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November 2013- thread 5 of 100,000 ��

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honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 10:15:02

started yet another grin as im aware were about 20 posts from full again lol!

MummaPanda Sat 13-Apr-13 10:21:06

Good one lol. 5 already?!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 10:26:30

Well done, think you might be right about the 100,000 at this rate grin

SuffolkNWhat Sat 13-Apr-13 10:27:45

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honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 10:46:53

quite funny aint it? june ladies are on their 5th thread lol x

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 13:57:11

Ahhh that explains it - just tried to reply to Berry & was thoroughly marked when everything I typed out disappeared - thread must have been full smile

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 14:02:35

Got a smile on my face for first time in a while - we have just had a letter from water co saying we are £800 in credit shock so we are getting loads of money back and our monthly bills will halve! Good timing as this hyperemesis is making me and DH super gloomy!

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 14:11:37

Hooray that's fab Tired! That can help towards baby shopping smile

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 14:19:11

Thought I wouldn't be able to find you all - but you are here - phew!!

Hardly any symptoms today but I can feel that my bump is starting to come over the top of my pelvis.

That sounds good tired

Still haven't told anyone in RL so very glad to have this thread to let off a bit of steam from time to time.

When I was expecting with DC1 we told inlaws our thoughts on names and FIL said 'you can't call a child that' (it was a totally normal not weird in any way name that he just happened to not like :-( ) Completely spoiled it for me and I knew I would never tell anyone again what we were planning to call our DC and I didn't. Once you present people with a baby and say here's little Mumsnetina or similar then people just get on with it. DH likes my girls name but not my boys name - yet. Will keep working on him :-)

honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 14:19:53

ahh cool smile waters expensive i used to get massive water bills... x

Saundy Sat 13-Apr-13 14:24:50

Ha I think we're well on course for it to become that many!

Marking my place smile

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 13-Apr-13 14:33:13

tired that's great news.

Just had a massive nap, feeling human again.

SpanishLady Sat 13-Apr-13 15:07:47

Who hoo tired!!!!

My dh has put Theodore for a boy on the table with possible nn Teddy and/or Theo - I actually quite like it so am shocked as we tend not to like the same names! He's previously suggested jack but we already have a Harry so using two if the mst popular names in the world puts me off

theboob Sat 13-Apr-13 15:49:32

marking place

Hello ladies - nice new thread!

We've a couple of names in mind for both girls and boys but it'll be so hard to choose when the time comes!

I've been bad and bought something already...blush

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 16:05:19

Fairy....well spit it out...What did you buy?!!! wink

We probably won't decide till dc2 is almost here about names. We decided on dd's name when I was in hospital being induced and we really struggled. It's a huge responsibility! We are from Scotland and dd's name is Scottish so we would like to pick another Scottish or Gaelic name of possible. I like Amelia or annabelle for a girl so far but that could change very quickly!! Annabelle is the Gaelic spelling I think will need to look into it a bit more.

I am in car with dd she fell asleep just as we arrived home from shops - I have my phone, my pillow, my book, orangina and a hot cross bun!!! Ready for a little nap smile

We got a car seat with over £50 off the rrp. Couldn't decide what to do and eventually DP said we're getting it. And I was secretly a bit pleased lol. It's a maxi cosi pebble in bright red - think it was cheaper as its last seasons colour.

stuffthenonsense Sat 13-Apr-13 16:25:54

We seem to start a new thread about every 10 days....imagine when everyone's on mat leave!
Absolutely no clue on names, we have rules....must not have an initial that we've already got, and must not be 'popular'

I feel so miserable and ill. I got uo actually excited to pack stuff ready for moving and now I feel like if I breathe too hard I'll vomit. I want to cry to be honest. I'm 7w2d and I'm finding the prospect of another 5 weeks of this overwhelming.

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 17:24:39

Hope you're feeling better soon MsFP - I'm 9w3d and am starting to feel much better so maybe you won't have to wait that long.

Lozcat86 Sat 13-Apr-13 17:27:27

marking my place....still feel incredibly sick every day...hoping it stops soon grin)

OneLittleToddleTerror Sat 13-Apr-13 17:41:01

Checking in.

Also link to our stats thread.

Check and update it if your date is wrong.

Dizzy81 Sat 13-Apr-13 17:42:31

Tired, yeah on the water bill refund.

I'm soo tired today, trying not to over do things. Figured how to keep my neusea at bay - constant grazing. I've got a craving for melon, walnut whips and I keep dreaming about salad!

berrybomb Sat 13-Apr-13 17:50:33

onelittle - how is your spotting? Hope it's got better. I think mine's finished.

MissTweed Sat 13-Apr-13 18:34:26

Marking my spot grin

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 18:38:09

A sensible purchase at least fairy and red is lovely for boys and girls grinI keep looking at tiny pink and blue baby grows. I actually picked some up but dh made me put them back smile

Msfan I am 11 weeks and some days my nausea is horrific other days it is better. It's not been consistently bad which has probably made it more bearable - this week has been pretty bad though and grazing hasn't helped as much. I do feel that my sickness is MUCH worse when I don't get enough sleep so my aim is to sleep better this week. Hope your feeling better soon. Get plenty of rest and keep yourself hydrated. I find sipping on cold water is a huge relief when the nausea is really bad - oh and ice lollies are lovely and refreshing too.

Honey what was for tea tonight with you being kitchen-less?

Hope those of you with spotting are ok.

Dd and I had a lovely sleep for an hour and a half in the car smile dh had to waken us! Yet I feel like I could still sleep! It's DVD night tonight for us with popcorn and treats.

Out focus at the moment is getting our house in order. We only moved in late last year and need a lot of work done still. Not one room is completely finished and we have 4 rooms untouched. I want the get the "nursery" done ASAP - will just paint it cream just now but want it ready as at the moment it is stripped to the bare walls with no skirting or door frames so its not just a quick lick of paint shockI m trying not to worry about how much we have to do.

Hope everyone is having a relaxing Saturday night!

And thanks for starting new thread honey - cant believe we are on number 5 already!!

williaminajetfighter Sat 13-Apr-13 18:58:06

Marking my place. Had a panicky day as cant imagine how am going to cope with baby and think I'm nuts for doing this at my age. Could the mums on this thread with one more than one DC reassure me? How much harder is it with 2? My dd is almost 7 and I'm a bit panicky about going back to the all-consuming baby years. Sorry....hormones....

SpanishLady Sat 13-Apr-13 19:14:35

Willamina, was thinking about just that today and I think with #2 you have abit more confidence in yourself eg not taking 30 mins to change a baby (was guilty of this) also the older child is probably going to set the agenda my son for example has a weekly swimming class and we are determined he continues so he'll make me get out my pyjamas! We also now know the value of a routine and what that might be...... Hope that helps to reassure you!

WorriedMouse Sat 13-Apr-13 19:16:22

Is it too late to join you? You all seem so supportive and lovely! I'm due 11.11.13 with baby 2. Already had 2 scans - one private for peace of mind and one after some mild spotting last week. Both showed baby right for dates with a heartbeat. Still can't stop worrying as my sickness has stopped - DH thinks I'm mad! Is it normal for sickness to improve at 9/10 weeks? I wish I'd kept a diary from my last pregnancy as even though it was only 3 years ago, I seem to have forgotten everything!

Hi worried and congrats!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 19:27:13

Welcome worriedmouse and congratulations! I feel the same, a lot of the details from my previous pregnancy seem very hazy now

williamina I am wondering about coping with two as well, will seem quite different I think. Mainly just wondering how we will all fit in the house though, we desperately need to move (2 tiny bedrooms) but need to find somewhere we want to buy first!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 19:29:24

fairy well done on the car seat. Good colour! Crazy that they have 'last seasons' colours but that is how we have always got car seats, puschair etc for more sensible prices.

honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 20:06:10

hi worried, congrats smilethanks

watchin britains got talent... david walliams is soo funnyy grin

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 20:12:08

Wow, new thread already! Marking my spot!

Names - I have a few I really like, DH said I am better at that sort of thing (in fact most of the names of the animals has been my choice, even before we were living together if he got something I'd end up naming it!). I give suggestions and he says yes or no to them, and so far we have two names that we both like both beginning with T. Both of us have families where there are traditional names passed down but we both want to steer clear of that....I think he is leaving his family 'traditions' down to his twin brother lol.

Dizzy I too am absolutely shattered, last night I kind of just collapsed in the sofa after doing a couple of hours of work, and feel like I'm just not catching up on my work! As for the ms I still haven't actually vomited but it's getting worse rather than better! I keep getting that awful sour taste in my mouth too... a few times I've had to literally just sit bolt up right in bed ready to dash for the toilet as the queasiness really takes hold. I have a bag of crystallised ginger on top of the microwave that I have every now and then if it gets bad.

Think I will start doing some shopping for baby bits after my scan, although I am now wearing maternity clothes that I got from New Look.... my other clothes were digging in and making me feel uncomfortable. My middle daughter remarked today that I am really showing already...quite worrying when I am only 10 weeks!

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 20:13:26

Welcome Worried!

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:15:23

Saundy guess what I am eating for dinner? You guessed it, tiger bread sandwich with cheese and coleslaw mmmmm! I am struggling a bit with sickness tonight so hoping it helps.

Williamina, you know I only have 1 dd just now but I kind of think if you can cope with 1 then you can cope with 2. I agree that the newborn will probably have to fit in more with an older child's routine. Whereas with our first everything revolved around them. Yes of course you will have the care of another child but you will be more confident this time round. Plus your dd will be at school during the day when you are on mat leave. The newborn days are hard but they don't last long and when dc2 is a little older they will have a sibling to keep them occupied and play with. I think you sound like a strong person - you work in a good job while looking after your dd while your dh is away at work. Remember work will be out of the equation during the hardest months. I'm not very good at expressing what I mean sorry.

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:18:32

Sorry meant to say welcome worried mouse and congratulations! It certainly is not too late to join at all grin I totally wish I had written a pregnancy diary last time. My dd is 3 now so you'd think I would remember!

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 20:20:12

Welcome, Worried! Count yourself lucky lol - I jolly well hope my sickness disappears at 9 weeks, can't take much more of this! I think statistically they say once youve seen the heartbeat past 8 weeks you're in much safer territory

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 20:37:49

Hi willemena soon after DC4 was born I had a day where I felt I did nothing but shout at the kids - they did nothing but shout and probably everyone was in tears at some point. I honestly thought ' oh no, this is what our life is going to be like from now on' - of course it's not - we're not quite like the Waltons yet but I think we have a fairly healthy mixture of laughter and tears - and yes, some shouting - but I'm working on it. You'll be great!

Welcome worried you're 2 days ahead of me!

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 20:52:38

Hi all, happy new thread!
Sorry that some of you aren't feeling well. Hope you're soon feeling more human again.
I'm feeling knackered. I've been ruthlessly going through my wardrobes putting things in bags for charity or bin or sell on ebay.
I've also been getting tummy pains, is this normal at this stage? (11 weeks). I really can't remember from last pregnancy.
dizzy I've been craving salads too, had a lovely one today with loads of fresh ingredients in.
I totally agree with keeping names secret.until you introduce the baby. Lots of people hadn't heard of DS's name until they'd met him.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 20:54:38

Yep I also feel that this thread is really lovely not bitchy or judgemental at all. Thanks guys.

Well we have been having more dreams, though thankfully not about plants growing out of my boobs. DH is welsh and welsh speaking. Names were our first conversation before last MC. I am not Welsh but quite fancy a welsh name too. Anyway he dreamt that I asked him to go to the registrar, and he came out with a birth certificate saying a generic non Welsh name (which I won't mention so as not to offend). Bless him he is having an identity crisis on behalf of our 8 week old bean!

Ms Fanackerpants I am also feeling really and contstantly rubbish (7+6), vomiting all last night and wretching most of today.

Hope everyone who is feeling anxious/spotting finds a way, any way of making it easier to cope with. I found chatting the best way.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 20:55:51

Welcome worriedmouse

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:58:31

Eco I feel the same - not being sick just feel constantly sick and this week it seems to be worse and more constant. Previously it came and went so I had lots of good moments on between the nausea.

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 21:08:36

Loads of new posts while I was just composing my contribution!
saundy you totally started a trend, we had tiger bread for lunch, we ate the lot!
Welcome worried
williamina I keep thinking the same about adding another person into the family. I know once DS gets used to it though he'll love his new sibling and having a ready made friend and playmate.
We're in a two bedroom house too and will have to sort that put at some point add it to the never endings list

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 21:11:06

Ps river my DH is Welsh and I'm not. Our DS had a Welsh name although we live in England.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 21:21:21

getoff we have just moved from England to Scotland, I'm from Northern Ireland and he is Welsh. We have it all covered there! Are you planning on a second Welsh name?

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 21:32:10

Ordered a treat of salad and pizza from a lovely independent place. They were late so brought me a small bottle of coke for free. I am not drinking sugary fizzy drinks just now so it was a lovely (if not dirty) surprise for me, enjoying it more than the pizza! Dh is at a poker night and I am about to watch Johnathon Ross with my coke! Surprise secret treats are great!

RemoteControlledChaos Sat 13-Apr-13 21:41:59

Hi everyone, checking in for end of Nov, feeling like poo & keep forgetting to be happy! I don't remember it feeling this awful last time...but managing (or not) a toddler as well as myself is trickier...

LovesTheChoas3 Sat 13-Apr-13 22:21:30

Hi Ladies, I read something about the more DC you have the earlier you show. I am was a skinny minny. This is DC # 4 I am 9w4d and i am not joking when i say i can't fit in any clothes i own or the next size up. I have a very definite round belly :/ Anyone else heard of this or do i just need to stop eating and sleeping and get off my arse?

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 23:09:16

river we're planning on another Welsh name, I think it helps DH feel more connected with his brethren lol!

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 23:39:08

River where is Scotland are you? I Am in the west grin

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 23:49:01

Hi Loves, I lost 3 stone before Christmas, I think I put a little on when Mum died but have definitely 'popped' with this one and this is DC4 for me too. I went down to a size 12 and am wearing a size 16 now, have bought maternity clothes in size 16 which is too big for me now..but only just too big.

OneLittleToddleTerror Sun 14-Apr-13 05:11:10

Morning all. DD is awake too early again sad. Took me a while too catch up. We tried to go to town yesterday to by some new clothes and a duvet + pillow for DD. We gave up as the traffic was terrible. Ended up going for cake and coffee locally. And DD behaved so well at the cafe.

Welcome worriedmouse.

berry I didn't spot yesterday either. Fx it will be a good day for both of us.

fairy I think you might be our first buying baby stuff. Red is a lovely choice.. Both our carseats and our bugaboo is red grin. It is gender neutral for a start!

tired wow £800!

I'm also worried about having two, especial it will be two under 3s. DD is very high needs and demanding. But probably all babies and toddlers are like this. Our days still mainly revolves around her. I guess like you all say, the second wont have this luxury.

MissTweed Sun 14-Apr-13 06:08:45

Eurghhhhh.... Got to get up for work hmm at least it'll take my mind of the stress of worrying about my scan tomorrow. Petrified of them telling us that i have mmc. I still got swollen boobs and a definite stomach, that's got to be a good sign right?? Although I have no other symptoms hmm anyone else got their 12w scan tomorrow for mutual hand holding?? Mine is at 8:30 so at least I'm not winding myself up all day

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow MissTweed, I don't have a scan date yet but I'll hold your hand for company. I'm sure sore boobs must be a good sign. And commiserations at having to be up for work already.

Puked so hard I pulled a muscle! Nausea is just my standard setting now though I think. Definitely worse when I'm short on sleep and when my blood sugar is low.
harverina I found some strawberry mivvies in the freezer and it helped some. DP went out and got a felafel wrap plus some spiced cooked salads for me. I have to eat in small portions though. Going for lunch with DP, MIL and DP's grandpa, hoping I can manage to go as it's a lovely restaurant. I really wish we could tell Grandpa M but it's too soon and he'll tell EVERYONE he ever meets about becoming a great-grandpa.

Red for a gender neutral stuff sounds good. All I can comment on is the colours, I have no idea about car seats or travel systems or anything! I'll be doing a fair amount of walking in a semi-rural hilly area so need something that's fairly rugged but can also manage on buses and trains and in the city. DP reckons it's more complicated than buy a new car last week, that took him about 20 minutes to decide.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 07:59:07

Welcome worried mouse.

Miss tweed, we're here to hold your hand through it. I think most of us on here felt/are feeling the same about our 12week scan?

Fairy, the car seat sounds a bargain and reds a nice colour. I've told dh we have to wait till after the 12 week scan to buy stuff. I'm going to then have. Spree on eBay for maternity clothes and job lot baby grows!

To all of us who felt exhausted yesterday, I hope today is better!

Labracadabra Sun 14-Apr-13 08:10:39

Another newcomer here! I've been reading the threads since the first one started. I'm 10w 2d today, due on 8th Nov. I already have one DD who will turn 3 the month before this one's due. Having dreadful MS but luckily not bad enough to need meds. No bump as yet, especially as I've lost weight with the MS and there wasn't much of me to start with! However, woke up this morning with a full bladder and I could clearly feel the baby (or rather a "lump") on the right side so popped my Doppler on and there was the heartbeat! 166 bpm. Feeling really cheery now and got my scan on 26 th so really looking forward to that.
I'm glad to finally be joining the thread!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 08:12:25

Misstweed my scan is next week but we are here to hold your hand. Of course the symptoms you have are positive grin hope work passes quickly for you. Working on a Sunday should be banned! I too am worried that I will had a mmc when I go for my scan - probably most people do (maybe not so much first time - ignorance is bliss!) I have symptoms but that probably doesn't stop anyone from worrying.

Had quite a long sleep but have woken with the headache I went to bed with hmm hoping it will pass. It's a miserable wet day here so a day at home for us yay!

Eco and loves, I am wearing same size clothes just now and most maternity clothes are too big in my usual size - well the ones I tried on were anyway. I did manage to find one pair under bump black skinnies that fit quite nice so I have worn those this week, except they are over my fat tummy so technically not being worn properly! Hoping that once my jump grows they will naturally fit under. Eco I think for most women they show quicker and get a "thickness" round the middle quicker with 2nd and more pregnancies. I could fasten my jeans no bother until week 20 last time. I know right now that half my jeans are too uncomfy to wear now at week 11 (and have been for a while) I've spoken to a couple of friends and they have found the same 2nd time round (and 3rd etc). Our tummy muscles are obviously ruined!!!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 08:29:51

Welcome labra!! Congrats! great news about you hearing heartbeat that's lovely grin

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 08:42:19

Here I am worrying again! Last week I had a tiny amount of spotting a a streak of pink when I wiped. I had a major panic and a lovely midwife arranged a scan showing baby with beating heart and right for dates. Last night in my mid-night loo visit I had the same- tiny streak of pink when I wiped. Nothing more since. Cannot stop worrying and was stupid and googled now I feel I need more reassurance. Should I bother midwives again? Or go to GP tomorrow? Or try and get a private scan this afternoon?

gubbinsy Sun 14-Apr-13 08:53:45

Hi. I posted about 3 threads ago - been lurking since. Just wanted to ask, has anyone else had a serious pain in a bum cheek? It feels sharp, a bit like pulled muscle but worse - I almost passed out when I stood up last night and although it's a bit better now it's really uncomfortable. Dr Google says probably sciatic nerve issue and that it can happen in pregnancy as things move about but truly hoping it's not like this for the rest - only 9 weeks!

Anyone else had this and know of how to get any relief? Planning to call midwife tomorrow if no better to see if they can advise too.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 09:22:24

Has anyone else noticed they've gone off the smell of their favourite perfume/ body lotion?

berrybomb Sun 14-Apr-13 09:24:12

worried- I'm in exactly the same situation as you (although no lovely midwife here, so had to get a private scan). I promised my DP after the last little bleed if there were any more worrying symptoms, I wouldn't self diagnose and I'd be more relaxed.

Of course then there was more spotting, and I've tried to stay calm, but it is hard. I'm hoping that after the first bleed I saw the heartbeat, so hopefully after this one I will too! However, for peace of mind it might be worth giving your midwife a call - she sounds much more helpful than mine who simply said it may well be a MMC but there was nothing she could do as it didnt warrant a scan!

Morning all, I feel so much better at weekends when I get a decent night sleep and can relax and take it easy!

MummaPanda Sun 14-Apr-13 09:35:19

Welcome back gubs and welcome all newbies / lurkers! I had bad siatic pain with dd, it did go away after a few weeks, but it does hurt a lot, and you look really silly limping around and holding your back like an old lady!

misstweed I have my scan tues so am also starting to get anxious about it! Excited too though!

Hi to everyone new!

I woke up this morning with a horrible thought - how will I know everything is alright in there until my next scan at 18 weeks?! I should stop being a worry wart I know lol.

Dizzy I went right off the smell of my exfoliator! It's made from a rice base and I thought it was revolting!

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 10:44:07

Hi all, how are we today?

Dizzy - I've not only gone off perfume for me, the smell of DH's aftershave is making me feel sick hmm

MissTweed & Mumma - good luck for your scans! My next one is Weds (just to follow up after the cramps and bleed) so lets hope we all get good news.

Berry - I meant to reply on the old thread, but it ran out. When you said you like the name Jessica but its too popular, have you heard of Jerricah? Might not be to your taste at all but there's a cute little blondie girl in my son's nursery called that & I remember thinking how pretty and unusual at the time plus it's a bit like Jessica so just thought I'd share.

Well...today I am stuck at home alone all day, DH is doing the drive with DS to his dads, then DH is off to a big bday party with his family. It was meant to be a joint party for me, his sister & bro as we all have bdaysclise together...but I'm still too ill to sit in a car for 4 hrs then face an 'American Diner' themed meal. Bit confused about it though. Glad I've got our dog for company!! Back to work tomorrow, that may be a struggle...

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 10:53:41

Hi Gubs I've been getting a stabbing pain in my butt cheek too! This is after having a seriously painful front of leg (thigh) about a week ago that made climbing stairs difficult.

This week I'm ok just shattered, and not able to work in the evenings like I normally do, just falling asleep in front of the laptop... Ten or eleven in the morning is a difficult time too - starving hungry, dizzy and tired eyes!

Had some more brown spotting yesterday and a pale brown smear today. Panicked yesterday but feeling a bit more calm today. Seeing doc on Thurs so will mention it then, unless it gets worse. Maybe I'm too calm?! It's not like me at all.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 11:22:52

Good morning!

Welcome Worried & welcome Labra - we're due date buddies (there's a few of us due on the 8th).

Wow Harv it sounds as though you have a huge task ahead house-wise, I HATE decorating so rather you than me!

Not long to wait now MissT xx

I'm pleased the sandwiches are hitting the spot ladies smile.

I had a bit of a food disaster last night, went for a Mexican - baaad idea. To say I was sick just doesn't do it justice, am still suffering now. After a sleepless sick sick night have had to take today off work. Meeting a friend later for a drink who doesn't know I'm pregnant, I thought there would be a few of us but its just us two of us so should be interesting.

To add to my super sick woes found out yesterday that DP has lost his job - stressed is not the word!!!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 11:32:56

Oh no saundy that's a shame you have been so sick and sorry to hear about your dh losing his job. Is he likely to find something else fairly quickly? Is your friend close enough to tell your pregnant? Suppose you could cancel and say you have a sickness big if your really not up to seeing her.

Yes we have a huge amount of work ahead with the house. I don't mind painting - if it's one room! When it's 10? Not so much! And we need to do it ourselves as couldn't afford to get people in.

I suffered from terrible sciatica last pregnancy and got physio for it at the maternity hospital. Might be worth asking your midwife about it to see if they can refer you on - although I was a good bit further on last time when it started.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 11:38:11

Fairy, I've got the same fear! After seeing jellybean at 7+4 where everything was spot on, how will u know everything's ok at 12 week scan. I hope to get my date through soon.

Saundy, oh no you poor thing. Sending huge hugs your way!

I'm glad others have gone off certain smells.

Another 8th November here!

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 11:48:15

That's it Dizzy everything was ok at 6 weeks but that means nothing for 12 really, also want my scan date now!!

I hope he finds a job soon, he has 2 interviews lined up but it's very competitive at the moment. Fingers crossed. Last time he was out of work if was for a year & was very hard on the relationship. He applied for everything going too. Trying not to let my mind go there. It looks as though that's that for my dream of shared maternity. It looks as though one or the other will be doing it all now hmm

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:09:03

Exactly, the sonographer did say so much can change in5 weeks. The dh works from home and itext him at lunchtime to check the post!

Saundy, fingers crossed for you dh for Tuesday. He will find something and try not to think about the negative. Easier said than done. X

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:20:20

Well if it makes you feel better after detecting a heartbeat at 7 weeks the chances of a viable pregnancy are 95.8% (90.6% for me at 6 weeks) I find the miscarriage associations website strangely reassuring confused

I'll not panic too much yet. If he's worked his 4 weeks notice & still not found a job - then I'll panic!! He does enough worrying for both of us lol.

riverflow Sun 14-Apr-13 12:23:48

I'm in Edinburgh haverina but we do spend a lot of time kayaking in the west coast, love it over there. Planning a surprise whisky tour trip to Islay for DH's birthday in June and going to Skye for a week in May. (Hope I can stomach the strong smells!)

Hope everyone's scan's this week go well. I have another 4 weeks to wait but the ms is sickeningly reassuring.

saundy i had the same problem with drinking, only it was the same day as I took my pregnancy test, I had arranged to meet a friend for brunch and drinks. I am Irish which doesn't mean i have to be a bit of a drinker but stereotypically I am, and it was Paddy's Day. I hadn't seen her for years but she guessed within a second of me ordering orange juice. I guess life goes on and does it really matter if a few people know? I'd rather keep on doing what I want to. Although I have kept a list of names incase I MC again. DH has said that he will text everyone, so I don't have to break any news. I guess you just have to do what you think is best for you to cope. I am very cynical so like to have a plan for the worst case scenario! Either way its up to you and I am sure she wouldn't mind you cancelling.

Passing on your DH some good vibes for a job.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:37:43

Ah Saundy thank you for that, it's put my mind at rest!

He'll find something before the four weeks are up, as he sounds driven to do what's best for you, the bump wtc.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:38:13

Thanks River

I'm embarrassed to say I can't think of a single social interaction with my friends that hasn't involved alcohol!! That's what happens when you stay in your university city.

I've been such an arse about insisting DP doesn't tell people that it'd be beyond cheeky for me to tell her haha. That's the only reason why not really.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:39:41

Dizzy who knew that'd be the site to find comfort!

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:54:08

Exactly Saundy. I'm trying not to google stuff relating to this sort of thing as I'd drive myself mad!

littlemonkey2013 Sun 14-Apr-13 13:00:35

wow i cant believe that this 5th thread has 78 post already. i was still reading the old one.

welcome new people and hope everyone feels better if they have been spotting or throwing up.

wow on buying a car seat already. i was tempted with a moses basket last week it had quite a big discount, was neutral and sooooo cute. but then i reasoned that theres bound to be loads more cute ones and it might be even cuter in a gender specific colour so i didnt buy it. dont know when i will start shopping. i think if i start early i will end up with too much. thinking summer car boot sales might be a good option.

im having a day where nothing smells right and i dont fancy anything to eat. i feel like if i decide i want something and set about making it, i will have gone off the idea before its made

BangOn Sun 14-Apr-13 13:15:52

goodness me - thread 5 & i'm still only 8 + 5 in to this pregnancy! i'm only managing about two posts per thread. oh well!

i've really started feeling rough these past few days. i was the same with dds 1 &2 - not much nausea-wise until 8 weeks, so probably another little girl, i imagine. i don't mind - i'm one of 3 girls (plus my brother!) & my mum's the same. so would have a nice tradition about it.

mycatlikestwiglets Sun 14-Apr-13 13:51:17

Marking my place on new thread.

Glad to hear some people are coming out the other side of sickness/nausea. Am 11+5 now and really fed up of constantly feeling sick! I have a proper bump now too so am looking forward finally to telling work this week so I can get out my maternity clothes instead of trying to hide it. Someone guessed last week so not sure my efforts are working!

Anyone else with a obvious bump? I was in mat clothes at 9 weeks with DS so figure I've done well to get ths far this time.

Lozcat86 Sun 14-Apr-13 14:04:32

ive got a 'bumpy' type area, which gets bigger as the day goes on. Yesterday i actually managed to eat a whole meal that id cooked. impressive when ive been living off toast and snacky things for the last few weeks... wink

BangOn Sun 14-Apr-13 14:36:40

i just look generally pregnant as my stomach muscles never really recovered from dd2.

I just look like I've put on a few pounds rather than being pregnant - hate that! Tho if I get a bump I'll probably be wishing I didn't lol!

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 15:06:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 15:54:05

I weighed myself earlier and have put on 2lbs, my jeans dont do up, my waist has got thicker and I've ditched the jeans for leggings!

My dh says the bump is noticeable, and when I crouched down i certainly felt a bump.

theboob Sun 14-Apr-13 16:18:31

I have a bump already and it's very obvious . So much so we have had to announce it , most people who have seen me knew , but its to be expexted with 2 in there !

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:20:53

mines more like flubber than bump blushsad but when i lay down flat i can feel the weight of my uterus xx

suprisepitstop Sun 14-Apr-13 16:44:42

I just feel really bloated and like I can't pull my stomach in, and I just look chunky, which I am hating, I never have a waist at the best of times! It's all so unglamorous, sitting around with your jeans straining round your girth, drinking soda water.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 17:14:42

Honey I feel the same! I def don't look pregnant - my fat tummy is concealing the pregnancy but my tummy is getting bigger and I can also feel the weight of my uterus when I lie down too.

Only 20 days until I exit trimester 1 and the sickness disappears!!! wink Have my sickness bands on today - they do help a little I think but nausea is still there. I am making a roast dinner for dm coming and not sure i will manage to eat a thing - cab quite easily eat in the mornings but when it comes to dinner it's a real struggle.

Welcome to anyone new that I may have missed grin

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:15:08

I am exactly the same about the scan, although I have mine at 11w4 days... But I have to be sensible, if there was no more baby then surely I wouldn't be 'growing'. But the spotting does worry me... it's nothing major but it does happen most days like a lightish brown.

DH this morning was saying to me, 'you are really showing already' whilst stroking the bump and was worried if it was normal. But the midwife assured me it's normal for a fourth. She said as a general rule of thumb you show earlier each pregnancy....long gone are the days of my very muscular stomach that held DD 1 & 2 in till I was about 7 months... I looked 9 months gone at 5months with DD3!! Also my breasts are getting enormous this time around...

I envy you Honey that you can be that aware of it, I can't even find the height of the fundus, never have been able to either! I think part of it is also me being scared I might 'hurt' the baby or do something bad by poking around too hard.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 17:15:56

I love getting to the stage where I look pregnant instead of just chubby gringrin

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:21:05

Harvarina I have some over the bump (H&M) and under the bump jeans, boot cut (New Look)... the under the bump ones fit better but aren't exactly 'under the bump' at the moment. I think the reason they fit better is that they have a bit more elastic in the waist.

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:22:34

lol the worst is when you've just had the baby and still have a bit of a bump going on (it's more noticeable I think with subsequent babies) and someone comes up to you and says 'So when are you going to drop?'.....
Always one!

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 18:23:51

I'm not sure whether it's just bloating, but my tummy is huge today! Usually quite flat (it's the thinnest part of me) but today it's like a balloon. Also boobs are bursting out of my biggest bras. Excellent! But think I'm only 7+4 so what's going on!? Still brown spotting here, wondering whether to call doc's tomorrow or wait until my appointment on Thurs? I have no pain (except for constipation and the odd twinge).

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 18:39:50

Had a bad day here. No more spotting but I've cried all day. I have a horrible feeling that something's wrong (I did all last pregnancy too and it was fine). Going to see GP in the morning about light spotting over the weekend. DH thinks I'm mad as we've had two healthy scans so far but I can't relax or switch off. I'm sending DD to childminder tomorrow so I can go to the dr and any other appointment without distraction. Feeling very low tonight. Sorry for the whine!

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 18:48:54

Hi Worried I feel like crying tonight too, just everything getting me down esp the nausea & lack of understanding from DH. Massive hugs to you - maybe having a good random cry would help????

How's everyone else feeling tonight? I think there are some scans tomorrow are there not? X

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 18:52:09

Hi boy it's rubbish isn't it! I know I worried the whole way through the last time and I now have the most lively 2 and a half year old ever! Hope you feel better soon. X

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 14-Apr-13 18:52:11

Hi to the new guys especially worriedmouse I can completely relate to all the worry. You really are probably fine, after two scans the odds are massively in your favour. it doesn't stop the worrying though hope you feel better soon.

I think I must be the only one who's on a second pregnancy whose not showing. Have put in 4/5 pounds but not on my stomach. Stomach is still flat, I'm pear shaped so have a big bum and thighs. At 12 weeks I thought I would have a little bump by now. Oh well it will appear soon enough.

surprise I'm the same - cant hold my stomach in at all! V annoying as I'm used to being quite trim around my tummy and now it feels all saggy!

Of course two helpings of cauli cheese doesn't help blush

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 20:22:38

Hugs Boy & Worried sorry you're having a rough ride today, cursed hormones!! (I generally like to blame everything on them!).

Honey I'm the same I feel it too when I lie on my back & when I swap the side I'm laying on in the night I feel everything shift & fall (boobs too which is new).

I'd probs wait until Thurs Ariel unless you're really worried or feeling as though something is differently wrong. Sounds like you still have plenty of symptoms though. Hope you're not worrying too much either Echo.

Is that our first preggy prediction Bang?! Anyone else 'know' what they're having??

I had to tell my friend, she brought a jug of wine to the table & as I'd been pretending to drink rum & coke there was no real getting around it! Turns out SiL's mouth has been flapping anyway. V annoying.

I have a bra related question, my boobies are feeling a bit bigger but they still squeeze into my bras. I don't want to buy new bras now & then have a spurt & need to buy more (especially now DP is a job down). When did/will you buy them?! Am 10+2 if that matters.

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:42:18

went abit mad on baby stuff front bought a cute velour sleepsuit, a baby monitor n an electric bottle warmer... scratch mitts , bodysuits, a tinkle toy a cute teddy bunny wabbit, a thick all in 1 aaand a blanket..
sure hope i havent jinxed things blush

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:42:55

oh and booties blush

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:43:33

and a baby armani hat from ebay lol

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 20:48:57

Haha I've been a bit of an eBay junkie too Honey buying any nice/unusual maternity clothes I see. I don't even need them yet - or know what size I'll need when I do! Good haul though lol

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 20:59:51

Saundy if your only just squeezing into your bras you should get measured and buy a couple of new bras. I'd buy cheapies though as your size might change again - although once I got new bras around week 14 last time they fitted me until I went into nursing bras toward the end. I only went into nursing bras as they were so comfy and everything else was so uncomfy that I though what the hell!

Biggest tip re bras...don't waste money on maternity bras without the nursing clips if you are planning on Breastfeeding. Waste of money and if Breastfeeding you will end up having to buy nursing bras grin

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 21:01:34

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 21:08:08

God feeling really sick again. Only managed potatoes and gravy for dinner. I wonder if I should try and eat??? Before eating was my way of getting rid of this constant nausea now nothing bloody helps grrrrrr confused

Sorry to hear that people are struggling a bit today with their emotions. Worried I understand why you are worried but in terms of likely positive outcomes you are in a really positive situation after having a scan. Of course there are no guarantees that anyone will be ok and the first 12 weeks are so fragile but please try to relax. Easier said than done i know but try not to think the worse.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 14-Apr-13 21:23:26

suffolk good question about the risk assessment. When are work meant to do one for a pregnant woman. I haven't had one yet.

hav good advice re maternity bras with clips.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 21:34:24

Whenshewas my boss did it as soon as I told him I was pregnant last time I think. Tbh I found it a waste if time although it shouldn't be. My boss just didn't fully appreciate the impact my pregnancy should have had upon my job.

I think my work do a risk assessment when you produce the MATB1 form

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 21:35:54

Good luck going back to work Suffolk. Me too....& I'm going to have to tell the girl I share an office with as she's my only hope of trying to keep this quiet until 12 weeks. Really feeling its going to be a huge challenge being vaguely productive.

Harv - if you're anything like me, even when just the thought / smell of food makes you gag, I'm finding if I can somehow force a tiny bit of ANYTHING down (especially high fibre stuff like bran flakes) it makes me feel worse for about 10 mins but then much better. Temporarily. I also know I keep banging on about Windeze but they are saving my life - I think lots of the pains & nausea must be digestion related (though prob as a result of hormone changes)

Night all & let's hope tomorrow treats us all well xx

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 21:36:16

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 21:45:50

Good luck tmr Suffolk I hope it goes well. It is so hard to get back into it & be productive after time out Boy - well was for me anyway.

So Harv is it best to get normal ones now & maternity ones later?

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 21:55:36

fx you feel better soon harv... im still nauseous on n off but not as bad as long as i have eaten. its worse when im hungry or tired.
today ive eaten: mcdonalds brekkie, coffee, pot of cashews, pot noodle, 4 cheesestrings, a fairy cake, a big arse korma coconut rice and peshwari naan aand an apple pie with ice cream blush
thatll be why im getting fat haha my bad.

problem with ebay is such beaut stuff at low prices. tooo tempting x

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 22:01:32

Saundy probably as maternity bras really don't look as good as underwired - but don't buy normal maternity if you plan to bf, just buy nursing bras. Maternity bras def don't give the same uplift wink but so so comfy!! I didn't wear them till after 30 weeks and ended up not wearing them after giving birth as has to hit nursing bras so a waste of money shock

louby86 Sun 14-Apr-13 22:04:42

Marking place and off to catch up after being in London for the weekend smile

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 22:11:09

Saundy thanks for the advice - I think that's what I will do, seeing as I've waited 3 weeks for an appointment, and I don't feel any other 'suspicious' symptoms as yet. Hard not to worry though. Hopefully it will be gone tomorrow. (Crosses fingers)

I have bought a top and some mamas and papas skinnies from EBay this week, as my jeans are soo uncomfy!

JBrd Sun 14-Apr-13 23:30:10

Gosh, an new thread again already?!? I can't keep up!

Marking my place - however, I don't know for how much longer. The spotting has turned into bleeding, which has gradually increased over the last few days. Very bad cramping and back pain today, and I'm also starting to see bright red blood.
This is exactly like it went with my mc, I don't have much hope anymore sad
Will call the EPU tomorrow and see what they say...

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:42:53

oh JBrd sad sorry to hear that... got my fingers crossed that it turns out ok though. take it easy thanks

louby86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:43:50

Finally caught up smile

Going to bed feeling really sick for the first time, starting to get really down about it too as it just feels like its going the same way as last time. Considering ringing in sick tomorrow, so bad of me but I just know I'm going to be hugging the loo from 6am/getting ready/getting DS ready/sorting dog all at the same time because DH has an early start too.

Also getting a bit nervous about having two under two! Someone please tell me it will be ok!

Sorry for moaning hmm

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:58:52

i had 2 under 2 at one point. 21 months between dc1 + 2, and 18 months between dc2 + 3. id say going from 2-3 was worse than 1-2. my first two grew up to be such good friends xx

louby86 Mon 15-Apr-13 00:00:51

Thanks honey, that's reassuring to know smile

JBrd - keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you x

Wibblypiglikesbananas Mon 15-Apr-13 02:23:17

Hi all, another thread, wow! Glad to hear so many of us are doing well.

To everyone worrying about spotting, I had it throughout my last pg and all was well. It gets easier when you can feel the baby moving and know everything's ok.

I am in the US and it has really warmed up this week, was 32 degrees on Weds, which I found quite tricky! Goodness knows how I'll cope later in the summer when it's hotter and I'm bigger!

Speaking of which, I look pregnant now. Definite bump there but still in normal clothes (mainly cos my mat clothes are in the UK and not visiting until next month, when I can collect them).

Looking forward to my 12 week scan on Weds - does anyone else have a scan then?

Upthread names were mentioned. I would second not telling anyone your choices, particularly family! We had a tricky time with DFIL, who apparently hated his grandmother and she'd had the name we were initially going to give DD. DH knew nothing of this and thought it would be nice. The name was also my great grandmother's so had family links both sides. Anyway, FIL made such a song and dance about it that in the end, I felt like the name was tainted somehow and we picked another one. Definitely best to introduce the name with the baby!

We have lots of girly names that we like but not so many for boys so far. Was the same last time round actually and we got a DD so all worked out ok!

Buying stuff - good choice with the Maxi Cosi Pebble, loved it for DD. We have lots already but I'm less into everything being perfect this time round and a lot keener to beg/borrow. I can't believe how precious I was about everything last time round! 'Twas fun though!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 05:16:21

Why why why did I search '12 week scan' on MN? Iv been awake since 4 fretting about my scan today (8:35) and so far just about every thread on MN about them is horrible news. I know that people with bad experiences are more likely to reply to a post so the stats will looked skewed but I can't stop panicking!! I'm finding myself really jealous of those of you that have already had early scans or heard a heart beat on a Doppler. I'm now even questioning whether I even saw the second line on the pregnancy strip all those weeks ago! I know I'm sounding hormonal and mental but this rant if helping smile

stuffthenonsense Mon 15-Apr-13 06:48:44

Miss tweed stay positive, do you have any real reason to doubt or is it just MN induced panic? (Been there had to leave MN for months)
Jbrd hope it's not bad news. You do hear stories of babies surviving despite copious bleeding. Tell your little one to hold on tight.

Can anyone else feel their fundus? And if so how high from the top of your pubic bone. Mine is about 12cm at 11+3, I know it's supposed to be roughly 1cm per week but I don't know from what point in pregnancy....obviously at very early days it doesn't protrude at all.

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:09:33

I don't even know what my fundus would feel like? Tell me please!

Oh jbrd so sorry to hear that you are bleeding hmm hope it is all ok - best wishes for this morning, hope they scan you thanks

Had a rubbish sleep as dd wouldn't go to bed then joined us during the night sometime. Poor dh had to get up at 4 am for his flight so he must feel worse!

Misstweed hope you are ok. Try to calm down if you can and think positive - is there any other reason why the scan would not be positive?

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:10:38

Wibbly 32 degrees?!! So jealous!!!! We had snow at the start of the week again shock

Everything crossed for you jbrd

Another one who doesn't know what the top of the fundus would feel like!

I'm not liking that I've to wait nearly 2 months to my next scan! Wish I was minted and I'd go private to nosy every few weeks lol

TheSperminator Mon 15-Apr-13 07:33:16

This thread moves at some speed. I just can't keep up.

DW is going to tell her boss today. She doesn't want to tell this early, only 10+2. But she is a psychologist and has a really difficult client who is showing violent tendencies. DW can't risk working with the client incase he kicks off and injures her or wee Pebble.

If she asks some one else to take the client she must give a valid reason. Aside from telling the truth, the only valid excuse is to say a more experienced psychologist is needed. But that is suggesting that she can't do and wouldn't be good for the promotion she is seeking.

Looks like she just had to bite the bullet and tell the truth. Any suggestions?

My work have known for weeks! Well my 2 managers anyway. They have to hold such info in confidence if your wife tells them apart from any official business such as moving the troublesome client. But they can't tell others in the office etc.

Have you had a scan?

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:40:00

Everything crossed for you today JB I hope it goes well, am thinking of you xx

An exciting day for you too MissT the wait us over now so try to enjoy it & good luck!

Ha Stuff I don't even know what my fundus is never mind what it feels like - oh dear lol.

Hope you're feeling a bit less sick today Harv though I'm sure the lack of sleep isn't helping.

I barely ate yesterday so am pretty sure that's why I've woken up feeling rubbish - will have to grab something / anything!!

Got a sheepish txt from SiL this morning saying she accidentally told 2 people, so we can probs safely double that figure at least. DP is finding it hard to keep quiet, I thought I was doing to have to gag him yesterday - had kept passing loud comments 'accidently' no doubt in the hope someone would twig!

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:43:05

I told work too at 7 or 8 weeks, one of the first questions the midwife asked me was if work knew. I think they find it quite important that someone knows so the appropriate risk assessments can be done. Ate they likely to be off with her?

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:43:27


Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 07:44:33

Jbrd, everything crossed for you.

Misst, good luk with your scan, it will be fine.

I had a risk assessment at work, it was just making sure if I'm uncomfortable at my desk to say and I can have my desk adjusted and maybe even a new chair. I've also been assigned a buddy, so in case of an emergency they can escort me out the building.

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:55:35

Yeah saundy so far so good, feeling ok.

Thesperm I think I would tell my boss in your wife's situation. I work in a profession where I can be faced with violent and aggressive clients. I haven't told my boss as I haven't needed to yet but I would if I found myself in that situation.

TheSperminator Mon 15-Apr-13 08:35:15

Fairy We paid for a scan at 8 weeks. Heartbeat was there and measurements matched with our date. Got MW appt today and get our 12w scan booked then.

Saundy We think her boss will be fine but I think for our piece of mind we would have held off telling until after our scan.

DW is just worried as it's her first job since qualifying and she's only been in 6 months. But anyone with half a brain would have known that a baby was highly likely to follow.

She'll be grand. Told all our close family over the weekend and all are delighted. I actually saw a few of my dad's hair turn grey when we told him. Ha

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 08:39:16

Morning ladies.
Good luck today JBrd will be thinking of you.

Good luck with your scan misst very exciting!

I went to bed at 8pm last night and slept through until DS woken at 6am. Feel much better for it although my nausea seems to have come back. Not helped by having to stand up on the train and then a girl putting some sickly sweet smelling perfume right next to me. I had to move. She gave me a weird look but I think she's have preferred that to the vom all over her ha ha!

Have got size 14 suit trousers on today (normally wear size 12) and they're decidedly tight.

Another one here with no clue about the fundus or its location!

Have a good day all.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 08:49:50

Well something I was told when deciding if I should tell work was that in the event something went wrong it would probably be best for your boss to know with regards to time off etc. Hopefully it wouldn't come to that but the support/understanding could only make it easier.

JBrd Mon 15-Apr-13 08:53:14

Spoke to the EPU, they want me to monitor the bleeding a bit longer, to see what's happening. Scan is booked for Thursday. This is not how I imagined spending my time off between jobs sad Need to find ways to distract myself.
And I need to move my booking appt, as it clashes with the scan. Who knows if I still need it sad

ilovemiltonismybestfriend Mon 15-Apr-13 09:00:14

Im back!! Sorry I've been MIA a while but I'm still around. Had my booking in appt last Tuesday (8weeks) and I have my date for my first scan (12 weeks +1). Everything is going well and even the nausea seems to be subsiding. Yay!!

How is everyone else doing? Xx

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 09:12:30

Good morning ladies.

Back at the office desk and all I can think about is the scan tomorrow morning. Mine is at 9:50. For those who asked about the risk assessment. Iirc, I had one after I told work with my mat 1b last time. It was after 20 weeks. They definitely didn't redo another assessment in my third trimester. But I'm quite relaxed about it as my work is not high risk. I sit in front of a computer all day. All I can recommend is don't get too many maternity jeans for work. They get really uncomfortable to sit all day with towards the end!

JBrd hope everything is ok with you.

MissTweed all the best with the scan this morning. I'm sure a lot of us have fears about scans. It's only natural since the scans are done to find if there is any anomonly! I'm fearing that tomorrow I'll either see 1) an empty sac, 2) it's not grown to 12 weeks thus not viable, or 3) have some deformity. But DH is much more optimistic and was already talking about going to an indian after the scan for lunch hmm

EcoHippyMum Mon 15-Apr-13 09:28:53

Morning hope all are well. Thinking of you JBird and hope your scan goes well Misstweed!

Feel very lethargic today. Finished assignment at 4am! DH will take it in to Uni as he is in today.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 09:36:46


WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 09:37:18

Thinking of you jbrd thanks best of luck for the scan on Thurs.

heartonsleeve Mon 15-Apr-13 10:20:46

Morning all! Sorry I've been quiet - we were away over Easter, and I've only just caught up.

Thinking of you all who are worrying and bleeding. And also all of you who are having scans this week; ours is on Friday morning - hooray!

We're going to be holding off sharing our news too widely to begin with because we've had some awesome news that somebody in our Church is expecting as well; they had been told conceiving naturally was impossible, didn't want to do IVF and were turned down for adopting. So I am MEGA excited for them, and would rather them have the limelight for a while.

My sickness was much better last week - I wasn't sick at all in the moning. However, it seems to have returned with vengence over the weekend, which I'm pretty gutted about. I hate being sick. For those of you who've gone through it before - does it 'magically' switch off at one point, or is it more of a phasing out thing?

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 10:41:34

Had a very real dream last night that I had my scan tomorrow and there were triplets confused that better not happen!!
Also my siatica is starting to play up ironically after we were talking about it yesterday, its at the front of my left thigh atm.
Looks like we will be telling all close family after scan but no one else for as long as poss. I'm just worried about my dad now, its going to really stress him out!

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 10:44:06

Glad you have a scan jbrd. Thinking of you in the meantime thanks hope you are getting plenty of rest and tlc.

My wedding and engagement rings are mega tight on me, uncomfortably so. Is this likely to be water retention of fluid? Don't think I have put on that much weight!!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 11:03:16

I have a happy, healthy Ickle baby grin strong heartbeat good downs risk etc etc. both sets of patents told. Soo happy right now. Thanks for all your support guys, I really don't know what I was fretting so much about! I need to learn to relax and stop reading MN for things that could go wrong x

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 11:07:01

MissTweed I'm so glad for you. I guess you could start looking at buying maternity clothes and baby stuff now grin. I really need some new clothes, but I'm holding on until my scan tomorrow. I don't want to end up buying stuff I couldn't wear. I'm getting by with my maternity clothes from last time, but it was 6 months out from this month. Just the perfect timing so I need a completely new set of maternity clothes isn't it? I actually needed to buy new swimwear to go to waterbabies as I just couldn't fit into my tummy control one piece anymore blush. I got a normal two piece. I really didn't like the look of my flabby stomach. But none of the other mums at the class notices. So it mustn't be that bad, is it?

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 11:08:53

Yaaaaay misstweed!! Hope mine goes just as good tomorrow, 23hrs...eek!!

harv my fingers did that, before being pg with dd my engagemnt ring was a size too big, I still can't fit it on my finger now and dd is 5months. Don't really know what to do about it as I hate not wearing a ring! Dh promised he will buy us both new wedding rings but that has yet to happen lol. Might just get a cheap one from somewhere so atleast I have something to wear!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 11:10:28

honey forgot to say that sounds like a good lot. Does it mean you've got both a bunny rabbit and a teddy bear? Or was it a bunny teddy cross grin. DD has a matching set of bunny blanket and soft toy from mothercare. I'm going to get the teddy set this time. I just a sucker for this cute set thing blush

TiredFeet Mon 15-Apr-13 11:17:38

Morning all! Very jealous of all of you talking about scans, I don't even have a date for mine yet!! Spent yesterday in hospital on a drip again and feel semi-human today as a result. Poor ds is finding it all quite hard though.

jbrd really sorry to hear you are having a worrying time, I expect the wait until Thursday will feel very long. I hope you can find a way to distract yourself a little

Pretty much the whole world knows I am pregnant now, no other way to explain being this ill without needlessly worrying people. But it is hard for me as I don't have the comfort of a scan yet. Thinking about booking a private one but not sure if its a bit indulgent

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 11:23:24

Woo MissT that's fab.

It's good you have your scan date RB just a few more days.

I'm still waiting for my scan Tired it's rubbish, sorry to see you're still so poorly.

So are you ladies saying that hands get bigger as well as feet?!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 11:24:57

I had to stop wearing my rings a few weeks back so I bought a silver one from a goth type shop and only cost £6! It's nearly identical to my real one

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 11:26:54

Oh yea my feet are half a size bigger too. Think that's pretty perminent lol. Hopefully the fat sausage puffy fingers isn't!!

great news tweed!

flip me hope this increasing feet and hand thing doesnt affect me! i'd be gutted at not wearing my engagement ring - i only got it at christmas!

honey86 Mon 15-Apr-13 12:03:18

teddy bunny cross grin its like beigey brown with white patches n sooo soft. invested in a few maternity clothes tday... some really nice underbump crop jeans with an adjustable waist... 16.99 from new look xx

o forgot to ask a bit of advice.

my jeans are feeling a bit neat around my tummy but not sure what to do. do i buy a size bigger normal jeans or see about elasticated maternity jeans?! if so what sort do i look for - under the bump i assume? since i dont actually HAVE a flipping bump!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:05:50

Dw fairy my engagement ring only stopped fitting me right at the end of pregnancy so you should get to show it off for a while yet!!
Also about jeans, have you done the hairband round the button trick? That buys you an inch or two!

my favourite jeans have 2 buttons so if i dont fasten them both then it sticks out! stupid jeans lol

i am, as usual, wishing my life away - would rather a bump just came and then i could dress appropriately!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:21:30

I had jeans like that, get quite a big band and poke both ends of band through the 2 button holes, then fasten it by putting one end inside the other and pull it tight, then alternate looping the free end over each of the buttons, kind of like a figure of 8, and keep looping until its tight enough. Worked for me!

Animol Mon 15-Apr-13 12:25:17

Haven't worn my rings for weeks and weeks - have a bit of a phobia about getting them completely stuck so I took them off while I still could.

genius mumma! thank you!

this is why i love this forum lol

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:33:29

Hehehee, glad I could help! grin

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 12:42:34

fairy I just wear maternity jeans with the big band tucked underneath clothes. You have to wear longer tops to cover the lowered waist, so it's not like the band is showing. I have no luck with the hair band around waist thing because I can even pull the skinnies over my bum! Otherwise I wear leggings, which expands over my fat tum atm.

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 12:43:22

Oh and I tried my jeggings this morning, and I can't even do up my zips. How embarassing blush. I'm glad some of you are't so bloated yet!

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 12:47:35

JBrd good news that you've got a scan, sorry that it's days away. Try and rest up if you can until then. Maybe sort your digital photos out into albums or something to try and keep you busy but with your feet up.

misst that's brilliant news, you must be so relieved.

I'm another one whose fingers swelled during last pregnancy. It was in the third trimester for me though. Also, my feet grew two sizes in third trimester and I'm now between half a size and a whole size bigger. It's been a complete pain as now none of my old shoes fit. I lived in my fit flops while on maternity leave last time and am planning on doing the same again.

fuckwittery Mon 15-Apr-13 12:57:32

Hi all, could I join late to the thread? I have been in denial with this unplanned pregnancy til I had my 12 week scan this morning (condom split and MAP failed!). However, I've now been scanned and there is definitely a real wriggly baby in there, with fingers and toes and everything!! Due 1 Nov, DC3. DD1 was 10 days late and DD2 18 days late so I'm not expecting to be an October birth! Not great timing as I'd just resigned to start a business from home and missed out on a brilliant maternity pay package with my old business, but I did hate my job so I am happy to have 6 months at home with DD1 and DD2 who havent' seen much of me over the last 2 years. but I see I have a lot of catching up to do !

Ariel21 Mon 15-Apr-13 13:02:06

Morning all. I caved and called doctors. Got an emergency appointment this morning but all he could do was check my heart rate and blood pressure then refer me to the EPU tomorrow morning! It's a 'turn up and wait' kind of affair, but I'm pleased as at least I should know either way whether there is a problem. He did prod and listen to my tummy, not sure what pod that would do, though I think he was just trying to ascertain whether it was an ectopic (he said very unlikely). So! Tomorrow it is then.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:23:42

Yay MissT - great news

JBrd - FX for you, good luck for Thursday, hope everything goes ok

Onelittle and Mumma for tomorrow, can't wait to hear smile

Welcome fuckwittery, glad you're scan went well.

I had a lovely chilled weekend, and for the first time yesterday felt completely like my old self, and same again today. This has of course worried me. I've got my appetite back, no MS, but I guess my boobs are still a little sore. Hopefully nothing to worry about, and I should be pleased I'm no longer a zombie walking!

I bought my first pair of maternity clothes yesterday - a pair of jeans. They are soooo comfy, but I can't wear them till after the scan next Monday, when we can tell everyone! The hairband round the button has been working, but even that's a little tight now!!

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:40:42

Is this urine sample gender test a crock of sh1t!??


berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:41:12
Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 13:48:09

Welcome FW & congrats, hope you're getting over the shell-shock ok!

Fingers crossed for tmr then Ariel cave away if it puts your mind at ease - that's the most important thing. Are you feeling a bit better about everything?

Yey for the good days Berry as for the test it has as many bad reviews as good so that would suggest 50/50 ie you may as well toss a coin!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 14:12:01

berry agree with saundy. The reviews are 50/50, which is what you'd expect with a piece of ripoff grin. You may was well toss a coin and ask Lizzy.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 14:22:39

I'll go back to coin tossing then! That's what i though.

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 14:23:47

MissT, yeah on the great scan result.

I've got my scan date through 3rd May am bricking it big time. I know I shouldn't as a heartbeat was seen at 7 weeks 4 days so the chances of miscarriage are 5%.

This mornign I've had an ache in my belly when I sit down but when I stand up and move around it's ok. I'm guessing it's just gas or something? If it continues I will call the midwife.

Mummapanda, fingers crossed fro tomorrow for you.


OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 14:24:21

berry if you are really keen to know and couldn't find out at your 20 week scan, how about booking for a private 4D one? I'm sure you can see it if the scan is long enough! Or is it you just can't wait to find out?

BangOn Mon 15-Apr-13 14:27:13

saundy yes, i could be wrong & would love a little boy, but it jusy feels fairly similar to the first two.

bra-wise i got myself re-fitted at about 5 weeks. too early probably. i'll probabl buy nursing bras towards the end but staying in underwired as long as is comfortable. thinking of going down the sports bra route aa much more suppor than maternity.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 14:33:23

onelittle - we're just very excited to find out! DP wants to book a private scan at 16 weeks when our local one claims to be able to tell.

I think we'll wait till 20 weeks (it will come round quick enough!), and if there's no luck there, we'll get a 4D one.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 15:25:29

dizzy what kind of an ache if you don't mind my asking? I've had aches in my tummy for a few days now. Should I have been phoning the MW?
It's worrying stuff this pregnancy malarkey!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 15:26:01

Don't know about you guys but the 4d scans freak me out!! Look like something out of a horror movie!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 15:47:13

MummaPanda the 4th dimension is time grin. It's not that scary. They sell it as a bonding scan around here.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 16:07:37

I'm with you on that one mumma they look like aliens to me!

BangOn Mon 15-Apr-13 16:10:51

i've never really fancied having a 4d scan. this is my last baby,(all being well) so perhaps i should? just for the hell of it.

here are some other things i never did with dd1 &dd2, which i'm also contemplating as a sort of last hurrah:

buying a bugaboo
getting a bigger car
baby yoga
antenatal yoga all the way through (stopped early with dd1, can't remember why! didn't bother with dd2)
aqua natal
water babies (in a consistent way, rather than just randomly!)
baby massage
only using washable nappies.

quite a list! poor kid having to be 'my baby' forever & getting dragged to everything!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 16:21:35

BangOn Loving your list.

* bugaboo - done and would recommend it
* getting a bigger car - I wish but don't have the money!
* antenatal yoga - I stopped early with DD because I was too lazy to go every week blush. I already looked on netmums and found a antenatal pilates class around here. Can't find any yoga ones.
* aqua natal - yes, I didn't do that last time, but I want to be better this time round!
* washable nappies - I'm thinking of washable wipes atm. I don't think I can do the full washable nappy thing.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 16:22:18

Get & Dizzy I wouldn't worry too much about the aches pains. One of the first things my SiL said when she found out I was preggers was 'everyone gets aches & pains all through the pregnancy, everyone panics, it's normal, just call me if it happens & I'll remind you.'

artyone Mon 15-Apr-13 16:30:36

Hello everyone I'm about half way caught up with this thread, Hah, too much chatter.

I am here today to vent!!

I am terrified of needles. I had my booking in appt last week and had to have blood taken (for the first time in my life). I felt horrible on the day, but thanks to a brilliant midwife and my OH, I managed to have it done and was very proud of myself.

Today I get a call from the doctors saying that my blood got lost or broken at the lab and they need me to re-do the bloods. They can give me a midwife again but can't guarentee the same one. I feel like crying. I know you have to have it done more than once in the pregnancy anyway but thought that was it for a few weeks. I'm so annoyed sad
Also does anyone know if this will delay my scan or anything?


Ariel21 Mon 15-Apr-13 16:50:45

Thanks Saundy and no, am feeling worse now! Have gone from calm to resigned to the fact there is something wrong. Quite crampy around my lower back now. Still brown spotting, but only when I go to the loo and wipe? I was just hoping it would stop! Darn. Lots of work to do tonight so can try and distract myself until morning.

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 16:56:11

Getoff and Saundy, it's a dull ache pain that comes and goes. I think it's where my stomach is growing/streching. Or a build up of gas or a blockage?

I suppose I am just being my neurotic self?!?!

busyprocrastinating Mon 15-Apr-13 17:22:57

Arty I really feel for you as I too have a total needle phobia. I'm having my bloods done on Wednesday and already feel sick and shaky about it. Here they do the bloods the same day as the scan so it shouldn't delay it.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 17:29:19

Arty that's shit & do flipping typical!! But you've done it once & it won't be easy but hopefully that positive experience will give you a good foundation to do it again. I wouldn't be happy either.

It's brown Ariel so that's positive, hopefully it'll be all good tmr & put your mind at ease.

It sounds like the stretchy aches to me Dizzy but if you need a second opinion to go for it to have your mind put at ease.

I'm sooo hungry but cannot be arsed to cook & there's nothing quick in!! Humph.

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 17:41:59

Arty, do you live anywhere near the hospital?? As they have a phlebotomy (the blood takers) service. Who do it all day everyday so they are expert and the bloods taken before you know it!! Midwives and practice nurses also do it all the time so they are also really good (just stay away from the junior drs!! smile

TiredFeet Mon 15-Apr-13 17:43:46

arty that is awful, I have a terrible phobia of blood tests so I can really feel for you. I often faint/ get a bit hysterical blush. It must have taken you so much strength to do it. I do think it gets slightly easier each time though. But still it is disgraceful that they were so careless!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 18:19:54

arty gutted for you. Why do these things always happen to people with a fear of needles, it's Sod's law.

Still completely knackered 12 1/2 weeks now so am really hoping this damn fatigue is going to bugger off soon.

stuffthenonsense Mon 15-Apr-13 18:48:21

Arty ask your gp if the phlebotomy service visit your practice....round here it's a weekly service, they really are much better. I dread blood tests. Not out of fear but because it is impossible to get blood from me, if they can find a vein it seals itself the moment it's pierced. Phlebotomists have more chance than anyone.
As for finding the fundus, it's a bit like looking for a missing book under the duvet, you'll feel a firmer area before hitting a squish above (unless your super toned)

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 18:52:34

I had my scan today! One amazingly wriggly baby who did not want to stay still the scanner called them a rascal (hehe). It looked like it was mountaineering and then launching them self down a water slide. Made me giggle. We got put ahead to the 25th of oct, I'm hoping for a haloween baby - excellent parties.

Ps been having awful headaches sad

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 19:10:33

Hurray slippy!! I'm getting soo excited about mine tomorrow now! Didn't have an early scan this time so this will be first time I see my little sprog.
I know a lot of the thread have had early scans so is there anyone else whose first scan will, or was, the 12 week?
Expecting to all of a sudden be hit with the reality I'm going to have 2 babies under 1 when I actually see the scan. So far I don't think its really sunk in!

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 19:13:12

Saundy, you're right it's streching pains. Being paranoid/neurotic.

Arty, that's terrible. I hope they apologised?

Skippy snow, congratulations on your hyper active bean. 😃 and your due date being bought forward.

Ariel, it's brown so be positive.

Whenshewasbad, Im with youon the fatigue front.

On my scan letter I've been advised it will cost 10 for pics!!! Ive decided to upload a pic into moonpig and send a card to each set of grandparents and the great grandparents, saying I'm looking forward to seeing you all in November!

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 19:14:11

Yay for slippy. I'm loving hearing all the scan stories.

Mumma - good luck for your scan - I'm guessing twins would be a bit too much to find out then? wink - sorry, couldn't help myself!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 19:17:29

Congratulations slippysnow, truly an amazing experience isn't it?? I also got my EDD brought forward which I'm pleased about... Don't need to wait so long for the sexing scan! grin

EcoHippyMum Mon 15-Apr-13 19:18:26

Really pleased for all those with good news today! I have mine a week tomorrow - so scared about it! I can't even recall being this worried before.

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 19:20:10

Yeah mumma mine was 12 week scan. First time I saw the lil wriggler

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:01

Funny you should say that berry I had a very real nightmare dream last night that the scan showed TRIPLETS!!! This better not be true! Twins wouldn't be much better!

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:45

Slippy that's brilliant! I would LOVE a Halloween or Bonfire baby, am hoping this one gets the memo!!

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:45

Thanks everybody. It was amazing misstweed made it so real, so pleased all was ok. I booked the earliest appointment (8.15am) for the 20week so I have less time to panic before hand

SuffolkNWhat Mon 15-Apr-13 19:26:55

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

To all those who feel faint during blood tests ask to lie down as that really helps! Thank god it doesn't bother me as I've had literally monthly bloods done since I was 10!

Yay for positive scans too!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 22:03:18

Woo hoo more positve scans is great news.

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 22:59:09

Exactly 11hrs til scan time yaaaaaay!!! Now I'm going to go to sleep so it comes faster! grin

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 00:06:39

So pleased that there have been positive scans today, yay!! Eco mine is a week tomorrow too!!! I will be 12+3 according to my own calculations grin this will be my 2nd scan as I had a scan at 8 weeks to rule out ectopic pregnancy due to left sided pain but it was over so quickly that I don't actually feel I had a scan - although of course it have us so much reassurance.

Dizzy I am also getting pains in my tummy, slightly cramps but I also have a very upset tummy too which isn't helping. Someone mentioned having backache down the thread? I have had back pain for weeks and had it last time too...for me it only for worse as my pregnancy went on. It's a very achy pain as opposed to sharp pains. I assume they are a mix or normal stretchy pains and upset tummy pains.

I can't remember what I have posted today as my phone had no signal when I tried to post huge replies earlier! So forgive me if I repeat anything I already said shock

My nausea was so much better today - so much so that I managed a 2 course lunch which was delicious!! I was very worried that the very sudden lack of nausea was a bad sign when it came back with a bang tonight. Yuk it's awful. I can't decide if it would be better to be sick or not, though I spend all my time trying not to be.

Glad I'm not the only one whose rings are tight! Last time in only felt them right in the final weeks. This pregnancy is so different! I wonder if I am having a boy or whether it is nothing to do with gender? What do you guys think? I just don't get how two pregnancies can be so different for the same person! Is it hormone levels?

Sorry for those of you who are spotting still. Ariel although you must be so worried and dread every trip to the toilet it is positive that your spotting is brown as this is old blood.

Bangon loved your list! I would love:

- to break my mamas and papas pram and pretend it was accidental so that I could buy an icandy or bugaboo (dh would be mad!!!);
- to commit to aqua natal classes - I love swimming but didn't so this last time which I regretted;
- use reusable nappies too! (Prob wont)
- breastfeed for 1 year+ but this scares and worries me slightly hmm

Highly recommend baby massage my dd loves it and even now age 3 we still do it occasionally, especially when using her eczema cream. We just went to a free local authority class which was good.

Tonight I have brought a selection of snacks and drinks to bed with me in case I fancy anything and it miraculously cures my nausea. So far nothing is appealing apart from the cold tap water and that's not really helping hmm

I don't think I can feel my fundal all the time though sometimes when lying flat I do feel a distinctly hard area - other times I can't find it. Do you guys think this is normal?

Hope you are all ok tonight grin

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 05:10:05

I feel movement grin

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 07:18:10

Stuff, oh how exciting!!

Im exhausted, woke up for a wee at just gone midnight and it took forever to get back to sleep.

Had tugging pains in the right handside last night, which made me smile as its a good sign. X

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 07:21:33

How many weeks are you. Stuff?

O exciting stuff!

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 07:32:18

That's really exciting stuff
Good news for everyone's scans yesterday.
mumma good luck with your scan today.
My nausea has come back. Need to be constantly sucking mints at the moment. Especially on the train with all those special smells!
My boobs are huge as well. I look like I've had a boob job done!

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 07:36:04

I'm 11+4

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 07:36:31

But if is baby no6

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 07:46:41

Good morning ladies!

Good luck MP & Ariel, that's brilliant Stuff what does it feel like?

Have woken up today feeling exhausted & sick - why is it always on a work day?! Still no scan date through, am hoping it arrives this week.

I hope it's a good day for everyone smile

Slippysnow Tue 16-Apr-13 07:50:01

Good luck scanners today, I want to go back!! I uploaded my pic for anyone who's interested smile. I thought it was clear but others disagreed

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 07:52:59

Good luck to anyone having their scans today! grin Hopefully as more and more positive scan stories come through it'll put the minds to rest of those of you that haven't had theirs yet. I can't believe how worried I was now..... Such a magical experience.

We told our parents yesterday, (my mum is still squealing) and they have offered to pay for the pushchair (up to £500 but we could always add to it). Before we were going to get a maclaren techno xt (its a stroller which can be used from birth) as I thought most people end up ditching their travel system anyway so why not go straight to the stroller and save money?? But now we've got this gift should we consider a travel system or am I just considering it because we can?? Any 2nd/3rd/4th timers with any advice? smile

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 07:53:57

Slippy, where have you uploaded it to?

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 08:04:50

Good luck to all those having their scans today.

Roll on 3rd may, as that's when I've got my scan. I'm trying not to worry about it. I'm trying soo hard not to get stressed at workout it's easier said than done.

fuckwittery Tue 16-Apr-13 08:11:45

Miss tweed do you drive much? It is very handy to have baby in a car seat you can transfer to click onto a travel system chassis, or a carry cot you can bring upstairs while you have a lie down! Also, I find travel systems easier to push than maclarens. I had a bugaboo frog with dc1 and its still going strong with dc3 due, with maxi cosi car sear, so I feel I've had excellent use out of it, and only gone onto maclaren at about age 2. I think if you have a kind offer to have a pram/travel system bought for you should go for it!

Good luck to scanners today, I'm sad dh didn't come yesterday as I am now excited and he's still at bit meh, back to baby years just as things were getting easy, although we told his mum and sister last night and they were delighted.

I have taken my rings off already! (Must retrieve from down the back of the bed)

Bangon, this is my dc3 too and probably the last, I'd have liked to do your list of activities but with one at school and one at preschool although ill have a couple of hours free in the morning each day, 4x school runs a day I bet I end up just sitting on the sofa cuddling this one! We definitely need and getting a bigger car though! Ahhh baby cuddles smile

Slippysnow Tue 16-Apr-13 08:16:15

It should be visible on the profile. under photos, if you click my name?

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 08:20:29

Just saw it Slippy very exciting but I imagine not the clearest when looking on your phone!

Animol Tue 16-Apr-13 08:36:52

Nice photo slippy :-)

Looking forward to my scan two weeks today and then hopefully telling the world.

Would it be stupid to buy a 3 wheel jogger type pram if I'm not actually going to jog with it - just hopefully lots of walking and I like the look of them?!

I'm 9w6days and feeling much bettter - phew - have a good day everybody!

theboob Tue 16-Apr-13 08:40:29

brilliant news on positive scans !

not slept much last night , worried sick about my dissertation results today . I am also picking up my maternity uniform , all feels very real now .

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 08:44:06

We've got the Phil and Ted's Vibe which I love. We do a lot of walking on mud etc with the dig and found this one to be perfect. I think it really depends when you're going to use it. If you need to go on buses, a more lightweight one that you can fold down would be better.
I found it was good to actually have a go with the pushchairs because some push easier than others if that makes sense. Also ours does rear and forward facing which is good.
Ariel good luck too today. How're you feeling?

suprisepitstop Tue 16-Apr-13 09:15:17

exciting about scans. mine isnt until next sunday when i will be 13+2, the hospital said 'we are very busy and there are lots of ladies more pregnant than you waiting for 12 week scan'. nice. will i be giving birth a month late because they cant fit me in at 9 months?

notsoold Tue 16-Apr-13 09:40:18

I also felt movement 12+4 weeks here!!!
smile smile smile

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 09:44:15

lovely pic slippy - getting me very excited about next week! I can't believe the difference between my 8w scan, and these 12w pics.

Yay for movements as well. I am convinced I felt something last night lying in bed, but this is my first, so very unlikely.

Can't wait to hear about today's scans!

great pic slippy. they didnt zoom in that much on mine and i'm really gutted i dont have a pic so close!

mine just looks like a blob

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 10:16:39

suprisepitstop my scan isn't until I'm 13+2 either on 29th April. Am just hoping I've got my dates right and we fit in with all the right dates for all the tests!

meant to say i've been looking at travel systems too!

we're going to get the uppababy vista with the black frame and silver carrycot and toddler chair. the maxicosi car seat fits on the frame too. really nice to push about and everything works so easily like collapsing with one hand etc.

i want it now!

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 10:39:00

I am so confused by pushchairs / prams/ strollers / travel systems, we've tried to look a few times, but no idea what we need! I think we'll spend a weekend in various baby shops trying out everything and working out the pros and cons...but then probably go and get a cheaper one on ebay!

busyprocrastinating Tue 16-Apr-13 10:39:53

I'm feeling a bit stressed and tearful today. Got my scan tomorrow and I am so scared of the blood test. I keep reading this thread to try and help me feel more positive but all I keep thinking is that I can't handle it all and I wish I hadnt even got pg in the first place.

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 11:07:53

I've just been bitten my a dog!!! I was standing in my gateway minding my own business when it bit me!! It's broken the skin!! I've had a tetanus (i think) as I when to Thailand last year. I do t need to worry about anything else do I? I'm reluctant to google it as I know within 5 mins of doing so I'll feel doomed!hmm

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 11:08:22

*by a dog (wasn't my dog)

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 11:13:40

Scan went quick great, little wriggly baby in there measuring 10+5, which is pretty much exactly what I expected. So iv got another appointment for the real 12 week scan 2 weeks from today. Crazy how little it was compared to my 12 week pics of dd, can't believe how fast they grow! But even at nearly 11 weeks could still see arms and legs wriggling around. Even though it was only for about a minute sad and hurray for there only being one in there! And hurray for finally having a due date!!! 7th November! I'm going to wander off and add myself to the stats threat finally!! grin

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 11:14:17

Clean with the usual anti bacterial stuff which you've no doubt done already.
Are you ok? Where did the dog come from?

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 11:15:08

Brilliant news mumma

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 11:24:53

MissT - I think it;s worth calling to check, I know when someone from our office got bit by a dog the H&S team went a bit OTT and he got all sorts of checks. I'm sure it will be fine though.

Yay for Mumma - that's great news! Glad there were no triplets!!

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 11:56:25

Yes I'm very glad there is only one!! So this baby is due exactly. One week before dd was due! And 11 days before she was actually born. Aparently I have a higher risk of delivering early this time though as there is so little gap between pregnancies, but on the plus side also on track for a quick and easy labour! Think baby log flume, whhoooooosssshhhhh! grin

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 12:00:30

Getoff - I forgot about antibacterial stuff (was in shock I think) to the tesco lady gave me some (I was on my way out) it was a bloke walking his dog past my gate and it just bit me! My hand is the same level as a toddlers face!! So could have been a whole lot worse! I think I might give the MW a call just to be safe.

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 12:13:50

OMG I won't be calling the MW advice line again...... She was sooooo rude!!! Now trying the GP surgery hmm

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 12:20:22

I am convinced I felt movement too - the other night at bedtime dd was lying in between my legs with her head resting on my tummy. Right where she was I felt a few little prods/flutters!! I guess it must be the sac moving? It made me jump as I am not even 12 weeks yet. Can't remember when I felt movement last time, think around 19/20 weeks maybe.

Good news on the scan mumma!

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 12:24:47

Bloody he'll miss tweed, what did the owner say? Make sure the wound gets air, and is completely clean. I would really take it very easy fir the rest of the day as you've had quite a shock. Dogs and babies/toddlers in the same environment really freak me out as they are both so unpredictable. I had a nasty incident with DD4 when she was sitting (10months) minding her own business and a springer spaniel just appeared and jumped at her knocking her over backwards and leaving a scratch on her shoulder from its claws. 'Its only friendly' said the owner as he unapologetically walked away leaving her hysterical. I know kids and animals CAN get along but IMO dogs and children that don't know each other should be kept at a safe distance.

Call your GP as my dog bit me a few years ago and the infection went as far as my elbow!

i ended up in hospital several times. tho not saying that will happen to you!

there are only a few antibiotics that they can give you so the strong ones for animal bites are out - would be worth getting medical help now before anything starts

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 12:55:42

Woo hoo for more positive scans.

misstweed poor you. Definately go to your GP, hope you don't get an infection.

So excited for those of you feeling movement. I thought I might have felt some last night but it was probably just wind blush

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:08:20

Now sitting in a+e waiting for tetanus jab GP said that dog bite/cat scratch is different tetanus only kept at a+e hmm

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 13:14:42

Oh bless you misst better to be safe though.
Sending you a virtual hug

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:22:46

FFS ...... The receptionist told me a porky!!! The vaccine is not different and I am already covered !!

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:24:41

But at the end of the day, all is well. I'm giving myself 5 mins to finish huffing in annoyance before I move on with my day. My DH on the other hand is ready to throttle someone shock

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 13:29:25

oh misstweed how horrible for you!! and can't believe that on top of that you've been sent to a&e unnecessarily! hope you aren't hurting to much? what did the dog owner do / say?

congrats mummapanda on the scan, I was rooting for you to have triplets though wink

got a massive strawberry and banana smoothie from a local café and it has stayed down, hopefully doing me a world of good. not feeling up to work though but hopefully tomorrow

i'm not surprised! stupid people.

just watch your wound really carefully - if it starts to ache and swell leg it to A&E. mine went bad literally within hours

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 16-Apr-13 13:54:22

The scan today didn't go well. We got an empty sac. The sonographer booked me in for another scan next Friday at the EPAU to check on progress in case my dates are wrong. But I know there is no way it is not at least 10 weeks. So I'm off the bus again. This will be my second mc in but my first mmc. I asked how do we proceed from here (as in to remove a sac), but the sonographer only said they will be able to tell me at the EPU.

Good luck to the rest of you with upcoming scans. Hopefully I will be able to hop back onto another antenatal bus soon.

suprisepitstop Tue 16-Apr-13 14:05:07

oh, One that is such awful news. i really hope everything going forward goes better for you. that is so so sad. stay well

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 14:10:32

Oh onetoddlerterror so so sorry to hear your sad news. My heart goes put to you and your DH.
Be kind to yourself. Sorry for your loss.

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 14:30:14

oh onelittle I am really really sorry to read that, I can't imagine what you must be going through. look after yourself, and best wishes for happier times soon flowers

one i'm so gutted for you and your family. lots of best wishes and hugs flowers

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 14:41:53

tired, glad you are starting to feel better.

onelittle - god, I'm so sorry, that's truly awful.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:53:31

Am at work so can't read all the updates but just wanted to say that I went to the Early Pregnancy Clinic this morning, didn't have to wait long, they did a pee test and phew it was still positive - what with me having hardly any symptoms I was a bit concerned - and sent me in for an internal ultrasound or 'probe' as I like to call it.

And there it was, one (extremely small) baby (or speck of dust) with heartbeat! Magic! They measured it 3.6mm - or more importantly, 5-6 weeks, not the 8 that I'd worked out! Which may push me into December, but hey - will stay here for a bit since you ladies are all so lovely. Thank you for all your kind words of support - I was bricking it slightly.

So not sure why I'm only 5-6 weeks, but the nurse said it was just an estimate and they never really know. She thinks since I'm so early, the blood is probably from implantation. V reassured, as is husband - and it kinds feels real now, if you know what I mean. It's a long time until 12 weeks though!!

Hope everyone is OK, any other scanners today? Will try and catch up later.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:57:00

Just scrolled up and saw your post onelittletoddleterror

I'm so sorry for you and your family. Sending all best wishes and the best of luck for the future. flowers

littlemonkey2013 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:59:36

onelittle - sorry to hear your news, fingers crossed for good news in the future flowers

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 15:02:56

I was supposed to be due in early November (just over 10 weeks pregnant) but found out today at a scan that my baby stopped growning and died at around 7 weeks sad I understand this is called a 'missed miscarriage' as I have had no bleeding sad

I had a scan at 7 weeks that showed a heartbeat so it must have died shortly after that.

Feel numb and can't stop crying. Have hospital appointment tomorrow morning to discuss next steps.

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 15:04:52

Onelittle - just saw your post and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your news xx

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 15:06:37

Onelittle I am so so sorry to hear your sad news, that is just awful news. You will be missed here. Best wishes for the future thanks

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 15:09:00

Lovely sorry to hear your sad news too hmm

retroelle Tue 16-Apr-13 15:15:33

Oh onelittle and lovely what sad news for you both sad

Fundal height mentioned earlier - I was googling, and it's supposed to be 1cm (or 1 finger-width) per week. So 12cm for 12 weeks etc.

lovely I'm so so sorry - awful news flowers

No more sad news for people who don't deserve it

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 16-Apr-13 15:36:28

lovely sorry to hear your bad news too. DH is going away next week for work and that's why I get my next scan next Friday. I know it would be bad news so I don't think I can go alone. I don't know if it is normal but I would prefer to it to be felt with as soon as possible. I don't think I can get over the grief properly when my body still thinks otherwise. This mmc is a much more cruel joke than my last mc (it was 6 weeks only).

Other than crying. I went on the topshop website and bought myself some leggings and tunics. I couldn't fit into my normal jeans and I just don't think I could cope wearing maternity trousers for any longer.

Sorry for the rant sad

one say whatever you need to - we will all listen and support you. Totally understand your need to have closure.

I'm sorry I'm just rubbish with knowing what to say other than huge hugs x

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 16:05:27

lovely I am so so sorry to hear that flowers take care of yourself

onelittle (and anyone else of course) no need to apologise for ranting, feel free to post and rant away if it helps (or to hide if you prefer) it is so hard to know what to say, but I massively sympathise with you re not fitting in your normal clothes, that must truly feel like a cruel joke right now, and I get why you don't want delays right now. I really feel for you with your DH going away next week as well, not an easy time.

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 16:28:41

Oh no!!! What awful news! Finally been able to sign in here (the app had a bug) & just read about lovely & onelittle sad sad

Will def miss you onelittle - very best for future trying.

Lovely - that's an absolute nightmare you poor poor thing.

My scan is tomorrow morning & now I'm petrified I'm going to get bad news too even after seeing the heartbeat last week. I've still had cramps constantly although no more bleeding. So scared!!!

Come on people - we need some more happy scans & good luck!!!

On a minor plus, DS got into our top choice school today. Has anyone else had school places today?

Hugs to all x

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:35:12

omg blush one little and lovely sadsadsad feel so sad for you both im so sorry for your loss sadthanksthanks

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 16:36:37

lovelylara am so sorry to hear of your loss. You must be devastated.

boy congratulations on your DS getting in to your preferred choice of school, that must be a relief.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:45:11

is that reception places?? x

Animol Tue 16-Apr-13 16:51:57

Oh no what sad news.

onelittle and lovely - so sad to hear your news - take care of yourselves - hope you'll be back soon - big hugs and thinking of you both.

We've got a different system here and DD got her place at her and our top choice of school in February - such a relief.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:54:27

is that reception places?? x

artyone Tue 16-Apr-13 17:01:04

Right, here goes a long 4 page catch up

THANK YOU to everyone who sympathised re: blood taking. They did apologise but it was the receptionist who called me and it wasn't her fault so I couldn't really tell them off as such. Hopefully it will go smoothly once again.

Slippysnow Congrats on seeing your wriggly one.

stuff ooooh congrats on feeling movement. I am jealous, all I get are the odd twinge and back pain, but am only 10 weeks.

theboob good luck with your results.

OneLittle So sorry to hear that.

Ariel21 Congrats on the positive, yet surprising scan.

lovelylara Also sorry to hear your news sad

Sorry if I missed any news. I hope everyone else is well and wish everyone good news from now on. smile

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 17:14:57

Honey yes it's reception (he's 5 this year). Nerve wrackingness of that was not helping my nausea lol so glad it's all over x

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 17:28:05

Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot, and I'm sorry to put a bit of a dampner on what is otherwise a happy thread.

Wishing you all the rest of a good pregnancy smile

lovely and one so sorry to hear your sad news sad

Kids were back at school today, I've not been around in a few weeks but have been busy. I was put back on insulin yesterday sad I'm now injecting before lunch and dinner (I hate needles too) and am testing all the time.u fingers are so sore and feel bruised. I have 3 hospital appointments on Friday with different consultants and a clinic for diabetes and need bloods taking. My dating scan has come through for next week so I'm nervous about that too.

Can't believe this pregnancy is going the same way as the last one.

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 18:45:15

goes to corner to quietly celebrate my happy scan

woohoooo sad

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 18:47:58

Aww mumma congratulations, that's great news...don't hide it in the corner, no matter what smile x

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 18:49:06

I'm soo sorry to hear of the sad scan news. Hugs, to you both.

Diege Tue 16-Apr-13 18:49:30

Sorry for going awol! I have been reading but finding it difficult to recall enough to post anything vaguely relevant or interesting!
I am so sorry to hear your sad news lovelylara and onelittle sad I had a mmc at 10 weeks a few years ago and it really knocked me, so cruel sad
I'm 12 weeks and 4 days here, though a bit more by scan dates. Have the much awaited nuchal with prof nicolaides tomorrow <gulp> and the results from the harmony test. I am very very nervous but know that at least I'll know if there are any problems pretty definitively as the test is 99% accurate. They have said they should be able to confirm the gender from the scan too tomorrow (after 80% sure it's a girl at 10 weeks).
Am probably in my last week on non-maternity wear here - I can tell you that the bump comes pretty quick when it's baby number 6 grin

Hi cheese!

Mumma no being sorry! Happy news makes us all happy too!

I've got hip pain confused

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 19:04:18

Onelittle, I'm truly sorry to hear your news, that's terrible. sadTake care of yourself and I wish you and your family all the luck in the world for your future plans xxthanks

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 19:11:22

Just been catching up...
Lovelylara..... I'm so sorry! sad Times like this I really don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you and everyone that is going through the same. Truly sad news thanks

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 19:19:55

Welcome back diege and cheese.

Diege best wishes for your scan and results tomorrow.

Cheese sorry to hear your having to inject insulin.

Mumma don't hide grin Great that your scan went well.

I think hearing that things haven't gone well for some of us makes everyone feel sad and also nervous about our own scans, so good news is wonderful to hear.

Sickness has been better again today though have had a couple of waves of feeling a little sick. My digestive system is definitely out of sorts though even when the nausea is ok.

Anyone else got particularly sore nipples?

I have just glanced up And seen myself in the mirror. My breasts look huge. They have had a significant growth spurt in the past few days. Bras still fit but I can actually feel people looking at my boobs and I want to say yes yes I know!!

I am also feeling particularly huge. Weighed myself today and according to my scales in work (not electronic) I am either the same or 1-2 pounds heavier. Don't believe them though feel enormous hmm but I cannot blame anyone but myself for all the crap I have been eating. However when you feel soooo sick and know that something will give you relief you don't care! I am going to look into starting aqua natal classes ASAP. Think you have to be 12 weeks and all going well I will be 12 weeks this Saturday. Will wait until dating scan to make sure all ok and my dates ate correct but after that I need to do some exercise!!!

Thinking of you onelittle and lovely. Not sure of you will come back on bit I wanted you to know that I wish you all the very best for the future and hope that someone is taking good care of you x

firsttimemummyy Tue 16-Apr-13 19:27:57

Hi All, just been trying to catch up with a lot of pages of posts!

So sorry to hear about your scans Onelitte and lovelylara, thinking of you and really hope you are ok. Congratulations to all who have had lovely scan results though!

I have such mixed feelings about my scan on Friday. I am so looking forward to it but yet feeling sick about it at the same time. I know I am going to be all dry mouthed and sweaty palmed going in there! I was trying to tell myself that despite what I have read on all the MN boards the chances of something being wrong are small, but it really seems it happens to a lot of us. sad I had read that the stats were 1 in 10 after 5 weeks but it must be a lot more than that.

I have been trying to protect myself by not letting myself think about anything baby related until the scan - no names, no looking at websites for baby things, forbidding my poor DH/mother from even discussing it! I'm kindof bracing myself for not good news in an odd way. Just don't want to get my hopes up at all. Sorry just realised this is a bit of a depressing post! I'm just so worried. My mum thinks I'm being ridiculous, she doesn't understand at all why I am thinking negatively. Is anyone else feeling the same?

first I'm a bit worried too! I've had my booking in and scan and that was at 10+2 so I have a very very long wait until the next one at 18 weeks!

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 19:47:42

First time, Ive got the same feelings about my twelve week scan. I was the same at the early scan appointment. It's natural to feel that waY.

I'VE been an absolute grouch today, snappy and plan irritable, with the occsasional swear word thrown in. Grrr.

Measured my boobs and have gone from a c to a d cup. Has anyone else started to notice a faint line running from their pubic bone to their belly button.

Diege Tue 16-Apr-13 19:55:33

I agree that it's totally normal to feel nervous before a scan. I was so nervous on one occasion that I couldn't get on the scanning chair blush (sonographer none too impressed). Did in the end and all was well.
I will have a long wait tomorrow which won't help matters. At least I don't need a full bladder which is a small consolation!

EcoHippyMum Tue 16-Apr-13 20:33:11

Congrats to those with good news today! Sorry for your losses Lovely and OneLittle, my heart goes out to you. I am terrified I will have the same news next week as I am still getting light brown spotting.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 20:41:17

i have mixed feelings too, im fairly sure baby is alive, cos i just heard hb on the doppler and a 'thud' and static where i think it kicked the probe, and at the same time felt that little flutter, like bubbles bursting on my skin. grin but im also well aware that could change in a day, and i could still mc at any time or baby could have a defect of some sort. so im trying not to get too assured.

oh and i had serious talks today, and decided to make a go of it. but this will be make or break, if he messes up again, theres really no going back xx

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 20:49:32

Just had a thought... Are we vaccinated against measles?? Was it part of the BCG jab we get in school??

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 20:50:57

Just a quick post for one and lovely I'm so sorry for your sad news. Wishing you all the best for the very near future.

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 21:01:10

Onelittle sorry jut noticed your earlier post - do you have anyone to go to the scan with you or can dh cancel his trip?

I too also do not know what to say in these circumstances and feel that no matter what is said, you will still feel so sad. Please be kind to yourself thanks

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 21:05:28

cheese sorry about needing insulin, have friends who had gestational diabetes, it sucks. Best of luck.

mumma really pleased about your scan grin

deige good to see you back. Can't believe you find out the sex so soon. Best of luck with the nuchal tests. I find out my blood results on Thurs but the nuchal fold was 1.3mm so I am hoping for more good news.

hav wildly envy you've only put on 1/2 pounds. I've put on another 3 pounds in 2 days please be water retention please be water retention

dizzy no line yet but I got one at 15 weeks when preg with dd

echo sorry you are still getting spotting, hope it stops soon but as long as its just spotting you should be ok.

honey best of luck for you and your oh. Really hope he gets his head round this soon.

misstweed I don't know about measles. I'm assuming I'm immune but haven't thought about it.

EcoHippyMum Tue 16-Apr-13 21:22:40

BCG was tuberculosis... MMR is the measles one x

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 21:27:49

One & Lovely that's such sad news, I'm so sorry for you both, it's so unfair xx

Oh Busy I'm sorry you're feeling that way about tomorrow, I hope you have the support to get you through it.

MP that's lovely news about the scan, can't wait for my next one when there's something that actually resembles a baby to see!! grin the flume - wish I had me one of those!

MissT what a palava. I hope it didn't hurt too much.

Good luck for tmr Boy & great news on your heart beat Ariel.

Are you happy with the decision to try again Honey? I really hope it works out this time.

I'm starting to get nervous now too as at my 6 week scan splodge measured 2mm which by the sounds of things is way too small but my dates are defo right, I know exactly when we dtd. There was a heartbeat but the whole size thing is starting to play on my mind.

Mega sicky day today, had to run out of two meetings, was nearly sick on the train & am still feeling sick now (with lots more sick in between). Bleurgh 10+4 & still waiting for my scan date!!!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 21:44:58

If it makes you feel any better saundy I'm 12 wk 4 and still haven't received my nhs scan date. If it wasn't for the private scan I would have lost the plot by now. Sorry you are feeling so sick.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 21:50:49

Sorry to hear you are still experiencing spotting Eco - hopefully it is just 'one of those things' - how many weeks are you?

Nurse today said mine might be breakthrough bleeding, or old implantation blood. It's still there today but I think the internal ultrasound dislodged a bit.

I'm sorry to hear your news lovelylara - do take care of yourself and best of luck for the future. flowers

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:01:06

Saundy I have just read (thanks to google) that by 6 weeks the developing foetus should be 2-4mm long so that would mean your measurements at 6 weeks fall into the "norm"? I don't know too much about it but just did a quick google.

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:02:01

What is breakthrough bleeding? Does that mean from be lining of the womb? Sorry if that's such a simple question blush

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 22:11:08

im fine with giving it a go. hes got issues he must sort though and im going to remain partial til he does, not allowing myself to get close again til he proves himself.

now my best mate has just texted me saying in no uncertain terms our friendship is over now ive taken him back. :'( i feel so betrayed, ive been there for her through thick n thin, whenever she needed a place to stay the night after a bust up wiv a bloke or if shes locked herself out or something. when shes had a break up, lost a baby etc ive been there. and just like that, im gone. just cos she hates my oh. sad seriously fed up sadsad

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:15:32

Oh honey that's all you need right now. Is your friend maybe worried about you? You can't live your life by other people's ultimatums though. If your sure oh is who you want to be with then your friend should be there for you hmm

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 22:20:55

i know sad i feel shortchanged, shes been with men who are much much worse, cheaters, druggies, even one who hit her, but never have i judged her for it x

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 23:17:44

I believe that breakthrough bleeding is bleeding when your period would be due? Someone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!

JBrd Tue 16-Apr-13 23:40:01

One and Lovely - so so sorry to hear your sad news. Nature can be so cruel, be kind to yourselves. I hope you'll be able to pick yourselves up again quickly after this ordeal. Take good care! flowers*

Diege Good luck tomorrow! Hope you'll be able to get around London easily, with the funeral happening. I would say I don't envy you, but I do grin

Saundy I think it's really difficult to date a pregnancy this early. Do you know when you ovulated? Because the date(s) on when you dtd don't necessarily mean that that's the date your egg got fertilised. Sperm can hang around up to 7 days...

Well, I'm still bleeding, although it seems to have slowed down a little bit. But it's still bright red, quite watery, and I'm getting really bad back pain. One more day until I find out for certain what is going on confused
I think I might try and have a quiet day tomorrow, ended up doing lots of things today. But it feels good to keep busy... Trying to think of what I can bake tomorrow - today I made ciabatta and ginger shortbread. Maybe I'll try focaccia, never done that. Or a nice cake... The problem with that is that I'll end up eating it grin

I'm so sorry OneLittle and Lovely. I hope you are on another bus soon.

I'm so jealous of all of those going for scans. Can't afford a private one due to the costs of moving house next week. Only another 4 weeks! I feel so so grotty though. Just miserable with nausea all the time. My boobs are humongous and I'm knackered. I cannot wait for the "blooming" second trimester.

Oh and I have a horrible blocked nose all the time and have post nasal drip which makes nausea even worse. Any tips on dealing with it?

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 06:39:11

Good luck with all the scans today ladies grin

Whenshewas - have you chased the hospital about your scan? Are you planning on having downs screen done? If so it has to be done before 14 weeks (someone pls correct me if I'm wrong) (and potentially your EDD could be brought for forward....) As its part of the NICE guidelines to offer everyone screening now they have to see you within that time frame or they'll be in for some serious arse whipping!! Might be worth mentioning "NICE guidelines" if you phone to chase.

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 06:58:30

Thanks When & Harv panic over! I'm easily pleased haha.

JB I didn't realise sperm could stick it out for 7 days!! I thought 3 tops, no clue as to ov day so that could make sense & if its sperm that's been chillin out in there for ages then it MUST be a girl!!! I hope you manage your nice relaxing day today, I'm pleased its slowed down. Mmm freshly baked bread though - the one thing we could all eat!

MsFP I'm the sniffly same, it's rubbish, no tips here just sympathy.

Honey that's really rubbish about your friend. I admit I've done something similar hmm but it was under much more extreme circumstances. It was someone who was in a very physically abusive relationship & I was the only person who knew - thanks to regular calls at 4am begging for help when I was powerless to in a different part of the country. Anyway after a particularly extreme incident they split & I did say if you get back together I'm telling everyone everything. They did, I did & it didn't go down well. My point is it came from a place of love so don't write off the friendship, let her calm down & then talk about it.

I haven't actually spoken to DP since Sunday - over something quite small. He lied to me about something stupid, I called him on it & he tried to lie his way out of lying (he'd been out & was a bit pissed at the time). I told him to not speak to me until he was ready to be honest & we haven't spoken since! I know we're both being stupid & stubborn but godammit he should come to me!! Lots of pressure over losing his job & the pregnancy etc. But I've been so ill & he hasn't even checked if I need anything. So fed up.

Dizzy81 Wed 17-Apr-13 07:02:10

Morning everyone,

Good luck to all those having scans today.

Yesterday at work I had a bit of a panic. We have a ladies loo with a dodgy flush and as I was busting for a wee I couldn't hold onfor me to flush until all the loo roll had gone. Anyway after I'd had my wee I flushed and noticed that some of the loo roll had blood stains, you an imagine my heat rate went up etc. anyway had a quick wipe as you do and it was ok and subsequent wipes were ok, I'm guessing the last lady to use it was on her af.

Sorry for the ramble but looking back its made me giggle.

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 07:47:46


i cn understand that, as he was getting abit controlling and overjealous. but she lost her child cos she werent bringing him up right, but didnt fight to get him back and instead, moved in with the bipolar man shes cheating on, who threatens to beat her up on a regular basis. so i really dont think she has the right to judge me for trying to work on my relationship with my babies father. she hates oh and vice versa. i just wish theyd keep me out of their childish feuds.

good luck to those having scans today thanks

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 17-Apr-13 07:48:45

Good luck fellow scanners, hope we all get good news! Mines in 1 hr & I'm scared!!!!!

Ariel21 Wed 17-Apr-13 08:01:02

Good luck to those with scans today.

Saundy regarding sperm, that's what the nurse suggested as per my dates being earlier than I thought - she said that if I ovulated late and the sperm were hanging around then possibly implanted later than I thought. Nothing to worry about I'm sure, and dating that early is not accurate (that's what I'm telling myself!)

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 08:33:21

Good morning ladies, hope you are all well. I am feeling particularly lazy today, have had terrible wind pains last night and its finally rectifying itself this am. I suppose this is a reminder of what our DS/DD's will be going through with colic. Could have done without it though as I have my last meeting as a student rep today! And I am struggling to get myself sorted to take DD to school let alone drive to Cambridge :/

I think DH is falling in love with the bump, he keeps touching and stroking it' gets very cuddly and lovey dovey when he is...and is looking for a safer car as his is a very old car with no air bags! Obviously this is his first child (my 4th), its just amazing to see the change in him!

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 08:34:26

Good luck boymeetsworld.... If your able to read this now you are probably sitting in the waiting room trying not to wee yourself after drinking so much water! Lol good luck and enjoy your magical moment grin

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 08:37:40

Thanks Ariel time will tell eh.

honey I wouldn't be surprised if it was more to do with him trying to isolate her from friends. But you're right she is in no position to tell you how to live your life. I hope it is just frustration on her part because she cares so much & you are able to sort it out xx

That's a good point about colic Echo that will defo give me a good point of reference.

Good luck scanners, am looking forward to seeing all the lovely updates later smile

theboob Wed 17-Apr-13 08:40:55

one and lara I am so sorry for your loss xx

Good luck to all with scans today .I have appointment with consultant re the colposcopy i was due next month .....bit scared

passed my dissertation too yeahhhhhh !

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 08:42:59

Good luck to everyone having their scans today. Thinking of you.

Am envious of all the scans. Mine still seems so far away. I'll be 13+2 when I finally have mine.

I think I feel fluttering. My bump is huge today. Am trying to eat well because I really don't want to end up the same size as last time. I was huge! Took ages to get rid of the baby weight.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 08:43:33

Well done on passing your dissertation theboob

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 17-Apr-13 08:58:38

Congrats boob - I admire you, I can't concentrate on anything at the mo!

Good scan news here. Dates caught up (8 weeks) & still nice strong heartbeat despite the cramps grin that's it now until 12 week scan but feeling much happier.

How are the scans for everyone else?

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 09:11:20

congratulations theboob ! hope your meeting with the consultant goes well

great news Boymeetsworld must be a relief after everything you have been through!

I don't even have a scan date yet! 9 weeks today... praying that means only a few more weeks of feeling ill left

MummaPanda Wed 17-Apr-13 09:42:05

So dh pretty much told his whole family yesterday after the scan. And my mum wants me to tell my dad today, but I'm really nervous about telling him because he's the sort of person who stresses about stuff, and even though its not really happening to him, he will stress out about how hard its going to be for me. He already has enough going on to stress out about I hate to be the one to stress him out even more! Then I've just got my sister left to tell but not sure when I'm next going to see her, so do I tell her by text / phone call or wait and do it in person? I'd rather do it in person but hate the idea of everyone else knowing except her.

Congrats boy on the scan! Yaay for more happy scan news grin

louby86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:02:32

So sorry OneLittle and Lovely xxx

Animol Wed 17-Apr-13 10:06:32

Great news boy - well done on your dissertation the boob

10 weeks today!

mumma - I know the feeling - my Mum will start worrying the moment I tell her - hopefully in 2 weeks time

I can feel my tiny bump getting bigger but above the bump is my flabby belly so it looks like I'm hiding half a squashy water melon under my top sad and it has nothing to do with the baby who should only be about the size of a jelly baby - ah well.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 10:11:58

Great news boy you must be relieved.

mumma I'd tell, they'd be upset if they found out that others knew first.

DS is fascinated by the funeral procession on the TV bless him.

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:29:27

we have, sorted iti just told her im not gettin involved in it n all i expect from her is to just be there should it go tits up.

well done on your dissertation smile ive got college tonight myself as ive got my exams in june confused so im waitin for my postman to drop my parcel to me then im going to catch up on some shuteye. i feel nausea more when im tired i dont want to be feeling vom while i do my work x

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:30:20

and congrats on the good scan boy smile

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 10:42:21

mumma I would be tempted to tell her by phone /text. I still feel a bit annoyed with my good friend who wanted to tell me in person so badly that I only found out a couple of months after the rest of our friends knew (I live the other end of the country so don't see her as often). I would much rather have felt involved by text/ email!

berrybomb Wed 17-Apr-13 10:51:29

honey - hope everything goes ok, it sounds like you're being fairly sensible about it. Hopefully he will change and become more of the partner you need.

boymeets - oh yay - fantastic news. The 12 week scan will come round quickly.

well done boob on your dissertation, I remember what a good feeling that was, it's such a huge piece of work for such a long time of your life!

Everything here is ok I think....I'm a bit worried all my symptoms have still vanished, although I am eating like a horse. I can not wait till my scan next Monday.

I'm also a bit nervous about telling people after that. Our families and close friends know, and are all over the moon. I haven't been with DP for that long (6 months), so i know lots of people will be judging us for jumping into something so serious so soon, but it was very much planned.

MummaPanda Wed 17-Apr-13 11:00:57

Good point tired there's a small chance I might be able to tell her in person today if she's working, my mum should know if she is so I'll find out. If not I guess I will call or text her.

williaminajetfighter Wed 17-Apr-13 11:57:48

Hi everyone, just dropping in as i haven't written on here forever, mostly because I'm so zonked at night am going to bed at 7:30! I've read through all the threads and great to see progress and good scans!

So sorry to hear all the bad news about mmc and the like. I had really hoped we had come to an end of the bad news. It really does show how tricky it is to make a baby and get to 12 weeks. I do hope that all those who had bad news will try again, particularly as you're meant to be much more fertile after an mc.

I'm amazed to be at almost 11 weeks (10+6) given that I had 3 previous mcs and keep expecting something bad to happen. However what I'm more amazed by is that after 4 days of painful constipation I finally had a BM this morning.... and it was a glorious moment! smile sorry, I can't be the only one who is constipated, right? hmm

retroelle Wed 17-Apr-13 12:22:21

I'm feeling remarkably well now (10+2) and could easily forget I'm pregnant. I am just waiting for my scan in 2 weeks and hoping this isn't a bad sign. I haven't had much in the way of nausea or tiredness at all, just a bit of evening queasiness between weeks 6-8. My boobs are no longer sore, although still huge, and I seem to be growing vast quantities of body hair, which is a bit annoying. I think this must be payback for the lack of sickness. I would rather be hairy than not-pregnant though.

Currently away on a work trip and am besieged by unsuitable food and colleagues wanting to go drinking. I am 100% sure they must have guessed, especially as I am really fat in the evenings now.

Retro I'm also feeling grand! So grand I'm scared there's nothing in there! My bikini line is looking decidedly unkempt confused so a waxing session is in order!

Williamina I was constipated too but it's eased a tiny bit thank god

williaminajetfighter Wed 17-Apr-13 12:53:01

fairy I too am becoming Sasquatch-like and must cover my body in Nair on the weekend. I also noticed my nipples are becoming way darker, preparing for the hell that is early breastfeeding!!

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 13:02:05

I'm definitely getting hairier too, although I had a dream the other night that my thighs were covered in thick black hair so the reality doesn't seem so bad any more grin

9 weeks and think I am getting the start of a bump, I am getting thinner thanks to the hyperemesis, but can feel the start of a bump now, makes it feel a bit more real although I need the scan before I will even start to relax.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Wed 17-Apr-13 13:24:14

fairy williamina & tired I'm glad it's not just me covered in body hair. I keep looking at the epilator but haven't had the energy to tackle the tangle of hair covering most of my body.

Dizzy81 Wed 17-Apr-13 14:26:28

Williamina, yes to the constipation -I had beans on toast for tea on Monday night - a whole big tin and that certainly got things moving! Also noticed the nipple thing too.

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 15:50:04

I am so sorry to hear one and lovely's news - please take care

busyprocrastinating Wed 17-Apr-13 15:55:17

Thanks Saundy my dh has been mega supportive.

Well I had the scan and there is indeed a little wriggly baby in there. I guess I better start believing it now. Also had the dreaded blood test the midwife was extremely patient. Am glad it's done!

We can start telling people now which feels strange when nobody knew for so long.

Yes to the hair and constipation. Oh the glamour!!

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 16:00:14

I had my scan today - this was an NHS one to check my dates - two little somersaulting babies! the midwives were great - very encouraging and said I was their first twin mum for a while.

Their best guess going on what they can see and how the babies are measuring is that they dont expect them to be identical as definitely in their own scas and have their own placentas plus one is about a day behind the other so they reckoned they are from separate eggs maybe even fertilised on different days.

Given due date of 7th Nov though that would be 40 weeks so expecting them really(& ideally) in October - next scan (at 12+5) weeks on April 30.

tentatively begining to get a bit excited!!!

best of luck to everyone else with scans coming up

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 16:15:38

I am also feeling really good. Sickness seems to have vanished overnight shock which is stressing me out???!!! Also not as tired either. My nipples are still sore And suffering from mild constipation - tmi sorry but Am going to the loo bits not easy iykwim. I've not been good at taking my lactulose regularly so will need to do that. But tbh if I didn't know I was pregnant I wouldn't think I was - should I be worried?

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:24:07

Well done on the dissertation Boob I bet you don't know what to do with yourself now! I'm one of those weirdo's that loved writing mine, so much so I started it the summer before my final year as I couldn't wait to get going!

I'm glad you survived it unscarred Busy that's great news. I'm loving all the lovely scan reports but I have to ask what do you see?? As in what are they doing in there, do they bounce or swim or float or what??!!! What's happening in my uterus!!!! Haha.

Ooh non identicals Spanish so you might get one of each!! Have you got your head around the whole twin thing now?! My sister had non identical boys & one is just like her & one is just like my BiL which is lovely, you really wouldn't know they were twins at all.

So impatient now!

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 16:27:23

I''ve just had a nap with DS. Really felt like I needed it today, was feeling a bit out of sorts.
I did myself a list of chores today and have done two of them!
On the plus side, DS has baked and also painted and done water play so don't feel utterly useless

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:29:09

Harv enjoy it!! I had 2 glorious days of normality but it didn't last so make the most of it! You are pregnant so this lovely break your body is giving you to regroup is only that. There'll be something unpleasant in the post - as that seems to be the way of the womb wink

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 16:31:28

Lovely news spanish and busy
Hope that it's all becoming more real for you now

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:50

Thanks for reassurance saundy. With dd I wouldn't have questioned it because I felt fairly well a lot of the time - it's just this time the nausea has been awful at times especially the past 2 weeks so its more noticeable when it isn't here. And this time I know way more too - knowledge isn't always a good thing! Thank god i am not a midwife!!

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 17:06:20

beginning to get my head around having twins - of course the most important thing is they are healthy but if I could choose would love a boy/girl combination - roll on June when I hope we will be able to find out.... hate wishing my pregnancy or life away but am anxious about getting through it and in an established routine so I can know we are coping!

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 18:06:10

I am sat in EPU, started bleeding outside of uni, rang the midwives who told me to go to nearest A&E so had to go to Addenbrokes. Waiting to see consultant now.

JBrd Wed 17-Apr-13 18:19:04

Oh Eco, how worrying! Hope all is ok, fingers crossed for you x

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 18:23:22

Oh Eco so sorry to hear that. Sending good luck prayers and well wishes your way.

Oh Eco. Fingers crossed things are ok and this is just a scare.

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 18:47:51

Finger, toes and everything else crossed for you Eco thanks

O no hope you're ok echo x

Eco hoping everything is ok and that the bleeding wasn't much.

Eco - stupid autocorrect x

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 19:06:04

keeping my fingers crossed for you Eco

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 19:11:09

Hope your getting on ok Eco, thinking of you thanks hoping it wasn't lots of blood and that its nothing to worry about.

Emc123 Wed 17-Apr-13 19:23:00

Hi all, hope I'm not to late joining! Due 7/11/13 with first baby. Dating scan next week so maybe the date might change..
These first 12 weeks seem to last forever! Nervous and excited about the scan, hoping all is ok. Anyone else have their scan soon? I expect it will feel more real seeing baby on the screen smile