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June 2013 - Thread 7 - Getting closer!

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Sarah2506 Sat 11-May-13 11:35:58

We got full! Hope everyone manages to find their way back here:-)

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 12:43:36

I have. Thank you!

pinkapples Sat 11-May-13 12:44:42

Yup I found it too!
Just marking my place

MrsBri Sat 11-May-13 12:52:33

Hello! Me too :-)

Lovely post from sparkle regarding names and her grandmother on the previous thread. So lovely that she was able to be told.

Hawkmoth Sat 11-May-13 12:53:04

Hello!

Yes to the paranoia... Over many things!

Particularly not enjoying losing gobs of MP. About a teaspoon at a time. I know it's normal, and my actual MP was a huge handful very close to giving birth last time (a memorable moment showing that to DH)... But it's so grim!

MrsBri Sat 11-May-13 13:02:03

Not sure I'm looking forward to that, Hawk. I've got increased CM, but it isn't the plug.

Bit grim these latter stages, aren't they, with all the fluids we lose at various points! :-/

BumbleBee2011 Sat 11-May-13 13:27:20

Marking my place!

Yes to grimness - though last time I only saw bits of the MP while actually in labour, wasn't too sure what it was and it totally freaked me out! shock

I thought the days after the birth were much worse regarding fluids, especially in June, it was really warm so I'd wake up in a puddle of sweat/milk/drool (til I got a sleep bra and breast pads, then it was just sweat and drool! grin) ...not to mention whatever was going on downstairs.

Such a glam time - at least DH wasn't too traumatised or we wouldn't be at this point again wink

SunnyL Sat 11-May-13 13:35:06

Right - I took on the shops today and I think I won. Pretty sure I now have everything I could ever possibly need for me and baby for the first 4 weeks. This means I can finally pack my bag this afternoon after the ticking off I got from the midwife.

Bargains to be had in Boots - £5 off if you spend £20, plus a free bag and points for joining the parenting club plus a free entry to a raffle for some freebies. Got some gloriously huge nightshirts from Primark that have buttons down the front to allow me to breast feed. Only dampener was I couldnt buy the sandals I liked in M&S because some dozy sod has walked off with a 6 and a 6 1/2 so I couldn't get a matching pair.

Now going to ignore the dog and collapse on the sofa.

pinkapples Sat 11-May-13 13:42:56

Aww sunny good on the bargains
I on the other hand also took on the shops and my dad epically failed on the bargain front... I managed 2 nursing bras 30pound on their own plus 2 pairs of jogging bottoms (I was rather worried I'd be goin home from birth in pj bottoms as I only wear jeans really) some nursing pyjamas breast pads x60 then more clothes for little'un my dad couldn't resist hehe and 2 smaller blankets as all I had were HUGE all in all nearly 200pound spent confused but I managed to convince dad half of that was his fault for buying the clothes which she really didn't need

pinkbear82 Sat 11-May-13 14:08:29

marking place!

loving all the shopping going on! Apparently ladies we'll all have little
humans in the very near future that will appreciate all this small stuff that takes up so much space!

AmIGoingMad Sat 11-May-13 14:17:29

No time to catch up right now but marking my place for later!

I'm sat on the sofa with a sleeping DS on top of me, so had time to catch up on here - hurrah for smartphones grin

What has everyone been told to take to hospital for the baby? Had my pre-op for section yesterday, and she went through what I needed to bring and now I can't remember half of it! Babygros, vests, hat (will have to buy one, god knows where our current ones have got to!), blanket, nappies, am I missing anything?

I'm going in to hospital on Wednesday evening, MW said there's no point turning up before the 8pm shift change, so 9.30 or 10pm is the aim. Final antenatal appt is on Tuesday morning smile

Well done on all the shopping too, I'm impressed! My parents are arriving tomorrow night to stay for the duration and provide childcare while I'm in hosp, mum promised to bring some new babygros for LO, but that's about all the new stuff he's getting I think!

Sarah2506 Sat 11-May-13 15:02:32

Pink on the surnames thing do either of you have a particularly good surname? Or do your surnames go together? And do you have a view on whether you would want to change yours were you married? We are married but I kept my name, and baby will have both because they do go well together. In fact our chosen name, Polly, wouldn't go at all well with just one as we are both single syllable surnames. I don't think it does or should follow that baby gets any particular name depending on whether you are married or not, but I get that if you do have the same surname its makes sense for baby to have it too!

Maybe both surnames would be good in your situation or even yours as a middle name? So my friend's maiden name is Rubinstein and her married name Watson; her baby is middle name Rubinstein, surname Watson, with no hyphen. So you can call him Baby Rubinstein Watson as if he had two surnames, or just Watson if that sounds better.

Knomski Sat 11-May-13 15:14:33

A few little anxieties niggling at me today.... Firstly cannot think of a girls name that I like, haven't even got a short list, would like something unique but not too out there :/ worried she going to b born and I'm not going to have any idea what to call her!

Secondly feeling a little anxious about having a dd after 2 ds, in am ecstatic to be having a little girl but slightly worried as I'm so used being mummy to boys and being involved in very boyish activites, also I was a complete Tom boy myself growing up! Anyone else had a dd after 1 or more ds? Is it really different, do you treat them differently? All the pinkness is freaking me out! smile

pinkbear82 Sat 11-May-13 15:18:26

Sarah - good points! The surnames go quite well together, either way round. which is quite lucky! To be honest, I would probably have just given bubs dp's surname, if/when marriage happens I think I'd change my surname to his. But suddenly everyone around me has an opinion on surname and it's got me thinking! Not sure Dps girls would understand why New baby had a different surname from them either. confused ho hum.

MrsBri Sat 11-May-13 15:23:18

Pink, regarding registration, you have 6 weeks to do this. If your DP is likely to be around 6 weeks after the birth I'd call and see if you can make an appointment on the last, or next to last, day possible. Then he has the best hope of being there.

If not, mention it to the registrar when you attend and ask if you can re-register later. You'll need permission, but it may be possible.

learnermummy Sat 11-May-13 15:35:47

Knomski I'm in the same boat - expecting a girl after two boys. I'm very nervous about it - I know where I am with boys! Have always wanted a girl but am now a bit anxious!!!

SunnyL Sat 11-May-13 16:42:41

This sh!t just got real. Just packed my bag for hospital and I had to put real life baby clothes in it and pack a nappy bag. I'm not really having a baby am I? I really like being pregnant - what can I do to make sure I stay pregnant for at least another 4 weeks?? I'm not ready <wail>.

Ok back to earth Rue I've been given a list for hospital bag from my NCT lady. Will copy and paste it here.

SunnyL Sat 11-May-13 16:44:00

 
It is probably best to pack your bag by about 36 weeks
 
Mum
For labour:

· big old T-shirt or man’s shirt to wear - if you want to wear anything at all
· socks (your feet may get cold)
· fruit juice (grape juice or apple juice are better than citrus, which can
 be too acidic)
· bottled water (sports cap bottles can be useful) *
· easily digestible snacks – fruit especially bananas, flapjacks *
· CDs or ipod - and something to play them on, some rooms have docking *
· face flannels/ natural sponge or water spray - to cool your face down *
· lip salve - lips get chapped using gas and air
· hairbands/hair slide to keep hair off face
· glasses case / contact lens box *
· special picture or photo to focus on/add familiarity
· tissues
· easy to read book/ magazine or game to pass the time during early labour
 or induction *
· aromatherapy oils – e.g. lavender oil plus a flannel to put it on, the hospital can                provide the oils plus an aromatherapy burner to plug in   *
· homeopathy kit for labour – e.g. Arnica which helps prevent bruising *
· Bach Rescue Remedy - may be useful for late first stage of labour *
· TENS machine if don’t already have it on
· birth ball
· extra pillows &/or beanbag *
· maternity notes
· birth plan

Mum
After labour:

· comfortable clothes that fitted when you were about 6 months pregnant -
 including shirts/ t-shirts and pyjamas/nightdresses that open down the front
 if you want to breastfeed
· nursing bras (if you want to breastfeed)
· breastpads
· toiletries
· disposable pants
· heavy flow sanitary or maternity pads - not plastic backed
· big towel
· mobile phone to let people know your news
PTO
Birth partner:

Items marked with a * in the mother's list may be useful for you too

Also:

· cool clothes - labour suite can get warm
· mobile phone - ask permission before using it but should be ok
· camera
· money for car park/ transport to & from hospital

Baby
In hospital:

· nappies
· cottonwool
· clothes (e.g. cotton vests, sleepsuits, scratch mitts, hat, cardigans)
 
Baby
To come home:

· car seat suitable for newborn
· clothes (e.g. sleepsuit, cotton vest, cardigan, scratch mitts,
  hat, outdoor all in one/ snowsuit, baby blanket or shawl)

SunnyL Sat 11-May-13 16:45:33

Frankly that list looks scary huge but I've managed to fit it all in my small wheely carry on bag I use on planes. <preens at ability to pack light>.

Withalittlesparkle Sat 11-May-13 17:06:29

Marking place

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 17:14:52

I'm still avoiding packing my hospital bag (although baby's one is done).....it's just too, too much.

Also finding things have switched into serious heavy-gut tiredville over the last couple days. Noticeably....am 37 weeks on Monday and starting to feel like I wouldn't be sad if NewHuman came early. So guess should pack the bag. Gawd.

Names have been a theme for me and boyfriend from very early days, we keep going round in circles and come back to the same three on the shortlist. I imagine we will keep looking right up yo the day itself.

Having a very rare do eff-all day today. Kind of bring but definitely restorative.

Also just realised my mum arrives tomorrow week. Holy shitballs.

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 17:15:58

Bring = boring

DontmindifIdo Sat 11-May-13 17:16:29

found you!

oh yes, thought I had the hospital bag packed and realised I've forgotten to add the swaddling blanket. thank you for the reminder! I have managed to pack everything else in a holdall, we should be ok. I also have to remember to pack an overnight bag for DS for going to MILs.

Knomski - would you like my list of beautiful girls names DH has vetoed as he has dull tastes ?

He's banned: Persephone, Agatha (I'm so sad I'll never use this, I love this name), Genevieve, Imogen and Esther. We've agreed on Eloise (which he still thinks is not dull ordinary enough for him. I've told him she'll be "Ellie" in order to win this one - she won't).

Of course, we are agreed on a boys name so hopefully bump is a boy and we won't have to have a compromise name.

DontmindifIdo Sat 11-May-13 17:18:51

oh and can I recommend we all practice putting the car seat in and out of the car and adjusting it before babies arrive? Nothing like hte pressure of being stood in the hospital carpark in the rain to make you do that quickly.

Plus add to bags t-shirts etc for the birthing partners, DH held DS first as I was being put back together and he got covered in blood.

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 17:26:42

Good tshirt and car seat tip - I will get the boyfriend onto it!

redwellybluewelly Sat 11-May-13 17:47:29

Found you.

I have six days left at work. Hallelujah.

I also have five days of solo parenting. Not so hallelujah. DD has morphed into child from hell. Earlier it was pouring with rain and she was so cross about not being allowed out she tipped all my germinating tomato and squash plants out over the floor. DH caught her doing it and I couldn't decide whether to cry or yell. I love my plants.

May have to watch her more carefully around new baby!

AlohaMama Sat 11-May-13 17:57:46

Marking my place. Will be back later. Have to see what other productive things me and dh can get done today. Yesterday he cleaned the carpet while I got loads of paperwork stuff done, took stuff to charity shop and organised a few more boxes. Today is beach then organising the shed. Hospital bag to be done next week.

Not long now rue!

Sams4lo Sat 11-May-13 18:04:06

Getting really nervous now sad going to be induced on Monday or a section on Wednesday due to pre eclampsia confused

Sarah2506 Sat 11-May-13 18:04:57

I love, love, love Persephone. I HATE that it's spelt like that though, which means people would call her Percy-Phone, and not Per-sif-annie. Maybe I could just invent a new spelling Persifannie?!

DontmindifIdo Sat 11-May-13 18:15:37

Sams - ooh, that's very soon! Are you all prepared? How are you feeling?

Sarah - I know, stupid spelling but it sounds so pretty. And I even like that a little girl might get nicknamed Percy (which is quite cool). OK, she was Hades wife and naming your DD after the Queen of the underworld might be inviting disaster, but still, gorgeous sounding name... But no stupid spellings - I've had a lifetime of saying "no, not with an 'i'." on the phone to call centres and explaining yet again why I didn't get that e-mail, I'm determined my DCs will always have the most 'common' spelling of their names!

DontmindifIdo Sat 11-May-13 18:17:17

olimoss- it also gives him a job to do if he's being hard work and flapping round you close to your due date.... (BTW - please tell me your PIL aren't staying with you? it was you that had the cheeky PIL wanting to stay for weeks round your due date?)

pinkbear82 Sat 11-May-13 18:22:22

good thinking mrsbri - thank you! 6 week's would at least give us time to sort a name..... snail mail is slow for debates!

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 18:46:36

Dontmind - No it's my mum, coming from Australia, but she is here till mid-July! Lordy....

We have a planned Csection so we know the date but neither of us have been great at doing much other than stand and stare at the buggy and car seat and go, 'holy shit' so we probably should have a practice! We've been easily diverted by sorting the house out, painting fences, and having days off!!

Olimoss Sat 11-May-13 18:48:30

Sarah - I know a Persephone, she's called Percy - I love it.....but then all the girl names I favour tend to be boyish. Boyfriend wasn't so sure, guess lucky we are having a boy....

Knomski Sat 11-May-13 19:03:50

Don't mind- thanks for those suggestions, genevieve is lovely! I think the problem is, I fell in love with both my ds names and they jus felt right, but haven't felt like that about any girls names. Think there's too much choice for girls and the poor love will be stuck with the name all her life- no pressure there then :/

Learner - glad I'm not on my own then, I'm sure it will all come naturally as it did with the boys when she arrives but can't help worry!!

Good luck sams, hope all goes well smile how exciting that you will meet your baby so soon!

redwellybluewelly Sat 11-May-13 19:08:06

So Sams on Wednesday and Rue Thursday, really is getting real now!

I'm in the bath. DH is getting Chinese after a difficult day for us both.

We didn't register DD until she was home,and then a few weeks after as couldn't book a slot with the registrar! !

redwellybluewelly Sat 11-May-13 19:10:43

Knomski we picked a simple name for DD (DC1) but I've fallen in love with an unusual name for DC2 and DH has surprisingly said ok! I weighed up the issues with spelling and pronunciation but decided if baby suits the name we'll go for it. If they hate it we'll change it when they are older!

SunnyL Sat 11-May-13 19:20:57

I've a friend with a DD called Esther - I think it's a lovely name.

I got my way with the boy name for us when DH decided it would work well when his child is stood on the podium having won the F1 world championship. Personally i picked it because its a character in a book whi i really fancied! The girl name is a bit of a coup because it technically is after 3 family members - it wasn't even because of that I just really like the name.

ginauk84 Sat 11-May-13 19:25:28

DontmindifIdo my cousing is called Eloise, named after the children's books. They do tend to call her Els or Ellie for short though.

We have a lovely name picked, well I think so, just hope it suits her when she's here as we picked it before we were even pregnant! Lol!

Went into town and hobbled round lol, wanted some tickets to the Mothercare baby event and just happened on one lovely dress left in the sale in my size reduced from £30 to £10 perfect for the wedding - hoorah!!!

Then I was gutted as new look have stopped stocking maternity but H&M had some lovely stuff in. Feels weird buying maternity dresses when a lot of you are moving out of them!!

Had my eyebrows threaded and had a treat by a complimentary face and hand massage smile

Sams4lo Sat 11-May-13 19:27:18

I'm really worried and anxious sad bags packed and kids r sorted smile they are trying a vbac arm on Monday so depends how favourable I am, and if not i go in Wednesday for the section! Not sure what they will say as my spd is so bad can only get my knees 10cm! Ouch sad

pinkapples Sat 11-May-13 19:32:19

Oh sams try not to worry I'm sure it'll be fine they'll do all they can to get baby out safely

I'm now worried as I have packed bag (1 bag for both of us) and I thought I'd have loads of space now its full after today's shop and still no tshirts or snacks hmm is everyone in one bag or separates for them and baby?

MrsBri Sat 11-May-13 19:45:00

Sam, I'm sure it will be fine. And getting baby out safely is paramount.

Pink, I have a during labour bag and an after wheelie suitcase. I think I may still need a back up bag in the car too if we stay in longer than 1 night!

I need to repack my bag now more bits have arrived. Still need some chocolate to add to the snacks too!

Steffanoid Sat 11-May-13 20:05:05

place marking, I'll come back when I've some energy and catch up

pinkbear82 Sat 11-May-13 20:12:18

I've used baby's changing bag for packing its bits in for hospital and my normal 'weekend' bag for me. must remember to pack a towel and put snacks in....

how many nappies is everyone taking?! I've put a pack next to the bags because I can't decide and figured too many were better than not enough!

today my Springer has wanted to be on me most the day - he hates it when bubs moves and he feels it, he gets off and looks at Me like I've done something awful to him! realised the sofa is quite tight fit fir me, bump and an over friendly Dog!!

ginauk84 Sat 11-May-13 20:33:25

I just put one small pack of nappies in as they take up so much room, figured hubby could get more if needs be.

DontmindifIdo Sat 11-May-13 20:37:46

I've put in one pack of nappies, we have another at home and they sell them in the supermarket round the corner from the hospital.

redwellybluewelly Sat 11-May-13 21:35:53

I've given up and come to bed. Shattered.

DH playing the 'competitive tiredness' card tonight, he has looked after toddler all day, but he has also had an almost two hour nap. I left the house at 7.45am and returned at 4pm, having done two hours of driving, set up a big work event, done four hours face to face networking and come home to complaints from DH about 'why are we having another?'

Sigh.

Steffanoid Sat 11-May-13 21:37:43

im back, had a very tiring day, my baby shower was this afternoon hosted by my bff and godmother to be and omg people were so generous. filled my car up, at last count have 30 packs of baby wipes and 10 baby soaps, clothes everywhere! dont know where it's all gonna go
re hospital bags I've got 3! one backpack for labour for both of us and the changing bag full for bubs and a backpack full for me if we have to stay in-my Dsis had to stay in for a few days, im determined not to but am prepared just in case, my bag has spare room so may look at compacting it,
with surnames were having dps as the babies surname, we're engaged and intending on.getting married and my surname is a welsh name that could be a Christian name and it's being middle name to honour my father who passed nearly a year ago and it'll.be a middle name rather than a double barreled surname.
gosh im pooped tomorrow we're putting the cot up and moving our room around a bit to accommodate the crib and Moses basket, I say we, I mean dp

maisiebeem Sun 12-May-13 06:13:03

Just marking my place! Damn my body clock! Sill waking up early, despite being on maternity leave for a week and it being the weekend! It's lovely knowing that I won't have that Sunday evening feeling later though!

maisiebeem Sun 12-May-13 06:14:38

Oh- and as for bags- I've packed 3! One for me, one for baby, and one labeled very clearly- SNACKS! Think ill get dh to put some t'shirts etc or him in my bag.

curiousgeorgie Sun 12-May-13 08:09:05

Just marking my place!

I finally got my c section date but its for my due date! 25th June... I'm now panicking as don't want to go into labour and end up with an emergency c section. I was told 38 weeks all the way along, but apparently they only book electives for Tuesdays and Fridays and the other days are full confused

I am having a weekend of packing my house up in preparation for moving house at the beginning of June (great timing!!)

Knackered after doing the spare room yesterday as its our junk room, Took me about 12 hours... DD watched Sofia the First on a loop all day poor thing! blush

curiousgeorgie Sun 12-May-13 08:11:52

And with hospital bags I have 2.

One bag with first outfit, a couple of nappies, small pack of wipes, my toiletries, kindle, magazines, snacks, camera, phone & purse...

Then a small wheelie case for DH to bring in after I'm back in my room with two days of clothes for baby and me, towels, a gift for DD from baby, etc.

It worked really well last time.

Sarah2506 Sun 12-May-13 08:16:53

Georgie that's my birthday:-) good choice!

I'm shattered. We were out till gone midnight last night! Friend had 40th in the bar at the top of CentrePoint tower. Amazing views of the city at sunset. It was a massive affair with pretty much all our friends in attendance so good to see everyone for what might be the last time pre baby. It got to 11 and DH asked me if I was ok and I hadn't even realised it was late! Haven't been up past 11 in months. Bed at one and still awake at 7- will suffer today, totally worth it though. Have what feels like a hangover but is likely dehydration.

SIL is having birthday party two hours by car away today. If we go we can get some baby stuff we don't have room for. If we don't I can sit on my arse all day. Tough call.....

Sams4lo Sun 12-May-13 08:28:09

Thank u so much smile it's driving me mad the worry and not knowing now!

As for hospital bag I've got one bag with everything in, as I've tried being organised before with separate bags and they all end up in one at the hospital lol with dhs organising lol x

mil wants to be at the birth this time as well so this could be fun! I don't mind her being there as long as she stays near my friggin head lol!

Withalittlesparkle Sun 12-May-13 09:42:03

I have two bags, although this is breaking the maternity wards rule of one bag per person!!

All of my stuff is in one bag, all of baby's things are in another bag. I have room in both to add more stuff of necessary but I've packed for maybe a two day stay! Any more and husband will have to bring spares, which I plan to leave neatly piled up in the nursery so he doesn't have to go rooting round!

Am I the only person not having a baby shower? Or if I am I know absolutely nothing about it!

Also women with SPD? Did you get a referral? I'm waiting for a date for mine but reckon it'll end up beings so close to the birth that it won't make much difference anyway!

Mawgatron Sun 12-May-13 09:48:40

Morning all! I seem to have gone underground for a few weeks, trying to get everything done at work before I finish this fri. Managed to convince them to let me go a week early as I am struggling with spd.

Hospital case pretty much packed, few last bits to put in but think I'm pretty much there. Got my final nhs antenatal this week so get to tour the ward, will put a last few bits in depending on what is there (radio etc)

Don't know about you ladies but I am MASSIVE! Can't wait to meet him, feel really impatient. I know I should be making the most of this time but I really want to see my son! Eeeeep!

Good luck all you c section ladies, keeping my fingers crossed for you!

Mawgatron Sun 12-May-13 09:54:07

Oh, and I had a referral a few weeks ago withalittle. They gave me a sexy tubigrip to wear over my hips and a Velcro support belt. They also said to take paracetamol and recommended the following excercises:
Pelvic floors
Bum clenches
Bump tightens (pull in the bottom of your bump using your muscles)

Apparently all of the muscles round there support the ligaments, the stronger they are, the more support for your ligaments.

ginauk84 Sun 12-May-13 11:09:19

Withalittlesparkle no baby shower feel, I felt like I was the only one not having one so glad to hear I am not! We threw one for a friends first baby several years ago so I thought they might do the same but nope.

Need to get midwife to refer me when I see her Thursday, pain has got worse again today and have another 7 weeks till due date!

I have a baby bag and a bag for me but need to check whether I need any milk as am not sure.

ginauk84 Sun 12-May-13 11:59:51

Ooh I have just discovered the mumsnet talk iPhone app when I took the bounty survey it mentioned it. Don't know how I missed it! smile

Georgie an emcs if you go into labour is basically no different to a planned, so long as you go in as soon as you realise - I had an emcs with DS because my waters broke at 31 weeks, my section was booked for 36 weeks so they just did it early iyswim.

The other thing to do is when you go for your pre op appointment (normally a week or so before), ask them what you should do if you go into labour in the meantime - with DD I was originally booked for section on my due date, asked at pre op, and got asked if I could come in that night, DD arrived the next day grin

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 13:01:03

I have been told that if I go into labour before my ELCS ate I need to get to delivery suite quickly, by ambulance if necessary, purely because its not pregnancy but labour that they are concerned about with me. That said if I am in established labour with good responses from baby I may be 'allowed' to deliver naturally which is what I would much much prefer.

I have packed a small holdall with toiletries, change of clothes and a few snacks, and six nappies, two vests, two babygro's for baby which I will take onto the ward. A second holdall will stay in the car with more clothes for me, husband and baby, magazines and ipod as well as a coolbox of snacks and fresh juice. The car seat will stay in the car as well until needed.

I'm really struggling to find a bear or cuddly for baby, DD is fast asleep with her beebear now and has had it since birth so I'd like her sibling to also have a cuddly. Oh and I've also packed a small rucksack with overnight things and a few toys foe DD to keep in boot of car just in case of having to drop her at relatives in an emergency.

learnermummy Sun 12-May-13 14:03:39

Red, both of mine have had taggie comfort blankets from www.comfortblankets.co.uk (so I knew I could easily get replacements). Eldest (nearly 7) still sleeps with his. Will have to continue tradition but haven't got around to it yet!

june2013 Sun 12-May-13 14:52:21

Hello everyone...

Can't believe it's getting so close and some of you have dates!

We had builders in this weekend to make adjustments to what is going to be the nursery that the baby is not actually going to sleep in for 6 months... it will probably her junk room until then...

Been reading threads on when people are stopping work. I'm doing a phd so bit different - advantages are that I'm completely flexible and can work where and when I want. Disadvantages are the same - so that my supervisor doesn't seem to think that I need to go any time before my due date. I'm trying to write this afternoon - it's so haaaaard!

Also, was at a wedding yesterday, I had to do 2 readings so I made sure I looked decent. Despite being incredibly tired and desperate to leave at 6pm, I did think how much easier it was to look great while pregnant than I am likely to look at next wedding 4 wks post birth (ish)...

pinkapples Sun 12-May-13 15:13:11

Thanks for the tips ref bags I've got one for baby and one for me but now both full I'm thinking tho that I should combine bits for me and bits for baby in one bag then a bag for the car if we have to stay in? What does everyone think?

its all getting so real with dates and things omg even without a set date I'm petrified!

Anyone else been getting a funny feeling down below? It's odd only on one side and its like a twinge not actually in it just a bit above it on like the chubby skin bit (that sounds gross but I'm sure you know where I mean) I've got the midwife tomorrow so might ask not much movement these days must be short on space cheeky girly!

grainmum Sun 12-May-13 17:03:26

Thanks for the new thread! Finally actually packing bag - can someone please give me an idea of how often I might need to change breast pads? I'm assuming I probably won't need the whole box of 40?

ginauk84 Sun 12-May-13 17:16:54

redwelly I got a comforter, bought a Pooh one but then saw a tatty teddy one so we have that smile
http://www.metoyouonline.com/details.aspx?PID=6838

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 17:32:56

pinkapples thats certainly what I'm doing re the bags. We have limited space on the wards, I fully appreciate that not everyone will bring car with useful boot but we turned up to delivery last time with one small holdall and MW said thank god we were sensible, because they don't like bags on the floor (infection risk) and make you empty them and take the bag home (i was in a week!) and when I was on the ward I had one small unit and a very small lockable wall unit. Has to be said I pack light but do have the option of a car boot. When I was in on Thursday for assessment on the same ward same rule seemed to apply. Think the cots had a drawer underneath for baby things?

I'm leaving replacement clothing out for DH to bring in if needed, I know I'll be in two nights. My biggest concern is getting enough food!

Now off to look at taggie cuddlies, I bought DD a stupidly expensive velvet one last time and she never even sniffed it so baby was going to have that.

june are you getting maternity leave? I'm taking seven months, one is unpaid, but my supervisory team have been ace.

Steffanoid Sun 12-May-13 17:38:22

I've managed to condense the bags for me and baby into one and then the labour bag which has babies first outfit, only have a couple of outfits that are still fitting, a guest yesterday said id ballooned even though she only saw me 7 days ago.

babies cot is up, clothes that were given yesterday are nearly all washed and homes need finding, had a count and have 35 packs of baby wipes!

I've been getting period pain feelings today and a bit of a sore back, feels like im about to wee but not, feels very strange all over my belly and bits today

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 17:49:47

grainmum I'm taking ten packs, mine come in pairs, but your milk may not come in until 3/4 day as until then its colostrum. I remember changing breastapds every feed after we got home at two weeks. And I needed them for the first year because I leaked a stupid amount.

To pains, I had what was a very very contraction like pain last night, with dd I had regular nighttime contractions from 39-42 weeks. I'm only 35+6 so they are starting earlier for sure!

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 17:51:07

Oh and the pushing on cervix. That too. Ouchy ouch

MrsBri Sun 12-May-13 20:12:21

Evening :-)

I've had a vaguely productive day today as I've re-packed my hospital bags. I've now got enough to keep me going until after I've cleaned myself up after the birth, as well as a few bits for baby. My 'after' bag will stay in the car and has more stuff for both of us in it.

DH can get more from home if necessary. He's confirmed that he knows where baby's clothes are, so that's good!

Our Isofix base arrived on Friday and the car seat is coming on 21st, so we will install them together and keep them in position all ready.

I feel quite sick today. And exhausted, despite sleeping seemingly ok. I'm so glad I've finished work already.

Baby has had another mental bum shoving / foot waving day. At least he's still finding room to exercise in there!

I appear to have shooting pains in my bits every now and then. Ouchy.

I'm also getting to the end of the cross stitch too. Still have a good 20-30 hours' work to go, but bearing in mind how much I've already done, it's a drop in the ocean!

pinkapples Sun 12-May-13 20:21:04

Well done mrsbri a very productive day grin I too have been busy re-packing my bag 3 times yup 3 times each one after reading a conversation on here lol

I now have babies changing bag which I have used for 1 outfit for baby (babygrow sleepsuit mits hat) and one outfit for me (joggers and top) as well as one big shirt for me for labour (hubby's) and a pair of loose pyjamas and 4 knickers (the large variety!) pads and mat pads 5 nappies and wipes and toiletries
then my second (car)bag has more clothes for baby more clothes for me spare shirt for hubby drinks snacks more nappies hopefully I have cracked it now (not packing again hopefully) an have met hospital/birthing centre approval (still don't know what I'm allowed) with one small bag grin

Hawkmoth Sun 12-May-13 20:27:31

No bag... But I did buy a pack of newborn nappies today, then had to NOT CRY on my way out of the shop.

Am looking into taggies, possibly making one myself, though probably not as I don't get on with sewing machines. DS has his first duvet cover from his cot as his blankie. Red Cover. He loves it and sniffs it and takes it everywhere.

Last night had a look at my notes to see how big the growth curve predicted my baby will be. The bloody MW had plotted the last measurement a week early so all the raised eyebrows and funny looks about me declining a GTT were for nothing and I won't be having a huge baby. Next time I see her I will think smugly about my GCSE in Maths!

SunnyL Sun 12-May-13 20:41:38

DH has just bought a car. He is a walking cliche. It's a red 2 sweater classic - clearly the most practical car for a man who is about to have a baby!

Actually I'm not mad in the slightest and I've even paid for a 1/4 of it as an early birthday present for him. It's going to live in the garage and be his project car for the next 5 years so will keep him amused. I did have to tell him though that I didn't think it was ok for the baby to be put to sleep on the front seat as it is not a dog!

Otherwise had a nice sociable day but trying my best to stay awake til a more reasonable hour.

SunnyL Sun 12-May-13 20:46:40

Sweater?? Erm 2 seater car not 2 sweater car.

learnermummy Sun 12-May-13 20:53:49

Grainmum it's unlikely your milk will come in while your in hospital but you might want a few pairs of pads to protect your clothes/bras from lansinoh stains.

MrsBri I'm so busy I haven't touched my cross stitch in over a week, don't think it will ever be finished!!

I'm so focused on my homebirth I really haven't packed properly for a hospital one. Have nothing to labour in really. Don't have time to get organised for another fortnight so baby better hang on in there!

pinkbear82 Sun 12-May-13 21:13:03

productive days ladies!

oddly my bump feels smaller today which I don't understand, but bubs is wiggling round lots, so guess that's a good thing. my boobs also seem to have grown, maybe I'm just upside down today

my mum kept asking if I'd packed my snacks yet. 'vital to keep you going, and y'know, even things ' - I have a feeling she was trying to remind me I can get a bit narky when hungry! Reassured her I'd pack them this week.

thinking of hitting the pillows now, seem to wake early, and not manage naps so guess early to bed is a happy compromise!

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 21:23:03

pink my bump changes in size depending on how baby is lying, also when you get closer to due date bump may drop and you'll suddenly find breathing easier and walking harder!

Now off to bed with my gaviscon. Oh the joys!

Steffanoid Sun 12-May-13 21:47:41

my little sausage fingers are back today sad a bit of my left foot has gone up too, this and the period type pains are getting a bit rubbish, ended up crying at tge supermarket cause I didn't know what I wanted to eat and needed to pee, this is a regular occurrence for me - the food thing, it's a part of the depression, didn't help we bought a bottle of pop for in the car and I couldn't open it cause the sausage fingers are a bit painful and I can only get them so far before they really hurt, dont think poor dp is going to want to do food shopping again with me while im pg!

grainmum Sun 12-May-13 21:51:34

thanks redwelley and learner.

mrs bri I can't remember what your cross stitch is? I'm doing one that's got several animals on, only at about 50% so far and expecting 3 weeks to go so not hopeful for finishing before baby arrives.

Hawkmoth Sun 12-May-13 22:32:35

Learnermummy... I would sort something to wear out if I were you. Had HB with DS but BP spiked and they called an ambulance. I pushed out baby pretty quick with a paramedic sat on the stairs but I ended up in some godawful fifteen year old nightie as I'd been naked up to that point... And I always sleep naked! It's something I need to sort for this one, though I have got a South Park t-shirt that I've set aside for a hospital birth that I don't want!

MrsBri Sun 12-May-13 22:38:39

Grainmum, this is the one I'm doing: http://www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B001DHVQQ6

So far I've done all the carriages and most of the border. I just need to finish the border and flowers, then do all the outline stitching and French knots and I'll be done, apart from adding the name, date and weight once baby is born. It's been hard work, I can tell you!

34 week midwife appointment tomorrow. Hopefully all will be well. I feel much bigger now, so we shall see how the bump measurement part of it goes :-)

MrsBri Sun 12-May-13 22:39:20

Bugger, forgot to do the link properly: www.amazon.co.uk/gp/aw/d/B001DHVQQ6

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 22:43:40

I was also intending on HB with dc1, started in labour in maternity trousers and vest top, wasn't long before I was down to a bra and shortly after starkers!

And a friend who has two water births (lucky lucky lucky sigh) said the exact same thing. Was so hot anyway and more comfy, not the end of the world. And I'm also usually very conservative and prudish grin

learnermummy Sun 12-May-13 22:44:26

Good plan hawk - cant really get into an ambulance naked! Have maternity nighties but wouldn't want them ruined. Perhaps will try and get an oversized Tesco nightie.

redwellybluewelly Sun 12-May-13 22:45:24

Sorry missed a bit out, was intending on HB so had nothing suitable for wearing in hospital, therefore when I went in I stayed wearing what I'd been wearing all day!

learnermummy Sun 12-May-13 22:47:23

Wow that looks like loads of work MrsBri, this is mine www.dunelm-mill.com/m/shop/the-toy-shelf-cross-stitch-set-121815 but still taking forever!

MrsBri Sun 12-May-13 22:48:38

Learner, I bought a cheap size 18-20 one from Asda. It won't hurt if it gets ruined.

MrsBri Sun 12-May-13 22:50:24

That's so cute, Learner. But I don't have two kids already so can dedicate more time to it, so I'm not surprised you're struggling to get yours done.

Sunbeam18 Sun 12-May-13 23:25:52

Place mark! My car broke down today (on my own ) and had to get towed home by RAC. Not good day. Tomorrow will be better! My mothercare order should arrive and I can then pack hospital bag.

AlohaMama Sun 12-May-13 23:57:10

Love the cross stitches. MIL did a beautiful Beatrix potter one for ds, am hoping she will repeat her efforts for number 2.

With all this talk of snacks, is that for you, or for partners? And are you talking about during labour? I'm pretty sure I wasn't allowed to eat anything in labour with ds in case I had to have an emcs. Only lollipops and ice chips. I don't remember feeling hungry though. But now I feel like I might be missing out!

grainmum Mon 13-May-13 07:09:16

Regarding snacks my yoga teacher who is also a doula suggested making broth as something nutritious to drink in labour. If you drink it strained, no rules broken! I dutifully made mine on Friday and froze 3x500ml bottles. Now all I have to do is remember it's there when I go into labour.

Was also having a big debate re hospital nightwear yesterday. I've managed at home to stay in my usual pyjama bottoms just worn under bump, now with baggy t-shirt on top. I've bought a big night shirt from primark for labour, although if I got the chance to change to a hospital gown I'd do that to avoid horrible washing. I've then got one pair of front opening bigger pyjamas for after. Hoping that will do - don't really want to spend a lot of money on "special" pyjamas at this stage.

AmIGoingMad Mon 13-May-13 07:09:20

One of those silly wkends with being too busy then sleeping lots cos too tired! Hope to catch up properly today but just wanted to say good luck today sams!smile

AlohaMama Mon 13-May-13 07:18:43

Is it Monday already. In which case good luck Sam's, and hope it goes well with your mil being there!

learnermummy Mon 13-May-13 07:46:15

Yes hope all ok today Sams

SunnyL Mon 13-May-13 07:51:38

Urggh! So glad this is my last Monday morning alarm clock for a while. Knackered. At 3am this morning I decided I hadn't felt baby move for ages and couldn't remember when I'd last felt it move so worked myself up into a tizzy trying to persuade baby to move, then of course when it did start kicking I'd totally woken myself up. Yaaaaawwwwn!

pinkapples Mon 13-May-13 08:06:25

Good luck today sams ill be thinking of you

Midwife this morning then off to work sooo tired!

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 08:09:42

Sams hope you get on ok today

I've a MW appt and my WC jab this afternoon, baby is starting to move less and less, with the best will in the world I'm trying not to become anxious but if it continues to move infrequently I know that it'll be an EMCS as they have already said. 36 weeks today and I'd hoped to make it to 37 weeks at least.

On that note, I'm off to find my count tje kicks bracelet and also finish finding up things for my labour bag. Hope people have a good day.

pinkbear82 Mon 13-May-13 09:08:42

Good luck sams - will be thinking of you.

Snack wise I think it's meant for both us and birthing partners - midwife said high energy things good for us and anything to stop dp's having to keep popping in and out!! Although now its my mum 100% we'll have to take a lot more as she has awful allergies and can't just buy ready, quick things. She's also diabetic so will need regular bits. Think I'll be more worried how she's coping then how I'm doing!!

Think as the sun seems to be out here, I might take a stroll to boots and use some of my advantage points to treat myself to a few bits and bobs. Any of you ladies have good recommendations for hair products? I've been using the macadamia oil shampoo and conditioner, and as much as I love it I don't think I can warrant rebuying it just at the moment. And I'm running low so need to get something in - I'm blonde and quite fine haired, but lots of it. I do tend to straighten it and currently chin length bob type cut. Any tips gratefully received smile

Have good days ladies and may all bumps behave and for those that need them to stay put a bit longer do so!

Olimoss Mon 13-May-13 10:39:11

Happy Monday everyone, 37 weeks for me today and 3 separate people have told me I look ready to pop. Nice. Might have something to do with the fact I'm wearing pre-pregnancy trousers with a belt AWFULLY low down. I just had to do a day not in leggings or tights....this bloody weather needs to cheer itself up.

Spent yesterday doing more fence-painting. Nearly finished. Last day of work Friday this week, Mum comes on Sunday, then hoping for a week of relatively chilling out before NewHuman arrives.

Best of luck to you Sams and Redwelly!!

I've still not packed my own bag for hospital. I really should.

ginauk84 Mon 13-May-13 12:14:49

Wow wish I could fit in pre pregnancy trousers, I've been in maternity trousers a while. Have a lot of weight on my thighs mostly - have always hated my thighs.
I bought some energy sweets and drinks for hubby and I to put in hospital bag as thought they may be useful.

Steffanoid Mon 13-May-13 12:53:48

food and drink wise in the labour bag ive got lucozade (the non fizzy one) for me and redbull for him, as well as a couple of sports bottles of flavoured water casue i dont know how long we'll end up being there, and got some jelly sweets plus some cereal bars/nutri grain bars, then my bag if we have to stay over has got a bottle of squash in it cause thats one thing we had to take my sister when she was in...

I'm feeling very weird today, got what i can only describe as period pains going on at the bottom of my belly/bump, it's odd, feel like i'm literally about to come on my period which is about 8 months too late grin

ginauk84 Mon 13-May-13 12:55:09

Oh is anyone itching like crazy? I am still moisturising the same as I always have done and am itching like mad - all over as well not just on places where I am growing and skin is stretching. It's driving me mad!!

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 13:03:21

Good luck today, Sam.

Steff, I've got similar stuff in my bag too to keep us going, though we have apple Capri Sun and water as our drinks.

Gina, I think you should call your midwife about the itching as they may want to do a blood test as itching can be linked to a liver function issue. It may not be, I don't want to scare you, but I'd get it checked out.

Got the midwife in just over an hour. Suppose I'd better go and wee on my fingers in a pot to take with me.

I've a list of questions / issues today. She'll love me!

DontmindifIdo Mon 13-May-13 13:04:04

pre-pregnancy trousers?????!?!!?!!!? dear lord - not worn those for a long time... (and fence painting? feeling tired just reading that)

Oh sports bottles might be a good thing to pack (adds to list).

Keep with the moisturising - I'm going through tonnes!

Had my whooping cough jab this morning, I didn't faint! (I normally do with jabs) However I think I probably wasn't fit to drive home, at least I didn't pass out and scoffed a mars bar as I walked through the door to get blood sugar back up. I've achieved very little else today. possibly should make a bit of an effort to do something beyound watch Bargain Hunt and various things I've sky plused... anyone else's arm really hurt post jab?

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 13:05:29

I think you need to have the itching checked out, obstetric colitis (I think) can cause itching and can lead to a few complications. dI'd go so far to say that if you can't speak to your MW ring your delivery or medicom number.

pinkbear82 Mon 13-May-13 13:08:37

don'tmind - my arm was sore post jab for a good few days but did go off eventually!

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 13:10:30

My bag at admission
Maternity notes
Charged camera
Mobile phone charger
Antibac gel
Antibac wipes
Dark Towel x 1
Shampoo/shower gel/Deodorant
Toothbrush/Toothpaste/Mouthwash
Tea tree oil
Makeup
Lypsol 
Hairbrush
Water Wipes (trust me paper can be awkward)
Maternity Pads
Breastpads
Lanisoh cream
Indigestion tablets
Flip flops 
1 x T-shirt or tops (in addition to what I wear in)
1 x bras (in addition to what I wear in)
1 x Nightie (for straight after op)
Dressing gown
Light shawl as hard to get cardi on and off
3 x BIG knickers
Sports bottle (easy sip)
T-Shirt for him
Toothbrush for him
Pants & Socks for him

Baby Bits in my bag
Blanket
Cuddly
7 x muslins
2 x vests
2 x sleepsuits
Hat 
Little Cardigan
Nappies
Baby Wipes (plus cotton pads)
Nappy Bags

Food in car
Fresh Orange
Squash
Grapes
Snacks
Crisps
Peppermint Tea
Bendy straws
Dried prunes or apricots

Backup Bag in Car
3 x vests
3 x sleepsuits
1 x packs of nappies 
2 x packs Maternity Pads
1 x pack Breastpads
2 x T-shirt or tops for me
2 x bras
2 x vests
2 x PJ or soft trouser bottoms
5 x knickers
1 x black towel
Baby sling
Car park change
Gifts for/from new baby to DC#1
Car Seat

At Home
Shower sheet & dark blanket for sofa
Big pads for the bed

~~~~~~~~~
This is my list that I'm working through, its for CS so no tens or other useful items like birth ball or pool inner which I took last time.

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SunnyL Mon 13-May-13 13:15:55

A colleague gave me a great tip regarding food for DH. She said to make sandwiches now and pop them in the freezer. Then when you go to hospital get them out and put them in your bag. By the time they have defrosted DH will be getting hungry. This saves you having to either make fresh ones when contractions start or him having to go wandering through the hospital in search of food.

DontmindifIdo Mon 13-May-13 13:21:09

redwelly - good list! Also c section so will be in for a few days. (Particularly if last time I end up needing blood put back in)

I hadn't thought to pack a sling, didn't think I'd be able to carry baby in a sling for the first few days. Which is a very good point, I think they haven't made it down from the loft, better send DH back up there... Has anyone had a c section before? What sort of time frame is there for this sort of stuff?

The problem I have with a lot of things, they are last minute, such as makeup, phone charger (I don't have spares) - I think I might need to have a "grab if go in labour early" as well as a "night before check list".

Withalittlesparkle Mon 13-May-13 13:29:37

Sunny would that not just make for soggy sarnies?

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 13:53:35

I won't be able to use the sling for a few weeks but its more for DH because he has an issue with his neck and the sling will let him hold baby more, we have a close wrap rather than a crotch dangler type.

I'm going on my last big shopping trip tomorrow into town, my list is great but I certainly don't have everything on it!

DontMind I've a list printed of what is in a bag and what needs to go in, DH for all his minor faults is reasonably capable so even if I were to end up being taken in without bag he'd be able to sort it out. As long as toddler dd isn't annoying him!

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 13:59:20

Re snacks I think flapjacks are very good, sweets and sugary drinks are all very well during labour but afterwards slow release energy is whats needed. Plus oats stimulate milk production. I have bought some tubs of fruit in fruit juice, and making some raisin flapjacks today. Also got frusli bars and still lucozade for straight after.

I'm 99% serious about encouraging visitors to bring those incredible salads qnd fruit packs and fish and brie etc etc from M&S!

Olimoss Mon 13-May-13 14:09:05

Gina - oh these are my 'I'm feeling massively fat' trousers so they can get on and aren't tight around legs or butt but I can nowhere near get them done up....

Sarah2506 Mon 13-May-13 14:09:49

Whilst all this stuff is really useful I just can't see how I'm actually going to pack it all in and get it up there?! We won't be driving as the car park is a building site. So no car to leave stuff in. If I packed all your suggestions I would need a big suitcase or a couple of smaller bags. I can't see the hospital being thrilled if I turn up with either. DH can bring stuff in daily I guess, but does anyone have an absolute essential list?

Withalittlesparkle Mon 13-May-13 14:29:37

Sarah I think when it boils down to it, absolute essentials would be just yourself! but I think you'd be ok with just a few nappies, some baby grows, maternity pads and maybe a pack of wet wipes. My midwife has said not to worry too much all hospitals carry spares of pretty much everything.

Steffanoid Mon 13-May-13 14:30:38

maybe you could take a family sized suitcase, get them all wondering how long you're staying forwink

ginauk84 Mon 13-May-13 15:15:51

Thanks will have a word with midwife re: itching.

Re hospital bags I know some people have used the smaller wheely suitcases - hand luggage size ones - so may be an option?

I have packed cereal bars as thought they would be good energy wise.

SunnyL Mon 13-May-13 15:18:40

Sarah I managed to get everything into a small wheely suitcase at the weekend. I had a short stay in hospital at 30 weeks and know it fits in the lockers at the side of beds. Looked like a massive list but magically it all fitted in the end.

Now concerned about soggy sandwiches so will do a dummy run. Surely it would be fine though? - I freeze bread all the time.....The scientist in me is off to experiment with DH's packed lunch......

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 15:25:22

I've frozen sandwiches before, does depend on the bread.

I do have an 'essentials' list, basically its what I have packed at the moment! But it does pack in small and it also depends on how easy it is for your DH or family to bring in extras. One thing I have been much much more careful about this time is ensuring everything is easy to find in babies room.

Also our hospital is outside of town so if you don't bring food with you the nice to eat options are limited.

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 16:14:09

Steff, the midwife I saw just said that some people turn up looking like they're going on a fortnight's holiday! Apparently our antenatal class on Saturday will give us tips about what to pack.

Baby B is still measuring 2 weeks ahead and apparently has very long legs. Which isn't a surprise as I have VERY long legs and DH's aren't short either, but not as long as mine. The midwife also said he's happy and calm as his heartbeat was 130 after a good poking!

We are still head down, but not engaged yet. Still time though.

And even better is that my blood pressure is as low as it has been all pregnancy. Shows that finishing work has benefitted me.

I've frozen sandwiches before too and they've been fine to eat. I'll see if DH wants to do that.

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 16:17:17

Oh, and my midwife asked if I was getting 10 movements a day as that's what they look for. I have loads more than that. Sometimes 10 in a minute! Good to know it is a low target for further on though.

Hawkmoth Mon 13-May-13 16:34:22

MrsBri... If the movements change you need to check it out. I would be massively worried if mine went down to ten movements a day after being a wriggler for so long.

It's not so much the number, as what's normal for your baby. Mine has a nice little routine, which I hope it sticks to when it arrives as it means I'll have a couple of quiet hours in the day time :D

Hawkmoth Mon 13-May-13 16:35:37

Oh and movements shouldn't lessen towards the end, they just aren't as 'dramatic'... Think squirming rather than kicking out.

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 16:41:57

Oh, I'd be first on the phone if the pattern changed too much, don't worry about that. If I think he's quiet now I'll do all the tricks to move him, but would call straight away if I didn't entice movement.

His pattern has changed over the last week or so, which freaked me out to start with, but I'm getting used to it now.

I can't imagine only 10 a day, it has to be said.

Wonder why I've just been told they do lessen then? You'd expect a midwife to know what she is on about.

learnermummy Mon 13-May-13 17:42:23

Urghh have been really grumpy this afternoon. Shouting at the kids to stop arguing, eat their dinner, get their shoes & coats on, find swimming kit, get in car etc etc. don't know how am going to manage this with 3 of them in a few weeks time!

pinkbear82 Mon 13-May-13 17:58:23

Has anyone else got shoulder pain? Mines my left shoulder, below the blade sort of the bra line. I've had it on and off for two weeks but the ache and pain is getting worse.
Did mention to midwife last week I felt as tho I had pulled my shoulder and she didn't say anything. But I am starting to wonder if I should go se the gp - lifting and stretching sets it off and I figure I'm going to be needing to do a lot of that soon without it hurting....

With movements my regular MW said they shouldn't get any less but the patterns and type of movement it likely to change. If worried phone and they would check. But at ante natal the MW there said it can get less as baby gets less room and depends on position for being able to feel the movements..... Guess it comes down to us and gut feelings on this one!

AlohaMama Mon 13-May-13 18:04:43

pinkbear, I get a lot of upper back ache now (between and below the shoulder blades), which I think is entirely due to having to bend over more to reach things. So things like washing up, preparing food, as I can't stand as close to the sink, I'm having to kind of lean forward. It is definitely much worse at the end of the day, or if I've been doing a lot of that kind of thing. Could it be something similar? If so, then once the bump is gone it should ease off.

pinkapples Mon 13-May-13 18:05:42

Wow sounds like everyone's had a busy day! I had midwife this morning got a shouting at for 'not noticing baby!' As I'm busy all day I don't notice her moving and I was told towards the end it is really important to notice any changes I said she moved in the evening (or at least I notice in the evening) so was ok she heard heartbeat I to am head down but not engaged yet grin talked about birth preferences/plan and said we weren't that bothered as one way plan or not this baby is coming out... I told her I'd like to have baby in the water but apart from that will just hope for the best grin

Think baby heard midwife tho as she has just started a nice little rib roll! Very uncomfortable!

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 18:12:39

Pink, I'd get the shoulder looked at if I were you. I've had impingement before and it's nasty, so it's better to get it looked at.

Regarding movement, probably best I'm a worrier then, isn't it?!

ella0 Mon 13-May-13 18:25:48

I'm lucky to feel 10 movements a day (anterior placenta). I felt more when she was breech as I could feel kicks low down, below the placenta, but now she's head down I feel even less.

In one of the antenatal classes, our midwife said said that you should feel the same amount of movement towards the end - even in labour - it's just more likely to be squirming from around now (over 36 weeks) rather than kicks.

learnermummy Mon 13-May-13 18:50:11

I've pulled something in my left shoulder too. Really want to put some deep heat on it but midwife says no hmm.

Steffanoid Mon 13-May-13 19:24:11

how you guys are still moving about getting in cars etc is beyond me, my mum has all but banned me from getting behind the wheel and doing anything, even got told if I need anything she'll come the 7 miles to me with things when she's really very busy with her stuff (she's an exam marker, ferries my sister about because she's too lazy to take herself anywhere and has got a startup business which were at a farmer's market for on Saturday and she's low on stock) so apparently im not even allowed to walk about 100 yards to the shop now, got growth scan on weds and got told either dp has it off or she's taking me! this is the woman who declared im pregnant not ill when I pulled the muscles in.my ribs and the pgp started!
have been told by her she thinks im close to being kept in on Wednesday if the dwelling in my feet (left one only) and hands hasn't gone down,
I think she might be more bothered than me!
can anybody tell im the baby in our family?

Hawkmoth Mon 13-May-13 19:38:09

I've banned myself from driving, it hurts too much to get in and out of my little car!

My parents have been away and are back tomorrow, not looking forward to telling them I've been signed off.

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 19:43:42

I'm ok driving if baby is back to back but when it sticks its bum in my ribs then its more challenging.

MW told me today that I have a front placenta? Thats nice to know! However I'm now under extremely strict instructions that any less than ten movements in twelve hours and its straight to delivery suite. Thing is I'm not certain I get ten batches of movement a day even on the busiest days.

I'm cancelling all things for this week (I can work from home three days) and seeing if intensive rest helps. If baby continues to have few movements MW agrees the ELCS will be brought forward. Fun.

So. Hospital bag priority tomorrow!

MrsBri Mon 13-May-13 20:18:26

I've not driven since November as I used to get the train to work and DH insists on ferrying me about when I need to go somewhere.

It got quite uncomfortable last week when baby dropped. Now he's bounced back up again I'm finding it more bearable!

I'm dreading the trip to the next town when I'm in labour though :-/

Hello everyone. I feel like I've missed loads! Just got back from our babymoon. It was a very wet weekend but luckily the hotel had a pool etc.
Anyone else getting bad swelling in feet? Mw says its just water retention but i'm struggling to wear anything other than flipflops which don't really work in the rain!
With regards to hospital bags. I have a small gym holdall for me & baby's changing bag for him.
Still need to pack snacks, clothes for me, notes and phone charger.

Steffanoid Mon 13-May-13 20:44:25

little miss my left foot swelled yesterday, glad I got dp to pay attention to normal size a few days ago and he'd said it was swollen, all I did was walk round the supermarket, had feet up and cool today and it's gone back to normal, id rather my feet go than my hands, haven't worn my rings for a week or two now...

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 21:01:24

I miss my wedding ring, feel very self conscious without it.

A tip I was told for swollen feet was a bucket of deep cool water (tummy tubs work well) which is more effective at reducing swelling than just a bowl. Something to do with pressure from deeper water.

MadameJ Mon 13-May-13 21:14:37

Evening ladies, how are we all doing? I had my final consultant appointment today and was congratulated on "being more pregnant than before" (DD was born just before 34 weeks) and I have being discharged, I am hoping that baby doesn't think this is a good reason to arrive soon!!

Is anyone else struggling with back ache? I am really uncomfortable today and feel so heavy that everything has seemed a strain, I am thrilled to still be pregnant but boy is it hard work being this large!

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 21:46:09

Congratulations indeed MadameJ! May you go onto term and a blissful healthy labour!

I'm 36weeks today. Blimey. It was only Saturday just gone that I realised I'd tipped into the 'slog' stage.

I find I get backache if I don't wear my bump support band or if baby is lying low.

MadameJ Mon 13-May-13 21:52:51

Ah thankyou redwellybluewelly thats what we are hoping for grin

I also miss my wedding ring hmm

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 22:06:59

Ok. Pregnancy nutty idea for tonight, thoughts appreciated, we have about six blankets from DC1 (but two are hers IYSWIM) so I wanted one DC2 can have as his/her own.

Its a wool cotton knit and I'm wondering about washing it then sleeping with it for the next few weeks so that when baby arrives it can be wrapped in something which is comforting. Apparently a baby can tell its mother apart from other people by smell very very soon after its born.

What do you think? Crazy lady talking?

pinkapples Mon 13-May-13 22:12:15

That is a nice idea that I'd not heard of before I wonder if it works?

SunnyL Mon 13-May-13 22:14:48

Dunno Red but it seems to be similar to the advice they give for introducing dogs! We've been advised to take a blanket or babygro home and put it in the dogs bed so she will be familiar with babys scent before it comes home.

Started reading the baby whisperer tonight. Its not horrifically new age-ish for me but i have snorted a couple of times in derision.

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 22:19:10

here is a link

My thought was that if baby and I were separated for any reason after the birth and didn't get that skin to skin then at least it would have my scent on its blanket.

redwellybluewelly Mon 13-May-13 22:23:38

I have to confess that three years after becoming a parent I have yet to read a parenting book. I like the Dr Sears website and I've picked up a few tips here and there from other people's copies but don't own one. All of them seem to have flaws!

Interesting about the dog and baby introduction, friends seem to have mixed luck with new baby and pets.

learnermummy Mon 13-May-13 22:43:03

We did that first time with our dog Sunny. Last one was home birth but she wasn't interested in the slightest!

It's a nice idea red. After my two were born I would often sleep with one of their comfort blankets then give if to them the next night to help them settle. Can't hurt to try.

pinkbear82 Mon 13-May-13 22:52:43

red you are right. babies can tell the different smell of Mum within a short time.something to do with hormones and milk production if I remember rightly. so I would think blanket/toy hugging a good theory! And a nice thing to do anyways.

my one remaining cat has become very demanding since her brother went awol. I brought a glass of milk to bed as I fancied it, went for a wee to come back and find her lapping out of the glass! no milk for me sad

cyclecamper Mon 13-May-13 23:01:36

Redwelly - I did do something similar when coming home. I've had the same squashy pillow in hospital for the week before birth, I leaned on it when giving birth and used it to support the baby for feeding in hospital. When we came home, I slipped the cover off it and lay him on it when he was being put in the pram or seat to make it familiar. If he'd had to stay on the neonatal ward I would have tried to send it.

We got home on Saturday night. My husband and step son read through the entire boys section (out loud) of the baby name book that my sister brought when she came to collect us from the hospital. We decided on Thomas Nye - we will call him Nye and when he is older he can use whichever he likes.

He is still feeding pretty well, although quite windy. We are going to register him tomorrow. I am still really out of it - I can't get my brain together at all! We still don't have a matress - he's got a rolled up blanket, although mostly I fall asleep feeding him and he sleeps on my lap. He's such a little dot! It is like feeding a doll. smile

AlohaMama Mon 13-May-13 23:18:38

Congrats on getting home camper. Glad to hear it's all going well, and what a lovely name - I've never known any Nye's but I really like it. Good tip on the blanket/pillow case too, perhaps I shall start to sleep with something. As everyone says, nothing to loose.

SunnyL Tue 14-May-13 07:43:00

Awwww just opened up the iPad and the last search on google was 'Dad and baby activities in xxxx county'. Just made me go all warm inside the DH is thinking about these things.

4th last day at work today! Mind you if I spend as much time pratting about on the Internet today it's technically only 3 days left of work.

SunnyL Tue 14-May-13 07:43:54

Oh and cycle - cracking name choice. Not heard of a Nye round here but it is unusual without being bonkers. Kudos my friend!

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 07:48:59

oh Cycle - that's lovely! (I know a little toddler called Nye, although it's short for Aneurin - it's a Welsh name, and as in Aneurin "Nye" Bevan, the Health Minster who came up with the NHS - if you've got to have a celeb with your name, it might as well be one who did something truely fabulous to improve the life of millions of people over the years!)

AlohaMama Tue 14-May-13 07:53:10

Sunny glad I'm not the only one being totally unproductive at work. 'Worked' at home today, but got distracted by washing baby clothes, starting to pack the hospital bag, and looking up recipes for snacks to take to hospital (so far nigella breakfast bars and banana nut muffins). I just can't generate enthusiasm for work, especially because I know I'm leaving.

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 08:17:42

Morning!

Congratulations on going home, cycle :-) And a lovely name too. I know of a Nye, but just the one, and he's an older teenager, so not a recent naming.

Banana nut muffins sound amazing, Aloha. May look those up too.

I have to log into work today to get some statements finished. Boo! Won't take long, but I've switched off from work now!

Still lounging in bed for now though...I don't envy those of you still working at all.

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 08:24:23

oooh, banana nut muffins sound goood. which recipe are you using? (thinking of making some tomorrow afternoon)

Congrats on coming home, cycle smile Nye is a lovely name - I used to work with a Nye, he'd be in his 40s now I guess. Never come across another till now.

Redwelly - I swear that shoving a muslin or similar in your bra to sleep with helps settle LO, I used to do that when DS was in nicu, I'd forgotten about it till you mentioned it.

Today's job: finish packing hospital bags, I'm being admitted tomorrow night shock and still not ready. Got my final antenatal appt in a couple of hours, and I'm just hoping that I don't have to stay in for steroids - I'm not taking my hospital bag, just on principle grin

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 09:40:50

Congratulations on getting home cycle, love the name. We're still debating names here and after finding one we both kind of like we realised last night that DH's cousin's daughter has that name (and we share the same surname) so it's a no-go. Back to the drawing board...

Good luck tomorrow Rue. This is all getting a bit too real...

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 09:54:46

We had that problem, learner, though we don't share a surname, we didn't want to use a name already in use by my cousin.

If anybody is interested in getting sunglasses for baby, Pumpkin Patch has them in the sale with free delivery for today only. We've got pink and blue and will donate the pair we don't need to someone else. Or keep them in case number 2 is the opposite sex! At £3.99 a pair, they're a bargain.

www.pumpkinpatch.co.uk

pinkbear82 Tue 14-May-13 09:59:43

glad you are Home cycle and a lovely name!
Still debating names here. much harder via snail mail.... did consider telling dp I'd picked a really random name and I wasn't going to be persuaded other wise. figured may not be the best approach!

good luck rue, and fingers crossed you get home again today.

ever since someone mentioned flapjacks yesterday I've wanted to make some - I am pretending I've not seen anything about banana muffins today's delights!

last night possibly holds the record so far for getting up to wee, pretty much every 20 mins. proper Big wees too not silly ones. drove me insane. the cat wasn't best pleased either!

have good days ladies x

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 10:07:05

Yes, good luck Rue. Not long now!

Can't get over how real it's all becoming. Eek!

Goodluck today Rue.
Congrats on getting home cycle.
We still haven't picked a name, finding it very difficult.
Just looked thought all my recipe books as the mention of flapjacks and muffins got me drooling. I've looked through the books and decided that's all I have the energy for!

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 10:12:56

I had to make flap jacks yesterday after reading that too! They won't last till due date though smile.

Think baby has her first hiccups at the moment!

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 10:15:35

Ooh, I find hiccups disconcerting. I rub baby's back until they resolve!

AlohaMama Tue 14-May-13 10:17:38

I'm trying Dan Leopard honey nut banana muffins. I haven't used the recipe before so we'll see how they go. Prob not till Thurs or Fri though as next two days are in the office sad.

Pinkbear, debating names via snail mail sound hard work. Will you get to see dp soon, or not before baby arrives? Glad we already have the name thing covered having chosen it already in case ds was a girl. Mind you apparently its now the most common name in the world according to mnet baby boards but I'm ignoring that.

OK it's 11 pm here...back to sleep if I can manage 5 minutes without having to get up to pee again

pinkbear82 Tue 14-May-13 10:26:38

the thought that I could actually buy a flapjack and stop drooling has just struck me.

trouble is with dp he's 4 hours journey away sad transfer closer has been declined. it would have to be an overnight stay and I think I'd only get to see him for max of an hour. I'm not sure I can justify the expense and knowing my luck bubs would decide to make an appearance! plus actually seeing him and then having to leave again I think would break me

Steffanoid Tue 14-May-13 11:02:53

I bought one of those tubs of flapjacks a couple of days ago, they're calling me from the cupboard now.....

this may sound like a really silly question but im.a first timer and dont think.anyone's said before, how do you know it's your waters breaking rather than a small touch of incontinence? im presuming it doesn't smell like wee, it it clear, yellow, pink? I know if it's green or black thats bad but I dont know what's normal? and do you feel it from your bump? like would the baby jump about?

sorry if thats a stupid question hmm

Olimoss Tue 14-May-13 11:07:42

Excellent news Cycle, and I love the name......there's a little toddler across the street from us named NYE and he's very cool indeed.

Good luck Rue - ermagawd! Hope it goes the way you want.

My bump is SORE. And I can't now do much at all without it going tight. It's only softer when I'm sitting or lying down. Not heaps of fun. Think I must be looking truly enormous now as keep catching other ladies giving me sympathetic looks.....lord.

Two weeks today will be all CSectioned. Terrifying...!

Sunbeam18 Tue 14-May-13 11:27:11

Nye is lovely, cycle! Great choice! Xxx

ella0 Tue 14-May-13 11:56:47

Steffanoid, in our antenatal class the midwife said you'll know it's your waters as if you wear a pad after it happens it should carry on coming out over time (even if you get a gush rather than trickling) whereas if you wet yourself it would stop after it happens. She said that waters should be the same colour as wee (straw-like - if it's different we need to call the hospital), therefore the colour isn't much use in helping you judge and she also wouldn't recommend smelling it to see!

arlandria666 Tue 14-May-13 12:01:10

Just had a home visit from midwife baby is measuring over the 90th centile does this mean i will have a whopper lol?
Also she wrote on my notes 3/5th palpable does anyone know what that means?

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 12:04:16

I think it means you're halfway to engaged :-)

How far along are you now?

arlandria666 Tue 14-May-13 12:16:45

I am 36+5 oh heck its all getting a bit real lol x x

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 12:46:11

Lovely name cycle really approve!

Rue will be thinking of you and hoping all goes well with minimal stay on the ward and home swiftly.

As nobody thinks I'm totally bonkers I've tucked baby's blanket up in bed with me for tonight. Rue we couldn't leave anything in dd's crib in NICU, but I carried her first babygro with me everywhere until she came home. Managed to find baby a cuddly today, almost spent an absolute fortune in M&P but remembered people may want to buy gifts and theres very few things we need.

Baking banana cake today and washing all the new baby fabric toys. Hqve decided to take tomorrow off work but send dd to nursery so I can tear through the house and organise. It is impossible to do anything at all with dd in tow!

ginauk84 Tue 14-May-13 12:48:15

cyclecamper I love the name Nye, that's lovely, congrats on being home!

Good idea about the blanket etc, I might start to sleep with baby's comforter that way it smells of me.

Re: waters our MW said they would be clear with specs of white or red in. They could be lime green which means baby has been stressed and emptied it's bowels at some point in pregnancy or dark green which is bad news as it means baby is stressed there and then and has emptied it's bowels. She said it's very important to take note of the colour of waters and to wear a towel.

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 13:21:01

Arlandria - that means the baby's head is 3/5th's engaged - so down and getting ready to go!

Right, I'm struggling, I just walked down to our local village area for a wax, then to the butchers and then home, about 3 miles in total - and my hip went on the way home - oh god I'm shattered! MIL is due here in half an hour to help me do some jobs, I just want to watch crap on TV and not entertain or do anything, if she's busying herself (she was going to clean our stairs with her carpet cleaner, I can't lug it up and down the stairs) I feel I should be doing something too, not just sat on the sofa feeling sorry for myself. sad Hopefully half an hour will be enough of a rest (but the chocolate is in the kitchen, I really want some but not sure I can walk there! this is a crisis). Oh and my washing machine has died.

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 13:43:28

Palpable doesn't equal engaged does it?

I was trying to figure this out last night and get extremely confused. 3/5ths engaged = 2/5ths palpable doesn't it?
And fully engaged means 5/5th engaged or 0/5th palpable? Need a midwife.

Reason I was trying to figure this out was because my consultant uses 'engaged' and MW uses 'palpable', I had MW yesterday and consultant a fortnight ago and was trying to work out from my notes if baby was getting more wedged in or less.

Not sure I'm any less confused now.

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 14:18:55

I think you're right red. Can't make head nor tail of my notes so no idea if baby engaged at all or not. From memory it doesn't make a lot of difference as to whether they're coming soon or not.

arlandria666 Tue 14-May-13 14:34:29

I am in no hurry for baby anyway he can cook til he is ready for me i just didn't know what it meant that's all i would like to enjoy my time off before he comes anyway only my second day off :-)

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 15:23:22

arlandria thats exactly why I was trying to figure it out too! I officially have two more weeks, finish on the 24th May and baby being delivered by ELCS first week of June as long as it behaves itself.

Toddler being surprisingly cooperative this afternoon so busy tidying and cleaning playroom. Just had three BH in a row so decided to have a sit down. Promptly.

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 15:37:31

If it helps i've just looked back through my notes from last time and baby was 3/5 palpable at 36 weeks, but didnt' arrive until 42+2! Hopefully that won't be the case for you arlandria.

SunnyL Tue 14-May-13 16:15:23

I think there is clearly something to be said about going on maternity leave. My diplomacy when dealing with numpty colleagues has completely gone out of the window. i.e. those that send me shit rubbish and ask me to comment on it are getting rather more truthful replies than they normally do. Clearly they will realise not to ask me if they want a less than truthful answer. Maybe I'm not the only one counting down til Friday! wink

Sunbeam18 Tue 14-May-13 16:25:58

Today we decided to get a cleaner - joy beyond compare!!

arlandria666 Tue 14-May-13 16:32:37

learnermummy if he wants to stay in that long he can lol i am getting worried about the whole giving birth thing anyway eeeeek!
Ideally would like some time off as i am using up annual leave before i start official maternity and if he comes early i will lose my holiday pay and money is a bit tight for us so it would make quite a difference to how i have planned finances out BUT i am sure when he is ready he will come without giving a second thought to my annual leave lol :-) as long as he is healthy i don't mind :-)

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 16:35:12

sunbeam after tidying almost all day and nearly doing myself an injury I hadn't the energy to clean! Which led to me thinking long and hard about the need for a cleaner, even just 3 hours a week for three months.

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 16:39:29

Sunbeam - yay! however, I need to get over my angst about being in the house at the same time - normally she's come when I've been at work, so now I have to find things to do on her normal visit times...

Arlandria - surely if you have holiday leave left over at the end of the 'holiday year' (ours is Jan - Jan, but I know a lot of companies are Apr - Apr) you'll be paid out for the days you've not used? So you'll lose the time but not the money, might be worth checking the situation with your payroll department. (I'm off early because I decided I wanted the time more htan the money - I officially start mat leave next week, although I've already been off for a couple of weeks)

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 16:41:01

Oh and redwelly, we're keeping ours 3 hours a week until August, then I can't afford it to be weekly so it's dropping to fortnightly, I fear our house will get a lot messier with crusty stairs (I don't do hoovering stairs, I know I should but I hate it) from September onwards...

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 16:42:04

I would love a cleaner and have had one in the past, but just get very stressed about having to have the whole house tidy the night before! Silly really.

AlohaMama Tue 14-May-13 17:02:17

Can I have one please?? I always said to dh that whenever I got pregnant we'd get a cleaner, but at that point we hadn't banked on living in one of the most expensive places ever. Oh well, maybe one day. Meanwhile I'd like to drop hints to dh that cleaning is getting quite difficult for me, but his 'to do' list for getting the house ready to sell is long enough, I think I'd rather have him do that.

Pinkbear - sorry I hadn't realised you weren't going to get to see dp at all. In which case I guess snail mail is your only option. Good luck choosing a name.

Had the freakiest pregnancy dream this morning. I dreamt I was at work showing people how I could feel all the toes inside my bump (which I can't by the way) when I started feeling something on my shoulder. Looked down and the baby had pushed her hand out of a hole in my shoulder. Went to the doctors, freaking out about who was going to look after ds now that dh is away on work, but they said not to worry i just had to keep pushing her hand back inside and she'd be fine hmm.

Steffanoid Tue 14-May-13 17:10:14

aloha thats one weird dream!

pink do they not have ny internet privileges where you could name discuss via email? it is crap they wouldn't transfer him closer considering your situation, do you know anyone on the way to that prison so you could stay there and keep costs right down?

im quite lucky on the cleaning front, it's only me and dp and the dog at the moment and dp is really good at doing the cleaning, just asks what needs doing, as I said a few days ago my dmum is not letting me do.anything and neither is he, he even did a tub of grated cheese for my sandwiches at lunch in the fridge cause I can't grip things properly with my hands and it took me a stupidly long time to cut cheese a few days ago

learnermummy Tue 14-May-13 17:21:24

Ahh Steff what a thoughtful OH you have smile.

MrsBri Tue 14-May-13 18:04:56

Sunny, I got like that just before leaving, especially as I wasn't in the office to see the people I was emailing. I hate stupid questions!

I couldn't cope with a cleaner as I'd have to clean before they came! I now do one task a day instead of it all at once like I was doing pre-leave.

Steff, my DH does that kind of thing for me :-) Aren't they lovely? Are your fingers just swollen or is it something else? Sorry if you've already said, my memory is crap :-/

Had only my second nap of the pregnancy today. Felt shit when I woke up, reminding me why I usually battle through! Only just woke in time to call a client at 4.30, as arranged. Oops!

Aloha, you win the prize for the weirdest preggo dream yet. Bit trippy that one!

pinkbear82 Tue 14-May-13 18:11:29

I stupidly quite enjoy cleaning - and the good thing is now I can't do it to obbsessive levels so it's a good learning curve for me! mind you only me to yell at now if I find something out of place.... and the dog for muddy footprints. lol

it's hard with dp, he managed to call today for 2 mins which then led to an emotional teary time in m&s getting my salad. have been very teary ever since. the one thing I'm struggling with him not being around are the first photos in hospital, no idea why but that breaks me every time I think about it.
Still everyday that passes is a day closer to him coming home. And there are far worse off people out there, I just have to stay strong and make the most of it.

ginauk84 Tue 14-May-13 18:38:20

Re: annual leave do they not carry it over for you? Our year runs from
April-March, am taking 5 days leave then start ML on 17th June which will last till 17th June next year. Then am tagging on the annual leave left from this financial year onto the end of my maternity - could you not do that?

Pink it must be hard for you can't imagine how you feel but I guess it won't be for long in the great scheme of things - just bad timing!

I don't really mind cleaning either, have thought about a cleaner but I don't think I could trust a stranger in my house?

Steffanoid Tue 14-May-13 18:46:37

Mrs bri- called triage last week and they said something about carpal tunnel and to go the docs, however my docs is a waste of space, see consultant and growth scan in the morning so will ask then, they go a bit tingly and I cant curl them properly :s couldn't open a bottle of pop earlier

dp is being very good, told him I felt like shit in my head ( I have depression) so he took me to pick a magazine and get chocolate grin

pink at least you're gonna be able to get pictures and send them to him - not tge same I know but it's something, and you're just gonna have to have more babies that hes there for the pics and threaten to hurt him if he's not there next time

arlandria666 Tue 14-May-13 21:16:47

steffanoid my hands and wrists have been terrible too i can't open a bottle of pop or even carry a really light bag without pain and uncomfort :-( i have been given splints to sleep in but they haven't really helped i just hope it goes once baby is here! At the moment i don't even dare have a bath without dh being in the house cos worried i wouldn't be able to push myself up hope you get some relief or answers tomorrow x

DontmindifIdo Tue 14-May-13 21:26:22

ginauk84 - check with your HR, as I understand it, they have to honour all the holiday you've acrued during your maternity leave, but that means you can be paid out for it rather than actually have the time added onto next year's annual leave (if you see what I mean) - my company gave me a choice last time because with DS I was due back in December (and our holiday year was Jan to Jan) - a 13th month off and be paid for it, or come back after 12 months with an extra month's pay in my January pay.

However, this time, I would either get to use the time for Jan 2013 to Jan 2014 before i went off, or I'd get paid any holiday I hadn't used for that holiday year at Jan 2014 payroll, but at the end of my mat leave in May 14 I could tag on the holiday I'd acrued from Jan 14 to May 14 - an any of the rest of my Jan14-Jan15 holiday leave I want to (but that would mean I have no more holidays for the rest of that year).

This is the legal minimum they have to do, I think most companies are more flexible so it's worth checking but up until a week after I stopped working we had a right cow in HR who was made redundant the week I left, rather glad i won't have to deal with her if/when I return

Steffanoid Tue 14-May-13 22:36:12

arlandria it's crap isn't it, feel like a proper invalid, I've gone absolutely huge as well, baby is way above the 90%ile and my hips are bad with pgp so have been dead bad at being able to get up anyway, couldn't figure how to get out of the bath a few weeks ago, got myself on all fours and nearly gave up haha, got stuck.on the floor on my back last week after retrieving a rogue dog toy keep managing to get myself into silly situations maybe thats why mum and dp know to tell me not to do anything

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 22:44:15

Those whose babies are measuring on 90th centile is that with the scan growth measurements or with the MW bump measurements?

Cos I'm measuring 38weeks, two weeks ahead, MW estimates a 'good size baby', whereas the hospital growth scan (which took ages) puts baby at a slightly under 50th centile and predicts baby will be on or under 7lb. Given dc1 was predicted by MW to be 8-9lb and arrived at 42+2 weighing under 7lb I have no idea what size babygro's to pack!

Steffanoid Tue 14-May-13 22:51:50

mines both, they're measuring along the same curve, I like consistency and have apparently got a huge baby but one that stays on the lines, I go alternate to the me and hospital although had a referral for a scan 2 weeks ago due to lack of movements and another scan rather than fundal tomorrow, im wondering just how much more he's grown at this rate he might not even fit into the up to 10lb clothes!

redwellybluewelly Tue 14-May-13 23:16:39

See your baby is clearly cooperating!

Mine seems destined to be awkward, I'm going with the scan measurements I think.

grainmum Wed 15-May-13 07:27:58

good morning ladies! Pram just arrived, furniture yesterday...eek!

SunnyL Wed 15-May-13 07:28:42

Morning.

Has anyone else noticed their movements getting more muffled? Baby is clearly moving but its much less obvious i.e. I havent clutched my tummy and called baby a 'cheeky bugger' in at least 5 days. I keep getting myself in a tizz because i think baby isnt moving - it is its just less obvious as i'm used to being a punch bag rather than having a wriggly eel in there.

ginauk84 Wed 15-May-13 07:29:50

dontmindifido the annual leave was in response to arlandrias post. I know my HR policies and am tagging this years left over annual leave onto the end of my maternity, that way I have over a year off - hoorah! The thought of going back after a year is scary though - will have to relearn my job I think!

Sunny I have read that it is to be expected. The number of movements shouldn't reduce but they shouldn't be as strong. Not happening here though lo still enjoys hurting me.

MrsBri Wed 15-May-13 07:41:22

Sunny, some of Baby B's movements can only be seen not felt now, which is odd. I'll wonder why there's no movement, look down and my belly is all over the place!

Other times he's still going a bit mental with big turns and pushing. As he loves his feet being tickled we get those thrust at us loads so we oblige! We can sometimes play for an hour or so, which I love.

But yes, in the main the movements are definitely more muffled and wriggly.

Grain how exciting! We get ours this weekend!

Steffanoid Wed 15-May-13 10:01:59

just back from my 36 week ultrasound growth scan, can see baby punching away but can't feel it which is odd, caught a good profile of him which was lovely, current est weight of 8lb 14oz which is fucking huge a bit big, consultant kinda went yeah you're not gonna have problems having this baby, I know you're trying to reassure me but smirking when you say that makes you look sadistic angry

maisiebeem Wed 15-May-13 10:08:44

Oh Gosh Steff - that is big for 36 weeks, I had mine yesterday, predicted weight was 6lb 8oz! so I know I have a mini one on the way!Just wondering (we may have already talked about this) what are people doing about a Baby Monitor? I haven't found the reviews I've read so far to be that useful, they are sooo mixed!
Should I get one with a video? motion sensor thing? so many options!
Advice please ladies!

MrsBri Wed 15-May-13 10:18:16

Steff, my niece was that weight at 37 weeks when she was delivered by ELCS. Scans have been known to be wrong though. Hopefully your little one will be smaller than the estimates :-)

That is exciting about your pram, grain. Ours comes next Tuesday. I've surprised myself by saying I don't want it in the house. Odd, as I'm really not superstitious! It's being delivered to the in laws' house anyway, so we will just retrieve the car seat and mattress and collect the pram later!

Steffanoid Wed 15-May-13 10:40:50

here's hoping he is around that weight at birth, that I can cope with, glad this is a bit more accurate than the fundal measurement cause thats showing about 500g more today, he does look rather long, im still doubtful im going to get to term, but knowing my luck I'll be sat here at 40+10 cursing the.little huge man

Hawkmoth Wed 15-May-13 10:44:27

I had a late growth scan with DS. It was 25% out. They told me eight pound odd, he was six pound summat! But he did have very long legs and comedy big feet!

SunnyL Wed 15-May-13 10:47:07

Holy moly Steffanoid. Suprised you can still walk with that little monster inside of you!

We get our pram on Monday - sometime between 8am and 8pm and they can't tell me when in that time slot it might come. I hope it comes earlier as I'll have a mental dog on my hands if I can't get out during the day. I'm also a bit superstitious - we have agreed it can sit in the garage until baby comes although I may have to practice putting the damn thing together a few times.

Wrt baby monitors we ended up getting video because the cost of them was practically the same as the standard audio ones. We've actually got one with 2 video cameras so contemplating setting one up over the dogs bed too so we can see when she is misbehaving or has stolen all of baby's toys.

Maisie mothercare have some on offer atm.
We went for the TD350 (I think) by Tomy. Recommended by a couple of friends. Not got video but meant to have great sound quality and has a room thermometer which was important for me.
I have a few friends that went for one with the mat underneath baby. One friend swears by it but most of my friends said it caused them lots of unnecessary stress and worry.

pinkbear82 Wed 15-May-13 11:41:44

morning ladies - my buggy arrived last week. a very excited granddad to be helped me put it together and gave it his seal of approval! it's now in the garage - with a cover over it to keep it clean, said granddad was very particular about this. I find every time I see it I just want to take it out, figure probably best with baby actually in would prevent the neighbours talking more than they are already! wink

Baby monitor was something I'd put in dp care.... so now I think I'm going for the bt one that has the light show, lullabies and room temperature feature. seems to save the potential for buying lots of separate things that no doubt we'd get caught up with and still has the useful feature of being able to hear bubs. if that makes sense. Mother care has some money off it at the moment too!

I've just finished hovering, Sat on the sofa with a drink to do this and have just turned round to see stupid dog has brought in a clump of wood and is making a huge mess..... can I sell Dogs on eBay?!

Blimey Steff yours is giving my LO a run for his money! grin My growth scan at 36+2 was estimating over 8lbs, but not quite that much.

Mind you, DD was estimated at "no bigger than 8lbs at birth" in her final growth scan, she turned up at 9lbs 8oz! I'm fairly confident they're just guessing to keep us entertained wink

Been and bought some newborn babygros and crib sheets this morning, so just need to work up enough energy to actually finish packing my bag before I go in to hospital tonight... Bought loads of snack food too, hope the hospital don't get offended by it all grin

learnermummy Wed 15-May-13 11:58:13

Pinkbear we had the BT monitor previously and it was great. Honestly though you don't need the lullabies etc, the basic model is fine. The room thermometer was never particularly accurate and we never used the music on it. Ours didn't have a light show.

Good luck Rue. Must go and buy some crib sheets myself.

Olimoss Wed 15-May-13 12:16:29

We got the Angelcare monitor - it has a sensor thing you can use if you want (we are not convinced it will be used) and no video but came recommended (by friends ans also in Which) and has the room temp thingy too.

Didn't know a thing about not keeping the pram in the house, ours has been sat in the dining room for th last two weeks! Oh well. Shall keep on with the zen, pragmatic approach have been trying to achieve so far and see how it goes, I guess!

We had supper with our NCT group last night, was really nice, only one baby so far of 8.....but a lot due from now and over next two weeks so guess a boom is on way.

At last scan 2 weeks ago we were told estimated birth weight of 7.5-8lbs....shall soon see, I guess!

Sore bump continues, sadly. Things v uncomfortable but only 2 weeks to go, am sure can make it. It's just weirdly numb from belly button down....do you think I should ask the ,idwofe about it when I see her on Friday?

Last day in office tomorrow - will be weird, as have been working without stop since I was 14.5yrs, (holidays excepted) and as a self-employed person I don't know what I'll be doing next....

Right, gotta run, need to escape the house before the cleaner arrives. Like someone said earlier, I still get embarrassed (even tho she's amazing and lovely and I'd marry her in a second) to be here when she's working. And I heartily recommend you get a cleaner in, even if only for a couple months or so - you've no idea what kind of birth, baby or recovery you'll have and not having to worry about hoovering, dusting and scrubbing the dunny bowl will deffo be a load off.

Have aces day, all!

redwellybluewelly Wed 15-May-13 12:36:51

I left the choosing of the monitor up to DH last time and ended up with an all singing all dancing BT monitor. Never used any of the extra functions at all!

We're still hoping to get a video monitor with split screen to watch both children, but DH hasn;t found the deal of the century yet hmm

Must be something in the air - I bought more crib sheets yesterday! I've asked DH to do the ironing of all the muslins and cot/crib/pram sheets - fortnight later still waiting! I keep ironing bump when I try - plus it was written into our marriage contract HE irons!

Steffanoid Wed 15-May-13 14:26:04

very crampy this afternoon sad have figured out that if I put pressure om the right side of my bump where his back is then I can move the baby across, it's damn freaky!

redwellybluewelly Wed 15-May-13 15:39:09

Mexican wave baby!

I have finally packed my hospital bag, in terms of urgent admission. I'll finish it off and the car boot bag as and when I finish work. My day off to get 'everything' done hit a brick wall earlier after I left my purse at home. Thankfully I checked before I filled up with petrol!

Hope you're ok Sam and Rue that you're cool calm and collected!

Don't know about cool calm and collected! More like ostrich syndrome, 5 hours before I have to be at the hospital and my bag still isn't packed...

In fact I've still not decided which bag I'm taking...

<la la la la la> it'll be fiiiiiiine!

pinkbear82 Wed 15-May-13 16:45:37

hahaha Rue I'd so have been the same as you if I hadn't been forced into packing! best of luck and look forward to updates as and when.

I'm still waiting for negotiations with the stork on when is convenient for delivery. they are clearly busy and communication is hard.

good tips on baby monitor - wiat a few other options.

just had dp girls round with the in-laws for an after school visit. they've reassured me bump hasn't got massive as they thought I would be 'well big' considering at about 23 week's they told me I looked like Winnie the pooh I'm taking this as a good sign!! smile

(have a feeling this may have an odd look to the post phone went a bit crazy - apologies if that's the case)

pinkbear82 Wed 15-May-13 16:46:40

hmm will look at a few other options hmm

ginauk84 Wed 15-May-13 17:44:23

We have had pushchair in the nursery for a while - went with the iCandy apple cocoa special edition from eBay - I liked the brown polka dot and the shiny chrome frame smile

Re monitor we didn't go for one with the mat as everyone we spoke to hadn't got on with them and they had either gone off continuously which worried them to death or didn't work at all. We did want one with video so picked Motorola MBP28 Digital Video Baby Monitor when it was half price at Argos. Have tested it and we're pleased, does play lullabies too but won't be using that as don't want baby to rely on something to get to sleep.

SPD is bad today and can hardly move, will report for first time to MW tomorrow and hopefully get some Physio, am really wondering how I can cope with this for another 6-8 weeks though. Some people are being induced early and even though I don't wan an induction as want to use the MLU am beginning to think I wish they could do that with me as its only getting worse. I think mine has come on too late for them to really bother much about it though.

We had our bouncer come today, it's gorgeous: http://www.kiddicare.com/webapp/wcs/stores/servlet/productdisplay0_10751_-1_151096_10001

learnermummy Wed 15-May-13 18:26:28

That's lovely Gina. We've had a hauck chair in the past and it was great. Hope midwife can help with the SPD.

grainmum Wed 15-May-13 18:31:38

Rue all the best for tomorrow.

RedWelley I think I like the sound of your marriage contract. However I have to say I looked at the muslins and decided that they probably didn't need ironing. I try to do as little as I can get away with. although I do like freshly ironed clean sheets.

I too left monitor to DH - he liked to be doing something a bit techy. We went for just an audio one, tommee tippee without a motion sensor. Looks ok. My main concern is that the rechargeable battery doesn't die in a.couple of months.

Steffanoid Wed 15-May-13 18:33:56

good luck tonight rue! will be thinking of you,

irt prams we've got the mamas and papas Luna mix, with the carrycot and carseat to match, all lime green and matching change bag, fits perfectly in the mini,

Withalittlesparkle Wed 15-May-13 18:41:20

Gina I don't think they'll induce solely because of SPD! Have a look on the net for tips to manage the pain, things like avoid stairs etc is really helping me keep mine under control! I do have a physio appt booked though but I'll be almost 37 weeks by then so it hardly seems worth it

ginauk84 Wed 15-May-13 18:56:08

Hmm on other forums they have said they are being induced at 37 weeks due to SPD - perhaps there is something else as well then like high BMI or something.

Luckily we live in a bungalow so don't have to deal with stairs - so grateful for that! Just hate not being able to do anything, my poor dogs are missing their walkies!

Missy28 Wed 15-May-13 19:05:29

I can't believe I have only just found this thread and I'm due on 10th June!! I'm a first timer having a little girl who we have name Mila. I feel ever so scared! I've just packed both our hospital bags and her room has been painted. Furniture arrives Monday and my baby shower is this Saturday. But I'm soooooo scared!!

Gina I know a lady with 4 kids who has been induced early due to SPD. Hers is really bad, she's normally on crutches from the start of the 2nd trimester, and hard core pain killers too. Think her last induction was at something like 35 weeks, but it's not common and her consultant didn't like doing it.

The MW should be able to help though, even if just by providing stomach sized tubi grip (this is what I find most helpful!) or a support belt. Also exercises to help, and advice on how to move and positions for labour etc. basically keep your knees together at all times, and use a pillow between your knees in bed.

2 hours till I go to hospital - bag nearly packed now smile

MrsBri Wed 15-May-13 19:52:30

Good luck, Rue :-)

Good luck Rue

Sams4lo Wed 15-May-13 20:01:33

Just to let u all know had baby boy yesterday morning smile x

Olimoss Wed 15-May-13 20:09:06

Good luck Rue!

Welcome Missy, I think it's normal to be a bit afraid....

And congrats Sam!

pinkapples Wed 15-May-13 20:20:46

Good luck rue! Keep us posted as and when you can grin

Welcome missy you sound like me first timer due with a little girl I'm due the 11th June confused although I have a bit of that shared ostrich syndrome still working on reduced hours not sure when I'll finish hehe probably when my waters break!

Just got in with the dogs had a bath and now some sofa time I think after a long day of meetings with various people teaching me to suck eggs! Hope everyone's had a lovely day?

Congrats sam!

ginauk84 Wed 15-May-13 20:23:58

Congrats Sam, let us have your birth story when you have a chance smile

MrsBri Wed 15-May-13 20:29:44

Congrats, Sam :-)

AlohaMama Wed 15-May-13 20:31:46

Congrats Sam, hope you're feeling good and recovering well.

And good luck Rue.

And welcome Missy!

Had to re-read your post pinkapples. For some reason I read it as you getting in with the dogs during their bath. I had a strange mental image of a pregnant lady squeezed into a bath with her pooches confused. Think pregnancy is doing something funny to my brain.

Am feeling the need to go shopping, but I can't till after my baby shower, which is not till June 8th. then it will be a last minute Amazon purchase. mind you it's mostly 'nice to have' and we can survive without if she comes early. She'll just have to be slung as we won't have the double stroller.

Steffanoid Wed 15-May-13 20:38:06

I read it the same Aloha!

congrats Sam.thanks

I managed to convince dp to stop at waitrose on the way home for a mountain ahem some cake, got the craving after he said something about doughnuts so have pretty much cleared their shelves to put in my cupboard and wonder just how much bigger this little boy is going to get before he makes an appearance

redwellybluewelly Wed 15-May-13 21:03:54

I know people (my SIL) who have been induced due to SPD, there comes a point where it can occasionally cause additional problems in trying to deliver so its about weighing up additional damage vs risk of interventions.

Sam CONGRATULATIONS! flowers

I'm going to bed at half nine from now on, my comedy of errors has only got worse the last few days and I'm sure its tiredness, I get up with toddler at 6!

learnermummy Wed 15-May-13 21:52:48

I also read it the same Aloha!

Congratulations Sam!
Good luck Rue!
Welcome missy

My sling arrived today, along with my euan dream sheep - too cute! Nearly there now, just need to find a good deal on a birthing pool now.

Oh and I don't iron muslins either...

Thanks smile I'm in, waiting for some monitoring tonight on the maternity ward and will be transferred up to delivery at 6am, I'm first on the list for tomorrow morning. DH has been told to be back here by 7.30, so I assume it'll all kick off around then smile

Congratulations Sam!

And welcome Missy smile

arlandria666 Wed 15-May-13 22:59:00

Not sure if anyone will be able to help with this and sorry if tmi! When i went to get ready for bed tonight i noticed my knickers were quite damp and looked pink it wasn't like blood or thick pink but just like a pinkish stain?i have showered and put a clean pair of white knickers on to keep an eye on it is this normal at this stage? I am 37 weeks tomorrow x x

MrsBri Wed 15-May-13 23:17:41

Could be your waters going as they can have a pink tinge. I'd call your delivery suite to speak with someone. Better to be safe than sorry. And maybe wear a panty liner?

arlandria666 Wed 15-May-13 23:19:45

I have put a pad on mrsbri i think i will wait and see what's goes on there and then ring if anymore just shocked me when i was getting ready for bed :-(

arlandria666 Wed 15-May-13 23:55:54

I rang labour suite and she described it perfectly as looking like i had spilt rose wine in my knickers which made me chuckle! She told me to potter round the house for an hour and see if there is anymore i have to ring back in an hour guess it is better to be safe than sorry

AlohaMama Wed 15-May-13 23:56:17

Hmm Arlandria I guess you have to see if it stops or carries on, plus ring to get advice.

It seems like there's babies just being born every day right now. Frankly I find it a bit scary and it's not helping with my denial. I have to keep reminding myself I'm a bit behind most of you lot (only 34w3d) so I probably have a bit of time yet, but it doesn't stop me getting panicky! Too much to do before this baby arrives.

AlohaMama Wed 15-May-13 23:57:46

Opps cross post. Glad you got advice arlandria. I'm still awake (only lunchtime over here) so I'll keep watching to see if you have any more news wink.

Oh and very exciting Rue, looking forward to hearing the good news tomorrow smile

arlandria666 Thu 16-May-13 00:16:00

I thought you might be the only one awake AlohaMama i did get in bed before i rang but knew i wouldn't get any sleep so rang anyway i am a worrier at the best of times.
I have left DH in bed cos he will get in a flap for no reason lol.
So far nothing else has happened apart from i have been for a wee about 4 times its all this pottering the midwife told me to do the more i walk around the more i need a wee the joys of being pregnant hey :-)

AlohaMama Thu 16-May-13 00:23:56

Know how you feel on that. Every time I stand up (for any reason) results in a trip to the bathroom. Which is usually unnecessary - I guess it's just the pressure.

Well hopefully once you've finished pottering you can go back to sleep!

arlandria666 Thu 16-May-13 00:43:23

I have got to ring again at 5 in the morning and they might make me going in tomorrow just to check it wasn't my waters going i don't think it was it didn't seem that much but glad i rang though because i wouldn't have slept a wink otherwise.
Going to try and get some sleep now

SunnyL Thu 16-May-13 01:17:01

Why has no one written a love song to Gaviscon yet? Seriously if it wasnt for Gaviscon i don't think i'd be getting any sleep at the moment.

Wondrous stuff. Night night!

SunnyL Thu 16-May-13 01:20:46

Oops just saw all the activity above. Whoop - excited for you all and thankful my little one is showing no signs of moving

redwellybluewelly Thu 16-May-13 01:40:23

Bloody insomnia.

Rue fingers crossed!
Arlandria sounds like things could be on the verge of occurring, hope you're one of the sensible early bag packers?!

I was fast asleep, DH on night duty with toddler, woke up to have a wee and realised it was toddler having a bad dream which woke me. By the time I'd settled her and had a wee I am wide aqake but shattered. Sigh.

arlandria666 Thu 16-May-13 06:01:21

Nothing else happened phew!
Hardly slept and had crazy dreams when i did lol! Redwelly my bag is packed although last nite i did double check everything lol!
37 weeks today so the boy is classed as cooked :-) just hope he stays in a little longer i have got a hair appointment this afternoon already rescheduled 3 times cos been admitted to hospital each time i have booked it!
Anyway now i have spoken to the midwife on labour suite i am off to see if i can get a little bit of precious sleep :-)

learnermummy Thu 16-May-13 07:45:46

Hope you manage your hair appointment arlandria smile - must book mine!

MrsBri Thu 16-May-13 07:52:20

That's good news, Arlandria. Dud they give a possible explanation? Here's to making your hair appointment.

My hair is being done at 36+2, so that cut will take me through to even after induction, if I end up going that far!

Hoping Rue is OK as she should be in theatre now. So exciting and scary all these babies arriving now.

We need to set up a Facebook (secret) group or something so we can share photos of the little people! :-)

Rue's is baby number 5 from June, which isn't too bad as some months had loads of early, with some seriously early, babies.

Who is next? Or next that we know of? Is it Oli? Though no doubt we will have others before then!

maisiebeem Thu 16-May-13 08:16:27

Thinking of you rue! Glad everything's ok arlandria, and welcome missy!
And thank you everyone for monitor advice!
I am being induced a week today, but I'm sure more people will pop them out before then! The midwife and consultant have said they'd rather I went into labour naturally (being induced at 37+1 due to Obstretic cholestasis). So husband is goin to be getting unlucky! And I have upped my dosage of raspberry leaf tea!
I had another hospital appt on Tuesday where they found blood and protein in my urine, and higher blood pressure than usual- hopefully blood test results will come back ok! I can't imagine what it feels like not to worry! And I know once little ones here, the worrying will never stop! Joy!
Happy Thursday everyone!

Sarah2506 Thu 16-May-13 08:55:13

My hair is absolutely dreadful at the moment, was wondering how late I could leave it to get it coloured, cut etc before baby comes. Have gone with next Friday. That's 37 weeks. I reckon after that I might be less keen on venturing into central London.

So far I am finding maternity far more stressful and knackering than work. While at work I had distractions and a routine. Now I just feel a bit useless and lethargic and in desperate need of intelligent conversation. I get far more tired from inactivity than from doing stuff so trying to gym, swim or at the very least walk a few miles everyday.

My sleep has now really gone to pot. Fall asleep exhausted but awake for first wee at 3am and then never seem to get proper sleep after that.

Is anyone going to brave a pre baby wax? I can't reach to even perform a basic tidy. By the time I'm cooked its going to be blowing around my knee caps...

learnermummy Thu 16-May-13 09:10:32

With all my swelling and varicose veins down there don't think I'm going to risk a wax Sarah! Will have to try and perform a basic tidy or else convince myself that it must look fine!

Feeling so lucky that I'm sleeping fine and have no heartburn issues.

Penultimate day at work today, yay!

MrsBri Thu 16-May-13 09:17:37

Midwives aren't bothered about a, ummm, tidy lady garden apparently. Just want you to be clean, and especially to have clean feet!

I was contemplating mine in the mirror this morning and trying to work out how to make it look acceptable in my eyes. Decided I can't!

cyclecamper Thu 16-May-13 09:36:45

Good luck rue!

A week after he was born, we were sitting in a and e with Nye. He's now on the neonatal unit with severe jaundice. He's under the lamps and if they don't work he'll have to have a blood transfusion sad

maisiebeem Thu 16-May-13 09:42:19

Oh cycle, thinking about you and your gorgeous boy. How long will they keep him under the lamps for? Sending Nye get well soon thoughts, and you brewflowersx

pinkbear82 Thu 16-May-13 09:43:48

good luck rue!

cycle sending hugs to you all. fingers crossed the lamps work.

hope all other little ones stay put for a bit longer and everyone has a good day x

Hawkmoth Thu 16-May-13 09:45:39

Hugs cycle. Both mine had jaundice and it's horrid.

MrsBri Thu 16-May-13 10:05:50

Best wishes and good luck to you and Nye, cycle.

Those lamps are amazing bits of kit. I'll keep my fingers crossed. Xx

learnermummy Thu 16-May-13 10:32:46

Sending hugs cycle. Hoping those lamps do the business. With my first I had to breastfeed him with a uv paddle up his back.

Steffanoid Thu 16-May-13 10:37:50

hope the lamps do their job quickly cycle! im sure everything will be ok thanks

I got stuck going into my mums house yesterday, she has a dog gate on her kitchen/living room and it's rather narrow, I now have to go through sideways and bump has a hard time getting through, in about a week or so I suspect I'll be banished to the wrong side of tge gate

hope everyone at work.chills today and everyone off work chill some too

redwellybluewelly Thu 16-May-13 11:31:33

Don't shave! Apparently according to the NHS guidelines now this can be an entry point for infection - trim with scissors by all means but keep the blades away grin

cycle I hope you are home quickly - have they checked liver function? The lamps can do incredible things very quickly so I hope things are looking up for you today.

Olimoss Thu 16-May-13 11:54:54

Oh good luck, Cycle...hope all comes good soon.

I'm due for CSection on 29 May so not sure if I'm next but it's starting to feel all a bit imminent. Last day in the office today....

I had another bash at lady-garden trimming yesterday - I totally recommend, again, the lady clippers and a mirror (and a stool), it does work, it clips down to short but not stubble so it's soft and very short but you don't get any regrowth issues like ingrown hairs or itchiness. So although it's not exactly stylish (!) it's all short and under control.

I have a Phillips brand one, I think, rechargable.

redwellybluewelly Thu 16-May-13 12:02:04

Also - 4 more days in the office after today - real issues reaching the desk now!

TMI Q - I think I smell of milk. Anyone else? I had a shower this morning, but I swear I smell of milky newborns hmm

DontmindifIdo Thu 16-May-13 12:29:22

Cycle - I hope Nye is ok.

Sam - how lovely! hope you are both ok!

Arlandria - good luck too! hopefully your little one will stay put for a little longer so you get your hair done.

I actually had my hair dyed and cut yesterday - last time round I had it at 38 weeks, waters went the following day!

Also re lady garden maintenance, had a wax on Tuesday - decided I'd rather cope with the pain than try to faff about doing it myself.

Cycle hope nye is ok.
I'm taking my car for a valet, don't think that counts as nesting though!

SunnyL Thu 16-May-13 13:29:30

Ooh lots of useful info on here today. Was thinking about getting some of that cream stuff for the old lady garden. Can't quite reach with the razor anymore. Has anyone used any of that Veet stuff since they were a teenager??

I've got 1.5 days left of work but only 0.5 days worth of work to do. Trying to come up with sensible things to do that isn't just sitting on the internet and twitter. Ideas anyone?

Sunny I've been using veet or what ever its called now and it's ok.
Can't see to shave and can't wait for regrowth for waxing as I swim a couple of times a week and it does the job. Stinks though!
With regards to work what about looking up recipes for things to make and then put in freezer for meals when lo arrives. Or have you got any more bits to buy? Any lists you can write? Anything you need to look at reviews for? All else fails get on Facebook and look at friends pictures, my favourite is wedding pics!!

learnermummy Thu 16-May-13 13:49:38

I like my lady clippers too Oli blush.

Remember someone recommending an app for tracking baby's feeds etc - Redwelly maybe?

Also, has anyone used one for timing contractions? There seem to be a lot available!

pinkapples Thu 16-May-13 14:16:04

Oh no cycle hope Nye is improving? Keep up posted - re lady garden I've taken over hubby's electric hair trimmer things that works lovely like someone has said keeps it soft not stubble and short and tidy grin

Still busy working away but it's lovely to read about all the babies being born now just want mine! I'm 36+2

On the hair debate I'm having mine done next Wednesday at 37+1 grin dyed and cut and hopefully looking beautifulgrin

SunnyL Thu 16-May-13 16:06:59

LittleMiss all very valid and probably highly useful activities I could do. Shame I'm not so totally immature and clearly too immature to have a baby I'm farting about on the internet and twitter instead.

Got a case of sausage fingers today - contemplating taking some of my rings off.

AmIGoingMad Thu 16-May-13 16:08:10

I did just attempt a catch up post but phone seems to have lost it!

Cycle- I hope that Nye is doing better now with some help from the lamps.

Sams- congratulations!

Rue- I hope all's going well!

AlohaMama Thu 16-May-13 17:00:24

Hugs to you Cycle and Nye.

Rue, good luck smile

Ah yes, 'gardening.' Tbh had forgotten about that down there, seeing as I can't see it. Will have to get dh to have a look tonight and do some pruning with the trimmers. I think I have Philips bikini ones, they're really good.

After today, only 4 weeks left at work - hurrah. Sadly suddenly have acquired a load of work to do before I leave. My plans to fritter away the time on fb/mnet/online shopping are thwarted. Mind you I'm not coming back afterwards so at least this time if I can't get everything done, I know it's not me who has to come back to work and deal with it!

arlandria666 Thu 16-May-13 17:39:21

Managed to get my hair done then got soaked in a massive downpour! At least its been cut tho.
Spent most of the afternoon on the sofa got really uncomfortable shooting pains in my bum cheeks :-( so glamorous this pregnancy malarkey lol.
Cycle hope Nye is improving xxxx

pinkbear82 Thu 16-May-13 17:49:32

Had quite a lazy day today altho did go out for a good hours walk.
I feel slightly like I was very optimistic when I booked my hair for the 31 May - I dyed it the other day, as Was looking awful and I'm sort of growing out one style (perfect timing I know!) so didn't want to book in too soon, but am now wondering if I should perhaps move it forward from being 39 weeks.

cycle hope Nye is doing ok and both you and Dh are too.

Rue hope everything has gone well.

Sam congratulations!

ginauk84 Thu 16-May-13 17:54:31

Cycle hope he is okay.

Had my 34 week appointment and midwife concerned am measuring small at 30/31cm but should only be 32cm so she calling me back next week. Hubby is stressing am not eating enough and feeding her well!

Also got a referral for SPD and took bloods to check I don't have OC. So bit of a bad week this week but am sure it's all fine!

redwellybluewelly Thu 16-May-13 18:11:15

I used an app called eat sleep poop on my android, will use it again this time as it was very useful for tracking length of feeds.

Didn't have a contraction timer, maybe ask in Childbirth?

I now have four more days at work officially. Colleague due week after me had baby last night, so I'm trying to finish off all my work extra speedily. BH back with a vengeance today after being at my desk all day. 50minutes until bath time.

Rue hope all is well x

Quick update (not read the thread!): Michael was born at 9.47 this morning, weighing 10 lbs 8 oz! shockshock He's bigger than anyone expected and looks a bit like a sumo wrestler grin

We're in recovery at the mo, doing well so far.

DontmindifIdo Thu 16-May-13 18:23:05

Congratulations Rue! Wow, that's big!

DontmindifIdo Thu 16-May-13 18:25:32

Sunny - for things to do at work tomorrow, why not do something that might be useful once baby arrives, make up sheets of labels of all the sort of people you will probably get gifts from and/or need to send photos of baby too - so family for both sides, good friends etc and then you can at least write your thankyou cards and just stick labels on rather than trying to find where you've got Aunty XXXx's address.

(even better, make a spreadsheet up, then do a mail merge, forward the spreadsheet to your home e-mail. V useful)

pinkapples Thu 16-May-13 18:30:58

Wow rue that's a rather big one! Hope I don't have to push one like that out confused glad your doing ok an baby is ok

redwellybluewelly Thu 16-May-13 18:43:07

Bloody hell Rue hes a HUGE boy!

MrsBri Thu 16-May-13 18:43:37

Wow! That's some size, Rue! Congratulations :-)

I love the choice of name too. Don't come across many Michaels.

SunnyL Thu 16-May-13 18:46:25

Wow Rue - you should get your photo in the paper for that effort!

And Don'tmind that's an excellent idea and I love spreadsheets.

Steffanoid Thu 16-May-13 18:47:42

wow rue congrats! glad im not the only one on track to have a big baby!

arlandria I had the bum cheek shooting pains also think I had a bum in my ribs earlier, felt almost like a stitch at the bottom of my ribs/lungs, I know it wasn't a stitch cause I'd been sat still like most days

got oh's little brother and friend visiting tomorrow for the weekend. even though I dont like them I can't wait cause they're taking me out for tea and doing a farmer's market with my mum on.Saturday morning which will be a nice break and people will be glad when I shut up about it on Facebook, till the next one

maisiebeem Thu 16-May-13 18:57:16

Welcome to the world Michael! Congratulations Rue! x

pinkbear82 Thu 16-May-13 18:59:10

wow Rue! congratulations - you cooked him well!! x

learnermummy Thu 16-May-13 18:59:15

Congratulations Rue! Good job they didn't leave him to cook any longer grin.

I was measuring 34cm at 34 weeks. Think they look into it if you're + or - 3 cm.

Olimoss Thu 16-May-13 19:16:23

Nice one Rue - congrats!

Congrats Rue!!
Guessing you don't need any newborn sized vests etc! I think even my upto 1 month are upto 10lb!!
Enjoy your newborn snuggles thanks

ella0 Thu 16-May-13 19:58:26

Congrats Rue!

MadameJ Thu 16-May-13 20:56:18

Congratulations Rue, hope you are both well x

AmIGoingMad Thu 16-May-13 21:03:08

Congratulations Rue! Well done you! Hugs to you both!smile

arlandria666 Thu 16-May-13 21:41:27

Congratulations rue and welcome to the world Michael :-D
Can't believe how many babies this June thread already has! Quite scary!

AlohaMama Thu 16-May-13 22:23:52

Congratulations Rue, fantastic news. I always say ds was big but his measly 9lb1oz pales into insiginificance! Hope you have a speedy recovery x

Just found out DH flight home is delayed sad. I was hoping he'd be back in time for DS bedtime, partly cos he misses his daddy and partly cos I'm over having to lift him in and out of the bath, and struggling with him to get his nappy and pjs on when he doesn't want to. Oh well at least he has no more travel booked so I can officially hand over all lifting/carrying duties from tomorrow.

Steffanoid Thu 16-May-13 23:20:57

seems like chronic heartburn is here for the evening, had a gaviscon, a Rennie and glass of milk, still here to stay it seems, usually it's a gaviscon before bed and im ok, but today is a different story it seems, ho hum

arlandria666 Fri 17-May-13 00:24:48

I am with you on the heartburn! I have had everything its so bad can't shift it!got midwife tomorrow will moan to her but will get nowhere! Not sure if to mention my painful bumcheeks lol she might think i have lost the plot lol

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 06:11:41

she might look at you like hmm
but dont worry mine had shooting pains yesterday morning too so must be common :-)

What a rubbish nights sleep. I swear I was awake more than I was asleep. Off out today with dh so can't even slob about all day.
Hope everyone is feeling better than I do

pinkapples Fri 17-May-13 07:13:09

My nights sleep was very interrupted too hmm and to top it off (not sure if pregnancy related or not) but have woken up with a sore geographic tongue

SunnyL Fri 17-May-13 07:32:12

Pink i'm intrigued to know what a geographic tongue is. Is it when half of it is in France and half of it is in Belgium grin.

I also had a funny nights sleep as DH tried to creep in at half 4 and woke me. Bloody shift workers!

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 07:43:16

I can't remember when I last slept well! I do this very annoying snorting in my sleep which wakes me up. I'm more exhausted after a week off work than I've ever been before. The highlight of maternity leave so far was lunch yesterday which went on till 4pm. That felt good!

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 07:51:02

Sarah, I've found that I'm utterly wiped out now I've finished work. But I'm wondering if it means I was forcing myself to work at the end and am now paying for it?

I'm still sleeping well though. After the one blip whenever it was that I needed a wee in the night, I'm still not getting up. The only times I wake are the 4-5 times I need to turn over, but I get straight back to sleep. The other night I must have got bored as I was turning as I then woke on my back a while later! Oops. :-)

I too am intrigued about a geographic tongue. Sounds very painful indeed!

Hawkmoth Fri 17-May-13 08:39:09

For me, geographic tongue is a sign of low iron. It's bloody awful isn't it?

Congratulations rue on your baby x

I also had another crap night's sleep. What's worse is, I'm starting to wake DH with all my hefting about, toilet trips and moaning at my pelvis. He's SO tired, and he does EVERYTHING round the house atm. Have urged him to sleep in the spare bed so he can actually rest but he won't have it sad Poor bugger.

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 09:41:15

Hawkmoth I think you need to have a long chat with your DH about sleep - especially before baby comes! It was extreme in our case because DD was so poorly but two years of sleep deprivation almost ruined our marriage because we were so so tired, can you sneak to the spare bed after he falls asleep? DH and I prioritise sleep over pretty much everything even though he takes it to extremes and uses tiredness as an excuse sometimes!

Night before last I had 6 solid hours sleep, felt incredible, last night got 4 hours then needed a wee, then awake for 45min then DD arrived in my bed at 6am exceedingly grumpy as she really needed another hour asleep. So I am mainlining coffee and munching bananas today!

I have almost constant (and extremely painful) heartburn now every evening

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 10:09:14

Final day at the office (and of a 12-month contratc, yay) completed yesterday - unparalleled joy at no more commutes involving buses, 3 train stations and 18 flights of stairs! Some leftover bits and pieces to do but all from home. Awesomes!

I am sleeping very mixedly - one night ok, another v badly. Only averaging one pee a night though. Weird. I'll take it!

Final community midwife visit today - have been very lucky to have the same, young, Scottish midwife all the way through, I shall miss seeing her.

I've been managing to keep heartburn under control with Rennies but some days they just don't work.

I think NewHuman's move,ends are definitely slowing dn and there's a very real sense that he's running out of room in there. I've still not become accustomed to seeing a foot or baby-ass roll across my stomach. It's just too alien....will be meeting him in 12 days. Woohoo!

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 10:09:52

Typo alerts. Bloody iPad. Def NOT my fault.

arlandria666 Fri 17-May-13 10:34:22

Woke up with a massive headache today took some tablets hope it shifts and hope my blood pressure isn't high when the midwife comes because she will send me in again and i have no one to go with me today :-(
Didn't sleep well so maybe that's why my head hurts so much just going to lay on sofa til she comes better turn the door bell up in case i snooze ha!
Feel worse this week after being off work all week than i felt from working! Madness!

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 11:05:06

It's very reassuring when others feel the same! One thing I did realise was that I have far less Braxton Hicks now I'm not at work, but I'm not sure if thats a good thing? Yesterday I overdid it and decided to walk from London Bridge to John Lewis on Oxford Street and then back to Kings Cross. Thats a good five miles and could have been done without drawing breath a month ago but yesterday wiped me out completely. I had a massive BH in the station and thought oh fuck this is it. Is it good to have them regularly or are they a sign things are not as they should be?

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 11:27:36

Sarah as I understand it BH can be a 'chill out you're doing too much' and they are worse after walking for me. Other triggers are a lot of bending or lifting, and not drinking enough.

Oli - I have an app on my phone which tells me how many days I have until meeting this baby face to face - hoping its an incredible moment for both DH and I

ella0 Fri 17-May-13 12:01:36

I'm sleeping horrendously, I'm definitely awake more than I'm asleep at night. Last night, I gave up trying to get back to sleep and got up properly for an hour as I feel sorry for my husband who has to get up early for work. It's not that I need the loo, I'm just uncomfortable and hate staying in one position (feeling pressure to sleep on my left side doesn't help) but it's not so easy to keep turning over now. My pregnancy pillows are just irritating me now and I'm hot all the time (when my husband is cold!).

I haven't had any Braxton Hicks (37 weeks now) but I drink a lot of water and I've heard that dehydration can be a factor in getting them. I am still exercising and keeping active, but that hasn't brought any on for me (again, I make sure I keep hydrated).

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 12:10:18

ella I didn't have any BH with my 1st pregnancy, this one however they've been constant.

My SIL had them with 1st and 3rd babies but not the 2nd.

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 12:20:15

I've not had any BH that I know of. I've had period type pain, but without bump tightening, so it can't be BH, it is just ligaments.

I've got Baby B hiccuping furiously in my bits and also waving his bum around, sticking his feet in my ribs. Ouchy!! Does anybody else find hiccups disconcerting?!

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 12:25:34

I say BH but I am using that as a label to describe what feels like period type pain. I'm not conscious of my bump tightening as such. It's difficult as a first timer I guess, you don't really know whats what!

I don't enjoy the hiccups much at all. Very weird movement!

Am contemplating driving to Muswell Hill entirely because there is a bakery there which does lovely biscuits. Is a 10 mile return drive warranted for a biscuit?!

ginauk84 Fri 17-May-13 12:26:31

I've been waking up at about 5am with pelvic pain and not been able to get back to sleep, we don't have a spare room (only the cot in the nursery!) and the sofa isn't big so don't have much choice on disturbing hubby when I am trying to throw myself over in bed without hurting lol!

I am 34 weeks and not had any BH yet, I too drink a lot, probably about 6-7 pints of squash a day so that may help.

Wow 10lb, how many weeks were you?

They wanted to refer me for a growth scan straight away as am measuring under 10% but they gave me benefit of the doubt and said come back next week. I wish they had just given me a growth scan as could have put hubby's mind at rest as everything is fine I'm sure.

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 12:27:15

It's warranted for many biscuits! :-)

I know. I'm a bit clueless as to what is and isn't BH too.

ginauk84 Fri 17-May-13 12:29:32

sarah oh yes what's wrong with driving 10miles for a biscuit! I went 20 mins away to our local beefeater just for some banoffee pie, lol! Just devoured a Greggs Caramel and Custard Doughnut - nom nom, hubby says I have to eat more and make her grow lots for next week!

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 12:35:38

im not sure what classes as BH either, been classing tge cramps and period pains, im lying on the sofa today and not planning on moving cause of the pain in my hips, also my right hand has gone itchy and a bit swollen, id really like to have a day where I can bend my sausage fingers and them not be swollen and sore sad

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 12:41:44

Describing it as a biscuit doesn't do it justice. It's two pieces of the lightest buttery shortbread, held together with home made jam, and dusted with icing sugar....

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 13:22:39

That sounds amazing, Sarah. I take postal biscuit deliveries! :-)

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 13:36:53

Frankly it seems no more ridiculous driving up to you than it does across London in Friday traffic to get a biscuit!

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 13:48:22

That's why you have to buy ALL the biscuits once you're there! Far more worthwhile.

How hormonal are you? Would you cry if they were out of biscuits on arrival?!

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 13:50:13

Ha, if it wasn't such an amazing bakery then yes, but there is lots of other good stuff. I would cry if it was shut though!

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 13:58:00

BH are 'practice contractions' so they do make bump go rock hard and mine certainly take my breath away sometimes.

I get the ligaments stretching too, a lot, feels like period pain but those are not BH - its because I am carrying so low apparently.

Roll on next Friday when I no longer have to wear smart clothes!

DontmindifIdo Fri 17-May-13 14:38:11

oh bugger, just had midwife appointment, apparently bump is small - after being ahead amonth ago, she didn't really mind that it was the same size 2 weeks ago, but now it's still the same size a month on. So I've been refered for a growth scan ideally start of next week and then another midwife appointment on Friday.

Also hips are killing me! So sore at night.

Last pregnancy was a lot easier...

Hawkmoth Fri 17-May-13 14:54:08

I left DH in bed for an extra hour this morning, but in that time we had phonecall and a delivery so not sure if it helped! If he goes under, we all go under.

BH... Even though I should know better, I'm convincing myself that having so many, plus period-type pains, plus stabby cervix pains means that I won't have to wait another five weeks for baby. Then the evil voice says it'll probably be a quick labour... Definitely counting down now.

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 14:57:34

You definitely need to get all the biscuits, Sarah....I made some ANZAC cookies earlier this morning. And am trying v v and not to eat all of them. Failing, a bit.

Final appt with midwife went well, baby is deep and low (!!) and BP is not brilliant but not bad as it was so she's ok to leave me be as I'm now done with long commutes.

I should be doing stuff like packing my hospital bag, painting th fence, putting washing away....but having been out and bussed to and from the appt and done a grocery shop I'm knackered for he day. 1 or 2 things a day is my max. Uncool. I'm used to running around like a crazy lady.

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 15:00:21

Oh and regards BH - I don't know what I've been getting - I describe it as rock-bump. Basically my. Ump goes so hard, rock-like, and it's happening now every time I start to move, walk, get up, stand up for more than a few mins.....most uncomfortable and baby does not move at all when rock-bump is happening.

So whether they're BH or not I have no effing clue. Midwife said 'you'll know' when it's the real thing, as you'll feel them 'inside', kind of getting that slightly horrid feeling you get when you're having a pap smear, she reckons.

Nice....,

So I'm a bit paranoid and on the lookout as I have to dash to hospital ASAP I feel that shit go down, and not leave it too late to have my Csection....

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 15:02:09

dontmind maybe you need to eat more, use it as an excuse that it will totally all go to bubs grin

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 15:17:18

Bugger, dontmind, hope all is OK with the scan. Always something to be concerned about, isn't there? :-/

Hawk, I have stabby cervix pain. Is that a good thing?!

Your poor DH. Hopefully he will get more rest at the weekend.

My DH wouldn't go and sleep apart from me either, as he wants to be with me. It's sweet, but I know I wake him with my epic turning over a few times a night as I make such a big deal of it!

Oli, I hope your baby holds on til the booked slot for you and no emergency dashes are required!

I'm feeling massive today. Everything is so much effort. :-/

Hawkmoth Fri 17-May-13 15:24:33

MrsBri, think its just baby getting lower and into position. I have this notion that it's actually sucking its thumb or yawning right down there in my bladder, because it's the same place as where I feel hiccups!

Like I said, I keep telling myself it's all prep for a nice easy labour.....

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 15:27:25

Oli they sound like BH tbh - I'm on the mad dash as well - been told that if I think I am then get the hell to hospital given last labour was swift

Last time I had stabby cervix pains and still went to 42+4 so I reckon its just things stretching but no guarantee. Apparently a giveaway is also bump not only tightens but extends round into your lower back and they become regular.

Don't mind I know people say you can't see as much on a scan at this stage but pur scanner certainly showed us baby's face at 34 weeks - v cute - and I get to see them again in ten days time

DontmindifIdo Fri 17-May-13 15:37:56

thanks, just worrying now. Have eaten a lot over the last few days - and having done one of those pregnancy weight calculators, I'm right at the top end of what would be deemed an acceptable weight gain for my height/pre-baby weight, so I don't think it's lack of calories that's the problem!

Hopefully will be all ok.

oh and back to the old "what does 3/5 palpable mean" - apparently it's how much head they can feel when they faff about, so 3/5s palpable means that 2/5s are down in the pelvis and they can't feel it, they are recording what they can feel.

pinkbear82 Fri 17-May-13 15:47:44

blimey ladies you've all had busy days! I have to admit to having had a very lazy day, still in my pjs and reading on the sofa. I have done a few washes of baby's blankets and a few other bits while the sun is out. But really haven't pushed myself today.

The sleeping is so hard isn't it, I have to say I'm a right side sleeper really and altho I try and minimise this sometimes it's the only way I drop off. And then the wee's and the turning, all takes it toll. Did say to dp in a letter that he probably should be grateful he's missing out in this phase - altho to be fair he sleeps through pretty much anything!

Hope biscuit fetching went well and that everyone else has good evenings and all that need to stay put and allow better restful nights tonight!

cycle hope Nye is doing ok and fingers crossed the lamps did their job.

SunnyL Fri 17-May-13 16:22:26

40 minutes of work left in 2013.......Yaaay!

Colleagues just properly embarrassed me by grouping en masse around my desk to give me a card and wish me well. Its normally me on the organisation end of these group situations - darn them! Went bright red.

Meant to be going out with DH tonight to celebrate my last day at work - can't decide if I can be arsed. He hasn't really slept after his night shift last night so I could probably persuade him with a chinese takeaway on the sofa. I'm so rock and roll!

learnermummy Fri 17-May-13 16:29:07

I've never had a BH in any pregnancy. Didn't even pay attention to hardness of bump during either labour - will defitnitely pay attention this time!

Sarah those biscuits sound device - think you need to bulk buy and post some out to all of us grin.

Oli - what's an ANZAC cookie? Am intrigued.

Good day here since my mum and dad came up to help out. Had my dad mowing lawn and my mum weeding and ironing. And they took me out to lunch smile. Happy days.

Sarah2506 Fri 17-May-13 16:38:32

I really am crazy pregnant lady. I drove to Muswell Hill, ended up parking about a mile away and then thought sod this, so went back into the main bit where I had to pay for parking. Went to the bakery. Bought three of the biscuits. They are 8 inches across so more than one is indulgent! In theory one is for DH, one is for tomorrow and one is covering my bump at the moment. Then took biscuits to Jojo and bought the Small Girl a newborn outfit - it's all 0-3 here so good to have at least one thing. Then sat in traffic home - total round trip 12 miles and nearly 2 hours!

Oli I worked at home on ANZAC day and missed the biscuits!

As to DH in the spare room, he is in there pretty much every night now. Because I snort and snore he needs to be in there to get sleep. I miss him after a few days, he returns, and then has to leave again at 3am! We had been looking for 3 bed house on the theory we will have 2DC's, but now I'm thinking it HAS to be 4, we need a spare room!

rrreow Fri 17-May-13 16:40:23

<waves> Hi can I join? I'm due 15 June, DC2. Just had my homebirth assessment visit yesterday. Really hoping to have a homebirth this time. I planned one last time but had to be induced due to obsetric cholestasis.

Also must weigh in on the important biscuit dilemma and say it's definitely warranted to drive 10 miles for it, you are pregnant after all. Even better would be if you could get someone else to do it for you.. you are pregnant after all... grin

I'm hoping to convince DH to go to McD's tonight because I fancy some indigestion a Big Mac. I also didn't plan any dinner so that's another incentive.

I also dislike hiccups. They feel weird. I do enjoy BH though. Call me weird. It just feels like they're getting me closer to stuff actually happening, so I really welcome them! I've been feeling them since 16w but the past couple of weeks they've become more intense.

rrreow Fri 17-May-13 16:46:04

Oh Sarah just see you went and got it. Excellent smile

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 16:54:14

Thanks all for confirming that rock-bump is prob BH...weird! I'll keep an eye out for it stretching round the small of my back.

ANZAC bikkies are things of Aussie legend and tradition, originally cooked to send to soldiers at the front in WW1. They're basically rolled/porridge oats 1 cup, plain flour 1 cup, light brown sugar 1 cup (I use a bit less), dedicated coconut 1/2 cup. Mix all that together in a bowl.

Then in a small saucepan melt 125g butter and 2 good tablespoons of golden syrup and 1 tablespoon of water, when melted stir in 1/2 teaspoon bicarb soda. It'll foam up v slightly...

Mix melted stuff through dry stuff. Roll into balls maybe ping pong size and place on a lined baking tray with space between, as they will spread.

Into preheated oven at GasMark 4 / 140C for 15-20 mins. When you take them out let them cool for a few mins on the tray before transferring to a wire rack. They'll flatten out as they cool & you should end up with a thinnish biscuit, crunchy outside and chewy inside. V simple but v moreish.

I'd link to my blog but although my name isn't on it I have occasionally shown my face on there, so....!

Let me know if you make them and how it goes.

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 16:55:54

Welcome rrreow!

Well done Sarah, you've definitely done the right thing there with the bikkies!

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 16:56:59

Bloody iPad!

Although dedicated coconut sounds an interesting ingredient, I'd recommend you stick to DESSICATED coconut if making Anzacs.

AlohaMama Fri 17-May-13 16:58:51

Just woken up, lying in bed and starving. And now I want to make some. I can't get golden syrup here, do you think honey would work?

Welcome rrreow!

Suppose I'd better get up - I can smell ds' poopy nappy from here...

AlohaMama Fri 17-May-13 17:00:00

I like dedicated coconut, it's like it cares about you and is committed to your baking success.

rrreow Fri 17-May-13 17:05:57

Oh wow Olimoss they sound amazing! I would actually make some right now if I had all the ingredients (I almost do actually.. just don't have any butter).

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 17:11:31

I sometimes substitute a bit of the golden syrup for treacle, richens things up a bit. Honey might work, no harm in giving it a shot I guess, as long as you love honey flavour!

Good old dedicated coconut. Under-rated stuff.

ginauk84 Fri 17-May-13 17:29:22

dontmindifido I too am right at the top end of weight gain. Am only 5ft2 and was 8st7 pre pregnancy now 11st5. So it's not that am not eating enough either.

pink I sleep on my right, can't sleep on my left as my left side of my pelvis hurts to much.

We're going to a nice local restaurant for dinner so that should be good. Although at the moment would rather have a McDonald's American burger - love that nacho one they're doing this week!!

DontmindifIdo Fri 17-May-13 17:31:46

why of why did you have to put the idea of a macDonalds in my head? Honestly, I've got slow cooked pork belly in the oven to have with mash and now I want a dirty burger and fries...

Midwife friend has just text me to say not to worry.

rrreow Fri 17-May-13 17:46:26

DH has just vetoed McD's as he's been out all day (we work from home) and doesn't want to go out again sad Might have to put on a pouty face and play the pregnancy card...

Slow cooked pork belly sounds yum though!

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 18:02:11

im being taken to the pub foe dinner by oh and his brother and friend as tge rest of tge weekend is being spent playing computer games cause they're geeks oh suggested I might make them a huge meal, he backtracked on that one rather quickly and said actually well go round tge corner to the pub grin
although nacho burger sounds good, last weeks one, tge Chicago one was really spicy!

learnermummy Fri 17-May-13 18:08:22

Welcome rrreow! I have my homebirth assesment next week, due 19th June. Haven't ordered my pool yet though.

Oli thouse do sound fab, not sure i have any dessicated coconut (or dedicated grin) so will add to the list!

Aloha - no golden syrup? what a crime!

Sarah hope you enjoyed that biscuit smile.

AlohaMama Fri 17-May-13 18:18:34

learner - one of the many reasons for moving back to England. That, and decent tea, and chocolate and biscuits and beer. And proper chips.

AmIGoingMad Fri 17-May-13 19:09:44

All very good reasons aloha!grin

Welcome rreow!

Sarah- so glad someone else is happy to do crazy biscuit runs- sometimes it just has to be done! And they sound lovely!

No bh here. Just a very low laying baby! I really can't wait to finish work- it's driving me mad at the moment and am so happy it's the weekend! Have assessment of dept next week too- the joys!

For you legal people- am I right in thinking that pregnancy related illness shouldn't be counted on my sickness record? Or is it ok for them to have it there as long as they highlight that its pregnancy related?

On a nicer topic- Has anyone got lovely plans for the weekend? I'm looking for inspiration!

Dontmind- don't worry. I'm sure it'll just be a great opportunity to have another look at little one!

SunnyL Fri 17-May-13 19:24:39

We've just ordered a Chinese takeway to sit in the garden with.

Tomorrow is meant to be a BBQ for DH's birthday but think its going to piss it down so may have to revise our plans.

Yay for maternity leave though!

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 19:26:54

ami im at a farmers market in the morning selling my mums craft stuff with her business, then got a 4hr tour of the labour ward and something else to do with babies... not really sure how they're planning on making it last 4 hours hmm

pinkapples Fri 17-May-13 19:41:01

Oh my god! I miss so much I'm not on maternity leave so have loads to catch up! on the geographic tongue thing it's like white circles and marks on your tongue very sore if you eat the wrong food or something that starts it off! Nightmare haven't heard of the iron thing but will definitely look it up and see... I haven't taken my pregnacare in a couple of months since my sickness thing so may be that mind you with only 3.5 weeks to go don't know if there's much point

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 19:55:22

Hi rreow :-)

AmI, yes you're right about the sickness. If it is pregnancy related it isn't to be counted on your sickness record, i.e. for discipline / redundancy purposes.

Aloha, so many good reasons to come back here!

Oli, the biccies sound ace. I've everything except that favourite ingredient, dedicated coconut!! ;-p

Sarah, did the third biscuit survive?!

And hurrah for Sunny and anyone else starting mat leave now! :-)

AmIGoingMad Fri 17-May-13 19:58:00

Mmm Chinese. That sounds so good! Especially after just had fish fingers and chips with DS for my dinner!

Stef- that sounds like a nice Saturday! I'm sure there'll also be lots of yummy stuff to try and to buy at farmers market- yum!

Pinkapples I know what you mean about the catch up- it took me ages!

AmIGoingMad Fri 17-May-13 20:02:13

X post- thanks mrsbri. That's what I thought. I was told they were thinking about warning but decided against it. I couldn't work out how they could think about it with me being off with antenatal depression, having early scan when I had a bleed, dizziness and white lights due to blood pressure and evil flu- not all at once of course, separate instances of illness. I think they were just on a power trip- that's the general tendency!

learnermummy Fri 17-May-13 20:34:03

Sunny is it not freezing with you? Couldn't have sat outside for lunch here let alone dinner!

Am really getting fed up with this weather, my lovely summery maternity wear is not going to get a look in at this rate!

pinkapples Fri 17-May-13 20:59:30

Have a quick one about pain as not sure and it hasn't affected me until just now when I tried to get out the bath the crease between my upper thigh and body just really hurt! Now every time I sit down its gone and when I go to get up its there again ouchy confused

Oh and my second question as not sure on this either is what do hiccups feel like? I thought she was just trying to aggravate me by kicking constantly but it is constant for like 2/3 mins then goes again could it be baby with the hiccups??

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 21:06:02

Ouch, pink, I feel your pain as Baby B is currently shoving bloody hard in that crease. Not sure what causes general pain there though :-/

Hiccups feel a bit like a heartbeat. If your baby is head down you'll feel them in your bits / low down somewhere!

arlandria666 Fri 17-May-13 21:21:21

Midwife came this afternoon and booked me back in maternity assessment tomorrow for my blood pressure and headaches feel like i live there at the moment! I took an appointment at 8 in the morning as its my baby shower in the afternoon hope they don't keep me in too long :-(
I don't feel any different from when i have been before but would never forgive myself if i didn't go and something was wrong :-(
Better set my alarm for morning haven't been out of bed before 9 since finishing work last Friday!

SunnyL Fri 17-May-13 21:26:05

Learner it's been beautiful today. Don't be jealous though - it's meant to piss it down tomorrow.

I've eaten my Chinese now but have a hankering for iced biscuits - I blame you lot!!

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 21:34:55

there is some lovely stuff there ami, just got to help mum make some money lol, it's her first time at this location based on my recommendation so I hope its good, I keep spamming the facebook site I made for it and on tge farmers market fanpage too so hopefully will go well.

I've been getting the stabby pains at the crease as well, usually when I move after sitting down!

I think I've just made a huge mistake, couldn't decide between a 3 bean enchilada or 3 bean Masala for tea at the pub, oh went it's fine wont be that spicy it's just pub food, so had the Masala, it was more than spicy! one friend predicted little man to be born today, this curry best not make her right if old wives tales are to believed!

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 21:39:31

Oh, how annoying Arlandria. Hope it's a quick visit. Don't want to miss your baby shower!

And I know how you feel about getting up early. We are going to an all day antenatal class tomorrow which will involve dragging my sorry arse out of bed far too early.

Sams4lo Fri 17-May-13 22:02:47

Thank you everyone smile it's been a very crazy few days! My induction was wonderful and the epidural was great got to 10cm with minimal pain and I kept everyone entertained as the crazy talk was funny! As this is my 5th baby we all thought a couple of pushes and he would be out - well not quite! My epidural ran out, they increased the drip to speed up contractions and make them stronger, sadly all this did was mean my contractions didn't stop - anyway after 2 hours of pushing the dr came in as baby was going into distress sad she was pulling and tugging at me which was like pain I've never felt before on top of contractions and no pain meds! So another hour passed and he finally started to crown, but not only was there a head, there was a hand and an elbow altogether! The midwife in all her years has never seen this happen, the drs were shocked equally! Baby was traumatised and in shock so spent 4 hours in special care, and was quickly returned if I could feed him (he's the boobie muncher of the century!) it turned out scbu was closed hence why he was with me! A few hours later he went yellow, then the fun really started every doctor nurse etc were around him, he had lights put up, bloods done and cannula put in! He had abo incompatibility, jaundice and sepsis! Then on day 2 they said they think he had the dreaded m word, which scared the heck out of us sad but I think that's been ruled out for now! He had the lights taken down, then his levels went back up again! He is on antibiotics still and he is still not passing urine so think I'm in for fun tonight with drs again! Tired doesn't even come close sad but he is the strongest, inspirational baby and everytime I feel over whelmed I look at his beautiful eyes and get new strength to carry on xxx

learnermummy Fri 17-May-13 22:04:44

Just to indulge in a little self pity - can count the lie ins I've had in last 7 years on one hand. Sob sob smile

learnermummy Fri 17-May-13 22:07:59

Cross post Sams sound like a helluva week you're having . Hope the little man is ok. x

redwellybluewelly Fri 17-May-13 22:10:23

Good grief sams, I really really feel for you, we had crazy all hell break loose too and a fortnight in intensive care for our dc1 so I am so sorry you are going through all that.

Hope brave boy turns a corner soon and you get some answers x

Steffanoid Fri 17-May-13 22:10:42

oh gosh sams sounds like you've all been through it! hope things start to ease off and get better and that this little one who sounds incredible perks up so you can go home soon thanks

Sams4lo Fri 17-May-13 22:15:14

Thank you so much xxx hope I've not worried anyone x on the plus side as scbu is closed and baby has infection we have been moved to a private room with ensuite smile it's great as baby finally gets some rest wink the downside is I haven't seen my four other baby's since 7:10 on Monday morning and they r not allowed in sad

Missy28 Fri 17-May-13 23:01:13

Just out of interest I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced the pains I'm having in a certain 'area' (cringe)!! I keep getting sharp pains all of a sudden which make me stop for breath. It's been happening since early evening but not getting worse or anything. I'm also having what I think are braxton hicks (my bump gets tight and hard and I feel like I need a wee!). I'm 36+5. Any ideas/advice??

Olimoss Fri 17-May-13 23:03:21

Oh very best of luck, Sam - it sounds like they are looking after you ok.....

MrsBri Fri 17-May-13 23:10:04

Goodness, Sam, that sounds traumatic.

I hope the little man recovers quickly so you can go home soon.

AlohaMama Sat 18-May-13 00:43:36

Sorry to hear about your little one Sams. Hope he gets better quick so you can go home and see the rest of your family too. x

Missy - I sometimes get shooting pains, which I figure is like baby pressing on a nerve. Do you mean like that or different? Maybe the baby is now lower down so pressing on things more. As for the hard bump, that sounds like BH. I almost always get them when I need to wee. As long as they are irregular and not getting more frequent it sounds like BH rather than contractions. When is your next apt to see where the baby is positioned?

AmIGoingMad Sat 18-May-13 07:07:44

Aw sams, so sorry to hear of the craziness that you're going through right now. Although that doesn't seem like the right word. I hope that little one improves soon and that you all get to be reunited soon too. Sending big hugs for you all.

Arlandria- I hope all goes well for you in assessment today. And that you have fun in your baby shower! I do think the 8 am appt time is madness on their part-don't rush too much with your blood pressure already high!

I hope you make lots of money with your mum steffanoid! And that you spend some of it on goodies!smile

Just wondering- are any of you lucky enough to be under trusts where they routinely check you for GBS, or have any of you thought about sending away and paying for test? Or is it not a concern? As I tested +ve last time (by chance when they were checking for something else) and had to have antibiotics as precaution during labour, I've been a bit concerned that they still don't test as routine this time around where I am. Wonder though if I'm just at that point where I'm over thinking everything- which is often the case with me to be honest!

Sorry if that's a bit heavy going first thing in the morning!

Mrsbri forgot up say that yes- hiccups freak me out too!

Happy Saturday all!smile

MadameJ Sat 18-May-13 07:45:34

Morning ladies. Sam I hope your little one gets better soon and you get to take him home very soon!!

I officially did too much yesterday and paid for it last night so have decided on a pj day today, although I think I may have a tough time convinving 2yo DD as she is already lively!!!

pinkapples Sat 18-May-13 08:04:19

Awww sam hope you and baby are ok and that dp is looking after you thanks

Thanks for the info on hiccups pretty sure that's what it is then as it did feel really like a regular beating hehe

ginauk84 Sat 18-May-13 08:26:39

Sams hope your both out soon and get to see your other babies.

Amigoingmad yes we can ask for the test at our main hospital if we want it. MW said if tested positive would have to deliver at hospital and not MLU. She said as baby is checked so closely after birth it isn't a big issue and would be treated then so she didn't think it was a big deal?

Hawkmoth Sat 18-May-13 09:07:20

Sams, thinking of you both and hoping for a quick recovery x

Morning all smile

Sams hope LO is doing well and didn't provide too much drama overnight.

I'm hoping we get let home today - have now had 2 nights of appalling sleep, partly due to DS and partly the other LOs on the ward who were winding each other up last night. It gets to about 11pm and DS decided he just wants to feed, last night this lasted until 5.30am shock so I finally got to sleep just before 6am, and slept through the breakfast delivery grin fortunately they left it for me cos I was starving!

arlandria666 Sat 18-May-13 12:00:07

Hope all the new arrivals are doing well!! X x
Luckily hospital didn't keep me today so can attend my baby shower phew! They have referred me to a consultant tho so will see what happens at that appointment.
Hope all you other mummys to be have a good Saturday

Sams4lo Sat 18-May-13 13:35:13

Thank u so much smile looks like he's going back to phototherapy again! The nurse "accidentally" left his baby notes in here earlier, so I managed to copy it onto my pad for reading wink

How's everyone else getting on? X

rrreow Sat 18-May-13 13:55:57

All the best sams that sounds like a real ordeal to go through. Hope your LO recovers soon.

I had a night of nearly constant and slightly painful BH (they kept waking me up every hour or so). And my cat is acting very strangely. Not sure if the two are related grin but she seems sensitive to this pregnancy stuff. Am 36w today so need DC2 to stay put for at least a week so I can have my homebirth (not to mention I still have way too many things to do both work and home related).

I better go and get the beef stew on. Although last time I checked my 1kg of beef was still frozen solid... slight miscalculation there (I took it out of the freezer last night thinking that would be adequate..).

Steffanoid Sat 18-May-13 14:41:06

oh my goodness cramps is not the word id use to describe the pain, mum bought me home from helping st the farmers market, she looked at me when I was having a bh and declared id gone an awfully funny colour, brought me out in a sweat and everything sad I'd rather have labour than bh, I dont think we need to practice here body, let's just have the real thing, got told to sit down at least 10 times before the market even started!

pinkbear82 Sat 18-May-13 15:14:03

hope today is a little less traumatic Sams and that lo is doing better.

rue hope you've managed to get home! at least not sleeping in the comfort of your own home is better than with a lot if strangers.

been awake since 3.30 here! in fact at 4 popped onto Facebook and my mum noticed next thing we're face timing each other! helped pass a bit of time. grin

been doing a bit of gardening this afternoon, altho my dad gave clear instructions to not touch the lawn mower 'i know exactly where I left it, and unless you have photographic evidence that someone else used it for you, don't touch it' hmm yes Dad!! some things are best not arguing with.

steff wonder if the bh's are crossing with the real thing?!
half of me worries I'll be so adamant it's not the real thing that I'll end up having a big rush on. guessing I'll know when it happens tho. 38 week's on Wed.....

Steffanoid Sat 18-May-13 15:32:58

pink it would be quite hilarious if im sat here going nah it's just bh and then next thing you know there's an unintentional home birth haha

haven't had another one since so im defo classing it as bh, back is sore now too which is very helpful, think im gonna go to have a lie down when I've convinced them to take me to tge shops

DontmindifIdo Sat 18-May-13 15:44:58

Sams - wow, that sounds like one hell of an introduction into motherhood! I hope he's doing ok and you are able to process it a little. I know it sounds stupid, but right now I bet you are so focussed on him, you aren't thinking about yourself, you've been through what sounds like a far from straightforward birth, be kind to yourself !

(self indulgent whinge coming up) My hips hurt, DS has a cold, and it seems 'man flu' does kick in in toddlerhood. And my parents are rocking up tomorrow, and the are what is known as "hard work". A day of them, sob.

pinkbear82 Sat 18-May-13 16:01:33

thanks Dontmind and hugs.

Steff a lie down sounds like a good idea!

Just done the online shop to come Monday - gives me tomorrow to add on the things I've forgotten. The last two times its arrived I've had some interesting items which I didn't mean to order and left others off blush makes for quirky meals - probably just as well no one else is here. The dogs judgy enough!

Hawkmoth Sat 18-May-13 17:08:39

I now have a bag with five pairs of big knickers in it. I feel this is a minor miracle!

Sunbeam18 Sat 18-May-13 17:54:25

Ok, so how the heck do we fit all the required hospital bag into a reasonably sized bag?? I've just had a trial run of all the things I can pack now (ie leaving out the long list of last-minute items that I'm still using) and its filled two large holdalls...
How many baby clothes are you taking? I've put in 3 newborn vests, 3 newborn sleep suits, 2 0-3 vests and sleep suits, pair of socks, 2 hats, cellular blanket and shawl. Too much? The nappies, maternity pads and breast pads are bulky buggers!

rrreow Sat 18-May-13 18:08:18

Ok, so how the heck do we fit all the required hospital bag into a reasonably sized bag??

Last time we looked like we were going on a 2 week holiday when we arrived at the hospital grin

Don't pack too many of the nappies/maternity pads/breastpads, you can always get DH/DP to pick up extra stuff from home if you need to stay in hospital longer.

DontmindifIdo Sat 18-May-13 18:26:43

I've packed a v large hold all, but I've got friends who've turned up at hospital with the same amount of packing as they did to go to a festival....

Sunbeam18 Sat 18-May-13 18:31:44

It's a tricky one, isn't it? So many unknown variables - length of stay, size of baby, etc...

redwellybluewelly Sat 18-May-13 19:24:30

If you read backwards you'll see a discussion about how people are handling the bag and spares. I'm on a phonr running out of juice else I'd retype some of the good advice people suggested.

We're going with an immediate bag for post surgery, then a second bag in the car boot (thou I realise not everyone will havea car). Also ensure 'someone' at home knows where extra clothes etc are kept so they can bring things in if needed. I always use the bottom drawer of our baby chest of drawers for spares and last time put post it notes on piles of babies clothes so my mum or DH knew what a vest was or a sleepsuit. yes this level of explanation really did help

We're also filling a cool box with food to keep in the car. If I'm not going to get any sleep during the hospital stay I'm going to eat instead grin

ginauk84 Sat 18-May-13 19:25:11

I've packed 3 babygrows, 3 vests all in newborn/up to 1 month and I think should be fine as am not measuring huge and estimated 7 pounder so should be okay - if not hubby knows where all her clothes are. Then have couple pairs scratch mits an a couple of hats. Finally a swaddle woombie.

Sold my car today, am very sad as I did love it but onto the next car - not sure what but think it will be a 4x4.

ella0 Sat 18-May-13 19:27:42

I'm taking two holdalls now. With the drinks and snacks that I'll need (I drink a lot) and the size of the maternity pads, there's no way everything will fit into one bag. I originally packed a holdall for me and a tiny bag for the baby, but we've since been told to take enough stuff for three days so I've had to add more clothes etc. As DH should be able to stay in hospital with me, we also need clothes for him too.

pinkapples Sat 18-May-13 19:56:42

Very cross! Not pregnancy related but my fridge door is broke! Such an inconvenience it's made me so cross!!!!!!!angry I normally wouldn't be this irritated by a fridge door but at 36+4 I feel I'm allowed plus I have some serious crease pain not sure if its that SPD thing to do with joints at the mo its only on one side

Hope everyone is resting up got my friends little girls 4th party tomorrow she's having a pool party at the local swing pool which if I do say so myself is timed perfectly so I can float with a woggle like a whale while the kids play around me grin

Sams4lo Sat 18-May-13 20:04:11

We thought he was round the corner and now we are in a further 2 days and phototherapy is going to be starting again sad then they start talking about a blood transfusion to sort him out! The naughty nurse left the baby's notes in our room by "accident", so I did take photos on my ipad of every page, to read later, then the dr walked in and got annoyed they were in here lol smile now to look at my notes tonight and copy them and I may start to piece this disaster together!

The hospital bag was tricky for me as he's my 5th I thought I know exactly what I needed, I was wrong lol smile I had a labour bag and only needed the flannel and lip balm! Dh left the other bag in the car until we were transferred to post natal ward. The only thing I needed was my phone charger, as once I was texting everyone how labour was going etc it had 2% left and was touch and go getting a photo of baby in scbu, when the midwifes went to see him smile the main bag you can't really go wrong with, just make sure dh runs around for you wink

pinkapples Sat 18-May-13 20:05:52

Oh no sams sounds like such an ordeal your so brave I'm keeping everything crossed lo improves soon

redwellybluewelly Sat 18-May-13 20:46:46

Oh sams I am sorry, but they shouldn't be getting cross about you seeing his notes? Its your right to do so! (Have been there)

Do they know whats going on or are they still at the try stuff out stage? Have you been able to see your other children? I am v v worried about this one being in NICU as well for breathing issues, especially as they are delivering earlyish and baby isn't big (breathing issues not uncommon in CS and have been advised baby may need some help).

Cycle how is Nye?

Steffanoid Sat 18-May-13 21:33:00

sams I really hope things start picking up for your lo,

I hope everyone who's still being kept in is doing well, wishing you and your lo's good health

had another rather big bh a couple of hours after the first one, resulting in me walking hobbling round Tesco with oh worrying, went to bed and now got rubbish pains all down there and on my back

Hawkmoth Sat 18-May-13 21:50:27

Sams, don't know if this may be helpful, but I had such a shit time with DD and phototherapy that when they took DS in I insisted that they use a billiblanket as well. This meant he was under lights, but had like a plastic light thing tucked into his nappy all the time so I could hold and feed him and he still be getting therapy.

All the staff were impressed at how quickly he came round, and he didn't have the whole bounce back thing where the levels spike after lights go off.

I hope they are being kind to you. With DD it was a nightmare with bullying MWs and dire threats and insinuating I was mad because I didn't want to leave her crying for food under a hot lamp. Bastards.

AmIGoingMad Sat 18-May-13 23:13:23

Sams it sounds like you're really going through it. You're doing so well. Like dontmind said- make sure that someone is looking after you too. I'm sure this round of lights will get little one sorted and you'll all being hugging in your very own bed very soon. Take care lovely.

Arlandria how was baby shower?

Steffanoid- sounds like you've had a pretty busy day- rest up now!

Pinkapples- sorry to hear about your fridge door. Everything is worse when you're at this stage of pregnancy isn't it?! At this point with DS our washing machine blew up and the ceiling of our entrance hall started leaking. You have my sympathies!

Off to sleep now- had lovely nap today else I'd have been in bed hours ago!

Must pack hospital bag tomorrow....

Night all!

AmIGoingMad Sun 19-May-13 07:12:48

I have a feeling that today's going to be a long day. Have been up with DS since 6. After late night last night that can only spell trouble!

I also have a wonky bump! Until 2 this morning my bump was nicely rounded at the bottom. Now it's a bit weird with one side of the bottom of my bump a bit 'pointy'. Anyone else had this at all?!

AlohaMama Sun 19-May-13 08:02:30

Sams sorry to hear your little one is still not well, hope he perks up with the lights.

Am I - I have a very wonky bump, particularly noticeable during bh. The right side sticks out way more, but I'm convinced she's been sticking to the right side for weeks now.

redwellybluewelly Sun 19-May-13 08:04:05

AmI we can keep each other going.

Yes, I always have a wonky bump as baby lies to one side with their back out, maybe getting ready to drop?

DontmindifIdo Sun 19-May-13 08:06:30

AmIGoingMad - I'll see your 6am and raise you 4:33am. (Toddler with man-flu) And my parents are visiting today. And my mother will judge the state of the house <makes note to only invite them on the day after the cleaner has been in future>

thankfully I went to bed realtively early on the grounds that Eurovision is not something anyone should ever watch sober.

DontmindifIdo Sun 19-May-13 08:07:30

oh and YY to wonky bump. This one is over to the left at the moment.

MadameJ Sun 19-May-13 08:12:30

Morning ladies, hope you are all ok. Sams I really hope your lo responds to the lights soon, my DD had triple phototherapy and I found it so frustrating but I also found the biliblanket to be very useful as at least I could feed her and cuddle her without being growled at too much by the midwifes!!

MadameJ Sun 19-May-13 08:15:17

TMI here but finally gave in this morning to poor DH's advances but now im completly paranoid that it may trigger labour.......tell me im being silly!!

cyclecamper Sun 19-May-13 08:29:46

Nye is still in the neonatal unit. He's off the phototherapy, but still being tube fed and on antibiotics for the another 3 days. He's getting warmer as they feed him up. He's suckling a bit when I feed him, but not enough. I'm expressing as much as I can but he's having about half and half with formula:-(. They've moved the tube feeds to 3 hourly last night which is good progress and he actually woke up for a feed in the night. I must be the only mum wanting her baby to wake up and cry! He's so quiet and sleepy.

AmIGoingMad Sun 19-May-13 08:42:46

Cycle it's good to hear that Nye is starting to get there. You're doing really well- that would be a lot to cope with at the best of times let alone with post natal hormones flying around. Sending hugs!

Dontmind you have my sympathies. 4.30- what a nightmare! And my parents can be rather hard work too so good luck with today love! Come and rant to us when you need to!

Glad I'm not the only one with a wonky bump! I'm used to having one side fuller than the other if you see what I mean but not the bottom of the bump being so uneven! And she had already dropped, maybe she's popped back up to change position! Not sure how I can carry any lower than I am though!

I hope you've all got the sunshine we have here today!smile

AmIGoingMad Sun 19-May-13 08:43:59

And madamej I'm sure you'll be fine! grin