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November 2013- thread 5 of 100,000 ��

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honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 10:15:02

started yet another grin as im aware were about 20 posts from full again lol!

MummaPanda Sat 13-Apr-13 10:21:06

Good one lol. 5 already?!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 10:26:30

Well done, think you might be right about the 100,000 at this rate grin

SuffolkNWhat Sat 13-Apr-13 10:27:45

Blimey we don't half chat!

honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 10:46:53

quite funny aint it? june ladies are on their 5th thread lol x

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 13:57:11

Ahhh that explains it - just tried to reply to Berry & was thoroughly marked when everything I typed out disappeared - thread must have been full smile

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 14:02:35

Got a smile on my face for first time in a while - we have just had a letter from water co saying we are £800 in credit shock so we are getting loads of money back and our monthly bills will halve! Good timing as this hyperemesis is making me and DH super gloomy!

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 14:11:37

Hooray that's fab Tired! That can help towards baby shopping smile

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 14:19:11

Thought I wouldn't be able to find you all - but you are here - phew!!

Hardly any symptoms today but I can feel that my bump is starting to come over the top of my pelvis.

That sounds good tired

Still haven't told anyone in RL so very glad to have this thread to let off a bit of steam from time to time.

When I was expecting with DC1 we told inlaws our thoughts on names and FIL said 'you can't call a child that' (it was a totally normal not weird in any way name that he just happened to not like :-( ) Completely spoiled it for me and I knew I would never tell anyone again what we were planning to call our DC and I didn't. Once you present people with a baby and say here's little Mumsnetina or similar then people just get on with it. DH likes my girls name but not my boys name - yet. Will keep working on him :-)

honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 14:19:53

ahh cool smile waters expensive i used to get massive water bills... x

Saundy Sat 13-Apr-13 14:24:50

Ha I think we're well on course for it to become that many!

Marking my place smile

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 13-Apr-13 14:33:13

tired that's great news.

Just had a massive nap, feeling human again.

SpanishLady Sat 13-Apr-13 15:07:47

Who hoo tired!!!!

My dh has put Theodore for a boy on the table with possible nn Teddy and/or Theo - I actually quite like it so am shocked as we tend not to like the same names! He's previously suggested jack but we already have a Harry so using two if the mst popular names in the world puts me off

theboob Sat 13-Apr-13 15:49:32

marking place

Hello ladies - nice new thread!

We've a couple of names in mind for both girls and boys but it'll be so hard to choose when the time comes!

I've been bad and bought something already...blush

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 16:05:19

Fairy....well spit it out...What did you buy?!!! wink

We probably won't decide till dc2 is almost here about names. We decided on dd's name when I was in hospital being induced and we really struggled. It's a huge responsibility! We are from Scotland and dd's name is Scottish so we would like to pick another Scottish or Gaelic name of possible. I like Amelia or annabelle for a girl so far but that could change very quickly!! Annabelle is the Gaelic spelling I think will need to look into it a bit more.

I am in car with dd she fell asleep just as we arrived home from shops - I have my phone, my pillow, my book, orangina and a hot cross bun!!! Ready for a little nap smile

We got a car seat with over £50 off the rrp. Couldn't decide what to do and eventually DP said we're getting it. And I was secretly a bit pleased lol. It's a maxi cosi pebble in bright red - think it was cheaper as its last seasons colour.

stuffthenonsense Sat 13-Apr-13 16:25:54

We seem to start a new thread about every 10 days....imagine when everyone's on mat leave!
Absolutely no clue on names, we have rules....must not have an initial that we've already got, and must not be 'popular'

I feel so miserable and ill. I got uo actually excited to pack stuff ready for moving and now I feel like if I breathe too hard I'll vomit. I want to cry to be honest. I'm 7w2d and I'm finding the prospect of another 5 weeks of this overwhelming.

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 17:24:39

Hope you're feeling better soon MsFP - I'm 9w3d and am starting to feel much better so maybe you won't have to wait that long.

Lozcat86 Sat 13-Apr-13 17:27:27

marking my place....still feel incredibly sick every day...hoping it stops soon grin)

OneLittleToddleTerror Sat 13-Apr-13 17:41:01

Checking in.

Also link to our stats thread.
www.mumsnet.com/Talk/antenatal_clubs/1730786-November-2013-Stats-Thread

Check and update it if your date is wrong.

Dizzy81 Sat 13-Apr-13 17:42:31

Tired, yeah on the water bill refund.

I'm soo tired today, trying not to over do things. Figured how to keep my neusea at bay - constant grazing. I've got a craving for melon, walnut whips and I keep dreaming about salad!

berrybomb Sat 13-Apr-13 17:50:33

onelittle - how is your spotting? Hope it's got better. I think mine's finished.

MissTweed Sat 13-Apr-13 18:34:26

Marking my spot grin

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 18:38:09

A sensible purchase at least fairy and red is lovely for boys and girls grinI keep looking at tiny pink and blue baby grows. I actually picked some up but dh made me put them back smile

Msfan I am 11 weeks and some days my nausea is horrific other days it is better. It's not been consistently bad which has probably made it more bearable - this week has been pretty bad though and grazing hasn't helped as much. I do feel that my sickness is MUCH worse when I don't get enough sleep so my aim is to sleep better this week. Hope your feeling better soon. Get plenty of rest and keep yourself hydrated. I find sipping on cold water is a huge relief when the nausea is really bad - oh and ice lollies are lovely and refreshing too.

Honey what was for tea tonight with you being kitchen-less?

Hope those of you with spotting are ok.

Dd and I had a lovely sleep for an hour and a half in the car smile dh had to waken us! Yet I feel like I could still sleep! It's DVD night tonight for us with popcorn and treats.

Out focus at the moment is getting our house in order. We only moved in late last year and need a lot of work done still. Not one room is completely finished and we have 4 rooms untouched. I want the get the "nursery" done ASAP - will just paint it cream just now but want it ready as at the moment it is stripped to the bare walls with no skirting or door frames so its not just a quick lick of paint shockI m trying not to worry about how much we have to do.

Hope everyone is having a relaxing Saturday night!

And thanks for starting new thread honey - cant believe we are on number 5 already!!

williaminajetfighter Sat 13-Apr-13 18:58:06

Marking my place. Had a panicky day as cant imagine how am going to cope with baby and think I'm nuts for doing this at my age. Could the mums on this thread with one more than one DC reassure me? How much harder is it with 2? My dd is almost 7 and I'm a bit panicky about going back to the all-consuming baby years. Sorry....hormones....

SpanishLady Sat 13-Apr-13 19:14:35

Willamina, was thinking about just that today and I think with #2 you have abit more confidence in yourself eg not taking 30 mins to change a baby (was guilty of this) also the older child is probably going to set the agenda my son for example has a weekly swimming class and we are determined he continues so he'll make me get out my pyjamas! We also now know the value of a routine and what that might be...... Hope that helps to reassure you!

WorriedMouse Sat 13-Apr-13 19:16:22

Is it too late to join you? You all seem so supportive and lovely! I'm due 11.11.13 with baby 2. Already had 2 scans - one private for peace of mind and one after some mild spotting last week. Both showed baby right for dates with a heartbeat. Still can't stop worrying as my sickness has stopped - DH thinks I'm mad! Is it normal for sickness to improve at 9/10 weeks? I wish I'd kept a diary from my last pregnancy as even though it was only 3 years ago, I seem to have forgotten everything!

Hi worried and congrats!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 19:27:13

Welcome worriedmouse and congratulations! I feel the same, a lot of the details from my previous pregnancy seem very hazy now

williamina I am wondering about coping with two as well, will seem quite different I think. Mainly just wondering how we will all fit in the house though, we desperately need to move (2 tiny bedrooms) but need to find somewhere we want to buy first!

TiredFeet Sat 13-Apr-13 19:29:24

fairy well done on the car seat. Good colour! Crazy that they have 'last seasons' colours but that is how we have always got car seats, puschair etc for more sensible prices.

honey86 Sat 13-Apr-13 20:06:10

hi worried, congrats smilethanks

watchin britains got talent... david walliams is soo funnyy grin

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 20:12:08

Wow, new thread already! Marking my spot!

Names - I have a few I really like, DH said I am better at that sort of thing (in fact most of the names of the animals has been my choice, even before we were living together if he got something I'd end up naming it!). I give suggestions and he says yes or no to them, and so far we have two names that we both like both beginning with T. Both of us have families where there are traditional names passed down but we both want to steer clear of that....I think he is leaving his family 'traditions' down to his twin brother lol.

Dizzy I too am absolutely shattered, last night I kind of just collapsed in the sofa after doing a couple of hours of work, and feel like I'm just not catching up on my work! As for the ms I still haven't actually vomited but it's getting worse rather than better! I keep getting that awful sour taste in my mouth too... a few times I've had to literally just sit bolt up right in bed ready to dash for the toilet as the queasiness really takes hold. I have a bag of crystallised ginger on top of the microwave that I have every now and then if it gets bad.

Think I will start doing some shopping for baby bits after my scan, although I am now wearing maternity clothes that I got from New Look.... my other clothes were digging in and making me feel uncomfortable. My middle daughter remarked today that I am really showing already...quite worrying when I am only 10 weeks!

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 20:13:26

Welcome Worried!

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:15:23

Saundy guess what I am eating for dinner? You guessed it, tiger bread sandwich with cheese and coleslaw mmmmm! I am struggling a bit with sickness tonight so hoping it helps.

Williamina, you know I only have 1 dd just now but I kind of think if you can cope with 1 then you can cope with 2. I agree that the newborn will probably have to fit in more with an older child's routine. Whereas with our first everything revolved around them. Yes of course you will have the care of another child but you will be more confident this time round. Plus your dd will be at school during the day when you are on mat leave. The newborn days are hard but they don't last long and when dc2 is a little older they will have a sibling to keep them occupied and play with. I think you sound like a strong person - you work in a good job while looking after your dd while your dh is away at work. Remember work will be out of the equation during the hardest months. I'm not very good at expressing what I mean sorry.

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:18:32

Sorry meant to say welcome worried mouse and congratulations! It certainly is not too late to join at all grin I totally wish I had written a pregnancy diary last time. My dd is 3 now so you'd think I would remember!

BoyMeetsWorld Sat 13-Apr-13 20:20:12

Welcome, Worried! Count yourself lucky lol - I jolly well hope my sickness disappears at 9 weeks, can't take much more of this! I think statistically they say once youve seen the heartbeat past 8 weeks you're in much safer territory

Animol Sat 13-Apr-13 20:37:49

Hi willemena soon after DC4 was born I had a day where I felt I did nothing but shout at the kids - they did nothing but shout and probably everyone was in tears at some point. I honestly thought ' oh no, this is what our life is going to be like from now on' - of course it's not - we're not quite like the Waltons yet but I think we have a fairly healthy mixture of laughter and tears - and yes, some shouting - but I'm working on it. You'll be great!

Welcome worried you're 2 days ahead of me!

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 20:52:38

Hi all, happy new thread!
Sorry that some of you aren't feeling well. Hope you're soon feeling more human again.
I'm feeling knackered. I've been ruthlessly going through my wardrobes putting things in bags for charity or bin or sell on ebay.
I've also been getting tummy pains, is this normal at this stage? (11 weeks). I really can't remember from last pregnancy.
dizzy I've been craving salads too, had a lovely one today with loads of fresh ingredients in.
I totally agree with keeping names secret.until you introduce the baby. Lots of people hadn't heard of DS's name until they'd met him.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 20:54:38

Yep I also feel that this thread is really lovely not bitchy or judgemental at all. Thanks guys.

Well we have been having more dreams, though thankfully not about plants growing out of my boobs. DH is welsh and welsh speaking. Names were our first conversation before last MC. I am not Welsh but quite fancy a welsh name too. Anyway he dreamt that I asked him to go to the registrar, and he came out with a birth certificate saying a generic non Welsh name (which I won't mention so as not to offend). Bless him he is having an identity crisis on behalf of our 8 week old bean!

Ms Fanackerpants I am also feeling really and contstantly rubbish (7+6), vomiting all last night and wretching most of today.

Hope everyone who is feeling anxious/spotting finds a way, any way of making it easier to cope with. I found chatting the best way.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 20:55:51

Welcome worriedmouse

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 20:58:31

Eco I feel the same - not being sick just feel constantly sick and this week it seems to be worse and more constant. Previously it came and went so I had lots of good moments on between the nausea.

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 21:08:36

Loads of new posts while I was just composing my contribution!
saundy you totally started a trend, we had tiger bread for lunch, we ate the lot!
Welcome worried
williamina I keep thinking the same about adding another person into the family. I know once DS gets used to it though he'll love his new sibling and having a ready made friend and playmate.
We're in a two bedroom house too and will have to sort that put at some point add it to the never endings list

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 21:11:06

Ps river my DH is Welsh and I'm not. Our DS had a Welsh name although we live in England.

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 21:21:21

getoff we have just moved from England to Scotland, I'm from Northern Ireland and he is Welsh. We have it all covered there! Are you planning on a second Welsh name?

riverflow Sat 13-Apr-13 21:32:10

Ordered a treat of salad and pizza from a lovely independent place. They were late so brought me a small bottle of coke for free. I am not drinking sugary fizzy drinks just now so it was a lovely (if not dirty) surprise for me, enjoying it more than the pizza! Dh is at a poker night and I am about to watch Johnathon Ross with my coke! Surprise secret treats are great!

RemoteControlledChaos Sat 13-Apr-13 21:41:59

Hi everyone, checking in for end of Nov, feeling like poo & keep forgetting to be happy! I don't remember it feeling this awful last time...but managing (or not) a toddler as well as myself is trickier...

LovesTheChoas3 Sat 13-Apr-13 22:21:30

Hi Ladies, I read something about the more DC you have the earlier you show. I am was a skinny minny. This is DC # 4 I am 9w4d and i am not joking when i say i can't fit in any clothes i own or the next size up. I have a very definite round belly :/ Anyone else heard of this or do i just need to stop eating and sleeping and get off my arse?

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 13-Apr-13 23:09:16

river we're planning on another Welsh name, I think it helps DH feel more connected with his brethren lol!

harverina Sat 13-Apr-13 23:39:08

River where is Scotland are you? I Am in the west grin

EcoHippyMum Sat 13-Apr-13 23:49:01

Hi Loves, I lost 3 stone before Christmas, I think I put a little on when Mum died but have definitely 'popped' with this one and this is DC4 for me too. I went down to a size 12 and am wearing a size 16 now, have bought maternity clothes in size 16 which is too big for me now..but only just too big.

OneLittleToddleTerror Sun 14-Apr-13 05:11:10

Morning all. DD is awake too early again sad. Took me a while too catch up. We tried to go to town yesterday to by some new clothes and a duvet + pillow for DD. We gave up as the traffic was terrible. Ended up going for cake and coffee locally. And DD behaved so well at the cafe.

Welcome worriedmouse.

berry I didn't spot yesterday either. Fx it will be a good day for both of us.

fairy I think you might be our first buying baby stuff. Red is a lovely choice.. Both our carseats and our bugaboo is red grin. It is gender neutral for a start!

tired wow £800!

I'm also worried about having two, especial it will be two under 3s. DD is very high needs and demanding. But probably all babies and toddlers are like this. Our days still mainly revolves around her. I guess like you all say, the second wont have this luxury.

MissTweed Sun 14-Apr-13 06:08:45

Eurghhhhh.... Got to get up for work hmm at least it'll take my mind of the stress of worrying about my scan tomorrow. Petrified of them telling us that i have mmc. I still got swollen boobs and a definite stomach, that's got to be a good sign right?? Although I have no other symptoms hmm anyone else got their 12w scan tomorrow for mutual hand holding?? Mine is at 8:30 so at least I'm not winding myself up all day

Wishing you all the best for tomorrow MissTweed, I don't have a scan date yet but I'll hold your hand for company. I'm sure sore boobs must be a good sign. And commiserations at having to be up for work already.

Puked so hard I pulled a muscle! Nausea is just my standard setting now though I think. Definitely worse when I'm short on sleep and when my blood sugar is low.
harverina I found some strawberry mivvies in the freezer and it helped some. DP went out and got a felafel wrap plus some spiced cooked salads for me. I have to eat in small portions though. Going for lunch with DP, MIL and DP's grandpa, hoping I can manage to go as it's a lovely restaurant. I really wish we could tell Grandpa M but it's too soon and he'll tell EVERYONE he ever meets about becoming a great-grandpa.

Red for a gender neutral stuff sounds good. All I can comment on is the colours, I have no idea about car seats or travel systems or anything! I'll be doing a fair amount of walking in a semi-rural hilly area so need something that's fairly rugged but can also manage on buses and trains and in the city. DP reckons it's more complicated than buy a new car last week, that took him about 20 minutes to decide.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 07:59:07

Welcome worried mouse.

Miss tweed, we're here to hold your hand through it. I think most of us on here felt/are feeling the same about our 12week scan?

Fairy, the car seat sounds a bargain and reds a nice colour. I've told dh we have to wait till after the 12 week scan to buy stuff. I'm going to then have. Spree on eBay for maternity clothes and job lot baby grows!

To all of us who felt exhausted yesterday, I hope today is better!
X

Labracadabra Sun 14-Apr-13 08:10:39

Another newcomer here! I've been reading the threads since the first one started. I'm 10w 2d today, due on 8th Nov. I already have one DD who will turn 3 the month before this one's due. Having dreadful MS but luckily not bad enough to need meds. No bump as yet, especially as I've lost weight with the MS and there wasn't much of me to start with! However, woke up this morning with a full bladder and I could clearly feel the baby (or rather a "lump") on the right side so popped my Doppler on and there was the heartbeat! 166 bpm. Feeling really cheery now and got my scan on 26 th so really looking forward to that.
I'm glad to finally be joining the thread!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 08:12:25

Misstweed my scan is next week but we are here to hold your hand. Of course the symptoms you have are positive grin hope work passes quickly for you. Working on a Sunday should be banned! I too am worried that I will had a mmc when I go for my scan - probably most people do (maybe not so much first time - ignorance is bliss!) I have symptoms but that probably doesn't stop anyone from worrying.

Had quite a long sleep but have woken with the headache I went to bed with hmm hoping it will pass. It's a miserable wet day here so a day at home for us yay!

Eco and loves, I am wearing same size clothes just now and most maternity clothes are too big in my usual size - well the ones I tried on were anyway. I did manage to find one pair under bump black skinnies that fit quite nice so I have worn those this week, except they are over my fat tummy so technically not being worn properly! Hoping that once my jump grows they will naturally fit under. Eco I think for most women they show quicker and get a "thickness" round the middle quicker with 2nd and more pregnancies. I could fasten my jeans no bother until week 20 last time. I know right now that half my jeans are too uncomfy to wear now at week 11 (and have been for a while) I've spoken to a couple of friends and they have found the same 2nd time round (and 3rd etc). Our tummy muscles are obviously ruined!!!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 08:29:51

Welcome labra!! Congrats! great news about you hearing heartbeat that's lovely grin

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 08:42:19

Here I am worrying again! Last week I had a tiny amount of spotting a a streak of pink when I wiped. I had a major panic and a lovely midwife arranged a scan showing baby with beating heart and right for dates. Last night in my mid-night loo visit I had the same- tiny streak of pink when I wiped. Nothing more since. Cannot stop worrying and was stupid and googled now I feel I need more reassurance. Should I bother midwives again? Or go to GP tomorrow? Or try and get a private scan this afternoon?

gubbinsy Sun 14-Apr-13 08:53:45

Hi. I posted about 3 threads ago - been lurking since. Just wanted to ask, has anyone else had a serious pain in a bum cheek? It feels sharp, a bit like pulled muscle but worse - I almost passed out when I stood up last night and although it's a bit better now it's really uncomfortable. Dr Google says probably sciatic nerve issue and that it can happen in pregnancy as things move about but truly hoping it's not like this for the rest - only 9 weeks!

Anyone else had this and know of how to get any relief? Planning to call midwife tomorrow if no better to see if they can advise too.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 09:22:24

Has anyone else noticed they've gone off the smell of their favourite perfume/ body lotion?

berrybomb Sun 14-Apr-13 09:24:12

worried- I'm in exactly the same situation as you (although no lovely midwife here, so had to get a private scan). I promised my DP after the last little bleed if there were any more worrying symptoms, I wouldn't self diagnose and I'd be more relaxed.

Of course then there was more spotting, and I've tried to stay calm, but it is hard. I'm hoping that after the first bleed I saw the heartbeat, so hopefully after this one I will too! However, for peace of mind it might be worth giving your midwife a call - she sounds much more helpful than mine who simply said it may well be a MMC but there was nothing she could do as it didnt warrant a scan!

Morning all, I feel so much better at weekends when I get a decent night sleep and can relax and take it easy!

MummaPanda Sun 14-Apr-13 09:35:19

Welcome back gubs and welcome all newbies / lurkers! I had bad siatic pain with dd, it did go away after a few weeks, but it does hurt a lot, and you look really silly limping around and holding your back like an old lady!

misstweed I have my scan tues so am also starting to get anxious about it! Excited too though!

Hi to everyone new!

I woke up this morning with a horrible thought - how will I know everything is alright in there until my next scan at 18 weeks?! I should stop being a worry wart I know lol.

Dizzy I went right off the smell of my exfoliator! It's made from a rice base and I thought it was revolting!

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 10:44:07

Hi all, how are we today?

Dizzy - I've not only gone off perfume for me, the smell of DH's aftershave is making me feel sick hmm

MissTweed & Mumma - good luck for your scans! My next one is Weds (just to follow up after the cramps and bleed) so lets hope we all get good news.

Berry - I meant to reply on the old thread, but it ran out. When you said you like the name Jessica but its too popular, have you heard of Jerricah? Might not be to your taste at all but there's a cute little blondie girl in my son's nursery called that & I remember thinking how pretty and unusual at the time plus it's a bit like Jessica so just thought I'd share.

Well...today I am stuck at home alone all day, DH is doing the drive with DS to his dads, then DH is off to a big bday party with his family. It was meant to be a joint party for me, his sister & bro as we all have bdaysclise together...but I'm still too ill to sit in a car for 4 hrs then face an 'American Diner' themed meal. Bit confused about it though. Glad I've got our dog for company!! Back to work tomorrow, that may be a struggle...

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 10:53:41

Hi Gubs I've been getting a stabbing pain in my butt cheek too! This is after having a seriously painful front of leg (thigh) about a week ago that made climbing stairs difficult.

This week I'm ok just shattered, and not able to work in the evenings like I normally do, just falling asleep in front of the laptop... Ten or eleven in the morning is a difficult time too - starving hungry, dizzy and tired eyes!

Had some more brown spotting yesterday and a pale brown smear today. Panicked yesterday but feeling a bit more calm today. Seeing doc on Thurs so will mention it then, unless it gets worse. Maybe I'm too calm?! It's not like me at all.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 11:22:52

Good morning!

Welcome Worried & welcome Labra - we're due date buddies (there's a few of us due on the 8th).

Wow Harv it sounds as though you have a huge task ahead house-wise, I HATE decorating so rather you than me!

Not long to wait now MissT xx

I'm pleased the sandwiches are hitting the spot ladies smile.

I had a bit of a food disaster last night, went for a Mexican - baaad idea. To say I was sick just doesn't do it justice, am still suffering now. After a sleepless sick sick night have had to take today off work. Meeting a friend later for a drink who doesn't know I'm pregnant, I thought there would be a few of us but its just us two of us so should be interesting.

To add to my super sick woes found out yesterday that DP has lost his job - stressed is not the word!!!

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 11:32:56

Oh no saundy that's a shame you have been so sick and sorry to hear about your dh losing his job. Is he likely to find something else fairly quickly? Is your friend close enough to tell your pregnant? Suppose you could cancel and say you have a sickness big if your really not up to seeing her.

Yes we have a huge amount of work ahead with the house. I don't mind painting - if it's one room! When it's 10? Not so much! And we need to do it ourselves as couldn't afford to get people in.

I suffered from terrible sciatica last pregnancy and got physio for it at the maternity hospital. Might be worth asking your midwife about it to see if they can refer you on - although I was a good bit further on last time when it started.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 11:38:11

Fairy, I've got the same fear! After seeing jellybean at 7+4 where everything was spot on, how will u know everything's ok at 12 week scan. I hope to get my date through soon.

Saundy, oh no you poor thing. Sending huge hugs your way!

I'm glad others have gone off certain smells.

Another 8th November here!

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 11:48:15

That's it Dizzy everything was ok at 6 weeks but that means nothing for 12 really, also want my scan date now!!

I hope he finds a job soon, he has 2 interviews lined up but it's very competitive at the moment. Fingers crossed. Last time he was out of work if was for a year & was very hard on the relationship. He applied for everything going too. Trying not to let my mind go there. It looks as though that's that for my dream of shared maternity. It looks as though one or the other will be doing it all now hmm

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:09:03

Exactly, the sonographer did say so much can change in5 weeks. The dh works from home and itext him at lunchtime to check the post!

Saundy, fingers crossed for you dh for Tuesday. He will find something and try not to think about the negative. Easier said than done. X

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:20:20

Well if it makes you feel better after detecting a heartbeat at 7 weeks the chances of a viable pregnancy are 95.8% (90.6% for me at 6 weeks) I find the miscarriage associations website strangely reassuring confused

I'll not panic too much yet. If he's worked his 4 weeks notice & still not found a job - then I'll panic!! He does enough worrying for both of us lol.

riverflow Sun 14-Apr-13 12:23:48

I'm in Edinburgh haverina but we do spend a lot of time kayaking in the west coast, love it over there. Planning a surprise whisky tour trip to Islay for DH's birthday in June and going to Skye for a week in May. (Hope I can stomach the strong smells!)

Hope everyone's scan's this week go well. I have another 4 weeks to wait but the ms is sickeningly reassuring.

saundy i had the same problem with drinking, only it was the same day as I took my pregnancy test, I had arranged to meet a friend for brunch and drinks. I am Irish which doesn't mean i have to be a bit of a drinker but stereotypically I am, and it was Paddy's Day. I hadn't seen her for years but she guessed within a second of me ordering orange juice. I guess life goes on and does it really matter if a few people know? I'd rather keep on doing what I want to. Although I have kept a list of names incase I MC again. DH has said that he will text everyone, so I don't have to break any news. I guess you just have to do what you think is best for you to cope. I am very cynical so like to have a plan for the worst case scenario! Either way its up to you and I am sure she wouldn't mind you cancelling.

Passing on your DH some good vibes for a job.

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:37:43

Ah Saundy thank you for that, it's put my mind at rest!

He'll find something before the four weeks are up, as he sounds driven to do what's best for you, the bump wtc.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:38:13

Thanks River

I'm embarrassed to say I can't think of a single social interaction with my friends that hasn't involved alcohol!! That's what happens when you stay in your university city.

I've been such an arse about insisting DP doesn't tell people that it'd be beyond cheeky for me to tell her haha. That's the only reason why not really.

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 12:39:41

Dizzy who knew that'd be the site to find comfort!

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 12:54:08

Exactly Saundy. I'm trying not to google stuff relating to this sort of thing as I'd drive myself mad!

littlemonkey2013 Sun 14-Apr-13 13:00:35

wow i cant believe that this 5th thread has 78 post already. i was still reading the old one.

welcome new people and hope everyone feels better if they have been spotting or throwing up.

wow on buying a car seat already. i was tempted with a moses basket last week it had quite a big discount, was neutral and sooooo cute. but then i reasoned that theres bound to be loads more cute ones and it might be even cuter in a gender specific colour so i didnt buy it. dont know when i will start shopping. i think if i start early i will end up with too much. thinking summer car boot sales might be a good option.

im having a day where nothing smells right and i dont fancy anything to eat. i feel like if i decide i want something and set about making it, i will have gone off the idea before its made

BangOn Sun 14-Apr-13 13:15:52

goodness me - thread 5 & i'm still only 8 + 5 in to this pregnancy! i'm only managing about two posts per thread. oh well!

i've really started feeling rough these past few days. i was the same with dds 1 &2 - not much nausea-wise until 8 weeks, so probably another little girl, i imagine. i don't mind - i'm one of 3 girls (plus my brother!) & my mum's the same. so would have a nice tradition about it.

mycatlikestwiglets Sun 14-Apr-13 13:51:17

Marking my place on new thread.

Glad to hear some people are coming out the other side of sickness/nausea. Am 11+5 now and really fed up of constantly feeling sick! I have a proper bump now too so am looking forward finally to telling work this week so I can get out my maternity clothes instead of trying to hide it. Someone guessed last week so not sure my efforts are working!

Anyone else with a obvious bump? I was in mat clothes at 9 weeks with DS so figure I've done well to get ths far this time.

Lozcat86 Sun 14-Apr-13 14:04:32

ive got a 'bumpy' type area, which gets bigger as the day goes on. Yesterday i actually managed to eat a whole meal that id cooked. impressive when ive been living off toast and snacky things for the last few weeks... wink

BangOn Sun 14-Apr-13 14:36:40

i just look generally pregnant as my stomach muscles never really recovered from dd2.

I just look like I've put on a few pounds rather than being pregnant - hate that! Tho if I get a bump I'll probably be wishing I didn't lol!

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 15:06:34

My bump is growing each day! When I wear maternity trousers it is really obvious I'm pregnant now which is nice rather than just looking plump!

Dizzy81 Sun 14-Apr-13 15:54:05

I weighed myself earlier and have put on 2lbs, my jeans dont do up, my waist has got thicker and I've ditched the jeans for leggings!

My dh says the bump is noticeable, and when I crouched down i certainly felt a bump.

theboob Sun 14-Apr-13 16:18:31

I have a bump already and it's very obvious . So much so we have had to announce it , most people who have seen me knew , but its to be expexted with 2 in there !

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 16:20:53

mines more like flubber than bump blushsad but when i lay down flat i can feel the weight of my uterus xx

suprisepitstop Sun 14-Apr-13 16:44:42

I just feel really bloated and like I can't pull my stomach in, and I just look chunky, which I am hating, I never have a waist at the best of times! It's all so unglamorous, sitting around with your jeans straining round your girth, drinking soda water.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 17:14:42

Honey I feel the same! I def don't look pregnant - my fat tummy is concealing the pregnancy but my tummy is getting bigger and I can also feel the weight of my uterus when I lie down too.

Only 20 days until I exit trimester 1 and the sickness disappears!!! wink Have my sickness bands on today - they do help a little I think but nausea is still there. I am making a roast dinner for dm coming and not sure i will manage to eat a thing - cab quite easily eat in the mornings but when it comes to dinner it's a real struggle.

Welcome to anyone new that I may have missed grin

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:15:08

I am exactly the same about the scan, although I have mine at 11w4 days... But I have to be sensible, if there was no more baby then surely I wouldn't be 'growing'. But the spotting does worry me... it's nothing major but it does happen most days like a lightish brown.

DH this morning was saying to me, 'you are really showing already' whilst stroking the bump and was worried if it was normal. But the midwife assured me it's normal for a fourth. She said as a general rule of thumb you show earlier each pregnancy....long gone are the days of my very muscular stomach that held DD 1 & 2 in till I was about 7 months... I looked 9 months gone at 5months with DD3!! Also my breasts are getting enormous this time around...

I envy you Honey that you can be that aware of it, I can't even find the height of the fundus, never have been able to either! I think part of it is also me being scared I might 'hurt' the baby or do something bad by poking around too hard.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 17:15:56

I love getting to the stage where I look pregnant instead of just chubby gringrin

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:21:05

Harvarina I have some over the bump (H&M) and under the bump jeans, boot cut (New Look)... the under the bump ones fit better but aren't exactly 'under the bump' at the moment. I think the reason they fit better is that they have a bit more elastic in the waist.

EcoHippyMum Sun 14-Apr-13 17:22:34

lol the worst is when you've just had the baby and still have a bit of a bump going on (it's more noticeable I think with subsequent babies) and someone comes up to you and says 'So when are you going to drop?'.....
Always one!

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 18:23:51

I'm not sure whether it's just bloating, but my tummy is huge today! Usually quite flat (it's the thinnest part of me) but today it's like a balloon. Also boobs are bursting out of my biggest bras. Excellent! But think I'm only 7+4 so what's going on!? Still brown spotting here, wondering whether to call doc's tomorrow or wait until my appointment on Thurs? I have no pain (except for constipation and the odd twinge).

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 18:39:50

Had a bad day here. No more spotting but I've cried all day. I have a horrible feeling that something's wrong (I did all last pregnancy too and it was fine). Going to see GP in the morning about light spotting over the weekend. DH thinks I'm mad as we've had two healthy scans so far but I can't relax or switch off. I'm sending DD to childminder tomorrow so I can go to the dr and any other appointment without distraction. Feeling very low tonight. Sorry for the whine!

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 18:48:54

Hi Worried I feel like crying tonight too, just everything getting me down esp the nausea & lack of understanding from DH. Massive hugs to you - maybe having a good random cry would help????

How's everyone else feeling tonight? I think there are some scans tomorrow are there not? X

WorriedMouse Sun 14-Apr-13 18:52:09

Hi boy it's rubbish isn't it! I know I worried the whole way through the last time and I now have the most lively 2 and a half year old ever! Hope you feel better soon. X

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 14-Apr-13 18:52:11

Hi to the new guys especially worriedmouse I can completely relate to all the worry. You really are probably fine, after two scans the odds are massively in your favour. it doesn't stop the worrying though hope you feel better soon.

I think I must be the only one who's on a second pregnancy whose not showing. Have put in 4/5 pounds but not on my stomach. Stomach is still flat, I'm pear shaped so have a big bum and thighs. At 12 weeks I thought I would have a little bump by now. Oh well it will appear soon enough.

surprise I'm the same - cant hold my stomach in at all! V annoying as I'm used to being quite trim around my tummy and now it feels all saggy!

Of course two helpings of cauli cheese doesn't help blush

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 20:22:38

Hugs Boy & Worried sorry you're having a rough ride today, cursed hormones!! (I generally like to blame everything on them!).

Honey I'm the same I feel it too when I lie on my back & when I swap the side I'm laying on in the night I feel everything shift & fall (boobs too which is new).

I'd probs wait until Thurs Ariel unless you're really worried or feeling as though something is differently wrong. Sounds like you still have plenty of symptoms though. Hope you're not worrying too much either Echo.

Is that our first preggy prediction Bang?! Anyone else 'know' what they're having??

I had to tell my friend, she brought a jug of wine to the table & as I'd been pretending to drink rum & coke there was no real getting around it! Turns out SiL's mouth has been flapping anyway. V annoying.

I have a bra related question, my boobies are feeling a bit bigger but they still squeeze into my bras. I don't want to buy new bras now & then have a spurt & need to buy more (especially now DP is a job down). When did/will you buy them?! Am 10+2 if that matters.

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:42:18

went abit mad on baby stuff front bought a cute velour sleepsuit, a baby monitor n an electric bottle warmer... scratch mitts , bodysuits, a tinkle toy a cute teddy bunny wabbit, a thick all in 1 aaand a blanket..
sure hope i havent jinxed things blush

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:42:55

oh and booties blush

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 20:43:33

and a baby armani hat from ebay lol

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 20:48:57

Haha I've been a bit of an eBay junkie too Honey buying any nice/unusual maternity clothes I see. I don't even need them yet - or know what size I'll need when I do! Good haul though lol

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 20:59:51

Saundy if your only just squeezing into your bras you should get measured and buy a couple of new bras. I'd buy cheapies though as your size might change again - although once I got new bras around week 14 last time they fitted me until I went into nursing bras toward the end. I only went into nursing bras as they were so comfy and everything else was so uncomfy that I though what the hell!

Biggest tip re bras...don't waste money on maternity bras without the nursing clips if you are planning on Breastfeeding. Waste of money and if Breastfeeding you will end up having to buy nursing bras grin

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 21:01:34

Back to work tomorrow but luckily an INSET day. Already counting days until half term mainly because I'll miss my naps! Hoping my risk assessment will be done as I have to climb a ladder to open my classroom windows which I don't fancy doing when pregnant.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 21:08:08

God feeling really sick again. Only managed potatoes and gravy for dinner. I wonder if I should try and eat??? Before eating was my way of getting rid of this constant nausea now nothing bloody helps grrrrrr confused

Sorry to hear that people are struggling a bit today with their emotions. Worried I understand why you are worried but in terms of likely positive outcomes you are in a really positive situation after having a scan. Of course there are no guarantees that anyone will be ok and the first 12 weeks are so fragile but please try to relax. Easier said than done i know but try not to think the worse.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 14-Apr-13 21:23:26

suffolk good question about the risk assessment. When are work meant to do one for a pregnant woman. I haven't had one yet.

hav good advice re maternity bras with clips.

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 21:34:24

Whenshewas my boss did it as soon as I told him I was pregnant last time I think. Tbh I found it a waste if time although it shouldn't be. My boss just didn't fully appreciate the impact my pregnancy should have had upon my job.

I think my work do a risk assessment when you produce the MATB1 form

BoyMeetsWorld Sun 14-Apr-13 21:35:54

Good luck going back to work Suffolk. Me too....& I'm going to have to tell the girl I share an office with as she's my only hope of trying to keep this quiet until 12 weeks. Really feeling its going to be a huge challenge being vaguely productive.

Harv - if you're anything like me, even when just the thought / smell of food makes you gag, I'm finding if I can somehow force a tiny bit of ANYTHING down (especially high fibre stuff like bran flakes) it makes me feel worse for about 10 mins but then much better. Temporarily. I also know I keep banging on about Windeze but they are saving my life - I think lots of the pains & nausea must be digestion related (though prob as a result of hormone changes)

Night all & let's hope tomorrow treats us all well xx

SuffolkNWhat Sun 14-Apr-13 21:36:16

They are supposed to do one once they know and reassess it every trimester but I have yet to find a workplace that does!

Saundy Sun 14-Apr-13 21:45:50

Good luck tmr Suffolk I hope it goes well. It is so hard to get back into it & be productive after time out Boy - well was for me anyway.

So Harv is it best to get normal ones now & maternity ones later?

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 21:55:36

fx you feel better soon harv... im still nauseous on n off but not as bad as long as i have eaten. its worse when im hungry or tired.
today ive eaten: mcdonalds brekkie, coffee, pot of cashews, pot noodle, 4 cheesestrings, a fairy cake, a big arse korma coconut rice and peshwari naan aand an apple pie with ice cream blush
thatll be why im getting fat haha my bad.

problem with ebay is such beaut stuff at low prices. tooo tempting x

harverina Sun 14-Apr-13 22:01:32

Saundy probably as maternity bras really don't look as good as underwired - but don't buy normal maternity if you plan to bf, just buy nursing bras. Maternity bras def don't give the same uplift wink but so so comfy!! I didn't wear them till after 30 weeks and ended up not wearing them after giving birth as has to hit nursing bras so a waste of money shock

louby86 Sun 14-Apr-13 22:04:42

Marking place and off to catch up after being in London for the weekend smile

Ariel21 Sun 14-Apr-13 22:11:09

Saundy thanks for the advice - I think that's what I will do, seeing as I've waited 3 weeks for an appointment, and I don't feel any other 'suspicious' symptoms as yet. Hard not to worry though. Hopefully it will be gone tomorrow. (Crosses fingers)

I have bought a top and some mamas and papas skinnies from EBay this week, as my jeans are soo uncomfy!

JBrd Sun 14-Apr-13 23:30:10

Gosh, an new thread again already?!? I can't keep up!

Marking my place - however, I don't know for how much longer. The spotting has turned into bleeding, which has gradually increased over the last few days. Very bad cramping and back pain today, and I'm also starting to see bright red blood.
This is exactly like it went with my mc, I don't have much hope anymore sad
Will call the EPU tomorrow and see what they say...

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:42:53

oh JBrd sad sorry to hear that... got my fingers crossed that it turns out ok though. take it easy thanks

louby86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:43:50

Finally caught up smile

Going to bed feeling really sick for the first time, starting to get really down about it too as it just feels like its going the same way as last time. Considering ringing in sick tomorrow, so bad of me but I just know I'm going to be hugging the loo from 6am/getting ready/getting DS ready/sorting dog all at the same time because DH has an early start too.

Also getting a bit nervous about having two under two! Someone please tell me it will be ok!

Sorry for moaning hmm

honey86 Sun 14-Apr-13 23:58:52

i had 2 under 2 at one point. 21 months between dc1 + 2, and 18 months between dc2 + 3. id say going from 2-3 was worse than 1-2. my first two grew up to be such good friends xx

louby86 Mon 15-Apr-13 00:00:51

Thanks honey, that's reassuring to know smile

JBrd - keeping my fingers and toes crossed for you x

Wibblypiglikesbananas Mon 15-Apr-13 02:23:17

Hi all, another thread, wow! Glad to hear so many of us are doing well.

To everyone worrying about spotting, I had it throughout my last pg and all was well. It gets easier when you can feel the baby moving and know everything's ok.

I am in the US and it has really warmed up this week, was 32 degrees on Weds, which I found quite tricky! Goodness knows how I'll cope later in the summer when it's hotter and I'm bigger!

Speaking of which, I look pregnant now. Definite bump there but still in normal clothes (mainly cos my mat clothes are in the UK and not visiting until next month, when I can collect them).

Looking forward to my 12 week scan on Weds - does anyone else have a scan then?

Upthread names were mentioned. I would second not telling anyone your choices, particularly family! We had a tricky time with DFIL, who apparently hated his grandmother and she'd had the name we were initially going to give DD. DH knew nothing of this and thought it would be nice. The name was also my great grandmother's so had family links both sides. Anyway, FIL made such a song and dance about it that in the end, I felt like the name was tainted somehow and we picked another one. Definitely best to introduce the name with the baby!

We have lots of girly names that we like but not so many for boys so far. Was the same last time round actually and we got a DD so all worked out ok!

Buying stuff - good choice with the Maxi Cosi Pebble, loved it for DD. We have lots already but I'm less into everything being perfect this time round and a lot keener to beg/borrow. I can't believe how precious I was about everything last time round! 'Twas fun though!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 05:16:21

Why why why did I search '12 week scan' on MN? Iv been awake since 4 fretting about my scan today (8:35) and so far just about every thread on MN about them is horrible news. I know that people with bad experiences are more likely to reply to a post so the stats will looked skewed but I can't stop panicking!! I'm finding myself really jealous of those of you that have already had early scans or heard a heart beat on a Doppler. I'm now even questioning whether I even saw the second line on the pregnancy strip all those weeks ago! I know I'm sounding hormonal and mental but this rant if helping smile

stuffthenonsense Mon 15-Apr-13 06:48:44

Miss tweed stay positive, do you have any real reason to doubt or is it just MN induced panic? (Been there had to leave MN for months)
Jbrd hope it's not bad news. You do hear stories of babies surviving despite copious bleeding. Tell your little one to hold on tight.

Can anyone else feel their fundus? And if so how high from the top of your pubic bone. Mine is about 12cm at 11+3, I know it's supposed to be roughly 1cm per week but I don't know from what point in pregnancy....obviously at very early days it doesn't protrude at all.

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:09:33

I don't even know what my fundus would feel like? Tell me please!

Oh jbrd so sorry to hear that you are bleeding hmm hope it is all ok - best wishes for this morning, hope they scan you thanks

Had a rubbish sleep as dd wouldn't go to bed then joined us during the night sometime. Poor dh had to get up at 4 am for his flight so he must feel worse!

Misstweed hope you are ok. Try to calm down if you can and think positive - is there any other reason why the scan would not be positive?

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:10:38

Wibbly 32 degrees?!! So jealous!!!! We had snow at the start of the week again shock

Everything crossed for you jbrd

Another one who doesn't know what the top of the fundus would feel like!

I'm not liking that I've to wait nearly 2 months to my next scan! Wish I was minted and I'd go private to nosy every few weeks lol

TheSperminator Mon 15-Apr-13 07:33:16

This thread moves at some speed. I just can't keep up.

DW is going to tell her boss today. She doesn't want to tell this early, only 10+2. But she is a psychologist and has a really difficult client who is showing violent tendencies. DW can't risk working with the client incase he kicks off and injures her or wee Pebble.

If she asks some one else to take the client she must give a valid reason. Aside from telling the truth, the only valid excuse is to say a more experienced psychologist is needed. But that is suggesting that she can't do and wouldn't be good for the promotion she is seeking.

Looks like she just had to bite the bullet and tell the truth. Any suggestions?

My work have known for weeks! Well my 2 managers anyway. They have to hold such info in confidence if your wife tells them apart from any official business such as moving the troublesome client. But they can't tell others in the office etc.

Have you had a scan?

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:40:00

Everything crossed for you today JB I hope it goes well, am thinking of you xx

An exciting day for you too MissT the wait us over now so try to enjoy it & good luck!

Ha Stuff I don't even know what my fundus is never mind what it feels like - oh dear lol.

Hope you're feeling a bit less sick today Harv though I'm sure the lack of sleep isn't helping.

I barely ate yesterday so am pretty sure that's why I've woken up feeling rubbish - will have to grab something / anything!!

Got a sheepish txt from SiL this morning saying she accidentally told 2 people, so we can probs safely double that figure at least. DP is finding it hard to keep quiet, I thought I was doing to have to gag him yesterday - had kept passing loud comments 'accidently' no doubt in the hope someone would twig!

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:43:05

I told work too at 7 or 8 weeks, one of the first questions the midwife asked me was if work knew. I think they find it quite important that someone knows so the appropriate risk assessments can be done. Ate they likely to be off with her?

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 07:43:27

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Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 07:44:33

Jbrd, everything crossed for you.

Misst, good luk with your scan, it will be fine.

I had a risk assessment at work, it was just making sure if I'm uncomfortable at my desk to say and I can have my desk adjusted and maybe even a new chair. I've also been assigned a buddy, so in case of an emergency they can escort me out the building.

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 07:55:35

Yeah saundy so far so good, feeling ok.

Thesperm I think I would tell my boss in your wife's situation. I work in a profession where I can be faced with violent and aggressive clients. I haven't told my boss as I haven't needed to yet but I would if I found myself in that situation.

TheSperminator Mon 15-Apr-13 08:35:15

Fairy We paid for a scan at 8 weeks. Heartbeat was there and measurements matched with our date. Got MW appt today and get our 12w scan booked then.

Saundy We think her boss will be fine but I think for our piece of mind we would have held off telling until after our scan.

DW is just worried as it's her first job since qualifying and she's only been in 6 months. But anyone with half a brain would have known that a baby was highly likely to follow.

She'll be grand. Told all our close family over the weekend and all are delighted. I actually saw a few of my dad's hair turn grey when we told him. Ha

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 08:39:16

Morning ladies.
Good luck today JBrd will be thinking of you.

Good luck with your scan misst very exciting!

I went to bed at 8pm last night and slept through until DS woken at 6am. Feel much better for it although my nausea seems to have come back. Not helped by having to stand up on the train and then a girl putting some sickly sweet smelling perfume right next to me. I had to move. She gave me a weird look but I think she's have preferred that to the vom all over her ha ha!

Have got size 14 suit trousers on today (normally wear size 12) and they're decidedly tight.

Another one here with no clue about the fundus or its location!

Have a good day all.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 08:49:50

Well something I was told when deciding if I should tell work was that in the event something went wrong it would probably be best for your boss to know with regards to time off etc. Hopefully it wouldn't come to that but the support/understanding could only make it easier.

JBrd Mon 15-Apr-13 08:53:14

Spoke to the EPU, they want me to monitor the bleeding a bit longer, to see what's happening. Scan is booked for Thursday. This is not how I imagined spending my time off between jobs sad Need to find ways to distract myself.
And I need to move my booking appt, as it clashes with the scan. Who knows if I still need it sad

ilovemiltonismybestfriend Mon 15-Apr-13 09:00:14

Im back!! Sorry I've been MIA a while but I'm still around. Had my booking in appt last Tuesday (8weeks) and I have my date for my first scan (12 weeks +1). Everything is going well and even the nausea seems to be subsiding. Yay!!

How is everyone else doing? Xx

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 09:12:30

Good morning ladies.

Back at the office desk and all I can think about is the scan tomorrow morning. Mine is at 9:50. For those who asked about the risk assessment. Iirc, I had one after I told work with my mat 1b last time. It was after 20 weeks. They definitely didn't redo another assessment in my third trimester. But I'm quite relaxed about it as my work is not high risk. I sit in front of a computer all day. All I can recommend is don't get too many maternity jeans for work. They get really uncomfortable to sit all day with towards the end!

JBrd hope everything is ok with you.

MissTweed all the best with the scan this morning. I'm sure a lot of us have fears about scans. It's only natural since the scans are done to find if there is any anomonly! I'm fearing that tomorrow I'll either see 1) an empty sac, 2) it's not grown to 12 weeks thus not viable, or 3) have some deformity. But DH is much more optimistic and was already talking about going to an indian after the scan for lunch hmm

EcoHippyMum Mon 15-Apr-13 09:28:53

Morning hope all are well. Thinking of you JBird and hope your scan goes well Misstweed!

Feel very lethargic today. Finished assignment at 4am! DH will take it in to Uni as he is in today.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 09:36:46

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WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 09:37:18

Thinking of you jbrd thanks best of luck for the scan on Thurs.

heartonsleeve Mon 15-Apr-13 10:20:46

Morning all! Sorry I've been quiet - we were away over Easter, and I've only just caught up.

Thinking of you all who are worrying and bleeding. And also all of you who are having scans this week; ours is on Friday morning - hooray!

We're going to be holding off sharing our news too widely to begin with because we've had some awesome news that somebody in our Church is expecting as well; they had been told conceiving naturally was impossible, didn't want to do IVF and were turned down for adopting. So I am MEGA excited for them, and would rather them have the limelight for a while.

My sickness was much better last week - I wasn't sick at all in the moning. However, it seems to have returned with vengence over the weekend, which I'm pretty gutted about. I hate being sick. For those of you who've gone through it before - does it 'magically' switch off at one point, or is it more of a phasing out thing?

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 10:41:34

Had a very real dream last night that I had my scan tomorrow and there were triplets confused that better not happen!!
Also my siatica is starting to play up ironically after we were talking about it yesterday, its at the front of my left thigh atm.
Looks like we will be telling all close family after scan but no one else for as long as poss. I'm just worried about my dad now, its going to really stress him out!

harverina Mon 15-Apr-13 10:44:06

Glad you have a scan jbrd. Thinking of you in the meantime thanks hope you are getting plenty of rest and tlc.

My wedding and engagement rings are mega tight on me, uncomfortably so. Is this likely to be water retention of fluid? Don't think I have put on that much weight!!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 11:03:16

I have a happy, healthy Ickle baby grin strong heartbeat good downs risk etc etc. both sets of patents told. Soo happy right now. Thanks for all your support guys, I really don't know what I was fretting so much about! I need to learn to relax and stop reading MN for things that could go wrong x

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 11:07:01

MissTweed I'm so glad for you. I guess you could start looking at buying maternity clothes and baby stuff now grin. I really need some new clothes, but I'm holding on until my scan tomorrow. I don't want to end up buying stuff I couldn't wear. I'm getting by with my maternity clothes from last time, but it was 6 months out from this month. Just the perfect timing so I need a completely new set of maternity clothes isn't it? I actually needed to buy new swimwear to go to waterbabies as I just couldn't fit into my tummy control one piece anymore blush. I got a normal two piece. I really didn't like the look of my flabby stomach. But none of the other mums at the class notices. So it mustn't be that bad, is it?

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 11:08:53

Yaaaaay misstweed!! Hope mine goes just as good tomorrow, 23hrs...eek!!

harv my fingers did that, before being pg with dd my engagemnt ring was a size too big, I still can't fit it on my finger now and dd is 5months. Don't really know what to do about it as I hate not wearing a ring! Dh promised he will buy us both new wedding rings but that has yet to happen lol. Might just get a cheap one from somewhere so atleast I have something to wear!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 11:10:28

honey forgot to say that sounds like a good lot. Does it mean you've got both a bunny rabbit and a teddy bear? Or was it a bunny teddy cross grin. DD has a matching set of bunny blanket and soft toy from mothercare. I'm going to get the teddy set this time. I just a sucker for this cute set thing blush

TiredFeet Mon 15-Apr-13 11:17:38

Morning all! Very jealous of all of you talking about scans, I don't even have a date for mine yet!! Spent yesterday in hospital on a drip again and feel semi-human today as a result. Poor ds is finding it all quite hard though.

jbrd really sorry to hear you are having a worrying time, I expect the wait until Thursday will feel very long. I hope you can find a way to distract yourself a little

Pretty much the whole world knows I am pregnant now, no other way to explain being this ill without needlessly worrying people. But it is hard for me as I don't have the comfort of a scan yet. Thinking about booking a private one but not sure if its a bit indulgent

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 11:23:24

Woo MissT that's fab.

It's good you have your scan date RB just a few more days.

I'm still waiting for my scan Tired it's rubbish, sorry to see you're still so poorly.

So are you ladies saying that hands get bigger as well as feet?!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 11:24:57

I had to stop wearing my rings a few weeks back so I bought a silver one from a goth type shop and only cost £6! It's nearly identical to my real one

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 11:26:54

Oh yea my feet are half a size bigger too. Think that's pretty perminent lol. Hopefully the fat sausage puffy fingers isn't!!

great news tweed!

flip me hope this increasing feet and hand thing doesnt affect me! i'd be gutted at not wearing my engagement ring - i only got it at christmas!

honey86 Mon 15-Apr-13 12:03:18

teddy bunny cross grin its like beigey brown with white patches n sooo soft. invested in a few maternity clothes tday... some really nice underbump crop jeans with an adjustable waist... 16.99 from new look xx

o forgot to ask a bit of advice.

my jeans are feeling a bit neat around my tummy but not sure what to do. do i buy a size bigger normal jeans or see about elasticated maternity jeans?! if so what sort do i look for - under the bump i assume? since i dont actually HAVE a flipping bump!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:05:50

Dw fairy my engagement ring only stopped fitting me right at the end of pregnancy so you should get to show it off for a while yet!!
Also about jeans, have you done the hairband round the button trick? That buys you an inch or two!

my favourite jeans have 2 buttons so if i dont fasten them both then it sticks out! stupid jeans lol

i am, as usual, wishing my life away - would rather a bump just came and then i could dress appropriately!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:21:30

I had jeans like that, get quite a big band and poke both ends of band through the 2 button holes, then fasten it by putting one end inside the other and pull it tight, then alternate looping the free end over each of the buttons, kind of like a figure of 8, and keep looping until its tight enough. Worked for me!

Animol Mon 15-Apr-13 12:25:17

Haven't worn my rings for weeks and weeks - have a bit of a phobia about getting them completely stuck so I took them off while I still could.

genius mumma! thank you!

this is why i love this forum lol

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 12:33:29

Hehehee, glad I could help! grin

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 12:42:34

fairy I just wear maternity jeans with the big band tucked underneath clothes. You have to wear longer tops to cover the lowered waist, so it's not like the band is showing. I have no luck with the hair band around waist thing because I can even pull the skinnies over my bum! Otherwise I wear leggings, which expands over my fat tum atm.

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 12:43:22

Oh and I tried my jeggings this morning, and I can't even do up my zips. How embarassing blush. I'm glad some of you are't so bloated yet!

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 12:47:35

JBrd good news that you've got a scan, sorry that it's days away. Try and rest up if you can until then. Maybe sort your digital photos out into albums or something to try and keep you busy but with your feet up.

misst that's brilliant news, you must be so relieved.

I'm another one whose fingers swelled during last pregnancy. It was in the third trimester for me though. Also, my feet grew two sizes in third trimester and I'm now between half a size and a whole size bigger. It's been a complete pain as now none of my old shoes fit. I lived in my fit flops while on maternity leave last time and am planning on doing the same again.

fuckwittery Mon 15-Apr-13 12:57:32

Hi all, could I join late to the thread? I have been in denial with this unplanned pregnancy til I had my 12 week scan this morning (condom split and MAP failed!). However, I've now been scanned and there is definitely a real wriggly baby in there, with fingers and toes and everything!! Due 1 Nov, DC3. DD1 was 10 days late and DD2 18 days late so I'm not expecting to be an October birth! Not great timing as I'd just resigned to start a business from home and missed out on a brilliant maternity pay package with my old business, but I did hate my job so I am happy to have 6 months at home with DD1 and DD2 who havent' seen much of me over the last 2 years. but I see I have a lot of catching up to do !

Ariel21 Mon 15-Apr-13 13:02:06

Morning all. I caved and called doctors. Got an emergency appointment this morning but all he could do was check my heart rate and blood pressure then refer me to the EPU tomorrow morning! It's a 'turn up and wait' kind of affair, but I'm pleased as at least I should know either way whether there is a problem. He did prod and listen to my tummy, not sure what pod that would do, though I think he was just trying to ascertain whether it was an ectopic (he said very unlikely). So! Tomorrow it is then.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:23:42

Yay MissT - great news

JBrd - FX for you, good luck for Thursday, hope everything goes ok

Onelittle and Mumma for tomorrow, can't wait to hear smile

Welcome fuckwittery, glad you're scan went well.

I had a lovely chilled weekend, and for the first time yesterday felt completely like my old self, and same again today. This has of course worried me. I've got my appetite back, no MS, but I guess my boobs are still a little sore. Hopefully nothing to worry about, and I should be pleased I'm no longer a zombie walking!

I bought my first pair of maternity clothes yesterday - a pair of jeans. They are soooo comfy, but I can't wear them till after the scan next Monday, when we can tell everyone! The hairband round the button has been working, but even that's a little tight now!!

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:40:42

Is this urine sample gender test a crock of sh1t!??

http://www.amazon.co.uk/Girl-Pregnancy-Baby-Gender-Prediction/dp/B003ZTX7ZI

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 13:41:12
Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 13:48:09

Welcome FW & congrats, hope you're getting over the shell-shock ok!

Fingers crossed for tmr then Ariel cave away if it puts your mind at ease - that's the most important thing. Are you feeling a bit better about everything?

Yey for the good days Berry as for the test it has as many bad reviews as good so that would suggest 50/50 ie you may as well toss a coin!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 14:12:01

berry agree with saundy. The reviews are 50/50, which is what you'd expect with a piece of ripoff grin. You may was well toss a coin and ask Lizzy.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 14:22:39

I'll go back to coin tossing then! That's what i though.

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 14:23:47

MissT, yeah on the great scan result.

I've got my scan date through 3rd May am bricking it big time. I know I shouldn't as a heartbeat was seen at 7 weeks 4 days so the chances of miscarriage are 5%.

This mornign I've had an ache in my belly when I sit down but when I stand up and move around it's ok. I'm guessing it's just gas or something? If it continues I will call the midwife.

Mummapanda, fingers crossed fro tomorrow for you.

xxx

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 14:24:21

berry if you are really keen to know and couldn't find out at your 20 week scan, how about booking for a private 4D one? I'm sure you can see it if the scan is long enough! Or is it you just can't wait to find out?

BangOn Mon 15-Apr-13 14:27:13

saundy yes, i could be wrong & would love a little boy, but it jusy feels fairly similar to the first two.

bra-wise i got myself re-fitted at about 5 weeks. too early probably. i'll probabl buy nursing bras towards the end but staying in underwired as long as is comfortable. thinking of going down the sports bra route aa much more suppor than maternity.

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 14:33:23

onelittle - we're just very excited to find out! DP wants to book a private scan at 16 weeks when our local one claims to be able to tell.

I think we'll wait till 20 weeks (it will come round quick enough!), and if there's no luck there, we'll get a 4D one.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 15:25:29

dizzy what kind of an ache if you don't mind my asking? I've had aches in my tummy for a few days now. Should I have been phoning the MW?
It's worrying stuff this pregnancy malarkey!

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 15:26:01

Don't know about you guys but the 4d scans freak me out!! Look like something out of a horror movie!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 15:47:13

MummaPanda the 4th dimension is time grin. It's not that scary. They sell it as a bonding scan around here.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 15-Apr-13 16:07:37

I'm with you on that one mumma they look like aliens to me!

BangOn Mon 15-Apr-13 16:10:51

i've never really fancied having a 4d scan. this is my last baby,(all being well) so perhaps i should? just for the hell of it.

here are some other things i never did with dd1 &dd2, which i'm also contemplating as a sort of last hurrah:

buying a bugaboo
getting a bigger car
baby yoga
antenatal yoga all the way through (stopped early with dd1, can't remember why! didn't bother with dd2)
aqua natal
water babies (in a consistent way, rather than just randomly!)
baby massage
only using washable nappies.

quite a list! poor kid having to be 'my baby' forever & getting dragged to everything!

OneLittleToddleTerror Mon 15-Apr-13 16:21:35

BangOn Loving your list.

* bugaboo - done and would recommend it
* getting a bigger car - I wish but don't have the money!
* antenatal yoga - I stopped early with DD because I was too lazy to go every week blush. I already looked on netmums and found a antenatal pilates class around here. Can't find any yoga ones.
* aqua natal - yes, I didn't do that last time, but I want to be better this time round!
* washable nappies - I'm thinking of washable wipes atm. I don't think I can do the full washable nappy thing.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 16:22:18

Get & Dizzy I wouldn't worry too much about the aches pains. One of the first things my SiL said when she found out I was preggers was 'everyone gets aches & pains all through the pregnancy, everyone panics, it's normal, just call me if it happens & I'll remind you.'

artyone Mon 15-Apr-13 16:30:36

Hello everyone I'm about half way caught up with this thread, Hah, too much chatter.

I am here today to vent!!

I am terrified of needles. I had my booking in appt last week and had to have blood taken (for the first time in my life). I felt horrible on the day, but thanks to a brilliant midwife and my OH, I managed to have it done and was very proud of myself.

Today I get a call from the doctors saying that my blood got lost or broken at the lab and they need me to re-do the bloods. They can give me a midwife again but can't guarentee the same one. I feel like crying. I know you have to have it done more than once in the pregnancy anyway but thought that was it for a few weeks. I'm so annoyed sad
Also does anyone know if this will delay my scan or anything?

Ugh.

Ariel21 Mon 15-Apr-13 16:50:45

Thanks Saundy and no, am feeling worse now! Have gone from calm to resigned to the fact there is something wrong. Quite crampy around my lower back now. Still brown spotting, but only when I go to the loo and wipe? I was just hoping it would stop! Darn. Lots of work to do tonight so can try and distract myself until morning.

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 16:56:11

Getoff and Saundy, it's a dull ache pain that comes and goes. I think it's where my stomach is growing/streching. Or a build up of gas or a blockage?

I suppose I am just being my neurotic self?!?!

busyprocrastinating Mon 15-Apr-13 17:22:57

Arty I really feel for you as I too have a total needle phobia. I'm having my bloods done on Wednesday and already feel sick and shaky about it. Here they do the bloods the same day as the scan so it shouldn't delay it.

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 17:29:19

Arty that's shit & do flipping typical!! But you've done it once & it won't be easy but hopefully that positive experience will give you a good foundation to do it again. I wouldn't be happy either.

It's brown Ariel so that's positive, hopefully it'll be all good tmr & put your mind at ease.

It sounds like the stretchy aches to me Dizzy but if you need a second opinion to go for it to have your mind put at ease.

I'm sooo hungry but cannot be arsed to cook & there's nothing quick in!! Humph.

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 17:41:59

Arty, do you live anywhere near the hospital?? As they have a phlebotomy (the blood takers) service. Who do it all day everyday so they are expert and the bloods taken before you know it!! Midwives and practice nurses also do it all the time so they are also really good (just stay away from the junior drs!! smile

TiredFeet Mon 15-Apr-13 17:43:46

arty that is awful, I have a terrible phobia of blood tests so I can really feel for you. I often faint/ get a bit hysterical blush. It must have taken you so much strength to do it. I do think it gets slightly easier each time though. But still it is disgraceful that they were so careless!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 18:19:54

arty gutted for you. Why do these things always happen to people with a fear of needles, it's Sod's law.

Still completely knackered 12 1/2 weeks now so am really hoping this damn fatigue is going to bugger off soon.

stuffthenonsense Mon 15-Apr-13 18:48:21

Arty ask your gp if the phlebotomy service visit your practice....round here it's a weekly service, they really are much better. I dread blood tests. Not out of fear but because it is impossible to get blood from me, if they can find a vein it seals itself the moment it's pierced. Phlebotomists have more chance than anyone.
As for finding the fundus, it's a bit like looking for a missing book under the duvet, you'll feel a firmer area before hitting a squish above (unless your super toned)

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 18:52:34

I had my scan today! One amazingly wriggly baby who did not want to stay still the scanner called them a rascal (hehe). It looked like it was mountaineering and then launching them self down a water slide. Made me giggle. We got put ahead to the 25th of oct, I'm hoping for a haloween baby - excellent parties.

Ps been having awful headaches sad

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 19:10:33

Hurray slippy!! I'm getting soo excited about mine tomorrow now! Didn't have an early scan this time so this will be first time I see my little sprog.
I know a lot of the thread have had early scans so is there anyone else whose first scan will, or was, the 12 week?
Expecting to all of a sudden be hit with the reality I'm going to have 2 babies under 1 when I actually see the scan. So far I don't think its really sunk in!

Dizzy81 Mon 15-Apr-13 19:13:12

Saundy, you're right it's streching pains. Being paranoid/neurotic.

Arty, that's terrible. I hope they apologised?

Skippy snow, congratulations on your hyper active bean. 😃 and your due date being bought forward.

Ariel, it's brown so be positive.

Whenshewasbad, Im with youon the fatigue front.

On my scan letter I've been advised it will cost 10 for pics!!! Ive decided to upload a pic into moonpig and send a card to each set of grandparents and the great grandparents, saying I'm looking forward to seeing you all in November!

berrybomb Mon 15-Apr-13 19:14:11

Yay for slippy. I'm loving hearing all the scan stories.

Mumma - good luck for your scan - I'm guessing twins would be a bit too much to find out then? wink - sorry, couldn't help myself!

MissTweed Mon 15-Apr-13 19:17:29

Congratulations slippysnow, truly an amazing experience isn't it?? I also got my EDD brought forward which I'm pleased about... Don't need to wait so long for the sexing scan! grin

EcoHippyMum Mon 15-Apr-13 19:18:26

Really pleased for all those with good news today! I have mine a week tomorrow - so scared about it! I can't even recall being this worried before.

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 19:20:10

Yeah mumma mine was 12 week scan. First time I saw the lil wriggler

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:01

Funny you should say that berry I had a very real nightmare dream last night that the scan showed TRIPLETS!!! This better not be true! Twins wouldn't be much better!

Saundy Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:45

Slippy that's brilliant! I would LOVE a Halloween or Bonfire baby, am hoping this one gets the memo!!

Slippysnow Mon 15-Apr-13 19:22:45

Thanks everybody. It was amazing misstweed made it so real, so pleased all was ok. I booked the earliest appointment (8.15am) for the 20week so I have less time to panic before hand

SuffolkNWhat Mon 15-Apr-13 19:26:55

I know I've had a scan already but I wouldn't be surprised if there wasn't another one in there, I'm flipping massive!

To all those who feel faint during blood tests ask to lie down as that really helps! Thank god it doesn't bother me as I've had literally monthly bloods done since I was 10!

Yay for positive scans too!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Mon 15-Apr-13 22:03:18

Woo hoo more positve scans is great news.

MummaPanda Mon 15-Apr-13 22:59:09

Exactly 11hrs til scan time yaaaaaay!!! Now I'm going to go to sleep so it comes faster! grin

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 00:06:39

So pleased that there have been positive scans today, yay!! Eco mine is a week tomorrow too!!! I will be 12+3 according to my own calculations grin this will be my 2nd scan as I had a scan at 8 weeks to rule out ectopic pregnancy due to left sided pain but it was over so quickly that I don't actually feel I had a scan - although of course it have us so much reassurance.

Dizzy I am also getting pains in my tummy, slightly cramps but I also have a very upset tummy too which isn't helping. Someone mentioned having backache down the thread? I have had back pain for weeks and had it last time too...for me it only for worse as my pregnancy went on. It's a very achy pain as opposed to sharp pains. I assume they are a mix or normal stretchy pains and upset tummy pains.

I can't remember what I have posted today as my phone had no signal when I tried to post huge replies earlier! So forgive me if I repeat anything I already said shock

My nausea was so much better today - so much so that I managed a 2 course lunch which was delicious!! I was very worried that the very sudden lack of nausea was a bad sign when it came back with a bang tonight. Yuk it's awful. I can't decide if it would be better to be sick or not, though I spend all my time trying not to be.

Glad I'm not the only one whose rings are tight! Last time in only felt them right in the final weeks. This pregnancy is so different! I wonder if I am having a boy or whether it is nothing to do with gender? What do you guys think? I just don't get how two pregnancies can be so different for the same person! Is it hormone levels?

Sorry for those of you who are spotting still. Ariel although you must be so worried and dread every trip to the toilet it is positive that your spotting is brown as this is old blood.

Bangon loved your list! I would love:

- to break my mamas and papas pram and pretend it was accidental so that I could buy an icandy or bugaboo (dh would be mad!!!);
- to commit to aqua natal classes - I love swimming but didn't so this last time which I regretted;
- use reusable nappies too! (Prob wont)
- breastfeed for 1 year+ but this scares and worries me slightly hmm

Highly recommend baby massage my dd loves it and even now age 3 we still do it occasionally, especially when using her eczema cream. We just went to a free local authority class which was good.

Tonight I have brought a selection of snacks and drinks to bed with me in case I fancy anything and it miraculously cures my nausea. So far nothing is appealing apart from the cold tap water and that's not really helping hmm

I don't think I can feel my fundal all the time though sometimes when lying flat I do feel a distinctly hard area - other times I can't find it. Do you guys think this is normal?

Hope you are all ok tonight grin

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 05:10:05

I feel movement grin

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 07:18:10

Stuff, oh how exciting!!

Im exhausted, woke up for a wee at just gone midnight and it took forever to get back to sleep.

Had tugging pains in the right handside last night, which made me smile as its a good sign. X

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 07:21:33

How many weeks are you. Stuff?

O exciting stuff!

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 07:32:18

That's really exciting stuff
Good news for everyone's scans yesterday.
mumma good luck with your scan today.
My nausea has come back. Need to be constantly sucking mints at the moment. Especially on the train with all those special smells!
My boobs are huge as well. I look like I've had a boob job done!

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 07:36:04

I'm 11+4

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 07:36:31

But if is baby no6

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 07:46:41

Good morning ladies!

Good luck MP & Ariel, that's brilliant Stuff what does it feel like?

Have woken up today feeling exhausted & sick - why is it always on a work day?! Still no scan date through, am hoping it arrives this week.

I hope it's a good day for everyone smile

Slippysnow Tue 16-Apr-13 07:50:01

Good luck scanners today, I want to go back!! I uploaded my pic for anyone who's interested smile. I thought it was clear but others disagreed

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 07:52:59

Good luck to anyone having their scans today! grin Hopefully as more and more positive scan stories come through it'll put the minds to rest of those of you that haven't had theirs yet. I can't believe how worried I was now..... Such a magical experience.

We told our parents yesterday, (my mum is still squealing) and they have offered to pay for the pushchair (up to £500 but we could always add to it). Before we were going to get a maclaren techno xt (its a stroller which can be used from birth) as I thought most people end up ditching their travel system anyway so why not go straight to the stroller and save money?? But now we've got this gift should we consider a travel system or am I just considering it because we can?? Any 2nd/3rd/4th timers with any advice? smile

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 07:53:57

Slippy, where have you uploaded it to?

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 08:04:50

Good luck to all those having their scans today.

Roll on 3rd may, as that's when I've got my scan. I'm trying not to worry about it. I'm trying soo hard not to get stressed at workout it's easier said than done.

fuckwittery Tue 16-Apr-13 08:11:45

Miss tweed do you drive much? It is very handy to have baby in a car seat you can transfer to click onto a travel system chassis, or a carry cot you can bring upstairs while you have a lie down! Also, I find travel systems easier to push than maclarens. I had a bugaboo frog with dc1 and its still going strong with dc3 due, with maxi cosi car sear, so I feel I've had excellent use out of it, and only gone onto maclaren at about age 2. I think if you have a kind offer to have a pram/travel system bought for you should go for it!

Good luck to scanners today, I'm sad dh didn't come yesterday as I am now excited and he's still at bit meh, back to baby years just as things were getting easy, although we told his mum and sister last night and they were delighted.

I have taken my rings off already! (Must retrieve from down the back of the bed)

Bangon, this is my dc3 too and probably the last, I'd have liked to do your list of activities but with one at school and one at preschool although ill have a couple of hours free in the morning each day, 4x school runs a day I bet I end up just sitting on the sofa cuddling this one! We definitely need and getting a bigger car though! Ahhh baby cuddles smile

Slippysnow Tue 16-Apr-13 08:16:15

It should be visible on the profile. under photos, if you click my name?

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 08:20:29

Just saw it Slippy very exciting but I imagine not the clearest when looking on your phone!

Animol Tue 16-Apr-13 08:36:52

Nice photo slippy :-)

Looking forward to my scan two weeks today and then hopefully telling the world.

Would it be stupid to buy a 3 wheel jogger type pram if I'm not actually going to jog with it - just hopefully lots of walking and I like the look of them?!

I'm 9w6days and feeling much bettter - phew - have a good day everybody!

theboob Tue 16-Apr-13 08:40:29

brilliant news on positive scans !

not slept much last night , worried sick about my dissertation results today . I am also picking up my maternity uniform , all feels very real now .

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 08:44:06

We've got the Phil and Ted's Vibe which I love. We do a lot of walking on mud etc with the dig and found this one to be perfect. I think it really depends when you're going to use it. If you need to go on buses, a more lightweight one that you can fold down would be better.
I found it was good to actually have a go with the pushchairs because some push easier than others if that makes sense. Also ours does rear and forward facing which is good.
Ariel good luck too today. How're you feeling?

suprisepitstop Tue 16-Apr-13 09:15:17

exciting about scans. mine isnt until next sunday when i will be 13+2, the hospital said 'we are very busy and there are lots of ladies more pregnant than you waiting for 12 week scan'. nice. will i be giving birth a month late because they cant fit me in at 9 months?

notsoold Tue 16-Apr-13 09:40:18

I also felt movement 12+4 weeks here!!!
smile smile smile

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 09:44:15

lovely pic slippy - getting me very excited about next week! I can't believe the difference between my 8w scan, and these 12w pics.

Yay for movements as well. I am convinced I felt something last night lying in bed, but this is my first, so very unlikely.

Can't wait to hear about today's scans!

great pic slippy. they didnt zoom in that much on mine and i'm really gutted i dont have a pic so close!

mine just looks like a blob

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 10:16:39

suprisepitstop my scan isn't until I'm 13+2 either on 29th April. Am just hoping I've got my dates right and we fit in with all the right dates for all the tests!

meant to say i've been looking at travel systems too!

we're going to get the uppababy vista with the black frame and silver carrycot and toddler chair. the maxicosi car seat fits on the frame too. really nice to push about and everything works so easily like collapsing with one hand etc.

i want it now!

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 10:39:00

I am so confused by pushchairs / prams/ strollers / travel systems, we've tried to look a few times, but no idea what we need! I think we'll spend a weekend in various baby shops trying out everything and working out the pros and cons...but then probably go and get a cheaper one on ebay!

busyprocrastinating Tue 16-Apr-13 10:39:53

I'm feeling a bit stressed and tearful today. Got my scan tomorrow and I am so scared of the blood test. I keep reading this thread to try and help me feel more positive but all I keep thinking is that I can't handle it all and I wish I hadnt even got pg in the first place.

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 11:07:53

I've just been bitten my a dog!!! I was standing in my gateway minding my own business when it bit me!! It's broken the skin!! I've had a tetanus (i think) as I when to Thailand last year. I do t need to worry about anything else do I? I'm reluctant to google it as I know within 5 mins of doing so I'll feel doomed!hmm

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 11:08:22

*by a dog (wasn't my dog)

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 11:13:40

Scan went quick great, little wriggly baby in there measuring 10+5, which is pretty much exactly what I expected. So iv got another appointment for the real 12 week scan 2 weeks from today. Crazy how little it was compared to my 12 week pics of dd, can't believe how fast they grow! But even at nearly 11 weeks could still see arms and legs wriggling around. Even though it was only for about a minute sad and hurray for there only being one in there! And hurray for finally having a due date!!! 7th November! I'm going to wander off and add myself to the stats threat finally!! grin

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 11:14:17

Clean with the usual anti bacterial stuff which you've no doubt done already.
Are you ok? Where did the dog come from?

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 11:15:08

Brilliant news mumma

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 11:24:53

MissT - I think it;s worth calling to check, I know when someone from our office got bit by a dog the H&S team went a bit OTT and he got all sorts of checks. I'm sure it will be fine though.

Yay for Mumma - that's great news! Glad there were no triplets!!

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 11:56:25

Yes I'm very glad there is only one!! So this baby is due exactly. One week before dd was due! And 11 days before she was actually born. Aparently I have a higher risk of delivering early this time though as there is so little gap between pregnancies, but on the plus side also on track for a quick and easy labour! Think baby log flume, whhoooooosssshhhhh! grin

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 12:00:30

Getoff - I forgot about antibacterial stuff (was in shock I think) to the tesco lady gave me some (I was on my way out) it was a bloke walking his dog past my gate and it just bit me! My hand is the same level as a toddlers face!! So could have been a whole lot worse! I think I might give the MW a call just to be safe.

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 12:13:50

OMG I won't be calling the MW advice line again...... She was sooooo rude!!! Now trying the GP surgery hmm

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 12:20:22

I am convinced I felt movement too - the other night at bedtime dd was lying in between my legs with her head resting on my tummy. Right where she was I felt a few little prods/flutters!! I guess it must be the sac moving? It made me jump as I am not even 12 weeks yet. Can't remember when I felt movement last time, think around 19/20 weeks maybe.

Good news on the scan mumma!

stuffthenonsense Tue 16-Apr-13 12:24:47

Bloody he'll miss tweed, what did the owner say? Make sure the wound gets air, and is completely clean. I would really take it very easy fir the rest of the day as you've had quite a shock. Dogs and babies/toddlers in the same environment really freak me out as they are both so unpredictable. I had a nasty incident with DD4 when she was sitting (10months) minding her own business and a springer spaniel just appeared and jumped at her knocking her over backwards and leaving a scratch on her shoulder from its claws. 'Its only friendly' said the owner as he unapologetically walked away leaving her hysterical. I know kids and animals CAN get along but IMO dogs and children that don't know each other should be kept at a safe distance.

Call your GP as my dog bit me a few years ago and the infection went as far as my elbow!

i ended up in hospital several times. tho not saying that will happen to you!

there are only a few antibiotics that they can give you so the strong ones for animal bites are out - would be worth getting medical help now before anything starts

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 12:55:42

Woo hoo for more positive scans.

misstweed poor you. Definately go to your GP, hope you don't get an infection.

So excited for those of you feeling movement. I thought I might have felt some last night but it was probably just wind blush

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:08:20

Now sitting in a+e waiting for tetanus jab GP said that dog bite/cat scratch is different tetanus only kept at a+e hmm

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 13:14:42

Oh bless you misst better to be safe though.
Sending you a virtual hug

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:22:46

FFS ...... The receptionist told me a porky!!! The vaccine is not different and I am already covered !!

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 13:24:41

But at the end of the day, all is well. I'm giving myself 5 mins to finish huffing in annoyance before I move on with my day. My DH on the other hand is ready to throttle someone shock

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 13:29:25

oh misstweed how horrible for you!! and can't believe that on top of that you've been sent to a&e unnecessarily! hope you aren't hurting to much? what did the dog owner do / say?

congrats mummapanda on the scan, I was rooting for you to have triplets though wink

got a massive strawberry and banana smoothie from a local café and it has stayed down, hopefully doing me a world of good. not feeling up to work though but hopefully tomorrow

i'm not surprised! stupid people.

just watch your wound really carefully - if it starts to ache and swell leg it to A&E. mine went bad literally within hours

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 16-Apr-13 13:54:22

The scan today didn't go well. We got an empty sac. The sonographer booked me in for another scan next Friday at the EPAU to check on progress in case my dates are wrong. But I know there is no way it is not at least 10 weeks. So I'm off the bus again. This will be my second mc in but my first mmc. I asked how do we proceed from here (as in to remove a sac), but the sonographer only said they will be able to tell me at the EPU.

Good luck to the rest of you with upcoming scans. Hopefully I will be able to hop back onto another antenatal bus soon.

suprisepitstop Tue 16-Apr-13 14:05:07

oh, One that is such awful news. i really hope everything going forward goes better for you. that is so so sad. stay well

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 14:10:32

Oh onetoddlerterror so so sorry to hear your sad news. My heart goes put to you and your DH.
Be kind to yourself. Sorry for your loss.

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 14:30:14

oh onelittle I am really really sorry to read that, I can't imagine what you must be going through. look after yourself, and best wishes for happier times soon flowers

one i'm so gutted for you and your family. lots of best wishes and hugs flowers

berrybomb Tue 16-Apr-13 14:41:53

tired, glad you are starting to feel better.

onelittle - god, I'm so sorry, that's truly awful.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:53:31

Am at work so can't read all the updates but just wanted to say that I went to the Early Pregnancy Clinic this morning, didn't have to wait long, they did a pee test and phew it was still positive - what with me having hardly any symptoms I was a bit concerned - and sent me in for an internal ultrasound or 'probe' as I like to call it.

And there it was, one (extremely small) baby (or speck of dust) with heartbeat! Magic! They measured it 3.6mm - or more importantly, 5-6 weeks, not the 8 that I'd worked out! Which may push me into December, but hey - will stay here for a bit since you ladies are all so lovely. Thank you for all your kind words of support - I was bricking it slightly.

So not sure why I'm only 5-6 weeks, but the nurse said it was just an estimate and they never really know. She thinks since I'm so early, the blood is probably from implantation. V reassured, as is husband - and it kinds feels real now, if you know what I mean. It's a long time until 12 weeks though!!

Hope everyone is OK, any other scanners today? Will try and catch up later.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:57:00

Just scrolled up and saw your post onelittletoddleterror

I'm so sorry for you and your family. Sending all best wishes and the best of luck for the future. flowers

littlemonkey2013 Tue 16-Apr-13 14:59:36

onelittle - sorry to hear your news, fingers crossed for good news in the future flowers

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 15:02:56

I was supposed to be due in early November (just over 10 weeks pregnant) but found out today at a scan that my baby stopped growning and died at around 7 weeks sad I understand this is called a 'missed miscarriage' as I have had no bleeding sad

I had a scan at 7 weeks that showed a heartbeat so it must have died shortly after that.

Feel numb and can't stop crying. Have hospital appointment tomorrow morning to discuss next steps.

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 15:04:52

Onelittle - just saw your post and wanted to say how sorry I am to hear your news xx

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 15:06:37

Onelittle I am so so sorry to hear your sad news, that is just awful news. You will be missed here. Best wishes for the future thanks

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 15:09:00

Lovely sorry to hear your sad news too hmm

retroelle Tue 16-Apr-13 15:15:33

Oh onelittle and lovely what sad news for you both sad

Fundal height mentioned earlier - I was googling, and it's supposed to be 1cm (or 1 finger-width) per week. So 12cm for 12 weeks etc.

lovely I'm so so sorry - awful news flowers

No more sad news for people who don't deserve it

OneLittleToddleTerror Tue 16-Apr-13 15:36:28

lovely sorry to hear your bad news too. DH is going away next week for work and that's why I get my next scan next Friday. I know it would be bad news so I don't think I can go alone. I don't know if it is normal but I would prefer to it to be felt with as soon as possible. I don't think I can get over the grief properly when my body still thinks otherwise. This mmc is a much more cruel joke than my last mc (it was 6 weeks only).

Other than crying. I went on the topshop website and bought myself some leggings and tunics. I couldn't fit into my normal jeans and I just don't think I could cope wearing maternity trousers for any longer.

Sorry for the rant sad

one say whatever you need to - we will all listen and support you. Totally understand your need to have closure.

I'm sorry I'm just rubbish with knowing what to say other than huge hugs x

TiredFeet Tue 16-Apr-13 16:05:27

lovely I am so so sorry to hear that flowers take care of yourself

onelittle (and anyone else of course) no need to apologise for ranting, feel free to post and rant away if it helps (or to hide if you prefer) it is so hard to know what to say, but I massively sympathise with you re not fitting in your normal clothes, that must truly feel like a cruel joke right now, and I get why you don't want delays right now. I really feel for you with your DH going away next week as well, not an easy time.

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 16:28:41

Oh no!!! What awful news! Finally been able to sign in here (the app had a bug) & just read about lovely & onelittle sad sad

Will def miss you onelittle - very best for future trying.

Lovely - that's an absolute nightmare you poor poor thing.

My scan is tomorrow morning & now I'm petrified I'm going to get bad news too even after seeing the heartbeat last week. I've still had cramps constantly although no more bleeding. So scared!!!

Come on people - we need some more happy scans & good luck!!!

On a minor plus, DS got into our top choice school today. Has anyone else had school places today?

Hugs to all x

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:35:12

omg blush one little and lovely sadsadsad feel so sad for you both im so sorry for your loss sadthanksthanks

getoffthecoffeetable Tue 16-Apr-13 16:36:37

lovelylara am so sorry to hear of your loss. You must be devastated.

boy congratulations on your DS getting in to your preferred choice of school, that must be a relief.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:45:11

is that reception places?? x

Animol Tue 16-Apr-13 16:51:57

Oh no what sad news.

onelittle and lovely - so sad to hear your news - take care of yourselves - hope you'll be back soon - big hugs and thinking of you both.

We've got a different system here and DD got her place at her and our top choice of school in February - such a relief.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 16:54:27

is that reception places?? x

artyone Tue 16-Apr-13 17:01:04

Right, here goes a long 4 page catch up

THANK YOU to everyone who sympathised re: blood taking. They did apologise but it was the receptionist who called me and it wasn't her fault so I couldn't really tell them off as such. Hopefully it will go smoothly once again.

Slippysnow Congrats on seeing your wriggly one.

stuff ooooh congrats on feeling movement. I am jealous, all I get are the odd twinge and back pain, but am only 10 weeks.

theboob good luck with your results.

OneLittle So sorry to hear that.

Ariel21 Congrats on the positive, yet surprising scan.

lovelylara Also sorry to hear your news sad

Sorry if I missed any news. I hope everyone else is well and wish everyone good news from now on. smile

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 17:14:57

Honey yes it's reception (he's 5 this year). Nerve wrackingness of that was not helping my nausea lol so glad it's all over x

lovelylara Tue 16-Apr-13 17:28:05

Thank you for your kind words, it means a lot, and I'm sorry to put a bit of a dampner on what is otherwise a happy thread.

Wishing you all the rest of a good pregnancy smile

lovely and one so sorry to hear your sad news sad

Kids were back at school today, I've not been around in a few weeks but have been busy. I was put back on insulin yesterday sad I'm now injecting before lunch and dinner (I hate needles too) and am testing all the time.u fingers are so sore and feel bruised. I have 3 hospital appointments on Friday with different consultants and a clinic for diabetes and need bloods taking. My dating scan has come through for next week so I'm nervous about that too.

Can't believe this pregnancy is going the same way as the last one.

MummaPanda Tue 16-Apr-13 18:45:15

goes to corner to quietly celebrate my happy scan

woohoooo sad

BoyMeetsWorld Tue 16-Apr-13 18:47:58

Aww mumma congratulations, that's great news...don't hide it in the corner, no matter what smile x

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 18:49:06

I'm soo sorry to hear of the sad scan news. Hugs, to you both.

Diege Tue 16-Apr-13 18:49:30

Sorry for going awol! I have been reading but finding it difficult to recall enough to post anything vaguely relevant or interesting!
I am so sorry to hear your sad news lovelylara and onelittle sad I had a mmc at 10 weeks a few years ago and it really knocked me, so cruel sad
I'm 12 weeks and 4 days here, though a bit more by scan dates. Have the much awaited nuchal with prof nicolaides tomorrow <gulp> and the results from the harmony test. I am very very nervous but know that at least I'll know if there are any problems pretty definitively as the test is 99% accurate. They have said they should be able to confirm the gender from the scan too tomorrow (after 80% sure it's a girl at 10 weeks).
Am probably in my last week on non-maternity wear here - I can tell you that the bump comes pretty quick when it's baby number 6 grin

Hi cheese!

Mumma no being sorry! Happy news makes us all happy too!

I've got hip pain confused

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 19:04:18

Onelittle, I'm truly sorry to hear your news, that's terrible. sadTake care of yourself and I wish you and your family all the luck in the world for your future plans xxthanks

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 19:11:22

Just been catching up...
Lovelylara..... I'm so sorry! sad Times like this I really don't know what to say. My heart goes out to you and everyone that is going through the same. Truly sad news thanks

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 19:19:55

Welcome back diege and cheese.

Diege best wishes for your scan and results tomorrow.

Cheese sorry to hear your having to inject insulin.

Mumma don't hide grin Great that your scan went well.

I think hearing that things haven't gone well for some of us makes everyone feel sad and also nervous about our own scans, so good news is wonderful to hear.

Sickness has been better again today though have had a couple of waves of feeling a little sick. My digestive system is definitely out of sorts though even when the nausea is ok.

Anyone else got particularly sore nipples?

I have just glanced up And seen myself in the mirror. My breasts look huge. They have had a significant growth spurt in the past few days. Bras still fit but I can actually feel people looking at my boobs and I want to say yes yes I know!!

I am also feeling particularly huge. Weighed myself today and according to my scales in work (not electronic) I am either the same or 1-2 pounds heavier. Don't believe them though feel enormous hmm but I cannot blame anyone but myself for all the crap I have been eating. However when you feel soooo sick and know that something will give you relief you don't care! I am going to look into starting aqua natal classes ASAP. Think you have to be 12 weeks and all going well I will be 12 weeks this Saturday. Will wait until dating scan to make sure all ok and my dates ate correct but after that I need to do some exercise!!!

Thinking of you onelittle and lovely. Not sure of you will come back on bit I wanted you to know that I wish you all the very best for the future and hope that someone is taking good care of you x

firsttimemummyy Tue 16-Apr-13 19:27:57

Hi All, just been trying to catch up with a lot of pages of posts!

So sorry to hear about your scans Onelitte and lovelylara, thinking of you and really hope you are ok. Congratulations to all who have had lovely scan results though!

I have such mixed feelings about my scan on Friday. I am so looking forward to it but yet feeling sick about it at the same time. I know I am going to be all dry mouthed and sweaty palmed going in there! I was trying to tell myself that despite what I have read on all the MN boards the chances of something being wrong are small, but it really seems it happens to a lot of us. sad I had read that the stats were 1 in 10 after 5 weeks but it must be a lot more than that.

I have been trying to protect myself by not letting myself think about anything baby related until the scan - no names, no looking at websites for baby things, forbidding my poor DH/mother from even discussing it! I'm kindof bracing myself for not good news in an odd way. Just don't want to get my hopes up at all. Sorry just realised this is a bit of a depressing post! I'm just so worried. My mum thinks I'm being ridiculous, she doesn't understand at all why I am thinking negatively. Is anyone else feeling the same?

first I'm a bit worried too! I've had my booking in and scan and that was at 10+2 so I have a very very long wait until the next one at 18 weeks!

Dizzy81 Tue 16-Apr-13 19:47:42

First time, Ive got the same feelings about my twelve week scan. I was the same at the early scan appointment. It's natural to feel that waY.

I'VE been an absolute grouch today, snappy and plan irritable, with the occsasional swear word thrown in. Grrr.

Measured my boobs and have gone from a c to a d cup. Has anyone else started to notice a faint line running from their pubic bone to their belly button.

Diege Tue 16-Apr-13 19:55:33

I agree that it's totally normal to feel nervous before a scan. I was so nervous on one occasion that I couldn't get on the scanning chair blush (sonographer none too impressed). Did in the end and all was well.
I will have a long wait tomorrow which won't help matters. At least I don't need a full bladder which is a small consolation!

EcoHippyMum Tue 16-Apr-13 20:33:11

Congrats to those with good news today! Sorry for your losses Lovely and OneLittle, my heart goes out to you. I am terrified I will have the same news next week as I am still getting light brown spotting.

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 20:41:17

i have mixed feelings too, im fairly sure baby is alive, cos i just heard hb on the doppler and a 'thud' and static where i think it kicked the probe, and at the same time felt that little flutter, like bubbles bursting on my skin. grin but im also well aware that could change in a day, and i could still mc at any time or baby could have a defect of some sort. so im trying not to get too assured.

oh and i had serious talks today, and decided to make a go of it. but this will be make or break, if he messes up again, theres really no going back xx

MissTweed Tue 16-Apr-13 20:49:32

Just had a thought... Are we vaccinated against measles?? Was it part of the BCG jab we get in school??

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 20:50:57

Just a quick post for one and lovely I'm so sorry for your sad news. Wishing you all the best for the very near future.

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 21:01:10

Onelittle sorry jut noticed your earlier post - do you have anyone to go to the scan with you or can dh cancel his trip?

I too also do not know what to say in these circumstances and feel that no matter what is said, you will still feel so sad. Please be kind to yourself thanks

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 21:05:28

cheese sorry about needing insulin, have friends who had gestational diabetes, it sucks. Best of luck.

mumma really pleased about your scan grin

deige good to see you back. Can't believe you find out the sex so soon. Best of luck with the nuchal tests. I find out my blood results on Thurs but the nuchal fold was 1.3mm so I am hoping for more good news.

hav wildly envy you've only put on 1/2 pounds. I've put on another 3 pounds in 2 days please be water retention please be water retention

dizzy no line yet but I got one at 15 weeks when preg with dd

echo sorry you are still getting spotting, hope it stops soon but as long as its just spotting you should be ok.

honey best of luck for you and your oh. Really hope he gets his head round this soon.

misstweed I don't know about measles. I'm assuming I'm immune but haven't thought about it.

EcoHippyMum Tue 16-Apr-13 21:22:40

BCG was tuberculosis... MMR is the measles one x

Saundy Tue 16-Apr-13 21:27:49

One & Lovely that's such sad news, I'm so sorry for you both, it's so unfair xx

Oh Busy I'm sorry you're feeling that way about tomorrow, I hope you have the support to get you through it.

MP that's lovely news about the scan, can't wait for my next one when there's something that actually resembles a baby to see!! grin the flume - wish I had me one of those!

MissT what a palava. I hope it didn't hurt too much.

Good luck for tmr Boy & great news on your heart beat Ariel.

Are you happy with the decision to try again Honey? I really hope it works out this time.

I'm starting to get nervous now too as at my 6 week scan splodge measured 2mm which by the sounds of things is way too small but my dates are defo right, I know exactly when we dtd. There was a heartbeat but the whole size thing is starting to play on my mind.

Mega sicky day today, had to run out of two meetings, was nearly sick on the train & am still feeling sick now (with lots more sick in between). Bleurgh 10+4 & still waiting for my scan date!!!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Tue 16-Apr-13 21:44:58

If it makes you feel any better saundy I'm 12 wk 4 and still haven't received my nhs scan date. If it wasn't for the private scan I would have lost the plot by now. Sorry you are feeling so sick.

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 21:50:49

Sorry to hear you are still experiencing spotting Eco - hopefully it is just 'one of those things' - how many weeks are you?

Nurse today said mine might be breakthrough bleeding, or old implantation blood. It's still there today but I think the internal ultrasound dislodged a bit.

I'm sorry to hear your news lovelylara - do take care of yourself and best of luck for the future. flowers

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:01:06

Saundy I have just read (thanks to google) that by 6 weeks the developing foetus should be 2-4mm long so that would mean your measurements at 6 weeks fall into the "norm"? I don't know too much about it but just did a quick google.

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:02:01

What is breakthrough bleeding? Does that mean from be lining of the womb? Sorry if that's such a simple question blush

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 22:11:08

im fine with giving it a go. hes got issues he must sort though and im going to remain partial til he does, not allowing myself to get close again til he proves himself.

now my best mate has just texted me saying in no uncertain terms our friendship is over now ive taken him back. :'( i feel so betrayed, ive been there for her through thick n thin, whenever she needed a place to stay the night after a bust up wiv a bloke or if shes locked herself out or something. when shes had a break up, lost a baby etc ive been there. and just like that, im gone. just cos she hates my oh. sad seriously fed up sadsad

harverina Tue 16-Apr-13 22:15:32

Oh honey that's all you need right now. Is your friend maybe worried about you? You can't live your life by other people's ultimatums though. If your sure oh is who you want to be with then your friend should be there for you hmm

honey86 Tue 16-Apr-13 22:20:55

i know sad i feel shortchanged, shes been with men who are much much worse, cheaters, druggies, even one who hit her, but never have i judged her for it x

Ariel21 Tue 16-Apr-13 23:17:44

I believe that breakthrough bleeding is bleeding when your period would be due? Someone feel free to correct me if I'm wrong!

JBrd Tue 16-Apr-13 23:40:01

One and Lovely - so so sorry to hear your sad news. Nature can be so cruel, be kind to yourselves. I hope you'll be able to pick yourselves up again quickly after this ordeal. Take good care! flowers*

Diege Good luck tomorrow! Hope you'll be able to get around London easily, with the funeral happening. I would say I don't envy you, but I do grin

Saundy I think it's really difficult to date a pregnancy this early. Do you know when you ovulated? Because the date(s) on when you dtd don't necessarily mean that that's the date your egg got fertilised. Sperm can hang around up to 7 days...

Well, I'm still bleeding, although it seems to have slowed down a little bit. But it's still bright red, quite watery, and I'm getting really bad back pain. One more day until I find out for certain what is going on confused
I think I might try and have a quiet day tomorrow, ended up doing lots of things today. But it feels good to keep busy... Trying to think of what I can bake tomorrow - today I made ciabatta and ginger shortbread. Maybe I'll try focaccia, never done that. Or a nice cake... The problem with that is that I'll end up eating it grin

I'm so sorry OneLittle and Lovely. I hope you are on another bus soon.

I'm so jealous of all of those going for scans. Can't afford a private one due to the costs of moving house next week. Only another 4 weeks! I feel so so grotty though. Just miserable with nausea all the time. My boobs are humongous and I'm knackered. I cannot wait for the "blooming" second trimester.

Oh and I have a horrible blocked nose all the time and have post nasal drip which makes nausea even worse. Any tips on dealing with it?

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 06:39:11

Good luck with all the scans today ladies grin

Whenshewas - have you chased the hospital about your scan? Are you planning on having downs screen done? If so it has to be done before 14 weeks (someone pls correct me if I'm wrong) (and potentially your EDD could be brought for forward....) As its part of the NICE guidelines to offer everyone screening now they have to see you within that time frame or they'll be in for some serious arse whipping!! Might be worth mentioning "NICE guidelines" if you phone to chase.

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 06:58:30

Thanks When & Harv panic over! I'm easily pleased haha.

JB I didn't realise sperm could stick it out for 7 days!! I thought 3 tops, no clue as to ov day so that could make sense & if its sperm that's been chillin out in there for ages then it MUST be a girl!!! I hope you manage your nice relaxing day today, I'm pleased its slowed down. Mmm freshly baked bread though - the one thing we could all eat!

MsFP I'm the sniffly same, it's rubbish, no tips here just sympathy.

Honey that's really rubbish about your friend. I admit I've done something similar hmm but it was under much more extreme circumstances. It was someone who was in a very physically abusive relationship & I was the only person who knew - thanks to regular calls at 4am begging for help when I was powerless to in a different part of the country. Anyway after a particularly extreme incident they split & I did say if you get back together I'm telling everyone everything. They did, I did & it didn't go down well. My point is it came from a place of love so don't write off the friendship, let her calm down & then talk about it.

I haven't actually spoken to DP since Sunday - over something quite small. He lied to me about something stupid, I called him on it & he tried to lie his way out of lying (he'd been out & was a bit pissed at the time). I told him to not speak to me until he was ready to be honest & we haven't spoken since! I know we're both being stupid & stubborn but godammit he should come to me!! Lots of pressure over losing his job & the pregnancy etc. But I've been so ill & he hasn't even checked if I need anything. So fed up.

Dizzy81 Wed 17-Apr-13 07:02:10

Morning everyone,

Good luck to all those having scans today.

Yesterday at work I had a bit of a panic. We have a ladies loo with a dodgy flush and as I was busting for a wee I couldn't hold onfor me to flush until all the loo roll had gone. Anyway after I'd had my wee I flushed and noticed that some of the loo roll had blood stains, you an imagine my heat rate went up etc. anyway had a quick wipe as you do and it was ok and subsequent wipes were ok, I'm guessing the last lady to use it was on her af.

Sorry for the ramble but looking back its made me giggle.

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 07:47:46

morning

i cn understand that, as he was getting abit controlling and overjealous. but she lost her child cos she werent bringing him up right, but didnt fight to get him back and instead, moved in with the bipolar man shes cheating on, who threatens to beat her up on a regular basis. so i really dont think she has the right to judge me for trying to work on my relationship with my babies father. she hates oh and vice versa. i just wish theyd keep me out of their childish feuds.

good luck to those having scans today thanks

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 17-Apr-13 07:48:45

Good luck fellow scanners, hope we all get good news! Mines in 1 hr & I'm scared!!!!!

Ariel21 Wed 17-Apr-13 08:01:02

Good luck to those with scans today.

Saundy regarding sperm, that's what the nurse suggested as per my dates being earlier than I thought - she said that if I ovulated late and the sperm were hanging around then possibly implanted later than I thought. Nothing to worry about I'm sure, and dating that early is not accurate (that's what I'm telling myself!)

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 08:33:21

Good morning ladies, hope you are all well. I am feeling particularly lazy today, have had terrible wind pains last night and its finally rectifying itself this am. I suppose this is a reminder of what our DS/DD's will be going through with colic. Could have done without it though as I have my last meeting as a student rep today! And I am struggling to get myself sorted to take DD to school let alone drive to Cambridge :/

I think DH is falling in love with the bump, he keeps touching and stroking it' gets very cuddly and lovey dovey when he is...and is looking for a safer car as his is a very old car with no air bags! Obviously this is his first child (my 4th), its just amazing to see the change in him!

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 08:34:26

Good luck boymeetsworld.... If your able to read this now you are probably sitting in the waiting room trying not to wee yourself after drinking so much water! Lol good luck and enjoy your magical moment grin

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 08:37:40

Thanks Ariel time will tell eh.

honey I wouldn't be surprised if it was more to do with him trying to isolate her from friends. But you're right she is in no position to tell you how to live your life. I hope it is just frustration on her part because she cares so much & you are able to sort it out xx

That's a good point about colic Echo that will defo give me a good point of reference.

Good luck scanners, am looking forward to seeing all the lovely updates later smile

theboob Wed 17-Apr-13 08:40:55

one and lara I am so sorry for your loss xx

Good luck to all with scans today .I have appointment with consultant re the colposcopy i was due next month .....bit scared

passed my dissertation too yeahhhhhh !

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 08:42:59

Good luck to everyone having their scans today. Thinking of you.

Am envious of all the scans. Mine still seems so far away. I'll be 13+2 when I finally have mine.

I think I feel fluttering. My bump is huge today. Am trying to eat well because I really don't want to end up the same size as last time. I was huge! Took ages to get rid of the baby weight.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 08:43:33

Well done on passing your dissertation theboob

BoyMeetsWorld Wed 17-Apr-13 08:58:38

Congrats boob - I admire you, I can't concentrate on anything at the mo!

Good scan news here. Dates caught up (8 weeks) & still nice strong heartbeat despite the cramps grin that's it now until 12 week scan but feeling much happier.

How are the scans for everyone else?

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 09:11:20

congratulations theboob ! hope your meeting with the consultant goes well

great news Boymeetsworld must be a relief after everything you have been through!

I don't even have a scan date yet! 9 weeks today... praying that means only a few more weeks of feeling ill left

MummaPanda Wed 17-Apr-13 09:42:05

So dh pretty much told his whole family yesterday after the scan. And my mum wants me to tell my dad today, but I'm really nervous about telling him because he's the sort of person who stresses about stuff, and even though its not really happening to him, he will stress out about how hard its going to be for me. He already has enough going on to stress out about I hate to be the one to stress him out even more! Then I've just got my sister left to tell but not sure when I'm next going to see her, so do I tell her by text / phone call or wait and do it in person? I'd rather do it in person but hate the idea of everyone else knowing except her.

Congrats boy on the scan! Yaay for more happy scan news grin

louby86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:02:32

So sorry OneLittle and Lovely xxx

Animol Wed 17-Apr-13 10:06:32

Great news boy - well done on your dissertation the boob

10 weeks today!

mumma - I know the feeling - my Mum will start worrying the moment I tell her - hopefully in 2 weeks time

I can feel my tiny bump getting bigger but above the bump is my flabby belly so it looks like I'm hiding half a squashy water melon under my top sad and it has nothing to do with the baby who should only be about the size of a jelly baby - ah well.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 10:11:58

Great news boy you must be relieved.

mumma I'd tell, they'd be upset if they found out that others knew first.

DS is fascinated by the funeral procession on the TV bless him.

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:29:27

we have, sorted iti just told her im not gettin involved in it n all i expect from her is to just be there should it go tits up.

well done on your dissertation smile ive got college tonight myself as ive got my exams in june confused so im waitin for my postman to drop my parcel to me then im going to catch up on some shuteye. i feel nausea more when im tired i dont want to be feeling vom while i do my work x

honey86 Wed 17-Apr-13 10:30:20

and congrats on the good scan boy smile

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 10:42:21

mumma I would be tempted to tell her by phone /text. I still feel a bit annoyed with my good friend who wanted to tell me in person so badly that I only found out a couple of months after the rest of our friends knew (I live the other end of the country so don't see her as often). I would much rather have felt involved by text/ email!

berrybomb Wed 17-Apr-13 10:51:29

honey - hope everything goes ok, it sounds like you're being fairly sensible about it. Hopefully he will change and become more of the partner you need.

boymeets - oh yay - fantastic news. The 12 week scan will come round quickly.

well done boob on your dissertation, I remember what a good feeling that was, it's such a huge piece of work for such a long time of your life!

Everything here is ok I think....I'm a bit worried all my symptoms have still vanished, although I am eating like a horse. I can not wait till my scan next Monday.

I'm also a bit nervous about telling people after that. Our families and close friends know, and are all over the moon. I haven't been with DP for that long (6 months), so i know lots of people will be judging us for jumping into something so serious so soon, but it was very much planned.

MummaPanda Wed 17-Apr-13 11:00:57

Good point tired there's a small chance I might be able to tell her in person today if she's working, my mum should know if she is so I'll find out. If not I guess I will call or text her.

williaminajetfighter Wed 17-Apr-13 11:57:48

Hi everyone, just dropping in as i haven't written on here forever, mostly because I'm so zonked at night am going to bed at 7:30! I've read through all the threads and great to see progress and good scans!

So sorry to hear all the bad news about mmc and the like. I had really hoped we had come to an end of the bad news. It really does show how tricky it is to make a baby and get to 12 weeks. I do hope that all those who had bad news will try again, particularly as you're meant to be much more fertile after an mc.

I'm amazed to be at almost 11 weeks (10+6) given that I had 3 previous mcs and keep expecting something bad to happen. However what I'm more amazed by is that after 4 days of painful constipation I finally had a BM this morning.... and it was a glorious moment! smile sorry, I can't be the only one who is constipated, right? hmm

retroelle Wed 17-Apr-13 12:22:21

I'm feeling remarkably well now (10+2) and could easily forget I'm pregnant. I am just waiting for my scan in 2 weeks and hoping this isn't a bad sign. I haven't had much in the way of nausea or tiredness at all, just a bit of evening queasiness between weeks 6-8. My boobs are no longer sore, although still huge, and I seem to be growing vast quantities of body hair, which is a bit annoying. I think this must be payback for the lack of sickness. I would rather be hairy than not-pregnant though.

Currently away on a work trip and am besieged by unsuitable food and colleagues wanting to go drinking. I am 100% sure they must have guessed, especially as I am really fat in the evenings now.

Retro I'm also feeling grand! So grand I'm scared there's nothing in there! My bikini line is looking decidedly unkempt confused so a waxing session is in order!

Williamina I was constipated too but it's eased a tiny bit thank god

williaminajetfighter Wed 17-Apr-13 12:53:01

fairy I too am becoming Sasquatch-like and must cover my body in Nair on the weekend. I also noticed my nipples are becoming way darker, preparing for the hell that is early breastfeeding!!

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 13:02:05

I'm definitely getting hairier too, although I had a dream the other night that my thighs were covered in thick black hair so the reality doesn't seem so bad any more grin

9 weeks and think I am getting the start of a bump, I am getting thinner thanks to the hyperemesis, but can feel the start of a bump now, makes it feel a bit more real although I need the scan before I will even start to relax.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Wed 17-Apr-13 13:24:14

fairy williamina & tired I'm glad it's not just me covered in body hair. I keep looking at the epilator but haven't had the energy to tackle the tangle of hair covering most of my body.

Dizzy81 Wed 17-Apr-13 14:26:28

Williamina, yes to the constipation -I had beans on toast for tea on Monday night - a whole big tin and that certainly got things moving! Also noticed the nipple thing too.

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 15:50:04

I am so sorry to hear one and lovely's news - please take care

busyprocrastinating Wed 17-Apr-13 15:55:17

Thanks Saundy my dh has been mega supportive.

Well I had the scan and there is indeed a little wriggly baby in there. I guess I better start believing it now. Also had the dreaded blood test the midwife was extremely patient. Am glad it's done!

We can start telling people now which feels strange when nobody knew for so long.

Yes to the hair and constipation. Oh the glamour!!

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 16:00:14

I had my scan today - this was an NHS one to check my dates - two little somersaulting babies! the midwives were great - very encouraging and said I was their first twin mum for a while.

Their best guess going on what they can see and how the babies are measuring is that they dont expect them to be identical as definitely in their own scas and have their own placentas plus one is about a day behind the other so they reckoned they are from separate eggs maybe even fertilised on different days.

Given due date of 7th Nov though that would be 40 weeks so expecting them really(& ideally) in October - next scan (at 12+5) weeks on April 30.

tentatively begining to get a bit excited!!!

best of luck to everyone else with scans coming up

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 16:15:38

I am also feeling really good. Sickness seems to have vanished overnight shock which is stressing me out???!!! Also not as tired either. My nipples are still sore And suffering from mild constipation - tmi sorry but Am going to the loo bits not easy iykwim. I've not been good at taking my lactulose regularly so will need to do that. But tbh if I didn't know I was pregnant I wouldn't think I was - should I be worried?

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:24:07

Well done on the dissertation Boob I bet you don't know what to do with yourself now! I'm one of those weirdo's that loved writing mine, so much so I started it the summer before my final year as I couldn't wait to get going!

I'm glad you survived it unscarred Busy that's great news. I'm loving all the lovely scan reports but I have to ask what do you see?? As in what are they doing in there, do they bounce or swim or float or what??!!! What's happening in my uterus!!!! Haha.

Ooh non identicals Spanish so you might get one of each!! Have you got your head around the whole twin thing now?! My sister had non identical boys & one is just like her & one is just like my BiL which is lovely, you really wouldn't know they were twins at all.

So impatient now!

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 16:27:23

I''ve just had a nap with DS. Really felt like I needed it today, was feeling a bit out of sorts.
I did myself a list of chores today and have done two of them!
On the plus side, DS has baked and also painted and done water play so don't feel utterly useless

Saundy Wed 17-Apr-13 16:29:09

Harv enjoy it!! I had 2 glorious days of normality but it didn't last so make the most of it! You are pregnant so this lovely break your body is giving you to regroup is only that. There'll be something unpleasant in the post - as that seems to be the way of the womb wink

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 16:31:28

Lovely news spanish and busy
Hope that it's all becoming more real for you now

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 16:43:50

Thanks for reassurance saundy. With dd I wouldn't have questioned it because I felt fairly well a lot of the time - it's just this time the nausea has been awful at times especially the past 2 weeks so its more noticeable when it isn't here. And this time I know way more too - knowledge isn't always a good thing! Thank god i am not a midwife!!

SpanishLady Wed 17-Apr-13 17:06:20

beginning to get my head around having twins - of course the most important thing is they are healthy but if I could choose would love a boy/girl combination - roll on June when I hope we will be able to find out.... hate wishing my pregnancy or life away but am anxious about getting through it and in an established routine so I can know we are coping!

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 18:06:10

I am sat in EPU, started bleeding outside of uni, rang the midwives who told me to go to nearest A&E so had to go to Addenbrokes. Waiting to see consultant now.

JBrd Wed 17-Apr-13 18:19:04

Oh Eco, how worrying! Hope all is ok, fingers crossed for you x

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 18:23:22

Oh Eco so sorry to hear that. Sending good luck prayers and well wishes your way.

Oh Eco. Fingers crossed things are ok and this is just a scare.

MissTweed Wed 17-Apr-13 18:47:51

Finger, toes and everything else crossed for you Eco thanks

O no hope you're ok echo x

Eco hoping everything is ok and that the bleeding wasn't much.

Eco - stupid autocorrect x

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 19:06:04

keeping my fingers crossed for you Eco

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 19:11:09

Hope your getting on ok Eco, thinking of you thanks hoping it wasn't lots of blood and that its nothing to worry about.

Emc123 Wed 17-Apr-13 19:23:00

Hi all, hope I'm not to late joining! Due 7/11/13 with first baby. Dating scan next week so maybe the date might change..
These first 12 weeks seem to last forever! Nervous and excited about the scan, hoping all is ok. Anyone else have their scan soon? I expect it will feel more real seeing baby on the screen smile
X

Hi emc and congrats!

Emc123 Wed 17-Apr-13 19:40:58

Just read the latest posts, hope all is ok Eco x

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 19:41:09

Hi emc, congratulations! grin

I have my scan ion Tuesday morning and my first appointment with my consultant. I am due 2 November according to my dates. Also a mix of excitement and nerves at scan!

Wibblypiglikesbananas Wed 17-Apr-13 20:47:09

Had the 12 week scan today and all good! He or she is a lively little wriggler! Got tonnes of photos - and DD got to watch too. Lovely afternoon.

getoffthecoffeetable Wed 17-Apr-13 20:54:23

Lovely news wibbly so pleased for you

Wibblypiglikesbananas Wed 17-Apr-13 21:00:18

Thank you! I hadn't been nervous until this morning but then I started worrying something might be wrong. Guess it's only natural.

Busy and Spanish - glad your scans today were also great - twins as well, Spanish - did you have an inkling? Or was it a surprise?

Eco - hope you're ok, fingers crossed for you x

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 21:03:45

Busy, Spanish and wibbly great news about your scans today grin

Eco any news? Hope you are ok.

Spanish imagine having a boy and girl! That'd be amazing. Is that just as likely as your babies being the same sex do you know?

williaminajetfighter Wed 17-Apr-13 21:11:59

Thinking of you Eco. Hope it's just a 'thing' and nothing serious.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Wed 17-Apr-13 21:19:56

eco hope you are ok

wibblypig great news on the scan

emc congrats and welcome to the thread

MummaPanda Wed 17-Apr-13 22:00:51

Hurray for more wiggly babies!

eco hope you get good news.

All family knows the news now and all are sworn to secrecy. Didn't go as bad as I thought telling my dad, I bought him a bar of his fave chocolate, and when he asked why I had got it for him, I said, 'because I'm pregnant and didn't know how to tell you' don't know if it helped or not but my mum sure thought it was funny.
Dh is annoyed because his mum told his sister before he got a chance to. I'm really hoping she doesn't blab to anyone else because we don't want people to know!!!

Minesahotchocolate Wed 17-Apr-13 22:01:01

Have just caught up on the last week's posts - I can't believe how many sad posts there have been. So sorry to hear Lovelylara and Onelittle and Poppy.

Eco - keeping my fingers Xed for you that all is ok.

Boys - great to have some happy news - what an amazing recovery - yay! And Spanish, having twins. Wow! Oh, and Boobs too - yippee!

There was some talk about bras a few pages back. I found that the Bravado bras, esp the body silk seamless nursing bra, was great. Admittedly it's not the sexiest of bras, but oh, so comfortable! Plus, the bra covers several sizes (which is great when your boobs crazily increase in size after your milk comes in) so you don't need to worry about having to buy another later on. And comfortable enough to sleep in too smile (which you need when the baby arrives and your boobs start leaking milk in the night - what fun we have to look fwd to!).

Re: bumps. I'm now 10+4 and def look like I ate all the pies. I don't look preg, just fat! My belly def sticks out (not in a good way!). I also switched to using hair bands to do up my jeans with a couple of weeks back, and then put a bump band over the top to cover the gap. I forgot tho how when preg my thighs seem to get weight put on them too - I can barely get my jeans up. But, I'm no where near large enough yet for mat. clothes. Am in limbo. Thankfully we've had sunny weather the last few days - wearing skirts/dresses has been such a relief. SO much more comfortable. Am glad we'll be preg through the summer smile

Good luck to those waiting for their scans, I hope that it is all good news from now on.

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 22:04:01

Hi ladies, consultant (who was an absolutely lovely woman) said my cervix was still closed and it was old blood not fresh that she could see. Said as I wasn't in pain and wasn't especially tender she didn't feel it was an emergency. She said it could be a threatened miscarriage but as I had been spotting so long it probably isn't, or it could be the position of the placenta or anything. She said without my notes and scan details (which aren't in my notes anyway ironically) she couldn't say for definite what was going on. But felt that it wasn't an urgent issue at this point. But to keep an eye on things and to rest up.

Thanks for all your kind words, feel a little upset but mostly pragmatic at the moment. I just want this scan on Tuesday, am even considering paying for private if I can get in quick enough as 5 days feels like 5 months right now!

Eco that def sounds v positive. Do as you're told and rest lots! Or we shall be cross with you wink!

Totally understand the feeling of waiting for your scan

TiredFeet Wed 17-Apr-13 22:21:24

eco that sounds encouraging, glad your consultant was lovely it makes it a lot easier when they are! I can imagine the wait till Tuesday is going to feel very long, hope you will manage to get as much rest as you can until then

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 22:23:41

Well I have a dissertation I need to get finished for next week so it has time to be printed and spiral bound! So I shall sit In my pit doing that! DH thinks I should ask for an extension, as I lost my mother in February, I was with her when she died, and prior to her going into a home 5 months before she died I had been caring for her since 2008... She lived with us. He thinks with all of that and with the bleeds I should...but I feel like I am cheating!

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 22:27:52

Oh and I can highly recommend Addenbrookes, much nicer and faster than Broomfield - just wish I could have my baby there rather than Broomfield!

harverina Wed 17-Apr-13 23:24:36

Very positive news Eco, that's great grin

Re. Your dissertation - how far on are you? If you think you have done enough and can get it finished I think i would be inclined to get it in as once it is in you can forget all about it and torally relax. If you feel quite far behind and feel to unwell to work on it then I would get an extension. I'm not sure how restful doing a dissertation is even if your lying in bed working on it!!

You had had to cope with so much Eco, thinking of you but glad you were seen tonight and it's looking positive. Now get plenty of rest!

Feeling a bit nauseous tonight. I also have awful wind too. Have been enjoying too much sparkling water and now regretting it!

I also think that my nipples may be a but darker too, but its hard to be sure. Will need to monitor!!

EcoHippyMum Wed 17-Apr-13 23:35:24

Thanks Harverina, I am still analysing some data, I am somewhat behind but not massively (I hope). BSc Ecology &Conservation... Feel a bit too stupid now to be nearly a graduate in it!

I too have been drinking sparkling water! And wind, urge that and getting constipation - ate a packet of dried apricots which has helped but still windy.

Wibblypiglikesbananas Thu 18-Apr-13 00:48:07

Thanks everyone!

Mines - totally agree about the Bravado bras. I had mine fitted by an NCT fitter last time round and walked out of her house wearing one, it was such a relief! I had three on rotation for the first 8-9 months and then three more - BF DD until 17 months when I discovered blue line number two! I'm ordering more right now to collect when I come over to the UK next month, they're cheaper back home than in the US.

Eco - that's great news. PM me if I can help you, that's my brother's field and he's just about finishing his PhD so knows his stuff!

Mumma - glad telling your parents went ok!

Harv - I know, 32 degrees last week was brutal! Cooler now but still manged to get sunburnt at the weekend... Think it's pregnancy making my skin different?! Have heard it is possible...

Eco I'm glad it seems to be positive news. Definitely request an extension from the university. The additional stress of trying to battle a deadline is really not worth it. It's really not cheating. If you were in an exam and the fire alarm went off, you'd expect the extra time wouldn't you? Try to think of it that way.

Mumma, I think most things are made easier with the presence/presents of chocolate. My mum was shocked but also so pleased. She's now talking to me about cots and stuff, she's looked at it more than I have.

I am still feeling pukey all the time. As well as worn out. This morning I threw up in the bedroom and caught it in order to save the carpet. I think this means I am ready to be a parent. Mostly I feel pretty miserable though, very tearful. I am so pleased to be having a baby but hating these first few weeks. I feel very guilty even typing that as I've not had any other worries about bleeding etc, but feeling so poorly is really getting to me. I'm concerned it will trigger my depression to be honest. I'm already on anti-d's but feel like I have withdrawal dizziness so I think I need to see my GP. A bad bout of depression is much more of a threat to me and Bissellah than the teeny risk from the medication.

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 05:26:56

Whoooooohoooo! 13W and officially into 2nd trimester!

When is the last persons 12w scan?? I think we should mark that day and afterwards all have a huge emotional virtual group hug! smile envy(and of course remember those less fortunate thanks)

I never realised this first stage would be filled with so much pain, grief and stress for so many. At least we all have each other and can be there to help everyone through this first stage (and beyond)

Good luck with any scans today, I know I can only speak for myself but I'm sure I'm not alone in enjoying hearing the good stories. I feel inappropriate to be celebrating on here sometimes but I know personally that hearing other positive stories gives me hope and calms my somewhat neurotic stressing

Good luck ladies and keep strong and healthy, hopefully this will be a good day xx

It might be mine. EDD is 28 Nov and I don't book in til week 10 so don't have a scan date yet. Eight weeks today!

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 06:02:23

8 weeks will fly by!! It feels like only yesterday that I found out I was pregnant.... I now have full on bump convinced its mainly all the crap I've eaten, but bump all the same

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 06:03:53

Sorry, just reread... Only 4 weeks to wait.... No long now smile

Hope you feel better msfanpants

I'm 11+4 - this has felt like the longest time period of my life! Prob because I knew sooo early on that I was pregnant!

I have my end of year performance review today confused. I don't get on with my line manager at all - in fact she seems to revel in dumping me in the shit all the time. I'm going to have to say something today but pretty scared. She's dented my confidence so badly. So think of me about 11am and send me some balls to tackle her!

Animol Thu 18-Apr-13 07:37:31

Take care eco - glad you got good news - try and rest as much as you can - you deserve it.

All the best fairy is there a smiley for what you want us to send you?! Hope it goes OK.

My scan's on 30 April

minesahotchocolate my belly looks like that too. I kind of look pregnant - about 5months but it's just flab sad

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 07:48:02

How

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 07:48:43

*damn ipad

How are you feeling today Eco?? Taking it easy i hope!!

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 07:56:48

Fairy, I feel for you.... I used to have a witch of a line manager (that has since left due to a breakdown) that used to make my life hell (and others) she even tried to get me sacked by making up stuff like I was sabotaging databases etc!! crazy bitch so I'll be thinking of you smile virtual gigantic bollocks on there way to you

Dizzy81 Thu 18-Apr-13 07:59:49

Morning all.

Eco how are you feeling?

15 days to my scan where I'll be 13 weeks. Am a mixed bundle of emotions about it, but keeping calm. I had a private scan at 7 + 4 and I feel like it happened last year!

Fairy, good luck.

Yesterday wasn't a good day for me, dru heaving, feeling dizzy, hot and just all round general blurgh!!!

Got some ore leggings and z new bra an e cup, and man it feels soo comfy

EcoHippyMum Thu 18-Apr-13 08:34:12

Morning ladies, I am hardly spotting at all this morning. Feel fine, bloody tired though! I am not going to uni today, staying home - I no doubt will get far more done anyway! Might just have a kip though :P

Going to see how I feel come Sunday night, if I have done enough then I am not going to ask for the extension, if I am struggling by that point then I will.

Thanks for the offer Wibbly!

Re bras - Sainsburys have some nice crop top style bras, I bought large but think extra large may have been better, but certainly more comfortable than sports bras!

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 08:37:00

Glad to hear things are sounding better for you Eco. smile

Eco I'm glad things are improving. Make sure you rest and no stress!

I've decided to go to the fetal medical centre in London for my nuchal scan, been there before and loved it. They're offering the harmony test for free if you're 10 weeks so I'm going on Wednesday for a quick scan to check and then have bloods taken. It's all in the price for the nuchal so we will go back two weeks after that for the results and the scan.

Feeling sick on and off still and not enjoying the injecting. Really craving chocolate and cake but I can't now. Bloody gestational diabetes.

I have hospital appointments to tomorrow, 3! Blood tests I'm not looking forward to, hate needles. Hope everyone had a good night.

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 18-Apr-13 09:15:55

Ladies in the know - was there anything you had to do about your DC getting chickenpox while you're pregnant? Nursery have just sent DS home with it. I've definitely had it when I was younger. Thanks.

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 18-Apr-13 09:17:00

eco that sounds really positive. Hope that the time flies by until your scan.

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 09:18:05

Get off.... If you've had it you should be immune although I don't have any DC so don't know

williaminajetfighter Thu 18-Apr-13 09:34:25

Eco - so glad the bleeding has stopped. What a relief.

MrsFP - I think everyone feels shit at times. Early PG is crap - between the nausea and worrying and endless fatigue. Catching the vom is a mean feat and you'll be able to tell your DD or DS about it one day and laugh! Honestly!

And about annual reviews, remember there are meant to be 'no surprises' and they are meant to be about setting objectives for the year and personal/professional development. They are not meant to be a shitstorm. Staff are meant to come out of them feeling upbeat and enthused and, if they do get some negative feedback at them, done so in a way to encourage reflection rather than beat people over the head. Honestly the UK has the worst managers ever!! sorry britain!

williaminajetfighter Thu 18-Apr-13 09:37:12

Quick question- I'm 11 weeks today (incredible!) and having quite a bit of cramping. Anyone else? No spotting at all so have to assume it's stretching? I remember reading that the baby does a real growth spurt between 11 and 13 weeks so maybe that's what I'm feeling?

Any advice appreciated....

EcoHippyMum Thu 18-Apr-13 09:50:04

Cheese I would go there and get it, wish I had booked it now! Sight better than the £750 others are charging!
getoff I think you are ok as you have had it before.

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 18-Apr-13 09:51:08

williamina I've had lots of stomach cramps. I'm 11+5 today.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Thu 18-Apr-13 09:52:21

eco glad things are better but sorry you feel tired

fairy sorry about the witch boss. I hate appraisals. So much hoop jumping it drives me mad.

SuffolkNWhat Thu 18-Apr-13 10:00:06

I have missed so much!

So sorry to hear all the bad news thanks

Have been feeling very down, return to work didn't help plus my Dad's cancer has returned. He had half a kidney removed in January and now the bastarding cancer is back on the other one.

I had severe AND in my last pregnancy and some of the old feelings are coming back so I'm off to see the GP tomorrow to check on things.

Scan on Monday to focus on xx

MummaPanda Thu 18-Apr-13 10:04:27

I can't remember who it was but someone said they already know the gender of their baby?? How is that possible?? How do they do it???

EcoHippyMum Thu 18-Apr-13 10:05:20

Oh Suffolk, really sorry to hear about your Dad and that you are feeling down. sad Does your midwifery team have anyone trained in this? I know mine does. X

thanks everyone - praying that things go ok and i'll have the courage to speak up about the issues that are making me so unhappy in work.

suffolk - thats awful news. fingers xd everything is ok for your dad. you've recognised the signs of feeling down and thats def the most important thing as you'll be able to get the right help early. i suffered with depression and anxiety for a short time after my marriage breakup and i wouldnt wish it on anybody. its truly a struggle. flowers

JBrd Thu 18-Apr-13 10:26:52

Had my scan at the EPU, and it's not good news - no heartbeat and an irregular sac with a fetal pole, measuring only about 6 weeks (should be 8+4). I feel just numb right now.

So I' now saying good-bye to all you lovely ladies, thanks for all the support. I wish you healthy and happy pregnancies! xx

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 10:47:18

JBrd - so so sorry to hear your news. Take care of yourself thanks

MummaPanda Thu 18-Apr-13 11:02:04

Noooooooo! jbrd I'm soo sorry!!! Big hugs to you! sad

fairy it is now 11 so I'm thinking of you and sending you big steely balls smile

SpanishLady Thu 18-Apr-13 11:07:03

Im sorry Jbrd x

berrybomb Thu 18-Apr-13 11:13:22

JBrd - I'm so so sorry to hear that, I hope you have lots of support in RL.

Eco - I'm glad you're feeling better today, sounds like you had a bit of a scare.

Dizzy - I totally know what you mean, I had a private scan at 8 + 3 and it feels like forever ago! If i could afford it, I'd be having weekly scans!

MrsFP - you did make me chuckle about vomming in your hands - I'm definitely sure this means you are ready to be a parent!!!

Good luck Fairy at your review - they're never fun, and even worse with a mean boss!

Williamina - I'mm 11 + 3 and been having bad cramps too. I'm hoping its' where everything is stretching and moving.

Suffolk - we are scan buddies - looking forward to Monday!

I think that's it!! I can't keep up! All is ok here I think, just trying not to worry about the scan. The MS and tiredness have definitely decreased this week.

williaminajetfighter Thu 18-Apr-13 11:23:15

Jbrd that is dreadful news. I'm terribly sorry. It's awful going to a scan hoping for the best and getting bad news. I'm so sorry.

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 18-Apr-13 11:26:53

Am so sorry for your loss JBrd

gubbinsy Thu 18-Apr-13 11:47:17

So sorry to hear people's bad news. Thinking of you all.

Finally got my scan date and have to wait till 8 May which seems ages away - will be 13+2 by then.

Feeling pretty crappy the last couple of days - tired and sick and struggling to concentrate. Also grumpy and sad. Must be a joy to be around. Not gone to work today so adding guilt to that as have loads to do but just can't seem to summon up much enthusiasm for anything.

Animol Thu 18-Apr-13 12:01:06

Oh no jbird what sad news - I'm so sorry to hear of your loss - take care of yourself.

Someone at my DCs school has got Shingles - do I need to worry - we've all had chickenpox - could I do anything about it anyway?

Jbrd i'm so sorry to hear that - lots of hugs x

i've had my review and she said absolutely nothing in relation to my performance or how i've done over the year. total rubbish. i actually think she is slightly intimidated by me as i cant understand her at all. i said that things werent being explained to me and i was unable to do my job when i hadnt a clue of what to do. feel a bit better but i could have said tonnes more!

berrybomb Thu 18-Apr-13 12:11:45

Animol - someone at work is off with shingles, I work quite closely with her. i did some very basic research, and it seems I'll be ok as I didn't touch any of her scabs!!! Luckily I'm not a very touchy feely person, so I wouldn't have made any contact at all, and it's not an air-borne contagion. Hope that helps.

Animol Thu 18-Apr-13 12:23:39

Thanks berry - I've just been looking up related threads on MN too - seems like you can theoretically catch chickenpox from shingles but I've had it so should be OK and the DCs have had it too - worry over smile

EcoHippyMum Thu 18-Apr-13 12:29:33

Really sorry to hear your sad news Jbird, take care of yourself and give yourself time xxx

Jbrd I'm so sorry to hear your sad news.

gubbinsy I feel the same, no energy and my head is pounding plus exhausted and aching all over. I should be 10 weeks on Saturday.

Animol no you can't catch shingles. It's something you just get if you've had chicken pox. Things like stress can bring it on. I believe the virus stays dormant in your body.

Oh and chicken pox is airborne and extremely contagious. Apparently shingles is also airborne with spreading chicken pox to the non immune.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Thu 18-Apr-13 13:53:32

jbrd I'm so sorry thanks

fairy glad it went well.

suffolk really sorry about your dad.

artyone Thu 18-Apr-13 14:11:42

Welcome Emc

JBrd Sorry to hear your sad news.

Still no scan date here. Considering an early scan just so I can see something. Feeling pretty rough lately. Lots of heaving, bleugh.

BoyMeetsWorld Thu 18-Apr-13 16:46:24

Oh no Jbird confused confused confused you take care, and lots of hope for the future

TiredFeet Thu 18-Apr-13 17:08:07

JBrd I'm really sorry to hear that flowers

made it in to work today, for the first time this week!

artyone I'm the same, still not got a scan date, I'm hoping I get one at my midwife appointment on Monday. I won't relax until I have the scan. Thought about getting a private one but feel so ill most of the time I just want to stay at home.

MissTweed Thu 18-Apr-13 17:57:50

Oucheeeeee.... I keep getting a really sharp shooting pain in my boob going into my nipple!! blush I'm guessing its just growing pains but is anyone else experiencing this (or has done before) and know how to stop it? The only pain relief is if I push on it but not a good look as I'm in public!!

ilovemiltonismybestfriend Thu 18-Apr-13 18:06:20

Miss Tweed Nope not unless I lay on my tummy. They do however itch ALL THE TIME!!!! It's embarrassing in public!

Diege Thu 18-Apr-13 18:18:58

Oh jbrd I am so sorry sad I was so sure all would be well too. I know nothing I can say will help, but do know that I am thinking of you, as I am sure we all are xxx
I do have happier news. I had a good nuchal at the FMC and screen neg for major trisomies from the Harmony (so less than 1 in 10, 000 chance for downs, Edwards and patous). Though I wouldn't have terminated for downs (though would the other 2) it is nice to have some reassurance that chromosome problems are pretty much not going to be an issue (touch wood).
Will read back now and try to catch up with you chatty ladies smile

Diege Thu 18-Apr-13 18:22:59

mummypanda re: sex of baby, at the FMC they have a sort of 'angle of the dangle' theory they use to sex baby from 10 weeks - only 80-90% success, and god damn it I didn't ask yesterday as they had so much more else to look at and there didn't seem to be an appropriate time to interrupt and ask...still, will be interesting to see if it indeed a girl at the 20 wk scan.

theboob Thu 18-Apr-13 18:38:52

so sorry Jbrd xx

Thanks for all congrats on dissertation pass , 2 more essays and a presentation and thats me done till the babies are here !

my 12 week scan is 9 th may

Ariel21 Thu 18-Apr-13 19:19:20

Sorry to hear your sad news Jbrd. Hugs.

Bit of a worrying development here - after my U/sound on Tues, last night the brown spotting turned red and although it's not lots it's been fairly persistent.

Just been to a doctor's appointment that I had booked anyway and as expected said it could go either way - it was just a waiting game :/

So I could go back to the EP clinic tomorrow morning - and at least see what they say, or just wait it out. Feel so sure it's over but trying to stay positive!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Thu 18-Apr-13 19:19:30

deige that's great news. Also I'm really sorry I hit the wrong button and may have reported your post blush not actually sure how you report a post I've never reported anyone before.

SuffolkNWhat Thu 18-Apr-13 19:20:32

If anyone has Netflix do watch What To Expect When You're Expecting it's brilliant. Wendy's outburst really spoke to me grin

MummaPanda Thu 18-Apr-13 19:26:19

suffolk we have netflix, I had already seen it when I was prego with dd but this pg I've already watched it on netflix 3 times!! Its the best film to watch when preggy, makes you feel better and laugh at yourself!

TiredFeet Thu 18-Apr-13 19:28:12

Watched it the other week suffolknwhat !! Agree about Wendy's outburst grin . Agree its not a bad film and good one to watch when pregnant
whenshe I am always accidentally clicking on report on my phone! Don't worry it takes you to a form you have to fill out with reasons etc so as long as you didn't fill out the form and press submit it won't do anything.

MummaPanda Thu 18-Apr-13 19:33:59

Oh and thanks diege can't believe they can tell so early!

Big lols at the 'angle of the dangle' hehehe

Diege Thu 18-Apr-13 19:36:15

Phew, so I am safe from MNHQ then? grin

Minesahotchocolate Thu 18-Apr-13 20:26:16

So sorry to hear your news JBrd flowers

williaminajetfighter Thu 18-Apr-13 20:46:37

Ariel. Really hope it will be ok. How far along are you?

notsoold Thu 18-Apr-13 22:14:59

Jbrd hun I am so sorry and I know that words can not help....take care and I am thanking of you.. Xxxx

Diege...excellent news!!! I am so pleased for you..xxx

harverina Thu 18-Apr-13 22:38:13

Just lost a huge post grrrrr!!!

Jbrd so so sorry to hear your sad news. I am thinking of you and hope that you are being looked after thanks

Ariel hope you are ok tonight.

Missboob great news about your dissertation! They take over your life so you must be glad to have passed, well done.

Diege great news about your results grin

Misstweed in my last pregnancy I got awful sharp pains in my nipples when they were cold - I got out of the car one night when it was snowing and icy and the pain was unbearable. I had to sit and hold them for 20 minutes. Honestly I was almost crying. Not sure what caused it though - blood rushing to them? Mmmm not sure. My nipples are pretty sore at times this time too - oddly my right one is worse.

Feeling a bit nauseous tonight but the decrease in my symptoms is stressing me out quite a bit. I know there is no point in me worrying and I should just enjoy feeling a bit better. I actually feel terrible even moaning about this when others have had such sad news hmm

Ok I am going to eat/lick some crisps and read my kindle for a bit before going to sleep. I have a lovely jot water bottle at my feet too gringrin

honey86 Thu 18-Apr-13 22:43:20

jbrd- you poor thing sad im so sorry for your loss... fingers crossed for a healthy happy sticky bean in the near future thanksthanksthanks

getoffthecoffeetable Thu 18-Apr-13 23:20:52

diege brilliant news about your results.

suffolk sorry to hear about your Dad.

ariel hope that everything's alright.

No idea what on earth I'm still doing up at this time, will be good for nothing tomorrow!

Oh no, Jbrd, how sad. I wish you all the luck for the future.

It's so sad at how many ladies we've lost from our group.

Ariel I hope things are ok, it must be nervewracking for you.

I went to try to buy a new bra today. I have come away in shock as I appear to be an HH cup bordering on J. shock My brain cannot handle this. I cannot buy a maternity bra just yet, I really can't. I'm going to have to find time to go to Debs this weekend to try on everything. In between packing boxes...argh.

I still feel totally fed up. But my vomit catching is making me smile somewhat now. My friend also said it's good practice for parenthood, she reckons you can always spot the parent, they're the ones running towards the vommy child! If I continue to feel very down, I'm going to see my doc to see if a review of my anti-d is in order.

Morning ladies

Massively tired this morning and I have a really important bit of work to get done today! Yikes!

Dizzy81 Fri 19-Apr-13 07:41:55

Morning lovely ladies,

Jbrd, I'm soo sorry. I hope you're getting the support you need in real life?

Ariel, I hope you're ok?

Fairy I'm bloody tired too. I was nodding off at my desk yesterday. My latest craving is cheese and pickle sandwiches and wispa bars. I also found myself craving something sweet and next thing I know I'm attacking golden syrup. &#128538;

firsttimemummyy Fri 19-Apr-13 08:26:45

Oh gosh couldn't sleep all night must've had about 3hrs I'm so nervous about scan in an hour! Ahh. Feeling absolutely knackered. At least I'll know one way or another in an hour or so..

Sorry to hear about Jbird's news and also hope Ariel is ok x

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 08:28:14

Morning all. Another tired one here. Woke up in a rage this morning as DH once again ignored DS so I had to get up at 5.50. I was furious. I'm usually the one who gets up to him so I think it must be the hormones at work. DH got up at 7 and I went back to bed for an hour until he had to go to work. It wasn't a good sleep though so I'm still feeling a bit out if it. Hopefully I'll be able to shake it off soon as I'm with DS all day in quarantine with the chickenpox.

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 08:29:01

Good luck with your scan firsttime

Theicingontop Fri 19-Apr-13 08:39:00

<sneaks back onto thread>

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 08:46:48

We see you icing how're you doing?

Theicingontop Fri 19-Apr-13 09:07:50

blush

Everything's well with me. I have my scan on Tuesday!! Hopefully I'll feel a bit less fat and more pregnant when I see a baby in there. How're you??

How many have had their scans already??

Ariel21 Fri 19-Apr-13 09:08:52

Good luck today's scanners!

The scan I had this week dated me at 6 weeks. I thought I was 8. That's another reason I'm not hopeful.

I slept ok - more blood and clots this morning. Doc last night said it could go either way. Will see what happens (am off work) and go back to the hospital on Monday. Back feels awful and crampy.

My husband wants to stay positive - but it's not easy.

Darn!

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 09:16:24

Oh ariel hope your ok - on a positive it can be difficult to date pregnancies early on.

Jut arrived at work very late! Didn't sleep well last night then woke at 5am for no reason shock

Good luck for anyone with scan today - looking forward to hearing good news grin

Saundy Fri 19-Apr-13 10:15:21

JB I'm so sorry to see your sad news and to see you go, I wish it could have worked out for you, sending hugs your way xx

Welcome EMC & Congrats smile

Suffolk I'm sorry to see your dad isn't well, I hope you're coping ok.

MsFP HbloodyH?! The mind boggles, that's not from an A I hope!

Great news Diege you must be so relieved and don't worry Harv the closer to the 12 weeks you get the more the symptoms will ease - the 12 week war is nearly over, I can't wait for mine to lay off, I more week!!

Good luck for the scan First - enjoy it! & to any other scanners on there.

I hope you're ok Ariel could you have made a mistake and 6 weeks be possible? Take it easy and rest up, I know its hard to not think the worst but if could go either way it could be fine and hopefully will.

Am shattered. Really struggling to get comfortable on a night, I'm barely showing but my belly and boobs feel so uncomfortable already, it doesn't help that my preferred sleeping position is usually my back but that seems to just make me feel sick.

DP has a family do tomorrow and I'm fully expecting his entire family to be told - even though we haven't had the 12 week scan yet - or appointment through!!!!

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 10:24:57

icing that's exciting about your scan being on Tuesday, I bet you can't wait can you? Mine's the Monday afterwards.

ariel thinking of you.

saundy are you happy for your DH to share your lovely news?

My boobs feel like they're growing by the second! Also, have a very prominent baby belly. It's so obvious I'm pregnant not that anyone can see it as I'm imprisoned in the house with DS with chickenpox

Saundy Fri 19-Apr-13 10:33:45

Get absolutely not, but his mum had already told us that "these things get out", his sister has already started telling her friends (as I've had randoms congratulating me) and DP is gagging to tell everyone so the combination of everyone being able to blame the other means I don't stand a chance (as I wont be there).

I hope DS isn't in too much discomfort and you're not having too much of a nightmare being stuck in.

williaminajetfighter Fri 19-Apr-13 10:35:10

Hi all, had a terrible night. Headed to the bathroom at 3am for my usual pee and red blood was dripping out of me onto the bathroom floor like some kind of horror movie.

Decided to go to A&e - more blood and clots. They took my bloods, made me wait for 4 hours then said my bloods were fine and to go home as they couldn't do anymore. When I asked 22 year old doctor what 'fine' meant she said that she actually couldn't find the results in the system. Pushed out the door a bit. No scan and no opp to talk to gynae as promised; told to come back if it gets worse. Hey ho.

So I feel for you Ariel as seems we're in a similar, shitty boat!

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 10:37:19

Oh williamina what an awful night you've had. How is the bleeding now? Are you managing to catch up on some sleep today? Hope your ok thanks

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 10:38:08

And what a rubbish experience with a&e that makes mad.

Saundy Fri 19-Apr-13 10:38:36

Oh Will I'm so sorry to see that, you must be so worried, can't you phone your midwife? xx

williaminajetfighter Fri 19-Apr-13 10:38:48

Harv. I'm bleeding brown blood but not much. Not certain if this was 'just a thing' or if its the calm before the storm.

How anyone gets to 12 weeks is beyond me!!!!

williaminajetfighter Fri 19-Apr-13 10:39:52

Called midwife so expecting call back. Can't get too cross at NHS as they are over stretched. Just prefer that doctors don't lie to get me out the door!shock

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 10:45:25

It's lovely that your DP is so excited to tell everyone. By the sounds of things he wants to get in there quickly before his sister tells absolutely everyone!

DS is fine thanks. Taking it all in his stride. He hasn't noticed his spots yet thankfully.

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 10:47:52

Absolutely agree will. Hope you get a better response from midwife - how many weeks are you now? I suppose they will either scan you or just tell you to wait and see. Annoying that it depends where you live what answer you get. The epu here barely asked me what was wrong when I called and they went and got the diary to book me in.

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 10:48:57

williamina have just read your post. Sorry to hear that you're bleeding. Has the midwife phoned you back yet?
The NHS might be over stretched but that's no excuse for shoddy treatment, especially when you're so vulnerable

stuffthenonsense Fri 19-Apr-13 11:26:10

12 weeks! Phew. Really hoping everybody else gets there, especially those with worries right now.
Hope all today's scans are doing ok, looking forward to good news.
Williamina, stretched or not, you are a patient there with as much need for care as someone with a broken leg, you should have been treated better, once you are up to it get your OH to write a letter of complaint about your (lack of) treatment. Things won't change unless errors are highlighted.
Hope everyone is planning a very relaxing weekend.

MummaPanda Fri 19-Apr-13 11:27:44

Thinking of you guys in limbo at the mo, must be so horrible not to know what's going on.

On the plus side I finally got round to weighing myself yesterday and since I've been pregnant I've lost over half a stone. That's one positive of morning sickness I suppose!

Any scans today? Only good news please!!!

williaminajetfighter Fri 19-Apr-13 11:35:21

Well done mumma - small mercies for morning sickness. I feel enormous but have lost 3lbs.... bizarre!

Thx for everyone's thoughts. Will have to see how it goes. I'm 11+2 or is it 1 today? I just wanna make it to 12 if I can!! x

firsttimemummyy Fri 19-Apr-13 11:41:52

Hi All!

Thank you for the good luck wishes - they worked!! Healthy happy baby bouncing around, heard the heartbeat too. Such a relief! And the doctor said he 'thinks' it's a girl but can't be sure. Also dated me 3 days ahead of what I thought (although this can't be possible cause I was charting and had ovulation stick things so I know exactly when I ovulated - I guess babies must just grow at slightly different rates) So am now 11+6 (even tho I should really be 11+3!)
Now the nervous energy has gone the night lying awake has caught up with me and I am knackered!! Nearly nodding off at my desk. Still, am very happy smile And can finally tell people why I have mostly dropped off the radar for the last 3 months!

On the other hand I'm really sorry to hear of the bleeding Williamina, have fingers crossed for you that all is ok.

berrybomb Fri 19-Apr-13 11:52:02

Williamina and Ariel - thinking of you both, and wishing you the best of luck.

I too feel and look huge, I can't get into most of my clothes, but the scales say I'm still exactly the same weight! odd.

yay firsttime - it's lovely to have some good news

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 12:00:59

Brilliant news firsttime!!!

Theicingontop Fri 19-Apr-13 12:06:43

Yes, same berry. I've gained and lost 4 pounds so no weight gain apparently, but I look huge. My jeans don't fit anymore, they're unbuttoned with the zip down blush

Sorry to hear about those with concerns. Really hope it's good news for you both.

first thats fantastic!

berry i'm the same - techincally put on 1 pound but yet i look like a bloater and my jeans are a bit tight! must be all the puffing out rather than just putting on fat lol

i've a wee issue i'd like to run past people. a friend is due to have her baby soon and another friend has told me that theres a physical problem with the child. i didnt know and i assume that i wasnt meant to know i.e. its not common knowledge. i of course will not mention it anybody but i'm really annoyed that it was disclosed to me. what happens if i now tell this friend something in confidence and she blabs about it to someone else?!

Saundy Fri 19-Apr-13 12:14:05

I think that's your warning to not tell her anything you wouldn't be happy to get out Fairy!

Ariel21 Fri 19-Apr-13 12:15:16

Argh, will ! How horrible for you, you have my complete sympathies! Hopefully it was just a 'one off' and you will be fine. Thinking of you!

god hope shes not on mn to read this!

shes my bridesmaid next year...

williaminajetfighter Fri 19-Apr-13 12:21:38

Fairy best to keep things under wraps. I think if there is anything wrong with baby whether cleft lip or something genetic I always feel its best to only share with family until baby is born.

Well done First! Lucky you for getting due date bumped up!! Now you're just barely on the November thread!!grin

Theicingontop Fri 19-Apr-13 12:24:48

How awful for your friend, Fairy, and what a complete betrayal of trust sad

Did BlabberFriend say something like, "Look, don't tell anyone this, but..."? I agree you should be wary!

Ariel21 Fri 19-Apr-13 12:29:07

Thank you everyone for your messages of support. DH says he won't believe it's over until we've had confirmation - so trying to go with him on this one! Going to wait until Monday and go back to be rescanned. Off work and trying to relax (ha!)

saundy I suppose it could be more like 6 weeks if I ovulated late and my cycles are not particularly short or regular (I only had one in between mirena and pregnancy so hard to tell!)

Time will tell I suppose.

no she just mentioned the problem in passing - as if i knew. when i said err what do you mean she told me but brushed it off as she was only telling ME. that means she expects me to keep it quiet when she couldnt!

i'm gutted for my other friend and i will mention absolutely nothing to anybody. just praying her baby is ok.

after my friend told me something a few years and asked me to keep it quiet i didnt even tell my then husband! in fact i'm still keeping the secret! i thought thats what it meant when you asked someone not to tell...

firsttimemummyy Fri 19-Apr-13 12:36:25

Yup 2nd November now.. just sneaking in here!

I have a friend like that Fairy, she does have a lot of amazing qualities but keeping a secret is not one of them! It is difficult because I have to be slightly on my guard when I'm around her not to let anything slip that I really wouldn't want to get out, but I'm not sure about your friend, but this one of mine doesn't do it in a malicious way at all, she just can't keep her mouth shut! And because its never done with malicious intent, she is still one of my really good friends, despite this fault. I couldn't handle it if she was just a gossip in a nasty way though, but I think there is a difference sometimes. It is a shame that you won't be able to 100% trust her with any information though.

first i'm due 3 nov so we're both in the early club!

i'm really really annoyed about this. will she have revealed stuff about my wedding too? i think she trusts me 100% and knows i'd never pass on info but i dont like to be the one who people gossip to. i'd rather not know!

mini rant over lol

Animol Fri 19-Apr-13 12:43:45

Fairy I've got a friend a bit like that too - I'm planning to use it to my advantage though and tell her first about new baby (after family of course) - I know the phone wires will be buzzing and in about an hour the whole world will know smile

All the best to everyone with worrying symptoms - hugs

Lovely to hear about the good news from scans - lets have more please

DittyRatt Fri 19-Apr-13 13:11:54

Hi everyone. Haven't posted in a little while but have been lurking.

So sorry to hear about those with sad news.
But yay for all positive scans.

Am 11+3 today. And I have my 12 week scan next Wednesday. I can't wait it seems like forever away.

I have been to the doctors this morning to see if I am immune to slap cheek as my niece has it and SIL only thought to tell me when she picked her up from mine last night. So now waiting on the results.

Me and DH have just bought our very first house. A lovely 4 bedroom house just up the road from where we are now. All being well we should be able to move in in 6 weeks time.

Picked DS up from nursery this morning and he came out crying. He said `av been crying to ages mummy cos I needed you n you wern't there, av got a headache, n ma legs hurt`. He was holding his ear too. So think he may have an ear infection. So going to take him to the doctors tomorrow. He is now fast asleep after having some calpol ans has been since we got in at 12'o'clock. I am rather annoyed that his nursery didn't ring me to let me know.

heartonsleeve Fri 19-Apr-13 13:15:09

Afternoon ladies!

I also had my scan this morning, and am happy to report all is present and correct! Yippee!

They pushed me forward a day on my EDD, which is now 31 October - but I'm staying here it's okay with all of you smile.

Now really looking forward to letting all family and friends know - should be lovely smile

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 13:22:49

Lovely news heart

Hope DS is feeling better soon ditty and happy new house!

My due date is 2nd Nov but won't be allowed to go full term as I'm high risk so I should also technically be in October thread too but I like it too much here so am staying too!

ditty - i had to get tested too. it takes at least 2-3 weeks for the results so dont panic at the delay. exciting news about your new house!

heart - fab news

TiredFeet Fri 19-Apr-13 13:23:41

wonderful to hear all was well at your scans firsttimemummy and heartonsleeve smile

really sorry that you are having such worrying times williamina and ariel I will keep me fingers tightly crossed for you that all is well. I'm really angry to hear how you got treated at the hospital though williamina it doesn't inspire much confidence if they will just lie to keep you quiet, I would be tempted to write a letter of complaint I hthink

congratulations on the new house ditty, we really need to buy a bigger place but keep dithering about where to move to. must do it before the baby gets here if possible though or it will be chaos!

I am having a surprisingly good day today, kept all my medicine down and even survived toddler group with DS. may have looked a bit crazy walking back from the shops in the rain sucking an ice lolly though blush well it got me through a bad moment so who cares! I am ungrateful wretch though and now worrying that something is wrong because I am feeling a little better. can't win!

artyone Fri 19-Apr-13 13:59:21

Afternoon all.

I had an early scan this morning. Managed to find a local place which does them at £40 for an early scan so went for it, more for my peace of mind than anything else. All is present and correct. Can't believe it's really happening!
Heard the heartbeat and saw the little one. 10 weeks is about right. I feel a lot less anxious now.

Congrats to firsttime and heartonsleeve for the successful scans.

Just a couple of weeks now until my official 12 week scan, still no letter, but there is time. Re-taking my blood test on Monday.

Hope everyone with worries turns out to be okay. Thinking of ariel and williamina

suprisepitstop Fri 19-Apr-13 14:06:26

hanging for my scan which is not till next sunday - 13+1. i want it now! feeling a bit queasy again today which is rubbish. have to give you my anti nausea snack tip - innocent smoothie little cartons , for kids. i put them into the freezer until a bit frozen like icecream texture and eat with spoon. delicious!!

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 14:07:11

Brilliant news arty you must be thrilled!

tired am loving the image of you sucking your ice lolly in the rain. It's like something I'd do!

honey86 Fri 19-Apr-13 14:10:14

good afti ladies... good news from here too...

had my scan, no more blood, and babys measuring 12 weeks today, which puts me at a day ahead. so the 1st nov. baby was kicking jumping and waving its limbs about- the sonographer had a hard time measuring cos baby just wouldnt keep still, had to force coughs to jiggle it back into position. grin nuchal fold falls into the nice normal range. nice strong hb smile

got my 20 week scan in june, seems like ages away.. and consultant appt plus got my mw appt next month x

berrybomb Fri 19-Apr-13 14:22:24

I'm loving hearing all the happy scan news - well done ladies, you must all be over the moon. It's giving me more hope for Monday, I can not wait!!

Ditty - congrats on the house, it's so exciting buying your first place, I'm hoping one day we'll be able to afford a 4 bed as well!!

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 14:53:46

Awww. honey that's great news!!

firsttimemummyy Fri 19-Apr-13 15:05:55

Aww congrats to Honey arty and heart on the scans. It is a good news day today! smile

Oooo our car seat has arrived! V nice

WorriedMouse Fri 19-Apr-13 16:25:45

So much catching up to do here! Congratulations to all those who have had scans and sorry to hear some sad news too.

After some more spotting last weekend I went to the EPU where they said there were definitely no scan appointments left until I cried and was scanned within 2 minutes. Baby was measuring 10+2 at 10 weeks so feeling a lot happier this week. People have started to ask if I'm pregnant too which I think is a little rude. I could just be fat!

Scan appointment isn't until 13+3 which I think is pushing it for nuchal screening but the appointment woman said that it isn't a problem. Got consultant appointment too for high risk delivery. Seems that things are starting to happen! Still not fully relaxed about things but probably never will be.

Will keep my fingers crossed for all those waiting for news.

Mistyshore Fri 19-Apr-13 16:47:45

Hello everyone, I've been reading but you're all so chatty I don't seem to be able to catch up to join in smile

So sorry for the ladies who've had to leave us and sticky vibes going to everyone having a worrying time flowers

I had my scan and they've pushed me to 29th October, I was 12 days over with ds though so I'm staying put here on the November thread ( I fear change grin )

I had a bit of wobble as I walked into the maternity unit for my scan and my eyes started leaking a bit. I had a bit of a rough time with ds's birth and it all came rushing back. I had a lovely midwife and my worries have disappeared. She's put me as low risk and told me a couple stories about lovely births after forceps. She mentioned a glucose tolerance test because of my BMI- does anyone know when you have that?

Huge post blush

honey86 Fri 19-Apr-13 16:52:22

misty i had the glucose test at about 28-29 weeks, same this time cos of family history of diabetes. i dunno whats worse, fasting for it or drinking that sugary drink confused

BangOn Fri 19-Apr-13 16:52:41

congrats worriedmouse that's great news. congrats also to everyone else with positive news. sorry for those who're having to deal with bad news.

My scan will also be at 13 weeks & isn't till 14th May, which is an age away. I'm eating way too much at the moment & only fancy junk food. so much for going through this pg looking svelte.

honey86 Fri 19-Apr-13 16:59:13

also hun, ive had forceps twice and a ventouse so im totally understanding there... but thats purely cos i have a narrow tiny pelvis so they get stuck. but i know so many that have had forceps then have had quick easy labours. each birth is different. id say just make sure you eat and drink, use the toilet frequently ( a full bladder can make it a pain for baby to move down in labour) and try and move about. youll be fine xx

Theicingontop Fri 19-Apr-13 17:11:24

Ugh the GTT, not looking forward to that. I felt like I was dying when I had it, going that long without food. I was a blubbing mess on the way home from it because I'd forgotten my purse and couldn't get food until I'd got home. grin

I have to have it because my mother is diabetic. I was so tempted to leave her medical history off my notes this time to avoid the test, but my rational side won >: (

Mistyshore Fri 19-Apr-13 17:26:51

You have to go without food? Don't they know we're pregnant?! grin

SuffolkNWhat Fri 19-Apr-13 18:13:52

I've got the GTT to look forward to as well, fasting is going to make my HG much worse. I bet I throw up the drink all over the floor. Bastards.

No GTT for me. Already injecting insulin after finger prick testing for a week before. It's a pain in the arse but a necessary evil. GD is not something to piss about with as you just don't know what will happen. That's what caused my still birth at 37 weeks and then I got it again last time and she was born at 34 weeks after starting inducement at 33+.

A relatively short test is well worth doing, I wouldn't wish what happened to me on anyone. It was and is still incredibly painful and I will never be the same again. Knowing you have to give birth to your dead baby and then bury them isn't much fun. Sadly I went undiagnosed and the price I paid for my hospital ignoring me was the loss of my daughter.

Sorry for the downer but I always have to put across how important it is not to ignore the GTT or any symptoms. Not suggesting anyone is doing that though. Sorry for the ramble but you would not want to be in my position.

getoffthecoffeetable Fri 19-Apr-13 18:55:33

Oh cheese my heart goes out to you. You're right, nobody should have to go through that.

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 18:57:02

Cheese that must have been horrendous hmm

Great news on the scans today that's super. And honey we are no longer due date buddies!!! My scan is on Tuesday though so my due date may change!

I have been extremely extravagant tonight...plan was that dd and I would go to McDonald's for dinner on way to airport to pick up dh however dd's childminder took the kids to mcd's as a treat so my plan of an easy dinner was ruined! Dd wanted tuna pasta so I snuck into the Chinese takeaway on way home and got myself a beef chow mein which I have wanted for WEEKS! So it's currently sitting waiting for me while I struggle with nausea a bit. How extravagant is that having a takeaway on my own ha! blush

Still feeling ok- nausea and I digestion hit me about tonight but its not awful. Cannot wait for dh to come home tonight - I will sleep like a log after 4 nights rubbish sleep yay!

It was a beautiful day here. Had such a busy day at work but was out and about in the sunshine lots which made up for all my rushing around grin

Hope you are all having a great Friday grin

So sorry Cheese, what an awful thing to happen sad didn't mean to be insensitive.

You're right, it's very small in comparison to what could happen. Puts things into perspective somewhat.

(Icing name change btw)

Cheese that's v sad x

Mistyshore Fri 19-Apr-13 19:04:35

What symptoms should I look out for Cheese ?

Don't apologise for trying to prevent someone going through the time you had. I have a sister who was born asleep and I'd move heaven and earth to prevent the pain my mum (and the rest of us) went through.

It's ok, I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable or anything. I just had to stress how important it is.

misty for me I always had sugar in my urine and I felt really wrong. I now know what was the feeling of high blood sugar...I had reduced movements a few times and went in only to be told (after waiting for hours to be seen) that everything was fine and I was made to feel like a nuisance and stupid. I also had high fluid levels which were over the cut off line but they said it was fine as it wasn't much over. Definitely listen to your instincts and don't take no for an answer if you think anything is wrong at all.

I have to inject before meals and test 1 hour after eating but also wheni feel the need to test my sugars. I can definitely feel when I'm high. If you're at risk of GD then I'd try and cut down on sweets etc but carb heavy food can cause problems if you do have it. I wouldn't worry unnecessarily about it but just be aware. A lot of women are diet controlled and don't need insulin and I know it's rare to get it as early as I have too. It's usually later on when problems can arise.

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 19:49:55

Gosh carbs and surgery foods are things a crave too, although this did pass last time. I guess with e being overweight I will be at increased risk too although no one in my family has diabetes.

My dinner was amazing! Just what I needed mmmmm grin

I wasn't even high risk. On the slim side, no family history etc. Only thing is pcos. All I crave is chocolate right now...typical. Ah well. Ill stuff myself with cake afterwards grin. I usually eat pretty much what I want so I can live with a few months of it. My luck I'll end up with it staying after I have the baby this time.

I'm sure I can feel some flutters btw, 10 weeks tomorrow. Definitely not wind!

Mistyshore Fri 19-Apr-13 20:20:23

We've got a takeaway curry on order! Sugar? Salt? Carbs? Does saag alhoo count towards my veg count wink.

12 + 3 today so clinging on to the hope of a second trimester bloom rather than the constant nausea.

I can't remember when I felt ds move, but have any second (or third, fourth, fifth or sixth) timers felt early movement. Baby was really jumping about on my scan which surprised me (you'd think I'd know as a 2nd timer doh) and I can feel flutterings. I'm sure it's much earlier than last time.

Mistyshore Fri 19-Apr-13 20:23:17

Crossed post cheese as I was putting ds to bed! Yay to the flutters!

This is my 6th so maybe that's why! I love salt and carbs mmm. I had a small portion of chips tonight as two of mine had swimming lessons and no time to cook. I only ate a few after the ten minutes it took to inject...really have to psych myself up, but they were nice with salt and onion vinegar. I usually have something with veg though so it's not too bad. I miss wine!

More good scan news, how lovely for everybody am not at all jealous I don't have a date yet, grrr

Slight panic this evening when I went to the loo, wiped and saw fresh blood. Oh thank god for my tiny haemorrhoid! My heart is still racing though.

Night in on my own, so making some delicious cream of celery soup. My mum's coming tomorrow to help with packing. I'm so excited to see her, not seen her since I found out I was pregnant. Oh and bra measuring was wrong -ish yesterday, I am a 38H, so up a band size and a cup size. Not too terrifying

TiredFeet Fri 19-Apr-13 22:04:57

Oh cheese I am so sorry to read that. No I understand why my mum (a diabetes specialist nurse) gets so upset by the fact midwives don't just routinely test everyone. I have heard of other people where the diagnosis was missed but I didn't realise the consequences could be so devastating

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 22:37:05

I am sure I am getting flutterings too - this is baby number 2 for me. I didn't feel anything until really late first time - I'm sure about 19/20 weeks but this time I feel wee flutters in the bottom left side of my tummy. It's normally always at the same place. It certainly doesn't feel like wind but who knows, as I have had a LOT of wind blush poor dh.

Just home from airport and literally walked in and straight to bed. Dh is putting dd to bed. She is absolutely exhausted being up so late. I like to think that she will have a nice long lie to make up for being on bed so late but it never works our like that!! It always seems to be the later to bed the earlier the wakening shock

For those having dc 2 (or 3,4,5,6) when are you feeling dc? We have decided to tell dd after the 12 week scan all going well. She is at an age where she jumps on us quite a lot and loves a carry on and we feel if she knew why she had to be more gentle then it would help. My dd is only 3 though so worried about telling her so early too. What do you guys think? My ds is obsessed with babies and I think she will be delighted with the news (although not sure she will get it properly!)

MummaPanda Fri 19-Apr-13 22:44:40

We have already told dd all about her hopefully little brother, but she's only 5 months so don't think she will be telling anyone grin

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 22:52:39

Haha mumma that made me laugh!

I was so emotional at the airport tonight seeing people reunited! One couple stood and held each other for ages and I could have sobbed. I don't even know these people and was probably staring at them like an idiot blush they probably though I was a weirdo!!!!

harverina Fri 19-Apr-13 22:53:54

Sorry I always have so many typos. That was supposed to say when are you telling dc's not feeling grin

MummaPanda Fri 19-Apr-13 23:00:35

Oh don't even get me started harv!! I am sobbing at absolutely everything! I watched britains got talent last week and cried every single time someone got through! Maybe I should give it a miss this week haha. Also that google chrome advert (I think that's what its for) where the guy is trying to get back together with his girlfriend. Blubbering like a baby even though I've seen the advert a million times? I've completely lost it.

TiredFeet Sat 20-Apr-13 07:09:51

Not sure yet when to tell DS (2.5), I am not telling him until after my first scan at the earliest though. I might tell him after that just, like you say, so he knows why he can't jump on me as much etc. I have started talking to him about babies a bit more, just when the topic comes up. He still likes to pretend to be my baby though bless him, he lies in my arms and says "gooo goo ga gaa me being baby" !

stuffthenonsense Sat 20-Apr-13 07:39:38

My other children all know. The teens are great and help out a bit more, DD4 ('I'm two and a half') is looking forward to having another baby and is adamant this is a girl, she was right with DS so we shall see. She is picking names already and saying hello to baby. DS is only 13 months so hasn't got a clue.

BangOn Sat 20-Apr-13 07:42:32

Harv - dd2 is also 3 & I'm not telling either her or dd1 (7) until after the 20 week scan at the earliest!

The reason for this is their grasp of time is still quite tenuos & having an identical gap between the first two, & dd2 & this baby, I know I want to keep the months of "is the baby coming tomorrow?"down to an absolute minimum! sweet but drove me a bit crazy!

harverina Sat 20-Apr-13 08:39:23

Bangon that's what worries me - 28 weeks of "when is the baby coming" is not appealing! However think we will tell her if the scan goes ok next week. She listens to everything that is said so I'm surprised she hasn't picked up on anything yet anyway!

Tiredfeet my dd also loves to pretend she is a baby. I tell her she will always be my baby and she says "no mum pretend I am a tiny little baby"! grin

Getting my hair done today and going to a friends for dinner tonight so quite an eventful day after beings a bit of a recluse at weekends for weeks!

harverina Sat 20-Apr-13 08:41:32

Mumma I was the same watching bgt last weekend!!

SuffolkNWhat Sat 20-Apr-13 08:45:34

DD has known since about 4 weeks as I have been so sick, it was easier to explain that the baby was making me Mummy be sick than her thinking I was dying or something!

I too am sure I can feel flutterings this early (11+6) on my left side, same place every time! Probably just wind though grin

We have decided we are not telling people (apparent from parents) our exact EDD as last time the texts were unbearable. Instead we'll do a vague early Novemberish

I think I definitely felt the baby move last night during my nightly bout of insomnia. Low in my pelvis, slightly on the left. Feels like a little dice being rolled around in there. I didn't feel any early movement with DS, first thing I felt was a big kick! So I'm not sure what to look out for, but this was very distinct from wind haha.

I told DS because he has a habit of using me as a trampoline in the morning grin He's convinced it's a girl too. "Do you want a baby brother or a baby sister?" "Sister." "But what if it's a boy baby?" "No, sister." He's three in July. I think he'll be experiencing gender disappointment! I've got this weird feeling it's a boy.

Ooh does anyone know if bringing little ones to the scanning room is allowed?

busyprocrastinating Sat 20-Apr-13 09:02:20

We are also not telling dd for as long as possible as it is a long wait for a 2 and a half year old. She asks me everyday if its Christmas tomorrow as it is!

Suffolk my fil rang me on my due date to see what time I wanted a lift to hospital. You would have thought after 4 dcs of his own he would know it doesn't work like that.

Kirjava children aren't allowed in over here but there might be different rules for different places!

I NEED a sausage roll so badly this morning confused haven't eaten one in years lol

EcoHippyMum Sat 20-Apr-13 09:09:30

Morning! I told my eldest two straight away with DD3 they were 7 & 8 when she was born so were 6&7 when I told them. I didn't have is the baby going to be here tomorrow? Till I was nearly ready to drop, they were brilliant! This time DD3 guessed straight away, kid is very watchful of her Mum and nothing gets past her...she even kept it quiet from big sisters until I could get them on their own to tell them (we had my brother over staying as we had my mothers funeral etc). Her biggest thing at the moment is counting down the weeks till the sex can be determined! She then wants to go out and start getting baby stuff... And all three have been amazing with me and these bleeds .. But then mine are 10, 17 & 18!

getoffthecoffeetable Sat 20-Apr-13 09:56:37

Another one here who gets used as a trampoline. Ever since we've been trying to conceive I've been telling DS that rough games are for Daddy. He gets it with the somersaults but not the bouncing so I'm hoping the bean is well protected in there! DS seems to have decided be wants carrying more than ever. He's 2.1 stone. When is it we're supposed to stop all this heavy lifting?!

I'm loving hearing all the stories about telling your DC. I don't know when we'll tell DS. He's only just turned two and has taken after me with his complete lack of patience!

I'm having a lazy morning as DH has taken DS to the park with his scooter and the dog. I think I'm going to tackle my legs! Is anyone else suffering with really dry hands and legs?

Enjoy the sunshine all!

I have very dry skin normally and it's now 100 times worse!

williaminajetfighter Sat 20-Apr-13 10:02:30

Glad to know others are feeling movement as I'm positive that's what I've been feeling. And it's reassuring as bleeding started again so hoping its nothing major. hmm

harverina Sat 20-Apr-13 10:10:57

Kirjava yes that's what it's like! A dice rolling around! What a great description that I would not have thought of grin and I also feel it low in my left side too occasionally.

Suffolk my dd has been a bit alarmed by my sickness and dry boaking at times - she keeps saying mummy has a tummy bug so yeah another good reason to tell early.

Williamina how are you doing? Was there any mention of you getting scanned again?

Re. Dry skin - last time my skin was the opposite - my dry arms were lovely and smooth especially the backs of them grin

I have def felt something - like someone v gently flicking my insides. But wasn't sure whether its wind or not!

My eldest dd knows (11) but not my boys and dd (14 months) is too young to know different. I'm waiting until after the nuchal at least to tell my sons (6 and 9).

littlemonkey2013 Sat 20-Apr-13 13:28:45

so just caught up on the thread again, it moves so quick. sorry for those that have had bad news, hope things take a turn for the better.

haverina and mumma i am getting weepy over everything too, doesnt seem to matter what im watching on tv there is always something that happens that makes me tear up.

so i had another scan and am 9 weeks and everything is developing well so glad for the happy news. im certain all i ever feel is gas though.
not been throwing up at all but do still feel nauseous a lot of the day. cant wait fr it to go away and i can get back to doing more normal things

Saundy Sat 20-Apr-13 13:49:55

Great news little I know what you mean about the nausea, its really grating now.

I'm showing a bit but not so anybody would notice, DP says I just look as though I have a normal persons stomach now.Have gained 1.5" on my waist but no idea weigh wise I don't do scales.

Am so so angry right now. DP is at a family party and has txt me that everyone knows courtesy of him mum - conveniently blaming his niece. I knew it'd happen but its still really pissed me off. DP isn't bothered, he wants everyone to know anyway. But I'm so angry at him for telling his 6yr old niece (how thick can you be!!!!) & for his mum for taking the excuse and running with it. Is this my hormones, is it not that big a deal really?! I need to calm down. I'm 11 weeks so they would have found out soon anyway but AAARRGH!!!! I've got a feeling his mum is shaping up to become a royal PITA as she's quite vocal & insistent on certain things that should really just be our decision.

and breathe!

No, it isn't your hormones Saundy. It happened to me a few threads back, my SIL found out via a letter in my dad's car and told EVERYONE. I didn't get to tell anyone my news and felt utterly robbed.

I'm still not talking to her.

Some people just don't realise (or don't care) that it's your news to share. Really feel for you sad

stuffthenonsense Sat 20-Apr-13 15:04:41

Eek saundy! It's your news to tell, so I'd be pretty irritated too. Start as you mean to go on with the mil. But try to not stress.

Saundy Sat 20-Apr-13 15:49:14

Yes I remember that KtheCat I think your situation was worse as at least it just his family and people he would have enjoyed telling really.

Thanks Stuff but that's easier said than done she's quite a formidable woman really who's as comfortable shouting at you as talking to you. She's not as awful as I'm making her sound, her heart is in the right place, but I know at some point I'll have to stand up to her and I am dreading the day!!

Saundy that was so mean of her! Just let her know on the qt that you know she told a fib - that will give her a subtle warning you're not to be messed with!

My ex-mil hated me and the feeling was extremely mutual lol

TiredFeet Sat 20-Apr-13 20:18:54

enjoy your night out harv !

Saundy how irritating for you. I would be really upset by that. my parents in law kept accidentally letting it slip last time but we let them know we were upset and they have been great at keeping quite this time (but I ended up having to tell most people in the end!). I think sometimes people don't realise the importance to you (but I may be being too kind to your MIL, some people are just too keen on getting the attention themselves!)

got a stinking headache from dehydration /lack of food I think, but my lovely friend came to look after ds for me so I have had a few sunny hours sitting in the garden watching them play which has really lifted my spirits.

EcoHippyMum Sat 20-Apr-13 20:57:38

Saundy I would be mightily p**sed at that! There are very few people who know about the pregnancy for us, and we want it kept that way till the scan (please Gods let it still be viable). I don't think I can hide it much longer though as I am getting huge! Plus I have a field trip to go to in Millport so I will have to let the lecturer know for insurance purposes.
Feel so bloated today it's uncomfortable...have increased fibre intake to try and help...

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 20-Apr-13 22:17:47

saundy your mil sounds like a pain.

I've not told my dd yet, she's only 2 and 2 months so I think she would expect me to have it imediately. Then when that didn't happen she would forget about it anyway. I'll tell her when I start to show. At the moment I just look fat fatter

2Labradors Sat 20-Apr-13 22:25:20

Hi, can I slip in?

I had worked my due date out to be 2nd Dec but had a private scan today and was given EDD of 26th Nov.

This is #3, we have DD aged 9 & DS aged 7. We haven't told them yet and don't plan to until the 12 week scan. I don't remember feeling this anxious with my other pregnancies but I'm worried sick this time, was lovely to see a little flickering heartbeat today.

I'm 8 weeks 4 days and really struggled in my work trousers last week. I suffer with IBS and my stomach has been getting so big as the day goes on. I'm also suffering terribly with trapped wind. Had to cave and buy some maternity trousers today, cannot believe I need them this early on, although its all bloat I suppose.

So, hello to you all. I'm going to scroll back and catch up on this thread. I love that you're on thread 5 grin

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sat 20-Apr-13 22:47:24

2labs welcome to the thread. I get ibs too, if it flares up I don't get much bloating but get bad diarrhoea (sorry if tmi).

Had a bad flare up last week and it was blooming painful. Congrats on the scan and best of luck catching up on the thread, it moves stupidly fast.

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 09:08:16

Morning, had a lovely night out last night - one of my friends asked if I was pregnant and I said no!! Another of my friends is pregnant but further on so there was lots of baby talk and I probably slipped up blush a few times though I tried hard!

Eco, Millport? As in isle of Cumbrae? I live Millport - used to go all the time as a child, have lots of happy memories if time spent there. We usually go for a day in the summer and cycle round the island grin When are you going?

Welcome 2labs and congratulations!

My scan is on Tuesday and I am both excited and very nervous/scared. It's first thing in the morning which I am glad about.

So tired this morning as was home late and dd woke in the night (age 3, imagine a newborn!!) I am still in bed but can't seem to get back to sleep which is very annoying angry

Going to venture downstairs and see what I can eat - I'm not hopeful as haven't been shopping yet! I will maybe send dh to the shop to get some goodies!

Hope everyone is feeling ok and having a nice relaxing Sunday morning grin

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 09:08:48

I don't live in Millport!!! I love it haha!!!

Hi and congrats 2labs!

I've woken up feeling mighty sick for some reason - bleugh.

Saundy Sun 21-Apr-13 09:33:17

Welcome 2Labs & congrats, always room for more!

Tired that was nice of your friend, are you doing no better on the food/sickness front? Did you take the medication in the end?

Sending DH out to forage is an absolute must Harv. I wasn't up in time to get breakfast before work today so am contemplating the hospital canteen - but its not all that appealing!!

Well the cat is well and truly out the bag now, after DP made it clear to all his Aunties etc yesterday that we really didn't want people to know yet, explained why (his work colleague who's DP was also pregnant had a MC at 12 weeks just after her scan - which you would hope would give it some gravity), they all swore it would not be discussed further, then an hr later the facebook congrats start coming in from all his cousins etc that weren't there!!

I think its a cross between excitement and not seeing any reason why they shouldn't tell. They defo see it as being their news as much as ours. I just don't want to see any of them, the days of me nagging DP to visit his family more are over!! Its not all bad though, DP clearly enjoyed all his family knowing so maybe I'm being a bit selfish in insisting he wait.

I feel for you Fairy last night was the first time in forever I've not been sick on my way to bed, even though I felt rough & I feel so much worse for it today. It was a proper sleepless night of feeling ill.

Saundy what they did was really mean - why are people like that?! My mom still hasn't told her sisters I'm divorced and here I am engaged and pregnant! She just doesn't see why others need to know our business lol so she's got the opposite problem!

To all you ladies who've had morning sickness I take my hat off to you. I wake up feeling sick and honestly it's like the world is going to end! Is it possible to get ms at 12 weeks instead lol?! Please say no!

Having squares in bed and hoping it makes me feel better

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 21-Apr-13 10:14:21

saundy they haven't got a clue have they. Must be so frustrating when they agree not to blab then do it anyway. Grrr

fairy it is still possible to mc after 12 weeks but it isn't very likely. Even at 8 weeks if a heart beat has been seen you only have a 2% chance of mc. It's low odds but it does happen, there's nothing to be done but look after yourself and keep your fingers crossed.

I keep trying to find the heartbeat with my Doppler but am having no luck. Will just have to wait for nhs scan on thurs.

Lol whenshe I was talking about morning sickness not miscarriage!

getoffthecoffeetable Sun 21-Apr-13 11:30:39

fairy I threw up this morning for the first time - I'm 12 weeks!

clementine82 Sun 21-Apr-13 12:23:35

ditto last night and I'm 11+2. Have been feeling nauseous most of the time but not actually properly thrown up before.... I then slept for nearly 12 hours...

Lozcat86 Sun 21-Apr-13 12:42:40

so sorry to hear the sad news xxx hugs to you all

my scan isnt until the 7th may, ill be about 13 weeks by my calculating. just keeping fingers crossed all is ok..
getting nervous now...

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 21-Apr-13 12:46:44

Argh sorry fairy I'm a very nervous pregnant lady so I think I did a bit of misreading and projecting there. Sorry.

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 13:04:25

Oh dear I was going to reply to say if you haven't been sick by 12 weeks then chances are it won't start now, however....

I have had 3 mini calippos this morning and I am desperate for another but can't as dh will think I have gone crazy. They are just so lovely and water isn't quite doing it for me today smile we are going out in a little while so may sneak one into the car ha!

busyprocrastinating Sun 21-Apr-13 13:22:24

There must be something in the air. I've been really, really sick this mOrning for the first time. I'm now 13 weeks! Not sure if it's ms or a bug but I can't even keep water down so laid in bed feeling very sorry for myself n missing out on the plans we'd made. Cruel thing is I'd just started to feel less sick and get my appetite back.

I tried to plant the idea of a baby coming to live with us yesterday. She was very positive and excited and then asked if we could get one who sings when you press its tummy. When I explained I meant a real baby not a doll she said oh no not one of them! Least we've got a few months to work on it!

busyprocrastinating Sun 21-Apr-13 13:23:51

That was to dd by the way!

Really craving quavers, but we're on a strict budget this week.

So I popped into aldi and got ten packs for 99p blush best hide the evidence before OH gets home tonight.

But they've really hit the spot.

/trivial rambling

Dizzy81 Sun 21-Apr-13 14:47:23

I've been sick too. Found some mouldy bread and well hello toilet bowel.

I hope everyone starts to feel better soon.

Dh and I went for a walk on the downs near where I live, had to give up ad I was exhausted and felt a bit queasy.

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 21-Apr-13 15:11:10

busy I'm up of your theory there's something in the air today. Haven't been sick for a week but was this morning.

louby86 Sun 21-Apr-13 15:23:02

Another one who's been sick today, definitely the worst day so far!

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 15:44:24

Sorry to hear you are all being sick. I have had some nausea today but calippos have hit the spot!

Thecat quavers have been a lifesaver for me this week too grin

Vommy here too. And also can't get enough quavers. My mum came up yesterday and it was so good to have a mummy cuddle, even at 32! I had a little cry because I'm so stressed out with the house move and feeling poorly. Once the move is started I'll feel calmer it's just the current state of chaos doing my head in. And one we're moved it's only couple of weeks til I should have my scan!

Thought of quavers is making me retch now actually confused

Can't win!

That's ok whenshe!

I have been in bed all day - I feel sick and dizzy when I get up and now my right ear has gone deaf. Wondering if I've managed to get an ear infection or something? Problem is I haven't been to sort out my horse yet and OH is working to five. I feel really bad but I'm going to have to ask him to sort her on the way home. So far I've managed to keep down toast and a packet of squares but no proper food.

Hasn't helped that the dogs are busting for a walk and I just can't go!

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 19:28:58

I am such a grump. Soooo tired, head thumping and just not myself. Have done no housework for days either.

SuffolkNWhat Sun 21-Apr-13 19:31:25

Scan tomorrow grin

clementine82 Sun 21-Apr-13 19:57:34

Exciting! Good luck! I've got mine on the 30th and cannot wait...

EcoHippyMum Sun 21-Apr-13 21:01:22

Goodly I for the scan tomorrow Suffolk!

harverina Sun 21-Apr-13 21:15:03

Good luck Suffolk looking forward to hearing good news afterwards - mine is on Tuesday morning, can't wait now!!! grin

Saundy Sun 21-Apr-13 21:41:41

Busy I love DDs reaction to the news that's so funny!

I hope everyone is feeling better, it looks as though its been quite a sicky day all round. I have been too but that's just standard at the min.

Good luck tmr Suffolk I'm all excited for you!!

WhenSheWasBadSheWasHopeful Sun 21-Apr-13 21:44:59

Ooh scan tomorrow for suffolk very best of luck.

getoffthecoffeetable Mon 22-Apr-13 06:09:09

Good luck for your scan today suffolk hope it goes well.

Good luck Suffolk!

Dizzy81 Mon 22-Apr-13 08:20:34

Good luck with your scan today Suffolk.

Feeling a bit rubbish this morning, I'm sleepy and feel sick. Will make for an interesting day at work.

On a brighter tmi note, I've cleared the backlog!&#128516;

12 weeks today! It's gone so fast.

berrybomb Mon 22-Apr-13 08:58:20

Good luck Suffolk! I also have my scan today. I'm starting to get nervous!

Kirjava - I'm also 12 weeks today :-)

TiredFeet Mon 22-Apr-13 09:04:06

good luck people with scans today! will be thinking of you!
finally have my booking in with the midwife today, I feel miles behind the rest of you

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 09:11:13

Good luck berry! grin

I am off work today. It's going to be a wet day here so it's housework, housework and more housework for me today!!! Dd says she will help, will see how that goes wink

Aside from some little pains low down in my tummy and sore boobs I am still feeling ok. 12+2 although will find out exact dates tomorrow morning At scan.

Right I'm away to get started! Hope everyone had a good day and those of you who are being sick, take it easy.

EcoHippyMum Mon 22-Apr-13 09:11:41

Congrats on getting to the magic 12! Had the worst nights sleep, youngest DD has no school for two days, hoping she will keep herself somewhat amused as I am trying to finish this dissertation, which is coming together nicely now. Worried about tomorrow's scan, feel a bit doom and gloom about it, and to make it worse DD will have to come to the hospital with us... Just hoping against hope that after all these weeks of brown spotting the baby will be ok. I know i have seen the baby twice (5.5 and 7 weeks), after the spotting started, but it doesn't stop the worry.

I keep freaking myself out looking on the Internet, some say your uterus continues to grow after a missed miscarriage, others says it doesn't...don't know what to believe, i am huge though and I am still getting round ligament pain. Still getting unstoppable tiredness breasts are less sore but my god the shooting pains in them are toe curlers!

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 09:23:42

Eco I have the same worry especially since my nausea disappeared practically overnight last week. I had a scan at 8+4. I have had no spotting. What time is your scan tomorrow? Mine is first thing, 9am.

Well done for doing your dissertation glad to hear you are nearly finished.

Stop reading google!! I was doing the same last week and its not helpful at all grin

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 09:25:36

I am still welding exhausted too but not getting decent sleeps so not sure if its still pregnancy related - think the tiredness usually eases around now.

honey86 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:35:44

got up and went out yesterday and felt amazing... 12 + 3 today. didnt even wear my seabands....

.... i did today sad god i feel like crap feel sick tired n achey. i thought id got to that magic milestone where i get my energy back. damn.hmm

honey86 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:36:37

good luck for today suffolk xx

LovesTheChoas3 Mon 22-Apr-13 09:46:18

Hi Ladies. Hope you are all well. I went to the doctors Friday am after bleeding in the night an having pains in my left hand side, docs suspected ectopic pregnancy so sent me for a scan. Baby is is the right place and has a nice healthy heartbeat. I am 10+3 weeks so exactly right on my dates smile They did however find a cyst in my ovary they suspect to be a dermoid?? and that they may want to remove it dependant on growth. Thats all they said and sent me on my way, me being overwhelmed with everything that had happened in the last hour didn't ask any questions. Has anyone had anything like this?

EcoHippyMum Mon 22-Apr-13 09:48:45

Mine is at 9:40am tomorrow, just hoping for good news. I also am filled with dread about the hospital, too many horrid memories associated with that place, plus the treatment I received in their A&E was horrid. Wish I lived in Cambridge rather than just studying there, such a different experience to Chelmsford... I think it has gone down hill since they shut the specialised Maternity hospital in favour of putting it all on one smaller site :/.

EcoHippyMum Mon 22-Apr-13 09:55:06

Loves my DD number two had this when she was 8!!! It was the size of an orange and the idiots kept trying to tell me there was nothing wrong with her, just gastro! I stood my ground an the consultant paediatrician saw her on day 5 and screamed at all the other doctors how could they have missed it! It was cutting off circulation to the ovary, she had to sign a consent to remove the ovary if it was damaged and the op was carried out by a gynaecologist for adults as at the time Essex didn't have a paediatric gynaecologist. She had a Caesarian style cut and it was removed successfully and her ovary left in tact. It had teeth, hair, the lot! Some say these cysts are what would have been an identical twin but one embryo absorbs the other - weird stuff. She is fine now (17 years old) and is a short arse though but always was small and her hormones obviously started early causing it to grow.

LovesTheChoas3 Mon 22-Apr-13 10:02:29

OMG Eco thank god someone took you seriously, doctors can be so ignorant!! Glad to hear your DD is fit and well now smile They didn't tell me how big it was, exactly where it was. Just to keep my appointment for my 12 week scan on the 1st May and they will have a closer look then but she mentioned removing it whilst i am pregnant, this worries me a bit. Teeth and Hair shock how weird!! Urgh i feel a bit invaded lol.

Mine's at 11:15 tomorrow. So excited/nervous. Feels very different to last time, I was still getting over the shock of actually being pregnant unexpectedly at 12 weeks! Didn't get to enjoy it until the 20 week scan, by which time I was a broody mother hen.

Berry we're due date buddies! Well if my ovulation charting was correct which I doubt. Hopefully they don't change my due date too much, OH has worked his paternity leave/annual holiday so he gets the whole of Christmas off, which is rare in his line of work grin

Let us know how it goes suffolk x

MummaPanda Mon 22-Apr-13 10:29:38

chaos I had a cyst when pregnant with dd, it was 6cm. But they didn't seem too worried about it and just monitored its growth (it didn't grow) when I had my scans for the pregnancy. Anyway I had my first scan for this pregnancy last week and I asked them to check to see if it was still there and it wasn't, so probably burst during labour. But mine was just fluid filled so guess it depends what type it is.

EcoHippyMum Mon 22-Apr-13 10:50:12

If it is small enough they may leave it till after you have had the baby or remove it through key hole surgery. Yes, this is the same hospital they want me to give birth in, the same one that 'lost' my mother for a month, takes a week to scan you, and generally has too many patients, far too few staff and beds but hey they have spent millions on two bizarre human shaped statues made with a hexagon pattern. :/

louby86 Mon 22-Apr-13 11:02:35

I had a cyst with my first too, they just said they'd re-check it on the 20 week scan as they would expect it to disappear on its own, which it did. Still not got a scan date yet. Rang in sick from work today, waiting on a dr calling me about my morning sickness too.

EcoHippyMum Mon 22-Apr-13 11:17:06

I have a cyst, its the type that disappears, corpus luteum I think, but that is very different to a dermoid cyst. How far along are you Louby?

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 12:19:01

Tiredfeet just saw your post on allergies - my dd has also for multiple severe allergies to egg milk and nuts. I have similar questions to you. Midwife told me to avoid all nuts due to dd having an allergy but tbh I am not sure that this is the correct advice hmm although I am following it now. Dd sees her allergy consultant in June so will ask her then.

at my 7 week scan i had a small 2cm cyst on the left side - think she said corpus luteum?! but nothing mentioned when i was scanned again at 10 weeks.

how the heck am i going to make it another 8.5 weeks to my 20 week scan?!!!

TiredFeet Mon 22-Apr-13 12:28:10

harv I've asked the allergy specialist nurse when we saw her (but I was only 4 weeks pregnant at the time so felt to early to bombard them with questions) and she said no need to avoid anything. its so confusing though. although at the minute its irrelevant for me as all I can face eating is crisps and ice lollies! really worried about the weaning stage though, after what happened with DS (first taste of cows milk at 6 months resulted in an ambulance ride with blue lights and siren, properly scary stuff)

do let me know what your DD's allergy consultant says! we are also going to clinic in June (for more blood tests for DS , gulp) so I will try and get some more answers out of them then.

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 12:34:02

That's interesting and probably the correct advice.

What age is your ds? Dd was 3 a few weeks ago. We had a similar experience aged 6 months when dd had yogurt for the first time. 999 call with blue lights too. She did manage to come our of the reaction without any medicine that time but when it happened again aged 18 months she was given adrenaline and she was prescribed epipens.

Are you in England? I am in Scotland a see a paediatrician as opposed to an immunologist. Will let you know what they say grin

MummaPanda Mon 22-Apr-13 12:37:36

I just got a letter through saying I have to go for an outpatients appointment next month and bring a urine sample, anyone have any idea what that's about? Didn't have it with dd...

TiredFeet Mon 22-Apr-13 12:44:00

oh gosh harv can't believe it happened to your dd too! DS had to have adrenaline and it was terrifying. its awful that feeding them something you think of as so benign could have such a dreadful effect. Mind you despite the scariness it was sort of a blessing in disguise for us as DS had dreadful dreadful eczema which cleared up so quickly once all his allergies were diagnosed. We're in England, near Southampton which luckily has a very good allergies team who have been very supportive. will let you know if I find out anything else. and at least we can hand hold when it gets to weaning!

not sure what that's for mumma I don't recall it from last time, hopefully someone will know!

TiredFeet Mon 22-Apr-13 12:44:31

(he's 2.5, not sure how that bit fell off my reply!)

MummaPanda Mon 22-Apr-13 13:01:18

Curiosity got the better of me and I called them, its cos I have to sign a form.

louby86 Mon 22-Apr-13 13:10:58

Eco - I'm 9 weeks today smile

Doctor has just prescribed me Avomine as a start for my awful sickness. Got that for a week before they decide if I need anything stronger so think I'll be off work until they kick in.

I asked about allergies with my first because of my history and they said DS would get referred when he was around 3 for proper testing unless he had a reaction before. Weaning made me so nervous with him, although we've been ok so far (touch wood). It's just nuts left that we're avoiding now.

MummaPanda Mon 22-Apr-13 13:24:37

Anyone else feeling completely rubbish today? I'm aching all over, have absolutely no energy to do anything. Not really feeling sick, just feel like I need a long hot bubbly bath and about 10 redbulls!!

williaminajetfighter Mon 22-Apr-13 13:27:26

All those getting scans today, don't forget to update us on your (fab) news. The thread always needs good news.

Harv and Eco I also have scan tomorrow at 9:40 and worried after all my bleeding that it will be bad news but I am crossing my fingers! x

TiredFeet Mon 22-Apr-13 13:27:32

louby if you are feeling really rotten it is worth coming and joining the hyperemesis support thread, there are some people on there that know lots about it. feel for you, it is a rotten way to spend early pregnancy. I am feeling very fed up about it all today

mumma me sad

williaminajetfighter Mon 22-Apr-13 13:28:12

I too thought I was past the nausea yesterday but today has been hell. Plus the gas, well, it never stops.

I am 11+4 so assuming I'll be another few weeks feeling this crap. ergh.

yes positive scan news please ladies

suprisepitstop Mon 22-Apr-13 13:35:35

just anything positive about pregnancy at all would be greaf. fed up and not feeling it at moment, and sick of evasion excuses and having to pretend to be super perky when im not!

Is anyone else getting cramping? It's like a constant dull period pain. Google says its normal for twelve weeks!! Been the same for three days or so now... Just the baby growing right? Ugh it's distracting and worrying sad

Still not long to wait to see if everything's tickity-boo.

Can't wait to hear how scans went.

surprise glad its not just me whos a bit fed up! tho i'm terrible for wishing my life away rather than just enjoying the moment!

i'm just bored of feeling knackered (i should get used to it sharpish lol)

MummaPanda Mon 22-Apr-13 13:43:12

kirjava I'm 11+4 and I have been quite crampy, feels like growing pains

BangOn Mon 22-Apr-13 13:47:11

that cyst sounds a bit worrying loves hope they can remove it without too much discomfort.

i'm 9 + 6 today. amazed i've got so far along without telling people. feeling v tired after energetically cleaning all the windows this morning whilst dd2 was at nursery. Struggling to juggle work & the dds & wondering how i'll cope with 3. Wondering why i finf these things so hard ln others just seem to breeze through.

i've had two or three dreams about having bleeding/mc & worried my subconscious knows something i don't.

also concerned that all my time is already allocated & i just won't have enough to give this little one. struggling to feel positive at all.

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 14:19:09

Kirjava yesterday my back and tummy felt like it does when I am just about to get my period (you know when you know it's coming?) More a strain than the actual cramp that I got when I was properly bleeding. It's felt like that a couple of times actually.

So, tomorrow williamina, kirkava, icing and I have scans and all in the morning. Lets hope that by the afternoon we will all have all reported back with proper due dates and lots of positivity.

Williamina I kinda feel like I am not justified in feeling nervous as I have has no bleeding or spotting but actually I am a little terrified! Part of me can't wait to see our baby, see that everything is ok and get a proper due date - oh and finally tell people! The the other part of me is so scared in case something is wrong hmm I didn't worry like this last time!

Bangon, on a slightly different position as I am expecting dc2 but I can honestly say that we often really struggle with juggling work, childcare and all the other stuff that comes with it - pick ups/drop offs, organising childcare, cooking, washing, housework....actually the list is endless and that's just one dc. I suppose my point is done let other people fool you into thinking that they ate managing just fine as they probably don't. It's all rush rush rush and I never get everything done that I want or need to. Right now exhaustion often wins over getting things done and I know we don't spend enough time playing with dd as I would like. That's why weekends are precious.

harverina Mon 22-Apr-13 14:20:38

Typo after typo. Sorry I really need to start checking my posts blush

Oops, I am icing! Namechange!

I agree with Harv, Bangon, nobody finds things as easy as they seem to. I know I put on a massive front when I was working nights - in reality I was bloody struggling. It's so hard to let people know how things really are and I reckon those dreams are just stress manifesting itself! Try to find some time to relax and put your feet up, though that's easier said than done I know thanks

I had a dream the other night that felt so real, OH had run off with another woman and left me with 100k of debt. The whole dream felt really real. I woke up livid and threw his arm off me. Poor man didn't know what he'd done wrong...

berrybomb Mon 22-Apr-13 14:34:28

Hi ladies

Scan went really well - my dates say 12 + 0, my private scan at 8 weeks added 3 days, and now they measured