the UK and my parents back home are not getting it, according to them the doc confirms if you're pregnant ...generation gap or strange trust the docs have on pregnancy test....
I remember being so disappointed with my first doctors appt when I found out I was pregnant with my first 4.5 years ago. Just the same, asked of I had done a home test and said he wouldn't bother, smiled and told me he would see me in 9 months and that was it :-/ didn't get a whole lot more when I saw my mw for the first time at about 8 weeks, she just asked some really basic questions like was it my first, had I ever miscarried, did I smoke, but they insisted in visiting me at home to check the house was clean!
Not expecting as much this time. I'm seeing my GP next Wednesday, I will be 5+6, and My SiL says I should lie and say I don't know my dates in order to get offered an early dating scan (although I do know my dates, exactly!) but I'm not sure!
shopart first scan at 14 weeks doesn't sound great - I'm sure my first one was 11 weeks last time...
Round here it is between 11 and 14 weeks. Just depends how busy they are.
Hi all - can I quietly sneak in here? I'm just over 5 weeks, but having had an ectopic last summer (with tube removed), an early miscarriage last month and having endometriosis I am trying to keep it quiet and not get my hopes up too much..... This will (hopefully) be my third.
I have a scan next week, and have been testing obsessively over the last few days because I am so worried about losing this one again, although I think I am calming down a bit now! Slight queasiness, and immense tiredness but otherwise ok so far.
Just feel so disappointed she didn't even address me by name I just felt like a number which I suppose os what I am! On the plus side the ready steady baby book is pretty good and has answered quite alot of questions. Just hope my appointment is for the 11 week date rather than 14 have so many weddings and events coming up and antibiotics is the only excuse I have for no alcohol - anyone the same?
I got an early scan with my first because i said i was having pains. I was, but might have exaggerated to get a scan.... . Ironic that i ended up with a true ectopic a few years later... but if you are really worriedand want to check i recommend going back to your dr.
So midwife went okay. She didn't seem overly concerned about the spotting other than if it gets worse to get back in touch and she'll book me for a check up (early scan?). It has got a little bit worse but no cramps so quietly hopeful it'll stop soon.
It's all a bit overwhelming when your just trying to get used to the idea of being pregnant!
Hope everyone else is well
I got a 3+ on a clearblue. I feel so much better now. I took one yesterday at 4+6 and it said 2-3 which was right but made me start to worry because I was cramping quite a bit. At exactly 5 weeks its now 3+. Those tests are amazingly accurate.
We are going for a private reassurance scan in 2 weeks because we appear to have turned into neurotic nutjobs and can't wait any longer.
How is everyone doing?
Hope everything is ok amicus. I know someone who had full periods during her pregnancy which caused a lot of stress but everything was fine and that "baby" is now sitting her GSCE's.
Morning all. Just forced my toast down, so nauseous at the moment
Urgh, DH has made coffee and and the whole house smells of it. Barf. Washed my coffee mug up at work yesterday having forgotten to the night before, and nearly threw up in the tearoom sink :-/ I take it this is the dreaded morning sickness kicking in then!
I just feel like I am constantly disgusted by everything. I'm having to watch my facial expressions as everything makes me want to heave.
Have just discovered digestive biscuits really help though.
I'm sat in office with DH and he's drinking coffee, making me want to throw up too. I gave up coffee as soon as I found out (just paranoid about everything after MC) and haven't wanted one since. The smell is disgusting to me now!
I'm slightly worried about MS this time, as previously toast and bovril has really helped. However, just before this BFP I was in discussion with the dr about being tested for celiac/gluten intolerance, and he has told to me to cut out all gluten while pg just in case i actually am.....so toast/digestives etc are out! Really hoping it won't be an issue this time and I will magically escape the dreaded vomits!
Big sympathies to all those already hit by it. And good morning to all.
I'm so glad the morning sickness hasn't hit me yet. It's just the exhaustion that is getting to me. Luckily I have a job that requires minimal exercise (sat at a desk) but I'm finding I can't stay focused on a task for longer than 10 minutes. I'm also a singer and had a gig last night and I found myself napping in the interval - SO unlike me!!
I have the busiest diary and never stop doing things or running around, my BF is always telling me to slow down.
Please tell me this is just a phase of early pregnancy?!!
Sam, I think it is just a phase. For me the first 10 weeks were really tough, then I was fine until around 28 weeks when I developed sciatica which kept me from sleeping more than an hour at a time...
Without that I probably would have been fine until I hit around 34 weeks and felt really huge and uncomfortable. DS was born in August 2010 so I was at my heaviest in the hot summer, I'm hoping a winter baby will be easier to carry!!
Thanks Vix, I'm sure all the endless 'thinking' doesn't help! I almost feel as though I want to take a test everyday just to make sure I'm not going crazy.
Hopefully we'll all look lovely during the "summer" months/days just in time to get massive for winter. Couldn't have timed it better really!
Going to attempt an update on the stats thread in a bit..
no morning sickness today for me perhaps yesterday was a bit psychosomatic. I am having
would say tmi but this is a preg thread and lets face it it's going to get graphic at times a slight pink tinge when I wipe any and am getting a bit crampy now any chance you reckon it could just be a case of better late than never implantation bleeding?
Quite possibly - especially if only a tiny bit. I believe slight bleeding in first trimester is quite common. All fingers crossed for you, take care.
home early from work and im getting straight in to bed and sleeping!! sooo tired!!!
Bunny. It could be breakthrough bleeding as its around the time of your period. Fingers crossed its nothing to worry about x
Hey bunny. The midwife I spoke with said its really common to have some slight bleeding. She said i should call if it gets wavy or if cramps get painful. Fingers crossed its nothing serious.
Anyone else massively grumpy? DH went out for a "quick drink" after work (after working away all week) and now will be home about 9. And he doesn't get why I'm annoyed. He says it's not late, I said it's not considerate of his nauseous and pregnant wife when he said he'd pick up a pizza if I wanted.
His dinner (well, his share of our dinner) would be in the dog, if we had one.
It seems it's just the coffee making me feel sick. Managed to scoff quite a lot of cake today, at this rate I'll have gained an unhealthy amount of weight by the time baby arrives!
In other news, me and DH are getting on better than we have in months. It's like the BFP has lifted a fog of tension I hadn't even realised was there. I hadn't realised he was stressing about it as much as I was!
apparently im massively grumpy. just picked a fight woth dh and now laying in bed feeling for no reason....
We are the same littlest. TTC for a year definitely began to take its toll and now it feels like we can relax a bit. Well, once the scan is over anyway.
I've lost 2lbs which definitely wasn't part of the pregnancy plan so I need to up my calories a bit. I'm sure by the end of the second tri I'll resemble a baby whale though so I'm not going to worry at this stage.
aparently yes, I am grumpy. Much more mood-swingy than I was with either of the ther two. Go to bed in the evening vowing to be a more patient and better mother - this morning I broke that vow by 7am after having had both of them climbing all over me for the past hour.... It's a weird feeling, I'm never usually one to suffer from mood swings!
Perhaps it's the current stress as well, being pg after two losses is bound to make me more twitchy. Roll on the scan!
Congratulations to littlest and thingy on your long-awaited BFP. Have a few s!
Ha DH has told me I am a right stroppy mare at the moment too - must be something in the air!
added myself to the stats thread, hope that's okay
Yes of course amicus, sorry if I missed you off!!
(I'm new around this thread....)
There's a link to it near the start of this one, I can't link on my phone.
Ooh, you already added me! Thank you! <irrationally pleased>
I got a positive test last night and again this morning. By my LMP I would be due on the 13th of Feb. I can't quite believe it and with all the things that can go wrong I am just not getting my hopes up. This is our first pregnancy and second month of trying.
Symptom wise my boobs are sore and I am shattered but no nausea as yet
I had a 2 hr nap late morning while Dh took the DC out hut am still pooped! DS hasn't slept yet today and is beside himself (but refusing to go off )- if he does I'm hoping to get another 30 mins.
I can't remember wen the tiredness passed before- 12 weeks-ish, I guess. Only 5.5 to go then...
Congratulations everyone! Can I join please? Still in a state of shock because I was doing a naughty early test and didn't expect to see anything...This is our second cycle and first baby, EDD is 20th February.
Congratulations randdom and homebyninethirty!
Wow, homeby, that is a very early BFP! That would make you 3 weeks?
Interesting to see everyone getting BFPs after only a few cycles TTC. Anyone else like me where it's taken 10 months? Glad I didn't hit the 12 months, I was feeling nutty enough about it as it was.
Been out with my Guides (yep, the pseudonym actually means something) today practicing pitching tents and cooking on camp fires and I'm absolutely bushwhacked. Came home at 4 and promptly fell asleep on the sofa for 2 hours, despite DD bouncing on me. Going to have an early night tonight as its DD's birthday party tomorrow and am entertaining 19 3 and 4 year olds for 2 hours!
I know what you mean littlest- when I nap at the moment I seem to literally pass out- my 2nd nap of the day (!) was 90 mins of not even moving. And I think I'll still be ready for an early night! Good luck w your Dd's party tomorrow!
im the opposite. not been sleeping well at all. and im exhausted...
spent the afternoon at a party with loads of preg women... wanted to join in the chats. hurry up 12 weeks!!!
hello. I had bfp this afternoon....think I'm due around end of Feb.
this will be my first baby & its all a bit of a very happy shock even though we have been trying for 6 months
hopefully I can get a doc appt early next week & they can tell me what to expect because I have no idea!!!!
I'm not sleeping well either barebranches. I tend to be an early riser but 3 this morning was a bit ridiculous. I've been averging 5 hours a night. Glad I don't have sickness or extra tiredness to cope with on top of that. Hope your sleep pattern settles soon.
welcome and congratulations newbies!
I too am ridiculously tired and very emotional - don't remember the hormones being so strong last time, but I'm swinging a rollercoaster of tired to cross to weepy. Lots going on at work, which prob isn't helping, but feel rubbish because poor DS is not getting the best of me at the moment....
Like others am also not sleeping brilliantly at night - waking up at 4 and struggling to drop back off, DS up at 6ish. DH was a star and took him out for a couple of hours today, so managed to get a nap and a bath in this morning - luxury. Can't wait for this phase to finish....just read this back and I sound v.moany - sorry....
how did you all tell people? we want to tell our parents but don't know how, did you just blurt it out? also I can't count, u think I'm due around mid Feb but my periods used to all over the place so purely guess work with a bit of clear blue conception indicator thrown in!!!!
I'm constantly tired too but don't get much chance to nap in the day due to working all hours godsends! I wake up in the night feeling ridiculously sick so hardly sleep at night either! Well it'll get worse I'm sure. There's no sleep for 18 years when baby gets here. Plus ill be a single parent so no chance of having a few hours off unless I can convince my parents!
@bugsyburge... I sort of blurted it out..."you're gonna be grandparents"...we have just told our immediate families... will wait 12 weeks before telling friends...
Well, I've told my dad. Seeing rest of my family in 2 weeks at funeral, so will prob tell them then (which is after my next scan, as they couldn't see heart beat this week). DH will probably see his folks that day too and may tell them then. I'll be about 8.5 weeks then. I'll tell one or two close friends around the same time and everyone else from 12 weeks.
Hi ladies! I'm about 6 weeks today I think so due around the 1st with a bit (a lot) of luck. I'm posting from the antipodes so will be around to keep you insomniacs company. This will hopefully be DC3, I have a fabulous DS who is 5, and lovely little DD 13 months. The gap in between DS and DD was bigger than we hoped for - I had three MCs in that time and DD's pregnancy I was under the care of a specialist clinic, injecting clexane, on aspirin, progesterone and then I got gestational diabetes and had to inject insulin too! She's worth it of course
I'm on the same treatment this time, had a couple of blood tests to see that hcg levels are rising properly, and will have a scan this week to check its not ectopic. Then scans every week from then. It's a roller coaster and the odds aren't great but I'm pleased I've got the chance at another miracle and hope ill be sticking with you all for the whole nine months!
Hi Ladybee! I'm also posting from that part of the world, so will be able to keep you company...Am in New Zealand. Congratulations on your pregnancy! I only found out yesterday and was mightily surprised...fighting the urge to tell everyone at the moment but still early days for me so will hang on a little longer. Think my EDD is between 16-20th February...not 100% sure when!
We've told/are telling immediate family this weekend. My sister will think it's odd as she told no one til 13 week scan but I can't keep a secret! Have family birthdays coming up where everyone would guess the moment I turned down a drink anyway! Last time around my colleagues all guessed early as I was puking so much. I've got a hen do and a wedding coming up in July and I might just be open about it. I am useless at keeping secrets and honestly in the early weeks of feeling rough, I need the support!
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champagne yes i have. on and off all week. feels like my period but no bleeding and is on abd off rather than all the time.
im going to ask the doc about it... but ive been told its the womb stetching to accomidate pregnacy. it isnt nice though.
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Hi can I join? Just got my bfp this morning in sainsburys loos! and am in shock!! This will be my third but the others are 10 and 11 so a big gap!! I am 38 so am frantically trying to get my head round it even tho I know it's very early days!!!
ill let you know champagne mine are evening too... but have also been day time. think the might be dying down though now... im 5 weeks.
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Thanks champagne, I came staggering out of sainsburys loos and said to some poor unsuspecting woman " is that a cross?!" She will probably never recover!!!!!!
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Haha, that's brilliant purple. My sons are 13 and 10 so I'll have a big age gap too but for is its perfect. I wouldn't have it any other way.
It was a shock for us too but that was mainly due to TTC for a year with no luck.
Hello to everyone joining the thread.
Hey ladies, can I join in too? My EDD is 14th Feb, and this will be our first child. Been cramping all week as was expecting AF, and not been sleeping at all well.
Bit stressed, but don't want the stress to affect the baby
manager is a nightmare is all I will say
But congratulations to you all. So good to have others that you can turn to in exactly the same position. We were TTC about 2 months but only DTD about once a week. So am very shocked still.
Hi and congratulations TeaAddict
You sound just like me - this is also our first and was totally convinced I was out this month because I had cramps just like AF. We'd also been trying for 2 months and are still in shock tbh! I'm not totally sure about my ED as I get a few days of spotting before my period but think it's somewhere between the 16th-20th Feb...How long are you going to wait before you tell people? I am practically bursting to tell someone but a little scared to...
Hello champagne and barebranches - I was on the magical flying June bus with you both...albeit, a very infrequent poster . Am so glad I'm not the only one getting cramps...will you let me know what the doctor says?
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Well I've just had an email from my bfp's daddy. He has said he wants nothing to do with the baby. He doesn't want to know when it's been born, the sex or anything. He hasn't got any money to give and he wants no part of family life. And the best part....I got pregnant on purpose apparently. I was on the pill and took it everyday without fail so I think he's just trying to blame me. So I'm feeling a bit sad for my unborn child who will grow up not knowing its daddy. Men are shits. Life sucks sometimes
Oh, Laura :-(
That sucks. The person who is really going to miss out though is him. Plenty of children whose dads don't want to know grow up happy as anything, my mum is one of them. You have more than enough love for both of you I'm sure. Stay strong x
Thanks ChampagneBubble, congratulations to you too. I'm going to avoid my manager as much as possible, until I have to. I know that I'll have to have an update meeting soon, but I'll just have to stomach it and soldier on. The project I'm working on officially ends in October-November, and I've basically done it. But he wants every pennies worth of the contract. Tight bastard.
Umm, about the telling other people thing, I'm not sure. My FIL is really ill at the moment and so I don't think that we should say anything until he is in the all clear. I really want to tell my mum, but man is she a chatterbox: the whole church congregation would know by next sunday, I kid you not.
So sorry to hear about this Laura0007, that stinks. Hold on, and let us know how you are doing. It's not fair that men can "opt-out".
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I'm also having the cramping & it comes and goes it waves. I'm going to make an appt with the doctor this week anyway so I'll mention it then but I'm sure its nothing.
eeek this is all very exciting
didn't expect to find a club already for next Feb!!! wow
i got a bfp thurs just gone and by my rubbish estimations i must be around 4 weeks. i am still bf dd1 so haven't had many periods and they have been v irregular so not much to go on but i am sure i had one mid ish may so can't be much more than 4 weeks. digi test said 1-2 weeks since conception but heard they are not v reliable lol.
so, sorry if covered earlier but what's the protocol for 2nd and onward babies?
basically not doing the whole pfb thing i did with dd of making an urgent gp appt at 3 weeks pg lol. so do i just book an appt with midwife when i estimate i will be about 8 ish weeks????
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Thanks ladies. Knew I cold rely on you for a bit of support. I'm ok, just feel sorry for my baby. Ill be mummy and daddy though and my parents are wanting to be involved so it will have male influences. Still sucks though. I always thought I'd be settled down and married before I had children but life doesn't always work out how you plan it does it!
Oh Laura, sorry to hear he's being a shit, but great to hear that you still have RL support from your folks. Stay strong.
Hello to all the new joiners! Feekerry- I'm preg with my 3rd. I rang the midwife after I got my bfp and arranged my booking in appointment. I think if in doubt, ring your surgery- they'll tell you if you need to see your GP too or not (absent any concerns, around here, there's no GP involvement). I'm seeing my GP on 26 June, when I'll be about 8 weeks or so.
Hi homeby where in NZ are you? NZ has a great maternity system with the independent midwives. I was a bit gutted that I didnt get to experience it with DD, so Im hoping to do some kind of combination with a normal midwife and just using the High Risk team physicians. Im going to head to a midwifery centre today to have a chat to see whether thats possible at all.
Im not having much cramping like AF, but I do remember that from first time round. That and slightly increased discharge (TMI, but oh, its going to get so much worse ) makes you keep jumping up convinced that its all over and bleeding is starting. I think its just the bean irritating the uterus a bit while it beds down nice and comfy. Those twangs when you get up suddenly are normal too I think its round ligament pain. My big tip for this time is to always make sure you have both feet on the ground and your body is all facing the same direction if youre going to sneeze or cough owwww if you do that twisted.
Purple37 thats very funny, you probably made her day!
TeeAddict try not to worry about stress affecting baby they survive earthquakes and war zones, so even a bastard boss shouldnt do too much harm.
Laura - so sorry to hear your bubs father is being a complete arse. Must make it a difficult prospect face, and it is really sad for your baby. Do you think youll send updates anyway? He may come around to the idea once hes had some time to process it all and sees you just trying to keep him in the loop. BTW, I dont know whether its the case everywhere but even if he doesnt WANT to be financially liable, I would bet he IS financially liable for child support. You should find out either way.
Thanks so much for the reassurance ladybee - it's exactly like you described it...am constantly pant-checking . Am in Auckland and have heard excellent things about the maternity system here...am looking forward to using an independent midwife. Where abouts are you?
Well had forgotten about the pregnancy paranoia!! Decided test must have been wrong so did the second one at 10pm, still bfp, not slept at all, convinced myself BOTH tests were wrong so in desperation have used an opk stick which has a really dark line on it!! Phew! Resigned myself to no sleep now as I need to get up for work in less than an hour, how is everyone else doing??
not much sleep here either- went to bed at 10.30, woke when dh came to bed at 11, then awake from 12 till 1.30, then dh got up at 5.45 ( so woke briefly) and then dh kissed me goodbye at 6.15. i feel like death!
I am sleeping for England at the moment!! Was asleep before 8 last night and up at 7 this morning with DS. Was awake a few times in the night but must've got 10 hours. Been like this all week! 7+2 today and happy to be further on than I was when I miscarried in March.
I'm struggling with nausea and it gets worse as the day goes on which is why I'm crawling into bed as early as I can every night.
Welcome to all the newcomers, we are growing in numbers!
wow, there's a Feb group already!
I'm expecting no2 and boy so far is it different to dc1. my bathroom and I are good friends!
Hi fellow June bus-ers! And everyone else I've not met yet!
Got a BFP last week, first month of trying for first baby so really surprised but over the moon. Still cant believe it. Am 5+5 with a due date of 10th Feb. Just called GPs for booking in appointment with midwife, I've gotta wait over 2 weeks! Boo!
No symptoms as yet except for an intermittent tummy ache. But it could just be nerves.
Not told anybody yet. Kinda want to tell the parents but want to wait too. It's quite likely I will give it away with my face: every time anyone mentions anything to do with babies I blush wildly. It's not a very helpful trait.
Vix- I'm usually the same- I had 3.5 hours of naps on Saturday and felt dreadful yesterday so God knows what's going on w my sleep. And congrats on getting past your MC date. I'm starting to feel like this is real. Until the scan last week I wasn't letting myself thing about it, but this one is def in the right place- though I felt so diff than I did last Oct, I was still v nervous about anor ectopic.
The queasiness seems to be here to stay. I don't really seem to get hungry, just nauseous. Anyone else the same?
Fox- congrats on your bfp! And I know what you mean about feeling self conscious- I feel like i keep talking about babies and really want to tell people. We were at a friend's house yesterday and she kept talking about how our DC (4.5 and nearly 2) are so much easier all of a sudden and how glad she is to be past the baby stage. Erm.....!
Oh shit, after just posting that I went to the loo and I've got some brown bleeding. Do I need to tell someone?
Fox a little bit of brown spotting isn't necessarily a problem, but I think the thing to do is keep a close eye on it and if it becomes heavier or you start to have pain to call your mw or EPU. I'm sure someone will be along shortly who has more experience of this. Good luck.
Hi, can I join? Congratulations Everyone.
Looks like I'm due Valentines Day with DC2. I'm so nervous as I don't feel pregnant at all, last time I had sore boobs, upset tummy, sick, tired. This time the only reason I decided to take a test was because I got a blood nose. The only other time I've ever had a blood nose was when I found out I was pregnant with DC1.
Sorry I can be a bit of a worry wart x
Hi Fox - just wanted to add that I had brown spotting on and off with my last pregnancy, all was fine but still tell your midwife.
ps Fox I had some pink spotting in my first pregnancy (often the day after having had sex) and she's now 4.5, and it was a problem free pregnancy.
Thanks guys, am freaking out a bit. I called the midwives, which was a first, and she said it might just be implanting (can that still be happening this late?) but that I can go for a scan on Thursday if I like. Think I will.
And now my boss has seen me having lots of phone calls with my office door shut and has asked me if I'm OK about a hundred times, because I'm obviously not. I don't know what to tell him, he's really nice I don't really want to lie.
And I'm a really shit lier...
It depends on what your relationship is like w your boss. When I was pg w DD, I had an early scan and ended up telling my boss, who was a good guy and who I trusted. Hang onto hope- it the mw was really worried, they'd get you a scan in a flash.
He's stopped looking at me quizzically. I think I'm off the hook, for now.
Brown spotting is continuing though.
Thanks Ladybee, that comment nearly made me laugh out loud in my office. But it is so true. God Bless you all.
Congratulations Glowbuggy and Fox Mulder, the more the merrier me thinks.
Vix don't feel guilty for going to bed at a normal /sane hour, its all for the growing one's good. Plus, others say that you'll lose loads of sleep in the first year after the birth. So enjoy it, your skin will look amazing I bet.
I rang the docs this morning & have an appt for next Wednesday. this is my first so I don't know what to expect, could anyone enlighten me?
so far at work today I have spent as disproportionate amount of time thinking about baby names, ingenious ways to avoid alcohol but without giving the game away & generally daydreaming
good luck with the spotting, as others have said I'm sure it's normal but try not to get too worked up, hopefully all will be ok
TeaAddict, if this one is anything like DS I will be hardly sleeping at all for the first year!!
Fox, welcome but I'm sorry to hear about the spotting. Just try and take it easy, hopefully it is nothing to worry about.
bugsy with my first i had a doc apt first who just quickly ran thru the do and don't' and they booked me an apt with midwife at about 9 weeks.
I've attempted a mass update of the stats list again, any missing details or people - sorry! Its a long list now!!
I'm having hot flashes. I had to tell work I was pregnant because my boss wanted to know why my chest, arms and face had gone bright red. This seems to coincide with dizzy spells. I'm glad I told them though because they looked after me and were lovely.
I hope hot flashes aren't going to a permanent fixture this pregnancy.
<goes to stand near an open freezer>
Does anyone else just feel really kind of blocked up in their tummy?- I don't seem to get hungry but just queasy if I don't eat carbs every few hours. So far today, I've had porridge for breakfast, toast mid morning and then cheerios for lunch (as the thought of proper food makes me want to throw up).
hi ladies can I join. just got my BFP this morning . Got 2 ds's already so this will be dc3. Am trying to be very calm about it all but inwardly am worrying lots as had a chemical preg/early mc last aug, Never felt overly worried with either ds's even though I had a little bleeding/cramps with both of them, but the mc in aug has really thrown me. we started ttc last july so this bfp has been a while coming (well for us anyway as both ds's were conceived first month of trying!)
sending lots of hugs to everyone else who's worrying too!
whoops ment to say according to the due date calculator im due 16th feb
bfp are coming thick and fast now. congrats everyone!! i am off to look at due dat calc now but was 16 days over last time so won't hold out much hope!
Got my scan date through - 24th july ahhh cant wait!!!! Anyone else got 12 week scan through?
i just rung the docs and apparently i have to see a doc before i can see a midwife before they can book my scan... so i am seeing doc tomorrow who will book my scan and my booking in apt is 23rd July when i should be around 10 weeks so scan will be shortly after.
seems like a long old time doesn't it??!!
How exciting feekerry! It does sound like ages, but it'll fly by, I'm sure.
My early scan indicated that I was earlier than my dates suggest, which means my 12 week scan will be quite late- I guess end of July or beginning of August even. Anor early scan next week, and midwife at the end of June (which feels like ages away).
YY with the queasiness. I have to eat every hour or I feel terrible. Just want carbs. And I can't face proper meals. I was just the same with DS, it isn't fun but I feel lucky not to be actually throwing up.
No scan date yet, booking in appt isn't until next Monday but I will be 12 weeks mid July so hopefully it'll be some time then!
yep, just carbs and fat with both DC. Chips, bread and Greggs' sausage rolls kept me going for 9 months. If anything, it's amazing I didn't end up the size of a house. That said, I only weighed myself once per pregnancy, and then refused to do so again from sheer shock!
Well I'm over my stomach bug - slept for about two days straight! I'm now freaked out that I don't feel tired or sick at all so am scared my symptoms have vanished. I hate all this worrying! I'm miserable if I feel ill and panicked if I don't!
whohooo got my first appointment next week. receptionist said there wasnt a rush (i was hoping for this week!) its all starting to feel real now!!!!
I put on 2 stone last time
All came off very quickly though, DS was a milk monster which really helped!!
i had the hideous hg last time round. hospitalized twice and off work for 12 weeks. i pray to whoever that i don't get it this time. pls pls pls noooo!!!
so far am fine and think it kicked in last time about 5 weeks so its like waiting for a time bomb .....
feekerry my booking in appointment is also 23 July!
Is anyone else finding they're getting really bloated? I don't think I'm even 5 weeks yet but I swear I look like I did when I was 12 weeks gone with DD. argh. How am I goin to hide this????
I'm really bloated too. Start the day slim and end it looking 4 months pregnant!!
can u join in too? im due number 2 between 8-20th February
Hi everyone! I hope I can join you? I am 6 weeks pregnant with my first baby and it is all very exciting but still very abstract! I have been feeling very tired and I get sick a few times a day, but it doesnt seem to last very long... I have been reading your posts and there seems to be lots of short versions of words... and I do not really know what they stand for! are they listed somewhere?
Please may I join you too? Expecting DC2 around 10 Feb. Can't remember being so bloated or so queasy this early last time round, although I do seem to remember munching my way through 42 weeks. This time I will definitely not consume so many pies
tata there's an acronyms link in the Talk menu ^ up there ^
Oh I definitely remember the nausea and bloating. DH made a curry last night for dinner, which was nice, but the smell in the kitchen this morning is unbearable. I keep walking in and walking out again.
I've got to go to the supermarket and I have a feeling my trolley is going to be full of salty snacks - I existed on peanut butter last time. Feekerry I hope you don't get HG this time - did you take any meds for it?
I can't believe how bloated I am! It's rather painful by about 9pm and I look like there's a full on baby inside rather than a sesame seed (I'm obsessed with my app about the size I the baby!).
Does anyone else feel like they have period pains/cramps throughout the day? I'm not sure if I should be worried but I've got no sickness, just have cramps that sometimes can take my breath away.
It's so nice to see so many people join!!!
look up thread. A few of us have this. mine seems to have stopped now but the cramping was worrying. really felt like AF.
ive not really had any new symptoms yet... except being so so tired!
Sorry, I did after I had posted! Hopefully the cramps will die down. I must admit, this week I feel a hell of a lot more 'with it' than I did last week. I had to leave a wedding in order to go back to the hotel and nap on Saturday - I just couldn't keep my eyes open. I have a gig tonight so hoping this new found energy will last until midnight tonight!
Morning all. I had to leave work yesterday afternoon because I was freaking out about the spotting that I thought was getting worse. It's not really though actually still brown spotting but I've taken the day off work anyway because I'm too frightened to pretend to be OK at work.
I did a cleablur digi this morning and it is still saying 1-2 weeks! How's that I'm 5+5 now?! (I know the first is since conception and the second is since LMP but nonetheless it doesn't work) Haven't even DTD in the last 2 weeks. I guess it it wrong but my hCG must be low. What does that mean?
Got an early scan on Thursday. They said they couldn't do it before 6 weeks as they wouldn't see anything, but at this rate I don't think they'll see anything anyway.
OK, sorry for freaking out. Am chilling out now Is everyone else ok?
I have a doc appointment on Thursday and I am finding it hard to concentrate on much else!
I get twinges low in my pelvis when I stand, stretch or cough to quickly. I have come down with a regular bout of sinusitis so I am sneezing and coughing then getting worried about all the squeezing this is causing on the bean. Hope it's holding tight.
Hello, i hope its ok to join? I got bfp on Friday, it still hasnt really sunk in! This will be dc2, first with my new Husband.
The cramps some of you are describing are spot on, just like a period is about to arrive. Thats the only similar feeling to my last pregnancy, this time my nipples are on fire and i feel a bit sick in the evening.
foxmulder im glad you are chilling!
morning all, try not to worry too much Fox. think positive, hopefully it will all be spot on for all of us. I'm not seeing the doc til next wednesday, seems forever away!!!!!
Same here, bugsyburge i have the docs next Wed too.
I cant get enough ginger ale, im addicted, was never fussed for it before!
I hope the scan goes ok fox. I can imagine you must be worried but the tests aren't always very accurate.
Hello to all the newbies.
Can't believe some of you have 12 week scans booked already! Don't think mine will happen until the beginning of August but I can't make a booking appointment for another 3-4 weeks. I'm having a private scan in less than 2 weeks though then I'll get on with the midwife appointment.
Hi all! I've come down with a horrible dry tickly cough, can anyone recommend a decent cough medicine that I'm allowed to take?
Got the doctors tomorrow afternoon, I will be 5+6. What's the earliest they can detect a heartbeat?
Paranoid about missed miscarriage. My SiL lost a baby 18 months ago at 6 weeks but didn't find out till her 12 week scan, and I'm scared that will happen to me even though I've got no cause to be worried. Still getting some symptoms, knackered, queasy but not actually sick. Someone tell me to stop stressing!
Can I join?
Due 5 February. Second pregnancy, but last one mc between 7/8 weeks so I'm very nervous!
I've had spotting since bfp, off to see gp this evening. And hopefully get a referral to the epau.
<offers ginger tea and chocolate around>
Hi Ladies, I'm joining, BFP on Sunday, I'm 34 and fingers crossed this will be my first. I have had 2xmmc in the past but a long time ago with previous partners. DH and I got married last August and I already have a DSD who is a teenager (perfect babysitting age :-)). Terrified about mmc again, booked a docs apt next wed to let them know and get the ball rolling and hoping for an early scan due to my history. We have agreed not to tell anyone so lovely to be able to talk to people on here
Hello Wplum , Eyoreish and Namechanging, welcome aboard.
Wow, some of you ladies are really ploughing ahead with scans and stuff. I don't even think that my local GP knows that I'm registered with them. Never heard a peep after registering with them. I think that I'll leave it until about mid July before going up there. IKWYM littlestgirlguide, I am concerned about early mc too from familial experience.
Who said that they wanted all things salty? Meee tooo. I gobbled off some bags of Mccoys, before DH got in yesterday. And today after just one packet, I'm still contemplating munching on another one to tide me over.
DH mentioned something yesterday about us going swimming! what?! I've spent the past 5 years trying to get you motivated to do sport, come running with me, swimming, anything, and now that you see that I'm having an extra big bolognaise portion, you mention swimming? the joker! <<exhales>>
Very early days for me...found out yesterday...and if all goes well, due around 14th Feb! Yay!
Can I very tentatively join the club? I've had a succession of very faint lines today
not that I've poas 4 times in a row or anything .
All being well this is number 1 for me and DH and should be due about 20th Feb We're settling into a village in Kent after moving from sarf london last year.
I also bring cake - have been stocking up today
while I can still manage it but there's plenty to go round
sunfloweredif its carrot cake count me in. Congratulations on the lines, 4 tests can't be wrong!
Still feeling very crampy, taken paracetamol and now in bed with a cuppa.
Hi teaaddict I had my gp appointment and referral to epau because I lost my last baby three months after spotting. So I'm super cautious this time around, especially since I'm spotting again.
I've got my first scan on Friday morning. DH and I are nervous and excited.
Hope everyone else is well. These early times are tough! I had a two hour lunch time snooze today I was so shattered, and so I'm still catching up on work now
Hey all! Can I join too?
I am due 17th with number two
feekerry are you me? I also had hg starting at 5 weeks and had to be hospitolised, so I am counting down till next week, hoping hg doesn't show its face and eating yummy healthy (ish) things incase I can't again for a while.
wplum carrot cake it is - hope the paracetamol did the trick.
cherryoats congratulations back. Fingers crossed that hg stays away. Retrospective congratulations to everyone else on the thread too - here's to a healthy 30-something weeks!
There is a lady who is looking enormous at 26 weeks at work. My boss (just back from mat leave) keeps making comments about how this woman doesn't know what a tough time is coming etc etc. Boss doesn't yet know that she is freaking me out with every comment ! Some other people have been dropping clangers regularly too!
Anyone else had any? Or any guesses?
TeaAddict My doctor said that I was right to see her so early as the hospitals are rather booked up in advance for scan dates so the earlier you book, the closer to 12 weeks you'll get a scan. Went last Thursday and had a letter through yesterday saying my scan is 31st July.
All starting to seem real now!
Thisisfreakingmeout I've had one woman guess but it was a particularly bad day of symptoms for me so anyone watching closely could've guessed really! I too have a close colleague who is pregnant. I'm trying to not give the game away by asking her too many seemingly inappropriate questions.
And....congrats to all the new comers. It's getting full!!
Is anyone else eating their own body weight in carbs? I was feeling really sick this morning so made porridge. After a decent bowl, I still felt sick, so made another. Now in sitting here wondering if I need another...! Carbs/fat/sugar appear to be the only way to deal w my morning sickness.
I've not no symptoms whatsoever, which is worrying in and of itself.
Fox, I have no symptoms and tested with internet cheapie just now. It's come up negative. I have no spotting or bleeding or orbut it looks like this is it for me. I should be 5+5. Not sure what to do now, but am wishing we hadn't told our families. I feel stupid, like I just made he whole thing up in my head. I certainly did have several positive tests last week so I know I didn't imagine it but I guess it was just too early. I hope that you get good news - it seems like lots of people experience spotting and have healthy pregnancies.
Mmm, yes, carbs fat and sugar help me too. I am resisting the urge to ladle peanut butter onto white toast and butter too much though. My jeans don't fit me already, muffin top galore.
Hi everyone, I'm back after a couple of weeks away on holiday - and congratulations to you all!
Well, holiday was lovely apart from the constant worry about food, and I also had a couple of red blood on wiping instances, which I've put down to cervical bleeding and constipation, but really worried me. T Mobile have made a nice little profit from me buying data top ups abroad so I could Google every little thing!
I poas this morning and line showed up instantly which is a relief
We were on holiday with friends too, so they were all guzzling back the booze still, it was nice not to have a hangover.
I'm secretly glad to be home!
No more symptoms really, still got sore boobs and cramps. I've also burst into tears a couple of times, hope that doesn't happen at work!
I've got a form from my gp to fill in and then they will get in touch to make an appointment. Hope it happens soon!
Hello to all the new bfp and congrats to you all. The bus is filling up nicely.
Feeling decidedly icky today. I'm at the point I had my mc last time round so I'm constantly expecting the worst. Even poas this morning just to check it was still positive! Going mad. Got my early scan tomorrow morning so really hoping I can feel more positive after that.
To everyone out there who is worrying I know how you feel and send you lots of cake and chocolate to help. It's what gets me through the day!
Hi jelly so sorry about your news, and please don't feel stupid, your family will understand. Is there a chance it was a dud test?
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Oh no jelly I'm so sorry to hear that! Are you ok? Don't feel stupid about having told your families, I'm sure they'll want to support you with this.
Jelly go and buy one from a shop. After using Internet cheapies I wouldn't trust them. Good luck and whatever happens, don't feel stupid please xx
Jelly please don't feel stupid. I'm sure your family will understand. But do get yourself checked. Tests can be wrong so put your mind at ease. fx for you.
Thanks - the doc did a test and it was negative as well. So was a clearblue I had. The doctor couldn't say for definite what happened but suspects that I conceived but it didn't implant and that I'll either get a normal period or re-ovulate and conceive again. I haven't really got my head around it and obviously very upset but I suppose it's so early that I could easily not even have known. And I have for comfort that dh and I have conceived easily so I am sure it will happen for us. Thanks for all the good wishes.
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So sorry Jelly. Thinking of you and keeping my fx that you'll be back on one of these buses very soon xx
I'm so sorry Jelly, I know how disappointing it is. Here's hoping you conceive quickly again, I'm sure you will. Take care
So sorry to hear that jelly
Thinking of you jelly.
Has anyone else been getting hot flushes?
ah jelly, I'm sorry.....please don't feel silly-you're family will understand
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Hi Laura I'm having a hot flush right now!
I'm so sorry jelly. I hope you are getting a lot of support from your family right now.
Yes laura I got them yesterday. My boss commented on my red face, chest and arms and I kept on feeling sudden rushes of heat and dizziness yet my core body temperature was normal. I've googled and it does seem to be a pregnancy issue for some so nothing to worry about.
Thinking of you jelly
Im having no hot flushes yet, but is anyone else feeling really run down? I didnt feel this run down with my first, I have already had an infection and anti b's in the last 2 weeks
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Yep, also feeling run down and just had a monster cold sore.
Hiya all and welcome to all the new passengers. We're gonna need a bigger bus at this rate
Been lying low for a while after some spotting but all seems okay and made it to 7 weeks today.
I'm a bit confused about what happens next?met the midwife last week who said she'd visit me at home for my booking in appointment. Do I just wait for her to send me an appointment?
Symptoms seem to be avoiding me other than dizziness when I get up too quick. I almost want a wee bit morning sickness!
ducks the fists of those suffering
Holy crap. Long thread already.
I'm still in shock.
Got some huge health conflicting problems which are stopping me from settling in or starting to enjoy my pregnancy.
Need to have a conversation with my surgeon first...
Congrats to everyone x
Glad it's not just me then! I answered the door to the postman this morning with a red face and neck whilst fanning myself with a magazine. He looked a bit shocked as it was cold and raining outside!
gosh, I would love to have a hot flush! I'm freezing at the moment, I almost wore thick tights today.
I'm shattered too, I felt really run down this afternoon and thought I must be coming down with something. When I remembered I'm pregnant and just shattered!
Hot flushes, carbs a plenty and super queasy here too....feeling alright and full of energy in the mornings (which is very unusual - I'm definitely more of a night owl normally). Sickness kicks in mid morning (cue filling my face with anything I can get my hands on ) then really slump and could do with a nap post lunch....hmmm I wonder if they'd mind if I curled up under my desk - wouldn't that be nice....
Anyone else waking up at silly times in the morning? I'm seeing 3-4am far too regularly at the moment for my liking
Well I'm still waking in the night about 1am feeling sick! The sickness holds off all day while I'm at work, then when I finally get into my lovely, comfy bed do I lie awake all night feeling sick! Typical, when I'm knackered too
Hi all, just checking in, sorry to hear your news Jelly, I have had two mmc in the past and had told everyone, this was quite some time ago and in previous relationship's so hoping it's going to be different this time. who has told people already and who have you told? I am dying to tell my parents as they will be over the moon but we have decided to wait (particularly due to my history)
Not told anyone yet. Not even DH.
Don't know what my spinal surgeon is going to say...
Really sorry to hear your news jelly. How are you doing?
We're going to try not to tell anyone until (all being well) 12 weeks, but we're staying with my parents at the moment so that might be hard.
Sorry for your news Jelly
Doctors today - she has recommended an early scan due to my cycles being really messed up since having the implant removed last year. However doesn't think it will be for another month!
So sorry to hear the news. It really is a very real reality and does make me feel a bit silly for wanting to tell everyone. But I'm just bursting to spill the beans every time I have a conversation with someone. So to get over the urge, I've started telling shop assistants, bus drivers, random crazy people on the street....anyone who I don't actually know but can congratulate me!!
Ha ha Sam, i can totally relate to that, I am in the middle of a course of exercise which is quite hard work (Tabata) so had to tell the instructor so he could make sure everything is suitable without letting the rest of the class know. i loved telling him, he was honoured to be the only one aside from my husband and best friend (she guessed, couldnt lie)
Jelly, sorry to hear your having a horrible time. The last thing you should feel is embarrassed. I hope things look up for you soon.
Docs today, I feel quite nervous even though it will hopefully be brief and routine.
God, this nausea is rough. less than 3 hours after a huge carby, sugary snack and I feel really queasy again. I can't surely eat again!
3 hours?! I'm having to eat hourly
Oh, that makes me feel better! Though, to be fair, it was a massive bowl of porridge and sugar, then 3 slices of bread w nutella and a cup of tea. ! So it's not even that I'm eating good stuff!
I'm trying to comfort myself that with the first two I went through a phase of just wanting crap and it turned out OK (and I lost the 2.5 stone or so that I'd put on pretty easily). I just can't believe
a) how massive I am already (I promise- I think it'll only be a few weeks till I'm in mat gear); and
b) how much crap I'm eating.
I am with you ALL the way!! I just can't bear the nausea if I don't eat. DS kept me up all night (for no good reason either) and, because I was awake, I was so hungry/nauseous!!
Been for my scan this morning. Not brilliant news but I'm holding out hope. Pregnancy in the right place, which after my ectopic is a massive relief, but it's not as far on as my dates would suggest. Just shows a sac and yolk. No fetal pole. My dates put me at 6+2 so would expect to see something. Got to go back next Friday and I'm just hoping my dates are slightly out. The waiting is the worst and feeling quite down about it all after last mc. Still got all my symptoms though so fx.
Sorry for the 'feeling sorry for myself' post
Choco I'm sorry the scan wasn't more positive but it is still very early so hopefully everything is ok. When are you going back for another check?
Oops sorry just saw, next Friday.
In my head I'm being very sensible and saying early scans are notorious for not showing much but I think my hormones have got the better of me!
Ah chocofrog, sorry to hear that, it's hard when they can't give you a definitive answer and you have to repeat scan. It IS possible that your dates are out - or rather that it took a while to implant so growth was delayed, or even that it was just in an awkward angle and not visible - hope they see something next time around. Keep busy.
212 - have you told your DH yet? It took me a couple of days to tell mine. I had a blood test and was referred to the RPL clinic before I clued him in.
I'm having the opposite of hot flushes -am permanently freezing. Thankfully nausea isn't increasing yet, just sticking at the feeling hungover 10 hours of the day, desperate to nap between 2 and 4 level so far.
Speaking of sleep, the pregnancy 4am waking, I thoroughly recommend a podcast on low to help you ack to sleep. Either a relaxing hypnotherapy one or something like Melvyn Bragg's In Our Time podcasts. I must have heard the first 10 minutes of hundreds of them in my last pg, before drifting back to sleep.
Chocofrog- I'm so sorry you didn't get to see everything. If it helps at all, my experience is v similar. I had an ectopic last October so had an early scan last week. I thought I was bang on 6 weeks pg, but they said it looked more like 4 weeks, so I'm going back again next week to try to see a heartbeat. My cycle was usually about 32 days, so being less pg than I thought kind of makes sense. They said that if the yolk sack and egg sack were in the right place and a good regular shape, that's all good and not indicative of any probs at this stage (which they were), so I'll be keeping my fingers crossed for you too.
Ladybee- I'm with you on feeling like an iceberg. And my house is really cold at the best of times, so I feel like a total loon when I leave the house, with 3 jumpers on, only to realise it's not actually that cold (not that I'm removing any layers though!).
Thanks LadyBee and chilled. Good to know I'm not the only one! Fingers crossed for you too and roll on next week.
Hopefully your next scan will show more development Chocofrog. The dates we work out compared to scans rarely match up, not everyone ovulates and implants when we think.
Im nearly 5 weeks I think? im sooo cold all the time, glad its not just me
I took another test yday, still positive thankfully!!!
I've had no symptoms apart from very tender boobs but that has started to ease now so I've been panicking that the pg has disappeared.
you're all having much more concrete symptoms than me, it's making me nervous!!!!
hello all. just checking in after a few days if horrid nights from dd.... not much fun.
sorry to see some have or are having worrying times. best of luck...x
i did another test today too just because the hypermesis hasn't kicked in yet so it worries me slightly but all was fine and it said 3 weeks since conception and last week said 2 so pretty sure i will be around 5 weeks now.
have had terrible up and down emotions....never had that with dd. i literally had to pull over in the car the other day as i was stuck in traffic and late and i had a total melt down. people driving past were like
Hi Ladies, sorry some of you are hung worrying times, everything crossed for all of us.
I'm 5+3 and the only symptoms so far are tiredness and bloating. Not feeling sick yet like I did with DD. Hoping it will kick in soon for reassurance (and then I'll be on here complaining that I feel sick ).
Anyone else ridiculously bloated already?
Seriously struggling today with hormones, nausea, sleep deprivation and an overtired almost 3 year old. I thought it was bad enough the first time round but its blinking tough with a toddler to entertain!!!
yy vix- cbeebie to get you through till bedtime? When I was pg w DS, DD watched so much tv that she could pretty much recite the whole of the Snow White DVD by the time he arrived...!
I've relied on cbeebies heavily all day, I called DH home from work at 4 (we run our own business, and it's just the 2 of us) so I'm relaxing now for an hour!
pickle i already look 8m preggers due to bloating
Hello ladies can I join? I'm 6weeks and got to say feeling rubbish! Been suffering so much from nausea including actual wretching and afraid to say cant stomach food to get rid of it either. Feel sick throughout day but even worse in evenings/early hours of the morning. Keep waking during night so also extremely tired. Am very happy to be having a baby but have to admit didn't quite realise I would be feeling constantly rubbish. Really hope it passes soon not sure could cope keeping this up didn't think it would kick in so early. Sorry for selfish post x
yep it ain't pleasant really is it? with any luck as soon as you hit 12 weeks you will be feeling much better...[i didn't]
Welcome Tinkerbelle. Sorry you're feeling poorly too!
Hi everyone and esp the new faces.
Bit of a WWYD: I'm 7 weeks pg (maybe- according to my dates 7 weeks, but acc to early scan last week, prob less. Having anor scan on Wed). This is my 4th pregnancy (last one was ectopic though), and I'm massive. I'm not just being paranoid- only one person knows other than my DH and today I asked her if I looked a bit tubby (which is fine, in the circs) or pg. Even though I thought I'd dressed really well to hide my bump, she said I def looked pg.
Our plan had been to tell our families in 10 days, after scan and when I see my family for a funeral (he'll probably spend the day w his folks w our DC). I'll then be nearly 9 weeks (on my dates). But his folks are coming over for father's day and it's looking increasingly obvious we'll have to tell them, because it's obvious it's not just cake in there. I feel a bit weird about that as it seems so early to tell people, but can't see what else to do. I can't believe I'm so big- I swear I'm about the size I was w DC2 at 14-16 weeks. And I know I showed more quickly with him than w DC1, but this seems crazy!
Stupid question but you don't have any particularly floaty tops you could wear to hide it? That's what I did last weekend when I was really bloated.
My bloating has gone for now despite having to eat my own weight in bread every hour!!
I wore a floaty/silky top the other day and apparently it really clung to my bump!- and I thought I was hiding it well. Today I wore a loose (dark) shirt and a chunky, loose card, buttoned over bump (kind of kimono style, if that makes sense) and apparently all you cd see was bump. I'm not very busty, so I can't even eg wear something low or something that hangs from the bust. I have a long, cable knit cardi which might hide the bump a bit, if I can keep it pulled over a bit (maybe belt it or something).
Is anyone else having similar bump hiding problems? Vix, I'm v jealous it worked for you last weekend!
I had a huge bump last week, there's a photo of me and I look very pregnant, pure bloating though. I'm hoping it's not so noticeable now! I usually have a bit of a tum which I
try to cover up with a long vest and square jumper / tshirt.
I have just burst into huge tears at the end of how I met your mother, dh didn't know if I was crying or crying with laughter! Are you a bit hormonal he asks
Sorry to hear so many of you are feeling rubbish. I was a little queasy this evening when I saw my tea but that soon passed... vix I see what you mean about being towards the end of the month - I'm (hopefully) a week or so away from that particular joy and miles away from any kind of scan
tinypolkadot my dh looked at me really sadly last night when I warned him about impending mood swings, he finds regular pmt
rage and tears quite hard to deal with. I've promised to be on my best behaviour until at least saturday
I'm 7weeks with my first. Very happy but I'm just after some reassurance about a very common dilemma.
Drinking! I actually gave up for Lent, then extended this to train for a half marathon, all with TTC in mind. My family and friends are big drinkers and I've run out of excuses not to drink! I don't want to tell them my news yet, and thought it was ok to have the odd very small glass of wine.
So in order to cover up my happy news I've actually been drinking more the past few weeks than I have all year.
I've had a few sips when visiting parents (husband necked the rest when they weren't looking!), a tiny glass of red with friends over for dinner (they brought the bottle and it would've felt rude to refuse), half a shandy at the pub. So not much.
However, last wkd I went to friend's 30th and had a whole glass of champagne. Now I feel so stupid to have done it... I just wanted a cover! I ended up telling my friend anyway, as we were both TTC, then felt even worse as she told me she'd miscarried and I was sat there with a glass of bubbly. I felt so bad.
My parents are here this wkd and I really don't want to tell them... How can I avoid drinking? I am never ill and don't drive! And they are staying over so I can't say I'm running in the morning! Unless I do run...
So, let me know what you think of my drinking so far, and how to avoid it for the next 5 weeks! Thanks!
ch1134 a straight tonic water with ice and a slice looks just the same as a g&t
Attack of the sore boobs. Ouch. But I'm kind of getting a kick out of every symptom as its a little sign of what's happening to my body. Still bloody amazed by it all.
Apparentlychilled, I think it worked for me because my boobs are huge now so the empire-line top I wore sort of hung down from them and totally covered the bump if that makes sense?
Am in bed munching belvita biscuits before I get up to DS. Really hoping the nausea is more bearable today!!
i still havent really got much in the way of symptoms. my boobs are firmer and hurt when squeezed (thank you DH)
no sickness... in fact in the morning i wake up earlier and have more energy.... suppose i shouldnt complain.
I've woken in a bit of a stress this morning. I've got my scan at epu as I've been bleeding. It's bringing back lots of sad memories for DH and me as we spent lots of time at epu when I my baby in February.
The bleeding has been a lot less this time, but my brain is worrying!
Eeyore thinking of you, hope you get the reassurance you need.
Good luck today eeyore
Good luck eeyore. And Dawnofthedee, if you're checking this thread at all, thinking of you too and hoping your scan goes well.
good luck today, hope all goes ok.....
I am literally counting down the days until my doc appt (next Wednesday) because it's all so surreal at the moment!!!!
Dh & I are telling our parents this weekend... didn't really want to share this early but a culmination of different things means this is the only weekend until end of July when we will see all our separated parents in the same weekend so this weekend it is!!!
I'm rather nervous about it for some unknown reason, feel a bit like a naughty schoolgirl which is ridiculous as I'm in my late twenties & married!!!
how's everone feeling today?
It didn't go so well for me at the scan yesterday. They couldn't see anything, so they took some blood and hCG levels were low. Taking some more tomorrow...looks like a mc though Have started bleeding today. Very sad. DH had convinced himself everything was OK and a bit of spotting was normal, so he's really cut up. Better to happen now though than a few weeks down the line I guess.
Wishing everyone else more luck.
ah fox I'm sorry to hear that.
fingers crossed for you
Sad news Fox. I'm sorry.
Oh Fox I'm really sorry to hear that a miscarriage is awful, give yourself plenty of time to recover.
my scan went well. I saw a heartbeat and baby where it should be, between 6-7 weeks. We're both still nervous, as we saw a heartbeat and then lost our last baby. But we're hoping and praying this one sticks.
Fox, I'm so sorry. Having gone through this in March I have recent experience of how heartbreaking it is. Take good care of yourself, lots of rest. xx
So sorry Fox. Take good care of yourself
I've updated the stats list again, quite a few missing bits of info if any of you can update it please do
Today's food so far...
0530: 2 Belvita breakfast biscuits in bed
0700: 2 Weetabix
0915: Large Apple
0945: Granola Bar
1015: Cinnamon Bagel with Banana
1130: Ready Salted Hula Hoops
1150: Minestrone Cuppasoup
1240: Houmous and couscous wrap
1330: Harvester Chewee Bar
Its now 1450 and I am starting to feel sick again. Honestly, apart from anything else I'm not sure I can afford this level of eating! I miss feeling hungry, I don't ever feel hungry just really nauseous, and can't face proper meals I just have to snack all the time. Hoping it doesn't last too much longer, or get any worse. Sorry to moan, I am grateful to be pregnant and in a lot of ways the symptoms are very comforting but still unpleasant!!
Hello all, can I join?
I just found out that I am pregnant with my 1st on Wednesday. We are so excited, but I think DH doesn't properly believe it yet.
Already the not eating/not drinking certain foods is a nightmare. I had a work event that seemed to revolve around wine and eating dangerous soft cheeses last night! There's just so long I'll be able to hide/make excuses. Any tips?
Hello, welcome and congrats!! Only thing I can think of is to say you're on an elimination diet because you think you've got a food intolerance? That could cover things like dairy, alcohol etc.
Just got my BFP, literally 30 minutes ago (eek!). Due February 23rd by my reckoning and will be DC3. I haven't even told DH yet, I'm trying to keep quiet until Sunday as DC3 is going to be our last so need to make it all that bit more special than it already is.
We've had a bit of a chequered history with pregnancy, it took us three years to conceive then had a mc, then had DS then a mc, then had DD. We were expecting the trying part to take around six months as it did with DS and DD - I got pregnant on our first 'try' panicking a little though as I've just started a new job in April and can't see them being too pleased about it.
Aside from all that though, I'm so excited!
I'll be four weeks on Sunday - how does that work when I know for a fact conception would have been 2nd June?
Hi all, just thought I'd check in. Haven't read back through all the posts yet - I'll get onto that later this evening.
Anyhoo, I moved my rescan from this afternoon to monday at 9am. Don't know why but I'm feeling a bit more positive. Haven't had any more bleeding and no pain so i'm hoping it's just my dates that were out (it is possible) and i will get good news at this scan.
hi Bearfrills, congratulations! I also started a new job in April, just one of those things though eh
Exactly Norma, can't be helped and I've been working my socks off so hopefully they'll see that I'm still valuable.
Dawn, I had bleeding in my pregnancies with DS and DD. It's not normal and should always be investigated but it's very common, if that makes sense? With DS I bled all over Christmas and was devastated as I thought I was 10wks and that I was miscarrying. I went to my 12wks scan after New Year (which I also bled over) and found I was only measuring 6wks. I had an awful 6wks waiting for a rescan, they said either my dates were wrong or it wasn't viable and all we could do was wait. 6wks later I was 13+4 and he's now almost 4yo. I continued to bleed on and off during the pregnancy, I was even admitted to hospital for it. With DD I had a bleed at 7wks and was convinced of the worst (I'd had a late mc before getting pregnant again). She was fine. Fingers crossed for you, I hope all is well.
Joining in please, tentatively, (first response) due date Feb 26th :-)
Congratulations everyone, feel the magic :-)
Vix - I hadn't considered the elimination diet. My friends may think I'm properly ill as I normally eat and drink pretty much anything! It's been a testing first week with a co-worker opening a bottle of champagne at 5 today :-(. Strangely it seems very easy to resist knowing I'm doing it for the bean (I suppose more of an apple pip at this point!).
Dawn, from what I read minimal bleeding does seem normal. I have had cramps for days (much like pms!) but am trying to be calm about it.
ye i got a promotion few months ago too. oops!
haven't told work yet and not planning to for a good few weeks. don't think i can hide it till 12 weeks but maybe will leave it till 8 weeks. anyone else told work yet???
I had to tell my boss this week. I had a long-scheduled meeting with him to sign the paperwork to reduce my hours and go term-time from September when DD starts school. I had to tell him because I don't want to reduce my hours considerably just before goin off on mat leave! And then, once I had opened my mouth I couldn't shut it again and told three of my closer colleagues, which is lovely as a. I now have someone to cover for me as I dash to the loo every 20 minutes, and b. one of them also announced she and her husband are adopting a little girl in the new year too! Lots of baby talk in my office this week :-) still haven't told my dad, brother and SiL or my grown up stepdaughters though.
I haven't told work yet, we are expecting a restructure inthe next couple of months so I'm hoping to last until that's finished! I have told a couple of girls in the office who I'm close to, feels good to have someone to talk to, especially with all the imminent changes at work.
Does anyone else have diarrhea? I've just been struck with it since I got home tonight. I don't know if it's pregnancy, getting back off holiday, the new water filter or something I ate
Dh offered to put the toilet roll in the fridge for me, so thoughtful!
I get it in early pregnancy too tinypolkadot, it's the change in hormones I think.
I'm not looking forward to telling work I workIn the NHS but it's a very small team and I've only been there a few months so I'm worried they'll think I'm taking the piss getting pregnant so soon. And it means H&S will immediately bar me from one part of my job (once I tell them anyway), it's the part everyone dislikes so it's done on a rota basis to make sure everyone does their share, I'll be popular when I'm off that rota and everyone else has to do it more often to cover my share.
I'm going to try hold off for another few weeks if I can but on the other hand I have a history of miscarriage so feel like I should at least tell my senior manager so I can get the relevant support if I need it.
I'm overthinking it. I haven't even told DH yet never mind work.
tinypolkadot I'm the same with diarrhoea, I've just started a thread about it as I was so surprised. It's rubbish!
I work in my own company, just me and DH so no worries for me on that front. I even have a futon at the office so I can nap
So reassuring to know I'm not on my own! Hope it calms down a bit soon, I'd like to leave the house tomorrow!
Still, I'm thankful for every symptom and change. Think I'm going to get measured for a maternity bra tomorrow- if I can make it to the shops that is!
vix do you need to take on any staff? Naps at work sound heavenly
I'm 23, pregnant with baby numero uno. Got my BFP on Wednesday when af was 4 days late. This little seedling took 11 cycles to conceive.
(i had a chem preg in Feb but I don't consider that a pregnancy).
Baby estimated due date is15th February which makes me 4 weeks and 6 days.
Current symptoms are just tiredness and awful smelly farts lol!!! It's horrible!!!
I've told work but I'm a nanny so my boss needs to arrange things for while I'm off so the more notice the better. And the children I look after were very excited and asked if the baby would be their cousin! Not quite...
Hello! (Psst, can I join?)
Very early days, due 22nd Feb, with no. 2.
Excited, but nervous, hated being pg first time round but trying not to think about it and enjoy it while I can, before the sickness and SPD start!
Just catching up... It's been busy on here!
Really sorry to read your news fox. I hope you and dp are both doing ok.
Hi to all the newbies. I think there might be a bit of carrot cake left if you get peckish.
Had my first non-drinking test yesterday. Met friends for dinner and driving into central London was
terrifying a useful excuse! Was ready for my bed by about 9 though and got really sleepy driving back. Can't win!
Booked my gp appt yesterday. My practice is just catching up with the 21st century so hopefully it will be more useful than just a 'don't drink wine, take folic acid, see the midwife in a few weeks'...
I am due on Feb 4th, this will be my first , exciting so far!
Hi everyone, got my BFP nearly 4 weeks ago but it's taken a while to sink in! Happened 3 weeks after coming off the pill so came as a bit of a shock! Will be our first and so excited
I think I'm 6-7 weeks and due somewhere around the end of Jan or beginning of Feb but it's a bit tricky without an LMP to go by! Have an early dating scan next week so hopefully that will help.
We've told our mums and siblings so far (as the mums wouldn't have been able to keep quiet!), one work colleague knows as I nearly fainted in the loos and I'm going to tell one of my close friends when I next see her (she has two DDs so good for advice!). Other than that just trying to throw others off the scent as I'm sure people are suspicious...or I'm just paranoid!!
Hi everyone, been a bit snowed at work so haven't managed to get on MN much. Hope everyone's doing well. Way TMI but after DH and I had sex last night, I've had some light brown spotting. I'm 4+5 - should I be worried? Do I need to impose a sex ban?
Fox very sorry to hear what's happened. Big hugs x
Hi lucid this also might be tmi but I used to have a mirena coil which meant v light af - I'd get spotting for about 10 days afterwards after sex because my sluggish body didnt do the job in the normal way. I think I've read that similarly implantation bleeding can hang around and make its way out slowly, so guess that sex just gives it a bit of a helping hand iykwim. That's just an assumption though - if you're worried there's no harm calling nhs direct/111 or its local equivalent if you want to speak to a professional (though have heard 111 can be a frustrating experience...)
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Spotting after sex is common, it's to do with the cervix being really sensitive and engorged, if it gets bumped during sex it can bleed a little which comes out as brown-tinged discharge. If it stops then it's fine but if it doesn't or you're at all worried then see a doctor or midwife
Yeah, cramps here too. Also normal, it's everything settling in
Hiya how do I add my due date to the stats? It's the 15th Feb! Have horrendous sore boobs and have had to buy maternity leggings today which is ridiculous. Midwife says its normal as I have big babies and its my third but keeping it a secret is not going to be easy!! Anyone else showing? Also when do people tell their other children??
Thanks everyone, very reassuring! champagne I promise to stay away from google!
Sneaks into the back of the bus...
Ive never joined a antenatal thread before but we decided to try for our second about the end of april - and here I am bloated and cramping and after a test today - bfp and though early days looking at a due date of 14th if all goes well
Purple, I'm 4wks and I'm struggling to get the button fastened on my jeans I think it's more bloating than bump for me! I found I was showing earlier either DD than I did with DS but it sort of balanced out so by around 20wks I was roughly the same although by the end I was smaller - DD was much smaller than DS was (a relatively small 7lb10 compared to a hefty 9lb3), something I hope is true for this pregnancy too!
and craving Tallagio cheese
sure I dont remember cheese cravings from last time
hi to all the newbies!!!
ahhh telling the inlaws tomorrow!! DH is excited but im feeling nervous!
still not much in the way of symptoms. just tiredness... but im quite a sleepy (lazy) person anyway...
Hi can I join please? Due around the 4th of Feb known since the 26th of May. I had a miscarriage at easter so apprehensive but feeling positive. Quite a few people already know in my close circle. I haven't read through as the threads so long so can anyone let me know where everyone else is at? Xx
Hi new joiners, there is a stats thread somewhere you can jump in to with dates and ages etc.
ldt - I think we are in synch, found out 26/5 due 4/2. No symptoms yet except solid boobs. You?
Have also experienced the dreaded bloat! Due to the hormones apparently messing with your digestion (without going into too much detail!)...I have found those probiotic drink things help a bit. Plus I take my folic acid with them so it helps me remember.
Sorted through my clothes this weekend and put everything that didn't fit away. Wardrobe was pretty sparse afterwards and I'm only 7 weeks
DH took the news surprisingly well He says he had an inkling so it wasn't much of a shock but he's pleased.
Did another test this morning (I know, I know ... ) and the line is still fairly faint. Definitely there just faint, but a line is a line.
Debating whether to tell work tomorrow or not. I'm only 4wks but some parts of my job involve heavy lifting and cIimbing stepstools and things which I know they have to do a risk assessment for. Very worried they're going to think I'm taking the piss when I won't have even been in the job a year when I go on maternity leave. One of the other ladies gets so much grief and snide comments because she's excused from certain duties for health reasons, what are they going to think of me? And then how do I tell my manager? Part of my wants to apologise
It seems sensible to tell your boss given the heavy lifting etc. I know what you mean about feeling like apologising, I am starting a new job next month and am dreading telling them. I found out I was pregnant after I had already accepted the offer, and there was no going back as I am at risk of redundancy where I work now. I don't feel I had much choice really but I do feel really guilty
Oh heavens I've just been scaring myself silly reading the Mary Poppins thread in parenting, about having a toddler and newborn - if this works DD will be about 21 months when DC3 arrives, eek! Oh well there's an awful lot to get through before any of that happens so no point worrying about it.
I had a load of appointment letters come through yesterday, another scan this Thursday, then a referral to specialist high risk team the following Wednesday. It seems strange but partly it feels reassuring to feel like people are taking this seriously and believe it will happen. On the other hand it feels bit like I want to say, hang on I'm not sure this is going to last two more days lets not plan two weeks in advance. Well, day by day I'll just keep thinking positively.
Thankfully the nausea is remaking steady so far, fingers crossed it doesn't escalate too much in the next two weeks.
You'll be fine LadyBee it's an adjustment but all the training is on the job so to speak so after the initial settling in you find your own routine and your own way of doing of juggling two. DS was 24mo when DD arrived, there are only three weeks between their birthdays, and it was all a bit frantic at first but we're grand now. He'll be 4.6yo and DD will be 2.5yo this time!
Thisisfreakingmeout- I have rock hard sore bombs and such bad sickness I have barely moved from the sofa or eaten some days. Some days are not so bad. Sounds like our dates are the same, I have slightly longer cycles so it may change but I've tried to adjust accordingly.
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Hope everyone's having a lovely weekend. I've just woken up from a quick catnap on the sofa which has made me worry about how I'm going to manage at work this week - I couldn't keep my eyes open! I work 8-10 hr days in a big open plan office and apart from going to sit in the car there's nowhere really to get any space during the day if I start to flag. Do any of you who are a few weeks further ahead (or who've done this before) have any suggestions about how to cope with the tiredness when stopping just isn't an option?
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I'm the same. I managed to have long afternoon snoozes on Monday and Friday because I was working from home. I've also napped yesterday and today, I find my sickness is much worse if I'm tired.
I'm due to be working in London four days this week, which will mean 6am starts and not getting back until 7 at the earliest. I've no idea how I'll cope. DH wants me to work from home some extra days but I have meetings I need to attend.
I'm trying not to complain about the exhaustion and sickness, as I feel so blessed to finally have a healthy pregnancy!
Re the tiredness, I am the same - but no chance for catnaps with a 4 year old in the house. I work 9 hour days with only 2 short breaks (no lunch hour) in a public facing office, so even snacking isn't an option really as no food or drink other than water is allowed in the public areas. Last time was so much easier, I could sleep all weekend, and had lunch breaks!
I can't complain though as other than being shattered I have got virtually no sickness as long as I eat regularly
Hi all and welcome to newbies. PIL came over for lunch today and I feel so awful that I made DH tell them. They were pretty low key till I started to get a bit upset about last pg (which was ectopic), when they were nice to me. So didn't go badly, though I had kind of feared it might.
Feel exhausted today (not slept all day and slept badly last night) and feel really sick. YY to what eeyore said- sickness seems to be worse when tired but sugary drinks and snacking seem to help.
Hi everyone, another newbie.
Got my bfp yesterday. Complete shock but we're both really happy and really excited. From lmp I'm exactly 5 weeks but I think I'm really more like 4 weeks.
I already know some of you from my bfp thread in chat yesterday .
DD is 16th Feb, but very open to change!
I just tested today and had a positive result. Hubby and I decided to try for number 3 last month, had coil removed and we are pregnant already. Due feb 24th or so it says on the calculator thingy. But I will more than likely be at least 3 weeks early. So early days but very excited :-)
Hi everyone, got my bfp after having HSG last cycle :-)
hi trinpy i was following your thread with excitment!
told inlaws today and they cried!! my parents at then end of the month.
Told PILs today and got asked "are you mad!?", told my mum who asked "are you kidding!?"
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congrats to the new bfp joiners
we haven't told anyone other than my mum yet. It's quite awkward as people are expecting us to start ivf, and we see the in laws a lot. we've said we're delaying ivf, and I hope they don't guess from my grey face
Hello and congratulations to the other new people!
Sorry to hear about your mum and PIL's reaction Bearfrills. Those are really horrible things to say.
We went to my parents house today. My mum guessed without me having to say anything. She is already knitting bootees. Didn't have the guts to tell my dad because he's such a worrier, I know his reaction won't be great. We recently cut contact with PIL so the plan is to send them a card letting them know the good news if all is well at the 12 week scan.
I think they're just concerned that DD is only 21mo and I've just started work and DS (3yo) is very full-on. DH and I are pleased though so that's all that matters and this baby was just as planned as all of our others (fifth pregnancy) although it only took us one go which was a bit after our history
I feel really sick tonight, I'm actually glad, it sort of reassures me it's real
Hi ladies, just checking in. Sunflowered, am in exactly the same situation workwise, hadn't even thought about nipping out to the car. i think I just decided for the next few weeks I will manage work and not much else and if that means going to bed at half seven every night so be it. i was so distracted last week though, it was definitely not my most productive week! it seems to be quite a day for telling the parents, we told mine today and they are thrilled but I keep heavily caveating it with the fact it's so early due to 2 mmc's in the distant past. Hope you've all had a lovely relaxing weekend. anyone else have the urge to keep on doing pregnancy tests?L
Bear, at least by having them so close, they will be close, really nice age gaps too. You are in the same boat as me though workwise, are you still in your trial period? When are you going to tell them?
So damn tired. Told DP last night, think hes as surprised as me as to how quickly its happened, but very much not going to tell anyone else yet (prev losses) But have to work out a way of avoiding certain situations and exposures at work eg xray etc without too much gossip, might have to take a colleague or two into my confidence this week
Yeah, still in my trial period Norma. Going to have to tell them sooner rather than later I think but it's NHS so hopefully they have good policies in place and I won't get P45'd
Can I join, just found out today, not sunk in yet!
yes dida i wanted to check on last time before telling dhs parents. very strong positive luckily!!
Congratulations! how far along are you?
I'll be packing plenty of sugary snacks in my lunchbox tomorrow then - thanks for the advice . Work's been quite full on recently and we're having building work done at home so evenigs have been spent wrangling with builders/architect/neighbours... Will have to delegate a bit more to DH and get some early nights I think.
We don't want to tell either set of DPs until 12 weeks - MIL has had lots of stresses with elderly unwell relatives recently and don't want to get her hopes up for some good news only to find out things haven't gone to plan. Plus, bless her, she can't keep a secret to save her life so once she knows, the world will know.
Hi to all the new posters too
Is anyone else suffering from bloated period type pains? My boobs are KILLING me, but the cramps are making me so worried.....
I'm so bloated I feel like I've put on about a stone in the last week!
Have had super sore boobs too until this morning - really hoping that the soreness easing off isn't a sign that things aren't going to plan
Symptoms come and go, in my experience. I don't have sore boobs but then I didn't with DD either (with DS though they felt like they were going to fall off they were so sore!). I have bloating so badly, I can't even fasten my jeans properly, and wind - I've spent the whole night trumping away I'm also really tired, sort of a run down feeling rather than sleepiness, and I keep getting pinching sensations along my caesarean scar.
another here who had a luke warm reception from relatives. dd is 15m at present .....
Hi all! I'm due 19th Feb (I think).
Feeling fine other than sore boobs and tiredness. Think I'm 5 weeks on Wednesday going by my last AF which seems crazy when I know that I only conceived 2 weeks ago!
Not sure when to tell family etc. It's our first so no history to go by, but my gut it telling me that we need to wait until at least 8-10 weeks. We are visitng PIL this weekend who are desperate for us to have a child so it'll be really tough saying "no, not just yet"! Thinking of telling the family at my birthday get together in mid-July by which point I should be just over 9 weeks.
Trying to phone doctors today to get my first appointment but it's constantly engaged! Argh!
I've recently lost 2st in weight so I'm pretty sure that in a few weeks people will wonder why I'm filling out again... ho hum.
Anyone else started planning when to stop work? I'm hoping I can stop end of Jan using annual leave. (I know it's FAR too early for this but it's keeping me going as I hate my job so much at the moment!)
feekerry, congratulations. I'm sure they'll come around. DS was also 15m when I got pregnant with DD so I have a similar gap to the one you'll have.
Hi jazz I lost a load of weight too, nearly 3st, and with the bloating I feel like I've gained 5
Is anyone else having awful hot flushes? I feel like a sweaty, farty mess <attractive>
Welcome to all the newbies. Been a busy weekend for the bus!
Last time round we didn't tell a soul until after the 12 week scan. In fact I told my mum on Mothers day by giving her a card which said 'Happy Grandmother's Day' and she didn't twig and just thought we were being rude about her age! Shows how likely she thought it was that she'd get grandchildren.
This time though we've told my parents and my boss at work. With my past history we figure it is easier to deal with stuff if people around you know. And my boss went through similar stuff with his wife so he's great. We'll tell everyone else around the 10-12 week mark.
On another note, been feeling sooo sick the last two days. Far worse than my last pregnancy. Feel lucky that I work from home cos I think work would be if I laid on the floor in the middle of the office!
Just need somewhere to moan - like so may of us feel crampy, bloated and awful, and then had an episode of bright red bleeding last night. Must be between 5-6 weeks -is this too late for implantation bleed?
went to bed feeling glum and fatalistic, that there was nothing I could do about it and Id probably have full on bleeding/loss by am but nothing, bleeding settled down and not repeated. I think I might need to retest in a few days
I've just come back from my scan and it's good news!
They saw my little bean, said it had a good strong heartbeat! yay!
Such a relief....they think my dates were just out and i'm actually 7+4 which by my rough calculations makes my due date 31st Jan. Definitely made the right decision to come into this group rather than the January group! If this one's 2 weeks late like DD I could have a Valentine's Day baby...
That's excellent news dawn, a great way to start the week.
Thinking of you didactylos, hope everything is ok
Bear - thanks for the reassurance. I think part of the reason they were so sore yesterday might have been that i poked them every 5 mins to check they were still sore...
Yay, great news dawn.
Oh the sickness is awful. I'm so glad I worked from home today. I felt so ill making breakfast DH had to take over!
Luckily I've not been sick yet, i just have to run to the loo for a number two. I don't know how I'll cope with my two hour commute tmw. I have to be in work tmw.
I'm trying to think of it all as positive. Every time I feel sick that's my baby settling further in
yay Dawn so glad it's good news. Nice to start the week on a brilliant positive.
didladocus sorry you had some bleeding. I have had the same this pregnancy and I freaked out after losing my last baby, but it's doing ok so far. so bleeding can be normal.
If you're worried, get a referral to your early pregnancy unit. I hope everything is ok.
Thanks all, its nice to have somewhere to talk about this. DP worries but I dont want to burden him by showing fully how it upset me. I think Ill just leave it for a bit now that bleeding has stopped and retest in a few days.
Ive never had bleeding in the only sucessful pregnancy we managed: i know how it feels eyoreish in that even though intellecually I know one on 4 women have early pregnancy bleeding and 60-70% of them will carry to term, I just keep thinking back to previous losses
Glad to hear the news of your scan dawn
well done dawn, that's great news
we told our parents this weekend which was lovely, they are all very happy & excited
I have my appt at the docs on wed morning & it can't come soon enough, I like having something to focus on & getting to little milestones
hope everyone isn't suffering too badly today.... I'm not too bad apart from still having sore boobs & feeling hungry but bloated
Didladocus I'd recommend getting a referral to EPU. Your situation sounds exactly like mine almost 2 weeks ago. It was a very long wait till the early scan but worth it.
Also when i first went in with bleeding they did a vaginal examination which showed my cervix was closed/as it should be and all looked ok. Provided some hope for me to latch on to until my scan this morning.
Really hope everything turns out ok. Fx for sticky beans.
Dawn I am so, so happy for you. Did they have any suggestions as to what could have caused the bleed?
Just back from first midwife appointment, my nausea has turned to feeling faint when I don't eat regularly. I actually prefer that to feeling sick!
They said that they could still see a small amount of haemorraging (sp) in the womb so potentially I could experience some spotting but it shouldn't be anything to worry about/no harm to bean. If that doesn't happen the haemorrage will just get reabsorbed as things progress, again causing no harm to the bean.
No specific reason as to what causes this....in general it will be because the whole uterus is become much more vascularised (is that a word..?) so small bleeds can be quite common. I think the leaflet i got said 1 in 3 pg experiences some bleeding.
Very scary stuff...with DD I had no bleeding whatsoever...no implantation bleeding...nothing. I think that was partly why i was so scared when i had the bleed this time.
I'm especially impatient to get to the 12 week mark now....I know there are no guarantees but i think i'll feel a lot safer and of course be reassured by another scan.
Sorry to hear your feeling a bit faint vix....there's only one solution - keep eating!
i have had awful cramps this time round. never had any last pregnancy but woke last night with really bad pains. they were awful.
but no blood or anything so presume all is okay.
Ffs...not your...I mean you're
Brill news Dawn! I am freaking out a bit by lack of symptoms, I felt a bit nauseous yesterday but fine today, tired, but then I haven't been sleeping well and only occasionally tender boobs. Am only 5+3 though, has anyone else had symptoms really kick in a but later on?
My symptoms don't reply fully kick in until around the 6wk mark, in all my previous pregnancies that's when the sickness, etc started. Up until 6wks my symptoms can be lumped together under the heading 'feeling a bit off'.
my symptoms also kicked in around 6 weeks too. So don't worry norma - there's plenty of time for you to feel rubbish!
Got my doctors appt on Monday morning, by which point I think I'll be 5w+5... I am a planner/organiser by nature and for work
AKA control freak and need milestones too bugsy, I really don't know if I can wait another 6.5 weeks for that scan!
Not sure whether to tell line manager at work or not. Other than a 3hr total daily commute (driving) my job is desk based so not really too much to hurt my little pea. On the other hand it might be useful for someone senior to me to understand where I'm at to make sense of all the sudden doctors appts, tiredness and requests to work from home...
I might wait until after Monday.
Got back from my holiday on friday, just a week in Portugal but it wiped me out, the smells in the supermarket over there made me heave, fish and smelly cheeses..bleurk
I'm still battling my way through the un-packing, keep getting a weird dizzy/vertigo sensation, I also had it with my last pg but had forgotten about it, loads of nausea but so far have only thrown up once.
I'm 7 + 1 and off to the docs later as have horrendous heartburn already, I suspect a haitus hernia but will see what he says.
Great news dawn.
I told my mum yesterday and she was delighted for us. Quite a difference to the reaction I received from her with my first two but I was only 18 and 21 at the time. I was a little apprehensive telling her but she knew we had been trying for a year so when I told her she jumped up and brought down a hoard of baby items she had been putting away for me.
Symptoms are still the same, growing boobs (yay!), bloating and I'm so, very, very tired. Only 6+3 so plenty of time to pick up some more delightful symptoms. Can't wait for my reassurance scan next Monday.
thingy that's fab news about your mum's reaction... it must be nice to have another woman to talk to. DH and I are trying to hold off a few weeks but I'm wondering whether to let slip sooner. You mention you're having a scan next week - is that a private scan or via NHS? I'd quite like a scan before the 12wk one, but no idea how to get one other than privately?
That's such good news dawn and thingy. Also wondering about the early scans.
Just came back from a job interview, I have another one for a different but similar job next week. I really loved the place and I was chatting to someone who worked there who was telling me how much she loves her job and how nice everyone is there . I'm actually hoping they don't offer me the job so I don't have to make the decision as to whether I take it and lose SMP or stay where I am.
How much is an early scan, and how do I go about getting one?
Though to be honest, I'm on holiday for two weeks from Saturday, and by the time I get home I will be nearly 9 weeks and due for the normal 12 week scan I guess.
Can I join? I think I'm nearly 8 weeks. PDD is Feb.6th. I've been lurking for a bit and am relieved to see others are also getting cramps and bloating (I'll take it that's normal then).
This is my 2nd and I only remember nausea symptoms last time, but this time no nausea yet.
I still haven't recovered my pre-baby stomach so there goes that plan out the window, alas.
Anyone have any good excuses for backing out of things? I had to back out of waterskiing hen do in August (luckily there was a spa option so I said I'd prefer that), but I also (stupidly) signed up to do a 10 mile race in 3 weeks time.
What was I thinking?! I might have to just feign an injury.
So far I have been a bit overenthusiastic and told my mum, mil, sister, sil and office mate. Really hope it sticks.
We have booked a private scan because we couldn't wait for another 5 weeks and there is a place locally which only charges £50. I have heard that some places charge £100 or so which we wouldn't have paid tbh.
It's best to wait if you can though because we won't be able to see much at all. Just a heartbeat (hopefully).
Hi Sprite, congratulations on the pregnancy. I'm using the excuse of back pain and saying my doctor has advised me to take it easy over the next few weeks. Not sure how convincing this will be. I've got some old prescription strength painkillers I can use as a prop which also works as an excuse for not drinking.
littlest the places I looked at which do early scans charge between £75-100, which I think is pretty standard.
A quick google suggests that around me private scans are around £100. Did find one for £50 but it's a good 40 mile trip away.
Might see what DH thinks. He's going from excited to 'lets not get carried away' as often as the wind changes! Last night didn't want to discuss anything. Today rings me up twice at work to check that me and 'the baby' are ok! I had to remind him it's a mere poppy seed at the moment but he didn't get it..
I'm also considering a private scan as my booking appointment is when I'm 11+4 then I go away until I am 13 + 3, which seems very late for a first scan!
i am trying to call to rearrange but don't want to appear pushy/dramatic!
Does anyone know how much they are?
Also just had my first real queasiness! Woop. Biscuit cured it : sorry to those of you with proper sickness who aren't magically cured by hobnobs. I appreciate this may be a bit annoying!
got my 12 week scan date thru.... 3rd of Aug. our hospital like to do it bang on 12 weeks so that makes me just gone 5. booo. only another 35 to go.
for those who are thinking about early scans.... i had one last pregnancy as hospital wanted to rule out multiple pregnancy. i was about 7 weeks. easy v reassuring as 12 weeks is a long time to wait.so if you can afford it go for it!
And now the page refreshes and I can see all the prices above my post! Thanks. That's handy to know.x
I'm so jealous of those with scan dates and booking in appointments! My docs won't book you in with the midwife until 9-10 weeks. My booking in is the 4th of July. No appointment for the scan until after I've seen the midwife. So much waiting around when you know early on. I'm 7 weeks today by my dates so far and it's the first day in 2 weeks I've felt human! Hope everyone is okay xx
I know I shouldn't have but I took another first response this afternoon and compared with the one from Saturday afternoon. Today's is much much lighter; to the point where you have to squint and turn it in the light a bit to see it . Is this a bad sign? I'm so worried.
Did you use the same type of test before?
trinpy it could be that a different type of test is less sensitive. iirc, first response isn't v sensitive.
It could also be that you've drunk more so the hcg is more diluted.
If you're worried, make an appointment to see your gp. They can test your blood 48 hours apart to see if your hcg levels are going up as they should.
I hope it is all ok.
Yes. Frer both times.
I used some internet cheapies with fmu this morning and yesterday morning and they were both fainter than the cheapies from Saturday late morning/afternoon.
I'm seeing my gp tomorrow afternoon so I will ask about a blood test. Really hope its nothing bad.
Hello ladies! First time post for me! I'm due 8th Feb and found out I was pregnant a couple of weeks ago now. I'm 6+3 and have been feeling absolutely rotten with tiredness and all day nausea so it will be great to talk to people who are in the same boat!
Anyway, nice to meet you all!
Ah Trinpy, sorry you are worrying, I am trying to resist doing more tests for the same reason. problem is you just can't tell, it could be the batch, could be the time of day, could be how much you have had to drink. The thing is, I have had two missed miscarriages and then my body still thought I was preggers so hormones still up, symptoms still present, but nothing there, so I guess what I am saying is, you just don't knw unti
They do a proper check on your hrmones or a scan,fingers crossed for you. Kat, congrats and welcome
Thank you norma. I've been having quite strong cramps and lower backache too so that just adds to the worry .
And that can be a good thing or a bad thing, that's the problem, all symptoms can go both ways, it's just a really awful waiting game, every day seems to go on for a million years!
Thanks Trinpy and hello to everyone else.
I'm sure cramps and backache are just healthy pregnancy symptoms. Don't fret unnecessarily.
I can totally understand why you took another test though. I'm starting to feel like I just imagined it.
IDT my first appointment isn't until July 3rd either. Seems ages away but I'm sure it will come quickly.
Awaiting the arrival of dc3 Feb 22nd
but was 11 and 16 days over dues with first dc so should probably catch the March bus
Dawn - delighted to hear your wee bean is doing well
Trinpy, try not to stress too much. Fx for you.
Still not heard about my booking appointment. Not sure if I am meant to phone her or her to phone me? Confused!
We're nearly half way through our first thread already! Wonder how many by the time all these beans are babies??
Hi third, DC3 for me too!
My mam came around today and said she was really pleased after all, she's looking forward to either a lovely girl like DD or a fab boy like DS. She's told my dad too and he texted me saying congratulations and he doesn't care what it is so long as we're both healthy at the end of it. Gave me the boost to tell my brothers who were also pleased
I didn't tell work, for all I'd built myself up to doing it I didn't. For one I felt incredibly sick when I got to work so had to concentrate on not vomming. Then it turned out my senior manager wasn't in anyway but she'd emailed me on Friday asking if I'd be interested in transferring to a different department and changing my hours. The hours are the ones I really wanted when I first started but weren't available. Now they are. Crap timing but I said I'd be very interested in the move/hours and that I need to speak to her asap.
Trinpy, my GP told me that all the darkness of the line shows is how much dye is in the test. I know it's hard not to worry - I've had two miscarriages in the past, one at 6wks and one at 15wks, so I know the fear of things going wrong. I'm a total knicker-checker, back and forth to the loo to make sure everything is okay. It's easier said than done but try not to worry. Everything is completely out of your hands right now, take it one day at a time. FX'd all is well x
Hi Third and Bear- I'm expecting No3 too- DD is 4.5 and DS is 20 months (so will be 29 months when this one arrives). EDD is 1 Feb, I think but both mine arrived early (DD at 37 weeks and DS at 36 weeks, so I'm just keeping my fingers crossed I don't end up with a Christmas baby!
Nervous times for everyone until those scans are done. All I can really focus on is getting through real life without anyone guessing at work, the nausea and exhaustion are so horrible combined. Can relate to everything people are saying on here in one way or another!
EDD is 23rd Feb, DS was on his due date and DD was an EMCS three days late but I'd started going into labour so I'm hoping this one is close to due date too! DD was lighter than DS, another trend I'm hoping will carry on too as I'm wanting to try for a VBAC
Thanks bear, ami and sprite. I'm such a worrier, but you're right: no use stressing, nothing I can do.
Hi to Third!
I'm glad I told my boss now! He told me today that he's decided I need an hours lunch break so I don't get too tired - brilliant!
How soon after going to the doctors did you get the letter about your scans? I went last Wednesday, I suppose I'm too hopeful to get a letter before I go on holiday on Saturday!
Last time I saw my midwife at 10wks and got the letter a week later giving a scan appointment a week after that.
Message withdrawn at poster's request.
i got my scan letter 2 days after phone apt with doc.... but my docs are pretty good. they also book a 10week midwife apt at the same call so within 2 days i know my booking in apt date and scan date....
bear has anyone said anything to you re vbac or elec cs yet???? i had crash emcs with dd 15 months ago and really want a elec cs this time around. doc said i would have to go to a vbac clinic to discuss vbac.... i don't want to tho . i just want a cs again. what have they said to you??
I got a letter from the surgeon a few days after DD was born saying that she saw no obvious problems (DD was breech with the cord around her legs and abnormally low amniotic fluid levels) and that it was a one-off, her recommendation was that I be classed as high risk this time around so they can monitor fluid levels and baby position but so long as they were fine she would recommend a VBAC and consultant led care.
Not sure when I'll have my first appointment with the consultant, I'm guessing the MW will sort that out at my booking in appointment and that a final decision re: VBAC/ELCS will be made nearer the time.
Clinical guidelines have changed now though and you can insist on an ELCS regardless of the consultant's recommendations IYSWIM?
interesting that you got a letter right after your dd birth. i never had anything like that. i was in labour for 2 days before i had the emcs and dd was 16 days over due when i had her. i never dilated past 7cm even after full induction and they said it was because there was a thick edge to the cervix and dd was b2b so not dilating it fully. i was told shortly after birth that i would always get the option of another cs but the doctor this time was a bit more cautious and said a vbac would be better.....
I think they have to offer it as an option but they can't force it on you, you have the right to an ELCS of that's what you want (I think in your circumstances I would want one too!).
Hi feekerry, if you're in the uk (or maybe just england) I think your gp should have received a letter afterwards, but some hosps are better at copying in patients than others. Might be worth asking the gp to see a copy if it's in your gp records? From working in other parts of the nhs it's likely to be technical dr to dr stuff but hopefully it'll give an idea about anything you really should/shouldn't do this time round.
just to add - gp would get a letter if you're a standard medical/surgical patient so I assume they'd do a post-discharge letter for maternity too esp in a scary situation like you described
I was just thinking, I am looking forward to the March thread starting and then we won't be the newest of newbies.
Hello I got a BFP this morning and came straight from the TTC #2 Nutjob thread to here DH doesn't even know yet as he is away until tomorrow night!
This will be DC2 and yet again I will be at the back of the class, last to have scans etc... as I think I will be due around 21st Feb. BUT most of my family are born in March so I think I will be late and have another March Baby (DS arrived bang on his due date, JUST making him a March Baby). DS will be just shy of 3 when this one comes
I have just moved house but would like to stay with my old surgery so I can have the same midwife as before - does anyone know the protocol on this? Can they make me change surgery? I'm in the same city, just a different part.
I'm going to have nosy on the thread now and see what you have all been up to (and remind me what I need to do next other than tell DH!)
It must be the nice weather...
Nothing's been said to me so far re vbac or elcs. Am hoping it'll be discussed at my next mw appointment (second week in July).
I know I'm down for 'consultant led' care but that's because DD was such a heffer .
Haven't got any letters yet re scan, appointment with consultant or anything. Am hoping they come soon so I've got something to look forward to!
I've told my line manager at work simply because of the bleeding....thought it best warn them if i need to leave suddenly or anything like that. I'm not telling anyone else at work until i've had my 12 week scan though.
x-post. Welcome prettyprudence and congrats!
Not sure what the deal is with moving surgeries. Might you get the same mw anyway? I know the one at my surgery covers several surgeries in the area.
I think I will give them a call tomorrow and ask where else my mw is based - she is a community only mw and she ended up delivering my ds. I know I won't necessarily get her for delivery again (hoping for another HB) but I got all my ante and post natal care with her and would like to try and keep the continuity. She was very practical and matter of fact but also very pro using movement and gravity and labour and leaving me be etc... I cried when she signed me off although it could of been my raging mass of hormones rather than a real love
No symptoms here yet but they didn't kick in until week 6-ish last time and actually wouldn't mind not having any at all...... I am about to hit our busiest time in work and could do with not being sick/exhausted!
Hi prudence congratulations.
norma I'm due on the 20th (I think...) but am a first timer so sticking firmly to the Feb thread to see what others are doing a couple of weeks ahead
dawn I haven't told work and DH is quite keen not to tell work before our parents (and not to tell parents before 12 week scan) but I think I might reach a point where it's necessary sooner... I feel a bit guilty as work in the nhs in one of the bits that's been shaken up by the government's changes - money's tight and I've been around long enough to qualify for great maternity pay on top of smp but it's going to make a bit of a dent in our team budget. Plus I know my line manager had to self-fund IVF so it's a bit of a sensitive subject.
In other news, am working at home today which is awesome, particularly as someone stole my office chair and left me with a crappy old one yesterday. I'm blaming the extreme about it on hormones. That's the only excuse for getting so het up over a wheelie chair. But now the cat keeps settling down on my keyboard and won't be moved. She needs to watch out, I'm due another mood swing soon
norma I think that line might have been aimed at prudence, sorry. Have just downloaded the talk app which is handy but doesnt let me see previous posts.
I meant to add to you norma that it's a little scary seeing the january thread start talking about 12 wk scans already but I guess that'll be us in 4 weeks too
Hello, I'm totally crap at threads like this, they move so fast and it's all I can do to keep up with the reading let alone posting, but I am here and watching! Due about Feb 12th I think with number 2 and have a 13 month old at the moment.
So currently 5 + 6 and no symptoms yet except bloating. I've actually lost two pounds since conceiving (BMI at the upper end of overweight) but trousers are tighter. Sucks!!
Looking at my pregnancy journal from last time it wasn't until 6/7 weeks that the sickness kicked in (and was hardcore!) so expecting it any day now. Funny how you want the sickness as reassurance it's all OK but when it happens i'm sure i'll be cursing it!
Hi everyone, I can't wait either for the March thread to start so we can feel like old hands
I hit 7+0 today. If I make it until Friday I pass the milestone of losing my last baby. I'm counting down the days. I know it's a token date and things still could go wrong, but it's significant in my head!
I'm so contrary about the sickness. I've hardly had any all day, and in the last ten minutes it's come on really bad and I'm hiding in the loos at work .
I'm tempted to tell my boss so I can go home early. But I don't want to give way this early in the pregnancy. Oh dear.
This is sooo not how I thought being preggie would feel like. Like so many others im wanting an early scan but OH Is not up for it at all. Im constantly worried about every pain im getting and going to toilet all the time to check everything is ok. To make it worse someone at work announced a few weeks ago they were 7 weeks preggie with first and yesterday they had bleeding and have practically been told they have high risk of miscarriage. Its just awful. I dont mind the tiredness/nausea but this waiting is such a killer. Dont feel excited now
Hi all, got my BFP last Sat after ttc #4 for 4 months ( I know I'm greedy!) finally resorted to smep and that did the trick! Not really got many symptoms yet but I just kinda feel pregnant. I am very worried about miscarriage too as I work in maternity I worry this time I 'know too much' debating about a private scan