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October 2013 hula hoops, daytime snoozes and booking in appointments

(982 Posts)
Iheartcrunchiebars Sat 02-Mar-13 07:27:57

Here you go. New thread...number 3!

pinkbuttons Sat 02-Mar-13 07:46:37

Thanks for the new thread crunchie Im joining you. Although havent had the hula hoops craving here. just yogurt, at every meal smile

Morning! I did have hula hoops last week, I'm up for any salty crisps! I made my DH go and buy me Bombay Mix last night (on his was home from work) there was some in a bowl on Alan Carr last night and I needed some smile

Natalieand Sat 02-Mar-13 07:58:40

Found it :-) morning all

Sephy Sat 02-Mar-13 08:01:17

Good morning new threaders!

My first appointment at a hospital yesterday went really well. Its for some kidney issues that might make pregnancy difficult. Later on I'll need to be more closely monitored, but for now things seem fine, which is great. The doctor thinks that I should have all my antenatal care and give birth at their hospital, which is a really good one so I'm pleased about that. But it is over an hour's drive away, which seems a lot for DH to attempt with panicking me in the middle of the night!

How's everyone else this morning? Hope pink is feeling calmer an that you've been well overnight

doobeedee Sat 02-Mar-13 08:03:23

Morning everyone. I've not had the Hula Hoops thing but I do find myself wanting salty stuff especially salt and vinegar snacks. Last weekend it was Discos but I ate so many my tongue got sore!

Topslou Sat 02-Mar-13 08:10:21

It's all about the hula hoops here too. Good news is they are half price in sainsburys at the minute. I'm completely off milk & yoghurt, even the thought if it makes me feel sick. Have resorted to snacking on babybels to get some calcium.

Sanjifair Sat 02-Mar-13 08:12:31

Hello. Is anyone else showing yet? I had a doo last night and when I put on my LBD it was pretty clear there was a bump! I had had a big lunch to be fair. I don't think I showed until about 15 weeks last time! Was 8+0 yesterday. No one said anything but I did notice a couple of ladies looking and whispering! Floaty tops at work from now on I think, I don't want to announce until after the scan.

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 08:18:02

Yay for the Hula Hoops! It's not a craving for me, when I'm dry puking in the kitchen sink like the last 2 mornings they are the only things that restore normality...

Morning all, My slightly queezy and hungover all the time feeling progressed to feeling like alcohol poisoning last night (ms, I haven't actually been boozing!). Feeling very sick but nothing happening, dizzy, shivery then hot, stomach crunched up in pain, diahorea and generally feeling rubbish. This time eating something and going to bed didn't help, maybe because i had had a really stressful day. I think that makes it worse. Better this morning but back to the normal queeziness. I have got a driving lesson this morning. I think I will mainly be focusing on holding in a wee for two hours and not being sick in the car.

Sorry for the mememe.

How is everyone else today? Thank goodness it is the weekend!

MrsZzz Sat 02-Mar-13 08:33:18

Hi Everyone,

I know this bus is packed to bursting, but is there room for a little one? Reading this thread has been keeping me sane with all the 1st trimester secrecy in real life and I really need to stop lurking and squeeze on.
Stats: MrsZzz- 30- EDD 5/10 - 1 DS- 3yrs

Currently lying awake in bed whilst DH and DS happily snooze away...

racheld33 Sat 02-Mar-13 08:56:29

Morning all, just logging my place on new thread.
Not had hula hoops yet, but have wotsits 3 x day!
Husband doing hoovering whilst I have my first bag grin

roxvox Sat 02-Mar-13 08:58:06

Welcome MrsZzz and thanks for the new thread crunchie!

I thought I saw hula hoops on my bosses desk the other day. I quickly realised it wasn't them but I still had to go and buy some! My aversion to mushy things seems to have died down, although I still prefer the idea of crunchy stuff.

Sephy glad your first appointment went well!

Sanjifair I have days when I am sure I look like I'm 6 months pregnant, but then 2 days later I'll be back to normal again! I think it's to do within bloating and gas that we get more off than usual when pregnant!

Orangeblossom I too would be worried about needing a wee! I would perhaps start off the drive with a comment about how you've just downed a pint of water/drank too many coffees 'which may not have been the best move' and then, if you have to stop, you can use that as an excuse! I am probably forward planning way too much, but being in a car when I need a wee is one of my nightmare scenarios for some strange reason!

I have actually felt fine this week except for the stomach cramps (possibly constipation related). Even my need to wee regularly seems to have improved., So, naturally I am worried something is wrong. We've got the MW home visit tomorrow so I intend to ask her opinion on an early private scan. I am so worried about getting all the way to the 12W scan, 3 days before we intend to tell our families, and then find out that something's wrong.

fish88 Sat 02-Mar-13 08:58:29

Blondies I'm also craving anything salty, which is odd as I normally have such a sweet tooth.

Hit 6 weeks today which sounds so much more substantial than 5+6! Planning on telling family next weekend for Mother's Day so not got too much longer keeping it to myself. Also planning on telling work not long after that as the nature of my job means it is already quite difficult to keep it quiet. (I think my team think I'm just slacking off at the minute!) confused

Morning all,

Thanks for the news thread!!

I am 10 weeks today and all symtoms seems to have packed up and left a few days ago, I know I should not worry as I am still really tired but I am. Panicing I have 24 days till my next scan sad

Fish88 we are telling our mums on Mother's Day too when I will be 8 weeks. That sounds substantial enough to feel "really" pregnant and the sprout picture looks more baby than dolphin by then.

char1eston Sat 02-Mar-13 09:11:56

Morning ladies.
Welcome mrszzz and thanks for the new thread iheartcrunchies.
Sorry to hear your news euro and sending positive vibes to everyone worrying at the mo.
Feeling a bit sorry for myself this morning as I've got a cough and dd was up LOTS in the night. Lucky dp got up with her more times than I did.
For my scan a week Thursday smile and it can't come soon enough. Meeting my family the weekend after and will tell them then all being well (mum knows already).
Hope you all have a lovely weekend...I'm off to buy some hula hoops!

Rockchick1984 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:12:59

Ooooh, shiney new thread!!! Thanks Crunchie!

Sephy if it's the best hospital for you, I'd plan on birthing there but on the day if things are progressing too quickly for you to go there you can always turn up to a closer one!

Sanji I feel like I'm starting to show a bit, but my tummy muscles were still separated from last time so I wasn't sure if that would make it worse? If you're worried then just start making a couple of comments about how you need to lose a few lb - suddenly wearing floaty tops would have got people gossiping at my old job more than gaining weight smile

Good luck for the driving lesson Orange

Rockchick1984 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:14:39

Oooh Fish is it your first? Get them cards saying "Happy mothers day Grandma* on them - corny but cute!!

Just had some brown spotting. I know that is normal but still a bit worrying. confused

char1eston Sat 02-Mar-13 09:15:16

Oh and sanjifair - I definitely have a pot belly but it's probably down to the amount of food I'm consuming that anything else! I wore a tight-ish dress to work the other day and was a bit conscious of it.
Definitely going to be bigger than I was with dd - she was quite a nice neat bump

Haylebop12 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:29:59

Just marking place. Morning ladies :-)

cherrycherry41 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:35:37

no bump here, lost a stone whilst ill in the past weekish, hoping not to show till after 12 weeks though! smile

8+6 x

pinkmoonlight Sat 02-Mar-13 09:38:04

Morning ladies smile Can't believe we're on a new thread already! Update from me is that there was no more bleeding overnight and the amount that I had yesterday was very small. Feeling more positive after my total breakdown last night, although still no sign of my previous symptoms. Going to go to the scan I booked tomorrow to find out what is going on in there! Have a good weekend everyone xx

Flyer747 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:44:11

Good Morning All marking my place too. I'm going for an early private scan on Monday evening as I really don't feel pregnant, hardly any nausea, boobs are fuller but not sore...and only thing I seem to have is a huge appetite, one day I crave cheese now I'm off it craving something else... I will send myself crazy waiting until 12 weeks so decided to pay. Have a lovely weekend everyone

Great news pink. Glad you are feeling better this morning.

CelticPromise Sat 02-Mar-13 09:55:38

Good morning all. Just checking in on the new thread. Am posting from my bed. Only just woke up, lovely DH must be up with DS. smile

Sephy I'm booking at a far away hospital too so I can attend their high risk clinic and foetal medicine (DS was premature and growth restricted). If we have problems and need the high level NICU I hope to deliver there but if all is well I intend to transfer closer to home or choose a home birth. Don't know if that's an option for you? Might be worth having a look at your local options anyway?

HotSoupDumpling Sat 02-Mar-13 09:55:48

Happy New Thread everyone!

Glad you feel better pink, sending good vibes over.

At 3am this morning I realised I craved:
- hot salty fries/chips
- gazpacho
- a roast potato smothered in gravy.

roofio87 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:56:25

woah, a lot had gone on on here already this morning! just marking my place, nothing to report from here!!
hope you're all keeping well ladies x

Flyer747 Sat 02-Mar-13 09:57:27

Great news pink, glad you are feeling much more positive. I hope all goes well tomorrow at the scan

Iheartcrunchiebars Sat 02-Mar-13 09:59:24

Mmmm roast potatoes.

Does anyone else crave textures. I want crunchy foods likes crisps, crackers etc.

But anything chewy makes me feel sick like neat eugh.

pinksky Sat 02-Mar-13 10:03:19

Good morning everyone, and thanks for the new thread, Crunchie

Away with friends in dartmoor this weekend, just trying to muster the energy to go for a walk.

Falcon it's mad how those crappy symptoms are so reassuring, aren't they. Try not to worry - I think it's pretty normal for some to go around this time. Just think, you're so close to the second trimester!

orange hope you're ok too. I've still got a lot of brown spotting and I know it can be worrying but remember that brown is old blood.

Flyer look forward to hearing about your scan, how exciting. And you too, pink - that's great that bleeding had stopped,

Really hope everyone else is doing well- have lovely weekends all

Ps is anyone clever enough to do a stats thread???

Umlauf Sat 02-Mar-13 10:09:50

Morning everyone! Just checking in..

hotsoup that's weird I also have been craving gazpacho! And marmite. Other than that no real cravings. Went to do the supermarket shop with DH yesterday and felt too queasy around all the food.

Sal1977 Sat 02-Mar-13 10:10:55

Pinksky - where on Dartmoor are you visiting? I live in Plymouth so only a couple of miles away and lived in Tavistock for 11 years before that! X

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 10:14:00

My current craving is hotdog sausages (hot) in a roll with ketchup. I could do with a gherkin too. There's definitely something about sour/sweet

Morning ladies. Marking my place on lovely new thread. moonlight and falcon im 9.5 weeks and my only real symptom of achey boobs has almost gone. Only thing i have now is random headaches, sniffles and womb seems to be hard im not constantly poking and feeling it honest.

For those with spotting, no experience personally but plenty of friends who had it and came out the other end with pefect kids.

pinksky Sat 02-Mar-13 10:27:08

We're in chagford, Sal. You've got some amazing countryside near you, so lucky smile

Thank you 34pinkladyapple I have a hard womb too never had sore boobs just sickness which is gone . I have sniffles too glad its fairly normal for things to settle about now xxxx

roxvox Sat 02-Mar-13 10:46:11

34pinkladyapple and falconsmistress, you've both calmed me down from a slightly worried state! I'm at 8+4 and my symptoms seem to have eased a lot. Not that I really had any to start with to be honest. Glad it's not just me! I have noticed that I'm needing to blow my nose more than usual though...

hotsoupdumpling your very early morning cravings made me laugh! Why is it always something that would take forever to prepare or you'd have to go and buy!

pseudobadger hotdogs sound good right about now!

Feelinghungry Sat 02-Mar-13 10:48:35

Marking my spot too. I am sure when I last posted on this the last thread wasn't even half way through. Amazing how chatty people are! Sorry to read about the sad news and people's worries.

I am a little over 6 weeks and tempted by an early scan too Flyer. I really do not feel preggers apart from sore boobs!!! Although the thought of some hula hoops is rather appealing. Not sure I can hold out till 12 weeks to see things. Let us know how it goes Flyer. How many weeks are you?

Sal1977 Sat 02-Mar-13 11:14:46

Dear God.
That is all.

Haylebop12 Sat 02-Mar-13 11:17:57

All your cravings are making me jealous. Anti sickness decided not to work this morning and I've just seen my cooked breakfast again.

Sick of feeling sick.

cuillereasoupe Sat 02-Mar-13 11:38:22

Yeah I've been feeling severely hungover for a week now. Enough already.

cazboldy Sat 02-Mar-13 11:41:48

Poor Hayle sad xx

have been there before when i had my dd's - you do forget what it feels like to not feel sick!

I have a splitting headache this morning - i do wonder if it's because i haven't been drinking enough, but i just can't fancy anything..... water tastes funny, but with juice makes me gag, tea/milk - yuk! have the odd cup of lemon and ginger, but am even starting to go off that. Have bought some flavoured water, and am trying that atm....

are we allowed paracetamol?..... I know it used to be all that was allowed, but sure I heard somewhere a while ago that they don't even recommend that now!

roofio87 Sat 02-Mar-13 11:43:08

my gp said paracetemol was fine!!

Sparkeleigh Sat 02-Mar-13 11:46:54

Morning everyone. roxvox and iheartcrunchies I'm the same with textures, I can eat crunchy stuff all day but when I'm feeling a bit sick I'm having to force down anything soft. I have a horrible sinus cold though so I can't taste anything much at the minute.

I'm finding it quite hard to manage to get my 5 a day, 2 dairy a day and 2 fish potions a week. I'm munching on carrot and pepper sticks and fruit during the day but does anyone have any good tips to add variety? I think I'm going to be fed up of the sight of carrots soon!

I got the letter for my midwife appointment and scan yesterday. The midwife appt is week 10 for me but according to the letter my scan and date was early last week hmm I'm pretty sure they typed Feb instead of March but I've got to wait till Mon to ring them.

Wow, sorry for the essay!

cazboldy Sat 02-Mar-13 11:48:14

thanks roofio x smile

walnut300 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:10:57

morning all.

I hope u are all good. I went for an early scan yesterday. 7 weeks and EDD is 19th October. we heard a strong heartbeat... amazing!

good luck with everyone else who is having early scans.

Flyer747 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:12:01

Feelinghungry, I'm 7 weeks and surely should have some symptoms now so only thing to do to calm me down/reassure is a early scan.

moonblues Sat 02-Mar-13 12:26:59

Morning everyone.

I feel rotten, constant nausea and I'm so tired, but finally feel brave enough to add myself to the list. Sorry to everyone who's had bad news or is feeling rubbish.

So here is the updated stats list - sorry if I've missed anyone out...

Char1eston, 36, EDD 26th sept, 1DD 20 months
WillSantaComeAgain, 35, EDD 27 Sept, 1 DC (2.1)
tackytiger, 32, EDD 28 September, 1DD
TheFalconsmistress*, 28, EDD 30th Sept, 1 DC (4)
Juniper9, 28, EDD 30th Sept, 0DC
Umlauf, 26, edd 1st October, 0DC
34pinkladyapple, 34, EDD 1st Oct, 0 DC
Artyparty- 38, EDD 1st Oct, 1 DD (2yrs 3 months)
BowlFullofJelly, 30, EDD 1st October, 1 DS
racheld33 30, EDD 1st Oct, 1DS
tutti78, 34, EDD 1st Oct, 0DC
Legallyblond, 31, EDD 1st Oct, 1 DD (2.4)
PenelopeLane 32, EDD 2 Oct, 1 DS (16 months, due 4 days before his bday!)
GreenSunrise 33, EDD 3 Oct, 1 DS (20 months)
Doobeedee, 33, EDD 4th October, 0 DC
GTbaby 30, edd 5/10. Ds1 is 4 months
MrsZzz, 30, EDD 5/10, 1 DS(3)
Tarlia, 30, EDD October 6th, 1DS (2)
Pinkush, 33, EDD October 6th, 1DS (18m)
xuntitledx, 25, EDD 7 October, 0DC
Mama2jandt, EDD, 7th October, 2dc
JethroTull 36 EDD 7th Oct
Roxvox, 26, EDD 8th Oct, 0DC
Terrifiednewbie, 30, EDD 8th oct, 0DC
GettingObsessive, 31, EDD 8th Oct, 0 DC
Irishfairy, 28, EDD 8th October, 1DD (2.5)
Carcassonne, 30, EDD 8th October, 1 DD (3)
Cazboldy, 31, EDD 8th Oct. 3DS, 2DD. (16,13,11,7 and 5)
Pinkbuttons, 22,EDD 8th October, 1DS(2)
MrsAFlowerpot, 28, EDD 9th Oct, DD (3.10)
roofio87 25, EDD 9th Oct, 0DCs
Pannacotta, 34, EDD 9th Oct, 0DC
Iheartcrunchiebars, 32, EDD 10th October, 0DC
Xiaoxiong, 29, EDD 10th October, 1DS (14m)
mini28, 28, EDD 11th October, 0DC
Topslou, 34, EDD 11th October, 0 DC
Elleroo, 32, EDD 12th October, 0DC
Sal1977, 35, edd 12th October, 0DC
Soupqueen, 36, edd 12th October, 0DC
Livened, 30, edd 12th October, 1DS (1)
tuckingfits, 33,edd 13th,1 DS (2)
Mrsexcited, 28, edd 13 October, 0D
wickedgirl, 37, EDD 14 oct, (14, 12, 8) oh no!
MumWithCamera, 37, EDD 14 October, 1 DD (3)
Haylebop12, 25, EDD 15th oct, 1dd (4years)
CelticPromise, 34, EDD 15th Oct, 1 DS (3.5)
Koalaface, 27, EDD 15th October, 1 DS (2.5)
moonblues, 34, EDD 15th October, DS(5) DD(3)
Bluesnowfalcon, 32, EDD 16th October, 1DS (2 years 8months)
Natalieand, 22, EDD 16th October, 1DD (2 years 3 months)
FeministInTraining, 26, EDD 16th October, 0DC
Flyer747, EDD 17th October, 0DC
Rockchick1984, 28, EDD 18th October, 1DS (22 months)
PseudoBadger, 32, EDD 18th October, 1DS 2 years
HotSoupDumpling, 29, EDD 18 October, 0DC
Sephy, 27, EDD 21 October, 0DC
Pinksky, 33, EDD 22 October, 0 DC
OrangeBlossom2, 27, EDD 23 October, 0DC
ChocoFrog, 36, EDD 23 October, 1DS (3 years)
JLSmithy, 26, EDD 23 October, 0 DC
RainbowsFriend, 39, EDD 25 October, 1DD (19 months)
Pinkmoonlight, 26, EDD 25 October, 0DC
Feelinghungry 32 EDD 25 October 0DC
TDD32, 36, EDD 25th October, 0DC
Sparkeleigh, 31, EDD 25th October (0 DC)
Candr, 34, EDD 26 October, 1DS (17m)
DachsandPup, EDD 29 October, 1 Dd (10m)
Slippysnow, 22, EDD 29 October, 0DC
Crookie1, 32, EDD 30 October, 0DC

fish88 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:30:22

Rock It is our first so me and OH are coming up with cheesy ideas to announce to both sets of grandparents. Have thought about wrapping up a babygro that says "I love my grandma" or something of the sort. Too corny??

fish88 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:32:33

Can I be added as well...
fish88, 24, EDD 27 October, 0DC

BirdsDoIt Sat 02-Mar-13 12:39:40

Wow, that's quite a list! Still haven't been brave enough to add myself - might take the plunge after my 12 week scan. Two weeks on Tuesday...Not sure I can hold out that long to be honest.

orange, I had my first spotting (brown) yesterday pm, some more this morning, and it's freaked me out too - like others have said, I know it's quite common, and brown means it's old blood) but it's really unnerving - especially as I haven't had an early scan. Not enough to justify a trip to epu for me, though, I think...much as I'd love a scan to reassure me. I should only go if it's red blood and/or painful cramping, right?...

MrsExcited Sat 02-Mar-13 12:46:05

I have my 12 week scan on 28th March and much as we have already told close family and some friends we are so thinking of April 1st on Facebook.

Blimey page 3 in a morning, this thread isn't going to last long is it!!

juniper9 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:53:46

Falcon I'm 9+5 and lots of my symptoms have eased or gone. I saw blob at 8+2 and it was happy and healthy then. No bleeding or cramps since so I think it's probably normal for symptons to come and go.

cherrycherry41 Sat 02-Mar-13 12:59:00

Think we'll be doing the april fools on facebook idea lol :')
need an inventive way to tell dgp's as we dont want to 'say' it x

Char1eston, 36, EDD 26th sept, 1DD 20 months
WillSantaComeAgain, 35, EDD 27 Sept, 1 DC (2.1)
tackytiger, 32, EDD 28 September, 1DD
TheFalconsmistress, 28, EDD 29th Sept, 1 DC (4)
Juniper9, 28, EDD 30th Sept, 0DC
Umlauf, 26, edd 1st October, 0DC
34pinkladyapple, 34, EDD 1st Oct, 0 DC
Artyparty- 38, EDD 1st Oct, 1 DD (2yrs 3 months)
BowlFullofJelly, 30, EDD 1st October, 1 DS
racheld33 30, EDD 1st Oct, 1DS
tutti78, 34, EDD 1st Oct, 0DC
Legallyblond, 31, EDD 1st Oct, 1 DD (2.4)
PenelopeLane 32, EDD 2 Oct, 1 DS (16 months, due 4 days before his bday!)
GreenSunrise 33, EDD 3 Oct, 1 DS (20 months)
Doobeedee, 33, EDD 4th October, 0 DC
GTbaby 30, edd 5/10. Ds1 is 4 months
MrsZzz, 30, EDD 5/10, 1 DS(3)
Tarlia, 30, EDD October 6th, 1DS (2)
Pinkush, 33, EDD October 6th, 1DS (18m)
xuntitledx, 25, EDD 7 October, 0DC
Mama2jandt, EDD, 7th October, 2dc
JethroTull 36 EDD 7th Oct
Roxvox, 26, EDD 8th Oct, 0DC
Terrifiednewbie, 30, EDD 8th oct, 0DC
GettingObsessive, 31, EDD 8th Oct, 0 DC
Irishfairy, 28, EDD 8th October, 1DD (2.5)
Carcassonne, 30, EDD 8th October, 1 DD (3)
Cazboldy, 31, EDD 8th Oct. 3DS, 2DD. (16,13,11,7 and 5)
Pinkbuttons, 22,EDD 8th October, 1DS(2)
MrsAFlowerpot, 28, EDD 9th Oct, DD (3.10)
roofio87 25, EDD 9th Oct, 0DCs
Pannacotta, 34, EDD 9th Oct, 0DC
Iheartcrunchiebars, 32, EDD 10th October, 0DC
Xiaoxiong, 29, EDD 10th October, 1DS (14m)
mini28, 28, EDD 11th October, 0DC
Topslou, 34, EDD 11th October, 0 DC
Elleroo, 32, EDD 12th October, 0DC
Sal1977, 35, edd 12th October, 0DC
Soupqueen, 36, edd 12th October, 0DC
Livened, 30, edd 12th October, 1DS (1)
tuckingfits, 33,edd 13th,1 DS (2)
Mrsexcited, 28, edd 13 October, 0D
wickedgirl, 37, EDD 14 oct, (14, 12, 8) oh no!
MumWithCamera, 37, EDD 14 October, 1 DD (3)
Haylebop12, 25, EDD 15th oct, 1dd (4years)
CelticPromise, 34, EDD 15th Oct, 1 DS (3.5)
Koalaface, 27, EDD 15th October, 1 DS (2.5)
moonblues, 34, EDD 15th October, DS(5) DD(3)
Bluesnowfalcon, 32, EDD 16th October, 1DS (2 years 8months)
Natalieand, 22, EDD 16th October, 1DD (2 years 3 months)
FeministInTraining, 26, EDD 16th October, 0DC
Flyer747, EDD 17th October, 0DC
Rockchick1984, 28, EDD 18th October, 1DS (22 months)
PseudoBadger, 32, EDD 18th October, 1DS 2 years
HotSoupDumpling, 29, EDD 18 October, 0DC
Sephy, 27, EDD 21 October, 0DC
Pinksky, 33, EDD 22 October, 0 DC
OrangeBlossom2, 27, EDD 23 October, 0DC
ChocoFrog, 36, EDD 23 October, 1DS (3 years)
JLSmithy, 26, EDD 23 October, 0 DC
RainbowsFriend, 39, EDD 25 October, 1DD (19 months)
Pinkmoonlight, 26, EDD 25 October, 0DC
Feelinghungry 32 EDD 25 October 0DC
TDD32, 36, EDD 25th October, 0DC
Sparkeleigh, 31, EDD 25th October (0 DC)
Candr, 34, EDD 26 October, 1DS (17m)
fish88, 24, EDD 27 October, 0DC
DachsandPup, EDD 29 October, 1 Dd (10m)
Slippysnow, 22, EDD 29 October, 0DC
Crookie1, 32, EDD 30 October, 0DC

Thanks juniper and rovox smile

Edited mine new dd is 29th sep added you fish88

Im the same as juniper i saw very healthy bean at 8+5 no worrying signs but still I worry as I feel pretty not pregnant other than being tired!!

Doing a bit of digging does seem to happen to most though xx

pinkbuttons Sat 02-Mar-13 13:19:58

Im 8+4 and lots of my symptoms have disappeared too including sickness which Im greatful for. Am still horrendously emotional though so think the beans still there smile
Gutted our scan is on the 2nd April so no april fools announcement for us. Thinking of doing something very cheesy like sending email to all our family with a picture of DS with a future big brother t shirt on. Want family to know before a general announcement but dont want to be ringing round.

roxvox Sat 02-Mar-13 14:30:09

Afternoon all!

The reassuring thing is that many of us seem to have lost our symptoms, so I assume it is relatively normal!

I've just picked up my 'mum to be' pack from Boots and it's got various freebies in it (nothing too exciting, but still nice to get free stuff!) Also in it was Edition 2 of Bounty magazine, advertising a competition to win £2000 worth of baby gear. Here's a link for those interested - Bounty Competition - lots of stuff there I would like to win and they're selecting one winner a month until July,

roxvox Sat 02-Mar-13 14:39:19

Ok this is probably going to sound stupid, but I am 8+5 today and I never know whether I should be reading the 'Week 8' or 'Week 9' section of the pregnancy guides. Anyone know?

notsoold Sat 02-Mar-13 14:45:01

Helloooooo there!!!

Marking my place! I adore hotdogs and once I read the word I had to go and get some!!! smile

Not name checking and I am wary to place my ame on the list as I am still waiting for the 2nd scan to see if things are ok. I am beside myself with worry and stressed to the maxim . I close my eyes and see the MW shaking her head and saying to me not to have much hope. But still no bleeding or cramps.
That has to mean something , right??? I keep repeating " today I am pregant" but all symptoms are gone and I am sitting in limbo....

SOrry to rant and moan here. DH is getting stressed with me stressing ...sad

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 14:52:06

Week 8 Rox I think

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 14:53:20

I haven't managed to get hotdogs yet notsoold so I'm jealous! I hope all is ok for you x

Thanks for popping by Notso I'll admit I was stalking ur threads earlier to see if u updated with how u were getting on in ur wait for scan! blush
I've got booking in on Monday, have picked up my notes to fill in before app but can't find the motivation to do it, wishing again for window in to womb to check what's going on in there and that it's all worth it!

doobeedee Sat 02-Mar-13 15:20:57

Rox vox read week 9 if you are 8+5 it means you are into week 9.

RainbowsFriend Sat 02-Mar-13 15:51:26

For those with disappearing symptoms I remember with DD it all used to go away for up to 3 days - then come back with a vengeance!

Iheartcrunchiebars Sat 02-Mar-13 15:56:37

I should have called this the hot dogs and hula hoops thread! Damn you all. I want hot dogs now and I can't get to the shops till Monday!!!

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 16:41:15

Oh dear I'm responsible for both those cravings on MN blush

HotSoupDumpling Sat 02-Mar-13 17:00:25

Rainbows, don't say that! Have felt a bit better the last few days, only have fatigue and loss of appetite, none of the other awful symptoms that have been making me a mopey person. I've been hoping and hoping I've turned a corner, but I think I'd better wait a week before I can be sure!

Is anyone else off meat? I'm usually an avid carnivore but now really don't fancy cooking/eating any meat apart from unhealthy processed stuff!

Flyer747 Sat 02-Mar-13 17:09:44

HotSoupDumpling- same here completely off meat, actually knocks me a bit sick thinking about it.

cherrycherry41 Sat 02-Mar-13 18:02:58

Tonighy is going to be fun, going out for my birthday (which is tomorrow) and people are going to be trying to get me drunk :/
Going to say my stomach still doesnt feel right after my trip to hospital last week..
Think i'll get away with it? wink

Rockchick1984 Sat 02-Mar-13 18:19:16

Noooo, stop talking about hotdogs!!! Every time I see it, I can almost smell them and it's knocking me sick!!!

There was a thread a while back about best ways to tell family that you're expecting - my favourite was someone bought her dad some Werther's Originals "because that's what Grandads eat"!! I'm not that inventive though - although have made sure to say "you're going to be a Nana/Auntie/whatever" rather than just "we're having a baby" as I think it's nicer for them!

Birdsdoit yes i agree my light brown spotting doesn't seem serious enough for visit to epu. Ours is closed on Sundays and you have to be refereed by gp or a&e . Maybe if it carried on for a while and definitely if it was red blood or very painful.

Well hello all! It's been a manic week with migraines returning and feeling so very sick all the time. Also been in bed by half 7 every night so not been on to catch up all week and we've moved to a new thread! Amazing!

Have scan read this new thread and have sort of caught up with some of the new gossip.

As for symptoms still got the sore boobs and ms although now dry heaving rather than full blown sick and as for showing definately got a bump already which is getting more difficult to hide blush 7+3 I think.

Actually went out and bought a new skirt today to make me feel better and it is a maternity denim skirt so hopefully I'll get lots of wear out of it and it was a bargin cos it was in the sale for less than half price smile

Spent today with my nieces and my ds so now off to bed with my book to collapse again!

Is there anyone else who hasn't heard from midwives at all yet?? Should I be ringing gp to make sure I'm on the list??

Hope everyone has a good evening x

Topslou Sat 02-Mar-13 19:31:00

I've got some brown spotting today too orange. Absolutely terrified that something is wrong as when I had my mmc last year the bean had stopped growing at 8 weeks and I'm now 8+2. I've got my booking in appointment with mw on Tuesday & going to push for an early scan. I've only got 3 weeks til my 12 week scan but not sure I can cope with this level of anxiety for that long. Rational thinking tells me that I have nothing to worry about but my hormones and rational thinking aren't the best of friends at the minute!

Rockchick1984 Sat 02-Mar-13 19:58:57

Blue I've not heard from the midwives yet, am 7+1. Definitely on the system though, the EPU had my details when I went for my early scan. I self referred and they said booking in appt would be around 11 weeks, think it depends on your area smile

Iheartcrunchiebars Sat 02-Mar-13 20:00:40

Blue I've not heard either. Got my booking in at 10 weeks and I assume she will book my scan then.

racheld33 Sat 02-Mar-13 20:25:03

I've not heard from midwife either, I'm 9 + 4 now, thought I'd give them one more week before I pester!

RainbowsFriend Sat 02-Mar-13 20:43:15

I'm a bit confused at people waiting to hear from the midwife: when I got my BFP I just rang the local surgery and made myself a midwife appointment - was this the wrong thing to do then?

JellyCurls Sat 02-Mar-13 20:48:07

Rainbow that's what I did too, think it depends where you live.

All my symptoms disappeared at about 8 weeks except for exhaustion, same happened with dc1 & dc2. Hope this eases some minds.

Off to raid the kitchen for food before I crash out. Night night

PseudoBadger Sat 02-Mar-13 21:07:24

I saw my gp last Wednesday, and got my booking appt (12th march) and scan date (6th April) in the post this morning smile

BirdsDoIt Sat 02-Mar-13 21:08:03

topslou me too with the spotting - over last two days. Don't panic! Just because timings are similar doesn't mean that anything is wrong this time round. Everything I've read says that brownish blood is old and 1 in 3 women get it...hopefully with your history you'll be able to get an early scan to put your mind at rest. Would love to hear what your midwife says! No-one told me this baby lark was going to be so worrisome...

funkky Sat 02-Mar-13 22:01:33

Hi everyone!!! 9+4 today and feel so pregnant. Went to Asda and could barely walk, hips are painful, belly hurts and I when I get up from a Chair, I have to stand for like 20. seconds to allow hips/ thighs/ bum settle before starting to move.

Had been nauseous all along, but was sick for first time last night and this morning. Sick wasn't so bad( actually felt better after) but peed on my self both times. So not glam!

Think sick is due to changing from boots folic acid + vit. D to their pregnancy support vitamins. Might go back to former as I should be getting enough nutrients from food anyways??!

Glad to see everyone's very chatty.

Oli31 Sat 02-Mar-13 22:30:46

Hi everyone! Just marking my place. 6+3 now and struggling to stay awake. Nausea comes and goes. My DH sweetly came home with some Maltloaf for me (which I craved with DS) but just the idea of it this time round makes me feel sick. Hope you're all enjoying your weekends x

roxvox Sat 02-Mar-13 22:33:11

Thanks JellyCurls that does make me feel better!

Funkky I walked into town with DH earlier and in the last shop I thought I was going to drop with back pain. On the walk home mild sciatica kicked in, and then when we got home I had the sudden stupid brilliant idea to clean the house. Now I am like you, struggling to get up! My back is hurting, as is the sciatica, and also I have pain just below my left rib cage, it feels like something is digging in there. Hopefully a good nights sleep will sort me out. Hope you're feeling better tomorrow.

Blue I was told when I saw the GP to book an appointment on my way out to meet the MW with the front desk. He said that I didn't really need to come and see him (although I did because I needed some pregnancy-safe painkillers for my headaches). I'm meeting the MW for the second time tomorrow (a home visit), but I am yet to hear anything about my 12 week scan.

Is anyone else suffering with indigestion/heartburn? I seem to get it after every meal or snack even!

Sorry for always writing long messages... I tend to save up my comments and then when I come to type them they end up as one long ramble!

I hope everyone has had a nice relaxing Saturday.

Wickedgirl Sat 02-Mar-13 22:38:53

I am now 7+5 and although I have been feeling sick for weeks, yesterday was the first time I have actually been sick. I was horrendously sick in my other 3pregnancies so I knew that the sickness would start eventually. I hope it doesn't carry on for too long though.

Everyday I get to about 5pm feeling rough and tired but after 5, I feel really cold and bit fluey. Anyone else feel like that?

It is made even worse by me working 4 nights a week......just as I should be curled up in bed, I am going off to work.

Livened Sat 02-Mar-13 23:05:41

What a busy bus we have - lovely to hear all people are having similar symptoms to mine. Although I now crave hula hoops!

Had a private scan today at 8 weeks as we have lots of family things coming up where A: I won't be drinking (which for me is unheard of!), and B: We'd like to tell a few people in person and it will be our only chance as they live far away.

Scan was great - little cashew nut in there with a HB if 160 going like the clappers. I'm measuring around 8 weeks too, so that all makes me feel much happier that he/she is growing ok.

Are most people first timers on this bus, or are there any second/third/more time mummies here? This will be our second - DS is 13 months and a complete joy. Of course this means this little bean will be the spawn of Satan for sure...

I'm feeling absolutely wiped out at the moment, and if I don't eat little and often I feel so sick. Was like this last time too. Just waiting for the killer heartburn to kick in like last time! Already peeing far too much already too.

Hope you're all enjoying this spring like weather ;-)

MrsZzz Sat 02-Mar-13 23:11:02

Roxvox- my GP/ midwife situation is exactly the same as yours- I even have the home visit tomorrow as well! Wonder if we're in the same area...

Current heartburn is pretty mild but it was hell with DS towards the end, so I'm not looking forward to that.

Hope everyone gets a good, sick-free night's sleep.

Rockchick1984 Sat 02-Mar-13 23:44:34

Funkky just keep an eye on those aching hips and if it doesn't start to ease over the next few weeks it could develop into SPD (my friend was on crutches by 20 weeks) however it can be eased with physio. Hopefully it's just your body adapting to the early pregnancy changes though!

Livened I'm on baby 2, DS is nearly 2 now and although mostly an angel he has started having regular tantrums - I'd originally wanted a 2 year age gap but am actually glad I'm not heavily pregnant yet, need time for either him to outgrow them or for me to get better at dealing with them grin Glad the scan went well for you, got my 8 week scan on Thursday so will hopefully be telling people after that.

juniper9 Sun 03-Mar-13 01:16:23

Livened I'm actually due on 30th Sept, so one of the 'oldest' on this thread, and I'm 10 weeks on Monday. So doubt there are many second trimesters here.

I had my booking in last week- she took bloods and wanted a wee sample. Lots of questions (like are DP and I related hmm ) but nothing too major.

Iheartcrunchiebars Sun 03-Mar-13 05:43:45

Why am I awake at 530am??? Grrrrrr.

Sephy Sun 03-Mar-13 07:40:00

the insomnia thing is crazy, isn't it?! I was so so tired last night but didn't stop me from waking up twice and having to get up at 7 to stop myself going mad!

HotSoupDumpling Sun 03-Mar-13 08:59:00

juniper - I'm really looking forward to seeing if the midwife asks us if DP and I are related, given that he will be there and is a different race from me!

I haven't had an uninterrupted night's sleep since my BfP...there is a well trodden line in the carpet between my side of the bed and the bathroom.

pinkmoonlight Sun 03-Mar-13 10:25:04

Morning everyone! DH and I have just got back from our early scan and it was totally worth doing! I explained to the lady that I'd had some bleeding and my very mild symptoms have all disappeared. We saw our little bean on the scan- all looked normal and its little heartbeat was really strong- feel so much better now! smile She said it's totally normal not to 'feel pregnant' and to just enjoy the lack of symptoms. I hope that helps those who were worried about not feeling sick etc xxx

roxvox Sun 03-Mar-13 10:37:04

That's brilliant, glad it all went well for you pinkmoonlight! And it's good to hear that lack of symptoms doesn't necessarily mean anything bad!

MrsZzz I hope it goes well today with your MW. Why am I so nervous about them coming over?! DH is about one step away from putting child gates up on the stairs and safety catches on the cupboards... I think he thinks they're going to be assessing our house from a child-safety aspect!

I am quite fortunate to have not had any insomnia yet, but I am up at least twice in the night to use the loo, sometimes more. Not sure I could cope if I wasn't sleeping properly so I feel for those of you suffering.

Glad your scan went well pink smile

I feel ok today but im not worried got my 10 weeks update it said you should feel better!! The placenta has started to take over babys hormone production yey!

Hope everyone is ok and enjoying sunday away to my folks for sunday lunch grin

Morning all,

I'm another craving salty things + anything I see on TV that we dont have in the house. Still feeling v nauseous but main symptom is absolute total exhaustion!

Sun shining here today though - trying to summon up strength to get to sainsburys smile

pinkmoonlight Sun 03-Mar-13 12:08:14

Thanks roxvox and falcon smile x

LittleChickpea Sun 03-Mar-13 12:18:56

Hi all,

Logging onto new thread. Its been a while since i logged in. Sorry to hear about some of the sad news. Other than an awful cold and aches/pains nothing to report. Other than sore boobs every now and then no sickness, cravings or tiredness. I keep wondering if I am actually pregnant.

pinkbuttons Sun 03-Mar-13 12:21:28

Morning all,
So glad scan went well pink and hope your feeling a bit more relaxed and pregnant now youve seen your little bean smile
Also feel for those of you suffering from insomnia, I am exhausted and getting 8 hrs sleep most nights. DH has started getting up with DS in the night, hes a bit unsettled so has gone from sleeping through to waking up twice a night.Poor DH has been great because my ms tends to kick in as soon as I wake and if havent had much sleep end up being sick so he has to get up anyway.
Spending Sunay writing my dissertation here. 3 more weeks and it will be gone thank goodness.
funky I just wanted to say as someone else did your symptoms sound similar to those of SPD or Pelvic girdle pain. Am studying physio and spent alot of time working in our womens centre through my degree, would say try start pelvic floor exercises and core stability as soon as you can to try and stop it getting worse. and contact your local womens health physios/ get referred through GP if gets worse, the earlier they can help and give advice the better smile .
Sorry for essay, am trying to distract myself from work clearly. Hope everyones enjoying Sunday, lovely and sunny here which makes a nice change.

Natalieand Sun 03-Mar-13 12:32:19

Morning all! So glad your scan went well pink me and hubby are debating I desperately want it he isn't convinced so we shall see who wins whether to have a sexing scan at 16 weeks due to my impatient ness lol. Plus its only £75 which I think is quite reasonable. Still full of stinking rotten cold ATM and currently laying on the sofa feeling sorry for myself watching the mounds and mounds of housework and washing build up, bleurgh. 7+4 today time is getting slower an slower I'm sure of it lol. Just wondered when you guys tal of having sore boobs how sore would u rate them on a scale of 1-10. 10 being not being able to move our arms without pain lol. Cos other than extremely sore boobs probly like 7 on the scale with a stingy sensation I don't really have any symptoms.....

Hope everyone is enjoying a nice relaxing Sunday :-)

Sal1977 Sun 03-Mar-13 12:45:28

Afternoon motherships!

Does anyone else around the 8 week mark NOT have any morning sickness or nausea?

racheld33 Sun 03-Mar-13 12:49:51

Am so jealous of the people without sickness!
Vomitted twice last night but still felt sick all night envy

Natalieand Sun 03-Mar-13 12:56:30

sal I am 7+4 -and havent had any sickness, i didnt with dd either but had a scan at 6+4 an had a healthy looking blob and heart beat xx

LittleChickpea Sun 03-Mar-13 13:40:25

Natalieand with regards your question on boobs. I used to sleep on my front but now sleeping on my side because boobs are too sore. I would say between 5 and 8 depending on time/bed etc.

Livened Sun 03-Mar-13 13:43:08

Omg, I just got home from church and lunch to find while I was out my DH has tidied the house!! This is unheard of. Obviously now he's seen little peanut he's realised I actually am pregnant and am just putting a brave face on working full time, keeping the house clean and looking after DS!

Right, I'm off for a lie down after the shock ;-)

roxvox Sun 03-Mar-13 13:43:42

Sal1977 I am at 8+5 and have no symptoms at all apart from heartburn and the occasional cramping. I was having some food aversions, hunger and extreme tiredness but that all seems to have died down. Had the second appointment with my MW just now (who was so lovely) and she said that that's all normal. Everyone is different and some people are fortunate enough to get no symptoms at all. I've heard it before, but hearing it from her made it all seem factual.

She also commented that next week I could have extreme MS so not to count my chickens just yet...

roxvox Sun 03-Mar-13 13:45:41

natalieand my boobs were up to about a 7, but had dropped to a 2 and are now at about 4. Just sore when my husband gives me one of his bear hugs where he squeezes me tight! Generally fine though. I bought one of those night bras back when I was a 7 and I swear that that is what has helped.

BirdsDoIt Sun 03-Mar-13 13:57:41

pink, brilliant news about your scan. And it also makes me feel like I shouldn't get so worried about my almost total lack of symptoms - after a bit of spotting on Friday/Saturday I managed to convince myself it was all over and got really upset - ridiculous I know - so it's very nice to hear you're in a similar situation and all is well!

sal I am 9 + 2 and the only nausea I've had has been very mild - and more like intermittent extreme hunger which turns into feeling a bit sick when I haven't eaten for a while.

I keep telling myself that the non-symptom thing is how people get to late pregnancy without realising they're pregnant and end up having a baby in the loo!!!

Umlauf Sun 03-Mar-13 14:20:48

juniper I actually told my midwives DH and I aren't elated (by accident!) I mixed up the Spanish words for 'first' and 'cousin' and proudly announced that I was having my cousins baby.


Natalieand Sun 03-Mar-13 14:30:23

Ahh that makes me feel better about everyone else's boobs I went out for dinner last night and leant forwar slightly and they touché the table I could had cried right there and then lol but other than they I seem to be symptom free but tbh I was symptom free with dd too. I didn't Ben no I was pregnant till 8-9 weeks an I had been ttc lol. Maybe that's why it feels this pregnancy is dragging much more xx

Sal1977 Sun 03-Mar-13 14:37:42

My step sister just found out she was preggers at 12 weeks...how lush would that be?? 2 months less of worrying!!

funkky Sun 03-Mar-13 15:40:29

Thanks roxvox , rockchick and pinkbuttons.

Yes quite worried about hips now, feels terrible at only 9+ weeks and am already walking with a waddle/ limp. Midwife appointment is at 11 weeks ( a week b4 scan), so will see how it goes and ask her. Already have quite a long list of questions to ask.
Glad your scan went well pinkmoonlight , hopefully lots more good news from scans to come!

Flyer747 Sun 03-Mar-13 16:01:50

Hi All, just back from my scan also and pleased to say all in place currently 7+3 and a little heart pumping away. So pleased I went its made me relax a tad more! Have a great day all, I'm off to celebrate with someone mini eggs.

CelticPromise Sun 03-Mar-13 16:10:10

Sal no sickness here either, 8+1. Occasional slight nausea before I've eaten in the morning but hardly noticeable. I never felt sick with DS either.

I have my booking appointment next Sat and scan at 11+3. Time is passing... just doesn't feel like it!

CelticPromise Sun 03-Mar-13 16:10:50

Good news pink and flyer smile

Wispa123 Sun 03-Mar-13 16:20:28

9 weeks today and woke up without my boobs absolutely killing which made a nice change. Had a free flu jab at my first MW appointment on Friday which had knocked my our a bit and appears to have given me a cold! I too am munching on crisps a lot! No massive cravings really though. Waiting for first scan app to come through so still scared it might all go wrong. Reassuring to hear that most of us are experiencing the same sort of things! I def have a pot belly! Searched my wardrobe for old / bigger trousers earlier for work and got some maternity jeans the other day....so comfy, even if I'm not showing yet! Fingers crossed everyone has a good week coming up. I wonder if KP are experiencing a huge surge in sales of hula hoops!? haha!

Haylebop12 Sun 03-Mar-13 17:19:41

Evening ladies.

Can't say I'm experiencing much boob problems but the sickness is taking over literally. Was discharged Thursday afternoon but since yday morning I'm throwing up again so tablets aren't working. Back to docs in the morning in guessing for admission no.3.

Sorry for the rant I'm just super fed up and don't even know if the bean is still going strong. I'm really not liking all this just now but I know deep down its what we all want so just gotta deal with it!

Great news pink, really good to read a good story after some worry.

On the boobs front, mine were really painful in about week 4 whenever I rolled over, brushed them with my arm or had a cuddle. Now they are only bad if you head-but and press them which my goddaughter decided to do this weekend (she is only 10 months, I forgive her!) they seem to have stopped growing this week too, which is good as I think any bigger and I might topple over. I think they stopped hurting when the sick feeling started.

Thanks to those who have said they have also had spotting. It is reassuring to know that it is not just me. I haven't had any more since, so I think it is fine. I still think I won't stop worrying all the time until we pass the 12 week mark and have the scan though.

Sorry you seem to be having such a rubbish time of it haylebop.

moonblues Sun 03-Mar-13 18:02:18

So sorry the vomiting's back Haylebop. Hope you manage to keep some fluids down tonight and manage to stay out of hospital.
I'm very jealous of you ladies who don't have morning sickness. I don't remember it being this bad with my other 2, but maybe you just forget the rubbish bits... 7+5 here and time seems to be moving very slowly...

Sanjifair Sun 03-Mar-13 19:24:50

That's rough Haylebop. Hope you feel better soon, and that you get a scan.

notsoold Sun 03-Mar-13 19:36:52

Congratulations pink and flyer !!!!!!

Hayle....take care of yourself..xxx

Hello to everyone else....I am not feeling too great ( feels like a cold) so I am going to bed....


Is anyone starting to think of names?

I know its early but im convinced im having a girl I was sure at this point I was having a boy with Ds. I love the name Willow, comes from me being a buffy the vampire slayer fan in my youth. Told my mum and she didn't like it being scottish she was convinced she would be forever called willie sad

Umlauf Sun 03-Mar-13 19:52:47

Yep! If tinyface is a boy he will be Albert (Bertie) and if a girl, probably Edie (short for Edith) but not 100% on girls names yet. For this reason hoping for a boy!!

roofio87 Sun 03-Mar-13 20:03:31

ah falcon I'm a huge buffy fan too, and Willow is lovely,definitely better than angel or spike!!!
we have a few names being banded about, I have a girls name I love and my dp has a boys name that he loves (and we like each others choices too!) but not sure if my mind will change over the next 7 months!!

I loved Buffy. Willow is a fab choice. I think I'm having a boy and can't think of any nice boy names - I'll try not to worry about that til I know for sure what I'm getting.

I am not feeling great either. I'm knackered and grouchy. I feel nauseous all the time and just want to eat trashy sugary carby food like cake, biscuits and toast. And yoghurt. So I've put on half a stone sad. The GP has put me on antibiotics for a cough I've had for about 6 weeks now (my partner made me go - I was sure we'd get shooed away and told we were being silly but she wanted me to take them) and I'm a bit worried about them messing up my digestion even more than it currently is. And I'm a bit irritable. And bored, but got no energy to do anything. Ah well.

I know its all worth it, and there are people who would love to be in my shoes. I'm not taking it for granted but just frustrated with feeling so rubbish. So a shout out to all the other ladies feeling sorry for yourself! You're not alone.

pinkmoonlight Sun 03-Mar-13 20:09:44

Thank you ladies, this is such a great thread full of lovely people smile

My boob pain can vary from 0 to about 8 over the course of a day. I will also topple over if they grow any more, they look ridiculous already!

Sorry your feeling rough panacotta hope you feel better soon!

I think bertie is a lovely name umlauf

Thanks girls I think it will be willow I just love it grin

Natalieand Sun 03-Mar-13 20:22:24

Oooo names! I like this talk lol for boys I have absolutely no idea so any name ideas greatly received lol. Girls I have quite a few dd is called honey so I also need something unusual too to with this ATM I'm also liking willow, mollie, lilah, Lola, belle but who knows in 7 months time what I'm gunna decide on xxx what other names do ppl like? Xx

Rockchick1984 Sun 03-Mar-13 20:31:55

I love Willow but it sounds awful with my surname sad

I'm thinking Dylan for a boy, although the name I had my heart set on for DS I suddenly went off around 30 weeks so we had to start thinking again - who knows what I'll end up wanting this time!! I like cutey names for a girl eg Daisy, Poppy, Mollie etc but DH isn't keen!

Panacotta I've gained about 4lbs but hadn't lost the weight I put on over Christmas so at least half a stone more than I should be!

Iheartcrunchiebars Sun 03-Mar-13 20:32:17

I get so excited when thinking about names!

If its a boy it will probably be Ralph, Geoffrey or Dexter. If its a girl Dorothea (Dora) Beatrix (trixy) Delia or Rosalie.

I live Berty. So cute!

Haylebop12 Sun 03-Mar-13 20:54:29

Ooh I can join in this bit!

Dd is Amelia. Girls I love Harriet and Lydia. Boys are much more difficult... Always liked Samuel but can't have that now. Also like Alfie but very very popular. Isaac and max seem to be top.

Love willow!

pinkbuttons Sun 03-Mar-13 20:59:26

crunchie I love Ralph but DH doesnt.
Were going to have major issues with names if we have a boy, so part hoping for a girl. I think its a boy though so keep suggesting names to DH. whos only 2 options are his name and DS's name... not helpful. Good job weve got a while to decide smile
So sorry your feeling so rubbish hayle

roofio87 Sun 03-Mar-13 21:01:52

hayleybop I love amelia but its my cousins name so a no no!! I like unusual names,none of my choices are in the top 200 names lists!!

Sal1977 Sun 03-Mar-13 21:03:16

Aww...my best friend just called their baby daughter willow, it's very cute!

We like Freddie, Oscar and Austin (Ozzy) after FIL for a boy and Florence (Flo) and Nelly for a girl! I live hearing other people's name ideas! Beatrix is now going on the list too!

Natalieand Sun 03-Mar-13 21:14:30

crunchie I'm loving trixy. haylebop our daughter was going to be honey Amelia but my nan sadly passed away a week before she was born so decided as a gesture to my dad I would give her her middle name so she is honey Ann. Thinking back I wish I had gone for honey Amelia Ann but nvm can't change that now lol. What does everyone think of middle names? Dh isn't keen on the idea of middle names he thinks they r pointless but I love my kids to have a middle name I thin it just completes things a little (no offence intended to those not going for middle names) I like Harry for a boy but dh hates it! Agh this name malarkey is so tricky isn't it and I think its even trickier if u have kids already cos the names have to sound half decent together don't they lol xxx sorry for long random post xx

I love middle names natileland bean will be Willow Skye our surname begins with s too it goes smile

char1eston Sun 03-Mar-13 21:31:56

We'll definitely have middle names. Dd has two! She is Florence (Florie). She already has 12 cousins who are Oliver, Joshua, Harry, huw, ivo, Matilda, Joseph, Reuben, ottilie, caspian, Beatrix and daisy. So those are all out.
My great aunt was dorothea (dorrie for short, which I love). Wanted to call dd Amelie but dp was having none of it.
Still finding it hard coming up with boys names. For girls I like iris and maybe Alice but no definites. It's soooo hard. Took us 3 weeks to name dd!

char1eston Sun 03-Mar-13 21:33:08

Ooh and my dad was called Albert - I would happily call a son that but dp said it could be a middle name hmm

cazboldy Sun 03-Mar-13 21:44:55

good news, you ladies who have had scans today smile

Poor Hayle xx sad

names are v. tricky here!!! Have traditional names for the boys so far..... James, Harry, Charles (charlie) and so really want another oldie..... but can't agree, and dh has 5 brothers and there are already 8 boy cousins...... and then as I am sure most of you will understand (being lots of teachers on here!) everytime name is suggested, I can usually think of someone who for some reason I could never call my child that name!! lol

Girls would be much easier - but not looking likely as I haven't been sick yet!! grin

roxvox Sun 03-Mar-13 22:11:13

Hi all. We've been focusing on boys names too, although not really sure exactly why as every time we inadvertently refer to the gender (I.e. "when SHE is born") we always refer to the little bean as a girl!

cazboldy you have listed 3 of the names top of our list! We've barely discussed it really though! They are just the names that we discussed before even TTC.

Umlauf Sun 03-Mar-13 22:12:15

Willow is a beautiful name and I am also a massive buffy fan! She was my first style icon with her long leather coat and beige flares and roll neck crop jumpers!

I want at least 2 middle names but DH won't let me. He doesn't have any! Trying to think of a modern girls name to juxtapose with Edie but its difficult. My favourite ever girls name is Delilah but it just has too many negative connotations. Iris and Alice were both on my list too charleston!

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 03:22:45

Humph. 3.22am and no one to talk to. Trying to resist making tea and toast....

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 03:36:46

Resistance is futile...that didn't last long!!

PseudoBadger Mon 04-Mar-13 06:09:21

Hope the tea and toast hit the spot!

I have a Dylan - a name I love for a boy is Thomas, but you can't have those 2 names together can you hmm

cuillereasoupe Mon 04-Mar-13 07:01:44

The name business is proving complicated here because DP is French and we need something that works in both languages. Problem is, all the things he likes sound terrible / dated in English (baby Stewart anyone? hmm) and vice versa.

Iheartcrunchiebars Mon 04-Mar-13 07:25:32

What about Daliah umlauf? Near Delilah and very pretty?

CelticPromise Mon 04-Mar-13 07:56:53

I love Delilah. Fab name.

We haven't talked about it yet but we have pretty much got top boy and girl names picked from before. If DS is anything to go by we'll write long lists and then choose the favourite anyway. I doubt we'll talk about it much until we know the sex, hopefully at 16 weeks as we have foetal medicine scan booked.

First name will likely be Welsh, middle name for a girl probably after my dear mum, who died last year. No ideas for boy middle names yet.

Ooh exciting!

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 07:57:42

Dahlia is pretty too crunchiebars will mention it to h2b later!

I've just had a horrible experience at the doctor. I'm in Spain and its a huge doctor surgery, I had an appointment at 8 for blood and urine tests (these are done separately to the booking in) and when I got there we were immediately herded into a long queue. Eventually we got into a room where a nurse just barked at me 'papel' (paper) and I have loads of papers so I handed here my folder! She got cross and started saying stuff really loudly and quickly which I didn't understand, so I said in Spanish, 'I'm sorry but I don't yet speak much Spanish' to which she replied 'Papel, Papel, PAPEL,' over and over again. I understood the bloody word but what bloody paper?

I burst into tears (hormones!) she ignored me and went onto the next person in the queue, DH found the paper and she snatched it from him and gave us a raffle ticket. We then had to wait for my number to come up before going in another room where there were 5 nurses on 5 desks asking blood, that lasted all of 30 seconds. I asked when I'd get the results and she said at the end of March. Still 2 and a half weeks until the first scan and I don't even know if there is an alive baby, or even when its due. My last period was really weird and my symptoms and BFP really early so now wondering if it was implantation bleed and I'm due earlier.

Sorry for the hormonal rambling I just feel so scared and alone. :-( need a biscuit !

Iheartcrunchiebars Mon 04-Mar-13 08:06:04

You poor thing. I prescribe some kind of cake. Are you working today or can you hide under a duvet? X

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 08:12:01

Thank you for cake! I'm currently hiding under a duvet as not working until 12! Feel rather nauseous as well which isn't helping. Must cheer up!!

How is everyone else this morning? Did you get to sleep in the end sal ?

Rockchick1984 Mon 04-Mar-13 08:33:56

Umlauf I think you're incredibly brave having a baby in a country who's language you're not fluent in - I found my first pregnancy daunting enough without a language barrier!! Does your DH understand more of it? Honestly though, sounds like she was just a bitch and would have upset you no matter what! <<hugs>>

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 08:43:37

Thank you rockvhick but I'm not brave, I cried at a blood test! I don't have much choice, if I go back to the UK DH might not be there, as he can't take s one month period around October off work to go to England and wait for the baby to make an appearance!

We have about the same level of Spanish although DH is taking lessons (I can't as they clash with my working hours). I feel such a failure for not speaking fluently yet as we've been here six months now. And I'm really scared of being lonely and nobody at the antenatal class wanting to bother with me and my rudimentary Spanish!

HotSoupDumpling Mon 04-Mar-13 08:56:27

Good morning all!

Awww that sounds v stressful Umlauf. I'm sure someone at the antenatal classes will take you under their wing. There are lovely people everywhere. Is there a sizeable expat community where you are?

On the plus side, at least you can buy reasonably priced cartons of don simon gazpacho at your local supermarket. I bought one bottle at Waitrose for my craving last week, and it cost £3.50!! Yikes. Might have to make some myself if this craving continues.

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 09:58:23

Thank you for your support! Very true about the Gazpacho, Don Simon is my craving saviour... wonders if Don or Simon go well with surname as baby name

I've just ordered a Mother's Day bouquet to be delivered to my grandmother with a note that says p.s. you're going to be a great grandmother!

I'm really scared of her reaction!!!

roofio87 Mon 04-Mar-13 09:59:18

morning all!!
umlauf so sorry you're having a tough time of it. I agree I'm sure you'll find someone at antenatal classes who will look after you,they won't just ignore you!!
honestly ladies,can someone reassure me that I'm not the only one with a non existent sex life at the moment!?! we haven't done it for weeks as I feel exhausted and sick in the mornings and evenings!! I feel sorry for my dp,he's so patient. I really miss that part of our relationship,but when I actually think about doing it I can't stand the thought (all that effort and jiggling about!! Haha) and I don't even have any dcs yet so I'm worried that's its dropped off already!! how's everyone else coping,if you don't mind me asking!!blush my friends were making jokes the other day about how my dp must be loving my bigger boobs,they've no idea that sex is just not appealing at the moment,especially having my boobs touched!!!wink

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 10:06:45

roofio were the same... We've not dtd since conception shock but I feel exactly the same as you, plus the fact that if it jiggled anything around and I saw blood I would have a major panic!

I feel a bit bad, but he did get a lot during ttc...!

NOTHING touches my boobs now!

roofio no sex here don't worry your not alone!!

umlauf that sounds horrid glad your having a well earned rest before work.

Ds did not want to go to nursery today so i have him driving me made with kids programming and puppy dog decided to do a doodoo in the house, which she never does if DH is home needless to say clearing that away led my to be violently sick sad

Feel like finding a quiet cave for the next few months to hide in!

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:12:47

Umlauf - 4.45am I eventually must have dropped off! Just got on the scales this morning and have put on 3lb already. Cried my eyes out for 5 minutes about it and how I'm going to look like a fat minger on my wedding day conveniently forgetting all the crap I have shovelled in my face in the last few weeks and now hoping for some serious morning sickness

Where in Spain do you live? My mum has lived there for 13 years and it took her a long time to become fluent. Also they go to a medical clinic where the doctors speak English (I think they're actually German), so is it worth asking around about whether you can be seen in a clinic?

Try and pick up one of the expat magazines that are normally knocking about in bars run by English folk as they normally have adverts for clinics and also groups that meet for various interests. It might be worth trying to see if there are any mother and baby groups that you could check out as I'm sure they would love to point you in the direction of antenatal care that would put you most at ease.

Another idea is to really hunt online for expat communities and chat room/forums. You can bet that you're not the first to be having your first bubba in a new country and won't be the last. It just might take a bit of digging!

We're contemplating moving out there to help mum and step dad run their biz, what do you do job wise out in Espana? Xx

Umlauf Mon 04-Mar-13 10:19:26

I live in San Sebastián in the Basque Country sal where do your folks live? Unfortunately this is a really un-expatty area although I live in a big residence for foreign researchers so am not alone, although none of them are pregnant! My secretary is lovely and willing to come to appointments with me but I don't want to put her out. I think I have to woman up! I work as a tefl teacher in a private academy, and teach business-english in-company too. Lots of my business students are pregnant but I'm not willing to share my news yet!

I tried desperately to find an english speaking doctor but they just don't have one in the state system. We can't really afford to go private although this morning I had a wobble and suggested its, but then I think about all the immigrants in England who have babies there without speaking english and if they can do it why can't I etc etc. DH keeps saying 'it'll be an adventure!' in a chirpy voice, as if having a baby isn't enough of an adventure!

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:20:13

We hasn't DTD since they day we got our BFP (month ago today) and because I've been too nervous about doing it, DP has wanted it even more! Haha, he's been very good at 'sorting himself out'. TMI Alert - since getting my BFP I have had 2, yes 2 really rude dreams where I have had an orgasm and my uterus (I can only guess its that) has gone into a massive cramp/spasm afterwards, hence was I have been avoiding it.
We did actually do it on Friday and ladies....try it (if you can stomach it), there must be all sorts if extra nerves and things going in down there as it was great! And, I didn't realise how close it really does make you feel with your man/partner.

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 10:27:05

That's tough Umlauf. Mum lives in the campo outside of a torn called Frigiliana near Nerja on the costa del sol (the other end to Marbella etc). I think they do pay for medical care and they say they can't fault it.

Could you maybe see if you could get just a pregnancy package? A bit like booking into the Portland in London?

Just think, once you've increased your fluency, you could hire yourself out to other rich mums to be who are having the same problem!! Ker-ching!! grin

Morning ladies. Sorry you had a shit appointment umlauf. My folks are in Spain (Mazarron, South East) and even though they've been there 12 years, are not in the slightest bit fluent! Comes with age and my dad using hand gestures rather than trying to speak to the natives I think (like in a restuarant, he waves at a waiter and says 'oi John!' blush. My dad has a lot of skin problems so has been in and out of medical centres etc. They pay a local interpreter to go to the appointments with them. She's quite cheap I think and they found her number at the Centre on the notice board. Maybe you could ask around or just wait until you are ready to announce and take your secretary (buy her lunch as a way of thanks?). I'm sure she'd be more than happy to get some browny points off the boss!

We have only DTD twice since our BFP but I agree with sal, there was definately more tingling going on down there and it does (even before BFP) make us all warm and fuzzy for a good while. I say, give it go, but them I'm not getting MS so can't say how I would feel about Sea Sick Sex!

I have my first MW appointment tomorrow afternoon at 10 weeks. I have to take wee with me. Should i do it just before I go in or in the morning? What do they need it for? Also, my H2B was planning on coming (pardon the pun re: last comment) but can't now due to work. Did any of your OH's come to the first appointment and did you think it worthwhile them being there? He said he would try to get out of his work thing if really needed there...

Nice to see some sun for a change!

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 11:49:16

34pinkladyapple the MW took a urine sample from me yesterday. She did a protein test straight away, and then took the rest away to check for any uti's as apparently they are very common in pregnancy and can go unnoticed as 'part of pregnancy' but they need to be cleared up as can be passed on to bubba. Something like that anyway smile

I was reading up about MC's (straight after getting a BFP... I just wanted to know what to look out for) and it said something along the lines of "Some couples may feel as though sex may have been the cause of their miscarriage, but this is unlikely to be the case." ... Straight away I thought 'unlikely'?! Not 'definitely'?! DH read it too, and that's always in the back of our minds now I think! Was probably just a typo but it was enough to put us off the idea of sex for now.

I hope you're all doing ok today!

cazboldy Mon 04-Mar-13 12:47:32

tiredness is the only reason we haven't done it as much...... but when we do it's lovely! smile

salThe uterus going hard thing is normal, and happens even more later in pregnancy! Supposed to boost blood flow to the area, and i believe baby might also get some endorphins, so they sometimes go a bit mad and have a jiggle around afterwards too! lol

pinklady only thing you might need dh for is his family medical history, but you can always have a look at that together so you know xx

It's such a lovely day here, i would love to take the horse out for a ride! <<sigh>> Oh well........ i'm sure it will be just as nice at the end of October hmm !

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 13:02:34

My friend and I have just done 50 lengths of the pool here in Plymouth...Tom Daley and some if the Olympic team were practising in the diving pool so we spent a lot of time doing bs k strike! Hehe

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 13:03:38

*back stroke brain in a kerfuffle after seeing those abs

Iheartcrunchiebars Mon 04-Mar-13 13:14:18

Oooh good celeb spot!!

No nookie here either. Too scared. Might try tonight. Husband is scared of poking the baby!!!

LittleChickpea Mon 04-Mar-13 13:16:36

Didn't really know where else to turn. Was really ill on Saturday (cold, fever etc.) and felt better yesterday. This morning had a blood clot (about 50p size) and I am bleeding (dark blood) and have cramps.

In for a scan tomorrow morning but I already know that I have lost our little miracle. I am so devastated and keen going to the toilets at work to cry.

Sorry for the me me me...

Tell you boss and take the time off little chickpea and im sorry you are going through xx

pinkbuttons Mon 04-Mar-13 13:34:59

Definitely agree chickpea you shouldnt be at work alone. Get yourself home to rest.
I hope you have some support im RL.

LittleChickpea Mon 04-Mar-13 13:37:30

Thanks Falcon. His not here and I am covering his meetings. No one else to cover. Will try and reschedule them and go home... Gutted..

LittleChickpea Mon 04-Mar-13 13:38:08

Thanks Pink..

Iheartcrunchiebars Mon 04-Mar-13 13:47:30

Sending you love chickpea. Go straight home to bed. My doctor told me if you spot any bleeding go straight to bed and rest but not to panic. Xxx

cazboldy Mon 04-Mar-13 13:49:56

sorry chickpea xxxx

Bronzemoth Mon 04-Mar-13 13:54:02

So sorry Chickpea.

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 14:06:19

So sorry Chickpea. All could be ok, but please make sure you rest up as soon as you can. I hope all goes well tomorrow xx

Sal1977 Mon 04-Mar-13 14:31:23

I'm sure one of the other ladies had some dark bleeding and a large clot come out in the shower and everything was ok after the scan. I reckon she'll be on to tell you about it soon I'm sure.

Get home as soon as you can though lovely and keep your pecker up!!

pinkbuttons Mon 04-Mar-13 14:31:51

Need some advice please ladies. Have just had a call to say my scan date has been change back to the 18th March. My midwife last week told me that my scan date of 2nd April may be too late if first scan wasnt fully accurate. Problem is if it is accurate then Ill only be 10+6 for my scan... Have just tried to call up but receptionist was extremely unhelpful and said that the clinic is now booked until mid April and they wont change it unless its an emergency hmm Im worried if I go and its too early, I wont have the reassurance of seeing all is ok at 12 weeks but I also dont want to argue with the receptionist.. what would you do?

SeriousStuff Mon 04-Mar-13 14:56:39

Can I join ladies? I'm 8+4 (I think!) with DC1. So due date is probably 10 October.

First of all, Chickpea, I know I've read the same symptoms from other threads on MN and they went on to have healthy babies. It's great that you have a scan tomorrow so until then, just try and get some rest.

pinkbuttons I'm the same, my scan is on the 19th when I'll be roughly 10+5. I asked the question on a different thread and they said the only reason they would call me back for another scan is if they couldn't see everything properly. Apparently it might be a geographical thing as to at which week they scan you. Just think though, if they call you back, you get to see your baby twice!

I've already seen my baby twice because I had to go to A&E early on (thought I might have an ectopic pregnancy...I don't!). I'm currently on my second week of nausea (but no vomiting) and literally in the middle of a migraine! I'm usually a very strong, resilient person, but my pg is really exposing my weak, self-pitiful side!

HotSoupDumpling Mon 04-Mar-13 15:09:54

chickpea, thinking of you. Hope you have managed to leave work and get horizontal for some quality rest time.

Wispa123 Mon 04-Mar-13 15:54:56

Hi, oooo loving the baby name chat! We're finding boys names much harder than girls for some reason. Top 3 for girls at the moment are Alice, Olivia and Emily. I like Oscar and Isaac for a boy but DH not convinced.....yet!

Apart from the frequent hunger pangs and unbeliveable tiredness my pregnany symptoms are definitely reducing. Hope that's normal, sounds like it is from previous comments. What's hit me today though is awful flu symptoms that I think are a side effect of the flu jab I had last Friday. Feel rubbish and the only thing i seem to be able to take is paracetamol. Got Vicks vapour rub smoothered all over though!

Willow is a beautiful name and I see no reason why anyone would shorten it to Willie. I imagine a Willow to be such a lovely little person!

Natalieand Mon 04-Mar-13 16:00:26

Awe so sorry to hear that chickpea try and be positive and hopefully everything goes well at tommorow a scan for you!

On the topic of DTD hubby and I haven't done it since BFP I also like whoever mentioned MC (can't remember who sorry) panic it could cause a MC so I think ill just hold off till the 12 weeks park which is 4 weeks Wednesday so not that long really!

Lovely sun in this part of the country too :-)

slippysnow Mon 04-Mar-13 16:17:26

Hiya, chickpea sending you positive thoughts.
. 6 weeks today feel really behind everyone sad scans April 15th, booking appointment April 2nd. Luckily dp can come to both.

Is anyone avoiding peanuts? And what's the situation with fried egg that are well cooked but have slightly runny middles?

Oh chickpea how miserable and frightening. Just call the appointments you are covering and cancel them, this is a medical emergency sad.

On the nookie front, I have really not felt like it - too nauseous and icky, didn't want anything touching my tummy. I suddenly felt up for it on Sunday and goodness me it was quite something. Not sure if its because of hormones, nerves, or just weeks of going without but was pretty intense. I'm nearly 9 weeks so wondering if it's the beginning of super sexy second trimester times? Fingers crossed! grin

pinkbuttons Mon 04-Mar-13 16:42:26

Hi seriousstuff thankyou and welcome! glad to hear your in the same position will stop worrying.
We have DTD a few times since BFP but havent enjoyed it maybe because Im worrying so much. Looking forward to the extra feeling grin
Hope you were able to get home chickpea let us know how things go tomorrow. Thinking of you.

Haylebop12 Mon 04-Mar-13 16:52:44

Just a quick update from me. Doc prescribed some different anti sickness this morning, took one and lay down for couple hours, got up bed was sick. Just packing to go back to hosp (wondering which vein they're gonna use this time hmm)

Carry on chatting and ill catch up later when I'm bored!

Hi all had my booking in, all went well the were pleased with how much I'd filled in for them! Senior midwife was very pro sex in pg (I've neglected to tell DH that part when telling him about appointment!) We too haven't dtd since bfp! Had a lovely trainee filling in everything and she asked if I'll be a case study for her, means home appointments all with her and she will be on call for when I go in to labour, sounds lovely to have one to one care so will say yes grin Won't get an early scan despite mc last year so will need some distractions for next few weeks, sorting out loft should do the job but not very exciting!

Fingers crossed for everyone having scans over next few days x

Feelinghungry Mon 04-Mar-13 17:52:10

Chickpea sorry to hear you are going through a hard time. I will repeat what a lot of the other ladies have said on here, many mumsnetters have had bleeding and gone to to have healthy DCs. So fx for you.

Haylebop I think you should when soome sort of prize for the worst ms on thisthread. Back to hosp? You poor thing. I hope you manage to get some meds that work for you.

DTD question....I have a few times since bfp and have to agree with some of the other comments on here, def feels more enhanced in that area! Was a bit of an effort to begin with, as feeling so tired, but was def worth it. Felt DH need a bit of attention as it is all me, me, me and how I am feeling.

Names...hmm being a teacher puts you off so many names. You find a nice one then some naughty teenage squirt comes along and destroys it. I have yet to meet a Willow though so that still sounds lovely.

Wickedgirl Mon 04-Mar-13 18:23:36

DTD.....yes lots

But we were doing it lots before I had a BFP too. It feels good and stops me thinking how sick I feel. Big plus all round!

I am 8 weeks today and still haven't heard from the midwives.

fish88 Mon 04-Mar-13 18:47:59

Am I the only one DTD as much as we were when TTC blush Have been doing it pretty much every other day since BFP and both me and OH are loving the new sensations! Although my boobs are strictly off limits but OH is more of an ass man anyway. Sal I'm also having erotic dreams and spasms during the night. I have also found that DTD in the evening seems to clear up my nausea just in time for bed but it may just be the lying down that sorts it out.

Feeling rubbish today - got either cold or hayfever but not allowed to take anything to sort it. Went to the pharmacy after work and she gaver me Vicks vapour rub but wasn't even going to give me that to start with. Paracetamol has been suggested but I'm not in pain, just all bunged up. Any suggestions to clear my nose and give me a better nights sleep tonight?

Chickpea thinking of you and fingers crossed for good news tomorrow.

Re dtd, we have only done three times since bfp and i have wanted to more than that but mainly sore boobs, bloated, too tired or too sick. spoons position is good as you don't have to touch any sore areas, don't have to move your head if feeling queazy and can keep pretty still but still get sex! DH says it feels nicer than usual for him, maybe due to increased blood flow to the area or something. Haven't noticed anything different for me but do feel very close and loved up since making a baby together. I do worry about orgasming causing mc despite books saying it is usually ok. Usually isn't good enough! That will have to wait until second trimester. (Sorry tmi!)

Re names, I agree with feelinghungry that as a teacher there are hundreds of children I have taught and not all of them have left a positive impression! There are a few names I have always liked, but we downloaded a free app to go through some more ideas and save a shortlist. I want dh to have an input too" We are not sure you if we want to find out the sex so will have to think of boy and girl names. I like many more girl names and have a feeling at the moment that it will be a girl but I have no idea why.

Bronzemoth Mon 04-Mar-13 19:58:02

The variation in scans and appointments is very confusing. I finally got a scan date but its for just after we go on holiday for two weeks. Even though ill be 11+6 the day we fly, the receptionist told me that was too early so I've now got to wait till I'm 14 weeks before my first scan when we get back. I'm rather frustrated it seems so long to wait. I think I'm going to have to look into a private scan to check the basics as I'd really like to avoid the risk of something going wrong on holiday.

Crashed out at 6 when hubs came home so so tired just up and I will be going back soon!

My scan is when im 13+2 3 weeks tomorrow seems an age away

Excited85 Mon 04-Mar-13 20:24:45

Hi all. Can I join?! Found out was pregnant about 10 days ago, and have booking in apt for late in March. Based on last period I'm around 8 weeks but periods pretty irregular so who knows!
I've been sick for around 2 weeks, same for sore boobs. Have felt awful today, cold and shivery inside, achey back and tummy pain, but then have had fairly strong period pains pretty consistently for last 3 weeks.
Finding it difficult at work as constantly needing to eat - at what point did you all/are you all planning to tell work?

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 20:42:13

Welcome excited85! I can't help you with telling work advice, as I am not planning to tell them until after my 12 week scan. Same goes for family (I know they'll be excited and don't want the extra pressure I know telling them would bring)!

I still haven't had my scan dates through. Like you though Bronzemoth I am going away (home) when I am 12+2 and if I cannot get a scan before then then I will book a private one for that week. I want to be sure that everything is ok before I get my family all excited!

Haylebop I hope you're feeling better soon. Did you get re-admitted?

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 20:50:01

I have never wanted stilton and/or parma ham so much before in my life. I don't think it's a craving so much as a 'wanting what I can't have'. Pretty much everything I see on TV I want (a repetitive one is Special K chocolate).

I seem to be really struggling to enjoy lunch at the minute. I've tried all sorts of varieties (ie sandwiches, salads, toast, couscous, soup) but I rarely finish what I am eating before I feel sick of it. Plus after one lunch time of it, I can't stomach the idea of it again. It's getting quite expensive changing my taste every day! Not to mention the brain power it is taking trying to come up with something different every day. Anyone else the same?

Flyer747 Mon 04-Mar-13 21:06:26

roxvox- I'm exactly the same, last week it was cheese now I can't stomach it. I buy food for dinner then come the evening time I've totally gone off what I was going to cook!! Weird. Like you say it's getting a tad costly! Hormones eh!

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 21:19:38

Glad it's not just me flyer747. We have always had a few evening meals that are a staple part of my shopping list each week, but it's all completely changed now. I've never had to come up with so many new meals at once before, and it's even more difficult when you're trying to make sure they're all healthy!

Lunch is definitely the worst for me though. Really stuck on what to do next! Hula Hoops are still a definite though smile

Haylebop12 Mon 04-Mar-13 21:39:12

Still waiting in assessment. Been sick 3 times since I came. I need drugs!!

pinkmoonlight Mon 04-Mar-13 21:42:32

Thinking of you chickpea and haylebop thanks xxx

Topslou Mon 04-Mar-13 22:02:47

I'm going to be 11+6 when I have my scan bronze. I'd ask again if I were you and hope you get a different receptionist.

Food is proving a bit of a nightmare here too. Some days I have to force myself to eat as not at all hungry and then other days I can't stop eating. Im also throwing lots of food away as start it then can't finish it. Don't think I've managed a whole cup of tea for about 2 weeks either. Hoping it will balance itself out soon.

Just seen advert for a lush lookibg cheesy/buttery (lurpark ad) macaroni cheese! Yep I want it want it now and once I've had it won't want it again!grin

SeriousStuff Mon 04-Mar-13 22:24:31

At the moment, I'm managing cornflakes for breakfast (but not too much milk as it's turning on me a bit), ham sandwiches for lunch (sneaking some tomato and cucumber in there for nutrition!) then my husband is cooking dinner most evenings now as I can eat most things as long as I don't have to prepare them. Seeing and smelling raw food whilst cooking makes me sick, but once it's in my mouth (and it's not too spicy or meaty) I'm good!

Things I've made my husband buy, I ate once and is now going spare, includes:

- Tomato juice
- Fish fingers
- Cheese
- Beetroot and horseradish soup (we have a freezer full!)
- Lime cordial
- Tuna

roxvox Mon 04-Mar-13 22:40:34

I had a brainwave the other day that for lunch I should be eating a particular sandwich every day (it sounded brilliant at the time). So I bought a loaf of bread (we don't normally have bread in the house), a jar sliced gherkins, 2 packs of pastrami, 2 packs of leerdammer (sp?) cheese, a huge jar of mustard mayo and a jar of sauerkraut. I managed half a sandwich on the first day, and the rest of that sandwich went in the bin. Everything else above is now sat in the fridge going off. I think DH is despairing a bit! I am so glad now I know it's not just me though.

Bronzemoth Mon 04-Mar-13 23:26:52

Haylebop have they sorted you yet?

Haylebop12 Mon 04-Mar-13 23:49:52

I've got my cannula in so just waiting for drip and drugs. Not on ward yet. There's another lady next to me same problem! Think they're dead busy. I need sleep, and fanta!

Iheartcrunchiebars Tue 05-Mar-13 06:54:04

Roxvox and Flyer fear not you can still eat Stilton. The nhs guidelines say its fine. It's other blue cheeses like Danish blue, Gorgonzola etc to avoid.

PseudoBadger Tue 05-Mar-13 07:25:38

How was your night Haylebop?

Natalieand Tue 05-Mar-13 07:28:44

Re:DTD think dh may have sneaked a peak at our thread from my iPad or something has just had a morning treat TMI lol not the full DTD but enough to get us through til 12 week scan maybe lol.

hayle poor you! Sounds awful Hun hope they get you hooked up to drugs (of the good kind) ASAP!

Boy this cold is really getting me down had it since Saturday and every night I go to bed I think right its gunna feel better at least a bit by the morn but then it goes and gets worse over night! Had it since sat now :-( and since I sold my car last week I've been having to walk the playschool run (50 min return journey) kinda seems pointless when she's there ony 3 hours but getting a new car today dh and I paid a deposit on it yesterday a shiny 2005 ford focus in silver.

Good luck with your scan today chickpea will be keeping everything crossed for u, let us no how u get on if u feel up to it xxxx

Rockchick1984 Tue 05-Mar-13 07:56:25

Good luck Chickpea I hope everything's fine thanks

Re DTD we are still at it (not as much, but not TTC now!!) I'm way too tired most of the time when we go to bed but TMI we are doing it once DS is in bed, or at the weekend when he naps blush

Last pregnancy we hardly did it the entire time and I really don't want that again - first time post-birth was scary enough never mind first time in months as well!

Ugh, the tiredness descended last night - I had friends round and all of a sudden about 9pm I wanted to go to bed!! They left around 10 and I immediately went to bed and started snoring lol! Still shattered this morning, if it's anything like last time this will last til 14 weeks then I'll be happy and perky temporarily smile

Flyer747 Tue 05-Mar-13 09:31:45

Good luck with your scan today chickpea I've everything crossed for you

Smitten1981 Tue 05-Mar-13 09:35:31

Hi everyone

I'm 7+3 today and the nausea kicked in on Friday, haven't actually felt so bad that I'm near being sick yet though, phew! I guess there's still time though...

I had my booking in appt last Wednesday, which I thought was really early. First scan booked for 8 April.

I just read that you can't eat Parma ham, please tell me this isn't true, I've been having it every day in a sandwich with Leerdammer and mustard, it's all I want to eat. That and jacket potatoes.

I've been reading this thread for a while now, so thought I should join in rather than lurk.

PseudoBadger Tue 05-Mar-13 09:37:45

Hi smitten, I'm 7+4 and also got nausea (and vomiting ) since Friday. Fun eh! My scan is the 6th April (day after my birthday) and booking in is next Tuesday.
Parma is on the no list I'm afraid sad

Umlauf Tue 05-Mar-13 09:38:23

Morning, chickpea hope your scan has gone swimmingly and keeping fingers crossed.

I've just ordered some maternity jeans from asos as they do free delivery to Spain. I have a huge bum though so its hard finding jeans to fit as the best of times, not looking good for these!

Bump definitely starting, in the morning (pre food) and with tummy sucked in there is still a little protrusion. I'm 10+1 and its my first so shocked by the early showing!

Also had a strange new symptom yesterday. The most painful lower back, EVER. I got off the sofa and couldn't walk, my legs gave way beneath me. It was very scary and there was lots of panic and crying. Fine this morning though. I had an operation for scoliosis in 2010 and don't know whether that's connected. Dr google tells me scoliosis mums almost always have a c section, but here in Spain you can't choose a c section. So I have a new irrational fear of dying in labour. Thing about going to the UK to give birth but then it'd be so sad if DH wasn't there, my mum would be but she'd only make it more stressful.

Sorry for another mememe post as I know my worries pale into insignificance really compared to what some of you are going through, just nowhere else to 'air' it!

Hope you're feeling better today haylebop and the drugs are doing their thang. The end of trimester 1 is in sight so hopefully it will ease off for you eventually!

Haylebop12 Tue 05-Mar-13 09:43:15

Morning ladies,

chickpea best of luck to you today x

Re: Dtd, only twice since BFP and that hasn't been in the last few weeks. I just can't, no energy, constant nausea ect.

Well I ended up staying in the assessment ward. No space on the wards but might get on there today. Finally got my drip and drugs at 2:30am. Woke at 9 so missed breakfast. They were letting me sleep apparantly even though the idea is I should start eating an drinking again hmm docs just been round and was gonna stop my fluids (had 3 litres now) but after checking my urine she said I needed more. Possibly staying another night this time however.

When really things supposed to get better......?

Glad you are getting the fluids you need haylebop

I am actually showing too umlauf but im a size 18 finding maternity clothes is a bit of a problem.

Today im exhusted sickness came back a little yesterday and my boobs started to become sensitive bit better today. I cant believe im 10 + 3 and my scans so far away 3 weeks today sad I am getting impatient I have a huge fear of nothing being there sad

Umlauf Tue 05-Mar-13 10:02:30

Mines 2 and a half weeks away falcon and I sympathise! Have you had a scan yet or will it be your first?

roofio87 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:18:48

smitten according to the nhs website pregnant women are not advised to avoid parma ham in the UK as the risk of getting anything from it is so low,but in other countries its a no no so its boarder line!! its up to you really,I'm not being too cautious of all these rules!!

hayleybop so sorry you're in again,I really can't imagine how tough this must be for you!!

I'm 9 weeks today and don't have my scan date yet!! got my booking in tomorrow morning so hopefully I'll know then!! still feel very much the same here, exhausted and nauseous, but only actually been sick twice so not bad really!!

hope you're all well today xx

I was lucky to get a scan at 8+ 5 umlauf I still worry even though all was good sad

Smitten1981 Tue 05-Mar-13 10:50:42

Phew, thanks roofio, I think I'll keep eating it as my sarnies are the only things that stops the nausea for an hour or so. I'm not going to go mental with all the rules, I'd be scared of eating everything.

hayleybop You must be feeling horrid, I'd hate to be in hospital hope they let you out soon.

star87 Tue 05-Mar-13 12:33:58

Hi all,

Hope everything goes ok for your scan today chickpea

Sorry to hear your still not well hayleybop

Just trying to catch up on the updates and I wasn't around at the weekend!! Hope everyone else is ok.

My nausea is becoming a right pain in the bum!! I am off all food sad I get about 10minutes a day where I feel completely normal so I each as much as I can before feeling sick again.

I've not had any real cravings, although I did just get a massive urge to each marzipan!!

I struggling not to tell work, I'm pretty sure it will be obvious soon enough. Am just about to go and tell my sister smile She has gone through lots of different things during her pregnancies so I am sure she can offer some great advice.

I weighed myself this morning and have put on nearly half a stone since friday!! I will be the size of a house at this rate. I'm only little as it is, so if I continue people will be able to tell soon enough!

Sorry for the ramble. The other half is away this week so haven't really had anyone to talk to about it all. xxx

My gosh you guys can talk! Have been travelling and very busy since last Monday so have done my best to catch up but my word there is a lot! And we are onto baby names already???? There is a lot of October babies as well -here's hoping there is enough midwives for us all!

10+2 today and feeling really good!! Nausea gone, got eating under control and although more tired than normal not the sweeping exhaustion of the first few weeks. So odd that I'm a quarter of the way there.

Not sure I'm actually showing - but moved into my maternity jeans last week blush. My only 'fat' jeans finally gave way at the thigh (nice), don't want to buy more fat jeans, so maternity ones it was. And my god they are comfy! Maternity wear does extenuate the tummy though - and have definitely had a few sly glances to my tummy from colleagues while away last week, and my boss yesterday! Oh well, as long as no one actually asks me, forcing me to lie, I don't care if they guess - not long before I can let it all hang out grin.

Booking in appointment isn't until 14th when I'll be 11+4, and can't book scan until after that appointment, so the lord only knows when that will be. Saw the bean at 8+6 though so trying not to get too stressed - we don't want the nuchal fold test anyway.

JellyCurls Tue 05-Mar-13 13:34:19

afternoon ladies. 10+0 today (I think) and feeling exhausted still. No bump yet smile so still in my own clothes with room to grow. Hoping to get to at least 16 weeks before entering comfy zone but just need to wait and see. No weight gain either which is good but think my BMI puts me at 25 so no weight gain just now is good in my eyes. Eating for all the ladies who are sick and unable to eat I think so weight gain will no doubt catch me up in next few weeks.

Hope scan went well chick and sending get well soon hugs to hayle

Topslou Tue 05-Mar-13 14:44:44

Afternoon ladies. Hope you're all enjoying the sunshine. Had my booking in appointment today. Everything is fine but did get told off for not eating enough so currently eating my way through a big bag of salt & vinegar crisps.

Also got told that there are no free antenatal classes in my area so having to pay £165 for the nct ones. Had to book today as they fill up really fast round here.

Hayle hope the meds & fluid are working & your feeling better.
Chickpea hope the scan went well.

Haylebop12 Tue 05-Mar-13 15:16:17

Thanks for the get well wishes smile they worked. No keytones so I'm being discharged.... Managed to get rehydrated pretty quick this time. Think my body knows the score!

Now just have to get to Friday, my booking in without another admission!

roofio87 Tue 05-Mar-13 15:26:10

Right, at 9 weeks there is no hiding this rounded tummy!! I just look pregnant in everything I wear!! Haha. I'm slim and have always had a very flat stomach so I guess its just noticeable to me and people who know me well!! the weirdest part is I haven't actually put any weight on!! can't wait till I can just tell people!!

racheld33 Tue 05-Mar-13 15:45:49

Hello all
Glad you've been discharged haylebop and i keep checking thread today for news on chickpea -hope all gone well!

10 weeks and me too with the rounded tummy, working my way through the looser options in my wardrobe this week! [grins]

Natalieand Tue 05-Mar-13 16:34:30

I'm quite over weight 20-22 clothes so gunna be a while before I look pregnant sad times :-(

cazboldy Tue 05-Mar-13 17:17:59

i'm 10 wks today ( by the mw's reckoning ) and still fine in my own clothes, although i do sometimes undo the button on my jeans when i have my tea! blush

Had my GTT this morning, so fingers crossed thats all ok! will find out on friday.

not got a scan date yet.

Feeling much less tired the last couple of days - but do wonder if it's just cos i have been outside a lot in the lovely sunshine!

Good news Hayle smile

fingers still crossed for you chickpea xx

cazboldy Tue 05-Mar-13 17:20:50

oh and im a 12/14 - but have huge boobs, so most tops i wear don't cling to my tummy anyway lol

reckon i can make it to half way before many people notice! i did last time!

i love it when they have to pluck up the courage to ask! grin

pinkbuttons Tue 05-Mar-13 17:50:47

Tummy also rounding out here. Am bigger than when I had DS but still a size 10 and my tummy muscles clearly arent as good as they were...
Glad your out hayle heres hoping sickness holds off enough for you to stay hydrated.

Flyer747 Tue 05-Mar-13 18:14:33

I cannot stop eating my food intake today was:

Bowl coco pops
11am hungry- ham and cheese paninni & a caramel doughnut
2.30pm Bacon roll and a cherry bakewell slice.

Then out for dinner this eve!

Omg what is going on with the appetitie. My skinny jeans no longer fit me and my work uniform is sooo tight I can't move in it haha! Oh well

LittleChickpea Tue 05-Mar-13 18:18:15

Hi ladies,

Just popped on to thank everyone that posted such kind and thoughtful messages. I was admitted into hospital yesterday and I have just been released. I am really sad to say DP and I lost our little package. This was due to be our first but as defficult as this is please do not feel bad for us. We would welcome more positive thoughts. I may be departing the October train but DP and I hope to jump on to a new train in a few months time and if I do, i will nip back here to see how you are all getting on. Wish us better luck next time.

I really wish you all well and a wonderful , healthy, enjoyable journey. With all my best wishes....... Goodbye for now smile

roxvox Tue 05-Mar-13 18:21:11

Evening all.

I am about a 12/14 too and have a little pot belly showing! I would put it down to my appetite, but considering how I seem to be losing weight rather than gaining it I can only assume that it's due to a little tiny baby in there somewhere smile

9W today and still no scan date through. I tried calling the surgery but they couldn't help. I don't want to trouble the MW although I have her direct number as I am sure she has more important things going on! She said the other day though that slots are filling up fast and that she was surprised I haven't had my letter through yet... So hopefully she's chasing it up for me!

Glad to hear things are going better for you Haylebop. I hope you can feel better long term after your last visit. Have you had a scan yet? Just wondering if you know whether you're having twins or not (supposedly higher levels of HCG make you sicker etc)?

Rockchick1984 Tue 05-Mar-13 18:23:49

Oh Chickpea I'm so sorry to hear that sad thanks Please do let us know when it happens again for you, I hope you're ok xxx

Sanjifair Tue 05-Mar-13 18:23:53

So sorry chickpea :-(

cherrycherry41 Tue 05-Mar-13 18:25:46

Chickpea all the best of luck for next time, your strength is so admirable, all my love xxx

roxvox Tue 05-Mar-13 18:33:50

As cherrycherry41 said, your strength is incredibly admirable chickpea. I am so sorry for your loss. xx

Iheartcrunchiebars Tue 05-Mar-13 18:38:43

So sorry little chickpea but am sending lots of positive thoughts as requested. Who knows you could have a christmas baby xxxx

Haylebop12 Tue 05-Mar-13 18:43:46

Your so brave chickpea to have that attitude. The best of luck for the future.

Yes, I had a scan in my first admission for that reason. Only one little haylebop in there!

Bronzemoth Tue 05-Mar-13 18:53:33

Best of luck Chickpea xx

Chickpea I have been thinking about you all day. Wishing you lots of luck for next time and hope to see you back very soon. thanks

Re back pain, my lower back hurts too, but not as severe as you mentioned umlauf (I think it was you?) I had mild scoliosis after a car accident but pretty much straight again now after chiropractic treatment. Have you. Had it checked out?

I wore some old jeans today as I was on a course and they are really tight, even though they are a size 8 and my usual ones are size 6. My baggy top also kept clinging around my tummy. A girl I haven't seen for years was at the course and started asking if I am thinking of babies, I. Wonder if she could tell?! I have a friend's wedding in three weeks and am hoping I can squeeze into a dress still then. At 9 weeks it would be ridiculous to need to be in maternity wear already! I dont particularly want to buy non maternity wear in larger sizes. As baby is only grape sized at the moment I think it must be all bloating. Nice.

Ooh I mean into weeks. Time is gradually ticking along!

Argh two

Does anyone know if you can edit posts?

slippysnow Tue 05-Mar-13 19:09:41

chickpea I don't know whether you will find any comfort in this but someone wise once told me Mc's are natures way of making sure we don't have babies that suffer with illness and pain. Also you now know conception is possible which is often the hardest battle.
Any way, you have such a great attitude about it, sending you positive thoughts for a happy healthy pregnancy you deserve next time!

Sanjifair Tue 05-Mar-13 19:12:09

Orangeblossom, the baby may be only as big as a grape, but the uterus is as big as a grapefruit! Plenty big enough to cause a bump, especially if you are slim.

pinksky Tue 05-Mar-13 19:23:32

Good evening all, hope everyone is doing well.

chickpea I'm very sorry to hear your news. I wish you all the very very best--and heaps of babydust of course. Hope to see you very soon xx

pinkmoonlight Tue 05-Mar-13 19:25:16

Sending you lots of love and positive thoughts chickpea, your attitude is amazing xxx

slippysnow Tue 05-Mar-13 19:25:21

Can someone explain why we actually have lower back pain?! I just go along in pain thinking its just a pregnancy symptom. But why? It makes no sense in early pregnancy (acceptable in late pregnancy) ...Or am I just being stupid?

Irishfairy Tue 05-Mar-13 19:26:49

Sorry to hear your news Chickpea, sending positive vibes your way and hope you have some good news in the near future ��

I'm 9 weeks tomorrow and the past week exhaustion and food aversion has been at the highest. Can sleep at the drop of a hat (when my toddler will let me that is) and today ate three bowls of different types of cereal and some cream crackers. Have even started to go off hula hoops shock

How is everyone else doing this evening? I'm with those who mentioned the bloating/protruding stomach, think a shopping trip might be in order to get at least some maternity leggings/tights.

My guess at the sore back is ligaments loosening up and carrying around extra weight of boobs and sticky-outy-tummy.

pinksky Tue 05-Mar-13 19:29:58

Haylebop I'm glad to hear you're out! You must be so relieved.

Re tums, I have a round belly that won't go down/can't be pulled in - it feels quite solid underneath a bit of fat, but I think most of it is bloat! Eating a lot more carbs at the mo.

Hope you get your scan date through soon roxvox - I wouldn't be too reluctant to hassle the MW, sure they wouldn't mind.

pinksky Tue 05-Mar-13 19:32:48

Oh yes, orange, boobs! Mine are really growing, and pretty sore. I'm going to bite the bullet and buy some new bras.

Sorry you're suffering, Irish - not long til that second trimester!

Irishfairy Tue 05-Mar-13 19:33:52

slippysnow With regard to pack pain I think this early on the hormone relaxin is already going through our bodies loosening and stretching everything in preparation for the birth, our posture and alignment are having to readjust so even though it's early on I reckon some lower back discomfort is fairly common. I notice it most when I lie down so going to dig my dream genii pregnancy pillow out of storage as it was a godsend last time. smile

slippysnow Tue 05-Mar-13 19:35:42

Thanks smile makes more sense. Feel less resentful about it now ;)

ananikifo Tue 05-Mar-13 19:39:30

Hi, can I join the club?

I'm really sorry to hear about your loss, chickpea, and I wish you all the best for next time.

I'm 7 weeks +3 days with my first, due 19th October (I think). My booking in appt is Friday.

I'm currently home sick with a horrible flu, which seems to have brought out the nausea in me. I don't usually get ill like this and I can't help but curse this pregnant immune system! I've been feeling great until now but this bug has hit me like a ton of bricks. I can't get over the irrational fear that work will figure out I'm pregnant because I've taken sick days. It doesn't even make sense as a fear. It's not like they can do anything about it and obviously I have to tell them eventually.

Are hula hoops a typical pregnancy craving? I've been craving tart/refreshing/sweet things like starburst candies and cranberry juice. Things like that seem to cut through to nasty taste in my mouth. Anyone else?

Feelinghungry Tue 05-Mar-13 19:41:35

Really sorry to hear your news Chickpea. You have a great outlook. Big fingers crossed you will be back on one of these buses in no time thanks.

Only 6.5 weeks but serious bloating is making me look/feel a whole lot more. Sore boobs are seeming less sore, but I guess that comes and goes.
No sore back issues tho. I am still having the odd v mild AF type cramps, sometimes quite sharp. Anyone else experiencing this?

JellyCurls Tue 05-Mar-13 19:54:35

littlechick I am sending you and your DP all my healing thoughts and best wishes for the future. Your positive outlook will get you both through this difficult time. I hope it won't be long till your on another 9 month journey. Best of luck x

cazboldy Tue 05-Mar-13 20:04:07

Can only say the same as the other's chickpea - you are very brave, and fingers crossed it will be your turn soon xxxx

racheld33 Tue 05-Mar-13 20:05:43

chickpea lots of love and fun making your next little chickpea and please let us know how you get on wine

pinkbuttons Tue 05-Mar-13 20:11:31

So sorry to hear your news chickpea sending positive thoughts and please do come back and let us know how your getting on.
With regards to back pain*orange*, as irish said relaxin is already loosening ligaments which means your back and core muscles will be working harder (good excuse for a massage from any willing DP's) It also means your more at risk of disc injuries so if you are suffering be careful with yourselves, its one of the reasons its suggested not to lift heavy things while pregnant.
I dislocated my knee just after having DS apparently because of the relaxin still in my body. Crazy!
ana sorry your ill i hope someones looking after you. Try not to worry about work, its not the end of the world if they do find out? but equally your allowed to be sick! Hope your feeling much better soon. Also with DS I had sour cravings like you, alot of my friends had salty cravings though and am guessing thats the hula hoops thing smile wonder if it has anything to do with gender??

Sorry chickpea that this one didnt stick. You seem to have a brilliant attitude about it and have reasoned that it happened for the best as nature only lets the fittest survive. I hope i would be as strong as you should it happen to me. Glad you are planning to get back on a bus soon too. Sending lots of extra sticky baby dust your way. You and ur OH take care x

I had booking appointment today at exactly ten weeks. Had blood taken, three tubes full, blood pressure done, record book filled in, free prescription form filled in, signed up for downs/nuchal test at the scan in two weeks and booked 16 week appointment! Phew. Only thing was when she asked about symptoms and i said no sickness, just achey boobs, veiny skin and tiredness, she said, 'oh yes, that feeling that every ounce of energy is being sapped from you?' I said 'No, not that bad at all'. She really harped on about how draining it is and i started to worry as no sickness either. Dumb pregnant emotional wreck that i am! Maybe because i dint have any other DCs and i have a desk job and sleep at least 7 hours a night??!! Is anyone else not too exausted?

By the way, not overly taken with the midwife ive been given, seems a bit fuddy duddy and serious. Not much personality, just didnt take to her but we'll see.

Sorry for long meeeeee post, hes watching the footy so am trying to amuse myself whilst reassure myself! Ooh, half time cuppa. Spk soon

ananikifo Tue 05-Mar-13 20:33:32

It's nice to hear that someone had similar cravings to me. You had sour cravings with a boy? Do you gave them again now? DH would love it if we were having a boy, although he's coming around to the idea of a girl. I think he's afraid he doesn't know how to act around little girls, but I'm sure when it's your own child it doesn't matter.

Also, for the stats, I'm 28.

ananikifo Tue 05-Mar-13 20:35:30

Sorry that was a reply to pinkbuttons

Oh pink! I have knees which have dislocated 4 times before pregnant. Hope it doesnt happen again?! I cant bear anything to do with bones being in the wrong place sad

Rockchick1984 Tue 05-Mar-13 20:58:13

Orange some clothes in a bigger size than normal are actually a very good idea - remember you will get use out of them on the way up before maternity clothes, and again on the way down after having the baby! I know there's some people on here who claim to have been back in their pre-pregnancy jeans within a week, but in real life the quickest anyone I know managed it was 8 weeks (and she barely gained any weight) and after a few weeks it just feels depressing to still be wearing maternity clothes with a saggy bit that used to house your bump!

Re cravings, I wanted savoury stuff constantly when pregnant with DS - bacon sandwiches got me through the first trimester, and chocolate knocked me sick! Craving sweet stuff this time, so will find out in 12 weeks time if cravings have predicted the sex for me...

pinkbuttons Tue 05-Mar-13 20:59:00

Ouch pink I feel for you! Once was enough for me, DS was 3 months old and had to breastfeed him to sleep before going to the hospital. Ridiculous the things you'll do for your children! It only happened after he was born I was running down the stairs, I guess its a case of just being more careful with yourself. And Im afraid Im completely exhausted but have a 2 yr old, am trying to finish a physio degree and keep on top of housework and failing miserably so am exhausted most of the time anyway smile
ana this time Im just craving yoghurt think its the sweetness but without making me sick, not sure but am eating about 5 a day blush at least I know Im getting enough calcium... My DH was like that last time but has decided he would quite like a girl now, I found having a boy quite daunting nappy wise and being afraid of hurting him so I guess its just the same not knowing what your doing.

chickieno1 Tue 05-Mar-13 21:00:41

so sorry to hear your news chickpea. Sending you lots of positive vibes.

Went out to eat with friends tonight it was nice to leave the house they were so lovely with me too. I also got my hair cut but in general I have still been feeling rough and extremely tired.

chickpea I am so sorry for your loss. I had your attitude too when I lost my little bean before but I should have grieved instead sorry if I am out of line for saying this everyone's different but I was deeply effected and tried to have a stiff upper lip dust yourself down attitude when I should have took time to grieve. Its OK is all I am saying to feel like you have lost them.

char1eston Tue 05-Mar-13 21:02:12

Good luck littlechickpea - sending you lots of positive vibes

Glad you're out of hospital haylebop - must be nice to be home

I have a recommendation to anyone craving tart drinks - San pellegrino limonata - amazing wink

chickieno1 Tue 05-Mar-13 21:09:37

still tired and nauseous here but main problems are still bloating and constipation. It s really getting me down actually as quite uncomfortable and now I feel quite low and irritable. Feel bad about that too sad

Sal1977 Tue 05-Mar-13 21:45:27

Pinkladyapple - I'm the same as you! Yeah I could snooze on the sofa in front of the telly in the evening, but not every day. I get about 9 hours a night, work from home and not overly busy as no kiddiwinkles yet, so I guess that's why (either that or we're just hard as nails!) wink

No MS either. Tender boobs come and go. Feel very unpregnant really. I have been very emotional though and convinced there is nothing in my belly at all! If I definitely knew that everything was OK, I could relax and be very smug about the whole thing!!

cuillereasoupe Tue 05-Mar-13 22:02:36

Sorry to hear your news chickpea.

Hmm yes I suppose I will use larger but not maternity clothes on the way down too rock chick. And probably will be similarish weather in November as now (although it was gorgeous today). I can't wait to look properly pregnant and not just feeling podgy.

My nausea has been a bit better the last couple of days. Managed proper food with flavour. I don't think I am craving anything particularly but nice crispy toast or crumpets are easy to munch even if feeling sick and I bought frozen chips which I haven't done for years. Carb central!

Just got back from Pilates where I got a lovely stretch for my achey lower back, the roll back. Sit with legs straight in front of you and arms out in front of you. c curve the spine, tilting your pelvis and pushing your lumbar area towards the back of the room as much as you can and rounding top back too but main focus on exposing lower vertabrae. Hold for a while then sit tall and straight. Then repeat but keep tilting the pelvis to roll back flat on the floor and up again.

Topslou Tue 05-Mar-13 22:33:09

Protruding tummy here too. Mine is normally flat so very noticeable to me but no one else seems to have noticed yet. Will be digging all my baggy tops out. Might have to do a primark trip for some cheap bits in a bigger size to get me through as well. Definitely going to need a new work skirt soon!

Had some time to kill on oxford street earlier so had a sneaky look at topshop maternity. V impressed with all the coloured skinny jeans and a couple of nice dresses.

roxvox Tue 05-Mar-13 22:42:26

pinkladyapple and sal1977 - I am the same. I have had about 3 days throughout this whole pregnancy so far (am 9w) where I have been utterly shattered, but apart from that I have been feeling ok. Have been having a couple of after work half hour naps (about 5 of those in all) and getting about 8 hours sleep a night. Also, no MS and no major symptoms. I said to the MW the other day that the only 'didnt have before but do now' symptom I have is heartburn, and she said "Maybe you're just one of the lucky ones, but you could get MS yet you know." ...

Thanks pinksky, I might give them a call if I get to the end of the week without hearing anything.

I am looking forward to people knowing I am pregnant so I can tell them all that that's why I am looking chubby and why my lunch habits have changed so much (I am normally a creature of habit). I also just want to be able to chat about it! But I think mostly I am associating telling people with having the 12w scan and everything being good. Still seems so far away!

tuckingfits Wed 06-Mar-13 01:06:08

It's so nice to catch up with everybody,although I'm very sorry to hear chickpea's sad news,excellent attitude though & very kind of you to wish the rest of us well. Fingers crossed that you will be back on the journey as soon as you would like.

I'm exhausted. Utterly knackered. Working in a large busy pub three nights a week & running my ironing business from home the other nights,a couple of time intensive local committees,housework yeah right,ad a two year old who has suddenly become mr cling-tastic are all taking it out of me. Plus the constant nausea for three weeks now,plus the ibs flare ups resulting in diaroehh for the last four nights (which got me sent home from work sat & sun nights) and then floored with a migraine which I could only take paracetamol for yesterday... Fun times!

I told my manager today because I don't want her thinking I'm just slacking off or being useless for no reason & I needed to make a decision about whether to stay there or take the new job I was offered. She was delighted & very understanding,said there's no way she'd want to lose me & we'll have a chat about shifts soon & do risk assessments on Friday. Feel happier about all that. Still cream crackered though after work tonight!

I don't know how to keep on top of the nausea - I am wearing sea bands 24/7,I eat small bits regularly (hello horrible flabby tummy that I was so proud of finally having shrunk!),I'm drinking fresh ginger chopped up in hot water,I do not know what else I can do but it's making me really miserable. Which is very self indulgent considering I haven't even puked yet.

Midwife booking in next Thursday,no word on scan yet as should be booked as a result of that appt,I am 8+2 today & desperately want to feel better sad

Good morning ladies, sorry to hear Chickpeas news- echoing others in saying how kind your message was and I hope you are getting lots of support. It was me 8 weeks ago and I just wanted to be pregnant again rather than spend time grieving- it's a really shitty thing to go through but I think it's important to realise there is no right or wrong way to feel, we all deal with things differently. It actually made me realise how much support I have and defo brought me and DP closer.

So... 8 weeks today, had booking app last Friday and am now waiting for scan date. Still hate brushing my teeth and seem to retch at any opportunity although I haven't been sick yet . Bloated belly here defo not baby yet although I keep prodding to check for tender spot above pubic bone.

Sorry to all of you experiencing bad ms, hopefully just a few weeks to go- and tuckingfits nausea is crap whether you throw up or not, you have every right to feel miserable!

Flyer747 Wed 06-Mar-13 08:28:53

So sorry chickpea I wish you all the best for the future and hope to see you on another board very soon xxx

PseudoBadger Wed 06-Mar-13 08:33:57

So sorry Chickpea sad

I've got a cold and a sore throat which isn't being made any better by my daily morning vomit <grr>

I've been so good today and have taken lunch and snacks into work in an attempt to save money and be vaguely healthy.

In other news, the guy I'm sitting next to on the Tube has stinky breath...

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 09:05:14

I think I'm out as well. Suddenly felt normal all day yesterday - no throwing up...

Today - spotting dark brown and feel all tight and knotted down there sad

PseudoBadger Wed 06-Mar-13 09:40:50

Oh no Rainbow, are you going to try to get an EPU appointment?

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 09:47:54

I rang the gp and he said to see if it stops. If it hasnt by friday he we will and get me an appt. Also have toddler with D&V so would prefer to be home with her anyway

Rockchick1984 Wed 06-Mar-13 09:54:15

Oh Rainbow hopefully everything will be ok - symptoms do come and go, I remember from last time and it was all fine so don't give up hope yet! Hope your DD feels better soon too thanks

Got my 8 week scan tomorrow, I'm terrified blush

Irishfairy Wed 06-Mar-13 10:16:22

How far along are you Rainbow? Could it be that the ms has started to ease off? I had brown and then red bleeding with some cramps weekend before last and had scan at 7+6 and everything was ok so hopefully it's something similar. Will keep my fingers crossed for you.

MOTU Wed 06-Mar-13 10:34:14

@pink lady with my first I felt fine, a little tired, a little achey but basically fine and yes I think all the factors you mention really helped! This time it's a different story; toddler jumping all over me and keeping me running about means I'm constantly sick and tired!!! Enjoy it this time round-I wish I'd appreciated it more last time!!

MOTU Wed 06-Mar-13 10:34:57

Oh and also can I join please? DD2 due 6/10/13!

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 11:10:05

I'm 6+4 so I dont think the symptoms should be easing yet.

Still only spotting and no cramps - but last MC took a couple of days to get going...

I'm running out of time for DC2 though as I'm 39 and my mother was menopausal by 40 sad

roofio87 Wed 06-Mar-13 11:28:11

so sorry Rainbow xx

just had my booking in appointment. just a lot of questions and form filling etc. did get some free vitamins though!! will get a letter from hospital next week with app for bloods etc and my scan date. mw said it should be at about 12 weeks as we want the nuchal fold test etc doing. can't wait now!!smile

roxvox Wed 06-Mar-13 13:22:36

Sorry to hear that rainbow. My symptoms have been totally up and down though, even back at 6 weeks I had days where my symptoms completely dropped off. I hope you feel better soon and that it's just spotting and nothing more xx

Welcome MOTU!

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 13:29:31

Do you think I would be unreasonable to call in sick tomorrow? (Teacher with exam classes so wont be popular)

Rockchick1984 Wed 06-Mar-13 13:34:33

Not unreasonable in the slightest - with any pregnancy bleeding you're advised to rest as much as possible! Also, should the worst happen and you start to miscarry you will need to get home ASAP and I'm fairly sure you won't be in any fit state to drive yourself! Hopefully with a day or 2 of rest you will feel a million times better and the bleeding will stop.

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 13:46:15

Thanks ladies

Smitten1981 Wed 06-Mar-13 13:50:16

I've come home at lunch today because I can't face sitting at my desk feeling sick all afternoon again. The nearest loos at work are 2 flights of stairs away too, I haven't been sick yet but I feel panicky that there's nowhere to puke apart from the office bin if it happens.

rainbow my midwife said that brown spotting is common in weeks 6,7 and 8 and warned me it might happen. She said red blood isn't good but brown sometimes doesn't mean anything is wrong.

I haven't had any bleeding yet (I'm 7+4) but she did say that I might get some as it is common and she likes to warn people just in case.

Iheartcrunchiebars Wed 06-Mar-13 14:44:45

Rainbow definitely call in sick tomorrow and Friday. Tuck up in bed for the weekend and try not to worry.

Today I'm having a no food day when nothing appeals. Counting down the days until my booking appointment. (6 to go!)

tuckingfits Wed 06-Mar-13 16:24:03

I'm back purely for a whinge. I haven't even got dressed yet. I was up from 7.30 with DS,who has had a terrible day because I have no patience & have been cross & grotty about him climbing in things he shouldn't,head butting me etc.

I am so SICK of feeling sick. I swear it's contributing to my tiredness & I'm almost starting to feel a bit depressed. But I'm not being sick so I feel like a fraud with a low unwellness threshold... Please don't tell me to man up though or I'll probably cry.

I now have to go & get ready for work. Which quite honestly is the very last thing I want to do.

star87 Wed 06-Mar-13 16:33:07

Sorry to hear your news chickpea I can only hope that if go through what you are I can handle it as well as you.

rainbow try and stay positive and try and get an appoint at EPU sooner than Friday to put your mind as ease.

My appetite seems to have made an appearance today and its the first day where I haven't felt like crap in almost two weeks!! Going to enjoy it while I can smile

Have found a new food that seems to make me feel better... tomato ketchup flavour Seabrooks they sound so gross but do the trick! x

moonblues Wed 06-Mar-13 16:44:36

So sorry to hear your news littlechickpea. Best wishes for the future.

Hope your putting your feet up rainbow. Definitely phone in sock for tomorrow at least and probably Friday as well. Take care of yourself.

moonblues Wed 06-Mar-13 16:49:02

tuckingfits I'm so sorry you're feeling rubbish. Constant nausea is hard work. I've had it too and only felt slightly human for the last couple of days, I'm still nauseous, but at least I'm getting little breaks in it now. Hope it gets easier for you too.

Honest, I was rubbish over the weekend, the only thing I could think about was how miserable I was feeling, but it does get better, so hold in there! smile

Rainbow it probably depends on the area but where I live they told me to go to a&e- I called to check with them as I thought it was extreme but they told me to go in, did blood tests and referred me to EPU for a scan the next day. Spotting can be normal on early pregnancy but they still advise you to take it seriously- and I know how stressful it is being at work when you're not sure things are ok. Don't worry about taking time off- if the worst was to happen- I really hope it doesn't- you would probably want to be at home tucked up in bed. I was getting year 12 to sign for textbooks at the point I mc'd, and then had an awful journey home. Exam class or not, your health always comes first xx

RainbowsFriend Wed 06-Mar-13 17:22:53

Thanks again ladies. Feminist - we had almost the same experience there - my last miscarriage I was discussing retake options/ jan results with my year 12 and felt I couldn't leave!

I'm a bit more optimistic as the nausea is back, and the spotting has stopped! It did flow for a bit, but was always brown not red - so I think that's hopeful, yes?

Never thought I'd be glad to have the nausea back! grin

racheld33 Wed 06-Mar-13 17:38:10

Yay, so glad nausea is back for you rainbow (as odd as that sounds)

Been to GP today and stocked up on my cyclizine, ranitadine, and gastricote tablets-my baby is going to rattle!

chickieno1 Wed 06-Mar-13 17:39:12

Fingers crossed everything is ok Rainbow

Hope you get through the evening ok tuckingfits

pinksky Wed 06-Mar-13 17:44:52

Ah tucking sorry you're having a rough time of it. I hope work goes quickly and you're home tucked up in bed soon.

rainbow I'm sorry to hear you're spotting, I echo what everyone else says- take the rest of the week off if you can. I still have brown spotting but it definitely eases up if I'm inactive! I had a LOT last week, incl that big clot that took me to the epu but it was all ok, touch wood. So try not to be too despondent, but also don't suffer at home in silence if you're worried. And as others have said try to get a scan sooner, either self refer t the epu if you can, or even the emergency dept.

Everyone else, hope you're all doing well and not suffering too much with ms/sore backs etc. I have rotten heartburn, but have GORD anyway, so wasn't expecting an easy ride with that. Going to have to lay off the bread.

Flyer747 Wed 06-Mar-13 17:45:31

Fingers crossed everything is ok Rainbow and that's gotta be a positive sign now the nausea is back

Feelinghungry Wed 06-Mar-13 18:01:59

Rainbow definitely do NOT feel bad about taking time off. The trouble with our profession is that we always feel we are letting our students/other staff members down, if we miss a day of work for sickness, so we come in anyway. It's ridiculous!

It is important you put yourself first at the moment, you are number 1, not your classes. Rest if you need to. Fingers crossed for you xx

fish88 Wed 06-Mar-13 18:03:19

MS has officially kicked in at 6+4, was just starting to think that maybe I was one of the lucky ones that wasn't going to get it!

JellyCurls Wed 06-Mar-13 18:25:01

10 weeks and I officially have "placenta brain". I am sure my boss must think I sent an identical twin who's a bit dumb to work today. Oh well I gave everyone a laugh if nothing else. Only about another 30 weeks of stupidity to come wink

Haylebop12 Wed 06-Mar-13 19:09:48

rachel I'm on cyclizine too, along with metachlopramide. Couldn't live without it.

Still incredibly nauseas here although am feeling much brighter. Walked to pick dd up from school (literally 3 minutes) and felt awful when I got in! I love walking to get her and driving is a little off limits ATM but I've had a normal days eating so there's a bonus smile

Craving at the mo sweet chilli baked stars, on offer at the co-op so picked up the last two multipacks they had!

Got another week or so off work but think I'm going to get the doc to sign me off for another couple. These meds make you very drowsy so would like to be off them really before I go back. Also we get the keys to our Ouse on Tuesday so would be handy if I was around to sort out grin since we're downsizing to be in a better area!

racheld33 Wed 06-Mar-13 19:41:20

haylebop I am dozy all the time on the cyclizine!
When pregnant with DS i was admitted at 7 weeks and was on them till 24 weeks. I only am sick about 1-2 times a day on the tablets, but normally 70% of day have bad nausea.
I only work 2 days a week at the moment, so have been ok (ish) there, but I look in people's mouth all day so difficult when gagging behind my mask! grin

Can't believe your moving house with DD and Hyperemesis, that is brave! brew

Haylebop12 Wed 06-Mar-13 19:49:30

Fortunately the cyclizine stops me being sick but the nausea is immense!! We're not actually moving on Tuesday as DH is working so technically moving Thursday. Tbh it's been a godsend being with my mum and dad because my mum has done so much for me with dd. don't know what I would have done without her.

I was admitted last year but only the once and had a scan at 7+4. This pregnancy I've been in 3 times, so far. I joked "see you next week" I didn't mean it at the time!

Feeling like I'm gaining some control back!

roofio87 Wed 06-Mar-13 20:02:35

sorry so many of you are feeling really rough

I've had a hard day today, a friend of mine has lost her baby at 36 weeks so we're all devastated. will count myself very lucky if I make it to my 12 weeks with all ok xx

roofio87 Wed 06-Mar-13 20:03:26

sorry, I didn't mean to drag the thread down with that post, its just on my mind more than other ever would have been before!!

tuckingfits, I felt rubbish last Friday too, even though I wasn't actually being sick I felt horrible. And the constant nausea on the days it is not that bad does wear you down. Mine is back with a vengance today after a couple of not too bad days. The sore boobs are back too. I know what you mean about feeling a bit pathetic and fraudulent as you are not actually being sick, though.

Rainbow, so pleased the spotting has stopped and sickness is back. I would still suggest calling in sick if you are at all worried about it. I agree teachers never take time off but really you should put yourself first on this occasion. Can you self refer to your EPU? Mine you can if you have had previous miscarriages, otherwise you can go through GP or A&E.

Roofio that is awful news. Your poor friend. I can't imagine how that must feel.

Livened Wed 06-Mar-13 20:18:48

You haven't at all roofio - I'm sure we've all had our fair share of sad pregnancy experiences - yours just happens to be today :-(

My SIL had a still birth at full term - I was pregnant too at the time with DS - she now has a beautiful baby boy of nearly a year ;-) Things will get better for her as time passes - im sure youre being a brilliant friend to her and I wish her all the love in the world at this horrible time xxx

pinksky Wed 06-Mar-13 20:34:39

Ah roofio how awful. I'm so sorry for your friend. You didn't drag things down. It's so sadly one of the realities of pregnancy. Take care X

Natalieand Wed 06-Mar-13 22:09:23

Lots if sickness and bad news floating around, lots of love to those needing it xxxx

Just got into bed feeling sorry for myself my back has been so painful the last few days its un real struggling to lift dd up especially ito her caraway and killing my back leaning over to strap her in. Can't even keep my eyes open to have a half decent convo with hubby yet now I've come to bed I feel wide awake. I have to wait in for parcel delivery tommorow so just gunna try put y feet up all day and do something quick and easy for dinner that involves minimal effort and washing up lol. 8 weeks today! 4 weeks exactly till 12 week scan/screening. Seeing midwife for GTT she's coming to my house to do the blood test.
Boy am I wishing I lost weight before ttc again my weight didn't cause me an issue when expecting dd1 I was size 18-20 this time I'm more of a 22 and feel shattered from it already and wondering how big I'm gunna be :-( (please don't judge me). Have done lots more walking this week walking dd to playschool and back (40 ish min toys trip) instead of driving and trying to eat plenty of fruit as I'm not a huge veg fan, I don't mind a little but I'm quite fussy with veg. Sorry for my moans rant just sick of feeling sorry for myself along with this stinking cold that's dragged on since Saturday and the rediculous amount of soreness/stingyness my boobs r giving me. Roll on 12 weeks when I can crack out my maternity jeans! I'm not finding my clothes uncomfortable ATM except for after a meal they feel a big snug but that seems to be the same for everyone ATM

Will keep my fingers crossed for every one expecting scans in the next few days

Ps is there a November thread yet? Xxx

Natalieand Wed 06-Mar-13 22:11:07

Apologies for all my typos silly iPhone. Hopefully u can make some sense of what I've rambled on about lol xxx

Haylebop12 Wed 06-Mar-13 22:18:00

Yep natalie and they've filled about half their first thread! Time is moving!

MrsExcited Wed 06-Mar-13 22:28:25

Ooh we're not the latest news anymore! That feels odd

funkky Wed 06-Mar-13 22:32:43

natalie there is a November thread. Was snooping around yesterday and they have one full thread already!! Explains the late MW appointment am having as hospital said they are having to fit so many pregnant women in. shock

roofio sorry about your friend, a friend of mine lost hers at 20 weeks, she is coming to stay with me over the weekend for a change of environment, problem is she doesn't know am pregnant cos we haven't really told anyone yet. Nt sure how to handle it really......I didn't know she was pg until she mc.

Symptoms have been full on, stopped being sick after going off pregnancy vitamins, just sticking to folic acid +vit. D but hips still sore and can't wait for MW appointment next week!

funkky Wed 06-Mar-13 22:37:50

Oops. Yep nov. 2013 still on first thread, for some reason shows on the heading as full thread when you do a search.

Feel like am snooping.

World book day today at school, an excuse to wear baggy black clothes in my witch costume. Yay!

Iheartcrunchiebars Thu 07-Mar-13 07:20:24

Is anyone's ms getting worse rather than better. I'm 9 weeks today and the last few days have woken up feeling awful. Gets better by lunchtime when the tiredness kicks in!

Any tips from anyone about things to settle my stomach?

I've got a night in with my best friends tomorrow. One knew we were ttc in January and I know is going to ask me about progress. The other one can read me like a book and will be very suspicious when I don't drink. I hate lying to people!

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 07:32:13

Now I'm having a dialemma this morning lairs. Pretty sure dd has a case f chicken pox quite a few friends little one have had them in the last fortnight and she has woken up with only 3 spots ATM (one of them a mini blister) but obv I am pregnant. I asked mum and dad if I have had them before and they both said they THINK I have. Do I need to call midwife? Don't wanna over react lol

Iheartcrunchiebars Thu 07-Mar-13 07:38:15

I was researching this yesterday as chicken pox is going around here as well. I would call her to reassure yourself. Apparently the risk to the baby is very low and is only higher when you are 20 weeks plus . However call your midwife. You never know there might be something on your medical notes and she could at least tell you whether you've had it or not!

cuillereasoupe Thu 07-Mar-13 08:26:26

I'd give her a ring to put your mind at rest if nothing else.

JellyCurls Thu 07-Mar-13 08:29:03

Placenta brain day 2
So far I have almost driven car into garage door instead of reversing out the drive
Got to work with one navy and one black sock on
Made my porridge without adding the porridge to the bowl so had a bowl of hot milk.
Can you be signed off work for being daft?

Umlauf Thu 07-Mar-13 09:25:25

Ahh jellycurls your post made me smile through the nausea! The other day I left my flat, walked down the corridor, 2 flights of stairs and outside to my car before I realised I'd forgotten to put my shoes on. Totally blaming the placenta brain!

This morning I went a bit loopy at having no proof of my baby's existence yet and downloaded the iPad Doppler app. Needless to say it didn't work (supposed to be used after 18 weeks and even then, its hardly medical!).

natalieand I'm experiencing awful back pain too. Does yours get gradually worse over the course of the day and be worst at night before bed? I've had my spine broken before and it didn't feel as bad as this, couldn't walk on Monday night! I've also been reading up on SPD and feeling horrible about that, as chances are due to my fcked up back i shall have every possible pain there is combined with a traumatic birth. I've asked my secretary to come with me to the doctor to help explain/interpret for me about my spine. Even though she doesn't speak english we sort of understand each other, whereas the doctors....!
Sorry I don't know anything about chicken pox though....

I've just spent a little while catching up with the rest of the thread and really sad to learn of the bad news. Also keeping my fingers crossed for rainbow and staying hopefully, as brown is the best colour for blood to be.

Smitten1981 Thu 07-Mar-13 09:30:17

Urgh, I think I have a UTI, waiting to see the docs now. I knew I felt extra awful yesterday and I still feel so sick today but have decided to battle through and tough it out at work. This is so unpleasant, please go away nausea sad

HotSoupDumpling Thu 07-Mar-13 09:33:10

I've been away for a few days and it's taken me ages to catch up! We really are mouthy preggers women aren't we.... Seems like the November bus passengers are too. I wonder why so many of us are pregs in Autumn, and whether it's because some women prefer to avoid a late Summer baby - and also hoping it doesn't affect the care we get!

So, I'm really behind, but anyway:
- chickpea, sending you the very best of luck. Hope you can enjoy the TTc-ing process while most of us here have fanjos disintergrating from underuse!
- Haylebop, really glad you're out of hospital
-*Natalieand*, I'd definitely call the midwife. Hopefully she can put your mind at ease or recommend a course of action.
-jellycurls That's hilarious! I've been being v stupid too. I put it down to tiredness!

My nausea has reduced a bit, but every day after lunch and dinner I feel bludgeoned with fatigue. We recently stayed with relatives who we don't want to find out I'm pregs.. And we made a brilliant discovery. If you retch with your face tightly stuffed into a towel (and your door closed) , it sounds like a cough! So fingers crossed we've managed to hide it, although my belly is rather large (more with bloat than baby though...)

The only thing that has helped my nausea is constantly eating through it, something one of my friends told me about. I spend 70 percent of my spare time figuring out what I actually fancy to eat, buying it, preparing it, chowing it!

cherrycherry41 Thu 07-Mar-13 10:25:04

Natalieand ive had chickenpox twice and a bad bout of shingles in my teens. Its a pile of poo that once uve had it u cant get it again, its unlikely as youll have built antibodies against it but in my case i didnt have enough. Call your gp or midwife for some advice, the risk is low in the first tri xx

Wickedgirl Thu 07-Mar-13 10:54:27

I am now 8+3 and the sickness has really kicked in. The nausea was bad enough but the being sick and then still feeling sick is awful.

I still haven't heard about booking in or scan dates. I saw the doctor 4weeks ago......do you think I need to start chasing it? Do I call the drs or hospital do you think?

notsoold Thu 07-Mar-13 11:00:17

Hellooo there!!!
Back from my scan and this time around they found a fetal pole and heartbeat.....
Will name check another time as I am writing this at the hospital after my scan!!! Thank you for all the fxs!!!

pinksky Thu 07-Mar-13 12:05:09

Woohoo notso, that's great news. Well done!

I'm 7 weeks today, and called for my booking in appt this morning, so having that in two week's time.

I thought I'd managed to avoid nausea, but it's hit me over the past couple of days, just low level and consistent. Definitely helps to eat regularly, like you hotsoup I'm spending my time mostly thinking about or devouring food.

Yes there are heaps of Oct/Nov babies aren't there! We were trying for a while, so just the way it happened, but I do know people who would prefer an autumn due date. I really want a home birth, but imagine if it's too busy that will not be possible.

roxvox Thu 07-Mar-13 12:09:30

Woo! Pleased for you notsoold. How are you feeling now?

wickedgirl I am 9+2 and just now called up to chase for details about my 12w scan. A few diverted phone calls later and I spoke to a girl who said "Oh, I recognise your name, I posted your letter just yesterday!". So it might be worth chasing, but if it's anything like my area then they don't organise scans until you're at 9w it would seem.

I am really pleased because they've booked me in for my scan when I'll be 12+2, on the same day that I'll be going home to see my family (and, all being well, tell them they're going to be grandparents). I've been saying on here for a while that I would get a private scan that week if they couldn't fit me in so I am over the moon that I'll be able to get it just before we go away. So it's 3 weeks today. Please stick in there minuscule baby!

Smitten1981 Thu 07-Mar-13 12:10:47

Turns out I have a kidney infection and am now on (baby safe) antibiotics. Joy! Explains why I felt so awful though.

cazboldy Thu 07-Mar-13 12:12:59

good news notsoold smile

feeling rubbish today - just got no energy at all.....

got my scan on 26/03 - when by their dates i will be 13 weeks exactly - thought expecting them to put me back by a few days, so pretty good timing really smile

looking forward to making sure there really is one in there! grin

cazboldy Thu 07-Mar-13 12:13:55

x posts smitten - hope u feel better soon xx

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 12:23:46

Excellent news notsoold
roxvox same happened to me I rang and asked about my scan she said oh I recognise your details I've just posted your appt out but she managed to re arrange it for a more convenient day so dh could also attend having scan at dead on 12 weeks on 3rd april

pinksky I must only be able to get pregnant in jan or something lol last time it took me a year to conceive and got preg at end of jan with dd being born on nov 1st and this time I started ttc in oct and baby is due oct 16th must be something about me lol

To those who already have more than one dc, is labour any easier second time round? Xx

pinksky Thu 07-Mar-13 12:30:11

ha, natalieand - yep it took us about 8 months - don't know what happened to make it work this time! What a nice birthday present for your DD (though she might not see it like that?!)

So good to hear scan date news cazboldy and roxvox

Rockchick1984 Thu 07-Mar-13 12:54:20

Hi all, just wanted to update - had my scan, baby is perfect for dates and we saw his/her heartbeat grin grin grin Absolutely over the moon, so going to tell people now - see how many relatives I can reduce to tears this time... smile

cazboldy Thu 07-Mar-13 13:37:53

Natalieand - i suppose it's easier in some ways - maybe as u know what to expect...... although that can also scare you as i get to a point and think "Oh shit - i can't do this again!" but of course you do!

Each labour is very different.

I think my first was the hardest, but following that i would say my fourth - but then he was my biggest baby, and after a 4 and a half year gap!

will be a 6 and a half year gap this time << wibble>> but am hoping for a nice smallish baby wink grin

cazboldy Thu 07-Mar-13 13:38:29

Oh and happy to hear your lovely news rockchick smile

Wickedgirl Thu 07-Mar-13 13:52:50

Cazboldy......don't say that

This is my 4th and there is a 9 year gap!

None of my babies were small..... Dd 8lb15oz, DS1 9lb 13oz (9days early), DS2 9lb 4oz

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 13:59:29

I'm hoping for a nice easy quick 2nd labour. Dd was 12 hours, no intervention and a perfect 7lb 6oz. Ill have another one of those please. grin

Thinking about a private scan at around 10 weeks. Waiting till 12 is gonna kill me after last years mmc.

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 14:01:24

Oh and there will be 4.8 years between my two, I've def forgotten the pain!

JellyCurls Thu 07-Mar-13 14:07:06

DC1 was 8.5 hours and a back to back baby and DC2 was a much easier 2 hours (from not being in labour according to midwife) to holding my baby. DC2 was born in membrane sack so waters never broke. Hoping DC3 copies DC2's birth and no quicker

Rugbywife Thu 07-Mar-13 14:13:10

Hi all, can I join? I have been lurking around the website since we started TTC in August 2010 and these threads in particular since I had my bfp in January! I am 30 and 6 + 2 and have no other DCs. You all seem lovely and chatty and I have already picked up so many good tips and advice from you all!

Rugbywife Thu 07-Mar-13 14:14:15

Oh sorry, meant to also say that the estimated due date of my little bundle is 29th October!

pinksky Thu 07-Mar-13 14:31:37

Hi Rugbywife--congratulations, and welcome to the October bus!

Has anyone 'seen' TDD32 recently? She hasn't posted in a while. Hope everything is OK with her. Are we missing anyone else?

Great news RockChick - it's lovely seeing that little blob isn't it!

Welcome Rugbywife and congratulations!

Need advice - birthday of a friend tonight and she is having a get together at local pub - and this is my friend who is struggling to conceive. Really want to tell her in a discreet and personal way, probably text as advised on this thread, and certainly wouldn't consider telling her today of all days. Shall I just avoid? It's just so bloody obvious when I don't drink as am normally a lush life and soul of the party.

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:26:43

jelly if you feel that she or people might guess then I'd avoid, like you say it would be the worst day for her to find out. will she be very upset with u not being there?!

just wondering how many of you are planning on having the initial dual testing for don't syndrome done? I am,but not really sure why or how common it is to have done. wondering what peoples opinions are?!

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:27:19

that's obviously meant to say 'down's' syndrome

pinkbuttons Thu 07-Mar-13 15:33:16

jelly I had this a few weeks ago, although not on my freinds birthday, turned out she guessed as soon as she saw me (although she'd known we were TTC) and I felt like an arse for not having told her. Sorry no helpful advice although think your doing the right thing not telling her today. Also if your anything like I was I was so worried about telling her and she was lovely, just because she wants to be pregnant doesnt mean she doesnt want you to be is what my friend told me.
roofio which ones that? we were just planning on having nuchal scan?

Have just been emailed asking to take part in a study of growth, would mean scans every 4-6 weeks which sounds lovely since I live right by the hospital... very tempted.
Welcome rugbywife

roxvox Thu 07-Mar-13 15:35:17

Welcome rugbywife and congratulations!

bowlfullofjelly I second roofio87 and say avoid the party. I know it's not ideal, but any speculation may force you to come clean and tell her on her birthday. Fortunately I haven't been the life and soul of any party in years so people don't expect me to drink!

roofio87 I am having the blood test at my 12 week scan, and then will have the nuchal fold test based on the results of that. I don't know what I'd so with the information either, except for prepare for the possibility of having a Down's syndrome child if we fell into the 'high risk' category. I have basically asked to have all the blood work done. I'd rather know what's going on so we can prepare.

Thanks for all of your comments about my scan dates coming through. I can't wait to have it as am yet to have a scan or any confirmation since I first POAS and the eleven times since.

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:36:00

I've been offered the nuchal scan along with blood tests to determine the risk. I've said yes,but think I might have changed my mind. could I ring the hospital and tell them?

Thanks ladies. There is a big group going so I really don't think she will be upset if I'm a no show. Have a 2 year old so she is used to me being a bit flaky. I know she will be happy for me, just don't want to rub her face in it on her special day. I'll avoid - the rain makes staying in more appealing anyway!

DP and I will not be having the nuchal scan, we didn't last time either, because it wouldn't affect our decision to continue with the pregnancy, so I think getting the odds may just cause unnecessary worry. But Roofio from all of the lurking I do it seems most people have this test so I think it's pretty common.

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:49:03

oh man, I am sat here crying my eyes out and I'm honestly not upset about anything!!!!! I think I'm going mad. fortunately I'm at home, not in work until later!!
rang the midwife and told her we've changed our minds about the test. I'm the same, I wouldn't have the further tests done and I wouldn't change anything even if I knew for sure so I think it will be unecessary worry.
right off to sort myself out!!

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 15:57:32

I didn't have the test with dd and would be reluctant now although DH would prefer me too. I would be in no doubt about carrying on the pregnancy but its something DH and I haven't really discussed. When I fell pg with dd we hadn't been together long and were living 100 miles apart so although he made it to both scans I made a lot of the year decisions alone. This time I will very much involve him as we are in a completely different situ.

Just enquiries about a reassurance scan at a local clinic and its £95. Not sure we can justify that when were moving house next week but he week after maybe ;-) think my mum might offer to pay as she seems overly keen for me to get one!

8+3 today and booking in tomorrow. Looking to get a scan around 10 weeks mark as my mmc was 9 weeks.

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:02:29

my dp has agreed that its whatever I'll be happiest with. he wouldn't want the further testing done or care anyway either so I think it will be less stressful for me if we don't so that's what we've agreed.

I know,the private scans are tempting,but I want to save every spare penny for the baby so couldn't justify the money.myself!! must be hard for you though hayleybop after a mmc xx

notsoold Thu 07-Mar-13 16:03:55

Roofio I will opt for the tests as we are ancient ( I am 41...lol). More to prepare ourselves. I would prefer the harmony prenatal test but we are not in londonw so would be difficult for us to travel...

Jelly...I tell people that Iam detoxing or on medication....

Pink...scans monthly sounds great smile

Rugbywife welcome!!!

Our gap between ds and thisittle bean will be 14 years....ouch factor!!!
Decided to be more optimist and told 4 close friends . they will be my support were things to go wrong andmy safety net so I ddon't go mental!!!! I am scared ( have to forget statistics) but very happy!)

pinksky Thu 07-Mar-13 16:07:27

I think I'll have the test, roofio although it won't change anything (ie, we'd continue with the pregnancy either way) but I'll feel better prepared. I'm not good at not knowing things!

Jelly sorry you'll miss your friend's birthday--think it's the right decision though x

Umlauf Thu 07-Mar-13 16:11:07

I've been offered the tests as well and its a hard decision. I think I'll have them (but not the amniotic one) as I'd like to prepare for what's coming, but I'd continue with the pregnancy regardless so it'd be about preparation more than anything else. It would mean I'd be worrying lots though.. Hmmm...

Although we have no spare cash I would definitely have had a reassurance scan if I could get one in Spain. Waiting until 13 weeks to see if there is even anything there is horrible. Still convinced my body is playing a trick on me and theres nothing there. Go for it!

ahh roofio don't cry. You will start all of us hormonal women off as well!

pinkbuttons that sounds very tempting! You think the wait for 12 week scan is long - but it's 5 months between 20 week and getting your bubba. Only managed as got an extra growth scan at 30 weeks as stupid Doctor measured me at 27 weeks, when had been measuring at 29 weeks 2 week prior (a lot of weeks in that sentence, probably doesn't make sense grin)

While there are lots of extremely valid arguments against having an early private scan - unnecessary expense, still doesn't guarantee all is well at 12 weeks etc - I'm really glad I went for mine at 8+6. I'm still not taking anything for granted, but having had a MMC previously it is reassuring seeing that little blob's heart beating and wiggling around. So Haylebop if your mum is feeling generous, go for it smile.

I just heard someone in the office say sausage and now I MUST HAVE A BATTERED SAUSAGE IMMEDIATELY!!! My mouth is literally watering at the thought of that crispy, salty, greasy goodness. DP will be sent to the chippy tonight.

Right, must get on with a massive report that I have do redo as my boss has changed his mind about what he wants hmm. Joy!

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 16:20:07

roofio I will be having the full screening as I did with dd was low risk with her 1 in 22,000 they said. So will go ahead this time to. Just woken from an afternoon snooze. Me and dd went to sleep on the sofa and I woke to her stroking my hair kissing my cheek saying you alright mummy? Bless kiddie winks eh lol
Welcome to newbies :-)

Can't remember who was having a dialemma about going out tonight but I suggest staying in personally as if I went to a party n didn't drink then everyone would no too lol

HotSoupDumpling Thu 07-Mar-13 16:24:59

I'm having the nuchal test. For me personally, it would change things, and depending on the outcome of the nuchal, I'd be prepared to do the further tests to determine the chances of Downs, and might consider termination if the risk got to a certain level. It's such a personal decision (as most decisions during pregnancy are!)

(I was wondering whether I should post that first para, as I don't want to offend anyone with family or friends with Downs - I have a close relative with Downs and he is lovely, loved and loving. But I decided to, because sometimes it's useful for people to know that everyone makes different choices and none of them are necessarily wrong or right.)

Like many people here, am battling with myself in my head regarding whether I go for an early scan or not.

PseudoBadger Thu 07-Mar-13 16:27:36

Can I just ask if I should be asking the midwife at booking for an early scan if my last pg ended in mc? I'm not stressing yet (8 weeks tomorrow) as my mc wasn't until 11+6, and my scan is scheduled for 12+1. But if they're likely to say yes then I might ask. We can't afford a private scan.

HotSoup - I was wondering the same about posting that the results of screening wouldn't effect my decision to carry on with the pregnancy, as didn't want to offend anyone for whom this may not be the case. It's such a personal an emotive subject that's it's difficult to know what will and what won't cause upset or distress. There isn't a right or wrong - everyone just needs to be happy with their personal decision.

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 16:35:17

I'm glad you did write that paragraph hotsoup cos although I can't say for certain until I'm faced with such a decision I think deep down it would effect my decision about the pregnancy but also like yourself would also go for all the further testing

badger you have nothing to loose by asking your midwife for an early scan but don't be diss heartened if they decline your request xxx

notsoold Thu 07-Mar-13 16:41:47

Hotsoup....you are right. We would wanted to know to prepare ourselves ...

Hayle....I think exactly the same but my mmc was at around 10 weeks..and that is close to the 12 week scan( dh reasoning) but I think it will give me peace of mind!!

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:48:50

badger all you can do is ask... they are unlikely to offer so what have you got to lose?

I understand an early scan doesn't mean everything is ok at 12 weeks. Had early scan at 7+4 last year to have bad news at the routine one.

I have however had a scan at around 6 wk with this pg during my first admission for HG. So having one at 9/10 weeks may not technically be an early early scan but the chance of Mc are reduced after hb detected at 9/10 wks:-)

Can I justify £95 for bad news though sad

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 16:50:04

I emailed the info to dh at work (since he's working 8am-9pm) and he said if I want one he will use his "rainy day" money. Poor bloke is more worried then me!

roofio87 Thu 07-Mar-13 17:00:35

Everyone's opinions and thoughts are welcome here, we're all very different people who feel differently about these things, its just interesting to know!! all I know for sure is I wouldn't want the further testing so I have decided that the initial tests aren't for me. I'm 25 so hopefully I'm in good odds anyway!!

Had a good day today got a new (old) car and i went to a baby super store it was amazing I think I am getting brave i will be 11 weeks on Sunday but i still worry about having a mmc scan a few weeks away don't feel terrible anymore but i still feel pregnant so not worrying i have no big symptoms but no feeling of dread.

I looked at some amazing prams but good baby stuff is expensive really hoping hubby gets a job in his summer break he is a mature student smile

Re the early scans - if you have a positive scan at 8 weeks and heart beat detected your risk of miscarriage is reduced to 1.5% and at 9 weeks 0.5%, which from what I understand is pretty much the same as a good scan at 12 weeks.

Unfortunately there is ALWAYS a risk that something will go wrong until baby is in your arms. And then all of the worry continues with keeping them alive and well {grin}

cuillereasoupe Thu 07-Mar-13 17:09:54

Just back from our scan and one of the two is no longer viable. Bit sad but not really much of a surprise TBH. The doc has given me a sicknote for all next week so I can get plenty more sitting on my arse on the sofa in.

Rockchick1984 Thu 07-Mar-13 17:24:38

So sorry to hear that cuillereasoupe hope you're ok.

Re Down's screening we didn't go for any of the testing last time and don't plan on it this time. If it gave a definitive yes or no (without any risk of miscarriage) I'd get it done however realistically being told 1 in 10 chance or 1 in 50,000 chance, you could be that one either way, and I couldn't say at what odds I'd have an amniocentesis and risk losing my baby, healthy or otherwise.

Smitten1981 Thu 07-Mar-13 17:28:02

Im having the nuchal scan done. It wasn't put to me like it was something I could opt out of at the booking appt, but I would like to know anyway.

jelly I would give the party a miss. I've been to too many social things the past two weeks where I've had to lie to friends or keep an eye on what foods they are cooking etc, I just feel awful for not telling them so I've decided to opt out of things for the next month till my scan.

I've told my close friends but one of them nearly let things slip last night when we were with friends who we haven't told. It's a minefield.

JellyCurls Thu 07-Mar-13 17:38:13

c...soup sorry can't remember how to spell your name, sorry for your mixed news but glad still one baby in there.

Think we are going for tests but only to know risks then make an informed decision based on the result. Results for dc1 were fine but her brain didn't develop fully so tests don't show up everything. Not sure we could cope with another SN child, forgive me for saying this please. Didn't get test with dc2 and was worried sick whole way through. So NT test and bloods next Wednesday it is

We are having the Nuchal Scan and bloods done at 12 week scan. I wasn't sure either way so asked midwife if it's common to have it done and she said 95% of people do so I just said yes. like some on here, it would mean a decision would have to be made as to whether we have the next test if I'm high risk and whether to keep this little bean or not and personally I don't think we could. I just know us and we would not be strong enough parents to bring up a Downs child so it's not a selfish desicion. I applaud those who can/will, I really do.

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 17:43:33

Message withdrawn at poster's request.

Natalieand Thu 07-Mar-13 17:48:36

Excuse my last post my phone threw a wobbly and posted half way through let's start again....

So sorry to hear that cuillereasoupe sending virtual hugs. When this happened to me two weeks ago I was an emotional mess after it happened too me but now I'm feeling very positive about my remaining baby :-)

Seriously tired today
I was just thinking atchly to those who are going for the nuchal screening will u be telling your pregnancy news after your scan or after your screening results as obv they take an extra few days-week to come back after the scan

CelticPromise Thu 07-Mar-13 17:52:04

cuillereasoup I'm so sorry. Take care.

FalconsMistress there are some great bargains around if you don't mind secondhand. We've got since great stuff from charity shops and NCT sales, really good quality too. Also some bits from Netmums Local and freecycle, and a Bugaboo off eBay. DS never had anything new grin

Re Downs testing, we won't be having it. We didn't have it last time. There was a point in my pregnancy when there was talk of amnio to find out if there was a genetic problem, but actually DS was delivered before I could turn it down (with no genetic problems). It's a very personal choice and you do what's right for your own family. Luckily DH and I are on the same page about it, would be tough if we weren't I think.

Wickedgirl Thu 07-Mar-13 17:53:53

Jelly.......can you not say that you're on a course of antibiotics? You wouldn't be able to drink with those. Or drive yourself there and say you can't drink as you have to drive home and gave an early start.

I am going to have a nuchal fold scan. I wasn't offered one in my other pregnancies but at my age (37) and with 3 older children to also consider, I need to know what's what. If the hospital still doesn't offer it to me, I will get one done privately (£175 ouch!)

SeriousStuff Thu 07-Mar-13 18:01:17

Just to join in the nuchal scan discussion - we won't be having it done. My Aunt has down's syndrome as does one of my oldest and best friends and they both have amazing personalities, are passionate about what they enjoy in life and my friend even works three jobs and is incredibly proud that she earns a salary. She even shouts myself and my husband dinner when she's paid sometimes. And out of every possible disability you could have, it is one where the child these days can get the same opportunities as other children, so there was never any question that we would keep the baby regardless. Having said that, I understand why people would have it done but I do think more needs to be done to educate people about the manageability of down's syndrome.

What I'm glad to hear is that hospitals are giving people the choice now. I remember my friend when she had a baby around 10 years ago being forced into having it done even though she didn't want to.

Well, nausea is still very much here! 12 days until 12 week scan!

Thanks for all of the advice. Am going to give it a miss. It's too close to drive to, and though I could try the antibiotics ruse it just wouldn't wash! Friends are kind of expecting another one from us soon, I'm a terrible liar, and I've been known to carry on boozing while on antibiotics wink.

legallyblond Thu 07-Mar-13 18:21:03

Hi all!

Haven't posted in ages and ages... Sorry!

Still all fine here. Had my (two?!) booking in appointments and 12 week scan is just over a week away (19th march). Re the Michael fold and bloods, I will have it but, as last time, know now that I would def not go for amnio etc if high risk as we would definitely keep it no matter what and so it would not be worth the miscarriage risk. If there were no miscarriage risk, I would find out for sure, but just to prepare puselves and family as aborting wouldn't be an option for us (but am conscious I've not been in that situation, so I guess one never knows....).

We will wait to "announce" until we get the bloods back, so until I'm 13 weeks + I guess. Last time we waited until 16 weeks!

Still feeling very very sick.... I am violently sick usually 4-5 times a day... A bit of a shock to the system as I wasn't sick once with DD and was barely queasy... Nothing helps sad. Some days keeping anything die. Is a struggle! As a result though, still very much in my tight jeans etc!!!

Will catch up on posts now and comment in due course... grin

Sal1977 Thu 07-Mar-13 18:38:00

We are going to get the tests and see what the results are before making a decision on the amnio etc.

DP's aunt has Downs and is severely disabled with it and my friend has a younger sister who also has it but not so disabled. Her parents are in their 70's now and don't know what they will do in a few years time as she is unable to work or live unassisted etc. So I guess my point is that there are so many levels of disability and associated health problems with Downs that its hard to prepare for the unknown.

For us, it's not something we feel able to take on, regardless of how heartbreaking a decision it would be.

My sisters friend had the result of 1/5 risk, had the amnio and all was well, very healthy little boy now causing havoc!

Very tough subject.

I want an early scan. Been told NO by DP. He says we have no reason to believe there's a problem, so tough sh*t! Haha

ananikifo Thu 07-Mar-13 18:57:26

Hi everyone!

The discussion of testing is very interesting. We wouldn't consider terminating so I'd rather not know. I've read that the reason Down syndrome is so heavily tested for is not because it's so horrible or risky, but rather because it's so well-studied and the tests are available.

I've now been home 4 days with this flu and am finally felling better flu-wise. Unfortunately I think the nausea is here to stay. It's more evening sickness than morning sickness but its definitely been a daily occurrence this week.

I had planned leave for tomorrow anyway, as we have the midwife appt, a mortgage appt, and then DH's parents coming and we'll tell them the news. We have quite a big day planned, as you can see. I just hope I feel ok through it all.

Congrats to those who had positive scans today.
Cuille I am sorry to hear you had mixed news. Congratulations on your remaining strong little baby.

I wasn't aware there was an opt out of the nuchal fold test. But we have already agreed we wouldn't go for the invasive testing regardless of the results.

How are you today rainbow?

roxvox Thu 07-Mar-13 19:32:53

It says on my 12 week scan letter to drink 2 (yes, two) pints of water one hour before the scan, and not go to the toilet for that hour before the scan. As a test I drank 1 pint of water half an hour ago, and I'm already busting for a wee!

racheld33 Thu 07-Mar-13 20:00:55

Evening all, interesting reading the debate about Down syndrome testing. We opted out with our DS, and will do the same with this pregnancy. Definately will keep baby whatever, so was no point us even thinking about it. My cousin has severe form of angelmans syndrome (which is obviously not something is tested for), so my thought on it is of all the things that can happen, Down syndrome is the only one they actually can test for.

That said, I am very pro choice and completely support everyone's decision to decide. It must be so hard if you and DP don't agree, that's when it must get more of a dilemma.

Haylebop12 Thu 07-Mar-13 20:05:25

roxvox as long as your bladders full then it's ok, don't make yourself uncomfortable!

BirdsDoIt Thu 07-Mar-13 20:37:29

Roxvox, that's interesting - my scan letter says I don't need a full bladder for my scan - they must use different kit in different places!

legallyblond my scan's on 19 march too! When I read 'just over a week away' I thought no, it's longer than that (feels like I've been waiting for EVER to find out if there's actually a baby in there) but you're right! Just over a week! Woo hoo!

We're definitely getting the nuchal & blood tests - like others have said, I'm not good with not knowing at all - but don't know yet what we'd do if deemed high risk. With a risk of 1% miscarriage from Cvs or amnio I think the odds would have to be pretty high for us to go for it. And as bowlful said, you can't be certain about any of it really! Had the good news today though that we'll get results of the combined test while at hospital for scan, so no hideous protracted wait for results and hopefully if all is well we can tell family at Easter weekend (though trying not to let myself get excited about that yet...)

cherrycherry41 Thu 07-Mar-13 22:06:56

Today, i cant shake the feeling that i'm having twins. Its really odd but for some reason my brain keeps referring to them as 'they' and them for that matter!
Really, really odd confused

SeriousStuff Thu 07-Mar-13 22:13:49

birdsdoit and legallyblond I'm scanning on 19th too! Can't wait to hear how you get on.

roxvox Thu 07-Mar-13 23:04:18

Thanks haylebop12 and birdsdoit. I think I'll just drink slowly over the hour prior to the scan. I don't cope well mentally with a full bladder.

Anyone else with a scan on the 28th?! Seems so far away, I just hope all is good!

We're going to have all of the tests done, but it is very undecided as to what we'll do with that information.

cherrycherry41 I googled a while ago to try and find out early (pre-scan) signs that you're having twins (just out of interest), and one of the signs was 'mothers intuition'. So you never know! My brain seems undecided and I'll sometimes refer to my bump as 'he' and other times I'll say 'she'. Kind of hoping I've got one of each in there, but my lack of symptoms would suggest otherwise.

Natalieand Fri 08-Mar-13 04:34:45

Ahhhh u say they roxvox but I had no different symptoms when carrying two as I do now with one and also my sister has twins and her symptoms were no different so don't rule it out yet lol xx

pinksky Fri 08-Mar-13 06:49:49

cuille I'm sorry about your scan, how are you feeling? Obviously it's great that the other one is doing well, but sad still. Glad you've got some time off work X

The chat about testing has been interesting. And it's good that we can all discuss things openly. Such personal decisions and no right or wrong, although an emotive subject. I realised I hadn't really discussed it with DH so will need to do that at some point.

roxvox I won't get my scan til mid April - feels forever away!

cuillereasoupe Fri 08-Mar-13 08:34:29

I'm feeling OK actually as I'd been googling and more or less expected it. Much scarier was realising that the fertility clinic only decided to take us on because I accidentally fibbed about how regular my cycles were. It really was by the skin of our teeth.

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 09:01:09

Hope you feeling ok cullie it must be difficult hearing such sad news but at the same time being happy for another healthy bean.

Got my booking in at 9:30, I'm armed with a sample and DH's shifts ready to book my scan! Eeek!

slippysnow Fri 08-Mar-13 09:11:07

Morning everyone,
Just told my mum and dad about the pregnancy, unfortunately I didn't get the reaction I wanted from my mum. She was 'disappointed', my age (22) career (what career!) and as I don't have a house of my own (currently living with my dp's parents until we find a place of our own, but aren't rushing into it). My dad on the other hand was shocked but happy. I'm pretty sad about it but trying not to think about it now. She's had a virus so maybe I should've waited for another day but I reckon unless I waited until I was 28 she would've had the same reaction.

Glad I didn't tell her on Mother's Day like I thought about! Haha

Sal1977 Fri 08-Mar-13 09:11:52

Ok, so this is for those who are worrying about lack of symptoms etc.

Saw my midwife last night (we're good friends and were in z night out) and I said I was a bit worried about not having any MS. She said to think myself lucky and it was perfectly normal... Next question was that should I be worried that at nearly 9 weeks my boobs don't hurt as much? She said nope as they settle down and that's generally how that will start. You probably won't wake up one morning and they stop hurting completely (although that can happen) the tenderness will just gradually subside and you'll have days where they don't hurt and then they do etc.
I then said that I'm scared that I'll get to the 12 week scan and there will be nothing there. She said that there is not a pregnant person alive that doesn't feel the same and it is rate for that to happen. If you are not bleeding and in pain, you have absolutely no reason to believe there is a problem!
My final question was that when I'm walking for more than 10 minutes, my lower back (hip area) aches quite a bit. She said its because of the hormones relaxing everything so it'd all looser. Same reason that pregnant ladies waddle!

Sal1977 Fri 08-Mar-13 09:16:04

Aaaww Slippy, what s shame. Give them time and they'll come round and will be mega excited soon I bet!

If its any consolation, my mum always told my sister and me not to waste our 20's on having babies. My sister was 30 when she had her first and I'm gonna be 36 when this one arrives! (And I still don't feel old enough to be responsible for someone else! Lol)

slippysnow Fri 08-Mar-13 09:19:42

Thanks for the reassurance. My mums a bit of a hypocrite as she had her first at 25! But I really hope she comes round, I can't deal with her being sad when I'm so excited.

Sephy Fri 08-Mar-13 09:41:28

Aw slippy sorry to hear about your mum's reaction. I think mine might be a bit like that too - although I am 27. She had me at 30 and I think she's always been a bit sad it killed her career. It's hard to get across that even if this is the end of my career I don't really mind - I really want to be a mum!
Will have to see though - not planning to tell family until we see them at Easter time.

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 09:46:14

Sorry you didn't get the reaction you wanted slippy they will definitely come round!

I got pg with dd at 20 to someone I lived 100 miles from. They were ok but I'm lucky my DH is 6 years older and has a good career himself.

Well they had no knowledge of my appt so have slotted me in but with 3 other pg women in the waiting room I think I'm in for a long wait!

roxvox Fri 08-Mar-13 10:13:46

Sorry slippy. I am sure your parents will come around to the idea and will love their grandchild with all of their hearts. It might just take a while for it to sink in if they really weren't expecting it.

sal1977 I enjoyed reading that thank you! It gave me peace of mind as I sit here with my lower back throbbing and no other symptoms! Maybe we are just the lucky ones (there has to be some, right?!)

haylebop I hope you aren't waiting too long and that you have a good appointment.

I think I'm going to have cod and chips for tea tonight (maybe even a sausage in batter as someone on here mentioned yesterday). And I might try that alcohol free Becks Blue. Has anyone tried it before?

I hope everyone is doing well today!

Wispa123 Fri 08-Mar-13 10:22:26

I NEED chocolate weetabix!!!
Slippy - fingers crossed things will improve. Once they realise they're going to have a beautiful grandchild they will hopefully by over the moon!
Sal - Sounds like you and I are having similar symptoms (sure many are!). My boobs are definitely settling down thank god! No date for my 12 week scan yet but looking out of the window for the postie as we speak!
Cullie - sad sad news, hope you're ok but still good news in a way that you still have a healthy little bean. Hope everything goes well over the next few weeks.
Any funny cravings yet?

pinksky Fri 08-Mar-13 10:32:36

Sorry about your mum, slippy- I'm sure she'll come round. There is NEVER a perfect time to have a baby!

God I am absolutely desperate for fish and chips now. Going out for dinner tonight but maybe tomorrow...

pinkbuttons Fri 08-Mar-13 10:47:05

sorry about your mums reaction slippy my parents were the same when I got pregnant with DS but that was in a different situation. They were just worried about me, as soon as they realised it was going to be ok and I was happy they were excited and now dote on DS. My mum was more upset about being a nanny at 40 grin
cuillerea sorry to hear about your mixed news but am glad one little bean is doing well.
I have joined the trial and have an extra scan next week! very excited. then will only be a week till my 12 week scan. Feeling very greedy smile

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 10:48:42

roxvox I remember trying necks blue when pg with dd..... Vile stuff! They might have improved it since then hmm

Well I waited 40 mins, got called in and she asked me for my notes... When I said this was my first appt she apologised an said she would need about half an hour with me. There were 5 other women waiting outside so she gave me my bounty pack, told me to fill out what I could and se would come to my house around 12:30. So I'm getting a home visit now smile she seems lovely though.

SeriousStuff Fri 08-Mar-13 11:29:06

roxvox I tried Becks Blue a couple of weeks ago because I was enjoying the smell of my DH's beer! I was very disappointed. I had about 5 sips in all and the aftertaste was just awful. There are three bottles in the fridge and I still feel sick when I see them.

Having said that, some women on here swear by it so I guess it depends how your taste buds react!

Woke up at 4.am in agony, scared the life out of DH it turned out to be gas and a full bladder blush bump did not seem to like it!!

culli sorry about your scan news thanks

Natalieand Fri 08-Mar-13 12:45:59

Had a seriously upset stomache for week 4 and 5 thought I was past it but it seems its taken ahold of me again :-(. God only knows how u lot cope with the sickness I think that would be worse xx

Natalieand Fri 08-Mar-13 12:51:49

Sorry for such an insensitive post I posted that at like 4am then before all the other message yet some reason its only just gone on sorry I as being in sensitive and ignoring every one else's comments/problems will catch up later with them me and dd r gunna have a cheeky nap now xx

Wispa123 Fri 08-Mar-13 13:07:09

Falcon I had a really scary night a couple of weeks ago and truned out to be exactly the same thing...really bad painful trapped wind! Yuck! Been drinking loads of peppermeint tea to try to ease things. That and Gaviscon / Deflatine seems to help a little.

In other news, despite feeling really crappy (been off work all week with flu...following a flu jab last week) I dragged myself to Asda to by choc chip weetabix...2 bowls later!!! Haha!

cuillereasoupe Fri 08-Mar-13 13:14:48

I'm craving chicken gizzards. How's that for random ;-)

Last 2 nights at work I've been in pain with high indegestion cramps, really uncomfortable!

Had a bit of a bleed on weds evening (after rushing around at home and work) brown/red, saw gp and contacted midwife thurs morning and was booked in to EPU this morning.

I'm pleased to say everything is looking good, good position at the top of uterus, nice strong heartbeat (although needed massive zoom in for me to see it!) and little paddles for arms and legs, dated at 7 + 4 so only a day or 2 away from what I thought grin

Indegestion here too and bloating. Keep having to go into another room to 'relieve it' at home and in the loos at work.

I'm 10.4 today and yesterday when I got home I noticed my feet were really swollen to point where you could see where the straps on my shoes were still when i went to bed! Same shoes as noraml and no extra standing around, walking etc. they went down by this morning and I've worn super soft loose ballet type ones today and they are swollen again! Surely I shouldnt be getting swollen feet yet?

In other news, was clearing out a draw last night and found a Preg test so I did it thismorning! BFP. blush

birds and jelly we are 12 week scan buddies!

JethroTull Fri 08-Mar-13 15:55:28

I lurk on this thread but wanted to say thanks to Sal for passing on the words of wisdom from her midwife grin. Lovely to read a bit of reassurance.

I'm 9+5 and just tired. Hasn't helped that my husband has been away all week & we have a very energetic Boxer dog that has been demanding my attention. I have also developed a chocolate addiction.

Can I moan? After feeling really good most of this week am now back to feeling crap. Have been nauseous all day, and constantly burping and farting blush. And 34Pink - I'm the same! Have boots on today which are not tight, and have to keep taking them off because my ankles are all swollen and itchy. Can't concentrate - has taken me about 5 hours to do a report that should have taken 2, because kept forgetting where I had got to so had to start again angry. Ok, moan over!

Great news on the scan blondies

Roxvox it was me that mentioned the battered sausage - and it was amazing! They normally make me a bit boaky to be frank, but did the job last night!

Anyone got anything nice planned for the weekend and Mothers day?

terrifiednewbie Fri 08-Mar-13 17:44:04

Im just marking my place (rather belatedly as i suspect we'll be onto another thread by the time i get to check in again). i have only briefly glanced at some of the recent posts but just wanted to send sympathies to those who have had bad news of late and wish those who are about to have scans the best of luck.

tuckingfits Fri 08-Mar-13 18:17:00

Thanks all for the sympathy & empathy. I still feel dreadful & dreadfully sorry for myself. I've phoned in sick to work tonight,which is just so unlike me but I couldn't face a frantic Friday night of live bands & their drunken fans til 2am chucking out time. I'm in bed with yet another upset tummy,wishing I felt human!

HotSoupDumpling Fri 08-Mar-13 18:35:07

SO much sympathy tuckingfits and bowlfull. I feel really unwell too. Still going about my daily life, although unfortunately this means DH doesn't always realize how awful I feel. The frequent loud burpy retching soon reminds him!

And I used to love cooking, but now I really can't stand it. Whoever said up--thread that they'd bought frozen chips for the first time - me too (well, I bought them once before, several years ago). They were a revelation. I scoffed them in no time.

notsoold Fri 08-Mar-13 18:38:55

Lentil and brocolli soup with cheese on the top....that was my craving. Had to make some for dinner

Bronzemoth Fri 08-Mar-13 19:06:34

slippysnow I'm pretty sure your mum will come round in the end. There is in need never the perfect time career-wise.

JethroTull I'm the opposite usually I love chocolate but I've really gone off it and still have loads left over from, Christmas, Birthday and Valentines day!

We have decided to book a private scan. There is no availability to move the scan before our holiday and neither of us want to wait till 14wks! So fingers crossed for next wednesday. I'll be 9+5 so hopefully it will give us a lot of reassurance.

MrsExcited Fri 08-Mar-13 19:11:20

Rovox i also have my scan on 28th March, can't wait but am also terrified!

Topslou Fri 08-Mar-13 19:13:25

Whole lot of worry going on here right now. Red spotting and AF type cramps. Rang the EPU & got to ring back tomorrow & tell them how the bleeding is & they will book me in for a scan early next week. I know it could be nothing but very anxious & DP is halfway through a 4 hour drive so can't talk to him til he gets home or he'll panic. Just making some dinner & then off to bed to watch some trash tv to try and take my mind off it.

JethroTull Fri 08-Mar-13 19:30:33

HotSoup I know what you mean about cooking. I always cooked but now nothing takes my fancy & I end up eating toast, baked potatoes or tinned spaghetti!

One of the advantages of having IVF was that we got a scan at 8 weeks. Still, I'm counting the days until my 12 week (16 to go!).

JethroTull Fri 08-Mar-13 19:31:21

Topslou thinking positive thoughts for you.

Glad the scan was reassuring blondes. It is really good to hear good news. Slippy I am sure your mum will be thrilled in the end, I imagine it was just a surprise. It is a shame you didn't get the nice reaction you imagined though. We are telling our parents this weekend. I am a bit worried my mum will be underwhelmed as this will be grandchild number 4 in two years, but hopefully happy! DH's mum will probably be over excited enough for the both of them anyway!

I am really bloated still too. I've been really uncomfortable in my tights today and I think it makes the nausea worse so I think it might be time to investigate roomy maternity tights!

DH is out having dinner in town with friends today but I am too exhausted to go. He has been late home a few times this week and whenever I cook for myself at the moment I can only be bothered to make things on toast so there is a fridge full of food for healthy organic iron and folic acid packed recipes I planned just going off. blush

Topslou, cross posts, so sorry to hear about your bleeding. I hope all is ok. Take it very easy and I hope they fit you in for a scan really soon, if only to reassure you.

roxvox Fri 08-Mar-13 20:18:34

Sorry to hear you guys aren't feeling very well bowlfull and tuckingfits. I hope you get a relaxing weekend and start to feel better very soon.

topslou please take it easy. I hope everything is ok for you. They do seem to constantly say that a bit of blood can be quite normal. I hope you're feeling better about it all tomorrow.

I've just eaten a mass of cod, chips and battered sausage. Was scrummy, and the nice thing is that I won't be wanting it again for a while (that seems to be my pregnancy thing). I also tried Becks blue, it was a bit stronger tasting than I like, but it satisfied my urge!

Yay, mrsflowerpot, it is a pleasure to share scan dates with you smile. How far along will you be then? Will it be your first scan?

RainbowsFriend Fri 08-Mar-13 20:19:58

Well after my few days of spotting, the nausea is REALLY back, and the spotting has stopped.

Both doctor and midwife were pretty nonchalent and shrugged it off as "one of those things"

Hope everyone else is doing ok

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:25:49

Sorry I hear so manynofmyou feeling rough. I do feel rough but compared to how I did feel I'm so much better!

Scan is booked 9th April, seems ages! I'm b

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:28:52

I'm booked in for the Nuchal fold scan because DH and I haven't discussed it and the mw said it was easier to cancel that part at a later date then book it on as it will take longer. I know DH will want it and I'm not against it but unsure how we would deal with bad news.

Smitten1981 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:32:53

hayle your scan is the day after mine, I'm in on the 8th at 9am. It's gonna be a long month waiting!

Haylebop12 Fri 08-Mar-13 20:36:09

Gah I'm on the afternoon too as DH is working but finishes lunchtime.

Natalieand Fri 08-Mar-13 20:44:55

Sorry your parents didn't react how u wanted, my partners grand parents (basically he parents as they brought him up) didn't really react how I would have likes either even tho we have dd and they adore her and she said I'm nt surprised I knew it would be coming soon so thought she may have pretended to be happy. But as long as u and dp are happy that's all that matters!!

Anyone having a scan on April 3rd? That's my scan day xx

Sanjifair Sat 09-Mar-13 05:14:07

Fx for you topslou.
Jealous of those with scan dates, I called the hospital yesterday to ask and they have received my details but haven't allocated a date yet.
Should hear next week. Hoping it is the week after Easter. Am 9+1.
Still suffering early waking as you can tell by the time of posting! Still no MS apart from continual burping. Hope those suffering feel better soon.

Great news rainbow!

I was told not to expect a letter about my booking in until 10-11 weeks and scan after that so I still have a long wait.

Thinking of you topslou hope it turns out to be just one of those weird things that happens sometimes- quite a few of the ladies have had scares and been fine.

natalieand we're scan buddies! Think mines at 9.45 on the 3rd when I will be 12 weeks exactly. Glad it's in the morning so I don't have time to stress on the day. I haven't had any early scans and am more than a bit anxious about there being something wrong/nothing there. 3 1/2 weeks seems like a long time at the mo (sorry for those who haven't got a date yet, must b even worse!) Got a mw app the very next day, assuming to go through results of nuchal fold and blood tests? Making me worried already, why do we need a whole app, can't they just call if something is wrong?! Anyway, glad it's during Easter hols as DP is a teacher too and it means he doesn't have to tell them until we know everything's ok...

In other news, I was stalking the September thread looking at their scan experiences- I nearly cried, that's how hormonal I am... Can't wait now, and to see DPs face as I still think he's expecting to just see a blob! grin

Topslou Sat 09-Mar-13 08:44:12

Not looking good here. Spotting turned into heavy bleeding with clots & lots of pain. Emergency maternity helpline told me to go to a&e. They did bloods, urine etc but apparently not trained to scan me so sent me home & told me to ring EPU this morning & they'd scan me today. Have rung EPU & they don't do scans at the weekend so have an appointment for Monday lunch time & have to go in tomorrow for more bloods to be taken. Pain & bleeding had eased a bit this morning. Please continue to keep fx for me for a little while longer.

roxvox Sat 09-Mar-13 09:15:50

Really sorry to hear that topslou. I will definitely be keeping my fingers crossed for you for Monday. xx

Fingers tightly crossed for you topslou try to put your feet up over the weekend, hope you've got lots of support x

Fx topslou

Thinking of you topslou I will make a wish to the powers that be that everything will be ok for you xxxxx

RainbowsFriend Sat 09-Mar-13 09:35:25

Sending you good vibes Topslou x

Natalieand Sat 09-Mar-13 09:54:20

Fingers crossed topslou best of luck on Monday! Xxxx

feminist I need to double check the time I my appt but pretty sure its 10.20 so fairly early cos its a 25 min drive from me anyway so will leave home at like 9.30. I have to say you ladies waiting for scan dates t being very patient xx

pinksky Sat 09-Mar-13 10:11:51

topslou sending you very best wishes - how are you doing this morning?

cazboldy Sat 09-Mar-13 10:27:12

topslou - really hope things are better with you this morning. How crap that noone is available to do scans at the weekend sad and angry fair enough not to do routine appointments, but think there should be some cover for emergencies!!

roofio87 Sat 09-Mar-13 10:40:44

topslou fingers xd for you. hope you're ok, must be v stressful!! xx

Irishfairy Sat 09-Mar-13 10:47:07

Topslou wishing you the best of luck and keeping my fx for you... Hope everything eases up for you over the weekend and that the wait isn't too long until your scan on Monday.

Sal1977 Sat 09-Mar-13 10:51:16

Try not to panic just yet lovely, there have been loads if us who have had some bleeds and clots etc and everything is fine.

Putting my feet up didn't work for me as I just sat there and stewed about it, so DP took us to the beach for a walk and a picnic in the car and a cuppa in a cliff top cafe to take my mind off it. Of course it didn't work completely, but gave us space to make plan B if this one was a duffer.

My midwife said to me that if you are going to miscarry it will happen if you are laying on the sofa or down at the gym, and quite often it looks like less bleeding when you are lying down due to gravity and smaller amounts coming out at a time so it appears to go in for longer. Guess it makes sense.

FX here for you. Xxxxx

Soupqueen Sat 09-Mar-13 10:58:36

Topslou, fingers crossed for you.

Natalie and Feminist, I'm 3rd April too, 11:20.

I've not been around much so have missed lots of chat. We got notice of eviction (not because we're dodgy, honest, our landlord wants to move into the property himself) so it's been a bit stressful. I'm usually great in a crisis, but have been a weepy mess over this. I'm blaming the hormones! Operation emergency flat hunt has now commenced!

Hope you're all keeping well.

Natalieand Sat 09-Mar-13 11:11:57

Oh dear soupqueen I too have been house hunting without the emergency bit and that we stressful enough so don't envy u there!

Eeeek glad I've got some scan date buddies hope everything runs smoothly on April 3rd for you guys and make sure you let me no how u get on :-)

I really wanna get to the stage where I can feel baby move n e one else feeling like?

roofio87 Sat 09-Mar-13 13:17:15

this ever expanding tummy id getting ridiculous now. I've just seen a girl I used to work with and she actually asked me if I'm pregnant!!!!!! I admitted it as I didn't want her to feel bad Haha!! she said she only asked because I look exactly the same as ever except for a swollen rounded tummy so she immediately guessed. I'm wearing the baggiest most covering outfit today too!!!!

PseudoBadger Sat 09-Mar-13 13:52:41

Hi everyone, Topslou - my fingers are crossed for you.

I'm having a weird day. I was 8 weeks yesterday and I've been worried as I haven't been feeling pregnant again; I feel so much less pregnant this time than the last 2 times in so many ways.

Today I've been unable to keep any food down and am feeling nauseous all day. I thought my vomiting has been due to my very blocked nose as this often makes me vomit. But not usually as much as this! So I'm hopeful that I am still pg and things are ok.

I'm going to mention my worries at Booking on Tuesday and see what they say.

Good luck with the house hunt soup queen. How long have you been given to find somewhere new? That is a stress you could have done without. But I suppose you get to pick somewhere suitable for your new family.

It seems most of us are already bigger than we were pre-pregnancy. I don't believe my book that says you won't look any different in the first trimester. I am off to buy a bra three cup sizes bigger than I was shock and some maternity or large size tights after my driving lesson today and may have a sneaky peak at other maternity clothes to see what is out there. Maybe the big tummy spaces will make me feel slim! Hopefully they don't fit already!

I don't feel particularly up for a lesson, I am really tired. I drive an old automatic but will need to use public transport or my DH's manual car when the baby comes as my tiny 3 door car would be difficult to get a car seat in and out of and it has also just had a broken head gasket which means it is going to conk out at any moment and the repair costs would be more than the car is worth. I am hoping it will hold on for a bit longer. We can't afford a new car just as we are trying to save for a baby and prepare to lose my income. confused

Rockchick1984 Sat 09-Mar-13 13:58:38

Pseudo I've got the opposite problem - hardly any pregnancy symptoms last time, I'm now so nauseous for the last few days that I'm struggling to eat! I don't think you need to worry, symptoms do come and go, but always worth mentioning if you're concerned - that's what the midwives are there for!

Topslou keeping everything crossed for you.

Good luck flat hunting Soup

Roofio I'm ok in the mornings but by teatime I'm so bloated! I've found baggy clothes actually accentuate it though, so I've generally been going for a fitted top, jeans and a blazer type jacket - big scarves were my saviour last pregnancy and I can see I'll need them again within the next couple of weeks!!

Badger I am glad you have the slight reassurance of feeling sick again. I think I read that sickness and some other symptoms are often worse first time round as your body isn't used to being pregnant. Maybe you are just a pro at it now! Hopefully your midwife will be able to reassure you more at your booking in appointment.

Smitten1981 Sat 09-Mar-13 14:28:17

Fingers crossed for you topslou how awful that they won't see you until Monday.

Anyone else gone mental for fruit? From yesterday to now it's all I've wanted to eat. I've gone through a pack of pineapple and a tin of peaches already today.

On the plus side my nausea has eased. Maybe it was more to do with the kidney infection than ms?

pinksky Sat 09-Mar-13 14:40:49

That sucks Soupqueen. Hopefully you'll find a lovely new home to nest in.

Sal, you're right of course that nothing will change the outcome. I hope you're doing ok. I'm still bleeding intermittently, but just think it's one of those things.

Totally agree, roofio and orangeblossom, I'm definitely bigger. Have been wearing my sports bra as all my underwireds are uncomfy, and my belly is very round. Two friends at work are 20 weeks and only just starting to show. I sadly think I'm just not going to be one of those elegant neat pregnant women!

Hope your lesson goes ok anyway, orange - no fun when you're tired.

Badger I'm glad you've got your booking in appt soon, I hope it's reassuring.

pinksky Sat 09-Mar-13 14:47:09

Oh, re clothes, I got one of these tops for £15 in house of Fraser yesterday - the ruchey front does wonders at hiding bellies!

JethroTull Sat 09-Mar-13 15:16:33

I know what you mean about fruit Smitten, I can't stop eating it.

No symptoms here other than tiredness. My boobs are definitely getting bigger but was only ever an A/B cup so could do with the extra inches. Got my scan 2 weeks on Monday. Can't wait.

Flyer747 Sat 09-Mar-13 15:24:50

I also have a little pudgy tummy coming along nicely. My uniform is a size 8 and is so uncomfortable just waiting for my maternity uniform to turn up. I read in what to expect when expecting that come week 8 your clothes will start to feel tight. I am avoiding the scales like the plague!

roofio87 Sat 09-Mar-13 15:36:48

The madest part is that I haven't gained any weight, 1 pound since before I was pg!! so I know its defo not fat!!Haha!

Natalieand Sat 09-Mar-13 15:57:13

I also haven't braved the scales yet also had my first consultant appt came thro for 19th April when ill be 14+2 so if I'm lucky I might get an extra scan cx

I got some fab maternity clothes on the sale from next today worth a look smile

roxvox Sat 09-Mar-13 16:43:01

I feel like I've put on loads of weight around my belly but when I jump on the scales (every Saturday morning) I have been losing it! Today is the first time my weight has gone up since I got a BFP, and it was less than a pound increase! I've definitely got a little podge going on there, but it's not enough to make my trousers uncomfortable or anything, but I have gone up a belt hole.

I saw a picture on Wikipedia yesterday (under pregnancy) and it shows that in month 3 your stomach is slightly expanded on what it was in month 1.

Hi all - can't keep up with you guys during the week as work is mad and all I wan tto do is sleep when I get home!

Definate expanding middle here but weight loss - 3lbs since bfp think all the throwing up is doing that although that seems to be easing.

Anyone else craving pickles? I am munching my way through pickled red cabbage, pickled onions and piccalilli - weird???

Going to have to start trying big scarves or something at work next week as people are starting to look and guess! Got my booking in for next Sunday so guess I'll find out after that a scan date - hoping for in the Easter hols so I don't need to take time off work smile

Hope everyone is ok and good luck topslou sounds like you're having a rough time thanks

Pinkush Sat 09-Mar-13 21:23:40

Hi ladies. Just checking in again haven't been on for a whole thread. FX for you Topslou.
Had my booking in appointment today so really feel as though this whole pregnancy malarkey is real! Then got my scan booked for 23rd when I'll be having nuchal/bloods done as well.
Glad I'm not the only one getting porky round the middle! Much earlier than with DC1 but think my stomach muscles are knackered now. Even my (very sweet but unobservant) dad commented today that I'm "getting a bit of a tummy". I just hope I can disguise it at work till my scan.
Anyone got any advice for getting brains back in action? I've got a really big exam in May and need to start revising NOW. But every time I open my books I zone out and start thinking about the bean/next snack/how sick I feel etc. Cannot fail the exam as retakes are around my due date!!

PseudoBadger Sat 09-Mar-13 21:35:20

So sick today sad

Natalieand Sat 09-Mar-13 21:35:23

Dear god,

Please let me sleep allnight I seem to be sleeping worse than if I had a new born ATM lol.

Not religious at all but u no what, has to be worth a try surely? Lol

How r u feeling topslou taking it nice and easy I hope Hun xxx

Wispa123 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:11:37

Windeze......my new best friend...nuff said!!!!

Flyer747 Sat 09-Mar-13 22:41:52

Natalieand I'm exactly the same waking up half way through the night and unable to get back to sleep for hours! Frustrating isn't it. I'm used to having crap sleep as my job (until I got my bfp) is a long haul air stewardess, I thought that now I'm not flying (just recently started my ground placement) it may have improved but it's got worse! It's doing my head in, I just hope it gets better. You have my complete sympathy. Good luck with the zzzz tonight.

legallyblond Sat 09-Mar-13 22:59:16

Thinking of you Topslou... It is true that what will be will be, but do take it easy if told to as bed rest is vital for some causes of bleeding. My mum had a partially detached placenta with a younger sibling and bled heavily from 11 weeks or so - bed rest was essential and the bean is now my 6 foot 3 brother! But it was total bed rest with weekly scans until 24 weeks! Not ideal with 2 other children and dogs! Prob not the case here, but be kind to yourself!

Anyway, still very sick here. Sick many times a day. As others have said, don't worry about lack of symptoms! With DD I had NO symptoms at all apart from huge boobs - this time, ALL symptoms going apart from swollen boobs (only a size or so, and only just!). Still hardly showing - still in fitted work dresses etc - although the increase in tummy size after a meal (if I keep it down) is more pronounced than pre preg, if that makes sense... I didn't show until at all until about 16 weeks last time though, and even then never got huge (in fact, had lots of extra scans for "measuring small" by 6 weeks! Of course, I worried about that the whole way through....) Unfortunately, my stomach is generally in a bad state now (no muscles at all) so am bound to explode soon!!!

Topslou, keep us posted x x c

legallyblond Sat 09-Mar-13 23:02:41

Ooh, flyer, perfect person to ask... I am flying to Spain and back at 26 weeks - fine according to the airline's website (fine till 28 weeks, dr's note needed between 28 and 34...) but will they quiz me on it, somehow need to check?

Sal1977 Sat 09-Mar-13 23:23:43

I've literally just got in from doing a pamper party. 5 massages, 5 manicures and a handful of brow treatments...my back is killing me!

On the upside I was sat next to the butler in the buff for a good hour or so...bonza!! grin

Haylebop12 Sun 10-Mar-13 00:00:48

Nice to hear about other protruding tummies! I haven't put any weight on, well actually that's a lie... I have but only what I lost due to HG. Because I feel so sick ALL the time I'm eating what I want when I want (and getting used to it!)

I was very fit and had amazing stomach when pg with dd and remember going out for a Friends bday at 22 weeks still wearing normal jeans! Couldn't tell I was properly pg until 26 weeks ish and always measured small for dates. Don't think I'll be as lucky this time! Have already bought a fair bit on eBay but getting away with it hit now. I give it a couple more weeks! Away at mil's this weekend and she's drinking my favourite tipple, a cool crisp glass of rose! Not happy!!

Natalieand Sun 10-Mar-13 06:59:54

How did u sleep flyer I drifted off at half 10ish the. Awake on and off from 3am now dd is awake so me chances of sleep have just gone out the window lol x

Iheartcrunchiebars Sun 10-Mar-13 07:05:30

The sleep is so annoying. Started in bed. Couldn't get comfortable. Went to the sofa. Too hot! Ended up sleeping on the hard laminate floor in our office!!!

Happy Mothering Sunday everyone. This time next year it will be us xxx

Natalieand, I've not slept through the night since around bfp either. Generally a couple of loo trips then I wake between 3 and 5 and don't go back to sleep. I wonder if that's when bean does its growing.

DH gave me a Mother's Day card this morning. Aww. smile have a good day all those who are already mummies.

We are telling family today, eek!

Natalieand Sun 10-Mar-13 07:26:17

Your sleep pattern sounds like mine orange then infer frustrated at the thought of going to bed despite being exhausted dh and dd have just sneaked downstairs to organise something for me so I'm awaiting that ATM lol. And good luck breaking your news today :-) xxx

Flyer747 Sun 10-Mar-13 07:40:31

Legallyblond- in theory if you are travelling before the 28th week of pregnancy, then no you don't need to inform the airline. However I am travelling to china at 20 weeks and also like yourself Spain at 26 weeks. I intend to call both the airlines I'm flying with to advise them how far gone I am, just so I don't arrive at the airport and start getting quizzed etc etc, plus in my experience once the crew know you are pregnant they tend to look after you better. The airline should have a special assistance/passenger assistance department who you'll need to advise of your pregnancy. We had a baby born onboard a flight a few months ago, one of my friends helped deliver it...the woman was 37 weeks and managed to get onboard unnoticed so I don't think airlines pay too much attention.

Flyer747 Sun 10-Mar-13 07:45:35

Naralieand- yeah sleep a bit rubbish again, sent DP packing into other room with the dog so I could star fish in the bed! I hope you get a lovely special treat off your DH and DD shortly...all you mummy's deserve to be pampered and waited on hand and foot, have a lovely day,

Happy Mothers Day eveyone thanks

I'm awaiting breakfast in bed smile but then I'm off to work (boooo!) My DH also says we are going out for tea, local restaurant offering mums eat free!

Natalieand Sun 10-Mar-13 08:27:05

Egg on toast in bed smile smelliest chocolates and slippers off dd ad hubby. And a promise to buy me some fat jeans on the internet today :-) Will have to have Mother's Day lunch at home today as dd has chicken pox so she's too contagious to go out lol hope everyone else has a lovely day xx

Haylebop12 Sun 10-Mar-13 10:03:11

Can smell my fry up cooking now! Dd gave me a card and some chocolates. She's hit turned 4 and wrote in my card so beautifully smile proud mum moment!

Haylebop12 Sun 10-Mar-13 10:03:33


dontworryjustpanic Sun 10-Mar-13 13:42:25

Hi everyone, hope you're all having a good mothers' day. Very cute card and new slippers from DS (17mo) :-)

I'm 7+1 today and feeling sick as a parrot :-( I am really off food - but feel even worse if I eat nothing. My saviour is crumpets and marmite - would it be bad to eat the whole packet?

My friend told me one of the advantages of being pregnant is that you feel warm all the time but it's not working for me. I'm flipping freezing with the odd cold sweat when the nausea gets really bad. Sorry to whinge - can't wait to reach 2nd trimester.