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Thread for the spotting and cramping, slightly freaked out Jan 2014 baby due date club

(87 Posts)
Mythreeknights Wed 15-May-13 12:23:47

Given a fair few of us have been freaking out over spotting and cramping at the very start of our pregnancies, I thought we should start a new thread where we can share our 'symptom's with each other and guide each other through our own experiences.
I got my BFP on Monday this week, started spotting on Tues morning (yesterday) with stringy brown CM, one and off, cramping finished up by mid afternoon but spotting is ongoing.
I've not had this with either of my other two pregnancies so this is all new to me and is slightly freaking me out, but it's reassuring that in most cases it is implantation bleeding. Those who say spotting without cramping and not reassuring me much since I have had both!!

So, join in if you are in the same boat as me!

chocoloulou33 Wed 15-May-13 23:32:34

I'm with you mythree!! Hope your spotting stops soon! I'm 6+3 so worried that's too late for implantation spotting? I'm trying not to worry but its so hard. I've had 2 m/c's both years ago in 2006 b4 dd was born in 2007. One started with brown blood & went on like that for weeks with docs teelling me I was ok & scan showing all was ok then it turned to red blood & I m/c at 8 weeks. I know for most people brown spotting is completly normal but ths wasn't the case with me & worried my body doing exactly the same x

Can I join you?

4th day of spotting now. Was brown on Monday and Tuesday. Turned to a bleed yesterday and back to brown today although also had a brown clot last night.

EPU scan hasn't given complete reassurance as bean measured small for my estimated dates. My hcg levels are being tested, first yesterday and again on Friday. Hopefully they will have doubled which apparently is a good indication pg is progressing.

Choco I'm with you on being told its normal. I desperately want to believe that but at the same time it's helpful to hear everyone's experiences, even if a sad outcome, as I want to prepare myself joule the worst happen.

Joule = should. :-)

Sultanajo Thu 16-May-13 10:20:09

OK ladies here I am! Last pregnancy ended in MMC at the 12 week scan end of Jan this year and an ERPC. The baby had stopped growing at 9 weeks. I had had an early private scan at 8.5 weeks which had lulled me into a false sense of security as everything looked great. The only sign that something may be wrong is my nausea lifted around 10 weeks and three days before my 12 week scan I had tan coloured discharge once. So although I was still preparing myself for the worst, it was still a shock!

This time, I had tan coloured spotting which turned darker brown for 2 days around the time my AF was due, after I had my bfp. After it stopped I tried to be positive that it had been implantation bleeding. My symptoms of nausea etc. really kicked in then and the CB digital stick gave me 3+ (although I realise these aren't necessarily accurate) so I felt quite positive. Then yesterday the tan coloured spotting started again, quite light but I shat myself as I was 7 weeks yesterday! Today it's back much darker and heavier, a few cramps (although nothing major) and a faint feeling. Still major nausea and sore boobs, but nothing is really reassuring me. I know several friends who had spotting throughout their pregnancies and quite significant bleeds without ever finding out why and went on to have normal births, but again that doesn't really reassure me as I know things can be fine one day and shit the next.

It's a waiting game which is awful. In fact, TTC and pregnancy in general is one big waiting game after another. Waiting until ovulation, then the TTW, then waiting until 12 week scan, then nuchal test result waiting, then 20 week scan... Arghhhh! Such a depressing thought if we end up having to start all over again!

Hugs to you all!!! x

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 11:43:53

Hi

do you mind it I come and sit with you for a while? A quick recap on my post from main thread. Had a big bleed of bright red blood yesterday. Scan showed little bean a few days younger than expected but with a healthy heart.

On midwife's advice I'm on bed rest (well sofa, I can't stay in bed all day). Since yesterday I've no more big bleeds, just red and brown spotting with lots of painful cramps. The scan has made me feel positive. However, the bleed scared me lots. The ongoing cramps and spotting, makes me think that something just isn't 'right'.

Sultanajo can so relate to the waiting. I feel ever since we started trying for baby my life has turned into series waiting periods. I'm hoping for the best but preparing for the worst simultaneously. Not really sure that resting and all this thinking time is really helpful.

chocoloulou33 Thu 16-May-13 12:22:28

Hugs sultana & cosmic I'm 6+3 2day, feels like I've got forever to go to get to a safe point! So no spotting since this morning. Its v on & off. Spoke to doc, they've told me to wait for now & see what happens & just wait for epu to get in contact but not to worry. Hmmm I'm a terrible worrier! Feeling quite sicky 2day so hoping this is a good sign x

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 12:35:54

Choco feeling sick is a very good sign. I was quite sick last night but not feeling sick at all this morning. However, to be fair I've not really felt sick unless moving about so far, so trying not to read too much into it.

As for waiting for epu, I think not worrying about that is almost impossible. It's so hard isn't?

Mythreeknights Thu 16-May-13 13:21:26

Hello Sunny, choco, cosmic and sultan - thanks for joining and making me feel better... it's a bugger isn't it, finally falling pg but starting off with the worry that something 'isn't quite right' and is likely to go very wrong. I'm wondering whether my spotting (which has stopped now - all day so far has been clear) is due to having a D&C last May (I'm one of the 1% of people for whom the coil goes AWOL and I had to have it surgically removed, joy of joys). So, I'm wondering whether that little op slightly damaged my uterous so when the implantation happened, it released the old blood...although that doesn't make sense as it should have all come out through my subsequent periods. Anyhow, that and having nookies the day before POAS which might have done it? I'm re-testing tomorrow, haven't called the GP, EPU or midwife yet as I know they will tell me what they have been telling you all, i.e. it's too early to know anything and just hold on and see if a major bleed happens or if nothing happens. So, I'll update you tomorrow once i've POAS again. Good luck all and keep us all in the loop. x

MTBMummy Thu 16-May-13 13:22:50

Hi All,

Thanks for starting this thread, felt bad bringing the other thread down.

Bleeding seems to have stopped, but trying to get through to my GP now for some advice.

Feeling like shit to be honest, bled really heavily from 3am to about 8am this morning, but having awful cramps now.

Mythreeknights Thu 16-May-13 13:36:51

Oh MTB that doesn't sound good. How heavy was the bleeding - like a period in full swing? I did read somewhere that sometimes it can be because you have conceived twins and one m/cs so you assume it's all over but at a scan you see a heartbeat. brew You need to rest as much as you can and be philosophical at this stage. Thinking of you and really hope it all works out - can you go to A&E if the GP isn't helpful?

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 13:46:40

just as info for those waiting for EPU, where I live you can't use the service until 7 weeks. At 6 weeks 5 days I was told to wait. I'm not good a waiting we got a private scan instead. It's not an all clear as cramps and spotting still are on going. Howevr £60 to know a little more was wonderful.

I know it might not be right for everyone but thought the info might be helpful to someone.

MTBMummy Thu 16-May-13 13:56:22

I'm just waiting for them to call me back now, tried calling EPU and Local midwife unit, but they won't talk to me without GP referral.

TMI warning

It was an exceptionally heavy bleed, flooded 3 (nighttime) pads in those 5 hours, seems to have picked up again and cramping is getting worse again.

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 14:09:39

oh MTBMummy I'm so sorry. Hope you GP call soon and is able to get you to EPU asap.

MTBMummy Thu 16-May-13 15:49:14

I've spoken to my GP and I have to go in tomorrow morning for a scan, I did say I could make it this evening, but the GP said there was no rush and tomorrow would be fine, his primary concern was actually whether or not the pain was in the middle or on the side - I'm guessing to verify if it Ectopic or not.

He did say if the palpitations continue or if I pass out, I will need to go to A&E - loving the idea of rush hour trains then confused

MTBMummy Thu 16-May-13 15:49:42

Thank you all for letting me vent on here, it really is helping my sanity

flowers

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 15:55:26

MTBMummy glad that you have a scan sorted for the morning. I'm assuming that the rush hour train is your commute home. Is there anyway you could leave earlier to avoid rush hour. Or maybe as a one off upgrade to firstclass?

Look after yourself, here to hold your hand

MTBMummy Thu 16-May-13 16:08:16

I've just left the office so hopefully will miss the worst of the rush hour, so glad my boss was one of the 2 people we told. She's a star and a m'netter too :-)

I just want to apologise for hogging this thread a bit, and I do hope those of you with spotting are just part of the normal group x

Glad to hear you will be checked out soon MTB. I hope you have a quick journey home and relax tonight as much as you can.

Don't apologise about hogging the thread. FX we are all part of the 'normal' spotting group. flowers

cosmickitten Thu 16-May-13 17:20:23

MTB you have nothing to say sorry for.

Sultanajo Thu 16-May-13 19:10:21

MTB really thinking of you! Glad you are getting scanned, just a shame it couldn't be today. Xxx

chocoloulou33 Thu 16-May-13 22:38:09

Only just finding time to get on here. What a horrible day. Just found out one of my good friends son has cancer. He's 7 years old. Been on phone to her for couple of hours. Feel numb. Aaghhhh anyway ladies am rly hoping ur all well, need some good news. mtb rly hoping bleeding has eased & your scan goes ok. Let us know when you can xxx

MTBMummy Fri 17-May-13 05:55:10

Hi choco so sorry to hear about your friends son, to be blunt cancer is a bitch. It's what took my mum last year, do they know what type he has? So many forms are curable these days flowers

Just an update, bleeding still heavy, about a pad full an hour, wasn't feeling to dizzy last night, but really wobbly this morning, glad I'll know one way or the other soon. Can't help but think back over the last 6 weeks and pick apart everything I've done that could have caused this, liking eating a rare steak before my BFP. Argh, need to shut my mind off.

choco so sorry to hear the news about your friends son.

MTB sorry you still have bleeding. FX all goes well for your scan today.

Quick update on my spotting. I started having mild cramps yesterday evening at work which became v strong and painful by the time I got home. Spotting had turned to heavy bleeding with clots by this point.

I'm due back at EPU this morning for my 2nd round of blood tests, but to be honest, I think I've resigned myself to the fact it's over. I'm pretty see this must be a mc, I just hope it's over quickly. I'll update you all later either way.

Sorry for starting the morning with such a crappy post. X

chocoloulou33 Fri 17-May-13 07:26:26

mtbmummy & sunny am so sad your bleeding has got worse sad wish there was something I could say but having gone thru it myself twice I know there r no real words of comfort. Do not blame yourself though, they r very common & its nothing uve done xxx am keeping my fx for a chance it might still be ok as know its possible. Hugs to u both xxx

MTBMummy Fri 17-May-13 07:34:41

Morning Sunny, hand holding for your appointment this morning.

My GP's main concern was that this was ectopic which now I've read up more on it, it might be, I couldn't link the pains in my left shoulder to anything and the cramping is definitely slightly to one side.

The other thing my GP mentioned on the phone was that he thinks I may actually be at 10 weeks, rather than the 6 I thought I was as my last period only lates a couple of hours and could have just been implantation bleeding - I feel so stupid!

Anyway will let you know how it goes later x

Sultanajo Fri 17-May-13 08:48:23

MTB and Sunny so very sorry both of you if it is the worst. MTB do not blame yourself! Its natural to start thinking back as thats what I did, but it really wont be something u have done. Really hope its not ectopic. Got everything crossed for u xxxx

cosmickitten Fri 17-May-13 10:00:03

MTBMummy and Sunny I’m thinking of you this morning. I’m so sorry to hear that your bleeding has got worse. Please don’t torture yourselves. Nothing that is happening is your fault. Nature can be cruel and in reality there is nothing we can do to change that

Chocco what awful news poor little boy.

I’m still following orders and doing very little. Seem to be spotting rather than bleeding at the moment, so feeling more hopeful. I think the test will come when I start moving about more.

Mythreeknights Fri 17-May-13 12:56:28

Hi all, MTB and Sunny - how are you guys doing? Sorry to hear the bleeding has carried on :-( Not good news for you.
I POAS again today as planned, and it came up strongly positive which is great, but also saw a GP (seperate issue - DSs both with ongoing coughs and needed to check them over) and mentioned the pg to him and the spotting and he basically said leave it another week before testing again - bleeding strongly likely to have been a m/c and positive test today just residue hormones. Possible that it was just 'break through' bleeding, but anyhow, I'll leave it until next Fri and if still positive then I'm still in the game. Frustrating not to know conclusively (and have to keep off the alcohol!!) but there we go.
Chocco - that's my biggest fear (more than a m/c) - having one of my children suffer from cancer. Your poor friend - I do hope she is coping as well as can be.
Cosmic - are you going to re-test at any point? Or what are your next steps going to be?

cosmickitten Fri 17-May-13 13:38:07

Mythreeknights spoke to GP today, if spotting keeps up or I have another bleed they will send me to EPU for a scan in a week or so.

My husband has decided he wants me to have a scan privately whatever happens at the end of next week (we had already booked it). Hopefully scan will show bean is still alive, well and growing.

Private scans are an expensive habit but we have some savings orginally ear-marked for fertility treatment. Feel very lucky to have the option.

Hi all

Well I've had my blood taken again and am anxiously awaiting the results. I should hear by 4.30.

They didn't rescan me at the EPU. I explained the cramps, clots and bleeding to MW who said it would be best to wait for the blood test results before deciding in any more scans. She didn't say it was definitely a mc but I'm preparing for the worst.

Can't stop staring at my blooming phone!

How are you doing MTB? Any news yet.

X post mythree

Will keep FX you are able to see a healthy beating little bean at your private scan and your spotting stays away

chocoloulou33 Fri 17-May-13 14:08:14

Hi ladies. Mtb posted on main thread, she is at a & e being checked out for a possible ectopic, let's hope its not. sunny I hope your phone call brings good news xX
My3knights & cosmic, hope ur bearing up ok too x

Hi ladies. Have updated the main thread but thought I should post here too.

Blood tests came back showing a complete drop in hcg so unfortunately I'm out sad. I'll be keeping everything crossed that all your symptoms are completely normal and you have healthy little beans at your 12 wk scans xx

chocoloulou33 Fri 17-May-13 18:35:40

oh no sunny sad how awful. I'm so sorry xx look after yourself ok. I hope things in the future work out for u & you have a healthy pregnancy very soon xxx

MTBMummy Fri 17-May-13 21:43:55

Evening all, sorry for the lack of update but I'm finally home, A&E rushed me off to EPU. I feel like I've had very possible test going, internal (ouch) an external. They've not been able to tell me much, and I need to go back on Sunday morning for more tests.

The good news bits, I've not lost enough blood to need a transfusion, one of the things my GP was worried about. My hormone levels are exceptionally high, and while they can't find anything (ectopic or otherwise) they've said it's not unknown for them to miss something, especially if my version of the dates are correct an I am only 5 weeks. So retest on Sunday, then wait for results on Monday and I'll finally know.

I'm not going to post this on the main thread as it seems to be upsetting a few people. But wanted to update you all and thank you for the hand holding and well wishes x

Sultanajo Fri 17-May-13 21:53:11

Hey MTB was worrying we hadnt heard! Glad there were some positives and you should find out for sure on monday. Bet u have had a long knackering day!!! X

chocoloulou33 Sat 18-May-13 08:00:52

mtbmummy glad ur ok, was fearing complete worse when u didn't write on here. Am glad u have a little bit of hope. Very glad it doesn't seem to be ectopic. Keeping everything crossed for you that all will be ok xxx

MTBMummy Sat 18-May-13 08:32:23

I'm so sorry for worrying you all, I had very little signal and was conscious my battery was running low and I needed it to contact DP to come and collect me.

I wish I could be more positive, but the bleeding has started again this morning, so I'm expecting dropped hormone levels on Monday.

Sultanajo Sat 18-May-13 12:27:59

MTB its so hard isnt it! Makes you feel so helpless and its all you can think about. Xxx

Mythreeknights Mon 20-May-13 09:25:01

Oh Sunny I'm so sorry <holding you hand and offering a large cup of sugary tea>
Rest up well and they do say that fertility boosts immediately after mc, so perhaps next month or the one after that will be your sticky bean month. You have been v brave throughout.
No update from me - not going to have EPU scan as will only be 5 weeks or so right now, so no heartbeat and nothing really to see. Will wait til Friday as planned and will re-test and hope for a strong positive. I feel pregnant though iykwim - tired, look like shit, heavy belly, sore boobs.
MTB - thanks for the updates - please keep us in the loop - so far the tests seem positive so hopefully this fresh bleeding is unrelated. xxx

cosmickitten Mon 20-May-13 12:38:38

sunny I'm really sorry to see your news xx

MTBMummy Mon 20-May-13 18:41:22

Hi sunny I'm going to have to join you, just had my call back about my hormone levels and they've dropped completely.

So no little bean left.

Hopefully I'll be on another thread in the next few months, but best of luck to you all and thank you so much for the support.

x

chocoloulou33 Mon 20-May-13 21:58:52

So sorry mtbmummy thinking of you :'( take care of yourself. Good luck for the future xx

Oh MTB I'm so sorry. I'll keep everything crossed that you're back in another thread with a healthy bean very soon.

With any luck I may be there too. I've been a bit of a snivelling mess since Friday but DH and I have decided to start TTC again as soon as I'm ready. I'm not sure if I'm being short sighted, but right now it's only the thought of getting pg again soon that it getting me through.

Also meant to say thank you so much for all your kind messages. You have no idea how lovely they are to read. flowers

Mythreeknights Tue 21-May-13 09:18:15

Oh MTB that is sad news. On Friday your hormone levels were quite high so it's interesting that they have dropped so quickly in just three days. I guess at the very least a very small positive is at least you know now, and are not still in limbo waiting to see what the situation is.
Take good care of yourself and I hope to see you posting on the Feb/March/April antenatal boards. XX

Mythreeknights Tue 21-May-13 09:20:07

And Sunny - it's good to cry - I will be joining you as a snivelling wreck on Friday if my test comes up fainter than the last one, or a negative. Can anyone tell me the brand of the pg test that tells you how many weeks pg you are? That's probably the one I will use.

MissMedusa Tue 21-May-13 11:28:29

I'm so sorry to read your news mtb and sunny

I'm back on the worry us again as have had some brown sludge discharge. As long as it stays brown and not heavy, it's ok isn't it? sad

Mythreeknights Tue 21-May-13 11:55:34

Miss are you about 8 weeks pg by any chance? I think there's normal 'breakthrough' or 'anniversary' bleeding /spotting which sometimes occurs when you would expect a period (were you not to be pg).

Sultanajo Tue 21-May-13 12:38:31

Hey MissM I am in exactly the same boat. Have been having brown sludge since last Wednesday. I will be 8 weeks tomorrow and have booked a private scan to check things tomorrow. Currently trying to be positive but shitting myself! Time is just standing still at the moment! Arghhh! X

MissMedusa Tue 21-May-13 16:04:12

I'm 7+1 today so it's a bit early for that but who knows. Started taking progesterone supplements just in case.

Sultanajo Wed 22-May-13 15:39:10

Well I am not holding out much hope for the scan tonight as the week of brown spotting has just changed to a heavier reddier colour with some cramping. Not gonna post this on the main forum because don't want to freak anyone out. Will be absolutely gutted as I was just talking myself round that everything would be OK this time. I still feel sick as a dog so that would be really cruel, but I will be really surprised if it's all OK. I have pretty much resigned myself now to getting bad news! This really sucks!!!

Will let you know after the scan.....

MissMedusa Wed 22-May-13 17:27:39

Fx for you sultana sad
Please do let us know how it goes.

chocoloulou33 Wed 22-May-13 18:06:49

Ah no sultanajo please let us know. Rly hoping all is ok. Please don't worry about writing stuff on other thread. We r all there to support each other x

Keeping everything crossed for you Sultana

Sultanajo Wed 22-May-13 19:32:35

Thanks so much ladies. Really thought it was game over this afternoon, but.....am still in the game for now! Bubba seen with strong heartbeat thank god! They couldnt find the cause of the bleeding and said while its not normal its very common and nine times out of ten they dont find out why!

Cant tell u how relieved and amazed I was to see the little one doing ok! Next hurdle is getting past 9 weeks when it all went wrong last time so have booked another scan for ten weeks just to make sure....!

MissMedusa Wed 22-May-13 19:34:22

Yippee! So happy for you!

My spotting has stopped as well so I'm feeling a lot better now.

Sultanajo Wed 22-May-13 20:17:04

Yeay thats great news missm! xxx

MTBMummy Thu 23-May-13 08:28:47

That's great new Sultana - I'm so happy for you

Myth - ClearBlue was the one I was adivsed to use as it gives you the number of weeks pg based on your hormone levels - keeping everything crossed for you.

I just wanted to come back and say thank you to everyone for their support, thoughts and hand holding, I needed to distance myself for a bit well I dealt with everything that had happened, but will be getting back in the saddle as soon as the bleeding stops.

What I hated the most over the last week, was having both symptoms for being pg and mc'ing, I felt that was the worst blow nature could have dealt, but the back ache and nausea have finally lifted and the cramping has stopped.

DP and I have agreed to be open with people about what has happened, we were due to be baby sitting some friends toddler and baby, and I just couldn't face it emotionally, but didn't want to lie about why.

In good news, we're about to make an offer on a fantastic family home, having just had the sale of our dream location fall through, and I'll be planting a small bush for little lost bean, once we have moved in.

Anyway -I just wanted to add the final stages of my journey on this, and thank you all for being there while I walked these horrible steps.

MTBMummy Thu 23-May-13 08:29:30

that should be MyThreeKnights not Myth - stupid phone!

cosmickitten Thu 23-May-13 11:08:37

Sultana so happy to see your news.

MTB - thinking of you and your husband

Sultanajo Thu 23-May-13 13:50:13

Thanks cosmic.

!MTB thanks so much for the update and I am so pleased you have gone through the worst of it and starting to come out the other side. Its such a cruel trick of nature and so unbelievably out of our control. Thats really great news on the house and as u say u can then plant something in memory of your lost bean.

Take care of yourself xxx

Mythreeknights Thu 23-May-13 14:18:46

Sultana my heart was in my mouth reading your earlier update about the heavy bleeding so it was magical to read lower down that your clever bean is ok. That's amazing - I too would have assumed it was game over.

MTB You are being so strong and wise looking forward to positive things to come in the future. It must have been a really shitty week for you :-( Thanks for the recommendation of CB HPT - I have gone and got one and am itching to use it now but GP said wait til Fri so I'll do that first thing tomorrow and fingers x it thinks I'm still pg.

Theoretically I'm 5+4 today, (only because I tested + on a Monday). How many weeks is everyone else?

Sultanajo Thu 23-May-13 18:40:11

mythree I have never been so convinced! I really thought I knew it was over and actually said out loud "well thats that then"! Unbelievable! I actually gasped when she said all was well!!! grin Just keeping everything crossed the little bean sticks around this time! X

MTBMummy Fri 24-May-13 09:50:12

MyThree I hope you got the positive result you were after this morning.

MissMedusa Fri 24-May-13 10:31:33

Thanks for the update MTB I'm so sad for you. Nothing can erase that kind of pain and its just so unfair sad

sultana how is your spotting? Mine is back now so I'm taking progesterone supplements (in form of a suppository - fun). I'm so sick a d tired of the constant worrying, why can't we just be allowed to relax and enjoy being pregnant without being convinced we're losing our baby constantly? sad

Mythreeknights Fri 24-May-13 13:49:09

Hi all, GOOD NEWS smile I am definitely pregnant - did a clear blue and it said 3+ weeks which makes me 5-6 weeks as expected. I think I'll be 6 weeks on Monday. Feeling more relieved but also I'm with you MissM - I definitely don't think it's a guarantee that I'll have a baby in Jan - just want to get to that 12 week scan and then I might relax a little. Sigh. MTB thanks for thinking of me and asking how I'm doing. It's a roller coaster hey. I hope you are doing ok - where in your cycle are you now? Do you have to wait until AF comes before you can start a new cycle or does the m/c start as CD1? Where does it leave you? xx

Sultanajo Fri 24-May-13 18:56:48

Hey missm well without jinxing myself today has been the lightest day so perhaps its on its way off, although not holding my breath!

mythree thats awesome! So pleased for u! As u both say, it would be amazing to relax and enjoy the experience, but its impossible! Feeling more desperate the further along I get. Not past the 9 weeks I got to last time yet and will be shitting myself at the ten week scan I have booked, but if things are still ok then it will be a very nervous wait until the 12 weeks!!!confused

AmandaMae Mon 03-Jun-13 10:00:50

Can I join in? Having a bit of trouble keeping my hair on over here.

I think I'm about 5-6 weeks pg, going by ovulation date. This is my second pg - DS is coming up on 4. First pg was a breeze, apart from a serious dose of the vomits which went on till 20 weeks. But yesterday, I started with period-like pains and a brown discharge, which turned pinker as the evening went on (also spotted some small lumpy bits, which really worried me). I'm nowhere near as stoic as some of you, so I called Queen Charlotte's and was told to take myself up to A&E. Saw a lovely doctor from the maternity ward - had some blood taken, had an internal and am booked in for a scan later today.

TMI alert: doctor said my cervix was closed, which would indicate that I wasn't in the process of miscarrying at that particular point. So that's good news, I guess.

And again with the TMI alert...But this morning, when I wiped, there was a big lumpy bit. Cue serious wobbly moment on the loo.

I know I just have to wait and take things as they come. But it's hard. DH is a peach, but is not the most emotionally literate man in the world. Just need to know I'm not alone.

Mythreeknights Tue 04-Jun-13 12:17:23

Oh Amanda that's rubbish and I hope the scan revealed that all is well? Please let us know what happened. I think if there was just a bit of spotting then that's not so serious but spotting AND cramping is not so good (although that's what I had and I'm still pregnant). Could the lumpy bit have been thrush or something else like that? Write back and let us know what is happening and we are thinking of you brew

AmandaMae Wed 05-Jun-13 10:50:16

Thanks for writing back, Mythree. It's not been a good couple of days. The reason for the radio silence was that things escalated somewhat suddenly. Whilst I was waiting for my scan, the cramps got significantly worse. I'd had a blood test at my GP on Saturday morning, with a decent HCG count (3404), but the results from the blood taken on Sunday night should that my levels were dropping (2800). This is a very bad sign. sad So by the time I had the scan I knew what was coming.

I started snivelling when the lovely sonographer asked me if I was alone, but managed to get it together long enough to walk out of the hospital. Called DH at work and wailed; he knew enough to get his ass home as fast as his legs could carry him. Picked up painkillers and pads on my way home and curled up in a ball. Didn't come out till Tuesday morning.

I was super-wobbly yesterday, but I'm feeling better emotionally and physically today. I'm sure it will come and go. Thankfully we hadn't told anyone except my parents (still can't face talking to my mum - I know it will make me howl) so at least we don't have to face anyone.

I wish all of you the very best of luck - I will keep an eye on the thread and hope that I hear lots of you make it all the way to January! We will be trying again soon, so maybe I'll connect with some others who've dropped out in the not-too-distant future.

Take care of yourselves!

Mythreeknights Wed 05-Jun-13 11:00:33

Oh amanda that really is shit news. I'm so sorry for you. I guess any pink cm / bleeding half way through a 'cycle' (e.g. not at 4 weeks or 8 weeks pg) would be bad news, I was just hoping that in your case all would be ok. It sounds like you have been incredibly strong and need a little more time to grieve and hopefully that's your miscarriage quota over and done with for life and now your body can get on and make a healthy baby. I do believe very deeply that our bodies know if there's something not 100% right with the baby (not just disabled, but that it couldn't survive outside the womb) and that accounts for lots of miscarriages.

Take a deep breath, ignore the world for a little longer and stay in touch with us. Big hugs. flowers

MTBMummy Wed 05-Jun-13 12:29:23

Amanda so sorry to hear your news, I keep coming back to this thread, in the hope that what I've been through may help some of the others, it does get better, but it takes time, I was lucky in that I was able to take almost a week of work, and could focus on getting myself stable.

Be kind to yourself, and I keep telling myself over and over again, it will happen soon, but I'd be lying if I said January will pass without a bit of sadness

MissMedusa Wed 05-Jun-13 17:37:04

MTB were you able to mc naturally or did you have a D&C? I'm in the process of a mc now as well and just hoping my body will pass it naturally. I had a D&C last time and I really don't want to do that again. On the other hand, I'm still only spotting and I don't want this to keep going on for too long.

It's awful any way you look at it. sad

AmandaMae Thu 06-Jun-13 19:16:41

Oh MissMedusa I'm so sorry to hear that. I thought you might have escaped...

FWIW, I am going through the "natural" thing too. I think it's tailing off, but there have been a few unpleasant and uncomfortable days. I have another scan booked on Monday morning, and hopefully they will tell me I don't need a D&C. Another horror to be faced down.

Luckily, I'm between jobs. How about this for crazy? I got a call from a recruiter on Monday afternoon, telling me that I'd won a position. Right in the middle of a mc. Wowza. Thankfully I only start a week on Monday, so hopefully I should be tickety-boo by then. Or as tickety-boo as I'm going to get.

But I echo your sentiments, MTB and MyThree - time is a great healer. I'm starting to feel like my feelings have caught up with my rational brain, IYKWIM. I do believe that our bodies do know what they're doing, even when we don't feel we can trust them.

Much love and luck to you all.

Frizz1986 Thu 06-Jun-13 22:28:42

Hi all,

Firstly I am so sorry for all the troubles everyone here has suffered and hope that anyone who has mc goes on to have another pg that goes full term. Its helpful to be able to read peoples experiences as so many people dont talk about mc.

Just wanted some advice as am starting to worry myself.

I had about 24-36hrs of light/dark brown discharge on tuesday/wednesday and had some cramping pains overnight on tuesday.
Called the midwife centre on wed morning and was told to keep an eye on it and if it continued call my gp to get referred to epu. Anyway it stopped wed lunchtime and have felt pretty good since. I thought that was it, i could relax. I have booked a private scan for Sunday just to see if all is ok.

Anyway tonight i have been having on and off mild sharp pains along my left side and towards my pelvic bone and the discharge seems to have slowly begun again (a lightish brown so far) Its only when i wipe but this with the pains is really worrying me (led to me rushing out of the bathroom to sob on dh)
I have my midwife booking app in the morning as i am 9 weeks exactly tomorrow, but I just have this really bad feeling as the pains just don't feel right!

kwalks85 Fri 07-Jun-13 10:29:43

Hi everyone hoping for some advice! I had a miscarriage 24th April and recently found out I am pregnant again, I am guessing 3-4 weeks but hard to tell. I have started experiencing period pains that have been waking me up at night and on and off through out the day - is this normal? No bleeding and not really other symptoms, think I am just worrying after what happened last time! Any advice is greatly appreciated xx

AmandaMae Fri 07-Jun-13 11:41:27

Frizz I'm really hoping things calmed down overnight, and that your appointment this morning has given you some good news. From my very limited experience, the only thing you can really do at this point is ask for an HCG blood test, and a repeat 2-3 days later. In the early stages of pg, your HCG levels should be doubling every couple of days. It's a good indication of a healthy pg - and of course, if they're not doubling, it's the reverse. That was what did for me... kwalks, the same is probably true for you.

Now I've got to call and cancel scans and booking appointments. sad hope you both get better results.

Sultanajo, any news from you? Still going well?

Sultanajo Fri 07-Jun-13 20:05:08

amanda so incredibly sorry to hear your news. It absolutely sucks and I really hope u escape a d & c, although thats what I had last time and I think it helped me move on as I knew it was "over".

missm really sorry things havent properly started for you. Do you have any scans booked in to check on things?

kwalk I am not surprised you are worrying after what you have been through. I have been paranoid all the way thru and am now 11 weeks. I echo what the others have said - blood tests would be your only option at this stage for reassurance. Have you seen your GP yet?

Amanda fingers crossed a miracle has happened my end as I had a scan this week which brought my dates forward and I saw a wriggly 10+5 bubba kicking and punching which was the most amazing thing I have ever seen! So really keeping everything crossed this little one makes it! Was totally convinced it was game over, which goes to show spotting and cramping doesnt always mean bad news.....(crosses fingers and toes)

Thinking of you all....thanks

AmandaMae Fri 07-Jun-13 20:25:09

Sultanajo, that's AMAZING news! Always nice to hear about positive outcomes! I will be keeping everything except my legs crossed (we are going to get back on the TTC wagon!)

Sultanajo Fri 07-Jun-13 20:28:38

Thanks amanda still cant quite believe it! I wish u all the luck in the world with your TTC journey and hope its quick and your next little bean is super sticky! grin

Frizz1986 Sat 08-Jun-13 15:00:50

Well my brown discharge has stopped again (it appears I only had it for 2 toilet trips but it still scared me beyond belief)
Cramping seems to come and go and just feels uncomfortable really now, not painful.

I spoke to my midwife about it on friday and she reitterated what another midwife had told me when I called in a panic on wednesday. She said if i keep getting bad cramps and the spotting continues for a few days then call my gp and they will refer me for a scan but otherwise there is nothing that they will do. I appear to just have to wait and see. Our epu is only midwife or doc referral as well so unless things get worse I am in limbo. They said the gp wont really do anything yet as I have only had a bit of cramping and only a small amount of spotting so they will just make me monitor it all.

I have a private scan booked tomorrow as I was worried in the week so I guess they will tell me if things are ok in there so far so its just fx and see.
My mum keeps reminding me that the whole of pg is a wait and see scenario and you just have to cross ur fingers and hope all is ok. So here goes for fx!

Hope others get the advice they need and it works out well.

Sultanajo Sat 08-Jun-13 15:38:10

Well thats positive frizz the spotting has stopped and the cramping is easing. It feels like forever until you can get some reassurance, but hopefully the scan tomorrow will give u reassurance. Will keep everything crossed for you. I was told spotting although not normal is very common and 9 times out of 10 they wont know the cause.....

Mythreeknights Sun 09-Jun-13 10:10:32

Sultana whooppeeee :-) that's fantastic news honey, clever clever bean and you for staying strong throughout.

I have been feeling decidedly sick / constantly nauseous and pretty tired in the afternoons so I'm pretty sure this pg is sticking at the moment but I don't have a scan date or any other form of 'proof' available to me yet.

Frizz how is it going? How did your scan go? I think Sultana's experience gives us all a huge amount of hope and support that bleeding and cramping can be 'random' and that all is ok in the uterous. Pain is probably not a good thing (I have had sharp pain when I stand up quickly but I think that's things stretching) so hopefully your bean is in the right place. Crossing fingers and toes for you.

Kwalk I had strong period pains, cramping and heavyish spotting (not quite dripping into the loo but enough to wear a pad) for two days at 4 weeks pg - I had tested on Monday and the cramps started that afternoon and went on for 2 days. That's why my GP said I might have mc'd, but as far as I know, I haven't. So, fingers X for you!

Frizz1986 Sun 09-Jun-13 18:35:37

mythree scan went well thanks. Bean is in the right place and i have been dated exactly where I thought with ov dates (but 3 days later than mw said based on period dates)
She said everything seems fine for what point i am and she coudnt see any bleeding in there.
Heart beat was about 170 as well which is apparently good.

Am feeling much happier after having the scan and would recommend for anyone with worries as it really puts your mind at rest.

I am going to try and stay calm now (as much as I can).

MTBMummy Mon 10-Jun-13 09:21:16

MissMedusa mine passed naturally, they basically look for you to pass a clot the size of a 10p -50p piece to be sure.

I'm really sorry to you and everyone else who is going through this.

To those of you with cramping, particularly if it's to one side, please try and be aware of any pain in the tips of your shoulders, apparently that is one of the first signs of an ectopic, and one of the reasons they were so panicked about mine.

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